12/6/2007 2:12:00 PM
Who am I? I've thrown around starting a blog now for quite some time... and honestly, one of the things stopping me was looking at this empty page and trying to decide where to start. To tell you the truth- I don't think I'm all that interesting- or perhaps I should say 'blog worthy'. But really-I think the biggest obstacle was the "about me" question on the side bar. I sat here for the longest time and tried to find the words for who 'I' really am. How do I see myself? What am I all about? Who am I? I know each day when I wake up and hear "Mommy!!!" that I am most definately someone's mommy. That I love beyond words. I know when I feel a good morning kiss upon my cheek I am blessed to be married to the man of my dreams. For that I am so thankful. I know that I am a sister and a friend... something that I cherish. And I know that before my feet ever hit the ground my eyes are lifted upward to my creator....I am a Christian. I have lived the life of placing my trust in everything and everyone but God himself. Been there- done that. Ugly. So maybe that it part of why I cannot really put into words yet who 'I' am. Maybe it's because I am a work in progress... God is growing me, stretching me, calling me- and I am willing, oh so willing, to be what He has called me to be~ this day. I will continue to wake up and each day look straight to Him for direction. I want to live every day of my life not being worried about 'Me' and what 'my' wants are-but being where God needs me at that moment. I want to be used by Him to make a difference... God, you knew exactly what you were getting into when you chose me- and you chose me anyway. Thank you. Comments Amy said: Dear mommy, I am so pround of u for finally starting your blog and i think it is very good. i love you always~addisyn p.s. you r the best mom in the world
12/8/2007 11:27:00 AM
Turning 5!!!
This is my precious Mya Sofia. Mya has been home just a little over a year now. She came home at just 2 months shy of being 4 years old. (To view her video click here http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=-4414988281239942044 ) This little girl is such a gift from God. She has blessed our family beyond measure with her bright smile and amazing attitude. I have learned more from this little girl than I ever thought possible. She is my hero. For her birthday this year she wanted a guitar and to go to the McDonalds playland. How easy was that on mommy!? For dinner we went out to eat at Chilli's and Mya had this huge chocolate ice cream cake for dessert that she graciously shared with all her family. I'm sad that my baby is already five years old- but so thankful for this amazing year we have had with her in our family. I love you Mya Sofia! Happy 5th birthday! Comments Angel said: 5 YEARS OLD!!! It's not possible. Oh I just love all the pictures. She is so gorgeous. :0) Angel
Jenny said: I love your picture Mya (MY bestest birthday present ever!!!) titi
12/8/2007 11:40:00 AM
What's in a peanut butter ball...
If you ask my kids what their favorite Christmas treat is- they will, hands down, all six of them say- the Peanut butter ball. I could probably go without making cut out sugar
cookies, green wreath cookies, Spritz cookies or anything else and they wouldn't even notice. So this year we made a tripple batch of peanut butter balls. I wonder if they will last till Christmas? Addisyn, Aleigha, Mya and Kallan (who bowed out of the picture taking) all pitched in and helped make them this year- and after the fun was done- Aleigha and Mya took a little 'reindeer' ride. Just a little weekend fun at our house! Comments Jessica said: i would like the recipe too! looks yummy!
Angel said: Ummmmm I want the recipe to those. YUM! I'm calling you in a minute. Addy you are the coolest big sister ever and an awesome reindeer. Angel
Anonymous said: Amy, I don't have the peanut butter balls recipe ‐ how can I miss out? You'll have to send it to me!! DebbieT
12/8/2007 12:04:00 PM
I'm going to be an aunt again!!!
I don't know what has gotten into me today. I am a bloggin fool. At first I didn't know what to write about and this morning as I was doing my devotions it just hit me how very blessed I am. I have so much to share!! Are there any rules about too many posts in one day? Anyway- I am going to be an Auntie again! My awesome sister Jenny (in the picture with me - I'm in the green) is adopting this AMAZING little boy in just a few weeks. He will be turning 9 years old the end of December. He was born in Mexico and is just gorgeous don't you think? (and so is his new family!) I cannot wait to meet him. God has definately blessed our family through adoption and I could not be more thankful for that. Please pray for my sister, her new son, and their family. Pray that it is an easy adjustment for them and that this precious little boy understands that he has at last, finally found his FOREVER family. I love you my sweet nephew and I am so proud of you Jenny. Thank you for your heart- for being my best friend and the other half of my brain! You are cherished! Comments Angel said: WOOOOOHOOOOOO!!!! YAY FOR JENNY! He is precious. Angel
Jenny said: I love your blog....does this mean I don't have to call you daily for your words of wisdom? I can just read them! Ha! Love ya! jenny
12/8/2007 1:24:00 PM
Sweet E....
"For I know the plans I have for you," declares the Lord, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart. I will be found by you," delares the Lord, "and will bring you back from captivity." (Jeremiah 29:11-14a) I prayed for you today... that God will wrap his arms around you and that you can feel how loved you are. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight. (Proverbs 3:5-6) Comments Angel said: Ugggghhhh... I am so in love with him and praying for him too. You KNOW that. Love, Angel
12/8/2007 1:51:00 PM
Affording the Good Stuff I read this on another blog and I could totally relate to what this mother wrote... awesome! The other day while painting my daughter’s room, with the little kids safely cordoned off elsewhere, I actually had time to daydream. Mind wandering, I found myself wondering how it would feel to have enough money for a week in Hawaii. A kitchen remodel. A couple weeks in Europe. Or even the freedom to zip off to California for the weekend just for the fun of it. All the stuff that’s hard to fit in the budget while raising eight kids on a single income. For just a moment I wondered about the life we don’t have, the path we didn’t choose. What would be it be like if we had stopped having children after our first two
daughters. If we’d chosen that other path, what might we have instead? We’d have a matched bedroom set, but no little kids bouncing on our bed in the mornings. We’d have the latest in video equipment, but no 4 year old pirouetting for the camera. We’d have video of Hawaii beaches, but none of Christmas programs featuring half a dozen of our brood. We’d see the Eiffel tower, but we’d never see 8 ‘stairsteps’ lined up on the beach grinning for a photo. We’d have a cool commercial range, but no pots big enough to properly test it. We’d have new living room carpet, but no rosy-cheeked 8 year olds to wrestle there. We’d have a nice lawn, but no teenagers gleefully chasing toddlers around the yard. We’d have a hot tub, but no little children splashing and squirt-gun-fighting. We’d have nice dinnerware, but the dinner table would be nearly empty. And what about our children if there were only two? They might have gone on a cruise, but they would have missed the eye-opening trip to another country to adopt a sibling. They’d have pictures with made-up Disney princesses, but none with tiny sisters looking adoringly up at them. Their college may have been paid for, but later they’d bear the burden of aging parents alone. They’d have designer jeans, but no mob of siblings to laugh with later in life over childhood memories. The individual present-piles under the Christmas tree would have been bigger, but I don't know how a small crew around the tree each year could compare to the ever-growing mob that comes from a big family, as children become adults and add their own spouses and children to the joy of the season. You know what? I think we’re affording the good stuff after all. Comments Angel said: LOVE this post... so true. Angel
12/8/2007 1:58:00 PM
You are special A well-known speaker started off his seminar by holding up a $20.00 bill. In the room of 200, he asked, "Who would like this $20 bill?" Hands started going up He said, "I am going to give this $20 to one of you but first, let me do this. He proceeded to crumple up the $20 dollar bill. He then asked, "Who still wants it?"Still the hands were up in the air. Well, he replied, "What if I do this?" And he dropped it on the ground and started to grind it into the floor with his shoe. He picked it up, now crumpled and dirty. "Now, who still wants it?" Still the hands went into the air. My friends, we have all learned a very valuable lesson. No matter what I did to the money, you still wanted it because it did not decrease in value. It was still worth $20. Many times in our lives, we are dropped, crumpled, and ground into the dirt by the decisions we make and the circumstances that come our way. We feel as though we are worthless. But no matter what has happened or what will happen, you will never lose your value. Dirty or clean, crumpled or finely creased, you are still priceless to those who DO LOVE you. The worth of our lives comes not in what we do or who we know, but by WHO WE ARE and WHOSE WE ARE. You are special. Comments Angel said: OH SOOOOOO GOOD! I am totally stealing that. :0) Angel
12/8/2007 4:52:00 PM
What's REALLY inside a peanut butter ball! I guess I took it for granted that everyone had the peanut butter ball recipe- but my good friend Debbie let me know that is not necessarily the case. So, I am going public with what is REALLY inside the peanut butter balls. You HAVE to try these- you'll never again go through a Christmas without. 2. C. creamy peanut butter l lb. powdered sugar 1 stick butter. (that's what's inside) Stir together peanut butter and butter until creamy. Add in the powdered sugar. Mix well. Roll into small balls and place on waxed paper on a cookie sheet. Chill in frig for about an hour. In saucepan pour 1 bag of MILK chocolate chips on low until melted. Dip balls in milk chocolate and put back on the waxed paper. Chill in frig. again and enjoy! Comments Angel said: OH MY GOSH!!! I AM IN LOVE ALREADY! They sound so good. We are making them this week. Angel
Anonymous said: Thanks so much for enlightening me, Amy!! I will definitely be making those this season! How have I been missing out on peanut butter balls this long? They sound yummy!!!! DebbieT
Anonymous said: dear mommy, i love you so much your blog is awesome!!!!~addisyn
12/8/2007 7:23:00 PM
The Horse Mya- "Mommy, I lost my horse". Me- "What horse did you loose Mya?" Mya- "the one in my mouth". Me- "you mean your voice is hoarse?" Mya- "Yes mommy, that is what I said!"
Comments Angel said: Hee hee! That is too cute! Angel
Anonymous said: mommy u never told me that mya said that. that is too funny!!!!~addisyn
12/8/2007 7:47:00 PM
Christmas Parade
My prayer as we enter this season of great joy is that the Lord would enlighten the eyes of our heart to know the Hope to which He has called us. (Eph. 1:18-19) Tonight our small town had a Christmas parade. It was our first time going and the kids were very excited. Travis and Keegan rode in the parade on the football float. The parade was all of 5 minutes long- but the girls loved it none the less. It was sort of wierd standing outside watching a Christmas parade when it was 75 degrees out and the high school band was playing "Walking in a Winter Wonderland". Hee/Hee. Gotta love Texas! Comments Anonymous said: dear mommy i am so cute great pics!~kallan
Michelle Riggs said: Great pictures! Thanks for posting them.
12/9/2007 1:22:00 PM
The wrinkles...
I tend to think of myself as still being 24... but this morning while getting ready for church I noticed yet another wrinkle. I asked myself how this could be~ I still feel like I am 24, but looking at these old pictures I guess it's proof. I'm not 24 anymore. When I think about it- I am actually thankful I am no longer that age. The first reason being- I am leaving the 'hair' behind. LOL Did you see how TALL my bangs were? The second reason is- I have spent these last years growing as a Christian and I have never been happier. I miss my 4 biggest kids being that small- but I am also enjoying watching them grow into the kind of 'bigger' people that I am so proud of. I know I have a lot more 'growing' to do... I know I am so not there yet. But I am thankful for a God who loves me enough to WANT to use me- no matter where I am. I remind myself that MY part is to believe and obey- and HIS part is to grow and change me. I am so thankful for that change... I just wish it did not include so many wrinkles! Lord, thank you for growing me in your likeness. Thank you for this abundant life you have given me. Thank you for your peace that surpasses our limited understanding. Help us to be obedient to your ways and in all that we do honor you. May our lives be a testimony to your love, mercy and grace. In Jesus name. Amen Comments Angel said: LOVE THE HAIR!!! Debbie is right gorgeous!! You get more wonderful every day Amy. HUGS! Angel
Anonymous said: It doesn't matter how old you are ‐you're still gorgeous ‐ remember? ‐even with the big hair! (and you're not really old!!!) I love seeing all the pics of your cute kids when they were little! You have been hiding your blogging talents for too long! DebbieT
Noah's mom said: Amy, I still think I'm 19. Seriously. I do. And then, the kids at church go and do something rude, like calling me "ma'am" and it jolts me back to reality. That, and the fact, that Eli asked which crayon I used to color my hair white. (Sigh). BTW, LOVE those photos!!! And, girl, you were meant to be a Texan. You've got some serious Texas hair going on there. :‐) Leslie
12/9/2007 9:44:00 PM
Worth the Risk To laugh is to risk ... appearing a fool. To weep is to risk ... appearing sentimental. To reach out for another is to risk ... involvement. To expose feelings is to risk ... rejection. To place your dreams before the crowd is to risk ... ridicule. To love is to risk ... being loved in return. To go forward in the face of overwhelming odds is to risk ... failure. But, risks must be taken, because the greatest risk of all is to risk nothing. Those who risk nothing ... do nothing, have nothing, are nothing. They may temporarily avoid suffering and sorrow, but they cannot feel, learn, change, grow, live, or love. Chained by their certitudes, they become slaves Forfeiting their freedom. Only the person who risks is free. - Chuck Swindoll
12/10/2007 9:18:00 AM
I am blessed
It happened again… we were counted. 1,2,3,4 (eyes growing bigger) 5, (mouth drops open) 6… Yep- six kids and here it comes – “ARE THEY ALL YOURS?” This incident got me to thinking… why is that people think of having children is a burdennot a blessing- and when did this all start? I believe a lot of it has to do with the ‘me’ generation that we live in. Many people see children as a good thing only if we can afford them (according to the worlds view), only if our career is well established, only if the pregnancy (or adoption) is any easy one, and definitely if there are not more than two of them. But I believe in having this view we are putting limits on God and we need to trust that God will bless us as He sees fit… God has blessed our family- not just with having 6 children- but with the blessing that comes from trusting Him to provide for us and trusting us with His children. On Sunday our pastor reminded us that against popular belief- we were NOT put on this earth to live in BIG houses and have BIG banks accounts. It’s hard to go against the ‘norm’- what everyone else views as ‘popular’ today… and it’s hard to hear over and over again “you are crazy for having so many children”. But I’d like to turn the tables and ask the askers- why shouldn't they have more children -and then hold their answers up against scripture. For example, if they think they shouldn’t because they can’t afford it, then what does that say when God says He is the only one who provides for us? Do they think they can take care of themselves and do not need God? If they say they just cannot “handle” any more kids… why is that? Are the children they do have undisciplined? Are they too busy doing things that really do not have eternal value? Are they being selfish? And just so we understand, I am NOT talking about those who can only have one child, or no children at all- because sometimes that too is God's will. I am just simply responding to those who feel free to comment on large families and why we choose this life. When I let the comments bother me, and I begin to have doubts or question myself- I ask myself- are the children God gave us the source of stress in my life? I have to honestly say no. People with only one child or even no children still experience stress, they still have rough days and life still gets overwhelming. So when I look into my children’s eyes- when I see them running to me to share the excitement of their day- God confirms to me that yes - I do have MORE THAN ENOUGH… more than enough love, more than enough hugs, more than enough smiles, more than enough laughter, and more than enough to brighten my day. And for that- I am so very, very, blessed. So you see-letting peoples comments upset me is not doing anyone any good- But, taking that opportunity to share the Lord with them and all that He has done for us in allowing us to have a larger family than most, and trusting Him alone is a blessing in itself. God can use me. He can use me to share Him with others- and for that I am doubly blessed.
Comments Wendi said: Hi, it's Wendi, Angel's friend...we met at Zoe's homecoming party... This post is one of my favorite blog posts that I've ever read...thank you for writing words that until now had only been in my heart and head...you captured them ‐ thank you! (I'm going to post a link from my blog). Your family is beautiful and inspiring...looking forward to the day when God chooses to entrust us with more. I also have a question about sibling fights, if you don't mind emailing me off‐line at wendi@henrylegacy.com. Thanks!
Wendi said: Hi, it's Wendi, Angel's friend...we met at Zoe's homecoming party... This post is one of my favorite blog posts that I've ever read...thank you for writing words that until now had only been in my heart and head...you captured them ‐ thank you! (I'm going to post a link from my blog). Your family is beautiful and inspiring...looking forward to the day when God chooses to entrust us with more. I also have a question about sibling fights, if you don't mind emailing me off‐line at wendi@henrylegacy.com. Thanks!
Angel said: When I see that couch full of kids it looks wonderful to me. I love this post and you are so right! We let our selfishness get in the way of the incredible blessings God wants to give us. Our definition of joy is so very narrow.I adore your family. I have a feeling my couch will be just as full one day. You are part of my inspiration for that. Hugs! Angel
12/10/2007 1:51:00 PM
Away in the manger
Growing up this was the nativity scene we had in our home. I remember sitting in front of it just staring at the figurines. My mom used to let me play with the people- as a matter of fact, it's the same figures she played with as a little girl as well. If you look closely the heads have been glued back onto Mary and the wise men more times than I can count. Today I found Aleigha sitting in front of the nativity scene just looking in wonder- the same way I did when I was a child. Isn't God awesome how He draws us in... how even at a young age we long for more of Him... we long to understand Him... to get just a little glimpse of His heart. "If you have faith as small as a mustard seed... nothing will be impossible for you." Matthew 17:20 Lord, you give each of your children a seed of faith. Then it is up to us how we grow it. Growth comes when we trust you will every circumstance of our lives and believe that nothing is impossible through you. Lord we are willing, oh so willing, to follow you at all cost.. turning our back on anything else that has previously held us in it's grip. When we chose to surrender our own self-will, interests, and desires, you will exhange them for a new heart and a life that is pleasing to you. Thank you. Comments
Amazed by grace said: These pictures are so sweet ‐ It's so neat that you have a nativity that has been in your family that long! I hope mine makes it that far. Gone are the days of being able to arrange the nativity myself and have it look "nice." (Right now everyone is lined up to see Baby Jesus.) I love it that your kids can play with yours too. Sarah PS. I'm so glad you started a blog. You have such a great heart that really encourages others.
Noah's mom said: Not even five minutes ago, I took down our nativity scene from Guatemala and put it on top of our bookcase. I decided it wouldn't last another day in Nandini's hands. She is soooo attracted to it. But it did make me think that maybe she needs a dollhouse with some doll figures. :‐) Leslie
12/10/2007 2:52:00 PM
The White Elephant Ok- This might be way more than you ever wanted to know- but hey, it's my blog- if you don't like it then start your own. :0) This year we have for some odd reason been asked to bring the 'white elephant' gift to almost all of the parties we have been invited too. Now I have been involved in the 'white elephant' gift exchange in the past but to be honest I have never really given it much thought. Just figured I'd do what I was asked and bring my gift. But it seems to me that a lot of people (I including one) have no idea what a 'white elephant gift exchange' really is so I thought I'd do some digging and find out. So here goes: The history of the white elephant gift: From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia A white elephant is a supposedly valuable possession whose cost (particularly cost of upkeep) exceeds its usefulness, and it is therefore a liability. The term derives from the sacred white elephants kept by traditional Southeast Asian monarchs in Burma, Thailand, Laos and Cambodia. To possess a white elephant was regarded (and still is regarded, in Thailand and Burma) as a sign that the monarch was ruling with justice and the kingdom was blessed with peace and prosperity. The tradition derives from tales in the scriptures which associate a white elephant with the birth of Buddha. Because the animals were considered sacred and laws protected them from labor, receiving a “gift” of a white elephant from a monarch was both a blessing and a curse: a blessing because of the animal’s sacred nature and a curse because the animal could be put to no practical use. HUMMMMMMMM..... And next, the rules of the game: All attendees of a white elephant party are expected to bring one wrapped gift. Traditionally, a white elephant present is something unusual, somewhat useless, or inconvenient. Trinkets, strange knick knacks, unidentifiable kitchen items, and the like are typical white elephants, and guests are asked to wrap them nicely and to leave no identifying markings on the presents. Part of the white elephant game is often a series of
guesses as to who brought which present. Usually, attendees draw numbers or cards to indicate player order. Strategic white elephant players try to end up somewhere in the middle of the game. The white elephant gifts are piled in a central location, and game play begins when one person opens the first gift. The contents are displayed to the room, and the next player’s turn begins. The second player may either open a new present from the stack or steal the first player’s gift. If the second player takes the first player's white elephant, the first player must open a new present. A gift may only be stolen once a turn. After the second player’s turn is complete, the third player proceeds with the same options, and so forth until the game is finished. Some white elephant parties impose a rule that a gift may only be stolen three times, requiring careful strategizing in the case of large multiplayer games. Sometimes, players band together to create advantageous trades amongst each other, although some white elephant exchanges forbid collaboration. In some cases, traditional gifts make their way back to white elephant parties year after year, and players can trace the history of lavish fur coats, hideous gravy boats, and other examples through the years. After all this research I am still not positive what the attraction is- but I'm chalking it up to most of us needing to get rid of some of the stuff we bought and didn't need in the first place. Comments Angel said: Well it IS kind of funny to see some things people bring and it's WAY better than having to buy MORE junk nobody wants. So that is good I guess. I haven't been to one of those parties in years. The last one I went to I remember it being pretty amusing. Welcome to Texas and our weird traditions!!! Angel
12/10/2007 7:49:00 PM
Doing the happy (aunt) dance!
My sister got more pictures today of her new son Mario. Come on and admit it- is he not the cutest thing EVER? I am crazy about this kid! He is one of the bravest little boys I know of and I am so proud to be his aunt. "Stop and consider God's wonders." Job 37:14 Lord, thank you for the miracle of adoption... thank you for the privilege of bringing this precious child of yours into our family. Thank you for allowing us to be a part of your sovereign plan. Please hold Mario's heart in your hands- right now, today Lord, protect him. Help him to forgive and then to grow with the confidence that only you can give him. Give us the wisdom to see his needs- and teach him that he is loved unconditionally. Open the hearts of those who judge- and who are afraid to love Lord. Let us look to you constantly as your perfect plan unfolds. Let us make a difference with your help, one by one. Comments Titi Jenny said: Yes....he's the cutest thing ever...fits in well with our families...doesn't he?? Thanks for the awesome prayers!!! jen
Anonymous said: He is just ADORABLE!!! Jenny is going to have so much fun! Can't wait to see him with his family and his doting sisters!! DebbieT
12/11/2007 9:01:00 AM
Pizza anyone???
Our oldest son, Travis, got a new job at our local pizza place! He is really seeming to like it so far. Now let me tell you, getting a 17 year old to let me take his picture holding a 'frozen pizza' for my blog was no easy task. I had to pull out the old trick of "honey, it would really mean the world to grandma and grandpa to see a picture of you... they are getting old ya know and don't get to see you that often'. (Sorry mom and dad- but it worked!) Travis is working for a really awesome family from India. He said they are so fun to work for. His 2nd night of working and delivering pizza his boss informed him (insert thick Indian accent) "you see child come to door with money you know you get no tip". LOL So basically people send their children to the door to pay the pizza delivery dude so they do not have to stand face to face to him and not give him a tip. Oh my... sad but probably very true. Pepperoni anyone? Comments Anonymous said: Thanks Amy!!! But seriously if Trav brings me a pizza I'll give him a big tip. Mom
Angel said: That is so funny. Kid=no tip.... SO WRONG! Ya learn something knew every day. LOVE the picture though. Hee hee. Angel
12/11/2007 2:47:00 PM
Miracle of Adoption Family (1)
One of the greatest gifts about adoption (besides of course the beautiful children) is the friendships I have made along the way with other adoptive families. I've decided it might be to fun to 'share' some of the cool adoptive families I know with you all. I am sure you will find them as amazing as I do. Today I am going to share with you the "L" family. We actually were blessed by this families friendship before they adopted and had the privilige of following along on their adoption journey with them. Their journey was long- and of course included many road blocks along the way- but God was faithful and filled their arms and their hearts with 2 of the most beautiful children I have ever seen in my life. And not only are the gorgeous- but they fit into this family perfectly. I am so proud of this family- and honored to be in their lives. It is hard to not live close to them anymore- and even harder yet to have never had the opportunity to meet their new children face to face. But I will be forever grateful for their friendship. Their son Taz came home at age 3 and Addalyn came home at 5 months- both from Ethioipia. Isn't God great? Lord, once again I thank you for adoption... and the friendships you have blessed us with along the way. I ask for your protection over the 'L' family as they face the challenges of raising their children in the world today. Bless this precious family and give them the peace that only you can give. They love you Lord and because of that they have touched the lives of so many. Psalm 119:165 says "Great peace have those who love the law; nothing can make them stumble." Lord let your peace reign daily, no matter what circumstances they face. Comments Heather said: We, too, are so thankful for your friendship and feel blessed to be able to call you our friends. Thank you for your awesome example and for introducing us to international adoption. What wonderful gifts our children are! All of them...most days! :) We love you all‐‐‐Heather
12/12/2007 8:42:00 AM
Mario's video
http://www.fliptrack.com/watch/KhQ6YhdtRf My sister did a sweet video for her new son, Mario- check it out!
12/12/2007 9:55:00 AM
Miracle of Adoption Family (2)
Today I would like to introduce to the the "S" family. I met Leslie while going through the adoption process with Aleigha. Actually, her son Eli and Aleigha were 'crib mates' in the orphanage in Guatemala. God truly blessed me the day I met Leslie. One word I would use to describe Leslie is "HEART". She is AMAZING beyond words. Leslie and her husband Sim's first adoption was Noah- who came from India. As you can see this little boy is beautiful and such a gift from God. Everyone who meets Noah adores this child. Noah is now 6 -years -old and diagnosed with CP and autism. Through Noah and Leslie I have learned that God truly does not make 'mistakes'. Spend one day with this child and you will never be the same again. God is good. "May the God of peace... equip you with everything good for doing his will, and may he work in us what is pleasing to him through Jesus Christ, to whom be glory for ever and ever."Hebrews 13:20-21) Leslie and Sim's 2nd adoption was Eli , born in Guatemala. Eli is now 4 years old. When I think of Eli- the word "Spirit" comes to mind. He is ALL BOY, FULL OF LIFE and pure Joy! Aleigha and Mya would rather spend a day with Eli than a day at Disney Land I am sure! "I have come that they may have life and have it to the full". (John 10:10) Again God was good. And last, but not least, is Princess Nandini- and what a blessing she is. Nandini (age 3) has only been home a month now and this precious little girl has made her entrance known. What can I say- she's a princess after all. Leslie and Simeon had been praying about adopting again and 'found' Nandini on a special needs waiting list called Brittney's Hope. Nandini was born with CP and also has a cyst on her brain. No families had come forth to adopt this sweet angel- which I am confident is because God already had her perfect family in mind. She was like a little hidden treasure just waiting to be found. "God's gifts and his call are irrevocable". (Romans 11:29) There really are not words to describe how much this family has blessed our lives. Just knowing them and learning from them is priceless. They are truly an inspiration and because of their faithfulness God has blessed them. We love this American, Brittish,
Guatemalan and Indian mixed family. It is an honor to be their friend. Lord you have blessed me with the precious gift of this families friendship. I stand in awe of how they use the gifts and talents you have given them to truly make a difference in this world. In them I see you Lord... their hands do your work- healing, comforting, encouraging, touching and loving your children. I stand in awe.
12/12/2007 12:03:00 PM
Miracle of Adoption Family (3)
And next in line is the "T" family. Debbie and I become friends via the internet on an adoption forum while I was in process with Aleigha's adoption. Debbie was so patient and kind and because of her heart for adoption mentored many families- taking the time to answer questions and always a word of encouragement. The adoption journey is not for the faint of heart and just having someone there who has 'been there' was such a blessing to me. Over these past 4 years Debbie and I have become good friends and she was one of the ladies who spent a week with me last November in Guatemala at the orphange. It was one of the most amazing experience in my life- and having Debbie by my side made it all the more special. It was dream we both shared and I couldn't have asked for a more precious person to experience this trip with me. Debbie and her husband John were blessed with 3 biological sons and their life was good. But in December, 1998, Debbie's mom- Joyace Ann-whom was not only her mother, but her best friend as well, was diagnosed with ovarian cancer. She lost the battle on May, 24, 2000, leaving behind a family who adored her. Soon after she died, Debbie 'ran across' a magazine article on international adoption and knew without a doubt that God was speaking right to her. Through her grief, God was showing her how she could continue the relationship she and her mom had shared~ but with her own daughter ... which He led her too in Guatemala. Anna Joyace (named after Debbie's mom) was place in Debbie's arms at the age of 6 months through the miracle of adoption. She is a beautiful, spunky, child of God- who wears a crown in her family and is doted on by her 3 big, handsome brothers. "And my God will supply every need of yours according to his riches in glory in Christ Jesus. (Philippians 4:19) Lord, everything we have is yours and yours alone... you give and take away... we may not always understand yours ways but we trust in you and rest in you... and like a child-we reach for your hand and walk by faith and not by sight. Thank you for loving us, for picking us up and putting us back on course when we become weary and loose our way. Hold our hearts in your hand. Thank you for those who come into our lives and touch us and change us... if even only for a short time.
12/12/2007 2:42:00 PM
Miracle of Adoption Family (4)
Today it is my pleasure to introduce you to the ‘almost famous’ Angel (another one of my mission team buddies). Angel is also a friend I had the privilege of meeting via the internet. Actually I ‘knew’ her before she even know I existed. But Angel has been a big inspiration in my life- she was the one of the biggest reasons I had the courage to step out in faith and adopt an ‘almost’ 4 year old. Angel and her husband Russ have one, as Angel puts it ‘homegrown’ daughter, Kaitlyn- who is 4 years old. Yet they knew their family was not complete and two years ago Angel and Russ began their adoption journey to bring home an infant daughter from Guatemala… but God had a different plan… and instead, while he DID bring them a daughter from Guatemala- she was ‘almost’ 8 years old. They could not be more blessed. Angel’s story of bringing Zoe home is one of faith, courage and adventure. “Whatever you have commanded us we will do, and wherever you send us we will go.” Angel has taught me to step out of the box and not be afraid of what God has called me to do… “whoever wants to become great among you must be your servant” (Mathew 20:26). She has taught me to trust- and how to really be God’s hands and feet. I love this family and I thank God daily that He brought an ‘angel’ into my life when I needed her most. But the story does not stop there… today, Angel, Russ, Kaitlyn and Zoe are adding to their family again through the miracle of adoption- Miss Kaiya Rain from China. Kaiya will be 2 years old in May and Angel ‘stumbled’ across her picture on a waiting child’s list. “And I said, “Here am I. Send me!” (Isaiah6:8) Again I am positive God had not brought forth a family so far- for as always, he knew who the perfect family for her would be. Kaiya was born with a cleft lip and palate. She has been waiting in the orphanage since she was 2 ½ months old for her new family to find her. This child is a beautiful blessing and a reminder to us all that He desires only good for our lives. “A faithful man will abound with blessings”. (Proverbs 28:20) Lord, thank you for sending friendships into our lives at just the moment we need them. Thank you for those who are willing to follow you at all cost and obey you even when it means stepping out in blind faith. Thank you for the gift of adoption- no matter what age, race, or special need they may have. Thank you for letting us see they are ‘perfect’ in you. Thank you for Angel and her example of how she chooses to live in such a way that puts your name in neon lights and your desires above all others. Make all of our lives count and our actions and words honor you.
Comments Angel said: AMY!!! You are amazing!!! I am so blessed to have you as a friend. You are one of the miracles that came out of Zoe's adoption. Your family and YOU inspire me. I want to be like you when I grow up. Hee hee.. I LOVE YOU AMY AND CREW! Hugs, Angel
12/13/2007 7:39:00 AM
True Meaning of Christmas Just a week before Christmas I had a visitor. This is how it happened. I just finished the household chores for the night and was preparing to go to bed, when I heard a noise in the front of the house. I opened the door to the front room and to my surprise, Santa himself stepped out next to the fireplace. "What are you doing?" I started to ask. The words choked up in my throat and I saw he had tears in his eyes. His usual jolly manner was gone. Gone was the eager, boisterous soul we all know. He then answered me with a simple statement . . ."TEACH THE CHILDREN!" I was puzzled. What did he mean? He anticipated my question and with one quick movement brought forth a miniature toy bag from behind the tree. As I stood bewildered, Santa said, "Teach the children!Teach them the old meaning of Christmas. The meaning that now-adays Christmas has forgotten. "Santa then reached in his bag and pulled out a FIR TREE and placed it before the mantle. "Teach the children that the pure green color of the stately fir tree remains green all year round, depicting the everlasting hope of mankind, all the needles point heavenward, making it a symbol of man's thoughts turning toward heaven." He again reached into his bag and pulled out a brilliant STAR. "Teach the children that the
star was the heavenly sign of promises long ago. God promised a Savior for the world, and the star was the sign of fulfillment of His promise." He then reached into his bag and pulled out a CANDLE. "Teach the children that the candle symbolizes that Christ is the light of the world, and when we see this great light we are reminded of He who displaces the darkness." Once again he reached into his bag and removed a WREATH and placed it on the tree. "Teach the children that the wreath symbolizes the real nature of love. Real love never ceases. Love is one continuous round of affection." He then pulled from his bag an ORNAMENT of himself. "Teach the children that I, Santa Claus, symbolize the generosity and good will we feel during the month of December." He then brought out a HOLLY LEAF. "Teach the children that the holly plant represents immortality. It represents the crown of thorns worn by our Savior. The red holly berries represent the blood shed by Him. Next he pulled from his bag a GIFT and said, "Teach the children that God so loved the world that he gave his begotten son." Thanks be to God for his unspeakable gift. Santa then reached in his bag and pulled out a CANDY CANE and hung it on the tree. "Teach the children that the candy cane represents the shepherds' crook. The crook on the staff helps to bring back strayed sheep to the flock. The candy cane is the symbol that we are our brother's keeper." He reached in again and pulled out an ANGEL. "Teach the children that it was the angels that heralded in the glorious news of the Savior's birth. The angels sang Glory to God in the highest, on earth peace and good will toward men." Suddenly I heard a soft twinkling sound, and from his bag he pulled out a BELL,. "Teach the children that as the lost sheep are found by the sound of the bell, it should ring mankind to the fold. The bell symbolizes guidance and return. Santa looked back and was pleased. He looked back at me and I saw that the twinkle was back in his eyes. He said, "Remember, teach the children the true meaning of Christmas and do not put me in the center, for I am but a humble servant of the One that is, and I bow down to worship him, our LORD, our GOD."
