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33RD ANNUAL NATIONAL VETERAN WHEELCHAIR GAMES
EMOTIONAL
FITNESS
EXPRESS YOURSELF
BREAST CANCER BEYOND OC TOBER
FALL FASHION
CONSIGN ON A DIME
SHEILA BAILEY Author, Makeovers with Leftovers
DRESS FOR
SUCCESS
THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING
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CONTENTS I L LU S T R AT E D
A Lifestyle of Today’s Christian Woman
INSPIRE
EMPOWER
9 Dress for Success Tampa Bay
22 Express Yourself
10 Sheila Bailey
24 Mission Possible
ENCOURAGE
FASHION
14 Have Your Morning Coffee with God
26 Consign on a Dime
17 Autumn Anthem
28 Girls Got Talent
18 A Woman’s Worth
IN EVERY ISSUE
Executive Director Katie McGill has a gift that keeps on giving.
Author of Leftovers with Makeovers uses a powerful message to inspire an entire generation of women.
Share a daily cup of coffee with God.
Jorgie Franks, author of You Goal Girl, encourages women to accelerate those resolutions made at the beginning of the year.
Feeling unworthy? Accept God’s love and embrace your worthiness.
TRIune FITness coach Allison Smith’s guide to emotional fitness.
An empowering interview with disabled Veteran athletes Centra “CeCe” Mazyck and Chatriex Goodson
Fabulously Chic Consignment Shopping for Less
Talented sisters, Arie and Alexis Powell, excel at dance, gym and academics!
30 College Glam Girls 35 Readers Forum 38 Spotlight
21 Living with Purpose
Recognize God’s purpose for your life.
“Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your Father which is in heaven.” ~ Matthew 5:16
Breast Cancer
BEYOND OCTOBER
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years. I give all thanks to God for He is our healer, our comforter and our friend.
life’s pantry when faced with difficult situations and embrace the things God has left for them.
Once again I joined the ranks of so many other courageous women who are fighting the battle against cancer. This is an important time of the year because there is a great focus on research and finding a cure for this devastating disease. As a twotime breast cancer survivor myself, I want to take this opportunity to encourage all of our readers to stay vigilant with regards to your health. Although we are on the heels of Breast Cancer Awareness Month, the campaign must continue beyond October as written by Sonia Franklin (page 32).
This is exactly what I did in my fights against cancer. During my yearlong treatments of radiation and chemotherapy, I took a look into my own pantry and realized although the storm was raging all around me, I knew God still had work for me to do. Besides, He had already given me the vision of Beauty Talk Illustrated Online Magazine so why would He not allow me to see it through? Once I opened that pantry door, if you will, and saw shelves filled with faith, courage and perserverance it became clear God was merely refining me for it. I knew then that I would be alright. One year after surgery and just one week shy of my last treatment, Beauty Talk Illustrated was launched. I have often been asked, “How did you manage to publish a magazine while working a full-time job and going through weekly and oftentimes daily treatments?” My answer is simple, “God did exactly what He said He would do - all I had to do is exactly what He wanted me to do.” Hopefully, after reading all of the great articles from our awesome team of writers you would know He can do the same for you!
t’s official - I am now the BIG 50 and loving every moment of it! Praise the Lord for another blessed year! There’s no better time to celebrate than during the autumn issue of Beauty Talk Illustrated Magazine.
Like so many other women who are suffering from not only breast cancer but other health issues, domestic crisis or financial woes, I knew that this battle was bigger than me and greater than I could handle alone. So, I did what I knew best and put my complete focus on God. Through prayer, daily devotionals, and more prayer, He blessed me with tremendous peace. Before long I realized He was carrying me through the storm and leading me to where I am today.
This milestone is particularly special because of the journey I took to get here. Last year my family was served several devastating blows – we lost my husband’s parents and I received the shocking news that I had breast cancer again after surviving it for 12
That’s why I am excited for you to read our feature story on Dr. Sheila Bailey, speaker and author of the book Makeovers with Leftovers (page 10). “Whatever God takes God never takes all,” says Dr. Bailey as she encourages women to take an inventory of their
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BE AU T Y
The quality or aggregate of qualities in a person or thing that gives pleasure to the senses or pleasurably exalts the mind or spirit.
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To deliver or express in speech and to convey information or communicate in any way.
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INSPIRE
Dress for Success
THE GIFT THAT KEEPS ON GIVING BY ERICA FOX-SLEDGE
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aptured by a short parable that commenced her presentation, Katie McGill commanded the attention of the audience. The story speaks of a woman who falls into a hole. Professionals of all areas, walk by offering assistance for things she might need in the future, if and only if, she is to make it out of the hole. Only one continues to jumps right into the familiar hole to show women the way out. Katie McGill is not afraid to get down and dirty, not afraid to go where others are afraid to go. Her life’s experiences, her service to others, is the gift that continues to give. Katie was a beloved volunteer for the Crisis Center of Tampa Bay for twenty years. She held an esteemed career at the Centre for Women and has since started her own business helping people climb out of the hole, together. Retail Manager turned Executive Director of Dress for Success Tampa Bay, McGill uses her talents everyday through whatever medium necessary to serve others. Katie believes,
1 PETER 4:10 Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms. “We live life forward but [life] only could be understood backwards.” She believes that her past - every life choice and career decision she has made – helped shape the woman she is today. Her past helps provide many women, ages 18-60 living below poverty level and most of which are single mothers with an average of 2-3 children, to have the strength
skills and development to prepare her for her interview. If she needs to hone-in on professional skills, the career center pairs her up with yet another mentor-like figure to assist with resume building, cover letter editing and interview preparation. If more assistance is needed to provide additional training and development, Walmart partners with the organization to offer a nine-week series of workshops to continue to cultivate skills necessary to land a job in today’s market. Once hired, they are invited to come back to build their professional wardrobe and align themselves with the Professional Women’s Group to assist with a successful career journey.
and know-how to climb out of the hole while looking good at the same time. The mission of Dress for Success “…is to promote the economic independence of disadvantaged women by providing professional attire, a network of support and the career development tools to help women thrive in work and in life.” Nancy Lublin started the organization with $5,000 of inheritance from her great-grandfather in 1996 and the organization has since grown to suit over 600,000 women and service women in over 120 cities across the world. The Tampa Bay site began with three kind-hearted, devoted volunteers and today, has close to 200. Dress for Success works with more than 200 organizations that refer women to begin their journey into the professional realm. The first step is meeting one-on-one with a personal shopper who finds the perfect suit, shoes and accessories while offering life coaching
When these ladies enter the door, most probably have no idea that they entered into a partnership for life. They have no idea the suit they are changing into comes attached with a wealth of expectations: the expectation none other than to succeed. That is the gift…the gift that keeps on giving. If you or anyone you know is interested in offering their talents and services, please visit www.dressforsuccess.org and find an affiliate near you.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR Erica Fox-Sledge is a Medical Claims Adjuster at Progressive Insurance and an Adjunct Professor of African American History at the University of South Florida. She currently resides in Ruskin, FL and attends First Baptist Church of Progress Village. For more information contact Erica at foxe_123@yahoo.com.
