LAUGH IT UP

Sam Tallent rates our favorite things in the People’s Republic of Boulder

maybe a little stoned. “It’s the perfect crowd,” he says. Other cities in Colorado, like Fort Collins, have established a strong base as well.

“Fort Collins secretly had the best Monday and Thursday night shows in the state for years,” Tallent says. “David Rodriguez, Kyle Pogue, Mallory Wallace, Dan Jones: what they’ve built up there ended up paying off as the Comedy Fort, which is without a doubt the best new room in the country.”

Farmers Markets

Tallent: Love them. Especially being on the road — there’s so few things that are actually good. That was my favorite part of Australia. Me and my wife went to so many fucking farmers markets there. … The stuff there isn’t straight-up poison. You can get some locally made cheese, some cherry tomatoes, and there’s someone baking bread or doing some kind of weird cured fish. But dude, when cherry tomatoes are in season, holy shit, get yourself a box and munch ’em.

programs fell… And it’s very good to have a definitively Black man showing up in Boulder — a city that loves talking about how progressive it is, but has a notoriously difficult time with people of color being in any position of power. To have someone like that define your city is very cool to see. He’s infused like 90 million worth of ad revenue into that program. College GameDay being in Boulder. These are all cool things that never, ever would’ve happened before. If you’re anti-Prime, you’re probably a hater, first of all, and you’re probably secretly racist [laughs].

Jam Bands

drugs in public. I don’t like doing hallucinogens and going around 3,000 people. But you know, anything that gets people out and about with their friends — outside wiggling to music, it’s fine. But I fucking hate jam bands.

Hiking

Coach Prime

Love it, dude. Anything that gets that program fired up is good for not just Boulder, but the whole state. I mean, that program was so bad. I was living in Fort Collins for the last three years, so I became a version of a [Colorado State] Rams fan. But just seeing how far down both those

You know, it’s not for me. It’s noodling. It’s onestring guitar solos. I mean, I was in a band called Electric Mind Gravy in high school, and after high school, we had an album called Jerry Garcia is Dead. I mean, I’ve never been pro-jam band. But hey, to each their own. I will say Trampled By Turtles has been very nice to me.

And you know what? I fucking like Les Claypool. I like Billy Strings, Oysterhead, Primus. I’m all for that shit. But I’m not a big Frog Brigade guy. And also, I’m not good at doing

It’s good! I love a good walk. The issue is I’m a city guy. When we were in Tokyo, we were putting on mileage, like eight to 12 miles a day on foot. So I’d rather do an urban hike around a city that I’ve never been to. I’ll have a hard time when it’s just walking on a path the whole time, with trees on both sides. Give me a fucking church that’s been there for 800 years that I can stumble upon. There’s no bakeries when you’re hiking in the woods. You can’t accidentally find the best croissant you’ve ever had.

I like a long walk, but it just doesn’t need to be a hike. I don’t know if it’s just that I’m from Colorado, but all these people who are so enamored and boned up for walking up to Hanging Lake — we did that when we were kids.

Boulder can be a little tougher, considering the transience that comes with being a college town. By the time most twenty-somethings start appreciating comedy, it’s move-out day, and many are gone to places that are more affordable. There is, however, one man who Tallent says has held it down in the People’s Republic for more than a decade.

“I don’t think Brent Gill gets enough love for giving Boulder an actual space to see consistently good comedy once a week,” Tallent says, referring to Gill’s long-standing Boulder Comedy Show, held every Sunday at Rayback Collective since 2013.

Gill got Tallent his first open mic at Red Fish, the long-gone spot next to Bohemian Biergarten, and later his first paid performance at the since-closed Albums on the Hill. It’s bonds like these that make standup comedy here so tight-knit — a community Tallent has called family for a long time.

“I’m really grateful for all the things standup has given me,” he says. But he’s not ashamed to admit that his love for writing may perhaps be greater than his love for telling jokes behind the mic.

“I finally got an agent and a manager,” he says. “We’re on a Zoom meeting and they ask me, ‘What does a perfect life look like for Sam Tallent?’ I tell them I’d move to Paris and write books. They were waiting for a punchline, but it never came.”

