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Features 4 Get the Giggles

Laughter Yoga – lots of fun and no pretzel poses.

8 Lovely Old Biddy

Poet and essayist Naomi Beth Wakan doesn’t take herself too seriously.

10 Walk this Way

Victoria Garden City Wanderers hit the trails.

14 A Question of Capacity

Columns 3 The Family Caregiver Barbara Small

20 Victoria’s Past Revisited Norman K. Archer

37 Scam Alert

Rosalind Scott

45 Courageous & Outrageous Pat Nichol

Who will make health-care and personal-care decisions for you in the case of incapacity?

47 Ask Goldie

16 Menopause

48 Reflections: Then & Now

As baby boomers age, the cultural mindset around menopause changes.

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18 Sexy Seniors

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22 The Frogettes

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24 Poppa’s Got a Brand New Knee Chronic pain leads to surgery and extensive recovery for this avid cyclist.

28 My 5k Run

First place or last place – it’s all about crossing the ﬁnish line.

Cover Photo: Laughter Yoga instructor Gene Furbee rediscovers his playful side through the energetic practice. Photo: Greg Van Dyk

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FINDING BALANCE WHILE CAREGIVING

and wellness a priority. Take a few minutes to complete this exercise. Divide a sheet of paper into two columns. On the left side, make a list of all the people, activities and responsibilities that drain your energy. These include things that stress you, frustrate you, worry or anger you, and might include the barking dog next door, the bills that need to be paid or your chronically sore back. Focus on all areas of your life, not just in your role as caregiver. In the right-hand column, list all the people, activities and things that energize you, things you are passionate about, that interest you and you enjoy. Include activities you used to do, but might not take time to do anymore. These might include having coffee with friends, buying flowers or watching a funny movie. When completed look at the two lists and consider the following: How might you reduce, eliminate, change or minimize the draining impact of the items on the left-hand list? It might mean letting go of expectations or asking for help. How can you include more of the items on the energizing list into your life? By choosing to be with the people who bring you energy or participating in activities that feed you emotionally,

alancing the demands of caring for another and taking care of one’s own physical, mental and emotional health is essential for family caregivers. It is hard to predict when caregiving might become part of your life and, when the time comes, the additional tasks are often squeezed into an already busy life packed with the responsibilities of children, spouse, work and daily chores. Many caregivers take on this new role without letting go of anything else and, predictably, end up exhausted and burnt out. Balance is important in order to stay healthy on all levels. “Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals and values are in balance,” says best-selling author and professional speaker on human potential Brian Tracy. Maintaining personal wellness is just as important as anything you do for someone else. Think of the possible effect of neglecting to take care of yourself might have on the person you are caring for. If you get sick, who will take care of the two of you? It is not selfish to focus on yourself. Make your health

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physically or psychologically, your life will be more enjoyable, your energy will increase and you will be able to function more effectively in your caregiving role. You will be more patient, less frustrated and more able to set priorities and problem solve. Finally, choose three items from the energizing list you will make time for in the next couple of weeks. Make a commitment to both yourself and the person you are caring for. Creating balance in your life and practising good self-care allows you to care for another without lowering the quality of your own life. Everyone SL benefits. Next month: New to caregiving? Barbara Small is the Program Development Coordinator for Family Caregivers’ Network Society located in Victoria, BC. www.familycaregiversnetwork.org

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ene Furbee and his wife Sarah stop and curiously read the painted letters on the sandwich board in Beacon Hill Park: “Laughter Yoga 2:00.” Gene glances at his wristwatch: “1:55.” He gazes at his wife, her metallic blue scooter reflecting the sunlight of a warm afternoon in September 2008. “You’ve got to learn how to do that,” she says. Gene isn’t aware he is about to participate in one of Victoria’s first Laughter Yoga groups, led by Kathleen Sun and Guillaume Godiveau. Laughter Yoga began in 1995, as the brainchild of Indian physician Dr. Madan Kataria. He started with five friends laughing in a park in Mumbai and, since then, it’s grown to over 6,000 clubs in 60 countries around the world. “The reason is, is because it works,” says Matti Anttila, 63, who trained with Kataria in Finland in 2009. “The first time is free,” says Matti, as he welcomes newcomers to his Saturday morning group at Esquimalt Recreation Centre. “You get to try it before you buy it,” he says with a laugh. The small room slowly fills as people enter and remove their shoes, shuffling onto the navy blue rug that covers the floor. People smile at each other and release a few giggles, acknowledging the silliness of their reason for gathering. The dozen laugh-seekers form a cir-

cle, and Matti begins his introduction. “Laughter Yoga is the unique concept that we can laugh for no reason,” he says. “We don’t need comedy, and we don’t need jokes.” Matti explains to the eager group that, “simulated laughter can become real laughter. But – and this is one of the great secrets of the universe – it doesn’t matter. The body does not know the difference between simulated laughter and real laughter.” Matti tells how the same feel-good endorphins are released to the brain whether the laughter is faked or not. First-timers learn that the reason it’s called “Laughter Yoga” is that breathing is an important element. “Have no fear – we do no pretzels,” jokes Matti, referring to the complex poses associated with traditional yoga. “In Laughter Yoga, we clap finger tip to finger tip and palm to palm,” says Matti. The group mimics his actions. “The acupressure points are stimulated that way, and that stimulates the organs and gives them the opportunity to work more harmoniously with each other,” he says. Matti then leads a clapping rhythm, to the beat of one two, one two three. The group follows along, laughing at the simplicity of the actions. “Then we add some sounds,” says Matti. “Ho ho, ha ha ha. Ready?” Everyone begins chanting in unison. “Painless!” says Matti smiling. “Oftentimes our childlike nature gets buried in our very serious everyday world, so we’re going to do the chicken dance. Ready?” People move around the room, flapping their arms while repeating “ho ho, ha ha ha.” According to Matti, eye contact and movement help to create real laughter, and after a few repetitions, the room erupts into genuine laughter as one person passes it on to the next. “Pretend you have a cellphone, and it rings. And your friend’s on the phone, and told you this incredibly funny joke,” says Matti, tilting his

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head back in a fit of laughter. “And, of course, it’s so funny, you want to share it with your friends.” As giggles glide out the open door, curious passersby pause to stare. Their eyebrows crinkle in confused glances, trying to understand what’s so funny. “You can’t take yourself too seriously,” says Kate Roxborough, 61, a Certified Laughter Yoga instructor and selfproclaimed “big kid.” Kate believes that people never lose the childlike nature Laughter Yoga helps bring out. “Unfortunately we suppress it,” she says. “Wherever that child is that you left behind – find that inner-child.” “Laughter Yoga instructors are supposed to be very energetic, but right now I’m working off four hours of sleep,” says Kate, as she sits in an armchair, twirling her dark curly hair around her fingers. “But I can laugh about it,” she chuckles, taking another sip from her cup of freshly brewed coffee. The living room of her basement suite is full of plants and knick-knacks, with books scattered throughout. A biography of Charlie Chaplin lies on the coffee table, and others with titles like Only Joking and I’d Rather Laugh are heaped in a basket on the floor. “See?” she says, motioning to a plaque above her kitchen stove. “’The most wasted of all days is one without laughter.’ E. E. Cummings.”