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The
Ultimate Makeover BY IDA WALKER AND ALLISON SMITH
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or over three decades, Dr. Sheila Bailey (lovingly known as Sheila B.) has been on an awesome journey to fulfill her call to the Christian education ministry, guiding church members (men, women, boys and girls) toward a closer relationship with Jesus Christ. Little did she know, however, that the crossroad of faith and circumstance would lead her on a path to inspire not only the church but an entire generation of women. Having been raised in a Christian home Sheila credits her parents, Joseph and Lucy Smith, with introducing her to Jesus Christ. At the tender age of eight years old she accepted Him as her Lord and Savior. She was then baptized at Faith Tabernacle Baptist Church in Stanford, Connecticut. This was just the beginning of Sheila’s walk with Christ. Her passion to serve the Lord led her to Bishop College in Dallas, Texas after high school graduation. When Deacon and Mrs. Smith sent their daughter off to college, she returned with more than a degree in Christian Education. It was at Bishop College where she met a stunning young man named E.K. Bailey. They dated four years, married on August 30, 1969 and are blessed with three children and two granddaughters. Rev. Dr. E.K. Bailey would soon be on his way to becoming one of the most influential preachers in the Dallas-Fort Worth area. He founded the Concord Missionary Baptist Church, which is known today simply as “Concord Church.” Sheila wanted to be prepared in her new role as a wife of a promising pastor so she lent a listening ear to
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When life knocks you down, steals your joy, and takes away your livelihood, what can you do? God says, ‘Live on what’s left.’” ~ Dr. Sheila Bailey the words from one of her spiritual mentors, Mrs. W.K. Jackson. Mom Jackson, as she was affectionately known, offered sage advice to Sheila; she remembers it clearly, “Love God, love your husband, love yourself, love people and have a sense of humor.” She took her friend’s advice to heart. She was eager to serve the Lord and equally delighted to support her husband and the ministry by serving as his helpmeet. They were a team. It didn’t take long, however, for the church leadership to recognize her talents. They approached Rev. Bailey and asked permission to appoint her as the Director of Christian Education. She was grateful to serve in this leadership capacity and did so for many years. But, God began to direct Sheila’s focus toward the needs of women. She developed a strong passion for this area of ministry and as she received invitations to minister to various women’s groups the desire to serve them became even greater. She loves the interaction whether it’s in an informal setting of one-on-one chats or in a small or large group setting. Sheila soon realized the reason God gave her the opportunity to minister to the needs of women. But, the very lessons she had been teaching women were about to be put to the ultimate
test. As she often says, “A lesson taught is not caught until it’s been lived.” Well, she was about to live it. On October 23, 2003 her husband of 34 years, Rev. Dr. E.K. Bailey, lost his battle with cancer. This was a great loss for Sheila and it turned her world upside down. Life as she knew it changed, the sparkle of her eyes was gone and suddenly she was faced with a seemingly dim future. Living the rest of her life alone with limited financial resources and the life plans that were etched out for her were all gone or so it seemed. Sheila had to dig deep and “those lessons,” they built within her a spiritual reserve in which she could draw during the darkest moments in her life. “Whatever God takes God never takes all,” says Sheila. So she tapped into II Kings 4:1-7 and reflected on the prophet Elisha who told a widow with only a little bit of oil, “Go sell the oil, pay your debts, and live on what’s left.” Living on the leftovers - those little blessings stored up in your life. But, first you must take an inventory of your leftovers. “Go into your life’s pantry and embrace those things that God has left for you,” says Sheila. Using a food analogy for instance, it’s like making a gourmet
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meal from leftover turkey. Add a few more seasonings or sides, toss it and sometimes you will have an even better tasting meal than the original. You see, taking inventory is exactly what Sheila did after the death of her husband and she found that God did indeed leave a few leftovers. This was the turning point in her life. God expanded her territory and the clarity of His vision was even more profound; she was to completely focus on women’s issues regardless of their culture, denomination, age, or their season in life. We all have suffered some form of loss in our lives, whether it’s a loss due to divorce, job or home, even the loss of self-esteem or self-worth, and the list goes on and on. Our issues may not be the same but “hurt is painful” says Sheila and she understands all too well the pain of loss - the death of a loved one. You may end up in a dark place for a while, but you don’t have to stay there or give up. You can be made over with whatever is leftover in your life. Sheila presents this powerful message to women all over the world through her ministry, Sheila B. Ministries (www.sheilab.org). In her new book, Makeovers with Leftovers, she reaches out to those who are suffering to renew their hope, refresh their joy, and help remake their image in the likeliness of God’s. The book provides comprehensive Bible teachings for individuals or small groups, testimonials and true stories of people that have been made over by His love and, as a bonus a miniature cookbook with leftovers recipes. Sheila B. Ministries is home to several outreach initiatives including the STAND Women’s Conference, Speak Young Sisters, Correctional Facility Study Groups and the Lancaster Nursing Home. The ministry’s mission to teach women of all seasons how to live victoriously through the word of God stays at the forefront of these initiatives. S.T.A.N.D. is an acronym for Sisters Touching Assisting Networking with Dignity. This conference is held in conjunction with the E.K. Bailey Expository Preaching Conference in Dallas. STAND’s popularity expanded to Houston, Texas on October 13, 2012 and other churches across the country are requesting 12 AU TUMN ISSUE 2012
it to come to their city as well. It could be coming soon to a location near you. Speak Young Sisters is an initiative that is close to Sheila’s heart. She’s very passionate about providing young girls the opportunity to reach their full potential by building their self-confidence and empowering them through public speaking. “Language is a tool of empowerment,” says Sheila. “They have the ability … they just need someone to come along side of them to give them confidence.” Speaking of expanding her territory, Sheila was invited to give a graduation message to women incarcerated and about to be released on parole. She accepted the invitation and in tow with her were the
“Love God, love your husband, love yourself, love people and have a sense of humor.” ~ Mrs. W.K. Jackson
lessons from Makeover with Leftovers. When she finished her message to the parolees about identifying their leftovers for their personal makeover, the women were in tears and many agreed that they had no clue what life would be like after their release from prison. These ladies struggled with the transition back into the community, yet they persevered. They were in essence going through a makeover. Prison officials were pleased with Sheila’s presentation. Currently pending is a unique opportunity that would allow her to offer the Makeover with Leftovers curriculum to other women in the Dallas correctional facilities. Although Sheila never imagined being where she is today in the ministry, she knows
that God has what we would refer to as “an open door policy.” She believes in an Ephesians 3:20 God who does exceedingly and abundantly above all we can ask, think or imagine and “that’s what he has done.” She doesn’t appear to be slowing down anytime soon. There are many projects on the horizon for Sheila B. Ministries. She contributes a great deal of her success to a wonderful board, team and family. “I could not do this without their support. It’s a work I cannot do by myself and I appreciate them,” says Sheila. She is just as grateful for every opportunity of teaching and ministering to women, including the privilege of serving on the same platform with Anne Graham Lotz, the daughter of the legendary evangelist Billy Graham. Lotz is one of Bailey’s literary mentors and someone she admires immensely; so, when she was invited to serve on the planning committee for Lotz’s Just Give Me Jesus Women’s Revival in Dallas, Texas and recommended by the committee to pray the opening prayer, she was delighted. Besides, to present the prayer before a crowd of that magnitude was a once in a lifetime opportunity. However, Sheila received a pleasant surprise when Mrs. Lotz extended a personal invitation for her to participate in revivals in various cities across the country including Augusta, Cleveland, New Orleans, San Juan and Lexington (Kentucky). She’s scheduled to join the Just Give Me Jesus Revival again in Indianapolis in April 2013. During that same month on April 12 and 13, Sheila will be in Tampa, Florida for the First Baptist Church of Progress Village 2013 Women’s Conference, where Dr. Samuel L. Maxwell is the Senior Teaching Pastor. She plans to publish more printed materials and take Makeovers for Leftovers on a national tour hosting conferences so that women would have a place to come for the Ultimate Makeover. There are plenty of television shows featuring makeovers with finances, makeup, wardrobe, home and the physical body. Focusing on the inside out starting with God’s word and how it flows through our mouth, our face, our wardrobe and our conduct, Sheila B. Ministries will present the Ultimate Makeover.
SHEILA B. Upclose & Personal What is one thing you would say people don’t know about you? I was so tickled by this question. I collect Mickey Mouse. Mickey has been one of my favorite characters. It started on my 50th birthday when the women’s group at my church wanted to give me a fun gift. Mickey and I are almost the same age and I have longed for many years to visit Mickey’s house in Orlando or Los Angeles, so now I have a collection of Mickey Mouse. Then the women’s ministry went on a retreat to Nassau, Bahamas. They wanted me to go snorkeling. I told them that I didn’t want to get my hair wet because I had to attend a banquet that night. “We will do your hair,” they said. Now, I don’t know how to swim and they didn’t realize that snorkeling was only a fantasy of mine. I thought for snorkeling I would be able to walk out into the waters. So when the instructor steered the boat out to the ocean and stopped, I was shocked. I told him that I was not trying to commit suicide. He gave me instructions and I did it. I believe if it is God’s will and He gives you the desire to do it and the instructions with wisdom to do it (not making foolish decisions to explore), then do it because we only have one life.