ON THE BILL: Sam Tallent. 7:30 p.m. and 9:45 p.m. Wednesday, Nov. 22 | 7:30 and 9:35 p.m. Fri.-Sun., Nov. 24-25, Comedy Works Denver, 1226 15th St. $20-$26

Sunday show8:00pm time Nov 26th $10

Wednesday show9:00pm time Nov 29th Diamond Edwards Duo In the Bar

Thursday show9:00pm time Nov 30th Matt Flahtery In the Bar

Saturday show8:00pm time Dec 2nd Lionel Young Duo In the Bar

Fine Art And Crafts Show And Sale

Various times, Thursday-Sunday, , Nov. 16-Nov. 19, Louisville Center for the Arts, 801 Grant Ave. Free

The Louisville Art Association hosts an event showcasing local fine art, photography, crafts, jewelry and more at the Fall Members Show and Sale. All pieces are up for grabs, with unique artisan gifts just in time for the holidays. An awards ceremony and reception kicks off 6 p.m on Nov. 17 at the Louisville Center for the Arts. 16

QUECHUA FILM SERIES: ‘RETABLO’

5:30-7:30 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 16, Center for British and Irish Studies, Norlin Library, 1720 Pleasant St., Boulder. Free

Settle in for an evening with CU Boulder’s Latin American and Latinx Studies Center as it presents Retablo — the final film in its Quechua Film Series. The award-winning film unpacks traditional gender roles in the Peruvian Andes by following a 14-year-old boy’s journey after discovering his father’s bisexuality. A Q&A will follow the screening.

Laser Van Halen

8:30-9:30 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 16, Fiske Planetarium, 2414 Regent Drive, Boulder.

Experience the legendary shredding of Van Halen like never before with a light show, 360-degree projection and out-of-this-world sound design. Laser engineers will guide you through this visual and musical voyage featuring iconic tracks from the band, like “1984,” “Jump” and “You Really Got Me.”

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Harmony Music House Jazz Combos

6-8 p.m. Friday, Nov. 17, DV8 Distillery, 2480 49th St., Suite E, Boulder. Free

‘TUNDRA/NO TUNDRA’: OPENING RECEPTION

2:30-5:30 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 16, Museum of Natural History, Biolounge Gallery, 1035 Broadway, Boulder. Free

Head to the Museum of Natural History to see the series of work created by CU Boulder students and staff during their time with the Art and Environment Field School in Nederland. Works will showcase the interconnections between the built and natural world, and the relationship between artistry and science.

Join HMH for an evening of jazz with the music school’s jazz ensemble, which has been practicing their groovy improvisations and solos all fall. Attendees will hear tunes from the classics — like Ella Fitzgerald and Gerry Mulligan — with crafted cocktails and mocktails on the ready. 17

Noco Exchange

7 p.m. 2 a.m. Friday, Nov. 17, Dickens Opera House, 300 Main St., Longmont. $30

The first-ever Northern Colorado community exchange is coming to Longmont thanks to Sobremese Creative Solutions and SHARE. With an opportunity to enjoy an evening of food, entertainment, dancing, vendors, exhibitions and more, there’s something for everyone at this event.

‘FANTASTIC FUNGI’

2-4 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 18, Meadows Branch Library, 4800 Baseline Road, Boulder. Free

Enjoy a matinee showing of Fantastic Fungi and learn more about their magnitude of health applications, the environment and more through the perspective of scientists and mycologists like Paul Stamets. This adult-only event will have free snacks provided and closed captioning.

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Switch On The Holidays

5-7:30 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 19, 1300 Block of Pearl, Boulder. Free

Kick off the holidays in Downtown Boulder as the city flips the switch on the holiday lights that illuminate Pearl Street Mall, Civic Area and around the Boulder County Courthouse. This event kicks off the series of activities and festivities in Downtown Boulder through December.

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FALL FLOWER & WINE NIGHT

6-7:30 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 21, The Purple Poppy, 2850 Arapahoe Road Suite #108, Lafayette. $75

Enjoy vino and snacks while creating your fall bouquet masterpiece perfect for a Friendsgiving or Thanksgiving table centerpiece. The Purple Poppy will provide fresh flowers, fruit and embellishments that will make your centerpiece the focal point for the holidays.

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ARC’TERYX WINTER FILM TOUR

7 p.m. Saturday, Nov. 18, Boulder Theater, 2032 14th St. $25

Arc’teryx is premiering its boundarypushing sports films for the first time in Boulder, accompanied by a live show from DWLLRS at the Boulder Theater. All proceeds will go to Shejumps, which encourages women to participate in outdoor sports. Both local and global athletes will be available to meet after the show.

