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contents Issue 03
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{ your little one }
Moments of motherhood.16
Dental health.................... 38
Creative juggling helps moms to find better balance.
Start good oral hygiene early to establish lifelong habits.
Undercover Mama............. 20
Babyproofing your home. 40
Undies and bras to support your new expanding role.
Create a safe home for everyone in the family.
Sex after kids..................... 22
Nurture good nutrition. 46
Rekindle the romantic flame.
Foods and products to help promote health in the early years.
Budgeting for baby........... 26 A sound investment of your time that pays dividends.
jeepers Sleepers................. 50
Parents’ night out............. 28
Hands up.............................. 52
How to find—and keep—the best babysitter for your tot.
Baby sign language—thumbs up or thumbs down?
Mom’s Night out................. 32
Exploring educational toys.56
4 sexy, simple looks to take out on the town.
Learning through play is the real work of childhood.
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Bedtime tips for babies and kids.
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62 { your life } persuading Picky eaters.. 62 A nutritionist shares tips and tricks for fun food.
in this issue editor’s letter............................... 9 ask Karlene................................ 11 books for you............................. 25 what we’re cooing over............. 44 books for your little one............. 55 you and your little one............... 71 video reviews: fitness................. 75 last word.................................... 82
Winter blast....................... 68 Outdoor fun for the whole family.
Breathe clean and easy... 72
80 Mommy and baby yoga...... 78
Cleaning solutions for a safe and nontoxic home.
Unite your chi.
Prenatal exercise in the water..............................76
Fitness fun for moms and tots............................... 80
Get physical at your local pool.
Exercises to get you both moving.
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Contributors
Caroline Fernandez lives, writes, and does laundry in Toronto. Her writing has been published widely in print and online, particularly in her areas of specialization: parenting and eco living. She incorporates sustainable living into the everyday routines of her young family.
Christina Dennis is a new mom living in Alberta. She considers herself truly blessed to be able to work at home doing all of the artsy things she loves: writing, sewing, knitting, and graphic design. Since the arrival of her daughter, Christina’s life has been turned upside down—and it’s wonderful!
Jenn Farrell is a Vancouver writer, editor, and creative writing teacher. She enjoys hanging out and having fun with her husband, Rob and teenage daughter, Cypress. Her second book of fiction, The Devil You Know, will be published in the spring of 2010 by Anvil Press. jennfarrell.com
Based in Vancouver, Desiree Daniel has worked in various communication roles from life coaching to marketing and is currently embracing the new role of mom. She enjoys tasting life’s eclectic mix of good food, good music, and good people. Desiree loves exploring life’s quirky lessons through freelancing and blogging.
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editor' s letter
Feeling
frazzled?
Let your kids be your guide
Two years ago we started a winter tradition with one of my oldest son’s dearest pals. A local community group was offering cheap and cheery evenings making gingerbread houses. When we told my then-two-and-a-half-year-old where we were going, he ran straight to his room to get something on our way out: his hammer. We were momentarily perplexed, but then it clicked: of course you need a hammer to build a house! That little laugh-out-loud scene was just what I needed to bust some stress. Whether your family skates, skis, or bakes together, winter can be surprisingly and fantastically frantic. Thank heavens for our kids: they keep us grounded. Everyone’s swamped in these crazy modern times, but moms in particular are in overdrive. And is it just me, or do all women still handle every last detail of their family’s social calendar? We’ve all heard the routine advice to avoid burnout: just say no, lower your expectations, and focus on what’s truly important. Those strategies are all fine and good, but most women still find themselves with way too much on the go. So how can we stay sane? If only we could add an extra dimension. Imagine if every day from about 4 pm to 10 pm, while we’re getting the whole dinner/bath/bedtime routine underway, we could simultaneously slip into another time zone and scrub those still dirty toilets, print those digital photos (that have been sitting on our computers since 2006), change those musty bed sheets, and even head out on a special date night?
If only! Barring extra-dimensional multitasking, one way to make the most of the holidays without getting caught up in so much unnecessary stress is to take a cue from yoga class: practise “mindfulness.” That’s a fancy way of saying “be in the moment.” Try to stop yourself from worrying about what you need to do tomorrow or what you forgot to do yesterday. Children are instinctively mindful. They’re not stressed about what’s happening later in the day or in two weeks; they just want to play trains or paint or read—right now! Here’s my advice: When you’re feeling frazzled, take a deep breath and let your kids be your guide. Instead of trying to do it all, drop the cookie cutters and the dust rags and get down on the floor with your little ones and play. Take in all of the crazy and clever things they come up with. That’s the real magic of life that can be found every day. We hope this issue of blush—with articles on winter fun (page 68), rekindling your sex life (page 22), hiring your first babysitter (page 28), and terrific family-friendly recipes (page 62)—finds you happy, healthy, and mindful. From all of us at blush to all of you, winter’s warmest wishes! b
Gail Johnson Managing Editor
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There’s no need for embarrassment—hemorrhoids (swollen veins) are all too common during pregnancy. They often result from hormonal changes, constipation, alteration in muscle tone, and extra pressure on the intestinal organs from the growing baby. They can be uncomfortable, painful, and sometimes bleed. Topical treatment with a hemorrhoid creme can help to alleviate itching, swollen hemorrhoids. But to avoid constipation and hemorrhoids altogether, eat foods high in fibre such
as fruits, vegetables, and whole grain cereals and drink plenty of fluids. Regular exercise and movement is essential to improve circulation and keep your digestive system moving. A brisk, 30-minute walk each day, swimming, and yoga postures can strengthen your circulatory system. Consider adding a fibre supplement if you’re still experiencing constipation after altering your diet and exercise program. And never resist the urge to defecate as it can promote bowel congestion, constipation, and eventually hard and painful passing of stool. b
Hemorrhoid facts: » Pregnant women can be prone to hemorrhoids, partly because the uterus is positioned directly on blood vessels that drain the hemorrhoidal veins. » Some people may have a single episode of hemorrhoids, while others may experience ongoing symptoms. » Many women who have hemorrhoids during pregnancy may experience a resolution of symptoms shortly after their delivery, never to have a problem again.
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My baby was the same when I tried to introduce a bottle, and I couldn’t blame him for resisting the change from a warm, nurturing breast to a hard plastic bottle. However, after just a few days he got the hang of it. Pumping for the first few days and putting breast milk in the bottle will help with the transition. This way baby gets used to the new nipple. For example, start mixing half breast milk, half milk (or formula depending on baby’s age), and then over about a week, increase the milk/
formula and decrease the breast milk until it’s all milk/formula. As for Mom, weaning can be uncomfortable for different reasons: the emotion of letting go and the physical change. A mom should allow several weeks for complete weaning. The first step is to replace one breastfeeding with formula or milk and solid foods. After a few days, a second breastfeeding is replaced in the same way. This process continues until all breastfeedings have been replaced. This schedule will allow the breasts to adjust with little discomfort. }
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5.7
million
was the number of grandparents in Canada, according to the 2001 General Social Survey of Statistics Canada. Children who are in touch with their grandparents often create a special bond. They learn about the elderly, gain a sense of history, and experience life from the perspective of someone older.
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moments of
motherhood Balance is your key to success
Jenn Farrell
Parenting is about balance—and being able to cope when things are less than calm. Between meeting your child’s daily needs and tending to your own life, it’s important to find ways to enjoy the moments and the memories of motherhood.
I Meet three busy moms who’ve found their own balance
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Juggling time and expectations Noelle Allen I Hamilton, Ontario, mother of Isaac, 5, and Sam, 2 As the owner and publisher of publishing house Wolsak and Wynn and the mother of two boys under five, Noelle Allen says she loves the “crazy mix” that is her life at the moment. Allen and her husband, who live in Hamilton, Ontario, are both selfemployed and bring a love of literature to Isaac, five, and Sam, two-and-a-half. Both boys are energetic: Issac loves to talk and attends French immersion senior kindergarten, and Sam, who has Down’s syndrome and a “smile that’s capable of charming anyone into giving him a cookie,” can clear a shelf of books in under a minute. She admits that things don’t always go smoothly, and it’s not always easy to handle the usual hiccups in childcare
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arrangements. Managing her business while keeping both boys occupied and entertained involves some of what she calls “creative juggling.” But the rewards of spending time with her sons and discovering who they are make it all worthwhile. “Sam in particular has been a revelation,” she says. Having a child with Down’s syndrome drastically changed her thinking about her expectations as a parent and about kids with the genetic condition. “I don’t think I’ve ever known someone so consistently charming and happy.” In addition to fostering a passion for books, Allen makes time to enjoy nature with her boys and for playing, travelling, eating, and “even trying to clean the house” as a family. If she could travel back in time to give herself any child-rearing words of wisdom, Allen says she’d tell herself that kids take way more time than you
expect, so it helps to learn to do things in 15-minute increments. “The big thing to remember when you are trying to do something with small children is that it will always take at least twice as long as it would have before small children—three times as long if getting into a snowsuit is part of the equation.”
parenting a preschooler—again Erin Culhane I Maple Ridge, BC, mother of Tarin, 14, Haleigh, 12, and Max, 3 Think getting your little one to go to bed is a challenge? Try it when he wants to know why his older brother and sister don’t have to. That’s the case for Erin Culhane, whose eldest and youngest children are more than a decade apart. Culhane lives in Maple Ridge, BC, and is a mother of three. Two of her kids are from a previous marriage: Tarin, 14, and Haleigh, 12. The latest arrival, three-and-a-half year-old Maxwell, is Erin’s son with her husband, Dave. In addition to parenting, Culhane is a freelance journalist and an active volunteer in her community. She says that while she knew her older kids were excited about a new sibling, she was amazed by their enthusiasm for Max and the way they’ve engaged with him. “It was great that my kids got to be a part of falling in love with a new baby and that nurturing process,” Culhane says. “And it was wonderful for Max too, to be surrounded by that much love.” Those good feelings haven’t abated. She says that Tarin and Haleigh dote on Max, and Max absolutely adores his big brother and sister. Despite the advantages of having children who were old enough to have some independence, Culhane was careful to let her older kids remain kids and not feel like Max’s new babysitters. “Max is a full part of our family, not anyone’s half-brother and
It was great that my kids got to be a part of falling in love with a new baby. certainly not someone whom they had to help parent all of a sudden.” Having two adolescents and a preschooler can get a little frantic, especially with school, sports, and social activities all filling the calendar, however. Culhane says that “getting everyone to where they need to be, keeping things tidy, and constantly being on the go can be exhausting.” She works hard to carve out family time to balance all the running around with movie nights, make-your-ownpizza dinners, and other things all
three kids can enjoy. “No matter how busy things get, it’s really important to me that by the time all my kids have left home, I’m not left thinking, gee, I wish I’d spent more time with them.” Keeping tabs on three busy kids is hard work, but it’s a job Culhane wouldn’t trade for anything. The only thing she would have done differently? “Concurrent with reading to them and teaching the ABCs, I might have spent some more time on teaching them how to unload the dishwasher!” }
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Professor Mom Ailsa Craig I St. John’s, Newfoundland, mother of Silas, 6, and August, 17 months Ailsa Craig admits that starting a family while in graduate school may not have seemed like the most logical decision. But her careful planning paid off—she’s been a professor of sociology for four years at Memorial University in St. John’s, Newfoundland. She and her husband, George, have two sons: six-year-old Silas and August, who’s 20 months. Facing the challenges of raising two boys while juggling teaching, writing, and administrative work calls for an elaborate time-management system— and a lot of flexibility. “When time is this tight, it becomes more concentrated,” she says. “It’s a big motivator that way—I work more efficiently.” She calls herself something of an overachiever and says that becoming a parent has actually helped her slow down. “My job makes me go all the time, but you can’t make kids speed up to your pace; you’ve got to adapt and slow down to theirs. It’s made me have a more sane life and given me some perspective.” Getting enough sleep is never easy for this family. Her sons are “the products of an insomniac mother and sleepwalker father,” so an uninterrupted night’s rest is a rare thing. She reminds herself that it’s all temporary and something she’ll survive, which she agrees is easier to remember with your second child. “You can see the light at the end of the tunnel.”