When you’re at home writing, who is on your mind? It depends on my purpose of writing. If I am writing devotion I begin with the word of God. God, what is Your word saying to me and then who is the target audience? That’s the bridge there. God let me take Your word and You direct me with Your word to this target audience. Sometimes I’m writing to a single audience, other times it may be to a widow’s group and other times it is to all women. So, I’m bridging God’s word with that particular audience. I may be writing to my daughters, my son, or my granddaughters. But I try to keep that person in mind and that the person is made out of flesh and blood with needs and what does God’s word say to that person.
What keeps you motivated? Breathing! God has breathed in me and most of all He is breathing through me His breath. As long as He continues to breathe through me His word, His power and give me natural breath I will breathe out His word with hopes that we can all benefit and learn and grow and glow together in Jesus Christ.
You are the conference speaker for the First Baptist Church of Progress Village Women’s Conference on April 12-13, 2013. I must tell you these ladies are really excited about you coming to Tampa. What can the women in Florida expect from Dr. Sheila Bailey? I am so thankful for the privilege to go there. God placed my name on their hearts – I thank God, I thank them and I thank their pastor for extending this invitation. It has been a joy talking to Sister Ida, she’s just a sweetheart and then meeting several of the ladies at the Just Give Me Jesus (in Augusta, Georgia) put faces to the names that I heard also. I want to express my gratitude first of all. They can expect for a woman who loves the Lord to come to them, who is a woman
just like them; who has joys and some singular sorrows; who’s seeking God and has a relationship with Him; and who would bring His word that through the power of the Holy Spirit that word will be made relevant to each one of those women. Their questions through the word of God could be answered and that they would have the hope and help “to go home another way.” When the wise men saw the baby Jesus they went home another way.
Dr. Bailey, I have listed a few words I would like to call out to you (one word at a time). As you hear each word, please tell me the first thing that comes to your mind. Home —
LOVE
Family —
UNITY
Happiness — IN JESUS Warmth —
FOOD
Work —
DAILY, THE GLORY OF GOD
Jesus —
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HAVE YOUR MORNING COFFEE
With God BY ERICA FOX-SLEDGE
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t appears simple to say I am a woman of God with a family and a career, but in actuality we women know it means so much more. I am the alarm clock, personal shopper, online banker and bill paying service, gourmet chef, housekeeper, the iron woman, food supplier (when rearing small children), nurse (because we all know how men are when they have the sniffles), teacher, confidant, and the list goes on. (Proverbs 31:10-31) The scripture says because we are all of these plus more, we are to be honored. But what about honoring ourselves? So many times we are EVERYTHING to everyone, but NOTHING to ourselves. I have prayed Psalms 23 many of nights, but somehow would end my day feeling cheated: like I did everything for everyone else, but did not have time for me. Surely, I could continue to give because “my cup runneth over,” right? It is okay for me to think of myself last, because putting me first is selfish, right? I needed deliverance from this thinking and fast - my health and mental sanity was on the brink of a downward spiral. In order for one’s “cup to runneth over” there has to be overflow — excess that one can give without compromising the full cup. The full cup is what you need to thrive in this life. Take for instance, your freshly brewed cup of coffee on a morning where you are utterly exhausted. You understand to make it through the day you need a full mug of the strongest coffee you can find. If you compromise even a small amount of what you already determined was reasonable and necessary to thrive, it then compromises your needs . . . needs you already knew existed. Most days, no one other than myself cheated me out of my day. I needed a change. Instead of taking my cup of coffee to go, drinking it on the way to drop my son off at the sitter’s house and then bringing a half-full, lukewarm cup to work (that I would soon dump), I decided to try something different. While my son and husband were still asleep, I tip-toed down the stairs and turned on the coffee pot. I placed my iPhone on the speakers and started to play some of my favorite gospel music. When the coffee was done, I opened the blinds as the sun started to rise; I thanked God. I sat down to read my Bible while music played softly in my ears. I thought about my aspirations and asked God to align my steps. I picked up that book I was dying to read and finally started, all while slowly drinking my coffee. By the time my cup was empty, it was time for me to be the alarm clock. I walked up the stairs and instead of being the annoying, dreaded beeping sound I was the hand of love that woke them with a smile. Now I will never miss a morning drinking coffee with my Savior. Erica Fox-Sledge is a Medical Claims Adjuster at Progressive Insurance and an Adjunct Professor of African American History at the University of South Florida. She currently resides in Ruskin, Florida and attends First Baptist Church of Progress Village. If you were to ask Erica what makes her happy her response would be, “Spending time with my family.” She is married and a new mommy. For more information contact Erica at foxe_123@yahoo.com. BE AU T Y TALK ILLUSTRATED 15
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AUTUMN
ANTHEM BY JORGIE FRANKS
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ccelerate your goals this autumn. In the beginning of 2012 you started with diets, budgets, and an action plan. Most people called that action plan a New Year’s resolution. Well, if you have not already accomplished your goals, accelerate your action plan now. This season is the time to get it started - just call it the AUTUMN ANTHEM! My birthday is in October and every October I set my goals for the next year of life. They do not call me “The Goal Girl” for just any reason; I set and achieve
goals. You also can be a Goal Girl! Last year I made clearly defined goals to be active in the Chamber of Commerce, a book club, and a social club called the Pink Hatters. I planned to invest in relationships and build a career objective. I said I would focus on my daughters and their goals, and work in the church. I had to maintain a healthy weight and remain in my apartment. Well, I am looking towards this autumn as a time to start new and I encourage you to sing a new anthem, an Autumn Anthem. Get a jump start on the New Year!
Five things you may want to consider for your customized Autumn Anthem. 1. CR E AT I V I T Y: I like to use markers and posters. Think about articles, pictures, or anything that will motivate you to reach your goals. 2. T H E M E: “Regrouping, Reorganizing” was my theme for 2012. Think about the main motivation for your goals. Do you see common ground? Can you think of a theme that will keep you motivated for a season or even a lifetime? 3. T I M E LI N E: Will you set yearly goals or is it just for this season? Do you have short-term goals that will help you reach those long-term goals? 4. R E S P O N S I B I LI T Y: Take responsibility for your goals and own it. Life is like a business and you are the CEO. What do you want this year to say about you? Where are you headed? It is up to you to have an anthem that you can sing daily. 5. D I V E R S I F Y: Include all types of goals. Think about your relationships with God and man. Consider your health, wellness, and finances. Reflect on the roles you play as a mother and maybe even as a child. Think about your ideal living situation and overall what will make you happy.
Jorgie Franks is a motivational speaker and author of You Goal Girl and The Ultimate Guide to Achieve All of your Goals! She currently resides in Tampa, FL where she attends First Baptist Church of Progress Village. For more information visit Jorgie at www.JorgieFranks.com or write her with your questions/feedback at thegoalgirl@gmail.com.
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A Woman’s Worth BY CHANTELLE CUDGER
Who can find a woman of worth? For her price is far above rubies. (Proverbs 31:10 DBT)
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n today’s society a question as simple as “Who am I?” can be quite difficult to answer. We live in a time where what we see influences our thoughts and actions more than we would like to admit. The value of who we are as women has been depreciated way below our Father’s intended estimation.
