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We asked four local couples a few questions about their wedding experiences. See Page 5.
Staying sane through the wedding planning process............................ 2 Turn a bridesmaid’s dress into a perfect wedding gown...................... 4 Ask the experts: We get answers from four area brides...................... 5 Keeping it local: Creating a ‘made in Vermont’ wedding...................... 9 Military couples can win a free winter wedding ................................10 Married to the right ideals: Green weddings.........................................11 Is a wedding loan for you? Some angles to consider..........................12 Save-the-date card etiquette ...................................................................13 Get wedding ready: Look and feel your best on the big day..............14 Some bridal traditions date back centuries...........................................14
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Staying sane through the wedding planning process By CHRISTY LYNN To most people who believe in the institution, weddings are joyous occasions meant, at their core, to be celebrations of the love and commitment shared between two people. So why must planning a wedding cause so much stress, agony, and emotional turmoil? The answer is that it mustn’t. Planning a wedding can be just as fun and rewarding as the day of the wedding itself. By following some simple, but astute guidelines, you can help kick the distress out the door and reintroduce the pleasure to the process. These six tips to wedding planning can help get things started off smoothly. 1) Set goals — Identifying what matters most to you early will help you prioritize the planning steps and help ensure that you have the time (and budget) for those most-important details, even if they come later in the planning process. It is stressful to wear your wallet thin and realize that the most important item on your list hasn’t been dealt with yet. 2) Who cares — It helps to identify early in the planning process which family or friends really care about details of the wedding. Have conversations with those people early to discuss their wishes and whether it is going to fit with your plan. Even if you don’t agree, time helps heal some of those wounds and it is best to take care of those conversations before emotions are too high nearer to the time of the
event. Compromise is important and often details inspired by others can turn out to be better for you too. 3) Pick a team — Choose a small group of trusted friends or family members that will help advise you in your decision-making. This group should be made up of others that will focus on you and your wedding, not how they would do things if they were the ones getting married. Check in with members of this team regularly, and ask them to keep you in check also as you progress in the planning. 4) Set a budget — Even if your budget is a bit flexible, according to popular wedding planning website theknot.com, setting financial goals at the onset is a good way to keep yourself in check and make sure you don’t get too carried away. Money can go quickly in wedding planning, but with a keen eye on your budget and an open and creative mind, planning a wedding does not have to set you into financial distress. Blowing a budget is one of the most stressful troubles encountered in the planning process, but on the other hand pulling off a wedding at or under budget can feel incredible. Ideas invented to keep costs down can be far more satisfying than purchases made without restraint or cost consideration. 5) Be happy with your
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special and celebratory to everyone who attends. When you are planning your wedding, take pleasure in the decisions made for your guests and remember that there would be no wedding if it were just about you.
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Customize a bridesmaid’s dress to make a perfect wedding gown By EMILY FREDRIX Associated Press I’m practical. Never dreamed of having a lavish gown. Didn’t want to endure a long hunt for bargains. So four little words from the saleswoman spoke to me: “Bridesmaid dress. In white.” Yes, I’m wearing a bridesmaid dress to my own wedding. It’s simple, elegant, relatively cheap and easy. Talk about putting the “bride” in bridesmaid. When I showed up at my local Macy’s bridal salon on my first day of dress shopping, I explained that I wanted something elegant, good for an outdoor summer wedding, at a price that wouldn’t rival the liquor bill. What the saleswoman suggested is a littleknown trick that can save hundreds of dollars or more on a wedding dress. Perhaps even better, you can customize your wedding dress however you like it; bridesmaid dresses are usually basic — satin or silk, without the beads, lace and other frills on many traditional gowns. And at anywhere from $100 to $300, there’s no traditional price tag either. Get a bridesmaid dress in white, ivory or whatever color you want. Wear it as is. Or glam it up with accessories and have a unique — and cost-effective — look. It’s called a wedding dress hack, I’d later find out. Happy with my plan, I couldn’t help looking at the women sorting through the expensive gowns at the store. Why would they want to spend thousands on a dress for one day? They could spend far less, still look amazing and save the rest for their honeymoon or a house. Why didn’t I feel their urge to splurge? Was something wrong with me? Not at all, says Meg Keene, author of “A Practical Wedding: Creative Ideas for Planning a Beautiful, Affordable, and Meaningful Celebration.” I simply hadn’t bought into the wedding myth, she says. The myth is why so many weddings keep getting bigger (hello Kar-
