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N CHI issue three - may 13th, 2011 (may 13th-26th)
LetitOUT advice
A Gay Dream
The Life on Call music&beauty
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may 13th, 2011 (may 13th - may 26th)
3 ariqroth, chief publisher mattburgett, art director kyrondeluca, writer ryanmassey, writer anthonyvenanzio,writer toddpaulson, writer brentperrotti, writer amandahunt, photographer molloybasham, cover model ameliavancouver, model OUTinCHI Inc. 3 Grant Square #154, Hinsdale, Il 60521
this issue. Dancer Diaries - Ryan Massey On The Cover - Molloy Basham & Amelia Vancouver Photographed by Matt Burgett Music- Todd Paulson Staff Portrait- Matt Burgett Photographed by Amanda Hunt The Life on Call Let it Out- Brent Perrotti Beauty- Anthony Venanzio Once Upon a Time - Kyron Deluca
thedancer diaries ryanmassey
Prepping for my first performance has been nerve wracking to say the least. I’ve been on stage before and I couldn’t understand why I was nervous; most likely because this was something that was “bad” and it was excitement that I was actually feeling. I needed an outfit; something that was going to be unique to me. Welcome to Lovers Lane… I’d been here before. I never felt uncomfortable at sex shops; used to go to one regularly for supplies, vibrating dildos, condoms, gun oil…good stuff. The men’s underwear section was rather small. I would have searched for underwear online but I didn’t have much money and I waited too long. My first performance was tonight and I needed something right now.
Anything I can help you find?
I was just looking, didn’t need any help. Jock straps, leather gear, square cuts, the selection was alright but still small. Finally settled on a blue jock and made my way to the counter. Did you know you get 20% if you’re an adult entertainer? Neither did I. Walked out of there with a smile on my face. There was a German song that I really liked a lot, doktorspiele. In the music video there are a couple male dancers. I thought their outfits really exemplified what I thought about when it came to go go dancing. Combining what they both were wearing, I created my first outfit. There were three sets and I needed to make sure I had three costumes, go go get up, business man, and farm hand. Now to make sure I got to the bar in time. Hey kid you realize what kind of bar this is? I nodded at an old man as I made my way into the bar. Temptations, the bright neon pink sign said on the outside of the building. The inside was spacious. I was directed to a back room and told to keep the door closed, that if it were even open just slightly people would walk in. First set was in forty minutes, and I was nervous as hell. A couple straight PATRON shots fixed that. Don’t buy your own drinks when you’re dancing Note to self, paying for drinks at a bar while you’re under a false alias, with your actual credit card kind of defeats the purpose and allows for people to find the real you. That probably wouldn’t be a good thing. Show starts in ten minutes, time to change. Hey man when you hear the music pause in about ten, you’ll know that’s your cue. Shiny blue jock strap, check. Blue short-shorts, check.
5 minutes. Blue and white sweat bands, check. Blue handkerchief tied around my neck, check. Slightly buzzed and heart racing, check. Music pause. It’s go time. . .
onthecover
music.
= who needs stars anyways?
The Airborn Toxic Event All at Once
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During my weekly routine of searching through the iTunes “free download” section I came across not only the first single of this Californian indie rock band, “numb”, but also the video! With its lyrics mainly dealing with a girl that lead singer, Mikel Jollett, misses, and simply can’t take the feeling anymore. So that drives him to want to be, well, numb. The video isn’t much to write home about by the way, except to get a good look at the cuteness of this band. The entire album on the other hand, the group’s sophomore attempt, is a mixture of Killers-type melodies (“Half of Something Else”) to frat-house anthems (“It Doesn’t Mean a Thing”). Fans of Pete Yorn and Kings of Leon should give this group a listen, if not for its outof-the-norm rock stylings, then at least for some eye candy.
Beastie Boys Hot Sauce Committee Part Two
Being a child of the 90’s I have found my style of alt-rock ranges from the hard (NIN), the soft (Tori Amos), and somewhere in-between (Bjork)…but then there is the hidden hiphop side no one really sees in me. The Beastie Boys eighth studio album brings back the days of a true party album. It’s been a long time since I’ve popped in an album, CD form or an i-pod, and let it play from track to track. Whether it is to get you moving on the tread mill, or move from point A to point B, or just to wake your ass up, Hot Sauce… has a flow that just gets you going. Right from the start, “Make Some Noise” just does as the title states. It already has made some noise with its music video. A retake on their classic “Sabotage”, the Beasties take a step back to direct a bunch of current heavy hit actors to re-invent their former rebellious rolls. Rashida Jones, Jason Schwartzman, Rainn Wilson, Steve Buscemi, Ted Danson, Chloe Sevigny, Kirsten Dunst, Maya Rudolph, Orlando Bloom, David Cross, Jack Black, John C. Reilly, Will Arnett , and finally Will Ferrell all make cameos in the 5-minute, destine to be a classic, video. From there the rest of the album carries itself, some with the help of Nas (“Too Many Rappers”), and one of my favorite tracks, featuring Santigold (“Don’t Play No Game That I Can’t Win”). This album doesn’t only win my vote for tops of the year, but it’ll be on a lot of summer-jam “Must-Lists”.
