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CATCH OF THE DAY
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THURMAN’S FOOD FACTORY
L o u i s i a n a c a t f i s h w i t h c r a w f i s h a n d c r a b d r e s s i n g o v e r a b e d o f r i c e , t o p p e d w i t h s p r i g s o f rosemary and thyme.
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LA CATRINA’S
M o j a r r a s F r i t a s i s a n a u t h e n t i c M e x i c a n d i s h o f a w h o l e f r i e d f i s h s e r v e d o v e r a b e d o f rice.
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DAWG HOUSE SPORTS GRILL
A n a b u n d a n c e o f f r i e d s h r i m p, m a y o n n a i s e , l e t t u c e , s l i c e d t o m a t o e s s e r v e d o n d e l i c i o u s French bread.
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CATAHOULA’S
L o u i s i a n a c a t f i s h s t r i p s f r i e d i n a c o r n m e a l a n d f l o u r b a t t e r w i t h j u l i e n n e d f r i e s a n d h u s h p u p p i e s .
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ALEX LATIN RESTAURANT & CAFETERIA
S h r i m p a n d f i s h t a c o s o n c o r n t o r t i l l a s s e r v e d w i t h b l a c k beans, plantains and rice.
Making a Difference
How CASA Can Help a Child and Our Community
BY ASHLEY HUBENTHAL
DURING THE LAST FEW MONTHS OF QUARANTINING, social distancing and the world changing before our eyes almost on a daily basis, I have been thinking about how much will change after this time. And not just washing our hands more or trying to find a mask to match our daily outfit. I think people will adjust the way they live on a deeper level. They will make an effort to see the people that mean the most to them. They will look for deeper meaning and do what is truly important to them. And that’s where CASA comes in.
I became a CASA, a Court Appointed Special Advocate, over a year ago. I knew several people that worked for The Center for Children and Families, the organization that oversees the CASA program. But it wasn’t until I had close friends take foster children into their home that I saw the importance of what exactly a CASA does. A CASA is a volunteer that is appointed to advocate for a child that is in foster care. In addition to meeting with the child, you meet with their foster parents, teachers, service providers, case workers and more to find out what is going on with the child - are they having their basic needs met, are they meeting developmental milestones, do they need any sort of therapy, are they well adjusted, etc. And you don’t have to have a background in elementary education or law or anything of the sort. CASAs come from all walks of life. After seeing foster children in my friends’ homes, I realized that these children truly needed a voice to speak on their behalf.
I signed up to go through the training, which took just a few hours once a week for a month. During the training, I learned about the justice system, what is considered basic needs for a child, developmental milestones, signs of abuse and neglect and more. Shortly after finishing the training, I was assigned a case. You are provided background information and details, including all involved parties and their contact information Every case is different and has different circumstances but the first thing I did was call and introduce myself to the foster parents. I met with the foster parents and got to meet the child, who was around 1 year old at the time. I also met with the biological parents as well as the case worker from the Department of Children and Family Services. At all of these encounters, I took notes of what I learned. I kept up with court required case plans for the family and helped answer questions for the foster parents. Each month, I visited with the child either at his home or daycare, checking on him, making sure he was in good health and doing well. Every few months, there was a court date and while I wasn’t required to attend, I did submit a court report to the judge, giving her my findings and recommendations. After almost a year, the child was adopted by his foster parents, which was the best case scenario in this case.
Shortly after finishing that case, I accepted another one because of the shortage of CASA volunteers. The numbers are staggering - last year there were 3,950 reports of abuse or neglect and there are currently 1,157 children in the foster care system in Northeast Louisiana alone. Less than 50 percent of those will graduate high school. One in five will be homeless by the age of 18. But what is even more staggering is the statistics of a child with a CASA. Twenty percent more will pass all school courses. They are twice as likely to find a permanent home and not get stuck in the foster care system. CASAs can truly make a difference in a child’s life, in a family’s life and in our community. If these last few months have you thinking on living life with more purpose, here is your opportunity. Contact CASA today to find out how you can sign up as a volunteer and truly make a difference!