dashians) and prices keep going up. Women see the glamour and feel they are supposed to have it, regardless of cost, says Keene, who started the blog “A Practical Wedding” when planning her own nuptials in 2008. Dresses are among the biggest costs of a wedding, averaging nearly $1,200, according to The Wedding Report, Inc., which tracks industry spending. And don’t forget accessories, headpieces and veils. An extra $250, please. The average U.S. wedding now costs more than $26,000. “There’s now this industry around weddings,” Keene says. “If the word ‘wedding’ is attached, people will pay.” It doesn’t have to be that way, especially for dresses. There are so many other options: bridesmaid dresses, prom dresses, vintage, renting, borrowing and making. Women like me who seek out alternatives sometimes wonder if they’ll look like a bride. But, says Keene, there’s no ones way to look. “You remember how your wedding felt, not how it looked,” says Keene, who wore a $250 vintage dress to her wedding. After deciding that I would customize a bridesmaid dress, I allowed myself one indulgent experience at a designer wedding-gown studio so I could get ideas. After trying on half a dozen pouffy, fancy gowns, I knew that ivory looks just fine on me, a sweetheart neckline works well, and an A-line cut and strapless are both flattering. I took all that knowledge back to my original salon, to my saleswoman friend. In minutes, I found the dress. The sample was white with a black floral print, but in the mirror I envisioned myself in ivory. With a deep purple sash, maybe some silk flowers stitched onto it. And maybe some tulle underneath to give me some pouf. It’s all up to me. Final price? The tag said $205, but after a bridal salon-wide sale of 15 percent off, it was $174.25, before tax. Bam. Now I’m planning my accessories. And talking glowingly about my wedding dress rebellion. The question I get is always the same: “What about your bridesmaids? What are they wearing?” Bridesmaids? I’m not having any. We’ve decided to elope.
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Ask the experts
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or some insights into what planning a wedding is really like, the Addison Independent reached out to several couples who recently married or became engaged. Each couple answered a few questions about the process to help give hope or warning to others planning their own nuptials. Each has a unique perspective to share.
Andrea and Cody Quesnel married this past fall on their farm in Whiting.
JoAnne and Kenneth Meyers married on Dec. 15 after a long friendship.
Rachel Benjamin and Neil Solis are Liza Perrin and Ethan Raymond are preparing to tie the knot in 2015. preparing for their wedding in July of 2013.
Andrea: Cody and I met many years ago … I was graduating sixth grade when I moved to Whiting and joined 4-H. At that time Cody’s parents were the 4-H leaders, so naturally I was introduced to Cody when I joined the club. Two short years later, I moved from Whiting and lost contact with Cody. Years later we reconnected as friends, went out a couple times as friends and it went from there. We started dating, and on the day that marked our oneyear together, Cody got down on one knee and asked me to marry him. It was a definite yes, not only was I in love with him, but so was my daughter. By that point in our relationship I couldn’t imagine our lives without Cody. Cody grew up on his family farm and worked there as well so it was no surprise that we wanted to be married on the farm. We picked out a field away from the main road, with a beautiful fall backdrop on one side, and the mountains on the other. The wedding party and I rode in a hay wagon to the field where our immediate families and Cody waited. Our ceremony was sweet and simple: We exchanged our vows in a field. Our wedding party consisted of family and close friends: his brothers, one of his sisters, my sister, our daughter, my childhood friend and his best friend. Our reception was held in Middlebury, where we were announced to our entire families and friends; we ate food our family and friends had prepared, we laughed as our shy and nervous maid of honor and best man delivered their speeches, and we danced the night away.
JoAnn: We have known each other for almost 20 years. I went twice to Israel with Ken and his former wife, Jean, and have kept in contact through the years. His wife died a year ago and my former husband, Dwight, died two years ago, both had cancer.
