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TABLE OF CONTENTS
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On the Cover: Creative Director: Joi Mitchell, Assistant Creative Director: Daneisha Goodman, Wardrobe Stylist: Dana “Dutch” Davis, Student Apprentice Stylist: Mina Waight, Hair: Diamond Beach of Beauty Boulevard, Make-up: Shekayah “Sparkle” Wallace at Pink Kisses Make-up, Photography: Shelby Brown. Models from Left to Right: On Stanley Streater: Shirt & Pants: Topman, Coat: PRSVR, Shoes: H&M. On Leah Lones: Shirt & Pants: H&M, Coat: Express, Shoes: PRSVR. On Asia Carter: Jacket: Akira, Skirt: Bebe, Shoes: Adidas. On Jarrin Randall: Full Look: H&M.
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THE RELATIONSHIP ISSUE
FASHION
TEEN BIZ
24 BABY IT’S COLD OUTSIDE, SO WARM
42 HIGH PAYING NON-COLLEGE CAREERS/
8 LOVE LESSONS
UP IN THESE LOOKS
YOUNG BUSINESS OWNERS HEADED
9 ROMANTIC LOVE
30 HOT SNEAKS STILL SIZZLING
FOR SUCCESS 43 UNEMPLOYMENT IN THE AFRICAN-
CELEBRITY COUPLES: RELATIONSHIP GOALS 10 INSTAGRAM STALKING YOUR EX
COVER STORY
AMERICAN COMMUNITY / ADVICE TO
11 COMMUNICATE BETTER WITH BAE
32 SO INTO YOU: COUPLES SHARE
COLLEGE BOUND STUDENTS
12 WHEN EVERYBODY HATES YOUR BOO
TIPS ON LASTING LOVE
44 LIFE LESSONS FROM TRUE MENTORS
14 SELF-LOVE DO YOU LOVE YOURSELF ENOUGH
GIVING BACK
TO ABSTAIN FROM SEX?
34 C-HOUSE: MAKING YOUTH BETTER
STAR MOGUL
15 KEYS TO A HAPPIER LIFE
35 M.A.D.D. RHYTHMS TAPS INTO THE
46 JAYLIN WATERS: RIDING THE WAVE OF
16 COMMUNITY LOVE
COMMUNITY
SUCCESS
18 GET INVOLVED! TIPS ON BECOMING
TECHNOLOGY
INSIDE & OUT
AN ACTIVISTS
36 BONDING THROUGH GAMING
47 THE INVISIBLE SCARS OF MENTAL ABUSE
20 FAMILY LOVE
37 DYETT’S COMEBACK
SAY IT IN A LETTER
38 CSU’S REGINALD MILES TALKS RADIO
A DAY IN THE LIFE OF ACTIVIST JA’MAL GREEN
ON THE COURT 48 STRONG & PRETTY
21 KEEPING UP WITH MY GLOBAL FAMILY 22 FRIENDS & ACQUAINTANCES
UNDER THE RADAR
JUDGING AT FIRST SIGHT: THE TENSION
40 CHITANA / JORGE MIKELL
BETWEEN FEMALES
41 THE FUTURE IS BRIGHT FOR
WHAT MATTERS TO US
23 FRIENDS FOR THIS & THAT
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This issue of True Star is all about relationships, but that doesn’t mean you have to be in one to benefit from reading the articles. Here at True Star we believe that one of the most important relationships is the one with yourself. In the article “Tips To A Happier Life” we offer advice to help you become the best you you can be. Ever wonder how some boyfriends and girlfriends seem to make being in a relationship look so easy? In our cover story “So Into You” local couples share personal information about how they met and make their love last. If the love lives of the rich and famous are more your style, check out “Celebrity Goals” for some inspiration. There’s nothing like the feeling you get when you think you’ve found “the one.” But what do you do when your family and friends don’t like your significant other? “When Everybody Hates Your Boo” has your answers. How deep does your love for Chicago run? Is it deep enough to want to change it for the better? If so, the article “Get Involved! Tips On Becoming An Activist” is just the thing to motivate you. Our piece profiling youth activist Ja’Mal Green is also encouraging for the everyday teen who’s ready to change their neighborhood and the city. And if you’ve ever felt like every discussion with your parents turns into a heated argument, we have advice for that too. Check out “Say It In A Letter” to find out how to express yourself in writing. Before you flip to the final page, don’t overlook “Sox Elite Athletes On The Rise” to learn about area teens who commit to college-level baseball. We hope you enjoy this issue! PLEASE LET US KNOW YOUR THOUGHTS ON TRUE STAR MAGAZINE Letters to True Star • 1130 South Wabash • Suite 302 • Chicago, Il 60605-2717 Letters become the property of True Star and may be edited for publication. EMAIL soundoff@truestarmagazine.com
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WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH CHICAGO LIKE? WHAT’S THE HARDEST PART OF MAINTAINING A ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP? WHAT DO YOU LOVE MOST IN THE WORLD? HOW CAN THE POLICE BUILD BETTER RELATIONSHIPS WITH CHICAGO YOUTH?
LAKELA BAILEY SENIOR LINDBLOM SALES & MARKETING
1. I have more love for my city than anything. There’s so much talent booming from Chicago and nonetheless, we’re a poppin’ city. The only downfall of our city is the violence. We have to get it together. 2. The hardest part of maintaining a romantic relationship is literally just being so young. We’re still finding ourselves, let alone a romantic partner. It becomes this surreal struggle when you’re given this task of being practically responsible for someone’s romance and their happiness. 3. I love shopping more than I love anything. For most people music is their outlet from stress. Shopping is that outlet for me. Plus I love money, but I like it where I can see it – hanging up in my closet. 4. The best way for police officers to build better relationships with the youth is to reassure us that they’re solely protecting us and not abusing their authority. It’s so important that officers don’t racially profile or act prejudice against the youth of Chicago, especially BLACK youth. Who do we call when the ones who serve to protect us are killing us?
ARMONI WILLIAMS SENIOR MORGAN PARK RADIO
1. My relationship with Chicago is a love hate relationship. I was born and raised here but I don’t like what Chicago has turned into. 2. The hardest part of maintaining a romantic relationship is trust issues. 3. The thing I love most in the world is my family because every time I need a shoulder to cry on they are always there. 4. Build a better relationship. Also if the police can stop shooting the youth every time they do something wrong and punish us the right way that would help.
IMANI MANSON
SOUTH SHORE SOPHOMORE TRUE STAR DIGITAL MEDIA 1. I really love Chicago because it is a great place full of exciting people, wonderful places to visit, and great opportunities. 2. You will never know what a person truly feels about you, and if what they say to you is real. In relationships people can say things they don’t really mean, and you will never truly know if what they feel and what you feel about them is real. 3. I love my family and God the most because they are who I can count on and have never let me down. 4. The police can build better relationships with the youth by setting better examples of how you are supposed to act. Everyone is not raised the same way and every kid is not dangerous. If they can create more workshops, programs and safe havens for youth then maybe we can come together in a more positive way.
KAYLA EDWARDS JUNIOR MORGAN PARK SOUTH SIDE EDITORIAL
1. When you hear the same thing every day about someone getting shot you don’t get bothered by it anymore. It’s just a cycle that keeps going on and on. 2. The hardest part of maintaining a romantic relationship is trying to make sure you spend enough time with your partner. You try to give your partner and your personal life equal amounts of attention, but sometimes you can’t. 3. I can’t live without my phone. Technology used to be a want but since everything has gotten more advanced, technology is a need in society. 4. I don’t think police can build a better relationship with the youth in Chicago. By the way it looks on the news, police are not fans of Chicago youth. Because of that, the youth are not fans of the police.
BRITTNEY SMITH SOPHOMORE BROOKS GRAPHIC DESIGN
1. I love Chicago. I’ve lived here my entire life. Sometimes I get mad that so many people categorize Chicago as a bad city, due to crime. But when you’ve lived here, you know it’s a good place. 2. Communication is the key, so if you can’t talk to each other about anything and everything then the relationship probably won’t last. 3. The things I love most are my family and friends. If it weren’t for them I wouldn’t be who I am today. 4. Police can build better relationships with the Chicago youth by not stereotyping teens when there’s a big group, or being aggressive when it’s not necessary.
JINNAH ALIM
SENIOR JONES COLLEGE PREP FREELANCE JOURNALISM 1. I appreciate a lot of what Chicago has to offer but on the flip side, it has a lot to improve. Chicago is one of the most diverse cities in the nation, but it is also one of the most segregated. Diversity is so important to the development of people, and sometimes that divide between races makes it hard. 2. I feel that if you are a good match for the person you are with, neither of you should have a hard time focusing on other things on your priority list, beyond your relationship, because you have each other’s best interests at heart. 3. I am a huge sports fanatic. I think that athletics are important to society and the development of people. Athletics promotes teamwork, healthy lifestyles, competition, overall fun and skill-building. I appreciate every sport because it offers so much for every kind of person. 4. The police need to take a step back and evaluate what their purpose is in our community. What they have been doing has built the biggest wall of distrust against them. After so many shocking and disturbing incidents where the police were involved, it is practically impossible to feel safe around a police officer.
In the 2015 fall issue the make-up artist for the fashion spread was wrongly credited. The correct make-up artist is Jerlicia Hobson. True Star regrets the error.
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ROMANTIC LOVE
Celebrity Couples:
Relationship Goals BY TRINITI MAYE, SOPHOMORE, MORGAN PARK
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s time goes on, celebrity couples break up and make up, but that doesn’t stop people from admiring the famous for their relationships. Nowadays “regular” couples like you and your significant other may study those in the public eye who appear to have the happiest lives. Striving for what they have makes them goalworthy. The following couples are the ones many of us may look up to.
BEYONCÉ & JAY-Z One of entertainment’s most powerful couples is Beyoncé and Jay-Z, aka Sean Carter. They started dating back in 2001, married in 2008, and even though they are always in the public eye they’ve managed to stay together. What makes them so special is that they are each other’s support system and they have been able to mix business with pleasure. In their songs you can hear they don’t always have the ideal fairytale relationship, but when they are spotted by paparazzi they appear to still be very much in love.
CIARA & RUSSELL WILSON Ciara started dating football player Russell Wilson after ending the relationship with ex-husband, Future. Eventually, they became official. What makes this couple so unique is that they have publicly stated that they are waiting to have sex. In various interviews they have said that they want to really get to know and understand each other mentally and spiritually before they get too physical too fast. In an interview with The Rock Church, Wilson defended their decision. “Can we love each other without [sex]? If you can really love someone without that then you can really love somebody.”
JOHN LEGEND & CHRISSY TEIGEN This couple took 2015’s social media platforms by storm. Whether it be Snapchat, Instagram or Twitter, these two are very public when it comes to their relationship, from sharing moments of their 2013 marriage to the announcement of expecting their first child. Even so, they don’t air every little tiny detail about their lives. They’ve been able to find the perfect balance. From the photos they post you can see how supportive they are of one another. They are each other’s biggest fans, and they simply enjoy one another’s company. According to Morgan Park sophomore, Janesa BeyMuhammed, Legend and Teigen make the goals list because of “how they act towards each other. You can see in their eyes how much they care about each other.”