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Pearl Street Comedy Show

8-10 p.m. Sunday, Nov. 19, The Velvet Elk Lounge, 2037 13th St., Boulder. $10

Laugh Lines Comedy and Woodford Reserve have brought back a lineup of laughs and drinks for the Pearl Street Comedy Show at the cozy Velvet Elk Lounge. Come early for happy hour (5-7 p.m.) or dinner and cocktails before the show.

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Junkyard Ecstatic Dance

6:15-8:30 p.m. Tuesday, Nov. 21, Junkyard Social Club, 2525 Frontier Ave., Boulder. $12

Experience transformative movement, authenticity and connection at this “5rhythm”-style dance to lift your spirits in an intimate dance setting. The monthly event will start with an opening dance circle, boogie into the dance wave and finish with a closing circle. Adults and kids are welcome.

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Live Music

On The Bill

Singer-songwriter Sadie Dupuis brings her celebrated indie-rock outfit Speedy Ortiz to Globe Hall on Nov. 16 with support from Spacemoth and Mr. Atomic. The Philly quartet comes to the Front Range on the heels of Rabbit Rabbit, their first album in half a decade. Scan the QR code for a Boulder Weekly feature on the band. See listing for details.

THURSDAY, NOV. 16

MAMA MAGNOLIA WITH HEAVY DIAMOND RING 8 p.m. Fox Theatre, 1135 13th St., Boulder. $15

CLIFFSIDE RODEO. 6 p.m. BOCO Cider, 1501 Lee Hill Drive, Unit 14, Boulder. Free

TONY CRANK 6 p.m. Bootstrap Brewing Company, 142 Pratt St., Longmont. Free

CLAY ROSE WITH MANY MOUNTAINS. 7 p.m. Roots Music Project, 4747 Pearl, Suite V3A, Boulder. Free (donations accepted)

THE CBDS 7 p.m. R Gallery + Wine Bar, 2027 Broadway, Boulder. Free

CHUCK AND LIZA FROM HIGH LONESOME 9 p.m. Velvet Elk Lounge, 2037 13th St., Boulder. Free

SPEEDY ORTIZ WITH SPACEMOTH AND MR. ATOMIC 8 p.m. Globe Hall, 4833 Logan St., Denver. $16 BW PICK OF THE WEEK

LP GIOBBI WITH BAD SNACKS AND AMBA. 10:30 p.m. Larimer Lounge, 2721 Larimer St., Denver. $26

ALLISON RUSSELL 8 p.m. Bluebird Theater, 3317 E. Colfax Ave., Denver. $25

FRIDAY, NOV. 17

THE DESERT FURS WITH THE JAUNTEE AND RIVER SPELL 8 p.m. Fox Theatre, 1135 13th St., Boulder. $15

PEAK2PEAK. 9 p.m. Velvet Elk Lounge, 2037 13th St., Boulder. $15

THE LAST WALTZ 8 p.m. Boulder Theater, 2032 14th St. $25

BRUCE COOK TRIO 6 p.m. BOCO Cider, 1501 Lee Hill Drive, Unit 14, Boulder. Free

HARMONY MUSIC HOUSE 6 p.m. DV8 Distillery, 2480 49th St., Suite E, Boulder.

MACKENZIE RAE AND THE SILVER TONGUES. 6 p.m. Bootstrap Brewing Company, 142 Pratt St., Longmont. Free

AMY BIONDO AND THE RENEGADES WITH ART LANDE. 7 p.m. Boulder Piano Gallery, 3111 Walnut St. $20

RACHMANINOFF SYMPHONY NO. 2 7:30 p.m. Grace Commons Concert Hall, 1820 15th St., Boulder. $25

LIGHT ASYLUM WITH HUMAN LEATHER, ORTROTASCE, CXCXCX, AND TELLER 9 p.m. Hi-Dive, 7 S. Broadway, Denver. $25

MUSCADINE BLOODLINE WITH GABE LEE 9 p.m. Gothic Theatre, 3263 S. Broadway, Englewood. $25

Live Music

DISCO LINES WITH SHIP WREK, INJI AND KALEENA ZANDERS 8 p.m. Mission Ballroom, 4242 Wynkoop St., Denver. $35

