The Five Languages of Love Just as everyone has a native tongue in which they communicate, we all have a primary love language. Love languages are ways that we express love to others and perceive love in return. We learn our primary love language from our families and the people we spend the most time around as youths. As a result, most husbands and wives have different primary love languages than their spouses. Learning and accepting another person’s love language is one of the most effective ways to sustain a happy, healthy relationship. In order to do so, you must be familiar with each of the five languages: 1. Words of Affirmation Contrary to popular belief, actions don’t always speak louder than words. Words of affirmation are a popular language of love, filled with compliments, praise and verbal displays of affection. For those who claim words of affirmation as their primary love language, hearing “I love you” from their partner speaks volumes, potentially even louder than actions do. If words of affirmation are your partner’s love language, make an effort to compliment them on new something new a few times a week, and be sure to tell them you love them at least once a day. 2. Quality Time In the language of quality time, nothing says, “I love you” like full, undivided attention. Spending time with this type of person is crucial, but you need to be fully present in that time. That means turning off the TV, putting your book or magazine down and simply enjoying each other’s company. To make a significant other whose primary love language is quality time feel loved, be cautious before canceling dates or only partially listening during an important conversation. They’ll be extremely hurt if they feel like they only have half your attention when you’re together. If this is your partner’s love language, try going for a long walk around the neighborhood or going out to dinner and leaving your phones at home. Better yet, let them plan one or two dates a month so they have control over the venue and activity. 3. Gifts This may sound materialistic, but many people equate thoughtful gifts with love. The thought of having their significant other search for, pick out and purchase a gift just for them is really meaningful, especially if it’s for a non-occasion. If this is your partner’s love language, you should keep a list of gift ideas. Every time you hear them say “I like that” or “I would love this,” make a note on your list. This ensures that you’re always prepared to pick out a gift, whether it’s for your anniversary, Valentine’s Day or a random Tuesday.
4. Acts of Service For this love language, doing the dishes for your partner may mean just as much as a nice dinner out on the town. Taking care of the mundane tasks, like taking out the trash or cleaning the litter box, shows people who value acts of service that you’re willing to get your hands dirty to make them happy. If your partner’s love language is acts of service, find out what chores they hate most. Is it walking the dog or cleaning the bathroom? If so, put those chores at the top of your to do list, and do them without complaining or asking for praise. Your partner will undoubtedly notice, and it will show them how much you care. 5. Physical Touch It’s no secret that some people are more touchy-feely than others. Physical touch is a common love language, and people who thrive by it enjoy frequent physical contact with their partner. This language extends far outside the bedroom - snuggles on the couch, holding hands during a movie and kisses just because are all ways to show someone who values physical touch that you love them. If this is your partner’s love language, make an effort to put your arm around them and cuddle whenever appropriate. It will speak volumes! After you’ve identified your partner’s love language, keep it in mind at all times. And don’t be afraid to let them know what your preferred language of love is. If you have questions about love languages or want to talk about how to serve your partner’s, try a phone psychic reading with one of our psychics. You’ll be surprised at how much you have to learn! For more information Email: - info@absolutesoulsecrets.com.au Address: - Po Box 3386, Burleigh, Queensland, 4220, AU Website: - www.absolutesoulsecrets.com.au/ Tel: - 1300 934 733