May 2010 Senior Living Magazine Island Edition by INSPIRED 55+ Lifestyle Magazine

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WHY GIVE?

Celebrating Donors and Doers

Stunt woman turned artist is living her dream

an exceptional moment, among friends. Carlton House of Oak Bay is one of Canada’s most sought after senior’s residences, designed for the total enjoyment of our residents. Among the highlights are inviting gathering places such as our bistro, lounge and conservatory — great spaces in which to share wonderful moments with fellow residents and friends. Learn more about an exceptional life at Carlton House. All-inclusive suites are available from $2495 a month. Call Seona Stephen today at 250-595-1914 www.carltonhouse.ca AN EXCEPTIONAL LIFE

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(Vancouver Island) is published by Stratis Publishing. Publisher Barbara Risto Editor Bobbie Jo Reid

editor@seniorlivingmag.com Contributors Norman K. Archer, Goldie Carlow, Brent Cassie, Jane Cassie, Judee Fong, Gipp Forster, Moira Gardener, Valerie Green, Martina Goodship, Pat Nichol, Robert L. Ramsay, Bobbie Jo Reid, Michael Rice, Barbara Risto, Rosalind Scott, Vernice Shostal, Barbara Small Copy Editor Allyson Mantle Proofreader Holly Bowen Advertising Manager

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4 Our Readers Most Likely to...

50+ Canadians lead the way in helping others.

9 Selﬂess Givers

Giving runs in the family.

11 Why Give?

Everyone has their reasons; what are yours?

14 Types of Charitable Gifts

Creative (and beneﬁcial) ways to donate.

Ann Lester 250-390-1805 Mathieu Powell 250-589-7801 Barry Risto 250-479-4705

16 Stride to Turn the Tide

Contact Information – Head Ofﬁce

Comox artist Judi Pedder.

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Getting active to make a difference.

DEPARTMENTS 19 BBB Scam Alert 38 Classiﬁeds

COLUMNS 3 The Family Caregiver by Barbara Small

20 Victoria’s Past Revisited by Norman Archer

22 Connecting with Nature

43 Ask Goldie

26 Hooked on Books

44 Bygone Treasures

Award-winning author Eric Wilson.

28 Scenic Seattle

Exploring the city above and below ground.

31 Brush, Ink and Rice Paper

Goward House dabbles in traditional art form.

34 Living Her Dream

Stunt woman turned artist Dawn Stofer.

39 Reframing Retirement

Exploring and pursuing long-held passions.

46 Changing Direction

by Goldie Carlow by Michael Rice

45 Outrageous & Courageous by Pat Nichol

48 Reﬂections: Then & Now by Gipp Forster

Cover Photo: Donors Jeanette Funke-Furber and Robert Furber in their garden. Story page 11. Photo: Roy Ferguson

Attempting to live life differently.

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THE FAMILY CAREGIVER

Remembering to Play

Vince views play as a lifestyle choice rather than simply a series of activities. It means creating a more open life with a “Yes, and” attitude (open to possibilities) rather than creating blocks with a “Yes, but” attitude (excuses and limitations). It involves being flexible and receptive to what life brings. Many people were raised to live life the “the right way” - work hard, live by a lot of shoulds and musts and use the logical side of their brain only. We stop being spontaneous, lose our creativity and don’t trust our intuition when making choices or decisions. Family caregivers are used to putting everyone else first and getting lost in the demands of caregiving. Then they burn out. Remembering to play gives caregivers an opportunity to refill their cup on a regular basis. Bringing more joy and lightness into the caregiving situation has a positive impact on both the caregiver and the person receiving care. There are proven physiological benefits to play and laughter, such as stress reduction, lowered blood pressure, a boosted immune system and improved brain function. Vince encourages family caregivers to ask themselves the following questions:

aregiving is both emotionally and physically demanding. Caregivers typically ignore their own needs and focus their attention and energy on the care recipient. They let go of activities, hobbies and interests that are joyful and energizing for them. Even spending time with friends can be forgotten. This unbalance can lead to burnout and impacts the amount and quality of care that the caregiver can provide. To avoid this, it is essential for family caregivers to remember to take time for themselves, to have fun and remember to play. Life Coach Vince Gowmon’s “work” is to help others bring more play, lightness and joy into their lives. On May 14th in Victoria, Vince will facilitate an interactive workshop that focuses on play, creativity and self-care to help the Family Caregivers’ Network celebrate Family Caregivers Week in B.C., May 8-14. Vince helps family caregivers recognize how play is a cornerstone to effective caregiving because it reminds caregivers to embrace self-care and levity. Play can help enhance the relationship between the caregiver and the care recipient when time is taken to initiate fun activities, respond in a more playful way and change up the “usual routine.”

BY BARBARA SMALL

Where might you initiate more joy and playfulness in your life and when caregiving? What is it you love to do, but don’t make time for anymore? What energizes you? When the person you are caring for becomes playful or joking, do you play along? Can you see some of the humour in your situation? How might you do things differently, if you saw your care recipient as a creative and resourceful person and you began “caring with” them rather than “caring for” them? So laugh, have more fun and remember playing isn’t just for kids. If you want to join Vince on May 14th, call the Family Caregivers’ Network Society at 250-384-0408 or visit www.familycareSL giversnetwork.org Next month: Travel Tips for Family Caregivers Barbara Small is Program Development Coordinator for Family Caregivers’ Network Society.

