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JUNE/JULY 2013

IN EVERY ISSUE Letters from the Editors:

54 Death of a Spouse: Enduring Life as a Widowed Parent

8 Ellen London

56 5 Powerful Moms Who Move Boston

10 Sarah Driscoll

104 Entrepreneurship: Angie McMillan Shares Tips Behind the Cake Bar’s Success

11 The Beantown Mom 12 Regards 14 Best of the Bean 16 Calendar of Events 88 Food: Kitchen Surfing Dot Com 113 Family Traditions

PARENTING 44 5 Things to Consider When Buying Toys 66 5 Websites/Apps That Every Modern Mom Should Know 70 Teaching Babies Sign Language

FEATURES 32 Women in Politics: Maureen Dahill 48 Turning Tragedy into Triumph: The Story of Danroy Henry Jr. Through the Eyes of His Mother

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94 5 Tips for Staying Sane When Your Spouse is Away 98 Christine Koh Introduces Parents to “Minimalist Parenting” 100 10 Ways to be a Better Mom Everyday

MARRIAGE & ROMANCE 92 7 Tips for Improving Married Sex

DECOR 76 Thomas’ Nature Inspired Room 78 Noah’s Robotic Room

93 Summer Romance: Boston Gondola Tours 82 At Home with Interior Designer, Kristina Crestin

BEAUTY & FASHION 62 Beyond the Bump 64 Trendy Summer Hair Styles with Nick Penna Jr. 65 2013 Summer Trends with Ali Ehrlich

HEALTH 20 Does Your Short Child Need Growth Hormones? 102 Can Social Media Help You Loose Weight 103 Ask The Expert: Children’s Nutrition

EDUCATION & ENRICHMENT 30 Best Girls Schools in Boston 74 A Camp for Every Kind of Kid

TRAVEL 40 10 Places in Massachusetts That Every Kid Should Visit Before 10 90 The Wheatleigh Hotel: Massachusetts’ Most Magnificent Destination

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Ellen C. London Creative Director Editorial Director Sarah Driscoll

Editor-in-Chief

Copy Editor

Amanda Smith-Teutsch

CONTRIBUTING WRITERS Jessica Collins Grimes Amanda Smith-Teutsch Alicia Klepeis Kristin Quinn Frances Folsom Jessica Collins Grimes Sarah Driscoll PHOTOGRAPHY Deborah McCarthy Daniel Blue Courtney Stockus Richard Hudson Rochanna Buckley ART WORK & DESIGN Marie-Anne Verougstraete SALES/ADVERTISING Matt Driscoll ACCOUNT EXECUTIVE Margery Benkaci Advertising@BeantownMom.com ADVERTISING DIRECTOR

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Editor's Letter

elcome to the second issue of Beantown Mom Magazine.

What a delightful journey it has been, building up to this moment, to this summer issue. Rather than keel before the winds of change, we elected to experiment with them into another pleasant issue of Beantown Mom. The leap from digital to print has certainly been an exhilarating experience, one that I hope you too will find just as stimulating. Taking into account the old-fashioned scholastic reputation, and significance of the 4th day of July in Massachusetts, it was an honor for our team to pay a mark of respect to our state's rich history and culture with articles on Abigail Adams and 10 historic locations that are amusing to children (page 40). Respectively, I would like to disclose that I was recently proven wrong on an opinion I felt very strongly about. I had previously been convinced that there were surely not enough hours in a day, nor days in a week, for a mother to build a successful career, be an engaged parent and a supportive wife, and still maintain a healthy social life. After concluding our cover editorial article on 5 Powerful Moms Who Move Boston (page 59), and the rare glimpse into Maureen Dahill's daily life (page 36), a working mother of three who recently ran for Massachusetts State Senate, I certainly had to re-evaluate my perspective on working moms. Women can indeed have it all! Enjoy the sun,

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FROM THE EDITORIAL DIRECTOR

s there anything better than summertime? School is out, the children are running amuck, and you can wear flip flops every day of the week. Life is slowing down, and the sunshine is warming up. I am more than thrilled to spend my summer days with my children, frolicking amongst all the amazing offerings here in Massachusetts, from Davis’ Farmland to Fenway Park.

Do not miss “10 Places in Massachusetts That Every Kid Should Visit Before 10.” Now is a great time to get started on that list with the kids. Personally, my family and I make a summer bucket list on a chalkboard each year that we check off as we go. Last but certainly not least, I would like to thank you all for the emails of support that are continuously pouring in. You make the bumpy ride worth it. So, thank you! Cheers, Sarah Driscoll

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A Beantown Momâ&#x20AC;Ś

knows the difference between timeless and trendy

drinks tea to match her mood

is as opinionated as Abigail Adams

finds comfort in cupcakes

employs humor when faced with motherhoodâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s many challenges hates cheap paper towels

finds strength in hardships

joins summer book clubs

comprehends the significance of a regular hair appointment

visits the swan boats in the summer

values the importance of a quality education

reads Beantown Mom Magazine on the beach

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Regards... From the Team m o M n w to n a e B We would like to offer our deepest condolences to those who lost a loved one, or suffered irrevocable hardships in the Boston Marathon bombings. Our hearts ache for the three victims who passed far before their time. Their faces will forever be imprinted into the heart and history of our city.

BEANTOWN STRONG Rest in peace,

Martin Richard, age 8 Krystle Campbell, age 29 Lingzi Lu, age 23

Sincerely, The Beantown Moms

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BEST OF THE BEAN

2. Mini Spa Day Bella Sante 1. Elegant Entertainment Boston Opera House 539 Washington St., Boston 617-259-3400 With historic beauty and excellent acoustics, the Boston Opera House is the perfect setting for an elegant evening date with girlfriends. Do not miss “Wicked,” opening this August.

3. Grape Escape Furnace Brook Winery 508 Canaan Rd., Richmond 413-698-3301 Girl-friends and wine are the perfect union of a mom’s day out. Grab your girlfriends, savor some wine and delicious food, and then stroll through the orchards or hike the stunning woodland trails at Furnace Brook Winery.

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76 Bedford St., Lexington 781-862-2444 With many packages for hand and foot care, Bella Sante pampers clients with vamped up manicures and pedicures. Consider the “Decleor Hand and Foot Facial” to nourish and invigorate your hands and feet.

4. Prompt Blow Dry Be Styled Blow Dry Lounge 49 Boylston St., Suite 4920, Chestnut Hill 617-734-4000 Sophisticated yet relaxing, Be Styled attracts modern moms who enjoy the confidence that comes with a professionally blown hairstyle and on-the-go wash & dry. The artful Be Styled hair experience is certainly Beantown Mom recommended!

5. An Evening Stroll Arnold Arboretum 125 Arborway, Jamaica Plain 617-384-5209 With billowing masses of flowers and shrubbery, Arnold Arboretum is 265 beautiful acres of winding paths and picnicking. This is the perfect place to stroll with girlfriends (mommy-friends) and chat about the children or that special someone.

Mom’s Day Out

7. Afternoon Tea Time The Taj Boston 6. The Morning After Odyssey Boston Cruise 60 Rowes Wharf, Boston 888-534-3516 The ‘Mom’s Day Out’ does not have to be limited to weekday or just a special Saturday. Consider a luxurious and relaxing Sunday Champagne and Chocolate Brunch Cruise on the Odyssey. Champagne, chocolate fondue and good company: need we say more?

15 Arlington St., Boston 617-536-5700 Perched at the end of Newbury Street and overlooking the Commons, The Taj is wonderful for tea, pastries, relaxing ambience and peoplewatching. As Henry James once said, “There are few hours in life more agreeable than the hour dedicated to the ceremony known as afternoon tea.”

8. Haute Cuisine Stir Boston 102 Waltham St., Boston 617-423-7847 Perfect for food and wine enthusiasts, a visit to Stir consists of gourmet cooking demonstrations, sipping wine and spirits, and merely embracing the opportunity to taste a connoisseur of fine food and drink. Book well in advance if you intend to go with a group of girlfriends.

9. Treasure Hunt Pear Tree Hill Decor 106 North St., Hingham 781-733-2259 The timeless and eclectic mix of antiques, topiaries and holiday florals make Pear Tree Hill Décor a required destination for women looking to buy (or simply admire) the many artful pieces within the shop.

10. Staying Fit Fit4Mom Multiple Massachusetts locations www.fit4mom.com It is not always easy to get a baby sitter for your day out. Luckily, Fit4Mom is a great excuse to leave the house, stay fit, and connect with other moms, while bonding with your baby.

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Summer SolsticeÂ

The Wrap Party New England Aquarium

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Cole Bros. Circus of the Stars

J.P. Morgan Corporate Challenge

Marshfield and Plymouth

Boston Common

Strawberry Festival

Sunday Parkland Games

Verrill Farm Concord

Charles River Parklands

Wading Pool Opening Celebration

KIDZ Star USA auditions

Boston Common Frog Pond

Six Flags New England

CALENDAR OF EVENTS

JULY... 2

Boston HarborFest/ ChowderFest Begins (2 – 7 ) nd

Despicable Me 2 Now playing everywhere!

Fourth of July!! Fireworks

Tales from the Wild

Family Film Festival

South Shore Natural Science Center

Prudential Center (South Garden)

Lindsay and her Puppet Pals Gore Place

Frisbee Fest Boston Children’s Museum

ZooBabies Day Southwick’s Zoo

“One World” Weekly Enrichment Program Mary Baker Eddy Library

Just So Stories with the Berkshire Theatre Group Berkshire Theatre Group

Parent’s Day!!

The Esplanade

Lindsay and her Puppet Pals Gore Place

New England Revolution vs. Houston Gillette Stadium

Red Sox vs. Yankees Fenway Park

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Summer Arts Weekend Copley Square

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Does Your

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GROWTH So Your Son Is Smaller Than Most of His Classmates, But Does Simply Being Short Require Medical Treatment?

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Child Need

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By JESSICA COLLINS GRIMES

emember those old classroom portraits, when teachers would line the tallest kids in the back row and place the shortest children in front? What do you do when your son or daughter is suddenly in that front row, is the shortest in the class, or seems to be lagging behind their peers in terms of growth? Is this something parents should be concerned about?

There are a number of factors that can impact a child’s height and growth. Short stature could be genetic, as shorter parents are more likely to have shorter children, or the child could simply be a “late bloomer” who will catch up with his friends around puberty. But it could also be a sign of a medical condition, such as growth hormone deficiency, according to Henry D’Angelo, M.D., chair of family medicine at Newton-Wellesley Hospital. “Sometimes you are checking a child just before a growth spurt, and when they come back in a few months for a follow-up, they have grown an inch or so. But if you have a kid who has been average height and in the 50th percentile on the growth chart for several years, and suddenly they drop to the 5th percentile, then they probably need further evaluation,” he said.

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“ ” Therefore it can cost $100,000 to make your child two inches taller,

said Dr. Sadeghi-Nejad

The Morals Behind Giving a Healthy Child Growth Hormones

Medical Conditions That May Require Your Child to Take Growth Hormones Short stature typically means a child is below the third percentile in height for his age and sex on their growth chart, meaning they are shorter than 97 percent of their peers. The good news, according to D’Angelo, is that few of these children with short stature actually have an underlying medical condition. Most are considered to have idiopathic (or unexplained) short stature (ISS) – a clinical description for short stature that has no medical cause. Regarding treatment, synthetic growth hormone (which mimics the hormone naturally secreted by the pituitary gland) has been used successfully for nearly 30 years to help children with medical conditions that cause short stature get to their “genetic potential” in height. But in 2003, in a controversial move, growth hormone was approved by the Food and Drug Administration (FDA) for children with ISS whose projected height will be no more than 5 foot 3 for males, and 4 foot 11 for females.

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Abdollah Sadeghi-Nejad, M.D., Chief of Division of Pediatric Endocrinology at the Floating Hospital for Children at Tufts Medical Center, says not every child with ISS will respond to growth hormone treatment, and it is difficult to predict which kids will gain those extra inches. This variability puts parents – and physicians – in a challenging position: Do you medically treat a short, but otherwise healthy, child?

“I see patients who may be on the 5th or 10th percentile line [on the growth chart], but they come in because someone wants him or her to be a basketball or hockey player. I am concerned about the psychological effect in that. If your child is short and you tell them they need to have injections every day to get taller, basically what the child may be hearing is that they are not good enough as they are,” he says. Dr. Sadeghi-Nejad also points out that growth hormone treatment requires a great deal of commitment on behalf of both the parents and the child. Injections need to be administered daily, although they can be given at home, either by the parent or by the child himself. And, he stresses, it is not an overnight cure. “Generally, we see kids somewhere around the ages of 6 or 7, then they are treated with growth hormones until growth naturally stops, which is somewhere around ages 15 to 16 for girls, and ages 17 to 18 for boys, which means you are committing someone to about 6 to 12 years of daily injections,” said Sadeghi-Nejad. “It is a long process.”

The Cost of Growth Hormones for Children Not only is giving your child growth hormones a long process, but it is also an expensive one. Health insurers rarely cover growth hormone treatment for ISS, meaning parents are the ones left footing the bill, which physicians estimate comes out to be approximately $50,000 per additional inch to the child’s expected height. “Therefore it can cost $100,000 to make your child two inches taller,” said Sadeghi-Nejad.