“I’ve always laughed. But with Laughter Yoga, you’ve got to just let yourself go and be totally uninhibited.” “I’ve always laughed. But with Laughter Yoga, you’ve got to just let yourself go and be totally uninhibited,” she says. In August 2006, Kate had started her own business – impersonating Mae West, the sassy starlet of the 1940s, and taking the comedic character to conferences. “During my research for my business case, Dr. Katiria’s website came up,” she says. “I was going on the theme of laughter because laughter’s been a big part of my life.” Kate was certified as a Laughter Yoga instructor through Dr. Katiria’s Victoria branch in August 2009. “Laughter Yoga has been brought into our lives to heal,” says Kate, who has mild asthma and fibromyalgia – a chronic muscular pain. “It’s just a wonderful stress release. It relaxes the muscles and loosens a lot of congestion.” Kate emphasizes not taking life too seriously. “We have to be able to laugh at ourselves,” she says. “One of my fa-

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Lovely Old Biddy

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now she is wrinkled and obviously old. Recently, she was in a poor country and was riding a bicycle through an unknown part of town. A man leapt out and knocked her from her bicycle. Her first thought was, “He is going to rape me.” She curled up tight and scrunched her eyes. Nothing happened. When she opened her eyes, she could see the man off and away on her bicycle. It was the bike he wanted, not her beautiful body. She yelled after him to no avail and, because she is young and beautiful inside, she could allow herself to laugh. Laughing at oneself is not degrading, it is empowering.

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y publisher wrote to me before my latest book, Book Ends: a year between the covers, came out to ask me whether I would mind being called that “lovely old biddy from Gabriola” on advertising copy. I said not at all, go right ahead. I love to let my publisher do what she wants as much as I can, for that allows me to argue over the odd comma I want inserted when I really want a comma inserted. After the book was launched, a concerned friend wrote to me, “I want to suggest that you discard the ‘old biddy’ bit you have in your info material. It’s self-denigrating, stereotyping, a kind of ‘ageism,’ and unworthy of your notions of self-esteem.” I wrote back explaining how that phrase originated by telling her that I was having a printing job done in Nanaimo, the closest town on Vancouver Island to my small island. The printer couldn’t offer perfect binding, so the job had to partially go down to Victoria. My printer sent an e-mail accompanying the job and, by mistake, the e-mail was sent to me. It began, “I have this lovely old biddy from Gabriola...” I laughed aloud when I read it and thereafter repeated the story endlessly at my readings. It was always good for a laugh, and laughter is good. I was not demeaning myself, because I have a very firm image of myself as a bright, enthusiastic, but rather superficial young woman. That image has kept me going to a moderate degree of success in many areas all my life. Particularly, it has allowed me to recognize my limits and to see what a clown I am, yet know at the same time that I’m also a wise clown. It is this image that has taken me cheerfully through menopause and now, successfully into old age. From outside, people see a slightly stooped, grey, and thinninghaired elder person. I see that too when I look at photos of myself. Inside, I am this bouncing precocious, imaginative kid; naive with a naivety that paradoxically becomes a kind of street smarts. That inner image is important, even if it is only partially correct, for that is the image that sustains us through indignity and non-caring. I’ll give you another example: I have a friend who was a cute child and a perky precocious teenager. She kept this image of being beautiful and youthful with her even though

BY NAOMI BETH WAKAN

Naomi Beth Wakan, a poet and essayist from Gabriola island, the author of Late Bloomer – on writing later in life and the just out Book Ends – a year between the covers, with a sculpture of her by Nancy Crozier.

She is not going to give up the image of her inner self, it maintains her; she is however intelligent enough to know it’s not how other people view her. Soon, I will be an MC at an evening for a large group of campus radio folk. I suspect their average age will be 21. I am 79. I wonder how I am going to say anything of relevance for their already over-sophisticated ears. I don’t have much energy for fretting, however, as my writing is demanding and I am also a housekeeper, garden-weeder, wife, mother and many other things that make more pressing demands on my energies. I decide to just be myself – the outer self would dress simply and elegantly, in an outfit Meryl Streep might wear to an Oscar award ceremony when all the other actresses looked like streetwalkers. The inner self would be the usual gawky, awkward, disarmingly open person I basically am: amusing people by just telling the truth as I see it, and throwing remarks around regardless of total appropriateness because I have never bothered much about being appropriate. Ageing cannot be avoided. You will become, whether you like it or not, pushed to the edge of the crowd, rather than the centre of attention. Unless you are very wealthy, you will be slipped in as an afterthought, called in from a reserve list of substitutes, and smiled at benignly when you offer an opinion. If your inner image is still running along with you, as your shadow accompanies you on your outer edge, you will float through it all, assured that you still have value and presenting your duck’s feathers for the water of old-age prejudices to merely run off. You’re cute, you’re intelligent, you’re beautiful, you’re wrong – but SL how right you really are. Naomi will be reading at Qualicum Public Library at 2 p.m. on September 27, and the same day at 7 p.m., at the Red Martini Grill in Nanaimo.

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he Victoria Garden City Wanderers, a Volkssport Club, walk in all weather following planned safe, scenic and usually circular trails. Volkssporting, translated from German meaning people’s sport, began 30 years ago in Europe where a need was recognized for healthy, organized, non-competitive activities suitable for all ages. The goal is to promote public health through enjoyable non-competitive, outdoor sporting events. Back home from a walking trip in Cape Breton, GCW President Dave Catrall says he and his wife, Beverley, “walk three or four times a week with GCW or one of our sister clubs in Victoria.” Canada is one of 52 countries around the world that are part of the International Federation of Volkssport Clubs, so all the walks are planned well in advance and published so that anyone, when travelling in Canada or the U.S., or any of the other 50 countries can see when events are scheduled and join in.

Garden City Wanderers hit the trails.