Many people believe the more attractive a woman is on the outside, the more beautiful she is overall. However, nothing could be further from the truth. So many women and young girls have been misled by the images perpetuated in the media that have somehow set the standard for who we should be. From the barrage of reality shows, popular actresses, musicians, and other entertainers, there is definitely a warped view of virtuosity being portrayed from ungodly sources. Yet, our Father’s Word declares that this shouldn’t be. Proverbs 31:30 tells us, “Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting; but a woman who fears the LORD is to be praised.” Why does it seem to be the other way around? How is it that females, who have no concept of respect for themselves or the Lord, are being placed on pedestals and labeled the world’s most desirable women? Let’s be honest with ourselves, even as believers we too can often fall victim to chasing the dream of being the perfect woman according to worldly standards. There are many personal and social circumstances that influence the perception we have of ourselves. I hate to say it, ladies, but bad relationships top the list! I can’t begin to tell you how many women allow the guys they are dating or married to be the determining factor of their self-worth. It saddens me to speak to women who feel they are worthless because they don’t meet the expectations of someone else. My advice to every woman reading Beauty Talk Illustrated right now is this - know that the God of the universe created you and in His word it is written that you are a woman of worth whose price is far above rubies! (Proverbs 31:10) As a survivor of sexual abuse, I know the detriment of not understanding the importance of how cherished my Father says I am. I felt as though I had to have played some part in causing the wrongdoings that happened to me as a child to occur. The guilt turned to shame and eventually the shame evolved into a diminishing self-esteem. With my past in mind, I often wondered who would even want me, let alone love me. But God spoke to my heart loud and clear with a resounding, “I love you and I want you!” (Jeremiah 31:3)
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It took many, many years of consistent fasting, prayer, and seeking God through His word (and more prayer) for me to be able to have the mindset I have today. It took even longer for me to truly believe that the Lord loved me and had special plans for my life. (Jeremiah 29:11) Today I know I am appraised at a value that is so much greater than anything that any man in this world could ever offer. I am valued high above rubies because the Spirit of the true and living God dwells within me. I am His prized possession, His vessel, His daughter — and so are you! Don’t get me wrong, ladies, I do still have my moments. I can assure you, however, that those moments no longer linger into days and weeks the way they used to. We have to fight to seek out God’s perception of us and not the acceptance of others. Making the Lord our audience of one helps us to sharpen our focus on pleasing Him and only Him. Of course this does not mean that we negate life’s realities. However, it does mean that we should not allow life’s realities to alter our self-worthiness. Many women reading this may have also been abused as children or have been in abusive relationships. Regardless of what was said to or about you, God has still rated you above all the treasures of the earth. No matter what someone has done to you, their disobedience does not lessen your worth – the Lord says that you are more precious than the finest gold! Married or single, the Lord your Maker is your husband! (Isaiah 54:5) He will protect you, strengthen you, delight in you, and rejoice over you with singing! (Zephaniah 3:17) So, what does the portrait of a noble woman look like? I suppose if I were a talented artist, I would capture her with knees bent, head bowed, and hands lifted in adoration to the Lord of her life. A woman is no more valuable than her intimate connection with the Lord. I say this because from that relationship not only flows the issues of life but the solutions to them. A woman of worth not only has a heart for the Lord, she also has a heart to see others build a relationship with Him. Women of worth esteem the Lover of their soul with the highest regard because they know that He is their source of eternal admiration. Living a life segregated from the Lord only leaves us vulnerable to every snare the enemy has set to keep us believing the lie that we have no purpose and no price tag. Well ladies, that is a lie indeed! The One who matters most says that we were bought at a price – we are not our own or on our own! (1Corinthians 6:20)
Prayer: Father God, with knees bent, hands raised, and mouths open pouring out praise to the One whom we adore -we thank You! We thank You because we are not our own, that we were bought at a price that surpasses the treasures of this world. Thank You for each tender reminder of Your love for us. May we press forward each day confident that we are virtuous and worthy to be loved because You have spoken it...and it is so!
My challenge to each of you is to begin everyday from this moment forward, asking the Lord to reveal to you how important you are to Him. Ask Him to remove anything and anyone in your life that hinders your oneness with Him or distorts the value that He has placed on you. And then when it’s all said and done, thank Him! Thank Him for loving you even when you don’t feel worthy to be loved. Thank Him because He first loved you. Chantelle Cudger is a blogger, writer, author, missionary and has actively served in her church’s Preschool Ministry. She currently resides in Alpharetta, Georgia and attends First Baptist Church of Atlanta. If you were to ask Chantelle what makes her happy she would simply say, “Knowing that I am exactly where God wants me to be, doing exactly what He has created me to do.” For more information contact Chantelle at sherai78@yahoo.com.
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Reflections
O F P R AY E R RENEW
RESTORE
RECEIVE
REFRESH
RECONNECT
RELEASE
REWARD
RELINQUISH
REVIVE
REDEEM
REJOICE
REJUVENATE
There is not in the world a kind of life more sweet and delightful than that of a continual conversation with God. - Brother Lawrence
Ask, and it will be given to you; seek, and you will find; knock, and it will be opened to you. Matthew 7:7
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Living Purpose with
BY ALEXA SIMONE BRYANT
NEW CENTURY VERSION -ROMANS 12:1-2 So brothers and sisters, since God has shown us great mercy, I beg you to offer your lives as a living sacrifice to him, which is the spiritual way for you to worship. Do not be shaped by this world; instead be changed within by a new way of thinking. Then you will be able to decide what God wants for you; you will know what is good and pleasing to him and what is perfect.
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taring at the computer screen, the stress of the unknown began to settle behind my eyes. As the pressure grew, tears fell. Two steady streams flowed down my face joining under my chin. I whipped the pain from the bottom of my head with the back of my hand in hopes that the pressure would subside. I knew that I could transfer schools; but yet I still had unanswered questions about my future. What was I supposed to do? Who was I to become? It is a popular, yet false belief that money is the source from which happiness grows. From a tender age, children are force-fed messages of selfish greed and personal gain. Though the message of personal gain is being exalted, depression is spreading like a fire in dry woods devouring the spirits of everyone it touches. Its existence becomes lucid as the days progress and the manner in which we go about selecting a job or career is dysfunctional. For many, the first requirement for whether or not a job or career will equate to happiness is what the paycheck will look like and if it offers medical benefits. Yes, for practical purposes, money is important; we need it to provide for ourselves and our family. It is this criterion that leaves a necessary question unanswered. What is the purpose of our life and is our job or career aiding us in our quest to fulfill this purpose?
were given life to help build God’s kingdom. Each of us has a unique purpose for our existence. And though we are all in different places and seasons of life, we should still desire to do God’s will. The scripture also says not to “conform to the ways of this world” for only then will we know truly what God wants for us. It seems that I am not alone in asking the questions, “What am I supposed to do? And who am I going to become?” But I have realized that through prayer and patience, God will reveal the purpose of my life. Every day, I can see more and more how God orchestrates events in my life in such a way that I do not need to worry. As long as we are willing to follow, He is more than happy to lead.
Alexa Simone Bryant is a graduating senior at Florida State University. She is pursuing a Bachelor of Arts in English Literature and she will also receive a minor in Sociology. She received her Associates Degree at Florida A&M University. The highlight of her college career was having the opportunity to serve as a missionary in Montego Bay, Jamaica, last year with her home church New Hope Missionary Baptist Church in Tampa, Florida. For more information contact Alexa at asb08c@my.fsu.edu or visit her blog http://kobesimone.blogspot.com.
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EMPOWER
Express Yourself
EMOTIONAL FITNESS BY ALLISON SMITH
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e’ve all heard the phrase “Don’t be so emotional” at least one time or another in life. The expression of our emotions, known also as the mirror of our soul, has somehow become taboo. So what do we do with these feelings developed in the innermost sanctorum of our being?