12/13/2007 7:44:00 AM
Magic Reindeer food
One or our favorite Christmas Eve traditions is leaving cookies and milk out for Santa - and then going outside in the cool night air and sprinkling Magic Reindeer food all over the lawn. My kids are convinced that if the reindeer can see the glittery path they will not miss their house. In case you'd like to join in on the fun thought we'd share the recipe with you.Ingredients: 1/2 cup dried oats, 2 tbls glitter"Be sure to take this magic food and sprinkle on the lawn.On Christmas, Santa's reindeer travel miles before the dawn.The smell of oats and glitter path will guide them on their way.And you'll wake up to Santa's gifts next morn on Christmas Day!" Comments Noah Bear said: Oh, Amy. I do so want to be you. You have the most fun ever! First the peanut butter balls and now the magic reindeer food. One of my kids definitely has to marry into your family so that I can steal all your secrets! :‐) Leslie
Angel said: We LOVE magic reindeer food!!! Too much fun! That picture below of Aleigha and Santa is breathtaking. WOW. Love it. Great post. Hugs. Angel
Angel said: We LOVE magic reindeer food!!! Too much fun! That picture below of Aleigha and Santa is breathtaking. WOW. Love it. Great post. Hugs. Angel
12/13/2007 10:07:00 AM
Miracle of Adoption Family (5)
Introducing- the "S" family! Aren't they amazing? I can't but smile when I see all 4 of those little girls together. Pictured are (L to R) Doreen's mother, Neyvada, Gabi, Doreen, Matteya, and Bella. (all 4 adopted from Guatemala). Doreen and I met also via the internet while she was bringing home her 2nd daugher, Bella. Bella and Aleigha were also 'crib mates' at the orphanage and Doreen and I became fast friends. Actually I think everyone who meets Doreen becomes her friend because that is just the kind of person she is. Seriously, she is one of the most, giving, non judging, unselfish people I have ever meet. She sees someone in need and doesn't think twice. She dives in with her heart and meets the need. "Speak, Lord, for your servant is listening" (1 Samuel 3:9) There are so many things I love about this family- but one thing that stands out to me is how Doreen is one of those adoptive mommies that gives back to the country which her girls came from. She incorporates so much of the Guatemalan culture into their daily life - but she also goes beyond and above to give back to the people of Guatemala. God has blessed her abundantly with these 4 beautiful Guatemalan princesses and because of God's graciousness- and her heart for God -she gives back. "God is able to provide you with every blessing in abundance, so that you... may provide in abundance for every good work. (2 Corinthians 9:8. RSV)Doreen's first adoption was Gabi, with her big brown eyes and curly hair and sweet disposition. 9 months later her biological sister, Bella was born and Doreen and Frank were blessed again
by this spunky, smart, beautiful little girl. Again 2 years later after a long journey, they brought home Matteya at 7 months old. As you can see she is the 'baby', beautiful, and smart enough to keep up with her big sisters! But God wasn't done and this last October, Neyvada (age 3), was escorted into the arms and hearts of her forever family. There could not be a better fit. God was faithful. It is such a blessing for Doreen to be surrounded by these precious girls. She has told me it was so important to her that these girls have that special 'sister bond' because Doreen herself, lost her sister years ago. Lord, I thank you for Doreen and her friendship. I have done nothing to deserve it and yet you bless me anyway. Thank you for the lessons I have learned from her- for her ability to reach out and bless the people you hold so close to your heart. Thank you for her example of a servants spirit, always giving, always serving and always honoring you heavenly father... when it is done for you, that is what really counts. "Be he that is greatest among you shall be your servant." (Matthew 23:11 KJV)
12/13/2007 12:20:00 PM
Who's really at the door? (in the eyes of a 3year- old) DING DONG Aleigha- "MOM- the PMS man is at the door!" Me- "HUH???" Aleigha- "you know, the man that leaves the boxes." Me- (trying not to laugh) "that's the UPS man Aleigha." Aleigha- "Yeah, him." Comments Amazed by grace said: Oh I love it! Too much fun. ‐ Sarah
Noah Bear said: You know, she might be on to something. The PMS guy comes and visits me every month. :‐) Leslie
Anonymous said: Ha! Aleigha is a sweetie. I've enjoyed "meeting" all the families you've profiled. What awesome people! I'm not at all surprised that you, awesome person yourself, know them. :‐) Tracy
12/14/2007 12:59:00 PM
Lessons from a $2.00 pair of skates
While we try to teach our children about life- they teach us what life is all about. “Lord, let our eyes be opened.” Matthew 20:33 Now those of you who know me, know I love garage sales… and I love a bargain. So when I saw Mya looking at a blue and pink pair of roller skates with a wishful look in her eye- I could not help but to bring them home. I had no idea that the lesson that those $2.00 skates would teach us would be priceless. As I sat on the porch one afternoon watching Mya fall over and over on her skates-then get back up again-I realized there had been so many times in my life when I had not had the courage when knocked over… to get back up again… get back up again. A righteous man falls seven times, and rises again. “Proverbs 24:16 RSV Then God taught me a lesson. The first thing that came to me was the old saying “One mans trash is another mans treasure"... Sometimes, what one person does not cherish or have any use for anymorecan come in the form of a shirt, a pair of roller skates… or a life. How many times in my life had I not seen the treasure within another human? How many times had I ‘looked the other way’ or viewed someone as ‘useless’ or ‘in my way’? Lord, you truly love all of us the same, regardless of the color of our skin, our bank account, or our age. As you walked on this earth-the leper, the prostitute, and the child, all found a welcome place in your heart... God was not yet done. Mya came to us at age 4 with scars because someone viewed her as being 'useless' and 'in the way'. Some of the scars are deep, deep inside-hidden. Some of them are visible to the human eye. But one thing I have learned from my spunky, smart, beautiful baby is when you choose forgiveness it allows God to work in your life and therefore- in the lives of others. In our weakness –God is strong. You see, Mya has chosen not to look at her pasther scars- in a ‘poor me’ kind of light, but to see them for what they really are-a gift from God- and to get back up again. It is not whether you get knocked down- it’s whether you get back up again…. ALL OF US have been knocked down at one time or another. Sometimes our scars are only on the surface- and sometimes they are buried deep inside. But from our scars comes the chance of healing and personal growth. Growth WILL come IF we allow God the freedom to work out every detail in our lives- the past, the present, and the future- in a way that will honor HIM. You see, God gave Mya- from her past, the unique mark on her life that allows HIM to bless others with hope, encouragement and inspiration- because she allows it. God forgive us for the times when we have tried to hide ourselves from you and put on a pretense to others around us that all is perfect in our lives. . I’m the first to admit, I do not like suffering -and I do not like my scars being visible… sometimes I try to bury them inside and pretend that everything is ok… I try to fix things by myself- instead of seeking God first. “He must increase, but I must decrease” John 3:30. The more of HIM I see, the less there is of me.
When we allow God, he will prepare us -so that when he brings to us someone who is broken hearted, struggling, or lonely- we can say “I know what you are going through… God has not forgotten you”. “Praise be to the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. 2 Corinthians 1:3-4 Today I am thankful that through this precious child-, my 4 year old with scars deeper than most of us could ever understand, I learned how to have the courage to get back up again. “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12”9 Lord, help us to live our lives seeing the ‘value’ in things that the world views as worthless. Let us love the unlovable and see the treasures around us through your eyes. Let us not put the things the world holds of value over the things that you hold dearest to your heart. Lord take the broken pieces of our lives- the hurts, the disappointments and the failures and make them usable for you. Let your beauty and worth be seen in our scars- in us- because we know in your eyes nothing is ever wasted… not even a blue and pink pair of rollerskates. Comments Amazed by grace said: Those pictures are priceless. Such great expressions! Isn't it great how God uses "what is weak in this world to shame the strong"? (I Cor 1:27) ‐ Thank you for the lessons learned from watching your precious little one learn to skate! I love it! ‐ Sarah
12/16/2007 2:32:00 PM
Happy 11th Birthday Kallan!!!
Happy 11th Birthday Kallan! You came into our lives 11 years ago today and brought us more joy than we could have ever imagined. I am so blessed to be your mom! Thank you for making each day of the past 11 years just a little more special because you are in my life. I will always believe in you I know that whatever you choose to do with your life, I know you will do it with all of your heart. Remember, your talent is God's gift to you. What you do with it is your gift back to God. I love you my precious son and I couldn't be more proud! Love, Mom Comments Angel said: Hey Kallan. Happy birthday. You have the coolest family and you are a really neat guy. Hope you had a great day. Angel
Jenny said: Kallan...we love you so much...you have always been my inspiration when I think of the kind of son I want!!!! Titi jenny
12/19/2007 10:11:00 AM
In light of all the Christmas stress... Twas the night before Christmas, when all thru the abode Only one creature was stirring, and she was cleaning the commode. The children were finally sleeping, all snug in their beds, while visions of Nintendo 64 and Barbie, flipped through their heads. The dad was snoring in front of the TV, with a half-constructed bicycle on his knee. So only the mom heard the reindeer hooves clatter, which made her sigh, "Now what's the matter?" With toilet bowl brush still clutched in her hand,
she descended the stairs, and saw the old man. He was covered with ashes and soot, which fell with a shrug. "Oh great," muttered the mom, "Now I have to clean the rug! ""HO-HO-HO!" cried Santa, "I'm glad youʼre awake. ""Your gift was especially difficult to make."" Thanks, Santa, but all I want is some time alone. ""Exactly!" he chuckled, "I've made you a clone. ""A clone?" she asked, "What good is that? "Run along, Santa, I've no time for chit-chat. "The motherʼs twin. Same hair, same eyes, same double chin. "She'll cook, she'll dust," she'll mop every mess. You'll relax, take it easy, watch The Young and the Restless. ""Fantastic!" the mom cheered. "My dream come true!" I'll shop. I'll read, I'll sleep the whole night through!" From the room above, the youngest began to fret. "Mommy?! I scared...and I'm wet. "The clone replied, "I'm coming, sweetheart. ""Hey," the mom smiled, "She knows her part. "The clone changed the small one, and hummed a tune, as she bundled the child, in a blanket cacoon. "You're the best mommy ever. "I really love you. "The clone smiled and sighed, "I love you, too." The mom frowned and said, "Sorry, Santa, no deal. "That's my childʼs love, she's trying to steal. "Smiling wisely Santa said, "To me it's clear, "Only one loving mother, is needed here. "The mom kissed her child, and tucked her into bed. "Thank you, Santa, for clearing my head. I sometimes forget, it won't be very long, when they'll be to old, for my cradle-song. "The clock on the mantle began to chime. Santa whispered to the clone, "It works every time, "With the clone by his side Santa said,"Goodnight. Merry Christmas, Mom, you'll be all right. Comments Amy said: That is funny Angel‐ I wondered why I had so many comments all of a sudden! Anyway‐ glad you liked it‐ I needed that today huh? Thanks again so much for calling me today‐ I don't know how you knew I needed to talk right then but you are the best! Love ya girl! Amy
Angel said: I LOVE THIS. I totally stole it for my blog and told everyone to come visit you here. Don't kill me. ;0) Love ya. Angel
Wendi said: thanks for a good Christmas cry...I'm posting this to my blog.
12/19/2007 2:31:00 PM
BIRTHDAY GIRL!!!
Some say having a birthday around Christmas is a no fun~ but ask my 4 -year -old and she will tell you that she loves it! Most years we celebrate with a 'birthday tree' (just adding balloons and streamers to the Christmas tree) but this year... this year she got to open her birthday presents EARLY and to a 4- year- old there is NOTHING sweeter! :0) Due to Christmas plans we had to celebrate Aleigha's birthday today instead of tomorrow. She'll spend her birthday in the car traveling- but for today she was a princess ( 'yellow' kitty cat cake included) and tomorrow on her real birthday she gets to pick where we eat, who she sits next to in the car, and what movie we watch first. She's happy to say the least. HAPPY 4th Birthday my sweet baby girl. May your life always be filled with love and surrounded by grace. I love you always. Comments Jenny said: Happy Birthday my sweet little Leigh Leigh! I love you so much princess....I can't wait to see you! Titi Jenny
Noah Bear said: Happy Birthday to You! Happy Birthday to You! Happy Birthday, Dear Aleigha Happy Birthday to you! Happy 4th Birthday, Aleigha! We'll see when you get back to Texas. Love, Noah, Eli, and Nandini
Scarlett_333 said: Saw your blog posted on Angel's. Your daughter is so cute! I hope she had a great bday! Nikki http://madebynikki.blogspot.com <‐‐ Please check out my site and help me help Real Hope for Haiti!
Angel said: HAPPY BIRTHDAY! She is so precious. Angel
Anonymous said: Happy Birthday Aleigha!!!!!
12/19/2007 2:46:00 PM
Ear plugs anyone???
In case you have a prayer to spare... This will be what I look at in the back of my car ALL DAY tomorrow. I know, they are cute aren't they? But still- they can get LOUD, trust me.
Praise God for the DVD player. But if you are sitting at your computer and all is silent around you- pray for me ok? Whoever said "the road to a friends house is never long"... has never driven packed into one vehicle with six kids!!!! Happy travels! Comments Amazed by grace said: What an adventure! I'm praying for you. ‐ Sarah
Noah Bear said: Saying many prayers for ya, Amy! Just going to the gas station with 3 in the back drives me insane. :‐) But your kids are good as gold ‐ except that's 8 bladders to take care of and I'm sure the DVD range from a 17 year old to a 4 year old differs vastly. Are your teens sick of Disney movies yet? lol Have a great trip! Hope to see you when you get back. Leslie
Amy said: Hi Sheri! I do remember you! How is Sophie doing? I'm going to go check out your blog! So good to hear from you! Amy
Sheri said: Sorry, I meant to say Angels blog! Sheri
Angel said: HEE HEE HEE!!!! You poor thing!!! They sure are cute though. Have a great time. I will miss talking to you this week. Blog for me OK? Hugs to you. Angel
Sheri said: Hey! I don't know if you will remember me but we met at the Holiday Inn in Guatemala. We were bringing home Sophie aka Astrid from EN and you had just left from there and were on your way home! I saw the link to your blog from Amy's blog!!!Anyways, Merry Christmas and I said a small prayer for your day in the car..... LOL! Sheri www.medlenfamily.blogspot.com
Anonymous said: That is godd mamma tomorrow i will be extra loud just 4 u! :0
12/26/2007 9:50:00 PM
Christmas Memories 2007
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Comments Anonymous said: I love all your pictures, Amy ‐ you have a wonderful family! DebbieT
Angel said: What a great looking family! :0) HUGS! Angel
Noah Bear said: So glad you're finally home ‐ and finally updated this blog!! I've been suffering from withdrawal. :‐) Leslie
12/26/2007 10:45:00 PM
My friend, My hero
I wanted to share with you a very special person in my life- Melissa. Melissa and I have been friends since grade school- she is just one of those people in my life who have always been there. But I realized something this last week- sometimes we take for granted that our family and friends will always just 'be there' and unfortunately that is not how life always works. Melissa is 38 years old and was diagnosed with a rare form of cancer. She has a husband and 2 precious girls- and she was told a couple of weeks ago that her journey is about to end. Last week when I went home for Christmas, I went to visit Melissa and had to say good-bye for the last time. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do in my life- but also something that I am so blessed by. Melissa and I spent almost 2 hours talkingremembering, and just cherishing our last time together. I have so many memories in my life that include Melissa- and I am a better person because I knew her. She is an inspiration to everyone who meets her. Melissa has faced this disease with a positive attitude and with more courage than I could ever image. I love her so much and I thank God for every second that I have had with her. Melissa will leave behind a family who will never quite be the same without her... please pray for all of them as they face one of the hardest things in life. Dear father, help us to never take a moment of our life for granted... let us remember that every second of life we are given is precious. I thank you for Melissa and for her example of courage and strength. Please give her family peace in knowing that you alone are in control of everything and that you will never leave them. I know that because you are taking
Melissa home with you at such a young age you must have an important plan in heaven for her... "Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things." Matthew 25:21 Comments Anonymous said: Amy, It is so good that you were able to visit with your friend and say goodbye. So many times, because it is so hard to do, saying goodbye doesn't get done (like with my mom). I'm praying for peace for her,peace for her family and for you. I'm sure your visit meant the world to her. DebbieT
Angel said: You have taught me so much about living life in a meaningful way. Thank you for that. I am so sorry for the pain that this family is enduring. My heart is so heavy about it. Angel
12/26/2007 11:18:00 PM
Reunited and it feels so good...
Melanie and Mya were friends at Eagles Nest orphange in Guatemala. As a matter of fact, Mya adored Melanie and looked up to her like a big sister. This past week we were able to meet up with Melanie who is now home with her new family (thank you Ti Ti Jenny)and have a play date at McDonalds! I think both girls were shocked at how much the other had grown (they hadn't seen eachother in a little over a year) but it was so great to be able to spend time together. Melanie has an awesome new family and it was so cool to see her home now and adjusting so well. Once again I am so thankful for the miracle of adoption. Comments Our Adoption Journey said: Hello! I just recently came across your blog and thought I would introduce myself. We are in the process of adopting a little boy from the Eagles Nest. Happy New Year!
Anonymous said: that is so neat!!! It is such a blessing to see friends like that reunited. It is cool that you were able to make it happen. DebbieT
Angel said: That is wonderful. I remember seeing her in the EN pics when Mya was still there. She is such a cutie. How cool that you got to see them. Angel
Whitney said: I was just wondering how Melanie was doing and it is a praise to see her precious smile! What a sweet reunion for the girls.
12/27/2007 9:40:00 PM
Miracle of Adoption~ our story
I shared just a few of the families who's adoption stories I know. Today I thought I would share ours. For me, one the of greatest things about adoption is how you can so clearly see God’s hand working the entire way through the process… to this day I am still amazed and in awe of how God so evidentially orchestrated our entire adoption process and guided us to the children that He had in mind for our family. For each one of us the journey will be differentthe country we choose, the age and gender of the child, and the people we meet along the way… but one thing is certain- adoption will touch your heart and change you in ways that you never knew were possible. Our story started in 2001. We were sitting in church one Sunday, Missions Sunday, and there was a short video about a missionaries work in China. The video skimmed across a cute little Chinese girl who was sitting in the corner of a room and casually mentioned she had been abandoned and was living with the pastor there. It was then, that exact moment, God spoke to my heart. It didn’t make sense of course, here we were- your average familyand we already had four children at home. Why would God choose US to embark on this journey? But one thing I have learned in my life is that God doesn’t always ask those of us who are ‘perfect’ or ‘experienced’ or AT ALL prepared. He asks those of us who have heart for Him and who are willing to obey. We DID NOT have the money sitting there waiting for us in some account… we didn’t know anything at all about adopting… It was a huge risk- a huge leap of faith- but God stretched us and grew us into what he needed along the journey… That Sunday on the drive home from church I looked at my husband and I asked him if he would ever consider adopting? I quickly rambled on- giving all of my reasons- and admitting that I knew I was probably being silly, that we had four children, but that I just felt a calling today. On and on and on I quickly rambled then Todd looked at me for just a moment and said “yes Amy, lets look into it”. The days and months flew by as we began to research and pray… at first adopting can be overwhelming, confusing and just plain scary. And unfortunately-at times the comments we received from people were less than positive- but I knew that God didn’t always ask us to choose the ‘popular route’ or to do things that were necessarily EASY. We landed on the India adoption program but God closed that door and 2 years later we got a call that our baby girl from Guatemala had been born. She was small, and sick (only 4 lbs) but she was a fighter. We prayed and prayed as a family and slowly our little girl began to grow stronger. It’s so hard to explain how much you can literally fall in love with a child that you have only seen on paper- but that we did. Honestly, it was absolutely no different than what I felt for our biological children. In July, 2004 we brought home our 6 month old baby girl, Aleigha
Grace, from Guatemala. Our entire family has been given such joy in watching each precious phase she goes through and receiving the unconditional love that she shares with each one of us daily. At her age she still has no idea how the love from God and two different women brought her to where she is today… all she knows now is that she is cherished- the way every child deserves to be. We are blessed beyond measure by this precious child of God. Once again in 2005 the Lord began to speak to our hearts. Once again I came up with every reason why we should not adopt, (almost all financially related of course- gag) and once again God showed us that those ‘reasons’ were not really good reasons at all- and so once again we obeyed. Being our second adoption…the paper chase was much easier… and we just knew this second baby would be just as much of a blessing as our first. We were #3 on the waiting list for a baby girl and couldn’t wait to receive a referral for our precious newborn! Then early one morning I got on my computer and there was an email from an agency that happened to place children out of the same orphanage we were adopting from. As I began to scroll down the email that was titled “Available Children in Guatemala” I saw the many faces of beautiful baby boys and girls and it touched my heart to look at their sweet faces… Then all of a sudden I saw her… a little girl with the biggest smile I had ever seen, eyes that twinkled, and a head full of curls. It hit me- hard. I knew in my heart that I was looking at MY daughter for the very first time. It didn’t make sense to me I admit. This wasn’t the newborn baby girl that I had imagined… she wasn’t wrapped in a blanket with a pink bow in her hair… she was 3 -years -old, she had a full head of unruly curls and a gleam in her eye that told me she had a personality of her own.. How could this be? After a few hours of questioning my sanity and trying to bargain with God himself, I approached my husband with her picture. Yes he thought she was adorable… but he too, I believe, questioned my sanity- and also reminded me that we were not able to accept any referral yet. We needed to wait for our tax return to come so that we had the money to begin the process. It just was not the right time. If only the check was in the mail… Hours passed and still I couldn’t get this little girl out of my head… How would a 4–year-old fit into our family? How would I communicate with her when she spoke Spanish and I English? I wondered about the unknown of her past… Was “I” capable of handling this? But I couldn’t quit thinking about her. The questions kept coming, the doubts and the many, many fears… and then I realized if I, a grown adult was afraid… what must this precious little of girl of just 3 feel? How afraid must she be? She was alone in the world, her birthmother whom she had loved for 3 years had just left her in an orphanage full of strangers and she had no onenothing- of her own. How could “I” be afraid? I had a home, a husband, and a family who loved me and would support me no matter what. With that thought- I found myself picking up the phone and calling my agency to inquire about the 3- year- old girl whose picture I had seen on the ‘Available Children’s’ list. The agency told me that yes she was in their care but that they thought a family was already considering her- that she would already have a home. When I hung up the phone I just knew there was a mistake, I knew the Lord was telling me something different…. Less than 2 hours later the phone rang- and I was right. The other family decided that she was ‘too old’ that they wanted a little girl who was under 2- and so if we were interested to let them know. Once again, I began to pray and question… I pleaded with the Lord to please let me know if I was doing the right thing- to somehow make it VERY obvious what His plans were for that little girl and for our family. That afternoon my husband came in from getting the mail. He had a funny look on his face… and he asked me to sit down. “The little girl in the picture, he began…” “I think you are right- she was meant to be ours”. You see, the tax return money that we had been waiting for- the one that wasn’t ‘supposed’ to come for weeks- it came. It was in the mailbox that very day. The very day we saw our daughter for the first time- the money came. God did answer my prayer- and he made it very obvious that she was meant to be ours. The weeks and months passed by and we continued to feel God’s hand upon our adoption
process. We were able to go spend 4 days at the orphanage with Mya- learning about her world, her culture and falling in love. We were also able to meet her birthmother and grandmother on our pick up trip- something we will forever cherish. Mya Sofia has been home for just a little over a year now. For those who say a picture is worth a thousand words- they are so right! She still has a gleam in her eye and a head full of curls. She is funny, creative, sweet, loving and most of all- she fits into our family as if she had been there her whole life. I could not have hand picked a more perfect child and I am in awe still that God allowed ME to be this precious little girls mother. The language barrier that I was so afraid of was not an issue at all. As a matter of fact- she learned complete English in just 3 months time. It has been such an amazing experience for me to see life through her eyes… so many things that we had been taking for granted she has shown us how to appreciate again. Yes, there are days when I look at her and feel sad about what I missed out on… the almost 4 years of her life that I didn’t get to experience. Yet then I think of how close I came to missing out on the rest of her precious life- I am so thankful for the years together we have yet to come… Last night when I tucked Mya and Aleigha into bed we prayed together, giggled together, hugged and then as I walked from their room I heard them say in unison “we love you mommy to the moon and back”. Now that is what life is all about. We are so blessed by these brave and amazing little girls and so thankful that we stepped out in faith and accepted the blessings God had in mind for our family. We could have let ourselves miss this. The strangest thing about adoption is the fact that all of your friends and family will tell you that having you as an adoptive parent is such a blessing for the child. That he or she is the lucky one for having you in their life. I can honestly tell you that these people have it all backwards. We are the ones who are truly blessed. We shouldn’t be surprised at this because it is written in God’s word. Matthew 18:5 reads “Whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me”. The process of adoption was intimidating at first, but with the help of a good agency it became a journey of discovery for our family. The adoption process is filled with questions, answers, stress, mystery, excitement, joy, and most of all love. It teaches you that you are stronger than you could have ever imagined. It teaches you that life is much sweeter than you could have ever dreamed. I share our story in hopes that someone will feel a tug at their heart strings for these children waiting for adoption in overseas orphanages. God places these things in our hearts to move us outside our comfort level so we can help HIM make a difference. I hope and pray that people will see these children for what is in their heart and soul, and not look at them for the color of their skin. No, neither Aleigha nor Mya will have my eyes or my nose, but they have all of my heart. I will never take for granted the privilege of being called “mommy” by these sweet, precious girls. We knew going into the adoption process we would have different colors, different countries and different cultures, but we would share the same Lord- and that we believe is more than enough. I know the process can be hard- I was there. I know that it is a huge leap of faith. But I also know that there is nothing else more amazing than the miracle of adoption. I thank GOD that I was led on the path to adopt and I wonder what it will take for each one of these waiting children to be adopted… and have the things we take for granted, such as a family, a home, and hopes and dreams. I wonder what it will take for more people to open their eyes and be willing to obey... to give up some of their 'stuff', some of their free time, all the things the world holds so highand be willing to love that which God holds closest to His heart... Thank you God for our miracle of adoption… Religion that is pure and undefiled before God, the Father, is this: to visit orphans and widows in their affliction, and to keep oneself unstained from the world." James 1:27 Comments
Anonymous said: Yours is such a beautiful story. I love it! One of my biggest joys is that I met you on your journey!! You're awesome. DebbieT
Mob said: Thank you for sharing your beautiful story. God showed Himself so much and in so many different ways in our adoption process too. I love that they love you "to the moon and back" that is so cute and Yes that is what its all about!
Angel said: AMEN! What a beautiful story. I love to hear it. You are so right. Adoption is the most amazing thing I have ever experienced. It's a miracle. Angel
12/28/2007 7:48:00 PM
New Years Resolutions Come on, admit it. We've all tried them… you know, "I’m going to lose 10 lbs, I’m going to eat healthier, exercise more, give up smoking, never say a cuss word again" (You fill in the blank). So, I got to thinking this year about all that I needed to change~ all the things "I” wish were different about me…and then it hit me. What if God has something more in mind for my life than the American Dream? Something better? Something more than squeezing into a size 5 pair of jeans? What if I could actually get to know Jesus even more and I could be increasingly useful to Him here on earth? Are those the changes I really need to be working towards? And what if my focus each morning - not once a year - was on renewing my intimacy with Him and allowing him to change me where He sees need? “Commit to the Lord whatever you do, and your plans will succeed." Proverbs 16:3 Our New Years Resolutions come from our priorities. Do our goals reflect our priorities? And even more importantly, are our priorities in line with our faith? Or do they serve us and only us? In Rick Warren’s best selling book The Purpose-Driven Life, he reminds us that life is not about us. We should not be living simply for ourselves. We are here for a much more significant purpose than that. Are we allowing God's purpose for our lives to be our first priority or are we pursuing our American dream? Real change - real resolution-comes from inside- a heart change. In order to change I must be willing to turn myself over to the Lord, day by day. I can choose to focus on ME- or I can choose to focus on Him. But I cannot do both. “But seek first his [God’s] kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.” Matthew 6:33 Lord, I know how blessed I am to arise each morning knowing that joy is mine because of you. My life is a gift that you have provided daily- and I choose to treasure this gift and use it wisely to bring glory and honor to you. Help me to remember that it is not about me… I trust you to determine the purpose of my life. I resign myself to your perfect will. Will you allow the Lord to use you in 2008? Fully? No holding back? If so, I guarantee 2008 will be the best year of your life.
Comments
Anonymous said: I like this post. This is definitely something I struggle with. It sometimes hard to just let go and let God, ya know? I've already been trying to do that more and more in my life. You're inspiring to keep on! DebbieT
Angel said: GREAT POST! This is such a good word. Girl if you liked Rick Warren's book you need to check out his wifes book. It's called Dangerous Surrender... YOU ARE GONNA LOVE IT! Russ got it for me. So soooooo good. About opening our eyes to God's true call for us. love ya friend. Angel
Mob said: I knew there was a reason I stumbled upon your blog. I really needed to read that. Yes, I need to commit my life more to the Lord and see what changes He has for me. Thank You
Jenny said: Yes!!! I love this! I am going to ask God to use me more...but I'm gonna do it with a 10 lbs lighter body!!! Ha! Love ya! jenny
12/29/2007 8:19:00 AM
Today for Sweet 'E'...
Another weekend to face with still no concrete answers for our future... I wonder what you are doing, if you are happy, content? I picture you toddling around in feetie pajama's this morning asking for your milk... I wish more than anything I could be there holding you. I can't see what the future holds- but I rest in the fact that God can. He knows. He cares. And He loves you even more than I can even fathom. As hard as it is to wait... I am thankful that we can both rest in our Saviors arms as He works out every detail of our lives. Show me the way I should go, for to you I lift up my soul. Psalm 143:8
Lord, I know that I do not have to fear the 'whatever' or 'whenever' in my live because I trust YOU to determine how the paths of my life and sweet 'E's will shake out. You have ordained our destinations- Your will for our lives is perfect. Help me to be patient and to wait for your perfect timing... for your perfect will. There are lessons to be learned even in this temporary pain- help me to see them and grow from them. Help me to be more like you. I love you Lord. Thank you for letting me rest in you. Please watch over Sweet 'E'. Comments Anonymous said: Oh Amy, I hope your heart can rest soon and you hear SOMETHING! He is such a sweetheart and what a perfect place he would fill in your family. Here's hoping.... DebbieT
Amazed by grace said: I'm praying for you Amy. He would be such a blessing and also so blessed to have you for a Mommy! Sarah
Angel said: I sure hope we hear soon. I am holding my breath with you friend. He is a treasure. In my heart he is yours. Angel
Noah Bear said: Oh Amy, I'm just dying over here waiting for some news. Nandini's future hubby needs to be with your family NOW! (Obviously, patience is not my strong point). Let us know as soon as you hear something! Leslie
Mob said: What a cute little guy. I will make a prayer for you that he will be with you soon.
12/29/2007 6:05:00 PM
I remember...
One of the reasons I brought my 12 -year -old daughter, Addisyn, with me on the mission trip to Guatemala was because I thought it would be a good idea for her to really see, first
hand, how most of the world lives. You know, sort of shock her- make her realize how she has so much. I thought I'd teach her not to be asking for so much- like preteen age girls are known for doing. But God knows we are like that ... like when we sit in church and think to ourselves- "oh boy I wish so and so was here to hear THIS sermon" that is when God hits us right between the eyes and teaches us. I was at Walmart today with my boys. (I have this love/hate relationship with Walmart but that is a whole other story). Anyway- we were exchanging something for a different size and as I waited in line behind all the others who were making their returns and exchangesthe carts lined up from wall to wall caught my attention. They were sitting there filled to the rim with returns- most likely doubles of gifts people already have- or gifts people didn't really want. God used that moment to draw me back... to remind me of our time in Guatemala, like I had prayed He would. Lord, please change me, please let me always remember... I have been to Guatemala several times now- 2 times to bring home our girls, one time to visit Mya while she was still at the orphanage, and the 4th time for our missions trip to Eagles Nest Orphanage. Of course bringing home our girls was one of the most amazing experiences of my life- but the mission trip- it was life changing. Not only because we held, diapered, sang to and fell in love with the orphans- but also because this was the first chance I had ever really been given to love the people outside of the orphanage. By the end of the week over 400 Guatemalan children and mothers attended the Vacation Bible school we put on. I remember sitting in one of the pews one day and in walked this group of children. I'm not sure why this particular group of kids touched my heart so much- maybe it was because they were dirty from head to toe... but really most of them were. Maybe it was because one of the little girls reminded me of my daughter Aleigha. Although, I saw her beauty in a lot of the little girls. I think though the real reason was because underneath the dirt and aside from the beauty- I saw HOPE and real JOY ... and it touched me to the core. How does one carry on when they have so little yet still have hope and joy ? When life has dealt them- even at such young ages- more difficulties than I will probably ever have to face in my American Life. It was then that I realized- they came, they walked in shoes too small, sometimes carrying younger siblings because of the hope and joy in Jesus. REAL hope. REAL joy. You see- real hope and real joy do not come from material items. "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heave, where mother and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also." Mathew 6: 19-21 Real hope and real joy come from God and God alone. Those Walmart carts were overflowing with things that many of us thought would bring joy to someone else... and there they sat, cart after cart full, being returned. We missed the point. We had given the things that we all already have anyway- too much stuff- and no where to store it. (Hint: all storage bins go on sale after Christmas for a reason) I began to wondered to myself- had I this Christmas, even once, stopped to share the gift of real hope and joy to anyone? Had I shared Jesus with anyone? Or did I rush through the store, piling things in my cart, trying to give my own kids all the latest things and the coolest toys? Sure we went to church, sure we sang Happy Birthday to Jesus on Christmas day, and sure we did our daily prayers. But I can't help but shake the feeling that I still clung to the thought that I could 'buy' joy. As I sat in the pew that day I remember feeling sorry for those children because they didn't possess all the 'things' I do... but I had it all wrong. They sat in their pew singing to Jesus, eager to learn more about their Lord. Their hope and joy had nothing to do with things that money could buy. I pray that I will learn to be just like them- eager to learn more about Jesus and content with what He has given to me. Lord, please let me have faith like a child.
Comments Jenny said: Can we move there yet? I'm ready!!!
Anonymous said: Amen, sister! I've thought so many of those same thoughts this Christmas season. Spending time in Guatemala was so eye‐opening in so many ways and SO amazing! Please God, let us never forget those moments. Love ya, DebbieT
Amazed by grace said: Thank you for this great reminder. Jesus is all we need.
