Maximizing the Power of Men's Ministry
The One-Man Effect
Every Man Is a Box of Dynamite
Shocki ng St atistics And Some Possible Solutions
The Priestly Call of Parents Guiding Spiritual Formation at Home
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I nside This Issue Shocking Statistics
And Some Possible Solutions – Page 4
New from LifeWay
Resources You’ll Want to Know About – Page 6
The One-Man Effect
Every Man Is a Box of Dynamite – Page 14
The Priestly Call of Parents
Guiding Our Children’s Spiritual Formation – Page 22
Courageous Fathering
A View from Filmmaker Alex Kendrick – Page 28
The resources in this magazine are labeled using LifeWay Adult Spiritual Growth Strategy, “Connect, Grow, Serve, Go,” which strives to see adults experience healthy and balanced spiritual growth. To encourage a particular type of growth in your church, look for the appropriate icon.
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Connecting with their hearts to God and one another Growing in the knowledge and love of our Lord Serving with their hands to meet the needs of others Going to spread the good news to our world
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Shocking Stati
And Some Possible Solutions
79%
of people not connected with an evangelical church indicated that it is very important or extremely important for churches and religious groups to touch the heart and soul of men. See our new study, Crave, on page 6, which explores the deep soul cravings residing within all of us.
70%
Over of the boys who are being raised in church will abandon it during their teens and twenties. Many of these boys will never return. Please see Becoming a Man on page 21, The Priestly Call of Parents on page 22, and Courageous Fathering on page 28.
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stics 13 million
On any given Sunday, there are 13 million more adult women than men in America’s churches. 1 Check out Men’s Fraternity on page 20 to get more men interested in church and the Bible.
61%
female
39%
male The typical U.S. congregation draws an adult crowd that’s 61% female, 39% male. This gender gap shows up in all age categories. 2 See our new study from Hall-of-Fame NFL coach and NASCAR champion Joe Gibbs on page 6.
Unless otherwise noted, all data is from LifeWay’s primary research. This statistic comes from Barna’s figures on male/female worship attendance, overlaid upon the Census 2000 numbers for adult men and women in the U.S. population. 1
“U.S. Congregational Life Survey – Key Findings,” 29 October 2003, <www.uscongregations.org/key.htm> 2
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Game Plan for Life r
by Joe Gibbs
Joe Gibbs has won the Super Bowl without taking a single hit. He’s won NASCAR championships and never drove over 80 mph. How did he do it? By finding the people who could make it happen for him. And he’s doing the same for you. He’s assembled experts in areas of life every man needs to learn more about (finance, God, and the Bible) and areas we should avoid (sin and addiction). This is a virtual dream team to help you create the ideal game plan for your life. Joe’s team of experts includes Ken Boa, Josh McDowell, Chuck Colson, John Lennox, Ron Blue, and Ravi Zacharias. Each of the six sessions includes video segments featuring Joe and the expert on that week’s topic, which include: • God. You are being scouted. • The Bible. The ultimate playbook. • Salvation. Making the team. • Creation. The enemy’s game plan. • Finances. The signing bonus. • Sin & Addiction. Playing hurt.
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Game Plan for Life is a fantastic discipleship tool for any men’s ministry. But it’s also designed to be an outreach tool for the men in your community and circle of influence that may not know Jesus as Lord and Savior. This is not a typical Bible study. Joe’s life experience has broad appeal to all men (not just Christians). The study is easily understandable and applicable to every man’s life, regardless of age or background. Plus, it offers video of a behind-the-scenes look at Joe Gibbs Racing. Joe has even created a personal video invitation to do the study that you can e-mail to the men who need it. (6 sessions) DVD Leader Kit 005269065 $79.95 Member Book 005259409 $8.95 More information, including full-length expert video interviews, Joe’s video devotionals, and more are available online. www.lifeway.com/gameplan
The Amazing Careers of Joe Gibbs Only a fortunate few can rise to the top in an elite, highly competitive profession. Joe Gibbs has done it twice—in two dramatically different sports: football and stock-car racing. He was the coach of the Washington Redskins during their decade of dominance in the 1980’s (and again from 2004-2008). Under his leadership, the Redskins won four NFC Championship titles and three Super Bowls. He’s also the owner of Joe Gibbs Racing, another dominant presence in NASCAR with three championships to his credit. But Joe is keenly aware that his legacy is not about what he does but Who he knows. And his passion is to lead other men to the Source of his life’s victories—Jesus Christ.