If the emotion is one of joy or happiness instead of expressing with jubilation, we conceal it. Why? Is it because we are afraid that people will think we are being too emotional? Most likely, the answer is yes. It is even seen as taboo in many places of worship. When people shout for joy some may say, “It doesn’t take all that.” When we feel sorrow, we are too ashamed to cry because “it’s a sign of weakness.” Instead of learning how to appropriately manage our emotions, we do the opposite and suppress them. Emotion is the language of a person’s internal state of being and emotional fitness - it is one of the leading health topics in our society today. Every day we are faced with different issues: some good, like the birth of a child or a job promotion and some bad, like health challenges, employment issues or the loss of a loved one. Emotionally how do you cope? Are you expressive or suppressive? Do you internalize your feelings and keep them bottled up inside? The expression of emotions is good! The Bible gives us clear instructions to express our emotions. David instructs us in Psalms to express jubilantly by making a joyful noise, dancing, and shouting. God, Himself, promises to comfort us in our grief and, yes, it is okay to cry; God knew we would cry. Psalm 34:18 tells us that the Lord is near the brokenhearted and saves the crushed souls. Expressing our emotions allows us to be more self aware, it improves our relationships with others, and also has psychological benefits, such as,
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reducing the negative effects of stress. In her article, Suppressing Emotions, Why Suppressing Emotions Doesn’t Work, Kristalyn Salters-Pedneault, PhD states that “lots of research shows that not only is it (suppressing emotions) ineffective in eliminating thoughts and feelings, but it may even worsen the situation.” In the article, The Dangers of Holding in Your Emotions, Tabby Biddle writes, “According to experts in mind/body medicine, our emotions have a profound effect on us because they are physically linked to our bodies via our immune, endocrine, and central nervous systems. These experts agree that often the seeds for a patient’s physical problems were planted by the patient’s earlier emotional traumas.” According to Edward T. Creagan, MD, an Internal Medicine and Oncologist Specialist at the Mayo Clinic, when dealing with the emotions of grief, “If you don’t face your grief, your wounds may never go away. Unresolved grief can surface years later as headaches, relationship issues, intestinal problems, mental health difficulties, eating disorders, chemical dependency or other issues,” he says. So, again, what do we do? We follow Christ! Jesus is our example! He expressed His emotions in the Garden of Gethsemane. As time for the Crucifixion drew near, Jesus had to manage His emotions. (Luke 22:39-42) So, what did He do? First let me tell you what He did not do - Jesus did not run away, avoid, conform, or hide. He prayed, communicated with our Father and demonstrated that it is okay to express our emotions. He did not suppress His emotions and pretend they did not exist. He consulted with His Father through prayer. I am not telling you to just pray and that everything will go away; there are times when the issues of life seem too much to bear. If your emotions become overwhelming or uncontrollable you need to seek professional help. God knows that we will face challenges we cannot handle on our own and it is important that you know it is okay to seek counsel. Our plans will fail without the guidance of wise counsel. Proverbs constantly advises us to seek wise counsel which can be your spiritual leader, pastor, health care provider, etc. Likewise, consult your pastor and health care provider immediately if you exhibit the following signs (National Institute of Mental Health):
• Difficulty concentrating, remembering details, and making decisions • Fatigue and decreased energy • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, and/or helplessness • Feelings of hopelessness and/or pessimism • Insomnia, early-morning wakefulness, or excessive sleeping • Irritability, restlessness • Loss of interest in activities or hobbies once pleasurable, including sex • Overeating or appetite loss • Persistent aches or pains, headaches, cramps, or digestive problems that do not ease even with treatment • Persistent sad, anxious, or “empty” feelings • Thoughts of suicide, suicide attempts
My friend, we are instructed not to be afraid and that includes being afraid to express our emotions. Remember the words of Peter, “For the spirit that God gives us does not make us timid, but gives us power, love, and self discipline.”
So have the courage to Express Yourself!
Allison Smith is a retired Command Sergeant Major in the United States Army. This certified Personal Trainer and TRIune FITness coach currently resides in Alexandria, Virginia. Allison attends Woodlawn Chapel in Fort Belvoir AFB, Virginia. She is ready to answer your fitness questions. You may contact her at allison_ smith39@yahoo.com.
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Mission POSSIBLE 33 R D N AT I O N A L V E T E R A N S W H E E LC H A I R G A M E S BY JEANENE LESURE
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hen disabled Veterans returned from World War II to a world of new challenges, they found ways to live a full life while overcoming their disabilities. Patients began playing basketball in VA hospitals across the country. Veterans using their wheelchairs to shoot hoops became very popular and it wasn’t long before the interest expanded to other sports attracting the attention of the Department of Veteran Affairs. The great rehabilitative and therapeutic values for veterans participating in wheelchair sports became obvious. Their desire to compete influenced their desire to live.
CENTRA “CECE” MAZYCK The VA recognized its benefits and established a Recreation Therapy Service in 1980, which led to the first National Veterans Wheelchair Games in 1981. Today, it is the largest wheelchair event in the world; and next summer, June 13-18, 2013, the 33rd Annual National Wheelchair Games will be held in Tampa, Florida. In our second coverage of the Games, Beauty Talk Illustrated is pleased to interview two female Veteran athletes participating in next year’s games. It is an honor to salute our heroes Centra “CeCe” Mazyck and Chatriex Goodson. They are the perfect examples of Mission Possible!
CENTRA “CECE” MAZYCK What branch(es) of the military did you serve in? What influences made you decide to serve our country? ARMY 1ST SERGEANT (1SG). I’ve always been a “go-getter” willing to push myself to the limits. I was young, still am, in great shape and ready to take on the world by serving my country. I was paralyzed during a parachute jump with the 82nd Airborne in November 2003 . . . no regrets whatsoever!
Tell me about your training and Paralympic experience — what event(s) did you compete in this summer in London? I’ve been training to audition for the Track and Field (T&F) Paralympic trials for years now. I am from South Carolina and it started with my attendance at the National Veterans Wheelchair Games and several Paralympic Military Sports Training Camps all over the country. I was part of the USA Paralympic T&F Team. This summer I competed in the Women’s Javelin Throw - Classification F57/58. Although I did not win a medal due to officials’ technicalities and placed 14th overall in my class, I had an awesome time and represented my country to the fullest! The experience was one in a lifetime and Rio 2016 better watch out . . . I am coming back stronger, more experienced and READY!
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How long have you been attending the National Veterans Wheelchair Games (NVWG)? What makes you attend from yearto-year and what do you get out of it? I’ve been to the last 7-8 Games, I think. It’s so hard to keep track these days - I travel so much. This year in Richmond was my first year not attending the Games since I started coming, because the T&F trials were during the same time so I had to concentrate and be present for those instead.
To what and/or whom do you attribute helping you to be the woman you are today? I am blessed, I’ve truly been blessed to have a great support system; my son, my husband, the rest of my family and friends, and especially my Paralympic and military family that have pushed me all this way, and continue to push me. They give me the motivation to be a great role model for my son and for so many others who will come after me. I have been fortunate to have been mentored by many great individuals, and I hope to be an inspiration and pave the way for Veteran athletes as well, especially females.
Do you see a lot of female disabled Veterans participating in adaptive/Paralympic sports today? What message would you give to female disabled Veterans who are not yet actively participating? Not as many as I would like to see unfortunately. I think we tend to have different things to focus on as women after sustaining a disability like children, fulfilling our roles at home, school, you know. So I’ve made a few more female Veteran friends the past few years, but would like to see the number grow and them getting more involved in sports. You know sports aren’t just for guys as some people thinkJ, it’s time we show them what we women are really made of! What message would I give them? To challenge yourself to conquer all fears; push yourself to the limits in adaptive sports. It gives you a sense of empowerment that you can be successful in all other areas of your life, keeps you in shape and living a happy, healthy life.
Describe how you got to the point of being an athlete and your experience competing in the National Veterans Wheelchair Games. What events in the Games do you compete in? I was always active in sports growing up before joining the military. It was a big part of my life, so post-injury I didn’t let my disability prevent me from continuing being involved in sports. Initially after my injury, I decided to focus solely on going to school in Ft. Lauderdale until I was ready to make that transition to training to be an athlete. In past Games, I’ve competed in bowling, trapshooting, archery, air guns, and the slalom obstacle course. I competed in the 100 meter track event for the first time during this year’s Games in Richmond and won the gold medal for the Class III, Open Division.
What was your finishing time? 34.79 seconds! My favorite sports are the shooting sports: archery, trapshooting and air guns.
