AVE NUE S
FASHI ON &STYLEEDI TI ON J UL Y-SEPTEMBER2018
AUT UMN 2 0 1 8
Edi t i ng / Cr ea t i v eTea m
Cont r i but or s
E di t or i nCh i e f :s c ar l e t l at i t u de
Wr i t e r s /Ar t i s t s :Sn aoCon e , k e l i c o, s c ar l e t l at i t u de , Hady , R os e n du s t , s c ot t 1 989, T obi E man u e l , Bl u e I c eT e a, Z e bi gbos
L ay ou t :
T h i n k Not V an i l l a
Coe di t or s :
Bl u eI c eT e a, Sn aoCon e , k e l i c o, adde wy n , Bi bl i or oman t i c
Cr e at i v e s :
Sk y Wor l d, k e l i c o, adde wy n
Spe c i al t h an k s :n oi z e : i n k e k k t i on
FEATURED I NTHI SI SSUE
f e at u r e di nt h i si s s u e
1
SELFI ES,STYLEAND ( A) SEXUALI TY bySn aoCon e
F i r s t ,I ’ mgoi n gt os h ar emybac k s t or y .I ’ mabi tofas e l fi es av an t .I ’ v ebe e n mas t e r i n gt h i ss k i l lf or20y e ar sn ow,e v e rs i n c eIc l ai me down e r s h i poft h e f ami l y ’ ss h ar e dc ame r a,afi x e df oc u s35mm fi l mc ame r af r om abr an dt h at doe s n ’ te x i s tan y mor e .Is t ar t e dt ak i n gs e l fi e st or e s h apeh owIv i e we dmy s e l f . Adol e s c e n c ei sr ou ghont h es e l f i mageofmos tpe opl e ,an d be i n g an ov e r we i gh t t e e n age r wi t hamooddi s or de r di dn ot h e l p. Wi t hac ame r aI c ou l d l i mi t t h er e pr e s e n t at i on sof my s e l f t omyownf ac e . E v e nbe f or edi gi t al c ame r as , wh e nI h adt owai t u n t i l t h er ol l of fi l mwasfi n i s h e dan dpayt oh av ei t de v e l ope d be f or eI c ou l ds e et h eph ot os , I k n e wabi t abou t an gl e san dpos e st h at s av e da f e ws h ot sf r omt h at e r af r ombe i n gr i ppe dou t an dt h r owni n t ot h et r as h . Wh e nIwass i x t e e nIgotan ot h e rfi l mc ame r awi t hau t of oc u san d,i nh i n ds i gh t ,a qu ai n t l ymode s t amou n t of z oomt ot h el e n s . I t h adas c r e wh ol ei nt h ebot t om( I t r u s t t h el ar ge l yas e x u al au di e n c ewi l l r e adt h at on ec or r e c t l y )t h at I c ou l du s et oat t ac hi t t oat r i pod. I t h adat i me r aswe l l . I c ou l de x pe r i me n t wi t hpos i n gwi t hmye n t i r ebody . AsI gai n e de v e nmor ewe i gh t i nt h ey e ar st h at f ol l owe d, t h i sh e l pe dmel e ar nh owt o pr e s e n t mye n t i r ebodyal i t t l edi f f e r e n t l y . Somes h ot swe r ec on fi de n c eboos t s . Some we r en ot . Bu t i nt h ee n di t wasan e t gai ni nav e r ydi f fi c u l t pe r i od.