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Outlive Your Life r by Max Lucado
What if you could live in such a way that the world would be glad you did? What if the ripples from your life extended well beyond your years on earth? What if Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s desire for you is to literally change the world? The early church in Acts left us a blueprint of how to do it. Discover how a group of ragtag nobodies turned the world upside down, and begin to believe that God wants to do it all over again. This study will help you realize that God doesnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t want you to just live; He wants you to outlive your life. The Leader Kit includes a hardcover copy of the book, a Member Book (with facilitator notes), a DVD featuring an introduction and six 15- to 18-minute teaching videos featuring Max Lucado. Kit also includes a CD-ROM with leader helps; preaching aids for pastors; and Outlive Your Life church-wide campaign implementation plans, convertible to a retreat setting. (6 sessions) DVD Leader Kit 005189411 $49.95 Member Book 005271299 $11.95
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Crave r
An Exploration of the Human Spirit by Erwin McManus
All of us have the hunger. Some try to satisfy it with fatty foods, risky drugs, or material gain. But all of these misguided desires have their roots in three distinct areas of longing: intimacy, meaning, and destiny. These are the soul cravings. And this new study from Erwin McManus will help you understand, or at least pay attention to, these deepest desires. The Leader Kit includes an Experience Guide and a hardcover copy of the book on which this study is based. Plus you get a DVD featuring three original short films, each a compelling introduction to the weekâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s topic to get your small group thinking and talking. (7 sessions) DVD Leader Kit 005271665 $34.95 Experience Guide 005271313 $7.95
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When Life Is Hard r by James MacDonald
James MacDonald’s teachings for this study came out of his personal struggles during a season of trials. His difficulties included a budget disaster in a multimillion dollar building project, a family crisis, friends’ tragedy, and a personal health issue. In fact, he preached the heart of this message while going through aggressive treatment for his cancer. He shares biblical truths and principles that helped him deal with the trials of life, which can also provide hope to all who are dealing with difficulties. This study will lead individuals and churches as a whole to understand the nature of trials in believers’ lives and how God uses hard times to teach and refine us. Member Book includes facilitator notes. Leader Kit includes DVDs of MacDonald teaching six sessions, approximately 45 minutes each, the hardback book When Life Is Hard, and a Member Book. (6 sessions) DVD Leader Kit 005271225 $99.95 Member Book 005293072 $11.95
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Simple Life Action Plan r by Thom Rainer and Art Rainer
This new resource from the president of LifeWay and his son, Art, offers tangible help for busy individuals who long for a way to simplify their lives. The study follows the paradigm created for churches by Thom Rainer and Eric Geiger in their best-selling book Simple Church. Through the study, you will create a mission statement based on the principles of clarity, movement, alignment and focus. It will also help you establish your priorities and make choices based on what you want most in four key areas of life: time, relationships, money, and God. The resources include help to do the study as a congregation-wide initiative or a small group experience. Video presentations feature the authors. (5 sessions) DVD Leader Kit 005254025 $79.95 Member Book 005238065 $9.95
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Everyone loves the fun and community of small group Bible studies. But many church leaders have begun to question the long-term value of these groups. Are the participants growing spiritually? Is every study biblically sound? Is there any rhyme or reason to choosing a particular study? We created Small Group Life to address these concerns. So if youâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;re ready for a small-group experience that is actually going to take you somewhere, itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s time to hop on board.
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Why church leaders like Small Group Life Purposeful The what-are-we-gonna-do-this-quarter approach is creating a spiritual imbalance in many Christians. Small Group Life offers an intentional plan for spiritual formation.
Consistent Small Group Life follows the LifeWay Adult Ministry Strategy—Connect, Grow, Serve, Go. Every episode helps participants connect with God and each other, grow in their biblical knowledge, serve others in their community, and share the gospel.
Customizable Small Group Life is also available in downloadable PDFs or RTFs, so you can modify content for the specific needs of your church culture, vision, or unique language.
Affordable Each study will be available for $5.95. Each quarter’s newest study will have introductory pricing of $3.50 per copy.
Why group leaders like Small Group Life Host-driven No need to be a Bible scholar. Anyone can lead the group. Fun ice-breakers get the discussion going. Notes imbedded in each study help propel the conversation. Scripture notes after each scene provide additional insight. A leader guide in the back offers extra help. And you can download free videos for each session.
Flexible Complete the study in six or twelve weeks. Get it through the church or have it mailed directly to each participant’s home via subscription. Do the latest study or look online for past episodes that are relevant to your group’s current needs.
Streamlined Small groups told us that many studies contain too much information which is hard to get through in a reasonable meeting time. Small Group Life contains solid biblical content, but each session can be enjoyed in less than an hour.
Kid-friendly Free kids lessons can be downloaded from the Small Group Life Web site for each session. A follow-up is included in the adult piece to help parents reinforce the lesson with their kids.
Relevant Study notes are developed by Steve Gladen, small groups pastor for Saddleback Church.
Episode 5: Kingdom Available to use beginning December ‘10 Episode 6: Awaken Available to use beginning March ‘11 Episode 7: Connection Available to use beginning June ‘11 Episode 8: Cacophony Available to use beginning September ‘11
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The One-Man
Every Man You Reach or Don’t Reach Is a by Kenny Luck
One transformed man transforms many things. “For just as through the disobedience of the one man the many were made sinners, so also through the obedience of the one man the many will be made righteous,” (Romans 5:17-19, NIV). The flow of history emanates directly out of the character and conduct of two men: Adam and Jesus Christ. Their story is our story, and it still is the reality being played out today. Either men around the world are in Adam or men are in Jesus Christ. Consequently, men are either being disobedient to God or obedient to God; men are producing suffering for others or producing life for others; death is reigning or life and health are being created. Pick up a paper and track the suffering you see happening worldwide. It’s a leadership issue: the character of Adam or the character of Christ is prevailing in cultures around the globe producing conduct and choices which touch people in the blast zones of leadership.
Track the suffering in your own community and congregation. A quick study of the headlines and broken lives tells a tragic story of broken male leadership and impact. Fatherlessness, domestic violence, rape, divorce, political corruption, sex trafficking, prostitution, exploitation 14
of the vulnerable, tribalism, greed, materialism, and a plethora of “power” trips are just a few of the issues that stem from unchecked and ungodly male character. Male culture and leadership styles influence every social, political, domestic, economic, and religious infrastructure in existence worldwide. Sadly, millions of God’s men contribute to the waves of suffering versus serving to alleviate the suffering in their blast zones of influence. They are blending with their cultures, the “boy” is winning, the voice of the Holy Spirit is muted, and His fire is put out in their lives. The Holy Spirit is grieved as Christ’s followers lose critical battles and injustice flows unmitigated over millions daily around the world. People are suffering, and God is watching His boys do the damage.
Passing inspection? Scripture warns that God is “looking” for more from His sons. “The vineyard of the Lord Almighty is the house of Israel, and the men of Judah are the Garden of His delight. He looked for justice but saw bloodshed, He looked for righteousness but heard cries of distress,” (Isaiah 5:7, NIV). Then and now: • God is tracking the character and conduct of His men. • God is looking to see His character (justice, compassion and righteousness) reproduced in His men.
Effect
Box of Dynamite
• God knows that character is expressed in conduct that will either bring health or harm to those connected to His men. • God is tracking the influence of men for the sake of His own name and for the sake of those their character and conduct hurt. • God will judge His sons severely for how they treat people. (Just read the rest of Isaiah 5.) • God is a disappointed Father who does not wish to, but must now, chastise and discipline His own sons.
