body talk

The phrase “actions speak louder than words” has proven itself true time and time again. In job interviews, business meetings and personal relationships alike, your body language can make or break the deal.

Keep Kids In Mind

Half as intimidating as your superiors, your children can also read between the lines of body language.

› A gentle touch of the arm says you’re interested in what they have to say.

› Frequent eye contact (and putting the phone down) shows you are listening and ready to share feelings with them.

› “Mirroring” your child makes them feel as though you understand what they feel. For example, if your child smiles, smile back.

Here’s a list of what you’re really saying even if you’re not saying anything at all.

“I REALLY DON’T CARE ABOUT WHAT YOU’RE SAYING.”

Avoid looking around the room or sitting far back from friends or associates. Instead, lean into the conversation and tilt your head as you are listening to the conversation. This shows the person speaking that they have the floor and that you care about what they’re saving.

“CAN I LEAVE NOW?”

Watching the clock is a fatal mistake. Without saying a word, you have sent the message loud and clear that you have better things to do than meet with the person you are with.

“DO

I LOOK OK?”

Twirling your hair could project a variety of things. For example, one could perceive you to be self-conscious or overly concerned about your physical appearance. Your future boss or significant other is looking for confidence. Maintaining healthy eye contact demonstrates confidence, so does a strong handshake.

“I’M NOT LISTENING.” Slouching screams “not interested.” It is not only a sign of disrespect but an indication to potential bosses that you have no desire to be where you are. The brain equates power to the amount of space someone takes up; therefore, standing or sitting in an upright position is ideal.

“I’M RIGHT, AND YOU’RE WRONG.”

Uncross your arms and legs. Even if you are being pleasant, the other party may be under the impression that you are not open to what they are saying. Keep this in mind while speaking to anyone—kids and friends included.

“I’M LYING TO YOU.”

Take it easy on the gesturing, Pinocchio. Exaggerated gestures imply that you are stretching the truth. Show you have nothing to hide with fewer gestures. Spread your arms apart or show the palms of your hands as you speak, this indicates you are honest and trustworthy.