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Editors Note I approached the creators of Blue Tick after they did a short presentation about the magazine in a class. I was drawn in by the creators’ passion to create, their willingness to step out of the norm, the drive to change the look and content of magazines. I wanted to be part of something bigger than myself and to challenge myself so imagine my face when they invited me to be one of the editors. I am part of a movement. This magazine covers issues that relate to being young adults and the trends and tricks of adulting and bring it to you in a spirited yet thought provoking manner. In this month’s issue we are on CHOICE. Choice is defined as the act of picking between two or more possibilities[Thank you Google dictionary]. Choosing to be the kind of person that truly represents you, your style, your smell your encounters. Choosing a course, choosing a bae. Life is all about making choices for you and for your life. It is taking responsibility for your being. I invite you to enjoy our May issue. Bilicia “The Unicorn” Khosana
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CONTENT FIVE STAR FIVE 75 FASHION THE MEME CHART PROVERBS OF A BLACK MOTHER COURTSHIP THE FREEDOM TO BE A “REAL MAN” CHOICE MUSIC CHART THANDIES MAGWAZA’S RELATIONSHIP WITH MAKING CHOICES THE ART IN NUDES BREAKFAST MUG MEALS BAE TRAP FOOD FOR THOUGHT WORD
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TRENDS / ENTERTAINMENT / THREADS / DEBATES / URBAN DICTIONARY
MAY 2018
SUPAMEGA ART LOCK A cover and a tracklist has recently emerged as supaMega announced the change in dates for his long awaited ‘final’ offering. The cover was selected amongst many as part of the Beam Group internship initiative, the #touchmybloodchallenge urged young designers to help the SupaMega to design his album cover.
NO SPOILERS HERE The fourth installment from MCU has smashed every box office record and is still going strong, deemed the fastest to reach a billion dollars and on its way to smash James Cameron’s avatar record we are even more curious of what lies under their untitled 2019 project.
NETFLIX AND CHILL MZANSI? Believe it or not we will talk about Netflix without the chill, well at least for now. Netflix saw a market opportunity in SA and decided to enter, this is after many people expressed their disappointment with our trusted entertainment sources that do not produce a variety of shows and repeats shows a lot. Netflix proving to be both cheaper and more updated, choose who you wanna chill with... 8
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CHANCE UNLOCKED Chance The Rapper graced the Mother land with his presence as he unlocked South Africa thanks to Castle Lite. Performing in front of a sold out crowd at ticket pro dome, Mr no problems performed his smash records for the homies and he electrified the arena with his medleys, it was a turn up.
BLACK TWITTER PATERNITY TEST Is it me or Stormi looks like Kylie’s bodyguard? La flame once finessed on everyone on insta stating that Stormi has more money in her account than most of us, but we couldn’t help but notice the uncanny fact that Travis Scott’s supposed daughter looks like the baby mama’s bodyguard, rumors surfaced that Tyga wanted a paternity test and recently even more striking rumors suggested that Travis Scott also was looking to file for a DNA test request. Aye people talk all the time leave Travis alone La Flame is the dad tuu!
CHILDISH GAMBINO BROKE
THE INTERNET
100 million views in its first week, at first glance your mind is telling you that oh look America caught up to the gwara gwara dance, but when you look beyond that there are bodies and bodies of knowledge and ambiguities. Call him Danny Glover or Childish Gambino but when this man decides to create something it becomes a classic, check the video and its interpretations on the Tube. Issue 3 05/2018
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WE ARE READY FO RUSSIA 2018 Where do I even start, after every four years we get blessed with football an entire month of world class exhibitions. Look out for Mo Salah our very own Egyptian Messi, Sadio Mane and many other players that will be representing our continent. The World Cup always never disappointed when it comes to drama, unbelievable scoreline, shocking knockouts and many more. Soccer fans will be disappointed to learn the Azure (Italia) will not be at the world cup as they did not qualify, however rest assured knowing that the youngins that have been doing the most in their respective leauges will be
THE POWER OF THE NET Rags to riches is when they find you yodeling at Walmart to bagging a performance at Coachella, he was the youngest performer there and he was made famous by the Internet. This is another testimony of how going viral can turn a normal ordinary human being into an icon, look up yodelling.
BEADED FASHION The on-going trend that has gripped the youth is wearing their time pieces with beads that are wrapped with tiny pieces of silver and gold, we must say they are a marvel to look at, you could score yourself a couple of points on the hunkmeter with the hunnies.