Are you tapping the blast zones of men? Every man ever created has a blast zone of influence. Men have been given by God, for better or for worse, the ability to produce life and death through their character and conduct, beginning with Adam and culminating in Jesus. The Holy Spirit took a group of men at Pentecost, saved them, filled them, changed them inside, and turned them loose to bring His health and life to a waiting world. It was a movement in time through yielded men. It was fresh movement not of the “letter” or of stale religion but of the “Spirit” which refreshed those who entered the blast zone, igniting life. God’s men knew this movement came from the inside out: “He has made us competent as ministers of a new covenant—not of the letter but of the
Spirit; for the letter kills, but the Spirit gives life,” (2 Corinthians 3:6 NIV). Like the men who were a part of the first massive explosion of the Spirit in the Book of Acts, men are not asked to do in your world what the Holy Spirit has not given you the character and power to accomplish. The problem today is that they feel under challenged, under supported, and undervalued by church leaders they are commissioned to support. The result? • weak infrastructures of leadership • lost skill sets to drive the mission and vision locally • “cultural” Christianity and “blending” with the world • less giving • more pain among the people (continued on page 19) 15
MEN’S STUDIES
The Man God Uses r
Moved from the Ordinary to the Extraordinary by Henry Blackaby and Tom Blackaby
This exciting seven-week study for men is designed to provide spiritual direction and encouragement. It guides men in exploring God’s will and His process of refining an ordinary man into an extraordinary agent of God. (7 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit 005230605 • $89.95 (Two DVDs, Member Book)
Member Book 001116501 • $14.95 (Includes leader helps) Also see The Family God Uses on page 25 by Tom and Kim Blackaby
The Man I Want to Be r
Finding Your Way to a Life that Counts by Neal Jeffrey
This video-based study includes six 40-minute lessons on DVD. A natural extension of Neal Jeffrey’s video lessons, the Workbook generates involvement and lively discussion of biblical truths, all within the context of case studies and real-life situations that men will find interesting and stimulating. (6 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit 001302965 • $229.95 (DVD, Workbook, Leader Guide, Audio CDs, Promotion Kit)
Workbook 001304161 • $8.95 Leader Guide 001304160 • $8.00
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MEN’S STUDIES
Fresh Encounter, Revised r
Experiencing God’s Power for Spiritual Awakening by Henry and Richard Blackaby
Understand the nature of God’s pattern for revival and how to respond to His call for believers to serve as catalysts for that revival. This revised study offers completely new teaching videos by the authors. Its simplified format makes study easy and interactive, with ample journaling space. CD-ROM contains leader helps, preaching guide, and aids for leading a “solemn assembly.” (6 sessions with optional introduction)
DVD Leader Kit 005226601 • $99.95 Member Book 005189421 • $11.95
Putting on the Armor r
Equipped and Deployed for Spiritual Warfare by Chuch Lawless
Until we put on the armor of God each day, we’re not ready to walk out the door. This study does not offer “cures” for earthly temptations, but it does lay out the path to victory for every believer. Ephesians 6:10-20 gives us clear direction on how to fight the enemy and how to develop and demonstrate effective Christian living. This is an excellent study for new and growing believers seeking practical application of personal spiritual disciplines in order to defeat the enemy in times of temptation. Download a free 24-page sample at www.lifeway.com (7 sessions)
Member Book 001316390 • $13.95
Success to Significance s
Ignite a Life of Impact and Adventure by Lloyd Reeb
Many adults spend the first half of their lives seeking success, only to find success by itself is not satisfying or lasting. This study helps adults discover how God has equipped them to make the rest of their lives count in more significant ways. It redefines success, provides real-life illustrations and biblical foundations for making significant contributions, and offers practical strategies to help you overcome obstacles as you prepare for the journey that leads to a life of significance. (6 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit 001303668 • $149.95 WorkBook 001303667 • $9.95 Ministry Guide 001321544 • $79.95 17
RANDY ALCORN
The Grace and Truth Paradox r by Randy Alcorn
Explore the balance all Christians must maintain between law and gospel; between justice and mercy; or, as Alcorn shows, between grace and truth. (4 sessions) 001256630 • $6.95
The Purity Principle r by Randy Alcorn
Alcorn examines the hows and whys of remaining sexually pure and why such attitudes and behaviors are essential, not just physically and emotionally, but spiritually as well. (4 sessions) 001260510 • $6.95
The Treasure Principle r by Randy Alcorn
Alcorn helps participants discover a hidden treasure, life-challenging joy, and the fundamental connection between their spiritual lives and the way they handle money. (4 sessions) 001274393 • $6.95
TIP BOX
Four Keys to Having an Explosive Men’s Culture 1. Develop a strong vision to reaching men in your Church. Listen to men’s expert Kenny Luck tell you how at www.everymanministries.com/media_video.htm 2. Host or attend strong assimilation events which lead to an ongoing small group connection with other men. 3. Create a strong and intentional pathway of life and leader development in your Church. 4. Invest in strong tools that are biblically rich, authentic, and group centric.
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(continued from page 15) The Holy Spirit wants a culture of filled men fueling spiritual movement in His church, fulfilling its mission and vision alongside of you. And there is help. You cannot read the Old and New Testament and not see this blueprint of spiritual expansion. As for us, a simple decision needs to be made: are we going to build an intentional ministry to men that produces leaders to support the mission and vision God has called us to? Moses couldn’t handle it on his own. Joshua couldn’t. David was no dummy. Neither were Jesus and Paul. All of these leaders for God intentionally built strong infrastructures of men to fulfill the ministries for God they were called to complete.
What about you? The acid test of intentional men’s ministry is your personal workload. Jethro could see Moses collapsing and it didn’t have to be. Same goes for us. So let me stand in the place of Jethro and encourage you to build strong funnels that attract and serve the men connecting with your congregation. Let me also spur you to consider developing a life and leader development pathway to produce leaders who will help you carry the load. See our “Tip Box” (opposite page) to get started. Or make plans to get trained. Whatever you do, don’t neglect this powerful community of men around you God has provided for your benefit.