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Our Readers Are Among Those Most Likely To Give BY BARBARA RISTO, PUBLISHER

ccording to a report released by Statistics Canada, those who give the most are more likely to be older. They volunteer more hours per person than any other age group, and the majority of those who volunteered said they responded because of an advertisement they read. Throughout the years of publishing Senior Living, we’ve come to understand these statistics first hand. As we’ve written about the lives and achievements of older people, it is more common than not to discover that these

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people are strongly connected to their communities and exhibit a deep desire to help others in some fashion. It is for this reason that our May magazine contains a “planned giving” editorial feature and an invitation from a number of charities to consider them as worthy candidates for your charitable dollars. As government tightens the purse strings, private citizens have become the lifeblood of many non-profit organizations. Their continued contributions are keeping the doors of many charities open, and ensuring important causes continue to move forward. Some have thoughtfully included their favourite cause as a beneficiary in their will or estate plan. In doing so, they will continue to make a difference in the lives of those that follow. This has come to be known as “leaving a legacy.” These legacies ensure research continues in the effort to eradicate diseases, buildings continue to be built to house the impoverished, stray and unwanted animals continue to be fed and adopted, kids from low-income families continue to go to camp – and the list goes on. What particular cause pulls at your heartstrings? This month, take some time to find out how you can make a difference, not just today but ongoing. Here are more of the findings discovered by Statistics Canada: Those who give the most are more likely than others to be older. Although donors with higher household incomes tend to donate larger amounts in absolute terms, those with lower incomes give more when their donations are expressed as a percentage of total income. The most frequently reported motivations for making donations were feeling compassion for those in need, wanting to help a cause in which the donor personally believes, and wanting to make a contribution to the community. Donors also give because they or someone they know has been personally affected by the cause of the organization or because of religious beliefs. The reasons most frequently reported for volunteering were to make a contribution to the community, to use skills and experiences, and having been personally affected by the cause the organization supports. Other reasons, reported by close to half of the volunteers, were to explore strengths, to network with or meet people, or because friends volunteered. Volunteers also identified a number of benefits that they received from their activities. The most common benefits were the development of interpersonal skills, communications skills and organizational or managerial skills.

The future of Knowledge is in your hands. Ensure insightful, inspiring, commercial-free programming continues in BC for future generations. For more information contact: Donna Robinson 604.431.3136 Toll Free 1.877.456.6988 plannedgiving@knowledge.ca

Your willingness builds for the future. Through the giving of World Vision friends like you, we can improve the well being of children for generations to come. Planning your will can be practical and emotionally gratifying through your giving of: Bequests, Gifts of securities, Gift of Life insurance For more information, please contact Paulette Kinmond 1-800-714-3280 ext 3650 Email plannedgiving@worldvision.ca or visit us online at www.worldvision.ca/plannedgiving MAY 2010 2010 MAY

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Generally, the likelihood of giving tends to increase with age, with the donation rate rising from a low of 71 per cent for 15 to 24 year olds to highs of 89 per cent for those 45 to 54 and 88 per cent for those 55 and over. A similar pattern exists for average donations, which were lowest among 15 to 24 year olds ($142) and peaked at $611 for those over 65. Canada’s top donors – the 25 per cent who donated at least $364 and accounted for 82 per cent of all donated dollars – are an essential source of revenue for many charitable and nonprofit organizations. These donors tend to be older, to have higher household incomes, and to have more formal education. They also are more likely to be employed, widowed, and to attend religious services on a weekly basis. The likelihood of being a top donor increases with age. For example, 31 per cent of those who are over 65 were in the top donor category, compared to only 6 per cent of 15 to 24 year olds. The 65 and older top donor group made up only 5 per cent of the total population but contributed 20 per cent of the total value of all donations.

There are a number of personal and economic characteristics that distinguish those individuals who are most likely to volunteer and who volunteer the greatest number of hours from others. Higher levels of volunteering are associated with increased age, higher levels of education and household income, being

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save the life of a child 20 years or more from now. But that’s what happens when you include BC Children’s Hospital Foundation in you estate plans. When you leave a gift in your will to BC Children’s Hospital you can help build a brighter, healthier tomorrow for all children – shaping the future of pediatric health care for generations to come. For more information or to let us know you have made a gift through your estate, please call the Gift and Estate Planning team at 1-888-663-3033 or email at plannedgivinginfo@bcchf.ca.