Spotless Cleaning Team
Adapts to Working Amidst a Pandemic
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IT’S NO SECRET THAT WE ARE LIVING IN UNPRECEDENTED times. Now, more than ever, people in the community are searching for ways to stay healthy, stay safe, and keep thing sanitized. When a task that big is needed, Maria’s Queen Clean is the person to call! This team of women has been serving the community and offering their impeccable cleaning services for over 20 years. Maria’s Queen Clean, LLC is a family-owned and operated cleaning and lawn care service founded with your cleanliness needs in mind. From small home cleaning jobs to major office cleanings, these ladies can truly do it all. With an incredible work ethic and an eye for detail, this is just the team you want to help make sure your space is clean and safe!
With the possibility of kids returning to school, it’s the perfect time to get these amazing women in to clean up the mess from the summer. Once they work their magic, you’ll definitely be calling for another job. Your home space is where you should feel the most comfortable and safe. Now, more than ever, that feeling of safety and security at home can give a peace of mind you may not know you need. If you’ve returned to work, having a tidy and sanitized office may be what you need. This hardworking team of women is here to not only offer both, but to exceed your expectations. When they are done you are sure to feel like you’re in a whole new space. Maria is a proud local business owner who knows just how important our local businesses are to the strength of our economy. She has pride in our community and loves being able to put back into it with her services to make the Twin Cities more beautiful!
Maria let us know her thoughts on staying open through a pandemic and how they have been able to adapt and follow these ever changing guidelines. With how uncertain things are at the moment, Maria’s Queen Clean is closely monitoring COVID-19 and its repercussions in our community. The health and safety of our customers is our highest priority during this time. While we cannot change the situation, we want to help you feel more at ease in your own home keeping clean and disinfect. Maria’s Queen Clean are taking every precaution and following the guidance set by the Centers for Disease Control. Here are some of the simple everyday things we do to keep our clients and ourselves safe: 1) cleaning hands with soap often, for at least 20 seconds; 2) using an alcohol based hand sanitizer when soap and water are not available; 3) keeping the recommended six feet from people; 4) cleaning frequently touched surfaces; 5) using masks at every cleaning and 6) staying home when sick. We also encourage our customers to let us know if there are feeling unwell so that we can keep ourselves and other customers safe.
Let us trust in God that this pandemic will end soon.
Back to School Checkup
Send Your Child to School with a Healthy Mouth
YOUR CHILD MAY BE READY FOR THE NEW SCHOOL year with the latest wardrobe and school supplies but does your child have a healthy mouth and the tools he or she will need to maintain it?
With the uncertainty of what the new school year will actually look like, it’s easy to veer from our normal back to school routine which includes dental checkups for your children. As many children have been at home during these unprecedented times, they have had extra time to snack throughout the day and many have had access to more foods with a higher sugar content than normal. This can easily lead to tooth decay.
More than one-half of all children ages 5 to 9 years have at least one cavity or filling. A painful tooth or chronic dental problem can lead to difficulty in eating, speaking, playing and learning as well as several hours of missed school. Routine dental examinations uncover problems that can be treated in the early stages, when damage is minimal and restorations may be small. Besides routine dental exams, there are additional things you can do to ensure your child’s mouth is healthy.
1. Dental Sealants: Dental Sealants are a great option for keeping teeth healthy. A sealant is a plastic material that the dentist applies to the chewing surfaces of the back teeth (the premolars and molars). Sealants form a barrier that protects teeth from plaque, a sticky film of acid-producing bacteria. 2. Fluoride: Research has shown that fluoride not only reduces cavities in children and adults, it also helps repair the early stages of tooth decay even before the decay is visible. Fluoride is obtained in two forms: topical and systemic. Topical fluoride may be found in toothpastes, mouth-rinses and fluoride applied in the dental office. Systemic fluoride are those that are ingested.
They include fluoridated water and dietary fluoride supplements in the form of tablets, drops or lozenges. Our local water does not contain fluoride, so many children are often prescribed fluoride supplements to aid in tooth development and cavity control. 3. Regular Brushing and Flossing: The American Dental
Association recommends replacing your toothbrush every three to four months, or sooner if the bristles are worn. A worn toothbrush cannot do a thorough job of cleaning teeth. Children may be capable of bushing their teeth by the age of 7, but may need supervision brushing until about age 10 or 11 years old.
However, flossing is a more difficult skill to master. Floss your child’s teeth until about age 10. 4. Healthy Lunches and Snacks: Make sure to include healthy lunch items and snacks in your child’s lunchbox. Milk, cheese, raw vegetables, yogurt and fruit are great options. Cut back on sugary foods and soft drinks.