The Side Effects of Growth Hormones for Children Side effects of growth hormone treatment, while rare, include pressure and swelling within the skull; joint and muscle pain; and slippage of the bones at the hip. However, physicians admit the long-term effects of growth hormone therapy are not known, particularly for children with ISS who already produce their own growth hormone. While short stature is not preventable, experts say it is important to recognize growth problems early; the earlier the diagnosis, the more effective treatment may be. That is why D’Angelo and others recommend parents review their child’s growth chart with their pediatrician at every well-child visit so that they understand not only where their child is on the chart, but are also aware of their child’s growth patterns. Mark Zullo, M.D., a family medicine physician at Norton Medical Center, adds that parents need to remember that people are genetically predisposed to be the height they’re going to be, and there’s a wide range of “normal.” “In this country, we see athletes and we are so exposed to how tall they are, but still the average height for an adult male is about 5 foot 9 and for a female it is about 5 foot 4,” he said. “I often remind and reassure parents that most of us are not destined to be 6 foot 5.” In the meantime, Sadeghi-Nejad offers the following advice to parents with a short child who may not be a candidate for treatment, as well as those who decide not to pursue treatment. “Love your child, tell them how good they are at math or other activities, rather than fixating on one aspect of the child, like their height,” he said. “I think a major trick of parenthood is to push your kids as hard as you can to achieve the best they can. If a child is short and nothing is wrong, then okay, let us see what he or she is good at and try adding to that, rather than something that involves a lot of injections and a lot of money, and questionable results.”

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Abigail Smith ADAMS 1744-1818

Celebrating the Life of the Second First Lady of the United States

“I’ve always felt that a person’s intelligence is directly reﬂected by the number of conﬂicting points of view he can entertain simultaneously on the same topic.”

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n a reckoning of powerful women in Massachusetts, Abigail Adams would most

presumably be placed in the highest—and most prime—position. Wife to John Adams, the second President of the United States, Abigail passionately advocated for women’s rights during the formative era of the United States. She believed that women were more signiﬁcant than the helpmate role assigned to them by their male counterparts, and that their voices should be acknowledged and considered. As one of the earliest feminists, she is at the root of female power and intelligence, and perhaps created the mold from which many intellectual women in ensuing generations were likely to sprout from. She was a game changer.

é Abigail Adams was born Abigail Smith on November 11, 1744 in Weymouth, Mass. é Her childhood nickname was “Nabby” because her older sister, Mary, could not pronounce Abigail. é She was the mother of John Quincy Adams, the sixth President of the United States of America. é Unlike Martha Washington, the First Lady that preceded her, Abigail took an active role in politics and policy. In fact, many people referred to her as “Mrs. President.”

é Abigail was an intellectual who believed strongly in the rights of women. Unlike many women during her time, she was open-minded, opinionated, expressed her opinion conﬁdently and quite frank in speech. In fact, it was said that John Adams never made a decision as President without discussing it with Mrs. President.

“We have too many high-sounding words, and too few actions that correspond with them.”

é Abigail’s mother disapproved of her marriage to John because at the time of their courtship he was a mere country lawyer whose manners—apparently—belonged on the farm.

é Nabby and John married on October 25, 1764, in the Smiths’ home in Weymouth. Abigail’s father was the ofﬁciant. é After the wedding, Abigail and John rode by horse to their Braintree cottage located on the farm that John had inherited. The small cottage would eventually give way to The President’s House in Philadelphia, and later, the White House.

é P resident John Adams and she were the ﬁrst of all First Couples to reside in the White House—the capital moved to Washington D.C. during Adams’ second term.

é n Abigail’s most famous I letter to John, she wrote of her passion for women’s rights, “I long to hear that you have declared an independency – and by the way in the new Code of Laws which I suppose it will be necessary for you to make. I desire you would remember the ladies, and be more generous and favorable to them than your ancestors. Do not put such unlimited power into the hands of the Husbands. Remember all Men would be tyrants if they could. If particular care and attention is not paid to the Ladies we are determined to foment a Rebellion, and will not hold ourselves bound by any Laws in which we have no voice, or Representation.”

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he majority of Massachusetts’ superior high schools are co-educational. However, some parents prefer single-gender learning environments for their children, due to family traditions, cultural beliefs, or emerging scientific evidence that students perform better on achievement tests when separated by gender. This separation does not only occur in private schools; a growing number of public schools are experimenting with singlegender classrooms as well. The National Association for Single Sex Public Education reports that in the 2011-2012 school year there were approximately 506 public schools in the United States that offered single-sex educational opportunities, and students in those classrooms performed better on tests than their co-ed peers. What is causing this resurgence of interest in single-sex learning? Public-school gender separation became rare after the adoption of Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972, which set out to ban all sex discrimination in education. Reforms were passed in 2006 with the No Child Left Behind Act (NCLB), which allowed districts to create single-sex schools and classrooms, provided enrollment was voluntary and all services and facilities were comparable to those offered to the opposite sex and co-ed students. While many debate the benefits of same-sex and co-ed schools, some parents strongly support gender separation in schools. Using independent research and reviewing academic, extracurricular and enrichment offerings, we compiled a list of some of the noteworthy female-only schools in Massachusetts for those parents who feel strongly about single-sex education.

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NOTEWORTHY GIRLS SCHOOLS in Massachusetts By Amanda Smith-Teutsh

Ursuline Academy

Miss Hall’s School

Serviam: I will serve

What girls have in mind

Stationed on a 28-acre campus, Ursuline Academy is a private Catholic school that opened its doors in 1819. The singlegender learning environment prides itself in inspiring confidence and the willingness in students to be adventurous without fear of embarrassment.

Tucked in the beautiful Berkshire Hills of western Massachusetts, Miss Hall’s School is a college preparatory school with a long history and reputation for excellence. MHS welcomes both boarding and day students from 20 states and 20 countries.

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Location: Pittsfield Grades: 9th – 12th

Annual Tuition: $14,650

Annual Tuition: Day Student $30,900; Resident $49,850

Mandatory School Uniform: Yes

Mandatory School Uniform: No

Religious Affiliation: Roman Catholic

Religious Affiliation: None

Average Class Size: 20

Average Class Size: 11

Highlight: The Serviam Project at Ursuline instills the value of serving others. Each student is required to perform some type of community service each year of attendance.

Highlight: MHS promotes success in all their girls by utilizing a Girls’ Leadership Project, which transforms the School into a leadership laboratory that helps them develop their sense of personal authority.

Enrollment: 409 Students Website: www.ursulineacademy.net

Enrollment: 190 Students Website: www.misshalls.org

BT M The Winsor School A sound mind in a sound body Established in Beacon Hill in 1886 by Miss Mary Pickard Winsor, the school has grown from 8 students to one of the most exclusive schools in the country, enrolling approximately 430 girls each year from grades 5 -12. Named one of the best schools in the country by Forbes Magazine and one of the best schools in the world by the Wall Street Journal, The Winsor’s most coveted success is sending the majority of its alumni to the most selective colleges in the country.

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Newton Country Day School Courage and confidence Founded in 1880, Newtown Country Day School is a college preparatory school for girls in grades 5 to 12. The large age range of students allows for a firmly integrated community of girls that help empower one another to reach for excellence. Location: Newton

Dana Hall School Love and charity Dana Hall School is the only all-girls boarding school in the Boston Metro area, and is one of the few schools in New England to offer on-campus horseback riding as physical education. The school’s most popular attraction, the riding center, offers instruction for the beginner up to competition levels and has its own 45-stall equestrian barn that boards students’ horses.

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Location: Boston (Longwood area) Grades: 5th – 12th

Annual Tuition: $37,000

Mandatory School Uniform: No Religious Affiliation: None Average Class Size: 13

Highlight: The Winsor School offers superb off-campus programs to broaden girls’ perspectives, including student exchanges to China and France, concert tours and speaking competitions around the world. There are also opportunities closer to home for girls to enjoy a semester at some of the country’s leading educational programs: the Mountain School in Vermont and CITYterm, which uses New York City as its classroom.

Grades: 5th – 12th

Location: Wellesley

Annual Tuition: $41,325

Grades: 6th – 12th

Mandatory School Uniform: No

Annual Tuition: Day Student $39,266; Resident $53,211

Religious Affiliation: Roman Catholic Student/Teacher Ratio: 7/1

Highlight: NCDS is a member of the Network of Sacred Heart Schools, which spans forty-four countries and twenty-one cities in the United States. Being a member of this network allows the school to help foster an important global awareness in every student, as they strive to build a more just world. Enrollment: 411

Mandatory School Uniform: No Religious Affiliation: None

Student/Teacher Ratio: 8/1

Highlight: Majority of alumni are successfully placed into the highly selective Wellesley College Enrollment: 475 Students

Website: www.danahall.org

Website: www.newtoncountryday.org

Enrollment: 430 Students Website: www.winsor.edu

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LIFE AFTER THE ELECTIONS Inside the Life of Former Massachusetts State Senate Candidate Maureen Dahill By SARAH DRISCOLL ! Photography by DEBORAH MCCARTHY

“The results of the elections were exactly how they were supposed to be,” stated aspiring politician Maureen Dahill, following her unsuccessful bid for the First Suffolk District State Senate Seat in the April 2013 election. While the outcome of her electoral attempt may not have been victorious, the South Boston mom has several talents and prior engagements to return to, now that her time will be liberated from the ferocious and turbulent whirlwind of orchestrating a political campaign. Co-founder and writer of South Boston’s most popular lifestyle blog, Caught in Southie, lead stylist at Rue La La, firefighter’s wife and mother of three, Maureen is a woman who balances a busy career and motherhood seamlessly; she makes it look easy. More than that, she makes it look stylish.

Known to some Southie locals as a fashion icon, she is always dressed based on her mood, and notes that women should always wear what they love and what makes them feel good. No matter where life takes her, whether it be towards politics, blogs or fashion, she will never be a “pantsuit and pearls kind of girl,” she winked. A Boston College alumni and resident of South Boston since birth, Maureen is a Bostonian to the core, with all the sass, all the smarts, and all the style. Throughout the day, she swaps various distinct titles including that of politician, stylist, writer, entrepreneur, wife, and of course, super mom. Her afternoons are often spent at the Boston Harbor Yacht Club, her “oasis in the city,” and her nights are spent at home as a typical mom of three. She is a modern day mother meets style icon.

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What do you love most about living in South Boston?

What challenges do you face as a working mother of 3 children?

The people in South Boston are second to none. I also love the fact that we are close to down town as well being right on the water. I enjoy being so close to the water. Taking a walk around Castle Island is one of my favorite things to do.

I face that same challenge that all working mothers do â&#x20AC;&#x201C; the feeling of there not being enough time in a day to spend with your children. My children are my top priority. I always want them to feel loved and important every minute of every day. So you have to prioritize.

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Is a career in politics something you want to do long term (Maureen Dahill for Governor?)? Who knows? If you asked me five years ago if Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;d be running for state senate, I probably would have said you were nuts. But you never know where life will take you. An opportunity arose and I jumped at it.

When did you start Caught in Southie and what inspired you? I began Caught in Southie with a friend of mine [Megan Lee] in 2009. Many people move out of Southie but you would see them back in town, picking up cakes at Joseph’s Bakery or going to the local bank. I thought it would be fun to start a blog where we actually “Caught” people in Southie. It has sort of morphed into something more over the years. Now it is an online magazine dedicated to South Boston.

How do you find time to balance motherhood, a blog, and your career as a stylist, while also running for state senate? Please do share your secret! It is really important to stay balanced, and when I find myself feeling “off ” I acknowledge that I need to take a moment to breathe. Balancing is artful but you know when some part of your life is not getting the attention it deserves and that is when you have to take a moment and re-prioritize.

“If you asked me five years ago if I’d be running for state senate, I probably would have said you were nuts.”

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In the absence of politics, Maureenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s daily life is that of a fashionable woman, a loving wife and working mother of three, whoâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s social values are deeply rooted into her community.

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5 Tips on Balancing Career and Motherhood 1. Write lists 2. Take time for yourself – whether it’s going to the gym, reading a book or taking a nap. 3. Hug and kiss your children every chance you get. 4. Make time for romance – even if it’s a quick glass of wine on the couch with your husband while watching a movie. It’s important to always have that connection with your husband. 5. It’s okay to ask for help. Balancing a career and motherhood is not easy and it’s okay to ask for help. I always say, “It takes a village.”

5 Favorite Clothing Stores in Massachusetts 3 Quick Fashion Tips for Looking Stylish yet Comfortable Enough to Run After the Kids 1. Pair jeans with a blazer. A blazer pulls the look together and makes you look polished. 2. Invest in a good and comfortable pair of shoes but don’t sacrifice fashion. I love ballet flats and I live in booties in the winter. They are comfortable and chic. 3. Put effort into your clothing because you never know who you might bump into when you are out and about.

1. Rue La La [well, obviously] 2. SoWA Open Market - South End [My friend Melody has an amazing booth and I find the best stuff there] 3. Closet Connection - South Boston 4. Ku De Ta - South Boston 5. Habit - South Boston [I love shopping and supporting local spots]

5 Can’t-Live-Without Closet Essentials 1. French sailor shirt 2. Vintage winter coats 3. A vintage Ferragamo handbag 4. My wedding band from the 1950s and engagement ring from the Edwardian period 5. Really good designer denim (AG denim dark washed jeans)

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Places in Massachusetts That Every Kid Should Visit Before

assachusetts is stitched with history that spirals into opportunities for amusement, knowledge and family time. Not only can our home-state take credit for being the site of the first Pilgrim settlement in the United States, but it is also home to some of the most highly esteemed sports teams (the Red Sox, Celtics, Bruins and Patriots), spooky tales of witches and warlocks in Salem, and the forever-uniting Boston Marathon. From great tours and sporting events, to educational opportunities at every corner, Massachusetts has a surplus of must-dos for kids.