“It’s a wonderful way to meet local people if you like travelling and a wonderful way to get to know a city or a region – including your own.” “It’s a wonderful way to meet local people if you like travelling and a wonderful way to get to know a city or a region – including your own. Lots of forward planning and communication with other clubs and other people is required. We often host visitors from around the world, though mostly from U.S. and Canada.” The Garden City Wanderers continue to add new walks and events. In the winter, they have a snowshoeing/crosscountry skiing weekend at Mt. Washington. They go to a Gulf Island once or twice in the summer and spend a day walking there. This year, they visited Pender and Mayne Islands. On Canada Day, they walked from a winery and did some sampling afterwards. Although they do some hiking, 10

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New walkers don’t have to join or pay anything – they are welcome to go out to do a few walks any time. “We put a lot of emphasis on the Fs,” says Dave, “fun, fitness, friendship – and food.” After the walks, there is the option of joining the group for lunch at a local restaurant or pub and picnics and potlucks are held occasionally throughout the year. To keep track of the distance they accumulate over time, participants get a card stamped after each walk. Awards (pins and certificates) are given as milestones are reached. A keen runner, Dave ran the Victoria Marathon a couple of

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be leashed and cleaned up after. Garden City Walker Asgrid Hauth says she loves walking and she likes the social aspect. “It’s a great group and it’s informal,” says Asgrid. “If you want to come you can come, and if you don’t that’s fine. It’s easy, not cliquey.” John Lewis walks for his health. He, along with his �� wife, Janet, and three other GC Wanderers, walked on the �� West Highland Way and the Great Glen Way in Scotland �� last year. At home, John says, “It’s a wonderful way to see �� the city. I’ve learned so much about Victoria the three years �� MPW-239 Harp Sandhu Senior Living ad:Layout 1 8/20/2010 1:56 PM Page I’ve been here, walking around it. It’s a very sociable group and it’s doing me good.” With four Volkssport Clubs in Victoria and three others in Nanaimo, Comox and Parksville, the seven clubs have approximately 300 members who walk almost every day of the year. Anyone is welcome to attend. Typiwealth management cally, the walks take from one to two hours. Although the majority of walkers are over the age of 55, the group With many years’ experience and an understanding of the needs and mindset of affluent investors, I offer personalized, complete wealth management. SL includes members of all ages.

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A QUESTION OF CAPACITY BY WILLIAM R. WALTERS

hen thinking about health, thoughts will typically turn either to maintaining or improving it on the one hand, and fixing or remedying it on the other. A central issue that can arise, however, is whether an individual can make decisions about these issues at all. In legal terms, this issue is referred to as capacity. Determining whether an individual has the capacity to make decisions is a complex process, and while medical assessment and opinion are often important factors in this process, the determination of capacity is ultimately a legal one.

health care; and sets out a process for decision making for individuals who lack capacity but are in need of health care. The capacity to give or refuse consent to health care is assessed by determining whether the individual understands: 1. the information a reasonable person would require to understand the proposed health care and to make a decision; and 2. that the information applies to the situation of the adult for whom the health care is proposed. Health care is anything done for a therapeutic, preventive, palliative, diagnostic, cosmetic or other purpose related to health, and is classified as either minor health care, such as routine tests to determine if health care is necessary, or major health care, such as surgery or any treatment involving a general anesthetic. Individuals who do not satisfy the capacity test set out above are effectively in limbo with regard to decisions about almost any kind of health care. To address this situation, the Act provides for the appointment of a Temporary Substitute Decision Maker (the “TSDM”) from a prescribed list of people. First in line is a person’s spouse, then adult children, parents, brothers and sisters, and finally anyone else related by birth or adoption. The appointment lasts 21 days and gives authority to the TSDM to make health-care decisions generally. Although the appointment of a TSDM is arguably renewable, this arrangement is less than ideal where a person’s incapacity is likely to

Individuals who do not satisfy the capacity test are effectively in limbo with regard to decisions about almost any kind of health care.

Capacity is measured in relation to the decision to be made. For purposes of discussion, decisions affecting health may be usefully divided into two groups: health-care decisions and personal-care decisions.

Health Care Decisions

An individual’s consent must be obtained before virtually any kind of health care is provided. The law presumes that an individual has capacity to give or refuse this consent. In British Columbia, the Health Care (Consent) and Care Facility (Admission) Act (the “Act”) has codified the law in this area. The Act not only confirms the presumption of capacity and the necessity of obtaining an individual’s consent to health care, but also sets out a standard and test for capacity; defines

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continue for a length of time. A further disadvantage is that the choice of TSDM is arbitrary and may place the power to consent in the hands of an individual one would not otherwise have chosen. One solution to this problem is for someone to apply to court to be appointed the individual’s Committee. A Committee is, in effect, a guardian appointed to make decisions for an incapacitated individual. Major drawbacks of this solution include the delay and expense of preparing and submitting to court the necessary application, especially where it is contested.

Personal Care Decisions

Personal care is not defined by statute in the same way as health care, but here refers to decisions about an individual’s diet, dress, accommodation and social relationships, so far as these do not fall within the definition of health care set out in the Act. Again, the law presumes an individual to have capacity to make such decisions. Unlike health-care decisions that require doctors and others to give effect to them, an individual who lacks capacity nonetheless may carry out personal care decisions without or with limited assistance. For example, a person may give effect to choices about dress or accommodation that are socially unacceptable, personally detrimental or potentially harmful to themselves or others. Where such decisions put the individual or others at serious risk, authorities may apply for a care and protection order under the Adult Guardianship Act. Another possibility is that concerned family members or others may apply for committeeship of the person concerned as discussed above.

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Individuals wanting greater control over decisions made about their health during a period of incapacity can do so by a number of means. The simplest and most comprehensive method, however, is by executing a Representation Agreement in which one or more people agree to serve as one’s Representative during a period of incapacity. The Representative can make virtually any personal or healthcare decision on one’s behalf, including end-of-life decisions in circumstances where a substantially incapable person has no hope of recovery and can only be kept alive by artificial means. Increasingly, people recognize that good health can be maintained well into old age, even indefinitely, so long as informed decisions about personal and health care are made and acted on. Diminished capacity need not result in this process stopping; by planning, one can greatly increase the odds that one’s health, and with it one’s quality of life, will not deteriorate more than SL necessary even when one is incapable. This article is informational only. To answer questions relevant to your situation, consult your legal professional.

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Menopause

BY ALANA GREGORY

Panic or Peace

n underlying idea exists in North American culture – that becoming an “older” woman is a reason for panic. Yet, as life expectancy for women rises above 80, a new cultural mindset about menopause is required. Dr. Christiane Northrup, author of The Wisdom of Menopause, points out that if women are able to negotiate ways through the general negativity, they can expect to enjoy 40 years of relevance and satisfaction post menopause, a veritable “springtime of the second half of life.” Menopause derives from the Greek meno (month, menses) and pausis (pause). According to the medical definition of this complex process, a woman has passed into menopause when she is a year free from flow. A full spectrum of experiences is related to menopause, ranging from women who sail through with relatively little noticeable difference, those who enter into the phase abruptly due to surgery and others who experience years of uncomfortable symptoms. For women experiencing meno-

pause, Western medicine often speaks about their bodies in terms of requiring “management” with hormones and other medications. Women are made to feel that if their bodies are not “controlled” in this way, they will, in a moment self-destruct. In the past, the management method of choice for women was a prescription of synthetic estrogen sometimes with a small dose of synthetic progesteronelike medication. However, the largest trial of menopausal hormone therapy to date was abandoned early as results demonstrated that the therapy was unsafe for healthy menopausal women. At a recent speech, Dr. Jerilynn Prior, founder of the University of British Columbia’s Centre for Menstrual Cycle and Ovulation Research explained to a room full of women the “estrogen myth.” It seems estrogen is not what “makes a girl a girl.” Rather, to become a healthy woman we require progesterone as well as estrogen. Ovaries make both. Research conducted by Dr. Prior found that progesterone is as effective as, if not more effective than, estrogen

