A few ideas on how to make friends…

Make Yourself A Priority

Leadership studies have shown that people with more physical, material, and intellectual resources have more social “capital,” which allows them to continue to seek out new relationships and forms of social involvement.

Make A List Of What You Do Well

What do you love to do? What do you wish you were better at? If it helps, make a list of your preferred hobbies, and then make one for all those things you’ve always wanted to try.

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Pickleball

It’s a craze that is sweeping the nation, and there is one demographic that has flocked to it in particular. McCabe says, “I go to the local Y, and every Thursday the whole gymnasium is set up for pickleball. There had to be 40-50 people there, and clearly they were all well into their post-55, 60s, 70s, even into their 80s!”

AND USING THAT LIST…

…start looking up groups, classes, or events that relate to those hobbies. (See our story on hobbies on page 52.) If you have a green thumb, the Master Gardener program is always looking for more people. If you took one pottery class in your 30s and always wanted to do it again, see if there’s a program at a local community center or school. You could join a walking group, which would help you meet people and keep you fit, so it’s a win-win.

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When you’re depressed, McCabe explains, volunteering might seem like an interesting concept, but you’re too lethargic, anxious, or empty to actually act on that advice. So particularly for those recently bereaved or suffering from substance abuse, these groups can be a lifesaving way to socialize with people who understand what you’re going through.

Join A Gym

If you’ve ever taken a fitness class, there are almost always people in there chatting away. These people met somehow, and we’d put good money on the fact that it was through that class. Don’t be afraid to sign up for something new at a gym or even a senior center. Yes, the fact that chairs are involved in exercise might be depressing, but at least it’s a start!

Volunteer

Volunteering with local organizations, schools, or libraries is another great way to meet people who share the same values. McCabe always recommends volunteering because “then you’re doing something that is altruistic — which can make you feel good about yourself — but it also increases the chances you can meet someone [with similar ideals].” The important thing is to get involved, and friendships will evolve from there.

Embrace Technology

The beauty of social media is that it has opened new avenues for reconnecting with people. “I would encourage in my practice to not be afraid of technology; get on board with modern ways. And get comfortable with texting!” says the 76-year-old McCabe. “That’s a thing young people do constantly. If it weren’t for texting we wouldn’t be as well-connected as we are, which is a wonderful thing.”