PRESIDENT BARACK OBAMA & FIRST LADY MICHELLE OBAMA Last, but surely not least, is America’s favorite first couple, President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama. They are the ultimate goal. They have money, power, respect, and they are two of the most humble people on this planet. Even with stressful jobs that require most of their attention, these two still find ways
to be the best parents they can be and keep passion alive in their relationship. “We try to do date nights. It’s a little tough. Barack has a 20-car motorcade, men with guns, the ambulance is always there,” Mrs. Obama joked on “The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon.” “How romantic can you be?” Not every celebrity should be praised for their actions and the same goes for celebrity couples. Before making celebrities role models for goals, be sure that you are admiring them for the positive things in their relationships and not just because they’re famous. TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 9
STOP
Instagram Stalking
YOUR EX BY JINNAH ALIM, SENIOR, JONES COLLEGE PREP
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ost of us have probably been through an annoying breakup where you hate your ex and wish they did not exist anymore. Still, we might do a little snooping -- check their Twitter favorites, peek through Instagram followers and messages (yes, you still have those passwords) -- to see what they’ve have been up to and with who.
“MAKE YOUR PAGE PRIVATE SO THAT YOU CAN MONITOR WHO FOLLOWS YOU AND WHO SEES WHAT YOU POST.” - DR. MICHELLE FERRIER
Kyra Johnson, a 17-year-old junior at Jones College Prep, admits she checked up on a guy. “I went on his page and I scrolled down, and I saw that he had a new female as his ‘woman crush every day.’ That pissed me off, even though that wasn’t my business.” But on a serious level, social media stalking is not healthy. It may seem harmless to check up on someone, but these actions are potentially dangerous. After a split, you may be tempted to keep track of the other person’s life. This issue is so important that Facebook is attempting to help you create some distance by limiting which posts your exes can see and detagging pics from old flings. Still, breakups are hard and it may take a while to really sever ties with the intense emotions that come along with it. Dr. Michelle Ferrier, a journalist, scholar and associate dean for innovation at Scripps College, defines social media stalking as “looking up, friending, and harassing a person” to track their activities or associates. Ferrier adds that “online harassment ruins lives and reputations. The damage is persistent and will leave a digital footprint, and in teens especially, this can lead to suicide on extreme levels.” If you are aware of someone stalking you on social media, let them know in a cautious way that what they are doing is inappropriate and unwelcome. For example, you can tell that person that they are making you uncomfortable. If simply talking to that person does not work, block them! That should keep them at arm’s length for the time being.
what is acceptable to post about each other because sometimes, unfortunately, personal information may end up being leaked later.
You cannot be afraid to stand up for yourself in this situation because if it is left unaddressed, the actions could escalate.
To limit snooping after the relationship is over, you may have to hide your online posts. “Make your page private so that you can monitor who follows you and who sees what you post,” Ferrier says.
Ferrier says setting boundaries at the beginning of a relationship might diminish the urge to snoop. Negotiate social media usage and lay ground rules about
So be cautious about spending time on the ex’s social media pages. If the relationship is over, move on.
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Communicate
BETTER With Bae BY TRINITI MAYE, SOPHOMORE, MORGAN PARK
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h, no! You and your significant other just had another huge fight. If you find yourself arguing often over something bae said, it could be because he or she is the poor communicator in the relationship. In these situations, knowing the right way to respond can help you live happily ever after, or at least be able to have a normal conversation with someone you care about. The following advice can help you nip the arguing in the bud.
“Nothing.”
Even though it’s a simple response, saying the word “nothing” is a common way to spark an argument. According to Psychology Today contributing writer Andrea Brandt, Ph.D., the person fighting dirty in the relationship says “nothing” when asked by their partner if something is wrong. They don’t want to take ownership of what’s bothering them and instead “radiate negative energy.” The next time your bae says “nothing” in answer to a question, Brandt suggests you come back with: “That response is only going to get us into a fight. When you’re ready to talk about it, I’m here to listen.” This closes the door on arguments and welcomes opportunity for true communication.
“If you really loved me…”
If your partner starts a sentence with “If you really loved me,” brace yourself for what’s to come. What he or she says may cause you to question the love of your boo. Although he or she may think it’s just a matter of being expressive, you could be offended by what is said and respond negatively. Instead, in a calm, nonaggressive manner, ask your partner why he or she isn’t feeling loved. Your next challenge is to find positive ways to alter that negative feeling.
“Always” & “Never”
These phrases eliminate hope in a relationship. For example saying, “You never reply unless I double text you,” and “You’re always on your phone ignoring me,” says there is no room for you to improve. In this situation, the best thing to do is acknowledge that your partner is upset with your actions and show that you are willing to change by being more attentive. Don’t be afraid to let bae know that the way he or she phrases statements can be hurtful to you, so they can make behavioral changes too.
“You’re just like [insert name].”
Less-than-flattering comparisons are more like bait when it comes to relationships. Similar to the phrase “nothing,” comparisons are a way for the poor communicator to reel you in and flip the situation. The accuser will see this as a way to make their partner better understand how they feel, but the other party often becomes upset when being compared. To avoid this argument you must help your partner understand that being compared to a past love is hurtful and shouldn’t happen. When someone uses these phrases to unintentionally start a fight it may be a sign that they have some insecurities that need to be worked through. As the other half of the relationship, it’s on you to stop the argument as soon as it begins.
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WHEN EVERYBODY Hates Your Boo BY SHENAYA RUSHING, JUNIOR, JONES COLLEGE PREP
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eing in a relationship can take some juggling. Keeping your partner happy, yourself fulfilled and your family and friends in the loop is definitely a balancing act. But what do you do when things tip to one side or the other? What if your best friend hates your bae? Or your mom isn’t as in love with your date as you are? Some may quickly conclude that they don’t care about what others have to say regarding their relationship. However, what we do often affects the people around us. Tia Rogers, 17, a student at Jones College Prep, has had to adjust to some relationship rifts. “It makes me feel a little conflicted because I want my boyfriend and friends to like each other. When that doesn’t happen, everything goes downhill, especially since I feel as if I’m in the middle of a tug-of-war match.” But Rogers says she believes things will get better over time. It “forces me to use my problem-solving skills more than ever,” she says. Since the world doesn’t revolve around you and your boo, here are some tips for maintaining healthy relationships. Because the last thing that you want is an unhappy mother, jealous friends, or a disappointed bae.
Don’t cut off your family.
Whether they accept your boo or not, ignoring your parents, siblings or close relatives will only intensify the hate. Don’t ditch chores for a date or skip out on a family dinner either — it’ll only drive a wedge between you and them, and they will blame your guy.
Never treat your friend like a third wheel.
They’ve had your back all along and it’s not OK for you or your BF or GF to forget about your friend. Don’t ditch your friend’s birthday plans because “bae” would rather “Netflix and chill.” Try to plan a few group get-togethers with friends. The goal is to get your buddies and new love to learn about each other and come to good terms.
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Don’t blame love for making you “act different.”
If your friends or family get upset, don’t become defensive or aggressive, simply reassure them. Then start managing your life well so that everyone gets quality time. Actions speak louder than words.
Learn to adjust
Remember, good communication is the way to be happy in all your relationships, but it won’t work if you continue to do the things you did before. Accept that all of these relationships require sacrifices, and be willing to make them to keep your loved ones happy.
“I’M RUNNING LATE FOR
“MOM...WHY ARE YOU TEXTING?”
WORK AND IT’S A LOT GOING ON, BUT DON’T WORRY ABOUT THAT.”
“BUT WE COULD GET
“WE ARE NOT GOING
HURT. YOU KNOW THAT’S
TO GET HURT, I AM THE
DRIVING INTEXTICATED.”
PERFECT DRIVER.”
6 years later... “BRANDON... YOU ALMOST RAN THAT LIGHT!”
“I SEE, I SEE I’M PAYING ATTENTION.”
“NO YOU’RE DISTRACTED
“I’VE LEARNED IT FROM
BECAUSE OF THAT PHONE!
YOU ALL OF THESE YEARS
YOU NEED TO STOP
MOM, YOU SHOULD TAKE
TEXTING AND DRIVING”
YOUR OWN ADVICE.”
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SELF-LOVE
Do You Love Yourself
ENOUGH TO Abstain FROM SEX? BY KAYLA WHITE, SOPHOMORE, MORGAN PARK
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hoosing to be abstinent seems to be a thing of past, but not for 21-yearold Brianna Smith. She’s taken the oath to be abstinent until marriage. Smith, a University Of Illinois at Urbana – Champaign student, plans to find the person of her dreams by staying focused on this commitment and her religious faith. “When I was in grammar school, I decided that I didn’t want to be sexually active until I was ready and comfortable,” says Smith. This seems like something that is very hard to do when the world is consumed with the idea of sex, but Smith has stayed grounded by her faith in God. She says she won’t let anything stop her from completing what she started. “I think it’s crazy that this is how society has evolved, but I don’t like to conform to something that I know isn’t for me. It’s not going to benefit me or help me grow in my relationship with Christ or others. So, I know I can stand out.” Being different isn’t a bad thing, especially when it comes to something as intimate as sex. You can do what you choose, but having sex because others are doing it probably isn’t the best idea. Making and keeping this abstinence commitment shouldn’t be hard to do when you keep yourself in good company. Once the decision is made, take pride in your choice and stay strong by joining others who are on the same path. Smith is part of a support group called Live With Intention, which is organized by PASS – Pregnancy Aid in the South Suburbs. WGCI radio personality Kendra G is also a promoter of abstinence. With her book and campaign, both titled “Abstinence Is Kool,” she encourages young ladies across the country to take a pledge to withhold from sex for the entire school year. “I started the ‘Abstinence is Kool’ challenge in September of 2008 while I was hosting my own radio show in Philadelphia,” says Kendra G. “I am so passionate about [abstinence] because when I was in high school I wasn’t having sex and I felt like I was alien. No one believed that I was a virgin at the time and I remember I used to feel like something was wrong with me. As I got older I realized that I had it right and most of my friends had it wrong. Using the platform that I have, I want girls who were like me to know that they are the ‘Kool’ girls, because the girl who isn’t sleeping with everyone is actual the koolest girl to me.” So far, 345 girls in the Chicago area have taken the abstinence pledge this school year. Watching this number grow is all a part of Kendra G’s mission. “My goal is simply to bring awareness to young girls that it’s okay to wait to have sex if you are not ready. It’s okay to focus on yourself during these young years of your life. Right now, you are still discovering who you are as a person and that is what is most important.” If you are interested in taking the pledge, visit abstinenceiskool.com for more information.
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KEYS to a Happier Life BY TAYLOR MIGGINS, SOPHOMORE, MORGAN PARK
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veryone has those days when they are really happy, and then there are days when you just feel sad. But a sad day does not mean you have to have a sad life. There are some life experiences that may cause depression, stress, anger and low self-esteem. The key to happiness is to not let those sad days rule your world. Transformational Life Coach Jennifer Flannigan, owner of Launch Your Vision Coaching and Consulting in Cincinnati, OH, shares how young people can help improve their overall happiness when faced with these common issues.