toddpaulson Oh Land Self-titled
Oh Land, or as her Danish homelanders know her as Nanna Øland Fabricius, comes out of the Fiest, Imogen Heap, and Florence and the Machine school of amazing female vocalists who mix rhythmic beats that take you somewhere else, somewhere where they want you to be. I was introduced to Oh Land while eating at Halsted’s Bar & Grill. The video for “Son of Gun” came on and I had to stop all conversations at the table to find out who was this something-out-of-the 60’s singer. The feel of the single reminded me of my first introduction with La Roux, where I HAD to find out more about the artist, and soon became an instant fan. It is rare that I 4-star every song on an album (11-tracks), but it could have been the beer talking. Therefore, I’ll talk more about the tracks that have already had more than a couple plays. “Lean” is song that belongs in a romantic-comedy, where rain is falling, where there are two characters, possibly long-time friends, who should be more than just that, and as the chorus kicks in, we see the two-leaning on one another, possibly a peck on the lips, and suddenly the rain stops. “Voodoo” is for the lover of 80’s pop, “Helicopter” is for the ear-candy lovers, and “We Turn it Up” is for the let’s take a drive through the burbs, soccer mom, type…it can also be the track the kids will enjoy as well. I’m hoping Oh Land doesn’t have the same fate that a lot of singer-song writer females, especially overseas, seem to get here in America: one amazing start, that later labels them a one-hit-wonder. Let this album take you somewhere else, and hopefully the only thing you’ll wonder is its beauty.
The Wombats This Modern Glitch
Sophomore albums are always a hit or miss, especially when artists have a strong single from their debut albums, and nothing more. Liverpool, England’s, The Wombats, may have to hope for their homeland help them stay afloat. We haven’t heard much from this trio’s since their hit “Let’s Dance to Joy Division” back in 2007, but it takes a few years to make a hit-making album. This Modern Glitch holds some of the most unusual lyrics (“we’ll kick back and let the pills do the talking”), beautiful arrangements since Vampire Weekend hit the scene (“Anti D”), and some classic nostalgic tunes (“1996”) that make you go out and say, “You gotta hear this.” However, the album needs to be found. Thankfully there are mediums out there now, besides radio, which play music from bands such as these. And the thing is there is nothing wrong with this band at all. However, there are too many that all sounding the same. I luckily heard this group on Alt Nation via XM and felt compelled to seek them out, and I’m glad I did, because now I get to write about it in hopes that you too get to check them out. This Modern Glitch is a feel-good album that isn’t too repetitive to allow yourself to get bored midway. In these modern times, it’s either a hit or a miss. The Wombats may not have the catchiest name, nor lack lyrically to end up on any Top 40 station, so, perhaps, that’s the glitch in Glitch, they got a hit but it may go on to be a miss.
staffportrait mattburgett
art director photographed by amandahunt
real. first is a series
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this is no game.
I’ve had a few day jobs in my life. I’ve worked the service industry in one Capacity or other all of my life. The service industry appealed to me because of the instant gratification of fast cash. After a 6 hour shift of tending to people who would turn into black holes of wants and needs, in conjunction with a stress head-ache, and tired feet you would go home with between $150-200 dollars, cash in your pocket. The problem with service jobs is that you have to deal with people. Your livelihood is based on tips; your tips are based on not so much your ability to serve, but by people’s mood. I remember my first time as a waitress, I wanted so much for my guest to have an enjoyable experience. That was very short lived, as I soon found out how dismissive and disrespectful people could be to servers. Unfortunately my propensities for stupidity is very short lived, I had needs that required large amounts of money that had to be attained in the shortest amount of time possible. I can honestly say I was good at that job. To a degree one can say that I’m still in the service industry. My routine is the same as when I was working in the resturaunt business. I shower, brush my teeth,and do my hair just like any other career woman. However I do my make-up and dress in a manner that is not intended to enhance my public appearance, But to make men notice me. Extra coats of mascara on my lashes, an extra application of gloss on my lips…. its amazing how men will respond to those things. If you hadn’t figured it out by now I’m an escort. At this point you can banish any images of PRETTY WOMAN or Donna Summers singing BAD GIRLS. Escorting or prostitution, “hoeing” whatever you want to call it is pretty cut and dry It’s the law of supply and demand in it’s purest state. Money exchanged for sex. For anyone who may be morally opposed to this, just think to yourself. If you’ve ever watched porn What I do is no different. Those porn actors are getting paid to have sex. I personally know many internationally renowned adult entertainers that escort as well. There are times that I do work the streets, but not very often .The Internet has changed the world’s oldest profession. I have an ad online. If you look in the right search engines you’ll see me advertising my time for $300.00/hr. . . I never had a high regard for sex, to me it’s as mundane as doing the dishes. It is still amazing to me at how men will actively seek me out. Everybody works. Legal or otherwise, everyone works. My workday just happens to start after yours has long ended. . .
