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often feel when I walk out on stage for a sound check that it’s like being in church. It’s a very sacred, wonderful place to get to be.” Shari Ulrich drives onto the ferry in Horseshoe Bay heading towards Bowen Island; it’s a short ride to the isle off West Vancouver she now calls home. Her soft voice periodically cuts out depending on the phone’s reception, but her unremitting thoughtfulness is transparent even through speakerphone. She’s just returned from a family reunion in Boulder, Colorado, a distance from where she grew up in San Francisco’s Bay Area. The late summer day is nearing its end, but she speaks like an artist who’s enlivened at night. A two-time Juno award winner, she’s released 23 albums (eight of them solo) and has been a member of such bands as The High Bar Gang, the Hometown Band, UHF, BTU, and Pied Pumkin. Despite a longstanding career, her accomplishments don’t overtake a humbleness that’s integral to her character. “The thing about performing and why I enjoy it so much is because I really feel like it’s not about me,” says Shari. “I’m fortunate that I’ve got this gift, this thing in me, but what I’m celebrating when I’m performing is the music. It’s about how it’s making us feel. So I feel like in between me and the audience, there’s this place where the music is and I feel incredibly honoured to be the one making the sounds.” She laughs as the next thought surfaces, “Sometimes I’m just in awe that I can remember the lyrics!” A self-professed “child of the ’60s” raised in Northern California, Shari moved to Canada at 18 after the Kent State shootings in 1970. (In May of that year, the Ohio National Guard in Kent, Ohio fired at unarmed college students who were protesting the war in Vietnam, killing four students and injuring nine). This contentious period under Nixon’s presidency that sparked Shari’s decision to move north marks a pattern in her life – strife manifested into creativity. It’s evident in the lyrics of her songs, which Shari says are a representation of what she’s lived. For her, there isn’t any topic that’s “too personal” to address. “I’ve come to feel that secrets don’t necessarily serve us well,
whether they were a victim of something or they had a life event that society might attach shame to,” she says. “I’m not secretive about those events in my life because if I were to be, it would perpetuate the myth that we should feel ashamed that they happened, and that’s not right.” Putting pen to paper after trying times has been therapeutic for Shari. Creative outlets, she says, allow you to transform an experience that might’ve been negative, dark or confusing into something beautiful. “When I talk about my experiences or write songs about them, it can help people heal from similar situations,” she muses. One difficult event that Shari chronicles can be found in the song, “Mysterious Child.” In it, she talks about the son she gave up for adoption at 16. “I was kind of mining my life up until that point and that was a song that came out as something I had wanted to write about but didn’t necessarily think would go out into the world,” she says. Raised in an era when teenage pregnancy was considered taboo and undoubtedly kept a secret, it’s clear why Shari has made a point to be as open as she has. Despite her family knowing about the pregnancy, at the time, most of her closest friends didn’t find out about it until college, or even later. “Some of them asked if that’s why I disappeared for a period of time,” she says. Early in her career, Shari set out to write commercially viable songs to be played on the radio. As she wrote them, other more personal songs began to pour out, but she thought they weren’t meant for anyone else, let alone on an album. However, once her producer heard them, he knew they were her best songs. With his encouragement, she was set on a course of honing her authentic voice that’s carried through (similar in tone to the vulnerable, confessional quality of Joni Mitchell’s work, someone who inspired Shari early on). For “Mysterious Child,” it’s a narrative that has come full circle. A few years ago, Shari wrote a song about finding the son she gave up, Mike. It was intended as a gift for his fortieth birthday (he’s now a large, joyful part of Shari’s life that includes her
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If you were to meet your 20-year-old self, what advice would you give her? This is your one life. Make it big and make it count. Don’t even THINK about getting a tan – wear sunscreen. And don’t waste another precious moment worrying that your hips are too big. Oh, and note that lust unfailingly masquerades as love, so don’t make major life decisions while under its compelling and intoxicating spell. This too will pass. Who or what has influenced you the most? And why? Undoubtedly my mother in ways I can’t even identify, but primarily by her independent, spunky spirit. If it needed to be done, if it needed to be fixed – she did it herself. She was relentless in getting the best out of her life. But it’s a tossup with my daughter, who inherited all those traits, plus my father’s keen intelligence. Julia’s a constant positive influence with her calm and sensible approach to life, all while taking on one new exciting challenge after another. Her fearlessness and dedication to learning is awe-inspiring. What does courage mean to you? Courage means saying yes to a new endeavour or adventure that is scary. I’ve always said yes, and it has NEVER backfired. What does success mean to you? My concept of success has definitely evolved over time. It used to be focused on success as an artist. Now, it encompasses living up to my creative potential, being truly happy and fulfilled, leaving as small a footprint as possible, and being surrounded by loving and lovable family. 8 friends INSPIREDand SENIOR LIVING
daughter, Julia) but their story resonated with others in a way that needed to be shared. It wasn’t until Shari started singing the song that she discovered how adoption touches so many people’s lives. “There is something about the power of putting that subject, or any subject really, to music that makes it get into people’s hearts and souls in a way that just reading about it doesn’t necessarily. I can’t tell you how many people have thanked me for writing that song, because it allows them to feel emotions in a way that they don’t allow themselves to otherwise.” Although she was already performing with the Hometown Band, songwriting is something that Shari thought she came to relatively late at 26. She wrote her first song in 1977 when the band was recording their second album, though she had wanted to and “sort of tried” to write songs since she was 20. “I had been feeling kind of frustrated singing other people’s words when they weren’t mine, weren’t the way I would say something. Then the record label did what they often did in those days: after you recorded an album for them, they would say, ‘Well, we don’t hear a hit, so we want you to record a few more songs.’ That was the point I decided that I should finally write my own song.” The song she did write, “Feel Good,” ended up being a successful single off of the album, proving it’s never too late to start (now that her daughter Julia is 26, she laughs at her prior belief that it was old). The reason it took Shari six years to complete a song was because she didn’t know how to start – a process she doesn’t think has become any easier (a sentiment that might give creative-types relief because of mutual anxiety that it won’t get any better). “I just find I have a hard time surrendering to the process and staying with it until things start to come,” she says. Although, her credentials affirm she has stuck with a process long enough to see through countless projects and even use that knowledge to become a mentor to upcoming songwriters (she’s taught songwriting at Humber College, UBC, and the VSO School of Music). When asked if she has a formula she WWW.SENIORLIVINGMAG.COM
follows when writing a song, she says there is a subtle pattern that she’s noticed. It begins in a familiar way for many artists: “First, I do a lot of avoiding of it and then I finally surrender to it. Usually, I will sit down with an instrument – a guitar or a piano or mandolin or dulcimer, perhaps – just play something that captivates me and I’ll keep playing it until it evolves, or I start singing melody over it using nonsense words that have the sound that I want. Eventually, in some mysterious way, it tells me what it’s about. Then, if you want to call it that, a formula kicks into play where I know what the subject of the song is and I know what I’m wanting to say and then it’s a more ritualistic process of creating the verses and the lyrics for it, which I tend to do when I’m riding my bike or walking. I do a lot of work on my lyrics when I’m walking.” The creative process is one Shari calls a wondrous experience she’s always in awe of (in keeping with her humble spirit, she never seems jaded). Her favourite part of the process is when brainstorming or “playing around” is met with slivers of creative breakthroughs. “When writing the song about finding my son Mike, I knew it needed to have a phrase, the hook phrase that summed up the song, but I never go into the process knowing what that is,” she says. “I didn’t even know what I was going to write when I sat down to write, but then the phrase “By the Grace of Goodbye” came up one moment and it rolled into the rest. When you have those moments, it’s fantastic.” Family has always been a catalyst for Shari’s work. Her musical leanings have carried over to her daughter Julia who accompanied Shari for years on violin, mandolin, guitar and piano. While Julia worked on her Master’s degree in music in sound recording from McGill, she asked to record an album for her mom for a term project. In the past, as bandleader, it was Shari who was calling the shots; for this project, it was Julia’s turn to come up with the arrangements and pick which performances were best. “I thought there would be times I would pull the experience card and say, ‘I’ve been doing this for 35 years. I know what I’m doing,’ but she was so confident, and has such a fantastic way as an engineer and a producer that I just surrendered to it completely. There was never any friction between us.