Depression
Sometimes we get so caught up in the moment that we let our whole mood get affected by the situation at hand. If that mood is negative, oftentimes depression is not far behind. If left untreated, depression can be serious. “Any teen experiencing depression should seek help from trusted adults, like a school counselor teacher, doctor, pastor, mentor, or family member.” We all have points in our lives where things may not be running smoothly, and it’s okay to have those moments, as long as you don’t dwell in your sorrow or hurt yourself or others. If you or someone you know is suffering from depression Flannigan says you need to “speak out.”
Stress
According to Flannigan, being stressed is a choice. She believes that once you change your mindset you can change how you feel. “The key to relieving stress is to do the things that counterbalance stress,” she says. To make your stress go away try listening to music that normally puts you in a good mood. Exercising is
another great option because it releases positive endorphins that help alter your mood. Flannigan also suggests that you “remove stressors from your life whenever possible, such as people or situations that bring about stress.” Those situations may include tardiness and procrastination. “Life will always come with the unexpected,” she says. “How you deal with it determines your success with overcoming stress.”
Anger
As humans, sometimes it can be hard not to have an emotional reaction to certain circumstances. “Don’t react or respond right away to a situation that makes you angry. Instead, back away from the situation,” says Flannigan. To help keep your cool, she also suggests counting to 10 in your head or engaging in an activity that calms you such as writing, talking with someone, praying or drawing. Just think before you speak. “Take time to process a thoughtful response rather than an angry reaction.”
Self-Esteem
Everyone has unique qualities that make them different and stand out from everyone else. “Self-esteem is how you like yourself. Your self-esteem is based on how close you live to these ideal qualities,” says Flannigan. In order to feel better about yourself, you have to love yourself and be the person that you want to be despite the opinions of other people. It’s your life, so why not live it the way that you want to? “See yourself in the light that you want to be seen,” advises Flannigan. “Then take the opportunity each day to demonstrate these values in your thoughts, actions, and words.” TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 15
COMMUNITY LOVE
A Day in the Life
OF ACTIVIST Ja’Mal Green BY CHRISTOPHER THOUGHTPOET BROWN, SOPHOMORE, THE ART INSTITUTE
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hicago has been through a lot when it comes to police brutality and unfair crime reporting. However, much like the results of the call to action that followed the murder of Emmett Till, a new wave of activists have stepped up. Many of these individuals are young, but their knowledge of reparations and justice for their people is astounding. One of those freedom fighters working hard to make a change is True Star alum Ja’Mal Green. “I never asked to be a part of this movement or this change taking place,” says Green, as we drive to a funeral where he’ll be speaking. “In a lot of ways I was dragged into it because of all the unfair actions taking place for my people.”
1st Stop / New Mount Pilgrim Missionary Baptist Church Green’s face is solemn because of the circumstances. He knows that every topic he touches on when he speaks will be over-speculated by the media and associates
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alike. During the drive, his spirits lighten up as he practices the Boyz 2 Men version of “It’s So Hard to Say Goodbye,” which he will perform at the service. He changes the music three to four times as he tries to cheer up the passengers—fellow activist and friend Lamon Reccord and his 13-year-old brother-in-law, Lyle Douglas Jr.—who are along for the ride. By the time we arrive at the church, everyone in the car is focused on what needs to be said and done. The spirit among them all is solemn at this service for Quintonio LeGrier, the late 19-year-old Northern Illinois University student recently shot and killed by police. The three gentlemen make their first steps into the church and the family of LeGrier embrace them as if they were cousins who haven’t been around for a while. While the bittersweet love was being felt, Green gets a little enraged by the number of
“I NEVER ASKED TO BE A PART OF THIS MOVEMENT OR THIS CHANGE TAKING PLACE. IN A LOT OF WAYS I WAS DRAGGED INTO IT BECAUSE OF ALL THE UNFAIR ACTIONS TAKING PLACE FOR MY PEOPLE.” - JA’MAL GREEN
empty seats in the church. “It’s funny how the media broke their necks to be at Bettie Jones’s funeral but there’s only one media outlet here. I hate that they play favorites.” When Green sees LeGrier’s grandmother, they hug and share a few words before he finds his seat. “She told me that he would’ve loved to have met me—that we would have been good friends,” he shares. Once it’s time for Green to speak in front of the congregation, he slowly stands and takes his place. “It’s our job to fight for these children, fight for my fellow friends. We will make the police pay for what happened to LeGrier.” The audience takes in each word as if Green is a preacher getting to the best part of his sermon. “The mayor has yet to send anyone to clean up the blood I saw on the front porch. It’s disrespectful.” Once Green finishes, the congregation cheers. After singing “It’s So Hard to Say Goodbye,” he grabs Douglas and Reccord and they head for the next destination. Before they can even reach the door, Reccord gets a call. His cousin had been shot and killed only two hours ago. Green lets Reccord go to his family’s car that’s waiting for him, then we leave. Green makes sure that he calls his friend at least three times on the way to the next spot to make sure he’s okay. That’s all he can do at this point.
2nd Stop / West Side Town Hall Meeting By the time we arrive at a town hall meeting, Green and Douglas are feeling better. This audience embraces him as a veteran political figure. The bill to get Mayor Rahm Emanuel out of office is the subject. Green stands slowly, then chooses his words to speak about the votes the team still needs from the aldermen of the city. “My name is Ja’Mal Green; 20 years old.” From there he states powerful points on why this bill needs to be passed so that the city can heal from its many wounds. He ends his speech saying a little about his daughter and how he will raise her in this city that he loves. The crowd gives him an ovation. Green’s ability to get the masses excited with calm and collected words is very impressive. After the meeting is done, he is stopped by at least five different media outlets that want to interview him about the violence in the city. He handles each interview uniquely. Douglas and his girlfriend watch in awe, but with a little irritation, because Green is taking forever to finish. As we head out the door we are approached by an elderly woman who tells Green she is proud of him. Green stops and talks to her for a few minutes before being rushed to the car by his brother-in-law who says, “We have to get to the protest at Rahm’s house. You are leading it!”
3rd Stop / Mayor Emanuel’s Home We arrive to a small but bold group of protestors outside of Emanuel’s house. Once again, Green is greeted like the leader of a sports team rather than a young activist. In a lot of ways he’s the man of the hour wherever he goes. The protest starts with powerful chants centering around Emanuel and how he needs to no longer be in office. Green then completely switches the agenda of the protest and has the crowd march around the neighborhood, stopping traffic with little to no difficulty. When a protestor is grabbed violently by one of the officers, Green and the rest of the group make sure that he doesn’t go anywhere with her. “Let her go! Let her go!” was the repetitive shout. Green stood his ground in front of the officer yelling that he has no business touching any of the peaceful protestors and that he should report to Green if he has a problem. “Officer Steven is one of the highest paid in the city and he does this every time we have a protest,” Green says after calming down. “He doesn’t have anything else to do but put his hands on people.” Two hours later the protest comes to a close because it’s snowing and raining and there are children to be concerned about. Green talks to everyone with much care and humility and heads to his car with Douglas. Inside the car, the vibes change as songs transition from artists Tyrese to Ed Sheeran. “Tyrese is the tightest ever to do it,” Green says with excitement. “Sheeran is pretty good, for a White boy.” Before Green drops me off I ask him about the state of the city and the many different organizations that are coming about. “I feel like we won’t truly reach our goals until every organization drops their personal intentions and realize that our battles with the enemy must be taken care of together.” That was the best advice that I had heard all day.
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GET INVOLVED!
TIPS ON BECOMING AN ACTIVIST BY JACOB BONDS, SENIOR, MORGAN PARK
“KEEP YOURSELF INFORMED AND REALIZE THAT EVEN YOUR SILENCE CAN BE HARMFUL.” - CHRISTOPHER BROWN
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andra Bland, Mike Brown, Tamir Rice, and Eric Garner are just a few people who have been fatally wounded by police brutality. These names have inspired many hashtags such as #DontForget, #SayHerName, and more famously #BlackLivesMatter. #BlackLivesMatter is the brainchild of three strong women: Alicia Garza, Patrisse Cullors, and Opal Tometi. Of course, as mature women, they may seem to have more influence than the average teen, but teens have a voice too and should use it. “What can I do? I’m only one person and I’m young,” is a popular thought and excuse often used by teens. Imagine if there were no more excuses and all the teens in Chicago joined together in a pact of peace and protection. The world would be in awe. If a teen says “yes,” to taking action, there is so much that can be done.
BE VOCAL. If you feel as if sharing your social stance in your
neighborhood or surroundings is dangerous or risky, then find people who share your opinion. This allows you to vent and feel safe. Being vocal to select people is not as effective as being vocal to the public, but it is a good start. Sometimes the best start to changing something is telling those closest to you.
ATTEND A PROTEST. There’s nothing more inspiring than being around people who believe in the same cause as you. Politicians, business leaders, and the general public notice large groups of people gathering to make a statement. If you choose to attend a protest, make sure you’ve examined all the risks. It may not be something getting arrested over or having colleges looking at you sideways -- or it may. Sometimes the most fulfilling method is the scariest one. On November 27, 2015, local African-Americans banded together to show their value to America by not buying anything on Black Friday. Sales were 25-50 percent below projection, according to the Chicago Tribune. 18 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
VOLUNTEER YOUR TIME. Do your research and
volunteer a few hours a week to an organization you feel is making a difference. Chicago organizations such as the “Know Your Rights” project educates youth about their basic, everyday rights in America. Also, the “Black Youth Project” is a platform that highlights the voices and ideas of Black millennials. Through knowledge, voice, and action, they work to empower and uplift today’s young people. Aaliyah Stewart, 16, from Merrillville, IN, is doing her part to make a difference. After losing two brothers to gun violence, she is working to award scholarships and reduce gun violence through her ASW Foundation and her #IAMTHEM social media campaign. Stewart offers some advice to other young activists. “Speak up. Have a voice for what you believe in. Don’t worry about being an outcast to your peers. [My foundation is] my passion, something I believe in really achieving. We all have a purpose in life, I believe this is mine, a divine order God set upon my life.” Illinois Art Institute student Christopher Brown is also active in his community. He became involved after seeing how little society cares about Black lives. Brown encourages other youth to be active as well. “Keep yourself informed and realize that even your silence can be harmful. You need to help let the world know that you are angry and frustrated by what’s happening. Whether that’s by attending a protest or keeping your followers informed on social media. Do what you can. Gather courage and stand for your own future. Realize the civil rights movement never ended. It’s taking place right now.”
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FAMILY LOVE
SAY IT IN A Letter BY ANDRIA CHILDRESS, SENIOR, COLUMBIA COLLEGE CHICAGO
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ommunicating with your parent doesn’t always come easy, even when you have the best of intentions. If you need to have a one-on-one talk but want to avoid a possible screaming match, consider another form of expression. Try writing your thoughts out in a personal letter to get your point across. Here’s how.
•Be positive: Mention the good things about this person or the current state of your relationship.
•Address the problem: Without attacking your parent, write about the issue at hand and how it makes you feel. Share your thoughts for a solution if you have any.
•End on a positive note: Explain how hopeful you are about the future of your relationship. •Sign off respectfully
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Dear Mom,
• Address the person you are writing to: Start off in a respectable manner.