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for hot flashes and night sweats, the most troublesome experience of menopausal women. It has also been found that the form and type of hormone are important factors in how the body reacts to menopausal hormone treatment. For example, a pill form of estrogen carries with it the risk for blood clots, but an estrogen patch, gel or cream does not. And natural (bio-identical) hormone therapies (those that are designed to exactly fit the body’s hormone receptors) work very differently within women’s bodies than synthetic hormones. For women with early menopause or severe hot flushes with osteoporosis, who require menopausal hormone therapy, natural estrogen with full-dose progesterone for five years is safe. And if severe hot flashes are a problem, research being conducted by Dr. Prior recently proved that oral micronized progesterone is highly effective. The days of estrogen prescription as a “cure all” are over, as women today find the opportunity to work with health practitioners who are able to individualize menopausal evaluations and prescriptions. Dr. Prior’s research is also an interesting example of how a particular culture reacts to a new idea. In this case, it was the scientific and medical community who, for 13 years, refused to publish results showing medroxyprogesterone was as good as estrogen for hot flushes, because they found it difficult to believe there could be alternatives to an established belief. The Tarahumara people in Northern Mexico are known to be fantastic runners. Interestingly, the runners with the best fitness, endurance and lung capac-

ity are in their sixties. Dr. Deepak Chopra, an endocrinologist and expert on the mind-body connection, suggests that for this belief to translate into physical reality, the entire tribe has to believe it is possible. In Canada’s youth obsessed culture, many women expect their bodies and minds to shut down, rather than believe in their ability to remain strong and vibrant. Although the collective cultural negativity about menopause and ageing is unlikely to change overnight, it is possible that as women in the boomer generation enter menopause in the millions, beliefs will be redefined. As Dr. Christiane Northrup suggests, the menopausal “experience will never be the same when we are finished with it.” Dr. Northrup encourages women to realize their personal truths about ageing and menopause, and question, “What do you believe about your mind and body during and after menopause?” “What and who informs these beliefs; experiences of women relatives, the opinion of medical practitioners and/or pervading cultural attitudes?” If these beliefs lead to panic rather than peace, challenge them. As women begin to genuinely believe in their mature beauty, feel free to pursue a purpose and health regime that suits them, and share their knowledge, they will lay the way for future generations to forget the panic and find peace and SL meaning in the springtime of life.

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Sexy Seniors BY REUEL S. AMDUR, M.S.W.

o senior citizens do “it?” According to Dr. Nathalie Gamache, a gynecologist at the Shirley Greenberg Women’s Health Centre of the Ottawa Hospital, “Age should never be a limiting factor in sexuality and intimacy.” Or, as nurse Carmen Rodrigue put it, “We are all sexual beings.” How people express their sexuality depends on many factors – culture, values and beliefs, for example. Remember, the youth of the swinging ’60s are now seniors. Other factors affecting one’s sex life include medical and drug issues. General physical health comes into play, along with fatigue and stress. As well, depression can lower sex drive. But, on the other hand, so can anti-depressants. Alcohol has the familiar paradoxical effect: it increases the desire but lessens the ability, especially for men. Hormonal changes, including menopause, also have an impact on sexual desire and ability to perform and enjoy sex.

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Sexuality is generally thought of as being genital, but it is much, much more. Humans’ most powerful sex organ is the brain. Sexual expression is also related to self-image and feelings toward the partner. Human sexuality can include touching, cuddling, closeness, tenderness, warmth, emotional support and companionship. “Wham, bam, thank you, ma’am” can be a real turnoff. Good sex can take time. Intercourse is different for older people. Arousal takes longer and requires more stimulation. Men’s erections are less firm and of shorter duration. There is sometimes a need to call on help from pharmacology. Some doctors recommend vitamin E. Testos�� terone can often help, but people need �� to get beyond the bad reputation testosterone has received because of its illegitimate misuse by some athletes.

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When used under medical supervision, in much smaller doses than athletes take, it is safe. Then, of course, there are Viagra and its cousins. In women, sensitivity of the erogenous zones decreases with age. Vaginal dryness may also occur. Dr. Gamache cautions about what to use in case of dryness. A water-soluble lubricant, like Replens, is recommended. If in doubt, ask the pharmacist. Seniors are not immune to sexually transmitted diseases. A frank conversation with the other person about sexual history is good practise. In the heat of the moment, however, that kind of discussion tends to slip away. Consequently, if in doubt about a partner’s sexual health, use a condom. That, too, can be a bit tricky because of the limited ability of many older men to maintain a firm erection. If a lack of libido is the problem, talk to a doctor. It may be a symptom of some other underlying health issue. If there are no health issues and the desire exists, go for it! Have fun SL and stay safe!

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he rattle of machine-gun fire, the crash of exploding shells, the roar of allied artillery, the rumble of tanks, the bark of orders, the moans of wounded and dying soldiers, the torrential rain, the mud, the cold – these were sights and sounds of trench warfare in First World War France. And plowing its way through the undulating quagmire was a battle-scarred military ambulance, driven by an intrepid 20-year-old widow named Alma Dolling. Alma’s natural talents and education gave no clue of how her tragic life would evolve. She was born in Kamloops, British Columbia in 1896 to Walter and Elizabeth Clarke. Kamloops had developed as a supply station for the surrounding area, courtesy of the Canadian Pacific Railway. Her father was the owner, publisher, printer, editor and distributor for the local weekly newspaper, the Kamloops Standard. Her mother was a competent musician and taught violin and piano. It was not long before Elizabeth realized her daughter had exceptional musical gifts and little Alma thoroughly enjoyed all the accolades her performances produced. Alma had a delightful personality – warm, outgoing, energetic – and was adored by almost everyone. Her early education was at St. Ann’s School, where her teacher described her as brilliantly clever, well-adjusted and “full of happiness and music.” When she was only six, the family moved to Toronto where she found herself in Raymond Massey’s class at Havergal School. Massey went on to become a successful actor, while Alma went on to become a successful musician. A year later, the family moved to Victoria, where her father pursued his journalistic career. With her mother’s careful coaching, Alma established herself as a child prodigy in great demand in musical circles. Her blond ringlets, her sunny