SATURDAY, NOV. 18

PATRICK DETHLEFS WITH BLUEBOOK. 8 p.m. Chautauqua Community House, 301 Morning Glory Drive, Boulder. $20

EXTRA GOLD. 9 p.m. Velvet Elk Lounge, 2037 13th St., Boulder. $15

REVELL & LEWIS QUINTET. 7 p.m. Muse Performance Space, 200 E. South Boulder Road, Lafayette. $20

ALEX WIRTH BAND 6 p.m. Trident Cafe, 940 Pearl St., Boulder. Free

SPHERE ENSEMBLE 7:30 p.m. Boulder Public Library, 1001 Arapahoe Ave. $20

SHEPHERD & VAUGHN 6 p.m. BOCO Cider, 1501 Lee Hill Drive, Unit 14, Boulder. Free

HOLLY AND THE HUSBANDS 6 p.m. South Boulder Speakeasy, 623 S. Broadway, Boulder. Free

JERRY & JOY 7 p.m. Superior Community Center, 1500 Coalton Road. Free

CORY HANSON WITH SLOWHAND, SUPREME JOY AND HONEY

BLAZER 9 p.m. Hi-Dive, 7 S. Broadway, Denver. $18

THE REGULAR WITH FLOWER HEAD AND DEAR LUNA 8 p.m. Globe Hall, 4483 Logan St., Denver. $15

GOLD PANDA WITH MUX MOOL 6 p.m. Larimer Lounge, 2721 Larimer St., Denver. $25

ROYAL BLOOD WITH HOTWAX 8 p.m. Gothic Theatre, 3263 S. Broadway, Englewood. $140 (resale only)

MARAUDA WITH INFEKT, VERSA, CHIBS, EXECUTIONER AND HUKAE. 8 p.m. Mission Ballroom, 4242 Wynkoop St., Denver. $35

DURRY. 9 p.m. Bluebird Theater, 3317 E. Colfax Ave., Denver. $20

SUNDAY, NOV. 19

NICK FORSTER’S HIPPY BLUEGRASS CHURCH 10:30 a.m. eTown Hall, 1535 Spruce St., Boulder. $15

ANNA CUTLER 4 p.m. BOCO Cider, 1501 Lee Hill Drive, Unit 14, Boulder. Free

KAT ELLIS ENSEMBLE 7 p.m. Muse Performance Space, 200 E. South Boulder Road, Lafayette. $20

BUZZ KULL WITH NORMAL BIAS, PERDI LA LUZ, MANY BLESSINGS, TERRAVAULT AND VERHOFFST. 8 p.m. Hi-Dive, 7 S. Broadway, Denver. $20

BEAUTY SCHOOL DROPOUT WITH NOT A TOY AND AVA MAYBEE 8 p.m. Globe Hall, 4483 Logan St., Denver. $22

DIZZY WITH HOMESCHOOL 7:30 p.m. Larimer Lounge, 2721 Larimer St., Denver. $18

MONDAY, NOV. 20

THE STRUTS WITH MAC SATURN. 8 p.m. Ogden Theatre, 935 E. Colfax Ave., Denver. $33

TUESDAY, NOV. 21

KARAOKE WITH NIC. 6 p.m. Bootstrap Brewing Company, 142 Pratt St., Longmont. Free

WEDNESDAY, NOV. 22

SHALLOU WITH ORIGAMI HUMAN 8 p.m. Fox Theatre, 1135 13th St., Boulder. $21

BENNA HANNA. 9 p.m. Velvet Elk Lounge, 2037 13th St., Boulder. Free

JOVANNA MUSK (DJ SET) 8 p.m. Dickens Opera House, 300 Main St., Longmont. $15

ELLIE & THE ALIBIS WITH MOD MOFMA, GABRIEL ALBELO AND EARTH OK 8 p.m. Globe Hall, 4483 Logan St., Denver. $15

CHRIS ARES, EQUALIZOR, DEKID AND NATURAL HABITAT 9 p.m. Larimer Lounge, 2721 Larimer St., Denver. Free

BY ROB BREZSNY

ARIES (MARCH 21-APRIL 19): When we experience authentic awe, our humility deepens. This is turn tends to make us kinder, smarter and more positive. So how can we stimulate awe? Among the many possible ways are gazing at magnificent art, hiking in a natural wonderland or being in the presence of a beautiful human soul. In accordance with astrological omens, I recommend that you go in quest of awe and related feelings like reverence, amazement, adoration and veneration. Your mental, physical and spiritual health will flourish in response.