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I’m writing you this letter because I am able to express myself better this way rather than face-to-face. I want to start off by saying that you are a great mother. You have sacrificed so much for me, and I may not always show it, but I do appreciate you.
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Although you’re always there for me when I need you, I do feel like I may be a bit of a disappointment to you. I feel like, to you, I am not supposed to make mistakes, and when I do, I am looked down upon as if you are ashamed of me. You have taught me well and none of the decisions that I make are because you failed me as a mother. I don’t, however, want my decisions to seem as if I have failed you as a child either. Right now you only know me as your child and I only know you as my mother. I think if we got a chance to learn each other outside of our “titles” of mother and child, we would understand each other better. I want us to be able to build some type of friendship. I want to be able to come to you about anything and not fear judgment. I do believe that we both can do better. It’s not just on you. We both have to be willing to try and learn from our mistakes. I am not here to point the finger and act as if I have been the perfect child, but I do want us to be able to move forward and let go of the past. I don’t expect for us to share everything, but I do think that having some heart-to-heart conversations is a start.
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I love you and I want you to know that no matter what, you are an amazing mother. I am truly grateful to have you in my life.
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With love,
(Your name here)
By expressing how you feel in a letter to your parent, you are making a mature move in the right direction to improve your relationship. Identifying the problem is the first step, the second is working to resolve it.
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Keeping Up With
My Global Family BY SHENAYA RUSHING, JUNIOR, JONES COLLEGE PREP
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ne thousand seven hundred miles – that’s how far away from me my family lives. They are in Montego Bay, Jamaica. It’s a small island in the Caribbean, a couple hundred miles from Cuba. My mother moved to the United States years ago to be with her father. But she was one of the few family members to come to this country. I was 5 years old when I met my mother’s relatives. I had no idea I had such a beautiful and large family with countless aunts, uncles and cousins. We Skype each other frequently, but it doesn’t bridge the gap between us. I often wonder if they feel like I do – as if a part of them is missing. Although our people are in another country, my family tries to incorporate aspects of the island lifestyle into our everyday lives here. Here’s how:
Cuisine: My mother loves to cook, and her favorite dishes are from “back
home.” Jerk, curry and rice and peas are a few she likes to prepare. My mom also loves to visit Chicago markets that sell fresh fruits that remind her of Jamaica. But the mangoes here will never compare to the ones on the island.
Community: Every year, my family goes to the Jamaica Independence Day parade to celebrate. We also attend festivals in Chicago to honor other Caribbean cultures. Everyone dresses in bright colors or colors that represent their home country’s flag. It’s our way of connecting with our roots and others who share them.
Communication: My mother often uses the language Patois, as it is
known. I have to translate whenever she speaks in the dialect to my friends. It isn’t a tedious task – in fact, it’s rather funny when I see confused looks on their faces. And some of her sayings would take years to figure out. For example, when I ask why, she says, “Y has a long tail.” Translation: “Why” has a long “tale” as in a story. My family’s lifestyle won’t bring my distant relatives closer, but I can still share the culture that keeps us connected.
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FRIENDS & ACQUAINTANCES
Judging At First Sight:
THE TENSE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN FEMALES BY KAYLA EDWARDS, JUNIOR, MORGAN PARK
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adies, we’re not supposed to judge a book by its cover, but that doesn’t stop us from judging one another by appearance. It’s no secret that on more occasions than one would like to admit, females can have had a hard time getting along. Within moments of meeting, girls and women may decide all sorts of things about one another, from status to intelligence to judgments about promiscuity. “All individuals judge in efforts to protect themselves,” says Chicago psychologist Maia Wheeler. “We all have responses to perceived danger or threat, known commonly as a ‘fight or flight’ response. It is these responses that keep us safe and out of harm.” Wheeler notes that the Business Insider recently reviewed a number of studies of the ways people judge each other. Those ways include: “trustworthiness, socioeconomic status, level of education, level of promiscuity, level of dominance, and levels of perceived success.” Dr. Stephanie Helms Pickett, Director of the Women’s Center at Duke University, believes that the tension between females has to do partly with how women are perceived by society. “We live in a world that is dominated by males - and in a space where females are pitted against each other,” Helms Pickett says. “When we initially meet, we often operate through the lens and framework by which we have had to learn survival. And when you are in survival mode, you often default to protecting self, as opposed to considering protection for other. I would suggest that it is less than having a hard time with getting along with each other, 22 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
ACCORDING TO MSN NEWS, PEOPLE DECIDE ON YOUR TRUSTWORTHINESS IN A TENTH OF A SECOND BASED ON APPEARANCE ALONE. and instead being slow to trust that the woman before me will not use the same measures to judge me as I’ve experienced in my daily living.” The amount of time that it takes to judge someone is short. According to MSN News, people decide on your trustworthiness in a tenth of a second based on appearance alone. It’s human nature to judge someone at first sight. Wheeler states, “When I meet other people, my judgments include looking for signs of genuineness (trustworthiness) as well as confidence (dominance) in a given situation. My judgments, like everyone’s, can hinder me getting to know people as I am drawing conclusions based exclusively on my personal experiences.” The problem with making a snap initial judgment is that we fail to then make the effort to get to know the person better and form a fair opinion. Holding on to judgments can be a bad habit. In order to eliminate this judgment among females, Helms Pickett offers some suggestions. “We can start from a place of having high expectations of each other. We can learn to appreciate the beauty of each other that exists inside and out. We can celebrate the accomplishments of each other. ...[And] we can treat each woman we encounter on her own merit, and not based in the negativity that we may have experienced with someone else.”
FRIENDS
For This & That BY DESTINI LINDSEY, JUNIOR, CHICAGO HIGH SCHOOL FOR THE ARTS
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o, we all have friends, but who is in what category? You have the tea-
spillers, the all-around besties, and the school friends. All friends have a place but do you know where they stand? Chances are most friends fit into one of these categories:
TEA-SPILLERS The ones who only come to you to tell you someone else’s business or maybe even to get someone else’s business from you. You guys only talk to have a “tea party.” You keep these friends distant. They’re not necessarily fake, but tea is the only time you guys can relate.
BESTIES Besties can actually be a variety of different types of people. No matter what, you can tell them most things and go places with them. It’s OK to have a little argument from time to time. It’s also OK to not talk every day, but we all know who our bestie is. You can’t mistake that!
THE SCHOOL FRIENDS These are the friends you meet at school who, quite frankly, stay at school. There’s no problem with school friends. Just have a clear understanding of your friendship. You guys can talk in the halls and at lunch, have a few classes together, and might even be friends on Snapchat. But they’re only for school.
NEEDY FRIENDS Now, we all know we have those friends who only text you when they need something. You guys never talk, but every time their names pop up on your screen, they need some type of favor. Whether they need a shoulder to cry on, money, or even want you to go look at that person’s page who has them blocked. No matter what, they always need your assistance. Yes, friends come and go, but knowing where all of your friendships stand makes life a lot less stressful.
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BABY IT’S Cold OUTSIDE So Warm Up In These Looks
CHECK OUT THESE HOT WINTER PIECES THAT YOU AND YOUR BOO CAN WEAR TO KEEP THE CHILL OFF.
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FRINGE Flirty & Cozy Shirt: Zara Skirt: H&M Boots: Sam Edelman
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Of Grey
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Sweater: H&M Blazer: H&M Jeans: Zara Gloves: Iridium Boots: Chelsea’s
STRIPES IN
the Winter Sweater: Gap Blazer: Asos Jeans: All Saints Boots: Red Wing Scarf: Nordstrom
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Jeans Necessary Sweater: H&M Blazer: Zara Jeans: H&M Shoes: Top Man Scarf: Nordstrom
Sweater: H&M Scarf & Gloves: Nordstrom
Jacket: Hassanni T-shirt: Target Hoodie: H&M
WINTER Essentials
Shirt: H&M Hat & Scarf: Nordstrom Gloves: Iridium
Jacket: 10deep Button up shirt: urban outfitters Tee shirt: H&M
Hoodie and jacket : 10deep
FASHION
Hot Sneaks STILL SIZZLING BY RASHARD FEGGINS, SOPHOMORE, HAROLD WASHINGTON COLLEGE
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015 was the year of the sneakerhead as numerous brands dropped some incredibly dope styles. Many brands collaborated on various shoe projects, taking consumers by complete surprise. We also saw reprises of sneakers, popular in the past, now refreshed with brand new colorways, materials and attitude. These shoes caused a frenzy on social media, gaining even more consumers interested in fresh sneakers. Here is a list of five that were pivotal in design, marketing, and social media.
Air Jordan 5 Supreme.
For this shoe, Jordan teamed up with popular New York based street wear brand, Supreme. The camouflage sneaker perfectly combines elements of the classic Jordan 5 with some street flair. The shoe also got a popularity boost from a lot of buzz on Twitter.
Adidas Yeezy Boost 350.
The very vocal and stylish Kanye West dropped the all-black colorway of the Yeezy Boost 350. Many sneakerheads camped out to get a pair as soon as they dropped – even though it was originally rumored to be a photoshopped shoe on the Internet. West is known to be very limited in his sneaker releases, only allowing a certain amount to reach the masses. The lucky few to snag a pair got their hands on a gem as the shoes are among the most exclusive in the country.
Nike Mag.
The fictional shoes were worn by Marty McFly (portrayed by Michael J. Fox) in the popular ‘80s flick Back To The Future. Oct. 21, 2015 is the day McFly traveled to in the film, and it was the day a video surfaced of Fox trying on a pair of self-lacing Mags just like the ones that appeared in the movie. Nike has not officially released the shoe. But whenever it does become available to the public, I’m sure we can expect lines out the door all around the world.
Nike Sock Dart.
The Nike Sock Dart was designed by street wear legend Hiroshi Fujiwara. Last year we saw the reprise of the shoe originally released in 2004. It made a brief appearance in 2014, became a statement in 2015, and is expected to be a staple in 2016. Fujiwara has also had his hands on NFL star Victor Cruz’s Nike Air Trainer.
Puma Disc Blaze.
Puma has teamed up with the world-renowned Bathing Ape, based in Japan, to bring this camo-inspired shoe. This sneaker is huge on the Internet as this is really one of the few moments Puma has partnered with another brand for a special shoe. The Puma/Bathing Ape collection, released on Nov. 28 at Bathing Ape stores worldwide, and then in December at Puma.
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So
Into You:
COUPLES SHARE TIPS ON LASTING LOVE BY KAYLA CRITTLE, JUNIOR, DE LA SALLE INSTITUTE
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alentine’s Day and prom are probably the most common days to make the average teen yearn to be in a relationship with someone special. But not everyone has what it takes to make love last or even worth posting about on social media. True Star sat down with two Chicago couples to get a first-hand look at what keeps these high school lovebirds in harmony. If their relationships don’t put you in a hopeful frame of mind, then nothing will.