personality, her ready smile and her brilliance at the piano made her an instant success everywhere she went. But the fuss that was made of her and the strain of having to give better and better performances began to take its toll and her natural sweet, delightful innocence faded, giving way to a self-centred petulance. After 10 years in Victoria, the family moved back to Ontario where she studied at the Toronto College of Music. Alma had developed into a ravishing beauty. She had an oval face, sensuous lips with an appealing pout, and daringly flaunted polite morality. She drank cocktails, smoked in public, and wore fashionable shapeless dresses that did little to hide her shapely figure. Her hair was close-cut like a boy’s and she paraded all her assets recklessly. She was emotional but with little trace of compassion or concern for others. She was loud and gregarious, but only when she was the centre of attention and she could not understand it if she met someone who did not instantly fall at her feet in admiration. It was during this time in Toronto that Alma gave what was perhaps the public performance of her life with the Toronto Symphony Orchestra, where she played two brilliant solos – one on the piano and the other on the violin. A few years later, her father was given a position as journalist with the Vancouver Sun, so the family moved back to the West Coast. Alma soon met a local realtor, Caledon Robert Radclyffe Dolling who advertised himself as a specialist in New Westminster and Port Mann properties. Dolling was born in England, trained at Sandhurst and was headed for a military career in the Indian Army. But failing eyesight disqualified him and hearing of the land-boom in British Columbia, he decided to seek his fortune in Canada. In 1914, he married the gorgeous 18-year-old Alma

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moved to New York, where their son Christopher was born the same year. But it was a disastrous marriage and, two years later, Alma moved back to Vancouver to stay with her mother, taking her baby with her and leaving Thomas behind forever. With her mother’s encouragement, Alma took up her music again and was soon getting bookings throughout Vancouver. Then came an invitation to perform at a Banquet in Victoria, celebrating the passing of the Amusement Centre bylaw. After the performance, Alma was sitting relaxing in the Empress Hotel with her friend “K” and they heard the sounds of revelry from Empress Banquet Hall and the singing of, “For he’s a jolly good fellow.” Their curiosity aroused, the two friends sneaked in the room to see what all the frivolity was about. There, for the first time, Alma clapped eyes on the man who was the centre of attention, the tall, redheaded distinguished young architect, Frances Mawson Rattenbury, the man destined to become her third husband. Alma wrote a note to her friend, “I had resolved, as you know, never to marry again, but to devote myself to my music. Well, my dear, if I don’t love him, I simply don’t know SL what love is!” Illustration: Pablo Archero

Clarke. It was a love-match, as far as his narcissistic wife would allow her to make it. When war was declared, Dolling volunteered and because of the international threat, his poor eyesight was not considered a disqualifying factor. Because of his Sandhurst training, he was immediately given a commission and sent to Prince Rupert as the second in command, with his new wife beside him. A few months later, he was sent to the front line in France, while Alma sailed to London, where she could spend some time with him whenever he was given leave. In 1916, he was awarded the Military Cross. But at the Battle of the Somme, he was mortally wounded and Alma found herself a grieving widow. While in London, Alma had held a government position in Whitehall. Immediately after her husband’s death, she offered her services as a nurse with the Scottish Women’s Hospital Organization. But it was the not the policy of this body to send women to the front line and that did not suit Alma, so she joined the French Red Cross, who were far less scrupulous. Here, as an ambulance driver, her courage in the face of enemy fire was outstanding. She was wounded twice and decorated with France’s highest medal for gallantry, the Croix de Guerre. Immediately after the war, she returned to London, where she fell in love with a Coldstream Guard’s officer named Thomas Compton Pakenham, who was related to the Earl of Longford and to the illustrious Admiral Pakenham. Her lover was married and his relationship with Alma precipitated a divorce. The couple married in 1921 and then

To be continued... Norman Archer is an historical city tour guide in Victoria and the author of Tales of Old Victoria. Contact him at 250-655-1594 or nka@canada.com

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THE FROGETTES BY ROSA GOLDSTEIN

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e are a group of women of a certain age exercising or exorcising in our community pool, which we commandeer each morning Monday to Saturday from 9-10 a.m. This routine is more than water aerobics; it is supportive and healing. Our leader, Irene McLachlan, learned the 96 aerobic water routines in Yuma, Arizona. The exercises cover the whole body and aid in balance. While even fingers, shoulders and chests get exercise, the neck is excluded for fear of dizziness. Irene brought the routines to Summergate Village in 1994 and, at first, exercised alone until others joined her. Now our group includes about 20 members, yet the number in the pool varies each day from as few as two to as

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POPPA’S GOT A BRAND NEW KNEE BY JERRY RYAN

hree months ago, I wasn’t exactly ecstatic with my total knee replacement, but nine months after the procedure, I’m starting to take ownership of this new joint. It hasn’t been easy and I’m still recovering, which will take about a year. Ten years ago, my doctor informed me that I’d need knee replacement. After two arthroscopic procedures and years of synthetic cartilage injections, I couldn’t put it off any longer. It was time: Total Knee Replacement. This is not a procedure to enter into lightly; a major operation with months of rehab, it can be dangerous. While rare (under two per cent), blood clots are the most common complication, sometimes resulting in pulmonary embolism, which can be fatal. At 59, I’m considered young to have the procedure. But why wait to have good knees when the rest of my body might not let me use them as I liked? I read the books, visited the websites, and talked to my orthopedic surgeon. We decided that my knee was affecting my “quality of life.” I’d always hated that term, but I finally understood it. I couldn’t

do the basics anymore without extra planning and chronic pain. We picked a date. As I wrapped my knee in ice that day, I looked forward to a new me. I’d heard so many recipients of new knees say they only wish they had done it sooner. Was I in for a surprise!

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The night before the operation, I visited the website to view the procedure. I was morbidly fascinated. The prosthesis, a honeycombed alloy artificial knee, would allow the bone to grow into the metal, making for a strong and glueless attachment. The operation reminded me of cutting up a whole chicken for dinner. They sliced open the knee, cut some muscles to make room for the prostheses, and stretched and moved other muscles and tendons. The rest of the procedure was sterile carpentry: shaving bone, drilling holes; measuring twice, cutting once; selecting the right-sized knee and installing it. I wondered if this was really a good idea. The operation turned out to be a breeze. I slept through most of it, waking up about three-quarters of the way through the procedure. From the other side of the green surgical drape rising from my chest, it sounded like Santa’s workshop with the medical elves tapping and banging away with good cheer. The surgical team was a little surprised when I asked them to quiet down. The anesthesiologist did something mysterious, and then I was in recovery. That’s when this good idea lost its lustre and turned out to be the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life. Two hours after getting to my hospital room, I was hooked up to a Continuous Passive Motion machine that moved my leg to ensure scar tissue didn’t build and interfere with flexion (the 90-135-degree bend in the knee) and extension (straightening) as the new knee joint healed. I used this daily for the next six weeks. That afternoon, the nurses had me out of bed, standing, and in physical therapy. It was there that pain started in earnest. A relatively younger patient, my muscle tone was better than most who undergo the procedure. I’m told this contributed to the level of pain I experienced. My muscles were thicker and had to be cut a bit more to accommodate the prostheses. My progress, compared to the oth-