TAURUS (APRIL 20-MAY 20): It’s the season for cherishing and smoking out secrets. So let’s talk about the subject. 1. Some secrets are sad and haunting, even risky — and worth keeping secret. 2. Other secrets can be beautiful, healing and potentially life-changing if they are revealed gracefully. 3. Some secrets are buried so deeply that only very persistent seekers dig them up. 4. Some secrets are “hidden” in plain view, and only visible to people who are clear and brave enough to identify them. I suspect you Tauruses will have a special knack for managing all types of secrets in the coming weeks, including those I mentioned.

GEMINI (MAY 21-JUNE 20): I hope you won’t fill yourself up with appetizers and hors d’oeuvres in the coming weeks, Gemini. My soul will be at peace if I see you save your hunger for the main courses. Your motto should be “Feasts, not snacks!” or “The Real Deal, not the pretenders!” or “The jubilee, not the distractions!” If you ever find yourself feeling halfhearted or inattentive, you’re probably not in the right situation. Here’s an affirmation to go with your mottoes: “I am liberating my divine appetite!”

CANCER (JUNE 21-JULY 22): Playwright Anton Chekhov (1860–1904) is regarded as one of history’s great writers. That does not mean everything he said was wise, useful or worthy of our attention. For example, he was once asked to give his opinion about ballet. “During the intermissions, the ballerinas stink like horses,” he replied. I hesitate to bring up such a vulgar reference, but I wanted to make a vivid point. In the coming weeks, I hope you will ignore the advice of people who don’t know what they are talking about, no matter how smart or charismatic they may be. I hope you will not attribute expertise to those who have no such expertise. I hope that as much as possible, you will rely on firsthand information, rigorous research and reliable influences.

LEO (JULY 23-AUG. 22): Researchers have determined that there are two basic dispositions among tigers. One is what they call “majesty.” Creatures with this orientation tend to be dignified, imposing and agile. The other type of tiger personality revolves around “steadiness.” This is the opposite of neuroticism, and includes the qualities of being affable, easy to get along with, and welladjusted. I know many astrologers associate lions with you Leos, but I prefer to link you with tigers. If you agree with me, here’s my prediction: You are beginning a phase when you will be more majestic than steady — but with plenty of steadiness also available if you want it.

VIRGO (AUG. 23-SEPT. 22): “It is better to entertain an idea than to take it home to live with you for the rest of your life,” wrote author Randall Jarrell. That’s decent advice, though I will add a caveat. If you entertain an idea for a while and it turns out that you love it, and you also love the beneficent effect it has on you, you may be smart to take it home to live with you. I’m guessing you Virgos are at a pivotal point in this regard. Not yet, but soon, you will know whether it will be wise to get cozier with certain influences you have been flirting with — or else decide they are not ones you want to keep.

LIBRA (SEPT. 23-OCT. 22): If I could give an award for Most Curious Genius in the World, it would be to Libran author and naturalist Diane Ackerman. She would also get my prize for Most Voracious Learner and Best Questioner and Most Exuberant Seeker and Searcher. “To hear the melody,” she writes, “we must hear all the notes.” In response to the question, “What is life?” she offers this answer: “corsages and dust mites and alligator skin and tree-frog serenades and foreskins and blue hydrangeas and banana slugs and war dances and cedar chips and bombardier beetles.” In accordance with current astrological omens, I encourage you to be like Diane Ackerman in the coming weeks.

SCORPIO (OCT. 23-NOV. 21): Have you located any of your soul twins? If not, is that an interesting prospect for you? Please note that soul twins are not necessarily the same as dream lovers. They may simply be people with whom you share deep values and perspectives. They might aspire to influence the world in ways similar to you. With a soul twin, you feel at home in the world and extra happy to be yourself. I bring these meditations to your attention, Scorpio, because the coming months will be an especially likely time for you to encounter and engage with soul twins. Be on the alert!