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What does it mean to you to that the NVWG will be hosted in Tampa for the 1st time next summer? I’m excited about that and really looking forward to it! I have some great friends who live in Tampa and it will be good to be in the “Sunshine State” for a chance and see all of my friends again. Tampa will be great!
To whom and/or what do you attribute in helping you progress to where you are today as an elite level athlete involved in adaptive sports? For the past 40 years of my entire life, sports have always been a great passion for me. I was determined, no matter the barrier, to always stay active. I never saw my wheelchair as a hindrance or an obstacle so I never lost the motivation to continue to stay involved in sports.
What guidance/words of encouragement would you give to other disabled female Veterans who are not yet actively involved in adaptive sports? Well I’ve seen more disabled women participating in adaptive sports over the years, mainly at the National Veterans Wheelchair Games, not so much down home near Ft. Lauderdale. But I would tell them to give it a try. It increases your independence and gives you a greater sense of self-confidence and self.
CHATRIEX GOODSON Tell me what branch/branches of the military did you serve and during what time periods?
Lastly, what does it mean to you that the NVWG will be coming to Tampa, Florida next summer for the 1st time? It’s really great the Games are being held in Tampa! Not just because it’s closer for me J, but it’s a chance for the other Veterans and their families to come to Florida and enjoy the sights and attractions. Florida is a much more tropical environment and I’m very happy to see the Games coming back to Florida!
I was a member of the United States Air Force from 1990-1994.
What made you decide to enlist in the military? Jeanene LeSure is a Recreation Therapist in the Polytrauma
I actually have a background of family members who were part of the military. My Father, who serves in the United States Army, is my primary reason for wanting to join the military. I was looking for something positive to do with my life at the time and wanted to serve my country.
Tell me about your disability and how you were injured.
Rehabilitation Unit, Spinal Cord Injury Center and Adaptive Sports Program at the James A. Haley Veterans’ Hospital. She received a Bachelor of Science degree in Therapeutic Recreation from the University of Florida. She is certified through the National Council of Therapeutic Recreation Certification and holds a specialization from Certification of Brain Injury Specialists. Jeanene is the Local Organizing Committee Coordinator for the 33rd National Veterans Wheelchair Games to be held in Tampa
I was injured by a gunshot wound (GSW) stateside in 1994, which caused my spinal cord injury (SCI) paralyzing me from my waist down. My diagnosis is a T-10 paraplegic.
next summer! For more information about the Games contact Jeanene via email: Jeanene.LeSure@va.gov
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FASHION
CONSIGN
ON A DIME BY ARIEL BURKE
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onsignment shopping has become a way of life. During an era of difficult economic times many consumers have been venturing into thrift stores and consignment shops. The new motto of our time is, “Why shop retail when you can shop resale?� The bargains at thrift stores and consignment shops are endless. There is something about the thrill you receive when buying an unbelievable bargain and not to mention the great additions to your closet. One of the advantages of consignment shopping is finding one-of-a-kind pieces. I love vintage inspired pieces and thrift shopping is a great way to find these classic and often times obsolete garments.
Harem Trouser (BCBG) Striped Button Up, Bow Tie (Thrift Store) Suspenders (bebe)
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Fuchsia Trench Coat, Houndstooth dress, Earrings, Necklace, Gloves (Thrift Store) Color-blocked Peep Toe Pumps (Jessica Simpson))
Aquamarine Jacket, Leather Skirt, Clutch, Necklace, Earrings (Thrift Store) Cuff (JCPenney) Nude Peep Toe Pumps (Guess)
Tweed Blazer, Handbag, Earrings, Necklace (Thrift Store) Trouser Shorts (Charlotte Russe) Top (Forever 21) Tights (Juicy Couture) Gloves (Vintage Store) Ankle Boots (Traffic)
WHY SHOP RETAIL
WHEN YOU CAN SHOP RESALE?
The popular web search engine Google is a great map to help you start your hunt for trendy, yet deeply discounted treasures in your area. The site will help you navigate to thrift, consignment and vintage stores that are nearby and will even show you reviews from other shoppers. I read the Google reviews but I still like to see selections for myself. I am always willing to give a new store a try. You have to be open because you never know where you might find a hidden jewel! Once you become a regular at consigning, develop
a relationship with the staff at your favorite stores. Most are locally owned and willing to negotiate prices with their regular customers. Often they will keep you informed of specials the store may be running. Also, get on the mailing list of your favorite stores because, believe it or not, consignment stores have sales and discounts too. Most importantly, you need to have patience. The bargains can be unbelievable, but sometimes you have to look for them. Consigning can truly be an adventure – so have fun and happy consigning! BE AU T Y TALK ILLUSTRATED 27
GIRLS GOT TALENT
GRADE: 4TH
GRADE: 7TH
HOBBIES: READING AND SINGING
HOBBIES: FASHION DESIGN, NAILS AND HAIR
DREAMS: AC TRESS AND
DREAMS: PEDIATRICIAN AND FORENSIC PHYSICIAN
ARTS TEACHER
Arie seems to own the dance floor as she connects with the sound of music and moves gracefully to every beat. When she’s not performing ballet, tap, lyrical and jazz, you can find her reading and singing. Arie, also an honor student, earned the Principal’s Honor Roll.
Alexis moves like an Olympic champion and has the medals to prove it. This young gymnast competes at a level 5 - the highest in the AAU competition. Alexis proudly hits her mark on the floor and balance beams with precision. Away from the gym, the spotlight is on another source - academics. This honor student was inducted into her school’s 100% Club for having a GPA of 3.5 or higher.
Competitors at Heart CONGRATULATIONS TO ARIE & ALEXIS!
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he similarities of gymnastics and dance are as comparable as the sisters that enjoy the art of the sports. Arie and Alexis Powell are shining lights in the studio and competition culture. These sisters’ competitive spirits transcend gymnastics and dance and shines even brighter in the classroom!
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HANG IN THERE
GOD IS ALONG FOR THE JOURNEY
BY LINDSAY BURNLEY, UNIVERSIT Y OF SOUTH FLORIDA
BY MALLORY WASHINGTON, UNIVERSIT Y OF FLORIDA
The mindset you should enter college with is, “No weapon formed against me shall prosper” and keep God first! You begin with your plans and educational goals all laid out, but don’t forget to include God in those plans and goals. God will stand by His word and come through to do what He said He would do. “Move-in day” symbolizes the start of a new journey of independence and a new chapter in your life. Pause and thank God for getting you to this point in your life because with His grace and mercy you made it this far. The day will be hectic and very crowded filled with trials and tribulations, but with the help of family and God by your side, you will get everything into your place in one piece and generate a peaceful environment despite the chaos. If you do not know your roommate(s), be prepared for differences in personalities and lifestyles which can cause conflict, however do not let that ruin the future friendship(s) that can form. Always try and work it out and pray about it because God will resolve any conflict going on in your life. Do not forget to find a church home once you get settled. The devil will test your Four Fs: focus, faith, friendships, and family. No matter how bad things may get or seem, God will help see you through it all. Do not let the devil win — PRAY and read your bible. Never forget on your journey that you are blessed and highly favored!
There are so many feelings that one has prior to starting classes, especially in college. With this being my senior year, I have noticed each year the feelings tend to be the same. I start off highly motivated to do well, I get excited about making new friends, nervous about whether I will be able to handle the course load, and actually stressed about the financial burden that classes and books put on me. But this year I have a new feeling – relief, since I am almost done! The whole college experience, especially today, seems to be never ending. Changing your mind about the major you would like to pursue seems to put you behind schedule for years! However, take it from someone who has changed her degree three times, you can still graduate on time. Now, knowing that, I want to remind you that God has a specific plan for us and things won’t always end up the way WE plan. For most of my college career I have felt completely lost and undirected. I must admit that it wasn’t on my mind to seek God for guidance about my degree either. But God is within every aspect of our lives and now here I am close to finishing school and earning a degree that is perfectly fitting for me. Hang in there girls, and remember Psalm 32:8 “I will instruct you and teach you in the way you should go; I will counsel you and watch over you.” BE AU T Y TALK ILLUSTRATED 31
Breast Cancer BEYOND OCTOBER BY SONIA FRANKLIN
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uring the month of October there are several events that are customary for this time of the year: changes of the season, cooler weather and, most importantly, the annual advocacy walks for the awareness of breast cancer. But, when we exit the month and the campaigns have ended, what happens next?