12/30/2007 8:47:00 PM
Heaven gained an Angel today
Today, my precious friend Melissa went to be with the Lord. The pain and struggles that she has endured over the past few years are gone. I praise God that she is resting at the feet of Jesus and will suffer no more. My heart is full of wonderful memories of her love, laughter and friendship. Her smile was contagious- as was her faith. Thank you God for the 38 years she was here.....and for the promise that one day we will be together again. I love you my precious friend- you will be missed. If you have an extra minute could you please pray for her husband and 2 daughters that she left behind. They still have a lot to face and I know they would appreciate it. "Father, if you are willing, take this cup from me; yet not my will, but yours be done. " Luke 22:42
Comments Jenny said: Love you Amy
Angel said: Thinking of you friend. I am so sorry. Love, Angel
Mob said: I did pray for the husband and family. That is the saddest part of dying.
1/1/2008 2:00:00 PM
Happy New Year! I hope you all had as much fun as we did bringing in the new year. Thought I'd share some pictures of our family fun. We took the kids to Six Flags and then to the Cotton Bowl Parade. I cherish family time- sometimes life gets so busy with work, school, sports, etc and we forget to just enjoy the time we have together as a family. I am thankful for times like this where we can just be silly together and have fun. Comments Amazed by grace said: I'm so glad you made so many good family memories to bring in the new year! Sarah
Anonymous said: So much fun!! Happy new year, Block family!!! DebbieT
Mob said: What a fun way to ring in the new year! Looks like a really fun time. Happy New Year
Angel said: I love love LOVE this family. So glad you had fun. Looks great. Hugs, Angel
1/2/2008 10:50:00 AM
What will you do with today? I got this from http://manytimesblessed.blogspot.com/ today and thought it was worth repeating.
Also I heard the voice of the Lord, saying, Whom shall I send, and who will go for us? Then I said, Here am I; send me. Isaiah 6:8 I have heard this verse a million times, but today I read it and it spoke to me in a new way. So often we think of this verse as being about missions, but I really think it is about anything God wants us to do. I think it is important to sit down every now and then and ask yourself, What is God asking me to do - and am I standing there saying "Here I am, send me" or am I saying "No! It's too hard or too big or too weird - what will people think?" It is a constant struggle for me to say Yes to God when He speaks to me, especially if it is out of my comfort zone. I like my comfort zone! So, what is God asking you today and what will your answer be?
1/2/2008 12:01:00 PM
Be yourself- everyone else is already taken....
As I watched Aleigha and Mya sit at our table today creating a masterpiece with markers, paint, crayon, stickers, and glue-I wondered at how they each had their own idea of what was 'beautiful'. It reminded me of how God must think of us- each of us a different color, shape and size with different gifts. Yet why is it that we are so inclined to look around us and try to be like everyone else? Why is it we are afraid to step out- do something uniquedifferent- be creative- be ourselves-and go against what the world sees as beautiful? Why are we living our life trying to please the world rather than trying to please God? We cling so tightly to those things of material value… we trust in them, believing they will bring us happiness... we trust in them so much that we are so afraid to step out and show we see
value in those things that the world views as ‘worthless’ because of what someone else might think. We look around and copy what the world is telling us to view as beautiful and of worth. We dress in what the magazines tell us are ‘cool’ and we carry pictures of the latest stars to the beautiful shop trying to look just like them. Psalms 139:4 tell says"I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful I know that full well." We are fearfully and wonderfully made by GOD HIMSELF. So, if we really believe this then we know that even those society views as ‘mistakes’, disposable, worthless- ARE OF VALUE. Are we living that way? Do we care about the orphan who is HIV+... are we reaching out to the widow who is alone today? Did we drive by the homeless man without a care today so we wouldn't have to wait in line to buy our $6.50 cup of coffee from Starbucks? So Go ahead- be yourself- step out- you can do it… today… trust Him- one little step... follow HIM…. Obey- be willing, close your ears and eyes to the world, open your heart to those the world views as less than... see the beauty... live your purpose. “And God said, “I will be with you.” Exodus 3:12 Comments Angel said: Amen! Angel
1/4/2008 7:30:00 PM
Children of the World
Meet our new boys... for 2 days anyway. (I'd love to keep them forever if it was that easy!) On Sunday one of the Children of the World choirs is singing at our church and we got the
privilege of hosting 3 precious boys for 2 days. They are so sweet and so much fun! 2 of them are from India and one is from Uganda. They all speak amazing English and have the best manners ever. I'm so proud of my 3 boys for giving up their beds for 2 nights so we could all enjoy having these boys at our house. What a blessing! Comments Anonymous said: Amy, It looks like you had so much fun with those boys and I'm sure they had a blast too! World Help sounds like a great organization...I'm gonna check out their website. Thanks for sharing the boys with us! DebbieT
Anonymous said: We hosted 3 girls from that choir about 3 years ago. It was so much fun! Have a great time. Enjoy their performance ‐ they are amazing. Debbie M
Mob said: what nice sounding boys. that shows you are a good Mom that your kids share well :)
Jenny said: Oh my word....they are too cute. You can just see the energy on their faces! Have a blast!!!! Titi Jenny
1/6/2008 8:18:00 PM
World Help
It's been a long weekend and I am wiped out- nine kids included! But I wanted to share a
few more pictures of our boys from World Help. I told myself going into this that I wouldn't loose my heart~ but I guess that sometimes telling yourself something and actually following through with it are two totally different things. So yep, I lost my heart this weekend to 3 orphan boys with amazing personalities, sweet smiles and voices like angels. As a matter of fact, I am listening to their CD right now. The founder of World Help is a man by the name of Vernon Brewer. He actually attended my church and was a member there. I just love the church we belong to- and I am so thankful that we found it. It's a bigger church than we have gone to in the past- but I love how despite the size it is so obvious that they really care about every single individual. And they don't just care- they really encourage you to seek out the gifts and talents God has given you. But my favorite thing is that they are very involved in missions and that is where my heart is. The 3 boys we hosted this weekend were just incredible. Their pasts are full of pain- but in their eyes was so much hope. This year World Help is focusing on the children suffering from the impact of HIV/AIDS, especially in Sub-Saharan Africa. The purpose of this Children of the World choir is to bring these children into churches and give people a glimpse of the children who are in need to raise awareness. I have found that in the past it has been so easy for me to hear a story about the devastation of HIV/AIDS- yet only minutes later move onto something else I am doing and 'forget'. Having these boys in our home this last weekend definitely made a lasting impression. This weekend we had the chance to treat them to a real family life- take them rollerskating, cook hot dogs over an open fire, read bedtime stories, and tuck them into bed at night. At the end of their 10 month tour they will go back to their lives in Uganda and India and back to the harsh realities of life for them. And they have been some of the 'lucky' ones... If you are looking for a place to step in and give I encourage you to look up worldhelp.net. info@worldhelp.net. It's a great organization. Comments Amazed by grace said: What a great blessing this weekend was for you and for these kids!
Anonymous said: Again I must tell you how proud I am of you and your incredible family. The pics are darling. Thank you for being so caring. Mom
1/6/2008 9:19:00 PM
Fair Warning...
Just a fair warning here... if you live anywhere within a 200 mile radius from me- STAY OFF THE ROADS. (hee/hee) My 15- year- old son Keegan just obtained his drivers permit and in one easy summary- SCARY. I took him for a little cruise this afternoon... and all I can say is THANK GOD for whoever invented the seat belt. Comments Anonymous said: Go Keegan. You'll do fine on the road. Can't believe you can be old enough to drive. Gram
1/7/2008 9:55:00 AM
Soups on!
It's Monday.... I'm exhausted- and I am faced with what to make for dinner again.(always my hardest decision of the day!) I found this really easy soup recipe awhile back and my kids seemed to really like it. So, since I am fighting a cold I thought I'd try this easy ham/corn/cheese chowder again. 2 c. ham, diced 2 cans cream style corn 1/2 c. chopped green onion 2 c. instant mashed potatoes 4 c. milk 2 tbsp butter 2 cups shredded cheddar cheese Salt and pepper to taste Lightly brown ham in large pan. Barely cover with water, salt and pepper. Add butter, milk, corn, onions and instant potatoes. Cook gently 10 minutes - stir in cheese until melted. Serve with thick slices of corn bread on the side. Yummmy!
1/7/2008 10:14:00 AM
Favorite Foto Fun
I have so many great pictures hidden in my computer that I thought it might be fun to share one of my favorites once in awhile. This is my oldest son, Travis. What can I say- I adore the kid. There are so many cool things about Travis but one of the things I love most about him is that he always puts on a pretense of being a 'tough' guy- strong- able to take on the world. But I, as his mother, get to see the sweet, kind, loving heart underneath the muscles. These pictures are of him when he was just a tow headed 2 years old making silly faces for the camera and then when he was 16 years old and looking 'cool'. (He's 17 now). Anyway Travis- if you are reading this (He informs me that not many teens would think it was cool to sit around reading their moms blog spot!) I want you to know that I am SO PROUD of you and I love you with all that I am! Thank you for being a wonderful big brother to your younger siblings. Your life- the choices you make each day really do effect and inspire your younger siblings. I know God has BIG plans for your future and I am blessed beyond measure to walk beside you as He unfolds His plans. Stay true to who you are- even through all the peer pressure you face at your age- and know that you are loved always by many. Some days I wish I could go back to the days when you were that tow headed 2 year old- just for a minute- yet I am so thankful for today and the time we have together here and now. I love you my son and I thank God for you daily. Comments
Anonymous said: I remember Trav when he was like that. I wish he still was. Stay as wonderful as you are always Trav. God has wonderful things planned for you. Proud G
1/7/2008 12:23:00 PM
Thought of the day... I love quotes- always have. I love how they can just stop you dead in your tracks- make you think and put it all into prospective in one little sentence. So, I thought every once in awhile on here I'd blog my favorite quote. Here is one for today: If we wait for the moment when everything, absolutely everything is ready, we shall never begin. - Ivan Sergeyevich Turgeney What has God been calling you to do today that you are waiting for everything to be perfect before you begin? The Bible tells us just to obey and let Him work out the details and make everything fall perfectly into place...
1/8/2008 9:12:00 AM
Did you hear God today? The man whispered, "God, speak to me" and a Chickadee sang. But, the man did not hear. So the man yelled "God, speak to me!" And, the thunder rolled across the sky. But, the man did not listen. The man looked around and said, "God let me see you." And a star shined brightly. But the man did not notice. And, the man shouted, "God show me a miracle!" And, a life was born. But, the man did not know. So, the man cried out in despair, "Touch me God, and let me know you are here!" Whereupon, God reached down and touched the man. But, the man brushed the butterfly away and walked on.
Don't miss out on a blessing because it isn't packaged the way that you expect. Lord, help me to not miss out on a single thing you are showing me today- because it wasn't the way "I" thought it should be."Be prepared in season and out of season" 2 Timothy 4:2. I know my emotions are unreliable and will change, but you are consistantalways the same. I can count on you. Help me to make myself available to you always and allow you to use me in any situation. Open my eyes and help me to focus only on you. Comments Jenny said: Yes...I did hear God's voice and it came through the voice of my sister. Thanks for the great advice for Ty. I don't know what I'd do without you!
1/8/2008 10:35:00 AM
Waiting...
I'll go ahead and admit that being patient is NOT my strength. You see, I seem to always have a plan- you know, one that "I" think is just perfect-as if I can see into the future and have it all figured out. So,after going through 2 adoptions (so far) you would think that I would have learned a LOT of patience. But no, God is still shaking His head at me as I scurry around down here trying to makes things work out the way I think they should be. I haven't explained a lot on here so far about 'Sweet E'- mostly because we are at a place where we have basically told God we are open- and now...we wait. Wait for His plan to unfold. I think one of the hardest things about waiting is for one- we really believe what we are doing is a good thing, and you know what- it might be. But maybe, just maybe, God has a bigger plan- a better plan that will effect more people- change more lives- for His glory. Secondly, I hate to wait because that would mean letting someone else make the decisions-
be in charge. And in my human mind, I sort of like to think I know what is best. But obviously, from my past track record- I am quite capable of making mistakes. And GodGod doesn't ever make mistakes. So who am I to question Him- the master- my creator.? Who am I to think I know better than GOD? So today, as hard as it is for my human mind to accept- I will wait. "Be still and know that I am God". Psalms 46:10 Desperately, helplessly, longingly, I cried;Quietly, patiently, lovingly, God replied.I pled and I wept for a clue to my fate...and the Master so gently said,"Wait.""Wait? you say wait?" my indignant reply."Lord, I need answers, I need to know why!"Is your hand shortened? Or have you not heard?By faith I have asked, and I'm claiming your Word.My future and all to which I relatehangs in the balance and you tell me to Wait?"I'm needing a 'yes', a go-ahead sign.Or even a 'no,' to which I'll resign.You promised, dear Lord, that if we believe,We need but to ask, and we shall receive.Lord, I've been asking, and this is my cry:I'm weary of asking! I need a reply.Then quietly, softly, I learned of my fatemy Master replied again, "Wait."So I slumped in my chair, defeated and taut,and grumbled to God, "So, I'm waiting...for what?"He seemed then to kneel, and His eyes met with mine...and He tenderly said, "I could give you a sign.I could shake the heavens and darken the sun.I could raise the dead and cause mountains to run.I could give all you seek and pleased you would be.You'd have what you want, but you wouldn't know Me.You'd not know the depth of My love for each saint.You'd not know the power that I give to the faint.You'd not learn to see through clouds of despair;you'd not learn to trust just by knowing I'm there.You'd not know the joy of resting in Mewhen darkness and silence are all you can see.You'd never experience the fullness of lovewhen the peace of My spirit descends like a dove.You would know that I give, and I save, for a start,But you'd not know the depth of the beat of My heart.The glow of My comfort late into the night,the faith that I give when you walk without sight.The depth that's beyond getting just what you askFrom an infinite God who makes what you have last.You'd never know should your pain quickly flee,what it means that My grace is sufficient for thee.Yes, your dearest dreams overnight would come true,but oh, the loss if I lost what I'm doing in you.So, be silent, my child, and in time you will seethat the greatest of gifts is to truly know me.And though oft My answers seem terribly late,My most precious answer of all is still "WAIT".~Author Unknown Comments Kimmie said: Hmmmm, Amy as we are in waiting mode here too...I can so relate. Can't wait to hear more... I have Psalm 46:10 (be still and know that I am God) over my kitchen cupboard...a girlfriend who was knewly saved, bought it for me last year‐she heard God say that I would need it~ as we waited on this adoption to Guatemala...I look at it often and remember that God is in control. sending a hug and hoping it helps in your wait. Sweet‐E is a doll! Kimmie mama to 6 one homemade and 5 adopted
Amazed by grace said: "I waited patiently for the Lord; he inclined to me and heard my cry." Psalm 40:1 I'm praying for you! It's so good to know that God has a plan even in our waiting! Sarah
Anonymous said: Oh Amy. I am praying as you learn patience. It is such a hard thing to learn and I sturggle each day. Seems like some days I forget everything I have already learned. So glad I stumbled onto your blog. Hang in there. God has special plans for you and "E". CindiK
1/8/2008 4:19:00 PM
Our day
Today my awesome friend Leslie came over for a play date. I never want to take for granted the blessing of the friendships I have made throughout our adoption journey. Some of the coolest people I have met in my life all came from the bond we created through adoption. Leslie was one if the 'miracle of adoption families' I featured on here previously. Her son Eli, from Guatemala, was in the orphanage the same time as Aleigha. We have been friends since and I am so thankful for her support, insight and friendship. Leslie also has a son, Noah- from India, and recently brought home her beautiful daughter Nandini from there also. It was so much fun spending the afternoon with them, eating way to many cupcakes and listening to our children giggle and play. Thanks for coming over Leslie and giving up your afternoon to be with us- we love you guys!! Comments Rhonda said: Amy, I just wanted to let you know how much I have enjoyed reading your blog. I pull it up sometimes 2 or 3 times a day and get so excited when there is a new entry! I LOVE being able to keep up with your family on a daily basis! We love you guys! Rhonda Cooper
1/9/2008 11:27:00 AM
Thought for the day... Start living now. Stop saving the good china for that special occasion. Stop withholding your love until that special person materializes. Every day you are alive is a special occasion. Every minute, every breath, is a gift from God.
~Mary Manin Morrissey Lord, how many times have you heard me say "I'll be happy when I finally get my dream job, I'll be happy when I loose ten pounds...when I get that raise... when we move into our new house... when my husband works shorter hours...once the kids clean up more...when our adopted child comes home... Lord, let me live each day of my life knowing that because of you it is a gift- today is a gift. I will never, ever live this moment again... Let me be thankful for today- for the blessings you have given me right now. Let me live my life to the fullest and make a difference- right here, right now. Today.
1/9/2008 11:38:00 AM
Favorite Foto Fun
Is that cute or what? This is one of my all time favorite photo's. This picture was taken in Destin Florida over spring break a couple of years ago of Aleigha and her friend Walt at the beach. (by the way, the matching swim suits were not planned). Walt is also from Guatemala and we met his awesome parents on the airplane on our way to bring Aleigha
home in July, 2004. Walt's new mommy and daddy were carrying an empty stroller so my husband walked up to them and asked them if they were adopting too! A special bond was made that moment that will last a lifetime. That day, that priceless moment of meeting our babies for the first time will forever tie our families together and once again- God couldn't have blessed us more. Love you Rhonda!!! Comments Angel said: That is the cutest picture!!! OH MY WORD! You could win contests with that one girl. ;0) SOOOOO CUTE! Angel
Rhonda said: This is my all time favorite photo too! I actually have a poster size print in Walt's bedroom. Thank you for posting it! Rhonda
1/9/2008 12:30:00 PM
2007 International Adoption Statistics
I thought this was sort of cool to see how many international adoptions were done in the following countries in 2007. From least to most:Poland- 84Mexico- 89Haiti- 190Phillipines - 265Columbia- 310Taiwan311Liberia- 314India- 416Kazakhstan- 540Ukraine- 606Vietnam- 626South Korea939Ethiopia- 1,255Russia- 2,207Guatemala- 4, 728China- 5,453
1/10/2008 11:12:00 AM
A glass of milk...
I came across this story and it really touched my heart. How many times would I have thought to give the glass of milk instead of just the water?? How many times could I have made a difference but instead missed the opportunity to be God's hands and feet? "We are labourers together with God". 1 Corinthians 3:9 One day, a poor boy who was selling goods from door to door to pay his way through school, found he had only one thin dime left, and he was hungry. He decided he would ask for a meal at the next house. However, he lost his nerve when a lovely young woman opened the door. Instead of a meal he asked for a drink of water. She thought he looked hungry so brought him a large glass of milk. He drank it slowly, and then asked, "How much do I owe you?" "You don't owe me anything," she replied. "Mother has taught us never to accept pay for a kindness." He said..... "Then I thank you from my heart." As Howard Kelly left that house, he not only felt stronger physically, but his faith in God and man was strong also. He had been ready to give up and quit. Year's later that young woman became critically ill. The local doctors were baffled. They finally sent her to the big city, where they called in specialists to study her rare disease. Dr. Howard Kelly was called in for the consultation. When he heard the name of the town she came from, a strange light filled his eyes. Immediately he rose and went down the hall of the hospital to her room. Dressed in his doctor's gown he went in to see her. He recognized her at once. He went back to the consultation room determined to do his best to save her life. From that day he gave special attention to the case. After a long struggle, the battle was won. Dr. Kelly requested the business office to pass the final bill to him for approval. He looked at it, then wrote something on the edge and the bill was sent to her room. She feared to open it, for she was sure it would take the rest of her life to pay for it all. Finally she looked, and something caught her attention on the side of the bill. She read these words..... "Paid in full with one glass of milk" (Signed)Dr. Howard Kelly Tears of joy flooded her eyes as her happy heart prayed: "Thank You, God, that Your love has spread abroad through human hearts and hands." Comments Angel said: OH WOW! That is such a great story. Angel
Angel said: OH WOW! That is such a great story. Angel
Noah Bear said: Awww, man, Amy. I'm sitting here on hold with the doctor's office and reading your email with tears welling up in my eyes. Both of your posts today really got me. Can't you put a "Mascara Alert" at the top of your teary‐eyed blogs??? Leslie :‐)
1/10/2008 3:40:00 PM
Are they 'real' sisters?
In our lives we cannot remember a time that there was an Aleigha without a Mya. Where you find one- you will find the other. I can sneak into their room in the middle of the afternoon and there they will be, heads meshed together playing away- connected. As I sit here typing they are right outside the window… on the same bike… Mya peddling, Aleigha riding on the back (sound familiar Jenny) They spend their day playing together- being sisters. So I find it interesting the number of times I am out in public and I get the question “Are they REAL sisters?” The mama bear part of me wants to scream "OF COURSE THEY ARE REAL? Do they look plastic to you??" I wonder how in the world anyone could ever be so insensitive to ask a question like that in front of my girls. These comments bother me the most because they imply that becoming a family through adoption is "less than" becoming a family by giving birth. Aleigha and Mya see themselves as family- pure and simple. The reality is that adoption is a method of joining a family, just like birth. Yet the other part of me, the part that knew adopting a child of a different race- knows these questions will come. And while I admit my first instinct is to become angry, I know that as a transracial adoptive parent I have to be aware of how my responses will effect my girls. I need to see this as an opportunity to enlighten people, embrace diversity, and teach my children that we are all different and that uniqueness should be celebrated. By doing this I am parenting not for today- but for tomorrow. By being sensitive to how I choose to respond to these questions, not only am I teaching my children how to answer, but also representing the views society has on adoption. By being proud of our adoption decision, of our multi-cultural family-my children will be proud as well. By having conversations about race, diversity, culture, and adoption -it allows room for my children to ask questions as well. It opens the door for me to ask my children how the comments made by the stranger or friend made them feel- and will give us a chance to
discuss it. And in the instance that we didn't respond to the question the way that we had wished (we may be taken by surprise, angered, etc.) or how my girls wished we had answered (as in maybe saying too much or too little) we will all learn and grow. What I want people to know is that in adoptive families- our joys and trials are as authentic as those of any family that is genetically linked. All of my kids do the same things ‘birth’ siblings do, they love each other, fight with each other, share each others clothes . They play together, celebrate holidays together, and do chores. Being real can comes in many different forms. I pray for the day when the world understands that. Once again I am thankful for a God who understands… A God who was an adoptive father himself. Comments Our Real Life said: I know exactly where you are coming from. People will stop me and ask if my two are twins. If I say no, the next questions out of their mouth is always "Are they real brother and sister?" Yes as real as real can be. Blood doesn't make a family, GOD does.
Amy said: I've been reading your posts today, you have a great way of sharing! We are a large family also and I smile as I can relate to some of the things you share. I must say that adoption has made me much more aware of the Lord's adoption of me and has taken my adoption to a deeper level. Thank you for sharing.
Kimmie said: Hi Amy; So glad you connected me to your blog... How wonderful that your girls are bonded and love each other. That is a gift from God for sure. I always try to remember that people are curious and it is an opportunity to plant "seed." We often get looks, though our skin color isn't that different, with one daughter of a tanner color than the rest. I think a family with 6 children isn't that common and that gets people staring most often. God has given us a story and though some won't have true ears to hear, still we chose to smile and plant seed...as we are always hoping for harvest. ;‐) blessings to you (and praying for you still!) Kimmie mama to 6 one homemade and 5 adopted
Angel said: Soooo good. So true. They are precious. You can just look at them and know they are sisters through and through. Hugs, Angel
1/12/2008 7:55:00 PM
Hand me downs...
Having six kids we always appreciate when someone else 'hands us down' their cute clothes. (They can keep their ugly ones-Hee/Hee) Today when I was getting Aleigha and Mya dressed I picked out an outfit for Mya that used to belong to her cousin Maddie. When I told Mya that the outfit she was about to put on used to be worn by Maddie you should have seen how proud she was. She strutted around in that outfit like she was a princess- who had just been given the greatest gift ever. We decided then and there the best thing about hand me downs was not the 'price'... it was loving the person who gave them to you more than life. Thank you Maddie- we love you!! Comments Jenny said: What a sweet post!!!! Madison does not usually part with her clothes..she has a personal attachment with them even though they are 4 sizes too small. She say's, "They're my best friend!" Weird...I know! So the only way I can
get her to let loose is to tell her it's going to Mya!!!! Then...NO PROBLEM! Love ya girls! Titi Jenny P.S, Mya you look adorable in them!!!!
Noah Bear said: I got Nandini dressed this morning and announced to Simeon that THIS is why we shop garage sales... she looked so incredibly cute... and the whole outfit cost 50 cents (the shoes were the Dora hand‐me‐downs from you!). BTW, LOVE Mya in that red beret. Ooh la la! (Eli's new saying!). Leslie
1/12/2008 8:10:00 PM
Prayer Request Sunday I got this idea from of this really cool lady's blog http://overthemoonwithjoy.blogspot.com/ Each Sunday she has prayer request Sunday and prays for all that email her with a request. I thought it was the neatest idea! I would be more than honored to come before the Lord in prayer for YOU. Is there anything I can pray for you about today? I'd love to add you to my prayer journal. All you have to do is leave me a comment or email me at blockamy@hotmail.com and I’ll be on my knees before the Lord for you in prayer each Sunday. I truly believe in the power of prayer. Thank you for this honor. Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus" (Philippians 4:6-7).
1/13/2008 7:13:00 AM
Who took your place? One day, a man went to visit a church.. He got there early, parked his car, and got out. Another car pulled up and the driver got out and said,"I always park there! You took my place!" The visitor went inside for Sunday School, found an empty seat and sat down. A young lady from the church Approached him and stated, "That's my seat! You took my place!" The visitor was somewhat distressed by this rude welcome, but said nothing. After Sunday
School, the visitor went into the sanctuary and sat down. Another member walked up to him and said, "That's where I always sit! You took my place!" The visitor was even more troubled by this treatment, but still He said nothing. Later as the congregation was praying for Christ to dwell among them, the visitor stood up, and his appearance began to change. Horrible scars became visible on His hands and on his sandaled feet. Someone from the congregation noticed him and called out, "What happened to you?" The visitor replied, as his hat became a crown of thorns, and a tear fell from his eye, "I took your place." Lord, thank you for taking my place... Comments Anonymous said: This was great Amy. Just what I needed as I am getting ready to go to our little church down here. I think I will send this on to the Methodist church in LeRoy. They use these in their newsletters. Mom
1/14/2008 8:02:00 AM
Favorite Foto Fun
LOOK CLOSELY... do you see it?? The butterfly that landed on Mya's shoulder? This is one of my favorite photo's of Mya. It was taken outside our house on the day she was being dedicated at church. She was so excited for this day. She couldn't wait to put on her 'princess dress' (compliments of my good friend Dana) and she couldn't wait to be dedicated to the Lord in front of the entire church. So, we were outside snapping away at
pictures and this pretty little butterfly flew up and landed on her shoulder just as I took the picture. I couldn't help but smile- thank you Lord for the reminder that you are always there, gently waiting for us to notice your presence. "Lord, let our eyes be opened." Matthew 20:33
1/14/2008 1:35:00 PM
Reflections... Have you ever been at a place in your life where you feel like you are running in circles trying to understand...trying to figure out God’s plan for you? The bible tells us that God has a plan for each of our lives... Lately though I have been struggling with trying to understand just what it is He wants me to be doing-because sometimes even though we are trying to do a ‘good thing’-the ‘right’ thing- God still closes the door. Sometimes this road block can be very painful. I have changed as a person tremendously over the last 6-8 years. The change has been gradual… but if you knew me before and know me now you would see the change is quite obvious. The biggest change though I see is that I used to totally live my life so that it was pleasing to me… pleasing to the world. And now, well now, most days anyway- without going into a lot of details yet that I am not ready to share- my life is definitely heading in the opposite direction of what the world would view as popular. As often as I hear “Are you crazy?” I know I am going against the norm- going against what other people see as cool. I’m maturing as a Christian. Don’t get me wrong… I still have a long, long ways to go- but from where I came from- it’s been a big change. “Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things". Colossians 3:2” Yet being a Christ follower and living for God can be hard. I was so hoping that it was as easy as handing my life over to God and letting him lead… and the truth is- IT IS-If, ‘I’ didn’t keep getting in the way. “I” meaning my stubbornness in that even though I should know better- I still try to figure things out… and when I jump to solutions too quickly- bypassing the pain, I miss out on the opportunity to trust God. He brought me here, allowed this pain, and I must trust Him to care for me. Yet, I still find myself acting like a child- tugging at God’s shirttail with the question, "Why?" Why did you not let me have this… or do that… why did it not work out my way? But God in all His wisdom knows that if we always have an answer for things, we will be tempted to rely on ourselves during our pain rather than turning to Him. We are not meant to understand; we are meant to trust. Trust God for what He has brought into our lives, accept that God, who planned our lives from beginning to end, will allow both joy and pain into our lives- for our own good. When we refuse to recognize this and to accept our life as God has given it- we end up with our own agenda- and end up blaming someone else for our hurt. That is where we mess up. We blame others, get angry that things did not go our way. We are so sure that we were right that we miss out on what God was showing us. We can choose to focus on exactly why God has allowed this situation and how it came about, or we can focus on trusting God for the next step.
"Your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it." Isaiah 30:21 As children of God, it is crucial for us to trust God and all His ways. If we don't want to be driven crazy by the question of "Why?" we must realize that sometimes there are no answers- and accept that no matter how painful it is. The good thing is God’s comfort is greater than our suffering... God understands our pain- because no one has suffered more than our Father in heaven. “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths. ---Proverbs 3:5-6” Lord, please help me to trust… no questions asked… just plain old trust. Help me to not place blame, but to know that through pain, through trial- is where you will grow me most. Lord, help my life to be pleasing to you and, more than anything, always, I want to be used by you. Comments Amazed by grace said: Thank you for this Amy. What a great reminder that God is working through our pain. Your trust is a great encouragement to me! Sarah
Our Real Life said: Life would be so much easier if the word "Why?" was not in our vocabulary. But we are only human. The best thing about learning to trust God is as we mature we have a beautiful tapestry formed by our obedience. I am praying you can trust forward and look back and realize how far you have come! Love and prayers Cindi
1/15/2008 11:53:00 AM
Messy Memories
I don't know what got into me today... I typically spend half my day cleaning up messesbut today- we decided to MAKE THEM all over the house. We started out by making home made finger paint. Only we decided that using our fingers wasn't exactly what we were looking for- so we used our 'toes' instead. And if that wasn't enough- Travis and his girlfriend, Cayley, decided to show up with cupcake supplies in hand and make cupcakes with the girls. At our house if you date- you basically have to date the whole family. Poor Cayley, she probably had no idea what she was getting herself into. Her and Travis both had icing smeared all over the side of their face and dripping down their shirt- but they still had a smile on their face. Ahhhh, to be young and in love again.
Comments Amazed by grace said: Wow ‐ this is great! What an excellent mom you are! Your kids are so blessed to have you. Sarah
Noah Bear said: Can we borrow Travis and Cayley sometime? Or better yet, can I send my lot to your house for a few days?? lol. Leslie
Our Real Life said: How precious. The girls are just beautiful. Seems like you might have a good couple to entertain the young two. Cupcakes?? What more could a girl want? Cindi
1/15/2008 9:18:00 PM
My new look!!
Like my new look? It was a gift given to me by my sweet friend Michelle. Michelle is another one of my amazing adoption friends and the girl has a heart of gold. Michelle adopted Abby and Landis from Guatemala and her and her husband are also now in the process of bringing home a gorgeous little girl from Ethiopia~ Sami. Sami will be their 7th child. I love that family! THANK YOU MICHELLE!!! What an awesome gift!
My new design was done by Nikki. (Pictured in this post) This girl is AMAZING. Amazingly talented and has an amazing heart. She is giving these blogs a new face lift to raise money for her mission trip to the Dominican Republic. (Pretty cool idea if you ask me!) She went last year for 10 days and and she is going again this summer for the month of July as a student leader with the group called Hero Holiday. If you want to see pictures or read about it, you can read her blog from last summer. She will be blogging again this summer at http://heroholiday07.blogspot.com/ . The mission trip costs a total of $3400. While she is there she will take part in building 2 schools, running a medical clinic, distributing food, clean water, and gifts, and working in an orphanage for kids with special needs. There are so many things a young girl her age could be 'choosing' to do with their free time and my hats off to Nikki. The girls got heart- and I, for one, am inspired by it. Now go check out her blog and help that girl be God's hands and feet! Comments Our Real Life said: I really like the new look. Is this is same Michelle that adopted through Dillon about the same time as the rest of us? Nikki does great work. I will need to get her to redo mine sometime soon. Cindi
Amazed by grace said: Great new look! I love it. Sarah
Noah Bear said: LOVE the new look! I want one, too! I went to Nikki's blog, but couldn't find any info on getting a blog facelift. What do we do? Leslie
Scarlett_333 said: Thanks for posting this, Amy. You are so sweet :) Nikki
1/16/2008 7:05:00 AM
How to get YOUR new look I've had a few people ask me how to contact Nikki to get their new look. Right under my kids picture at the top of this page (on the left side) there is a link to Blogs for a cause. If you click on that the information on what to do is right there at your fingertips! Have funshe's amazing!
1/16/2008 1:51:00 PM
The Laundry's calling!!! Yes, we do a LOT of laundry at our house... and sometimes when I am doing the laundry I find a 'surprise'. No, I'm not talking about a tissue that was left in some one's pocket that is now all over an entire load of wash.... No, I'm not talking about a skid mark left in some one's undies (although unfortunately there have been a few of those too). What I'm talking about is when the laundry is calling and you find THIS!!!!