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They’re such interesting people, and I’m glad I get to know them. Lighten your load
But a little tiredness is all worth it when Craig watches Si and Augie tucking into salmon and fresh vegetables for dinner, picking wild blueberries, and playing along the beautiful coastline. “I like watching them figure stuff out and figuring it out with them,” she says. “They’re such interesting people, and I’m glad I get to know them.” Craig says that regarding her children as “younger people” is her parenting philosophy, and she tries to listen to them and respond to them with love and respect. She also makes as much time for them as possible. “Even though it’s a cliché to say ‘enjoy them, they grow up so fast,’ it’s true,” she says. “I can write a research paper a lot of times in my career. So some days, we’re going to play imaginary games and run around outside for seven hours instead.” b
If you’re like most blush moms, there are never enough hours in the day to look after your family’s needs, work responsibilities, and household chores—let alone yourself. There’s a difference between striving to be a supermom—an impossible ideal that hopefully most of us have long gotten over—and being a super mom.
Super moms »d elegate responsibility—at work and at home » t each their kids to help out with chores suitable for their age »p rioritize rather than procrastinate »d o what they can » l earn to say NO » r emember to look after themselves!
Jenn Farrell is a Vancouver writer, editor, and teacher. She is also a mom to 15-yearold Cypress and honorary auntie to several delightful tots.
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Undercover mama The switch to mommy undies
Christina Dennis
When you’re newly pregnant, shopping for clothes is a whole new experience. Jeans come with fabric panels at the belly, tops are embellished with pleats, and
everything is forgivingly stretchy. And after your bundle of joy arrives, it might be difficult to find clothes that fit your new shape.
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An often neglected part of the pre- and postnatal wardrobe is not the fashion on top, but rather what lies beneath— your undergarments. It’s slightly surprising when your pregnant tush just won’t squeeze into last month’s thong or when your more generously proportioned bosom seems to spill out of your pre-pregnant bra. Finally, when you hit the “yes, I’m actually pregnant” point, you realize it’s time for an upgrade in the undies department. But what should you look for? And what’s comfiest after your baby arrives?
Your bra The bra for expecting and new mommies is an important piece in a woman’s wardrobe. It’s vital to offer your “girls” as much support as you can during and after your pregnancy. A common misconception is that your breasts lose their shape and perkiness due to breastfeeding. But it’s often a lack of support from the proper bra during pregnancy that can cause a case of the flops. Your growing chest needs all the help it can get, so a comfortable and wellfitting bra will pay dividends, both during pregnancy and beyond.
What to look for:
* Comfort is crucial! Look for
natural fibres, smooth seams, and broad straps.
* Indulge in a professional bra fitting. Your breasts are changing, and you might not know how to best handle your new size.
* For breastfeeding mothers there
are many wonderful and reasonably priced nursing bras on the market.
Look for ones that unsnap easily. There’s nothing more frustrating than holding a wailing newborn in one hand while having to fumble with a complicated contraption with the other. Don’t forget to invest in cloth or disposable nursing pads that slip into the bra—they’re lifesavers when you’re leaking.
Your undies Remember the days when you made fun of women who wore “granny panties” (those with a high waist and full bum coverage)? Well, those days are long gone as you approach and experience motherhood. You’ll probably find that, just like your bra, undies are better when they’re comfier. It may come as a shock that, not only do your tummy and breasts grow during pregnancy, your bottom will expand too. There’s no need to turn and examine it in your mirror each day to chart its growth; just accept it for now with a smile and offer it the gift of more forgiving and comfortable coverings.
What to look for:
* Again: comfort, comfort, comfort!
Opt for natural fibres such as cotton, which also help minimize odour and prevent yeast infections.
* For pregnant women, bikini-cut panties sit nicely beneath the growing belly, causing minimal rubbing and pinching.
* Postpartum women may prefer
undies with a higher cut that cover more of the tummy to help smooth the post-baby bump. Also on the market are increasingly popular slimming undergarments. They do
“ You’ll probably find that, just like your bra, undies are better when they’re comfier.” an amazing job of taming that bump, but they’re pricey. Then there are girdles and panties with tummycontrol panels. They’re not the most comfortable items in the world, so use them for special occasions only. As your body changes during this special time in your life, make sure to renovate your underwear wardrobe too. As pregnant women and moms know, a little comfort goes a long way. In the end, it’s what’s beneath that counts. b
Christina Dennis, a graphic designer living in Stony Plain, Alberta, donned her “granny panties” after giving birth to her beautiful baby girl in January 2009. thediymommy.com
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after kids
tips to keep the passion alive
Gail Johnson
Helen Lawson remembers how sexually ravenous she and her husband were when they started dating. They had sex whenever and wherever they could: while out on a snowshoeing expedition, in their car, and on a secluded Mexican beach. Then they had kids.
Many moms can relate to the dry spell that Lawson and her spouse experienced after the birth of their two children, now two and four. After pregnancy and childbirth, new moms often face a diminished sex drive. Add in weight gain, sleepless nights, frequent breastfeeding, and sore nipples, and it’s no wonder sex often takes a back seat. Even as their infants turn into toddlers, a lot of parents feel more in the mood to say “Let’s make lunch” than “Let’s make love.” So what does it take for couples to rekindle that romantic spark? And how do they keep it burning?
Relighting the fire Lawson took things into her own hands when her second child was a year old. She and her husband were only doing it about once a month, and she was determined to get their sex life back on track. So for his birthday she gave him a gift that keeps on giving: a workshop
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of his choice for the two to attend at an erotica boutique. He picked one on orgasmic oral sex. “Even just the thought of it added some fire,” Lawson says of the class. “I wanted to add a bit of spice and just thought, let’s have a bit of fun. Now we’re back on the horse. It’s really made us a lot happier. I sleep better, and it’s brought us closer.” There’s no denying just how important sex is to a happy marriage, says Ottawa-based registered sex therapist Sue McGarvie. She notes that sex ebbs and flows, but if you’ve stopped having sex altogether, there are concrete ways to crank the sexual heat back up; even if it’s as simple as a weekly sensual massage. McGarvie says that everyone—men in particular—needs touch. Then there is the need for privacy.
Behind closed doors “You need to put a lock on the bedroom door,” says McGarvie. “Mommy and Daddy are allowed personal space, just
as kids need time with their friends. And kids need to know that’s allowed.” She also suggests scheduling sex so that both partners can plan for and anticipate sex. “It doesn’t preclude spontaneous sex,” notes McGarvie, who, as a mother of two herself, has a regular session with her husband during Monday Night Football’s halftime show. Another tip? Engage in nongenital touch for three minutes every single day. “It allows you to have a moment together, and it will help keep the marriage intact,” says McGarvie, who applauds a friend with twins who, in the early days, hired a babysitter so she and her husband could get in their car and park a few blocks away to be alone. Sandy Fraser, who works part time and has a one-year-old and a threeyear-old, admits she’s sometimes just too tired. But she sees the positive effect sex has on other parts of her life. “If you put the effort into having sex more, you feel closer, so you will }
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Tips for date night in
While quickies have their place, it’s harder for women than men to drop everything and focus on pleasure.
» Put on music and light some candles. » Consider gourmet take-out. Even if you enjoy cooking, you don’t want to be left with a lot of cleanup. » Don’t splurge on expensive lingerie, but even new, sexy undies can help get you both in the mood. » Relive the early days of your relationship. Have a bubble bath together, give each other back massages, or try out some toys. » Think outside the bedroom: get busy on the couch or your kitchen floor. Why not?
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actually want to have it more,” Fraser says. “When you feel so much closer, you find the stresses of being a parent so much easier to deal with. It makes me feel like we’re a team.”
Date night in While date nights out are important, Fraser likes the idea of date nights in. One evening she arranged for her in-laws to take her kids for a sleepover. Her husband made an extravagant dinner, complete with grapefruit martinis (her favourite), freshly shucked oysters, and candles. “It actually wasn’t that much effort, but it felt so special,” she says. “I put on a nice dress, and it was very romantic.” Feeling good about herself also works wonders. “It helps to be feeling sexy, feeling attractive,” she says. “I’ve found that doing things for myself, such as running and getting a haircut, help.” Like Fraser, Lawson makes good use of her kids’ nap time. “We have a lot of quickies,” Lawson says. While quickies have their place, parenting expert Ann Douglas notes that it’s harder for women than men to drop everything and focus on pleasure. “Women are so tuned into what’s going on with their children; they can’t just emotionally change gears and head upstairs to the bedroom—or to the kitchen counter if that’s more their style,” says Douglas, author of The Mother of all Baby Books (Wiley, 2001). “Women can’t go from zero to 60. Men can disengage and just want to have sex. They get to that happy emotional
place by having sex, while women have to be in that happy emotional place to have sex. “It helps women to just have some couple time beforehand, even if you’re just talking or watching a goofy TV show,” she adds.
Communicating is crucial Honest conversation is crucial to salvaging a sex life that might be lacking, Douglas notes. “To get things back on track, you’ve got to have healthy communication. It’s important to see things from the other person’s perspective.” Getting away is also beneficial, whether it’s a weekly dinner date or a holiday. In between, Douglas urges people to do “silly, romantic” things all the time, such as slipping love notes into your partner’s briefcase or sending suggestive emails. “You have to stay connected all the time,” she says. “Even if you can’t get away for a romantic getaway, ask yourself, ‘what can I do to make sure he knows how much he matters to me?’” Therapist McGarvie reminds us that maintaining a healthy sex life is also just plain fun. “You need to have an affair with your husband and be lovers again,” McGarvie says. “Call him at work and tell him to get home and have a nooner. It’s about being a great partner in every way.” b Gail Johnson is the managing editor of blush magazine.
Books for you Cheers to the New Mom! / Cheers to the New Dad!
Let’s Go Outside
The Work at Home Success Bible
Tips for Mom are collected in one half of this fun guide, and tips for Dad in the other half. This book is filled with information that’s essential for first-time parents: for instance, how to handle interfering in-laws; and how new parents can keep their romance alive. Presented in quick and easy lists and bullet points, this helpful book is also very practical for time-pressed parents.
Let’s Go Outside offers 52 ideas for whole family fun with stimulating outdoor activities that will appeal to kids aged eight to 12. Whether you are creating a field guide to your neighbourhood, going stargazing on a moonlight walk, or crafting a tree swing together, this book will guide you through the setup and steps required. Perfect for prying kids away from the television and into the great outdoors.
This guide shows moms how to find the job that best fits their needs, organize a home office, and schedule their daily business tasks so that they are able to make money while staying home with their kids. With handy tips on avoiding distractions and establishing a work/life balance, The Work at Home Success Bible is a great resource for moms looking to earn from home.
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Second Acts That Change Lives
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An ancient grain that has been eaten for thousands of years, flax is also rich in alpha-linolenic acid, fibre, protein, and phytochemicals. Everything Flax offers more than 100 easy ways to work this nutritional superstar into your everyday diet, and includes helpful tips on buying and storing flax. Try the delicious Flax-Coated Goat Cheese and Apple Salad for lunch, or the flax-enhanced Biscuits for Toddlers for your little one.
Have you been so absorbed with building a career or raising a family (or both!) that the dreams you had for yourself were set aside for more immediate concerns? This is a collection of inspiring stories from people who reinvented themselves later in life—changing careers or reaching out to help others. For anyone considering a major life change, this book will motivate you to achieve your goals.