Liza: Ethan Raymond and I were high school sweethearts. We met through the wrestling program, where I joined the team as a manager. Ethan wrestled through his four years of college at Bridgewater State University, became a New England Champion and now coaches the Middlebury Varsity wrestling program in addition to working for his father’s construction business. I graduated from Middlebury Union High School in 2008, attended UVM, and received my Bachelor of Science in Elementary Education. I’m currently working as a Special Education Paraprofessional at Mary Hogan Elementary School and working at my family’s restaurant, Green Peppers. Given that Ethan and I attended different colleges in different states, we had to make time for travel to see each other. I attended the majority of Ethan’s wrestling events through the four years. With the amount of time we spent together, we grew together. By the time we finished college, we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our life together. Getting through the colleges years had taught us a lot, but mostly it helped us build our trust in each other and strengthened our relationship. Ethan and I got engaged the day we picked up our puppy, Jax. Ethan coordinated the secret with our breeder and I was completely taken by surprise by his romantic letter stating the life changes that day was going to bring. Next thing I knew, he was down on one knee, dog by his side, holding the ring that only meant our seven year relationship was going to last a lifetime. The big date is July 5, 2013. Although we’re having a big wedding, it’s mostly family and close family friends. The ceremony and reception will be taking place at the Old Lantern in Charlotte.
Rachel: Neil Solis is from Evansville, Ind. He came to Vermont in May 2007 to work as a chef at the Basin Harbor Club in Vergennes. He has worked at several restaurants in Vermont since then, including Café Shelburne, The Starry Night Café, and the Inn at Shelburne Farms. He is currently the Executive Chef at El Cortijo in Burlington. Rachel Benjamin is from Middlebury and graduated from St. Lawrence University in Canton, N.Y., in 2009. Rachel is a full-time student at UVM, pursuing her Masters of Science in Mathematics. Rachel and Neil met while working at the Basin Harbor Club during the summer of 2007. After Rachel graduated from college, they went on a two-month trip to Europe where they visited France, Spain, Italy, Germany, the Netherlands and Denmark. They now live in South Hero, Vt., where they enjoying hiking, crosscountry skiing, foraging wild mushrooms, gardening and swimming with their German shepherd Hunter. Rachel and Neil plan to get married in the summer of 2015, most likely in Vermont.
1. What aspect of being married are you most excited for? Andrea: The commitment … the love, respect and security that we share now, is only going to grow as we are married. JoAnn: After being a widow for the past two years, I’m glad to be with someone who loves me and wants to be with me. Liza: We’ve been together through so many milestones in our life already; we’re excited to finally be reaching this one! This is something
that we’ve talked about and is now reality; it just makes life feel so real! Rachel: I am really excited to have children. I grew up with four older siblings, several of whom have kids and it has been so much fun to watch them grow! I can’t wait to start a family with Neil. 2. What has been/was the most fun or rewarding part of the planning process? Andrea: The most rewarding part of the plan-
ning process was looking and back and realizing that it all went according to plan, everything was beautiful, and everyone had fun. JoAnn: I loved it all. God answered any obstacle we had along the way and that was very exciting to see, the answers to our prayers. Liza: Getting to finally put into action all the things we’ve talked about having take place at our wedding. Also, with all the planning, it’s given us the opportunity to spend more time with family and friends who are in our wed-
ding party. You have to take the time out of your schedule to plan, but it’s so worth it when you get to spend the time with the people you love most! I think dress trying has been the ultimate highlight, whether it was trying on bridal gowns in crazy styles or watching my bridesmaids jump into dresses that range from bright pink to rainforest tree frog camo! Rachel: Since we aren’t getting married for over two years, we haven’t done much planning (See Q&A Page 7)
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Q&A (Continued from Page 5) yet. Neil proposed at the beginning of an 18hour road trip to Indiana, and we talked about our wedding for most of the car ride. I would say that was the most fun part of the planning process so far! 3. What has been/was the most challenging part of the process? Andrea: The most challenging part was trying to find a balance between what we envisioned and suggestions from others. We couldn’t include everything, nor did we want to, but being able to combine ideas and put others to the side was difficult at times. JoAnn: Being apart, he was in Florida and I was in New Hampshire most of the time. Liza: Prioritizing everything that has to get done. If it wasn’t for a pre-designed timeline/ checklist, I wouldn’t know which direction to go! Rachel: One challenging part of the process is where to have our wedding. All of Neil’s family lives in Indiana and all of my family lives in Vermont. Since we live in Vermont too and so do most of our friends, we will probably have our wedding here. However, we have considered getting married in the Outer Banks in North Carolina, where we vacation every year, since it is about the same distance for both
families. We’ll see how we feel in a couple of years! 4. Are you anticipating any major changes in your relationship after your wedding? If you are already married, please describe any changes you have experienced since your wedding. Andrea: Our lives have not changed much since our wedding, but when you marry your best friend, your true love, and your confidant, what is there to change? JoAnn: There will be adjustments because he was married 58 years and I was married 17 years but both of us were widows, so there will be adjustments. He is moving up from Florida so that’s a major change geographically. Liza: Well, we already live together and have for awhile and we’ve been together for seven years, so I can’t think of any major changes that we won’t be able to handle.