The education of breast cancer and vigilance must continue beyond October. Become familiar with your body and make your daily personal health assessment routine. Knowledge is power and it can very well save your life. Let’s reverse “lessons lived are lessons learned” and instead learn more about breast cancer, make a few lifestyle modifications, and be ready to live a healthy and wholesome life beyond cancer. It is exactly what I am doing these days. Here I sit a two-time breast cancer survivor and a one-time striver. Not often do you hear the word striver with cancer terminology; but, it’s a word that defines me these days and one I have fully embraced. You see, on May 21, 2012, I received a third diagnosis of Triple Negative Breast Cancer, which is a rare and deadly form of the disease. Sadly for patients like me, professionals in the medical community have not figured out how to treat the Triple Negative. But, I am blessed to have God on my side to fight, treat, care, and cure whatever is wrong in my life. He can do the same for you!
“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” John 3:16
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One thing we must always remember, God makes no mistakes - no matter how bad the situation may seem. We’re placed on earth, for His benefit, not our own. We read and often recite John 3:16, “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” This gives us hope and courage if any unfortunate circumstances like cancer may arise in our lives. Stand tall and keep up the fight according to God’s word and direction for you. If someone you know has breast cancer, give them a call, text, email, facebook note, or twitter to say hello and I was thinking about you. Yes, it really matters!
TYPES OF BREAST CANCER
There are many forms of breast cancer and, yes, it is possible to be diagnosed with more than one. DUCTAL CARCINOMA IN SITU (DCIS) Is the most common type of non-invasive breast cancer. Ductal means that the cancer starts inside the milk ducts, carcinoma refers to any cancer that begins in the skin or other tissues (including breast tissue) that cover or line the internal organs. In situ means “in its original place.” DCIS is called “non-invasive” because it hasn’t spread beyond the milk duct into any normal surrounding breast tissue. INVASIVE DUCTAL CARCINOMA (IDC) Is sometimes called infiltrating ductal carcinoma. It is the most common type of breast cancer; about 80% of all breast cancers are invasive ductal carcinomas. Invasive means that the cancer has “invaded” or spread to the surrounding breast tissues. Ductal means that the cancer began in the milk ducts, which are the “pipes” that carry milk from the milk-producing lobules to the nipple. Invasive Lobular Carcinoma (ILC) is sometimes called infiltrating lobular carcinoma. It is the second most common type of breast cancer after invasive ductal carcinoma (cancer that begins in the milk-carrying ducts and spreads beyond it). According to the American Cancer Society more than 180,000 women in the United States find out they have invasive breast cancer each year. About 10% of all invasive breast cancers are invasive lobular carcinomas. (About 80% are invasive ductal carcinomas.)
LOBULAR CARCINOMA IN SITU (LCIS) Is an area (or areas) of abnormal cell growth that increases a person’s risk of developing invasive breast cancer later on in life. Lobular means that the abnormal cells start growing in the lobules, the milk-producing glands at the end of breast ducts. PAGET’S DISEASE OF THE NIPPLE Is a rare form of breast cancer in which cancer cells collect in or around the nipple. The cancer usually affects the ducts of the nipple first (small milk-carrying tubes), then spreads to the nipple surface and the areola (the dark circle of skin around the nipple). The nipple and areola often become scaly, red, itchy and irritated. INFLAMMATORY BREAST CANCER (IBC) Is a rare and aggressive form of breast cancer. According to the National Cancer Institute about 1-5% of all breast cancer cases in the United States are inflammatory breast cancers. The average age at diagnosis for inflammatory breast cancer in the United States is 57 for Caucasian women and 52 for African American women. These ages are about 5 years younger than the average ages at diagnosis for other forms of breast cancer. According to the American Cancer Society inflammatory breast cancer is more common in African American women. HER2 DUAL ISH Is a test used to figure out if breast cancer cells are HER2-positive. ISH stands for “in situ hybridization.” The Inform HER2 Dual ISH test was approved by the U.S. Food and Drug Administration in June 2011. HER2-positive breast cancers make too much of the HER2 protein, which receives signals telling the breast cancer to grow. About one out of every four breast cancers is HER2-positive. Figuring out the HER2 status of a breast cancer is an important step in deciding on a treatment plan. The targeted therapy medicines Herceptin (chemical name: trastuzumab) and Tykerb (chemical name: lapatinib) are used to treat HER2-positive breast cancers.
TRIPLE NEGATIVE BREAST CANCER It is now commonly understood that breast cancer is not one form of cancer, but many different “subtypes” of cancer. These subtypes of breast cancer are generally diagnosed based upon the presence, or lack of three “receptors” known to fuel most breast cancers: estrogen receptors, progesterone receptors and human epidermal growth factor receptor 2 (HER2). The most successful treatments for breast cancer target these receptors. Unfortunately, none of these receptors are found in women with triple negative breast cancer. In other words, a triple negative breast cancer diagnosis means that the offending tumor is estrogen receptornegative, progesterone receptor-negative and HER2-negative, thus giving rise to the name “triple negative breast cancer.” On a positive note, this type of breast cancer is typically responsive to chemotherapy. Because of its triple negative status, however, triple negative tumors generally do not respond to receptor targeted treatments. Depending on the stage of its diagnosis, triple negative breast cancer can be particularly aggressive. MALE BREAST CANCER Although uncommon, men are also susceptible to breast cancer. Less than 1% of all breast cancers occur in men. In 2011 about 2,140 men were diagnosed with the disease. For men, the lifetime risk of being diagnosed with breast cancer is about 1 in 1,000. Because breast cancer in men is so rare, few cases are available to study. Most studies of men with breast cancer are very small. But when a number of these small studies are grouped together, we can learn more from them.
Sonia Franklin is president of Sisters Network, Tampa Bay and has served on several Department of Defense Breast Cancer Research Peer Direct Boards. She currently resides in Seffner, FL and attends First Missionary Baptist Church of Wachulla, FL where her husband, Rev. Reginald Franklin, is the Pastor. For more information visit Sonia at www. sistersnetworktampa.org or write her with your questions or comments at franklins62@yahoo.com.
Source: American Cancer Society, BreastCancer.org and Triple Negative Breast Cancer Foundation at tnbcfoundation.org. To get more information on breast cancer, types and treatments visit: www.breastcancer.org .
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CHAMPIONS FOR A CURE AMERICAN CANCER SOCIETY’S “PUT ON YOUR PINK BRA” CAMPAIGN IN TAMPA, FL - OCTOBER 20, 2012
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Stimulate Your Child’s Learning
WITH CREATIVE AND FUN ACTIVITIES
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BY REGINA THOMAS very child is unique and every family deals with different issues. Have you ever wondered how specialists determine or look at your child’s development? In case you may not know it, there are five domains of a child’s development: Communication, Motor, Cognitive, Social/Emotional and Adaptive.
These five domains help professionals determine whether a child’s development is on level, above level, have delays or can even let them know of a possible disorder. When delays or disorders are addressed early, your child’s future could be more prosperous than those who ignore the significant
signs. Infant Toddler Development Specialist, also known as Early Intervention Specialist, demonstrates strategies in a child’s natural environment to assist families and caregivers with each domain of your child’s development. If you have concerns, the first professional to discuss your intuitions with should be your son’s or daughter’s pediatrician. They possess the knowledge and resources available in your community such as: play groups, parent groups, trainings, activities, etc. It has often been said that small children learn best when using their senses: tactile, visual, smell, auditory and taste. Also, allowing your child to play with play dough, finger paints, shaving cream, sand, water, etc. will stimulate these senses and provide multiple learning opportunities.