Your durability depends on it.
You may contact Kenny Luck regarding this article at kennyl@everymanministries.com Kenny Luck is an ECPA platinum award-winning author of the God’s Man and Every Man series of books and Bible studies. He is the pastor of men at Saddleback Church where over 7,000 men are connected in small groups, and he is the founder of Every Man Ministries, providing conferences, training, and resources to fuel the church-to-church men’s movement worldwide. Find Kenny on Facebook and Twitter: www.facebook.com/KennyLuck www.twitter.com/Kenny_Luck
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MEN’S FRATERNITY
Men’s Fraternity c
The Quest for Authentic Manhood by Robert Lewis
This study is designed to help a man embrace a bolder and more noble concept of manhood and consider the forces that are shaping—or misshaping—his personal manhood. It also empowers a man to heal life-hindering wounds while building a more compelling vision of masculinity that will bless both his life and the lives around him. What’s more, it’s a proven way to help men find a real connection with one another, with the church, and most importantly, with God. (24 sessions)
DVD Pack 001260518 • $299.00 (24–DVDs) (includes a Spanish version option) Viewer Guide 001260520 • $9.95 Video para el participante 005097867 • $9.95
Men’s Fraternity c
Authentic Manhood: Winning at Work & Home by Robert Lewis
As a follow-up to The Quest for Authentic Manhood, this study will challenge men to step forward, meet their responsibilities, and establish their manhood. It focuses on the chief responsibilities men have—as husbands, fathers, and breadwinners—and equips them to walk in the reality of true manhood as they live their everyday lives. (16 sessions)
DVD Pack 001274717 • $299.00 (16–DVDs) Viewer Guide 001274718 • $9.95
Men’s Fraternity s The Great Adventure by Robert Lewis
Life should be an adventure, but too often it seems tiring, even boring. This study challenges men to break loose from the bondage of boredom and embark on the great adventure that God has uniquely designed for them. Men will come to understand how they are wired and how to move forward with energy and enthusiasm to face the challenges of biblical manhood. Includes an online personality assessment. (20 sessions)
DVD Pack 001260517 • $299.00 (20–DVDs) Viewer Guide 001260515 • $9.95
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Becoming a Man c
ING A MAN
A Father & Son Journey Together
PORTANT to a young man than having s to be a man. And few things are more iving that vision from his dad. Becoming rney Together gives dads and sons (ages ore together what real manhood is. Each ith the video teachings of Robert Lewis mine masulinity from a biblical perspecs and sons will interact with each other questions to lay the foundation for living
e Director of Global Reach, a research and der of Men’s Fraternity, a worldwide minisf men embrace a Christ-centered, authentic heology from Western Seminary in Portland, Seminary in LaMiranda, California. For 23 Leader of Fellowship Bible Church in Little He has authored numerous books and films tured on radio programs such as “Family Life cus on the Family,” as well as in a number ch as Leadership Journal, Real Man, and 2001, Robert was named Pastor of the Year Coalition of Men’s Ministry. Married since d his wife Sherard reside in Little Rock, have four grown children: Elizabeth, tt, and Mason.
by Robert Lewis A FATHER & SON JOURNEY TOGETHER
BECOMING A MAN ROBERT LEWIS
This resource is tailored for fathers as they help their teenage sons (grades 10–12) develop a realistic, Godcentered view of manhood. Participants—which include both fathers and sons—will learn about the four faces of manhood and delve into the book of Genesis as they examine the biblical definition of manhood. Men’s Fraternity founder Robert Lewis explores manhood as defined by God through DVD-driven teaching. Smallgroup stories coupled with discussion enable sons to talk openly with their fathers about the issues they face while dads are encouraged to be spiritual leaders of their sons. (8 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit 001316385 • $62.95 (contains 2 DVDs, 1 Leader Guide, and 1 Learner Guide)
Member Book 001316386 • $7.95
Men’s Fraternity Training Workshop DVDs s by Robert Lewis
These two training workshop DVDs provide pastors and men’s ministry leaders with information on how to begin Men’s Fraternity. The set includes workshops on “What Men Need and How the Church Can Help” and “Starting a Men’s Fraternity in Your Church.” Workshops are led by author Robert Lewis. DVDs are also included in the DVD Packs for The Quest for Authentic Manhood, The Great Adventure, and Authentic Manhood: Winning at Work & Home. 001279031 • $19.95
HCSB® Men’s Fraternity Bible
This is a valued resource to men’s Bible study groups everywhere, especially among the men across the 15,000 groups worldwide now taking part in the Men’s Fraternity ministry, which is based upon the video teachings of pastor Robert Lewis. This gift boxed, personal size edition features the complete text of the popular Holman Christian Standard Bible® translation plus nearly one hundred pages of concise, stirring notes from Men’s Fraternity studies.
Bible 005089465 • $24.99
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The Priestly Call of Parents Guiding Our Children’s Spiritual Formation . . . at Home
Parents, we’ve gotten pretty good at forming the athleticism of our children—sign them up for sports (maybe more than one), drive them to practice, attend every game, and celebrate the championship. It’s the arena that many parents, especially dads, feel most at home. But spiritual formation? That’s where we tend to drop the ball—passing it off to “professionals” at church. Yet which is more important for the lives of our children, forming their bodies or forming their souls? Perhaps we’ve abdicated our role as “spiritual coaches” for our children. Perhaps it’s time to get in the game.