SAGITTARIUS (NOV. 22-DEC. 21):

Composer Ludwig van Beethoven (1770–1827) was charismatic and forceful, but also hot-tempered and prone to rude behavior. The writer Goethe, his contemporary, said “his talent amazed me,” and described him as an “utterly untamed personality.” Beethoven seldom lived in one home for very long and loved to sing at the top of his lungs as he washed himself. Although he played piano with exquisite skill, he was quite clumsy as he moved through the world. Can you guess what astrological sign he was? Same as you, Sagittarius! I’m not saying you are exactly like this wild, unruly genius, but you do have tendencies in that direction. And in the coming weeks, I expect you’ll be inclined to be more Beethoven-esque than usual. Please work on emphasizing the winsome aspects.

CAPRICORN (DEC. 22-JAN. 19): I hope you have developed good boundaries, Capricorn. I hope you are so skilled at taking care of yourself that you steadfastly refuse to let people manipulate you or hurt you. Just to make sure your discernment is working at peak levels, though, I will offer you a tip. In the English language, we have the idiom “to rub salt in a wound,” which refers to the fact that daubing salt in an open gash in the skin makes the pain even worse. But did you know that smearing sugar in a wound is equally distressing? The metaphorical lesson is that you should be vigilant for seemingly nice, sweet people who might also violate your boundaries to hurt or manipulate you.

AQUARIUS (JAN. 20-FEB. 18): I estimate this horoscope is worth $22,225. It has been made possible by my many years of disciplined meditations, extensive reading of holy texts and an ever-growing devotion to astrology and my readers. But here’s the fun part: You can read these words for free! No cost at all! I will, however, ask you to do something for me in return. First, give your gifts joyously and generously in the coming weeks, holding nothing back. Second, don’t be in the least concerned about whether you will receive benefits in return for your gifts. Find the sweet spot where you love bestowing blessings for no other reason except this one: You are expressing your gratitude for the miraculous life you have been given.

PISCES (FEB. 19-MARCH 20): Do you possess gambits, tactics and knacks that we might refer to as your “bag of tricks”? I hope so, because such an asset will be extra valuable during the coming weeks. You will be wise to employ every cagey move you can imagine, call on every favor that’s owed to you and cash in on every advantage you have accrued. I don’t want you to engage in outright cheating, but I encourage you to use ploys and stratagems that have full integrity. Be on the lookout for secret shortcuts, magic cookies and wild cards.

BY DAN SAVAGE

I am a woman who has plentiful orgasms very easily and a WAP. I prefer a larger-than average penis, which apparently is common (according to some studies) among women who orgasm a lot, because I need to have my cervix rammed to feel completely satisfied. I don’t want to be this way, and I feel a little ashamed since it’s something men can’t change about themselves. What do I do if I meet someone who is otherwise a very compatible partner but physically, through no fault of his own, can’t give me what I need sexually? I like it to be a big enough dick that it hurts a little.

Guys with big dicks are great, but guys — big or small — who are secure enough with their dicks to occasionally strap on a big dildo are even better. Find one of them.

Straight boy in the big city who sometimes plays the Bull for cuck couples. Went in for a second job interview and the boss was a man whose wife I’d fucked in front of him a year ago. There was lots of verbal abuse that his wife initiated (and I played along with) but their thing was too intense, and I politely declined to meet up with them again. I didn’t get the job, and I’m pretty sure why. I still have his wife’s phone number. Do I have any recourse here?

You don’t — unless you want stoned CNN viewers to root against the detectives investigating your murder in a future episode of Forensic Files

I have some questions about pronouns. I get he/him, she/her and they/them but not he/they or she/ they. This has been a discussion with friends and family. Personally, I want people to identify with their truth. But I still don’t understand he/they or she/they. Can you make it make sense?

Ours is not to reason why, ours is but to make to make a good faith effort to remember the unique and sometimes unpredictable pronoun preferences of everyone we meet. We also have the option of training ourselves to never, ever use pronouns at all, in reference to anyone, ever again (She/they, he/ they: “I may identify with and present as my natal/biological/assigned sex BUT I CONTAIN MULTITUDES, bitches!”)

Sex with hubs is boring now, but I have no new fantasies. How do I get into it again?

If the relationship is open, fuck some other people, alone and together. If the relationship is closed, fuck each other someplace you haven’t fucked before — at the office, at a sex club, in the ass, etc.

Best BJ trick?

A gentle bite — just a little pressure applied with the teeth at a moment when the dick isn’t sliding in or out paired with sustained eye contact. It’s a great way to remind the person whose dick is in your mouth that they don’t have all the power, since you could tear that cock off with your teeth at any moment. So.