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LetitOUT advice. brentperrotti ask brent: brent.perriotti@gmail.com
I’ve always thought of myself as the notebook of my group of friends. I always seem to be the one that people turn to when anything comes up in their life and they need some new perspective. So they come to me with secret and concerns much like some would a diary so they can work out what’s going on. I’ve always enjoyed this position as group notebook, I love being able to help people whenever I can. I also tell it like it is. I had one of my best friends came to me with a problem she was having with her boyfriend. I listened to her and tried to understand both sides of the situation. When her boyfriend asked me about the same situation I told him how I really felt about it. It wasn’t really the answer he was look for but by that evening my words had sunk in and allowed them to talk and for them both to see the issue in a way that hadn’t before. She called me later that night saying I had saved their relationship, but really they did the work I just helped put things in perspective. Being able to see both sides of a situation has always been easy for me. I can remove myself from it and see how a misunderstanding can occur. I also think that because I’m a very open person I’ve been able to help. I believe all people and events can teach us things if we let them. Everything happens for a reason and I want to be enriched by it all. I’ve always felt that there is a lot of crappy thing that happen but even if someone is having a bad day I want to be the one thing that makes them smile. I want to be the kind of person who helps make the world a better place by being in it. So when I can help I will. Feel free to send me your questions and I will give the best advice I can. I can’t wait to hear from you.
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anthonyvenanzio
If your skin is oily/combination: People with an oily skin type all seem to have the same issue; they feel that they need to dry it out. This is the opposite of what you should be doing. Here’s a lesson on oily skin. The main reason that people have an oily skin type is because they are not receiving moisture physically, so their skin is producing an abundance of moisture internally. Your skin is just trying to balance itself out on its own. If you moisturize your skin one or two times a day your skin will become more balanced and in turn produce less oil. An oil-free moisturizer is ideal for an oily/combination skin type. Make sure that you are getting a moisturizer with an SPF in it if possible for daily use, and one without an SPF for nighttime. Also, make sure that you are cleansing with either a gel cleanser that foams up, or a straight foaming cleanser. Do not get discouraged if your skin doesn’t change right away. You need to allow about 4 weeks to see a real difference in your skin. These things take time, so be patient and remember that consistency is the key. Make sure that you are doing this daily, and try not to fluctuate your skincare routine.
In addition to providing your skin with the moisture that it needs, you will want to mattify oil production throughout the day. If you are noticing throughout the day that you are “shiny”, you may want to invest in some new makeup as well. After your new moisturizer, you will need a primer that mattifys oil. There are a few brands that make great primers for this. Sephora Anti-Shine Primer is excellent, as is Make Up For Ever All Mat Primer, and Murad Hybrids Skin Perfecting Primer Matte Finish. For your foundation you will want something that is oil-free. If you want something that is completely Matte finish then the Make Up For Ever Mat Velvet is perfect for you. If you are seeking a more natural finish then give the Make Up For Ever High Definition foundation, or the Laura Mercier Oil-Free foundation a shot. All of these are medium to full coverage. If you want something with less coverage, then try YSL Teint Resist, which is Sheer to Medium, or Laura Mercier’s Oil-Free Tinted Moisturizer. Finish things off with a translucent setting powder. Make Up For Ever Microfinish Powder is 100% Silica and is oil absorbing and gives the appearance of an airbrushed finish. Laura Mercier and Smashbox also make great finishing powders. Make sure that you are taking all of these steps in building up walls against unwanted shine. I myself am incredibly oily, and since I take all these proper steps in preventing shine, I can go a good 8 to 10 hours without having to blot or retouch my makeup. If you’re dry: There are just as many steps in balancing dry skin as there are in balancing oily skin. People are typically dry for two reasons. Either their skin is just not producing the necessary oils needed or their skin is more mature and their skin cells take much longer to reach the surface and they are dried and possibly a little bit dull and flaky. There are different ways to fix these skincare concerns. For someone who is just dry naturally, you will need to moisturize as much as needed. Typically you will need to do so 2 to 3 times daily. Get yourself a moisturizer with oil in it. Don’t be afraid of oils, they are not bad for your skin. They are going to work with your skin to nourish it and make it more supple. As far as your makeup, you may want to choose a primer that is hydrating. Laura Mercier Moisturizing Primer, Make Up For Ever HD Primers, and Korres Primers are all excellent choices. For your foundation you will want to wear something that has oil in it. You should be fine choosing any brands foundation, whatever looks good on, and