And she’s done quite a bit of recording for me since. It’s really a wonderful relationship and I feel very fortunate.” Although, Julia is working on more of the technical side of music, she does go to Shari for advice about the industry. “I would say the most consistent advice I give her – or anybody, really – is to listen to your instincts,” says Shari. In her own career, trusting her gut has served her well. With regards to the best advice she ever received, Shari refers to a song she wrote about her mother. In it, she quotes her, “Two things are advice and one is just something that she used to say, because we would talk about our beliefs, although neither of us were religious people, and she would say she believed that God is love. The line in the song is, ‘She said, be yourself and God is love, and above all else, be kind.’” On her journey, Shari believes that being kind to people has been just as important as what she has done in music. In an overstressed society, taking time to slow down and acknowledge each other is important.
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“All it takes is responding to someone in a kind way, making eye contact or smiling at them, and it can change their day. It’s quite a powerful thing.” Shari pauses before broadening her thought, “I think in our times that are so scary and distressing and there’s so much ugliness out there, the only thing we can affect is our very immediate world – our friends and family and the people we randomly encounter. So I try to make it as positive as I can. It takes so little to make a difference. And you get so much good stuff back when you do that.” As her ferry arrives at Snug Cove Terminal, the sky now decidedly dark, Shari ends the call with gratitude and a mirthful joke, “Other than reminding me of my identity as a senior, it was great!” For some, their brooding past is fixed in the downturn of their mouth or in their outlook on life; for Shari Ulrich, the marks of her most personal experiences are left in the liner notes of her albums; the positivity she exudes is an example that sullied moments can be transformed into light – and can even be used for inspiration. As she drives off the boat, a parting question proposed: What’s something everyone should try at least once in their life? She laughs, taking not a moment’s hesitation, “I’m torn between telling people to write down their story, and just put on music and dance. We don’t dance enough.” For Shari, another album to write and more tour dates in the months ahead, the possibility of what a new day can bring is reason enough to dance. SL
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Lest We Forget Howard Armstrong (second from left) with his crew, taken in front of a Hudson in 1941.
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t 95, former Flying Officer Howard R. Armstrong lives quietly in Victoria, BC. Although he moves slowly and has hearing problems, he is an iconic gentleman, one of the few veterans of the Second World War still with us. He is a living reminder of the enormous sacrifices made by many individuals to protect the freedom of society. Howard was born on June 16, 1921, in Pincher Creek, Alberta, and grew up near the edge of the Rocky Mountains. Shortly after he graduated from high school, World War II erupted. Howard enlisted in the Royal Canadian Air Force in 1939, at age 19, along with two of his friends. He was the only one of the three to survive the war. After he received training in Canada, Howard was soon posted to England where, in 1941, he was assigned to the 407 “Demons” at Thorney Island as one of the original members.
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The squadron flew Hudsons, a twin-engine light bomber and coastal reconnaissance aircraft with a crew of four: pilot, navigator, radio operator and gunner. Howard served as a wireless operator and gunner. The 407’s initial role was to carry out anti-shipping patrols at night along the enemy-held coast. The squadron gained the name “Demons” for their highly dangerous, but extremely successful, low-altitude attacks. They detected enemy convoys and then, swooping in at mast-height, each plane released four 250-lb. bombs and fired its machine guns. By the end of November, the “Demons” counted 52 attacks on enemy vessels, of which at least 32 resulted in direct hits. The squadron, however, suffered a heavy toll with many deaths and lost aircraft. On one occasion, Howard’s Hudson ran out of fuel, and it was necessary to crash land in a hay field near
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Norfolk. He suffered critical, life-long hearing loss when the transponder exploded, as it was designed to do. Fortunately, without fuel, the plane did not catch fire, and all the crew walked away from the crash. Howard could not hear a thing for a month, but kept flying missions because as radio operator, he used Morse code. Although his hearing improved slightly afterwards, he has had to use hearing aids since then. To reduce the high rate of casualties, it was decided to try bombing from high level (4,000 feet). Another new technique was to send one aircraft ahead to locate the convoy, shadow it while homing the strike force to the scene, and then drop flares to illuminate the ships. Later, flame floats were also used to ring the target for the attacking aircraft. Death almost claimed Howard when a shell from an enemy warship near the Netherlands coast hit his aircraft and exploded around him. The pilot was able to fly the crippled plane back to England, where he made a belly landing. Once again, the crew walked away from the aircraft, but with Howard badly shaken. In June of 1942, the Hudson and crew took part in the first “1,000” bombing mission, in which more than 1,000 aircraft bombed Bremen, Germany. In 1943, the 407 Squadron was converted from a bombing unit to an anti-submarine unit flying the Wellington airplane, a twin-engine medium bomber with a six-man crew, which proved to be tough even when damaged. The Wellingtons were equipped with radar and were modified so the belly turret contained a powerful searchlight. The squadron soon recorded its first contact, sighting a surfaced U-boat. After exchanging fire, the submarine crashdived while the Wellington dropped depth charges ahead of the swirl. A few minutes later the “Demon” crew saw another U-boat and hammered it with machine-gun fire. In the next four months there were five more attacks as well as several sightings of U-boats. Then, one night in September, the squadron scored its first kill when they caught U-boat 669 on the surface and sank it with five well-aimed depth charges. During the rest of the war, they sank another three U-boats and damaged seven more, an excellent record. In March 1943, Howard was promoted to Flight Lieutenant. On one sortie, his Wellington dropped down to within 70 feet of the conning tower of a U-Boat, and the rear gunner saw the sub’s stern blow high out of the water. In November 1943, his tour in England ended and Howard was posted home. He left the Air Force in 1945. Many of his comrades had made the ultimate sacrifice, and Howard had suffered permanent hearing damage. For his efforts, he received the War Medal 1939-45, the 1939-45 Star, the Defence Medal, the Canadian Volunteer Service Medal, Clasp with Maple Leaf Emblem in relief, and the Coronation Medal. No. 407 Squadron flew its last sorties on 2 June 1945 and, two days later, was officially disbanded with a farewell message commending its “splendid contribution... to the victory in the war at sea.” The squadron was reformed in Canada in 1952.