Are parents called to lead their families in spiritual matters? In Deuteronomy 6:5-9 we read “Love God, your God, with your whole heart: love Him with all that’s in you, love Him with all you’ve got...Write these commandments that I’ve given you today on your hearts. Get them inside of you and then get them inside your children. Talk about them wherever you are, sitting at home or walking in the street; talk about them from the time you get up in the morning to when you fall into bed at night. Tie them on your hands and foreheads as a reminder; inscribe them on the doorposts of your homes and on your city gates.” (The Message) 22
by Glenn McClure
So what about this command from God to teach our children about Him? The command isn’t directed to the Sunday School teacher. It’s a message for parents! One reason we may not have entered our children’s spiritual lives is that we may not be taking our own spiritual lives seriously. You remember the old adage—you cannot give away what you don’t have. So the first step in helping form our children’s spirituality is to simply become authentic worshippers of Jesus ourselves. Seeing their parents pray, and hearing them talk about faith matters, paves the way for children to have spiritual discussions and interactions with their parents. Living out your faith in front of your family can be especially challenging for fathers. According to George Barna, only four out of ten men attend church on a given Sunday. Dan Erickson and Dan Schaffer write, “The typical adult male in our society is more likely to spend his Sundays watching sports on TV that attending a church service.” But there is a trickle-down effect for families when men neglect their own spiritual lives. One source states that when a mother comes to faith in Christ, the rest of her family follows 17 percent of the time. But when a father comes to faith, the rest of the family follows 93 percent of the time. Fathers can be a powerful influence in leading
their children to God. The role of both parents is vital, and men need to step up to the plate.
Where do we start? The Puritans, like earlier Jewish families, understood the great soul-forming power of the family. They perceived the home as “the church in miniature” and therefore a place to pray, worship, and focus on God. If “worship at home” is a new concept to you, you’re not alone. According to a poll conducted at my own church in 2008, only 27 percent of families had a regular time of worship together in the home. I’m not suggesting that parents conduct formal mini-church services at home. But there are an infinite number of ways to bring spirituality into your home, in both structured and freeflowing activities. Following are nine suggestions for family worship (and spiritual formation) that might sound like more fun than you expected. 1) Sharing meals together. Let each person share high points and low points of the day. Remember to bring yourself to the conversation, sharing appropriately the challenges and joys of your life. Speaking about how you trust God during a difficulty at work, or praising God for life’s blessings will model spiritual language for your young ones. You’ll be delighted to see how they enter the conversation as well!
2) Sing the Doxology at mealtime: “Praise God from Whom all blessings flow, Praise Him all creatures here below, Praise Him above ye heavenly host, Praise Father, Son and Holy Ghost. Amen.” 3) Pray Aaron’s Blessing over children at bedtime. Taken from Numbers 6:2426 “The LORD bless you and keep you; the LORD make his face shine upon you and be gracious to you; the LORD turn his face toward you and give you peace. Amen.” (NIV) 4) Read Bible stories together as a family. This can be a daily or weekly activity, based on the age of your children. 5) Recite the Lord’s Prayer at bedtime and/or pray over the children. We also ask them “how can we pray for each other?” They learn that there are no silly prayer requests, that it all belongs. 6) Pray about world affairs. News events affect children more as they age, so let conflicts, disasters, and other news stories become an opportunity for prayer. (continued on page 27)
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FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
The Family's Heart c
Ten Actions that will Make Your Family and Church Stronger by John Burnett
Designed for use in the home, this resource encourages families to connect, through each of 10 practical actions. As families focus on topics like faith, worship, prayer, vision, ministry, unity and joy, stewardship, mission opportunities, reputation, and acceptance, they will start to recognize God’s plan for them and learn to build their family’s spiritual house upon the Rock, not the sand. 001316389 • $5.95 SM A L L - G ROU P S T U DY BA SE D O N T H E BE S T- SE L L I NG B O OK
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How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate
Gary Chapman
The Five Love Languages c by Gary Chapman
This resource is credited by millions for saving their marriages through showing them simple and practical ways to communicate their love to their partner. Through fun-filled presentations before a live audience, Gary Chapman helps you identify your personal love language and understand the love language of your spouse. This revised edition provides multiple use options for 5–7 weeks of study in a small-group setting or a short, twosession setting like the original design. The Member Book has also been expanded. (2, 5, 6, or 7 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit 005035510 • $149.95 (Includes DVDs, Member Book, Hardcover Book, and CD-ROM with leader helps)
Member Book 005085884 • $12.95
Faithful & True c
Sexual Integrity in a Fallen World by Mark Laaser
While our culture seems to drift in moral ambiguity, God is calling men to take a firm stand for sexual purity. Mark R. Laaser calls men to look honestly at their lives and develop standards that will leave a legacy of personal holiness. (Two 6-session studies) 001117213 • $14.95
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FAMILY & RELATIONSHIPS
The Love Dare Bible Study c
by Michael Catt, Alex Kendrick, and Stephen Kendrick
This marriage-centered study is based on the hit movie FIREPROOF and The Love Dare journal that was a key part of the story. Thousands have already been through it, leading to better marriages, happier congregations, and new members of the body of Christ. Designed for individuals or couples, the eight small-group sessions center on one or more movie clips from the movie. Each session also drives participants toward weekly reading and application in The Love Dare. Leader Kit includes the FIREPROOF DVD, one copy of The Love Dare journal, and much more. (8 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit 005179026 • $49.95 Member Book 005186345 • $6.95
The Parent Adventure c
Preparing Your Kid for a Life with God by Rodney and Selma Wilson
Discover practical ways to create a home where children can learn about God through day-to-day life. Topics include: how to build a home that looks for the blessings of God and regularly celebrates His work in the lives of family members, how to deal with the inevitable pain of life and see how God can use it, how to let your child go (to experience their own adventure with God), and more. Leader Kit includes a Member Book, the trade book, and two DVDs featuring the authors. Member Book includes six chapters of instruction, plus learning activities to help parents apply parenting principles. (7 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit 005126524 • $69.95 Member Book 005181385 • $9.95
The Family God Uses g
Becoming a Home of Influence by Tom and Kim Blackaby
The world is trying to influence your children. Why not turn that around? The Family God Uses can help. This study shows parents how to get and keep their family Godcentered and teach children their role in His kingdom. But more than that, this study serves as a practical field manual for families looking to pray, grow, and serve together. Discover where God is at work around you and learn how to join Him in that work. (7 sessions) Member Book 005189546 • $14.95 25
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HomeWorks Series with Pastor Tommy Nelson c A large part of God’s epic story is a great love and desire for all of us to live in community. And no community is more important to God than the family. Being born into or marrying into a family does not ensure its success. This series will help show you a path to successful family life. Because home still works—the journey, just like the reward, is well worth the effort. (Each title is 6 sessions unless otherwise noted.)
