Life Coach

Losers Weepers?!

By Rivki D. Rosenwald Esq., MFT, CLC

But I just had it a minute ago!

Trust me. It doesn’t matter what age you are. Things are always disappearing. People like to tell you that you probably misplaced it or forgot where you put it. Don’t believe them! I know for a fact that a little Martian comes down from space and moves it. While you’re running all over the place looking for it, he’s standing invisibly in the corner chuckling away.

The truth is, we are busy, overwhelmed, and multitasking and can wind up putting things down in funky places. Alternatively, we can be one of those people who sometimes doesn’t see things even when they’re right in front of us.

It sometimes can help to walk away from the task of finding it. Just temporarily. This allows you to return in a little bit and see things from a new perspective.

In truth, I just think it gives the alien time to put it back where you left it!

This often happens with thoughts as well. We are about to say something

important, and we lose our train of thought. Then when we sit quietly for a few minutes, it usually resurfaces.

Who do you think hid it from you for that space of time? Exactly, the spaceman.

I’m not really trying to convince you there are Martians. I’m just trying to tell you not to get so upset with yourself when you can’t find stuff. It happens to everyone.

Everyone loses things – items and thoughts as well.

Oh, except weight, of course.

Now, why is that? The one thing we would like to have suddenly disappear seems to linger. And that’s something we would love to be able to blame on someone else, human or otherwise!

We used to lose our way. Now Navigation has taken care of that. I can’t say it always gets us exactly where we want. But we don’t feel lost anymore. It’s more likely that we think it found us random streets and highways for us to unearth, even ones we had no desire to explore.

Yet, we never say, “I got lost” anymore. We say navigation “messed up.” That makes us kind of happy. Because we’ve found something outside of us to blame.

Which kind of supports my premise that if we could just find a creature responsible for our losing stuff, we wouldn’t be so upset with ourselves.

So, guess what? I’ll take the blame. Next time you can’t find something that you’re looking for, just say, “I bet that that Rivki took it.” And then go get yourself a snack. (Unless that’s what

I just think it gives the alien time to put it back where you left it!

you are missing!) And I assure you that at least 75% of time, by the time you get back, I’ll have returned it to the exact spot you left it.

As to the other 25% of the time, if you promise to give me 5% of the profit, I’ll return it by Monday!

Here’s hoping you “find” joy in your week!

Rivki Rosenwald is a certified relationship counselor, and career and life coach. She can be contacted at 917-705-2004 or rivki@rosenwalds.com.