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Following the war, Howard married, and he and his wife, Marion, had two children. He became a management accountant working with several companies including MicroSystems and Nortel. He spent most of his life in Belleville, Ontario, and Montreal, Quebec, and travelled extensively, making several trips to the Silicon Valley, California, and Europe. When he retired at age 60, Howard and his wife moved to Pincher Creek. For about 15 years, they made their winter home in Sarasota, Florida. In 2000, he moved to Victoria, where he has resided since. Marion passed away in 2002 and, in 2006, Armstrong married Peggy, whom he met at a bridge club. One of Howard’s joys has been sports fishing, which he has
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eral coastal towns, I utilized various modes of transportation to unravel this mystery. Aboard Hurtigruten’s MS Trollfjord we cruised by the fairytale island of Senja just south of Tromso. Evidently, the world’s largest troll resides there in a theme park. Our vessel’s namesake fjord is located in the easternmost region of the Lofoten Islands. The area is a hot spot for summertime tourists where daily boat trips are offered. The 2km-long Trollfjord narrows to 100 metres, where our ship carefully negotiated a three-point turn. Lars, a native of Oslo informed us that “an angry troll stumbled over a mountain range with his axe. We are told that with a stroke he made a nice vertical cut into the Raftsund Alps. It became known as the Trollfjord or Raftsund Strait.” Situated south of the medieval city of Trondheim and 38 kilometres from Oppdal is the small mountain range known as the Troll Mountains (Trollheimen). They are apparently a haven for both dwarf and giant trolls. As we passed through pastures, I peered upon large white circular bales. “Are those bales wrapped up feed for the livestock?” I queried of the Norwegian sitting beside me. “Oh no, they’re troll marshmallows,” he said sincerely. Yes indeed, the evidence accumulates. We had a short stop-over at Molde, a city renowned for its International Jazz Festival. A bronze statue of a man playing a saxophone stands on the waterfront. No doubt a typical troll transformation, I surmised. Nearby are the reputed Trollkinka mystical caves where a series of three white grottoes are connected by subterranean streams of which one contains a 14-metre-high waterfall. Southeast of Molde is the cloud shrouded summit of the Troll Wall (Trollveggen). At 1,800 metres, it is the highest vertical
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We trolled past the often pristine and serene Norwegian coastline into the epitome of “The World’s Most Beautiful Voyage,” the Sognefjord. As the country’s longest and deepest fjord, the Hurtigruten ships enter the mouth of the Sognefjord as they steam south to Bergen. At more than 200 km in length, I assumed this was surely an extensive troll retreat. Continuing our troll trail on land, we strolled along the historic waterfront known as Bryggen (Wharf). We passed by the Troll Shop, where I was confronted by a troll outside. Was he guarding the store or welcoming people? The clerk inside indicated it was definitely the latter. “They are very popular and often misunderstood,” she informed me holding up a thick book entitled The Original Book of Norwegian Trolls written by Rolf Lidberg. We could vouch for their popularity after seeing myriad miniature figurines of their images being sold as souvenirs. A tasty fruit-
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flavoured confection called Troll Drops was also available. We walked further along to the Hanseatic Museum, which highlights the Hanseatic League, a medieval association of merchants. “Have any trolls ever resided here?” I queried. “I don’t believe so,” replied a museum representative. “However, witches may be another story. Trolldom refers to witchcraft, after all.” I imagined the witches and trolls connection may account for the supernatural and ugly factors. “You can visit the site of the witch stone across the harbour,” she added. Evidently, 350 accused witches were burned at the stake there between 1550 and 1700. Following our tour, she mentioned that if we were going up Mount Floyen for a view, say hello to the mountaintop troll for her. I assured her we would and proceeded to ascend to the summit via the only funicular in the country. Upon arrival, we could see a faint image
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through the mist and moderate rainfall. Then, an intense stream of sunlight radiated down and shone on the statuesque figure. With an open hand and a dubious grin, the bronzed troll (probably not from tanning lotion) stood motionless before us. We appreciated the greeting from this ossified individual but, due to his overdosing on sunshine, he was far from talkative, so we moved on. Located just south of Bergen is Edvard Grieg’s former home and present museum known as the “Hill of Trolls” (Troldhaugen). Fellow Norwegian Henrik Ibsen asked the renowned composer to write music for his famous troll play, Peer Gynt. Grieg’s international success was due, in part, to a popular concert composition of “Hall of the King of the Trolls” (Dorregublens Hall). During Act 2, Scene 6 (“In the Hall of the Mountain King”), the King’s subjects and trolls are all clamouring for Peer’s blood for having pursued a troll-maiden. Newspaper critic Harold Bloom stated, “in most humans there is a troll, and that Ibsen’s play masterly shows this.” I concur with his universal assessment that we all possess intrinsic troll traits (to varying degrees). The different troll incarnations of mountains, fjords and waterfalls are human extensions that personify our inherent goodness regardless of our appearance. They are an endearing
Troldhaugen, Bergen. Photo: Jacquie Durand
and enduring endemic symbol; the veritable embodiment of a viable Norwegian subculture. Before finalizing our quest, we took a trip on the tram-like Troll Train (naturally). The 54-passenger train travels the Måbødalen Valley passing by Norway’s famous Vøringsfossen (waterfall). A dramatic 25-minute train ride runs along an old road, which is closed to ordinary traffic. Overhearing our Troll talk, a passenger from Trondheim told us “you should make your next real train trip on the Flåmbansa.” Reputedly, this 20-km train tour is one of the world’s most scenic. “You can also see a three troll patrol at the village of Flåm.” With eyebrows raised, we nodded with a smile. The quest continues… SL For IF YOU GO info, visit www.seniorlivingmag.com/articles/trolling-norway
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niversity of Victoria’s CanAssist came to my attention in May. I was intrigued by the concept of an organization functioning within a university in order to enhance the lives of persons with disabilities. CanAssist evolved in order to “fill a gap” in technological devices for assisting individual living with disabilities. CanAssist’s Executive Director Robin Syme says, “CanAssist’s mandate is to develop new technologies where no effective commercial solution exists.” The organization consists of a core team of about 20 professionals, who include software developers, engineers and program coordinators. As of May 2015, CanAssist was moved to a strategically located space at the entrance of UVic’s new Centre for Athletics, Recreation and Special Abilities (CARSA) building. This space provides a venue for the organization’s key areas of focus: technological development, academic engagement and a TeenWork program. Product Manager Paul Green guided me through the facility and demonstrated many of the technological items developed at the site. Immediately inside the entrance, I saw the Interactive Technology Zone, where Green discussed and demonstrated the “SingleHand Chopper,” the “Waveband” App for iPod, the “Switch-Accessible Camera,” the “CanPlan” App, the “Wandering Redirect System,” and the “Motivational Gaming Bicycle” devices. With a growing concern of my dominant right hand’s tremor and lack of dexterity, especially in the thumb and index finger, I was particularly intrigued by the food-chopping tool. I tend to avoid vegetable chopping (and cooking in general) thanks to my physical malady, so I felt a sincere appreciation for this invention. Imagine the comfort to a caregiver equipped with the “Wandering Redirect” device. Green explained that it was meant for someone with dementia as an “early intervention” device and developed for use in a home. A message on a screen, accompanied by the voice of “someone they recognized” would redirect the person back to the room or space he/she had wandered away from. This type of service, wherein persons are able to remain at home as they age, is a priority for UVic’s Institution on Aging and Lifelong Health.
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Green explained the “Motivational Gaming Bicycle” had been developed originally for a disabled person who needed exercise but had no motivation on his/her own. This device, along with several other technologies, can apply to a wide range of people and, as such, can be made available to various individuals within the community. The Teen-Work program “helps youth with disabilities find and retain meaningful, part-time paid employment while attending high school.” Its aim is filling a gap in the employment field for youth with disabilities as they near transition to adulthood. Meanwhile, in the machine shop, Dennis Tuncbilek, a mechanical design co-op student, and Keir Maguire, a Mechanical/Electrical Design Specialist, were actively working on a project, but were happy to have their photos taken as they demonstrated the “hand cycle” device. In yet another area of the lab, Green strummed a guitar with the “foot-operated guitar strummer.” The story of how this organization came to be goes back to the University of Victoria Assistive Technology Team (UVATT), established by Dr. Nigel Livingston in 1999 after his daughter had been diagnosed with Angelman syndrome. Dr. Livingston came to recognize “the great need for assistive technologies that could be customized to meet the sometimes highly specific challenges of individuals.” Due to the costs and complexity of producing such devices, UVATT was formed to address this need by making use of the outstanding resources at the University of Victoria. By 2008, UVATT had become CanAssist and was recognized as a unique organization of the university. Being within the university setting also allowed for the Academic Engagement Program portion of CanAssist’s focus areas. The organization had, by 2014, engaged almost 6,000 students through co-op, graduate and work study placements, presentations, course instruction, overseas study programs and volunteer opportunities. UVic faculty members also had access to be engaged in the academic program. Since CanAssist’s raison d’etre is to address the need for assistive technologies that could be customized to meet sometimes highly specific challenges, individuals can submit a “community request” via the organization’s website. In other cases, professionals, such as occupational therapists, can make a request on their patient’s behalf, which could be billed to a third party. “While it is possible for individuals to pay for their own projects, this rarely happens,” says Syme. “Instead, CanAssist typically finds philanthropic funding that aligns with an individual’s technology request.” Dr. Helen Martindale, a good friend of mine, came with me for a brief meeting in the Interactive Technology Zone with Green. She was thrilled for the opportunity as she has two friends who have received technologies. Gordon Jones, 62, formerly an optician for many years, was cycling home from work one day in 2010 when an encounter with traffic resulted in his being catapulted “over his handlebars.” After major surgery and hospitalization in Vancouver for 10 months, Gordon was re-located to Victoria’s Aberdeen Hos-
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pital, where he and the hospital were asked by CanAssist if they could help. Indeed, two specific areas of assistance for Gordon’s quadriplegic condition were identified and addressed. Through the use of a “mouth stick,” Gordon can operate the touch screen of an iPad2, supplied by CanAssist, in order to read. Additionally, a “zero gravity” arm attached to his wheelchair allows Gordon to “feed himself” and use it for “strength training” for his left arm. Karen March is another recipient of technology from CanAssist. Her story begins in 1988 with a car accident that left her a quadriplegic. Although not in high-level competition, at the time, Karen was always on sport teams and loved getting outdoors. She refers to herself as “stubborn” and wanted to get her independence back following her recovery.