Neil: Now that we are engaged, one change in our relationship that I have noticed is that we are able to talk about “when” things are going to happen in the future instead of just “if.” I think that once we are married, that sense of permanence will be even stronger as we move toward buying a house, having children, etc. We will have the ability to more freely and concretely discuss our future. 5. What have been/were the most helpful resources? Andrea: Family! If it wasn’t for our family and friends we would have been lost. They helped us in every way possible. Also theknot.com was a great resource for the guest list; it allows the bride to enter all guests, addresses and guests can reply right there as well. The site automatically counts who has replied and who has yet to respond. The site also has many different checklists, a tool we used over and over. JoAnn: Didn’t really use any resources.
I’ve been married before so just figured it out. Liza: Pinterest! There is so many options out there and Pinterest.com has made it so easy to save things that we want to make our wedding unique and memorable. Also, “The Knot” website has been great with helping us stay on track. You can never go wrong with a hard copy planning binder either! Rachel: The most helpful resources I have found throughout the planning process are my family and friends who are married! Two of my brothers got married during the summer of 2011; they and my sisters-in-law are great resources to help with planning since they recently went through the process. Neil: My connections with the culinary community in Vermont will definitely be great resources for planning the food for our wedding. 6. In a single word, how would you describe your feelings about the wedding planning process? Andrea: Fun. It’s your special day, you should have fun. Once the fun stops, the stress starts. JoAnn: GREAT. Liza: Memorable. Rachel: Excited! It’s been hard to wait to start planning….
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Keeping it local: creating a ‘made in Vermont’ wedding By CHRISTY LYNN Addison County is undeniably one of the most picturesque destinations in the Northeast. Visitors travel for hundreds or thousands of miles to visit our rolling hills or our soft white-blanketed pastures of snow or our vibrant maple trees surrounding quaint, cozy villages. As a wedding destination goes, Vermont is hard to beat. So if you’re an Addison County couple getting ready to tie the knot, here’s an easy challenge: stay local. Commit to planning a wedding 100 percent exclusively handgrown in Vermont. Want to see how easy it could be? Here are a few examples of all that our wonderful backyard has to offer. Wedding venue options are seemingly endless. Churches and chapels are the centerpieces of many towns in Vermont, from the Congregational Church and Mead Chapel in Middlebury, to St. Peter’s in Vergennes, as well as many of the small parishes throughout the community. For those interested in outdoor venues, tent and event rental companies such as Alfresco Tents can set up anywhere you want to celebrate, whether it’s your own backyard or the shores of Lake Champlain. The Middlebury Inn, Tourterelle, Waybury Inn, and the Inn at Baldwin Creek are simply a few of the popular inns that regularly host weddings and include various package offers to help make the job easier. Perhaps you’re interested in a more inclusive affair overlooking Lake Champlain? Basin Harbor Club has it all, and could be a wonderful choice for your big day. Food is a celebrated part of life and culture in the Green Mountain State, and can be honored and adored at a Vermont wedding. From local meats and dairy to fresh vegetables and fruits, our cuisine can help make your wedding day memorable and truly representative of life in this region. Perhaps talk to your favorite farms at the farmers market if you’re interested in a do-
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it-yourself catering option, roast a pig, and pop a few bottles of Woodchuck’s sparkling cider. Otter Creek Bakery features ornately decorated wedding cakes, tarts, and other custom delights, featuring local and handmade ingredients and in many different flavors. Otter Creek Brewery, WhistlePig Rye, Woodchuck Hard Cider, and Lincoln Peak Winery are some of the local producers of fine beer, wine, cider, and rye in the area, giving an idea of how easy an all-local bar could be at your event. Rather than set up a gift registry listing only big-box stores that are rare in Vermont or only online, try a local registry. Send your family and friends to the local shops where you know the products and the storekeepers. Plus, you can save out-of-towners the hassle of lugging gifts from a distance. For invitations and printed material for your affair, visit the Little Pressroom or your very own Addison Independent for many beautiful designs or enlist one of the many local artists to design a theme unique to you. OK, perhaps you will have to venture a little further than Addison County’s borders for wedding gowns and tuxedos, but there are several options in and around Burlington or Rutland, so you’ll be able to stay close. Come back to Addison County to accessorize though, for we are home to some of the finest jewelry around from Autumn Gold to Danforth Pewter. Beau Ties Ltd. of Vermont can help finish the look for your groom and groomsmen, with an incredible