2
s e l fi e s , s t y l ean d( a) s e x u al i t y
I nmye ar l yu n i v e r s i t yy e ar s , Igot awe bc amt opu t ont h et opof my mon i t or .E v e nbe f or eIpi c k e du pt h efi x e df oc u sc ame r a,Ih adan on l i n es oc i all i f easmu c hasIh adafl e s hs pac es oc i all i f e .Idi dn ’ t h av eas c an n e rf orawh i l e ,bu ton eofmyon l i n ef r i e n dsdi d,s oI mai l e dph ot ost oh e rt os c ant h e man ds h ar et h e mwi t hou ron l i n e c l i qu e . I got as c an n e ran dawe bc amf ai r l yc l os et oge t h e r , s oI n ow c ou l dpr e s e n t my s e l f t ope opl ewh oon l yk n e wmei nt e x t . Asr e gu l ar AVE Nme mbe r sc anat t e s t , I h av e n ’ t t u r n e dbac kf r oms h owi n gmy f ac eon l i n es i n c e . Wh i l eat t e n di n gu n i v e r s i t y ,Iwor k e dpar tt i meataph ot ogr aph ys t or e . T h i swi l l ageme ,bu t Is t ar t e dbe f or edi gi t al c ame r aswe r ec ommon .I t wasas mal l e rs t or ei nan at i on wi dec h ai n ,s owedi dn ’ tge tdi gi t al c ame r asase ar l yast h ebi gs t or e s . Wh e nwefi r s t got di gi t al c ame r asi n ou rs t or ewewe r ee n c ou r age dt opl aywi t ht h e mt oi mpr ov eou rs e l l i n g s k i l l s , bu t e v e nbe f or et u r n i n gon eonI k n e wwh i c hmode l I wan t e d: t h e Can onA80,wi t has wi v e l s c r e e nt h at Ic ou l dt u r nt owar dsmet ov i e w owI ’ dl ooki nt h epi c t u r eI wasabou t t ot ak e . I t ol dmypar e n t s e x ac t l yh t obu yt h at f or Ch r i s t masf or t h e“ f ami l y ”bu t i t wasal way swi t hme . It ooks e l fi e swi t ht h at c ame r a, s ome t i me su s i n gat r i podt oal l owf or mor edi s t an c ean dc apt u r i n gmor epar t sof myph y s i c al s e l f , bu t mos t of t e nh ol di n gt h ec ame r aanar m’ sdi s t an c eaway .Iwor k e dwi t h an gl e s , wi t hl i gh t i n g, an dI e v e ndown l oade daph ot oe di t i n gpr ogr am t ou s et oman i pu l at et h e s eph ot os .Be f or eai r br u s h i n gf e at u r e swe r e pr ogr amme di n t os mar t ph on ec ame r as ,Iwase di t i n gou tmyown f ac i al i mpe r f e c t i on s . Be f or eI n s t agr amfi l t e r sI wase di t i n gt h ec ol ou r s of myph ot osbe f or es h ar i n gt h e mwi t ht h ewor l d, t h r ou ghway st h at I ’ m s u r eman yt h ou gh twe r es e l f abs or be d.Ipos t e di mage sofmy s e l f al on gwi t hn e ar l ye v e r yL i v e J ou r n alpos tIdi d.Ir e gu l ar l ys h ar e d i mage sof myh ai r s t y l ean dou t fi t of t h edayont h ef or u mt h at r u l e dmyon l i n es oc i al l i f ef or t h ebe t t e r par t of t h e t we n t y au gh t s . I di dt h at wi t hs e l fi e sf r omt h at fi r s t di gi t al c ame r aaswe l l asmyn e x t on e–ah u geh on k i n gdi gi t al SL Rt h atwass i gn i fi c an t l yh e av i e rt h ant h ec ompac ton e ,an dwi t h ou tas wi v e ls c r e e n .Cou l dIh ol du pt h e c ame r apr ope r l ywi t hi t sc l u n k ys h apean dh e av i e r we i gh t ?Cou l dI ge t t h er i gh t an gl ean dt h er i gh t f oc u swi t h ou t h av i n gt h es wi v e l s c r e e nt ogu i deme ?T h ean s we r was , of c ou r s e , ar e s ou n di n gy e s . T h e r ewe r es e v e r aly e ar sbe t we e nmege t t i n gt h atc ame r aan dme ge t t i n gac ame r a ph on e .T h ewe bc am di dn ’ tc u ti tan y mor e ;t h e r e s ol u t i onwas320x 2 40an di twash ar dl yani mpe dan c et ot r an s f e r ph ot osf r omadi gi t al c ame r at oac ompu t e rwh e nal l In e e de dwasa USBc or d. I s t i l l h adafi l mc ame r a–t wo, i nf ac t , asI bou gh t afi l mSL R be f or eown i n gadi gi t al c ame r a–bu t I h ar dl yu s e dt h e m, e s pe c i al l yf or s e l fi e s . I t ookt h ou s an dsof ph ot os , an dpr obabl yh u n dr e dsof s e l fi e s , on t h atc ame r at or e pr e s e n tmy s e l fi nadi gi t alwayan dt ot r ac kt h e e v ol u t i onof myappe ar an c e . I nt h at pe r i odof t i meI l os t abi t of we i gh t . Imov e di n t oas h i t h ol e apar t me n tt h ath ad c ol ou r f u lwal l sas bac k gr ou n ds . Idi dn ’ t h av et owor r yabou t be i n gc au gh t i nt h eac t an d be i n gs h ame df ormyv an i t y .T h e ywe r egoody e ar sf ormyc r e at i v i t y , goody e ar sf or myc ame r as , an dgoody e ar sf or mys e l f e s t e e m.