Comments Jenny said: Oh my gosh!!!!! I just ran to my dryer to see if I was that lucky.....Not!!! Love you babies! Titi
1/17/2008 8:31:00 AM
The loss of a referral
It has been years now... 4 to be exact, but I can still remember the features of her tiny face... her beautiful brown eyes, round Guatemalan cheeks, and her little forehead that wrinkled up as she squinted towards the camera. Her name was Maria De Los Angeles- and although I only knew her on pictures and paper, she will forever own a piece of my heartand a moment of my lifetime where she filled my head with dreams and my soul with joy. She was our first adoption referral- the one we lost. I know of many of you who will read this and have been through the same thing... one day you were 'promised' a child(ren) that you opened your heart to and loved instantly- only to have that child, through some unfortunate circumstance, taken away. And the pain is so real it makes you feel like your entire world is going to fall apart... like you could not possibly go on. "However, each one must live his life in the situation the Lord assigned when God called him." 1 Corinthians 7:17 I remember sitting on the couch after I got the phone call just staring at the wall... I felt so hopeless, so lost. All of my dreams, my plans, were gone and as I sat there I didn't even know how to begin to move on. I could not understand how God could let that happen... why He would give us such a gift that felt so right, only to take it away. I had done everything right... I followed the right steps, used a good agency, how could this happen? I didn't want to feel- I didn't ever want to open my heart again and allow anyone or anything to cause me that much pain again. I vowed to be DONE. My heart was off limited. "Man does not see what the Lord sees, for man sees what is visible, but the Lord sees the heart." 1 Samuel 16:7 Holman CSB
A funny thing happened though... as I vowed to build that wall around my heart to protect it, God began His work.... "May the God of hope fill you with all joy and peace as you trust in him, so that you may overflow with hope by the power of the Holy Spirit". Romans 15:13 NIV It certainly didn't happen overnight... I had to allow myself to go through the steps of grieving...and I had let God fill my heart with renewed hope. I had to trust God that even through the pain He would take care of me. I had to trust that His will be done. "The thing you should want most is God's kingdom and doing what God wants. Then all these other things you need will be given to you". Matthew 6:33 NCV Although the pain may never completely go away,and I may never have all of the answers... today I can look back and remember her beautiful little face with a smile and pray that God is holding her too. "Now there are different gifts, but the same Spirit. There are different ministries, but the same Lord." 1 Corinthians 12:4-5 Holman CSB As I sit here typing I can hear those precious giggles coming from the other room... and then I hear her call my name "Mommy, Mommy come see what I did!" and I know without a double it was worth the pain and heartbreak. God's will was done... God was faithful. Lord, thank you for holding us through our pain... thank you for renewing our hope even when our world feels like it is falling apart. I pray for my precious friend Sarah today Lord. Give her comfort and mend her broken heart. Give her your strength to go on. And Lord, thank you for my beautiful Aleigha Grace- my daughter who loves to wear pony tails in her hair and pick wild flowers... for had I not have experienced that horrible, painful loss I would never have been blessed by her life in mine. Thank for for always knowing what is best for us, even when we cannot possibly see. Comments Kimmie said: We had a similar thing happen 3 years ago, the loss is still felt, but God has carried us to today and brought us 3 more since then through adoption. He is good, though we don't always see the details of why such things happen on this side of heaven, still I know that I can trust Him. Kimmie mama to 6 one homemade and 5 adopted
Amazed by grace said: Thank you Amy. You continue to be an encouragement to me. I am so thankful for you. Sarah
1/17/2008 10:50:00 AM
Organization with 6 Kids When people hear that I have six kids- one of the main statements I always hear is "I don't know how you do it... I cannot possibly get everything done with the two I do have". So, I decided to write a post about a few things we do to stay organized around our housefreeing up more time for family fun and living a life free of chaos. But before I start I have to give credit to my mom- she is the queen of organization and most of what I learned came from her. (Thanks mom!) 1. Always have your clothes laid out the evening before for the next morning. Actually, for the younger kids, I decide what they are wearing for the week on Sunday night. Then I have those things hanging to one side of their closets, paired together as a set so it's easy for them to find them. We even lay out socks, under ware and shoes to save time looking for the ones that always seem to 'hide'. 2. Pack lunches the night before if they are packing the next day. 3. I make a list of what we are going to eat for dinner for the week- or sometimes 2 weeks in advance and always throw in a left over night. 4.My husband types up a calendar at the beginning of the month that has every one's schedule on it-games, work schedules for the older kids if available, and any other important things that might be going on that month. That calendar includes a seating chart for our vehicle to prevent fights of who sits where each morning. ;0) We keep a copy of this calendar in our home as well as our vehicle just in case I did not have time to check it before walking out the door and need to remind the kids of anything. 5. Laundry. Oh the never ending laundry. While I think it's important for kids to learn to do their own laundry we would have problems with people leaving their things in the dryer for days and no one else could use it. So, I do the laundry- daily, and we have a shelving system. Each child has their own shelf with their name on it and I wash and fold their clothes (although my husband and the kids do help out with this when asked) and their clothes are separated and put on their shelf. Typically on Saturday they are asked to put their clothes away- or before if their shelf is getting too full. This system works great for us because I have found we do not have laundry laying all over the house, on floors, beds, etc. It is simply left on the their shelf with the door closed until they put it away. 6. Sorting socks and boxers and white t-shirts are always a hassle trying to figure out who's are who's. So, we use a laundry pen and each has a designated color. 7. Grocery shopping. I typically do a big shopping day once a month where we stock up. My husband often goes with me on this day because it is definitely 2 full cart fulls. This works best for us because we get paid only once a month. Then, about once a week we end up running to the store for a quick trip for milk, fruits and fresh veggies. (although we are going to have our first attempt at gardening this year which will be another post in itself). 8. Because we get paid once a month- we use the envelope system. We estimate monthly expenses for our bills each month and put that amount into a separate labeled envelope. We have one for gas, one for groceries, clothing, etc. This helps me make sure we do not go over on one thing and not have enough for another. 9. Each child pitches in to help around the house. Even down to the smallest. Aleigha and Mya are great at helping empty the dishwasher, bringing in the mail and love to dump things into the compost. 10. We do daily devotions with the kids. With a large family it is so important to me that we stay close and that each child feels like they are being 'heard' and included. By sitting down for even 15-20 minutes each night, doing our devotions and sharing our prayer requests it often gives our kids time to open up and share things they might not have done as we
rushed around throughout the day. This time of the day has easily become the most precious to all of us. If anyone has any other ideas or tips they would like to share about how they keep their family running smoothly I'd love to hear from them! Just leave a comment below. (Don't know how? Click on the comment link below this post, type in your message and if you do not have a google account you can click on anonymous and it will work!). THANKS so much! Comments Sara said: I only have 2 kids, but since I work outside the home part‐time, I really have to organize myself. I found it helpful to divide the chores up throughout the week and do 1‐2 chores each day, rather than clean the whole house in one day, especially when the kids were real little. I also thought it helped create a checklist for Bryce once he was school‐age, of things he needed to do each day of the week...put books in bookbag for library, collect trash, make bed, make lunch, etc. It helped take the load off me and make him more responsible for his own things. He would bring his list to me at the end of the day to check. I am amazed at how you run things so smoothly Amy!!qozlt
Anonymous said: I'm with Sarah. I've always told you to write a book. And thanks for the compliment(?) on my organizational skills. Remember you are "little Marcia". Love ya! Mom
Amazed by grace said: Oh this is so great! I've always said that you should write a book, and now I know I'm right! Sarah
1/17/2008 11:58:00 AM
Forgetting something?? Ever have one of those days where you feel like you are forgetting something??
Maybe you are!!! Comments Amazed by grace said: Oh ‐ This is too funny! I looked at this before, and I thought it was a cast on her foot so she had to keep it out of the water! Now I see that it's a sock!!! hehe LOL Sarah
1/17/2008 12:44:00 PM
Blog envy **PITY PARTY ALERT** OK, I can't even believe I am putting this out there... but I have a confession to me-I have blog envy. What is blog envy you say? Well, allow me to explain. A little over a year ago I didn't even know what a blog was... and now here I am at my first attempt to write one and I am feeling a bit down. You see, when I start reading other peoples blogs and seeing all of the cool things they are doing and writing about it makes me turn green with envy. I starting thinking to myself that I wished I was that funny... that I could pray like that... I wish my house looked like that, was clean like that... I wished I cooked healthy food like that for my family, that I could write like that, look like that, have 12 kids like that, be witty like that, go on a vacation like that, do things with my kids like that... and the list goes on and on. But the truth is- this is who I am and it's all I got. Sure there is always a chance that I might improve with time... or maybe not.
I remind myself that being envious or jealous is a sin and that is exactly what I am doing. "Abstain from sinful desires, which war against your soul" 1 Peter 2:11 So, I need to focus on being thankful for who I am, how I am, and even for how I blog. This is me- take it or leave it. You can choose to do 2 things now... put me into your favorites and leave me a comment below to help build my self-esteem (so I know people are actually reading) or click the x at the top right hand of this page and surf someone else's blog. Thanks for visiting! Comments Anonymous said: Even though you wrote this months ago, you have an AMAZING, God touched blog and I wouldn't want it any different!!! Ann Cox, Long Island, KS
Anonymous said: Even though you wrote this months ago, you have an AMAZING, God touched blog and I wouldn't want it any different!!! Ann Cox, Long Island, KS
Anonymous said: Even though you wrote this months ago, you have an AMAZING, God touched blog and I wouldn't want it any different!!! Ann Cox, Long Island, KS
Jman's momma said: uhh, I know this is from January but I gotta say ‐ I totally know where you are coming from. When you commented on mine yesterday, I was on cloud 9. How silly!! :) ~anne
Amy said: You have great insight and I always enjoy reading what you have to say. Keep it coming.
Sara said: Hard to believe you have any envy, rather others look at you and your life and are simply amazed. You are such a strong Christian woman and able to touch so many lives and you have a great family. God bless you Amy!
Rhonda said: Amy, I missed reading your blog yesterday, and I am having withdrawals! I absolutely LOVE reading it! You are such an inspiration to me, and I love EVERYTHING about you and your family! I am so thankful to be YOUR friend! Love ya, Rhonda
Phyllis said: Amy ‐ Your blog is GREAT!! You're on my favorites both at work and at home. When I feel like I'm overwhelmed with my one kid I think of you with your 6 and wonder how you do it. You are amazing and an inspiration. I just checked and last time I blogged was Nov 7, so you are doing WAY better than me. Keep blogging just as you are because I am enjoying every word :) Phyllis (Kristen's blessed mom)
Noah Bear said: Amy, you know I'm absolutely dead jealous of your blog. I.LOVE.IT.!! I think you're funny and passionate ‐ so incredibly interesting. I check your blog several times a day and wish I could just morph into you
because I think you rock! Your blog is awesome! Leslie
Kimmie said: Oh, that what makes the world go round (well, besides God ;‐) You are the Amy God is forming, tomorrow your shape may be different, depending on how the Potter is transforming you and what stage you are in. I think you are perfect the way you are...if all our blogs were the same, well, lets not imagine that, as it wouldn't be good at all. Three cheers for you and your lovely blog...happy blogging. Remember the blog is always a dim picture of the real life and person(s)...you get to experience the bits ‐but we have to live with us ;‐) Kimmie mama to 6 one homemade and 5 adopted
Anonymous said: I check your blog several times a day. REALLY! I love your posts and seeing pictures of your beautiful family. Thanks for the great advice on organization. Boy, I needed that before the next kid comes home. :0) Blessings, Michelle Riggs
Our Real Life said: OK This is so funny. After reading your post on organization today and then your back post on "what I could do if I didn't have so many kids" LOL I found myself a little envious of you (in a good christian way of course :) So see I guess we all want to be something we aren't. We are too busy looking at our faults to be happy with out blessings! Hugs Cindi
Amazed by grace said: I not only already have you in my favorites, but you have a spot on my tool bar! No kidding. Now that better give you a boost! :) I always love your insights ‐ keep up the good work! Sarah
Anonymous said: I love you my friend and I love your blog...I check it two or three times a day and you always keep my interest. I think you do a great job for a newbie (no one could tell if you didn't admit it!!!) Miss you! DebbieT
1/17/2008 7:11:00 PM
Solving the mystery... Who Dun it?
OK, I need your help. When I walked into our office today right there in the middle of the floor was one of my favorite pottery pieces from Guatemala broken into 2 pieces. Now there are not a lot of possessions in my house that are off limits because you know, we have 6 kids and all, so our house is pretty kid friendly. But everyone is our household knows that the things I brought home from Guatemala I hold dearly in my heart. Not because they are expensive or worth a lot of money- but you know, just for sentimental reasons. So yepthere it was in the middle of the floor broken in two. Here is where YOU come in. I need your help by voting on who you think 'dun it'. You see, in our house there are a lot of people who apparently go by the same name "wasn't me". So let's get going and cast your vote. Was it...
Culprit #1 "Wasn't me TRAVIS" Age:17 known for playing rough with his younger siblings, loves football and girls.
Culprit #2 "Wasn't me KEEGAN" Age:15 known for his lack of driving skills also loves football and is too shy for girls.
Culprit #3 "Wasn't me ADDISYN" Age:12 known for her fierce soccer kick but compassionate heart, loves playing with her younger sisters and knitting.
Culprit #4 "Wasn't me KALLAN" Age:11 Known for his sweet disposition and knowing how to use it. Loves to eat Mexican food and ride the go-cart.
Culprit #5 "Wasn't me MYA" Age:5 Known for her adorable dimples, curly hair and spunkiness. Loves life and making people laugh.
Culprit #6 "Wasn't me ALEIGHA"Age:4Known for her big eyes and sneaky ways,Loves reading books and getting into things she is not supposed to.
OK- now go to my comments -cast your votes and stayed tuned for 'who dun it'. Comments Paytie said: I say Culprit #6. =] I say so b.c of the "And getting into things she is not supposed to." =] Love, Paytie♥
Anonymous said: It was definitely Addisyn. She is hoping that you will decide that you can't live without it. She hopes that you will decide to go back to Guatemala and get another one. Wouldn't another mission trip be fun? Addie wants to go too! Michelle Riggs
Jenny said: Okay...we don't think it was Travis or Keegan rough housing...because they would've love to tell on each other! Addisyn would have tried to fix it and put it back. Kallan would have tried to hide it! Our vote is for Mya and Aleigha...oops we mean "Wasn't Me Mya" and "Wasn't Me Aleigha" aka Culprit #5 and #6. The Bland's Sorry...Titi still loves you though!!!!!
Anonymous said: I'll go with Culprit #2. No one else said him. (Sorry Keegan) Maybe he can't steer his legs any better than the car.
Anonymous said: I think it was anyone but Culprit # 3 b/c Addisyn is totally innocent! ☺
Rhonda said: Could there possibly be a culprit #7? Where was Todd? HaHa...I can't possibly pick from any of these cute faces!
Anonymous said: hmmm, this is tricky...I have wild boys in my house but I also have a very ornery girl in my house....I'm thinking culprits #5 & #6, aided by culprit #4. Can't wait to hear the mystery's solved! DebbieT (it wasn't your big vase you carried home in your duffel bag, was it??)
Phyllis said: As the mom of a 4‐year old, I have to vote for culprit #6. Phyllis
Noah Bear said: What about the dog? I'm quite positive that one of her stinky smellies could've blasted it off the shelf ‐ causing it to shatter to pieces.
Scarlett_333 said: Hmm.... I think I will go with Culprit #4...
Our Real Life said: I say it is five and six together with the help of culprit #1. Really all he did was get them excited then sat back and watched it all play out. Or at least that would be what happened here.
1/18/2008 2:54:00 PM
Me with BIG HEAD
Ok- it's official- I am cured of my blog envy. You all are too sweet to me and (chest puffed out) I am feeling LOVED! If you can't tell- I now have a BIG HEAD too. (that is supposed to be a picture of me with a 'big head'). LOL It's not perfect but hey, remember I am technically challenged after all. Anyway- really, thank you all. I am so blessed to have so many awesome friends!
1/18/2008 3:48:00 PM
TOO CUTE!!! OK- since I just scared you all with my 'big head' picture I thought I'd treat you to a couple of new pictures I took of Aleigha and Mya today. Aren't they just the cutest??
Comments Anonymous said: Yes they are just "too cute". But all six are "too cute". I'm a prejudiced voter though. Guess who?
1/19/2008 12:27:00 PM
The Yellow Light A man was being tailgated by a stressed out woman on a busy boulevard. Suddenly, the light turned yellow, just in front of him. He did the right thing, stopping at the crosswalk, even though he could have beaten the red light by accelerating through the intersection. The tailgating woman was furious and honked her horn, screaming in frustration as she missed her chance to get through the intersection, dropping her cell phone and makeup. As she was still in mid-rant, she heard a tap on her window and looked up into the face of a very serious police officer. The officer ordered her to exit her car with her hands up. He took her to the police station where she was searched, finger printed, photographed, and placed in a holding cell. After a couple of hours, a policeman approached the cell and opened the door. She was escorted back to the booking desk where the arresting officer was waiting with her personal effects. He said, "I'm very sorry for this mistake. You see, I pulled up behind your car while you were blowing your horn, flipping off the guy in front of you, and cussing a blue streak at him. I noticed the 'What Would Jesus Do' bumper sticker, the 'Choose Life' License plate holder, the 'Follow Me to Sunday-School' bumper Sticker, And the chrome-plated Christian fish emblem on the trunk, Naturally....I assumed you had stolen the car." When I first read this I thought to myself "Good for you officer, how dare she give Christians a bad name like that!" Then, I had to stop for a second and let myself soak in the 'guilt' and admit that there have been times in my life when I have acted just like this stressed out lady on the busy boulevard of life. There have been times where I have called
myself a Christian and then turned around and acted like anything but. There are times when I have been so caught up in trying to accomplish what "I" thought was necessary and so wrapped up in 'me' and I failed to yield and look around me at what was really important. Lord, please help this story be a reminder to me that everything that I do and say is a reflection on you because I am a Christian. Help me to live my life full of your Spirit's selfcontrol. I ask that you to control the areas of my life and help me surrender my ways that are harmful to you and to others... because only then can I live in peace and contentment. "For this reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge, and to knowledge, self control. " 2 Peter 1:5-6
1/19/2008 12:49:00 PM
Verdict In Thanks to all of you who casted your votes on "Who Dun It". The verdict is in- mystery solved. It was Culprit #6 with the basketball In the office.
It may have been one of my favorite pieces of Guatemalan pottery but she is one of my favorite Guatemalan treasures. (Messy pig tails and all) How could I get mad? Anyway- isn't that what Elmer's glue is for?
Lord, thank you for the reminder that 'the most important things in life are not things'. We know that material possessions are replaceable, but our relationships with our children are priceless. I pray my children learn to be compassionate, forgiving people who live for things not of material worth but for eternal value. "Forbearing one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other..." Colossians 3:13 RSV Comments Anonymous said: Amy, she is by far the cutest culprit I've ever seen!! And DEFINITELY a TREASURE! DebbieT
Amazed by grace said: Oh I absolutely love this picture! She does look very remorseful. How can you resist those big brown eyes!?! Great post! Sarah
Noah Bear said: What a great post! I love the message you wrote about. Plus, I'm now kinda hoping one of my kids breaks one of my favorite India/Guatemala pieces so that I can write, "It may have been one of my favorite Indian/Guatemalan pieces, but s/he is one of my favorite Indian/Guatemalan treasures". I LOVE THAT!! Priceless pictures, by the way. :‐) Leslie
Anonymous said: I really thought it was Aleigha all along. I'm sure you could tell by those big eyes looking at you. I bet any of the other "culprits" would have taken the blame for her though. (Maybe not Mya). Just give her a big hug. Its replacable, she's not.
1/19/2008 4:05:00 PM
One of those days....
Today was one of those days... we all have them. It was time to leave for Kallan's basketball game so trying to foresee any problems I tell everyone to go potty before we leave. Mya and Aleigha run into the bathroom together (see I was not kidding when I told you they do everything together) and Aleigha apparently got there first. So Mya was trying to patiently wait her turn and while doing so decided to entertain herself by practicing her new favorite trick of spinning around in circles like a ballerina. Now there is a reason why Ballerina's wear slippers... and Mya, well Mya had on Crocs. So she attempt to spin herself in a circle and ends up crashing face first against the bathtub. Poor baby. She is so brave. So we get her fixed up and head out the door to Kal's game that is 40 minutes away. Once there we enter the building I can of course feel everyone is staring at me like I am a big, bad abusive parent. Fun feeling. We head forth to the court where Kallan plays and no one else from his team is there. I ask the guy in charge and he tells me there was a schedule change last Thursday and apparently everyone else on the team got the call but us. Great. Outside again, load kids back into the car and drive another 40 minutes home. I think I am going to change into my pajama's, wrap my kids in a plastic bubble and stay home for the rest of the day. Comments Jenny said: My poor princess....you still are soooo beautiful! Poor Mommy...I didn't know the part about the game being changed!!!! Bummer!
1/20/2008 2:36:00 PM
Enough to make a difference I asked God, "How much time do I have before I die?" He replied, "Enough to make a difference....." Lord, if you revealed everything about our future we could neither stand it or understand it. None of us know how long we have to live so I ask that you help
me make the best use of the time and energy you have given to me. I choose to spend my days in work that honors you. Forgive me for the times when I have wasted moments serving myself that should have been used in serving you. Our purpose is not to cross off lists, but to choose things in life that counts toward making a difference in your kingdom. Help us keep our eyes focused on you and you only- for nothing else really matters. "Be very careful, then, how you live-not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. "Ephesians 5:15-16
1/21/2008Â 10:33:00Â AMÂ
SISTERS When we first brought home Aleigha from Guatemala and then 2 years later Mya, my kids were beyond thrilled. I often thought that the excitement would wear off and soon I would begin to hear them yelling "get them out of my room!" or "Mom, they are getting into my things". But honestly even after all this time that has NOT been the case. Today I walked into the girls room to find this: Addisyn talking to them about how beautiful and special they are and putting braids in their hair. Despite the age difference these sisters are as close as ever and I thank God that He builds these close relationships and bonds them together in such a beautiful way. I thank God for my sisters and I couldn't be happier to see that my girls will share that special bonds as well.
Sisters of the Heart I know you are my sister
thought we do not look the same. We may have been sent to different lands but we both from heaven came. We knew we were meant to be sisters, cause we are the best of friends... We're so glad we found our family A circle of love that never ends. We have such fun together best friends we'll always be... Because I belong to youand you belong to me. Comments Amazed by grace said: How precious! I always wished I had a sister. This is so great! Sarah
Creme Brule said: Lovely Amy! I don't get the time to post a comment very often but I sure love reading your blog. Thanks! Tracy
Jenny said: I love sisters!!!!!!!
Anonymous said: just precious, Amy. You have such sweet girls and that Addie is just a gem! Tell her I said hey! DebbieT
Phyllis said: I love it!!! They are all so sweet :) Phyllis & Kristen
Our Real Life said: That is so sweet. What a great big sis.
1/21/2008 7:37:00 PM
Gratitude Day
Lord, today I thank you for this amazing man you sent my way. I am so blessed to share my life with him. Thank you for the crazy things he does that makes me shake my head, yet melts my heart. Thank you for the way he chooses to love me unconditionally for I know that true love is a choice. I am not perfect, I have done nothing to deserve this man, yet he remains by my side supporting me in all I do. Thank you for the way he is patient and loving to our kids, yet also disciplines them so that they can learn right from wrong. Thank you for this man who gives freely of his time to coach his kids, read to them, pray with them, wrestle with them, and stops to share your beauty in this world with them. Thank you for his compassionate heart for the children who do not have a father of their own and for his willingness to change that. Thank you God that he loves you above all else and that he puts you in the center of our lives. "Love each other as I have loved you". John 15:12
Comments Jenny said: Oh....that almost even made me like Todd! Ha!
Favorite in‐laws said: That's why he is also "one of our favorite sons‐in‐law." Mom and Dad
1/22/2008 11:41:00 AM
(almost) FRESH SALSA!!! My kids love chips and Salsa. They would live on it if I would let them. But we don't like that nasty, chunky Salsa that comes in a jar. We like the fresh , smooth kind. So, I found the easiest, most incredible Salsa in this world and you, my loyal blogger buddies, get to know
our secret family recipe for (almost) fresh Salsa. Try it- you will be in love! Get out your blender (yes blender) Open one 28 oz can of whole tomatoes (we use the Walmart brand for .97 cents cause I am cheap and we like it) and dump it in the blender. Next, cut up one whole onion and dump it in. Then add approximate 1/2 to 1 cup of fresh Cilantro (depending on how much you like) Throw in some Jalapeno peppers. (I use the pickled Jalapeno peppers in a can- like the ones you eat on Nachos). I put about 5 slices in. If you like it hot then add more. Finally toss in about 1 tablespoon of salt and then blend. It will make a good amount and can be stored in your frig for a couple of weeks- although ours never last that long. :0) Enjoy! Comments Noah Bear said: Oooh, I have to admit. I LOVE your salsa! I've been dying to make it, but I haven't because I know that I'll last approximately 5 minutes before I rip into the tortilla chips and eat the whole bag. I'll just have to have it at your house. :‐) Leslie
1/22/2008 12:23:00 PM
Twins As we are leaving the store and heading out to the parking lot we pass this sweet, older lady. (insert loud shrilly voice)"OHHHHHHHHH look at those BEAUTIFUL little girls- are they TWINS?" she asks. Me: "No, they are just sisters." Lady in the parking lot: "Oh my, well they sure could pass for twins!" We begin walking away... Mya: " Mom, why does everyone always think we are twins? We don't even have the same head!" Comments Angel said: Hee hee hee hee hee hee.... she is great. Angel
Sarah said: Thank you Mya! I needed a good laugh. That was too funny! Sarah
1/23/2008 11:30:00 AM
Discovering God's Will In the Upper Room daily devotional guide they had an article on Discovering God’s Will for your life. This is something that I am constantly concerned with and apparently so are many others because it stated that in ‘various surveys, adults consistently identify with this one spiritual question among their top three" So, this had me searching my own heart and where I am in God's will for my life. The Upper Room listed these basic principals on finding God's will which I found to be very helpful. 1. Bible ( examples of guidance) 2. Prayer (asking for guidance from God) 3. Seeking those in our community of faith (asking for council from other Christians) Now I agree that these things are extremely important in our daily walk with Christ and seeking His will- but there are a few other things I personally would add to that list: 4. Willingness. I think we have to offer our selves to God as well. You know, be willing- no matter how scary that is. No matter how high the stake. We can read the bible from beginning to end, pray and fast, and ask every person in church for advice- but still be too afraid to take the risk. I believe that if God lays a burden on our hearts that is Him calling us to do something. MOVE. OBEY. If we don’t, He will continue to draw us back to that specific task over and over again and the burden will become heavier until we accomplish it. And if we choose to run from God, from this burden he laid on our heart, we will always find ourselves going back to it because He will not allow it to go away. 5. Surrender. Surrendering is not always easy because when we surrender it means we give up control. Many of us are afraid we will loose ourselves if we give up control. Surrender to all that we have known- letting go of the world. The bible tells us we are NOT to conform to the pattern of this world. The dictionary defines conform as "to be in agreement or accord." Not conforming to the world is not easy because we are raised in the world and have to live here daily. There is so much pressure from family, friends, co workers, media, etc, to live life how others see as 'good and popular'. In other words- to be successful in materialistic ways. But honestly after searching and contemplating God’s will- one thing kept coming back to my mind. I don’t think God wanted it to be this hard for us.. .I don’t think He wanted us scurrying around like little mice lost in our direction… should we turn here, should we turn there... Sure God cares about what career we choose… sure he cares who we marry, where we go to school, and even what we eat. But THE MOST important thing is that in those choices He allows us to make- is that we stop asking the questions and just wholeheartedly seek to BE LIKE JESUS. If you are a businessman, are you conducting your business in an ethical way… are you reaching out to others or is it ( 'it' meaning your life) all about you getting richer, growing your bank account? If you choose to marry Sam or Dave are you loving them the way Jesus does? Serving them the way Jesus would... or are you angry and hateful because they are not serving YOU? If you chose to have one child- or ten… are you raising them like Jesus
would? Are you taking them to church, praying with them, growing them into little Christs? Or are you showing them by your actions that being popular is important, having straight A’s means more to you than participating in the youth at the church. Are you willing to drive them to Disney land- but not to serve at the local soup kitchen? Are you trying to ‘buy’ their happiness with video games and name brand clothing. Or are you showing them/teaching them, that in serving others is where true happiness lies? ( And I’m going to go ahead and admit right here and now that I am guilty of it all). But I truly believe that if you put Jesus in the center of your life- and truly strive to BE LIKE HIM in all that you do-all of the other parts will just ‘fall into place’ without you having to spend so much time searching for the answers… God’s will for your life will just happen when you seek to be more like Him. Maybe as you are reading this you feel like that is exactly where you are- right in the core of God’s will. If so, I congratulate you . There is no greater place to be. Or maybe you are reading this feeling like you’ve already blown it- you are already half way down the wrong road and can’t find your way back. Perhaps God spoke something and you turned and ran… perhaps you feel your whole life is a mess. There is good news because if you resolve that from today on you will surrender to God’s ways… to act, think, behave as He would- God will straighten your paths bringing you back to the center of His will. And because of his grace God can even change your mistakes around to be part of His purpose for you. I am thankful for such a God- a God who can use me even when I mess up… a God who loves me regardless of the mistakes I have made… and that is exactly why, more than anything else in this world, I want to be like my God. Comments Our Real Life said: Fantastic and uplifting post! Life would be so simple if we would all learn to be more like Jesus.
1/24/2008 9:46:00 AM
Hospitality
"Do not forget to entertain strangers, for by so doing some people have entertained angels without knowing it." Hebrews 13:2As Aleigha and Mya sat having a tea party in my living room with their 'friends,' I watched in awe how they treated each guest like royalty-It did not matter if they were a rat, a tiger, or a bear. They showed no favoritism towards those who had pink hair, or darker skin. It didn't matter if their 'coats' were old and worn or lush and new. They were all treated with the same hospitality... they were all welcomed, they were all served. Lord, I wonder how many times I have done the exact opposite- given favor to those who's coats were new over those who's coats were worn. I wonder how many times I have missed out on the chance to 'entertain an angel' because of my own ignorance? God I ask that you give me a heart like yours... that you give me the willingness to open my heart and home with Christian love, friendship and understanding to those who have spiritual, emotional, or physical needs. Help me to remember that everything I have really belongs to you and I am to share those blessings with those you bring into my life without judging. For when I do, you will bless me in more ways than I can imagine. Don't ever look down on someone else... unless you are helping them up. Comments
Kimmie said: Hi Amy How poignant this post is... Don't ever look down on someone else... unless you are helping them up. I love this how deep and how true! Kimmie mama to 6 one homemade and 5 adopted
1/24/2008 1:06:00 PM
Large Families= Good marriages?? I read this awesome post on here: http://themourofamily.blogspot.com/ and she said it would be OK to share it with you guys. Go Laura- I think big families are great too! I was just thinking today about the statistic that the divorce rate is lower for large families and what would make this true. You would think with the stress of more kids, added expenses, etc. that larger families would have a higher divorce rate. However, the opposite is true! I *think* it is because the more kids you have the less time you have to argue!! Or, maybe it is because you are too tired to argue! ;) In all seriousness though, I do think it has something to do with the fact that the more kids you have, the more you are required to serve and the less you think of yourself--not by nature, but out of necessity. This is true to a certain extent in any family with kids. However, with every added child, I feel stretched even MORE to serve. Honestly, when Cameron and I were first married, I was very selfish, and as a result, we argued a lot more. I demanded my "rights". We were both in grad school and very busy. There was more competition, esp. over household duties. Now, with seven little ones, we both have to pitch in and work ALL OF THE TIME. There is no slacking for either of us. Sleeping in? Forget about it! God has grown me in this area greatly! I was not a servant by nature when we got married. I wanted to be served. Having children has forced me to serve. Having many children with a husband in residency--who was rarely home and having very little money--forced me to learn to be content. I definitely didn't do it perfectly! There were times that I just wanted a break, or a new outfit!, but Cameron was on-call every 2nd or 3rd night. OR, he was on nights for a solid month! Or, we ran out of money and still had 2 weeks to go until payday. We just had to make do! Most months my perspective was "just make it to the end of this month". Cameron was just telling me today that he filled up his gas tank in his car and how good that felt! He said that in 4 years of medical school and then 4 years of residency, he never filled up his gas tank--because he didn't know if he could--if the money would be there! Anyways, God used having many little ones, little help and little money to change me. With each new baby, I learned to die to myself MORE. Before having these little ones my perspective was that I didn't want to die to myself. I thought that it would hurt too much to "lose" myself, lose my identity, my
freedom. In reality, I have found myself (I am tearing up even as I write these words!) It is true! I have such joy, so much freedom. I can't explain it. It does hurt to die to oneself, but it is worth it! I used to think that serving equaled degradation. Now I know that serving equals absolute freedom and joy! The more I have been required to serve, the more joy I have! It is the TOTAL opposite of what the world tells you! I feel like I believed a lie my whole life. I now have learned the secret to my happiness!I think that you HAVE to have a good marriage to have a lot of kids. Can you imagine the absolute chaos in a home with many children where the mom and dad didn't get along? Cameron and I have to be united-in our vision for our family, in our goals, and our purpose. This is what makes having a large family possible. Also, without a relationship with God through Jesus Christ, everything would fall apart! We have to give each other grace, we have to forgive, we have to depend on Christ to parent these children and love each other. I think this is true in any marriage, in any family, but in large families esp., where the demands are so high. We do NOT have a perfect marriage-we both fail, but we have less of those times now with lots of kids because there just isn't time to demand our own rights.The more children a family has, the more commitment is demanded to grow and raise that family. It is very difficult to have outside interests and pursuits when there are so many little ones demanding attention. That may seem depressing to some, but I think of it in a different way: All of my hobbies are just that--hobbies. These precious little ones are eternal souls that will one day worship God around his throne. They are an eternal investment. My hobbies are a way to pass the time, my children aren't.Lastly, having a large family is usually a result of the parents viewing children as a blessing and not a burden. This perspective makes a HUGE difference! My children are not an "intrusion" on my life--they are my life--they are the "work" God has given Cameron and I to do. They are a gift. I have never heard an older person ever complain that they had "too many children". BUT, I have often heard people tell me that they wished they had had more. You will NEVER regret the decision to have another baby-ever. Sure it will be hard, but one look at that precious little face and it will all be worth it! Marriage does take so much work and finding the time to make it a priority is difficult in a large family where the demands are high! Cameron and I are in a period of time right now where we really can't leave Jerome and Ruth with anyone else. We are in the critical "attachment" phase with our adopted children and a date is really out of the question. We are both looking forward to when we can go out alone together because we know that if this family is going to work we have to be united. In Christ, Laura
1/25/2008Â 9:33:00Â AMÂ
Brothers
Sometimes being a brother is even better than being a superhero. ~Marc Brown
Growing up I was surrounded by 3 older sisters. I learned all about make-up and doing my hair. I learned about doing cheers and playing Barbies with the best of 'em. So finding myself raising these 3 'little men', full of energy and spunk, has been to say the leastinteresting. There are days when I sit back and just watch in wonder at how one minute they can fight like professional wrestlers and the next minute laugh together over a PlayStation game. One minute they have each other in a head lock, the next minute they are tossing the football back and forth. I am in awe of the relationship between these boysthe joys and the complexities. I want so much for these boys to connect in a meaningful way because relationships between siblings are among the longest and most meaningful people have during their lives. I often tease my boys when they are fighting that one day when they grow up they will drive hundreds of miles at Christmas so see each other and cherish every moment of it. I know I do exactly that. Lord, I thank you for the special relationship you give to siblings. I thank you for the bond that is there even when they choose to ignore it. I pray that you help these boys to grown into strong Godly men- with their eyes focused on you. I ask you to guide their feet on the right path and direct them in all your ways. Show each of them the purpose you have planned for them. Teach them to love each other the way you love us. Show them that it is not important to 'reach for the stars' but to reach FOR YOU. Bring them to a place where your dreams are their dreams. You are all that I pray them to be. "Be sympathetic, love as brothers, be compassionate and humble." 1 Peter 3:8
1/28/2008 7:57:00 AM
Today?? 4-year old Aleigha to her mom: "Mommy, I keep forgetting when my birthday is... can it please be TODAY?" Comments Our Real Life said: That is so sweet. She needs a cupcake.