range of ties of all colors and styles. While you’re there, pick up matching pocket squares for great groomsmen gifts. Make-up artists and hair stylists at many of the area salons are here to help you look your best on your wedding day, so don’t worry about having to travel far, they’ll have you covered!
All of this is to say that if you’re a couple deciding how to begin planning for a wedding, don’t overlook your own known stores, services, and friends. Let these members of your community join in and help make your event all the more special and descriptive of your reasons to celebrate in this joyous occasion.
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Is a wedding loan for you? Some angles to consider Engaged couples about to take a trip down the aisle are increasingly choosing to pay for the wedding themselves. Where it used to be tradition for the bride’s parents to handle the bill for the occasion, today the responsibility for funding has largely fallen into the hands of the prospective bride and groom. To meet the financial demands of the modern wedding, some individuals turn to loans for financing a portion of (or the entire) wedding. You may question whether this is a good idea. As with any situation, there are pros and cons. The same can be said about a wedding loan. The following are some factors you will need to consider before taking out a loan. One of the most important things to realize is that a wedding loan, like any loan, will need to be paid back and interest fees will be included. What that means is that, by the end of the payback period, you will have spent several thousand dollars more on the loans than the original principal amount when interest is added in. If you’re taking out a loan because you’ve already gone above budget on wedding expenses, a loan may push that budget even further into the red. That being said, there are some instances where a loan may be an option that works for a couple. For
example, couples who anticipate considerable monetary gifts from guests attending the wedding can offset the cost of the loan with those gifts. Some couples might begin their professional careers after their wedding, which will increase their salary enough to repay the loan quickly. Others may actually have the money for the wedding, but want to use a loan as a way to establish strong joint credit as a new couple. However, many couples take out loans because they simply cannot afford their dream wedding. In a world where many people already live be-
yond their means – financing cars, homes, retail purchases – a wedding loan may just be another shovelful of soil on a financial grave. The consensus among financial experts is that it is better to scale back the wedding or postpone it until you can save money the old-fashioned way instead of taking out a loan. But if a loan seems the only option, here are some tips. • Shop around on a wedding loan, just as with any other loan. Find the best rates and terms before settling on a lender. •
Decide how much you can afford to pay back within two to three years and how much the monthly payment will be. Then take out the loan only in that amount. • Figure out which portions of the wedding can be scaled back to make the finances work. • See if options like refinancing a home or borrowing from family would be better than taking out a loan. • Look at banks, credit unions and even programs sponsored through your employer to compare rates on loans. • Wedding loans may be secured or unsecured. A home or car can serve as a form of security in a secured loan. Unsecured wedding loans do not require a form of security. • Personal loans, like wedding loans, generally have low annual percentage rates. It may be worth it to take out the loan rather than using a credit card for financing because the card’s rates could be double. Keep in mind that a wedding loan – even if it comes at a low interest rate – means you’re starting out your new life together with a large amount of debt for an event that lasts one day. Think about whether the wedding of your dreams is worth using that joint checking account to pay off months of wedding debt.