s e l fi e s , s t y l ean d( a) s e x u al i t y
3
An dt h e n , f ou r t e e ny e ar saf t e r fi r s t u s u r pi n gt h at f ami l yc ame r a, I got a s mar t ph on e .Iwasf ai r l yl at et obe c omec ommonamon gc e r t ai n de mogr aph i c s . I n s t agr amwasat h i n g( at h i n gIh ar dl ypos t e dt of or t h efi r s t f e wy e ar s ) , F ac e bookn ol on ge rl i mi t e dt h en u mbe rof ph ot os y ouc ou l du pl oad, an dwh i l eT wi t t e r h adn ’ t y e t al l owe ddi r e c t u pl oad of i mage st h at c ou l dbee mbe dde di ny ou r t we e t s , y ouc ou l dat l e as t u pl oadt h e mt oe x t e r n al i mageh os t i n gt h at wou l dpos t t h e mt oT wi t t e r f ory ou .I t ’ sl i k et h ewor l doft e c h n ol ogyfi n al l yr e ac h e dmyl e v e lof s e l f e x pr e s s i on .Howc ou l dIt u r nt h at down ?I ’ v ebe e nac on s i s t e n t s e l fi et ak e r e v e r s i n c e .
Wha tdoest hi sha v et odowi t hs t y l e? We l l , i t h asr e c or de dape r s on al h i s t or yof mywar dr obe , bot hgoodan dbad. I t ’ st r ac k e dmyh ai r s t y l e sov e r t h e y e ar s , wh i c hs h owsh owl i t t l ec h an ge swh e ny ouh av ec u r l st h at y ouwan t t or e pr e s su s i n gpi n san de l as t i c s . I t doc u me n t sh owI ’ v emat u r e d. I t de mon s t r at e sh own ot on l ywasI ah e adof t h ec u r v ewi t hs e l fi e s , bu t al s or e s t i n g bi t c hf ac e . T h ee di t i n gs i deof i t t r ac k st h ee v ol u t i onof mype r s on al c ol ou rc h oi c e s , aswe l l aswh at ’ sbe c ome popu l arf ors e l fi et ak e r swor l dwi de .St y l ei sabou te x pr e s s i n gwh atmak e sy ouc on fi de n t ,an dt h ev e r s i onof y ou r s e l f t h at y ouwan t t oe x pr e s st ot h ewor l d. Se l fi e sov e rt i megi v e sah i n t of h owy ou ’ v ec h an ge d, an dh ow av e n ’ t c h an ge d. We ’ r eal l ami xof s t abl ean dfl u c t u at i n gf ac e t s , an dwec ans e et h at r e pr e s e n t e di nwh at y ouh par t of ou r l ook sweh ol don t oan dwh at par t swedon ’ t . F ore x ampl e ,I ’ v emadet h et e r r i bl emi s t ak eatl e as tt wi c ei nmys e l fi et ak i n gc ar e e rofc u t t i n gt h i nban gs( or f r i n ge , i f y ouh appe nt odr i v eont h el e f t ) . T h i sdoe s n ’ t wor kwi t hmyh ai r . I h av eac owl i c kat t h ef r on t . I t ’ st ooh i gh mai n t e n an c ef or me , an ds oy ous e eami xof s e l fi e sdu r i n gt h e s et i me swi t hban gswe l l s t y l e d, an dh e adban ds h i di n gt h ee v i de n c eofabadde c i s i onf oral az ype r s onl i k eme .I ’ v ec h an ge dh owI ’ v epar t e dmyh ai r .T h e l e n gt hh asv ar i e d.Iu s e dt owe