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Since 1973, the Canadian Section of Amnesty International has promoted and protected human rights at home and abroad, through ongoing campaigning, outreach and education programs. By remembering Amnesty International in your will and estate planning, you will be helping to build a future where the fundamental dignity of every person is respected worldwide. For information and assistance, contact: Heather Warren, Gift Planning Associate (613) 744-7667 ext. 239 hwarren@amnesty.ca www.amnesty.ca/plannedgiving 1-800-AMNESTY Charitable Reg. No. 11878 5914 RR 0001

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employed and having children in the household. Generally speaking, the likelihood of volunteering decreases with age while the number of hours volunteered increases. Fifty-eight per cent of 15 to 24 year olds volunteered, compared to 36 per cent of those 65 and over. However, those 65 and over volunteered an average of 218 hours while 15 to 24 year olds volunteered an average of only 138 hours. Just under half of volunteers (45 per cent) said they approached an organization on their own initiative to become involved as a volunteer, while 48 per cent were asked to volunteer by someone. Those who approached the organization on their own learned about the volunteer opportunity in a variety of ways – 14 per cent said they became involved because they responded to an advertisement such as a poster or in a newspaper, three per cent responded to a public appeal on TV or radio, 3 per cent learned about it on the Internet, and two per cent were referred by another agency. To obtain more information, visit www.statcan.gc.ca

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Leave your mark for future generations. A planned gift to the University of Victoria can create many bright futures. Just ask Alex Kearney, a fourth year student majoring in electrical engineering. Thanks to an estateestablished bursary, Alex has the means to pursue his passion. Your generosity will help ensure that future generations of talented students like Alex receive a quality education. You can establish a fund in your name, or the name of a loved one, to support any university program you wish. Planned gifts are forever.

Find out how you can create a lasting legacy in your will or estate plan by contacting Natasha Benn, Planned Giving Development Oﬃcer at 250-721-6001 or by e-mail at nbenn@uvic.ca

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“This award has signiﬁcantly impacted my university life and allowed me to focus on my studies. The generosity of this planned gift has allowed me to succeed in obtaining my degree.”

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orn in Saskatchewan and raised on Salt Spring Island, lifetime volunteers Sannee McFarlane and her sister, the late Audrey Tappin, both honoured by Pearson United World College in 2009, learned the importance of giving from their mother. “I remember mother sending me to return a cup of sugar,” says Sannee, “only it was more than a cup and I asked her why? She said, ‘If you borrow something, you must always return double, or you can never borrow again,’ and it just stayed with me. As a family, we automatically did things for people.” “Audrey’s first job was for a plumbing and electrical outfit – keeping their books,” says Sannee. “Then she moved to Victoria to work for a paint company.” Following her husband wherever his employment led, Audrey worked as a purchasing agent and payroll clerk in Vancouver and an accountant with a television station in Thompson, Manitoba, where she also hosted her own talk show.” Back in Victoria, after retirement, Make an inspired gift for future generations

Audrey canvassed for several charitable organizations and was a dedicated volunteer with Pacific Opera and Musica Victoria. In 1994, Audrey joined the Zonta Club of Victoria, part of an international service organization focused on advancing the status of women worldwide. The same year, a Zonta endowed scholarship, funded by 22 clubs in Alaska, the states of the Pacific Northwest and British Columbia, was initiated to sponsor a young woman from Central or Eastern Europe to attend Pearson College. The college, one of 13 United World Colleges, aims to promote understanding between nations through education and interaction between young people from different cultures living and working together. Audrey fell in love with the concept. She greeted students at the airport when they arrived to begin their school year, hosted them in her home during school breaks and collected gifts and funds sent in by the other clubs to present to the students. “Audrey had a quiet passion,” says

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current Zonta Victoria Club President Sue Morgan. “She loved birdwatching and music and she enjoyed the students at Pearson because, through them, she had a sense that the world was going to be a better place.” When Audrey passed away in 2008, she left her entire estate to the Pearson Endowment Fund. A California Oak tree, planted on the campus grounds, honours her contribution. Also a selfless giver, Sannee, busy with minor hockey, baseball and centennial committees when her children were young, took on new duties when her family grew up. She spent many volunteer hours working for the Heart and Stroke Foundation, the Victoria Citizenship Council and, for six years, prepared hot dinners for the cast and crew at Pacific Opera rehearsals. For two decades, Sannee organized the door-to-door Red Shield campaign and currently organizes club volunteers for a day of ringing a Salvation Army kettle bell. Mother, grandmother and great-grandmother, every December Sannee organizes a working bee to fill approximately 100 diddy bags, Christmas stockings she makes with the help of her son and granddaughter. The stockings for men and women are filled with toiletries donated by Zonta club members and destined for various transition houses: Our Place, Cool Aid, St. John the Divine Church and others. Twice a year, she organizes a bridge tea and bake sale at St. Matthias Church to raise funds for the club. Active all her life, Sannee still finds time to play bridge and scrabble and enjoys travelling. Her most recent excursion to Egypt and Jordan was an “incredible” experience. Current Zonta International District Eight chair of the Pearson project, Sannee has worked selflessly to support the college. Like her sister before her, Sannee hosts students during school breaks. She takes time to tote gifts to the students on special occasions and acts as a liaison between the college and the clubs of the Pacific Northwest. Last year, much to Sannee’s surprise, Pearson recognized her generosity and dedication to the students by presenting her with a yak wool scarf and naming her a patron of the college. For information about the Zonta Club of Victoria, visit www. SL zontavictoria.org

