STINK STINK Preventing genital

During Summer

Vagina owners need to do a little more work to keep things smelling fresh down below. The first, and most important thing, is NOT to wash with soap inside the vulva and vagina. I’m not joking here, ladies. Soap is COUNTERPRODUCTIVE for odor control on female-type genitalia. It alters our natural pH and can cause overgrowth of bacteria and fungi that cause unpleasant odors. You can use soap on your anus and the naturally hair bearing areas of the vulva, but NOT inside the lips. A good ole washcloth with water only can be used inside the lips after exercise etc… Consider boric acid suppositories once or twice a week during the hottest months to maintain natural vaginal pH.

Summer in Texas is the worst. It was, no joke, 103 degrees today in the Dallas area, not considering the humidity. Across the US, as temperatures rise, so does body odor. In the lifestyle, we’re pretty self-conscious about odor and VERY careful about genital odor. No one wants to give oral to someone who stinks. The big question is how to avoid genital odor when you’re sweating all day?? Genital odor is easier to control in penis owners. It’s probably a good thing, but penises and anuses really just need regular washing and soap to stay fresh and smelling decent enough. Any time you get sweatygym, exercise, working in the garden, be sure to bathe afterward.

If you want a little extra reduction in any odor that may develop between bath time and playtime, consider Lume or Mando. I have absolutely zero financial relationship to this company, but gosh I wish I did! Lume and Mando reduce body odors anywhere that might get stinky for up to 72 hours. I’m talking about places like armpits, feet, genitals, underboob, and butt cracks. This stuff is AMAZING. It was also developed by a gynecologist (Dr. Shannon Klingman) and is completely safe to use on the female style genitals.

How To Prepare For A Swinger Event

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Do Your Research

Take some time to research the specific event you're interested in. What are the details of this party? Where is it being held? How many people are anticipated? Themes? Dress code? Who is organizing the event?

Talk To The Organizers

Be sure to find out about any rules for the event. Don’t hesitate to reach out to the organizers directly. Is it meant for couples only? Themed after a specific activity? Be mindful of how the organizers describe the event. Do they mention consent, safety, or etiquette? Are the rules clearly laid out? These kinds of questions will help you figure out whether or not you feel comfortable attending.

Know Your Boundaries

Perhaps the most important aspect of attending any kind of swinger event is getting and being very clear on your boundaries. You may want to think about:

• The gender identities of the people you would feel comfortable playing with

• Are you wanting to play with couples, singles, both?

• Any specific activities that are on or off the table for you and/or your partner (for example, getting spanked, giving or receiving a blowjob, etc.)

Attending a sex party doesn’t mean you consent to any and all activity taking place. You might be invited to join in some activities that you’re not comfortable with or breach your boundaries. If saying no is in any way tricky for you, practice saying it beforehand. Try something polite like, “I’m very flattered by the invitation, but I’m not interested.”

Limit The Liquid Courage

A drink to steady your nerves is fine but a lot of people end up getting way too intoxicated before or during sex parties. Not only do you need your full judgment to be sure you make safe decisions about what feels good for you at the moment, you don't want to end up drunk and passed out, missing all the fun right?

RESPECT OTHER PEOPLE'S BOUNDARIES

Ask for consent for everything you do, and keep in mind that a lack of a response is NOT a “yes”. You need to respect other people’s boundaries and the rules of the party. Before attending any sex party, make sure you're comfortable making specific requests like, “May I join you?” or “May I touch you?”. Practice saying the words out loud until they feel more natural. There’s no way around it; whether it's your first event or your 15th, you’re bound to be a little nervous! Give yourself permission to feel nervous or awkward. One of the best ways to get past your nerves is to talk to people at the party. Complement their outfit or Tell them it’s your first time. There are plenty of nice people who would be willing to show you around the venue, introduce you to others, or just chat to help you feel more comfortable.

Sex parties can be overwhelming. Period. Plan to give yourself a few breaks to be alone and process your reactions. Duck into the bathroom for a few minutes to decompress. Check-in with yourself, and if you brought a partner/friend with you, plan check-ins with them as well.

Swing Safe

Acknowledge Your Nerves

If you do decide to join in on the fun, remember to always gain consent and practice safe sex. Coming prepared with your own condoms, lube, or other contraceptives is always smart. You can also check with the event organizers about their safety policies and see if they provide safe sex supplies.