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Karen became involved in wheelchair sports and, by the time she went to CanAssist for help in 2010, she was already a highly accomplished athlete who had competed in wheelchair sports all over the world, including the 2004 Paralympics in Athens. Paracycling (the use of a three-wheel recumbent bicycle powered by one’s arms) was her sport of competition and CanAssist’s “Hand Cycle Modifications” allowed her to use a “sip-npuff” device to change gears rather than using her hands, which did not have adequate dexterity. Karen’s technology was delivered in 2011, after which she won a major race in Montreal and two Gold Cup medals at the UCI World Cup in Segovia, Spain in June 2011. “I will say it over and over – if not for the system CanAssist made for me, this would have never happened,” says Karen on the organizations website. Karen retired from competitive paracycling in 2012 after choosing not to compete in the London Paralympics. She still cycles and is active in the community, finding ways to “balance life” after the routines of high-level competition. SL For more information about CanAssist, including videos, client stories and listings of technologies currently available, as well as explanations of the association with University of Victoria and opportunities to donate, visit www.canassist.ca
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e’ve come a long way, baby, when it comes to mental illness (to use a dated but still relevant expression). In 2016, with extraordinary advances in knowledge and treatments regarding all types of mental illness, those affected can live normal, abundant lives despite their diagnosis. A local psychologist is keen to deliver the good news. Anyone meeting Dr. Eric Ochs takes to him immediately. His easy charm and sharp wit belie an analytical and astute professional behind the quick smile. A local psychologist, Dr. Ochs has over 10 years’ experience in providing expert mental health care to adults with anxiety disorders, depression and ADHD/ADD. According to the World Health Organization, “depression is the leading cause of disability worldwide, and is a major contributor to the overall global burden of disease.” Dr. Ochs concurs: “Depression is the most common mental health issue in the world today.” He specializes in Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT), an umbrella term for a range of treatments founded on the premise that what we think and believe influences our emotional life and how we behave. “A good deal of evidence has accrued over the years to show that using CBT interventions will change the progression of anxiety and depression. CBT was first developed to treat depression and was quickly shown to be much more effective than past attempts to manage it. Depression affects many aspects of physiology and cognition, and so perhaps not surprisingly, CBT, with its focus on both behavioural and cognitive intervention, has proven very effective at managing depression,” says the affable doctor. One by-product of our overloaded, multi-tasked, stressful lives is anxiety. Even with full-blown diagnosed disorders, Dr. Ochs has encouraging news: “Many anxiety conditions are getting easier to treat, either with medications, or Cognitive Behaviour Therapy (CBT) techniques, or both. We can talk about curing panic disorders and some specific phobias, and we can successfully manage many other anxiety conditions.” Obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD) was long thought to be intractable and untreatable, but modern therapies are giving people back their health and lives. “I have a particular interest in working with clients who experience obsessive compulsive disorder,” says Dr. Ochs. His message is hopeful: If a client is able 22 20
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to learn and implement techniques based on CBT, “a 50 per cent reduction of symptom intensity is expected to occur. This makes a huge difference in quality of life. In the past, less was known about the nature of OCD and how to treat it. These days, a number of paths to improved functioning are available to clients with OCD.” Our quality of life and sense of well-being can be affected by negative messages about ourselves and the world around us that play on a repetitive loop in our heads. The compelling feature of CBT is that it teaches people to change their way of thinking; one strategy is to question those subjective and biased judgments we conjure up in our minds. Everyone can benefit: “CBT techniques, such as questioning our own beliefs, are good tools anyone with or without any specific mental health condition can apply to improve their own lives. Our emotions tend to follow from what we believe is happening. Practising curiosity and exploring alternate explanations for events opens us up to many options in life. Flexibility in thinking and responding to events are the hallmarks of good health and are great coping mechanisms with difficulties and challenges.” As people age and experience losses in their lives, they can become more susceptible to depression and other mental health problems. “The best advice I’ve heard is: ‘use it or lose it.’ This means keeping physically active, mentally active, socially engaged, pursuing meaningful activity in life, and doing the best self-care that is feasible. Check out the world of positive psychology to see what psychological insights and methods might improve your quality of life.” In 2012, I attended the Together Against Stigma – Changing How We See Mental Illness conference in Ottawa, sponsored by the Mental Health Commission of Canada. We were all mesmerized by media legend Lloyd Robertson, who gave a poignant and raw account of his late mother’s battle with mental illness. Born a century ago, when treatment was non-existent, her story has no happy ending. Fast forward to the millennium and we are truly fortunate that modern state-of-the-art knowledge of and treatments for mental illness have transformed people’s lives, giving them hope for the first time. SL Doreen Marion Gee is a local award-winning writer, visual artist and social activist. She was a finalist in the 2012 Victoria Leadership Awards for her work in the community promoting respect and inclusion for people with mental illnesses.
