Growth Hack #14: Parenting Lessons about Punishment and Discipline for Kids
Raising a kid is really a test for us parents. Who we are now is a testament of our mom and dad, their success and glory. As a parent, we need to make sure that our kids are well behaved, has good character and values. Parenting task us to teach and guide our kids, part of it is to discipline them and teach them what is wrong and right. Studies have proven the big difference between discipline and punishment – discipline teaches kids to control their behavior and learn the right from wrong, while punishment is an abuse that teaches them to fear from punishment and pain. Here are the punishments that we parents are often guilty off: Physical punishment – Mild or Harsh, physical touching a kid to punish is categorized as physical punitive discipline. It can be slapping, paddling, using a belt or stick to spank etc. Verbal – “ oldi g, “ha i g, Ridi uli g, Cu si g a d e e sa i g I do ’t lo e ou a e fo verbal punishment and discipline.
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The first two discipline methods are condemned and not patronized by many parents. While rewards and penalties works well, depending on how we parents use it. Why Physical and Verbal Punishment Don’t Work These t o pu ish e ts si pl do ’t o k, si pl e ause it o l put ou kids i to ad positio and abuse from us. Kids who get spanked or hit think that they already paid for their mishaps and paid for it, instead of learning why and what went wrong. Physical punishment, whether a parent did it mild or went hard for it is still punishment and does ’t tea h kids to e good. It only teaches them physical violence and hate towards other people. We parents must not forget that violence is not the solution to the problems. When kids are under such abuse they become: Delinquents – They often think that they were physically harmed and therefore they are willing to take revenge, even if they hurt others. Bullies – Bullying is often the easiest escape for kids under abuse, they bully other kids especially when no one is catching them just to get back and poke fun of others. Less Logical – Thinking that bad behaviors just takes a spank or hit of stick, considering that they can get away with it if no one is looking. Instead of thinking about the consequences of their act, they think on how they can escape such punishment. The later part, rewards and penalties is not also a quick fix for behavioral problems. Though they can start as a motivator, but parents should be aware of the fact that kids could become rabbits, they just want the carrots, just want the rewards, instead of cooperating and working together. So How Can I Discipline My Kids? ACT – Acknowledge, Consequences and Teach Acknowledge your kid good behavior, give them praise or rewards for their good deeds and achievement. Compliment is always the easiest way to teach your kid discipline. Consequences: Natural and Logical. Kids could learn a lot of thing when we let them experience the consequences of their acts. Natu al o se ue es does ’t e ui e le tu e, i stead e let ou kids e pe ie e pai a d lea from it. As long as its manageable and not dangerous, let kids be kids and learn from their scratches and bruises.
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Logical consequences require good understanding and communication between the parent and the kid. As a parent, we explain to our kid what will the consequence be and teach them life lessons at the same time. Teach your kids and become a good example of discipline and good behavior. A role model that they can look up to as they grow up. ACT – When we parents feel that we need to take away some privilege, separate them to make them reflect of their mistakes, then we should do it and act swiftly as possible. In Summary Teaching our kids to develop good behavior, discipline, and values is a work of three people – Mom, Dad and the Kids. Do not forget to work hand in hand and get help from the family in order to put everything straight and organized. — (c) Afterschool.ae
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