“WE TALK IT OUT AFTER WE ARGUE, AND THEN WE’LL JUST COME TO AN AGREEMENT.” – STANLEY STREATER What are the do’s and don’ts of a relationship? Stanley: Don’t cheat. Watch out for the opposite sex because sometimes they tend to flirt a lot and you can’t trust some of them. The do’s are to be yourself with your partner so that you’re comfortable. If you don’t it’s a problem. Leah: Yes, you should always trust your partner. Describe the perfect date? Leah: I’m kind of a homebody so I like to watch movies and just chill out. He likes to play games a lot so maybe we’ll play or something. Stanley: I like going out to ice cream parlors to eat and just talk because I’m a talkative person. On Leah: Cape: BCBG Top & Skirt: H&M On Stanley: Shirt: Calvin Klein Jacket & Pants: PRSVR
Stanley Streater, Freshman, Harold Washington College & Leah Lones, Senior, South Shore Relationship Time: Dating for four years. How did you meet? Leah: We met my freshman year through a mutual friend, Simone. She lived close to him, and we were walking home one day and he tagged along with us. He had me laughing the whole way there. It’s kind of been history ever since. When did you become a couple? Stanley: We made four years on February 14th. How do you maintain a relationship while one of you is in college? Leah: Trust. It’s rather hard because we can’t really see each other as much with both of us going to school and working. We have to make time for each other. 32 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
How do you guys express your feelings for each other? Stanley: We love relaxing and having deep conversations. We used to [express ourselves] through poetry, and sometimes we still do. Leah: We had a poetry ensemble at our school, and we loved it so we started writing poetry. Stanley: I also do it through my music now. What’s the most difficult thing about having a high school relationship? Stanley: People try to break you up. Everybody and their mother tried to break us up. They filled both of our heads with lies. How do you guys handle your disagreements? Stanley: We talk it out after we argue, and then we’ll just come to an agreement. Name something that you love about each other. Stanley: Her corniness. Leah: I love that he’s very caring and understanding. How do you plan on maintaining your relationship after you graduate? Leah: He wanted me to move in with him after graduation, but I want to at least finish my freshman year of college. What’s the likelihood that you two will get married? Stanley: Well, technically we’re engaged.
“ATTENDING COLLEGE TOGETHER IS DEFINITELY GOING TO BE A CHALLENGE. BUT, IT WILL TEST OUR BOND.” – ASIA CARTER
On Jarrin: Shirt, Hoodie & Jacket: PRSVR Jeans: Marc Jacobs Shoes: Timberland
Jarrin Randall, Senior, Morgan Park & Asia Carter, Senior, Simeon Career Academy Relationship Time: Dating since freshman year. How did you meet? Asia: Before he transferred to Morgan Park, he came to Simeon freshman year. He would help me with my work, and I used to mess with him in the hall. What are the cons of attending different schools? Asia: Definitely not knowing if other girls are talking to him. Jarrin: I think that it’s probably not being able to see her every day like I used to. It’s harder to make time when we don’t see each other every day. How do you plan on maintaining your relationship after you graduate? Jarrin: She’s supposed to be going to college with me, so I think that makes everything easier. Though you plan on attending college together, do you feel like it will still be hard to maintain a relationship? Asia: Attending college together is definitely going to be a challenge. But, it will test our bond. Name something that you love about each other. Jarrin: I like her humor and her smile. Asia: I love that he’ll do anything for me at any moment. What is the perfect date? Jarrin: We’ll go out to eat and then go to a movie. We’ve already done so many things that now we just like to do something simple. Asia: We just like to chill.
On Asia: Shirt: Givenchy Jeans: Acne Studio Shoes: Adidas What are the pros and cons of a high school relationship? Asia: The cons are that people are going to try to break you up, and tell you you’re too young. Jarrin: A pro is that you get to be with someone that you know you can trust, and you don’t have to be worried about anyone else. How do you guys handle people trying to break you up? Asia: It pushed us to want to be together more. It made our bond stronger to see that no one can get in between us. We made sure we talked to each other before going off of “he say, she say.” I think we handled it very well. What are the do’s and don’ts of a relationship? Asia: Don’t be overprotective, and do have trust. Jarrin: Respect each other, and listen to what the other person is saying. How do you guys handle disagreements? Jarrin: Sometimes we give each other space, or we talk it out. We try not to say too much to hurt each other’s feelings, but we’ve gotten better at that. We know what to say at the right moments. How do you guys express your feelings toward each other? Jarrin: We just love to laugh a lot with each other and show affection. What do you appreciate about each other? Asia: I appreciate that Jarrin isn’t a stubborn person. No matter what, he makes sure I’m happy. What should you do to avoid confrontation with your boyfriend/ girlfriend? Asia and Jarrin: Communicate before taking action! TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 33
GIVING BACK
Making Youth Better
THROUGH BASKETBALL & MORE BY DAVORA BUCHANAN, SOPHOMORE, MORGAN PARK
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he C-House Basketball organization sets high standards for young men and women, and serves as an outlet from their everyday lives. Founder Mark Coleman explains his motivation for creating the non-profit program. “I grew up with amazing role models who helped me make critical decisions about academics, athletics, career, and life in general. My vision is that C-House fills the void that many of these young people may feel, should they have to grow up without formal mentorship or in households where two-parent modeling is non-existent.”
of academic enrichment and elite level basketball training under one roof. Addressing academic learning loss in the summer is a top priority for C-House so we work really hard to provide our student athletes with a rich and rewarding summer experience.”
The program is designed for boys and girls ages 8-14. Each participant is provided with athletic training for basketball skill development as well as the five “C-House” character building traits represented in the name – collaboration, confidence, competency, commitment, and coachability. C-House provides club or AAU basketball teams for those in 2nd through 8th grade. Three of the teams qualified for nationals in 2015 and three or more teams are expected to reach nationals in 2016. Coleman states, “I am very proud of the growth that we have exhibited in a very short period of time. More importantly, our student athletes are working just as hard in the classroom, and as leaders in the community, as they are on the basketball court. We are looking forward to an incredibly special 2016. I expect C-House student athletes to be recognized greatly for their accomplishments as students, athletes, individuals and as teams.”
Although, there is an age limit, the C-House doors are always opened to any and every one. They are here as “an organization that takes pride in helping young men and women be the best they can be in the classroom, on the court and in the community.” Coleman describes why the C-House program is so beneficial. He says, “I have personally been mentoring young people for a very long time, and I have come to understand formal mentorship and development will continue into early adulthood and sometime even beyond for these young folks. To that point, we have young boys and girls who are now enjoying successful lives in the college ranks.”
C-House also offers a summer basketball camp that includes several activities that are creative and fundamental. “This is a summer camp that combines the rigors 34 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
The C-House organization states on its website, “We are not just a basketball house, but rather a ‘HOUSE OF HOPE,’ inspiration, aspiration, motivation, activation, and characterization.” If this is a house you think you may want to be a part of, visit chousebasketball.com for more information about the C-House programs.
M.A.D.D. Rhythms
TAPS INTO THE COMMUNITY BY KAYLA EDWARDS, JUNIOR, MORGAN PARK
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t’s pretty common for teens to be up on the latest dances, but how many of us can say we know a lot about tap? M.A.D.D. (Making A Difference Dancing) Rhythms is a tap dancing collective whose purpose is to spread the joy of tap worldwide. This program helps teens express themselves and to learn the art form’s cultural heritage. This style of dance is used as a portal to bring positive change into the Chicago community. Bril Barrett, founder of M.A.D.D Rhythms, began dancing at a young age, and has taught and performed all across the country. Barrett started outreach programs in Chicago’s public schools and park districts. “Tap dancing is important to me for a variety of reasons,” says Barrett. “One is because it’s our history. It’s our culture. It’s an art form that our ancestors brought from Africa and it’s important that we know something about our history. Also, tap allows me to express myself and make a difference in the community.” M.A.D.D. recently reached a major milestone. “We did a show to celebrate our 10-year anniversary and the show was called ‘Every Day I’m Shuffling.’ We brought back all the members that were with us from the beginning up to the 10year mark, just to show the world how many people were actually involved with the program,” says Barrett. The M.A.D.D. programs connect with youth throughout the city by showing them just how cool this unique form of dance can be. “We are doing programming specific for teens through our partnership with the Better Boys Foundation, Harold Washington Cultural Center and After School Matters,” Barrett explains. “We also have a specific program for 14 to 19-year-old teenagers in Chicago where we teach them tap, the cultural history, and the discipline it takes to learn tap.”
Barrett believes that having access and options gives a child a better chance at a positive life. Because of that, M.A.D.D. spreads the joy, love, discipline and expression of tap to as many young people as possible. To get into the teen program Barrett says that youth must live in the city of Chicago, attend a CPS school, be within the designated age range, and have the passion to learn about tap. Aviance Spain, a sophomore from Rowe Clark Math and Science Academy, is a M.A.D.D. member who has benefited from being in the program. “I wanted to join M.A.D.D. Rhythms because I have always enjoyed dancing, and I thought it would be a great experience. I have been with M.A.D.D. Rhythms for three years now and it has improved my life because it taught me discipline, determination, leadership sills, and teamwork. I would recommend M.A.D.D. Rhythms because it is a great experience that allows you to perform and to meet people from all over the city.” For more information on how to get involved with this program go to maddrhythms.com. TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 35
TECH
BONDING
THROUGH GAMING
BY MINA WAIGHT, FRESHMAN, HAROLD WASHINGTON COLLEGE
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he act of playing games has been around for centuries. Like it or not, everyone is a sucker for a good game. And now because of the Internet, gaming has become more accessible as well as personal. According to the website, Techopedia, “Gaming refers to playing electronic games, whether through consoles, computers, mobile phones or another medium altogether. Gaming is a nuanced term that suggests regular gameplay, possibly as a hobby. Although traditionally a solitary form of relaxation, online multiplayer video games have made gaming a popular group activity as well. A person who is into gaming is often called a gamer or hardcore gamer.” Over recent years, gaming has evolved into more than just a hobby. As gaming technology continues to advance, more features have become available, such as messaging and voice chat with other users. As a result, gaming is not only easier and portable, but a tool to meet and connect with new people online. More often than not, gamers communicate through text boxes that may be on screen or through headsets connected to the system via bluetooth. Gamers can connect from as close as next door to as far as across the globe. In an interview with the Scientific American, scientist Matthew Lieberman says, “Across many studies of mammals, from the smallest rodents all the way to us humans, the data suggests that we are profoundly shaped by our social environment.” It’s natural to want to socialize even when thoroughly engrossed in a game. Fortunately for the player, it’s not hard to find a friend. 36 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
THERE’S AN ELEMENT OF COMFORT IN CONNECTING WITH OTHER ONLINE GAMERS BECAUSE OF THE COMMON GROUND.
More often than not, people label game players with online friends/relationships as “weird.” However, the bond formed between online gamers is like that of a family or community. There’s an element of comfort in connecting with other online gamers because of the common ground. Jerry Reynolds, a junior at Kenwood Academy High School, says, “You almost instantly find something in common due to the fact that you’re both gaming. It’s one of the easiest things you can relate to and off the bat, you seem to have made a friend you can get to know and have another person you can play with.” Reynolds went on to say, “I find that meeting someone online and in person both have their challenges. But meeting someone online is much easier because in the end if you mess up with said person, you can block them or delete them from your friends list.” Fortunately for Jaylin Irving, also a junior at Kenwood, he found a number of good friends in his 13 years of gaming. “[I’ve formed a bond with] a guy named Demo who I’ve played games with for years. He is somewhat like the brother I never met. He always has my back in the games we play like, Gears of War, and I always have his.” Usually the meeting of a fellow gamer in the virtual world immediately makes the other person your opponent. However, the dynamic of the relationship doesn’t have to remain that way. The bond you create can last for a game or two or it could be a friendship for life. Either way, isn’t it a chance worth taking?