arpi gt ai l sal mos te v e r yday ,bu tt h at ’ sn ow c h an ge dt oj u s ton ebu nt h at ’ s of f c e n t e r e dt omyl e f t . Mymak e u ph asv ar i e ds l i gh t l y , wi t hwh i t ei s he y es h adow, u s u al l ybl ac ke y e l i n e r , n e v e r bl u s han dr ar e l yl i ps t i c k . Mywar dr obeh asc h an ge df r omal l t s h i r t san dh oodi e st oami xof dr e s s e s , bl ou s e s , c ar di gan s ,an dc owln e c ks we at e r s .T h e r eh av ebe e npe r i odsofbr i gh twar mc ol ou r st os of t e ran dc ool e r s h ade s , al l wi t hv ar y i n gl e v e l sof bl ac k . T h e s ev ar i at i on sc anbec apt u r e di nt h e s eph ot os , e v e ni f mos t l yf r omt h e s h ou l de r su p. Wet ak ean ds h ar es e l fi e st odoc u me n t an ds h owh owwel ook , an dh owwel ooki samat t e rof s t y l e . Sot hen,wha tdoest hi sha v et odowi t ha s exua l i t y ? P r e di c t abl y , t h e r eh av ebe e nal ot of s t u di e s , ar t i c l e s , an dt h i n kpi e c e sons e l fi e s . P e opl ej u s t l ov et oc r i t i qu et h e h abi t san dt r e n dsofmos t l yy ou n ge rwome n .( T h i n koft h eh ar s ht e e n agegi r ls t e r e ot y pe sof ,l i k e ,v al l e ygi r l s pe e c hpat t e r n san dmor ec u r r e n t s n u bbi n gof “ u pt al k ” , ak ae n di n gas e n t e n c el i k ei t ’ saqu e s t i on ? )Nat u r al l y , wh e nt h e r e ’ ss omu c hdi al ogu es u r r ou n di n gac u l t u r al ph e n ome n on , s omepe opl ear egoi n gt owan t t omak ei t abou t s e x . An ywomant ak i n gapi c t u r ef r omanan gl es l i gh t l yabov ei sc l e ar l yt r y i n gt oc ou r t me n( or at l e as t s o goe sas t u dyt h at s ampl e dph ot osf r om–s u r pr i s e ! –adat i n gs i t e ) . Bu t ou t s i deof adat i n gs i t e , wh at c ans e l fi e spos s i bl yme an ?Wh ywou l dy ouwan t t ol ooky ou r be s t an ds h ow i t t ot h ewor l di nan yc on t e x t r at h e r t h ant ol u r ei nas e x u al par t n e r ?We l l , t h e r ei sf or t u n at e l yal ar ge r amou n t of wr i t i n gou t t h e r et h at e mph as i z e st h ev al u es e l fi e sh av et oi n t r i n s i cgoodan ds oc i al ( n ot s e x u al ) r e l at i on s h i ps . L i k e t h efi r s t i t e mont h i sl i s t of wh ywepos t s e l fi e s : “ t ak i n gs e l fi e si sat ool f or s e l f e x pl or at i on ” . Wel e ar nh owt ol ook ou r be s t , asI di di nmye ar l i e r y e ar s , wh i c hgi v e su ss ome t h i n gt obe l i e v ewec anl i v eu pt o. I nt h i sar t i c l et h at l i s t s 1 0r e as on swet ak es e l fi e s , t h efi r s t on ei sf or s e l f l ov e ; t h er e s t h av en ot h i n gt odowi t hge t t i n gl ai d.