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Why Give? BY BOBBIE JO REID

hen disaster strikes in the global community and need is imminent, digging deep to help those in peril comes naturally for most. But when the need is ongoing, it takes a little more commitment and planning to help fellow humans, at-risk animals or the planet. Help comes in the form of time and money, and the number of charitable organizations in need of both seems infinite. Canada has over 80,000 registered charities. So, how do Canadians decide where to spend their time and money? Primarily it comes down to a personal decision about values. What touches their heart? What matters to them? And what makes the greatest impact? Ted Yeates, a member of the Board of Directors for Big Brothers Big Sisters of Victoria for the past six years, gives both his time and money to an organization he believes makes

a difference in the lives of children and their families. In 1986, while still living and working in Toronto, Ted, then a single father, found himself with some free time after his son left home for university. He decided to fill that time by volunteering. With parental experience under his belt, he thought Big Brothers would be a good avenue – and one in which he could see the results. “Through my involvement as a Big Brother, I saw firsthand the good work that can be done,” says Ted. “I believe in the cause. I saw the difference I made in my little brother’s life.” Though he only intended to commit for one year, Ted and his little brother were together for six, until Ted relocated to Victoria, when his little brother was 16. Once in Victoria, Ted was busy building a new business and time restrictions prevented him from volunteering. He remained involved with Big Brothers and other not-for-

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Give the gift of care, comfort, dignity, independence and respect. Your donations enable us to fund community programs and education for seniors and their caregivers; purchase specialized equipment; upgrade care facilities with home-like enhancements; fund valuable research to improve the way the elderly are cared for; and protect the respect our elders deserve. Your legacy will help us enhance quality of life for the elderly for generations to come.

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Ron Cantelon MLA Parksville–Qualicum Office: 100 East Jensen Ave. Parksville, BC, V9P 2G9 Phone: (250) 951–6018

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profit organizations by offering his resources instead. “These organizations can’t function without finances,” says Ted. “It’s always amazed me that the not-for-profit sector doesn’t get more recognition for what they do. Millions of man-hours go into this sector; the payback is the difference they make in the community.” Ted and his little brother, who now has a family of his own, continue their friendship. Ted visits them whenever he returns to Toronto. “I can look back on my own life and there were several male figures who made a difference,” says Ted. “Children should not grow up without mentors. I know it makes a difference. I’ve seen it.” Jeanette Funke-Furber and Robert Furber are long-time supporters of the Eldercare Foundation. Part of their contribution to the organization includes an Education Legacy Fund, which they contribute to annually and have included in their will. “The impact of education can be great,” says Jeanette. “When one or two people learn, they can teach others. You get a lot of bang for your buck.” When the Furbers moved to Victoria in 1985, Jeanette became the Assistant Executive Director of the Health Care Service of the Juan de Fuca Hospitals and Adjunct Professor at the University of Victoria’s School of Nursing. She retired from health care administration in 2000. Involved in care of the elderly since 1980, Jeanette has been affiliated with the Greater Victoria Eldercare Foundation since 1985 through her work with the Juan de Fuca Hospitals.

Planned Giving Left, Ted Yeates with his now-grown little brother. Right, Robert Furber and Jeanette Funke-Furber.

“I’ve been lucky,” says Jeanette. “People have helped me out in my past and now it’s my turn to pay it back.” Her keen interest in supporting and caring for the elderly prompted her to become an individual member of the Foundation in June 1999, and she was elected to serve on its volunteer Board of Directors the same year. Board President of the Foundation for two years commencing in July 2001, Jeanette also served on many Foundation committees over the years and continues to be an active member and supporter. “I believe that unless caregivers stay up to date with knowledge, they can’t provide the best care,” says Jeanette. “I couldn’t have done what I did in my life without education. I wouldn’t have known what quality care was. Knowledge is constantly changing. And, of course, mangement and staff working with seniors must keep up to date with the changes in order to enhance care.”

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Giving time and money comes down to an individual decision. But whether the decision is prompted by a lifechanging event or a lifetime committed to one goal, its impact can be felt on an individual, community and even global level. And as demonstrated by these donors, the reSL cipients aren’t the only one to feel its rewards.

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The VICTORIA COMMUNITY LIVING FOUNDATION is inspired by the vision of a community in which people with developmental disabilities have the supports they need to lead active and rewarding lives, both now and in the future. DEVELOPMENTAL DISABILITIES ARE LIFELONG CHALLENGES. That’s why we encourage you to consider planned giving. Planned gifts can include bequests, annuities, residual interest gifts, charitable remainder trusts and other choices designed to serve our donors, the foundation and its beneﬁciaries. For more information about planned gifts please contact Ellen Tarshis at 250-477-7231 (local 226)

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Types of Charitable Gifts M any people don’t realize donating to charity can take other forms than simply giving a lump sum or monthly contributions. Publicly Listed Securities – stocks, bonds, mutual fund units, employee stock option shares; Benefits to donor – no capital gains tax. See gift at work today. Life Insurance Policy – whole life or term policy naming charity as owner or irrevocable beneficiary; Donor gets receipt for cash value and future premiums paid – a small current outlay leveraged into a larger future gift. Interest-free Loan – Provides charity

with capital for building or investing. Donor can recover principal, interest not taxable to donor.

Bequest of Retirement Plan Accumulations – RRSPs /RRIFs – Donor provides a possible future gift while preserving personal security, receipt offsets tax on distribution of retirement funds. Bequest by Will – cash securities, real estate, tangible personal property; Donor can give a future gift while retaining full control of property, receives donation receipt with final income tax return; No capital gain tax for listed securities – for other property, 50 per cent of capital gain will be taxable but can be offset by tax credit from charity.