Dyett’s
COMEBACK
BY DESTINI LINDSEY, JUNIOR, CHICAGO HIGH SCHOOL FOR THE ARTS
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alter H. Dyett High School, on Chicago’s South Side, is making a comeback. In August, a group of students and parents went on a hunger strike because of the closing of the only open-enrollment high school in the KenwoodBronzeville area. Now, with the leadership of principal Beulah McLoyd, the school is back in session with a new curriculum and new staff. McLoyd talked with True Star about what’s new at Dyett. True Star: What are your plans to revitalize Dyett? Beulah McLoyd: The way that the district has outlined and mandated that we revitalize it is by providing kids with a high-quality arts education option. [We opened in September] with visual arts, performing arts and digital arts. [We] also have a dance program and digital media. That’s important because it’ll be the only open-enrollment arts high school on the South Side of Chicago. [Which] fills the need in the community. TS: Why do you feel that you can help Dyett? BM: One of the key reasons I feel like I can bring about a great program is that I live in the community. I’m a resident of Bronzeville and so I have a vested interest in making sure it’s a really strong school. I also have a daughter who is in a CPS school. My background also prepares me for the position because I have actually been a principal for about six years now and I was an assistant principal for about three years prior to that. It’s really exciting for me to be opening a new school because I can bring all that experience to the table to make sure the residents of Bronzeville have a high-quality option for their students and children. TS: What is the most important thing you’ve learned as principal at Michele Clark that can really help you as principal of Dyett? BM: The most important thing I’ve learned as principal is when you put the students first and you make decisions with students’ best interest in mind, you can never go wrong. If you always make sure you’re using students as your moral compass and your gauge for whether you should do something or not, you really always come out on top. TS: Does Dyett have a theme or central goal for its immediate future? BM: The immediate goal is to make sure everyone is aware of the exciting opportunities that Dyett offers students and to make sure we have a strong opening. There are a lot of great and exciting initiatives. We also want to make sure everyone has access and exposure to those opportunities. TS: What can students at Dyett expect during this transition? BM: I’ve been making sure I’m out in the community engaging with students and parents. So [middle school] students can see the principal doing a lot of visiting and explaining what the program will look like and what opportunities
are available. Then next year, when they actually enroll in the school, students can expect to have an exciting opportunity with a brand new school and a brand new program. If a student is naturally interested in art, [they] will have a way to kind of exercise that creativity in a school setting. TS: How can students and the community help support Dyett? BM: The biggest way to support Dyett right now is just giving accurate information out about the programs that are available. If people want to reach out to me, they can at bamcloyd@cps.edu. I’m more than happy to talk to people face-to-face about the programs that we have to offer. TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 37
CSU’s
Reginald Miles
TALKS RADIO BY TAYLOR MIGGINS, SOPHOMORE, MORGAN PARK
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s technology constantly innovates, radio remains a common form of communication. And Chicago is a city where radio is big. At Chicago State University, WCSU radio is influential and student-powered. Students get to have actual experience on the air and produce a show for the college station. “WCSU Radio is professionally operated with the student interests in mind,” says Reginald Miles, CSU professor and radio instructor. “We have industry standard equipment and a 24/7 student operated radio station that encourages the creation of ‘unique’ programming by the students. The faculty is both professional and academicians guiding the student both with hands-on experience and research.” Miles is an award-winning professional who says that he has loved radio since he was a kid. “As a young child I used to go to sleep listening to the radio. And when I would see people as they listened to the radio and the ‘personality’ said something interesting or played their favorite song, their reactions of joy made me wish that one day I could do that. I’ve always wanted to serve and make people happy,” explains Miles. “I believe that radio is a vehicle, when done the right way it can inspire and bring synergy to a community.” His many years in the industry have made him more than qualified to now work as a part-time lecturer at the university. The course that Miles teaches, CMAT 2110 Principles of Announcing, is a part of the university’s Communications, Media Arts, and Theatre (CMAT) program. At Chicago State University the student has an opportunity to demonstrate what’s learned in the classroom, not only on WCSU Radio, but also in WCSU TV and Theater. Miles puts his energy into teaching his students and helping them get an understanding of the industry. “I think for me, the opportunity to add more to the legacy of WCSU is a challenge that is most inviting,” he says. “[Having] worked in the industry is something that makes teaching more exciting. I have long wanted to teach in my hometown of Chicago. Now that the opportunity is available I relish this opportunity to bring the best of my experiences to the students at Chicago State University and the colleagues have been very helpful.” Miles believes that anyone interested in this line of work should invest their future in CSU for a better understanding of the industry. Chicago State’s radio channel is a good start for a career in broadcasting. “The practical experience offered by WCSU Radio prepares students to be very competitive in the industry in programming, production and promotions,” explains Miles. If you want to learn more about a career in radio or any of the majors in the CMAT program visit the Chicago State University’s website at csu.edu. 38 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
“I BELIEVE THAT RADIO IS A VEHICLE, WHEN DONE THE RIGHT WAY IT CAN INSPIRE AND BRING SYNERGY TO A COMMUNITY.” – REGINALD MILES
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UNDER THE RADAR
Chitana (AKA STEVE BROWN)
Jorge Mikell
BY RASHARD FEGGINS, SOPHOMORE, HAROLD WASHINGTON COLLEGE
BY DIANE TRIMBLE, SOPHOMORE, MORGAN PARK
MUSICAL STYLE Dope point of view hip-hop from the dude from the back of the class. Yeah, him.
MUSICAL STYLE I would have to say it’s a R&B/urban hip-hop type of style. I’m very versatile when it comes to writing music.
UNIQUENESS I believe my music is unique because of how it’s delivered and how I make my music so relatable. I feel when I make music everyone should be able to say “Yeah, I’ve been there…that happened to me before, or I know what you mean.” I just make music that grasps people’s attention.
GOALS I just see myself as a mainstream “A” artist, not just a “B-list” celebrity. I’m talking big like Drake, Jay Z, J. Cole, and etcetera. I want my music heard all over the world.
INFLUENCES I’m influenced by all musical artists. I feel that I can learn something from any and everybody. I’m a big hip-hop head. I love ‘90s music and old school. Just researching and keeping up with different genres of music expands my artistry. Twitter/Instagram: @TheRealChiTana Facebook: The Real ChiTana
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UNIQUENESS I am big on putting messages in my songs. Whether it’s about Chicago’s current climate, history, or even a song about self-confidence, I can’t just make a song rapping about rapping. That’s not progress to me. I love how Kendrick Lamar made “i.” It was uplifting and catchy. That’s how I want do things. It’s hiding the pill in the dog food, if that makes sense.
GOALS I have many, but for 2016, it’s to drop my debut LP and do a lot of shows. Overall, get better as a writer and performer, and make great music.
INFLUENCES My influences range from early Lupe Fiasco, Common’s Like Water For Chocolate, Kanye, Outkast/Andre 3000, but recently I’ve been listening to Robert Glasper’s Black Radio & Soulection radio a lot. They inspired me to be a bit more bright. Also the biggest influences are my friends and peers. Noname Gypsy, Malcolm London, Saba, Chance, Raych Jackson, Defcee, Mick Jenkins, the whole YOUmedia first generation making waves. They push me and inspire me to keep going. No one inspires you more than your friends. Twitter: @JorgeMikell Music: soundcloud.com/jorgefacekillah PHOTO CREDIT: @EVANSHOOTS
THE FUTURE IS BRIGHT
For True Star’s
Tyra D
“FOLLOW YOUR PASSION AND IT WILL LEAD TO YOUR PURPOSE.” -TYRA D
BY JACOB BONDS, SENIOR, MORGAN PARK
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ver since Tyra DePillars (aka Tyra D) was little, she knew she would accomplish big things in life. By age 8, she began writing scripts, singing with her elementary school chorus, studying ballet and tap, modeling, and convincing her friends to act in the plays she had written. Performing various types of art has shaped Tyra D as a person. It keeps her disciplined and she loves to collaborate with others. Tyra D has performed at Disney World’s Epcot Theme Park, on Carnival Cruise ships, as well as modeled on the show “Elevate.” Tyra D is also represented by two talent agencies. 2015 was exciting and productive for the Morgan Park High School senior. She starred as Young Crystal Frame in the film, A Clearer Picture, a Joseph Farrow Production. She has filmed multiple episodes of “Chicago P.D.” and the hit show “Empire.” Tyra D keeps a busy schedule with runway and print modeling. She is also a pre-teen modeling instructor and president of her modeling club at Morgan Park. Tyra D auditioned for and was accepted to American Musical and Dramatic Academy (AMDA). Tyra D hopes to do more movies and television shows, as well as Broadway productions, tour musically, and model internationally. Her life goals include winning Grammy, Oscar, Tony, and Emmy awards. Her classmates voted her most likely to win a Grammy and Oscar. Her vision board helps keep her focused on her goals. “I created a vision board, which is a collage of pictures and objects of productions I have been in, awards I won and things I would like to achieve,” she says. “This board inspires me to reach for my dreams. It includes pictures from my first dance recital, fashion shows, my first movie, Grammys, Oscars, the Hollywood sign, and my name on the Hollywood Walk of Fame.” Tyra D released her first pop single “Afraid to Love” in September 2015. This caught the attention of Whitney Houston’s family. She is now an artist on DEG Records. Tyra D is currently in the process of making more music. She has collaborated with BET & Grammy Award nominees Courtlin Jabrae and Archie. Within a week of its release, “Afraid to Love” broke into the Top 10 for pop artists in Chicago on ReverbNation. Her upcoming music is a mixture of pop and R&B. “I aim to have a unique sound because a lot of music nowadays either has no meaning or has profanity. My music doesn’t have profanity. I would like people of all ages to be able to connect with my music.” When she’s not busy doing one of her many extracurricular activities, Tyra D spends time working as a radio personality for True Star on WCSU. She says
sheloves being a part of the True Star Radio Program. According to Tyra D, “It is an outlet that has opened many doors for me.” The True Star Radio Program has allowed her to work with on-air personalities such as Chi-Blizz from Power 92 and Troi Tyler from V-103, as well as create new friendships. Tyra D lives by a few words that keep her going, “Follow your passion and it will lead to your purpose.” Twitter: @OfficialTyraD Website: tyrad.me TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 41
TEEN TEEN BIZBIZ
High Paying Non-College Career Options BY TRENATI BAKER, SENIOR, WHITNEY YOUNG
S Dear True Star readers, As we start the New Year, concentrating on your studies continues to be a top priority, but I don’t want you to forget about smart money management and investing in yourself. Just this summer, through our One Summer Chicago jobs program, thousands of teens like you met with bankers and signed up for a new checking account or direct deposit. These responsible services help avoid costly check-cashing costs and can save you those hard-earned dollars! In the New Year, make sure to keep those bank accounts active. By depositing your allowance or money earned after school from part-time jobs, you can watch those dollars add up. If you continue putting money away, you’ll be even closer to having some of that money saved up for bigger purchases! Now is the perfect time to build financial habits that will help you succeed in college and your professional career. Don’t forget to set and keep true to your budget. Spring semester brings additional expenses that could drain your savings. Prom, graduation or even just dance or movie tickets, transportation costs, and other purchases add up. If you think ahead about these items and budget for them, you’ll be able to partake in all these activities without dipping into your savings. Visit practicalmoneyskills.com for budgeting calculators to help get you started. Keeping true to your budget and what you’ve learned about smart money management over the summer will help you get the most out of your allowance or paycheck. If you are interested in learning more about my office, a future in finance or have any questions, reach out to me. Tweet me @kurtasummers, post on my Facebook page at facebook.com/ summerschicago or email me at city.treasurer@ cityofchicago.org. Best wishes for a great new year!