4
s e l fi e s , s t y l ean d( a) s e x u al i t y
Mypr i mar yr e as onf or t ak i n gs e l fi e sh asal way sbe e nabou t e n c ou r agi n gmy s e l f . I t ’ sbe e nabou t doc u me n t i n g my s e l f , ort r y i n gt oe x pl or emor ec r e at i v ei de ast h at Ic anf e e l f u l l yi n v ol v e di nan dn ot wor r yabou t i mpos i n g my s e l f onot h e r sor be i n gi n t e r f e r e dwi t ht h r ou ghu n s ol i c i t e ds u gge s t i on s . Man yof mys e l fi e sh av egon ebe y on d j u s t s t y l ean dv an i t yan di n t os i l l yor abs u r dc on c e pt s , s u c hast oi l e t s e l fi e s( NSF W) , anon goi n gs e r i e ss e l fi e sof e at i n gs of t pr e t z e l s , an das e r i e sof s e l fi e se at i n gat u r k e yl e gt h r ou gh ou t t h eday . E at i n gat u r k e yl e gi nbe di sn ot ame c h an i s mt ofi n damat e . Non eof myot h e rs e l fi e sar e , f ort h at mat t e r . By pos t i n gs e l fi e s , I ’ mi n t e n di n gt os h owh owI ’ mac ompl e t epi c t u r eof myown . I don ’ t n e e dt os h owmy s e l f wi t h an ot h e rpe r s ont opor t r ayas oc i al me di ai mageof wh oI wan t t obe . P ar t of gr owi n gu pasas e l fi et ak e rwas t r ac k i n gmypr ogr e s s . I t wasdoc u me n t i n gmygoodi de as( orwh at I t h ou gh t we r egoodi de asat t h et i me )f or h owt oe x pr e s smy s e l f t h r ou ghpe r s on al i mage . Be i n gas e x u al me an sI ’ mn ot c on c e r n e dwi t hwh e t h e rpe opl e c on s i de r s e l fi e sat u r n of f . I t me an sI don ’ t h av et owor r yabou t t h ec r i t i c i s msof s e l fi e s . I c anj u s t k e e pdoi n gwh at I dot of e e l mybe s t .
DRESSI NGWHI LEANDROGYNOUS abr i e f dr e s s i n gdownbys c ar l e t l at i t u de
T h ebe s t wayI c ande s c r i bemyge n de r i sge n de r fl u i d. Some t i me sI ammor emas c u l i n e , s ome t i me sI ammor e f e mi n i n e , s ome t i me sI ambot hat t h es amet i me . Myc l ot h i n gs t y l e sv ar yde pe n di n gonh owI f e e l t h at day . I we ar wh at e v e r f e e l sgoodan dl ook sgood, wh e t h e r i t fi t si n t ot h et r adi t i on al “ f e mal e ”r ol eor n ot . I amAF ABan dI h av eav e r yf e mal es h ape . F e mal ec l ot h e sar edi f fi c u l t e n ou ght ofi n d. T h es ames i z ec anbe dr as t i c al l ydi f f e r e n t i ndi f f e r e n t s t or e s , ore v e ni nt h es ames t or e . T r y i n gt ofi n dj e an si sl i k efi n di n gal e pr e c h au n r i di n gau n i c or n .Wh e ny oufi n dt h os ej e an st h ou gh ,y ouk n owy oubu yal loft h e m,be c au s ewh atar et h e c h an c e sof t h at h appe n i n gagai n ? Be f or eI mov ebe y on df e mal epan t s , I wou l dl i k et oapol ogi z et ol e ggi n gs . I s pe n t l i k e1 0y e ar sar gu i n gagai n s t l e ggi n gsaspan t s . I wass owr on g. F or gi v emel e ggi n gs . Spe ak i n gof wh i c h , wh yar ef e mal ec l ot h e ss ot i gh t ?E v e ni f I bu yas h i r t i nX X L , i t fi t sl i k eac ompr e s s i ons oc k . An d t h e r ear es oman ys h i r t st h at ar es e et h r ou gh ! Y ouc ans e ee v e r y t h i n g. Wh y ?Hav ewes e x u al i z e dc l ot h i n gt ot h e poi n t wh e r ei t h ast obes u pe rt i gh t an dt r an s par e n t t obemar k e t e dt ol adi e s ?T h e s es h i r t sar eon es t e pabov e be i n gn ak e d. F i n di n gmal ec l ot h e si se v e nmor edi f fi c u l t wi t haf e mal es h ape . I f t h epan t sfi t myh i ps , t h e ydon ’ t fi t mywai s t . I f t h e yfi t mywai s t , t h e ydon ’ t fi t myh i ps . Y e s , Ir e al i z et h at ’ sbe c au s ef e mal ebodi e sh av ewi de rh i pst h anmal e bodi e s , bu t t h at doe sn ot mak ei t an yl e s sf r u s t r at i n gwh e ny our e al l ywan t t owe armal ec l ot h i n g. Sh i r t sar et h e s ame …i f t h e yfi t t h ec h e s t , t h e yl ookl i k eapar ac h u t e . I f t h e yfi t t h er e s t of y ou r body , t h e ydon ’ t fi t t h ec h e s t . Mypoi n th e r ei st h atc l ot h i n gi ss u pe rc on f u s i n gan df r u s t r at i n g,e s pe c i al l ywh e ny ouar et r y i n gt odr e s s an dr ogy n ou s l y . Mygot on owi sl e ggi n gswi t hmal et s h i r t s . F or wor k , I t h r owonac ar di ganor j ac k e t an dbam, wor kappr opr i at e . ( At l e as t f orme . Ik n owt h at wou l dn ’ t wor ki nal l s e t t i n gs . )I f t h e r ear ean ybu ddi n gf as h i on de s i gn e r sou t t h e r e , fi n dawayt omak ean dr ogy n ou sc l ot h e s . I wi l l bu yf r omy ou , an dI ’ ms u r eman yot h e r swi l l t oo.