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ers in my rehab class, was slower and more painful. Regardless of how much we were encouraged to root for each other, there were several in the class I would have gladly throttled had I been able to reach them. They did their exercises, walked on crutches, and smiled – yes, smiled – as they went about their recovery. I have never in my life experienced so much pain for such little gain. Even taking my meds to stay ahead of the pain curve, it was agony for me to try to lift my foot an inch off the ground, to slightly raise my leg from a prone position, to use a walker to cover the five feet to the bathroom, or to sit in a chair. It was awful. This painful process went on for weeks as I worked with my home therapist to break down scar tissue, rebuild muscle strength, and increase joint movement. It continued for months as I went through physical therapy at the hospital, exercised in the aqua therapy pool, underwent manipulation and stretching, and struggled through wall squats, leg

I’d heard so many recipients of new knees say they only wish they had done it sooner. Was I in for a surprise! raises, and lunges. Each small gain was accompanied by significant pain: before, during, and after. In “The Botany of Desire,” Michael Pollan writes about the effects of some medicinal plants on memory. He suggests that not remembering isn’t a negative process, but a positive forgetting process. Who would want to remember everything they saw and felt? From the vantage point of several months downstream in time and pain, I truly understand his conjecture. While I know my recovery process included intense pain, the vivid memory is fading, only to be recalled with the occasional twinge of exercise excess. After 20 weeks of hospital therapy, I finished formal reLeft, one week after surgery. Right, nine months after surgery.

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My 5K Run

BY BETH COLANER-KENNY

articipating in a 5k run at my age is humbling. I recently completed my first one since turning 70 and my time has nearly doubled since my 40s! When I wonder why I keep doing them, I remind myself that I am the type of person who has to “enrol” in activities or I won’t go. For example, there is an adequate exercise room at the clubhouse in my neighbourhood. I don’t even need to get in my car. But I never go there. If I join an expensive gym, I will go at least four times a week. I am also an artist, but do I go to my studio for a few hours every day? No, I have to take a class in order to keep active. Plus, I know 5k runs are a good way to get in a nice brisk walk that I otherwise would not do. This 5k was held at my favourite park on a nice spring day: Exhilaration flows through me as I wait in the crowd for the signal to begin. I take off running as the cameras flash at the start line. I don’t want to look like I really shouldn’t

be there, so I try to keep up the pace. But it isn’t long before I slow down considerably and the younger folks whiz by. Then I settle into my “race walk” pace. People continue to pass. After the “real” runners, come folks who are a little older and not as fit, until I am the last one in the crowd. I worry I may get lost if I lose sight of the others. First kilometre marker coming up: I learn from the volunteer posted there that 15 minutes have passed. That isn’t so bad! I could complete this in 45 minutes if I keep the pace. I try to focus on that and not on the beautiful wildflowers, flowering trees, ponds and musicians along the way. Then the walkers, who started a few minutes after the runners, begin to appear! The reason I don’t register as a “walker” is that they are not timed and ineligible for prizes. But when they start to pass me, I feel slightly sheepish but I push on. I watch folks as they pass, and it seems I put my feet down at the same time as they do. I am not short, my legs

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encouragement and I do manage a feeble effort to the end. Fifty-three minutes! I have attained my goal of under one hour. My husband meets me at the finish line and is proud that I made it. Volunteers make pancakes for everyone. There are bananas, apples, oranges, granola bars, water and Gatorade. People mill about. We talk to many of them. Everyone is happy. The total amount of money raised for this very good cause is announced. I feel a sense of fellowship and accomplishment. I wait awhile during the awards ceremony because I am in the last category. “Women 15-19 years old” they say and I whisper to my enormously patient husband, “50 years to go.” Finally, it’s my turn. The room has thinned out as people leave after they receive their awards. But a few stay to applaud for Women 70-74 years old, “Well WOMAN,” they say, “you are the only one, you won it all!” And they put all three medals, 1st, 2nd and 3rd, around my neck. My husband and I laugh all the way to our car as I clink along with all my medals. Is this how Clara Hughes felt? I have already registered for the next one! SL

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hat would go through your mind if you saw a group of 26 older cyclists wearing neon green shirts struggling up hills and braving weekend traffic on Island roads and highways? Would you think this must be a group of extreme athletes or a bunch of foolhardy seniors? Well, if you notice this group pedalling along any time during the weekend of September 10 to 12, they are grandmothers and “grand others” riding a route of 280 kilometres. From the starting point in Courtenay to the finish line in Victoria, they ride in support of African grandmothers – the sole caregivers of their grandchildren orphaned due to the AIDS pandemic. These riders have committed to raising funds for the Stephen Lewis Foundation, which supports over 300 community-based projects in sub-Saharan Africa. The funds raised by these riders will go to assist grandmothers to pay school fees, buy school uniforms and pay for every day needs such as food and medicine. In addition to fundraising, all riders pay a registration fee to participate in the ride, and pay their own accommodation and meal expenses. Every penny of the money the riders

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raise is forwarded to the Stephen Lewis Foundation to be used for African grandmothers. What is it that makes these Canadian seniors train for months in preparation for this ride, raise funds and spend their own money to ride 100 kilometres a day for three days, rain or shine, in hot weather or cold? The answer is simple. It is the least they believe they can do to show solidarity with African grandmothers who have no other means than walking long distances with heavy containers of water or other goods on their heads as they struggle to look after their grandchildren. It is the Island grandmothers’ way of living out the motto of the 250 national grandmothers’ groups of the Stephen Lewis Foundation – “We shall not rest until they can rest.” So, as you pass by in your car or stand by the side of the road, remember the goal of these seniors and give a wave or a honk and perhaps a donation. Whatever your support, it will help them climb their own personal “mountains” and SL give hope to grandmothers far away in Africa.