Let’s take a look at a few activities that will help you to stimulate these senses and provide multiple learning opportunities for your child
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SHAVING CREAM AGE OF CHILDR EN:
24 months
and older Domains Addressed: Fine Motor, Gross Motor, Cognitive, Adaptive and Communication
MATERIALS:
Smooth surface and shaving cream (Alternative materials: pudding or whipped cream) Sit child at table or somewhere with a smooth, steady, level surface. Spray shaving cream on smooth surface and allow child to spread it with their hands – preferred motions circular, horizontal and vertical. Preschool age and up could use this activity to practice writing the alphabet, numbers, shapes, names or spelling words.
Please note that any sensory integration activities must be supervised and cleaned up immediately after completion to ensure the safety of children.
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Parents could draw pictures, have child to imitate drawings and then label pictures to address expressive communication. Parents could also draw 2-3 pictures, label one picture and allow child to pick labeled picture. After activity is complete, allow child to help clean area and put all materials back in appropriate place.
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MARBLES AND GRITS DO MIX
Age of Child:
18 months and older Domains addressed: Fine Motor, Gross Motor, Cognitive, Adaptive and Communication
MATERIALS:
1 bowl, 1-3 plastic cup(s), marbles and grits (Alternate to grits – rice or water) Sit child at table or at level surface. Allow child to use his/her hands and pour grits in bowl then mix marbles with grits. Place cup(s) to its side and/or in close proximity to the bowl but within child’s reach. Activity can be used to practice retrieving items with pincers instead of raking objects with fingers, counting marbles, identifying colors of marbles, and/or following 1-2 step directions using directional terms (i.e. place marble in cup beside you, place 2 marbles in cup to your left, place red marble in the cup on your right.) Allow child to help clean up and put objects in appropriate place.
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COTTON BALLS BOWL
AGE OF CHILD:
18 months and older
MATERIALS:
2 bowls, 1 spoon, cotton balls (alternate: marbles for older children), water (optional) Domains addressed: Adaptive, Fine Motor and Gross Motor Skills Sit child at table. Place bowls chest width apart and cotton balls in one bowl. Demonstrate how to transfer cotton balls from one bowl to the other bowl on the spoon. Water can be added as a challenge and fun. Allow child to help clean up and put objects in appropriate place.
Regina Thomas is an Infant Toddler Development and Behavior Specialist. She has a Bachelor of Arts and Science degree in Communication Sciences and Disorders with an interest in Speech Language Pathology and an AA in Elementary Education. Regina currently resides in Wesley Chapel, Florida and attends Victorious Life Church. To contact Regina send an email to info@beautytalkillustrated.com. BE AU T Y TALK ILLUSTRATED 37
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Nine Five
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SPOTLIGHT
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y the time students at the University of South Florida meet Angela W. DeBose, chances are she is already acquainted with them. As the University Registrar, she manages and maintains the integrity of academic policies and records while providing quality service to the students, faculty, staff and the general public. She also offers leadership and direction in the conversion and implementation of various business systems for the university.
DeBose has a myriad of accomplishments to her credit, including a B.A. in Management Information Systems; an M.B.A from the University of South Florida; a Juris Doctorate degree from Stetson University College of Law; an author of Empty Halls; and a songwriter and coowner of Illumination Christian Publications. DeBose’s business savvy, academic and spiritual astuteness sparked the attention of Beauty Talk Illustrated to highlight her in Nine2Five. Enjoy our conversation with Angela W. DeBose.
What scripture or quote inspires you?
Share at least one memorable career moment or accomplishment?
Philippians 4:13, “I can do all things through Christ which strengthens me.” Romans 8:35-39, “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? . . .”
My graduation from law school was a special personal moment. It was wonderful to have my mother and members of my family at the ceremony. I thought about my father and how I wished he could share it with me also.
What is your most important life lesson learned? A basic lesson I learned early in my life is to remain true to myself, my values and beliefs. This makes me know who I am and keeps me grounded and focused. It also ensures that I know and give priority or importance to what matters most.
What is the best advice you have received? The best spiritual instruction I have ever received is to have faith in God. I have also been advised to show respectful treatment to others. If you are asking about advice in terms of business, I must admit the advice is very different and spans the gamut.
Using one word to describe your career, what would it be?
ANGELA W. DEBOSE
Recently, I worked with others to implement DegreeWorks, a graduation check or degree auditing system for students. My team also implemented several new online tools for faculty, including online grading and attendance-taking systems. There are other major projects planned or already underway that will benefit the institution and the various constituents we serve.
UNIVERSIT Y REGISTRAR UNIVERSIT Y OF SOUTH FLORIDA
I would say dynamic because my career has been fast-paced, ever changing, and never a dull moment.
Introduce your family to us? My husband, Frank DeBose, is well-known in the local Tampa Bay community. He is involved with local business ventures and serves on a number of boards including the Tampa Sports Authority. I have two daughters, Alison and Farin. Alison’s interests include marketing, visual merchandising, and fashion design. Farin loves gymnastics, dance, guitar, math, and science. In addition to my husband and children, I have a large group of extended family in the area. I very much enjoy my time with them.
What do you like to do for fun? I love to hang out with my family, go to a movie, and have dinner. I like to exercise and go for early morning walks with my sisters, LaVonne and LaShawn. I like simple things and quiet time. I like to get together and have a girls’ day or night out with my friends, sisters, or sisters-in-law. 38 AU TUMN ISSUE 2012
As for my career, it is always exciting to introduce something new that uses leadingedge technology to offer better services, data, and integration. Many people might not be aware but developing technological solutions is an important role of the Registrar. I have been fortunate to work along with really good people to implement new systems, applications, and web services over my career.
How do you relax and rejuvenate? I have quiet time. I rejuvenate by drawing strength from my family and the Word of God. I remind myself when I am pushing too hard that it is okay to shut my brain down and do nothing. I treat myself to special relaxation measures like acupuncture, herbal teas, and palates.
If God had a sense of humor, what would you say to Him? I believe God does have a sense of humor. I just know that He probably doesn’t think that I have one. Before I could roll out a joke, I’m sure God would say to me, “Lighten up, Angela.” I would have to explain to Him what He already knows – I’m really a fun person; I don’t mean to seem so serious.
SNAPSHOTS Road Trip
First Baptist Church of Progress Village (FBCPV) Women’s Ministry took a road trip to Augusta, Georgia on September 19-21 to attend the Anne Graham Lotz’s Just Give Me Jesus revival. Women from all walks of life and spiritual affiliations filled the James Brown Arena for two days of praise, prayer and worship. Joining Anne Graham Lotz were singers/songwriters Babbie Mason and Fernando Ortega, as well as author and speaker Dr. Sheila Bailey who is the conference speaker for FBCPV’s Women’s Conference April 12-13, 2013. This soul sisters spiritual journey revived the ladies and gave them a great opportunity for bonding, reflections and fellowship.
National Back to Church Sunday The National Back to Church Sunday is lauded as one of the largest community outreach campaigns in the nation, and Bell Shoals Baptist Church was one of thousands of churches across the country participating in the event on September 16, 2012. The campaign’s mission to invite America – our neighbors, loved ones and friends – back to the house of worship is assisting churches with a national message of welcome home. Mickey and Minnie Mouse were in God’s house to welcome guests visiting the children’s ministry on National Back to Church Sunday at Bell Shoals Baptist Church in Brandon, Florida.
Put on Your Pink Bra
Thousands of participants filled the streets of downtown Tampa for the American Cancer Society’s (ACS) “Put on Your Pink Bra” Making Strides Against Breast Cancer 5K Walk. Put on Your Pink Bra symbolizes women’s personal fight against breast cancer and this campaign helps ACS raise the awareness and money to join the fight through breast cancer research. On Saturday, October 20, 2012, the young and young-at-heart (individually or as a group representing their company, church or organizations) filled the streets of downtown Tampa. They were dressed in their creatively decorated bras to honor people that are courageously facing breast cancer, survivors and families.
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