dr e s s i n gwh i l ean dr ogy n ou s
5
ACEMI NIFI LM REVI EW Av e n ge r s : I n fi n i t yWar
Mor er e v i e wsat Ac e F i l mR e v i e ws . wor dpr e s s . c om
6
ac emi n i fi l mr e v i e w
MEMBERHI GHLI GHT:[ NOI ZE: I NJ EKKTI ON]
s c ar l e t l at i t u dei n t e r v i e wsqu i t epos s i bl yAVE N’ smos t al t e r n at i v es t y l ei c on-Noi z e
me mbe r h i gh l i gh t
7
QUESTI ONS OFTHE MONTH Weh adaL OTof r e s pon s e st oou r qu e s t i on sasal way s ! T h an ky out oe v e r y on e wh or e s pon de d! We ’ v et r i e dou r be s t t ofi t e v e r y on ei n .
TRI GGERWARNI NG Badt as t e , bor de r l i n ec r i mi n al f as h i on of f e n c e s , oc c as i on al gl amou r
qu e s t i on sof t h emon t h
9
1 0
qu e s t i on sof t h emon t h
qu e s t i on sof t h emon t h
1 1
Be i n gac e( ore v e nar o)doe sn otme ann oth av i n g s t y l e .I ti s*n ot *we ar i n gah oode ds we at s h i r ty e ar r ou n d ov e ri n n u me r abl es c r e e n pr i n tt e e s wi t h momj e an san dat h l e t i cs h oe s ,e s pe c i al l yi fy ou ' r e f e mal e . I s e et h i son l i n ean di nph ot osof ac eme e t u ps al ot ,an di tmak e smef r u s t r at e d.Iu n de r s t an dt h e s e pe opl e pr obabl y ar e n ' tt r y i n gt o gar n e rs e x u al an d/orr oman t i cat t r ac t i onf r omot h e r s , e v e nt r y i n gt o i n h i bi t ot h e r sf r omf e e l i n gt h at t owar dst h e m, bu t Is t i l l f e e ll i k ewec anmak eane f f or tt opu tou rbe s tf oot f or war d.I tdoe s n ' tt ak ean ye x t r amon e yort i met o bu yc l ot h e st h atďŹ twe l lan d at t e ry ou rs h ape ,n o
1 2
qu e s t i on sof t h emon t h
qu e s t i on sof t h emon t h
1 3
1 4
qu e s t i on sof t h emon t h
CLASSI FI EDS
Pi ec esof Ac e
Mer c ha ndAc e
P i e c e sofAc ei sa podc as tbr oadc as tl i v ev i a Y ou T u bee v e r ySu n day7 . 30GMT , an dav ai l abl et o wat c horl i s t e nt ov i ai T u n e s ,R e ddi tan dSt i t c h e r . AVE Nu s e r sl i t t l e di b( R obi n ) , T h e R e al Mr Gr ay( T h om) an dDr e amwal k e r St e v e( St e v e )s t ar t e dt h es h ow i n J u l y20 1 5an dh av es i n c ef e at u r e di n t e r v i e wswi t h s wan k i v y , Maapl ef r on t manSt e ph e nBr ou gh t onan d ar eon edayh opi n gt oh av eDav i dJ ayi n v ol v e dt oo!
L ook i n gf orac et h e me dc l ot h i n g, ac c e s s or i e s , fl ags , bags ,h omede c or ,orpr e t t ymu c han y t h i n ge l s e ? Ch e c kou t Me r c h an dac e-t h ebi gge s t c at al ogu eof as e x u alme r c h an di s eont h ewe b!Ori fy ou ' r ea c r e at or an dwou l dl i k et ofi n dou t mor eabou t h owt o ge t y ou r ac eme r c hou t t h e r e , wh yn ot ge t i nt ou c h ?