Creating Mutual Funds
Dream Team
Coauthoring Your Child’s Story
Turning Up the Heat
Some Assembly Required
Can You Hear Me Now?
Financial Teamwork in Marriage Member Book 001314280 • $7.99
Parenting on Purpose (8 sessions) Member Book 001303827 • $7.99
Instructions for an Amazing Marriage Member Book 001270088 • $7.99
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The Power of Two Member Book 001274914 • $7.99
Rekindle Romance and Passion Member Book 001274915 • $7.99
Improving Communication Member Book 001303828 • $7.99
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(continued from page 23) 7) Create and use a Blessing Cup. After reflecting on a passage of scripture and praying, young and old alike drink from the blessing cup. This expresses praise, celebration, and unity on special occasions. 8) Honor the life of a family member by reminding them that they are special, especially on birthdays. In our family, the celebrated family member eats from a “You Are Special” plate, and we remind the child that he/she is valuable to God and our family. 9) Sponsor a child via World Vision or some other agency. We allow our kids to sponsor a child with the same birthday as their own. This is a great way to develop compassion in your children and allow them to pray for others.
You may have excelled in sports as a young person. You can excel as a spiritual leader in your family in your adulthood. If you focus a little time and creativity, you’ll find your skills will expand quickly. This is what you are called to, and God will empower you to answer this call.
Glenn McClure holds a Masters degree in Worship Studies and is co- founder of Abba’s Way, www.AbbasWay.com, a ministry dedicated to drawing the hearts of fathers to their children. Abba’s Way hosts sold-out Fathers Heart Weekends for fathers and sons each summer. Glenn lives in Franklin, Tennessee, with his wife and three young children. His new musical project, Songs From the Father’s Heart, will release later in 2010.
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Courageous Fathering by Alex Kendrick
After completing the film, Fireproof, in 2008, we heard from thousands of couples who were inspired to rededicate their marriage to the Lord and to put a focus back on the spiritual health of their relationship. It was what we had prayed for throughout the previous year, and to watch God ignite a fresh passion in so many marriages was extremely encouraging. Once we had taken a breather for a few months to focus on our own families and church ministries, we entered into another season of prayer. We began asking God what direction He wanted us to go for the next movie, and it wasnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t long before He showed us. He began unmistakably pointing us to the area of fatherhood. The more we researched the health of fathers in our culture, the more we became alarmed at the direction we are heading. We then explored everything scripture says for fathers to do in their crucial role, and the result became the theme and plot for our next movie, Courageous. Research shows that when a father is not at home, or is not engaged with his children in their formative years, they are more than 70 percent likely to commit crime, drop out of school, use drugs, or end up in prison. And the patterns set for them by their absent fathers are almost certain to be repeated for their children. 28
The spiritual aspects were just as alarming. By default, we tend to develop a picture of what God is like based on our view of our earthly father. When a young boy or girl has no father to shepherd and teach them during their early years, they struggle with their own identity and purpose in life. They struggle to understand that God loves them, and that they can trust Him to guide and mold their lives. The bottom line is this: the role of father is absolutely crucial in the life of every child, and when it is abandoned, the damage can last for generations. As filmmakers in ministry, we asked God for a story that would illustrate the need for men to step up and reclaim this crucial role, and to do so with passion and purpose. It is not enough to just be present in the life of your kids, but to strategically pour into their lives by teaching, training, and modeling the role of a man who seeks the Lord and walks according to His truths. Anything less is an invitation for half-hearted commitment and shallow faith to be the norm in your home. In other words, there is no place for casual fathering! God answered our prayers, and a script for the film was completed in
February of 2010. We cast the roles and planned the shoot for the spring. As of this writing, the movie is entering the production stages, and we have full trust and faith that God will begin stirring up the hearts of men to step up and take the reigns again. We believe this because we’ve been convicted and stirred up ourselves, and the need for personal evaluation and accountability has gone up in our own lives. God has proven time and time again that He can do the impossible. When we focus on His principles and His truth, lives change. Today, we need fathers to understand the importance of their position, and to grab the wheel and steer their family with conviction and purpose. We need them to be in the Word of God more than in their favorite magazines. We need them to pray for and with their wives and children more than they spend surfing the web. We need them to hunt down opportunities to train their children more than hunting for big game in the woods. We need men that will truly say, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” We need men to step up and be strong and courageous in their fathering. The next generation depends on it!
Alex Kendrick is an associate pastor at Sherwood Baptist Church in Albany, Georgia. He has producing, directing, and writing credits in the first three films from Sherwood: Flywheel, Facing the Giants, and Fireproof. Look for Sherwood’s next movie, Courageous, and accompanying LifeWay resources in 2011.
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MEN OF PURPOSE
Men of Purpose Series r
Today’s culture screams that men be defined by their conquests, wealth, and worldly status. But what does it mean to be a godly man? In the Men of Purpose series, Dr. Gene Getz focuses on men in the Bible who provide poignant examples of godly masculinity and real strength. An excellent resource for any men’s group—from closed accountability groups to open outreach groups.