Swan Boats Unique to Boston and concealed within the Public Gardens, the Swan Boats are a perfect way to spend the afternoon in the summer time. Children enjoy reading Make Way for Ducklings and making the connection that the island home of Mr. and Mrs. Mallard and their Ducklings in the book, is the same island in the middle of the pond at the Gardens. In addition, just around the corner from the Swan Boats are eight beautiful bronze duckling statues that appear to be waddling behind their mama. Every Beantown kid should have their picture taken while sitting on those ducklingsâ&#x20AC;&#x201D; tucked away in a memory book to remind them of a summer afternoon spent in the Public Gardens.

Note: Due to long lines on spring and

summer weekends, consider visiting on weekdays, and bring lunch in a picnic basket.

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Davis’ Farmland

Plimoth Plantation

The FreedomTrail

Davis’ Farmland and Mega Maze in Sterling is excellent for kids of all ages. The property boasts hours of entertainment; children can wander amid animals in the petting zoo, sit with baby goats on their laps, catch pretend fish in the stream, jump in a giant inflatable bouncer, go for pony rides, plunge down a giant slip and slid, roll around in a pit of bubbles or run amuck on the splash pad. Howsoever, one of the most magical areas at Davis’ for younger children is probably the most simplest of all; hidden on one side of the farm is a village of playhouses, where children can dress up and engage in a land of make-believe, pretending to be veterinarians, mailmen, and so much more.

The birthplace of Thanksgiving, Plimouth Plantation is a representation of the 17th century Plymouth colony, which consisted of the Wampanoag People and the Colonial English community. From thatch-roofed houses to wigwams, visitors are immersed in a historical re-enactment of the early settlers’ daily life. The Colonial English community at Plimoth Plantation commit to role playing, often expressing ancient political opinions; while the native Wampanoag speak from a modern day perspective. Visitors have the option to travel further up the road to explore the Mayflower II, a realistic and stunning replica of the original.

The Freedom Trail begins at the visitor center at Boston Common and continues on for 2.5 miles, following a red brick road through 16 sites pertaining to the American Revolution. Among the sites are the homes of patriot Paul Revere, and the Old North Church, litigiously where those two famous lanterns warned the midnight rider in 1775 that “the British are coming!” The concept of delayed communication is an education opportunity too, especially for children who today have breaking news at the touch of any smart device.

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Note: Animal feed cups are sold at the

entrance. Consider buying only one cup for every three children, otherwise they will go to waste. The animals never seem to be very hungry.

Address: 145 Redstone Hill Rd., Sterling 978-422-8888

Note: Visit the Wampanoag home site to witness a candid re-inaction of how the 17th-century Wampanoag tribe lived; you will witness the Native Americans planting crops, gathering food and weaving baskets and mats from reeds. Address: 137 Warren Ave., Plymouth 508-746-1622

Note: Be certain to peruse the visitor information center and pick up a Freedom Trail booklet and a map thus children can enjoy marking your progress along the way.

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Boston Marathon

Boston Duck Tours

Visit Salem in October

Known as one of the most highly regarded marathons in the world, watching—and cheering — for those trekking 26.2 miles from Hopkinton to Boston is nothing short of inspirational. The 2014 marathon will be all-encompassing as we remember those who lost their lives, suffered terrible wounds and ran toward danger to save the lives of others during the 2013 Marathon Bombings. We will stand together beneath the sunshine, passing waters, holding handmade signs, and acknowledging that we are stronger than terrorism.

Children adore touring Boston from amphibious vehicles with a conDUCKtor. For young and old, these trips are absurdly funny and entertaining. During the tour, children are intensely engaged in quacking their duck beaks, taking their turn driving the boat, and laughing at jokes that they are completely unaware of how much knowledge of Boston’s history they are acquiring in the process. This is a wonderful introduction to the city for any Beantown kid.

Every child in Massachusetts needs to spend some October days walking along streets where leaves crackle beneath small feet, passers-by dress as goblins and ghosts, shrilling screams echo from buildings steeped in history, and silence is always followed by laughter and the words, “let’s do it again!”

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Note: Remember to be clothed in your Boston Strong t-shirts and explain their significance to the children. Address: Boston Athletic Association. 40 Trinity Place, 4th Floor, Boston 617-236-165

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Note: Consider arriving early to seize a seat up front. The back seats and engines tend to be noisy during the water portions of the tours.  Address: 4 Copley Place #4155, Boston 617-267-3825

Note: We recommend the amusement of the live 4D witchcraft and ghost theatrical experience at one of Salem’s most rated and scary attractions, The Gallows Hill Museum, formerly known as The Witches Cottage.

Address: 7 Lynde St., Salem 978-825-0222

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Blue Man Group

Fenway Park

King Richard’s Faire

While some of the humor will not be relatable to kids, the entire show is packed with comical theatrics, fun music and breath taking acrobats that are amusing for even the youngest audience members. This is a show that everyone must see at least once in their lifetime.

Sunshine covered by baseball hats, the smell of hotdogs, and the sound of “Sweet Caroline” echoing across the crowd; nothing beats a summer afternoon spent at Fenway with mom and dad. Children are not looking forward to the best seats in the park, they are excited about the experience of buying peanuts and crackerjacks, and to root, root, root for the home team.

King Richard’s Faire is a renaissance fair spread across 80 acres of pine forest absorbed in 16th Century historic enchantment. While parents are humored by the comics that fly over children’s heads, the kids are engrossed in a world where knights, princesses, royal courts, exotic animals, wenches and sword fights are factual and engaged.

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Note: If anyone in your party is wearing a particular outfit that they would detest to see ruined, maintain reasonable distance from the front seats. The paint stains are permanent.

Address: Charles Playhouse, 74 Warrenton St., Boston 617-426-6912

Note: Carry sunscreen, raincoats and

Note: Remember to wear your costume.

sweatshirts, you never know when the weather might change.

Address: 4 Yawkey Way, Boston 617-226-6666

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Things To Consider When Buying Toys

When you become a parent, toys will become more abundant in your home than furniture. Like your furniture, they should be durable and appealing. However, unlike your furniture, it is important to select toys that will contribute to your child’s development and education.

1. Do not determine the value of a toy by price

Toys do not need to be expensive or reviewed by every leading website and top mom blog to be educational and amusing for your child. Instead of focusing on price or popularity, consider the practical and educational aspect. Toys to seek are those that provide educational benefits such as counting, sorting and letter recognition.

2. Do think quality, not quantity When buying toys, less is more. Avoid collecting too many toys, because chances are that your child will only have one or two favorites at a time, leaving the rest of the toys to clutter your home.

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educational value, yet your child is able to handle one better. Consider the toys functionality and accessibility, and how it relates to your child’s abilities, rather than worrying about the price tag.

4. Do

pick toys that are less likely to cause harm when used as a weapon

Many parents opt for safe wooden toys; however, others still continue to buy sharp-edged or heavy toys for their older children. In result, when a toddler is playing with his older brother’s toy, a battle ensues and in no time, one child gets hurt. It is also important to enforce that older children keep advanced toys out of younger siblings’ reach.

5. Do

not think fun, think educational first

While many educational toys are amusing for a child; unfortunately, not all amusing toys are educational. Construction toys, arts and crafts, board games and puzzles are all great educational toys that children find entertaining.

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On this day of October 16, 2010,

Danroy

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DJ's loving family: His parents, Angella and Danroy Sr., and his younger siblings, Kyle and Amber.

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Turning Tragedy Into Triumph  The story of Danroy Henry Jr. through the eyes of his mother By SARAH DRISCOLL ! Photography by COURTNEY STOCKUS

t was 3 o’clock in the morning of October 17, 2010 when Angella Henry awoke to a knock on the door of her Easton Massachusetts home. It was the kind of knock that every mother dreads.

There was no foreseeing how the day prior could have possibly led up to that earth-shattering event. No indication that the pleasant events of the day would portend the devastating news the night would bear. Angella and her husband, Danroy Sr., had spent the day in New York cheering their eldest son, Danroy Henry Jr (DJ) and his fellow teammates, for Pace University’s varsity football team, and taking pride in his athletic achievements. However, as Angella and Danroy Sr. lay contently in bed, the night was unfolding quite differently for their beloved 20 year old son. After a great day of football, friends and family, DJ decided to head to Finnegan’s, a popular bar and grill. There had been an altercation at the establishment in which, by all accounts, DJ and his friends had not even been remotely involved in. While DJ and two of his friends waited outside for more friends to pile into the Nissan Maxima that he was driving, a crowd slowly began to gather and the boys were directed by on-scene police officers to carry on. What happened next is a mix of supposition and confusion, but the aftershocks continue to be felt today—DJ’s life was tragically cut short after being shot by a police officer on the scene.

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It is an extremely challenging journey, it is a pain that you have to carry within you every day. It is so immense that you almost wonder if people see it on your face and hear it in your voice.

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—Angella Henry

The Henry's dining room has been converted into Danroy Henry Jr.'s place of remembrance. DJ's spirit is captured and felt in the photographs, snowglobes, childhood keepsakes and wooden angels.

Angella credits her husband, Danroy Henry Sr., as being “the rock” of the family. Her love for him and their family is etched in every word she speaks and every look she gives.

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he midnight call, the dreaded nocturnal knock, embodies every mother’s nightmare; for Angella Henry, it became her reality.

to enable children and young adults to say “yes” to healthy lifestyles through athletics and wellness programs. With the support of the Dream Fund, families who may not have been able able to afford the fees associated with athletic programs are able to participate.

Law enforcement officers alleged that her law-abiding son was trying to run over a police officer with his car, a turn of events that do not make any sense to DJ’s family. “DJ was not a criminal,” Angella said. He had no connection to the altercation. He was not a bad kid; his mother and other loved ones describe him as “a gentle spirit.” She disputed accounts of DJ’s intoxication intended to presumably justify the police officer’s actions, saying, “DJ was not intoxicated that morning, even though some media outlets tried to portray his image as intoxicated and reckless, nor was he trying to run the police officer down.”

When asked what she would say to another mother who is experiencing similar loss, Angella said, “I would just encourage others parents to take the moment to breathe. To navigate through the storm. There are so many moments that come and go. One might think that you are okay and the next minute you are grief stricken and on the floor in tears. Having the Dream Fund, knowing that we are doing the things DJ loved, and having an impact on other families has brought me joy.”

While the accounts of Danroy Junior’s death are contradicting, there is one known fact: DJ had spent the last day of his life doing what he loved, surrounded by those he loved, and then lost his life far before his time.

For a grieving mother, Angella notes that the DJ Dream Fund does not make her unbearable loss any easier; in fact, in many ways, it makes it harder.

Through the grief of a mother and father who have lost a piece of their hearts, the tears of two sad siblings who had lost their big brother, and through the frenzied media that parked outside a home that no longer felt whole, something unexpected arrived: Hope. The Henrys navigated through the storm and found a reason to trudge through the trenches of heartache. They found a way to turn tragedy into triumph and created the DJ Dream Fund, a fitness non-profit organization in memory of their son who’s bone and marrow was that of an avid sports lover to the core. The fund was started as an idea by Danroy Henry Sr., whom Angella credits as being the “rock of the family.” The mission of the fund is to share DJ’s immense love for sports, by providing the financial resources

“The pain is still immeasurable. When you have to see his pictures displayed everywhere while serving other children, it is a constant reminder of his absence. And I wish we did not have to bury him. I wish we could do all this while he was here,” she said. “We have to remember that we have all been given a task to do while on earth and ours was to serve other children in DJ’s memory.” Angella will never get to kiss her son on the forehead and tell him that she is proud of him. Neither will she ever see him play another football game, nor share a cheek to cheek dance at his wedding. Never the less, she has hope; she found purpose. She has turned her nightmare into a pleasant and life changing experience for each and every child who benefits from DJ’s Dream Fund. She persevered. She stood up; and she has, in every way, turned tragedy into triumph.

To donate to the DJ Dream Fund, you can log onto the website at www.djdreamfund.org/contribute/

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DEATH of a SPOUSE Enduring Life as a Widowed Parent By MARTIN SPINELLI

artin Spinelli, best-selling memoir After the Crash, will remember that moment for the rest of his life. Six years ago, in a hotel lobby, two police officers tracked him down to give him news no parent or spouse wants to hear—a tragic automobile accident had killed his wife and left his 4-year-old son gravely injured. His bag fell to the ground, echoing the pain inside his heart.

That was just the beginning. After a lengthy recovery in an intensive care unit, his young son regained consciousness and began asking for his “Mama.” Martin now had to live through that terrible moment of loss all over again—only this time, he had to share it with his son. “There is no ‘right’ way to tell your child that their loved one has died. There is no formula. Each parent needs to find a way that works for them and their child,” Martin says.

Martin Spinelli is the author of the best-selling memoir After the Crash. In his book, Martin shares his son’s miraculous recovery, the hardship of loss, and a heart-warming personal transformation that reminds us that light will always outshine darkness. Find him online at www.martinspinelli.com

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Trust Your Instincts

You have them for a reason and they generally serve you well.