Looking for practical, down-to-earth parenting advice? This compact book is filled with useful tips from that seasoned pro, the British nanny. Author Fairchild offers reassuring advice on everything from potty training to tantrums, with a dollop of humour and sprinkled with sweet Victorian-era line drawings. A great gift idea for new parents.
By Jenna McCarthy Sasquatch Books, 2009 160 pages, $14.95 ISBN: 978-1570615580
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By Jennifer Ward Shambhala Publications, 2009 144 pages, $17.95 ISBN: 978-1590306987
By Mary Beth Sammons Conari Press, 2009 176 pages, $14.95 ISBN: 978-1573243681
By Leslie Truex Adams Media, 2009 336 pages, $14.95 ISBN: 978-1598699166
By Penelope Fairchild Conari Press, 2008 96 pages, $9.95 ISBN: 978-1573244169
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Budgeting for baby … and what’s to come
Dana Bidnall
What costs $167,000, is totally dependent on you for 18 years (or longer), and may or may not show any return on your investment? According to the Canadian Council on Social Development, it’s the cost of raising a child to the age of 18. If you’re planning on having a child, it’s time to open a savings account for this purpose. Invest ahead of time to pay for expenses during parental leave when your income is reduced. Of course sometimes the good news comes unexpectedly. In this case, you can still put away some savings; you’ll simply have less time in which to watch them grow.
Expecting Knowing in advance what expenses to anticipate can help you budget more easily. Make a list of all these expenses. Some of the larger ones include diapers, formula, a crib and nursery furniture, car seat, and stroller, along with toiletries, clothing, bedding, and toys. Factor in child care if you’re planning to return to work. Remember to include the purchase of life insurance and the creation of a will, if you don’t have one.
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try living on it before baby comes. If you’d like to be a stay-at-home mom, try living on one salary. Family and friends often want to buy gifts for baby. To get items you really need, set up a baby registry.
First and second year One of the biggest expenses in a child’s first year is diapers. Cloth diapers are more economical than disposable diapers as they can be reused; however, they involve more start-up costs. Research the options, and see which makes the most sense for you. For moms unable to breastfeed, formula is also a major expense—watch for sales and stock up. Powder formula is cheaper than liquid formula.
Child care costs: For those returning to the workforce, child care costs are a big, but necessary, expense. Research your options as early as possible, as some out-of-home child care options have wait-lists. If you prefer a nanny, you’ll want lots of time to find a child care provider with whom you and your child are comfortable.
Third year and beyond By age three most toddlers are toilet trained which means a big savings on diapers. Your little one is likely growing like a weed, but purchasing brand-new clothing is not necessary since they grow out of it quickly. Look for gently used items at thrift or consignment stores or swap outgrown clothing with other moms.
Recreational savings: If you’re thinking about putting your child in an activity such as a sport or a dance class, check out programs offered at community or recreation centres. These are often cheaper than private establishments. Used sporting goods stores are a great place to shop for used equipment, as are online or newspaper classifieds. While having a child can be expensive, with a little planning and some money-saving tips, you can reduce your financial worries and invest in your little one with pride. b Dana Bidnall is a Vancouver writer and the proud auntie of two young nieces.
Top 10 expenses for baby’s first year
$1,500 to $2,500*
» formula (varies from powdered to liquid)
$1,000 to $1,500
» reusable diapers (will last for two to three years)
$700 to $1,000
» disposable diapers (based on a one-year supply)
$300 to $960
» sleepers and clothing items
$250 to $1,000 » crib and mattress
$150 to $500 » car seat
$125 to $650
» bedding (four-piece crib set)
$100 to $750 » stroller
$70 to $350 » change table
$40 to $200 » baby carrier
*All costs are based on mid-priced products.
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Let’s face it: babies are expensive! You can easily spend $10,000 on just the basics during baby’s first year. Plan for these and other expenses in advance so you won’t be caught short.
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Parents ' night out Finding the right babysitter Daniela Ginta, MSc
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Babysitting seems straightforward to most people—until they become parents. Whether they want to go out for a date night or they have work functions to attend, parents looking to hire a babysitter, especially for the first time, might not know where to begin. Karen Hughes, owner of Almost As Good As Mum, a nanny agency in Vancouver, and a mom herself, has seen it all. “It’s natural to feel anxious no matter who is looking after your child,” Hughes says, adding that it’s important to do your research before hiring someone, and that you can never take too many precautions when it comes to your children. “Parents should talk to the babysitter’s former employers. They will feel less nervous about leaving their child with that person and will actually enjoy their time out.”
Where to start Some people know neighbours and coworkers with teenage kids who are willing to babysit. There are also babysitting agencies. No matter who you choose, make sure they have certain certifications, such as a babysitting course (offered by the Canadian Red Cross, for example). If you use an agency, be ready to ask about the checks they do on prospective babysitters. Reputable agencies always do a criminal record and a driver’s licence check, Hughes says. Safety should always come first when dealing with children, and it’s a good idea for babysitters to have first aid and CPR training. Some parents are lucky enough to have family members who are willing to babysit.
“We always tried to get help from family members and close friends,” says Linda Hunter, a mom of two. “We used babysitters’ services only after the kids were verbal, and later on we took turns with family friends watching each others’ kids.” Once her children could talk, Hunter explains, it helped them better communicate with the babysitter, plus it made it easier for her to get a sense of her kids’ experience with the sitter. Be it family, friends, or a babysitter watching your child, Hughes points out, it’s easier to start when she is still a baby, so that she gets used to spending time with someone else. Expect toddlers to have a harder time letting go of their parents, especially if they have never been left alone with a new person.
Getting acquainted “It is very important that prospective babysitters spend at least one hour with the family, at their home, before the actual babysitting,” Hughes says. It gives your child a chance to meet the babysitter and get to know her, and you a chance to see them interact, she }
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Secrets of babysitting a toddler Let’s face it: babysitting a toddler can be intimidating. They can turn from sweet to grumpy in no time. Here are some tips on how to keep them happy. »M ake sock puppets for impromptu plays. » Bring out the finger paints and make handprints. » Invite them to read a book when they seem tired. »O ffer healthy snacks—happy faces made out of fruit shapes will do—when they become irritable.
The extra hour also allows you to talk to the babysitter about what's expected. The Canadian Red Cross offers its Babysitting Course to adolescents 11 years and older. From feeding to changing diapers to dealing with medical emergencies, teenagers learn important childcare and first aid skills. The course is available through many schools and community centres.
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explains. The extra hour, usually paid for by the parents, also allows you to talk to the babysitter about what’s expected of her and what the family routines are. If you live next door to a great babysitter who is available when you need him, count your lucky stars. Children who form a bond with their caregivers tend to behave better and feel less anxious when their parents are away. It’s less worrisome for the parents, too. Ideally, Hughes says, an agency will try to provide the same babysitter to a family, especially if the parents’ engagements are regular, such as weekly dinner outings. Treat your babysitter well and with respect. The childbabysitter bond is important, but so is the one between the parents and the sitter.
To share or not to share? You’ve found a great babysitter. Children love her, she always tidies up after the kids go to bed, and she is available whenever you need her. Should you tell your mom friends about her? Hughes laughs as she answers the question. “Many parents don’t. A good babysitter is very valuable, and they worry that they may lose her to other families. Unless you are a really close friend, you might not get that phone number.” When it comes to child care, parents want the best person for the job. Sharing is nice, but sometimes you have to admit to your friends that great babysitters are hard to come by. b Daniela Ginta, MSc, is a freelance writer from Vancouver, BC. Most of her time is spent with her boys and the rest is divided between writing, teaching, and reading.
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Moms need a night out, too. Looking for something sexy but simple to wear out on the town? Here are our suggestions for looks that are easy to pull together and comfortable to wear. Purple, one of the hot colours this season, suits all hair colours and skin tones, and jewel tones are perfect for wintertime.
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Styling tip: Keep accessories to a minimum—the flowing lines of this dress should take focus. Choose a necklace that sits high, such as a choker, to best complement the neckline. Add a silver purse and a distinctive ring for a bit of glitter, and you’re good to go. Fit tip: The empire silhouette is flattering for many body types, emphasizing the upper body and disguising any extra post-baby weight in the tummy or hips. The high waist also helps create the illusion of length.
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Why it works: Unlike some styles which look good but feel bad—think tight designer jeans or cinched waists—the empire waist is great-looking and comfortable, too.
The sleeveless top Why it works: A simple sleeveless top in a shimmery fabric is a great wardrobe staple. This style can be dressed up with a skirt or black pants for a formal event, or worn more casually with jeans for girls’ night out. Styling tip: To ward off winter chills, pair with a black cardigan. Choose one with a hemline ending no lower than the waistline of your pants or skirt in order to keep this look polished. Fit tip: Look for tops with extra detailing at the neckline—such as pleats, beads, or gemstones—to draw attention up. A slight A-line cut is flattering and comfortable for all body types.
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The classic combo Why it works: Black and white are a combination that provide instant polish and a classic appeal. Styling tip: Add a blazer in a soft, touchable fabric such as velvet. Have a bit of fun with your shoes: these pumps with a lace overlay, peekaboo toe, and little bow keep the look fun and flirty.
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Fit tip: Look for extra design details to keep this interesting: ruffles on the front of the shirt, or a side slit on the skirt. If you’re short, make sure to keep the hemline of the skirt above the knee in order to add height.
“ A classic V-neck is perfect to showcase your bling.” The bling thing Just not in the mood to dress up, even though you’ve committed to an evening out? Rather than putting on something you won’t feel comfortable in, opt for some bling to add sparkle to your look. Simply pair a one-of-a-kind necklace with your favourite black sweater and a black skirt or pants, and you’re set. Why it works: Everyone has a black sweater in her wardrobe. This look is easy to pull together if you don’t have time to plan an entire outfit. Styling tip: Don’t go for a tiny pendant on a gold chain for this look; the necklace really is the outfit here. Go for a chunky design, such as this knotted-look silver link necklace, or try something with eyecatching gems, beads, or pearls.
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dental Tips for your child’s first teeth
health Terry Poulos, DDS
Healthy baby teeth are important. They help children eat well, speak clearly, and allow adult teeth to grow in properly. But baby teeth need proper care to avoid future problems. All 20 baby teeth usually come in by the time your child is three years old. Tooth eruption varies from child to child, so don’t be too concerned. As with all stages of child development, there’s a lot of variation among children. Most children start to get teeth around six months, but it’s not unusual for teeth to begin appearing as early as three months or as late as one year.
Before baby’s born Caring for your baby’s teeth starts during pregnancy. It’s important that your teeth are healthy while you’re pregnant, as well as after the birth of your child. Keep your teeth clean to avoid passing bacteria on to your baby. Poor nutrition in pregnancy impacts your child’s teeth—be sure to include sources of calcium and vitamin D in your diet.
After baby’s born Start oral care before teeth appear. Use a clean soft cloth or gauze to wipe your baby’s gums and mouth twice a day beginning at birth. This not only clears food debris, but babies get used to the
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act of oral care and makes introducing a toothbrush much easier when teeth are present.
Brushing Once the first tooth appears, use a soft baby toothbrush with toothpaste. Use only a tiny dab of toothpaste; at age three it should be no larger than the size of a pea. Toothpaste should not be swallowed; encourage children to spit out toothpaste and keep it out of their reach. Brush twice a day, especially before bedtime. Brushing should last about two minutes, and if the gums bleed, that means they need more regular brushing to keep them healthy. It’s often easier to brush your baby’s teeth when the child is lying down. You can try various positions: » hold your baby in your arms in the feeding position » lay your baby on a change table making sure they cannot fall off » place your baby on a couch or bed with their head in your lap » lay your baby on the floor with their head on a pillow placed between your legs
“ Poor nutrition in pregnancy impacts your child’s teeth—be sure to include sources of calcium and vitamin D in your diet.”