Kurt Summers Chicago City Treasurer
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enior year is stressful. Besides balancing courses necessary for graduation, participating in extracurricular activities, and (for some students) working, seniors are pushed to apply to colleges and for scholarships. Many young people feel like they must attend college in order to be successful. However, where does that leave students who do not want to go to college or fear that it’s not a good fit? According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, more than 60 percent of U.S. workers do not have a bachelor’s degree. Does this mean that they are impoverished? No! There are over 35 high-paying occupations that do not require college degrees, with air traffic controller and radiation therapist being the highest paying. Plus, there are a variety of ways students can pursue post-secondary education without attending a traditional four-year college. These options include becoming an entrepreneur, attending technical, trade, or vocational school, and participating in community job-readiness programs. YouthBuild is a combination of these options. YouthBuild is an international non-profit organization that helps low-income students take control of
their future by providing them with resources and opportunities that will lead them to success. In addition to the high school/GED academic credentialing and college preparation offered, YouthBuild offers a multitude of job readiness workshops focused on an array of topics including resume writing, interviewing, and communication skills. Additionally, YouthBuild offers nine to twelve-month construction and health care tracks that introduce students to the fundamentals of each field and allow students to earn credentials as well as gain hands-on experience and skills. All in all, YouthBuild is one of many organizations that introduces students to their post-secondary options or as Shawna Huley, College and Career Transitions Manager of Lake County’s YouthBuild, puts it, YouthBuild helps students “obtain long-term self-sustainability to create a better future for not only themselves, but their children and the family members they may support.” If you think that college isn’t for you, look closely at all of your career and vocational training options. No matter which you choose, with dedication, you can obtain long-term self-sufficiency.
Young Business Owners Headed for Success BY AISHA ROMER, FRESHMAN, KING
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ome may think that only adults can own a business, but there are many teens that have started and still have their own businesses. Being a teen entrepreneur is hard work because there are also grades and extracurricular activities to manage. But it can be satisfying to have control over your own career. If you want to be a teen entrepreneur, where do you start? According to Madeline Shownkeen and Reagan Wright, owners of online apparel store Wright and Carter, having a partner helps generate ideas. When it’s time to strategize or create a new product, the pair first brainstorm on their own before presenting ideas to each other. They say, “When working with a partnership, it is important to make sure both people’s voices are heard and that both agree 100 percent on everything.” After you generate an idea, you need to find customers and have a way to sell them your products. Marketing is what attracts customers and establishes a clear brand for your business. Wright and Carter market through social media such as Twitter and Instagram. Customers then place their orders through the company’s website.
While setting up a website was easy, the girls say many challenges come with selling online. Especially with apparel, photos on the website must accurately convey how the pieces will look on the customer. “Every photo needs to be on brand and attract the attention of the customer.” The entrepreneurs say, “It’s all very rewarding to see everything we have accomplished.” Yet the rewards don’t come without sacrifice. They work every day, and it’s a huge time commitment.
Advice to High School Entrepreneurs
1. Don’t be afraid of age or lack of experience. It’s
OK to make mistakes, because that helps you learn what works. 2. Love what you’re doing. Being an entrepreneur is lots of work, but passion makes it easier to keep going when times are tough. 3. Don’t make quick decisions without thinking through consequences. Even if something seems like a once in a lifetime opportunity, it’s got to be right for you and your business.
Advice TO COLLEGE BOUND STUDENTS BY TILEA CARTER, SENIOR, MARINE LEADERSHIP ACADEMY
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ollege creates endless possibilities, yet college students tend to face a lot challenges. It can be stressful as it affects an individual’s mental and physical health. The following advice, gathered from current and former collegians, can be useful to any student who is college bound. According to College Student Stress, “85 percent of students feel stressed on a daily basis” and “77 percent of students feel stress over academic concerns.” In order to avoid becoming a part of this statistic, student Azarel Lugo says, “Don’t do drugs. It may seem redundant, but it affects you more than you think.” It’s an investment in your future that may feel extremely challenging at times, but so is life. Throughout a focus group interview process, all the participating college students said that the stress was worth it. Student Jasmine Ruiz simply says, “stay focused.” College Possible Coach Katie Cashin says that students should “get to know people on campus [and] don’t be a hermit. Join clubs, go to fairs, and have a supportive community that helps motivate and uplift you in your most difficult times.” College provides you with better opportunities in life. Journalist Danielle Kurtzleben states, “The median annual earnings for full-time working collegedegree holding millennials, ages 25 to 32, are $17,500 greater than for those
with high school diplomas only.” College provides you with experience, connections, career readiness, and an opportunity to make a bigger salary. Student Antonio Allison suggests this to those planning on furthering their education: “Don’t party a lot. Stay focused on school more than your social life.” He also advises students to “gain patience and learn how far college can take you.”
Unemployment IN THE AFRICAN-AMERICAN COMMUNITY BY NIA HILL, SENIOR, WHITNEY YOUNG
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ecently, the unemployment rate among African-American youth in Chicago has risen significantly higher in comparison to other ethnicities within the same age group. More often than not, lack of higher education, as well as a lack of awareness of job openings, negatively impact the city’s unemployment rate. Typically, employers are looking for workers with polished resumes, showcasing years of hard work at a higher institution as well as experience and volunteer work. For various reasons, too many minorities do not attend or graduate from college and end up suffering financially. “For young people who have [only] graduated high school or dropped out of high school, who are between the ages of 17 and 20, if they happen to be White, the unemployment rate is 33 percent,” says Louis Jacobson of Politifact. “If they are Hispanic, the unemployment rate is 36 percent. If they are African-American, the real unemployment rate for young people is 51 percent.”
academic guidance counselors, participating in job fairs, asking friends and family about where they work, networking with individuals in your desired field, and volunteering in order to gain insight into organizations.
Fortunately, solutions are steadily making themselves known. For instance, career websites such as CareerBuilder and LinkedIn have proven to be very helpful for those in the job market. It’s also a good idea to look for opportunities via
It’s evident that more job opportunities need to become available, however, in the meantime, young job seekers need to be proactive in networking in order to seize opportunities. TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 43
TRUE MENTORS SPECIAL SECTION
Life Lessons
“IF YOU DON’T KNOW WHERE TO GO TO FIND A MENTOR, YOUR FIRST STOP SHOULD BE TRUE MENTORS.” - QUINTON JAMES
From True Mentors BY RASHARD FEGGINS, SOPHOMORE, HAROLD WASHINGTON COLLEGE & LAURA FLORES, SOPHOMORE, COLUMBIA COLLEGE CHICAGO
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o you want to gain knowledge about the professional world or interact with successful people to fuel your own life journey? True Mentors is a place for young adults to gain valuable knowledge through connections with professionals in many fields. Founded by Gary Rabine, True Mentors offers support through mentorships, panel discussions and networking advice. Professionals from industries including finance, marketing, banking, sports and many other respected occupations, sign up to give young adults guidance with their personal, career, and educational goals. Quinton James, head of partner relations for True Mentors, says the organization can help guide seekers to key personal and professional connections. “If you don’t know where to go to find a mentor, your first stop should be True Mentors. Or if you know exactly where to go, your first stop should be True Mentors.” James says the group has been successful at fostering these important relationships. He says it “will only continue to climb until it reaches a 100 percent retention rate.” The following professionals from True Mentors share their thoughts on achieving goals, key relationships, and what excites them most about being a mentor.
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Desmond Clark
RETIRED NFL STAR, FINANCIAL/INVESTMENT AGENT Desmond Clark knows about discipline. He spent years in the NFL with the Chicago Bears, where he helped his team win a division championship in 2006 and is regarded as one of the team’s best tight ends. After hanging up his cleats, Clark created 88 Wayz Youth Organization which specializes in helping young people maximize their potential. Now he lends a hand in the True Mentors network. Clark emphasizes hard work and discipline as keys for young adults to reach their potential. He says youth should develop a strong work ethic so they will learn early to think critically and operate in a professional manner. Clark says he’s grateful to have the opportunity to reach a new generation. “So many people poured into me to help me develop myself, and now that I’m able to do the same for others, [it] is the most gratifying.” Clark’s gems of wisdom for youth are to be yourself, ask questions, and use that knowledge as a tool to becoming successful and leading a healthy life.
Nicole Caley
DIRECTOR OF ACCOUNTS PAYABLE FOR ACE HARDWARE Growing up in diverse environments taught Nicole Caley to never judge a book by its cover. It’s something she strongly believes in instilling in youth. Caley is director of accounts payable for Ace Hardware but keeps an entrepreneurial outlook in her corporate world. She says it’s important to build relationships and to be fearless so that when opportunities arise, you’re ready. And when it comes to networking and approaching the right person, Caley urges young adults to step out of their own “realm” to make the contacts. “You might not know the person who can give you an opportunity,” she says. Caley tells young adults that first impressions can change things and that it’s imperative to make the right one because you never know who’s watching — that person could be the link to an opportunity to change a life for good.
Gary Rabine
FOUNDER OF TRUE MENTORS, ENTREPRENEUR Gary Rabine knows what it’s like to work hard to be successful. Even at a young age, he had a business mindset and was driven to excel. He sought out businessmen to talk to and sort of “sponge” off their work tactics because he wanted to get to their level. It’s why he understands the art of networking. “Getting out to meet people is something we all need to do. …To understand networking at a high level is huge,” Rabine says. Today, he has 11 businesses but still wants to improve himself and the empire he’s created. “Having passion for something in life drives anyone to be successful,” he says. Rabine strives to encourage others to find something they’re good at and, if they have the right work ethic, they will accomplish their dreams.