Separate Your Own Trauma and Grief from Your Child’s

This is desperately hard because it is impossible to avoid identifying with what you are going through; you have, after all, lost the same person. But your losses and how you relate to them are going to be different. Children, especially young children, process the death of a loved one differently from adults. They can lack an appreciation of its permanence, and can continue to ask for the missing parent months or years after the fact.

Routines and Familiar Events Can Help

Stick with your schedule. Unlike adults who often wish to run away from their pain, children need to hold on to what they have left.

Look After Yourself and Conserve Your Strength

Remember that you need to take care of yourself too, not just your child. In order for your child to endure this painful event in the best way possible, you have to stay strong for the long haul. This is a marathon, not a sprint.

Find Joy and Take Heart Where You Can

It may not seem so now, but opportunities for this do exist. There are plenty of studies that suggest that children who lose a parent through death do much better emotionally and developmentally than those who lose a parent through abandonment or other forms of separation.

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POWERFU L Who Move Boston

Whether it be restaurant reservations or re-election, when they speak, we all listen By AMANDA SMITH-TEUTSCH

espite the astounding accomplishments of these mighty moms, they too have to work hard and strive to balance motherhood, marriage and career, just like everyone else. Whether they are generating historic merits, causing chaos among paparazzi, operating opulent establishments, pioneering academia or devoting valuable time to philanthropic initiatives, these five power moms show us how it is done at the highest levels of Boston professional and social life, moving in circles of high society where the challenges of balancing motherhood and work life are remarkably relatable.

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Age: 33 Children: 3 Marital Status: Married Residence: Beacon Hill Provenance: Brazil

Accomplishments: Highest paid model in the

world, actress and most photographed Beantown Mom.

estled in Beacon Hill, supermodel Gisele Bundchen is the mother of two and stepmother to one. Married to football hero Tom Brady, both parents are working hard to guarantee that their children have the best of upbringings. Gisele credits the family values she received through her Brazilian-German heritage to her success in life, noting that her strong family support system insulated her from many of the dramatic pressures of the haute couture world, including the occasional destructive desire to be waifthin. Comfortable—and gorgeous— at a size 8, Gisele is known for advocating healthy lifestyles to maintain physical fitness and good health.

Philanthropy: Gisele is an avid advocate of HIV/

AIDS causes, a tenacious environmental activist and Goodwill Ambassador for United Nations Environment Programme (UNEP). In recognition of her eco-efforts, Harvard named her it’s 2011 Global Environmental Citizen. Other past recipients of this award have been notable names such as former UN Secretary General Kofi Annan, Prince Charles, Al Gore, John Kerry and Harrison Ford.

Gisele Bundchen

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Age: 47 Children: 2 Marital Status: Married Residence: Foxboro Provenance: Massachusetts

Accomplishments: Popular Fox 25 News Anchor, accomplished journalist and working mom of 2.

aria Stephanos, who holds a Masterâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s degree in Communications from Emerson College, started her journalism career at radio stations. Comfortable and glamorous on camera now, some of her first duties behind the microphone included working for National Public Radio (NPR) earning about $15,000 a year.

Maria Stephanos

Setting her sights on broadcast journalism, she received many rejections while searching for the perfect job to ignite her broadcasting career. Her tenacity led to her hiring as a general assignment reporter at Fox 25, where she rose through the ranks and became the station's current lead anchor. She has been recognized numerous times for journalistic excellence, and her stories have included coverage of some of the most compelling stories of our generation. She has professionally associated with criminals, con men, heroes and three U.S. Presidents, respectively. Most recently, she was at the finish line of the Boston Marathon with her children, congratulating her husband, Dale, for completing the race when the fateful bombings occurred, placing her in the center of one of the stories she would normally cover for the station. Her husband escaped injury, and she was able to relay first-hand accounts to the news channel.

Philanthropy: Maria is a staunch supporter of

organizations such as the Juvenile Diabetes Research Foundation, Action for Boston Community Development, The American Heart Association, Rosie's Place, Relay for Life and The Make-A-Wish Foundation.

Underscore: Irrespective of how high she ascends on the success ladder, she remains grounded and very active in her local communityâ&#x20AC;&#x201D;she lists attending her childrenâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Little League games in Foxboro as a favorite activity. 58 I

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Age: 63 Children: 5 Marital Status: Married Residence: Belmont Provenance: Michigan

Accomplishments: Former Massachusetts First

Lady, avid equestrian and board member of National Multiple Sclerosis Society.

Ann Romney

any women find themselves in the position of having to set aside their education when starting a family, but not Ann Romney. She and high school sweetheart Mitt Romney married in 1969, while both were still pursing studies at Brigham Young University. The first of their five sons, Taggart, was born on the couple’s first wedding anniversary. Rather than abandon her studies, the proud stay-athome-mom completed her bachelor of arts in French Language studies through night courses, while Mitt completed business and law degrees at Harvard. Ann decided to forgo her own career and dedicated herself to raising the couple’s family and supporting her husband’s political aspirations. His success on the political arena has allowed her to give a high-profile platform to many of the causes she holds dear. A dedicated wife, Ann was a prominent participant in both of her husband’s presidential campaigns. Mitt thanked Ann for her devotion in his concession speech at Boston Convention & Exhibition Center, “I also want to thank Ann, the love of my life. She would have been a wonderful first lady. She has been that and more to me and to our family, and to the many people that she has touched with her compassion and her care.”

Philanthropy: Ann is active in many charitable organizations, including those that support children’s welfare and inner-city youth and families. Underscore: Ann was diagnosed with multiple

sclerosis over a decade ago; however, she refuses to let obstacles dictate her life. She is a strong and determined woman, a competitive equestrian and enjoys spending time with her 20 active grandchildren.

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Age: 51 Children: 2 Marital Status: Married Residence: Milton Provenance: Massachusetts Accomplishments: Harvard Business School

alumni, president of Fidelity Investments, richest person in Massachusetts, 22nd richest person in the USA, member of the Board of Directors of the Securities Industry and Financial Markets Association (SIFMA) and working Beantown Mom of 2.

Abigail Johnson

or many people, working in the family business might mean taking over the reins of a restaurant or a trucking firm, or perhaps a small manufacturing company, not the case for this Johnson scion. Abigail Johnson followed in her grandfather’s and father’s footsteps in pursuing a career in high finance. After completing her MBA at Harvard, she worked as a consultant at Booz Allen Hamilton Inc., before joining Fidelity Investments, the company founded by her grandfather in 1946, which has grown to become one of the largest mutual fund and investment services houses in the world. Forbes and other finance publications portray Abigail as a down-to-earth woman adept at balancing multiple competing priorities while eschewing the flashier trappings of wealth—the publication ranks her as the third-wealthiest woman in the U.S. and one of 100 wealthiest people in the world.

Philanthropy: The Edward C. Johnson Fund,

the Johnson family’s charitable foundation, makes innumerable donations to several charities each year.

Underscore: Regular working mom who balances marriage, career and motherhood, despite being one of the world’s most powerful women in finance.

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Age: 65 Children: 2 Marital Status: Married Residence: Cambridge Provenance: Virginia

Accomplishments: First female president of

Harvard University, author, Ph.D., former college dean and professor of history.

inston Churchill once said, “History is written by the victors.” However, until recently, it was also written by men and many times the contributions of women were disregarded.

Drew Gilpin Faust

Drew Gilpin Faust, the 28th president of Harvard University, has placed a tremendous amount of emphasis on changing the notion of the role of women, notably on the significance of roles women have continually performed in shaping the history of the United States. Raised in the Shenandoah region of Virginia, Drew Gilpin Faust attended Concord Academy and Bryn Mawr, graduating magna cum laude with honors in history from the latter. Her doctoral degree was awarded by the University of Pennsylvania where her thesis on the role of intellectuals in the Old South cemented her reputation as one of the preeminent minds in academia. She is credited with developing new perspectives on the history of the post-Civil War South, and particularly the changing roles of women during and after the war. Two years after being named President of Harvard University, Forbes named her one of the year’s most powerful women.

Philanthropy: As president of Harvard, Dr.

Faust has expanded financial aid to improve access to Harvard College for students of all economic backgrounds.

Underscore: “I’m not the woman president of Harvard, I’m the president of Harvard.” —Drew Gilpin Faust

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Trendy Summer Hair Styles By NICK PENNA JR.

Side Braid

The Disheveled Chignon

Condition it Up

A popular hair trend for summer is the relaxed side braid. The side braid can take you straight from a night out at your favorite locale to the beach the next day.

This casual, low chignon is a current trend that is easy to wear for any summer occasion and is great for on-the-go situations. The style goes effortlessly from day to night.

How-to: Part and comb your hair off center to either side. Place your hair over one shoulder and separate your hair into three strands; two smaller, shorter sections; and then a thicker section in the middle. Pull the smaller strands of hair to the opposite sides, pulling them to the middle sections; repeat this part until you’re satisfied with the length of the braid. Secure the ends with an elastic band and you have finished!

How-to: To achieve this look, “rake” your hair with your fingers, brushing it back into a low ponytail and secure with an elastic band. Grab the ponytail and begin to coil it with one hand into a bun at the back of your head. Secure the coiled hair with bobby pins as you wrap. Take any loose strands of hair and wrap them back around the bun and tuck, securing with more bobby pins. The chignon is meant to look imperfect!

Chlorine, salt and natural lake sediment wreak havoc on your hair, so before you take the plunge, Nick’s tip is to do a pre-wash and condition. Most beaches/pools have public showers. You might think it’s weird to shower before getting in the water, but allowing your hair to soak up fresh water prevents it from absorbing the more harmful properties of chlorine or salt. And, if you can, spray or comb in a leave-in conditioner to further hydrate — it will protect your hair from damage. No public shower? Use a spray-in conditioner; Nick likes L’Oreal Professionnel’s Serie Expert Solar Sublime.

Fun tip: Leave this braid in at the beach, and when you’re ready to visit your next stop of the evening, take down your hair and you will instantly get that oh-so-desirable beach wave look.

Wrap it Up Summer is the perfect time to play with the casual, yet pulled together look. A fun, brightly colored scarf from your closet can turn into your best summertime accessory. This look is great for days at the beach and shopping on the boardwalk. How-to: Wrap the scarf around pulled-back hair and tie a knot at the base of the hairline.

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Summer Hair Protection Tips Fortify Your Fringe Remember that UV rays don’t only damage the skin, but also your hair. Chlorine, salt water and even lake water cause buildup of harmful chemicals and substances that further dry out your mane. To keep the luster in your locks, Nick suggests using products that are sulfate-free and assist in removing build-up. His go-to product is L’Oreal Professionnel’s Serie Expert Delicate Color Sulfate- Free Protecting Shampoo; it gently removes chemicals and helps fibers withstand environmental damage.

Rehab Your Hair When you officially retire from the beach for the day, be sure to start rehabbing your hair by taking a shower as soon as possible. Nick suggests using a restorative shampoo, such as Shu Uemura’s Silk Bloom Restorative Shampoo, which removes chemicals and helps rebuild your hair’s fibers. It is also a good idea to get a trim and treatment done at your local salon once a month. Nick recommends L’Oreal Professionnel’s Source de Richesse Sulfate-Free Masque as a once a week deep condition for a wallet-friendly alternative. Nicholas Penna Jr. is a renowned hair stylist, owner — and lead stylist — of Salon Capri in Boston, Newton and Dedham, and the Creative Director of Be Styled Blow Dry Lounge in Chestnut Hill.

BEAUTY & FASHION

2013 Summer Trends With ALI EHRLICH

White Jeans

Skulls

White jeans match almost every item in your closet, and can be worn on the most casual day, yet can also be dressed up for an evening on the town.

Scarves with skulls are fashion-forward with an edge, and they add vibrance to any outfit.

Steal: The Gap. For a moderate selection, J. Crew is always a safe bet, offering styles in toothpick, matchstick and bootcut, which are sure to flatter any shape. Splurge: For a skinny option, AG jeans offers a stilt cut. For a slim bootcut option, AG “Ballad” is best. Ali recommends splurging on both cuts.

A Nude Patent Pump A good shoe is an investment piece. A great shoe is timeless, not trendy. Steal: At $298.00, the “Chelsea” pumps from Cole Haan come in a regular or lower version and utilize Nike Air technology; hence, they are, in fact, comfortable. There are several other bargain brands such as Vince Camuto, Corso Como or Ivanka Trump. Splurge: There is nothing better than seeing that red bottom of the infamous red-soled Christian Louboutin “simple” pump in 85mm subtle flash.

Steal: H&M makes great wallet friendly scarves with skulls. Splurge: Alexander McQueen scarves are the splurge, and they look great when worn casual or dressy.

A Great Handbag A great handbag, being that it is carried daily, is a very important piece to invest in. With that being said, it is needless to buy every trending bag — their shelf-life do not always stand the test of time. Think timeless. Steal: MZ Wallace makes a fabulous nylon bag that is lightweight, logo-free, alot of zippers/pockets and very durable, with a great price. Ali recommends buying it in multiple colors! Splurge: Tod’s designs a great orange tote, that is vibrant, edgy and favored by many fashion icons.