T h es h ow al s oi n c l u de sl i v eph on ei n s ,aY ou T u be c h at r oom, i n f or mat i on abou t me e t s an d l i v e c ak e t e s t i n g, j u s t t oc on f or mt ot h es t e r e ot y pe !T h e r e ' s al s opl e n t yof r an doms t u f f t oo, s oi f y ouf an c yge t t i n g i n v ol v e dt h e nv i s i tpi e c e s of ac e . c om ors e ar c hon Y ou T u be .
c l as s i fi de s
F i n dal l y ou r P r i dee s s e n t i al san dmu c h , mu c hmor eat me r c h an dac e . c om Doy ouh av eanadv e r t i s e me n t y ouwou l dl i k e t oaddt of u t u r ei s s u e sof AVE Nu e s ?Se n du s t h ei n f oat n e ws l e t t e r @as e x u al i t y . or g!
1 5
OPEN MI C E v e r yi s s u eweope nu pt h efl oor t oy oul ov e l y u n i c or n s ! We l l , t h i squ ar t e r y oudi dn ’ t di s s apoi n t , pr e s e n t i n gu swi t ht h i sfi l t h yl ot . . .
READERSUBMI SSI ONS mi cdr op
“ DoIh av eSt y l e ?No,an dIk n ow i t .Sowh ydo s ome t h i n gs t u pi dl i k es pe n dl ot sofmon e y on s ome t h i n gI c an ’ t pu l l of f . I gof oran i c ean ds i mpl e s t y l e .Wi t ht s h i r t s ,j e an san di fn e e de d du et o c ol dn e s s ,ah oodyaswe l l .T h epl u sf ort h i ss t y l ei s t h at i t ’ ss os i mpl et ot h r owoni nt h emor n i n g, e v e ni n ar u s h , an dh e l pswi t hmyl az ys i de .
Ch ar l i ej ac k e t , bu t t h os ec anbev e r ye x pe n s i v es oI do pr e f e ri n f or malc l ot h e swh i c h Ifi n d mor e c omf or t abl e . ”
T h i smayn ots ou n de x pr e s s i v e ,bu tIc andos ov i a t h et s h i r t de s i gn s , of t e nI we arf u n n y , orge e k yon e s t h at I l i k e . Someof myf av ou r i t e swe r eapi n k“ I t ’ sn ot pi n k ,i t ’ sL i gh t i s hr e d”an dabl u e“ Il i k eme ”R e dv s Bl u et s h i r t s ,mymos tac eon e ,“ How t opi c ku p c h i c k s ”( i t me an sr e al babyc h i c k s )wh i c hI j u s t f ou n d r e al l yf u n n yan dac ool Son i ct h eHe dge h ogt s h i r t wi t hi n gamegr aph i c s .I fi t ’ sagr e atbadj ok e ,or r e f e r e n c e sac ompu t e rgamet h atIl ov e ,I ’ l l wan ti t onat s h i r t .Ial s odowe ars omes por t st s h i r t sbu t on l yf or s por t s /t e amsI c ar eabou t . I f I wasmor eou t , I ’ dl ov et owe ar mor eAc ej ok e st s h i r t s .
