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Kenzie’s Gift
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Memories are Forever Kit
5-12 Year olds
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Name: Kenzie’s Gift
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We think you’ll have fun using this Diary because you can write in it, draw pictures of you or your family and friends, store stickers and photos and little notes...but the Diary also asks you to write down some important stuff too: Don’t
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- Questions you want to ask - Things you want to talk about - Names of the people looking after you - How you feel
Some famous people throughout history have told us how they feel and you’ll find signposts in the Diary with some of the things they’ve said. Watch for the signposts along the way. How many of those people do you know? Their words will guide us, make us think about things and cheer us up too.
- Ange Lewis
W hat are you D reaming of?
Draw or
write abo
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- Kayla Gillban
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I think we dream so we don’t have to be apart for so long. If we’re in each other’s dreams, we can be together all the time - A.A. Milne, Winnie-the-Pooh
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My best friend is
- Lorraine Martin
My name is: I live at: My phone number is: years old I am I go to school and I am Year My favourite teacher is
It’s all about me
- Amelie Hansen
This is m e!
There’s no one quite l ike me Things I like to do Foods I like to eat My favourite toy is y Things that make me feel happ I don’t like it when
Time’s fun when you’re eating flies. -
Kermit the Frog
- Melinda Rapson
My favourite pet is
e m t u o b A puzzle
3. What I want to change most about me is:
1. One of my favourite things to 2. I am really do is: good at:
5. The person I feel closest to is:
6. The best thing that ever happened 7. The worst thing to me was when: that ever happened to me was when: - Jasmine Cobby
4. M y biggest worry is:
8. I wish:
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M emories M at ter
died: About your special person who Name Birthday e/draw/photo?), rit (w ed di o wh on rs pe e th What did you like doing with u of them? Is there music that reminds yo Times you remember having fun,
M emories M at ter
More About your special person who died: What will you never forget about them, what do you miss?
Can you remember something th ey said, something they gave yo u? What was it about them that you liked? Something Spec ial
M emories M at ter
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them? f o u o y s d in m e ll that r e m s a e r e h t Is fun, g in v a h r e b m e Times you rem
memories or feel urnal or book that have a feelings jo you do this.
your thoughts, Write/Draw: abouint gs . You may like to
e of your favourite mem ories, lie down on your bed or in the g arden and thin k about this memory in as much detail as you can....what wer e you wearing? , where did you go?, w hat did you ea t?, what was said?, wha t was the wea ther like?, did you travel to somew here?, what music did you listen to? What was the best bit?
Memories: think about on
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Ideas of t hings to do on sp remember t he person wehcoiahl occasions to as died: miss
Carry a special photmo:e
with you or put so oto flowers near a ph e you have in a fram
Make a card: display
it in your home, keep it in your school bag for the day or take it to the grave.
Make a small natural raft: dle n a c a t h ig L
or wreath with leaves & or flowers and float it down a river, send it off to sea
sions to Ideas of things to do on special ocs ca remember the person who ha died:
ow: b in a r a e o in g a Im etching t rt and str
Blow some bubbles: and
n use your hea rt (you ca a starting in e h ’s e n nt to r loved o e you wa im reach you t y n a t ique a ) this techn send love
imagine sendin g kisses or your love to the person who die d
Gather memories: as k
g: Plant somrdetehninand
a in your g grow watch it
other peop favourite m le their emories ab o u t th e who died, w person rite them in a b o ok or create a pic ture about them
Ideas of t hings to do on sp remember t he person wehcoiahl occasions to as died:
e of th ) l w o / (or b e lollies o t t ouri ith you v a f on’s te w them a pers chocola vent. e / l ate ets ecia letter or cre p swe s a a poem
ket: c a p a Take
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Have you got any other ideas?
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How to remember the person who died
Make a memory box Step 1: Find a box with a lid - any type will do, big
enough for everything you want to keep inside.
Step 2: Decorate your box however you like -
draw on it, stick photos or things on the outside, do whatever you like! Memories are the best things in life, I think. - Romy Schneider
Step 3: Once decorated, put things inside that
remind you of the person who died. These could be photos, postcards, shells, feathers, jewellery anything that will fit inside! Make sure each item has a story or memory attached to it.
My Memories
s g n i l e e f h t i w g n i l a e d
Make a list of th
Who is go
things by
Get crafty: Make some play dough and get creative.
Make a photo frame & decorate it.
e people you trus t, ning? W
od at liste
ho helps y ou unders tand questions ? Who do y ou like to close to w be hen you fe el sad?
answering
h t i w g n i l dea ef elings Learn about different feel
ings
and try to identify the feel ings you have. Sometimes adults can help you to work ou t the different feelings you ar e having (they may be having some o f the same feel ings!). Sometimes you may want to ta lk about how you are feeling or you may just want to be close to someo ne who can un derstand. Talk, talk, talk...
