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Chapter Fifteen Re l a t i o n s h i p s
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elationships in the old world have often had a primarily external focus — we try to make ourselves whole and happy by getting something from outside ourselves. Inevitably, this expectation results in disappointment, resentment, and frustration. Either these feelings build up constantly and cause continual strife, or they are suppressed and lead to emotional numbness. Still, we cling to relationships out of emotional insecurity, or go from one to another searching for that missing piece that we haven’t yet found. We’ve been in this tragic predicament for at least a few thousand years; now we seem to be approaching a crisis point. Relationships and families as we’ve known them seem to be falling apart at a
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