“ Us u al l ymys t y l ei sc omf or t abl e ,an dIt r yt oh av e pr i dei nan y t h i n gIwe ar .Iwe armypr i des h i r t s , wh i c har et i edy ewh i c hwor k sf orwh e r eIl i v ean d n oon eas k squ e s t i on s .Myf av or i t epar tabou tmy s t y l ei st h atIac c e s s or i z ewi t hmyj e we l r y .It e n dt o pi c kou t myge ms t on ebr ac e l e t san dmi n i mal i s t r i n g, e s pe c i al l ywi t hmybl ac kr i n g.Il i k eh av i n gaf e w s t at e me n t pi e c e si nmyj e we l boxt h at I c angr aban d go,asI ' m an of u s s ,u n de r s t at e dpe r s on .Idon ' t t y pi c al l ywe are ar r i n gs e x c e ptt h os et h atar ei nmy v ar i ou se arpi e r c i n gsbe s i de smyl obe st h atwe r e gu n n e d,an dI ' m pl an n i n gt o ge tt h os er e don e pr of e s s i on al l y , j u s t t oaddmor ev ar i e t y . Bu t I l i k emy pe r s on al s t y l ebe c au s eIt ak epr i dei nmy s e l f , an dI t h i n kt h at i st h emos t i mpor t an t t h i n g. ”
T h es t r an get h i n gwh e ni t c ome st of as h i oni st h at do l i k ev e r ys i mpl es t u f f , an ddon ’ t l i k et h e“ f as h i on abl e ” s t u f f t h at ot h e r smaye n j oy . F or mal we ar , I c anr oc ka s u i t ,bu tn ot h i n gwi l lbe atan i c eKi l t ,wi t haP r i n c e
r e ade r s u bmi s s i on s
Sc ot t 1 989( +c ov e r i mage )
R os e n du s t
1 7
Poem
byHady
L e t ’ ss t ar t bys ay i n g: I ’ mbi — R oman t i cAs e x u al . Y ouas k e dmewh at ’ st h epoi n t , Of wh at ? “ Hav i n gc r u s h e s . ” I l i k et h epai n , t or t u r i n gmy s e l f , Of wan t i n g Some on e I Can ' t Hav e . De fi n ei t . I ’ mc au gh t u pbe t we e n Wh at mybr ai nwan t s : Be i n gc ompl e t e l yas e x u al R e adbe t we e nt h el i n e s , Al one . An dwh at myh e ar t wan t s : F al l i n gi nl ov e-t oar oman t i ce x t e n t , Mi n dy ou . Y ouc an ’ t j u s t E x pl ai ns ome t h i n gl i k ei t s s i mpl e . T h emor e I e x pl ai n , T h emor ei t L os e si t s me an i n g.
1 8
“ Ver yShya ndVer yPr oud” byZ e bi gbos
“ Cha r l i e ” byk e l i c o
r e ade r s u bmi s s i on s
AVENI TESI N REALLI FE!
He r ear es omeof ou r awe s omean df as h i on abl eAVE Nme mbe r s( wi t ht h e i r k i n dpe r mi s s i on ) :
[a]
[b] [c]
[d]
Ou rAVE Ni t e s : a)Hol yGh os t b)L e mon s k y c )Un aSal u sVi c t u s d)T h i n k Not V an i l l a e )Amn e s i ac
[e]
av e n i t e si nr e al l i f e
1 9
AMOMENTOFACE s u bmi t t e dbyT obi E man u e l
20
amome n t of ac e
ASEXYPUZZLE Hi dde nMe s s age
Un s c r ambl ee ac hwor d. T h e n , c opydownt h el e t t e r si n t ot h en u mbe r e dbox e sbe l owt oďŹ n dou r s e c r e t me s s age !
as e x ypu z z l e
2 1
LOOKOUTFOROURNEXTEDI TI ON. . . OCTOBER2018-J ANUARY2019
Ou rl as t i s s u ef or20 1 8i sabou t as e x u al i t yan de du c at i on . ( Y e p. Se xe d. We ’ r egoi n gt h e r e . ) Wh atwasy ou rs e xe de x pe r i e n c e ?Di dy oue v e rl e ar nabou tas e x u al i t y( oran yot h e r or i e n t at i on s ) ?I fn ot ,h owdi dy oul e ar nabou ti t ?Di dy ouf e e lac c e pt e dwh e ny ouwe r ei n s c h ool ? F i l l ou t ou r qu e s t i on sof t h emon t hf or mh e r e : h t t ps : //goo. gl /f or ms /BQr F WJ n BI J VHOddm2 R e me mbe r , wear eal way sl ook i n gf or ar t i c l e san dar t wor kt oaddt oAVE Nu e s ! T os u bmi t c r e at i v ewor k s , pl e as egoh e r e : h t t ps : //goo. gl /f or ms /QQqf df OR 69n i J F oP 2 e x yj ok e san dpu n sh e r e : h t t ps : //goo. gl /f or ms /R g4v l Y6X Z7c 1 7bNJ 3 Se n du sy ou r as F or l ar ge r s u bmi s s i on s , pl e as ee mai l u sat n e ws l e t t e r @as e x u al i t y . or gor av e n u e s . s u bmi s s i on s @gmai l . c om Y oumayal s os e n dapr i v at eme s s aget oan yof t h eAVE Nu e ss t af f onAVE N