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he M.V. Lady Rose officially retired last year after faithfully serving the outlying communities of the Alberni Inlet for 60 years. Designed for the coastal waters of British Columbia, this stocky little vessel was built in Glasgow in 1937 and originally named “Lady Sylvia.” She could carry up to 100 passengers and 25 tons of cargo. After her maiden journey across the Atlantic to Vancouver in May 1937, she was renamed “Lady Rose” and made her debut on the West Howe Sound run from Vancouver to the Sunshine Coast. Wartime saw the hardworking Lady Rose in service for the Royal Canadian Army Service Corps when she carried army and air force personnel, as well as freight, between Port Alberni and Ucluelet. In 1946, she returned to the Union Steamship Company and the Howe Sound services. Then came a stint when the Lady Rose was chartered by Coast Ferries Ltd. and operated between the Gulf Islands and Steveston on the Fraser River. After being sent to the north end of Vancouver Island, she finally made it back to Port Alberni under lease to Alberni Marine Transportation Ltd in 1960. In 1982, Alberni Marine Transportation Ltd. became known as Lady Rose Marine Services. The Lady Rose continued maritime history by servicing the Alberni Inlet and Barkley Sound, carrying cargo, mail and passengers on her day trips just as she did when she

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planters, prawn fishermen, fishing guides, lodges and the Native community. Mike Surrell, current owner of Lady Rose Marine Services, says the Lady Rose has not been in service for four years owing to her deteriorating condition. Too expensive to refurbish, the vessel was put up for sale two years ago during which time offers came in from other countries. These were declined because Mike wanted to keep the Lady Rose in the area. He was pleased when Jamie’s Whaling Station in Tofino purchased the ship. Mike says the main function of the Lady Rose, and now the Frances Barkley, is summer tourism and, in the winter, tours and freight giving service to the Alberni Inlet and all the outlying communities towards the ocean. Without the Lady Rose Marine Service, it would be difficult for these communities to function. En route, the skipper gives commentary on landmarks down the inlet, points of interest and wildlife. Common sights are various whales, including orca, grey and hump-

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ment each contractor recommends. Ask each contractor how he or she arrived at recommending a particular sized system. Check and make sure you understand the warranty they offer. Consumer Protection B.C. can help with allegations of misleading door-to-door sales practices. For complaints, contact them at 1-888-564-9963 or visit: www.consumerSL protectionbc.ca

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cities both interesting and entertaining. We arrive at Union Station, Washington D.C., and are in for a treat: the station is a stunningly well-kept architectural gem, more like a palace with soaring vaulted ceilings, marble and statuary, and trendy restaurants – all of it humming with activity! The capital of the U.S. is a tourist Mecca. It’s the “must-see” destination for monuments, museums, the Capitol and the White House: a feast for the senses. We are on the go for five days before packing up for the long train ride home. We were advised that it was best to check large suitcases and only use our carry-on luggage, so we packed accordingly. At the stately Union Station, we confirm our journey: the “Capitol Limited” overnight to Chicago, a five-hour layover and transfer to the famous “Empire Builder” for the run to Seattle and bus from there to Vancouver. Luggage checked in, the sleeper passenger’s lounge takes hand baggage for safekeeping; we are free to sit down to a nice lunch in one of the restaurants. Time to board the double-decked “Superliner” and, finding our sleeper compartment on the upper level, we are greeted by an attendant who explains all the facilities. The comfortable couch pulls out to be a bed wide enough for two, plus there is an upper bunk, a pull-down centre table, armchair, little closet,

vanity with sink, A/C controls, a 110 volt plug, private toilet/shower combo, and lots of towels. We marvel at its compact but comfortable functionality. Minutes later, another attendant takes reservations for dinner: all meals and beverages are included in the ticket price. This is a civilized way to travel! Smooth track, lovely scenery: Potomac River Valley, the Appalachian Trail running parallel; Harper’s Ferry, Shenandoah River confluence; all very pretty and steeped in history highlighted station-by-station in the little railway pamphlet provided. Before we know it, it’s dark and time to claim our dining car reservation. Tables for four are set in white with fresh flowers. Seated with a pleasant couple, we peruse the menu, which offers steak, chicken, salmon and pasta dishes. I order the steak and it’s perfect, while my wife enjoys the herb roasted chicken. A glass of wine and good conversation; this is like a cruise! At bedtime, the attendant converts the seating and lays out bedding. We practise some fancy footwork while we undress in the now reduced floor space but manage well. Awaking early next morning, we look out upon sunny Indiana and after a nice hot shower, the day looks good. Breakfast is near South Bend while greening fields, forests, and neat towns, the “heartland U.S.A.,” roll by

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Travel & Adventure the diner’s window. Although Chicago’s Union Station is the namesake of the beauty in D.C., this is just utilitarian. However, the original lovely station across the street is being refurbished to its old glamour. The Amtrak lounge once again hosts our carry-on bags and, with about four hours to spare, we take a 10-minute cab ride to downtown where we stroll the “Magnificent Mile” of Michigan Avenue. The street is ablaze with tulips and we work up an appetite for a deep-dish pizza lunch. A little shopping for snacks and a bottle of wine for the next leg – yes, you can take your own alcohol aboard – and we taxi back to the station. We are now “seasoned travellers” and the identical layout of the sleeper compartment on the famed “Empire Builder” holds no mysteries. But still, just to be different, we get a little bag of toiletries (a la airline business class),

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some nice chocolates and then, “welcome aboard” with a couple of small bottles of champagne! This leg of our journey begins at 2 p.m. and Illinois gives way to the Wisconsin of rolling farmland and dairies, which is very picturesque in the bright green of awakening spring. The scenery is ever changing and we try to break away from the window to read a bit, but enjoying the view is a better pastime. We have a glass of wine before dinner and arrive in the dining car for our 6:30 p.m. reservation. The menu: grilled fresh walleye pike, barbecuedsmoked pork ribs, chicken and lasagna – I must try the pike and my wife orders the lasagna. Both meals were wonderful and our conversation with the two women at our table made for a nice evening. In Wisconsin’s Lakes Country, we watch the gorgeous setting sun and then cross into Minnesota. Preparing for bed,

we take a mild sleeping pill to counter the expected train whistles and rocking. It worked. Next morning, day two, we are more rested and welcome North Dakota. We slept through Minneapolis, Fargo, and Grand Forks and now after a breakfast of corned beef hash and eggs (yummy), the endless prairie fields of last year’s wheat stubble roll by. Stopping in Minot, N.D. for half an hour, we get off to stretch our legs and find we have the “wobblies” – sea legs, like after a boat ride. Spring is yet to come to North Dakota: bare trees, brown grass, cooler temperatures keeping patches of snow while melt-water puddles teem with happily frolicking ducks. Just past Williston, we pass into Mountain Time and Montana. The reason this state is called “Big Sky Country” is obvious. The vista is limitless, and it is getting hillier. More history passes by: this is Sitting Bull’s and Little Big Horn’s land. The landscape is changing again, now dotted with the dipping beaks of oil pumps; they must be happy here with the resource and the high crude prices. A little surprise is announced: an afternoon wine and cheese tasting at 3:30 p.m. in the diner. Presenting two reds and two whites from Washington State and three cheeses from Wisconsin, we are having a great time when the maitre’d announces a quiz game with bottles of wine to winners. My smart wife aces one of the questions and we get a bottle of lovely Riesling. Sitting in our compartment and sipping wine, we get the first glimpse of the Rockies around 6 p.m. The majestic, snowy peaks seem to burst out of the plains of Montana and we feel the strain of the uphill climb as our speed decreases. At dinner I order the ribs: moist, smoky, juicy, amazing – and on a train! I am gnawing on bones as we cut through Maria’s Pass at 5,200 feet (1585 m);

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he Senior Mentor Project has trained volunteers to help seniors in their search for information, which will allow them to remain independent and feel more secure. Volunteers are able to help with forms, which are necessary to complete requests for a pension, housing, HandyDART or end-of-life decisions. Seniors who need support from police, a lawyer or any other official office can get help from the Senior Mentor Project. While volunteers are not experts, they can direct people to the necessary sources. To access assistance, call Sue McCauley at Saanich Silver Threads: 250-382-3151. A volunteer will arrange to meet the senior at a convenient location. The project will be launched on Friday, September 10 from 10 a.m. to 3 p.m. at Saanich Silver Threads, Les Passmore Centre, 286 Hampton Rd., Victoria; plenty of free parking. At the launch, meet the volunteers, the people who trained them, and find copies of senior-related documents. Representatives from all three levels of government will attend the opening, and will be available to answer quesSL tions at approximately 11 a.m.