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hen she was in her teens, Robin Nadig remembers her late father giving her advice about mutual funds. Those words stuck with her and she began investing after college. From there, Robin (pictured) began a career in which she could help others reach their own personal financial wealth. For her, though, personal wealth also means an investment in time spent volunteering, fundraising and giving back. Robin started her career in the financial industry when she was 25. By the time she was 40, and with a solid foundation, she took an opportunity to become a financial advisor with Global Securities. “When I started investing in my early twenties, I was interested in monthly contributions and paying myself,” she says. “That was my motto, at the time. It was a way to build assets 10, 20, and even 50 years down the road. She says that her advice to clients has remained virtually the same. The biggest difference she has noticed, over the years, is the demographics. In her practice, she is now helping more working and retired seniors. “I am finding as we accumulate assets, we have to now maximize the after-tax strategy and decide how we are going to leave our assets behind for our loved ones,” says Robin. It is important to think ahead about your final wishes, to whom you want your inheritances to go and where you would like to leave legacy dollars, she says. “Really, before you reach retirement, you should start strategizing. Maybe you don’t have children, so you want to pass on your legacy to charities. You want those left living to honour your wishes, so you need to have it in writing.” As an active volunteer, Robin walks the talk. She joined the Kiwanis Club in Port Alberni more than a decade ago. As a new 24 22
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member, she was required to bring her project ideas to the table and immediately drew upon her passion for cycling. Robin’s friend, Art Wynans, then in his seventies, had just completed a bike trip across Canada for a Kiwanis International iodine deficiency fundraiser and she was inspired to start something similar. She launched the Kiwanis Cycles Kilometres for Diabetes, a week-long cycling journey on Vancouver Island. As an offshoot, a more challenging event, Ride the Rim, developed the following year, with more experienced riders cycling from Port Alberni to Ucluelet. Over the 10-year duration of the events, Robin raised more than $100,000 and increased awareness for Type 2 diabetes. She gave presentations to about 5,000 students at schools across Vancouver Island, and left both teachers and students shocked by visuals and statistics about sugar consumption. Robin recently turned her passion to end-of-life support by becoming a hospice volunteer and investing her time by giving back. “One of my clients passed away at Ty Watson House and when I asked the family about the expenses, I realized it must be run by volunteers,” she says. Shortly after, Robin completed the required training at the Alberni Valley Hospice Society and now finds satisfaction providing hands-on support to patients and grieving families. She says she learned dying is a social event, not a medical event. “There is so much going on with families while someone is passing,” she says. “I know no two people grieve the same way.” Robin anticipates an active future in her personal and working life. By providing herself and her family with monthly contributions and by planning ahead, she intends to continue her daily cycling commute to work, her community involvement and having confidence knowing she is not only helping herself, but others in their individual and financial journeys. SL
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t doesn’t take great wealth to make an impact. While large donations that can merit a donor’s name on a hospital wing or school program are impressive – and, admittedly, extremely powerful – it is the modest generosity of most Canadians that quietly carries charitable giving forward in Canada. According to the most recent data available from Statistics Canada, the median gift in 2014 in Canada was $280 – that is, half gave more than $280, while the other half gave less than $280. All told, the value of charitable donations reported in 2014 amounted to a whopping $8.8 billion! The power of giving can be considerable, not only to the recipient or beneficiary but, indeed, to those who give as well. And, whether your means are modest or more substantial, you can create a meaningful legacy through careful and strategic charitable gift planning. This is where the support of a qualified professional – such as a lawyer, tax advisor, financial advisor or investment advisor – can play a critical role. Through a thoughtful process and dialogue, professionals can help you to articulate your goals for giving, shape a vision that is meaningful to you, and plan the best path forward – one that maximizes the impact of your philanthropy, as well as your net tax benefit.
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We all know we get a charitable donation tax credit on our donation of cash to a charity. However, advisors can provide guidance on the other methods you may wish to consider as part of your gift plans. For example, if you own appreciated publicly-listed stocks or mutual funds, you can donate them in-kind to a charity. Not only will you get the same charitable donation tax credit that you would get by donating cash, but you can also avoid paying capital gains tax on the appreciated value of those securities. While you can make these gifts at any time of the year, a majority of these gifts are made now, during the final months of the year, as it is the last opportunity in the year to take advantage of the charitable and tax-saving opportunities. Tina Tehranchian, CFP, CLU, CHFC, a senior financial planner at Assante Capital Management Ltd., explains: “The last months of the year are a good time to review your portfolio. While many investors methodically do tax loss harvesting at the end of the year to realize their capital losses, it is also a good opportunity to identify the stocks with a high level of capital gains that you intend to sell to rebalance your portfolio.
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Instead of selling these stocks and donating the cash proceeds to a charity, ask your favourite charity for a share transfer form. This will be the most tax smart method of donating to a charity.” As Tina notes, donating stocks in-kind is straightforward process: “All you need to do is contact your financial advisor or stock broker and ask him/her for a form that you need to sign to donate securities in-kind to your charity of choice. The charitable donation tax receipt will be issued based on the market value of the securities on the day they arrive in the charity’s brokerage account. Most charities will sell the stocks once the ownership has been transferred to them.” The expertise of professional advisors like Tina provide you with smart guidance that maximizes the impact of your giving. Their expertise is enhanced by voluntary involvement in organizations such as the Canadian Association of Gift Planners (CAGP), which sets them apart as experts with the knowledge and dedication that can guide individuals in some of the most important decisions they will make in their lifetime. I am always deeply honoured to share this incredibly personal journey with my donors; to hear their unique stories; and to help support them along their own philanthropic path. As an active member of the CAGP, I am fortunate to have a network of expertise to draw from on my donors’ behalf. This exceptional community connects, learns and supports strategic philanthropy, nationwide, to the benefit of everyone – from the member professionals, to our donors and, ultimately, to the beneficiaries. It all comes back to supporting Canadians to unleash their sometimes modest – but always mighty – capacity to make a difference. SL The CAGP GTA Chapter, BC Chapter and CAGP National Office offer education, resources and professional development opportunities on strategic charitable gift planning. For details and information, visit cagptoronto.org or leavealegacyvancouver.com or cagp-acpdp.org Tina Tehranchian is a financial advisor, educator, speaker and author, specializing in philanthropic tax planning. Sandra Dow is the Vice President of Philanthropic Giving with The Arthritis Society and Chair of the Canadian Association of Gift Planners, GTA Chapter.
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Relationships BY LYNNE WEST
The Second Time Around J
oan and Charlie Pickerel are part of a growing number of over-50 adults who made the difficult choice to leave long-term and unfulfilling marriages. But if leaving was so hard, what made them choose marriage the second time around? It’s impossible not to smile when you’re around Joan and Charlie. Joan rolls her eyes at Charlie’s terrible jokes, but then throws her head back and laughs, spurring him to spin out yet another dreadful groaner. Both are in their sixties. They are partners, friends, and very much in love. But like many things worthwhile, their happiness didn’t come easily. Divorce is difficult at any age. While it wreaks havoc on the bank account, the psyche, and summons judgment from others, the incidence of “silver” separations is steadily climbing. According to Statistics Canada, since 1981, the frequency of divorce involving couples over age 50 increased by 14 per cent. But if the potential repercussions of leaving a marriage are that devastating, why are so many silver citizens like Joan and Charlie checking out? According to Joan, once the kids moved out there wasn’t much left of the marriage. She and her ex had become different people, and without the distraction of raising children, she wasn’t able to ignore the sadness any longer. Charlie, on the other hand, jokes that it was an “interesting afternoon” the day he and his ex-wife filed for divorce. While
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the event seemed almost comical by the time it occurred, it followed years of an empty union that sent his former wife seeking solace in another man and him to the bottle. Attitudes toward divorce are shifting as indicated in the following quote from couple’s psychotherapist, Esther Perel: “If we used to divorce because we were unhappy, today we divorce because we could be happier. Divorce carried all the shame; today staying when you could leave is the new shame.” Victoria clinical counsellor Jeffrey Glenn agrees with these accounts. He believes the increase in silver separations is caused by a number of factors. Operating under old ideals that one or both partners no longer abides by is a large contributor. “If over that much time,” says Glen, “you think about the number of arguments that go unresolved, feelings that get repressed, resentments that get swept under the carpet, each one niggling at the foundation, the problems get to a point where they become unfixable.” If refusing to abide by old ideals is a big factor, then losing connection with one another is even more so. Glenn believes that after 30 or 40 years of marriage, many people lose that bond. They’ve forgotten the reasons they fell in love with their spouse, in the first place, and no longer do the work needed to know one another. They no longer ask: Who are you? What do you want? What pleases you? What are your priorities?” Another factor for silver divorce includes the Boomer gen-
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remain happy for having the courage to walk away from unfulfilling marriages and are grateful for finding one another in the long run. While they don’t offer relationship advice per se, their thoughts about remarriage success are simple: Deal with your own baggage first: Even though Joan and Charlie began a friendship at the end of her marriage, guilt plagued and conflicted, she was nowhere ready to enter a new relationship. She moved to Vancouver, sought counselling, and eventually returned to school where she obtained a life coach certificate. Charlie recalls the confident and attractive 55-yearold woman who returned to Victoria and how it motivated his courtship. Be friends: “Looks and lust are fleeting,” says Charlie. “Having common interests, values and respect for one another is what keeps people connected and attracted.” Be respectful: Sharing means more than offering your partner a cookie. It means contributing to the good and the bad. “We share chores,” says Charlie. “I iron, clean the floors and do the dishes.” Ask for help: Joan believes that women have difficulty asking for help without feeling guilty. She’s learned that that is what relationships are about, helping one another. One should never feel guilty about asking for that. Communicate: “And finally,” Joan says as she turns toward Charlie with a smile. “Communicate. We have no problem saying to one another, ‘that really pissed me off.’ Just say it, talk it out, get over it and move on from there.” SL
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Your Rights
Live Long... and Prosper Human Rights are Alive and Well!