Shares in a Privately Owned Corporation – shares may pay dividends, charity can sell or hold shares; Donor is receipted for appraised market value at time of gift, issued immediately if gift is to a public charity. If gift is made to a public foundation, the donor is receipted when foundation sells the shares. Real Estate – principle residence, vacation properties, or investment properties; Donors receipted for fair market value, 50 per cent of gain is taxable unless property is donor’s primary residence, then no taxable capital gain. Tax offset by tax credit from charity. Tangible Property – artwork, furniture, equipment, collections, automobiles, musi-

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cal instruments, artifacts, certified historic structures; Donor is receipted for fair market value, 50 per cent of gain is taxable but offset by tax credit from donation. Charitable Remainder Trust – cash, securities and real estate; Donor receives net income from property for life or a term of years; may be receipted for present value of the remainder interest issued at time trust is established; Property is not subject to probate. Residual Interest in Real Estate or Artwork – principle residence, other real estate, artwork; Donor is able to continue using property for life or term of years, can receive a receipt for present value of residual interest issued at time of gift. Donor avoids tax on a portion of capital gain if they retain life interest. Property is not subject to probate. Annuity (self-insured or reinsured) – cash or marketable securities; Charity receives whatever principal remains after making required payments or that portion of the contribution that is retained after purchasing commercial annuity; Donor is guaranteed life payments, all or substantially tax-free, can be receipted SL for a portion of contribution. ��

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as Beatrice, comes from a long line of Victoria residents on both sides of her family. Her paternal grandparents came from Manitoba in 1911 to farm daffodils and fruit. Her grandfather built the house in which Joan and her husband live. “I went to school here, I started university here, I did my undergraduate work here,” says Joan, who got her master’s degree at the University of Toronto. She spent most of her career years in the Lower Mainland. Joan got involved with Grandmothers to Grandmothers in 2005 when she heard Stephen Lewis speak at the Mary Winspear Centre in Sidney. “He gave a typically rousing speech for assistance to African Grandmothers raising their HIV/AIDS orphaned grandchildren.” A few women from the Victoria Grandmothers, a group of about 170 women, were there, and Joan signed up. Joan likes to walk the trails in Gordon Head and Saanich. She also likes

to garden on their two acres of the family’s original 10. Assisting those who are less privileged is a good fit for her. According to the Grandmothers “Stride to Turn the Tide” against AIDS campaign, Africa has become a continent of orphans. The money raised from the walk (1K, 2K, 5K, or 10K) will help African grandmothers achieve greater access to health care, nutritious food, emotional support and education, “their passport to getting out of poverty,” says Merron. All walks in Victoria start and end at Centennial Square. People of all ages are asked to donate and/or sign up to walk with the Grandmothers on June 12 and 13. To join the Grandmothers walk, call Audrey at 250-382-2935. For more information about the Grandmothers Campaign, visit www.grandmotherSL scampaign.org

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the world of commerce was a failure and he lost heavily. He had joined the local militia as a gunner when he first arrived in Victoria and it took him six years to make corporal. Then, he was offered a commission that would have enhanced his social position considerably, but he soon discovered that to receive a commission was an expensive proposition. Furthermore, he was engaged to Lucy Chaworth-Musters and the paltry salary of a teacher would by no means achieve his goals. At first, it seemed that the financial world was going to suit him well and he rose to become provincial manager of the National Life Assurance Company. At the same time, he continued to shine in his position as a part-time militia officer, and became a superb marksman and military tactician. He was promoted to captain in 1902 and then to major four years later, at the age of 31. Along with his military promotions were his increasingly risky business ventures and land speculations. In September 1909, he had risen to the rank of lieutenant-colonel, but four years later, Victoria’s real estate boom collapsed, leaving Currie holding worthless property and heavily in debt. Facing inevitable bankruptcy and disgrace, he yielded to temptation and misappropriated over $10,000 of military funds to pay his debts. When the war broke out in Europe in 1914, Currie was promoted to the rank of brigadier-general through the influence of powerful political friends and was sent overseas with the Canadian Expeditionary Force. His financial indiscretions were unfortunately discovered and reported to Prime Minister Robert Borden. But in view of the impending world conflagration, Borden chose to keep quiet. The Canadians soon found themselves in the thick of the

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fighting and Currie quickly saw that the traditional tactics of warfare were ineffective. He was particularly appalled by the catastrophic “over-the-top” method of trench warfare, where wave after wave of soldiers were led out of the trenches and flung right into the face of enemy machine guns. Currie threw away the textbooks and spontaneously developed saner and better ways to deal with the enemy. His methods, though unorthodox for the time, were effective. However, it wasn’t long before Currie found himself out of favour with his colleagues in the other Allied armies for abandoning the traditional methods of warfare they all espoused. Then came Vimy. The Allied Supreme Commander Marshal Ferdinand Foch reluctantly had to give Currie credit for his successes where others had failed. Fortunately, the British General Byng, now Currie’s immediate superior, shared Currie’s opinions and both agreed that the secret of success would be in carefully planned tactics. Currie spent countless hours analyzing the situation and then gave a series of lectures to his officers on how the battle could be won. Soldiers began their training immediately along the lines of Currie’s new strategies. It was a wearying procedure, covering every possible angle from unique ways to walk to the laying of water pipes, railway tracks, plank roads and buried telephone lines that could not easily be severed by the enemy. At 5:30 a.m. on Easter Monday, April 9, 1917, all was ready and Currie went into action. Thirty thousand Canadian soldiers climbed out of the trenches into a blinding snowstorm. Three days later, Canadian soldiers stood on the top of Vimy Ridge, having won a resounding victory. In spite of all Currie’s careful planning, there was still a terrible toll paid. Almost 4,000 men lost their lives in those