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SEXFIES
Sexfies, you have to admit that some terms that us the youth come up with are simply mesmerizing. Okay so what you guys do is handle business, you do the things then take photos in all kinds of positions and postures and you know the rest. It is mostly ideal for couples who wanna make memories, but everything has a negative- revenge porn. people can be bitter and act out and next thing you know your reputation and dignity is down the toilet. Ensure that you enjoy safe Sexfies with non -bitter individuals.
HATFISH Bathi caps in combination with a beard “issa trap”. This two together is called a “hatfish” and is said to lure women in without them realizing what they are getting themselves into. So for safety sake, if he approaches you wearing a cap or any kind of headgear tell him to take if off.
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munity of just one productive member of society but two. Both the victim and the perpetrator are lives we’ve lost - I am not victim shaming or perpetuating rape culture or From the point blank shoot- patriarchy I am just making ing of a university student an observation to the one demonstration of violence that shook the en- For every problem there is a tire nation to its core, in the designated solution. Accordmurder of Karabo Mokoena ing to me it all comes down to whose trail recently conclud- how you were raised ,if you ed with the him being given were raised around violence you are more likely to get via 32 year sentence . olent. Whether its is the murder of Zelile or Karabo or the For example if you grow up countless number of women watching your father beat up who are killed by their loved your mom you are most likeones and total strangers we ly to solve problems the same need to realized that our sis- way, with your fists or even ters, mothers, aunts and girl- far worse. friends are living in constant While it might be too late for danger. some of our generation, it There is nothing more pre- is up to us and the youngins cious than a life weather (ma2k) to change the landyou take one or destroy one scape of our society so that through your act of selfish- the frown against becomes more intense. ness. heres is a dark cloud over our country, the very men who sworn to protect our women are the ones laying them to waste.
And we have to be able to hold ourselves accountable and call each other out on our b/s.
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Spura Maluda
Swag
Synonym: bana, lepotjotjo.
A level of cool and smoothness
A common term to refer to a girl one is hooking up with
Bread
Money Example: I’m with spura maSynonym: Smooth, saucy, Synonyms: Shmoney, Guap, luda 2001 and we are doing class Zaka, Deads the tings. Example: He handled it with swag
Top floor.
A term used to refer to orgasms amongst youngins. Synonyms: Coming, floor, 18th floor.
Loud
Good Merry-jane
Dripping
Example: This loud got me 12th Displaying a lot of a certain moving slow mo trait
Example: I just wanna take Synonym: is too much her to the top floor Regular, without depth and Example: He is dripping with being amused by material finesse. things and “fun time” Term used to refer to a conSynonym: Shallow dom
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Conslitus
Regulate
Showing people who are Example: Be careful she’s against your progress that you pretty but she’s shallow Example: did you have the can do it despite what they put government Conslitus before you through you took her to the top floor? Synonym: Show dem The lowest level of a gang or organization or crew Example: A state of perceived intel- Mat: Caster qualified for the Synonym: Steurboy lectual superiority one gains common wealth games from reading and critically thinking about current affairs Jon: Yes man she had to reg- Example: If we’re beefing I’ll send my goons to address you ulate Synonym: Be aware Example: Don’t be a sheep stay woke Synonyms: CD, safety disk
Goon
Woke
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e’ve spent many years warm during cold, windy weather of autumn because our clothes were picked out for us. While it might not have been trendy but it kept us warm. Now that we are all grown we need to define our own style and find a style that expresses who you are. Riding trends and just whipping things together from the store but the downside of that is that you will have a lot of clothes that you don’t wear and trends die and if you are not careful you will have a wardrobe filled with baggy jeans and printed hoodies - how monotonous. So you walk into the clothing store, with a young budget , which items do you choose ? - while remaining stylish and eye catching.
COLD AUTUMN
POLO NECK
This is very classic and elegant piece covers your neck, replacing a scarf - you could wear it with a scarf but we rather you not.
B00TS
A good pair of boots go a long way you should consider the material of the boot so that you can prepare yourself to maintain it-The most popular ones are leather and water Besides keeping you warm it also proof suede. gives detail to your detail to your jaw line which adds to your hand- I would personally advise you to some rating. buy a boot that compliments your lifestyle so considering the disIt is a very versatile piece and you tance you walk, how humid and can rock it either formally or ca- how many other pairs of shoes you sually have. When matched with jeans, boots give you you a scruffy look.
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By Kemish
N ESSENTIALS
O V E R C O AT
This is one of the reasons why i love winter, we get to layer! Over Coats are perfect for layering your outfits. Although this is very easy to wear it is also easy to get it wrong, especially when picking out a color. A traditional black or Grey works well and for the rebels i suggest a young navy blue or light brown that breaks well. The material of the coat is also important, you should consider which parts of the country you are in and how cold it get around those parts - take a heavy fabric for colder areas and a light fabric for areas that are mild.