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bedtime bottles Never put your child to sleep with a bottle of anything but water. Milk, juice, formula, and many other beverages contain sugar, which can cause serious tooth decay when left in your baby’s mouth while they sleep. Save those drinks for meals and snacks. If your child needs help breaking the habit of going to sleep with a bottle, gradually dilute its contents with water.
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Flossing To help prevent cavities in between teeth introduce the process at a young age when your baby has teeth that are touching each other. Children are then more likely to continue flossing in adulthood. Talk to your dentist about the right timing and technique.
Dental visits Start dental visits when your baby is about one year old. This first visit allows your dentist to take a quick visual look. This visit, and subsequent ones, gets children used to the dental
office environment and makes them more comfortable when it comes time for them to have full exams and cleanings. On average, cleanings usually begin when children are four years old. Practising good oral hygiene is a lifelong habit that reaps many health rewards. Helping your child to develop these habits from an early age is a gift that will keep on giving. b Terry Poulos, DDS, has been practising and teaching dentistry since 1989. Originally from Toronto, he now practises holistic general dentistry in Vancouver.
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What about fluoride? I usually recommend a nonfluoridated toothpaste until children develop a swallow reflex (usually around four to five years old). If children are susceptible to cavities, your dentist may recommend fluoride to help slow this process.
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If your little one doesn’t like having his or her teeth brushed, here are some tips to end the toothbrush battle. » Be a role model. Let your kids watch you brush and floss, and show them how much fun you have. » Tell a story. Tell your child that you’re cleaning apples and tomatoes from his/her teeth— ham it up a little. » Sing a special toothbrushing song. Make one up or sing Raffi’s “Brush Your Teeth.”
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Babyproofing your home
One step at a time
Desiree Daniel
Babyproofing a home can be a daunting task. A scan around the house might reveal window blind cords dangling on the floor, cleaning solution on the counter, and unsecured shelving leaning against the wall—all of which could be hazardous. And those are just the obvious dangers. Creating a safe home for the new addition to the family is a big job, but the key is to look at everything in a totally different way: through the eyes of a child. Alyson McKendrick, coordinator of Safe Start, an injury prevention program at BC Children’s hospital, recommends that parents take the proofing project in stages. Most serious preparation begins prior to the baby turning six months— when she starts getting more active and mobile—however, you always want to be a step ahead of the child, so the earlier the better.
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As you go through each room, look for the safety hot spots from your child’s point of view. Some of the least obvious things to you could be potential dangers to a baby, and as your child matures these hazards could change. “Get down on the floor and look from their angle,” McKendrick says. “There may be small items that have fallen on the floor—like bread bag ties, coins, screws—all potential choking hazards. See what is on the other side of those easy-to-reach cupboards and drawers.”
Choking hazards These are everyday items you may not think about when surveying baby’s environment for potential problems. » Band-Aids » popcorn kernels » peanut butter by the spoon » hair clips » bread bag ties » balloons (inflated or uninflated)
“ A parent’s best proofing method is still constant supervision.” Behind closed doors Cupboards containing dangerous objects and substances such as knives, plastic bags, cleaning products, and medications should be secured, and, if applicable, clearly labelled. Cupboard latches come in a range of styles and prices, from plastic clips to magnet
Choking hazards For the finger-sucking ages (newborn and up), parents should always do a quick sweep to make sure easy-to-grab pieces have not fallen into cribs or car seats. This includes the beloved pacifier. Constantly check it for loose bits or signs of breakdown and consider replacing it every couple of months. For children prone to chewing things, Health Canada recommends swapping the pacifier with a teething ring.
Burns Standard tips in the kitchen include using back burners to cook, turning pot handles so they’re pointing to the back of stove, and refraining from playtime under foot. However, the most common burn injuries are scalds from hot liquids such as soup, tea, and coffee. Never leave a pot of coffee or tea close to the edge of a countertop where a child could reach it. “If you are holding a baby, don’t drink anything hot at the same
locks, and are an excellent way to stop exploring fingers. Moving hazardous items to outof-reach places works well too, but having wooden spoons, pots, and other harmless objects in an unlocked, accessible cupboard is a great way to let kids play safely in your shared space.
Anything that can fit inside a toilet paper roll can fit into a tiny mouth and block an airway: batteries, jewellery, deflated balloons, and so on. Foods that are not cut into bitesize pieces can be trouble too, such as wieners, which are the perfect shape to plug the airway. A parent’s best proofing method is still constant supervision and teaching children not to put objects in their mouths.
time,” McKendrick adds. “Enjoy your beverage when baby is elsewhere. A travel mug with a tight lid is a great option even at home. If baby grabs it, it will only be a trickle and not a whole cup.” Other burns originate from heating sources. Adjust water tanks to a maximum of 120 F (49 C) and, if possible, leave off gas fireplaces while children are awake. You can also install gates made especially to block hearth fireplaces. }
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Did you know? In the 13 years McKendrick has been with Safe Start, she has seen an increase in cases of furniture and television sets tipping over as well as burns from gas fireplaces. Safe Kids Canada reports that 18,000 children visit the emergency room every year with injuries associated with the home.
Falls and falling objects Prevent your child from harmful falls by monitoring your own habits. Often parents will place young babies in bouncy chairs or in car seats on a countertop or lie them down on change tables and adult beds and leave them unattended. These behaviours may appear safe when the child is very small, but there is always a danger that she will shift and fall, and consequences can include serious injury or even death. Although unsteady, many babies start cruising by six months. Tumbles off stools or large toys onto hard surfaces such as coffee tables and fireplace hearths are extremely common. Ease the way for your
Cords and outlets Loose computer, stereo, and television cords are tempting to play with but also pose a strangulation hazard. Cord covers are available at most hardware stores and help gather cords to keep them concealed. You can also buy covers to keep plugs from getting pulled out of a power bar. Choose outlet covers that fully shield the outlet itself.
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toddler by padding sharp corners or making a “stroll space” out of vinyl floor play mats away from harsh edges and furniture. There may be rooms you’d rather the child stay out of completely, as well as stairways, and a bolted gate makes an effective blockade. All windows should also be in a locked position no wider than 4 in (10 cm) to prevent baby from climbing through. As children get older and start exploring, it’s possible for wall units, bookcases, and china cabinets to tip over when pulled or climbed on, so it’s crucial to anchor them securely to the wall. Televisions should be placed on furniture close to the ground and as far back from the edge as possible.
Window cords are similarly dangerous to little ones. All cribs, beds, and furniture should be moved away from windows and window cords; ideally, to another wall. Cordless window coverings are best for children’s bedrooms and play areas. Keep any window pull cords in your home (and their inner lift cords) out of reach of children.
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A caution about houseplants It only takes a moment for kids to get themselves into trouble, and something as simple as a houseplant can be a beacon to curious babies and toddlers. The National Capital Poison Center notes that the following houseplants can be poisonous … so it’s best to just keep them out of your home altogether.
Common name
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lantana
Lantana camara
lily of the valley
Convallaria majalis
mayapple
Podophyllum peltatum
Dieffenbachia
mistletoe
Viscum album
Colocasia esculenta
morning glory
Ipomoea
foxglove
Digitalis purpurea
mountain laurel
Kalmia Iatifolia
holly
Ilex
oleander
Nerium oleander
iris
Iris
peace lily
Spathiphyllum
Jerusalem cherry
Solanum pseudocapsicum
philodendron
Philodendron
yew
Taxus
Botanical name
azalea, rhododendron
Rhododendron
caladium
Caladium
daffodil
Narcissus
dumbcane elephant ear
“Some of the least obvious things to you could be potential dangers to a baby.”
Helpful websites + Safe Start bcchildrens.ca/KidsTeensFam/ChildSafety/SafeStart + Health Canada hc-sc.gc.ca/cps-spc/child-enfant/index-eng.php + Children’s Safety Association of Canada safekid.org + BC Drug and Poison Information Center dpic.org
Drowning According to Safe Kids Canada, drowning is one of the leading causes of death in children of all ages. The obvious culprit is the bath. For newborns and up, it’s advised to not use a bath ring, which gives parents a false sense of security. The suction at the bottom can give way, causing the child to slide under water. The best way to prevent a tragedy is to never leave a child alone in a tub nor rely on an older sibling to stand
watch. If you need to answer the door or phone, take your child with you. Babyproofing is an ongoing process. Download a safety checklist from bcchildrens.ca or safekid.org to ensure you’ve covered all the essentials. And remember the goal— creating a safe home for everyone in your family. b For over 10 years Desiree Daniel has been writing about life’s quirky lessons. She and her hubby are expecting their first child.
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Stop stroller squirming and fussing with these handy flash cards that easily attach to a stroller, diaper bag, or backpack. Each set contains five double-sided cards with appealing images and textures—little hands will love to touch the fluffy wool of the sheep or the soft tongue of the hippopotamus.
Flip-a-Face Nesting Blocks chroniclebooks.com, $19.95
These nesting blocks feature the original artwork of the Flip-a-Face board books. Each of the five blocks is die-cut on one side, so that kids can mix and match the faces by rotating the inner block, which makes different faces peek out. Made from durable cardboard, these colourful blocks promise to provide hours of interactive play.
Playskool Busy Ball Choo Choo hasbro.com, $29.99
Little ones will love chasing after this electronic hands-on discovery toy that encourages crawling. The Choo Choo also helps develop babies’ hand/eye coordination— when baby succeeds in dropping a ball inside, the ball swirls and cycles through the train. Toy can be set in stationary mode or locomotive movement.
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Wow Baby! Bib and Burp Gift Set awowbaby.com, $50.95
These bibs and burp cloths feature an innovative design that keeps wet fabric away from your baby. Made from natural cotton and organic bamboo, bibs and burp cloths also have a detachable spill-proof plastic liner that’s a cinch to snap on and off as needed. Gift sets include one bib and one burp cloth, and are available in several fun patterns.
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Nurture Serenity Aberdour, ND
good nutrition
Start children out right
Keeping little ones healthy can be a full-time job—and a tough one at that. There is so much information out there on what is, and is not, healthy for kids that it can become a bit overwhelming, especially for new parents. To help parents navigate through the world of supplements and nutrition, here are some facts about foods and products that can help promote health in the early years.
Prenatal multivitamins Give children a head start before they even come into the world. Research has shown that moms who take prenatal multivitamins during pregnancy could be doing even more good for their unborn children than they realize. In the past few years, research has shown that prenatal multivitamin use is associated with a significant reduction in risk of various birth defects as well as of certain types of childhood cancers. The potential benefits are so significant that researchers have recommended that all women of childbearing age who are even considering pregnancy take a prenatal multi regularly so the body is always prepared. In addition to helping to support the health of the baby, prenatal multivitamins also help to ensure that a mom’s nutrition keeps up with the demands of pregnancy. I generally
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advise new moms to keep right on taking their prenatal multivitamins after the birth, especially if they are breastfeeding. Producing breast milk is a nutritionally expensive undertaking, and moms need to keep their nutrient intake high to avoid depleting their own nutrient levels.
Essential fatty acids Also known as EFAs or omega fatty acids, these healthy fats are vital to the health of the developing brain, eyes, and nerves. There are two main categories of EFAs: omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids. Both are required by the body throughout life and are especially important in infancy and childhood as body systems are growing and developing. Healthy food sources of EFAs include oily fish, nuts, seeds, cold-pressed vegetable oils, and omega-enriched eggs. The omega-3 fatty acids are particularly important for the developing brain, and studies show that increasing intake of these EFAs during pregnancy as well as in infancy may help to improve mental functioning in early childhood (such as improved reaction time and hand-eye coordination).