feels good. You will still want to set your foundation with a powder. My recommendation would be a mineral powder, and many brands have them (Smashbox Halo is a personal favorite, and it will also give you a bit more coverage and is hydrating). If you have more mature skin you will want to alter this routine just slightly. For your moisturizer I like to recommend ones with anti-aging benefits. Some people think that anti-aging products don’t work, but they do, and you will notice a huge difference in your skin if you use them. Korres, Caudalíe, Murad, Philosophy and Perricone MD all have magnificent antiaging products. My recommendation would be to take a trip to your local Sephora and talk to a skincare expert to determine exactly what products would be best for your skin. Other than using a different moisturizer, you really don’t have to change around your routine. Also, make sure that you are using separate moisturizers for your eye area and your entire face. The skin around your eyes is not the same as the skin on the rest of your face. Make sure that you are also always applying an eye cream before you apply a concealer if you use one. This will prevent your concealer from setting into fine lines and allow it to go on so much smoother, and also help prevent it from getting clumpy or flaky.
It is important for those with dry skin to exfoliate at least 1 to 2 times a week. This will promote a faster cell turnover and it will take off visible, dry or flaky skin. New cells look much better than older cells, and the faster you get the new cells to the surface, the better and more radiant your skin will look. You can also use a Clarisonic to deep clean with daily. If you use that however, do not manually exfoliate. Too much exfoliation will thin the skin too much which can irritate it and possibly make it more flaky. Balance is the key here. Dry skin types should cleanse with a moisturizing cleanser, something of a gel or milky consistency. If you have normal/optimal skin: Those of you with this skin are very lucky and all you really have to do is preserve that balance. Ensure that you are still cleansing, and moisturizing daily, and also using a treatment (if you use one) every day. There is no need for any special treatment because your skin is already balanced. Just make sure that you are consistently using sunscreen and you don’t have anything to worry about until your skin changes. Skin types generally change every 7 to 12 years. Skin types also change with the seasons. Make sure that you are not using the same products all year long as your skin will require different things at different times of the year. You will typically want your summer products and your winter products. During the in between seasons such as spring and autumn you should begin to alternate your summer and winter skincare accordingly. Analyze your skin on a daily basis as your skin may need a little bit of attention in certain areas from day to day and may fluctuate slightly according to weather change, stress, food intake, etc.
beauty.
once upon a
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kyrondeluca interview by:
I recently sat down to have a chat (over Facebook) with the lovely Cheryl Hooten, manager of Dream Day Weddings and the upcoming Dream Gay Weddings project. Not only is Cheryl a wonderful conversationalist and businesswoman, but a strong LGBT ally as well. We talked about her service, her involvement in the community, and the lack of civil union and marriage coverage in the American media. Kyron: You also run Dream Day Weddings. So I take it you’ve been in the wedding planning business for some time now? Cheryl: Wedding Planning has been secondary. It really developed out of the desire to help people planning weddings around here – they didn’t know where to get this or that. I did, and it snowballed from there. My main focus is writing and performing the ceremonies. I’ve been doing that since 2004/2005 Kyron: I noticed I noticed in your correspondences that you’re officiated as a Reverend. Cheryl: Yes, that is the official title. I don’t often use it as it tends to put some people off. I’m not a preacher but I think that’s what some expect when they hear Reverend! I keep my personal [religious] view personal, I want the ceremonies I write and perform the reflect the couple not me. Kyron: That actually fits well with my next question: I noticed on the site that you include wedding officiants to conduct ceremonies. In the section on Ceremony Essentials it lists “non-denominational bible based ceremonies or a contemporary secular ceremony”. What about LGBT-people of other faiths such as Jews, Muslims, Buddhists etc.? Or those who identify with a particular sect of Christianity? Have you run into issues yet about people who want specific rituals? Cheryl: That’s a good question. In my everyday practice those are the couples I strive to work with, ones who care about the words that join them and who want to honor their individual and separate faiths. We do have a Jewish officiant who can/will incorporate some of the traditions but with this project we had to limit the initial offerings just due to the projected number of couples. The choices I offered are also the choices I offer all the couples I work with. Most interfaith couples opt to do a custom ceremony with me. That typically is a 6 month to a year process. We didn’t have that kind of time with this project. We haven’t run into any issues with it yet but are completely willing to work with couples to make their ceremony appropriate and right for them, which is the goal I have with every couple I work with.