few short days, but it was a far smaller price than had been paid by the abortive attempts of other Allied troops who had tried before. Sadly, it achieved little in the progress of the war because the British and the French contingents on either side of the Canadians, still relying on the old tactics, were driven back. However, Vimy was an enormous boost to Canadian morale. To honour the man who had been primarily responsible for achieving the first major Allied victory in WWI, King George V knighted Sir Arthur Currie. He also received the highest military awards from both the French and Belgian governments. The British Prime Minister David Lloyd George was heard to remark that he wished Currie were the Supreme Allied Commander in Europe because then the war would soon be over. Currie’s financial indiscretions continued to haunt his conscience for the rest of his life, in spite of the fact that his friends came to his rescue and made good the money he had fraudulently taken. While greatly admired, he was never a warm man, dubbed “old guts and gaiters.” He died at the young age of 58, heralded as “Canada’s greatest general of all time.” To his generation, he was a man who gave Canada a sense of national pride and unity. SL

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did that in my early days and often found myself dismantling the frame so that I could make some changes. Now I take a finished work upstairs and live with it for a while. Quite often, I see a way to improve it. I value comments from other painters, too. Often, an artist can have a blind spot to her own work, but a visiting artist will notice something immediately, and I’m always grateful when they make suggestions.” Since moving to the Comox Valley in 2006, Judi has shown her work in many exhibitions sponsored by the Federation of Canadian Artists and the Nanaimo Arts Council. Her next solo show will be at Comox’s Filberg Lodge on May 15 and 16, 2010. She has taught workshops in watercolour painting at art galleries in the valley and surrounding areas. She also offers instruction in her studio, and sometimes has as many as 10 students sitting at the tables, her own paintings lining the walls as inspiration. When not painting or tending to her home and garden, Judi and her husband Jim enjoy Scottish Country Dancing. “We met in 1994 while ballroom dancing,” she says, “and while he doesn’t know a lot about art, he is very supportive.” Judi also finds time, usually in the evenings after dinner, to knit blankets for Project Linus (see sidebar). Currently she is working on her 59th blanket, and a recent article she wrote for the Comox Valley Echo resulted in several more people signing up to become Blanketeers. “I may not be able to give large cash donations to charities,” says Judi, “but knitting these blankets is something I can do to give comfort to children on Vancouver Island who are having to meet some of life’s more difficult challenges, just as I had to do when I was a little girl.” Judi’s upcoming shows are listed on her website: www.judipedder.com or she may be contacted at her studio in SL Comox 250-339-7081.

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er, would incorporate Canadian history, geography and cultural values. “In other words, I turned my books into my classroom,” says Eric. “These are all values and things I had talked to my students about and it had an effect on them, but I thought if I put this sort of thing in books, I would reach a much wider audience.” Eric began reaching his audience by writing mysteries, “Which require huge amounts of learning and preparation,” he says. “Not only do you have the villain and the clues leading to the villain, you’ve also got your red herrings because you want to trick the reader into looking the wrong way at the right time... The clue gets slipped in so the reader has missed it.” Eric’s Liz Austen series has been translated into 10 languages around the globe. His newest children’s book, The Emily Carr Mystery, researched by Eric and his wife, Flo, is set in Victoria. He’s received the Arthur Ellis Award for Lifetime Achievement from the Crime Writers of Canada, was voted Author of the Year by the Canadian Booksellers Association in 1992 and

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ing. But you must be willing to take responsibility for your financial situation and believe in your abilities and ingenuity. Buying into the traditional model of “save up bags of money, and at age 60 or 65 collect a pension and stop working” needs a new frame. What will your frame look like? The second part of the equation is your time. When you are financially independent, and financially successful, according to your own definition, how will you choose to spend time? This is even more important because funds come and go but time comes only once. Look at time as a gift and turn to long-held passions. Ask yourself, “What are my causes?” Take stock of your talents. What do you have a heart for? Do you wish to contribute to community locally or on a global scale? In reality, you already have a start, look at that list of priorities you created when making a financial goal. Look around you. There are people whose passions run toward entrepreneurial activities. They may choose to follow the suggestions in The 4-Hour Work Week and move towards running a business within an electronic environment. Then there are people who have a passion for a cause and spend their time supporting it. Artistic souls, who revel in their chosen talent, can spend more time creating and others enjoy the freedom to pursue their spirituality. Wendy Nordli, a former bank teller, has developed her passion for the art of

stained glass and jewelry creation. Her former colleagues asked her how she liked retirement and she responded, “it is no different; it’s simply that I don’t have to get up and go to work. I now have more time and energy to develop my passion and my business.” Wayne Sali of Nanaimo uses the term “Graceful Retirement” – “being reliant on the belief structure you hold.” For Wayne, it means being comfortable in his skin. Graceful retirement is a transition to wholeness (body, mind and soul) – a spiritual arriving, the resilience of the human spirit. Wayne alludes to crossing all the boundaries of age, money and time. What you believe creates the priorities that drive your choices. Kindness, compassion and love know no age limit, and neither does community involvement. If you are part of yesterday’s experience and are happily enjoying what was once termed retirement, be glad. However, if you are like many of us who look to the future with questions, you may wish to reframe. That yesteryear mindset of mandatory retirement and retreating into a foggy state of imagined uselessness or sailing off into the sunset is part of the old wooden frame. Today, raise your half-full cup and keep filling it so it overflows along that continuum called life’s journey. Start now, and choose where to invest both your time and your funds. If your circumstances block your way, adjust your attitude, and try a new perspective so you can rise above them in SL order to move forward.