BOMBER JACKET
The O.G of winter appereal - although many think it is relatively new has been around for a while now. This is a street wear jacket that can be worn both casual and formal.
SWEATS PANTS
Sweat pants are life, especially on those lazy days when you’re not up for dressing up. It is great for when you have a hectic day ahead and need a bit of room.
It is also great for layering and can It is very IMPORTANT that you be worn all year around . get the right fit or it will look like When choosing a color go wild if you just do not put effort you feel like you can rock it, except when you are building your wardrobe then I would suggest you go for black, green or burgundy. Keep away from floral print, Try the recently released suede variation of these jacket - Mind blowing I tell you.
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THE MEME CHART JAN
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others are naturing and selfless but they are also there to keep us in check whenever we get out of line and boy is it confusing because not only is it hilarious but very threatening.
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Buya lapho uphuma khona O tla ja mo kgotlang teng It hurts me more than it hurts you There is food at home I brought you into this world i can take you out of it Ill give you something to cry about Ya’ll don’t help me with nothing, what are you going to do when i die? Since no one can tell me who did it everyone is getting a beating If I find it I am giving you a beating You don’t want me to come that school and embarrass you infront of your friends if you knew your schoolwork like you know those rap songs you would pass If your friends jump in a fire will you jump in too? I was born in the morning but not yesterday morning You better eat here I am not cooking when we get home
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ey Unicorns The theme we were given for this month’s issue was choice and the one thing that kept repeating itself in my mind was courtship and I started thinking about how women choose a sure mate. Men are generally centralized as the alpha man, as the brain but maybe that’s only because the beta is a freaken
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genius. She makes the man make the man. Building a mate. Creating the idea of a male figure for her offspring. She realizes her fullest potential,establishes her force and then finds a mate who is loyal, compares mental and physical compatibility and then makes the merge unstoppable. It makes one wonder. Does she do it for herself? His
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ego? Her ego? Has society driven her to give the man her tools, knowledge, to always make him the supreme in terms of social acceptance? You know, behind every great man... Or does she see this beautiful, simple man whose potential she sees? Or does she want to love the beast enough that he turns into Prince charming? Or does she just see a mate,a partner
in the pursuit of it all? The minimalistic instincts that still remains in us, the quest to reproduce - to take your produce the next generation to reproduce for your name and blood sake is the trick of all organisms- humans especially if you really think about how picky you are about who you choose to date.
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Lol and now things have went to west. Women are now doing the man thing and better and men are doing the woman thing better, we see you toyboy. *Wink* How instinctive is your date selection ?
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The Freedom To Be A “Real Man”
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know you've heard one of these before; "A real man never cries", "a real man doesn't get caught up on his woman", "a real man pays for everything" or even "a real man is dark skinned and his head knows no fade"... You recognized one of those right? Well of course you do.
Well I'm here to give you a redeeming sense of freedom... It's all a misguided stereotype and you do not have to aspire to this outdated view of what a man should be. Now that we're all a little woke in 2018 we all want to disassemble old stereotypes that we've become accustomed to and here at Five 75... We're no different. So here goes some wokeness Everybody is told they can be what they want to be right? Everybody is getting some form of acceptance somewhere but it seems that men have remained in the dark age.
"real man". They're not allowed to be sad, they're not allowed to cry and they're no one else to talk to.
men contribute to domestic violence and with the way our society is right now we could use more of the opposite. If we could get an in flux of those 'opposites' we won't need to teach women to cover up and "not talk too much".
Men have the kind of problems that women are encouraged to talk about and get through yet when a man does What is a real man if not a do this they're called weak. man who is in touch with their truth and knows how A Facebook post I saw put this into perspective so well. to live their most authentic lives? A real man need not be I don't remember the name of the girl who wrote it but it told what to be. A real man is honest with himself and othwent a little something like this, "in my psychology class ers as well. So to all the men we were having a discussion out there I say live your most authentic selves. about the things we've gone through. Women spoke about all sorts of abuse from all sorts of men and each one of them received sympathy and some got hugs. One guy stood up and talked about how he was abused by his ex girlfriend and the other students started laughing at him" There's a problem here. There is a system perpetrating a lack of authenticity and then cheering and laughing at itself for doing so. All that is happening is that men are going to continue building facades and then they'll raise their sons to behave and think in exactly the same way.
Why are men not free to express themselves in whatever way they feel is right? I mean as long as it doesn't cause any harm what's the problem? A whole lot of men suffer from depression, biThis kind of education only polar, PTSD and anxiety and breeds more of the "I beat yet they're told that they can't my woman if she talks too have these things if they're a much" kind of men. These Issue 3 05/2018
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CHO IC E Let’s get a bit deep with this one, shall we?
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am almost certain it will be good for our mental and emotional health, ladies… and gentlemen. The word “cosmetic” is defined by as a preparation applied to the body, especially the face, to improve its appearance – with synonyms like make-up, beauty products, beauty aids, etc. Normally and more often than not, women, and men are ridiculed for their use of said cosmetics. Society wants us to be natural, but at the same time if your natural is not according to their standards then no, Baypes what are you doing? How can you possibly come out in public looking like that? Did you NOT look in the mirror before you left home? Is this a joke?
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Ok. Ok. Let me buy make-up, Neutrogena face wash, toner and moisturizer, and Garnier masks as well, I think it will help with how other people perceive me and I will then probably fit in - *doesn’t eat for a month because dololo[ South African word for nothing. i.e. I thought I had some money in my wallet but right as I was trying to buy lunch... dololo! ] Allowance left*
son uses it to cover up their acne that society judges them for (as if they willing choose this), someone else uses it to simply look prettier (not that they are not beautiful without it – no one is less beautiful without any of it), etc. Why can’t we allow these people to live their lives without being narcissistic?
validation is what we tend to look for in others, unfortunately.
In our attempts to make other people feel less than, it is so that we can feel and appear Please allow me the opportu- superior – because we once nity to inform you that even felt this way at the hand of after all of this, YOU WILL someone else. NOT BE SOCIALLY ACCEPTED, at least not truly. On this note, you can These people that mock and CHOOSE how to react comment on one’s chosen to these comments, stanway of life do so in attempt to dards and opinions. You can transfer their own individual CHOOSE how they will imand unresolved shame. pact your life and how you see yourself when you look into What I mean is, somewhere the mirror. You can CHOOSE in this person’s/people’s past if this will affect your self-esor even present, someone has teem and dignity. said and done to them as they are doing to you (even if not De0ar narcissist, this is for about the same issue they are you too. You can CHOOSE ridiculing you for). to let people live their lives without your negative enerSo, fear not, this is not at all gy being spread among them about you but rather, this in- with words and actions that dividual’s/group of persons’ only seek to hurt them. You own issues projected onto can CHOOSE to change you because they cannot and your way of living. You can did not deal with what they CHOOSE to do better every went through. day.
One last question: you gotta be nice for what to these people??? Just do you boo.
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Nevertheless, it is not impossible. First and only rule: love yourself – this way you are teaching other people to do the same.
Ps. My article is based on a book I read last month (see picture) with my own twist, of course. I would recommend this book to everyone, it is genuinely life changing. John Bradshaw’s, healing the shame that binds you.
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Music Chart The album Chart: Firstly 2018 is not even halfway through and the hip hop world is acting like a bunch of dragons, they are spitting large infernos that none of us are unprepared for
1.J cole KOD 2.Migos Culture II 3.Cardi B invasion of privacy
4.XXXTENTACION ?
5.Black Panther: The album
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Most anticipated albums:
Kanye West: TBA Also he announced that he will be producing the album of rap’s most iconic figures Nas Also Kid Cudi, Pusha T and Teyana Taylor The king of the six himself is also set to drop his 5th studio album title Scorpion, this was hinted when he was sighted wearing the recently purchased scorpion neck piece, bless us 6 god Bringing it back to local, Kiernan Forbes a.k.a AKA is set to drop his much anticipated album touch my blood on the 25th of May and he also hinted that this might be his last album. This album has been a few years in the making and everyone who has been working with him closely testified that this is a masterpiece and some going as far as calling it a classic in the making. Kwesta also recently announced he went 7x platinum: In SA for an artist to go gold they must sell 15000 copies Platinum is 30000 copies Kwesta sold 210000 copies which is the most sold in SA hip hop history. Year after year hip hop as a music genre and as a culture raises bars, sets limits and year after year they surpass these limits. The sky is truly no the limit and we cannot wait to see what will be done next. Issue 3 05/2018
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THANDIE MAGWAZA’S RELATIONSHIP WITH CHOICE Styled by Loyiso “X” Dyantyi clothes by Negustyle
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WHAT IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH CHOICE? My relationship with choice is simple, lol, I don’t have one! I know what you’re thinking but for real! I’m a strong believer in destiny and things being written hell even this interview right here, a whole maktub situation. Nothing happens without our Creator having let it. You can fight it all you want with your new age opinion and freedom but honestly we have no choice but to come to earth and forfill our purpose- Finish en klaar HAVE YOU EVER MADE DUMB DECISIONS? Lol if you see my monthly bank statements bruh moghel stays making dumb decisions. I loathe a life without mistakes imagine the growth you’d miss out on. No thanks! I’m perfectly fine finishing my money on weed and munchies(bad example but the truest statement yet) howevvvveeerrrr I did try gambling and almost lost my phone in the process. I thought I hacked it but THE HOUSE ALWAYS WINS! Who knew? HOW DID YOU GET OUT OF IT? Well first of all... Thanks for bailing me out man, I really appreciate it! HOW DID THAT EXPERIENCE HELP YOU IN YOUR PATH? Apart from giving me something cool to tell my future grandkids, they’ve really shaped my perspective for the better. I’m a better loser now lol I don’t whine or grump as much when something does go left of which there’s always a possibility of happening. I figured life is a gamble and the Universe/God(whomever you feel most comfortable with) is the House. Issue 3 05/2018
And what did we learn about the house and it’s constant wins??? Everything is as it should be man, that’s all! WHICH DECISION WOULD YOU SAY WAS THE MOST DIFFICULT ONE YOU HAD TO MAKE I had to recently make the choice between a very close relationship and my career- I’m here getting interviewed, go figure ANY CHOICES YOU WISH YOU HADN’T MADE? Don’t we wish we could have the whole buffet vele? I kinda wish I didn’t have to choose between certain people and my purpose however if you have to weighout your soul’s satisfaction at the end of the day- your life’s purpose will always win. WHEN AND WHY DID YOU DECIDE TO BE A CREATIVE? Lol you don’t decide to be a creative. trust me when I say if I had a choice, I’d be neck deep in spreadsheets! At least there I’m guaranteed financial security. I was 9 when I was so generously chosen by the universe or rather was reading The Haunted House by R.L Stine and was left hella unimpressed aka The night I wrote my first short story. How did those around you support your choice? They didn’t eh have you ever tried telling a black single mother that ‘’Thanks for school but I’m going to be a creative!’ if yes you’re either traumatized or dead. I’m not dead WHAT MADE THIS DECISION DIFFI33
CULT? Well it boils down to the matter of what you love about life-family- and what makes you feel alive- your craft. Not sure if I explained it well enough but that’s a contemplation I’m still pondering on HAVE YOU NOTICED THAT A LOT OF BLACK CHILDREN ARE HELD BACK BY THE LACK OF A SUPPORT SYSTEM Yep, I was one of them WHAT WOULD YOU SAY TO ASPIRING CREATIVES WHO ARE BING HELD BACK? Honey, there are no bunk beds in a coffin! Go get yours! WHAT IS MTC My baby! A creative organization, a safe haven from the nay-sayers(except me, I say No a lot) but it’s what I needed when I was younger. WHY CREATE THIS PLATFORM? The young imaginative mind of cause. I’m all about ‘Be who you needed when you were younger’. WHAT IMPACT DO YOU HOPE MTC WILL HAVE ON I hope to remind creatives that we don’t need brands!! We really don’t lol we don’t need to compromise, compress in any way the beauty of our difference. That’s what I want. I want them to know that time moves on and when generations look back all they ever look back at is the art-sculpture, literature, fashion, paintings- Art! Art tells time, so stop running on someone else’s watch! They probably set it wrong anyway, smh 34
WHO IS IT FOR? It’s for everyone! If you’re fortunate enough to still have access to your imagination(because adulating is real!!!) then welcome sbal’! WHAT WAS THE MOTIVATION BEHIND ESOTERIC? Esoteric well that’s all Gugu’s brain baby, and for some reason of all the girls in the world she asked me to help her build it. And here we are from the ground up giving black girls something better to watch other than another makeup tutorial or something else equally as stereotypical of a woman’s interests. Dude people are starving for information, for informative conversations! I’m all about growth and progression. And if you happen to be black, magical and constantly evolving this show’s dedicated to you! WAS THE DECISION TO CREATE THIS PLATFORM BASED SOLELY ON THE WAY WOMEN ARE SEEN AND TREATED IN THE WORLD? Not at all. It’s literally a voice on what we really thinking and really be feeling. All you ever hear are generalizations on how angry we are or sad we are never positivity. It’s a window of communication and if the world’s willing to listen then that’s one thing i’ve done right. But hell even if they don’t listen, if at least one black girl walks away prouder ,bolder and twice as magical then yep my job is really done! WHAT DO YOU HOPE TO DO ABOUT THAT? I can’t change the way the world treats us as black women, I can only hope to Issue 3 05/2018
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make a big enough difference. But this battle is not mine alone to fight. WHO ARE YOU WORKING WITH AND WHY DID YOU CHOOSE THEM? Oh they chose me. Kinda like how family does to you. And that’s exactly what we(Lungelo,Q,Gugu,Khethiwe,Amanda,Mohau) are, a family OUT OF 10, HOW MANY OF THE CHOICES YOU MAKE GO SIDEWAYS Normally 1 but I be throwing the biggest tantrum when that happens. Tell the readers to pray for me ke nali drama ANY DECISION ADVICE? Life is the craft of letting go- so just let it happen, it was written
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The art in Nudity
“...draw me like one of those French girls.” - Rose Bukater Titanic
Drawings of French girls, for those who don’t know, is the drawing of naked French girls. The keyword there is naked and those paintings would be displayed in art galleries for everyone to see. Nudes images are very similar to paintings of French girls because they are naked images/portraits, they are just more convenient. Such a random topic, I know, but just keep an open mind whilst read38
ing through this piece and maybe we (you and I) will improve your eye for the art and probably get you to understand.
Rodin in 1880 which was used to represent philosophy. More of such sculptures, of naked male and female figures, date back to 440 BCE ( Before the Common Era) Nudity has been seen since the which were Ancient Greek sculpdawn of time as the most secrete tures of gods, heroes and warriors and vulnerable form of a person. and athletes who were portrayed naked- seems like Greeks had a You might be familiar with the different way of showing herosculpture of The Thinker, Le Pen- ism. As we go up in time to the seur in French, is a sculpture of 14th- 16th centuries, painters got a nude male figure by Auguste into the vibe of nudity with a more
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By Ronewa Ravhura emotional point of view, due to Christian beliefs, it was considered shameful to paint such images although there was an expectation in the nude paintings of Adam and Eve and the damned in the Last Judgment, such portraits were considered as a symbol of shame and sin, weakness and defenselessness till the late medieval times where female nudes intended to attract edged back into art where the ladies were painted
with a long body shaped by gentle curves, narrow chest and height waist, small round breasts with the male figures drawn to be slim and slight in figure. From the 16th centuries, paintings were painted with live models with nude images of women doing ordinary things like taking a nap , like the Red Nude by Amedeo Modigliani in 1917 and The Standing Woman by Gaston Lachaise in 1932. Later in the 19th century the world was introduced to Contemporary portraits, where one of the painters had his work titled “Naked Portrait” which were realistic paintings of woman who weren’t dressed. “I paint people, not because of what they are like, not exactly in spite of what they are like, but how they happen to be” Lucien Freud Now we’re not going to come here and pretend like we aren’t aware that our very own ancestors didn’t practice nudity ( even though it wasn’t deliberately, it was culture) not to go so far off, Vhavenda during the times of drought , girls used to dance the Python Dance with nothing but a cloth covering the bottom front . To go further away , Liberian soldiers used to fight naked under General “Butt Naked” Joshua Blahyi.(I think it had something to do with the General’s name). Out of Africa as we go, we get to Asia where they have public baths with families and friends in public hot springs or saunas. The evolution of nudes is just incredible, from sculptures ; David by Michelangelo in 1504, working it’s way up to the painting of Venus and the Lute Player by Titian in between 1565 and 1570 and Le Dejeuner sure l’herbe by Eduardo Manet in 1863 to the drawings in the 19th century, in 1902 Two Nudes Standing by a Chest of Drawers by Edward Munch.
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We see the 20th century and the 21st century very similar with the Benefits Supervisor Sleeping by Lucien Freud in 1995 and Lidia Savoderova by Lucien Dena in May 2018. That is a very long way nudes tr My relationship with choice is simple, lol, I don’t have one! I know what you’re thinking but for real! I’m a strong believer in destiny and things being written hell even this interview right here, a whole maktub situation. Nothing happens without our Creator having let it. You can fight it all you want with your new age opinion and freedom but honestly we have no choice but to come to earth and forfill our purpose- Finish en klaar Lol if you see my monthly bank statements bruh moghel stays making dumb decisions. I loathe a life without mistakes imagine the growth you’d miss out on. No thanks! I’m perfectly fine finishing my money on weed and munchies(bad example but the truest statement yet) howevvvveeerrrr I did try gambling and almost lost my phone in the process. I thought I hacked it but THE HOUSE ALWAYS WINS! Who knew? Well first of all... Thanks for bailing me out man, I really appreciate it! Apart from giving me something cool to tell my future grandkids, they’ve really shaped my perspective for the better. I’m a better loser now lol I don’t whine or grump as much when something does go left of which there’s always a possibility of happening. I figured life is a gamble and the Universe/ God(whomever you feel most comfortable with) is the House. And what did we learn about the house and it’s constant wins??? Everything is as it should be man, that’s all! I had to recently make the choice between a very close relationship and my career- I’m here getting in39
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Breakfast Muffin In A Mug
5 Minute Savory Microwave Breakfast Mug
Prep 8 mins Cook 7 mins Serves 1 Ingredients 3 Tbsp wholemeal flour 1 Tbsp chopped walnuts 1 Tbsp poppy seeds 1/2 Tsp baking powder 1 large egg 1 medium ripe banana (mashed) 1 Tsp of honey 1/2 cup blueberries,rasp- berries or both 2 Tbsp Low-fat batural yogurt Instructions 1.In a bowl, combine flour, nuts, seeds and baking powder. Add egg and beat into the lour mixture with a fork. Stir in banana and honey. 2. Pour into large microwave-safe mug and microwave for 1 minute 30 seconds. If the centre looks wet microwave another 30 seconds 3. wait 5 minutes for the muffin to cool. serve with yogurt
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5 Minute Microwave French Toast Mug Prep time 4 mins Cook time 1 min Ingredients 1 Tsp butter 3 Tbsp whole milk 1 Tsp maple syrup 1/4 Tsp cinnamon 1/4 vanilla extract Pinch ground nutmeg 1 large egg 1 cup bead pieces Toppings: Berries Instructions 1.Place the batter in a large mug and microwave for 15-20 seconds until it is melted. Add the milk, vanilla, nutmeg and the egg to the mug and whisk until everything is mixed well. 2. Add the bread pieces to the mug and gently stir until all the pieces are saturated with the egg and milk mixture. be careful not yo stir to rough. Let the bread sit and absorb the liquid for 1 minute. 3. Microwave the mug for 60-90 seconds, or until the mixture is solid. 4. Serve immediately with your favorite topping.
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Ingredients 1 Cup stale bread pieces 1/4 cup precooked chopped meat 1/4 cup finely chopped vegetables 2 Tbsp shredded cheese 1 Tbsp butter 3 Tbsp milk 1 large egg Pinch of salt and pepper Instructions 1. Cut the bread into 1/2 inch pieces. chop the meat and vegetables into small pieces. shred the cheese. 2.Add the butter to the bottom of a large mug and microwave o high till it is fully melted. Whisk in milk, egg,salt and pepper with a fork. 3.Stir the meat,vegetables and cheese into the milk and egg mixture, then gently fold in the bread cubes until they are fully saturated then microwave on high for 90 seconds and serve hot
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The Baby Trap
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recently had a heart to heart with one of my female friends who happens to be involved with an up and coming soccer player about love, relationships and being involved with someone who is in the lime light.
The baby trap is not only done by women but men do it too. I remember when I was in high school our gardener ( a Zimbabwen International) complained about not being able to get the correct papers to stay in South Africa and my uncle suggested that he impregnates Halfway through our a South African woman and conversation she spoke tell her to take him up for mainabout trapping him by falling tenance that way they will not pregnant. allow him to leave the country. I was surprised but then i remembered that it was not the first time I heard this and that when she said it I got angry, made me realize how much of a hypocrite I was. Not only have I said those very words, I’ve heard a few male friends say it without me getting into my feels
This according to me is the manifestation of insecurities and proof that the person thinking of or conducting this trap is childish! Bringing a child into such a dysfunctional relationship is both irresponsible and selfish.
Yes, i have said the same thing about a few girls to my friends telling them that “if she gave me a chance 7 days from now she’d be one week pregnant”
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hat is a “Baby Trap� ? while not every unexpected pregnancy is a trap. A baby trap is when an individual takes the decision to fall pregnant or to impregnate another person intentionally without the other persons consent with the intention to gain from the pregnancy.
1. The pregnancy pulled you from the brink of a breakup 2. The individual could gain from parenting your child. 3. No excuse for not using birth control 4. Insisted on not using any birth control 5.Revenge
When I did the research for this article there are many This scenario plays out in one articles on how women trap of my favorite series You’re men but the truth of the matthe worst where the charac- ter is men do it too. ter Lindsay Jullian played by Kether Donohue through the Once you decide to have sex power of television artificial- with someone you entrust that ly inseminates the seed of her person with your body and ex husband who had at the your future time found a new love interest in order to get him back - and A baby is not a one time thing, babies are a lifetime commitit works! ment. In order for us to address the trap we must first be able to Using Manipulation tactics to tell what it looks like so here get someone to stay should alare a few ways to tell whether ready show you that you are it is a trap or not. not in the relationship for the Issue 3 05/2018
right reasons and that you are probably not stable. What happens when your partner finds out that it was all a plot? What happens when the person decides to leave you despite the pregnancy? Baby Traps are vicious because not only are you using a baby to try and gain or mend a situation you are also endangering the child because you are exposing them to the uncertain future. Trapping is a complex issue that cannot be proven with all certainty But ultimately it is your responsibility to check everyone you sleep with and protect yourself from the plight of a baby trap
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Why Good Sex Is A Trap THE SITUATIONSHIP
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, like many, have been in a relationship that is bomb. The communication is tops, we understand each others love language and everything is AMAZING1 And then the time to be intimate arrives and the experience is underwhelming and you can’t help but be concerned because weak strokes are a bad thing. But What if the script is flipped and the sex was bomb but the relationship is “meh”.
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Firstly you have to stop having sex so that you can clear up. The most difficult thing is to take decisions when you are dickmatized or when you are taken by what is in her Although your bodies are al- pants. This bittersweet experience most always intertwined and it feels good when that hap- Then you question everyleads to a huge dilemma. pen when the other pillars thing, you evaluate and then I came to a point where I was of the relationship does not if it is not what you want you walkaway. tired of my partners shenan- come together it sucks. igans and I had decided to leave however I couldn’t be- By allowing yourself to con- Fabulous explained this continue entertaining this predic- cept in his song “situationcause the flesh is weak. ament you are ultimately giv- ships” I tried everything to make it ing your genitals power over work, I even tried to Bhekhe- you. zela but because we were not compatible it did not work Well the thing about goo sex is that it is not intentional. The out. conflict is not with the other A reddit user r/AskWomen person but it is a conflict you asked the question, Did you are facing within. This kind of ever stay in a bad relationship conflict is difficult to address. because the sex was good and the responses varied from So what to do when you find “yes, but I would not recom- yourself in this predicament? mend” to “still in one” onsistently good sex has the ability to leave you both numb and unable to see the cracks that develop or red flags that come up.
Good sex is never enough to sustain a relationship. A relationship is based on trust, communication compatibility.
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Food for Thought: WOMB-MAN THE CHRONICLES
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n my own definition , a woman is a man that came from a man . The only difference is the womb, hence called womb-man - a man with a womb.
is absurd! Just because you failed to finesse her, you will now attack her? Why does her cognitive superiority bother us? Is it disrespect? I cannot be!
the above definition o its own should convince you that men and women are and ought to be equal. Yet we exist in a society where women are victimized by their counterparts.
I have encountered a general culture that perpetuates patriarchy by teaching young women to respect men and gives young men the impression that their manhood is it is in the hands of women to measured on whether or not unite and stand together they are able to “control” a woman. Adding salt to injury are religious doctrines that condone the enslavement of women, by teaching women that they should conduct themselves in a particular manner in order for them to be worthy of marriage.
Firstly I distance myself cowards , men who are abusive in their speech and conduct. Those who are unable to resolve matters without getting physical. I distance myself from men who are unable to accept a womens rejection towards their advances - and they are legion. What creature have we become? Beasts that refuse to be tamed, greedy seeking to control things that belong to women . We seek to deprive their dignity and ability to be independent, We take away their freedom to speak and capabilities to make decisions all in the name of a functioning household.
I would like to eschew, not their standards, seeking for validation and be validated by force. The book of Matthew 11v12 reads as thus: “ From the days of John the Baptist until now the kingdom of heaven suffers violence and the violent take it by force .”
Why should women be taught to behave when it is men who are acting cruel? Why am I so concerned? some would say I seek relevance and applauds but trust me I would care less. The fact of the matter is that the future is near, I will bear children and amongst those children there will be daughters. What train of thought will they inherit if I do not challenge myself? Will they inherit the same damning teachings that were passed on to my generation of women?
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Ever wanted to just get lost but you don’t know where to? Well apparently,, you can get Lost In the Sauce... How? You ask?
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If you had a choice, what would you choose? If you were chosen, what choices would you have? Which choice would you take? You are chosen to live, however, you have the choice to carry on living or to experience death. It is said in the Bible that the wise tend to think about death, this could probably be so because living comes with challenges and even life-threatening choices. Imagine your life flashing before your eyes and you starts realising the choices you had made leading to that phenomenon. You were given the eyes of your guardian angel for a few seconds, minutes or even an hour or two. Could you have chosen to experience that? In some instances yes, because you knew, for example, that you should have not been drinking and driving, and in some instances no, I do not think anyone choses to have stage 4 cancer. At the end of the day, after the sun running its cause on each day, you were faced with many choices. These choices will determine whether you see the next sunrise and the rest to come, or, will the moon kiss your forehead for the first time? You will then have no choice but be mesmerized. Issue to 3 05/2018