Adrian X Sands— Untitled

NOTHING IS GIVEN EVERYTHING IS EARNED

LEBRON JAMES

The term ‘Freeloader’ is a label used to distinguish individuals that take advantage of another, for various reasons. The interior motives that drive Freeloaders, can be anything from emotional want, material need or the overall lack of independence. Sometimes it can be easier that way, rather than to face a situation alone-to lean on another to mold an easier path.

But what of the opposing party and why they cannot say no? Call it an emotional leverage; yes, they can be fully aware of it and chose to do nothing about it. Sometimes for emotional attachment or in other case scenarios, pure fulfillment that they are accepting of-we all have our reasons of not being able to say no. We have all faced a situation where we knew that we are being taken advantage of, but did we do something about it? To keep that friendship, or make excuses for a lover that clearly didn’t put their fair share into the relationship. The problem at times does not lie with the Freeloader, but with you (all of us). We have allowed the Freeloaders to push beyond borders of what we are comfortable with, due to the lack of prioritizing our own needs. However, we actually can be selfish with ourselves, from a place of self-value, self-love and knowing what we deserve.