If you and your family are looking for a dental home, we would love for you to join our family. Dr. Jan Bagwell and Dr. Jessica Johnston are North Louisiana’s only mother-daughter dental team. Their office is located right next to Sterlington High School on 165 North and offers patient’s complete general and cosmetic dental treatments.
Lead Me Not Into Pigmentation
Pulse-Light Therapy… for That FLAWLESS Face
BY JUDY WAGONER
IT’S THE NEW WAY TO KEEP AGING at bay. Beautiful skin is the hallmark of youth. With intense pulsed light therapy… you can improve the color and texture of your skin without surgery. It can undo some of the visible damage caused by sun exposure, noticed mostly on your face, neck, chest, and hands.
An evenly-colored, pigmentation-free complexion is very important for maintining a youthful look. Blotchy skin doesn’t reflect light very well, making the complexion look dull. But unified skin tones do reflect light… and can wipe years off our appearance.
While it may sound like a laser treatment… it’s not a laser. IPL uses multiple wavelengths of light…whereas lasers use one continuous light wavelength. This means we can enter into the machine’s computer the skin color, body area, and skin type to generate specific settings. During the treatment, multiple wavelengths of light enter the skin at different levels. This allows us to treat many different problems, such as freckles, age spots, melasma, and rosacea. Rosacea is a facial redness caused by spider veins and acne-like outbreaks. About 90 percent of our patients are very satisfied with their level of clearing…especially with the redness of rosacea. People suffer from that for years and it makes a huge difference to them. IPL can erase a whole array of pigment problems, including freckles, sunspots, and spider veins around the cheeks and nose. It also tightens those unsightly pores.
This magic wand can smooth and soothe facial woes, and delete fine to moderate lines and wrinkles.
Best of all, there’s no downtime. It’s truly a lunch-time therapy.
During the procedure, light energy is sent through the epidermis but the energy is concentrated in the dermis, the deeper part of the skin. Because the light generates heat, it stimulates cells to form more collagen, as much as 20 percent more. Because it plumps the skin, it’s like getting a collagen injection but using your own collagen.
There’s no downtime because no healing is involved. It leaves the outer skin completely intact because it’s not damaged. It doesn’t need to heal.
Most treatments take about 45 minutes per area. Afterward, there is just a flush, not really redness, which goes away in less than two hours. You can also apply makeup right afterwards. Depending upon the severity of pigment… several treatments (one to three) may be needed to remove all pigment.
Uneven skin tones can add as many years to your skin as having fine lines and wrinkles. After IPL, you will look younger because your skin tone is more even.
If you’re afflicted with stubborn sun spots, IPL is a good skin care option. For a free consultation or to schedule an appointment, call 318-361-9066. For more information about IPL, visit our website www.professionallaser.com.
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Local Bakery Opens
Where Every Flavor Has a Story
BAKE318 IS THE NEWEST SWEET TREAT SPOT TO HIT the Twin Cities! If you’re craving something sweet and packed with love this is the place to be. In a bakery where “every flavor has a story” you’re sure to find just the story you need! Owner, Monica, is originally from Rayville, LA where her passion for baking grew into what she considers her own form of a ministry. With her bakery, she gets to be part of so many major life moments for her customers that she has grown to consider family in her seven years serving the local community. Taking what she learned and loves, she turned the passion into a product and the product into a proud local business where “memories are woven into the recipes.”
When you stop in make sure you ask about the Macarons! These delicate cookies are the perfect mixture of crunchy and chewy. The sweet icing in the middle almost melts in your mouth as you bite through the cookie’s crispy shell. The signature meringue is so light and airy that will definitely want to order a few to treat yourself throughout the day. You’ll have to catch them early though because they are a huge hit. If macarons aren’t your thing, you can’t go wrong with the classics like cupcakes and cookies. With a huge selection to choose from though, it may be a tough decision for the newcomer. That’s why Owner and Baker, Monica, created the Goodie Box! She wanted her customers to get to try some of everything. Monica has “so many things to choose from that sometimes a newcomer is overwhelmed. With the Goodie Box, you get a little of this and a little of that.” The perfect solution to the perfect problem of having sweets for days!