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Save-the-date card etiquette (MS) — More and more couples planning to walk down the aisle are embracing save-the-date cards to give guests adequate notice that there is a party on the horizon. Save-the-date cards do more than let guests know when you’re getting hitched. The cards are a preliminary way to keep guests informed and let them know they are, in fact, on the guest list. These cards haven’t always been so popular, but have risen in popularity due to longer engagement periods, a growing number of destination weddings and the growing number of couples with guests from all over the country, if not the world. Considering people often plan business trips, vacations and other excursions several months in advance, save-the-date cards help secure a greater number of attendees at your wedding. Save-the-date announcements can vary in many ways. They may be postcards or magnets that can be attached to a refrigerator door. Guests often take their cues regarding the level of formality of the wedding from the type of stationery couples choose. When to send out the save-the-date announcements is important as well. As a general rule of thumb, it is wise to mail out the cards six months in advance for a standard wedding. If the wedding requires travel or extended overnight accommodations, you may want to mail them out eight months to a year in advance to give guests the time to investigate flight costs and hotel arrangements. A wedding also may necessitate planning a vacation or personal time off from work. There-
fore, ample advanced notice is advisable. Be sure to make your guest list in advance of sending out save-the-date cards. Everyone who receives a card should also be sent an invitation prior to the wedding. Remember to include any members of your planned wedding party in the list of recipients. Just because a person has verbally confirmed attendance at your wedding doesn’t mean they should be excluded from subsequent announcements. Guests may talk to one another and it is best to avoid hurt feelings and any added drama before the wedding by treating everyone equally. Be sure to include the wedding date, your names and the location of the wedding on the save-the-date cards. You do not need to offer RSVP information or detailed specifics at this time. You may want to include a Web site URL on the card so guests can check it frequently for updates on wedding information. Be sure to also include that a formal invitation will follow at a later date. You do not want to cause confusion by having guests think that the save-the-date card is the actual invitation. Also, make sure you address the save-the-date cards correctly to show your intentions with respect to guest invites. For example, be clear about whether children will be invited and whether a boyfriend, girlfriend or another guest can tag along. Although save-the-date cards are not a necessity, they have become a popular part of wedding planning to eliminate confusion about invitations as well as help guests plan time off for your wedding.
SWAK LIZA PERRIN AND ETHAN RAYMOND share a kiss in front of a purple graffiti heart on a barn wall at the Perrin farm in Middlebury. The couple is preparing for their wedding in July this year.
Photo by Andie Guran
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Get wedding ready: look and feel your best on the big day (ARA) – As a bride-to-be, you invest huge amounts of time, energy and money to make your big day unforgettable. Unfortunately, all of the stress associated with planning a wedding can take its toll, and you may neglect your own well-being in the chaos. Inadequate sleep, poor diet and high levels of stress can leave you feeling and looking less than fabulous, but with a few healthy and sustainable adjustments, you can look forward to your walk down the aisle. GORGEOUS GREENS Pressure to look perfect in your wedding photos may lead you to fad diets that can leave you starving and irritable, not to mention pallid and worn down. Instead of restrictive dieting, celebrity nutritionist and author Kimberly Snyder says eating the right foods will result in weight loss, as well as improve the look of skin, hair and nails. In “The Beauty Detox Solution,” Snyder encourages a plant-based diet that draws beautifying nutrients from completely natural sources. Green smoothies are a great way to incorporate more fruits and vegetables on the go, Snyder says, and she encourages all her clients to drink them. “Green smoothies are absolutely one of the easiest ways to get the nutrition your body needs to be healthy and beautiful,” Snyder says. “Busy brides-to-be will appreciate how quick and easy these are to make, and they’ll love how green smoothies make them look and feel.” SLEEPING BEAUTY From venue visits to cake tastings to bridal showers, it might seem like there isn’t enough time to get all your wedding planning done. However, skimping on sleep can have serious physical and mental consequences. Getting enough rest so that you can get through your seemingly never-ending list can be difficult, but it’s vital to help you look and feel your best. For better, more restful sleep, try to stick to a bedtime routine at the same time every night. Try not to eat or drink within an hour of going to sleep, and avoid electronic
screens for 30 minutes before bed. You might enjoy a light activity – such as reading a book – directly before going to sleep to help clear your mind. Lastly, ensure that you continue to make sleep a priority, even as the special day nears. POST-WORKOUT GLOW A wedding is a great motivator when it comes to working out, and perhaps you have already joined a gym or invested in a personal trainer to get in shape for the occasion. Even if you aren’t worried about losing weight, exercise can do great things for busy bridesto-be. Snyder, an experienced yogi who has practiced around the world, encourages her clients and readers to explore yoga for better mental and physical health. “Exercise releases stress-fighting hormones, and yoga in particular can be a rejuvenating escape from the day’s hectic happenings, no matter how new you are to the practice,” Snyder says. “By combining strength-building poses and attention to inner self, you can both tone your muscles and achieve mental bliss. Yoga is a great way to get fit and stay focused so you can walk down the aisle looking serene and stunning.”