Cheryl: This project is completely out of the norm for me - generally I work one-on-one with a couple over months Kyron: Exciting new territory! Cheryl: With this we are offering the ability to book your wedding with a few clicks of the mouse and allowing couple to have one point of contact (me) to work with - it is exciting! I don’t think wedding planning has ever been quicker or easier. Kyron: Just to clarify something though. On the site, Dream Gay Weddings begins on the first week of June. Will Dream Gay Weddings continue to provide ceremonies beyond this first week? Cheryl: No, and right now we are doing it one day only 6/2. When that site fills up we have other locations we can begin to fill but this is a one time thing. The idea and intention really was and is the desire to give couples an alternative to a courthouse wedding. On that first day we both know there will be a line of people waiting to fill out paperwork. Some of them will walk away disappointed because not much has been mentioned about the mandatory one day waiting period. Others will come back the next day or on Friday when the courthouses typically perform ceremonies, where they will wait in line again, waiting for a cold, impersonal ceremony in a depressing court room or office setting. I feel these couples, who have been waiting so long for the right to have even have a legal ceremony deserved a better choice. I grew up in the Chicagoland area, putting all this together was just my little way of try to give back, to honor those who have fought so hard for equal rights. No one should have to stand in line on their wedding day, everyone deserves to be surrounded by their family and friends. I’ve just tried to make it as easy as I could so that couples could have one day with out worry. Kryon: I agree. And it’s great that this opportunity is finally coming to one of the most well-known cities in America. This actually transitions nicely into my next question. Many readers outside of the Chicago area and state of Illinois might be surprised to hear that come June gay marriages will be recognized in Chicago. I know several people on the East Coast (myself included) were pleasantly surprised to find this out. Why do you think there has been so little media coverage outside the city? Cheryl: I think there are a few reasons. “Civil Unions” leaves a bad taste in some people mouths. “Wedding”, “marriage” all roll off the tongue - “Civil Union” is sticking in people’s craw’s...it’s not full marriage equality and out on the east coast especially there have been some epic equal right battles being waged. I also don’t think there has been a lot of media coverage in the city [of Chicago] either though. The other side of it is that behind the scenes, the politicians and County Clerks are still figuring out how all this will work. Meeting are still going on discussing intricacies, how and when the paperwork will be available: will it be a unified form or an individualize county form, etc. When that all gets squared away and the city starts announcing their event a little more media will notice. (The city of Chicago is doing [its] own mass wedding event with Lambda Legal and Equality Illinois) Kyron: I did want to ask about your involvement in other aspects of LGBT activism. Cheryl: Although I have always been a supporter of equal rights, whether it be black, immigrant, or gay, I can’t say that I’m truly an activist. I tweet and retweet about injustice, I post on my social networks in support of marriage equality but I’m not the one on the bus to Washington and I think that’s okay. I think we all have a role to play and not all of us are confrontational/front line people. I think as an ally the best things that i can do is support the “new” equal rights movement when ever and where ever I can. I am very lucky; I live in a great town. When we moved here I owned a motel. A majority of our guest, friends and business owners in town are GLBT. We just don’t have confrontational things happening here that go on other places. Yes, there is still some discrimination by certain business owners...but most of those have lost their business - it’s a thriving gay community. I wouldn’t have survived here for two days without having the level of respect I have for other people. All that stuff we learned in kindergarten should be the law of the land if you ask me: do onto others as you want to be treated. Kryon: Ah if only! But these are changing times. Do you think in the next ten to fifteen years we’ll see the government finally embracing some national form of civil unions or same-sex marriages? Cheryl: Yes, I do - I think we will see that change in that time. Obama just secured another four years in office and he’s already accomplished a majority of his promises, he won’t leave gay marriage behind...he can’t. But it will have to be Gay marriage - separate but equal, as they have done with Civil Unions won’t work long term; it’s a stop-gap measure, not a solution.] You can find out more about Dream Day Weddings and Dream Gay Weddings at: http://www.dreamdaywed.com/ and http://www.dreamgayweddings.com/
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