This former elementary teacher starts her days at the shop early taking the time to handcraft each sweet treat, like her favorite butterfinger cupcakes or any thing with s’mores or caramel flavors to perfection. She has baked for every occasion a customer can come up with; from birthdays to weddings or even just for a family dinner. This one woman shop really does it all. She even offers DIY cookie and cake kits for you to take home and create with the kids! If you have an upcoming event, or if you just want to treat yourself because you deserve it, call Monica at Bake318 and she will recommend the best fit for you!
THE BAKER’S BEST:
• Macarons • Butterfinger Cupcakes • Lemon Bars • Blackberry Pie Bars (See them featured in our sweets spread!) • Fruit Cereal Treats
Monica, along with her kids and amazing husband, really have made this a family place where every flavor has a story and memories are woven into every recipe. Everything created at Bake 318 is made from scratch in-house, making Bake318 your one-stop shop for any and every life moment. Call 318-855-4871 or stop by the bakery at 4900 Cypress Street, Suite 1 in West Monroe today. You’ll definitely be glad you did.
Phi Mu Alpha Rho at ULM
Gears Up for Fall Recruitment
FALL IS RIGHT AROUND THE CORNER which brings a packed schedule for the local chapter of Phi Mu at ULM. These sisters are gearing up for their favorite time of the year! Getting to meet new girls and share what they love about their organization is something these Phi Mu’s look forward to all year. Wondering why you should Go Greek? A few Phi Mu’s, both past and present, want to let you in on just what it means to be a sister.
“Phi Mu means so much more than having sisters and a home. Phi Mu makes me want to be a better and stronger woman. It makes me want to give myself to those who need my time most. Being a Phi Mu means striving to become a “noble” woman!” - Tara Etheridge, Chapter Advisor
“Greek life started as something I was just going to try; I wasn’t sure if it was for me, But then I found the biggest support system. I found a true home within the ULM Greek Community. A place where I can always be myself. I found the sisters that I never knew I needed, the girls that lift me and support me every single day. Greek life has offered me more than I could have ever imagined. Being a part of a sorority means being a part of something bigger than yourself. My Greek community has pushed me and encouraged me and I love being able to do the same for my Panhellenic sisters!” -Madisyn Barton, Recruitment Chair
“Greek life has blessed me in numerous ways throughout my time in college. I have been able to travel and attend Leadership Training conferences with other Greek members! Greek life has built my confidence and pushed me to be my best self as a friend and leader. I have gained my best friends and biggest cheerleaders by going Greek!” -Jaden Lee, Chapter President
Being in this incredible organization also means serving the community, which is evidenced by all the work they do. The Alpha Rho chapter of Phi Mu Fraternity has been dedicated to serving their national philanthropy as well as, serving the Monroe community in various ways each year. Phi Mu’s national philanthropy is Children’s Miracle Network Hospitals. As a chapter, they host several charity events to raise money for the children receiving treatment at CMN hospitals. In the past, Phi Mu- Alpha Rho have had Catfish for Kids, Swing-a-Thon, Dance Marathon, Cupcakes for Kids, Kiss Away Cancer, and their most recent event Dodge Mu. All of the money raised is donated to a local children’s hospital in Little Rock, Arkansas.
Phi Mu is not only dedicated to our philanthropy, but also giving back to the Monroe community. Members have the chance to work with the food banks, the humane society, even the Cinderella Project put on by the Junior League of Monroe. The chapter also participates in Literacy Day where members go to a local elementary school in the community and read books to a classroom full of kids.
Fall Recruitment at ULM will be held August 10th-15th. To register you can visit the ULM website and type in “recruitment” and that will bring you to the Student Life and Leadership page which includes a link to the registration application; or you can also find the link by following ULM Panhellenic social media accounts. Registration will close on August 10th, so sign up now!
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Parish Restaurant + Standard Coffee Co.