To add an omega-3 boost to your child’s day, consider a flavoured liquid fish oil product. This rich source of EFAs can be easily added to smoothies or puréed fruit without causing too much of a change in flavour. Various flavoured, chewable capsules are also available on the market and are worth a try as well.
Good bacteria Eczema, diarrhea, and colic—oh my! These three complaints are seen fairly regularly in infants, as their digestive and immune systems adapt to the outside world. Studies have shown that probiotics, the healthy bacteria that colonize our intestinal tract, can help to relieve a variety of symptoms, including eczema, colic, or diarrhea.
Eczema If you have a family history of eczema, that itchy, flaky skin condition that can drive both kids and parents to tears, consider the use of probiotics during pregnancy as well as early in a child’s life. Research has found that early exposure to probiotics may help to reduce the risk of eczema in at-risk
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Eat a rainbow of colours To capture kids’ attention, choose colourful, eye-catching, healthy foods.
Red red peppers, cherries, radishes, cranberries, strawberries
Orange apricots, mangoes, sweet potatoes, peaches, carrots
Yellow pineapple, banana, pears, corn, beans Green kiwi, zucchini, peas, spinach, broccoli,
asparagus, avocado
Blue/Purple eggplant, blueberries, raspberries, prunes
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“ Probiotics are available in capsules that can easily be opened and poured into formula or bottled breast milk.” children (those with a family history of allergies, asthma, or eczema) by as much as 40 percent.
Diarrhea In children, diarrhea is often due to infection (a “tummy bug” of some kind), and probiotics can help to reduce the severity and duration of diarrhea when combined with proper rehydration. Probiotics literally compete with diarrhea-causing germs for space and resources in the intestinal tract and, when present in sufficient numbers, help to crowd them out and reduce their ability to cause trouble.
Colic Another common challenge in infancy, colic can truly wreak havoc, especially when it is chronic and affects everyone’s sleep schedules. Fortunately, natural interventions can be fairly successful in treating colic. I have found that some low-dose probiotics and the elimination of common food allergens from the diet (of the child if they are onto solid foods, or the mother if the child is still breastfeeding) generally results in significant relief from colic.
Probiotics are available in powders as well as capsules that can be easily opened and poured into formula, bottled breast milk, or other fluids as an easy way to administer them to infants and young children. There are many children’s products on the market, all of which contain different combinations of bacteria. In general, products for young children should be higher in bifidobacteria than lactobacilli species and contain doses in the high millions to low billions.
Educate children about nutrition In a 2004 survey, seven out of 10 Canadian children aged four to eight did not meet the minimum recommended daily intake of fruits and vegetables (compared to half of adults). School-aged children in Ontario were found to get 25 percent of their calories from low-nutrient snack foods. Researchers have concluded that skipping meals and purchasing meals at school or fast food restaurants are significant determinants of poor diet.
In Nova Scotia, almost half of school children surveyed did not meet minimum fruit and vegetable intake recommendations, more than 54 percent did not meet grain intakes, and more than 70 percent did not meet recommended intakes of meat and protein alternatives. This research highlights the serious need to educate children early on about healthy food choices and to lead by example. Providing kids with healthy, home-cooked foods and nutrient-rich snacks such as fruits and veggies will go a long way toward keeping them healthy and happy. For the very picky eaters or for times when parents just don’t know if children are getting enough, a children’s multivitamin may be added to help ensure that minimum nutrient needs are met. Always remember, though, that these supplements are meant to support a healthy, nutritious diet and can never be its substitute. b
Serenity Aberdour, ND, is a naturopathic physician who operates a general family practice using natural medicine to promote health in patients of all ages. serenitynd.com
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jeepers Sleepers Sleep tips for kids
The quality of your child’s sleep impacts the well-being of everyone in the household—just ask any zombie Mom who’s been up half the night with a crying or sick baby. Here are a few tips to help make bedtime easier:
» Set a bedtime and stick to it. You’ll notice a pattern to when your baby begins rubbing her eyes or yawning at night. Try to set a bedtime that is just before these signs of sleepiness appear.
» Countdown to bedtime. Let toddlers know how much time they have left long before you try to tuck them in. For example, tell them that they have two more stories before bedtime. This can reduce fussing. » Put little ones to bed while they are still awake. If you rock your baby to sleep every night, or read to your child until they are asleep and then carry them to bed, they don’t learn how to fall asleep on their own. » Dress for success. Comfortable clothing can help little ones get better sleep. Infants under three months may benefit from swaddling, and sleepers are great for kids of all ages. Read on for more details on dressing your little ones for comfort.
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» Have a routine. Calming rituals that begin 30 minutes before bedtime work well for babies and kids. Giving a bath or reading stories are both good—just make sure to keep activities calm.
keep it cozy Babies
Clothing plays a key role in keeping your infant warm and safe. Babies cannot regulate their body temperature until around six months of age, so it’s important for them to stay warm yet not overheated. Tips: For newborns, choose sleepers or pants with attached feet for extra warmth. Some outfits also come with attached hand flaps—these help prevent babies from scratching themselves. On colder days, dress your baby in a fleece or velour outfit rather than adding more blankets to his crib at nap time. Extra bedding can increase the risk of suffocation for infants. Love ‘N Cuddles footy overall and AOP top in cuddly blue velour. Available online and in-store nationwide at Sears Canada.
“ On colder days, dress your baby in a fleece or velour outfit rather than adding more blankets.” Toddlers Toddlerhood is a very active time, and little ones will often kick off blankets and socks during nap time. Sleepers help to keep them snug, and can also help protect little ones’ knees when they first begin crawling. Tips: Toddlers don’t need to be changed as often as infants, so move beyond sleepers with snaps at the crotch and try zippered sleepers—better for nighttime trips to the potty. For little ones learning to walk, footless sleepers or those with vinyl covering on the bottom of the feet may be best to prevent slipping. Baby Boots AOP footless sleeper in “Green Dino” print. Baby Boots and Mini Boots microfleece sleeper with zipper opening to ankle. Both available online and in-store nationwide at Sears Canada. b
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Hands up Is baby sign language needed? Pamela Findling
Along with countless Mommy and Me Music, Strollercize, and yoga classes, baby sign language has popped up over the last few years as one of the must-do classes for new parents. But is baby sign language all it’s cracked up to be? Emily Kirkham from Burnaby, BC, taught both her children sign language from a young age, starting with her oldest, Nathan. “In the beginning I had no idea what kind of benefits we might get from it,” she says. But it didn’t take her long to see how helpful it could be. “Nathan was a bit of a troubled soul from the get-go. He cried nonstop for six months,” recalls Kirkham. “Once he learned to communicate through sign, he stopped crying as much. It was like he was finally able to let his clueless parents know what was going on.”
A sign of calm Kirkham’s experience echoes those of countless other parents who say that using sign language has calmed their babies and reduced tantrums. “Signing reduces frustration for some babies,” explains Petulla Dedish, a veteran speech-language pathologist. “It’s a fact that use of muscle control precedes oral production, so it’s easier for babies to sign before they speak.”
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In other words, enable your child to tell you what’s going on when they can’t vocalize it, and you’ll have a happier babe. After all, how easily can you decode whether your baby’s cries, expressions, and frantic gestures mean “I’m hungry” or “I miss Daddy”?
Research shows positive benefits But if your baby is signing all the time, will her natural speech development be stunted? Not so, say Linda Acredolo and Susan Goodwyn. The two have studied baby sign language extensively and are the creators of the popular Baby Signs program. Acredolo, Goodwyn, and fellow researcher, Catherine Brown of the San Diego State University’s Department of Communicative Disorders, found that children who used signs actually scored higher on speaking tests at 30 and 36 months than those who did not sign. That’s no surprise to Kirkham. At three, Nathan now chatters on about everything from trees to his baby sister with ease.
Leila Goheen from Airdrie, Alberta, already planned to teach her daughter sign language when she read that it might affect intelligence. “It wasn’t a hard decision to sign with Emelia … I read the statistic about a month prior to her birth, and it made signing to our baby all that much more important.” The statistic Goheen is referring to is from follow-up research by Acredolo and Goodwyn. They found that children in grade two who had once used baby sign language scored a mean average of 12 points higher on an IQ test than those who had not been encouraged to use signs. Goheen and her husband taught Emelia sign language from birth. After starting with signs such as “more,” “food,” “milk,” and “water,” Emelia could sign over 300 words before she was two. Now five, Emelia is home-schooled and excelling in grade one material. With research pointing toward improved communication, less frustration, and higher IQ scores, baby sign language seems to be a holy
grail in parents’ quest to help their children thrive.
Pointing the way But is signing the only option? A team of researchers from the University of Ottawa and the University of Waterloo analyzed 1,200 previous studies (including those by Acradelo and Goodwyn) and concluded that the evidence doesn’t necessarily prove that baby sign language is responsible for all the benefits claimed. Instead, the team says, other factors (along with some methodological errors) could explain the apparent increased language and IQ development. Perhaps
the parents who taught their babies sign language were highly educated and involved parents, factors that could influence speech and IQ. It could also be that when babies sign, people tend to talk to them more, helping with speech development. If a baby signs “airplane,” excited parents might respond with, “Airplane! Yes! Airplane! Good job! Airplane!” Could the same effect be achieved just by pointing, not signing? That was Carolyn Gleeson’s experience with her son, Parker. Initially excited to teach Parker signing, Carolyn says they ended up managing just fine without it. “He }
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Children who used signs scored higher on speaking tests at 30 and 36 months than those who did not sign.
found his own way to communicate by pointing or making sounds,” she says. “We eventually just started naming things around him that he pointed to or reached for until we got it right.” This strategy meshes with advice from a group of speech language therapists at City University in London, England. They say “the most helpful thing parents can probably do for their children between the ages of eight and 12 months is to encourage them to point.” Research suggests that pointing helps object-naming and language development. Point and
name—seems simple enough. But for Kirkham, Goheen, and countless other parents, what’s important is that sign language is a valuable tool for better understanding their babies. Sure, they would have figured out what their babies needed eventually. But, as Kirkham says, “Nathan was happier. We were happier. There was less crying and saner parents.” Who can argue with saner parents? b Pamela Findling writes and edits in Burnaby, BC. Her son’s first sign was “milk.”
Want to get started? Neither Kirkham nor Goheen attended expensive classes to teach their babies sign language. Instead they used online resources along with books and DVDs from the library.
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Here are some tips to get you started: ■
Start with just a few words. “Milk,” “more,” and “eat” are useful and easy for babies to sign. Sign in context. To teach “milk,” sign “milk,” and then give your baby milk. Sign “milk” again as baby drinks and then again when she finishes.
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Speak and sign. Encourage vocal expressions as well as signs to develop language skills.
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Keep it consistent. Babies need to see the same sign over and over again to learn to mimic it.
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Start early. Dedish suggests you start modelling signs around your baby’s six-month birthday. Babies usually start signing back around nine months.
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Go online. You’ll find endless websites with signing dictionaries.
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Hop! Hop! Hop!
By Ann Whitford Paul Random House, 2009 24 pages, $5.50 ISBN: 978-0-375-84537-6
Little ones will identify with Little Rabbit as he struggles to follow Big Rabbit’s lead. Little Rabbit just can’t hop as high as Big Rabbit, and so he splashes into puddles and trips over tree roots. But never fear—the little bunny learns from his falls and finds a solution for getting around. Simple words and lots of repetition also make this book a good choice for beginning readers.
Little Polar Bear Finger Puppet Book By Chronicle Books Chronicle Books, 2009 12 pages, $8.95 ISBN: 978-0-8118-6974-4
The Finger Puppet Book series by Chronicle Books offers hours of storytime fun, combining reading with creative play. Each page of these board books has a small hole for an attached plush finger puppet (in this case, a polar bear) to peek through and amuse little ones. Babies who are still delighted by games of “peek-a-boo” will especially enjoy watching these engaging puppets pop through on each page.