Vibrant Nails One of the most economical and convenient ways to embrace the current trends is through nail polish. There is no true steal or splurge in this department, hence, do go for the flamboyant and trendy colors. If you decide you dislike the color, just remove it and try a different one! For a very small investment, you can suddenly become very current! Ali

Ehrlich of RightUpYourAli.com is a Boston native who grew up in Chestnut Hill and attended Boston University. She has built her career and reputation working for high-end brands like Chanel, Valentino and Bendel’s. She offers a variety of services including, wardrobe makeovers, personal shopping, closet organization and other concierge services, along with fashion and image consulting.

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Beyond the Until recently, Liposuction and Tummy Tucks were two of the most common and practical procedures available for revitalizing postpartum abdominal flab and saggy skin. However, these procedures are aggressive on the body, and require a lengthy healing process of up to 8 weeks. With the recent development of advanced technology, there are now several non-invasive options that are available to help revert your postnatal abdominal area to its original appearance – or close to it. These advanced non-surgical procedures typically have little to no recovery time, minimal risk of infection, zero scarring, and are performed without medication. While non-invasive procedures do not have the immediate results that invasive procedures have, they do tend to be more natural in appearance. Still, laser skin rejuvenation is not recommended for older patients whose skin has lost elasticity due to the natural aging process. Regardless of which procedure one may choose, healthy diet and regular exercise are the best prescription for staying in shape before, during and after pregnancy.

Titan Titan is a skin tightening procedure that utilizes infrared light to heat the dermis below the skin’s surface. This laser treatment will help to tighten skin, reverse signs of aging and works wonders on stretch marks.

Cost: $600-$800 per treatment. Appointment length:

Approximately 1 hour per session.

Pros: One of the best skin treatments for stretch marks. Cons: The treatment can be slightly uncomfortable due to the heating sensation. Results: Noticeable results are seen after

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LipoSonix LipoSonix is a high-intensity ultrasound treatment that warms and melts away pockets of undesired fat. The fat dissolves naturally and is filtered out of the body via the lymphatic system and eventually through urination.

Cost: $800 + per treatment. Appointment length: Approximately 1 hour per session.

Pros: Studies of LipoSonix show that most patients can lose about 1 inch of their midsections after only 1 treatment. Cons: Many patients report LipoSonix as being quite uncomfortable.

the first few weeks, but it can take up to 6 months before the full benefits are observed. Patients usually notice a vast improvement after 2 or 3 treatments.

Results: Results are seen between 1 to 2

Note: Best for stretch mark removal.

Note: Best for immediate fat removal.

months after treatment, which is the time needed for your body to naturally process the dissolved fat.

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Bump

Eliminating abdominal flab and sag

Local Dermatology Centers That Provide Laser Skin Rejuvenation Procedures SkinCare Physicians

1244 Boylston Street Chestnut Hill

Frank P. Fechner, MD

428 Shrewsbury Street Worcester

Cool Sculpting

Accent XL

Invented by Dr. Dieter Manstein and R. Rox Anderson at the Wellman Center at Massachusetts General Hospital, Cool Sculpting is a procedure that permanently removes stubborn fat deposits by destroying (freezing) fat cells without causing harm to your skin. As the name suggests, the advanced laser technology has the ability to effectively freeze fat in desired areas including love handles, which can provide immediate and natural looking results.

Accent XL is a technique which rejuvenates aging skin with a radio-frequency based procedure by treating two separate layers of the skin in one treatment. This treatment encourages the skin to produce new collagen which helps regain elasticity.

Cost: $600-$1,000 per treatment.

cellulite, loose, sagging and uneven skin texture.

Appointment Length: Approximately 1

to 3 hours per session.

Pros: The process of freezing fat during

your Cool Sculpting procedure is typically painless. Patients report watching movies, reading magazines or working on their electronic devices during the procedure.

Cons: Cool Sculpting is not a procedure for

overweight patients. In fact, removing large amounts of fat can make saggy skin look more noticeable.

Results: Some patients may require followup sessions depending on the amount of undesired fat.

Note: Best for immediate fat elimination.

Cost: $400 to $600 per treatment. Appointment length: Approximately 30 to 60 minutes per session.

Pros: Accent XL is very effective in treating

Cons: While Accent XL can eliminate cellulite, an unhealthy diet and a lack of exercise can aggravate new cellulite.

Results: Results are typically immediate;

however, the treated area will continue to improve each day with the formation of new collagen. Number of treatments required are dependent on how much elasticity the skin has lost.

Note: Best for cellulite.

Krauss Dermatology

1 Washington Street, Suite 401 Wellesley Hills

SkinCare Physicians 1244 Boylston Street Chestnut Hill

Finesse Cosmetic Laser & Lipo Center

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Drinking

Will You Harm The One You Should Protect? By SARAH DRISCOLL

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PREGNANCY

While Pregnant

hirty years ago, it was not unusual to see a pregnant woman sipping on a cocktail. In fact, many of the parents of our generation drank alcohol while pregnant. We all turned out okay - well, most of us. Today, the site of a woman with a protruding belly drinking a shandy would likely be met with a gasp or disapproving whispers. Here is the question: Is it okay to drink while pregnant? If a woman does choose to consume alcohol on occasion, should she do so only in the privacy of her own home? Let us trace back for a minute. It was several years ago, and I was out all night celebrating my birthday in Boston with friends. While I do not remember much from that night, there are vague memories of too many tequila shots and some bull riding.

A week later, I was sitting at my computer researching all the maternal potential effects, that night and the many others, would potentially have on my unborn child, whom I had just learned was growing inside of me for the past 6 months. When my son was born, I held my breath in fear of whether he would be affected by my naivety. As it turns out, he was 7 pounds and 14 ounces of absolute perfection with the most beautiful blue eyes. I exhaled. Today, in First Grade, he is academically advanced in every subject, reading at a Second Grade level and he plays the piano beautifully. Not only that, but he also

spoke his first words and walked at only 10 months, far sooner than my other two children. In contrast, my second child, who is two, has many speech delays and did not learn to walk or talk until she was nearly 15 months. The irony of it is that, I did not consume a single drop of alcohol while pregnant with her. Even more so, I only ate organic foods, skipped caffeine and followed all the â&#x20AC;&#x153;rules.â&#x20AC;? The verdict is still out on my third child â&#x20AC;&#x201C; while pregnant with him, I sipped the occasional glass of wine at weddings and holidays. At 1 year old, he appears to be developing as expected, and is happy as a clam. This brings me back to the question: Is it okay to drink while pregnant? There are numerous studies that prove the consumption of alcohol can cause Fetal Alcohol Syndrome (FAS), characterized by small heads, narrow eyes, heart murmurs, developmental delays and learning disorders. However, there have been many studies that showed FAS was a very rare outcome for drinking during pregnancy, with less than 2 occurrences per 1,000 cases. But then again, even that small percentage is preventable and unnecessary. My oldest son was not affected by my drinking, thank goodness, but other babies are not as lucky. It does not seem reasonable to deliberately take a risk that might harm the life of the one you were meant to protect even though the chances of a birth defect are slim.

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Baby Sign Language I By LANE REBELO

When to Start

nfants and toddlers need to communicate their desires to caregivers, but their inability to express themselves often leads to frustration. When a baby wants a bottle, more to eat, or is feeling too hot, they are typically unable to express their wishes and frustrations, and these unmet desires manifest in form of tantrums, tears and fussing. Sign language can bridge the gap between infant recognition of desires and toddler verbal expression. Babies develop hand-eye coordination much faster than verbal skills and can therefore learn simple signs for common words to communicate their needs.

Deeper bonding, improved language development, reduced frustration, fewer tantrums, and even a smarter baby are some of the benefits of using sign language with your little one. But beyond all that, baby sign language can make parenting more fun and a lot easier. Lane Rebelo of Bostonâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s Tiny Signs shares her expertise on teaching your baby sign language.

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When should you start using sign language with your little one? The simple answer is that you can start any time. It is never too early nor too late to start! Some parents are eager to begin right away and that is great. It is important however to have realistic expectations to avoid becoming discouraged and quitting prematurely. While some babies might make their first signs as early as 6 months, it is much more common for babies to start signing in the 8-12 months range (or even a little later). Many parents do not realize that babies begin comprehending signs before they are able to sign themselves.

Infants today can communicate with parents through signs What Signs to Use

Teaching Your Baby

The signs you choose to begin with can have a huge impact on your success! Parents and caregivers generally start with some basic signs for words like milk, more, all done, eat, mommy and daddy. Beyond those, think from your childâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s perspective and consider including carefully chosen signs for things that interest them. This will really motivate the baby to start signing! Pay attention to the things your child tends to focus on. Is she in love with your household pet? Mesmerized by the ceiling fan? Obsessed with your cell phone? When you first begin, you can really stimulate the communication with your baby by including a few, strategic, well-chosen signs like dog, cat, ball, phone, or even light.

After you have selected a handful of signs to begin with, introduce them to your baby by using them throughout the day whenever the appropriate opportunity arises. Show her the sign for cat when the cat is nearby. Demonstrate the sign for all done as you take your baby out of the high chair or bath tub. And be certain to always say and sign the word together. It is not necessary to turn it into manual labor. The more entertaining and playful it is, the more eager the baby will be to participate! Keep it basic and stick with your handful of signs until your baby starts signing back. Then, add more as you learn them.

About the Author Lane Rebelo, LCSW is the founder of Tiny Signs, the most popular baby sign language program in the Boston area. You can learn more at Tiny-Signs.com. .COM

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Andrei Bulmaga Luke Driscoll Suspender Jeans: H&M Dress Shirts: Ralph Lauren Shoes: Ralph Lauren www.Macys.com Eye glasses: Children's Eye-works www.childrenseyeworks.com) Personalized Memory Blanket:

Willow Creek Studio www.willowcreekbaby.com Creative Editor: Sarah Driscoll Fashion Editor: Ellen London Photography: Deborah McCarthy

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Crib: Oeuf

Letter Pillow: Jonathan Adler

Drapery: Ikea

Wallpaper: Ferm Living

Star Throw: Barefoot Dreams

Dresser: West Elm

Paint: Benjamin Moore

Gray Blanket Over Crib: Nordstrom

Area rug: West Elm

Robot Bank: HomeGoods

Mobiles: Bla Bla Kids

Mirror: Pottery Barn

Toy Bins: HomeGoods

Stuffed Doll: Bla Bla Kids

Crib Sheet: Serena and Lily

Glider: Monte Design

Linen Crib Bumper: Shabby Chic Baby

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Noah’s Robotic Room Name: Noah Lichoulas Age: 8 months old Location: Somerville Parents: Son of interior designer,

Jennifer Lichoulas of Itsy Bitsy Interiors

Siblings: Thomas Lichoulas Fact: Absurdly adorable!

Interior Designer: Jennifer Lichoulos, ItsyBitsyInteriors.com Designer’s Inspiration: “My inspiration for Noah’s room was the robot wallpaper. I always find one item that sets the tone for the rest of the space. I knew I wanted something fun on this wall because it was, quite naturally, the perfect focal point in the room.” Designer’s Mission: “In Noah’s room there was not enough space to place a glider and ottoman without it appearing too confined. As a result, I chose the Monte Design glider that reclines with a foot rest. It is perfect for moments when I need to quickly put my feet up for a prompt feeding.”

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Photography By ROCHANNA BUCKLEY

Name: Thomas Lichoulas Age: 3 years old Location: Somerville Parents: Son of interior designer,

Jennifer Lichoulas of Itsy Bitsy Interiors

Siblings: Noah Lichoulas I Want To Be: A truck driver when I grow up! Favorite Color: Blue Favorite Activity: Going to the farm!

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Jennifer Lichoulos, ItsyBitsyInteriors.com

Interior Designer:

Designer’s Inspiration: “My inspiration for Thomas’s room started with the furniture. I used the eco-friendly furniture line, Oeuf. The birch on the drawers and headboard inspired me to do birch trees on the walls. I also thought adding in animals was appropriate for this nature inspired space.”

“Thomas’ space does not have great furniture walls, hence we custom built drawers and shelves inside the closet which helps to keep the clutter in the room to a minimum.” Designer’s Mission:

Thomas’ Nature Inspired Space

Paper Mache Elephant and Giraffe: West Elm

Paint: Benjamin Moore

Stuffed Giraffe: Melissa and Doug

Drapery: Ikea

Bird Mobile: Bla Bla Kids

Glider: Serena and Lily

Twin Bed and Changer: Oeuf

Wood Owls: Pottery Barn

Baskets: West Elm

Bed Sheet: Pottery Barn Kids

Area Rug: West Elm

Orange Blanket on Bed: Land of Nod

Tree Wall Decals: Matilda.com

Letter Pillow: Jonathan Adler

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A Summer Camp

Summer, for kids, should be about expanding knowledge and interests.

They should not have to sit at a desk and study, unless they want to; and, no one should demand that they play soccer if they undoubtedly hate the sport. Fortunately, Massachusetts offers a nimiety of greatness in the camp category and will likely fit the bill for any kind of kid. For Boys Only

For Foreign Language Enthusiasts

Camp Winadu is an all-boys overnight camp with a mission to build character through sports. Activities include baseball, hockey, soccer, lacrosse and football, as well as water activities, such as fishing, kayaking, and rowing. Campers learn new skills, gain confidence and build camaraderie throughout the summer. Location: Berkshire Mountains

Lawrence Academy gives students an opportunity to study a foreign language of their choice; Italian, Mandarin, Spanish or French; while living on campus alongside students from other countries. The program includes classroom instruction, evening enrichment activities, weekend excursions (including one to New York City) and offcampus cultural activities.

Cost: Starting at $7,750 for 5 weeks

Location: Groton

Campers: Ages 6 – 15

Cost: Starting at $3,200 for 2 weeks

Camp Winadu

Lawrence Academy

Campers: Ages 13 –18

For Girls Only

Camp Danbee Sister camp to Winadu, Camp Danbee is a classic girls overnight camp with a well-rounded and structured program that emphasizes values, not appearances. One of the highlights of Danbee, apart from the state of the art facilities, is that campers are given flexibility to choose the activities in which they will participate. This allows them to focus on their interests, such as, tennis, horseback riding, gymnastics, dance, fine arts, swimming, soccer, or basketball, while also providing the opportunity to try something new. Location: Hinsdale Cost: $9,850 for full summer session Campers: 1st to 10th grade

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For Day Campers

Camp Sewataro Located 20 miles from Boston, Camp Sewataro is the perfect choice for children who want to experience the friendships and bonds created at an overnight camp without sleeping away from home. The mission of this day camp is for kids to have fun, build friendships, appreciate nature, learn new skills, and grow self-confidence. Location: Sudbury Cost: Sprout Camp (ages 3 – 5) $325.00 per week; Regular Camp (ages 5 – 13) 2 weeks $1425 Campers: Ages 3 – 13

for Every Kind of Kid For Special Needs

For Gifted Children

For Aspiring Musicians

Oasis at Camp Emerson is a great opportunity for kids with Autism to experience summer camp and meet new friends while still having the support of their parents at hand. For five days, campers and their families can participate in camp activities of their choice, ranging from waters ports and athletics, to theater and science, as well as attend family theme nights.

Greenwood Music Camp is a great choice for aspiring classical musicians who play strings, woodwinds, or pianos. All campers participate in chamber music, orchestra and chorus. Admission to Greenwood is by live auditio n.

Location: Hinsdale

Summer Institute for the Gifted (SIG) offers a variety of different courses including Humanities, Math, Technology, MultiDisciplinary, Visual and Performing Arts, and Fitness and Recreation. For three weeks, children live in college dorms (though commuter options are available) and have the opportunity to socialize with other gifted students from around the world who share common interests, abilities and goals.

Cost: Starting at $1,400 for both camper and guardian

Location: Amherst Cost: Starting at $2,595 for day campers

Campers: Ages 10 – 17

Campers: Ages 9 - 17

For Tech-savvy kids

or Artistic Teenagers

Emagination Tech Kids is ideal for aspiring engineers and kids who love technology, robots, 3D imaging, game design, computer programming, digital art, building, astronomy and so much more. To ensure an active and well-rounded summer, the daily routine includes outdoor activities, water and retro games, such as Capture the Flag, Soccer and Ultimate Frisbee.

Mass Art Summer Studio is an intensive 4 week program for teenagers who are serious about art. Three college credits can also be earned for students who apply to the program with a portfolio. This program is rigorous, educational, and geared toward young, creative minds who are looking to build their artistic talent.

Location: Waltham

Cost: Starting at $2,400 for day campers

With 20 different specialty camps offered, including Camp Apex for children with Autism, Horseback Camp, Chef ’s Kitchen Camp and Gamers’ World, every kid at Marcus Lewis Day Camp has the ability to hand-pick the activities that they engage in on a daily basis. Campers have the opportunity to customize their summer and associate with other kids who have common interests and talents, which enhances the feeling of belonging.

Campers: 11th to 12th grade

Location: Devens

Oasis at Camp Emerson

Emagination Tech Kids

Cost: Starting $7,635.00 for 6 weeks (2 and 4 week options available) Campers: Ages 8 – 17

SIG at Amherst College

Mass Art Summer Studio

Location: Boston

Greenwood Music Camp

Location: East Hampton Cost: Junior Camp (2 weeks session) $2,975.00; Senior Camp (5 weeks session) $5,950 Campers: Ages 10 – 18

For Kids Who Want to Pick Their Own Schedule

Marcus Lewis Day Camp

Cost: Full day camp starting at $495.00/week Campers: Ages 4 – 16

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Kitchen Surfing Dot Com The Most Affordable Way to Order Your Own Private Chef Today

hursday night arrives, and you are in the mood for something different. A meal at a French brasserie sounds like just the thing, but you do not want to drain the family finances. Do not despair, you have a chef for that! Craving teppa maki, but can not trust the kids to stay contained at a sushi bar? You do have a chef for that too. How about a Saturday afternoon cocktail party? Or an informal Thai cuisine lesson for you and your closest friends? These chefs have that covered too. Breakfast, lunch or dinner, KitchenSurfing.com is a website that allows you to book a private chef to come to your home and cook for you, your family or your guests. You can book a chef the day of or weeks in advance. In the privacy of your own home, introduce your children to a variety of cuisines from around the world and how they are properly eaten. The first step is to find the right chef for your palate by browsing through cuisine and expertise options. Once you find a chef to match your current cravings, you can request a menu and refine it as desired. The chefs are flexible and talented. After your chef is booked, they arrive at your home with all the ingredients, cook, and clean up. Thus, next time you want Southern Comfort food and have no idea how to dredge chicken, or are craving Sicilian flavors but do not have the patience to labor over risotto, go to KitchenSurfing.com and find a chef to do it for you.

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Local Chefs We Recommend Heather Schmidt

Prepares American and French cuisine, with a focus on using ingredients from local sources. Compensation: $75 per hour Location: Massachusetts

Amy Jo Gengler

Teaches cooking classes with exciting foods that are nutrient-dense, promote health and will inspire you to rattle those pans! Compensation: $125 per hour Location: Massachusetts

Ryan Pellumbi

Prepares fresh and delicious sushi in your kitchen. He happily adjusts the menu for vegans, and lists his favorite ingredients as tuna, avocado and soy. Compensation: $55 per hour Location: Massachusetts

Models: Jackson Driscoll Sean Banda Eye Glasses: Children's Eye-works www.childrenseyeworks.com Suspenders: Vintage White T-Shirts: Vintage Chino Pants: H&M

Creative Editor: Ellen London Fashion Editor: Ellen London Photographer: Deborah McCarthy

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At Home with Interior Designer

KRISTINA CRESTIN Photography By DANIEL BLUE

Kristina’s island is certainly the most conspicuous attraction in her crisp, white kitchen. Imbedded with 100% recycled glass, Portland cement, and pigment, the array of turquoise and grays on the countertop is extraordinary. The ICE Stone, (selected by her ‘go-to counter guy,’ Glen Murray, of Athena Marble & Granite), is currently resting on painted wood saw horses, which she says are masquerading as placeholders until she builds a new island base.

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“ My husband and I are both “K’s” so somewhere along the way we started collecting random K’s.”

lease describe your design style in one sentence? “New meets old, with a pop of color!”

Kristina Crestin’s love affair with design began at a young age. “I think it started with Legos, designing each day until my heart felt content. When I remember that horrible noise of digging through a bin of Legos, I cringe. How my mother tolerated it, I’ll never know!” she remarked. From her childhood years in Bellingham, to her current water front home in Essex, Kristina has carried a passion for pretty her entire life. Bursting at the seams with sunshine and quirk, her home patently reflects her quaint sense of style and sparkling personality. While casual and relaxed enough for a lake house, the home is also imbued with crisp lines, warm colors and charismatic flare that can only be attained by the guiding hand and discerning eye of an expert interior designer. A professional designer for more than a decade, Kristina launched her own interior design firm, Kristina Crestin Design, in 2010. Currently working from her waterfront home office with a stunning view of Chebacco Lake, alongside her sidekick, Cooper, a rescued Weimaraner and lab mix, Kristina’s ardent love for interior design – and the color turquoise – is imminent in her fiery passion for each project she touches. She may not have her own child {yet}, but she certainly has found her baby. Kristina noted that her obsession with the color turquoise has not only taken over her home but also her essential electronic devices and other areas of her life – her iPhone, laptop and most of Cooper’s clothing are all styled in the distinctive hue. She occasionally is able to work with the color in her clients’ homes as well, but she is not blind to other shades and tones. Even though she becomes excited when her clients choose turquoise as part of their decorating schemes, her overall focus is to win them over with her distinct sense of design.

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Resting on the window sill is a collection of Kristinaâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s guilty design-pleasure; vintage seltzer bottles. She needed something to the catch the light streaming through, and her love for vintage bottles came to the rescue.

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The hardest part of being an interior designer is when the project is complete. You have to ring the doorbell rather than walk right in. It is so hard to give away your baby.

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—Kristina Crestin

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Local Vintage Stores Kristina Frequents Salt March Antiques in Rowley www.saltmarshantiques.com “Bobby, the owner, is extremely helpful and I always feel like the pricing for antiques is fair.”

Old House Parts in Kennebunk, Maine www.oldhouseparts.com “It may not be in Massachusetts, but it is worth sharing. Old House Parts is my favorite architectural salvage place. We have found great doors, leaded glass, old sinks, hardware – you name it and they have it!”

Restoration Resources in the South End www.restorationresources.com “They have some astonishing accessories there. We have designed a whole house in salvaged cast iron HVAC grills from there. We even found a 10 feet, old carved vent, that came out of a church, and we applied it to the ceiling of a sun-room.”

Andrew Spindler in Essex www.spindlerantiques.com “This place has an amazing well-curated mix of furniture and objects. I always fall in love with something each time I visit. Always.”

Indigo Blu Trading Company in Beverly

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I have a turquoise problem.

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“Pam & Wendy, the owners, scour New England for all kinds of vintage parts and pieces. I have a (surprise, surprise) entry console in worn turquoise paint, at my house, that I found there as well as plenty of bottles, bins and neat accessories. They currently have a lot of great tables and consoles that I am anxious to find a home for!”

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Most Romantic Summer Activity

Boston Gondolas Tour

Photography By MARK HUNT

he children are away at camp, the days are longer, and the summer breeze caresses gently against your sun-kissed skin; the allure of romance is no longer only a figment of your imagination. Of course there are no great romantic movies playing, you are undoubtedly bored with the same old restaurant scene for date night, and are eager to return to Venice, and long lost passion. Consider heading to Boston’s best kept secret— and most romantic couple’s activity available — Gondola di Venezia. Located at the Esplanade at the Hatch Shell, Gondola di Venezia provides authentic gondola tours on the Charles River, recreating the ancient Venetian tradition. The Boston gondolas were hand crafted in Venice, and exported to Boston for the company’s exclusive use; the gondoliers have been trained in Italy and wear authentic traditional uniforms. The live music lulls you

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into splendor, and you are encouraged to bring your own champagne or wine to enhance the atmosphere. All tour options are private and just under $250, a reasonable price for a night spent in Italy with the skyline of Boston.

Our recommendation: The one hour Bellissimo Gondola Tour which includes an accordion player, a dozen roses, strawberries, a custom framed picture and non-alcoholic sparkling wine. It is the perfect way to spend an evening of romance. Highlight: The gondolas can accommodate up to 6 adults and can be a fun double or triple date. Tip: Book several weeks in advance; the tours tend to sell out quickly in the summer. Contact: 617-876-2800

or email info@bostongondolas.com

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t first glance of this 19th century mansion, perched high against the rolling countryside and wooded hills, one’s breath is swept away by the abundance of old world class. Stately elegance begins upon arrival, and every guest is treated with the same deference as visiting royalty. Valet greets each registered guest by name as he opens the car door. Without delay, champagne is poured and ready, and the international staff will anticipate your every whim. Nestled in the picturesque Berkshires, the Wheatleigh is located in the town of Lenox, approximately two hours from Boston. The conventional French dining, antique furnishings, and manicured grounds paired with contemporary art, and upscale amenities, is a marvelous balance of old and new. The Wheatleigh provides the perfect romantic destination for two. Luxury suites scale between $715 to $2,100 daily rates. The mansion is ideal for couples seeking to dress up, taste fine wine, toast with crystal stemware and bask at the pool-side surrounded by stunning views, immaculate service and high quality amenities. Guests at Wheatleigh have access to all guest facilities, which include a fitness room, massage room, outdoor heated pool, bicycles and kayaks, a tennis court, high speed internet, a DVD and CD library, and your choice of luxurious bathroom amenities. Finishing touches include in-room spa services and wine tastings at the onsite Wine Cellar, which wows with floor-to-ceiling racks of distinctive and aged wines. Renting of the entire property, including the Five Diamond Restaurant, 19 guest rooms, and all facilities, costs between $18,000 to $35,000 per day— a wonderful option for a daughter’s wedding. Built originally as a wedding present in 1893, Wheatleigh was destined to harbor romance. Industrial magnate Henry H. Cook built the house for his daughter, Georgie, as a symbol of his pride in that she married into nobility. Her alliance with a Count brought a title of high honor to the family. The design of the house was based on the 16th century Florentine palazzo with grand staircases, intricate carvings, arched corridors, and decorative moldings in every nook. Reminiscent of a French chateau, The Wheatleigh’s beauty, professional service and international flare, truly embodies luxury.

Restrictions: 100% smoke free. Note: Children allowed, but guests are required to inquire in order to maintain a limited number of younger guests on property.

Occasion: Best for a romantic getaway or baby-moon.

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Hawthorne Road, Lenox, Mass., 01240

private plane. We encourage you to make a memorable entrance by helicopter—you will be well-accommodated and will fit right in.