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here’s much to be said for a comfy chair, a good book, a warm fire, a cat on the lap and a great cuppa tea. From its long ago status as the elixir of the wealthy to its present role as a healthful beverage, tea is truly a relaxing delight. While valuing old items recently for a church group, I saw two marvellous old teapots, one shaped like a camel and the other like an elephant. These made me think of other teatime things many folks own, some used every day, and others buried at the back of china cupboards awaiting rediscovery and a visit from the duster. The proper tea ritual involves a caddy, a teapot, a creamer, a sugar bowl, cups and saucers and spoons. The list can include a water bowl, sugar tongs and a strainer, all intended to help us make the experience of tea drinking more pleasurable. In the late 1700s, teapots became more available as tea itself dropped in price. In this period, many firms produced pottery and earthenware teapots; an example of one that’s still around now is Wedgwood. A seven-inch-high [18 cm] black basalt Wedgwood teapot with white flowers embossed on it would cost you $700 in a shop today. As years passed, styles and composition changed and manufacturers that are more familiar debuted, such as Limoges and Royal Doulton, who became famous for figural designs. Teapots shaped like characters from Dickens, made by Doulton, now book in some cases at $2,000 apiece. Other company names that are highly sought after include Hull Pottery, Shawnee, Rookwood and Quimper. Generally, the more unusual the design and the more decorative the teapot appears, the more it appeals to the modern collector. Condition is very important, and hairline cracks, nicks and bits missing have a serious effect on values. While I have an aversion to tea brewed in metal pots, many collectible silver and silver plate pots are valuable. Look for sterling hallmarks to help you date your teapot and to confirm that it’s silver. There were full tea services made to commemorate British Coronations and Jubilees, although most of us settled for a mug or a cup, or whatever we may have been given in school to celebrate the event. A popular collectible in the tea category is the caddy spoon, instantly recognizable for its wide flat bowl. Here in B.C., Nabob Foods made one in brass 44

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BY MICHAEL RICE with the image of a turbaned East Indian gentleman on the handle. One of these would now cost $20 to replace, if it were chucked out by accident. Tea tins are another huge part of the collectibles world. Hundreds of these sell online every month and, as one example, a Mazawattee tin displaying Dick Whittington dating from 1905 just brought $450 at auction. The variety of designs is limited only by the imagination with desirable themes including Arabian markets, geishas, steamships and military leaders of the First World War. While most teaspoons have little to do with tea, some were produced by tea companies who placed advertising or logos in the bowls or on the handles. These are worth sorting out from that pile you’ve picked up as tourist souvenirs on your travels. If your parents drank tea, it’s possible you played with a children’s tea set when you were young. Though many pieces may have become damaged or lost, even single items may represent an exciting find. Peter Rabbit, Mickey Mouse and more recently, the Brambly Hedge mice have all appeared on sets. Arguably, the most frequently encountered things to dispose of when downsizing or clearing an estate are teacups. If they’re damaged, no matter how well you’ve glued the bits back together, they’re not what collectors want, and they’re not safe to use. When cups are offered at garage sales, owners tend to overprice common designs like Old Country Roses and undervalue early Belleek examples. Some Belleek cups such as an early lily design with the correct black maker’s mark can run into hundreds of dollars. As with anything, take some time and get some knowledgeable help before you put on the price stickers. Do I drink tea? Absolutely! My personal favourite is strong black organic tea from the Aislaby plantation in Sri Lanka, which I get from a lovely little shop in Sidney. Unlimited varieties of teas and blends, herbal teas and fruit infusions will cause you to abandon the commercial tea bag forever. Extend SL your pinkie and enjoy!

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Outrage

hat do you think of when you see news items about trials and incidents that have to do with our judicial system? If you are like me, you think of Law and Order, Perry Mason, Matlock and all the ensuing drama. Certainly, that was my view, and it terrified me when I thought I was going to be caught up in the claws of justice. Recently, I had reason to be part of a trial resulting from a motor vehicle incident a number of years ago. The week before the trial began, I had trouble sleeping. Every waking thought compounded, and I became more and more fearful of the unknown. The only other time I had been in the courthouse was years ago, and when we walked in everything had been settled. I didn’t even get to see inside a courtroom. On the day this trial began, I walked into the courthouse with trepidation, attempting to look as though I had not a worry in the world. I obviously succeeded, as people seemed surprised when I asked for directions to the assigned courtroom. Dressed in black, maybe I looked like all of the lawyers. I had been advised that I was not to make faces or roll my eyes, if I didn’t like what was being said. So, I did what I tend to do when I am worried or scared, I wrote notes. The first line in my notebook: “This courtroom is much smaller than

on TV.” With just enough room for the judge, the court clerk, the four lawyers and a row of seats behind the railing, it didn’t seem quite so frightening. As we went through the first day, BY PAT NICHOL my notes grew and grew, then on through the second day, and my fear began to dissipate. There certainly wasn’t the drama that happens on TV! I mentioned to a lawyer how frightened I had been, and how much I was enjoying the give and take that was happening in front of me. She asked me to write this column as they had expert witnesses who were terrified to appear. From a layperson’s point of view, I can tell you it wasn’t television! And if you ever find yourself in the position I was in, there is SL little reason to fear. “We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.” –Eleanor Roosevelt Pat Nichol is a speaker and published author. www.patnichol.com

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Real-Life Drama?

CHANGING NOITCERID

BY MARTINA GOODSHIP

rowing older gracefully involves changing and evolving. It means recognizing that change in your mature years can be positive, and take you in unimaginable directions. Such a change occurred for my friend and business partner, Linda Paquette, and me when she noticed an obscure advertisement for a bra maker’s school in the back of a magazine. In our early fifties, we’ve been friends for many years and during our many walks and talks, we’d felt vaguely discontent with ourselves. It wasn’t specific; it was that niggling feeling that we could do more or do it “differently.” For ages, we’d spoken about the need for change, but nothing came up that was strong enough to move us out of the lethargy of comfortable habit.

Attempting to do life differently, I left a position with a small garment manufacturer to work for myself from home. Linda was working full time as an office manager and casting about for a move of her own. Sharing a love of sewing, we would inevitably make it part of the conversation whenever we got together. One day, she mentioned the interesting advertisement she’d seen. When I got home, I turned on the computer, had a long look at the website and then shared my growing excitement with my husband. My enthusiasm was contagious and he encouraged me to go. I took a deep breath and called Linda, “I’m going, are you in?” Small silence. “I’m coming with you!” I almost fell off my chair! We did some research, made

the necessary contacts and signed up to learn the art and science of professional bra making and fitting. Knowing the threat of our old friend “comfort zone,” I made a special trip from Campbell River to Courtenay to get Linda’s cheque, put it with mine and mailed them in right away so there was no turning back. We had just committed ourselves to eight weeks in Hamilton, Ontario, away from our families, doing something completely different than we ever expected. On our first day of class, we met a young woman from Hawaii, one from Calgary, two more from the Hamilton area, and two women from London, England – complete strangers until they met at the Hamilton B&B. All these women had taken a leap from their ev-

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eryday lives to explore something new. Although their backgrounds and stories were different, they all wanted to make a change and had the courage to do it. The following eight weeks were filled with delights and challenges: meeting new people, learning new skills and exploring new places. One major challenge we all agreed on was being away from our families for eight weeks. The additional difficulty of being outside our comfort zones was at times overwhelming, yet we all persevered. After all, wasn’t that part of the reason we were doing this? The answer of course was yes. The last days in Hamilton were busy and long. Our group of ladies worked at all times of the day and often well into the night. Twelve- and 14-hour days were common, as we strived to complete the required projects and absorb as much information as possible in our already full brains. The night before our last classroom day, we shut everything down early to take a much needed evening off, to eat, drink and revel in our new education, and most importantly to toast our new friendships. After eight weeks together, we had developed a deep bond with these lovely, diverse women. How better to signify this closeness than over a glass (or two) of wine and good food.

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Reﬂections THEN & NOW

BY GIPP FORSTER

hen I grow up, I want to be a martyr. A martyr is a good person, a brave person, and a committed person. My wife agrees with me; she too thinks I should be committed! So, that’s my decision. I’m not sure what I want to be martyred for but I am sure that, in time, it will be revealed to me. Throughout the ages, martyrs have dotted our history. They have given their lives for their faith and beliefs. They have died by sword, by fire and by every cruel device created by man. I salute each one for their tenacity, their courage and for standing true, even in the face of torture and terror. As for me, I’d like to find another way to be a martyr. It’s not about bravery or that I shy away from pain or anything like that! Heck, I always jump in at the deep end of the pool, and I once had a headache for two hours before I took an Aspirin. No! Daring and pain are no strangers to me! It’s too bad we can’t be martyred because of old age. To give up our lives for our belief in breathing or for suffering through some of today’s music or for refusing to pay $10 to go to a movie! We are tortured daily by reality television shows. I have heard so many say

it: “If I have to put up with one more reality show, I’m going to shoot myself!” I don’t know if shooting yourself for having to wade through reality television counts as being a martyr, but it is an interesting thought. It would be nice to be martyred for loving too much, giving too much, or being concerned for others too much. In fact, those reasons are the direct cause of nearly all who have been martyred throughout the ages: belief in what is good; and something to live for that is great enough to die for. I would honestly be willing to die for my faith, my family, perhaps even my country. I would even give up my life for my friends – well, two of them anyway. And they said they would do it for me. I think if any of us are to be martyred, it must be for a worthwhile cause, like putting running boards back on cars or re-introducing the one-speed bicycle. Or how about a defence for morality or respect for authority? Being a martyr is not high on the wish list in this free world of the 21st century. People, it seems, would rather be CEOs or rock stars or sports heroes. When I was a little kid, at first I wanted

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