In the Night Garden: Activity Annual 2010 By BBC The Penguin Group, 2009 64 pages, $10.50 ISBN: 978-1-40590-550-3
Join Igglepiggle, Makka Pakka, Upsy Daisy, and friends for tons of fun activities in this creative book based on the popular British television show. With 40 stickers and a set of pencil crayons, this activity book challenges kids to draw different shapes, discover hidden objects, match colours, and practice counting. A perfect take-along on car trips to keep your little one entertained and learning.
Mommy Calls Me Monkeypants By J.D Lester Robin Cory Books, 2009 26 pages, $8.99 ISBN: 978-0-375-84502-4
This playfully illustrated board book captures the charming silliness of the nicknames parents give to their kids—a ladybug calls her baby “Polka Dot,” while a lightening bug calls her shining little one “Shooting Star.” The sturdy pages, simple language, and brightly coloured drawings make Mommy Calls Me Monkeypants a great choice for younger kids and babies. See how many new nicknames you come up with for your wee one after reading this!
Knuffle Bunny: A Cautionary Tale By Mo Willems Hyperion Books, 2004 40 pages, $19.99 ISBN: 978-0-7868-1870-9
Trixie takes her beloved stuffed bunny on an errand with Dad—but accidently leaves Knuffle Bunny behind! Parents will relate to the signs of impeding toddler meltdown that follow, and kids will rejoice when Trixie and her bunny are reunited. Combining sepia-toned photographs of a New York neighbourhood with bright cartoon illustrations of the characters in the story, this hardcover book is a pleasure to the senses for moms and kids.
Pirate’s Log: A Handbook for Aspiring Swashbucklers By Jory John and Avery Monsen Chronicle Books, 2008 172 pages, $18.95 ISBN: 978-0-81186-435-0
A handbook written for every kid who’s ever dreamed of being a swashbuckling pirate. Full of creative fun ideas, this journal contains an ingenious “super secret” book light, making it easy to record important information at night or below deck. Wannabe buccaneers are taken through a series of puzzles, games, and challenges; they can even pick their pirate name (descriptive word + name + something shiny = pirate name). Pirate’s Log is bounty kids will treasure for years to come. blushmom.com | 55
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Exploring educational
toys
Making learning fun Kathy Buckworth
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The late great Mr. Rogers of television fame once stated, “Play is often talked about as if it were a relief from serious learning. But for children play is serious learning. Play is really the work of childhood.” How right he was.
Learning through play is a longacknowledged practice in encouraging young children to develop new skills while having fun. But many parents visiting retail toy stores might find the section marked “Educational Toys” overwhelming and confusing. This can be particularly true for toys targeted toward newborns up to age four; at a time when parents are concerned with choosing toys that will give their little ones the best value, fun, longevity, and, of course, learning. But how can parents determine what the most appropriate educational toys are for each age group?
Newborns Parenting expert and psychotherapist Alyson Schafer, author of Honey, I Wrecked the Kids (Wiley, 2009), advises parents on the appropriate meaning of educational for each age. “It all depends on your definition of play as well,” she says. “From birth, babies can amuse themselves with their hands— are those fingers attached to me?” Little ones eventually build hand-eye coordination through exploring their own hand movements. Babies love to look at faces and extreme contrasts, so you might want to avoid the pastel-coloured mobiles.
Schafer explains, “Newborns’ eyesight is poor, so visually they like the bold, stark contrast of black and white. Doesn’t make for a pretty mobile, but it is what they like best.” The younger the child, the less money you really need to spend on a wide assortment of toys, particularly with very young infants.
Babies Hands down the winner in the sixmonth to 18-month crowd is blocks, according to parents. Jason Russell, father of two young girls, sums it up, “I think the best toy our kids have for both learning and fun would be jumbosized building blocks. From them, I would say the girls learned some fundamental skills such as dexterity and shape recognition and also gained some recognition of different colours.” Besides the physical aspect of building with blocks, Russell enjoyed watching his children develop in other ways through the use of these toys. “Our eldest had an opportunity to express her imagination building things and calling them houses or garages.” Further he feels that the cause-andeffect reality of building blocks also gives young children an early grasp on some science fundamentals. “Some
basic concepts of stress and gravity are also being understood as the tower reaches four or five feet and then comes crashing down.” Schafer agrees that blocks continue to be the best educational toy for babies. Stacking cups also provide the same learning skills and are a more portable option when travelling outside of the home.
Toddlers At this age, electronic toys start to play a part as well, as kids notice their parents using electronic devices such as BlackBerries, cell phones, and television remotes. Also toddlers can now recognize the shapes, sounds, colours, and letters which are a staple in big-button electronics designed for kids of this age. Carrie Ann Badov, mother of two-year-old Rane, approves of electronic toys. “I’m a big fan of technology-based educational toys, toys that interact with my kids, give them feedback, and encourage them to explore and discover on their own.” Toddlers are also engaging more and more in books, which are naturally a key learning product. With everything from plain old-fashioned board books to talking books or electronic story
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Top picks
from parents: Educational Toys*
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Newborns:
Babies:
1 » Baby Whoozit by Manhattan Toy
2 » Stack and Discover Blocks
» Baby Grooves by Discovery Toys
by Baby Einstein
» Cuddly Kid Mirror by Alex Toys
3 » Measure Up Cups by Discovery Toys
» Gorilla Blocks by Child Guidance » Try-Angle by Discovery Toys
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» Sunny Sounds by Discovery Toys
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“ Hands down the winner in the six-month to 18-month crowd is blocks, according to parents.” Toddlers: » Rock-A-Stack by Fisher Price » Giant Pegboard by Discovery Toys 4 » Puzzles by Doug & Melissa
» Magic Storytime Theatre by Spot Lite (Tech4Kids)
5 » Tag Junior by LeapFrog 6 » Natural Wood Blocks by Imaginarium
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6 * Toys that offer the type of learning play outlined in this article, are reasonably priced, and widely available.
“ The best toys are ones that have a good action/reaction type of feature.” books projected onto the ceiling, it’s easy to introduce kids to a love of books and reading at this age. Along with books, puzzles (starting with sturdy, easy, wooden ones) are a great way for kids to learn matching and recognition skills while experiencing a visual thrill of accomplishment. Badov says, “Puzzles are a great activity for quiet time, especially those large knob wooden puzzles.”
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Preschoolers: 7 » Learn To Dress Monkey by Alex Toys 8 » Fridge Phonics by LeapFrog
» Learn To Write by Alex Toys » Leapster by LeapFrog
Nursery schools are jam-packed with the most current and experientially best-rated educational or learning toys. Schafer witnessed for herself that the best toys were ones that had a good action/reaction type of feature. “For example, the kids pump the wheel and the mechanism turns; [they] push the button and animals pop out.” This learning builds on the basics many kids learned with blocks, which are still helping to develop fine motor skills and letter recognition, as well as co-operation. “Construction toys and blocks are also very popular in my house and they’re a toy all my kids can play with together,” says Badov, whose five-yearold and seven-year-old sons enjoy playing as well.
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In addition, the introduction of arts and crafts at preschool can be replicated at home by putting together your own craft box, which can easily be filled by a quick visit to the dollar store. Schafer likes this idea for a few reasons. “While there are games that can help with letter recognition and dexterity, cutting with craft scissors and tracing letters can do the same.” Wendy Spence loves the electronic handheld toys her four-year-old daughter Kara plays with, which are age-appropriate (sturdy construction, big buttons) and encourage independent play and learning. “They help her learn letters, counting, drawing, and more. [One toy] has a stylus which she thinks is pretty cool.” Preschool kids also love playing house and school. Purchasing some child-friendly kitchen accessories can help kids develop the ability to measure, stir, form, and create. Kids continue to put the skills they learn from play into other practical applications, which they will continue to do for many years to come. I think that Mr. Rogers would approve, and agree that for kids learning through play, “It’s a beautiful day in the neighbourhood.” b
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Kathy Buckworth is a writer, whose latest book The BlackBerry Diaries: Adventures in Modern Motherhood (Key Porter Books, 2009) is available in bookstores. kathybuckworth.com
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Persuading
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Feeding kids nutritious foods can be challenging. Food advertisers entice children with bright cartoon characters while they confuse parents with questionable nutritional claims. A 2007 study conducted in Canadian supermarkets assessed the nutritional content of “fun foods” targeted at children. Not included were common junk foods such as candy, soft drinks, cakes, and potato chips. Seventy-seven percent of dairy items and 82 percent of dry goods (such as cereals, bars, and fruit snacks) derived more than 20 percent of their calories from sugar. Yet 62 percent of these foods made positive claims about nutrition content on the label. Despite these claims, the study concluded that 89 percent of the
products could be classified as having poor nutritional quality owing to high levels of sugar, fat, or sodium. According to Statistics Canada’s most recent Community Health Survey, 70 percent of children aged four to eight did not eat the minimum recommended daily servings of fruit and vegetables. For kids nine to 13 years old, up to 68 percent did not consume the minimum. These results may be discouraging, but they can serve as a reminder to parents to make healthy food choices for their families. }
5 tips to introduce healthy foods
Keep it simple
Be a role model
Introducing too many unique foods at one time can overstimulate children. Think of how daunting a huge smorgasbord can be—you don’t know where to start.
You are your kids’ biggest role model. If you don’t eat a particular food, why would your child? Parents rarely, if ever, serve items they don’t like.
Finding new ways to add nutritious food items to your child’s diet can be challenging, but introducing new food can be easier with a few simple tips.
Let kids help When kids help you prepare a meal or go grocery shopping with you, their interest in healthy foods will grow. Countless parents share their stories with me about how excited their kids get when they help out in the kitchen.
TIP: Give your child his or her own special apron to wear when they help prepare food.
TIP: Add only one new food at a time
TIP: Eat a variety of healthy foods.
to meals.
Develop patience
Go heavy on the veggies
You may have to serve your child a food several times before he or she develops a taste for it. In our rush-rush world we often give up too quickly.
Focus new food adventures around fruits and vegetables, as most kids don’t eat enough produce.
TIP: Serve a fruit and/or a vegetable at
every meal and snack.
TIP: Persevere and serve new foods in a creative way (see our recipes and sidebars).
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Tortilla Snails Prep time: 10 minutes 4 - 6 in (15 cm) whole wheat tortillas 4 Tbsp (60 mL) low-fat cream cheese (or hummus) 1 cup (250 mL) spinach 4 slices low-sodium, low-fat deli meat or turkey (optional) 4 slices hard low-fat cheese 8 baby dill pickles
Cut edges off tortillas to form squares. Spread 1 Tbsp (15 mL) of cream cheese (or hummus) on each tortilla. Divide spinach evenly among all tortillas, placing in centre of each. Top with cheese and deli meat (if desired). Roll tortilla up very tightly, pressing it to hold its form. Slice pickles in half on a diagonal. Cut tortilla wrap into 1 in (2.5 cm) wide slices. With each mini wrap, place sliced pickle with its diagonal cut flat on the bottom of the plate and place wrap on top. The pickle represents the snail’s head. Serves 4 Each 4-snail serving contains: 211 calories; 15 g protein; 7 g fat (3 g sat. fat, 0 g trans fat); 21 g carbohydrates; 2 g fibre; 680 mg sodium
Zucchini Boats Prep time: 10 minutes Cook time: 20 minutes 4 zucchini, halved lengthwise 1 large tomato, diced 1/3 cup (80 mL) bread crumbs 3 Tbsp (45 mL) low-fat ricotta cheese 2 Tbsp (30 mL) low-fat Parmesan cheese, grated 2 Tbsp (30 mL) fresh basil leaves, chopped 1/2 tsp (2 mL) ground oregano
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1/2 tsp (2 mL) sea salt Sprinkle pepper
With spoon, scoop mixture into 5 zucchini halves. Place on cookie sheet.