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7 Tips for Improving Marriage Intimacy Married sex can be wonderful. It is loving,

comfortable, and sensual. Unfortunately, it can also be routine, mechanical, and bland. After years of wedded bliss, the bedroom can become — how does one convey this delicately? — vanilla. Creamy, delightful, and satisfying, only a little too plain at times. Everyone enjoys the bite of mint and the decadence of chocolate now and again. We get comfortable, and then we get bored; and some women feel reluctant to discuss their bedroom activities, feeling such matters are private. But men discuss them — ladies, let it all be addressed, and do not worry about being too reserved, in the bedroom or out of it. Marital intimacy does not have to be plain old vanilla. Add some hot sauce and sprinkles with these tips:

1. Hollywood Kiss

Displays of passion are a major turn on for many people, including men. Grab him by the tie, pull him in tight and kick one leg forward. Use your tongue. Give Julia Roberts a run for her money and get a little “Pretty Woman” on him.

2. Dress Up

Never underestimate the power of flirty lingerie to put both of you in the mood. Looking good boosts both the ego and the libido.

3. Try Some Yoga Moves

Let him believe that the yoga classes you have been taking are for his benefit, rather than the mere need to get out of the house. Show him some new moves and embrace your

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new-found flexibility. There is more to the act than ‘The Missionary’; use yoga as your inspiration. Perhaps even engage in some birthday suit yoga as foreplay.

4. There Is Always Time For A Quickie

Marathon sex is easy for people without children. Quickies are prime for moms and dads, and they should not be underestimated. A quick roll in the hay early in the morning or mid afternoon can set the rest of the day on a positive note.

5. Play Games

Look around your home — there are plenty of everyday objects that can be enlisted to heighten anticipation and lengthen foreplay. Blindfold your mate, and subject him to different sensations — ice cubes, feathers, random light kisses, or even just a massage. When sight is taken away, the other senses are heightened.

6. Talk About It

Talk about it — text, sext, email, voice mail. Share your fantasies with one another. You may find that what turns you on the most is turning him on — and vice versa.

7. Oral

Men love it, and they want you to love it too. If you do not, pretend you do. There is more to anatomy than just the business bit — there are entire areas of very sensitive skin on your husband to explore with caresses, kisses and light — LIGHT!! — nibbles. And remember, teeth are bad, tongue is good.

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5 TIPS FOR STAYING SANE WHILE YOUR SPOUSE IS AWAY By ALICIA Z. KLEPEIS

Tip #1 Break Up the Routine It can feel very monotonous to have the same schedule all the time, especially when you are aware that your spouse will not be back at 5:30 to help the kids with homework, bath time or other evening activities. Throw some fun and spontaneity into the mix â&#x20AC;&#x201C; breakfast for dinner, homework by candlelight on the deck, or even a movie on a school night once in a while. The kids will think it is exciting and everyoneâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s spirits will be lifted by the change of routine.

Tip #2 Have Some Grown-up Time Every Week I remember a seven-week period when my husband was overseas for work. My kids were two and four years old, and I was in my first trimester with cherub #3. Besides the constant nausea, I just felt lonely. Meeting a friend at the playground, walking into town to run errands, or even inviting a work colleague over for a low-key pizza dinner can make you feel connected

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rguing kids, miserable weather and an absent spouse for a period of several weeks or months, is a situation dreaded by most moms. As the parent left at home, it can feel like an eternity. There are, however, some ways to keep your sanity and even enjoy the time alone with your children.

Tip #5 Reward Yourself to the adult world. Frustration can easily set in if you isolate yourself while your spouse travels, and if you have no one to share the events of the day with, you can become resentful. If you know someone who is older and has raised a family, invite them to join you somewhere for a conversation or an outing. Kindred spirits will listen to you and perhaps even lend a hand, should you need one.

Tip #3 Embrace Technology If you have family living nearby, you will obviously be able to spend extra time with them when your partner is away. However, many of us are not that lucky. My best friend lives in Australia, hence we schedule a Skype call once a week after the kids are in bed. Make yourself a cup of tea, grab a glass of wine, whatever sounds good to you â&#x20AC;&#x201C; and get in front of the computer and laugh, share your news, or just chit-chat about the day. If your spouse has internet access while away,

have him chat with the kids as often as time permits. Have an aunt or uncle read a book or tell stories to them via the internet. Even the old-fashioned telephone works well, if that is more convenient for your family â&#x20AC;&#x201C; any means that work to stay connected.

Tip #4 Get Fresh Air and Exercise as Often as Possible Working long hours in an office, doing zillions of loads of dishes and laundry at home it is not healthy to be indoors all the time. Going outside is essential for good mental health. Take the kids for a walk in the evening. Try a scavenger hunt in the woods, a bike ride through town, or simply kicking a ball around the yard. Stress levels definitely go down after some time in nature. If the weather is uncooperative, try an exercise DVD. Or go to the gym for 30 minutes after you drop off the kids at school. Get your blood moving and your mood will be improved.

Being a single parent, even temporarily, is challenging to even the most patient person. Reward yourself occasionally for all your hard work. Treat yourself to a pedicure. Buy a copy of In Style Magazine, and get a latte and pastry at a local coffee shop. Even if you have to take the kids with you, let them color or bring some toys to entertain them for an hour while you peruse your copy of In Style. Once they are in bed, fill a bubble bath for yourself and let your stress melt away, or pop a chick flick into the DVD player. Parenting is a job where people rarely compliment you for a job well done. Remember to take care of yourself as a way of complimenting oneself. And when your spouse comes back, do not forget to ask for a massage and maybe some dark chocolate.

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Christine KOH Introduces Parents to

“MINIMALIST Parenting” A Practical Approach to Organizing, De-cluttering and Simplifying Your Life

everal days ago as I was cleaning up after lunch, my seven year old son walked into the kitchen and asserted that there was absolutely nothing for him to do. As moms, we have heard it all before and with each cry of boredom, we stomp into the playroom to point out the over-abundance of toys and possibilities. But this past Saturday was different. The moment I stepped into the playroom and saw various toys protruding, I immediately became overwhelmed, and finally understood the problem. My son was not bored because there was nothing to do, but rather, there was too much to do. The concept of having much more than necessary is what inspired Christine Koh to indite Minimalist Parenting. Christine is the creator behind the popular blog, BostonMamas.com and co-author of Minimalist Parenting, a must-read book for moms that affirms the importance of focusing less on insignificant matters to make room for important ones. The former music and brain scientist, who might possibly be on the verge of coining a new parenting philosophy, firmly believes that less is more. “When your path (be it physical or emotional) is cluttered with more, more, more, it is hard to see what is in front of you,” she said. This is the basis of minimalist parenting; operating on the “knowledge that right now, you have everything you need to live the family life you want.”

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By SARAH DRISCOLL Photography by ROCHANNA BUCKLEY

What is the moral of the book? The ONE message, more than any other, that you want your readers to receive from this book? Minimalist Parenting is about lifestyle editing; tuning in to your unique values and priorities in order to focus on the things that bring you and your family joy, and shedding off as much of the rest as possible. What inspired you to write Minimalist Parenting? I have heard loud and clear from my readers (and also experienced myself) the sense of being overwhelmed in the face of all the information and options of modern parenting. Over the years, I have been tweaking my own parenting style towards a minimalist approach that worked for me; and whenever I shared about these adjustments, my readers responded, wanting more. I decided it was time to put it all down on paper and I truly could not have a better co-author than Asha Dornfest!

Delegate chores to your kids. Not only are chores good for them to be a part of the family system but it shifts the burden of some chores off you and gives them life skills they will need when they are out on their own. —Christine Koh

Can you share some of your personal experiences as a minimalist parent? The beauty of Minimalist Parenting is that it makes your life EASIER. Who does not want that? I joke that I am a recovering perfectionist. Working through that identity and learning how to say no, how to take things down several notches, and how to follow my kids’ lead more often, has made life so much easier and happier! Did you have an “ah-ha” moment that made you change your parental approach to minimalist parenting? My path to Minimalist Parenting has been ongoing and gradual. Because Laurel is older and was my first, she has inspired a huge part of my development. I would say that one major ah-ha moment regarding Minimalist Parenting has related to birthday parties. For Laurel’s first few birthdays I threw these big, exhausting parties, which were actually the total opposite of her personality. When I finally started to question my motivation and scale everything, the smaller, more intimate parties not only were easier for me but Laurel was so much happier! Your book emphasizes that ‘less is more’. Do you believe that this is true in all facets of life? You know, I grew up in a very large family with very little money and limited options. Sure, we had wants, but in general, we had clothes on our backs, food on the table, and a ball to kick around, and we were happy. So my lens is very much in the “you do not need a lot of stuff to be happy” view.

5Q uick Concepts Behind Minimalist Parenting 1. Make Room For Remarkable Prune and edit your life to create room for awesomeness. 2. Know Your Family The importance of factoring in the priorities and values of your family (which sometimes may be very different than yours). 3. Trust Your Decisions The importance of having faith in your instincts. 4. Course Correction Beats Perfection For most things we get a lifetime of do-overs — you don’t need to worry about perfection. 5. We Are in this Together The idea that we should keep in mind that we parents are all on the same team (vs. looking at one another as competition).

Top Left: Minimalist Parenting book launch and signing Top Right: Ellen London (left), Christine Koh (center) and Sarah Driscoll (right)

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10 Ways to be a Better Mom EVERYDAY I

By SARAH DRISCOLL

am constantly comparing myself to other mothers. I spend too much time at my computer writing. I pin more educational activities than I actually do with my children. I spend more time thinking about being a better mom than I do trying to be one. But the truth is that, I want to be a better mother. And the first thing to realize is ‘It starts with me, not my children.’ Sure, I can find ways to help my son learn to express himself, and I can help my daughter to become a confident woman, but at the end of the day, if I do not keep myself happy, I am not good to them. They need me.

1. Rise and Shine Wake up before the children, have lunches packed, breakfasts ready and clothes picked out for the day. Be showered, refreshed and ready with your morning cup of coffee. Or two.

2. Energize Coffee...absolutely. But be certain to energize with good foods too. An apple, a banana or some yogurt, pick your pleasure. Take vitamins and drink plenty of water. If you want to be around for your children, you need to take care of yourself.

3. Stay on Time Try to never run late. Running late equals a mean mommy. It means a disturbance of peace and chaotic children. Stay on schedule, watch the clock, and stay focused.

have wipes and towels for messes. Hence look around and concentrate on what really matters now.

5. Stay Active Get up. Dance in the living room. Play tag in the kitchen. Go outside and explore. Act. Do. Be a participant in your children’s lives. You will probably have more fun twirling with your daughter than sitting on the couch.

6. Unplug For Dinner No phones, no iPads, no disturbances whatsoever. Sit, talk, discuss, debate, question; and more importantly, listen. Listen to everything. The big. The small. The good. The bad. Keep your eyes up and your heart open.

7. Be Prepared For Anything Always be prepared for what is coming next. Anticipate the unexpected. Life runs smoother when you know what to expect.

8. Go With The Course If your child suddenly becomes interested in an insect crawling outside, take out the magnifying glasses and join them. Take life as it comes. Enjoy it. Life is too short to always follow these rules.

9. Learn From Yesterday Hopefully there were ups, but certainly there were downs. Learn from them and move on. Just keep swimming.

4. Do Not Fret the Small Stuff

10. Be Ready For Tomorrow

Messy faces and spilt milk will not matter 10 years from now, but your child’s lack of confidence or lack of self esteem will. We

Tomorrow is coming, and if you are not ready for it, it is ready for you. Be ready for it. Be excited for it.

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Can Social Media Help You Lose Weight? By JESSICA COLLINS GRIMES | Photography by ROCHANNA BUCKLEY

UMass clinical health psychologist, mom, runner and social media maven, Dr. Sherry Pagoto, shares her research conclusions.

o much has been spoken about the harmful effects of social media, yet for those of us who are trying to lose weight, train for that first 5K or quit smoking, the support provided through Twitter, Facebook and other social media websites can actually be a positive thing, says Sherry Pagoto, Ph.D., an associate professor of medicine at the University of Massachusetts Medical School and a licensed clinical psychologist at the UMass Memorial Weight Center. Dr. Pagoto studies the impact of social media— particularly Twitter—as a tool for changing behaviors and adopting healthy lifestyles. And she is not a stranger to the social media world herself: In addition to her clinical and research work, Pagoto also manages the blog FUdiet.com and is the co-creator of a popular Twitter challenge designed to encourage people to spend at least one minute in a core-strengthening “plank pose” each day. Her most recent study, presented at a large national conference in March, revealed that tweeting about your weight loss journey can actually help you lose more weight. Here, this dynamic mom, researcher, behavioral health expert and avid runner, reveals how you can harness the power of social media to create —and maintain—a healthy lifestyle.

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How Social Media Can Help You

1. Tweet it! Join the thousands of moms on Twitter who are sharing ideas on fitness, healthy recipes for the family, talking about their weight loss journeys and almost anything else health-related you can imagine. Twitter communities can be used as an integral support system that is great for accountability and camaraderie when trying to lose weight. To find kindred spirits on Twitter, use search terms like “mom,” “fitness” and “weight loss,” and tons of great users will pop up. Follow and connect with these ladies! 2.

Create a private moms group on Facebook. Do you know a lot of moms on Facebook that you would like to build a deeper connection with about motherhood, fitness and health? Create a Facebook group page to share ideas, tips, recipes and support with others you would like to have in your group. You can keep membership exclusive to your circle or invite your friends to invite their friends and watch it grow.