Elizabeth Colon
PRESIDENT & FOUNDER AT METAPHRASIS LANGUAGE & CULTURAL SOLUTIONS LLC Elizabeth Colon knows firsthand that past experiences shape who you become. She now sees that all of her struggles were not in vain. As a Latina, she’s faced adversity in male-dominated environments. But that doesn’t stop her from working hard and proving false assumptions wrong. She’s learned the importance of endurance. “We have to position them to be strong women, strong men -- let them know that they can be vulnerable, they can cry, they can fail, but let them know that it’s okay.” Colon says True Mentors has given her the platform to “speak and engage with others who are seeking mentoring. It’s really gratifying to me because I hope I can direct someone who doesn’t have direction to the right path and not waste so many years like I did.” Visit truementors.com to learn how you can gain the benefits of having a mentor in your life. TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 45
STAR MOGUL
Jaylin Waters:
RIDING THE WAVE OF SUCCESS BY KAYLA WHITE, SOPHOMORE, MORGAN PARK
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aylin Waters is a very busy 18-year-old with a passion for fashion and a head for business. The graduate of Homewood Flossmoor High School, currently spends her days studying fashion design at the Illinois Institute of Art. The talented teen is also a stylist who has worked with some names you may recognize, including up and coming Chicago rapper King Marquis and actress Sunjai Williams from the TV series “Bring It On.” “It was good to be in the presence of somebody that well known,” says Waters of her experience with Williams. “I never want to be a starstruck person, especially being a celebrity stylist. I want to remain professional and humble.” Designing and styling are just some of the things Waters plans to do within the fashion industry. “My ultimate career goal is to make sure that I’m comfortable. I want to always feel like I’m doing what I love.” She adds that besides being “very successful” she would like to “be able to retire as the CEO of my own fashion magazine.” Since being accepted as a member of the BP Fashion Board for Nordstrom in Chicago, Waters has gotten even closer to accomplishing her design dreams. Being a board member gives her insight on careers in the fashion industry and knowledge about upcoming trends. “It feels very good to be so young and accepted by very traditional people...” Waters says. “That makes me feel empowered. I might be young with a small voice, but they still listen to me…I have learned a lot from them.” Waters is also co-owner of MoChic’ Beauty (mochicbeauty.com), a web-based shopping experience where an array of beauty products, clothing, and accessories are sold, including hair extensions and eyelashes. Chicago rap artist Dreezy is the ambassador for the hair brand. Waters says the concept from the online store “was basically about being yourself, taking your inner beauty and showing it off with your hair and clothing. We started off with the thought that everyone should feel good about themselves and be comfortable no matter what.” One business woman Waters admires for her creativity and confidence is entrepreneur and fashion designer Vera Wang. “She’s very versatile with everything she does. Her dresses are very elegant but at the same time sexy,” Waters explains. “I’m really inspired by her and I really love her because she never stopped trying.” Between school, styling, and running a business, Waters has a lot on her plate. Regardless of the number of tasks she has to accomplish, she is serious about finding a way to meet her goals. “Keeping myself motivated and remembering what I want helps with balancing [everything],” says Waters. “My main focus is to remain focused.” 46 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
INSIDE & OUT
The Invisible Scars
Of Mental Abuse BY KAYLA EDWARDS, JUNIOR, MORGAN PARK
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buse isn’t always in physical form. Your mind can take a beating that’s just as damaging as a punch when harsh and hateful words are carelessly thrown at you. Mental abuse is intended to control and conquer another person through the use of fear, humiliation, intimidation, guilt, and force. Emotional abuse is any kind of abuse that is not physical in nature. “Mental abuse can damage one’s self-esteem and self-concept,” says Chicago psychologist LaShonda Fuller. “When someone is exposed to hearing negative remarks about what someone else believes about them over and over again, that person will eventually begin to believe what they are hearing and therefore behave in such way. So mental abuse does not just impact a person’s thoughts, but also their behaviors that may also impact other people around them. Relationships are the breeding grounds for deciphering what someone else thinks of you based on the flow of the relationship.”
MENTAL ABUSE IS INTENDED TO CONTROL AND CONQUER ANOTHER PERSON THROUGH THE USE OF FEAR, HUMILIATION, INTIMIDATION, GUILT, AND FORCE.
The University of Michigan Health System points out that the strategy used by abusers makes victims feel worthless. Mental abuse can also cause mood changes in the people affected. Victims of mental abuse can develop anxiety, in which they become fearful of certain things. Those mentally abused may turn to alcohol or drugs which may only be a temporary fix. Mental abuse may be hard to detect at first. “Look for signs of constant complaining about what’s not right or good enough for [the abuser],” Fuller explains. “In some cases, people may portray the opposite behavior which may look like compliments, and later tearing the person down with criticism.” The most common sign of mental abuse is fear of your partner. If you feel like you have to constantly watch what you say and do in order to avoid a blow-up, chances are your relationship is unhealthy and abusive. When you are in an abusive relationship it can be a challenge to get out of it. Before the mental abuse gets worse you need to be able to take control. “If you are feeling sad, isolated, and confused about yourself because of what your boyfriend or girlfriend is saying about you or how they are treating you, do not try and figure it out by yourself. Contact your school counselor, who is a safe person, and let someone know.” Fuller also says, “Do not keep quiet and stay in the relationship. Mental abuse, in some cases, turns into physical abuse. Reconnect with your support system. Do not justify your reason for staying in the relationship because he or she ‘needs you’ or ‘doesn’t have any friends’ or ‘is going through a rough time.’” The first step for anyone being mentally abused is to recognize what is happening. If you see any of the signs of emotional abuse in your relationship, be honest with yourself so you can regain power over your own life, stop the abuse, and begin to heal. For those who’ve been minimizing, denying, and hiding the abuse, this can be a painful and frightening first step, but it’s a necessary one. TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 47
ON THE COURT
Pretty & Strong:
FEMALE ATHLETES WHO INSPIRE BY JESSICA BOND, JUNIOR, KENWOOD ACADEMY
THIS TRIO OFFERS POSITIVE EXAMPLES OF BODY IMAGE FOR TWEENS AND TEENS WHO MAY STRUGGLE WITH LOW SELFESTEEM, ARE SELF-CONSCIOUS ABOUT THEIR LOOKS, OR DON’T APPRECIATE THEIR UNIQUE TALENTS.
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erena Williams, Skylar Diggins and Ronda Rousey are winners. Whether in tennis, basketball or mixed martial arts, these women dominate their sport and show the world that women can play just as well as men, and look good doing it. This trio also offers positive examples of body image for tweens and teens who may struggle with low self-esteem, are self-conscious about their looks, or don’t appreciate their unique talents. Each one displays an ample amount of confidence in their strength and skills, inspiring girls to love their gifts and talents as well as their bodies. Williams is known for her confidence every time she sets foot on the tennis court. In 2015, she won her 700th victory and ranked as the world’s No. 1 player for the fifth time. This past year, Williams even held the prestigious title of Female Athlete of the Year from the Associated Press and was named Sportsperson of the Year by Sport’s Illustrated. Her victories encourage young girls to keep reaching for success. When you hit your first goal, make new ones to achieve. 2014 was Diggins’ breakout year in the WNBA, as an All-Star the first time in her career. Since then, she has ranked second in the league for scoring and passed the Tulsa Shock’s former guard Deanna Nolan for most points scored in a season. Diggins puts her heart and dedication into every game, inspiring girls to be stellar in the game of life. 48 TRUE STAR MAGAZINE
Winning 12 out 13 MMA fights by the end of 2015, Ronda Rousey’s been dubbed the “armbreaker” for the finishing move she puts on her opponents. Her versatility as an athlete and an actress shows that young women can be multi-talented, set many lofty goals, and know they are attainable. Winners in sports inspire us all to live our lives to the fullest. Let the games begin!
SOX ELITE ATHLETES On The Rise BY KAYLA CRITTLE, JUNIOR, DE LA SALLE INSTITUTE
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he Chicago White Sox recently held a signing day for senior ACE (Amateur City Elite) players, as the young sportsmen commit to college-level baseball. The players who signed were from Chicago-area schools, including DePaul College Prep, Homewood-Flossmoor, Kenwood Academy, Lincoln-Way East and North, Mount Carmel, Neuqua Valley High School, Morgan Park High School, and Simeon Career Academy. Some of the players plan to attend Division 1 (D1) universities in the fall. The signing was full of wisdom and words of encouragement from ACE coaches, Sox Executive Vice President Kenny Williams, and current White Sox player Micah Johnson. As a young player in Major League Baseball, Johnson, 25, told the youth that good decision-making early on can determine their future. “You have to make a choice: Do I want to be like everybody else? Or do I want to be here?” The players also got a chance to weigh in on how much the ACE program has shaped them into the athletes they have become, and how it has prepared them for success in their future endeavors. It almost seemed as if they knew the ACE label ensured greatness. Mount Carmel senior AJ Lewis, who will be attending University of Missouri in the fall, says, “seeing the guys who have come before me in the ACE program and seeing the success they had collegiately and professionally just lets me know that if you put your best foot forward and put the work in, everything will fall in place. It’s like a dream come true to sign to the
University of Missouri.” Christian Bullock from Morgan Park will be attending the University of Michigan in the fall. He says,“…the Ace program has taught me how to become a man, always work hard to grow and achieve. To play at the collegiate level is amazing and I can’t wait.” Stories of the team’s first victories and challenges marked the event. Players noted overcoming hardships and obstacles over their years at ACE. The up-and-coming players expressed their passion for baseball and their increasing hope and future aspirations, thanks to the ACE program. TRUE STAR MAGAZINE 49
WHAT MATTERS TO US
Dear Chicago, Y
ou were on my mind today. There are so many things I love about you, but there are a lot of things that need to change. I’m writing you this letter so that you know exactly how I feel. Chicago, I love how you are so energetic. When I first moved here I felt like I found an important part of myself. Now, whenever I leave I feel like I leave a little bit of myself behind. You have great food, great music, great people and you provide some of the greatest experiences a person could have. There are so many memories you’ve given me and you’ve allowed me to meet people who have unquestionably changed the person I am today. I love the prestige that you have and all of your history. You were the place that Black southerners wanted to come to during the Great Migration and you are the place that our first Black president of the United States, Barack Obama, calls home. You have ties to some of the biggest names in music like Quincy Jones, Chaka Khan, Common and Kanye West. Let’s not forget about the new faces in the game like Chance the Rapper, Vic Mensa, Tink and even Lil Durk. You are undoubtedly one of the greatest cities in the world and I am proud to say that I live here. While there are a lot of things I like about you, there are a lot of things I dislike. One thing I’m not so fond of is your weather. The winters are way too cold and too long. But when your weather is beautiful, it is beautiful. Unfortunately, on many of those days bad things happen, which brings me to my next point. One of your most infamous flaws is your violence. Chicago, people are calling you the most dangerous city in America. As much as I would like to disagree I can’t because the high death rates make it true. There are a lot of crimes that go on in your neighborhoods and it is ruining your prestige. You used to be known as Chi-Town, now people call you Chiraq. The shootings, the gang violence, and even the corrupt police officers are bad examples of what you have come to be associated with. When people think about you they think violence. I see much more than that, but as of late I can’t deny that the violence has become unbearable. It needs to stop. More importantly, your citizens need to unite and make peace in order to make you even better than you were before. Chicago, if I could fix one thing about you it would definitely be the violence without a doubt. If you had less violence I think you would be the greatest city in America. You have so many good qualities, but right now they are being overlooked. That’s why it’s time to remind people of what those good qualities are by making a change. I will always be happy to be from your streets, and I’m proud to say that without you I don’t know who I’d be, but you have to do better, and now is the time.
Sincerely your friend,
Jacoby Riley Junior, Morgan Park
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