Preheat oven to 350 F (180 C). Place parchment paper on a cookie sheet.
Bake 25 minutes or until tops are slightly browned.
Hollow out 5 zucchini halves and finely chop part removed as well as remaining 3 halves. In large bowl place chopped zucchini, tomato, bread crumbs, cheeses, basil, and spices; mix.
Makes 5 boats. Each boat contains: 59 calories; 3 g protein; 1 g fat (0.6 g sat. fat, 0 g trans fat); 10 g carbohydrates; 2 g fibre; 330 mg sodium
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Key nutrients for kids Make food fun ·D raw a healthy pizza creation on paper with your kids. ·G ive your child two food options at mealtime, for example, peas or carrots. Give adventuresome items a fun name such as: » monster tacos » purple tongue shake » moo juice » veggie coins Make supper a theme night once a week, for example: » Taco Tuesday » Silly Face Pizza Saturday » Mini Meal Monday » Finger Food Friday
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Children form eating habits that often stay with them for life. It’s crucial for parents to introduce healthy food to youngsters that will provide the key nutrients their growing bodies need.
Vitamin D As bones and teeth grow, two other important nutrients help calcium do its job: vitamin D and magnesium. Vitamin D is the traffic controller that guides calcium into the bone. Normally, vitamin D is produced after about 15 minutes of sun exposure, but we don’t receive enough sun to do this during winter months.
Sources: salmon, tuna, mackerel,
cheese, egg yolks, and fortified milk
Magnesium This mineral assists calcium to keep bones strong and fosters energy production, regulates muscle and nerve function, keeps the heartbeat steady, and relieves constipation.
Sources: spinach, kale, broccoli, peas, nuts, and pumpkin seeds
Calcium About 99 percent of the body’s calcium is stored in the bones and teeth; the remaining 1 percent helps with functions such as muscle contractions and blood vessel contraction and expansion. Calcium strengthens bones, making them less prone to fractures or breaks. A recent study found the rate of broken arms has increased more than 56 percent in girls and 32 percent in boys since 1970, possibly due to a lack of calcium in their diets.
“ Children form eating habits that often stay with them for life.”
Sources: milk, soy, or fortified
beverages; yogourt; hard cheese; cooked spinach; kale; Chinese cabbage; and sesame seeds
Fibre Adults and kids fall short on fibre. Not only does it help prevent overeating by making one feel full, but it also protects against type 2 diabetes. Fibre prevents irregular or too-firm bowel movements that can be extremely uncomfortable for kids. Fibre-rich foods provide slow-released energy to keep the brain fuelled throughout the day. The Canadian Heart & Stroke Foundation recommends kids aged four to eight should eat 25 grams of fibre a day, while nine- to 13-year-olds should consume 26 to 31 grams per day (26 for girls and 31 for boys).
Sources: beans, lentils, vegetables
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Karla Heintz, BSc Nutrition, is a television and radio personality, speaker, writer, and consultant. She is the author of Picky? Not Me, Mom! (Last Impression, 2008). nutritionwithk.com
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Sunshine Smoothie Prep time: 5 minutes 1 cup (250 mL) plain or vanilla-flavoured soy milk 1 cup (250 mL) plain soft tofu 1 1/2 cups (355 mL) frozen calcium-enriched orange juice, thawed 1 ripe banana, peeled and sliced
Combine all ingredients in blender. Pulse until smooth and creamy. Pour into cups and serve. Makes 4 cups (1 L). Each 1-cup serving contains: 228 calories; 6 g protein; 3 g total fat (0 g sat. fat, 0 g trans fat); 46 g carbohydrates; 2 g fibre;
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Winter Fun for the whole family
Lisa Bendall
The beach umbrellas and picnic baskets may be in storage for the winter, but that doesn’t mean your family can’t have fun this cold season. Whether you’re close to home or on a weekend getaway, these activities are sure to brighten even the blusteriest days.
Delight in the outside When the white stuff covers the ground, it’s as though Mother Nature has set up a sparkling playland in your own backyard. From a kid’s perspective, snowmen and snow angels never get old. Although snow forts and tunnels aren’t safe, your little urban planners may have fun sculpting snow walls and roads to create a town or the rooms of a house. Let them “spray paint” their creations by filling squirt bottles with water mixed with food colouring. You can also freeze coloured ice cubes, and then stash them in the snow for your little ones to find. Once retrieved, the cubes can be used to ornament kids’ snow creations.
Chill at home Since small children can’t stay out all day, Heather Bell-Denison of Toronto has found a way to bring winter into the house with a routine that she started when her two boys, Alexander,
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six, and David, eight, were smaller. She lays towels on the kitchen floor, fills a big, low tub with snow and brings it indoors. Wearing mittens, the boys build mountains and tunnels and play with their cars and action figures. “Instead of a sandbox, it’s our snowbox,” BellDenison laughs. This multi-tasking mom adds that she likes being able to wash dishes and watch the kids at the same time.
Head for the hills Haul out your toboggans and sleds! Many communities across Canada offer family-friendly toboggan hills. Look for sites with public washrooms on hand, such as St-Anselme Park near Moncton, New Brunswick. Snow tubing is another activity for most ages and is being offered at an increasing number of snow parks and ski hills in Canada. Snow tubes have handles and don’t require skill, so your little ones can often participate. Many snow tube parks have a minimum height restriction. It varies (it’s 48 in (122 cm) at Mount Seymour in North Vancouver but 42 in (107 cm)
at Chicopee Tube Park in Kitchener, Ontario), so check before you go.
Take a hike Want to avoid lineups and the price of all-season passes? Pick up a pair of snowshoes for every member of the family—they’re available in child sizes—and go on a family discovery hike through a park or wooded area. Tired of tramping but seeking some gorgeous Canadian scenery? Snuggle your kiddies under a blanket on an enchanting horse-drawn sleigh ride, such as the ones offered by Brewster Adventures in Banff National Park, Alberta.
Frolic at festivals Some cold weather curmudgeons might not think there’s much to celebrate in winter. But spend time at Canada’s terrific seasonal festivals, and you’ll change your mind. “It makes the winter much more enjoyable when you get out and do things,” says Kelly Cierra, who lives on Prince Edward Island and enjoys taking her three children to Charlottetown’s annual Jack Frost }
Cold weather tips Make sure that your fun times are also safe and warm times: » Be sure to cover kids’ heads, including their ears, and bring them inside frequently to thaw out and sip a warm drink. » Pack helmets for the kids for tobogganing or tubing, and be prepared to ride down with smaller children. »W hen hiking or snowshoeing, keep the routes short, dress warmly, and bear in mind that a Thermos of hot chocolate will not go unappreciated! For more winter safety tips, visit the Canadian Paediatric Society website at www.caringforkids.cps.ca
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“ You might not think there’s much to celebrate in winter. But spend time at Canada’s seasonal festivals—you’ll change your mind.” Lake Louise: Brewster Tours
Edmonton: Winter Light
Festival. The 2010 event runs from February 12 to 14; attractions include winter fireworks, an entire playground built from snow, and even indoor activities such as a petting zoo. Ottawa’s Winterlude (from February 5 to 21, 2010) is famous for its fantastic ice sculpture display, as well as the opportunity to skate on the largest rink in the world, the frozen Rideau Canal. Edmonton boasts a string of winter festivals from early January to midMarch to help your family get through the season. Enjoy a range of childfriendly activities from an enchanted snow garden to outdoor curling. Big Winter, a brand-new event making its debut in Edmonton on February 26 and 27, will feature snow-boot soccer, free skating, and a magically lit woodland path designed to make little kids feel like giants.
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In late December an after-dark light tour in your nearest metropolis will take your family’s breath away. In Quebec City, for instance, storefronts and landmarks will be attempting to outshine each other with everything they’ve got, including a 30,000-light violet sun sparkling above downtown’s St. Joseph Street and flanked by long
strings of matching violet lights. If you’re a fan of lights, head for Niagara Falls, Ontario. Fantastic colours will illuminate the famous falls until February 28, and a once-weekly fireworks display will be on show from November 13 until January.
Investigate indoor amusements A weekend getaway is the perfect cure for cabin fever. Treat your kids to a hotel package at an indoor water park such as Great Wolf Lodge or Fallsview Indoor Waterpark, both in Niagara Falls. Or head for a day trip to an indoor amusement park: there are several across Canada, including MegaParc in Quebec City, Crystal Palace in Moncton, Fantasy Fair in Toronto, and of course Galaxyland at the West Edmonton Mall. You might have so much fun that you actually forget that it’s winter outside. On the other hand, you might be eager to head outdoors again for more snowy good times. “Some people just assume because it’s winter, you stay inside and suffer through it,” Kelly Cierra says. “But I’m not going to stay inside with the kids all winter long!” b Lisa Bendall is the author of Raising a Kid with Special Needs and a contributor to Between Interruptions: 30 Women Tell the Truth about Motherhood (Key Porter, 2008 and 2007).
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This fresh and natural spray for baby’s crib bedding, clothing, and upholstery is made of a healthy formula with no alcohol or harsh chemicals. Natural lavender oil is a known antibacterial agent, and produces a light scent that neutralizes odours and helps your little one relax into gentle slumber.
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A complete all-natural support kit that includes two different aromatherapy formulas to help with heartburn, nausea, and headaches during pregnancy. Saje’s Birthing Blend and Calming Mist, also included, help to relax moms-to-be during delivery. And finally, a Stretch Mark Pregnancy Blend is perfect to moisturize expanding belly and breasts.
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Breathe clean and easy Natural cleansers for your home
Caroline Fernandez
From the first moments of mobility, children are explorers. Babies reach. Toddlers cruise. Kids touch. Any surfaces that a child comes into contact with should be chemical free. Residue left behind from household chemical cleaning products can find its way to hands, eyes, and mouths of children through direct and indirect contact. To children with sensitive skin or who are prone to allergic reactions, exposure to chemical residues can be enough to provoke a reaction. Natural cleaning methods are a solution for parents who want to keep their homes both clean and nontoxic. Chemical-free cleaners are available at many major supermarkets and specialty stores. It’s also cost-effective and easy to make your own nontoxic cleaners from ingredients already in your pantry. Keep the following elements in mind when looking at chemical-free labels and recipes for make-it-yourself household cleaners.
Baking soda Sodium bicarbonate, or baking soda, naturally occurs in the human body.
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Though commonly used in baking for leavening, baking soda also works well as a natural scouring powder and deodorizer. ■ Sprinkled on bathtubs, sinks, and countertops, with a little added water it is gritty enough to get rid of dirt and stains without scuffing surfaces. ■ Sprinkled alone on fabrics, carpets, and pet areas, baking soda acts as a natural deodorizer. ■ With baking soda and water solutions, parents can safely—and without harmful toxins—clean everything from high chairs to low shelves!
White vinegar Naturally acidic, vinegar is a good go-to item for natural cleaning throughout the home because of its many uses, including as a cleanser and an odour-buster. ■ Sprinkle equal parts water and vinegar onto crumpled newspaper to clean mirrors and greasy windows for streak-free, chemical-free results.
Caution: use vinegar solutions sparingly on tile surfaces as vinegar can break down grout. ■ S pray equal parts water and vinegar on carpet stains, let sit for a few minutes, then dab gently with a cellulose sponge using soapy water. ■ S plash vinegar on a cutting board to eliminate food odours from impregnating the surface. (Good ventilation will help to eliminate any acidic scent from the vinegar).