3. YouTube is your personal trainer. YouTube is a great resource for free videos on exercise and weight loss. You can find free yoga videos by yoga instructors and exercise instruction videos by personal trainers. Fitness professionals of all types are launching channels to demonstrate their strategies, so do take advantage! For high quality content, check the credentials of the person posting the video to make sure they have the expertise to be performing exercise instruction.

Read blogs. The blogosphere is full of moms who host blogs about healthy parenting. Mamavation.com, for example, is a fantastic weight loss blog specifically for moms. Blogher.com has plenty of mommy bloggers too. Blogs are not only a source of great information and tips, but are a great way to connect with other moms.

5. Write a blog.

If you love to write, have lots of healthy ideas to share, or just want to talk about your day-to-day struggle to balance it all, consider starting your own blog. Blogging is a fantastic source of selfexpression and a great way to connect with others. It can also bring a sense of satisfaction knowing that you will be inspiring others by telling your story.

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Nutrition & Lifestyle Coach, Danielle Shea Tan, CHC, AADP of Boston’s Healthy Mamas for Happy Families, specializes in providing coaching and personalized support to help busy mothers become healthy role models who raise wholesome families.

Ask the Expert Q: How can moms ensure that their babies adopt healthy eating habits early?

Healthy eating habits are developed through both a positive relationship with food and a preference for nutritious choices. To encourage your baby to adopt these behaviors, begin with making mealtime a happy and positive event for your family. Eating is the single most activity you will do together for the first few years hence you should enjoy it! Next, feed your baby fresh, organic, whole foods that taste delicious naturally and provide options for baby to choose their preferences. Finally, use this opportunity to clean up your own diet and become the healthy role model you want your baby to look up to, or he may surprise you by saying “chips” before saying “mama!”

Q: What are some of the best first foods for babies?

My advice is to start your baby on nutrient-dense foods with a low likelihood to cause allergies. Nutrient-dense foods are those that naturally contain plenty of vitamins, minerals and phytonutrients (like beta-carotene in carrots and quercetin in apples) to support healthy growth and development of your baby and aid in creating strong digestive and immune systems. Since babies get their macronutrients (fat, carbs

and protein) from breast milk or formula, it is advisable to begin the baby on fruits and vegetables. Five of my favorite choices for nutrient-dense, low allergenic foods include: avocado, broccoli, carrots, winter squash and apples.

Q: Can you explain what baby-led weaning is? And why you believe it is important?

Most Americans introduce babies to food in pureed form, but there are other options. Baby-led weaning, an approach more common in the United Kingdom, is the process of introducing foods to your baby in solid finger food form. This means, instead of spoon-feeding pureed sweet potatoes, you give your baby a crayon-sized steamed sweet potato and let him explore and eat it on his own. Why do this? Recent studies show that babies who are in control of their food prefer healthier options and learn how to regulate their food intake, resulting in lower risk of obesity, diabetes and other diet-related diseases.

Q: Are pre-packaged foods okay for babies to eat? Or should moms make all baby food from scratch?

fresh, organic foods will ensure that your baby is packing in as many nutrients as possible into their tiny stomachs. In a pinch, opt for frozen fruits and vegetables which are frozen in their peak nutritional state. But, if you’re a busy mama who is always on-the-go, like most of us, do not worry about including pre-packaged baby foods once in a while – just make sure they are organic and whole foods, without any additives.

Can you provide any tips for dealing with spring and summertime allergies in babies? (pollen, etc)

To reduce seasonal allergy symptoms, take measures to support your baby’s digestive and immune systems. First, reduce or eliminate common foods that tax the digestive symptom and therefore exacerbate allergy symptoms including: dairy, gluten, flour, packaged juices and sugar. Next, boost the immune system by feeding both the baby and the mom. If nursing, foods that are high in vitamin C and zinc including: avocado, broccoli, winter squash, and berries. Finally, consider including a high quality probiotic like Klaire Lab’s Infant Ther-Biotic Formula in baby’s daily regimen.

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Angie McMillan Shares Tips Behind The Cake Bar’s Success By SARAH DRISCOLL ! Photography by RICHARD HUDSON “I think our success, in part, is due to good planning and, of course, a little luck.” When Angie McMillan and Tracie Turinese met in Seattle twenty years ago, they could have never predicted that one day they would open up a popular pastry shop thousands of miles across the country. Yet two decades later, the co-owners of The Cake Bar are firmly established in their charming downtown Franklin location. Prior to opening the pastry shop in October 2011, both women were advancing in career paths that bore no resemblance to the other. Angie held the position of CEO at a Washington State based company that administered self-funded medical plans, while Tracie managed projects for Dell at Harvard Pilgrim in Massachusetts before they both realized that they were ready for a drastic change of pace and profession.

the business including cupcake production, people management and the paperwork that comes with running your own business.” While each woman focuses on their specialties, they also maintain open communication and never make bridge decisions without consulting the other. When asked for advice on building a business, Angie replied that the first step is “to do your research.” A successful business is all about planning, researching and allowing for natural flow of development, she said, suggesting that entrepreneurs “start small and grow the business as the market allows.”

When founding The Cake Bar, both women contributed to the business with unique talents and professional skills that helped to form their brilliant partnership. Angie notes that while she and Tracie are naturally better at managing different aspects of the business, their strength as a team lies in their differences.

Affirming Angie’s strong ideals on establishing a successful business is the opening of The Cake Bar’s second shop, The Cake Bar at Depot Station, located at Franklin’s historic Dean Train Station. The long term plan for the new location is to offer express cupcakes as well as hot beverages that will allow commuters to place an order in advance and have their cupcakes ready and waiting at the train in the morning to take into the city, while continuing to spread the company’s name recognition and brand awareness.

“Tracie is more artistic. She makes beautiful cakes, and enjoys branding and marketing. I prefer managing the day to day aspects of

Baby steps, open communication, a little bit of luck and a lot of delicious deserts, is the recipe to success at The Cake Bar.

The Cake Bar specializes in gourmet sugar confections that are made from scratch and placed into small packages. Their pastries promise to please your palate through their unique twists of classic dessert favorites.

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Replace sugary treats as a bribe for potty training with an instant picture reward that is revealed each time the child goes potty. Aim, pee, surprise! 2. Dot Girl Period Kit (For moms with teen girls)

A must-have for moms with teenage girls. The Dot Girl Period Kit provides pre-teen daughters with the answers to the many questions about their first period, and provides all the accessories they will need, including pads, hand wipes, disposable bags, a heating pad, an answer book and a period dairy. 3. Serenity Star (For the new mom)

A new mom must-have, the Serenity Star is an electronic feeding and sleep system designed for both baby and caregivers. It is a night light, feeding diary, room temperature indicator, sound machine, nightlight and clock—all in one. 4. Belly Buds (For the pregnant mom)

Studies have shown that babies hearing is fully developed in utero at about 20 weeks, thus, why not set up your baby to be the next Mozart? Belly Buds are specialized speakers that adhere to your pregnant belly and play music and sounds directly into your womb. 5. Monkey Mat (For the active mom)

This is a great portable purchase for active moms. The Monkey Mat can be spread at the beach, an airport, a park, or your own backyard. It is as easy as zip, clip and go. 6. David Carter's 100 (For the educational mom)

A great book for teaching kids to count; the pages uncover different numbers from 1 to 100 in a sequence of amazing landscapes. This will keep them busy at the doctor’s office and has the added educational bonus of learning to count. 7. Camera Coats (For the shutter bug mom)

A lightweight waterproof bag to conveniently transport a digital camera, this “coat” is functional and stylish, available in assorted colors. When you travel to the beach with the kids all summer, you know your camera will be safe and dry. 8. Frownies Gentle Lifts (For the care-worn mom)

Originally created to reverse the signs of aging around the lips, Gentle Lifts are also great to use between the eyes and on the forehead as well. These are convenient and self-adhesive patches that can help smooth out and fine lines while you sleep.

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BEANTOWN MOM SUMMER BOOK CLUB

MINIMALIST PARENTING by Christine Koh and Asha Dornfest Filled with practical advice, helpful tips, and ah-ha moments, this is a must read for parents who need a reminder of what really matters. The authors are not preaching, but rather relating and advising the reader to clear the clutter, calm the chaos, prioritize, and simplify—both physically and emotionally. Minimalist Parenting is the perfect reminder to keep life with kids simple.

THE LIGHT BETWEEN OCEANS by M.L. Stedman After serving in World War I, Tom Sherbourne becomes a lighthouse keeper and lives on a remote island with his wife, Isabel. Both husband and wife are bearing the emotional turmoil that comes along with multiple miscarriages and a stillborn. One April morning, in the wake of their sorrow, Tom and Isabel find a boat that has washed up to shore which carries a dead man and a crying baby. Tom and Isabel break rules, follow their hearts and make you, as the reader, question your own morality. The story is both a beautiful and horrifying glimpse into the human psyche and pervades a new light on what a human being would do when thrust amid loss and love.

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LEAN IN by Sheryl Sandburg With this book, Sheryl Sandburg will inspire any woman to strive for leadership and to create the life you want. She will incite a new desire in you to stand up, be heard, and challenge the restrictions that our male-dominated society has placed upon woman. Sandburg examines why women’s progress in leadership has stalled, explains why women’s voices still go unheard, and will empower you to seek justice and acknowledgement by leaning in to your potential for power.

AFTER THE CRASH by Martin Spinelli Martin Spinelli shares the raw and heart-wrenching emotions that accompany loss in his debut novel, After the Crash. A true story on the death of his wife in an automobile accident, Martin holds nothing back as he immerses readers in his son’s miraculous recovery, and his own personal transformation; all the while, reminding us that light will always outshine darkness.

DREAMS AND MISUNDERSTANDINGS by Stephanie Jones Even though digital innovations created misunderstandings that ultimately tore the lovers apart, in this book, Stephanie Jones goes on to tell a tale of how true love can overcome hardships. Technology such as Skype and iPhones can allow couples to connect and reconnect despite the distance. This romance novel takes readers through tragedy and destiny in search of true love, while reminding them that distance is nothing in the face of romance.

Summer Fun At Need Kid's Picture Here This exhibit of toys from the museum’s collection asks visitors to consider what these toys taught past generations—and how those lessons are similar or different from the ones expressed by today’s toys. Children's attractions include hands-on toys and a model train on an elevated track.

Want to learn about history outside of the museum? Join us for one of our 2013 Historic Newton Walks. This summer’s schedule features tours of some of Newton’s most unique corners and landmarks. Tours take place the 2nd and 4th Sundays of the month JuneSeptember.

The Jackson Homestead and Museum is located at 527 Washington Street Newton, MA 02458 For more information find us online at www.historicnewton.org or call (617) 796-1450

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Family Traditions

By Frances J. Folsom Memories of Shopping with my Italian Grandmother in Boston’s North End

rowing up in Cambridge in the early 1950’s, my family lived across the street from my maternal grandparents, Luigi and Antonetta Pelusi. Our neighborhood was lined with threestory clapboard houses, and every yard had a pigeon coop, rose bushes, a grape arbor and a statue of the Virgin Mary. My grandparents were Italian immigrants who scrimped and saved to buy their home. They lived on the first floor, where I live now. My aunts, uncles and cousins lived on the second and third floors. I remember Sunday dinners of roasted chicken and pasta in Grandma’s kitchen. The adults gathered around the big table with all of us kids sitting at card tables. There was always lots of arguing and laughing. One of my earliest memories and favorite family tradition was going shopping with my Grandma in Boston’s North End. She would hold my hand on the streetcar as we sat on the long, green-slatted benches. Swinging between my knees as the train lurched back and forth was the black vinyl shopping bag Grandma gave me to hold. Back then, pushcarts laden with succulent purple eggplants, crisp peppers and yellow onions clogged Hanover and Salem streets. Ropes of garlic hung down the sides of the carts, and pyramids of shiny apples and oranges were piled next to heaps of green grapes. I remember the smells - sweet watermelons and nectarines in summer, followed by peanuts and chestnuts roasting over open fires in winter. Shopping here was an art form. The more you bargained and insulted the vendor’s produce, the lower the price dropped. And Grandma, standing only 5-foot-4 inches, in her sturdy

brown oxford shoes, was a pro at haggling. “Your prices are too high for such rotten peppers!” she’d yell to the vegetable man. Or, to the fruit woman, “these oranges aren’t worth a nickel each. I’ll give you three cents, no more.” Nearly as wide as she was tall, Grandma usually got what she wanted, except when it came to her butcher, Giuseppe. While they argued over prices, I would go around his shop, making friends with the live chickens, rabbits and pigs that he kept in crates. She would start by calling him a cheat for charging twelve cents a pound for chicken. Giuseppe, standing in his blood stained apron with his hands and arms flailing in the air, always shouted back, calling her a stubborn old woman. A frugal woman, grandma got several meals from one chicken – first it was roasted for Sunday dinner, any leftovers from that went into the broth that she made by boiling the feet in water with vegetables. The leftover meat was also used in cacciatore with tomatoes and peas, whatever was left over from that went into homemade polenta. When she finally settled with Giuseppe on which birds to buy and at what price, we would watch as he butchered them. Once their heads and feet were cut off, she took that opportunity to demand that the feet be thrown in for free. I still remember those bloody chicken feet sticking out of Grandma’s black vinyl shopping bag as we walked hand-inhand down Salem Street.

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