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n this day and age, you would hope that people would know enough to treat each other with respect and dignity without the law having to intervene. By and large, this appears to be the case. However, to protect us when people don’t act properly, each jurisdiction has enacted legislation setting out the fundamental protections that each of us have from discrimination in various aspect of our lives; from renting an apartment to shopping in stores to getting and holding a job. In British Columbia, the legislation that sets out these protections is the BC Human Rights Code. The Code is a relatively comprehensive document that outlines our protections from discrimination in major aspects of our lives. One of the most important protections contained in the Code is the protection from being subject to discrimination because of our age. In my experience, most concerns with age-based discrimination occur because of increasing age; not because my client is too young to be allowed to do certain things. Two common complaints I hear are: When an employer starts to recruit and hire younger and less expensive talent; with more experienced and older employees being the first to be laid off or dismissed. Or, when an employer starts to press employees to retire as they near 65. While these two types of situation are somewhat common, they are examples of ageism, which is illegal. While many individuals relish the thought of retiring to spend more time with family (or drinking cocktails on a yacht!), mandatory retirement is a thing of the past. No one can force you to retire and you cannot be fired or forced to leave the workforce because of your age. Under Section 13 of the BC Human Rights Code, your employer cannot fire you, or discriminate against you in any way, because of a whole host of factors including your race, colour, ancestry, place of origin, political belief, religion, marital status, family status, physical or mental disability, gender, sexual orientation, age, or criminal or summary conviction offence unrelated to your employment. These categories are called “protected grounds.” Likewise, no one can deny you services, generally available to the public, because of your age (unless there is a reasonable and good faith reason why the service cannot be offered to people based on age, such as alcohol or tobacco sales). In my experience as a Human Rights and Employment lawyer, people in our society are become increasingly aware and respectful of their legal requirements not to discriminate. Many of us 32 30
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avoid discrimination simply because we stick to the “Golden Rule” and treat each other with dignity and respect. However, for those who do not always do so, the Code has a mechanism to enforce basic Human Rights. The Code protects you from discrimination. If you face negative treatment because of your age, you have recourse. You can made a complaint to the BC Human Rights Tribunal, which enforces the Code (www.bchrt.bc.ca). The Human Rights Code is more than lip service. The BC Human Rights Tribunal actively fields and adjudicates discrimination complaints on a regular basis in all facets of the lives of British Columbians. The Tribunal’s process is complaint-driven in that a case is opened only once an individual files a complaint and seeks recourse relating to alleged discrimination. The Code also only gives you six months from the date of discrimination to make a complaint to the BC Human Rights Tribunal and, once a complaint is made, the Tribunal has rules that facilitate the exchange of evidence and a fair adjudication of the complaint. When deciding a case, the Tribunal has wide powers to correct the discrimination including ordering that the discrimination stop, making the person whole for any financial losses suffered as a result of the discrimination, and awarding damages for the injury to one’s dignity that arises as a result of being discriminated against. I am pleased that increased media attention and social media have improved matters for many senior and experienced employees. The increased exposure has shed light on the potential liability that companies and individual face for engaging in racist, ageist or other discriminatory behaviour, which improves life for all of us. The Human Rights Code and the Tribunal exist for everyone. They provide a safety net to protect us against discrimination when others fail to act in accordance with basic decency and respect. The more that we all learn about our rights, the better we can prevent discrimination before it impacts our lives. Stay tuned for Part Two of my Human Rights series, when I discuss some steps you can take if you suspect you are facing ageism. SL For more information, visit the BC Human Rights Code website: (http://www.canlii.org/en/bc/laws/stat/rsbc-1996-c-210/latest/ rsbc-1996-c-210.html).
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Fashion
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he waved at me as her limousine sped past. I caught a Swarth. Canada’s own athleisure star, Lululemon sells a quiet glimpse of her in the backseat. I saw her white-gloved statement-maker, black and white legging, Nulux, for $138. hand. And it saw me! I am convinced of it. And, then, she If athleisure is about a comfortable life in leggings, and was gone. Our sovereign, our Queen, and Prince Phillip, too. jogging pants, how did we all get to be so sporty? “Long live the Queen,” I thought. I felt euphoric. “[Athleisure] is really the collision of two very longstandIt was 1983. The Queen was 57 then, as I will be next year. ing secular shifts in fashion,” says Drucker Mann. “First of I was wearing my best dress shorts accessorized with a baby all, the casualization of attire. Everything from velour track on my hip. My shorts were red cotton, gently worn, pleated, suits to ‘casual Fridays.’ And second, a longstanding demohigh-waisted, fly front, and purchased from the graphic shift of consumers towards a healthy, Salvation Army Thrift store. During our stumore active lifestyle.” With “secular shifts” and “collisions” dent days, my husband and I bought almost in mind, Vancouver can make some preteverything we owned there for a shekel or ty big claims. In the 1970s, it birthed two. Looking back, I wonder about that Greenpeace, and Greenpeace birthed a fashion choice. Shorts? Being seen by the global environmental movement. Queen in shorts? Begun as a backcountry gear Recently, Maclean’s magazine asked supplier for and by mountain climbfashion designers across Canada how they ers, the Mountain Equipment Co-op would dress the Duchess of Cambridge. I (MEC) attracted a hard-core outdoor secretly wondered how they would dress enthusiast tribe. Today, as consumme for my next chance encounter with the ers continue to adopt the athleisure Queen or the Duchess. trend (Morgan Stanley reports the “The latest buzzword in fashion is “athsize of this retail market in the US leisure,” one of those made-up terms that is to be $83B in sales by 2020), MEC so ridiculously nonsensical as to be perfectly descriptive,” says Eric Wilson, Fashion News is onside to profit. The climber, the Director of In Style magazine. commuter cyclist, the yoga practitio“Athleisure is about the melding of your ner, and the dog walker all happily life in the gym with your life on the street. meet under the MEC umbrella for their It’s about looking as stylish as you can climbing gear, cycling kits, marino wool while you are working out, but also t-shirts and yoga pants (leggings). bringing that love and passion for fitMEC’s product mix is “a blurring ness out as a badge of self-expression in of the lines between back country and your everyday life,” says Lindsay Drucker lifestyle,” says Andrew Sutherland, PR at Mann, Specialty & Athletic Apparel Senior MEC. Equity Research Analyst with Goldman As an example, MEC sells the Costantia Outfit: MEC Sachs Research. pant ($135) treated with Durable Water RepelVogue recently shared “The 5 Golden Rules lent (a tech innovation that Sutherland explains is of Athleisure: Is It Really Acceptable to Wear Yoga Pants All a key driver of the success of athleisure). Like a black skinny Day Long?” I took note of Golden Rule #5, “When in doubt, jean with pockets, rivets and a fly front, this pant can take stick to neutrals.” you from brunch on Granville Island to the top of the Grouse “I think if you’re in your 50s and 60s, it’s a bit of a risk to Grind. put yourself out there [in leggings] and wear something very I asked Sutherland if MEC could recommend what I might vibrant that makes a statement,” says Onzie designer Kimberly wear to greet the Queen or the Duchess. Leggings it is! SL 34 32
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STORY AND PHOTOS BY RICK & CHRIS MILLIKAN