Overcoming Adversity: Joseph 001242272 (12 sessions) $8.99 Shoulder to Shoulder: The Apostles 001241025 (12 sessions) $8.99 Unwavering Tenacity: Elijah 001241026 (12 sessions) $8.99 Becoming a Catalyst: Paul 001274919 (8 sessions) $8.99 Weighing Anchor: Samuel 001274920 (7 sessions) $8.99 Empowered by God: Moses 001274921 (8 sessions) $8.99 Hope Under Construction: Nehemiah 001272490 (8 sessions) $8.99 Fearless Leadership: Joshua 001249531 (12 sessions) $8.99
Stand Firm This monthly devotional guide for men contains brief devotional readings, role-model interviews, reviews, and short feature articles that easily fit into every man’s busy schedule. Each colorful issue offers daily encouragement to stand firm by cultivating the discipline of daily Bible reading and encouraging men to stay true to their commitments and responsibilities. To subscribe, visit www.lifeway.com/standfirm
Stand Firm 005075233 $4.65 per quarter (3 monthly issues)
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SUPPORT & RECOVERY
Picking Up the Pieces Handbook c
Creating a Dynamic Soul Care Ministry in Your Church by Chuck Hannaford
This handbook provides the critical information necessary to launch a meaningful soul care ministry to reach these hurting members of your church. Member Book 005038470 $12.99
Picking Up the Pieces Series c The Secret Seductress Breaking the Destructive Cycle of Pornography (8 sessions) Member Book 001303829 • $7.99
Redeeming the Tears
A Journey Through Grief and Loss
Recovering from Divorce
Overcoming the Death of a Dream (8 sessions)
Member Book 001274918 • $7.99
Reclaiming Stolen Intimacy
(8 sessions)
Member Book 001270092 • $7.99
When Your Marriage Is Invaded by Pornography (8 sessions) Member Book 005126278 • $7.99
Radical Reconciliation
Beyond the Shadows
The Journey of Forgiveness (8 sessions)
Member Book 001274917 • $7.99
Discovering Hope for Overcoming Depression (8 sessions) Member Book 005038476 • $7.99
Surrendering the Secret
Stop the Madness
(8 sessions)
(13 sessions)
Healing the Heartbreak of Abortion Member Book 005123170 • $7.99 Leader Guide 005123171 • $14.95 DVD Kit 005116685 • $149.95
Freedom from Addictions Member Book 001274916 • $8.99
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LEADERSHIP
influencing like Jesus WORKBOOK 15 BiBlical PrinciPles of Persuasion
Michael Zigarelli
Influencing Like Jesus c
15 Biblical Principles of Persuasion by Michael Zigarelli
The Bible points to 15 principles used by Jesus that were neither demanding nor manipulative. This small-group study shows you how to adopt Jesus’ powerful methods of persuasion. Whether in the classroom, the courtroom, the boardroom, or your kid’s room, it will show you how to be more persuasive by using Christ as the model for redemptive influence. High-res video downloads are available for small-group viewing. Low-res and audio versions of these same videos are available for personal study. Download at www.lifeway.com/zigarelli (5 sessions) Member Book 005099266 • $10.95
Video Downloads Hi-Res:
Before You Ever Say a Word 005157542 • $12.99 Lay a Foundation of Relationship & Respect 005157564 • $12.99 Reframe the Situation 005157565 • $12.99 Offer Compelling Evidence 005157566 • $12.99 Turn Up the Heat 005157567 • $12.99 (Low-res versions also available for $4.99 each. )
Jesus on Leadership s Developing Servant Leaders by C. Gene Wilkes
Good leaders beget good leadership in others. Using Jesus as the ultimate example of servant leadership, this six-week study opens the opportunity for exponential growth in your church as men catch a vision of true leadership. (6 sessions) DVD Leader Kit 005174365 • $59.95 (Contains DVD, Member Book, and CD-ROM with Leader Guide, audio session summaries, and PowerPoint® presentation)
Member Book 005223827 • $11.95 (includes leader helps)
Drawing Men to God s Men’s Ministry Manual by Sid Woodruff
This resource provides an overview of a balanced men's ministry, including practical steps to follow in identifying your target group, developing your purpose statement, calling and training leaders, and providing entry points. 001116617 • $14.95
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OUTREACH
More to Life g by Dennis Pethers
This family of new evangelism tools is a video-based approach to sharing the gospel. The first piece is a simple DVD, containing the true stories of people who accepted Jesus Christ. It’s essentially a video tract that presents the simplicity of the gospel through the raw, honest feelings of new believers. There’s also a small group resource, Discover More to Life, that provides a rich yet simple communitybuilding way to help people explore the truths of the Bible. Plus, there’s a 6-session study to help churches train their members to step out into their communities to find, or to be found by, people who are far from God. More to Life DVD 005187917 • $4.00 Discover More to LIfe Member Book 005244946 • $3.95 Discover More to Life Kit 005244945 • $14.95 More to Life Member Book 005244948 • $5.95 More to Life Training Kit 005244947 • $79.95
Compelled by Love g
by Philip Nation with Ed Stetzer
The what of ministry is to declare God’s greatness and call people to respond to the gospel. But sometimes the why of ministry escapes us. This resource guides people to understand the heart of God that drove Him to sacrifice His Son for their salvation. Participants will be inspired to live on mission and reach their own friends and community with God’s compassion. (7 sessions) DVD Leader Kit 005125348 • $99.95 (Contains paperback copy of book, Member Book, and two DVDs featuring authors)
Member Book 005182426 • $11.95
Share Jesus Without Fear g by William Fay and Ralph Hodge
This revised study presents a simple and relational approach to witnessing which teaches that you cannot fail in sharing your faith if you depend on the power of God for the results. Its proven method eliminates the pressure, the argument, and the fear of rejection and failure. There’s no intimidation on either side of the conversation; simply ask a few questions and rely on the Holy Spirit to do the convicting and the convincing. (4 sessions) DVD Leader Kit 005035520 • $79.95 Member Book 005146133 • $7.95 33
LIFEWAY CLASSICS
MasterLife r
by Avery T. Willis, Jr.
This classic resource guides both new and experienced believers to develop and practice six biblical disciplines, develop Christlikeness by living in the Spirit, experience victory through spiritual warfare, and join God's mission by making disciples. The Book Set contains all four workbooks at a savings. The Leader Kit includes a 224-page Leader Guide and three DVDs. The DVDs help train leaders, help members develop their personal testimonies, and provide eight major presentations used in the four Member Books. (Member Books are 6 sessions each.) DVD Leader Kit 005157084 • $74.95 Book Set 001116322 • $26.95 Leader Guide 001116288 • $15.95
Member Books are also available separately: MasterLife 1: The Disciple’s Cross 001116284 • $9.95 Experience life in Christ through six biblical disciplines. (6 sessions)
MasterLife 2: The Disciple’s Personality 001116285 • $9.95 Experience life in the Spirit and gain victory in your personal life. (6 sessions)
MasterLife 3: The Disciple’s Victory 001116286 • $9.95 Improve and strengthen your prayer life and gain skills in using God’s Word. (6 sessions)
MasterLife 4: The Disciple’s Mission 001116287 • $9.95 Learn about witnessing, nurturing, maturing, and making disciples. (6 sessions)
Day by Day in God’s Kingdom c A Discipleship Journal
by Avery T. Willis Jr. and David Carter
This 13-week journal is organized around the six Christian disciplines presented in MasterLife.