Cory Bahr Focuses on Quality, Sustainability and Consistency
WHETHER YOU’RE SEATED AT A opportunity,” explains Cory. “We came table in the cozy dining room or together as a team and decided we wanted enjoying a to go order, you can taste to come out on the other side of this a better the quality of the food, the thought behind restaurant.” And they are doing just that. Parish and the love of creating the dishes at Parish recently installed a custom wood burning stove Restaurant. And that is what is important to from Grills by Demant. The stainless steel Chef/Owner Cory Bahr, now more than ever. grill has an open hearth concept, allowing for The restaurant is doing all it can to provide grilling of steaks and fish, but Cory takes it a quality, local ingredients to use in their dishes. step beyond. “We are charring our seasonal And when they say local, they mean really local. vegetables, baking bread, using the ash to put “We have fruit trees right outside our back door in our butter…there are so many possibilities to and have figs, citrus and peaches that we grew,” create amazing food,” said Cory. explains Cory. “And you can’t beat the taste of While Cory is giddy about the addition a freshly picked peach, that is still warm from of the new grill, he knows that the real crown the sun. There is no comparison.” They also jewel of Parish is his team. Justin Componation partner with local farms like Currant Farms, serves as Chef de Cuisine, helping create menu where they source Chanterelle mushrooms, items. North Louisiana native, Chase Raley, figs, blackberries, garlic and other seasonal has recently joined the team as the Head Pastry items. “Our goal is to really close the loop on Chef. With experience in culinary school and field to fork and have the freshest ingredients high end restaurants, Chase has returned to we can find,” said Cory. his hometown to create decadent desserts like
In the spring, Cory and the Parish team Belgian Chocolate Tarts, Brioche Blackberry spent the initial quarantine shutdown time Bread Pudding and more. Doran Smith began to focus on the restaurant. “We had a real at Parish from the beginning and has worked his way up, becoming a beloved server and now serves as the Maître d’, where he oversees the guests’ entire experience. Cory’s wife, Whitney helps with the front of house operations, which has truly helped Cory realize how important family is to business.
You can find the same focus on quality ingredients and attention to detail just around the corner at Parish’s sister restaurant - Standard Coffee Co. The local coffee shop crafts each individual drink paying attention to the quality of espresso, precise milk steaming techniques and evenly based syrup portions. Mac Blades and Ariel Mora are the faces of the local coffee shop, building relationships with customers daily. You can also find a section of pastries like cinnamon rolls with cream cheese icing, gluten free blueberry lemon streusel muffins, lemon ricotta scones and more. Lunch options include avocado toast, tuna poke bowls, ramen and more.
“We love that we can give the people of North Louisiana something so special,” said Cory. “We want them to come and celebrate their birthdays, anniversaries and special occasions, but we also want them to come in and just get together with friends to enjoy a good meal that highlights fresh, local ingredients.” Whether you are stopping by Standard Coffee Co. or eating dinner at Parish Restaurant, you will appreciate the service, quality and experience from a local restaurant with local people!
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Diversity
BY THE CHILDREN’S COALITION FOR NORTHEAST LOUISIANA
Diversity is the rule not the (NASW), and the Council on Social Work exception. Diversity is Education (CSWE). Presently she is the everywhere. People are Director of the School of Behavioral and different. Different is not better Social Sciences at University of Louisiana at or worse, it’s just different. Monroe, serves as the Program Coordinator There is diversity in families. One person is and a full Professor in the Social Work the tallest. Another is the shortest. One has Program, and serves as the Chairperson on lighter colored eyes than all the Diversity Committee. In of the other family members, addition to her professional etc. Diversity is all around us, endeavors, she serves on so it is impossible to ignore it. the Board of Directors of the Parents address it every day Northeast Louisiana Sickle and it is the type of diversity Cell Foundation; she serves as and how it is addressed that an appointed member on the can be problematic. Parents State of Louisiana Sickle Cell teach children how to react Commission; Ouachita Jury to diversity based on how Commission; Twin City’s Art they react to it. All parents Council; and she served on model and teach directly and DR. PAMELA SAULSBERRY the now defunct Child Death indirectly the behaviors they Review Panel for Region 8. children will emulate.
Dr. Pamela Higgins Saulsberry received Q: Why is important for parents to talk her BA in Social Work from Colorado State to their children about diversity? University; her MSW from the University A: In shaping the thought patterns and of Denver, and her PhD. from Jackson State behaviors of children about those who are University in Jackson, MS. She is a Licensed different from them, parents use direct, also Clinical Social Worker-Board Approved called manifest and/or latent or indirect Clinical Supervisor and a certified School methods. Manifest behaviors of modeling Social Worker and Nurturing Parent and and teaching our children are deliberately Black Effective Parent trainer and a member purposeful. Parents let the child know of the National Association of Social Workers exactly what is expected to do or think about something or someone. Latent methods of modeling and teaching children are indirect, vicarious. Latent learning is a type of learning which is not apparent in the learner’s behavior at the time of learning, but which displays later when a suitable motivation and circumstances appear.