ANDREA AND CODY QUESNEL embraced many shared aspects of their lives in their wedding ceremony in September 2012, including using a tractor to carry the wedding party to the ceremony site.
Photo by Dan Lovell
RADIANTLY RELAXED Unbridled mental stress can quickly lead to physical consequences, and you don’t want to look haggard or tired on your special day. Physical activity, whether it’s a long run, exercise class, or short jog around the block, releases hormones that will boost your mood for hours. And don’t underestimate the power of the senses: lighting stress-relief aromatherapy candles, soaking in a warm bath, and even treating yourself to a massage can help you relax as the wedding day approaches. As you plan every detail of your wedding, remember to spend time on your own health and happiness. By paying attention to your physical and mental well-being throughout the planning process, you’re sure to be ready and radiant for your big day.
Some bridal traditions are customs dating back centuries (MS) — Chances are those who have attended a wedding have witnessed some popular traditions take place. The bride wears a veil, a court of wedding attendants accompanies the bride and groom, and birdseed, rice or flower petals are tossed. But have you ever wondered why? The wedding customs are ripe with tradition and harken back to days when superstition and myth often ruled the day. Throwing rice: Today it has become de rigueur to blow bubbles, toss birdseed or release doves when the bride and groom leave the house of worship newly betrothed. That’s because savvy individuals found that raw rice can pose a hazard to birds pecking in the area. However, rice throwing is an old custom that dates back to the Middle Ages, when wheat or rice where thrown to
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symbolize fertility for the couple. Bouquet: Nowadays, the bride carries a beautiful bouquet of flowers. But the purpose of the bouquet held different meanings in the past. Saracen brides carried orange blossoms for fertility. Others carried a combination of herbs and flowers to ward off evil spirits with their aroma. Bouquets of dill were often carried; again for fertility reasons, and after the ceremony, the dill was eaten to encourage lust. Bridesmaids: There may be arguments over dresses and how many bridesmaids to have in a wedding party now, but in ancient times it was “the more the merrier.” That’s because bridesmaids were another measure to keep the bride safe against evil spirits. Essentially the bridesmaids were decoys for the spirits — dressing like the bride
A cozy house GUESTS SHARE IN the festivities at the Patno and Tourville wedding reception at the Middlebury Inn. Newlyweds Stephanie and Aaron celebrated their wedding on December 22, 2012. Photo by Jacob Hannah.
to confuse the spirits or maybe help deter them to leave the bride be. Wedding rings: Wearing of wedding rings dates back to ancient Egypt. The round shape of a ring symbolizes eternal love. The ring is worn on the fourth finger of the left hand because it is believed this finger has a blood vessel that goes directly to the heart. Wedding cake: The traditional wedding cake evolved from Roman times when the cake was originally made from wheat. It was broken over the bride’s head to ensure
fertility. All of the guests eat a piece for good luck. Single women used to place a piece of wedding cake under their pillows in the hopes of finding their own husbands. Father accompanying the bride: This tradition symbolizes that the bride’s father endorses the choice in husbands and is presenting his daughter as a pure bride to that man. Kissing the bride: In older times, a kiss symbolized a legal bond. Therefore, the bride and groom kissed to seal the deal on their betrothal.
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