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ur Elbe River cruise brims with new discoveries, beginning with three days in Berlin. Hop-on-hop-off buses introduce us to city highlights. Symbolizing a reunited democracy, the neo-classical Reichstag’s new glass dome provides public views of working legislators and panoramic downtown. The Tiergarten’s Victory Column commemorates an 1860s Prussian triumph. The Holocaust Memorial’s 2,711 stark concrete slabs grieve Jewish deaths. And replacing two 18thcentury customhouses, nearby Brandenburg Gate welcomes all. Other memorials inspire contemplation and hope. Bombdamaged, Kaiser Wilhelm Church emphasizes wars’ atrocities. An inner plaque recounts Nazi imprisonment and murder of its dissenting minister. Upbeat, vibrant graffiti covers remnants of the Berlin wall. Charlottenburg palace evokes Germany’s glorious beginning. King Frederick I’s equestrian statue fronts his queen’s large baroque residence. Inside, Charlotte’s music room displays the harpsichord she expertly played and a portrait of Leibnitz, her tutor. Such renowned intellectuals convened regularly in her sumptuous Ballroom. Several rooms reflect descendants’ lives, including grandson Frederick the Great. A scenic walk along River Spree includes Museum Island, where Berlin Cathedral towers above five neoclassical buildings. Four exhibit Egyptian, Babylonian, Assyrian and Greek art treasures. One museum, the German National Gallery, delights us with romantic period art: Wagnerian knights, damsels and dragons. Three sunny days later, a motorcoach carries our cruise group across the river Havel, former East German border, into Potsdam. There, stylish neighbourhoods recall Dutch and French immigrants of 1685, who helped transform this former walled garrison into a royal city. Nearby, Frederick the Great constructed a summer palace atop a 36 34
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terraced hillside. Bacchanal figures and grape clusters adorn goldenyellow walls. Below the central dome, the gilded French name Sans Souci means “without cares.” Excluding court responsibilities and women, this sanctuary provided joyful relaxation. Statues of Venus and Apollo flank the foyer’s entrance. Goddess Flora drops flowers from the painted sky ceiling. Gilded swirls accentuate dining room walls and panels picturing pastoral bliss. One portrait shows Frederick, a gifted musician, playing his flute with an orchestra. Another presents this military genius in modest uniform. In another neighbourhood stands Cecilienhof, the last palace built by German royalty and site of the post WWII Potsdam Conference. Red flowers forming a star amid the main courtyard recall the palace’s service as the Soviet’s East German headquarters. Along the peaceful Elbe, our riverboat “home” moors outside Wittenberg. After breakfast, we visit Martin Luther’s Augustinian monastery. Guide Marta escorts us through rooms he shared with other friars and later his family, students and supporters. Our walk continues to Town Church. “Luther preached sermons, married Katharina and baptized their six children here,” Marta reveals. “A local artist, Lucas Cranach painted that Last Supper… showing beer-loving friend Luther holding a mug.” At Wittenberg University, she mentions that Luther taught here… and earned his Doctor of Theology. Statues of fellow protestant Philip Melanchthon and Luther flank Town Hall. And at Castle Church, we behold the door upon which Luther nailed his revolutionary Ninety-five Theses. Back aboard the Astrild, costumed performers present medieval music and enact scenarios based on Luther’s life. Two destinations today! At Wörlitz, neo-classical palaces, replicated Roman ruins, synagogue and artificial volcano border an enormous manmade lake. Duke Leopold III created this park-like estate to teach architecture, gardening and agriculture.
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Our Torgau sojourn begins at a riverside monument celebrating the WWII meeting of Russian and American troops. Continuing into Hartenfel Castle, we see royal shields; resident brown bears frolic in the old moat. Passing Katharina’s childhood convent and town square, we investigate the church where Luther first preached in German. Though perfect for sightseeing, dry weather creates a shallow, unnavigable river requiring our transfer to another riverboat. In transit, we visit Meissen starting at its 1863 Porcelain Factory. Displayed prominently inside is red stoneware, precursor to fine porcelain. Artisans in workshops demonstrate the current use of clay molds and enamels introduced in the 1700s. Galleries exhibit arrays of stunning porcelain figurines, vases and tableware; a portrait acknowledges founder Augustus II. Albrechtsburg and gothic 13th-century Meissen Cathedral share a hilltop. “This castle originally enclosed the porcelain factory,” explains our guide. “Augustus imprisoned its inventor here as production manager.” Descending a cobbled roadway into the historic district, we find a church’s surprising porcelain carillon. Dresden Parade of Nobles
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Our new longship base, the Beyla moors along Dresden’s historic district. The crew welcomes us all aboard with Oktoberfest… complete with German beer, bratwurst, strudel and oompah-pah music. Our morning walking tour skirts the Elbe, passing the domed Academy of Art, Dresden Cathedral, Semper Opera House and into Augustus’ Zwinger Palace. His Green Vault contains one of Europe’s largest art collections. We marvel at inventive old clocks, elaborate ivory sculptures, crafted stone inlays and bejeweled creations. A magnificent 102-metre tile mural outside portrays 700 years of Saxon rulers, scientists, artisans, farmers and children. The Margrave of Meissen leads the Parade of Nobles. Augustus’ horse tramples the Luther Rose, signifying his Catholic conversion that was required to become Poland’s king. A huge Luther statue rises amid an enormous cobblestone square. In front of 18th-century Our Lady Church, pianists play jazzy melodies. Around the corner stands a yellow palace, “Augustus built that for Countess Cosel, one of his many mistresses,” grins our guide. “He fathered over 300 children.” At dinner, shipmates toast Augustus and Dresden, his resplendent baroque creation. Two morning excursions carry us through small villages and over rolling green hills into Saxon Switzerland. Our initial destination is 12th-century Königstein, a hilltop fortress so impregnable
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For the cut, I only took a few inches off Before the ends to clean it up and leave the length. Then, I added some bangs and rounded layers. Make-Up: My focus was to bring out more of the warm tones in Isabelle’s skin. I evened out her skin tone with a bb cream foundation to smooth any fine lines and even the colour. I put a brighter yellow tone under the eye to cancel out any dark circles. I used a gold on the eyelid to highlight and draw attention to her eyes. I went with a lavender at the top of the lash line and also black liner to darken the lash line. I used a rustic orange in the crease line. I chose the lavender, gold and rustic orange, specifically, to work with the deep red I added to her hair colour. Then I went with a light pink gloss to brighten the lips.” SL
What Hana did: Hair: “Isabelle has beautiful, long hair. To help smooth it out, I gave her a keratine straightening treatment (which lasts 4-6 months). It will keep her hair looking smooth even if she doesn’t style it. Next, I gave her an all-over colour about the same level as her natural, and added a small amount of red to warm it up.
INSPIRED Senior Living would like to thank Akai Hair Design & Esthetics for Isabelle’s new look. Specializing in colouring, precision haircutting and make-up application, Hana Akai is accepting new clients at her Victoria location. Call 250-383-3227 or visit www. akaihairdesign.com Thanks also to Phoenix Boutique, who supplied Isabelle’s outfit. For more information, visit www.seniorlivingmag.com/articles/make-over-nov16
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ongratulations to Isabelle Hayer, the first of three MakeOver contestants from the 55+ Lifestyle Show on September 22 in Vancouver. Isabelle is a wife, mother, grandmother, volunteer and mortgage broker with Dominion Lending Centres – A Better Way. “As a mom and grandmother, I have spent the majority of my life caring for my family and others in my life. It was so easy to lose track of my needs,” says Isabelle. “So, it was nice to do something for me, and something so completely out-of-the-box. As a result, the whole family benefits by having a happier mom.” After recently ungoing major abdominal surgery, Isabelle’s recovery period was longer than she expected and left her feeling incapacitated and emotionally drained. “This experience has lifted my spirit and has given me renewed energy,” she says. “I now feel more capable of returning to my previous work schedule with a renewed confidence that my clothes and look are comfortable and professional.” “From my first hair appointment with Hana, I knew I had made the right decision and that indeed it was going to be a memorable experience. Hana is outstanding, not only in her expertise in hair and makeup, but also in the thoughtful way she approaches her clients and truly listens to their needs.” “I also enjoyed and appreciated Lin of Phoenix Boutique who outfitted me with an excellent quality Canadian-made dress from Sympli. The dress they chose for me was very considerate of my current health and professional needs. It was a wonderful experience and I loved it so much that I bought the dress!” Although the 55+ Lifestyle Show took place on a weekday, Isabelle’s husband, Dave, son, Anthony, daughter-in-law, Sabrina, and grandbaby, Anabel, were able to see her in the fashion show. “I was so happy they could share in the experience. When I arrived home, my other children and their spouses came by after work to check out my new look. They were all so pleased with not only the look, but how great it made me feel.” “One of the most enjoyable parts of my life is the pleasure I have to be a proud grandmother (Mamé) to two brilliant grandbabies, Anabel and Stefan. Being with them makes me feel so young again. And with two more grandbabies on the way, I am sure the joy will only increase!”