Lemon juice Naturally acidic, lemon juice cuts grease while leaving behind a fresh citrus scent. Spike leftover lemon wedges onto the prongs of your dishwasher for a lemony-fresh cleaning boost. Kids will always be explorers. A clean and nontoxic environment is a wonderful thing to discover—to touch, to cruise, to reach. }
Baking Soda Oven Cleaner Strong and dependable, even for tough jobs—such as oven cleaning—baking soda can tackle the worst grime. 3/4 cup (180 mL) baking soda 1/4 cup (60 mL) salt 1/4 cup (60 mL) water Combine ingredients to make a paste. Wipe down oven with a moistened cellulose sponge. Apply the baking soda paste to the interior of the oven (avoiding the element). Let it sit overnight. Wipe clean, with sponge and water, in the morning.
Natural Fabric Softener Vinegar acts as a natural fabric softener, which is of value to people with chemical and fragrance sensibilities. 1 cup (250 mL) vinegar Add to rinse cycle; the vinegar smell fades as laundry dries. Vinegar fabric softener also reduces static cling.
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Keep cleaning products out of reach Natural air fresheners » Open windows and doors to let the fresh air in—and the toxins out. » Simmer a pot of water with cinnamon and/or cloves. » Place freshly sliced lemons on a dish. » Dab cotton balls in your favourite essential oil and leave around the house. » Make potpourri with dried flowers, spices, and herbs. » Burn soy or beeswax candles.
Natural Lemon Furniture Polish Lemon juice combined with oil produces a nontoxic quality furniture polish. 1 cup (250 mL) olive oil 1/2 cup (125 mL) lemon juice Combine ingredients and pour into a pump spray bottle. The woodwork in your house will smell lemon fresh—naturally! b
Chemical household cleaning containers—and their contents—are attractive to young children. Their candy-coloured liquids smell sweet enough to drink, yet ingestion can make a child very sick. If you suspect your child has ingested a chemical household cleaner, call 911 or a Poison Control Centre immediately. Province
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Alberta
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Saskatchewan
Regina 306-766-4545 800-667-4545 Saskatoon 306-655-1010 800-363-7474
Manitoba
204-787-2591 (emergencies) 204-787-4807 (non-emergencies)
Ontario
416-813-5900 800-268-9017
Quebec
418-656-8090 800-463-5060
Newfoundland/ Labrador
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Nova Scotia & PEI
902-428-8161 800-565-8161
New Brunswick
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Yukon
867-393-8700
Northwest Territories
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Nunavut
Iqaluit 867-979-7350 (emergencies) 867-979-7300
Caroline Fernandez lives, writes, and does laundry in Toronto. Her writing has been widely published in Canadian magazines for children, teen, and adult markets.
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Bob Greene’s Total Body Makeover Gaiam, 2009, $14.99
Trudie Styler’s Core Strength Pilates Gaiam, 2009, $14.99
Oprah’s personal trainer, exercise physiologist, and best-selling author Bob Greene presents this unique workout for both body and mind that can help you accelerate results and transform your body in just eight weeks. Bob leads you through a progressive series of exercises in these eight distinct routines that target the entire body. Viewers get a comprehensive program including workouts, motivational tips, and tools for healthy living.
Trudie Styler may be best known as the wife of rock star, Sting. But she’s also an accomplished fitness buff. In this DVD Trudie offers a 60-minute Pilates routine to help you get leaner and lighter, increase your energy, relieve mommy stress, grow stronger, and become more flexible. This toning and sculpting Pilates routine includes a bonus chat with Chef Joe, who discusses Trudie and Sting’s philosophy on organic gardening and cooking.
Hemalayaa: Bollywood Dance Blast
Shiva Rea's Daily Energy Flow Yoga
Acacia, 2009, $19.99
With her warm, playful personality and expert instruction, Hemalayaa has built a solid reputation for fun, effective fitness programs unlike anything else available. In this new DVD, Hemalayaa delivers a winner with Bollywood Dance Blast. With two 20-minute cardio routines, you can fit an effective workout into even the most hectic days. Exercisers can dance away cares, calories, and carbs—this program is all about having fun while losing pounds and inches.
Acacia, 2009, $27.99
Flow yoga, also called vinyasa, combines fluid movements with rhythmic breathing for a transformative mind-body workout. In this new DVD, world-renowned yoga teacher, Shiva Rea helps you flow from pose to pose, as your pulse quickens, your mind clears, and your body unwinds. This inspiring DVD helps you work yoga into your busy life with seven engaging 20-minute sessions that can be combined as needed to reduce stress, build strength, and reenergize your life. b
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prenatal exercise in the
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Exploring your local pool Melanie Osmack
Show me a pregnant woman who wouldn’t love to feel weightless and I’ll show you a new mom who wouldn’t like a nap.
Top 10
reasons to exercise in the water during pregnancy It lets you feel weightless When you stand chest deep in the water, you weigh approximately one-tenth of your weight on land. This gives you the freedom to move comfortably.
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It strengthens your core Abdominal and back muscles need to be activated for pelvic stability and balance in the water. This means you can expect to work your core muscles throughout your entire workout. A strong core is essential for preventing back pain, injuries, and pelvic floor discomfort.
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It makes your workout smarter, not longer The aquatic environment works your opposing muscle groups at the same time. For example, when you do a biceps curl in the water, you also work your triceps as you extend your arms.
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It’s kind to your body Exercising in the water reduces stress on the joints and connective tissue.
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Weight gain during pregnancy can sometimes zap your motivation to exercise: It’s hard to be excited about a fitness class when you feel heavy and cumbersome. If this sounds familiar, consider exploring your local pool. Whether you join a prenatal aqua-fitness class or take up swimming laps, there are many benefits to working out in the water.
It improves flexibility Take the guesswork out of flexibility training. The properties of water encourage a full range of motion while preventing you from overstretching.
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It feels good Aquatic fitness classes give the perception of lower intensity without a decrease in the benefits of exercise.
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It reduces swelling Hydrostatic pressure (the force exerted on the body by water) improves circulation. Better circulation means less swelling, constipation, varicosities, and leg cramps.
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It keeps you cool A pool prevents overheating because the heart doesn’t have to work as hard to bring body temperature down during exercise. This is why your heart rate is often lower during aquatic classes than during land classes.
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You can lie on your back Buoyancy enables you to be on your back without interrupting the blood flow to your baby.
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You’ll be ready for anything Aquatic exercise helps develop balance and coordination, which you’ll need as pregnancy progresses.
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Tips from the trenches » Get medical clearance from your healthcare provider before exercising. » Wear a sports bra under your swimsuit for extra support as your breasts get bigger. » Drink plenty of water before, during, and after class. » Don’t eat a large meal just before heading to the pool.
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mommy & baby yoga The mind-body benefits Melanie Osmack
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One baby is happily nursing, another is enjoying some tummy time on a mat, and yet another is snuggled in her mama’s arms. Welcome to mommy and baby yoga. Baby-friendly yoga classes for new moms have grown in popularity over the last 10 years. Most Canadian community centres offer everything from prenatal sessions to those with preschoolers. So what is behind this growing movement? When yoga really took off at the start of the millennium, many Canadian women got hooked on the mind-body benefits of a regular practice. As these women began having families, it was only natural that they wanted to continue yoga through their pregnancies and beyond. While other fitness trends have come and gone, mommy and baby yoga has stood the test of time. Here’s why.
Builds strength and flexibility A new mom’s daily tasks, such as feeding and carrying her baby, often cause muscular imbalances and postural problems. For example, many moms end up with overly strong chest muscles and rounded shoulders from bending over and holding their babies. Mommy and baby yoga helps build strength and flexibility. Strengthening asanas, or poses, can help women rebalance their body and make them feel better about their shape.
Strengthen pelvic muscles Most mommy and baby yoga classes dedicate a significant amount of time to mula bandha, otherwise known as Kegel exercises. These exercises strengthen the muscles of
the pelvic floor and have numerous benefits. A strong pelvic floor reduces incontinence, improves core strength, and flattens the abdomen. If a postnatal woman has an abdominal separation from pregnancy (known as diastasis recti), pelvic floor exercises can also help her rehabilitate.
Promotes bonding and attachment The benefits of practising yoga with baby go beyond the physical. Slowing down to spend time connecting with baby promotes bonding and attachment. It also reduces stress for both mother and child. Relaxed babies tend to experience efficient digestion and sound sleep, and tranquil moms are better able to cope with the demands of parenting
Balances hormones and improves mood Becoming a mother can also be a hormonal rollercoaster ride. Many new moms experience postpartum emotions like anxiety and baby blues. Like other forms of exercise, a regular yoga practice helps balance hormones and improve mood. The connections women make in class help them forge new friendships with other mothers in their community too. It’s common to see groups of moms and their babies heading out for an après yoga tea. After all, the word yoga means “to unite.” b
What’s the cost? If you wish to practice mommy and baby yoga in your neighbourhood, there’s likely a cost involved. An informal survey of yoga studios across Canada found the average price for a drop-in class to be about $20 per session. Savings can be found by signing up in advance and committing to 10 or 12 classes. Advance sign-up can save you up to $5 per session.
When can you get started? For moms who have had uncomplicated vaginal births, you can take baby to yoga class once you stop bleeding, usually 2 to 4 weeks after birth. If you’ve delivered through caesarean section, you’ll need to wait at least 6 weeks before attending yoga class. No matter how you delivered your bundle of joy, check with your doctor to get the all-clear before attending any classes.
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Fitness fun for moms and tots Get moving in the morning As a pre- and post-natal fitness instructor, I often run into past participants walking down the sidewalk with their tiny tots in tow. I ran into one such mom recently, and she was exasperated. It had taken her 30 minutes to walk two blocks because her two-year-old wanted to stop and look at each and every bug. As we got to chatting about life with a toddler, she asked me one of the most common questions I get from moms of mobile little ones: “What can I do for fitness now that I have a toddler?” As the mom of two very active young children, I understand how hard it can be to prioritize fitness. I have compiled some of our family favourites into a fun and functional fitness routine to get you and your toddler moving in the morning. Enjoy!
Warm-up Before you begin, take 10 minutes to get your body ready for exercise. Pop in some of your favourite music and start dancing with your tyke.
1. Mom and tot squats Squats are an ideal exercise for toning thighs and improving flexibility. Stand with your feet hip-width apart and slowly lower into a sitting position. Don’t let your knees pass over your toes.
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While you squeeze in some squats, invite your toddler to join you. Use fun and simple concepts such as “Tall as a mountain and small as a mouse.”
2. Put the ball in the bucket Fill a large bucket or box with balls, stuffed animals, or whatever piques your toddler’s curiosity. Let him dump it out, and use teamwork to fill it back up. This kid-friendly game will get your heart pumping while strengthening your lower body. Increase the fun factor by trying it in slow motion or as fast as you can. All the extra laughs will do wonders for your abdominal muscles.
3. 1 to 10 Tots love to count. Sit cross-legged on the floor with your toddler and slowly count to 10. At each number lift your pelvic floor muscles up into your body by pretending to stop yourself from peeing. In other words,
do a Kegel. This will strengthen your pelvic floor muscles.
4. Row your boat Remember that mom I ran into the other day? She ended up having to carry her 25-pound toddler home another four blocks. The many tasks of parenting overwork our chest muscles and cause our shoulders to round forward. Squeezing your shoulders together while making a rowing motion with your arms is a fantastic way to strengthen the muscles of your upper and middle back. Sit on the floor facing your toddler, join hands, and row, row, row your boat. b
Melanie Osmack is the founder of Fit 4 Two and a certified pre- and postnatal fitness specialist. She teaches fitness classes for new moms and moms-to-be and has two children.
What you will need » Your favourite music » Some balls » A large bucket or box » A supportive bra
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