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awesome scenery of deep canyons, snow, impossibly narrow ledges for the track through parts of Glacier National Park. It is dark when we reach Whitefish, M.T., and another chance to get off for a leg-stretch. One more sleep and this time we seem to be more “trained” as we greet day three. The sun rises over the Columbia Valley; we are in Washington State and slept through the stops in Spokane, Wenatchee, Leavenworth, and now head towards Everett. There are spectacular views of the Columbia Gorge followed by rolling hillsides of fluffy white, like a sea of apple trees in blossom. Through a series of tunnels in the Cascades, twisting tracks along canyons with roaring waters below and snowcaps above, we break out into the Puget Sound area and stop in Everett. An hour from Seattle, we pack up and prepare to say goodbye. Past Everett, the tracks are so close to the sea it seems like we are floating on water. At 9:30 a.m. we pull into Seattle, claim our checked bags and board the Amtrak bus to Vancouver. By 1 p.m., we are home. Three days and three nights on the train homebound wasn’t just half, but all the fun! We missed the lineups and security checks of airports, crowded seating on a plane, bad food (if any) and the inevitable jet lag, all at a price very close to airfare. SL I can’t wait for the next ride!

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n preparing this month’s column, I spent time talking with friends and family, strangers in lineups and across the table on ferries, asking for information and advice on wellness. “Breathe, just breathe” was the most concise answer I received from a fellow church member. My research began over a dinner table on Gambier Island when we discussed what came first, illness or stress. Over at least one bottle of wine and candlelight – there is no electricity on that end of the island – the points oscillated back and forth with one side argued and then the other. No one at the table had any medical degrees, and while we had no answers, we all agreed stress was certainly a way to break down a healthy body and cause problems for a healthy mind. Wellness can be achieved in many ways. Laughter was a suggestion with which I heartily agree. Many people suggested playing – not golf – but with grandchildren. If you don’t have any, borrow some. Animals came a close second. Again, not always possible depending on where you live, but visit or borrow some. Finally, I found the following tidbits of advice when it comes to wellness: Stop worrying; it only increases stress levels. Don’t take problems to bed; they make for uncomfortable sleep-

ing partners. Remember the acronym FEAR – False Evidence Appearing Real – Stop awfulizing! (I know it’s a made-up word) We have the ability (and tendency) to create far scarier scenarios in our minds than what real life can hand us. Try living in this moment, right now, rather than reliving yesterday or 10 years ago or worrying about what is going to happen tomorrow or two weeks from today. All we have is this moment, live it. Finally, do what I did while I was researching this column. Talk to people. Talk to family, friends and strangers. Wonderful things happen. Let’s hear about what works for you in the wellness arena – physical or emotional – send me those ideas. P.S. I found a great car with some help from a car finder. I didn’t get sleek and sexy, but I went for cute. It works for me! Finally, a giant hug to Esmee, who wrote to me about becoming a widow. I’m looking forward to learning more SL of her widow wisdom.

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together. We cannot plan all life events, but we do need to plan and initiate new beginnings, if we want situations to improve. It is important to make new friends as well. Some of my clients have met people after church at a coffee hour. Others met at swimming or walking groups and social afternoons playing cards. Senior centres and the daily newspaper can direct you. There are also senior groups who meet and walk in the malls before the shops open. If you are not able to make a change, perhaps an appointment with your medSL ical doctor is needed.

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THE DAYS OF MARY

ne Easter, while visiting the farmers market, my uncle purchased and brought me home three tiny recently hatched chicks. Two had been dyed with food colouring, I guess, and one little guy was his natural yellow. The little pink and blue chicks died within 24 hours. My guess is that the food colouring had entered their bloodstreams (a cruel act then, and one I hope no longer exists). But the little yellow chick thrived! I was allowed to name it, so I named it Mary. None of us knew, at the time, that Mary would grow into the biggest white rooster imaginable. But she did – or he did – or it did! As a five year old, I didn’t realize how ridiculous it must have looked when I walked down the street followed by a clucking white rooster. Dogs would follow other kids if they were fortunate enough to have one. But like Tommy Smothers used to say about his childhood: “I had a chicken, not a dog.” We had a flight of stairs at the back of our house and at the top of the landing my uncle had put out a large empty cardboard box. I don’t know how it got

started, but each evening as the sun was setting, Mary would hop up those stairs, get into the cardboard box and wait for my uncle to bring the box and him into the outside shed for the night. Every evening, without fail, this ritual would take place, but only after another strange ritual.

We were the talk of the street, but I still would have preferred a dog. On summer evenings, we would sit on the front porch to watch the day wind down. We had a big sofa swing on a steel frame called a glider. At the same time every evening, we would first hear clucking, then, around the corner would come Mary on a very determined course. He would hop up onto the porch, strut to the glider and jump onto my

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uncle’s lap. Then Mary would snuggle against him, tuck his head under my uncle’s arm and stay there for exactly 30 minutes. It was routine and it never changed. Guests marvelled! I thought all chickens must do that, so I wasn’t too impressed! After the half hour, Mary would hop down, strut back the way he had come, around the house, up the back steps, into the box and wait to be retired. We were the talk of the street, but I still would have preferred a dog. Have you ever tried to teach a rooster to “stay,” “sit,” or “roll over”? It was embarrassing – even for a kid. Every now and then, these many years later, I still remember “Mary the big white rooster who took the place of a dog.” I’ve owned (or they have owned me) many dogs since the days of Mary, but I’ve never had another pet chicken. My wife just said something, but I told her cooked chickens don’t count! That’s a hint of what eventually happened to Mary. It broke my heart then, and I still get a little misty eyed when I see a white rooster or hear a rooster crow. I have had many pets in my lifetime from goldfish and lizards to monkeys and parrots, but I think Mary will always hold a special place. I wish I knew then what I know now; I would have warned Mary not to crow at sunrise each morning. But he probably SL wouldn’t have listened.

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