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any organizations could never accomplish what they do without volunteers. I am involved in a research study with Volunteer Victoria about volunteering and how to ensure our volunteers are getting the best they can from their volunteering hours. Because many of my friends, acquaintances and readers spend a good number of hours volunteering, I put the word out and asked where they volunteer and why they do it. Here are some of the responses; see if they match yours or, perhaps, give you an idea of where and how you could be spending your volunteer hours. “I think I volunteered all of my life,” says Dianne. “My latest is with Sendial.” Linda, with an ever-growing list, offers her time to the Canadian Red Cross, La Leche League Canada, POWERtalk International and Softball BC. Carolyn credits her current position because she had a resume of over 30 years of volunteer “jobs”; beginning at age 14. “You must enjoy volunteering,” she says. “If you do, you get as much as you give and you know that it is a good fit.” And yet another amazing person, Lyn, volunteers at 1-up Single Parent Resource centre as a mentor, board member, lunch lady and member of the community relations team. If that is not enough, she is now training as a peer counsellor for
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Seniors Serving Seniors. Myrtle is very involved with CFUW, fundraising for scholarships for girls, locally, provincially and internationally. How about a tour guide BY PAT NICHOL for some of the historical places in your community? One friend, Anne, is a tour guide at Point Ellice House in Victoria. One more friend, Laurie, travelled a great distance on a volunteer project. Hers took her to a job site for three weeks in Tanzania. Other volunteer opportunities include hugging babies, reading to children and adults, delivering meals, and the list goes on. So, if you find yourself wondering what to do, and too many hours in the day to fill, do what these people do: get involved in your community. Watch your heart grow 10 times larger. SL
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Chemainus Theatre A Christmas Story: It’s a familiar yuletide tale: the allconsuming wish for one special gift. For Ralphie, that is an Official Red Ryder carbine-action BB gun. Follow the bespectacled tyke’s quest in this tale of decoder pins, furnace explosions, and more festive adventures. Based on the popular holiday film. See ad page 41. Victoria Operatic Society A Chorus Line – Broadway dancers auditioning for spots on a chorus line provide a glimpse into the events that shaped their lives and their decisions to become dancers. An unprecedented box office and Broadway hit with music by Marvin Hamlisch. Nov 25–Dec 4. See ad page 40. View Royal Casino You could win a brand new car in a reverse draw finale to be held December 17. Be the Last Player Standing! Play
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Thanks for family caregivers By Wendy Johnstone
“It was only a sunny smile, and little it cost in the giving, but like morning light it scattered the night and made the day worth living.” ~ F. Scott Fitzgerald
Whether it is a sunny voice on the end of the phone, clearing the sidewalk of snow, helping with bathing or holding someone’s hand at the end of life, family caregivers make a daily difference in the lives of those for whom they care. An unpaid role, it is one of the highest forms of philanthropy and a critical civic duty. Research shows caregivers provide an average of three hours per week in their role and, for almost 20 per cent of all caregivers, this commitment rises closer to 10 hours per week. Family caregivers provide upwards of 80 per cent of the care and support their care recipient needs. Yet, this contribution, provided by thousands of British Columbia’s family caregivers, goes largely unnoticed.
Family caregivers care for aging parents, adult and young children with disabilities, individuals with mental health issues or addictions, and friends and families with chronic, acute and terminal illnesses. Unpaid caregiving isn’t reserved for only family. Caregivers give support and care in many different ways, including brightening up someone’s day through conversation, activities and touch, managing medication and appointments, assisting with intimate personal care, providing emotional support, assisting with mobility, shopping and housework, and preparing meals. Caregiving can be very rewarding. Similar to volunteering or donating financially to a worthy organization, caregivers strongly believe in their cause
and willingly give the gift of time, care, and skills.
Many caregivers report feeling the bond with the person they are caring for has strengthened; gratitude for being able to help in a time of need; and, generally, being more present in life. However, saying “Yes” to caregiving means saying “No” to other important activities. Caregivers often report being unable to spend more time with other family members and friends; less time to enjoy meaningful leisure and social activities; increased feelings of stress and anxiety associated with their role; and many expressed simply not knowing or having the skills to care. As the caregiving role becomes more demanding with time and complexity, so does the risk of negative health issues, such as lack of sleep, decreased physical and mental well-being, feeling overwhelmed, and increased stress with time, work and family commitments. Family caregivers are giving time and often making sacrifices in their own lives to provide care. We, as a society, need to shift our thinking on how we place value on family caregivers.
Where to start? For one, if you know a caregiver, simply thank them for what they do. They may not hear it often enough. And if you are a caregiver, Family Caregivers of BC thanks you for your invaluable contributions to those who need it most.
If you need support, please reach out to us. We can be your sunny smile on the other end of the line.
Wendy Johnstone is a Gerontologist and a consultant with Family Caregivers of British Columbia in Victoria, BC. Visit www.familycaregiversbc.ca or call 250-384-0408 for more information.
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eight training can promise much more than strong muscles – it can strengthen bones as well. Osteoporosis is a gradual deterioration of bone, leading to brittle, porous bones that are easily fractured. Dietary calcium and regular physical activity will ensure bone mineral density. Research shows activities most effective in increasing bone mass involve intense muscular contractions. Weight lifting is more effective than weight bearing (your body weight) activities, possibly because lifting a weight supplies more direct stimulation in loads our muscles aren’t used to. Walking (a weight-bearing activity) is something many of us do during the day. But unless you challenge yourself (walk faster, or uphill) you won’t produce much response in your bones. When you lift a weight, the compressive forces will combine with the contraction of the muscle. This seems to stimulate bone formation in the bones that directly receive the mechanical strain. That’s why tennis players have denser bones in the racquet arm, than in the inactive arm. Studies on bodybuilders or recreational weight trainers find these athletes have thicker, stronger bones than other types of athletes. For an effective, time-efficient weight training workout, stick with the basic structural exercises. A structural exercise is one motion that uses several joints and large muscle groups. Some examples are the squat for the entire lower body, the
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bench press (or push-up) for the chest, triceps and front of the shoulders, and chin-ups (or any pulling or rowing motion) for the back, biceps and back of shoulders. Using free weights, as opposed to machines, can provide even greater improvement in bone density. Weight machines eliminate gravitational forces, cutting down the extra work of balancing the weights. Training just two to three times a week is adequate to ensure bone mineral density. A properly designed program need only take 15 to 20 minutes. Weight training does have its risks, so learn the proper technique for the exercises. Training with weights shows a great effect on bone density. However, studies also reveal that the strongest and densest bones belong to those who participate in a balanced fitness program of both aerobic activities (like running, walking or cycling) and strength training. Participate in a variety of activities (cross training) and supplement them with a few weight training exercises, like the structural exercises mentioned above. At age 20, our ability to build bone decreases. By our midthirties, we slowly start to lose bone. But no matter what your age, it’s never too late to get physical in maintaining a healthy skeleton. SL Eve Lees is a Certified Nutrition Coach, a Health Writer & Speaker, and a former Personal Trainer with over 30 years experience in the health/fitness industry. www.artnews-healthnews.com
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