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Kenzie’s Gift was founded in 2008 by Nic Russell in memory of her 3 year old daughter Kenzie. The story of Kenzie’s Gift is not one of miracles. It is one of the gutsy determination, tenacity and love of an amazing and beautiful little girl, Kenzie. Kenzie was only two years old when she was diagnosed with cancer and sadly died on the 29th of December 2005. Through this tragedy came the hope for families that is Kenzie’s Gift. Our purpose is to support the emotional well-being and mental health of children, young people and their families affected by cancer, serious illness or bereavement. We achieve this through the provision of one on one therapy with registered mental health professionals, the delivery of printed cancer and grief packs for children, and an extensive online information resource. We receive no government funding. All this is made possible by wonderful supporters, donors, grants, philanthropists and fundraising initiatives, ensuring the Gift keeps on giving to those who need it. Please accept this Gift from us now. It comes with love and hope for your future.
Kenzie’s Gift PO Box 13224 Tauranga 3141 E: hello@kenziesgift.com W: www.kenziesgift.com
First published 2011
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Name: Phone: Email: My Family: My School:
Be a first rate version of yourself not a second rate version of someone else. Judy Garland
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And Kenzie’s Gift is here too – so reach out, take our hand and let’s get going, together.
My Diary
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Important
Questions you want to ask Names of the people looking after you How you feel
ou y e r ? a f o t a g h W in m a e Dr
Dreams are extremely important. You can’t do it unless you imagine it.
George Lucas
What’s inside It’s al l abou t me! Who is caring for me ? Tests I migh t have in hosp What is ital cancer ?
Life is like a ten speed bike. Most of us have gears we never use.
Just f or me! New fr iends
Charles Schultz
What’s inside
My Not es My St uff
P UT A PHOTO OF A NY TH I N G YOU LI KE HERE : )
It’s al l about m e
Life is a great big canvas and you should throw all the paint you can on it.
Danny Kaye
IT’s All
ABOUT ME!
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1. One of my favourite things to do is:
5. The person I feel closest to is:
2. I am really good at:
4. My biggest worry is:
6. The best thing that ever happened to me 7. The worst thing that 8. I wish: was when: ever happened to me was when:
There’s no one quite like me Things I like to do Foods I like to eat My favourite toy is Things that make me feel happy I don’t like it when My favourite pet is
Who i cari s ng for me?
Promise me you will always remember – you are braver than you believe, stronger than you seem and smarter than you think. Christopher Robin to Pooh, A.A. Milne
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Tests I might have in hosp ital
Even if happiness forgets you a little bit, never completely forget about it. Jacques PrĂŠvert
Tests I might have
in hospital
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You could have some of these tes ts, or all of them, and some you may have more than once.
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How is cancer treated?
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Usin g these pictures, you can draw where your cancer is.
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Usin g these pictures, you can draw where your cancer is.
My body
Draw a picture o f how you’r e feeling today
Happ y mad nerv ous
Scar ed love d guil ty
jeal ous sad
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Phew! Let’s take a breather because the Journey is a little uphill right now.
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Just for ME!
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My anti-worry kit Exercise is a
great stress reliever! I can make up an exercise routine, or put on music and dance around my room!
I can ask for a hug to help myself feel better!
I can get support for myself by talking to a friend, my family or nurse I can let out my frustration by punching a pillow! Relaxation will help me feel better! I can listen to music, read, watch a movie, or take a bath
Letting out my feelings by writing in my journal will relieve my stress.
Laughter is the best medicine! I can read funny stories, a joke book or watch a funny movie
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Feel good messages I am wiser and stronger now There are things that I do well I can’t change others but I can change myself
There are people who care about me
I can be good to myself
I can follow my dreams I can be grateful for all that I have
I can be as happy as I choose to be
I can take pride in my accomplishments
I am courageous
My painful feelings are fading away a little each day
Chang in g n egativ into p e thoug o s i t What negat i v e t ive thought hought hts s did I s think today
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Turtle technique Silent Scream -
me feel?
In a standing position, pull
OKAY & NOT OKAY ways to show mad feelings NOT OKAY Hurting someone with your body Hurting someone with words Throwing a tantrum Breaking something OKAY Turtle technique Silent Scream Robot / rag doll Walk away
Robot / rag doll Walk away -
Tighten body muscles like a robot g
then loosen your muscles like a rag doll
New
There is nothing better than a friend, unless it is a friend with chocolate.
Charles Dickens
Frie You m hospi ay meet p nds stay i tal that y eople in new f n touch w ou want riends t . ith, especioa lly Here their you can w about names an rite down them. d a litt le bit
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Mobile:
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Email:
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import ant d ates to rem ember
It does not matter how slow you go so long as you do not stop
Confucius
DaTES
Write down birthdays and other important dates.
tant Impor dates
thing s/dat es im lookin g for ward to
tant Impor dates
thing s/dat es im lookin g for ward to
tant Impor dates
thing s/dat es im lookin g for ward to
tant Impor dates
thing s/dat es im lookin g for ward to
my note s
It’s kind of fun to do the impossible.
Walt Disney
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my stuff ore things that st to ce la p ur o y is is Th s, pictures, te o n – u o y to t an rt o are imp ou like. stickers – whatever y Whatever you are, be a good one.
for you to es ag p a tr ex e m so e ar There write or draw on too.
Abraham Lincoln
My Stuff
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We gratefully acknowledge the following organisations and individuals for their generous support of the Kenzie’s Gift Journey Kit: The Estate of Sir Ernest Hyam Davis Benefitz - Designers: Karen McKinlay & Eddie Vanden Broek The Kiwanis NZ-SP District Foundation Trust Nigel Latta - Clinical Psychologist & Kenzie’s Gift Ambassador Mike McCrystal - Oncologist & Kenzie’s Gift Trustee Lorna Wood - Child and Youth Psychotherapist Lara Mulgrew - Child and Youth Psychotherapist