Listening, talk, listening....
- Lynda Bell
Get c Cut out threaftshyap: heart and decorat e of a it, let it remiendity/worite in the person who duie that always in your heasrtis You can store it in. your memory box if you would like to.
dealing with feelings
Get physical: do somethin
g active that you enjoy: ride a bike, skip, clim b a tree, go for a walk, bounce a ball (being acti ve is really import ant because it releases ‘feel g ood’ chemicals into out brain)
e: Remember to breafuthl to do a
- Tony McCabe
is help sometimes it thing exercise relaxing brea ber 4 ink of the num h T : y tr to e n ut for 4 Here is o ds, Breathe o n o c se 4 r fo 4 times) Breathe in onds (repeat c se 4 r fo it a seconds; w mill or a toy wind s le b b u b g in Blow . can also help
Take your mind off big feel ings, distract yourself. Wha
t makes you feel better? Some ideas abo ut how to do th is: watch TV, play g ames, spend tim e with friends, go outside. the
p all tense/screw u : n io at x a el r e Muscl 5 seconds and face, hold for
ur old muscles in yo to your ears, h rs e ld u o sh r u o uscles relax, lift up y hten all the m g ti , x la re d n a hold for for 5 seconds nch your fists, le c d n a n e m s in your abdo ten the muscle h ig T . x la re d 5 seconds an for bottom, hold d n a s g le r u o in y r relax. Pull you 5 seconds and s your nose, toes up toward ld for tighten and ho relax. 5 seconds and
Bag of memories: memory stones
(remembering the good times and accepting the tough times) You will need: a little drawstring bag or box, 3 stones, a rough stone, a smooth stone (these two stones can usually be found in gardens or parks) & a gem stone (can be found in craft or gift shops). Each stone represents a different kind of memory. The rough stone is there to represent the difficult times, the smooth stone represents the everyday times spent with the person who died & the gem stone is to represent the special or precious times. You can use the stones on your own to think about the different types of memories you have or you can hold each of the stones and talk to someone about what each stone represents. When you are having a rough way using your stones can be a useful way to start a conversation with someone you trust.
u like to go. Make a list of placn,espyo laces where you
Places that are fu uiet son who died, q er p e th to se o feel cl run s where you can ea ar ve ti ac , es spac and shout.
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Post it Note s:
g n i l e e f How I’m Draw a picture of how you’re feeling today
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Scared
jealous
mad
loved
sad
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guilty
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My feeling better kit Relaxation will help me feel better! I can listen to music, read, watch a movie, or take a bath
I myself cbayn tgaet support for my fsmillky inogr to a friend, nurse
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I can be as happy as I choose to be
I am wiser and stronger now There are things that I do well I can’t change others but I can change myself
There are people who care about me
I can be grateful for all that I have
Feel good messages I can follow my dreams
I can take pride in my accomplishments
I can be good to myself I am courageous
My painful feelings are fading away a little each day
Changing negative thoughts into positive thoughts
OKAY & NOT OKAY ways to show mad feelings
What negative thoughts did I think today? How did my negative thoughts make me feel? What positive thoughts can I think instead? How will these positive thoughts help me?
Turtle technique -
In a standing position, pull head in toward body.
Silent Scream -
Use face and body gestures to scream without any noise coming out
Robot / Rag doll Walk away -
OKAY
Turtle technique Silent Scream Robot / rag doll Walk away Tighten body muscles like a robot then loosen your muscles like a rag doll. Face forward then turn around and walk away.
y a d o t g n i l e e f m ’ I How - Julia Clements
Draw a picture
e m p l e h n a c o h w e l p o e p e Th My Therap is My Teach t/Counsellor is er My friend s are s are - Frankie Annelouke Bakker
On the next pages you can draw a picture, paste in photos, or write something about your caregivers and friends.
- Hiria Shanks
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We would like to t helped develop The hank the fantastic contributors who Kenzie’s Gift Me They are: mories are Forever have Kits.
Lorna Wood (Child and Y outh Psycho Jane Bissell therapist) (Copy Write r) Karen McKin lay (Designe r) Contributing Artists from The Great N Fiona Clarke Z Colouring
Tony McCab e Jo Wilson Jasmine Cob by Amelie Hanse n Lynda Bell Molly Hanse n Nicola Kimp ton
Book: Peter Kyle Melissa Boe Lorraine Ma rlage rtin Timo thy McAninch Scarlet Hanse n Fiona Hayw Hiria Shanks ard R oger Thoma Katie Marsh s all Jocelyn Hug Adam Kirke hes by Alex Fitzgera Emma Tuck ld-Webb er F rankie Anne Ange Lewis louke Bakke r
We also acknowled Gift Ambassador ge the wonderful support of our Ke and Guardians: nzie’s
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- Melissa Skipper