Journal 001116283 • $6.95
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Experiencing God r
Knowing and Doing the Will of God by Henry Blackaby, Richard Blackaby, and Claude King
This life-changing course has been revised and expanded. Experiencing God guides learners to experience the kind of relationship with God through which they come to know and do His will. This best-selling study has been instrumental in changing the spiritual lives of millions, leading participants beyond the realm of academic learning into the life-transforming arena of honestly interacting with God. The DVDs included with the Leader Kit contain newly taped content for each of the twelve video sessions. (13 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit, Revised 005096105 • $179.95 (Includes Member Book, Leader Guide, Paperback Trade Book, 5 DVDs, and one CD-ROM)
Member Book, Revised 005084536 • $14.95 Leader Guide, Revised 005085768 • $6.95 Audio CDs 005095984 • $34.95
The Mind of Christ r
by T. W. Hunt and Claude V. King
Philippians 2:5 says “Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus.” This study is based on that scriptural command. Learn how Jesus’ mind worked and how the Holy Spirit can transform you into the image of Christ by teaching you to think and act as He did. Leader Kit provides resources for two approaches for study: (1) DVD conference: four DVDs featuring author T. W. Hunt and a Viewer Guide provide the tools needed to lead an eight-session conference; (2) Member Book study: this self-paced, interactive study with built-in leader guide helps participants begin this lifelong journey through a 13-session small-group experience that can be supplemented by the DVD messages. Viewer Guide provides charts, diagrams, a place for participants to take notes on important points as they watch the DVDs, and a small-group discussion guide for eight sessions. (8 or 13 sessions)
DVD Leader Kit 005156923 • $169.95 Member Book 005173965 • $14.95 Also available in Spanish. Viewer Guide 005174508 • $3.95
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GROWING DISCIPLES
Growing Disciples Series This series was developed by Claude King, a coauthor of Experiencing God. It begins with The Call to Follow Christ, which presents an overview of six spiritual disciplines. Subsequent studies help new and growing believers understand and pursue these six disciplines for a lifestyle of faithful and fruitful life in Christ. For a free online webinar, visit www.lifeway.com/growingdisciples
The Call to Follow Christ r
Six Disciplines for New and Growing Believers by Claude King
This foundational discipleship resource helps new and growing believers understand and begin implementing six disciplines into their daily lives. The book includes a music CD by Damaris Carbaugh with seven songs corresponding to the weekly topics. Daily, interactive devotionals average 10 to 15 minutes. One week is devoted to each of the six disciplines. Suggestions for small-group sessions and oneto-one mentoring are included. (7 sessions)
Member Book 001303666 • $9.95
Growing Disciples: Abide in Christ c by Andrew Murray and Bo Stevens
Based on Andrew Murray’s The True Vine, this study is delivered in a contemporary, interactive format. It’s designed for new and growing believers to learn the secrets of victorious living and to develop a lifestyle that bears lasting spiritual fruit. It also offers practical lessons from the parable in John 15 to help Christians experience love and friendship in relationship with Christ. This study is great for small-group settings in homes, churches, or community centers. Leader guide included. (6 sessions)
Member Book 001316387 • $9.95
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GROWING DISCIPLES
Growing Disciples: Pray in Faith c by T. W. Hunt and Claude King
This revised edition of In God’s Presence helps new and growing believers develop intimate communion with God in prayer. Participants learn to hear from God in prayer; respond to God through confession, praise, worship, and thanksgiving; and join God’s work through petition and intercession. Special emphasis is given to experiencing the greater insight and authority God grants to united prayers of agreement with others. Leader guide included. (6 sessions)
Member Book 005035525 • $9.95 GrowinG Disciples series
Growing Disciples: Fellowship with Believersc by Mel Blackaby and Bo Stevens
Discipleship and assimilation are key in nurturing Christians. This new small-group study helps new and growing believers understand the nature of the church as a whole and how it functions as the body of Christ. It also guides them to develop healthy relationships, spend time with other believers, help one another grow strong in the Lord, and serve together to accomplish His kingdom purposes in the world. Leader guide included. (6 sessions)
Member Book 005085766 • $9.95
Growing Disciples: Witness to the World g
by W. Oscar Thompson with Carolyn Thompson Ritzmann
Based on the classic book Concentric Circles of Concern, this study focuses on relational evangelism by asking participants to identify their current relationships, nonChristians in their sphere of influence, and ways to meet people’s needs in love. Disciples are challenged to recognize their ever-growing concentric circle and to share their faith with family, friends, neighbors, acquaintances, and even strangers. Leader guide included. (6 sessions)
Member Book 005085767 • $ 9.95
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GROWING DISCIPLES
Growing Disciples: Minister to Others s by Richard Leach and David Wheeler
This resource helps new and growing believers and churches respond to Christ’s call to a life of service. It reveals how God builds up the body of Christ and then draws others to faith in His Son through acts of service and ministry evangelism. It also helps believers develop a servant lifestyle and offers many ideas and tips for ministry to others. Leader guide included. (6 sessions)
Member Book 005085769 • $9.95
Growing Disciples: Live in the Word r by Philip Nation
This study teaches believers to treasure the Word, accept its authority, and be transformed by it. Participants will learn to recognize God's voice in His Word and understand that His promises will accomplish whatever He desires for their lives. (6 sessions)
Member Book 005035528 • $9.95
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New resources from Joe Gibbs, Erwin McManus, Max Lucado, and more.
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