LENS: CHANGE

A Different Lens

Mental Health Monthly By RanDee McLain

CHANGE

In San Diego and most of California we have finally started to see the lifting of many COVID restrictions. We are no longer required to wear masks most places and are free to move about as we please.

A unique phenomenon that we have seen is that people from many sectors are looking for a change. We have a high number of employees leaving their jobs, switching agencies, or all together changing professions. It seems COVID has given people the time and space to reevaluate their priorities, and what is important for them. I recently read an article that said this is happening throughout the US and we are seeing increasing numbers of people looking for something completely different than what they were doing pre-COVID.

It was interesting even as I was preparing for this article, I have mixed emotions around change. As a prior service member and former spouse of Active Duty- I feel the three-year itch. I feel every three to four years I am looking for the next change or adventure. I think most service members can relate. We are used to uprooting our lives every few years. I personally loved the adventure and exploring new cities. Of course, there was a lot of stress as well, but it was something we were accustomed to.

I mentioned the mixed emotions around change. I like changing something every few years but am also known to stay in relationships and jobs longer than I should. I guess when change is forced on me (I.e. military) I accepted and embrace it. When it is my choice for change, I tend to drag my feet.

Why do we fear change? Even when we know we should change- so many of us fear change. We are creatures of habits. We get a routine, and we stick with it generally. Change will disrupt that and is something that can be uncomfortable.

The fear of unknown keeps a lot of people from making changes. You may not be happy where you are, but it seems safer than stepping out and being unsure of what is next. Research indicates that a fear of change is one of the single most career limiting moves you can make.

There is the fear many times if it is the right decision. Will the outcome be what you hoped for?

I had a Chief I used to work for and when I sought consult on life choices he would always say…..you won’t know till you try. He also hadn’t cleaned his coffee cup in 25 years- so not sure how trustworthy that advise is!

Things to keep in mind when thinking of change:

• Avoid change for the sake of change. • Find what grounds you and won’t be changing (family, relationships, hobbies). This will help you as you navigate the new choice. • Don’t be a full surprise to those most impacted (kids, family, partners) - If you are thinking big career or physical move preparing others is helpful. • Do your researchand take your time when making big life changes.

This is your life….take risks….make changes and live your best life.

See you next month as we explore the social awkwardness of post COVID interactions