1/28/2008 8:00:00 AM
Attitude I saw this on another blog and it was too cute not to share! AttitudeAuthor unknown There once was a woman who woke up one morning, looked in the mirror, and noticed she had only three hairs on her head. “Well,” she said, “I think I’ll braid my hair today!”So she did and she had a wonderful day.The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and saw that she had only two hairs on her head.“H-M-M,” she said, “I think I’ll part my hair down the middle today!”So she did and she had a grand day.The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that she had only one hair on her head.“Well,” she said, “today I’m going to wear my hair in a pony tail.”So she did and she had a fun, fun day.The next day she woke up, looked in the mirror and noticed that there wasn’t a single hair on her head.“YEA!” she exclaimed, “I don’t have to fix my hair today!”Attitude is everything.Be kinder than necessary, for everyone you meet is fighting some kind of battle.Live simply, love generously, care deeply, speak kindly…..Life isn’t about waiting for the storm to pass. It’s about learning to dance in the rain.
1/28/2008 2:20:00 PM
Precious blessings
My precious, gorgeous, amazing new little nephew will be coming HOME to his FOREVER FAMILY on February 7th. "This is the day that the Lord has made; let us rejoice and be glad in it." Psalm 118:24 Today I am praising God and thanking Him for bringing this perfect little boy in our lives. In a world full of hurting people it is so awesome to see how God's loving hands still swoop in, answer our prayers, and make everything fall into place. As I write this I am so overcome with emotion-down on my knees in praise and gratitude for the miracle of adoption. I have experienced it first hand and yet always I am in awe.... I lift a heart of thanksgiving to you God in pure devotion and adoration. "For great is the Lord and most worth of praise". Psalm 96:4 Thank you for this privilege of being an aunt to this perfect little boy... thank you for the gift of adoption and for how you beautifully orchestrate each and every family. "That their hearts may be encouraged as they are knit together in love..." Colossians 2:2 Thank you for my sister and her family and for their hearts and desire to not only know your word- but to live it. "Whatever you have commanded us we will do, and where ever you send us we will go" Joshua 1:16 Thank you Lord, Thank you. Comments Gram said: We too are praising God for this new little grandson. May we all have the love and caring for this little boy to make his earthly life so happy for the rest of his days. Mom and Dad
Jenny said: AMEN....AMEN...AMEN...AMEN...AMEN..THANK YOU AMY FOR BEING MY INSPIRATION!
1/29/2008 7:47:00 AM
Irreplaceable
Whether we like it or not, we are living in a ‘replaceable’ world- and whether we admit it or not- we are all responsible for this. We like our things, we like them new, we like them faster, stronger, better then the one before. We like things to look good and be easy… and if they are not- we simple replace them with ones that are. Ahhhhh, life in America. Growing up I remember a few times where one our small appliances would stop working. I recall one time in particular that our toaster would not pop up. So, my mom packed up the toaster and I, and off we went to the next town over to where a little old man had a ‘repair shop’ in his garage off the side of his house. We would drop our toaster off and pick it up a few days later- and it worked as good as new. Now a days, that little old man would starveand his business would go under. Today, if our toaster breaks we dump it in the garbage and we are off to Walmart to buy another. But the sad thing is- not only small appliances are replaceable in our world now a days… we are too. Divorce rate is at an all time high- in our society if someone no longer meets our needs they are simply replaced … replaced for someone younger, someone better looking, someone better suited to fit our ‘needs’. And what about our jobs? We can easily be replaced by someone else in the work force. People spend their entire lives working, pouring their heart and soul into a company to one day find themselves laid off, or replaced. I often wonder if that is why down deep people feel threaten. Why we are so afraid to let people see inside- see the real us. We are afraid to show who we really are. We plaster a smile on our face and pretend that everything is perfect in our lives… when down deep we are hurting. We long for others to approve of us… and we are afraid that if they really see us- see our flaws-that we will be replaced. We are people pleasers more than God pleasers. We believe that if we ‘look’ like we have it all together than people won’t see the damaged goods… the ones that tell us we are not enough and need to be ‘replaced'. We know that once others see the real us- the imperfect us… they won’t see us as important. Knowing this makes it hard for us to believe that God doesn’t see us as that way too. But in fact, the exact opposite is true. God thinks you’re worth dying for. God specifically designed each one of us for a purpose- an irreplaceable purpose. While the world tells us ‘someone else can do it’ our creator tells us differently. Flaws and all, we are irreplaceable to Him.(kind of like that toaster we had when I was growing up- with God we are as good as new). If God were to line all of us up side by side, there would not be another one just like you. We have been chosen by him for a particular purpose- all we have to do is say yes God- I’ll do it! I’m willing! Through obedience I will accomplish the purpose you have chosen for me- and me alone. God does not care if there is someone younger, faster, more qualified for the job. God chose you and now you must honor him by submitting your life to Him. Whether He chose you to raise children, be a missionary, or drive a bus -you must not argue with the blueprints of your life but instead serve Him gratefully. So don’t fall for the world’s view- hold your heard up high and serve the Lord like only you can do.To God you are irreplaceable- and that is all that really matters. . “You did not choose me, but I chose you and appointed you”. John 15:16 . To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. Ralph Waldo Emerson Comments
Gram said: You and your sisters are all irreplacable to us and we thank God he made you all such wonderful young women. We are so proud of all of you. (And the toaster only cost a couple of dollars to fix.) Wasn't that neat? Wish I still had it. Mom
Sara said: What a wonderful reminder of God's perfect plan for our lives...a reminder to live up to our full potential in all areas God has chosen us for. Also not to worry so much how others see us, but what does God think. I love your blog Amy!
Noah Bear said: Super post, Amy. Love your blog! Leslie
Our Real Life said: Great Post
Our Real Life said: Great Post!
1/30/2008 8:16:00 AM
Happiness
Happiness is not a matter of good fortune or worldly possessions. It's a mental attitude. It comes from appreciating what we have, instead of being miserable about what we don't have. It's so simple- yet so hard for the human mind to comprehend. * * * * * * * * * * *
Comments Sarah said: I love this picture! They are so sweet.
Jennifer said: So glad I stumbled across your blog!!! I have spent and hour or more reading... and you have brought such a smile to my face! By the way... if I had a dime for every time someone asks if my girls are "twins"... we could afford to adopt for the 5th time! :)
2/1/2008 12:13:00 PM
Still waiting...
I've already written one post on waiting...and the fact that that one word annoys medrives me to the point of insanity- tells me I have a problem here... When something in my life lays unsettled then I know it is best to 'lay' it at the feet of Jesus. So today, as my heart is screaming HURRY UP... and I am so tempted to grap for instant gratification, I am choosing to seek the Lord- the one who created me, knows me, see's my future, planned my future and WAIT for His plan to unfold. "My soul, wait thou only upon God; for my expectation is from him." Psalm 62:5 Comments Anonymous said: I'll keep praying for you, Amy‐‐that God will give you peace in this time of waiting. He is using it for your good even though it's so difficult, and He will work his perfect plan for all of you in His time. " He has made everything beautiful in its time." Ecc. 3:11
Hugs to you! Kim
Our Real Life said: I am so sorry you still are waiting. Sometimes is seems so unfair but there is hope in God that he can see past the bend in the road and knows what is going to happen and when. I am praying for you. Waiting is my biggest issue too. It is so hard. God is saying to you, "Amy I know the plans I have for you and E, plans to prosper you and not to harm you. Plans to give you both great hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11. Hold one a little longer.
Sarah said: I'm praying for you as you wait for God's perfect plan. . . It just dawned on me that the waiting is also part of his perfect plan! So, I'm also praying that God will encourage and comfort you as you trust in Him.
Michelle Riggs said: I am sorry that the wait is so hard. I will keep praying that God comforts you and that "E" will be yours soon.
2/1/2008 12:56:00 PM
A better Life Too much truth not to pass along... A Better Life "I want a better life." That has become the slogan of our society today. Everywhere we look there are a thousand suggestions on how to live a better life. There are pills, exercises, and diet books to help us lose weight so we can live a better life. There are lotions, treatments, and surgeries to help us look better so we can live a better life. There are cell phones, computers, and televisions to keep us connected and entertained so we can live a better life. There are cars, clothes, and fancy homes to keep us feeling wealthy so we can live a better life. There are schools, classes, and colleges to get our kids ready to live an even better life than we do. There are also jobs, cash, and credit cards to keep us spending for all of these things so that we can one day, hopefully, have that better life we dream about. I want a better life too, but I don’t think that any of these things will help me to get it. I have tried a lot of them over the years and while they may make you feel better for a moment they don’t bring you the lasting happiness you want. I have found for myself that the only way to have a better life is to live a better life, and only way to give your children a better life is to show them how to live a better life as well. How do you live a better life? You start by living more for your soul and less for your wallet. You spend more time hugging and less time buying. You turn off the television and take a walk with your children. You smile more and worry less. You spend more time with your loved ones and less time at the office. You laugh longer and more often. You look in your heart more and in the mirror less. You make your first job spreading joy rather than earning money. You realize just how much God loves you and you spend your days sharing that love with everyone you meet. And you
always remember that your life is a gift from God and how you live it is your gift back. ~ Joseph J. Mazzella ~ Comments kim p said: Yes! A better life can only come from knowing and serving Jesus in everthing we do. Thanks for the encouragement!
2/4/2008 11:06:00 AM
Homemade Granola Bars My kids love granola bars- but the ones you buy at the store come in a box of 6 and they are gone in a minute at our house. So, I found this recipe and they loved them! It's a lot cheaper and they make a whole pan full. 2 1/2 c. rice krispies 2. c. oatmeal 1/2 c. raisins 1/2 c. sunflower seeds without shells 1/2 c. brown sugar, packed 1/2 c. corn syrup 1/2 c. peanut butter 1 tsp. vanilla 1/2 c. choc. chips Combine in a lg. bowl, cereal, oats, raisins, and sunflower seeds. Combine in a saucepan, brown sugar and corn syrup, bring to a boil stirring constantly. Remove from heat. Stin in peanut butter and vanilla, until smooth. Pour over cereal mixture and mix well. Add chocolate chips and mix. Press into ungreased 9X13 in. baking dish. Cool. Enjoy!
2/4/2008 1:34:00 PM
The gift of life
Our neighbors raise miniature horses and just 5 days ago one of them gave birth. It has been a beautiful experience for us to watch and a precious lesson on life for my children. Aleigha and Mya will stand at the fence watching for what seems like hours as the mother horse takes care of her new pony. Inevitably the questions have come... questions on birth, on life, on the bond of a mother and her baby... which opens the door for a discussion on adoption. These lessons are a gift for us- a chance to my girls to see and experience first hand the miracle of life. In a world full of chaos, disasters and pain I praise God for the gift of standing outside in the gentle breeze with the sun on our faces and witnessing the miracle of life. All around us there is beauty and good- little glimpses of God's presence when we really look... the gift of family, love, friendships and His marvelous creations. "God saw all that he had made, and it was good." Genesis 1:31 Lord, help me to celebrate life to the fullest. Let me really see your creation, your beauty, in everything. Let the greatest thrills in my life be from discovering you in everything around me. Let me not waste a single day on regret or things I cannot change. Help me to focus on the gifts you have given to me- my life, your truth, my faith, your peace, my salvation and your will.
2/5/2008 9:13:00 AM
Application to Date my Daughters A friend of mine (Thanks Debbie!!) passed this onto me and I thought it was too funny!!
APPLICATION FOR PERMISSION TO DATE MY DAUGHTER NOTE: This application will be incomplete and rejected unless accompanied by a complete financial statement, job history, lineage, and current medical report from your doctor. NAME_____________________________________ DATE OF BIRTH____________HEIGHT___________ WEIGHT____________ IQ__________ GPA_____________ SOCIAL SECURITY #_________________ DRIVERS LICENSE #________________BOY SCOUT RANK AND BADGES__________________________________________HOME ADDRESS_______________________ CITY/STATE___________ ZIP______ Do you have parents? ___Yes ___No Is one male and the other female? ___Yes ___No If No, explain: _____________________________________________________________ _____________________________________________________________________ Number of years they have been married ______________________________If less than your age, explain ____________________________________________________________________ ____________________________________________________________________ ACCESSORIES SECTION: A. Do you own or have access to a van? __Yes __No B. A truck with oversized tires? __Yes __No C. A waterbed? __Yes __No D. A pickup with a mattress in the back? __Yes __No
E. A tattoo? __Yes __No F. Do you have an earring, nose ring, pierced tongue, pierced cheek or a belly button ring? __Yes ___No (IF YOU ANSWERED 'YES' TO ANY OF THE ABOVE, DISCONTINUE APPLICATION AND LEAVE PREMISES IMMEDIATELY. I SUGGEST RUNNING.) ESSAY SECTION: In 50 words or less, what does 'LATE' mean to you? ______________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________ In 50 words or less, what does 'DON'T TOUCH MY DAUGHTER' mean to you? ______________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________ In 50 words or less, what does 'ABSTINENCE' mean to you? ______________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________ REFERENCES SECTION: When would be the best time to interview your: father? _____________ mother? _____________ pastor? _____________ SHORT-ANSWER SECTION: Answer by filling in the blank. Please answer freely, all answersare confidential. A: If I were shot, the last place I would want to be shot would be: ______________________________________________________________ B: If I were beaten, the last bone I would want broken is my: ______________________________________________________________ C: A woman's place is in the: ______________________________________________________________ D: The one thing I hope this application does not ask me about is: ______________________________________________________________ E. What do you want to do IF you grow up? ___________________________ ______________________________________________________________ ______________________________________________________________ F. When I meet a girl, the thing I always notice about her first is: ______________________________________________________________ G. What is the current going rate of a hotel room? __________________ I SWEAR THAT ALL INFORMATION SUPPLIED ABOVE IS TRUE AND CORRECT TOTHE BEST OF MY KNOWLEDGE UNDER PENALTY OF DEATH, DISMEMBERMENT, TORTURE, CRUCIFIXION, ELECTROCUTION, CHINESE WATER TORTURE, RED HOT POKERS, AND HILLARY CLINTON KISS TORTURE. _____________________ Applicant's Signature (that means sign your name, MORON! Mother's Signature _________________________________ Father's Signature _______________________________ ________________________________ Pastor/Priest/Rabbi____________________ State Representative/Congressman_______________ Thank you for your interest, and it had better be genuine and non-sexual. Please allow four to six years for processing.You will be contacted in writing if you are approved. Please do not try to call or write (since you probably can't, and it would cause you injury). If your application is rejected, you will be notified by two gentleman wearing white ties carrying violin cases. (you might watch your back) To prepare yourself, start studying Daddy's Rules for Dating .Daddy's Rules for Dating Your dad's rules for your boyfriend (or for you if you're a guy): Rule One: If you pull into my driveway and honk you'd better be delivering a package, because you're sure not picking anything up. Rule Two: You do not touch my daughter in front of me. You may glance at her, so long as you do not peer at anything below her neck. If you cannot keep your eyes or hands off of
my daughter's body, I will remove them.. Rule Three: I am aware that it is considered fashionable for boys of your age to wear their trousers so loosely that they appear to be falling off their hips. Please don't take this as an insult, but you and all of your friends are complete idiots. Still, I want to be fair and open minded about this issue, so I propose this compromise: You may come to the door with your underwear showing and your pants ten sizes too big, and I will not object. However, in order to ensure that your clothes do not, in fact come off during the course of your date with my daughter, I will take my electric nail gun and fasten your trousers securely in place to your waist. Rule Four: I'm sure you've been told that in today's world, sex without utilizing a 'Barrier method' of some kind can kill you. Let me elaborate, when it comes to sex, I am the barrier, and I will kill you. Rule Five: It is usually understood that in order for us to get to know each other, we should talk about sports, politics, and other issues of the day. Please do not do this. The only information I require from you is an indication of when you expect to have my daughter safely back at my house, and the only word I need from you on this subject is: 'early.' Rule Six: I have no doubt you are a popular fellow, with many opportunities to date other girls. This is fine with me as long as it is okay with my daughter. Otherwise, once you have gone out with my little girl, you will continue to date no one but her until she is finished with you. If you make her cry, I will make you cry. Rule Seven: As you stand in my front hallway, waiting for my daughter to appear, and more than an hour goes by, do not sigh and fidget. If you want to be on time for the movie, you should not be dating. My daughter is putting on her makeup, a process than can take longer than painting the Golden Gate Bridge . Instead of just standing there, why don't you do something useful, like changing the oil in my car? Rule Eight: The following places are not appropriate for a date with my daughter: Places where there are beds, sofas, or anything softer than a wooden stool. Places where there is darkness. Places where there is dancing, holding hands, or happiness. Places where the ambient temperature is warm enough to induce my daughter to wear shorts, tank tops, midriff T-shirts, or anything other than overalls, a sweater, and a goose down parka zipped up to her throat. Movies with a strong romantic or sexual themes are to be avoided; movies which feature chain saws are okay. Hockey games are okay. Old folks homes are better. Rule Nine: Do not lie to me. I may appear to be a potbellied, balding, middle-aged, dimwitted has-been. But on issues relating to my daughter, I am the all-knowing, merciless god of your universe. If I ask you where you are going and with whom, you have one chance to tell me the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. I have a shotgun, a shovel, and five acres behind the house. Do not trifle with me. Rule Ten: Be afraid. Be very afraid. It takes very little for me to mistake the sound of your car in the driveway for a chopper coming in over a rice paddy near Hanoi . When my Agent Orange starts acting up, the voices in my head frequently tell me to clean the guns as I wait for you to bring my daughter home. As soon as you pull into the driveway you should exit the car with both hands in plain sight. Speak the perimeter password, announce in a clear voice that you have brought my daughter home safely and early, then return to your car there is no need for you to come inside. The camouflaged face at the window is mine. Comments Reina said: Thanks for writing this.
Amy said: Ken and I thought this application was great! Our 17 year old daughter did not see the humor. :) She's afraid her dad will actually use it sometime. I don't think he would‐would he?
Gram said: This is great. I suggest you make lots of copies and hand them out when a boy comes "courting". . I wish I had had this when you and your sisters were dating. Now you need an application for your boys. Mom
Our Real Life said: You have been tagged. Please do to my blog for further instuctions. :)
Our Real Life said: I love this. I copied and took it to Blake and he is wanting to post it at the door!!!!
2/5/2008 4:43:00 PM
TAGGED So, here are the rules~The rules are to link the person who sent this and leave a comment on their blog so their readers can visit yours~Post the rules on your blog~Share 7 strange/weird facts about yourself~Tag 7 random people at the end of your post and link their blog~Let each person know they've been tagged by leaving a comment on their blog. Ok- I am so excited- I have just been tagged... and well, I have never been tagged before and I have always dreamed of being tagged... so yes, this is quite exciting to me! Thanks Cindi! :0) Alrighty then... 7 strange/weird things about me... this ought to be EASY. 1. Might as well get this one out there right away... I pooped out of a tree when I was little. Yep, you heard me. I pooped out of a tree. I was really curious what it felt like to be a bird so there you have it. For those of you who are also curious about what it feels like to be a bird... try it, you might like it. ;0) 2. I can burp the alphabet. 3. I cannot sleep without socks on and my pants tucked into them and I have to have a fan running. 4. I can't eat eggs- they gross me out. 5. I love small towns and old cemeteries. 6. I detest going to the gas station and putting gas in my car so my sweet husband does it for me every time. :0) 7. I am early for everything... always. Actually, I spend half of my life waiting for things to start. :0)
I was tagged by Cindi at http://livetoloveandlaugh.blogspot.com/ I am tagging http://recoveringnoah.blogspot.com/2007/06/eli-to-rescue.html http://not-soblandfamily.blogspot.com/ http://medlenfamily.blogspot.com/2007/12/sophie-pics.html http://godsabundantblessings.blogspot.com/ http://blessedbychrist.blogspot.com/ http://www.madebynikki.blogspot.com/ http://trustingforseven.blogspot.com/ Comments Rhonda said: You always make me smile, Amy! Have a great day! Rhonda
Our Real Life said: I LOVE number 1. My life was never that exciting. How fun for you. And I really mean that. I had a wild imagination but didn't think of being an animal. Now all my kids have been all kinds of animals. I feel like I have missed my youth!
Scarlett_333 said: Thanks for tagging me! How fun :) I will do this in the next couple days when I get some time! P.S. I can't eat eggs either... blech.
2/5/2008 9:32:00 PM
The Big and the Little
One of my favorite songs is by Mercy Me called Blink of an Eye. When I hear them sing the line-“How can I further your kingdom when I’m so wrapped up in mine?” I am so
convicted… convicted of the many, many times I have been so wrapped up in my plans, my world, working out the details of how I thought my life should be, that I forgot that it’s not about what Amy wants or how Amy thinks it should be, but about furthering God’s kingdom. I forget that it makes no difference to God how old we are, whether we are rich or poor, have 10 children or none at all. He can use us. God doesn’t care if our kids are too far apart in age- or too close in age…God does not need us to be perfect, experienced, or even prepared… all God cares about is our willingness to obey His call. He will work out the rest of the details… just like he did in my backyard that day. One of my favorite, yet unexpected, blessings is the bond between the big and the little ones in our house. I actually feared this- feared the large age gap between these kids, worrying that the difference was too great for them to ever really know each other or ever really bond. I fear it so much because you see, it wasn’t MY plan. I didn’t want my kids that far apart in age. It wasn’t how ‘I’ pictured it would be. But a good friend of mine reminded me that we are not to put limitations on God and what He can do. I know I am guilty of this…There are so many times when I have done just that- put limits on God because I couldn’t see the whole picture, couldn’t see how all the pieces could fall into place. I let what the world views as perfect or good stop me from things God has asked me to do…thinking maybe we are too old to adopt or already had too many children to adopt again. I’ve let financial fears stop us from doing the things that God has called us to do, forgetting that God does not need our money. I can find so many reasons why we wouldn’t succeed, couldn’t possibly make it work... and so many fears in my own inadequacies that sometimes I couldn't even take that first step to begin the journey. Yet as I watched through the window as Travis, my 17 year old, taught Mya, my 5 year old, how to dribble that soccer ball and shoot it into the net - I just sat back and smiled. Seeing them spending time together was one of those moments where I knew that my friend had been right- I can’t put limits on God. I can’t see what the future holds or how it will unfold. But God can. My biggest and my smallest do have strong bonds, despite their difference in age and once again God knew what was best. “He must increase, but I must decrease.” John 3:30 Lord, so many times I find myself trying to play your role… I put limits on what you can do…. I believe that ‘I’ have it all figured out. How many times have I missed out on a blessing you had in mind because ‘I’ got in the way and lacked faith in you? Help me to remember daily that you are my source of strength and that yes without you ‘I” could not succeed but in you I can do anything you call me to do. I give you credit for all that I am and all that I can do. I am totally dependent on you and nothing apart from you. Everything I have and am comes from your strength. When the doubts creep in, when the weight of the world is too much and I can’t see the way, help me to stay focused on you and you alone. Comments Anonymous said: I love this post because I can relate to it. It is such a blessing to see my oldest Jake hang out with and play with Anna. It's just been happening recently and it stops me in my tracks every time. They are special moments I would have never expected since Jake's so busy "in his world" these days. Definitely a gift! Hugs, DebbieT
Gram said: I loved this picture of Trav and Mya. How wonderful that he takes the time to help her learn soccer. She'll remember her big brother helping her too. Hope they will always be close. Mom
2/7/2008 8:58:00 PM
Welcome HOME Mario!
My sister and family are floating on cloud 9 tonight with her new son in their arms forever! I actually got to talk to him on the phone briefly (my kids were grabbing the phone for their chance too!) He sounds SO SWEET and Jenny said he is of course drop dead gorgeous and REALLY FUNNY! God is good like that- knows exactly what child fits exactly in what family. I cannot wait to meet him and I am so excited they are all together at last! LOVE YOU MARIO!!! Comments Rhonda said: Oh, Amy, he is too cute! Congratulations to Jenny and your entire family! You are so right about how God knows exactly what child fits with what family. Walt is sooooo much like Donnie, not only in looks but personality too! Rhonda
Anonymous said: Mario is GORGEOUS! I'm so happy that he is with his family now. Makes my eyes tear up just to think of their first meeting....you're right, God is so good at fitting our families together! DebbieT
Rachel said: Welcome home Mario! BTW, I tagged you on my blog today.
Angel said: He has such GORGEOUS eyes. I will be so grateful to hear wonderful reports of him starting to feel safe and secure. What a blessing that he is finally with his forever family. Angel
2/8/2008 12:00:00 PM
Update on Sweet 'E' and our other surprise
"Whatever you have commanded us we will do, and wherever you send us we will go." Joshua 1:16 Our caseworker called yesterday and they are deciding next Tuesday the 12th who Sweet E's forever family will be. It is between us and one other family. If you have a spare second that day and think of us- your prayers would mean the world. We really just want God's will to be done- no matter what that is. More than anything I want Sweet E to be in the forever family that God wants Him to be in... Our wants and desires put aside. But our news didn't stop there. God has a sense of humor. Months ago our caseworker had also submitted us for a 6 month old baby girl. (She is 9 months old now). Adoptions through the state can take months and often times your caseworker will submit your homestudy when she see's a good match come through for you and sometimes you don't hear anything for months or sometimes never at all. Anyway- our caseworker had no sooner just hung up from talking to Sweet E's caseworker and this baby girls caseworker called to let her know that we were one of three families being considered for this baby girl and that next Tuesday the 12th they would be deciding who her forever family is. Same day. Very funny. Let's see- that would make EIGHT kids for us... They say 'Eight is Enough' you know. "Whoever can be trusted with very little can also be trusted with much". Luke 16:10 Lord, you have equipped up with everything we need and I give you permission to use me when ever and where ever you need. I have made the choice with a willing heart to follow and obey you even when I am frightened and unsure- for when I do this I am proving to you where my heart really is- with you. I will follow you without question. Teach me Your ways, Lord, as I grow in you. Comments Wendi said: Wow Amy! That is awesome! You are covered in prayers and we are so excited for your family. You know, I've only met your family once, but I can honestly say, "of course two different cases would be considering you for their child" ‐ God's blessing is upon you and you steward it well!
Angel said: YOU KNOW I AM PRAYING LIKE CRAZY! We are almost there! Hugs, Angel
Ellen said: Prayers & blessings to you. Cousin Ellen
Anonymous said: Amy....You know I always have believed you get what you give!!!! You are the best Mom EVER!!! So I think it would be just like God to bless you with 8 kids!!!! You could handle it!!! You too Todd! Love ya! Jenny
Our Real Life said: Oh My. I am praying so hard for you. This will be a big piece of news any way that it works out! I am praying God will give you peace with His decision for all involved. I will be praying for you until I see God has given you the answers!
Stacy said: I am praying for you. May God's will be done. Stacy (adopting Isabella)
Rachel said: How exciting! I will be praying. Make sure you post to the Yahoo group too so that the ladies there can be praying for you.
Sara said: I will definitely pray for you. I imagine you are excited and scared, but you have amazing faith. God is smiling down on you Amy!
Whitney said: Very cool to see God's plan unfolding in the lives of these precious ones! Praying for your family!
2/10/2008 8:51:00 PM
Love is in the Air
I've always loved Valentines Day. I remember as a child carefully selecting which Valentine card I would bring to school. I certainly didn't want to give one that had the word love on it to just any boy, and I saved the cutest ones with the most glitter for my best friends. On Valentines Day morning we would wake up and find on the end of our beds a chocolate heart and some sort of gift of love that my mom had left us sometime during the night. And my favorite- the conversation hearts- heart shapped sugar candy with messages such as "call me, be mine, first kiss, it's love, dream girl" and more. I have found that my children are just as in love with the idea of Valentines Day as I was. Aleigha and Mya have spend endless hours cutting out tiny red, pink and white hearts, carefully selecting the perfect stickers to put on them. My oldest son and I went shopping just today to buy the perfect Valentine Day gift for his 'sweetheart' as well. Love is in the air- just like Jesus hoped it would be- but not just on Valentines Day. As a matter of fact, love is so important to Jesus that Scripture overflows with verses about love, with passages that speak of divine love, brotherly love and romantic love. Just open your bible and the word love is there over and over again. Jesus was so serious about us loving one another that he commanded us to "Love each other as I have loved you." John 15:12. So I got to thinking about that and asking myself the question- do I take the command to love seriously? Am I always loving others the way Jesus loves me? Or do I tend to only love those who are loveable- the ones who are easy to love? What about the lady who was rude to me in the grocery store, or the
man who cut me off in traffic? I confess I probably failed there. "Test me, O Lord, and try me, examine my heart and my mind." Psalm 26:2 Lord, I pray today that you emply the contents of my heart so that I can become more useful to you. I invite you to once again be the master designer of my heart- redecorate, rebuild and expand as you see need. Do whatever it take to make me more like you, Lord. The process may be painful but the the gain is more than worth it. When I think of the price you paid for me- the ultimate act of love, I recognize the importance of loving others the way you love me- unconditionally. Love through me today Lord, and when I love others, help me to prove that love by following through with intense obedience and sacrifice, because that is what you did for me. "Dear children, let us not love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth". 1 John 3:18 Comments Sara said: Such amazingly beautiful girls!
2/11/2008 4:15:00 PM
Serving
How beautiful are your feet? Did you know that Jesus has a foot fetish? He thinks that feet are beautiful… he sees beauty in our feet when we are not afraid to get up, MOVE, and have the courage to serve. Often times we refer to this as being the ‘hands and feet’ of Jesus. While this is true, I often wonder if maybe Jesus didn’t mean for us to take this a step further. I think that God wanted us to not only serve with our hands and feet- but with the eyes of our heart as well. When I think of a true servant-Mother Theresa is probably one of the first individuals who
come to mind. I believe that is because she took serving to the next level. Mother Theresa said that in each face of the dying, the diseased, the destitute she served- she saw the face of Christ. "Christ in the distressing disguise of the poor" as she put it. Many Christians are good at serving- good at writing checks and good at volunteering. While that is noble and definitely does make a difference- I think that scripture challenges us to do more than just ‘the right thing’. I think it begs us to look into the face of those we serve and treat them as if they ARE Jesus. Look around you- do you see Jesus? He is in the face of the homeless man living under the bridge…in the neighbor who is going through a divorce… and the little boy in the foster care system who is HIV+. Do you see him? While God loves beautiful feet- he wants us to take a step further and look deeper into the eyes of those we serve… and I can guarantee you, you will see Jesus there. Jesus said, "As you have done it to the least of these, you have done it to me."
2/12/2008 9:03:00 AM
True Treasures
"Measure your wealth not by the things you have, but by the things for which you would not take money."
2/12/2008 9:09:00 AM
Finding comfort Last night we had terrible storms- lightening, thunder, hail and rain. I woke up and told my husband that Mya would most likely be coming into our room soon since she is deathly afraid of storms. I was amazed to wake up sometime later on and discover that she indeed had NOT come in and crawled into our bed. So, I tip toed into her and Aleigha's room to discover this...
And then this...
Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; But how can one be warm alone? Ecclesiastes 4:11
2/12/2008 9:40:00 AM
Thank you my precious friends I just wanted to say THANK YOU to all of you for your sweet emails, phone calls, kind words, encouragment and prayers. You have no idea how much they mean. I don't know what the outcome will be today with Sweet E or Baby D- but I know one thing- I am truly blessed by your gifts of friendship. It amazes me that you would take the time out of your day to think of us and pray for us. Also, there is sweet man by the name of Jimmy Mullens who has been reading my blog- I just wanted to say thanks Jimmy for checking in on us... that makes my day! Comments Rhonda said: We are so proud of yall. seems like we know everyone of you already from talking to Rhonda & Donnie the last several years, We wish everyone the best. What would we do without these special children. Jimmy & Voda Mullen
Anonymous said: We are praying and waiting to hear with you! Post something quick! :o) Lisa H.
Phyllis said: Amy ‐ Thinking about you and your family today! And yes, I will be stalking your blog for the rest of the day :) Phyllis
2/12/2008 12:03:00 PM
Time Does this day seem to be really long or is it just me? I keep looking at the clock... and it's hardly moving. What is up with that? I have been emailing back and forth with our caseworker, Lisa, who is representing us today for Sweet E and Baby D. I have to tell you- I LOVE the girl. She is fantastic and knows her job well. I don't know how we have always been so blessed with the greatest caseworkers in this world. First we had Tami and Jynger from Dillon, International. Hello- could they come ANY sweeter? They were amazing- so caring and I honestly couldn't have made it through our 'first' adoption experience without them. Then came Felis from Special Delivery. She ROCKS. I am always telling her I want to be her- the girls got heart, compassion and soul. I keep trying to think of some way I could inch my way into her family... hey, I know- maybe they could adopt me??? Ok- back to staring at the clock. I really think perhaps I need to change the batteries in it or something- this day is taking forever! Comments Christine said: Was shot over your way from Leslie. I'm on pins and needles. I just got a call from the state today, as we're starting the process again (hopefully a sibling group this time around). So exciting, and so NERVE WRACKING, all at the same time. I'm praying for my new blog friend, Amy, today, and her entire family (including those that will be entering it! yea!).
Sarah said: I'm praying for you!!!
Michelle Riggs said: Brent and I are praying for you today. We will be glued to your blog!
2/12/2008 1:41:00 PM
The 2 sides of Miss Aleigha BEAUTY
And the BEAST
Comments Jenny said: Even you beastie is beautiful! Titi Jenny
2/12/2008 5:06:00 PM
Our newest Addition!!! Once again- THANK YOU all so much for your prayers- we are SO EXCITED right now! We were actually chosen for BOTH kids- Sweet E AND Baby D!!! BUT- because the meetings were scheduled so close together our caseworker feels that they may not give us Baby D once they find out we were selected for Sweet E also. Part of me is sad, but the other part of me knows that God knew that and will work out the details. Apparently Baby D was just placed in her new foster home 2 weeks ago and they would LOVE to keep her- BUT because they had asked for homestudies to be sent in months ago to inquire about adopting her (which is when our caseworker sent in our information) the family did not know about her and therefore did not have the chance. So, perhaps now they will. I know it's all very complicated but it was our prayer all along- for God's will to be done. So we are giggling, excited, celebrating, dancing and praising God right now!!! ♥ Sweet "Kaden" is coming HOME! ♥ Comments Jennifer said: Amazing news! Been praying for your family... such a blessing!!!!
Phyllis said: That is such great news and I am so excited for all of you!!! Can't wait to hear more about him and the adoption. Oh, and more pictures, please :) Phyllis
Cliff and Tami said: What wonderful news for your family ‐ congratulations!!
Anonymous said: Yeah‐‐‐celebrating with you! How exciting for all of you!!! Post details soon. Congratulations‐‐ Heather
Rhonda said: CONGRATULATIONS! We are so happy for you! I have been stalking your blog all day today and am so excited to hear your great news! Looking forward to seeing pictures and learning when you will be getting him!
Our Real Life said: CONGRATS!!! I am so very happy for you and Kaden. He will have the neatest family I know.
Noah Bear said: Yea! Yea! Yea! I am so excited for you!!!!!!!!!!!! I can't wait to meet little Kaden and hold him and spoil him rotten as one of his many "aunties". (Did you know that I just appointed myself as one of his aunts?) :‐) Congratulations to you and your whole family. I'm sure the kids are so excited about having a little brother. Can't wait to meet him! "Auntie" Leslie
Sarah said: Yeah!!! Praise the Lord! I'm so excited! Congratulations!
Sara said: I am so excited for you. I've been praying and thinking about you (oh yeh, and checking your blog too!). How wonderful! I am sure you will post details, as to when he will come home and how old he is. Yeh Block family!!!
Michelle Riggs said: WoooHoooo!!! I am so happy for you all, Amy!
SupermomE11 said: AMY!!!!!! I have been checking and praying all day and I am SO excited for you guys!!! You have to email me a picture! :) Hugs and HUGE congrats!!! Love, Erin
2/13/2008 7:19:00 AM
Update I thought I'd post a little update since I have had lots of requests for more information and pictures. You all are so sweet by the way! Unfortunately at this time we don't have any new pictures- only the one the state posted when searching for a family for Kaden. (My sister Jenny actually found him for me and the day before I found her son for her!) How cool is that? For Baby D I have seen a picture BUT since she is technically still in foster care I am not allowed to post one on a public blog unless they had previously posted one, which they had not. So you will just have to trust me, she is CUTE. :0) As soon as I can though, this blog will be FULL of pictures! Much of the information we have on Kaden I will also not be able to share. He has had an extremely hard past and been through a LOT for a little boy of just 16 months. It will be his story to share one day how he wishes and if he wishes. I know though that God can use the painful experiences in our lives when we allow Him and I am praying that we can raise Kaden to have peace in that. I know looking back on my life the times that were the hardest were the times I grew and changed the most. It was never fun, but the end result were worth it. I don't ever want Kaden to look at himself as 'poor me' but rather look at his life as a blessing. Because most definately he has already blessed our family and he's not even home yet. Some fun things I know about Kaden: they told us he loves animals and other children (which is a good thing in our house because we have lots of children and some days they act just like animals!!) They said he is small- but very strong. He is still taking a bottle
which I am so thankful for because it really helps with bonding when we can rock him and feed him his bottled. As for when we get to bring him home- they have to obtain a certain document which should take 1-2 weeks and then we can begin our visits. The first visit we will go to the foster home he is at right now (which is a great home and they would have loved to have adopted him but they are 60 years old and felt they could not). At this visit we get to meet him and hang out and play for a few hours. Next visit we are allowed to take him for a few hours to do something fun like the zoo or McDonalds playland or something. 3rd visit we get to bring him home for the weekend!! Then if all is going well they will schedule for adoptive placement- meaning he will come home with us FOREVER. :0) We have lots to do before then- did I mention I have nothing for a little boy anymore??? I'm still trying to decide about the whole crib thing- my kids were pretty much climbing out of their cribs by his age so I am not sure what we will do. I'd hate to buy one for a month. Plus we need to find out his shoe size and clothing size. I don't think he will like us much if we dress him in left over pink sparkly dresses from Aleigha and Mya. My boys have high hopes he will be good at football... his daddy and I just want him to be whatever God calls him to be. For I know God has big plans for this amazing little hero- my new son- because He has definately made it clear he was to be our son. He pushed us to put all our fears aside and step out in faith. There is no where else I would rather be- then holding my precious children in the Lord's grip. Thank you Lord for once again expanding our family. Some may view us as crazy but I know in your eyes God we are right where we should be and there is no where else I would rather be. Thank you Lord for the privilege of serving you. I am in awe, and I am so very, very blessed. To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps. 1 Peter 2:21 Comments Sarah said: Amy ‐ I love how you love your kids! I'm so exicted for you and can't wait to hear more about Kaden!
Rhonda said: Thanks for the update, Amy! We are so happy for all of you! Rhonda
Mandy said: Congratulations again!
Anonymous said: Amy, Have I said that I'm so excited for you??? yep, only a few times now! It has been awesome to watch God work in the life of your family and also to watch you as you step out in faith to see what God is leading you to. I can't wait to hear more about Kaden as you get to know him as your son! Hugs to all the Blocks!! DebbieT
2/13/2008 2:13:00 PM
Baby D I just found out that we are not going to be getting Baby D too. Strange as it sounds I have complete peace in this. She was a beautiful, perfect baby but we know Kaden was meant to be ours- no doubt. God made that very obvious. Baby D's foster family will most likely now be able to keep her- and I can't help but to think that maybe God used this to allow that to happen. Her foster family is THRILLED and one thing I did not want was to take someone else's blessing. Yes total peace. Thank you God for your reassurance. "And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus." Philippians 4:7 Comments Anonymous said: Amy: A huge congrats to you and your family!! I can't wait to see a new picture of Mr.Kaden. Leveta
Anonymous said: isn't it awesome when you can feel God's hand in what is happening and you know beyond a doubt that everything is the way it is supposed to be? I'm so happy for you that you are experiencing that peace about Baby D. :) mucho hugs, DebbieT
Michelle Riggs said: I am so glad that you are at peace about this. God's hand is on your family. Kaden is such a precious boy. I am very thankful that he is has a great family.
2/14/2008 10:48:00 AM
Happy Valentines Day! My kids woke up all excited today to find their new swimsuit and chocolate hearts on the end of their bed. They had half the chocolate gone before they left for school and Aleigha and Mya had devoured all of theirs by 9:30. Hey, it's Valentines Day after all. My sweet husband who made a pact with me NOT TO BUY Valentines gift for eachother this year (since we are adopting Kaden and still need to purchase so many things for him) did not keep his end of his deal. He had to leave at 6:00 a.m this morning for work and so every hour on the hour from 7:00a.m. on I have gotten a phone call from him telling me where to look for the next 'little surprise' he had hidden for me. Now since obviously he is a man- you can guess what each little gift has been- a pair of underware or some Bath and Body Works bubble bath stuff. (as if I will EVER have time for a bubble bath now that we have SEVEN kids!) Anyway- sweet of him, even if he did break our deal. I 'sort' of broke it too although I
really didn't spend any money. But last night I ran out to his car and dumped about 200 little red and white paper hearts the kids and I had cut out all over the inside of his car for him to find this morning! Bet he had 'loving thoughts' for me when he had to pick them all up. Hee/Hee Oh I love romance... even after all these years we still got it going on. Comments Jenny said: How sweet...it kind of made me gag! Ha! Jen
2/14/2008 2:52:00 PM
Cold Season Colds and flu are everywhere right now. Seems like everyone I talk to has it at their house. Ours is no different. Today I was helping Mya wipe her nose and I said to her "Mya, what are we going to do with this silly nose of yours? It will not stop running!" A few minutes later she comes running back into the room... "Don't worry mommy- I fixed it!"
Hey, whatever works!
2/15/2008 3:07:00 PM
Be the change There have been many days where I find myself grumbling about things… upset because the foster system is far from perfect, frightened because there was another shooting at a college, angry because of the high price of gas. Now while these feelings are normal- I cannot help but to ask myself- what part I play in it. So many of us want the world to be different without any involvement. We want the pollution problem to fix itself. We want someone else doing the serving, someone else donating the money and someone else coming up with a solution. We want everyone around us to change- everyone else to do the work. I admit change is hard. Most of us run from change- fear change. But in reality, change is constantly happening around you whether you fear it or not. One of my all time favorite quotes is from Ghandi- "Be the change you wish to see in this world." If we want to see improvement, want the world to be a better place- we have to start with ourselves. Hate knowing there are families going to bed hungry each night in your neighborhood? Start a food drive. Don’t like knowing there are thousands of children dying of HIV in Africa every second? Go on a mission trip- or better yet- adopt a HIV+ child. Are you worried about the environment? Quit wasting and quit using plastic. Tired of the high price of gas? Car pool, ride your bike or better yet- stay at home. Join a cause- support an organization. Tutor a child- open your home. Serve. Educate. Inspire. Start with YOU. You be the change you wish to see in this world. Don’t know how? Ask God- pray that He makes His priorities your priorities and then obey His command. Lord, use me again today. Let me be the change. “Lord, let our eyes be opened. “ Matthew 20:33 Comments Mandy said: Beautiful quote and post!
KelseyChristine said: Yes!! Beautifully stated. Love, love, LOVE the quote.
Bingaling said: Amen and Amen. Chanda
2/17/2008 12:29:00 PM
Boys and girls
It's a beautiful Sunday afternoon- a good time for some quality family time. I couldn't help notice though the difference... the difference between the girls and the boys. See for yourself... The girls... just so sweet
The boys...
Don't worry- little brother getting squished on the bottom made it out safely.
2/18/2008 2:46:00 PM
Strength Have you ever stumbled across a verse in the bible and felt like you just found a piece of gold? I felt that today when I came across this... "But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength." 2 Timothy 4:17
How cool is it to know that God- the King- stands right by our side? These past couple of days have been rough. When we found out that we were chosen to be Kaden's parents we were so excited and felt like we were floating on air- but it didn't take long for someone to burst our bubble and we came crashing down - hard. I knew they would come- the comments, the less than enthusiastic remarks, the "are you crazy?" "better you than me", the jokes about our family size, "you can't save the world", 'what will you drive?" and more. I've preached on here enough about not living to please the world... preached about doing something BIG for God. But I have to admit that when the comments come they hurt- even when you are doing what you know you are supposed to be doing- it hurts. As I have said there are parts of Kaden's story that I will not be sharing on a public blog... things that would make a grown man cry. Things that we will only be able to deal with in God's strength alone. So trust me when I say this journey is going to be taking one tiny baby step at a time and keeping our eyes focused on the Lord every inch of the way. "God is our refuse and strength, an ever-present help in trouble." Psalm 46:1 Lord, there are times when I feel like I can't make it another step. My strength is gone and I don't know if I can go forward. So I look to you Lord- for your power. Yet when my spirit is weak you can accomplish great things through me and my obedience. Whatever comes Lord, I will be ready and willing to act quickly to your call, to trust in you to live for you. In you I will become strong, steadfast- unshaken. I will not give in to my weakness. Use me Lord, even when it hurts, even I weap- use me. "To this you were called, because Christ suffered for you, leaving you an example, that you should follow in his steps." 1 Peter 2:21 Comments Sarah said: Psalm 127:3&5 (ESV) Behold,children are a heritage from the LORD, the fruit of the womb a reward. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them! I'm praying that the Lord would bless you with extra grace and strength as you prepare for Kaden to come home.
JuJu ‐ said: Wow ‐ if only you knew how badly I needed to come across this:) Thanks ‐ what an amazing woman of God you are:) JULIA:)
Jenny said: You can make a difference..One child at a time, one person at a time...one day at a time...God is with you...everybody can see that! Just stay connected to Him..recharge yourself through Him often!!!! I will be with you every step! Hugs! Jenny
Michelle Riggs said: I am so sorry Amy. Your family is serving God in an incredible way. I am so proud of you. So many times when people react they did they are people who have been called by God and refuse to follow His path. I am proud of you for doing God's will.
Sara said: I know people often make stupid remarks, but hang in there and just use it to teach others. I am amazed at your big family and know that God created all different kinds of people...God gave you a gift to be the mother to these
children. There are others who just ask questions in awe:) Your children are blessings and your new addition will be no different!
amy jordan said: amy you are one of my earthly heroes. I know envy is wrong, but I admire your big fun family and the work God is doing through you one little life at a time. Oh, and I love your name he hee...
Our Real Life said: People talk without thinking! I have determined a lot of people make comments about things like that without trying to be mean but rather just wondering how you plan on handling your life. Its not there business but they just don't thnk. Hang in there girl. I know you did the right thing.
2/19/2008 8:28:00 AM
The Burden of Discontent I have been reading a book by Max Lucado (love that guy!) called Traveling Light. I just had to share what I read last night from chapter 4. Lucado is talking about Psalm 23:1 'The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want' and he explains it in a way I had never thought of before. Lucado says that often we live in the 'prision of want'. The prisioners are 'in want'. "They want something. They want something bigger. Nicer. Faster. Thinner. They want. He goes on to say that "they don't want much. They just want one. One new job. One new car. One new house. One new spouse." But Lucado tell us that the psalmist David lets us in on a secret- the secret of satisfaction. 'The Lord is my shepherd. I shall now want." "David has found the pasture where discontent goes to die. It's as if he is saying, 'What I have in God is great than what I don't have in my life." Lucado continues to remind us of two biblical truths. "Your stuff isn't yours. Ask any coroner. No one takes anything with him." Naked a man comes from his mother's womb, and as he comes, so he departs. He takes nothing from his labor that he can carry in his hand". Eccles. 5:15 NIV And then Lucado hits the nail on the head when he says "All that stuff- it's not yours. And you know what else about all that stuff? It's not you. Who you are has nothing to do with the clothes you wear or the car you drive. Jesus said, "Life is not defined by what you have, even when you have a lot" Luke 12:15. Heaven does not know you as the fellow with the nice suit or the woman with the big house or the kid with the new bike. Heaven knows your heart. "The Lord does not look at the things man looks at. Man looks at outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart". 1 Samual 16:7 NIV. When God thinks of you, he may see your compassion, your devotion, your tenderness or quick mind, but he doesn't think of your things" (Max Lucado- Traveling Light). So I challenged myself today- I took a mental picture of myself minus all my 'things'. Mestanding before the Lord with NOTHING but any compassion, devotion, mercy, love, and heart that I might have shared. I took a long hard look at what God see's in ME daily. I
challenge you to do the same thing... What does your mental picture look like today? What does Jesus see when he looks at you- minus your stuff? Comments Noah Bear said: Oh Amy. I just love your blog. God is using you daily ‐ did you know that? Do you have any idea how many people you touch with your words? You always seems to know exactly what I need to hear. Leslie
Jenny said: LOVE IT..LOVE IT..LOVE IT..LOVE IT...LOVE IT...WHAT A CHALLENGE WE CAN ALL LEARN FROM!!!
2/19/2008 8:20:00 PM
Gratitude Day~ my mom and dad Thankful
Lord, thank you so much for blessing me with my precious, supportive parents. I pray not a day goes by that I take them for granted. Thank you for the blessing of their unconditional love- especially during the times when I did not deserve it. I thank you for their beautiful example of how to parent a child and how important family truly is. I am so grateful for the
safe, loving home they provided for me and for the sacrifices they made to ensure that I was loved and cared for the way every child longs to be. I am grateful that they taught me how to believe in myself, to stand up for what is right, to be proud of the work I do, and to never give up on my dreams. Thank you for blessing me through their lives. Their hearts, their compassion for others, their giving nature, their strength and their love is a gift to all who know them. From their example I have learned what is really important in this worldand that is you Lord. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates. Deuteronomy 6:6-9 Comments Jenny said: Way to go...you made me cry AGAIN today! Hugs!
Anonymous said: Thank you Amy for your nice words about us. We're really not that good but guess we've got you fooled. You do "honor thy mother and thy father". We love you all. Mom and Dad
2/20/2008 7:56:00 AM
Letters, letters everywhere Aleigha and Mya are taking off with their learning- and I am one proud mama! (Thank you Angel for introducing us to Leap Frog Letter Factor DVD). So, when they first began writing their letters, and then words, I had a grin on my face the size of the moon like any proud mommy would. But then... the letters, the words, started to 'pop' up in the strangest of places...
Okay, but still kind of cute... Then, then I found this... a great big "A" etched into the side of my vehicle with a rock. (Wonder who wrote that one Miss Aleigha??)
Not 'quite' as cute anymore... Good things she is so cute and good thing her daddy is in the profession he is. :0) Comments JuJu ‐ said: oooooooooooppppppppppppppppsssssss! SO hard to be mad at them some days ‐ OK ‐ all days ‐ cuteness wins over anger evey day here;) gald it does at your house too:):) I LOVE your blog!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Angel said: UH OH! Maybe you are regretting showing them that DVD. ;0) Angel
Our Real Life said: Oh my golly. Aleigha what were you thinking???? The initial should have been M. But look at the beautiful face. How could you punish here for learning???
Jenny said: Aleigha...Learn from your smart Titi Jenny. You must carve one of your siblings initials NOT YOURS! Then...don't look guilty! Love you little princess!
2/21/2008 1:01:00 PM
I just started reading the book Dangerous Surrender ~What happens when you say Yes to God, by Kay Warren. After having about 5 people tell me it is a ‘must', I thought, ok God- I hear you and I went out and purchased the book. I am only on the 2nd chapter but I have to tell you- you NEED to read this book. It is life changing- even after just the first 2 chapters. I don’t want to spoil it for any of you, but the just of the book is as Kay Warren says- if you had to sum up Christianity into one word is would be surrender. Now I know we all like to think of ourselves as willing- as submissive, as surrenders to God. But are we really?? I’m not talking about serving in the church nursery when we really don’t feel like it… or bringing someone a meal when our schedule doesn’t really permit it. Kay is talking about true surrender- being willing to give it all up for God. ALL of it. Surrender to His willno matter the cost. Kay says God can use an average person like you and me to do something big if we allow him. If we truly allow him… As I read through the rest of the book I know I will have more to share. But today I wanted to touch on this verse that God has placed on our hearts ever since we found out about 'Sweet E'- our little Kaden. It’s from Joshua 1:16: “Whatever you have commanded us we will do, and wherever you send us we will go”. The verse doesn’t say 'some of what you have commanded us we will do… or even, as long as it doesn’t hurt me too much we will do'… it says WHATEVER and WHEREVER. Scary huh? Let me tell you- it is- because we are living it right now. Yet I am blessed beyond measure by serving God in this way. Even though it is hard, even thought there is and will continue to be pain- we will stand firm, with our roots deep into the soil of our Lord and keep our eyes focused on him. In Dangerous Surrender, Kay Warren challenges us to surrender to God’s will… that may
mean being inconvenienced, that may mean your plans, your dreams, your schedule is thrown out the window and God moves in and takes over in ways you had never dreamed. I’d like to end with this message from her book: “To want to serve God in some conditions, but not others, is so serve Him in your own way. But to put no limits on your submission to God is truly dying to yourself. This is how to worship God. Open yourself to God without measure. Let His life flow through you like a torrent. Fear nothing on the road you are walking. God will lead you by the hand. Let your love for Him cast out the fear you feel for yourself”. (taken from Dangerous Surrender, written by King Louis XIV) Precious Lord, please help us hear your calling and to surrender to you. You have already equipped us with everything we need for life’s battles. Having you by our side is more than enough. And Lord, when the journey gets long and the road is rough, help us to keep our eyes on you. Give us the spirit of willingness- regardless of where you lead us. For when we are left to follow our own pursuits disaster will result and that is not what you want for your children. I will guard the treasure of your word by planting its roots deep within the soil of my heart. I chose to listen, look and obey what you tell me. Comments Doreen said: Amy, I am sorry you have tears for Kadens past ....we can not change the past but we can create happiness with open hearts of love in our future and in the future of the ones we love.. doreen
Sarah said: I think this will be my next book! Sounds encouraging and challenging and the same time. Thank you Amy, for your life's example of complete surrender.
Angel said: I KNOW RIGHT???? It's amazing. :0) Angel
Anonymous said: Amy: I'm in the midst of reading this book too, and I've been telling lots of friends I wanted them to read it, because I thought they'd appreciate it. Honestly, I thought of you when I was reading it too, so I think God really DOES want you to read this book. :o) Keep posting on your thoughts...I need someone to process this book with becaues it packs some big punches! Lisa H.
KelseyChristine said: Thanks for sharing...I think I needed to hear that today.
2/25/2008 8:26:00 AM
The real test
This weekend it became clear to me why I truly had needed to read Kay Warren's bookDangerous Surrender. Let me explain. Saturday morning I got up early and drove an hour to our Foster agencies office to pick up Kaden's files. I was so excited to get them. Excited to get to see more pictures of him and to learn more about our new son. Our caseworker told us that we needed to read the files and then say yes or no by Monday morning. I had already known we would say yes. There was never a doubt in my mind that I would say no...until I read the files. Until I saw first hand the horror, and let the reality of it sink in. Then, my big talk, brave attitude, devotion, save the world ideas, ran out the door- leaving me alone, crumbled, and full of FEAR. Raw fear. It shakes you to the core. Paralyzes you. Consumes you. Overcomes you. Now I've had bad days like everybody else. I've experienced loss, been defeated- felt like I had hit rock bottom. But nothing, nothing prepared me to look wide eyes opened at this file before me and straight into the face of evil. Nothing. Two complete files- each 6 inches thick... with more information on Kaden's past than I even had on my other children. More than my heart could bare to read. Now I have to admit that I am the type of person that truly does turn off the news because I cannot stand to hear or see the evil in the world. I don't like reading the newspaper either. The 'news' is often more than I can handle. I've become an expert at looking the other way, letting someone else take care of the 'dirty' work. I prefer to stay in my own little world where wild flowers grow in my backyard, children swing on tire swings and the biggest complaint in my life is the rising cost of gasoline. So, as I opened Kaden's file and began to flip through the pages I felt myself go into shut down mode.Visibly shaken I had to walk away. Close the files. Run. Hide-under my pillow, in a closet-anywhere.Find safety. Leave the room. Leave the horror that my son had lived over the past 16 months and walk away. It was more than I could handle. I didn't want to step into this pain- the real deal of what Kaden had actually lived. I wanted to go back to my safe little world, shut the door, lock the windows, turn off the news. My life is good, it's easy. We do not not associate with that kind of evil. We don't let it become real in our lives because we run from it, hide from it. We don't let it in. We pretend it doesn't even exist. I began to panic... my insides were screaming "NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO", I could feel my heart beating faster, I felt my mind kick into over drive coming up with all sorts of good excuses to say no. I thought of ways we could explain to people that we just had to say no. I thought of how we could just make a clean break, walk away... no, better yet RUN away
as fast as we could. We could keep living our life as we knew it. Forget about Kaden. Forget he even existed. Forget that even without us he would still face this past. After all, we are good people you know. We go to church every Sunday and pray for those who are hurting. Heck, we even throw a check into the offering. We bring meals to those who have new babies, we go on missions trips, and we read our bible every day. There, good enough. Or is it? And then those words that I had read in the bible came creeping into my mind... the ones I had read daily, quoted to others, said I lived by- you know the ones... you can see throughout my blog. They became almost alive... "Whatever you have commanded us we will do, and wherever you send us we will go. " Joshua 1:16 "But the Lord stood at my side and gave me strength." 2 Timothy 4:17 "The thing you should want most is God's kingdom and doing what God wants. Then all these other things you need will be given to you". Matthew 6:33 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways, acknowledge him and he shall direct your paths. Proverbs 3:5-6” Also I heard the voice of the Lord, saying, Whom shall I send, and who will go for us?Then I said, Here am I; send me. Isaiah 6:8 Matthew 18:5 reads “Whoever welcomes a little child like this in my name welcomes me”. “But he said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9 Slowly, throughout the course of the day God gave me the strength to read through the rest of the files. God made it clear to me the real horror that so many children just like our sweet Kaden face every day. There are Kaden's all over this world, hoping for a chance. File after file of them filled with the unimaginable- the pain, the suffering these children face at the hands of evil that exists in this world today. We can choose to look away or we can choose to step into the pain and be God's hands and feet. As I finished, I closed the file, and looked over at my husband... with tears streaming down our faces we held onto eachother, bowed our heads and whispered "yes Lord... your will be done." “And God said, “I will be with you.” Exodus 3:12 Comments Jman's momma said: That is quite possibly one of the most amazing things I have read. No one says these things but I know we ALL feel them. Praise God!! for sharing how His character, His will, His love is more powerful than our feelings. ~anne
samhenry said: Amy, thank you for your candid post. My best friend once taught me that courage means 'doing [it] while you're still afraid' ‐ how courageous your family is...I can only imagine the wealth of character your children are learning as they watch you live. My little Lilly asked me why I was crying...the irony...when I told her why, she said, "let's do something else mommy..." Deep down, I think we all have a "run" response to pain and fear. None of us know when God will will ask us to do these things that paralyze us...I pray that when he asks me, I am as resolved and courageous as you are today.
Mandy said: You and your family are amazing and inspirational. I can't imagine, I too live a life of comfort and too often do the easy thing. Thank you for such an honest post.
Jennifer said: Amy... I have to admit... I have been blog stalking to hear more news about Kaden. When you didn't update for a few days, I began to worry... (I ENJOY YOUR BLOG SO MUCH!!!) But I started to pray for you ‐ hoping that everything was okay. I am so sad about Kaden's past... but it is such a relief to know that he is joining a family that loves him, and is so anchored in God and His love. I will be praying for you and your family as you continue this journey! God Bless You!!
KelseyChristine said: Wow, wow, wow. This was amazing‐‐thanks for being so transparent and honest in your posts. It will be so much better for Kaden to face his past with a family who loves him by his side, encouraging him and giving him the strength to rise above all the evil in this world.
Sarah said: Amy, your faith is truly an inspiration to me. I am praying for you as you continue to trust and rest in His strength!
Creme Brule said: Amy‐‐that is sooo brave! Praying for you!
2/28/2008 9:24:00 AM
The Dirt I haven't had a lot to blog about lately because I have been spending a lot of time soul searching and really listening to God. Yesterday- Aleigha, Mya and I spent most of the day outside- planting our garden, and just letting my mind and heart process some things. And what I discovered as I dug in the mud- is that my heart was just as black as that dirt. It’s embarrassing to admit this… but part of the reason why I was so afraid to say yes to Kaden was because I had this fear that he might not be perfect. You know, all parents want their children to be perfect. I know- it’s silly, but we do. We want everyone else to gush
over our children- say how cute they are, how they act like little angels, well mannered, polite and respectful. We want them to be straight ‘A’ students, popular, well- rounded, athletic, strong. It’s every parents dream. And well, while viewing Kaden’s files and the challenges he was coming from- I’m ashamed to admit that I was afraid. Someone told us that we were ‘taking on someone else’s problem” and I was afraid that they might be right. But you know what- I was wrong. Dead wrong. Websters dictionary defines Perfect as this: to bring to final form. Being entirely without fault. Pure. Total. Satisfying all requirements. You see, according to Websters dictionary and ACCORDING TO GOD- Kaden IS perfect. God does not make mistakes and God made Kaden. He brought him to final form, and Kaden is entirely without fault. He is an innocent child but because of someone else’s sin he has suffered. He is pure. Total. Made in the image of God. Perfect. And I almost missed this because of my warped American view of perfection. I believe that so many times in our lives we miss out on God’s blessings because they do not come packaged the way we thought they would. We don’t notice the VALUE of these gifts because we are so caught up in worlds dreams. What I have learned is that any ideas, any dreams, any plans of how I think my life should be- I need to just throw them out the window and let God show we His ways. Because God has a purpose that is higher than ours. “For my thoughts are not your thoughts, neither are your ways my ways, “ declares the Lord. Isaiah 55:8 God has an eternal plan that we can hardly grasp, and there is a divine nature that our infinite minds cannot comprehend. We are constantly trying to limit God with our categories and our understanding. Just when we think we have figured God out or have determined how God should act, He does something far more marvelous than we could have ever imagined. Because we are so slow to learn this- the only thing we can do is trust what He says and praise what He does. And yet… we are so stubborn, so set in our ways- we still try to plan. We still think we know what is best. We still believe we have the perfect plan. In the dark hours of facing my fears, and facing myself… I have grown. I am so thankful that God forgives. So thankful for God’s grace. Despite the ugliness of my heart, despite my internal fight of clinging to the worlds view of perfection- He has blessed me with the most amazing gift this world has to offer- a child. God is allowing me- to raise this beautiful, perfect child that he created. I am in awe. Lord, I am on my knees thanking you for this privilege of being Kaden’s mother. I ask for your forgiveness when I do not see things the way they truly are- when my ways, my ideas are so warped from your truth.. I thank you for each and every life that you create and I thank you for making each and every child perfect. Your compassion in my own life moves me. Help me to learn to do the same for others. Help me to treat everyone alike Lord, as valuable creations- made in your image. I love you Lord. Amen. Comments Rhonda said: Amy, I just wanted you to know that I am praying for you and your family! Love ya, Rhonda
2/28/2008 1:04:00 PM
PICTURES!!!!!! We had the coolest thing happen today!!! I was filling out our adoption subsidy paperwork and I had a question for my caseworker. So I called her to ask for her help and since she didn't have the answer she had me call Kaden's caseworker. I had never spoken with her directly- only through our caseworker so it was really cool to get to thank her for all of the work she does and for how fast she is working to get him home. (If you are adopting right now- please let your caseworker know how much you appreciate them. They work hard, often at the expense of their families and all too often only get to hear the complaints). Then- she told me she had some more pictures of him and asked if I would like them! YES!!! YES!!! YES!!! I asked her if I was able to share them and she said it was fine since they had previously posted his picture on a website (the only other picture I have of him). Basically we are just not able to share personal information about him which I have not. Soshe sent me these beautiful pictures of my baby boy!!! He is THE CUTEST!! Oh sweet Kaden I cannot wait to hold you for the first time and treat you like a little king. I love you so much already that it hurts. We have been working like crazy to get his crib put together and gathering the things that he needs. We are also adding on another bedroom to our house just for him. God has been working out every little detail and taking care of all of our needs. I am blown away how everything is falling into place and so thankful that God allowed us to face our fears and step out in faith. TOTAL 100 percent PEACE since we said yes. I am SO EXCITED that I get to be this AMAZING little boys forever mommy!! Comments kim p said: I've been touched, Amy, by reading about your struggle and seeing the way God has worked in you in a way only He can do. I'm thankful for the peace He's given you! Kaden's a cutie! I'm excited for your family and am encouraged by your faith and surrender. Love you!
Rhonda said: OK, he is the CUTEST! Thanks for sharing these, Amy!
Bingaling said: Amy, He's ADORABLE!! I'm so excited for you and for him! Can't wait to hear all about him when he joins your family!! Chanda
Jennifer said: What a precious little baby! I am so excited for you...
2/29/2008 1:08:00 PM
Take too many pictures, laugh too much, and love like you've never been hurt because every sixty seconds you spend upset is a minute of happiness you'll never get back.
Comments Jenny said: Princess Mya and Princess Aleigha! I love you and miss you soooooooooooo much! Titi Jenny
Anonymous said: A proud Mom takes lots of pictures of such adorable little girls. We love seeing them. Mom
Jennifer said: Precious!!!
3/3/2008 9:32:00 AM
The stuff I am finding that a lot of 'stuff' goes into preparing for a seventh child. For one- our vehicle was already full with the eight of us. (We drive a Yukon which I absolutely LOVE). And because I love my Yukon and am not at all interested in another car payment or paying the gas for a 15 passenger- we found this awesome extra seat you can buy that is safety regulated and fits right into our Yukon. And get this- a couple of our kids are already excited about riding in this new rear facing seat! Ahhh, bring back memories of the station wagon we had growing up. Anyway- Todd and I ordered our new seat today and I can't wait to get it. If you want to check it out the website is http://www.littleseats.com/chevy_tahoe.htm. And, now we even have room for an extra friend! Another little project we have been keeping busy with is adding on a bedroom for Kaden, as well as expanding our eating area to accommodate a family our size. It was already a bit squishy to begin with so adding in another chair at the table would be impossible. God has also taken care of that little detail and a man from our church volunteered to add on the bedroom and expand our eating area for $600!!!! What a huge, huge blessing. Really, I was ok with being squished- but this is such a gift. God is good. He is going to start working this Saturday so hopefully everything will be pretty much in place by the time Kaden moves in with us on the 28th of March. There have been other little blessings along the way as well where we have really seen and felt the hand of God confirming that our decision was correct. But there has also been some challenges-some hurtful comments and some issues dealing with Kaden's special need. Through these challenges we praise God. The hard times are never fun, but I know when times are tough we lean on God even more and change the most. That is always a blessing. We have made a commitment to Kaden and a commitment to follow God at all cost. The day we said yes to God, we let Him have our life completely for His use. Commitment requires sacrifice- sacrifice of time, money, and self. But in return God blesses you in ways and bring you more joy than you could ever imagine. "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full. " John 10:10 Comments Anonymous said: I'm sure others will learn from your "stuff" suggestions. It's something we all should do. Enjoyed this blog immensely today. Mom
Jenny said: I wanna ride in the back!!!! But only if I can eat Cracker Jacks! Titi
Wendi said: all of you are so funny! that is a pretty cool solution ‐ one my husband would be happy to see, as we had been talking about eventually having to buy a suburban to fit people and belongings ‐ do they have extra seats for suburbans, too? too cool on the home additions blessing! and wonderful confirmation that you guys are walking the right direction.
Anonymous said: Amy:
Couldn't resist commenting....We've been squished into a minivan and had one more person than seat belts since Peter came home...It's been ok, because our oldest son is away at college. We'd been looking at cars and trying to decide what to buy, and had in mind a 2000 Yukon XL. About 6 weeks ago, a friend from church came to us and told us that they felt like God wanted them to give us their car, because they'd bought a new one....It was a 2000 Yukon XL! It was one factor in Brad knowing we should adopt again....Now he'll have a heart attack when I show him the link and tell him how many more kids will fit into it! ;o) Lisa H.
3/3/2008 6:21:00 PM
Chicken Pot pie
Tonight for dinner we are having Chicken Pot pies. I got this recipe from my old neighbor and good friend Dana. Making her recipe today made me miss her really bad. Thought I would share the recipe with you all too. Like Dana used to say- they look like they are a lot of work but they are really very easy. And my kids loved them too. 2 can cream of potato soup 1 16 oz. can of Veg-all, drained 2 c. chicken- cooked and diced 1/2 c. milk 1/2 tsp. thume 1/2 tsp. black pepper 2 refrigerated pie crusts Combine the first 6 ingredients. Spoon into pie crust. Cover with top crust. Crimp edges to seal. Split top crust. Bake at 375 degrees for 40-50 minutes. Yummy!!!
3/3/2008 6:28:00 PM
More on Stuff
Many of us are living our lives for‘stuff’. You know- our stuff. The ‘stuff’ that you see in the mall that you just can’t live without. The newest gadgets, toys, and plastic junk our kids just have to have. We have garages for our stuff, sheds for our stuff, closets for our stuff, basements and attics for our stuff, storage rentals for our stuff and we go broke for our stuff. We spend hour after hour working for our stuff- often times putting our desire for stuff before relationships with friends and family. Because after all, we just can’t live without our stuff. We like it. We like it a LOT. Watch out! Be on your guard against all kinds of greed; a man’s life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions. Luke 12:15 Over the past year God has made it obvious to me that we needed to be in control of our stuff- so that we have more time to concentrate on Him. After all, if we are spending all of our time paying off our stuff then when do we find the time to serve? Let your character be free from the love of money, being content with what you have; for He Himself said, "I will never desert you, nor will I ever forsake you. Hebrews 13:5 A few changes we have made is taking gradual steps toward gaining control of our finances. Todd and I are currently taking Dave Ramsey’s class- Financial Peace University. If you haven’t read his book or taken this class then I highly suggest it. I have never been great at finances- I don’t have a lot of knowledge about investing. Truth be told- it bores me. I ‘thought’ I was frugal and careful with our money- but we have learned so much from this class. Do you know the #1 reason why most people are not financially secure and have debt? It’s our automobiles. The #1 reason people are in financial stress is because of the
car they drive! 90 percent of people with marital problems list finances as the top reason for fighting with their spouse. Another big reason to gain control over our stuff is the Earth. I know- we all take it for granted that it’ll be here tomorrow. We take for granted clean water and clean air. But there is reason to believe that this might not always be the case. Our stuff has to end up somewhere… and it’s the land fills. I ran across the video clip on my friend Wendi’s blog http://wideopenair.blogspot.com/ (thanks Wendi!) It’s definitely worth watching and will make you think. The link is http://storyofstuff.com/ Did you know that America holds 5% of the worlds population, yet we are using 30% of its resources- and that of course, is at the expense of others. Command those who are rich in this present world not to be arrogant nor to put their hope in wealth, which is so uncertain, but to put their hope in God, who richly provides us with everything for our enjoyment. Command them to do good, to be rich in good deeds, and to be generous and willing to share. In this way they will lay up treasure for themselves as a firm foundation for the coming age, so that they may take hold of the life that is truly life. 1 Timothy 6:17-19 A few things we are doing at home to try to make a difference is really trying to limit our waste. We have now ‘gone cloth’. No, not all the way- I can’t quite get myself to give up toilet paper… but we have quit buying paper towels and napkins. We bought these cute little red cloth napkins (3 for $1 at the Dollar store shown in picture above) and it’s actually been fun. Kind of feels like you are eating at a fancy restaurant every night. :0) At first it took some getting used to- we were constantly reaching for the paper towels but now that we have been without them for a few weeks we hardly notice. Plus- it has saved on our grocery bill. Those things are expensive! Another thing we are trying this year is a garden- compost pile and all. The kids think it’s a blast and I know that if anything happens to actually grow in our garden I will be one proud individual. There is really so much more that we can all do. A great blog my friend Leslie http://www.recoveringnoah.blogspot.com/ introduced me to is http://walkslowlylivewildly.com/ This blog has lots of earth friendly ideas on doing your part. Comments Amy said: I hadn't checked your blog recently and was so glad I did tonight. Will be praying for your family and for sweet Kaden's adjustment to your family. The Lord can heal the largest of all hurts. We have seen it with our own son. God is so faithful and loving to come alongside those who have suffered. Your post about the "stuff" hit home with me, I have recently been convicted about the amount of stuff we have in our home. There is a huge difference between the words 'want' and 'need', I am realizing more and more.
Wendi said: Amy, thanks for passing along the link and adding such great content to its message. I checked out the blog you referenced (Walk Slowly, Live Wildly)and absolutely LOVE IT! Wow! I'll be checking in to that one more....thanks!
Erica said: Hi Amy, I was reading my friend's adoption blog today and clicked on your link. I work with children who have horror stories of their own and I am amazed and touched by your faith in God and the courage to follow through with Kaden. I just want to say thank you...for touching my life today and in a way challenging me to work on the "stuff" in my life. I look forward to seeing Kaden's adorable face in pictures with your beautiful family!
3/4/2008 3:12:00 PM
What keeps us alive, what allows us to endure? I think it is the hope of loving, or being loved. - Meister Eckhart Comments Noah Bear said: How on earth did I miss this picture?? Oh my goodness, he's so adorable. I can't wait to scoop him up and smother him with kisses. Just look at face.. precious!! Leslie
Sarah said: Great quote and GREAT picture! He is so precious!
Jennifer said: SO PRECIOUS!!!!
Anonymous said: Amy, he's so cute ‐ I just want to hug that little guy! I can't wait to hear all about his little personality and how he connects to you all as you get to know him! Hugs, DebbieT
Wendi said: He is so beautiful, Amy. I am so glad you've been able to get these pictures. What a treasure...can't wait to see him in the line up with the rest at the top of your blog page :‐)
Jenny said: LOOK AT THOSE EYES!!!!! He just melted MY heart!!!
Our Real Life said: Kaden, You are gorgeous little guy. I can't wait to see you in a picture with your family. You are a sweetie for sure.
3/6/2008 6:15:00 PM
Happy Anniversary
To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or worse. For richer or poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part. ~Happy Anniversary to the most incredible man I have ever met. I remember the day so well... as if it were yesterday. We stood together,there at that alter, hands joined. We said the words-but I'm not so sure we really understood their meaning. But God did. We were in love, and believed with our whole hearts that it could conquer all. We knew nothing of the trials that would come. And by the same token we thought we knew joy, but we were wrong there! We'd barely had a taste of it..... Now the years have passed and when we stand together I do not see the same young man who stood before me that day, handsome in his Tux. I see the new man who has allowed God to mold and and change him- and because of that you have become even more handsome to me. I see the man who has stood by my side, in good times and bad, in sickness and in health~ a man who has kept his vow. I see the man who has put me before himself always.For now we know that love is a choice. That we must choose to love, and that we renew that choice each and every day. We understand that it being by choice doesn't make it any less real, yet actually gives us more freedom and power, makes it permanent, and perfects it. The years in our marriage has taught us this. It is an act of love to be there with those who have been there for you, to hold their hand and support them. It is an act of love to stand together against any adversity, despite the pain.And as time goes on and we grow older, it is an act of love to hold the hand that no longer works or kiss the almost-hairless head. This I will choose to do for I have loved you, with all that I am, then, now and always. Happy Anniversary my precious husband. Comments Anonymous said: Congratulations on this blessed day! Love~Ellen
Anonymous said: Happy Aniversary to my youngest baby and to one of my favorite "sons‐in‐law". We love you both and are so happy for you and your precious family. May God continue to bless you. Mom
Anonymous said: Happy Anniversary!!! You guys were so CUTE!! DebbieT
Jenny said: Oh MAN!!!! That picture sure brings back memories!!!!! You guys are an amazing couple! I adore you both..so happy you not only made it but truly MADE a wonderful life for yourselves and have grown soooooo much! Jenny
Angel said: HAPPY ANNIVERSARY TO YOU! Look at those cute little kids in that picture. You are a perfect team. What a precious couple. :0) Angel
3/7/2008 8:59:00 AM
Be a Hero Sometime during the day today you will most likely pay a $1 (or more) for something you didn’t really need. Perhaps it’s a candy bar, a lunch at McDonalds, a box of Girl Scout cookies or a can of soda from the vending machine at work. You will make that purchase without even thinking about it- just slap the $1 down and be on your way… on with your own life, your own agenda. But today- today I am going to challenge you. I am going to challenge you to make a difference. Every day God is waiting for us to answer this exact challenge. He waits, loving us regardless of our decision, loving us no matter what we choose, but waiting to bless us more than we could possibly image through our obedience. And God is so good that just by our obeying his command of giving he promises to GIVE US BACK EVEN MORE than we ourselves gave! “Give, and it shall be given unto you; good measure, pressed down, and shaken together, and running over. Luke 6:38 KJV Today you have a chance to make a difference. Today you can be someone’s hero. Are you willing? Being around adoptions now for the last several years I have seen miracle after miracle. Story after story of how people have stepped out in faith and adopted God’s children. And while I don’t usually do this on my blog- I am asking for your help for this family that I do not even know. I learned about baby William from another blog (thanks again Wendi) and was so touched by his story. This family is stepping out in faith as God called them to parent this special little boy. And with your help- your willingness to be God’s hands and feet- this child has a chance. Won’t you please skip the candy bar- and be someone’s hero instead? Please take a second and check out William's story at http://www.specialneedsbaby.blogspot.com/ and GIVE!!!! Lord, please reach Williams family today through your children. Let us be your hands and feet. Today as we go about our day, making our purchases, living our lives, let us remember your child William and his real needs. Your example to us of generosity can never be matched- but let us try to develop a heart like yours by giving out of thankfulness because you have blessed us with so much. For father,then one day when we stand before you we will hear your voice say"well done good and faithful servant".
Comments Anonymous said: I was just reading about William and his new family yesterday and wishing there was something that I could do to help. The answer was on your blog today. I sent in a pledge and will forward the message. Ellen
3/7/2008 2:35:00 PM
Rick Warren Video I wanted to share this video my friend Angel http://thevoiceofadventure.blogspot.com/ posted on her blog by Rick Warren. The topic he discusses are near to and dear to our hearts and my hope is to get the word out there!
3/8/2008 8:20:00 PM
Under construction
Today our friend David came over to help us get started on expanding our dining area in our kitchen so there is 'room for more'. I can't even believe how easy he makes the work seem and how perfectly it is all coming together. There are no words to say how grateful we are to have his help. As I was watching them work today and thanking God for once again providing for us, this verse came to mind. Each one should use whatever gifts he has received to serve others, faithfully administrating Godâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;s grace in its various forms. 1 peter 4:10 David reaching out and helping us was a true example of how God wants us to be. We haven't even known David all that long, and furthermore, he has never even met Kaden. David just heard of a need and without question- stepped in and helped out. I honestly don't even think he knows what a big deal this was to us. God gave him a talent and out of the goodness of his heart and his love for the Lord- he blessed us with his talent. He could have chosen to spend his Saturday in a million different ways(like with his own family!) and I am sure a lot of them would have been a lot more fun- but he didn't. He chose to serve others with his time and efforts. I'm embarrassed to admit that there have been times where I would not have made that choice. Times that I chose to serve myself instead of someone else-putting my own agenda before theirs. Lord forgive me when I fail you in such an ugly way. Help me to always remember David's example and yours~ for today, I saw you in David. Thank you Lord.
Comments Noah Bear said: That looks so great! I can't wait to come over and see it. Leslie
Angel said: That is so wonderful. Very impressive and such a good example to us. I am so excited for you guys!! :0) Angel
3/10/2008 3:28:00 PM
Happy Birthday Honey!!
May you always feel the love that surrounds you!!! We love you Daddy!!! Comments Angel said: So sweet! Happy Birthday! Angel
3/10/2008 4:19:00 PM
Kaden's room
I found these great letters for Kaden's room and I painted them today. They turned out so cute! We decided to do his room in baby blue and brown- I love those colors together!!! Yes
I had to pay my older kids to 'pose' for this picture holding the letters- but aren't they too cool? We are so ready for you baby Kaden!!! Comments Sarah said: Great job Amy! Blue and brown are sooooo awesome together ‐ good choice! I can't wait to see pictures of his room. (With Kaden in it too!) :)
Angel said: LOVE IT! LOVE IT! LOVE IT! They are so cute... the letters AND the kids. :0) Angel
3/11/2008 1:20:00 PM
Security
Ever since we brought home Aleigha from Guatemala she has had her special blanket. She was given many beautiful blankets to choose from- but it was obvious from the start that the fluffy blanket with the yellow duck was immediately her favorite. It was so special to her that she refers to it as her “special blankie” and she sleeps with it every night. Not only does she sleep with it, but if she is sick, skins her knee, gets into a fight with her sister, feels sad or is just tired and needs to rest- she clings to her special blankie. In it she finds security. As adults we understand that there is no real security in that special blanket- and yet, don’t we do that exact same thing? Don’t we find false security in things of this world… our looks, our job, our influence, or our checkbook? We build fences and walls, we install burglar alarms and buy big ugly dogs that growl at strangers. All in the name of security. But did you know that God wants to be your special blanket? God wants us to need him. Did you know he is waiting for you to run and find him when you are sad, sick, hurting or afraid? Did you know that he wants to wrap himself around you and let you find security in him and only Him? He wants you to fall asleep at night clinging to Him. Instead of picking up the phone and calling a friend who you know will ‘validate your feelings of being wronged’- God wants you to talk to him first, to look to him and only Him for guidance and direction. Build your life in Him. What are you putting your security in today? Set your mind on things above, not on earthly things. Colossians 3:2 Comments Anonymous said: Hi Amy You don't know me but I work with your sweet sister Jenny. I just wanted to wish you a "Happy Birthday". May you have a very blessed day. I know you will with all the people around you that love you and besides with God on your side how can you not be blessed. Elaine Ayers
Angel said: Precious little girl. Precious analogy. Precious post. :0) Angel
Anonymous said: What a sweet little innocent(?)face. All of you are so blessed to have each other. And happy birthday to her sweet Mama.
Our Real Life said: What a fantastic analogy. I enjoyed reading it. Ann still has her special "binkie" and she is 16.5! It is tucked away for special times.
3/13/2008 9:42:00 AM
Abundant Blessings
"The Lord bless you for showing this kindness... May the Lord now show you kindness and faithfulness, and I too will show you the same favor because you have done this." 2 Samuel 2:5-6 Yesteray I went to Ladies Bible study at my church and was totally surprised by what these precious woman had done. They pulled together and showered us with these beautiful gifts for Kaden. There are no words to say how incredibly blessed we feel by the kindness they have shown us. I think of Kaden and how he came into this world with such a rough startand yet now how so many people have stepped forward to show him he has great value. They haven't even met him yet and already they are showing their unconditional love and support that could only come from God. These woman have been such an inspiration to methe way they live their lives and how they stand strong in their faith. When I signed up for bible study that day I had no idea what an impression they would make on me. They are true examples of the Godly women I pray one day to be. I treasure your friendships and I thank God for putting you in my life. I cannot thank you all enough for the beautiful clothing, baby bed, car seat, diapers, hooded towel, shoes, photo album, keepsake box, pajama's and more that you have given to us. But most of all- I thank you for your love and for the ways you have touched my life.
"I thank my God every time I remember you. " Philippians 1:3 Comments Anonymous said: You have my support all the way... thank you for being a great friend. love brandy
Angel said: WOW!!!! HOW SWEET!!!! What a precious group you have there. :0) Angel
3/14/2008 9:39:00 AM
Orphans
I donâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;t know about you, but the more I get to know God the more I realize how serious He is about us taking care of orphans. So serious in fact that He mandates to His people, through His Word, more than 40 times, to care for the orphans. Last night I attended a meeting at a church who has an orphan ministry. Since God has clearly laid orphans on my heart I wanted to go see what this was all about. This church is a mega church and does what I feel is a great job of including and reaching all kinds of people. I loved meeting the people there who have a heart for orphans like I do. They shared scripture that proved orphan care is big to God. I am sure you have heard many of these scriptures, but I will list a few here just in case you want to check it out for yourself. They are: Exodus 22:22 Deuteronomy 24:17 Deuteronomy 24:21 Isaiah 1:17 Jeremiah 22:3 James 1:27 Deuteronomy 18:18 Deuteronomy 24:19 Matthew 25:40 Matthew 25:45
John 14:18 Jeremiah 7:6 Jeremiah 22:3 Proverbs 23:10 Deuteronomy 10:18 Psalms 82:3 Psalms 94:6 Hosea 14:3 Psalms 10:14, 18 That is a lot of scripture- do you think God could make it any more clear? Yet, the woman in charge of the meeting shared with us one scripture that somehow I had not yet heard… one that caught my attention (despite Aleigha and Mya wiggling around on my lap). It was this-“Then I will draw near to you for judgment, and I will be a swift witness against the sorcerers and against the adulterers and against those who swear falsely, and against those who oppress the wage earners of his wages, the widow and the orphan, and those who turn aside the alien and do not fear me. “Say the LORD of hosts. Malachi 3:5 WOW. Did you catch that? Did you hear what He said? Like the leader shared last nightwhen most of us hear the word 'adulterer'-we cringe and think ‘oh what a horrible, despicable thing.’ And when we hear the word 'sorcerer' we think “oh how evil, I couldn’t imagine.” But then God goes on to include THOSE WHO TURN THEIR BACKS ON ORPHANS in this same category... and we all start to feel a bit more uneasy don’t we? Now I have to admit that even as an adoptive mother there are times where I have even had the ‘can’t save the world mentality’. There are literally 143 MILLION orphans in this world todayand that does get a bit overwhelming. But you know what- God never once asked me to do it all alone. He never once asked me to take it all on my shoulders. He asked me come along side of Him-to be His hands and feet... because if we don’t do it- then who will?? Who will be God’s hands and feet? The Lord is saying to us- "This is truly my heart beat. Run with Me"! Do you have your jogging shoes on? Comments Angel said: Good stuff Amy. So true. Angel
3/14/2008 11:14:00 AM
Back to the days...
Anyone wanna take a little trip with me… back to Junior High? I didn’t think so. Remember those days? Today is one of those hard days to be a mom. Today, my 12 year old daughter Addisyn is trying out for Cheerleading. Now you and I both know that there are a lot more important things n this world than making the cheerleading squad for 7th grade… But when you are 12- you just don’t see it that way. So, if you could spare a prayer todayplease think of Addie. It’s stiff competition- I believe 39 girls trying out for FOUR spots. YIKES. So yes- major prayers would be appreciated. The bible says God cares about every little detail in our lives- so that would include Cheerleading try-outs. Thanks for thinking of us, it may be a long weekend around here… Comments Jenny said: WE LOVR YOU ADDIE!!!! The Blands
Anonymous said: I'm sure you did great, Addie!! DebbieT
Anonymous said: Go Addie! You are adorable! Good luck. Ellen
3/16/2008 4:43:00 PM
Things happening So yes it turned out to be a pretty long weekend. Thank you to all of you who wrote and asked about Addisyn- just knowing you cared meant the world to her. She did not make it out for the cheer squad. It was one of those teachable moments though where you help
your child to learn to praise God- even in unanswered prayer. She was broken hearted- and so of course my mother's heart was too, but I was also proud of Addie for the character she displayed. She congratulated those who made it and hugged those who did not. It was hard- but one of those lessons in life that we all have to endure at one time or another. I caught her a couple of times this weekend, out of habit, silently walking around 'doing the motions to her cheer' - then I would see her stiffen and get a sad look in her eye and make herself stop. Life just doesn't always go the way we wish- but I know that when God closes one door he will open another. Volleyball season is just around the corner- it's all good. And life goes on... Here is a quote for you Addie cakes. Success is to be measured, not so much by the position that one has reached in life, as by the obstacles he has overcome. Tomorrow Todd and I go to meet with Kaden's caseworker, our caseworker and all the others involved in his case for his Presentation. After that is over we will set up our first visits with him- I cannot wait to meet my baby boy! It has taken everything I have to remain calm through this wait. Just the thought of those soft baby cheeks and hearing his giggle for the first time is making me crazy! It's almost here!!! Luckily we have been extra busy with the work on our house and everything else we have been doing to get ready for him- not to mention just plain old life with six other kids. Sometimes busy is good, but once Kaden is home I am going to make sure that things slow down so we can spend lots of time getting to know our precious new son. Comments Anonymous said: I'm glad you're optimistic about things slowing down. With 7 kids and a new baby, I don't know if that's optimistic or wishful thinking. Here's to some quiet moments of mommy and baby time! :) Ellen
3/18/2008 1:03:00 PM
TONIGHT!!! Tonight we will meet our beautiful new son for the first time at 6:00! I couldn't sleep a wink last night because I am so excited. Yesterday we had our adoption presentation with Kaden's caseworker, his previous caseworker who is in love with him (I can't say that I blame her) his attorney, the CPS supervisor, our caseworker and his foster mother. I absolutely adored them all. His foster mother though is most definitely a gift from God. This woman is amazing. She has been doing foster care for almost 30 years and she is just precious. I am so thankful for her and so thankful that she has been the one taking care of my baby boy. I know letting go of him will break her heart- but she chose to do it because she loved him so much. She felt she was getting too old to adopt a child his age. She told me as we were leaving that we were exactly what she had prayed for him. And because God is God and always blows me away- Kaden's foster family lives only 30 minutes from us!! 30 MINUTES! My baby has been just 30 minutes away from me this entire wait... and because
the foster family only lives 30 minutes away I am hoping that we will forever be in contact with them. They are an amazing family and if I could be half the person his foster mother is one day I would be thrilled. It was so obvious how much she loves him and I am so thankful for that. She told me all kinds of cute stories about him and warned me to keep the bathroom doors shut because as Kaden just proved to them- a roll of Charmin can reach all the way from the bathroom to the kitchen without breaking. LOL She said he is a ball of personality and so much fun. Oh, and Todd was one proud daddy because she said he loves to watch sports on TV! Yep, Todd is in love. So tonight we will get to meet him for the first time, tomorrow we get to take him to lunch and play for a few hours, then Thursday he will come to our house to meet his new siblings for the first time and spend the entire day with us. Friday we will have him for the day and he will spend the night for the first time- then Saturday night he will go back to his foster family to spend his last day, Sunday (Easter) with them. Monday morning he moves into our home forever. THANK YOU GOD for the exact way you orchestrated this adoption. As I look back now I can totally see how you arranged every single detail to fit into the exact order at the exact perfect timing. I am in awe. Thank you for allowing me the privilege of being this perfect little boys mommy. Thank you for his foster family, for the caseworkers involved and thank you God for the miracle of adoption. I am forever changed. Comments Phyllis said: Oh Amy, I just read this and am so excited for all of you. Can't wait to hear all about your first meeting. What an exciting few days you have ahead of you. Praying for sweet Kaden. Phyllis
Our Real Life said: Amy, I am so thrilled for you. God has blessed you. I will be checking frequently this weekend in hopes you will have time to post some pictures of the family together. I am also praying Kaden's transition will be smooth and painless for him and his new family. Cindi
Noah Bear said: I'm so excited for you all!!! I can't wait to hear all about it ‐ but I know you're going to be super busy this week. I'm going to have to write down your schedule on my calendar. :‐) Can't wait to see pictures. Can't wait for you to meet him!! I just can't wait! Leslie
Rhonda said: Oh, Amy! I am in tears right now reading this. I am soooo excited for all of you! It is just amazing how God has put all of this together! We will be thinking about you the next few days and praying that everything goes smoothly! Update us when you can! Rhonda
Sara said: ooooh, I can't wait to hear all about him. I know you are so excited. What a blessing. Isn't it amazing how God works!! Have a wonderful time with that sweet boy:) When I go to your blogand Paige is in the room, Paige always asks to count the kids (your kids pictures at the top). Soon, she will be able to count to 7...hooray.
Anonymous said: Yeah! Celebrating with you! We are so happy for all of you! Have a great time tonight and keep us posted on how things are going! Heather
3/18/2008 9:18:00 PM
Meeting Kaden!! It's official- I am in love!!! He is awesome, funny, smart, sweet, full of energy and makes me smile so big my lips hurt! We spent about 2 hours with him tonight at his foster home, tomorrow we get to take him for about 3 hours in the afternoon. I cannot wait. Comments Amy said: He is one handsome little guy! May your time together be very special and blessed by the Lord as He has brought you together.
Anonymous said: Oh Amy...he is beautiful! I can see why you are in love!! He looks like he has a super fun personality, too. Hope you all have a great week with him. Wish we were there to meet him, too! Heather
Anonymous said: wow what an adorable baby boy! I'm so happy for you all. Can't wait to give him a hug! ~brandy
Rhonda said: Oh my goodness, what a DOLL! He is just precious, Amy! Can't wait to see and hear more! CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!!!! Rhonda
Cherie said: Congratulations on the new blessing!
Bingaling said: He is adorable! How could you not fall totally in love with that little boy?!?! Congrats! Can't wait for Monday! Chanda
Cliff and Tami said: Amy ‐ What a handsome little guy! Am so happy for your family! Tami
Christine said: Holy hooch! He's just YUMMY! Oh, how I remember the transition visits. So wonderful, yet so gut wrenching to have to leave everyday. Praying that he adjusts well, and the time goes quickly for you!
Noah Bear said: Oh my goodness! What a sweetie. He is beyond cute!!! I was so hoping you'd post pictures. I'm so excited for your and the family. Cannot wait to meet him! Leslie
Rachel said: Awwww! He is just too adorable! Congratulations! :)
Angel said: AMY! AMY! AMY!!!!! HE IS BEYOND PRECIOUS!!!! I am sooooo excited. I have internet in my hotel room so I can still stalk your blog while I am gone. HE IS GORGEOUS!!! WHAT A DOLL! We were at Sea World and I kept checking the time guessing where you were. I LOVE his smile. That boy has a fun twinkle in those eyes. I just can't WAIT to meet him. I think he and Kaiya are going to be adorable together. Think we should just betroth them now? ;0) YAY!!! I bet you sleep like a rock tonight and dream of that sweet little cutie. Hugs, Angel
Michelle Riggs said: Kaden is gorgeous! I am so happy for you all. I can't wait to meet him.
Jenny said: Oh...my baby boy!!!! You are beautiful....I'm glad you're good at talking on the phone!!!! Titi loves to talk! Love you!!!!!!!!
3/19/2008 8:43:00 PM
2nd visit Today Todd and I got 3 hours with Kaden. We picked him up (he was so cute in his little Osh Kosh hoodie) and took him out to lunch at McDonalds so we could play in the playland. He did so good- he didn't cry when we left with him, although I did notice he was not as 'social' as he was yesterday when he was in familiar surroundings. Bless his little heart.. He seemed to really love french fries and even drank apple juice from a straw. :0) After we got tired of the McDonalds playland we headed to the park- and played on the slide. He wasn't quite sure of the slide at first, but warmed up after he knew it was safe. It was so hard to bring him back to his foster mom after the 3 hours were up (I wanted to skip the country with him but Todd said no!) so we are looking forward to having him all day tomorrowwhen he finally gets to meet his big brothers and sisters (who have been trying to wait very patiently). Todd and I were sitting at the table watching him eat today and I was just taken back at how much I already love this precious little boy. There is just something about him that draws you in. We are so incredibly blessed. THANK YOU Jesus for our beautiful son!!!!
Comments KelseyChristine said: He is so unbelievably cute! His eyes are captivating... Yay for your family! This is so exciting and BEAUTIFUL :)
Anonymous said: Those are very precious pictures of your very precious son. Todd is a very proud daddy and i am very proud of both of you and your huge hearts... doreen
Jennifer said: He is so amazing and beautiful! God is so GOOD!
Sara said: I still am so touched by the joining of this little boy to his forever family. Your faith is an example to all and may God shower you and your family with blessings as you begin this journey with Kaden.
Sarah said: Oh wow! I'm so excited for you! What a precious blessing. I'm praying for you as you go through the next few days of waiting for him to come home forever. I can't wait to hear how it went today with all his new siblings!
Anonymous said: Next week, you will have to change your All About Me on the left side of your blog page to mother of 7! Yeah! Have a blessed Easter. Ellen
Laura said: Thank you for sharing this journey ‐ he is just ADORABLE! It's a MIRACLE everytime!
Amy said: Your words bring me back to when we first met one of our sons. The Lord truly knits families together. It is heartwarming to hear your joy. Your children will be such great ambassadors for your family as Kaden meets them and gets to know you all! May the Lord bless you greatly!
Noah Bear said: Amy, I know I sound like a broken record, but I'm just so incredibly excited for your family and for little Kaden. He is adorable!! Can't wait to see the pictures from today!! Leslie
Anonymous said: Amy, I know I keep saying the same thing over and over, but I can't help myself....he is just a little doll! I LOVE his eyes! You are ALL so incredibly blessed!! Can't wait to hear about his first meeting with his brothers and sisters!! Hugs, DebbieT
Angel said: HE IS SO CUUUUUUTE!!!! YAY!!! I can't wait to hear every little detail about that little booger. I love these pictures. Angel
The Engelhardt 4 said: He is absolutely adorable. Congrats on your newest addition!!
3/22/2008 7:46:00 AM
our precious gift from God I know, I know- sorry I kept you hanging... we have been having so much fun with our new son that I haven't had time to blog. Kaden spent the night last night for the first time. He did SO GOOD. Last night it just broke my heart though when I could tell he was acting a little different, sort of grieving. He seems to be doing really well, but I can't help but to put myself in his shoes and think about how hard it would be for someone to take you away from everything you knew and put you in a new place where everything is 'different'. The people are different, they smell different, look different, sound different. The food is different, your bed is different, and you miss your old life that was so comfortable and so good. One thing that his AWESOME foster mother suggested was that we start bringing home some of his toys a little at a time. I could tell that when he walked in yesterday he was excited to see HIS toys- something familiar sitting around in our living room. He had the biggest smile on his face. He slept really well last night, even though sleeping through the night (from what we have heard) is not his strength. He slept from 8:30-5:00 this morning- when he woke up with a bloody nose. We quickly cleaned that up and he fell asleep in my arms again for about an hour and a half longer. He LOVES his big brothers and sisters and they are crazy about him as well. We did see a little jealousy out of Aleighawhich we expected. I assured her she is still the princess (don't worry about Mya- she has no interest in being 'a princess'- she wants to be a 'football player') and that Kaden is the prince. :0) God is good. Kaden gets to spend the rest of today with us, then goes back to his foster parents tonight for his last day with them tomorrow. Monday he will move in with us for good. We are so excited and so blessed by this precious child. I would not change a thing about him- he is exactly what we prayed for and we are so in love it hurts. Thank you Jesus for our son!!! Comments Bonky's Mom said: Oh, I am just thrilled for you guys! He is just precious and I'm excited to continue seeing God work out His awesome plan in your lives! BonkLand
Rhonda said: Thanks for the update! I think I have have checked your blog like 20 times or so to see how everything was going! The pictures are so CUTE, and I can't get over how CUTE he is! I love his smile!!!! I hope you have a GREAT day with your precious son! Rhonda
Angel said: OH AMY!! I just love that top picture. HOW CUTE! That is a pretty good 1st night. If he hadn't waken up with that pesky bloody nose he would have done just fine! He is so crazy precious. I can't stand it. :0) Angel
Noah Bear said: Yay!!! I've been so waiting for this post!! I am so happy for your family and for Kaden. God is SO GOOD, isn't He?
I can't wait for you to write more! I hope you all have a fantastic day!!! Looking forward to Monday when Kaden joins your family forever!! Leslie
3/22/2008 3:06:00 PM
Kaden's video My awesome friend Angel put this video together for Kaden- THANKS Angel!!! You are the best! Comments kim p said: The video is so touching, Amy. Congratulations to all of you, and thanks for your example. Your love for the Lord is contagious!
Emily said: Amazingly beautiful video! Have a super Easter with your new little one. Emily
Elizabeth Engelhardt Cakes and Crafts said: Beautiful. I have been following you for a few months...I caught your blog from both Wendi and Angel. Congrats on Kaden and all the blessings that God is bestowing on each of you. Happy Easter. Elizabeth
Noah Bear said: That video is awesome! Sniff, sniff. I love it!! What a great idea! Keep those pictures coming. Kaden is adorable!! :‐) Leslie
Anonymous said: All of you have been touched by God. Kaden has found the best family to care for and love him. We are so proud to be part of it and can't wait to meet him. We love you all so much. Mom and Dad
Anonymous said: You have been blessed! Ellen
Anonymous said: beautiful video, Amy! (good job Angel!!) Kaden is absolutely perfect ‐ I can't wait to meet him in person someday! So happy for you all! DebbieT
Becky said: That video is beautiful! And Kaden is adorable. I just sat here watching the video with my 2 angels and crying my eyes out. God bless your family and especially that amazing little boy.
Anonymous said: Me too amy , that was beautiful Angel and no better way to introduce this precious new son of Amy and Todds. I would love to put that on my blog too Amy instead of pictures . Congratulations !!!! Doreen
Angel said: So glad you like it. I am taken with your precious little one. He is so sweet. Hey.. I am SO IMPRESSED that I didn't even get a phone call for help getting it on the blog. You're a pro now!!! AWESOME! ;0) Angel
Amy said: What a beautiful family and a wonderful video tribute. Welcome home Kaden!! Jesus loves you!
Jenny said: I am so in love with that little boy....and I'm so stealing your video to put on my blog....I'm such a proud Auntie...I must show him and all of you off!!!! Love you! Jenny
3/24/2008 9:52:00 AM
When you say yes to God... Kaden moves in today for good. I cannot even begin to tell you how hard yesterday was without him. My heart was breaking and I missed him so much. Yet no matter how painful that was- it was nothing compared to what Christ endured on the cross for us. I never want to forget that and spent yesterday really reflecting on it. As we sit here waiting for the caseworkers and Kaden and his foster mom to show up, the girls are bouncing up and down on the couch watching out the front window. I’m not sure why I bothered to clean the window’s earlier today because they are now covered with fingerprints. None of that really matters though you know, sometimes I think I am too guilty of letting the ‘little’ things get to me when there are so many more important things to take care of in our world. But as I watched the girls chatting excitedly about their new baby brother- it hit me how close I actually came to missing this. I remember back to that day- the day we received Kaden’s files… and the memory of the fear comes rushing back as if I were right there again that day. That paralyzing fear- the kind that can stop you from really living because you are so afraid of the unknown. You know, I don’t have any guarantees that our life with Kaden will be easy- just like I don’t have any guarantee that our life without Kaden would have been easy. But what I do have is total peace in our decision to allow God to use us- and in doing so- he has blessed us beyond anything I could have ever imagined for ourselves. I cannot explain to you the joy I feel when Kaden curls into my lap, when he searches for me as I leave the room and how his smile makes my heart melt into a million pieces. It is a joy like no other. He did not come from my womb- but he is just the same my son and I am so
grateful that I get to be his mother. From this experience I have learned to trust God more fully- even when it doesn’t make sense, and even at a risk to myself. He always, always has the better plan. If there was one thing I could tell you today- it’s to really live. Really put yourself out there- fight for a cause- give of yourself. Don’t worry what other people think, don’t care if it’s not the popular thing to do- just live big for God. Its what you are here for you know. I’ll end this with a poem I have on my frig door…. God won't ask what kind of car you drove; He'll ask how many people you drove who didn't have transportation. God won't ask the square footage of your house, He'll ask how many people you welcomed into your home. God won't ask about the clothes you had in your closet, He'll ask how many you helped to clothe. God won't ask what your highest salary was; He'll ask if you compromised your character to obtain it, and performed your job to the best of your ability. God won't ask how many friends you had; He'll ask how many people to whom you were a friend. God won't ask in what neighborhood you lived, He'll ask how you treated your neighbors. God won't ask about the color of your skin, He'll ask about the content of your character. God won't ask why it took you so long to seek Salvation; He'll lovingly take you to your mansion in heaven, and not to the gates of Hell. Comments kim p said: Thanks, Amy, for the encouraging thoughts. They really speak to me today in my situation!
Mandy said: Amazing blog post, thank you for sharing!
The Lowes said: Nice blog and congrats! I found out about u through my son's foster family who said you just adopted kaden from their good friend's foster family. he's beautiful and so are all of your other 6 babies!! Jessica
Jenny said: Welcome Home beautiful Kaden! You rock little one!!!! Go change the world...you got the best family to help you do it!!! You are my superhero! Love Titi
Tracey said: I linked to your blog from Angel's. Your family is GORGEOUS!! Angel did a fabulous job on the video!!
Angel said: What a perfect and beautiful post Amy. Love you girl. Angel
KelseyChristine said: Incredible post!
Noah Bear said: What a fantastic post, Amy! You know I'm going to have to link to it from my blog, right? :‐) And that poem is fantastic. We are currently in a situation to where we are really having to ask God if something is right for our family ‐ knowing full well that everyone will think we're nuts (I think you know what I'm talking about), but you're post today really drove home the message that we just have to listen to God and that His plan ALWAYS
works out. I'm so proud to know you and call you my friend! You so inspire me to be a better person. Leslie
3/25/2008 9:28:00 PM
Gone private... So ya, I had to go private on my blog today... I really didn't think it was too big of a deal because I am not even sure if anyone is out there reading it anyway. But now I will know who 'could be' reading it (WA HA HA HA HA) So what happened was this. I showed my caseworker Kaden's video and she cried and loved it. Then she showed Kaden's caseworker who cried and loved it. So she showed her supervisor who loved it (not sure if she cried) hee/hee but she said that we could not have it on You Tube because of privacy. Now, after we were chosen for Kaden, I asked his caseworker if I could share his picture with others and she said yes because he was already on a news video and he was already on an adoption photolisting site for the state of Texas. They shared some pretty private info on those if you ask me and used his real birth name. So, I went ahead and shared new pictures. Well, she found out today that she was wrong and said that we had better take the video off of you tube until his adoption is final. (She did say I was allowed to share it as long as it was private and not the world wide web). So- I decided that my blog also contained 'pictures and information about him publicly' so that I had better make that private as well for now. Boring story- nothing too excited- but we just want to do whatever is best for Kaden. His case was a high profile case- meaning that it was in the newspapers several times and there were people arrested and investigations done on a well know facility. So, while we are not at all afraid of his birth family seeking him out- we do want to keep his privacy and protect him. There you have it. I'm feeling really 'private' right now. :0)
3/25/2008 9:52:00 PM
Mya's readoption Day
Today we went to the court house and had Mya's readoption done. She is now officially Mya Sofia Jennifer (big name for a little girl, I know) She was VERY excited and the judge let her sit on his lap and hold the gavel. It was so cute. The big kids had to go to school today so they didn't get to be there, but don't worry, Mya told them all about it when they got home! Comments kim p said: You look like such a happy mommy!! God has blessed you with beautiful children!
Rhonda said: Congrats on the readoption! She is such a cutie! Rhonda
Jenny said: Mya Sofia JENNIFER....I love you sooooo much! SMOOCH!!! You will always be my Princess Mya! Give Princess Aleigha and Prince Kaden a big kiss from me too!!!!! Love Titi
Angel said: YAY MYA!!!! You look beautiful. You are such a sweetie pie. Angel
3/26/2008 9:41:00 PM
Paranoid and lack of sleep... I am feeling paranoid and so I took the new pictures off my blog- well, most of them anyway. Boring to post without pictures I know but even though it's private now I just do not want to take any chances. I spoke with my caseworker today- and she said that in 2 days his video had close to 600 hits. Oops. She did say that when his adoption was final she wanted to use the video on the agency website so that was good. I feel bad though because
I just think his caseworker didn't know we were not supposed to put it out there publicly and of course I didn't know it either. I hate feeling like a rule breaker. I really like to play life by the rules (most of the time anyway!) And the sleep issues... first can I tell you all how perfect Kaden is? Seriously, he is just so sweet and smiles all the time. He is 17 months old however and likes to explore- but he is really a pretty easy baby and so sweet. (When he hugs you he just melts into you). But at night- YIKES. Todd and I are basically taking turns (it's his night tonight- YEAH!) Kaden will sleep from about 8-midnight and then he will walk up and have sort of night terrors. Mya did this too for a few months after she came home. I think it is because during the day it is busy and things are new and they don't have time to really think about things. But at night- it's quiet and it's almost like their little bodies cannot handle all the changes. It is so sad. So we basically just have to walk with him and console him (Mya was old enough at least when she came home that she could talk about what was upsetting her or the bad dream she was having) but Kaden cannot. So, we walk and hug, and rub his back and sing to him and just help him work through this. It truly breaks my heart how much he has had to endure in such a short lifetime. It is just not fair and it's not right. Last night as I was walking with him I kept telling him over and over how we will never ever let anyone hurt him again. I am so thankful once again for his foster mom- knowing that for the past year she has done the same for him means the world to me. I know they are still missing him and love him dearly. I spoke with her on the phone today... I know she is feeling sort of 'replaceable' because he is adjusting so well with us. That is of course what she wanted- but still, if I were in in her shoes I cannot image how hard that would be. I told her that what I loved about her was that she was willing to hurt herself to give these precious children a safe home while they need it. Then she has to have her heart ripped out each and every time they move on-and she does it anyway. Most people I know say 'I could never foster because I could not give the child back". I am one of those people. I have said those exact words. And I think that is why I am so forever grateful that she did it. She took the pain for someone else's sake. I see Jesus in her and it an awesome thing. Comments Whitney said: Praying for you all as you adjust to your precious little guy!
Angel said: Just wanted to say you're awesome and hang in there. You didn't break any rules. You did what you were told was OK and then were told differently. Totally different deal. You are precious. Hugs for you. Angel
kim p said: Sorry to hear about your rough nights! Hang in there and keep letting the joy of the Lord be your strength. Kaden is SO blessed!!
Rhonda said: I just LOVE reading your blog everyday! I was having withdrawals when I had to skip 1 whole day because of going private, but I completely understand. I just have to say that I love your family and am so glad that I know you! Thanks for letting me keep up with you guys! Rhonda
The Engelhardt 4 said: Thanks Amy, for the invitation. I understand the foster mom's point of view...my parents were foster parents to many children while I was growing up....There were several that seemed to break my heart more than others when they left. I look forward to keeping up with you as well as praying for you. Blessings, Elizabeth
3/27/2008 1:09:00 PM
Chicken and Sour Cream Enchilada's A friend of mine from small groups made these and they were wonderful. Thought I'd pass on the recipe! Boil 4-6 chicken breast until cooked. Cool and cut up into small pieces or shred. Pour in 1/2 c. chicken broth and add chopped green chilies (or jalapenos), salt, pepper and then let simmer on low. This will be the filling. In a skillet melt 1/2 stick butter then add some flour, stir, add 1/2 c. milk and cook to look like gravy. Add 16 oz. carton of sour cream and stir. Heat thoroughly. Fill about 12 flour tortillas and place in a greased pan. Add some shredded cheese on top and then the sour cream mixture. Cook about 30 minutes at 350 degrees. Enjoy!
3/31/2008 1:21:00 PM
Curl
There once was a little girl Who had a little curl Right in the middle of her forehead.
And when she was good, She was really, really goodAnd when she was bad, She was rotten. (Thankfully not!) Comments DebbieT said: I LOVE your curls, Mya!!!!
Jenny said: My beauty!!!!!
3/31/2008 1:31:00 PM
Guatemalan Baby wrap
This was too cute not to share... Last night after giving Aleigha her bath she came running into the kitchen to show me how she had wrapped her 'baby' around her just like the real Guatemalan mommies do! :0) Comments Doreen said: TOO CUTE!!! doreen
DebbieT said: Aleigha, you are SO smart!
Jenny said: You're going to be a great Guatemalan Mama some day!
3/31/2008 1:37:00 PM
Dress up What happens when you have big sisters?
You learn to love the color PINK! Comments Jenny said: Pretty in pink...but cuter in blue!
Noah Bear said: Ha! I love it!! He and Eli will have lots in common. :‐) Hey, we'll be in Dallas next Tuesday. Let me know if you'll be home and we'll stop by. Can't wait to meet Kaden! Leslie :‐)
The Engelhardt 4 said: We know the 'hazards' of having an older sister with pink dress up stuff and having a little brother who likes to dress up too...We are hoping that we might get some boyish dress up clothes for our birthday this weekend!! Your family is looking ADORABLE and it looks like Kaden is settling in well. Keep up your great work as a spectacular mom. Blessings, Elizabeth
3/31/2008 1:42:00 PM
Big Day
Saturday was a big day for Mya. First she had sign ups for Kindergarten- which she is very excited about. (And her mommy is not!) And then she had her first real soccer game. They pretty much got creamed- but she didn't notice at all. She loved having her daddy coach her
and her own fan club in the stands. (Another good thing about being in a big family- you always have your own fan club!) I'm proud of you Mya Papaya! Comments DebbieT said: Mya, you are getting so big!!! Good job playing soccer! And kindergarten ‐ wow! That will be so fun! DebbieT
Jenny said: So proud tough girl....GRRRRR!
3/31/2008 1:52:00 PM
9th place!
This past weekend Addisyn traveled to San Antonio with her school for 3 days to participate in the state competition for TMSCA. She placed 9th in the state in Mathematics and received a trophy for her efforts! WAY TO GO Addisyn! (Who needs cheerleading now??) She also had a blast staying in the hotel, going to Sea World and hanging out with friends. Comments Doreen said: Congratulations Addisyn!!! doreen
Rhonda said: Way to go, Addie! That is so good! You are growing up so fast, and you are as cute as ever! I don't know about you, but I am ready for another trip to the beach! Miss you guys! Rhonda
DebbieT said: Good job, Addie!!!! That's big stuff ‐ there is no way I would ever be smart enough to win any kind of math competition! Congratulations! DebbieT
Jenny said: Beauty AND brains????? Love you!
The Engelhardt 4 said: woohoo....great job, girl. keep up the good work!!!
3/31/2008 2:01:00 PM
Small, dark and handsome...
Sorry, Mr. Blog but you have been dumped for someone new who is small, dark and handsome- and takes up every single waking minute of my life. (And even some of the sleeping minutes) He's really very sweet- but also very demanding. He is a charmer- who can melt my heart with a single smile, but can yell at the top of his lungs if need be to gain attention. He's tiny in stature but BIG in attitude. He moved in- took over- and I have a feeling our lives will never be the same. The others, they don't seem to mind, they are quite taken with him too. He can make the biggest mess I have EVER SEEN with one small cookie- and in 3 seconds flat can have every pot and pan out of the cabinet and onto the floor. When not in destructive mode- he enjoys quiet wagon rides along the long dirt road and swinging outside in the sun. (As long as I am right beside him giving him my full attention). He has taken your place Mr. Blog- I hope one day you will understand. For this time goes so fast, and soon he will grow- and one day be gone. Then, I will look back on these days of messy fingerprints and lost sleep and pray they were here again. Comments
Doreen said: He is a VERY PRECIOUS HANDSOME litle guy... and sounds like he is very comfortable with his new family:o)doreen
Rhonda said: Amy, I just love how you put thinks in words. You are so amazing! Can't wait to meet this little charmer! Have a great day! Rhonda
DebbieT said: Amy, Mr. Blog doesn't stand a chance next your cute little guy! I knew you had to be crazy busy, but enjoying every minute...ok, maybe not every minute at the time it happens (there are THOSE moments!), but those are the times you look back on and wonder where how they went by so fast! Soak it all up! Hugs!
Jenny said: I want to meet him...I want to meet him...I want to meet him...I want to meet him....did I tell you I want to meet him!
Our Real Life said: I just knew you were off kissing those gorgeous dark chocolate cheeks and not giving us the details. He is so precious. Enjoy your days! God has given you the most precious gift.
4/1/2008 10:28:00 AM
QUESTIONS anyone?? Ok- since I don't have as much time to write or think of blog posts I was wondering if any of you had any questions you'd like to ask me? Maybe about raising 7 kids, about foster adoption vs. international, about being a multi racial family, my shoe size-really anything. Fire away!!! Comments The Engelhardt 4 said: what is the exact foster adopt process?? we are looking into possibly doing this; however, we are not on the same page right now. We are still praying, but I would love to get some info from someone who has done it. Thanks. Elizabeth
Anonymous said: Glad to see you still have a sense of humor! This will be a very blessed Mother's Day. What will you do?
4/1/2008 3:02:00 PM
Not my strength, but yours Something has been bothering me… I couldn’t quite put my finger on it, but I knew something wasn’t quite right. I was handling everything ok, or so I though… I was taking care of the kids, making sure everyone was getting their share of attention, the laundry was being done, dinners were being prepared. Sure we still had ongoing construction on our house, and we had just done a garage sale in the middle of adding child #7- but something was missing… something felt wrong. I scurried through the day, washing down the counters, picking up the dirty socks that were left under the bed, the school papers were signed, dentist appointments were made, and the dog was walked. Yet, I still felt lost, disconnected. Then ever so gently, I felt Him- that soft nudge. It was almost as if I felt God's hand on my shoulder and I heard his voice say ‘But do you have time left for me?” You see, so often we run through the day filling the hours with so many different things. Those things might all be ‘good things’ or even important things- but none of them are more important than spending time with God. These past few weeks have been great- I had been praying for this for so long. But the one thing I forgot as I crashed into bed each night- was to spend time with God. I was careful to listen to my kids feelings, Todd and I spent time talking with each other, I had met all of Kaden's needs- but I forgot about God. I was so focused on trying to ‘do it all’ and ‘make it all work’ so busy with my plans that I didn’t even look to the one who planned this day for me in the first place. It amazes me how God will just sit and wait patiently… how He’ll let us try to run around and ‘figure it all out’ on our own- while He waits for us to notice Him. As I fell on my knees before Him today asking for forgiveness- I told Him how sorry I was that I tried to take over and do things my way and I felt the biggest weight disappear off my shoulders. How about you? What are you trying to do your own today? Have you turned it over to Him? God gave me the blessing of this new child- and let me be a part of His plan. He asked me to work with Him raising Kaden (as well as my other children) not for me to try to take over and take on the world on the own. If ‘I’ keep getting in the way of His plan- then what good will that do Kaden or anyone else for that matter? Philippians 4:13 says “I can do everything through him who gives me strength." So you see, I can do what He has planned for me to do THROUGH HIM- NOT on my own-and that is exactly what I had been trying to do. Even in my best efforts, even with a pure heart- I was trying to do it on my own. That is not what He intended for me to do- not a burden He intended for me to bear. Lord, help me to take each day one at a time, to look to you when I feel weak as well as when I feel strong. Help me to walk beside you always. You are an open door where we can find comfort, rest, strength and healing. When I get caught up in the busyness of life- remind me that I am not alone. These gifts you have given to me were never intended to wear me down- but to be pure blessings. Help me Lord to be so close to you that you are seen in my walk, my talk, my emotions and in my life. May I be an example of a broken life made complete in you. Comments kim p said: Amen! In my situation, God has been reminding me that I need to seek HIM first‐ to live in HIS strength, and with HIS life. When I am doing this, then God can use me the most effectively. Praise Him for His gentle reminders and all the lessons He teaches us in the times when our strength runs out! Living in His strength is the BEST place to be.
The Engelhardt 4 said: Amen. Thanks for these beautiful words today, especially.
4/1/2008 9:56:00 PM
Questions and answers What is the exact foster adopt process?? we are looking into possibly doing this; however, we are not on the same page right now. We are still praying, but I would love to get some info from someone who has done it. Thanks.Elizabeth While my heart will always, always be in international adoption for obvious reasons (those kids don’t have a government who will provide for them- food, clothing, health care, etc) we really enjoyed adopting from the foster care system as well. I will be honest and tell you that I had heard some horror stories and I was a little sceptical going into it- but to be fair, I had heard horror stories about international adoption as well. I would say the biggest difference was the cost. Obviously international adoption is quite expensive (although worth every single penny of it)- the foster adopt process is FREE! Paperwork wise- it was about the same for us as with international adopt. With international adoption though we did not have to take ‘parenting classes’ and with the foster system we did. When we first signed up for the classes I figured there was not a whole lot they were going to be able to teach meafter all, I already had six children- and 2 of them were adopted. Boy was I wrong. Todd and I really, really enjoyed the 2 weeks worth of training and learned so much! We went with a Christian agency so it had a Christian view on the teachings and it was wonderful. As for the wait- for most families the wait is very minimal. For us- because of our family size, we are considered a ‘group home’ (yikes) so we did have to wait a little longer. The more open you are to race, age, sex, or special needs- the quicker it will happen. The more selective you are- the longer it may take to find a match. I have known many families who have a match within a day to a week. With Kaden- we are doing a straight adoption out of the foster care system. You can do that if they find a child who is legally free for adoption like Kaden was- meaning the parents rights were already terminated. Or you can foster to adopt- and if the child becomes legally free the foster parents always have the first option to adopt. Kaden’s foster parents didn’t feel it was right to adopt him due to their age. Doing the foster to adopt route is typically the quickest- although, you have to be willing to put your heart on the line and know there is a chance that child might go back to their birth parents- or relatives. (but think of the difference you made in their lives while you had them!) Or you can just foster- and most likely they will place a child with you who they do not feel will become free for adoption- although, again there are never any guarantees. We chose to go through an agency and not straight through CPS (child protective services). I am really glad we did. I love our agency- love what they stand for and the people are fantastic. If we have any problem they are right there by our side- and once again- for free. :0) Because Kaden is African American and because he has a special need- he does receive subsidy until he is 18. It is not a lot, but enough to help raise him. Also, because he was a foster child- he will also go to any state college in our state for free. I guess that was a lot more info than you really asked for-so I’ll finally get to your real question. The process: Find a good foster agency and sign up for classes. (each agency seems to vary on how they do their training). Ours was during the evenings and weekends- some just do weekends. After
the training they will do a homestudy on your family, talk to you about what kind of child you are open to and talk through any questions or concerns you might have. Then once you get fingerprinted and the fire marshal comes out and inspects your house - you are done and ready to go on the waiting list. Actually it was all really easy and so worth it!!! Comments The Engelhardt 4 said: Thanks so much for the info. I will keep it close to us for when we feel that we are 'called' to continue with the adoption process. Blessings.
4/1/2008 10:01:00 PM
Questions and answers This will be a very blessed Mother's Day. What will you do? I had to run and check my calendar to see when Mother's Day was! One because I panicked due to the fact that I haven't thought of anything to get my mom (I know mom- you always tell me not to get you anything!) and also because Mothers Day is MY FAVORITE. Yep- you are going to see first hand, right here and now how shallow I really am. I love Mother's day because it's all about ME! (Sad, but true). I know- my birthday is also about me, but I have to turn a year older on that day and that is never fun. But Mother's Day- it's all good. You see, we have this sort of unspoken rule here in my family on Mother's Day...the kids, they aren't allowed to fight with each other on Mother's Day- at all, ever. They spend the entire day biting their lip, smiling at one another and treating me like a queen. Their dad has done a very, very good job at brain washing them into believe that this HAS to be done at least once a year. So yes, every Mother's day I wake up to breakfast in bed (typical menu of burnt peanut butter toast) and a mangled dandelion in a vase. (my favorite). The kids then present their beautiful 'handmade gifts' that some wonderful teach thought of and knew would just make my day. Then they quietly dress in their Sunday best for church, careful not to cause any problems for their dear mother. After church I am treated to lunch out and then off the nursery we go to pick out a couple of hanging baskets for our front porch and perhaps some other flowers to plant in various flower beds around our house. Everyone joins in this event whether they want to or not (yes my teenage boys especially love this part). As evening comes and our long day of togetherness comes to an end, I slip into bed with a smile on my face- reliving the memories of the day. My kids on the other hand, head off to bed exhausted and glad the day is over- for tomorrow they can go back to life as they know it-me waiting on them. Comments Anonymous said: Gee why didn't I think of the "no fighting, etc., when you girls were little. And I still remember the "breakfasts in bed". But I still say "don't get me anything". Just buy another flower for your garden and call it "Moms flower". Love ya! Mom
4/2/2008 1:00:00 PM
1st post placement visit Today our caseworker came out for Kaden's first post placement visit. It went really well and she told me she was blown away at how much he had already bonded to us. He of course put on the charm for her (that's my boy) but there was no way he was going to let her get too close to him either. He is definitely a mama's boy. I am so proud of my little man and we are crazy in love with this precious child! We feel really blessed to be working with such an amazing agency- they truly care about these children they serve. She told me what a huge need there is for foster/adoptive families right now- and how so many times she has seen other children come through the system who would flourish in a good familybut there are just not enough out there. If God has ever spoken to you and put fostering or adopting in your heart- I beg you to take that first step... you will never, ever regret it. Comments Our Real Life said: How True! God is so amazing. He knows what we need even before we realize what we want! It looks like a lovely piece of property.
4/4/2008 3:03:00 PM
Home is where your heart is I truly love where we live… when we came house hunting a little over a year ago now, we were just so frustrated trying to find the right house for our family. Almost everything we could find that we could afford, was too small for our ever growing family. I kept praying and asking God to put us exactly where He wanted us to be- and I’d deal with the rest. Well, down at the very end of a long gravel road was where we found our safe haven. It was the only house out of the 100 that we looked at that both Todd and I thought 'this could be it'. Yet, once we stepped inside- we were so disappointed. It was definitely a fixer upperthe carpets were stained and really stinky, the walls were dirty and the kitchen was neon green with red counter tops. (Not kidding). Yet, we both knew this would be our new home. Today, after a year of hard work and ongoing construction-(as we can afford it) I THANK GOD for leading us down that gravel road to our new home. It may not be perfect, it may not be grand- but it is the perfect place for us to raise our children and make precious memories. Lord, I ‘thought’ I needed more… but you knew exactly what I needed. I needed more of
youâ&#x20AC;Ś I was still fighting the idea that happiness is in materialistic things, I was confused and led astray by the world views of success and you knew that Lord, you knew me, and you knew what was best.
Today as I took my children outside for a walk around our yard, I saw you Lord - you were there, just as promised- and there is nothing else I desire more. I saw you in the eyes of my children, I saw you in their smiles. I saw you in the beautiful flowers and the still pond. Thank you for your presence in our home, our lives and our family. Thank you for providing this home for us, where we feel safe, loved, secure. A place where we can grow, and change- a place where we can focus on you. Thank you for knowing exactly what I need. Thank you. Comments Sarah said: What a peaceful place to raise your family! I love it. Sweet pictures too!
Doreen said: It is amazing how God leads us to where we are suppose to be... this chapter in your life is so perfect...doreen
Doreen said: It is amazing how God leads us to where we are suppose to be.....this chapter in your life is so perfect...doreen
DebbieT said: Precious pictures...precious post. Hugs, DebbieT
4/7/2008 6:12:00 PM
Home improvements
Good thing I just blogged about how I loved my house cause after hours upon hours working on Kaden's room today- I'm not sure how much I am loving all this home improvement business. (My arms hurt, my back hurts and I hurt!) My awesome friend Brandy who I met at church came over today to help me- (or more like teach me). We worked hard taping and mudding Kaden's new room. For those of you who have never done that before- you gotta try it- you have no idea what you are missing. ;0) No really- as Brandy and I were working away I knew that God once again had blessed me with a friend who would stand by my side, with Spackle in hand, and help out just because that is the kind of friend she is. I am sure she had a MILLION other things she would rather be doingbut she chose to help me today and I TOTALLY APPRECIATE YOU BRANDY! THANK YOU!!! Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work. Ecclesiastes 4:9 Comments brandyleewindham08 said: there was nothing more that I would rather do than help you out! i love you
4/7/2008 6:22:00 PM
Bald is beautiful!
Move over Grandpa- Kaden wanted to look like you! We had been throwing around the idea of shaving Kaden's hair for awhile now. One of the biggest questions when adopting an African American child is hair care. I had read up on it quite a bit and asked others questions, but in all honestly, I don't think I was doing the greatest job. Kaden's hair was feeling really dry despite my best efforts of putting oil on his hair daily. Anyway- the kids talked me into shaving his hair today, and after the fabulous time he had in our sand box today unto which half of the sand ended up in his hair- I had to agree. I'm not sure if I am totally used to it yet- but my kids think he looked like Michael Jordan. I just think he is CUTE no matter what. Comments
Rhonda said: Amy, You know my very good friend Dorothy may be able to give you some pointers! Hair or no hair, he is too CUTE!!!! Rhonda
Angel said: AWWWW!!! I think it is adorable!!! Angel
DebbieT said: Amy, he's absolutely precious...with or without hair!
Anonymous said: Wow he does look like grandpa (with a really good suntan). He's adorable. Gramps says it sure easy to take care of anyway. Can't wait to meet him in person. M and D
Heather said: I love it! He looks cute‐‐good job! :) Heather
The Engelhardt 4 said: I think you are right...hair or no hair...he is STINKIN ADORABLE!!!! Those cheeks look even more kissable now!! heehee
Jenny said: Michael Jordan is beautiful but he's got NOTHING on Kaden!!!!! You are a doll baby!!!!
4/8/2008 2:48:00 PM
Enough in Life
May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong, enough sorrow to keep you human, enough hope to make you happy.
Comments Rhonda said: Oh my goodness! Those pictures totally make me smile! Kaden looks soooooo happy and looks like he as adjusted so well! You have some very, very precious children, Amy.
DebbieT said: Can your kids get any cuter??!! Adorable! How fun!
Anonymous said: Happy, happy children! Makes me smile. Ellen
The Engelhardt 4 said: ADORABLE!!!
4/8/2008 2:52:00 PM
Ya Gotta have friends... Children are God's way of telling us that tomorrow will be beautiful...
Today my great friend Leslie came over to meet Kaden and for our kids to get together and have some fun. My kids so look forward to their visits and I always love catching up with Leslie. She is one of my most favorite people in this world. I love watching all of our
precious children play together and share a bond that not just anyone would understand. Thanks Leslie for your friendship- you bless me. Comments DebbieT said: Hi Amy, Ahhh! How great is it that Leslie lives close enough to visit?! I wish I did! Your shirtless kids makes me really long for warm weather here. They look like they had a great time!
Noah Bear said: Awwww, those pictures turned out great!!! I love the one of Eli in the water. You should really think about doing some photography on the side. (And it might help finance another adoption. hee hee). :‐) I had a blast over at your house yesterday. Thank you so much for letting us come over. I really needed to just sit and chat with a girlfriend yesterday. Plus, the kids had a ball. They're already asking when they can see Mya, Aleigha, and Kaden again! Leslie
4/11/2008 12:56:00 PM
Just the way you are...
A story is told about a soldier who was finally coming home after having fought in Vietnam. He called his parents from San Francisco. "Mom and Dad, I'm coming home, but I've got a favor to ask. I have a friend I'd like to bring with me." "Sure," they replied, "we'd love to meet him." "There's something you should know the son continued, "he was hurt pretty badly in the fighting. He stepped on a land mined and lost an arm and a leg. He has nowhere else to go, and I want him to come live with us."
"I'm sorry to hear that, son. Maybe we can help him find somewhere to live." "No, Mom and Dad, I want him to live with us." "Son," said the father, "you don't know what you're asking. Someone with such a handicap would be a terrible burden on us. We have our own lives to live, and we can't let something like this interfere with our lives. I think you should just come home and forget about this guy. He'll find a way to live on his own." At that point, the son hung up the phone. The parents heard nothing more from him. A few days later, however, they received a call from the San Francisco police. Their son had died after falling from a building, they were told. The police believed it was suicide. The grief-stricken parents flew to San Francisco and were taken to the city morgue to identify the body of their son. They recognized him, but to their horror they also discovered something they didn't know, their son had only one arm and one leg. The parents in this story are like many of us. We find it easy to love those who are goodlooking or fun to have around, but we don't like people who inconvenience us or make us feel uncomfortable. We would rather stay away from people who aren't as healthy, beautiful, or smart as we are. Thankfully, there's someone who won't treat us that way. Someone who loves us with an unconditional love that welcomes us into the forever family, regardless of how messed up we are. Tonight, before you tuck yourself in for the night, say a little prayer that God will give you the strength you need to accept people as they are, and to help us all be more understanding of those who are different from us!!! Father, thank you so much for our precious son. Thank you for letting us love him just the way he is... and thank you God for doing the same for us- loving us just the way we are. Comments Angel said: What a great story. WOW... Angel
Our Real Life said: What a sad story with such a great lesson. It is easier to ignore those around us who need us so much. Thanks for the reminder. Kaden, You are so gorgeous. I would love to get to meet you and your brothers and sisters some day. Cindi
4/11/2008 8:43:00 PM
On your shoulders Ever feel like you are carrying the weight of the world on your shoulders?
Maybe you really are!!
4/11/2008 8:47:00 PM
What I see in the middle of the night... What I see in the middle of the night... ALL NIGHT long.
It's three AM, they're all asleep, and no-one's here to see. As we rock slowly back and forth, My baby boy and me. His little hand is feather light Tucked up against my chin. I hold his tiny hand in mine, and stroke his baby skin. The house about us creaks and groans, The clock hands creep around. He snuggles closer to me still,
And makes his baby sounds. I love these quiet hours so much, And cherish every one. Store memories up inside my heart For lonely nights to come. All too soon he'll be grown up, His need for mama gone. But until then I still have time For kisses and for song. Time for quiet hours like this With him cuddled in my arms, Where I wish he'd always stay Protected, safe and warm. And yet I know the day will come When his tiny little hand, will be bigger than my own. He'll grow to be a man. But until then he's mine to love With no one here to see. As we rock slowly back and forth, My baby boy and me. ...Author Unknown Comments Sarah said: I'm praying you'll be able to get some sweet sleep soon, and until then that you will be blessed by these midnight moments with Kaden. P.S. I love this poem too!
Jenny said: Ok... not too many things could make me smile at 3 a.m. BUT that face could be one of the few things I'd forgive!!!! Ha!
Doreen said: that is a sweet poem for a sweet baby boy...Kaden is so precious!doreen
4/11/2008 9:06:00 PM
Side walk paint
I found this idea from another blog awhile back and it is still one of the girls favorite thing to do. Painting the sidewalk for mommy! I fill up a bowl of soapy water and give them a real paintbrush and they paint the side walk for me for hours. (no mess for me to clean up either!) Gotta love the imagination!
Comments Jenny said: I love this idea....Brian will actually let the kids do that on his "master pieces"! Ha
Doreen said: great idea Amy...
4/11/2008 9:11:00 PM
Praying Hands
About a week ago Kaden started calling me "mama" and it made my heart melt. But today, today he did something that made me the happiest mommy alive. Today- Kaden learned to pray. Ever since he came home to us we have been praying with him. He has seen us do family devotions, watched us pray at every meal and sat on my lap while we prayed before bed. In just 2 short weeks with us, he put his little hands together today and prayed for the very first time. I would not be more proud if he got straight A's, was crowned homecoming king or made the winning touch down! MY BABY BOY PRAYED and while I know it's just a start, he is on his way to learning more about Jesus. To me, there is nothing to be more proud of. Lord, may he grow to know you more and more every day. Comments Rachel said: That is awesome! Seeing my kids pray or hearing them sing praise songs just blesses my heart so much. Every time God whispers to my hear and I know: THIS is IT! This is why we did this!" :)
kim p said: I'm smiling, Amy, because this just happened with Joshua. He can't say the prayer, but he happily folds his hands when we do. It is so heart‐warming to see little Jonathan and Joshua in their high chairs folding their hands while we pray. Thank you for loving your little child and teaching him to know Jesus!
Sara said: So glad he is taking the first steps to learn about God...what an awesome family to help him on his journey. Praying for him to understand how much God loves him!
Sarah said: What a sweet blessing!
Michelle Riggs said: Oh what a precious picture and story. I love it that he has learned so much already.
Jenny said: You're awesome Kaden....what a smart boy! What a great family to show you the way!
4/14/2008 2:26:00 PM
Recipe~ Pumpkin chip muffins I got this recipe from my mom and they are sooooo good. (They're like the pumpkin cookies Heather). Pumpkin chip muffins 1 c. pumpkin 2 c. flour 1 1/2 c. brown sugar 1 c. veg. oil 1/2 tsp. salt 2 c. milk choc. chips 2 tsp. cinnamon 4 eggs 2 tsp. baking soda Mix oil, pumpkin, eggs. Mix flour, sugar, cinnamon, salt and baking soda. Fold mixes together and add chocolate chips. Put in muffin tin lined cups. Bake 350 degrees for 10 minutes. Cool. Makes 2 doz. