Five 75 by bluetickmindset

FIVE 75 IS BALANCING THE EQUATION

Sydney Madibo’s

Balancing Act

Balanciaga... YOUR IMAGE

How Insta influencer’s monetize the FIVESTAR

Beer-nefits... Health benefits of beer

The best things in life are free. FIVE 75

Pictures from last months issue

IMAGES BY NKANYEZI GUMEDE

Editors Note Firstly my team and I would like to extend our endless gratitude towards you for allowing us to access you, talk about you and talk to you. In our first issue we experienced great trials and tribulations in that we had something to prove beyond any reasonable doubt could exist, that this magazine could work, and it has. This magazine means so much to us and at a point where we are able to maximize social capital in order to make you more balanced we will do so. This month our focus is on the idea of balancing life as a person, and where one ought to be balancing life. During this issue I had experienced a major crisis in just being extremely overwhelmed with everything happening in my life. Being extremely unfocused, a dear friend of mine who is an integral part of this structure and mastermind behind our organization, Lawrence Adams, came through on this issue and put a lot of work to still make me look special as the Editor-in-Chief. I thank the team for showing immense leadership ad great character in my absence. Enjoy our second edition, blood,sweat and tears Five75ers. We look forward to experiencing a balanced growth with you FIVE 75 LOVE, Webster Editor-in-Chief

Our Tyla Jurdens â&#x20AC;&#x153;My style has always been minimalistic and focus on creating large silhouettes which are focused on specific design elements and contrasting colours. I was mainly inspired by Japanese designers and their focus on shape, line and approach to minimalism. I brought this into my designs with large panels, geometric shapes and monochromatic shapes like army green and deep maroon. The use of layering is large in street-wear and allows the collection to fit into the A/W 2017 category as the materials are insulating but still breathable for South African summers. The jackets each have a unique style to them and the collection is easily assembled in different ways encouraging the wearer to make the collection their own and pair their own style to it. I am currently completing my Honours at the University of Johannesburg and hope to continue designing athlesuire-wear in the futureâ&#x20AC;?

Inspiration Khanya Zulu Style: High -end street wear, Autumn-winter 2018 Menswear Inspired by the ancient Japanese war attire, Khanya has modernized and mixed it with street style, in terms of garment construction and the usage of blood colours. The â&#x20AC;&#x153;Bad Religion 18â&#x20AC;? collection is mostly inspired by the likes of Raf Simons and Off White; It also talks about the social ills of our generation and romanticizes the bad side of youth culture.

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IS BALANCING THE EQUATION April 2018 Editor-in-chief

Webster Morison

Jnr editor

Bilicia “The Unicorn” Khosane

Creative Director & Photographer Head of Marketing & Design Contributing writers

Nkanyezi Gumede Lawrence Adams Bokang Shika Nkanyezi Gumede Dineo Shika Kemish Lerato Moemisse Ronewa Ravhura Tsholofelo Molosi Lawrence Adams

Sydney Madibo Tyla Jurens Khanya Zulu Guest Contributors

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10 FIVE STAR TRENDS URBAN DICTIONARY

15 YOUR IMAGE 5 OUTFITS FOR THIS FALL BALANCIAGA -MAKE UP

27 SOCIAL MEDIA

HOW INSTA INFLUENCER MONETIZE THE GRAM SEXTING

21 FOOD FOR THOUGHT THE PIROUETTE ITâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;S OKAY TO NOT BE OKAY

32 SYDNEY MADIBO 40 RELATIONSHIPS MAKING IT LAST SEXUAL REJECTION

45 THE BOOB MOVEMENT 50 EDITORS HERO 52 OUT AND ABOUT FIVE 75 EVENT DIRECTORY BEER-IFITS

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FIVESTAR TRENDS/NEWS/FASHION/HEALTH/LIFE

IF THE SHOE FITS AIR MAX 270 ULTRAMARINE

Every year NIKE makes a variation of AIR MAX unit sneakers. Last year they introduced the vapour max. This year NIKE flipped the script and released a sneaker that is made purely for lifestyle moving away from their usual performance based designs. This shoe drew its inspiration from the Air Max 93 and Air Max 180 and as part of the launch NIKE actually retro built this model. It has a 35 mm thick air unit -the largest NIKE has ever done.

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Kotini and flex STREET WEAR is commonly cen-

tered around casual and comfortable pieces such as jeans and sneakers. It is widely accepted that the movement started in the late 70’s and early 80’s. Early street-wear brands took inspiration from an array of cultures such as punk, but the most noticeable influence up to date is that of the hip-hop culture. Brands to be the early adopters of street wear include Adidas, NIKE, Champion, Timberland and Wu-Tang Clan. STREET WEAR IS LIFE

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WHEN YOUR FUTURE IS BRIGHT SMALL FRAMED SUNGLASSES

If you haven’t heard already tinyy framed sunglasses are back in fashion. Stars like Rihanna, Kendall Jenner and Balanciaga Designer Demna Gvasalia, Have all been spotted with small framed sunglasses. Kanye West Apparently sent Kim an email saying “you cannot wear big glasses any more, it’s all about tiny little glasses”. Us here at FIVE 75 are not sure about this apparent trend. Let us know how you feel on twitter @theBTickMindset using the hashtag #BRIGHT

“BODY POSITIVITY”

A term that has sparked world wide debate, with a number of people for and against it. Those for it argue that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes and body positivity helps demolish the unrealistic societal standards. While those against it argue that the term “body positive” may lead to a number of people neglecting their health. What is your take on #BodyPositive

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Facebeat

VERB: The act of applying make-up to ones face Synonyms: Put my face on. Example: A quick facebeat and I’ll be ready NOUN: Substances applied to ones face to enhance facial features. Synonyms: Makeup Example: where did you get would rather go through the that facebeat? most with you than have it NOUN: better with someone else A person or group of peo- Synonym: Trap Queen/king, ple (usually of the opposite Regte sex) brought to a gathering to keep your friends entertained Example: I’m her ride or die during and after the party or social gathering . Synonym: Bana(ladies),

Stocko

Finesse

VERB: 1.The Ability to maneuver around people and situations in a smooth manner. Synonym: Smooth. 2.The Art of persuading or ADVERB: tricking someone to get what Sometime in the future you want. Synonym: Later, afterSynonym: “Speak en virstan”. wards. 3.The ability to do something with charisma and ease, also Example: I’ll see you Jump- easily dialing it up or down. as. Synonym: Slick Example: Come through Stocko se mo.

Jumpas

Boujie

NOUN: Of or pertaining to someone who is not only pretentious but also believes themselves to be superior. Those who succumb to elitist ideals. Synonym: Extra, snobbish

Example: 1. He finessed the crowed Example: Why is She acting 2. He tried to finesse me NOUN: all boujie A bomb- ass person, who is 3. He did it with so much fi-

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he end of summer has arrived, now we say goodbye to flip-flops and vest and hello to clothes that will keep us warm and looking dapper in this change of weather. Many young men find it somewhat difficult and time consuming to shop for the change in season. No more standing in stores wondering whether it will look good on you.

FIVE 0UTFITS FOR THIS FALL

1.Once in a while you are require to we to wear semi-formal whether

it is to work, an interview or a presentation this look should be in your arsenal. In this outfit, we see how the brown pulls the whole look together. If brown is not your favorite i would recommend nude, purple, mustard yellow, blue and burgundy as worthy substitutes. Chinos and a sweater gives you a laid back yet dapper look and not the typical plain shirt and tie. Every guy should invest in knit ties for the fall. With the textures , you will be looking dapper every single time

Cooler weather may be approaching but some days will be slightly warmer. This is a relatively old style but it is still worn horribly wrong. What you want is a cohesive layering of colours.

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3. For street wear,

Investing in a good quality hoodie will help you get the insulation you need for those cold days. Your trendy denim jacket will not exactly keep you warm however the hoodie, jacket and shirt make will make for a both warm and awesome look. Also look to invest in hightop sneakers for rainy days. Apr 2018 ISSUE #02

Emphasize the inner shirt that should be in primary colours with little to no print on it. Add a well fitting light blue straight leg or skinny jean with high tops the compliment both the colour and the style of your clothing. Remember to get clothing according to your body and at the right proportions.

Your regular low top sneakers are not ideal for those wet days. The high top will keep your feet dry and also warm. I personally prefer leather sneakers.

4. No need to dress up in a full tux. I

suggest you invest in a good quality turtle neck. This will work for pretty much all of your outfits. This is how to dress up your debonair suit or trendy street-wear with a turtle neck. Along with the turtle neck, a good accessory like a watch is essential this fall. The thing that most guys get wrong is having too much happening on their wrists. The secret is to keep things simple.

5. I couldnâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t leave this one out. COATS, s Before deciding on whether to buy an overcoat or a trench coat you need to first consider the climate that you live in. Overcoats are heavier and keep you warm on those freezing days. If you live in an area that has warmer falls and winters, I would suggest the trench coat. For both, you need to pay close attention to colour and patterns that you pick.

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Ever heard the lyric”don’t show your colours unless it’s vibrant which is a cool metaphor for most things in life like #PositiveVibes.

Balanciaga

HOW TO GET THE RIGHT BLEND OF COLOURS

But what if I want to show my nudes too? - No not type you send in the DM After you have achieved your balance and want to show Colour coordination when ap- your new look off with your plying eye shadow is so im- girls, pouring it up, portant. Here is an extra hack for the next day: Always start with what make up artists call the “Transition- It is important to detox the ing colour”. night after a strong groove. It Now this colour brings the look together. So if you are going for the nude look, your transitioning colour should be either tan brown and beige brown.

is also important that you exercise and stay hydrated.

A great way to detox is with 60ml of lemon juice and 250ml of water. This will help reduces breakouts and keep you toxin free after a night of To that you add colours that heavy drinking. will deepen an intensify the look and colours that will light Do the most everyday and up and BALANCE-IAGA live your best life, but don’t (SEE WHAT I DID THERE) forget the Balenciaga. the look. If you want to go for a more vibrant colour, the transitioning colour could be anything depending on the colour coordination you’re going for.

By Dawn Barendse

Let’s say you’re going for a sunset look (yellow and orange) your transitioning colour could still be tn tan brown because it goes well with the yellow and lets it “pop”

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TELLING OUR STORIES Celebrating Young Africans About us

No one will celebrate our achievements, our culture, our obsessions and our belief if we do not do it. No one can tell our stories better than we can. Our voices, our fists and our pens.

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Who are we? FIVE 75

a digital magazine that aims to tell he stories of the youth. A magazine for the youth by the youth.

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ove with the times, change with the seasons because growth is the ultimate goal but one should never feel obligated to conform to the dysfunction. When that quiver is intensified and emotions are no longer based on stimuli then doing some introspection might be your way out. If the words “ticking time bomb” are best used to describe you, then a change is necessary.

You! You are the solution. As To be labeled something that absurd as it may sound, it is you are not. the truth! We rely on society so much that we forget that at the end of the day we have everything we need is within ourselves.

“You are a force to be reckoned with, born to be the solution and not the cause”

We do not require the validation we so desperately seek from other people. Honestly, it is when we do not receive this validation that we expect form our peers that the frustration creeps in and engulfs Intuitive and philosophical our brains. legends such as Oprah Winfrey and the late Maya Angelou have always been advocates of the essence of self Remember we cannot we cangrowth and maturity. not erase human existence to accommodate ourselves howThis is based solely on the ever we can cling to those we fact that we are constantly intrust and love dearly. Rememteracting with different peober to breathe and to calm ple , learning new things and down. Bear in mind someforming bonds. things might mean the world People are not always the an- but the world cannot revolve One then realizes that we reg- swer, you need to dig deeper, around you. ularly feed off each other’s find your inner person, and energies. If we cannot con- hibernate for thorough intro- Sit down, assess things, weigh trol our emotions and learn to spection. all your options and constantkeep our cool, it could lead to Pave your way to a balanced ly remind yourself that not the inevitable - imbalance. life. You are a force to be every situation deserves a rereckoned with, born to be the action Having said that what would solution and not the cause nor be the solution?

“We do not require the validation we so desperately seek...”

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“Adulting” Is a Libra scale

Letting your hair down is important but doing so after ife especially after you prioritizing is way better, No move out of your parents care subtle guilt, just you enjoying is no child’s play. yourself in that moment.

Whether you are a student or you are working or doing both there are deadlines to be met, goals to achieve and life gets in the way and you would swear it is done purposefully.

A ll work and no play can be detrimental to ones health. But a lot of work and no play will do you no good either.

Time management is the only This might sound a bit famil- way to balance your responsiiar but just humour us and try bilities as an adult and having it. It is not rocket science. fun.

Never allow work to pile up. If you have a task that doesn’t need a lot of effort get it out of Whether it is boring lectures the way. or horrible bosses we have to agree that this adult thing is Doing things sooner frees up a nightmare and is definitely your time and allows you to not what we imagined when enjoy life to the fullest. we use the famous words “when I grow up”. Manage your time, do not have too much time for fun. With the hustle and bustle of We all have gotten lost in fun life every young person beor things that make us happy lieves they deserve a break like facebook, insta and twitfrom time to time but as you ter. Although fun is good for know things almost never go you do not allow it to get in our way. the way.

Remember do not put too much pressure on yourself, beware of the proximity of tasks and know what to prioritize.

You might have to submit reDoing the smaller tasks first ports,write a test or submit does not mean you should an assignment the following keep tasks that require a lot of week. effort to the last minute And we all come to that time Know what needs to be priorwhere you have to choose be itize. tween “Vosho” and getting things done.

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Itâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s okay not being okay

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The idea rings true for your feelings as well. There are going to be those days where you feel like you have been hit by a truck and struggling to overcome your bed, let alone conquer the world. Be rest assured, that is a normal part of life. If you have ever been up past 3 o’clock in the morning, you will know that what is in your heart looks very different in the twilight, and no, it has got nothing to do with vampires. We are often told or made to feel like it’s not cool to be sad or upset about something, that it brings people down and that your feelings are meant to be kept to yourself or told “don’t bring that energy to the party”. Society makes being sad seem like being public enemy number 3, after “blue ticks” and the “friend zone”, of course. Sam Smith and I would like to disagree with the notion that sadness has no place in the concoction of emotions that make up happiness and, more importantly, purpose. Sam Smith said in an interview that whenever he’s feeling sad he “shakes sadness’ hand” and tries to learn from it everything that it is willing to teach. Well, I say keep giving this man awards because he keeps speaking sense to us. Our lowest moments often prepare us for our highest moments. We are able to learn so much from Apr 2018 ISSUE #02

We step outside of our norm when we are sad and we end up doing things that exposes all that is wrong with the world and this is what in fact sheds some light on the solutions as to how to actually handle feelings. One of these solutions is expression through art. I have a little a saying that goes “you either have happy days or days where you make art”. Melancholy is a great way to say “sadness” but that’s hardly all it is. It is introspective and thoughtful, it is reflective and indulgent. It’s a rare moment that you get to spend with your mind and the universe and the wisdom that comes from that connection is extraordinary.

My piece of advice is; whenever you’re sad don’t look to cheer up. Don’t go around the sadness, go through it. Feel all the sadness, learn from it, take it all in and make yourself better through the altered perspective you get of the world and more importantly, of yourself. Talk about it, learn from it and grow from it.

Sadness is just like change, it will always be there and it will demand to be felt. Philosopher Saren Kierkegaard had this to say to express how absolutely pervasive sadness is: “ marry and you will regret it, don’t marry and you will also regret it, laugh at the world’s foolishness or weep over it you will regret it either way, hang yourself and you will regret it, don’t hang yourself and you will regret that too”. Now as bleak as that point is it is also a good one. It tells us that sadness is part of life, it’s always going to be there but what comes of it is up to us. It’s up to what we choose to learn from sadness that could either make us or turn us into Kill Monger.

edited by Bilicia “the unicorn”Khosana

have learned that in just about anything that you do and anyone that you meet, variety will always make life blissful.

By Nkanyezi Gumede

our sadness because it opens us up to the selves we never share, the selves that we make no excuses for, the selves that we look at from the outside.

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ocial Media has made communicating and the sharing of information so very easy. Not many people know that it is easy making money on your social media and here are a few ways instagramers make money 1. Brand deals: This is when a brand forms an alliance with a insta famous person and pays them to either attend their event and post about it or just post about their product or service. Brand deals difficult to spot because istagramers do not just come out and say “Hey I have a brand deal buy this product” they usually just post a picture or video of themselves using the product and where they got the product. They do it discretely unless they are brand ambassadors. 2.Shout Outs: this is basically when people(other instagramers who are trying to grow their following) ask the insta famous to post a picture of them for a fee. Shout outs are mostly done by meme and news pages because they do not have a niche it is difficult for these pages to get brand deals.

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So a shout out would be them posting a picture and underneath saying for more follow @[...]. This can also be done on a tit for tat basis where two pages post each other and no money is exchanged in order to grow their following.

How Insta Influencer‘s Monetize The Gram

3. Running or Advising someone else’s insta: Yes, up an coming brand do pay people to run their instagram for them. Believe it or not yes someone could pay you to run their Instagram account. This is most often small to Medium companies that do ot have a marketing department but require exposure. Big companies do hire social Media experts too. In order to make money this way just prove you can grow a following 4. Promoting your own product: Instagram is a hub for products because of the picture element. Customers get a visual feel of a product and are likely to buy it. Quite a few insta famous people I follow have their own products or side hustle they are promoting.

A South African personality taking advantage of insta dj Sbu, he promotes his product strictly on instagram. Kylie Jenner, Kim K and Rihanna have used this platform to promote their products. Building a following on any social media platform will be covered in next months FIVE 75 Cheers

That being said sexting has its cons. We are constantly bombarded by nudes that went viral, because someone somewhere is either really dumb or spiteful. exting, taboo just a few years ago, is a nor- Sexting like any other sexual mal activity especially in to- is supposed to be both FUN and PRIVATE. days relationships. Sexting can help sustain a long distance relationship or it can be used to spice up your sex life with your long term partner, and recently I’ve learnt that girls share nudes with their girlfriends.

So whether it is a dick pic to your girl or nudes shared between you and your girlfriends (ladies), here is how to do it safely.

1. Don’t do it

Yes if you do not feel comNudes can Sustain or Enter- fortable just don’t do it. Like I tain and is the new normal. I said sexting is a sexual act so think we can all agree that it there is such a thing as not being ready, the right mood and is not going anywhere. not feeling comfortable 28

2. Make sure you

can trust your partner.

Revenge porn is so petty but unfortunately it is also very entertaining and it does go viral in no time. So before you send “Ubae” “amaNudes” take a second and ask yourself whether or not you can trust them with your nudes.

3.Don’t Show your face

Not only your face but any other distinct marking like a birthmark or a tattoo. This is just so that in case the person on the other end decides to “accidentally” slips up you are able to deny them. Apr 2018 ISSUE #02

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4.Don’t sext

drink and

You know how you feel “dik bors”(brave) after a shot or two of vodka and start doing things you normally would not do if you were not under the influence and technically speaking when you are under the influence. Some might even question your ability to consent when someone initiates sexting while you are taken by the spirit of “HIBIRI”(rachetness).

5.Privacy is key

Sexting is a private, so it is very important that you do it only on a private device like a personal phone. Do not partake of it over communal devices such as work or school computers. Apr 2018 ISSUE #02

6.Password lock 8. Make sure the peryour gallery

If you have a bae or friend who randomly sends nudes password secure your picture gallery. We all borrow other people our personal devices to “make a call “or “quickly check their email”and ends up in your gallery swiping left .

son on the other side is a willing recipient

Well this is very awkward, so to prevent your nudes getting blueticked or your dirty texts being aired out due to rage, make sure the person you are sending this explicit content to is ready or willing to receive it.

7.Delete the evidence

Whether it’s a tape, nudes or just dirty texts, make it a habit to delete the receipts. Like ordinary in person sex, sexting is not meant to last you forever. Its something you enjoy *********************** in the moment, appreciate and *********************** discard of it. ***********************

Happy sexting

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Photo by Ryan Tang on Unsplash

Sydney Madibo

Student, Activist, Thought leader, Entrepreneur and winner of One Day Leader season 5 Tells us how he balances it all

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hucks, Iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;m my own PA and boss all at the same time. I keep a diary that outlines my appointments, bookings and classes. I am very economic when it comes to time. I try not to bundle everything in one day; I prefer to do a thing a day but sometimes it does not work out like that. My phone also has all my appointments in alarm format and reminds me before and on the day I have to attend an outreach program,class,symposium or anything of that effect. I give everything the same level of importance and spread out my time adequately. I try keep my levels downs and visit home as much as I can to connect with family and friends. There are days where i have to force myself to sit and not do anything; not check emails, take calls or answer invitations. This is to regain my sense of calm and sanity. Thirdly I go out. I love music and i love dancing so donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t be surprised when the blazers and lapels fall off and you see me moving about your local hang out spot. The three remind me of three things: 1.How My family and loved ones are and how they see my journey, 2.when to not work, so that i give myself adequate time to rest and reconnect with my inner being. 3.All work and no play is bad for the human body

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I was supposed to have done my final year in 2016. At the time I was a contestant on One day leader season 4 and worked on two projects namely; Future Leaders Season 4 and SABâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s be a mentor program as a mentor an influencer respectively. My public speaking business had just started, and for that reason I also went into a bit of radio. I tried to balance all that with my studies, but it was near impossible . I did not have a car , was flat broke and could hardly make it between my shoots in Johannesburg and my academic obligations in Vanderbijlpark. Apr 2018 ISSUE #02

I was involved in the #FeesMustFall movement and participated in a protest that took place and it resulted in me being banned for a good eight months from campus. Meaning I could only continue my studies in the second semester of 2017. I then decided to reenter One day leader and branded myself as a thought leader, media personality and a nation builder.. I started two businesses with my friends , one named Little Big Steps which is a nation building movement that works with care centres and the second one, Naked Truth , Live poetry and music which targets talent round South Africa and gives it a platform to express their art at the Vanderbijlpark Capello. I started working as a freelance presenter at summits and started facilitating for corporate. During this time, I managed to raise money to pay for my school fess and acquire a vehicle that would assist with my commute between campus and work-related projects. I don’t think I’ve ever been one to willow in self pity. Life happens but life also goes on. I am a hard worker, that doesn’t always guarantee results but i work hard nonetheless. Two quotes that really push me are: Jeremiah 29v11 from the bible that says “ I know the plans I have for you;” declares the lord,” plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you hope and a future” and He who feeds you, imposes his will on you ~President Captain Thomas Sankara of Burkino Faso

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By Dineo Shika

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Photo by frankie cordoba on Unsplash

Being in a relationship is very onestly relationships are challenging. not that difficult to comprehend. Compromise. That is Being in a relationship means the secret. you are not only for yourself but also for your significant If you are not willing to con- other. sider your partners feelings your relationship is bound to What i have learned is that fail. dating for a purpose. If you donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t see a future with the perFinding a balance is never son you are wasting your time easy but fortunately neither is an the other persons time. it impossible. The purpose of your relationDoing certain things like set- ship might not be marriage ting priorities and Rank your and thatâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s cool, just identify a responsibilities, also allocate reason, something unique that time in accordance to those you work towards as a unit Priorities and responsibilities. and that will be what keeps you together even at times Being supportive is a major where it is difficult. requirement. Support is not just the things you do like at- You will kiss a couple of frogs tend specific events and en- but that is natural. couraging bae to do well, but also includes the things you Just simply set standards and should not do like throw a fit be specific, if you want a perwhen bae puts his/her health, son who is in tune with their education and other sectors of spirit man do not settle betheir lives first. cause it is not what you want an it will bother you. You will face hiccups along your path but that just what Finding out your partners love they are, hiccups. language. Know what makes them tick so that in times of So things like infidelity, mis- storms you are able to calm communication and misinter- the situation down. pretation are bound to happen in some shape or form and Never try to hard to be loved. how yo handle those situation Love is effortless. It occurs will determine whether or not naturally. you and your bae will last And when you find the one you will know. 42

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The person who acts out and start having epieing in a relationship where you are de- sodes starts looking like a monster further renied sex and other forms of intimacy seems ducing the chances of sex. like a “dumb” and luxurious problem. It is difficult not being wanted sexually. It We have all heard about someone who has or makes you look at yourself differently in the have experienced sex deprivation ourselves . mirror. You wonder “TF is wrong with me?” “Am I that revolting?” Whether she suddenly wants to practice celibacy or he does not “do the dem things” that Relax you are not. allow intimacy to be initiated, we must agree This is what you should do: that the lack of sex can be tragic. • Calm down and deal with your feelings of rejection so that you are able to objectively Most couples that split will in passing tell you consider why your partner is off sex. that they stopped having sex and other forms of intimacy weeks or months before the break • Meet your partners criteria for sex. Maybe he/she needs you to act in a specific way up. in order for them to be intimate with you. Maybe you should show more trust or conWhy is sex so important? Well because during sideration or maybe the sex is just plain borsex two people accept each other. They reveal ing and your partner just does not see the sides of themselves seen as “indecent” and point. But you will not know this until you private. All their fantasies, fetishes and unask your partner why sex an intimacy is out usual behaviors and requests are shared with of the picture. the other person. • Be open and clearly tell each other what it is that you want from sex and respect each Everything that you are physically and menothers desires tally is on display for the other person to see. This act shows an end to loneliness and a reSex and intimacy are an important part of a reaffirmation of trust. lationship and should not be taken lightly when Sexual Rejection gives off a vibe that your your partner brings up concerns around it pay partner can no longer be themselves around attention. It might be what saves the relationyou and it will lead to the sex deprived party ship. acting up instead of just telling you straight up how the lack of sex makes them feel and finding out what they should do to get you to a point where you are intimate again.

Bae will definitely lash out at you or just get a side, that does not mean he or she does not love you, the disappointment and humiliation that comes with sexual rejection is real and being with someone from outside might be the only way they feel accepted.

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What is even worse is that the depiction of the breast in modern and ancient art forms gave rise to “the perfect boob”.

reasts, Boobs, Titts, or Amabele what ever you choose to call them you cannot deny that they are powerful. They secrete milk from it’s mammary glands to feed infants,and have featured in notable modern and ancient sculptures, art, and photography. Men and women alike are obsessed with those two sack-like structures protruding from the female chest. This fixation has led to the sexualization of the breast to a point where bear breasts,especially the nipple, are seen as indecent. Giving rise to the movement #FreeTheNipple.

Perky, symmetrical, monochromatic breasts are seen as the perfect breast and has been reinforced by the entertainment industry and “society”. We have to admit that the standards placed on women are absurd and unrealistic. This “perfect pair” are constantly paraded in front of women and if you have a pair or have been fortunate enough to see or touch a pair you would agree with me when i say that this depiction is false. All that and the constant scrutiny by both males and females leads to women often at a young age asking questions like “what is wrong with me?”. This level of harsh self criticism leads to many psychological issue and results in women seeking shortcuts, like breast augmentations, to self acceptance not realizing that it is more of a societal and psychological problem than a physical one.

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A group of young women felt it was important to start having this conversation. A conversation that would eradicate the societal standard of what breast should look like and shaming anyone whose breasts do not meet societies misconception of boobs.

Women are not pressured to share topless pictures of themselves but however are requested to share their story. The founder of the movement in a post said “ #TheBoobMovement is all about women embracing their breasts...”

@abbyzeus the founder of A number of women have the movement in one of her stepped fourth and shared instagram posts reiterate the their stories. reason for the movement and what it is they want to achieve and it read “#TheBoobMovement is an initiative to get women comfortable with their breasts..This is an initiative to get both men and women to #TheBoobMovement appreciate breasts of all types Team: and sizes, whether they are big,small,saggy, perky, flat or round.” Founder: The group runs a page where women experiences with boob shaming and learnt insecurities are shared with the intention to give back ownership of what has been stolen and dictated over by society. The digital movement, based on instagram, are a series of women shedding their tops(optional) and sharing the stories of how their breast came about, the negative comments and connotations that came with them having a specific size or shape of breast and how that has impacted their lives. Apr 2018 ISSUE #02

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Manager: @nokubonga_qteey Media Influencer & Model: @naledytheactivist Ambassador: @keycie_wanda Join the movement #TheBoobMovement

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edirile Ledwaba a student,athlete & entrepreneur from Seshego. A township in Limpopo always found himself gravitating towards basketball in a community where soccer was the preferred sport. Due to the lack of local leagues Kedirile established the “ O Nyatsa Mang (ONM), which translates to “who are you underestimating”, league in December 2017. The ONM League was officially launched on the 24th of February with the aim of bringing different teams together whilst elevating the standards of the competition. After a slam dunk launch, the teams would get together before hand and each team would contribute the purchase of trophies,medals. The wining team would receive the bragging rights to the tittle “the kings of the court”. The league saw exponential growth since its launch, and soon enough the league moved from the sports complexes of Seshego to Polokwane and the University of Limpopo Turfloop Campus. His journey was not one without challenges. Because it was fairly new Kedirile had to book sports complexes and venues to host the ONM league events from his own pocket. A student himself, Kedirile faced financial constraints that would threaten the growth of the league. Amidst challenges such as not being able to find funding, inconsistency of participants and rising travel costs Kedirile held on to his dream. Thanks to the support of his peers Kedirile is optimistic about the future of the teams and the future of the league. Our hero has no intention stopping and wants to support other young basketball players and use the sport as a tool to combat many of the social Apr 2018 ISSUE #02

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THE HEALTH BENEFITS OF BEER Both the wallstreet journal and menhealth.com named water the best post exercise drink

2. BEER IS FILLED WITH FIBRE

According to mensfitness mag beer especially dark beer is filled with fibre

5. BEER PREVENTS KIDNEY STONES

Although excessive consumption can lead to kidney stones, moderate consumption actually prevents kidney stones

Beer could save your life

1. BEER IS 90% WATER

3. BEER STRENGTHENS 4. BEER IS GOOD BONES FOR YOUR HEART Researches found that due to beers high levels of silicon,which increases the deposit of calcium and other minerals beer does lead to stronger bones

Having a beer can decrease the levels of stress and anxiety which are the leading cause of heart disease

DRINK SAFELY. ALCOHOL NOT FOR PERSONS UNDER THE AGE OF 18

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