I believe all parents have been with their child(ren) when a person that is disabled is encountered for the first time. Or it might be a person who is homeless, a person who is morbidly obese, a person who is blind, or a person who has a different language, or is a member of a different ethnic group. The first time a child encounters diversity in one of these categories, the parent’s words as well as the reaction of the parent will send a long and lasting message to their child. Because the parents will model for (behave) and teach (specific words spoken or not spoken) the child how to feel and think about the diversity of the person they just encountered. In essence, the parent’s words (tone as well) and behaviors model for the child how to think and feel about the diversity encountered. Some areas of diversity are not encountered because there may be no persons with a disability, or homelessness, a trans/transgendered person, etc. in the child or the parent’s social environment.
Q: Are there ways/activities that can help introduce my child to diversity?
A: Diversity cannot be easily avoided in the world we live in today. In fact, we encounter diversity every day in one form or the other. As parents we try to structure the exposure of our children to things, people, and situations that we are not ready for them to be exposed to. It might be because the parent believes their child is not emotionally or intellectually
“Our habits, mature enough to process that practices and information at that particular age/stage in their young lives. beliefs are the Maybe exposure to a diverse religion or lifestyle does not greatest influence coincide with the values and morals the parents want their on our children. child exposed to at that time. That is understandable and
We must re-shape often recommended. Don’t expose your child to more our lifestyle than they can intellectually and emotionally process and make at their particular age and inclusivity and development stage. However, this does not and should not responsiveness a apply to the ethnic diversity of people. Ethnic diversity in natural habit.” people cannot be avoided. Most will encounter ethnic diversity everyday even when trying to structure a world to avoid that happening. Historically the area of diversity that is most difficult to navigate is ethnicity. Many parents seek to craft the world of their children around ethnic sameness.
Q: What does it mean to be a parent raising a child in this diverse world?
A: In the book, White Fragility, the author Diangelo writes about belonging. She pointed out that for her “In virtually every situation or context deemed normal, neutral, or prestigious in society, I belonged racially.” Diangelo, who is considered white, went on to point out “the rare moments in which I don’t belong racially come as a surprise –a surprise that I can either enjoy for its novelty or easily avoid if I find it unsettling” For many, the environment that is most comfortable is one in which there is little to no ethnic diversity. Dependent on the SES of parents, this choice is often made. That choice perhaps is not made from maliciousness or to purposefully avoiding diversity, but out of pursuing the ethnic neighborhoods society has socialized all to believe are the most desirable. Historically, in America these have not been ethnically diverse neighborhoods. However, people can run, but they can’t hide from ethnic diversity. That attitude hampers interaction over ethnic lines, but it doesn’t stop it.
Diangelo includes an example of a child who sees a person whose skin color was different from their own and points that out to the parent. The parent’s reaction models and teaches the child a valuable lesson about diversity, specifically based on race. If the parent acts embarrassed or uncomfortable and shushes the child without acknowledging the statement, that will speak loudly. If the reaction is matter of fact, simply “yes that is another human being, just different,” that will speak loudly as well. Children are always watching and learning from their parents how to think and feel about others.
Our habits, practices and beliefs are the greatest influence on our children. We must re-shape our lifestyle and make inclusivity and responsiveness a natural habit (Jamie Mayes, 2020). Children learn what they live and live what they learn. If we live in silos where only the people who look, think and act like us inhabit, we are not giving our children a realistic view of the world they will have to navigate. That puts them at a disadvantage in the world as it is. No parent should want to disadvantage their children when they can avoid it. Our children are watching.
RESOURCES Bright Horizons
Bright Horizons (https://www. brighthorizons.com) provides resources for families to discuss diversity and how to speak to children about diversity. Bright Horizons has been changing the way the world works for 30 years. Way back in 1986, our founders saw that child care was an enormous obstacle for working parents. Today they offer child care, elder care, and help for education.
Jan Daniels, Youth Development Director at the Children’s Coalition, works with middle schools in northeast Louisiana to provide the suicide prevention program Signs of Suicide (SOS) and the abstinence-plus program Rights, Respect and Responsibility. Call Jan at (318) 323-8775 or go to www.childrenscoalition.org to learn more about how you can get these programs at your child’s school.
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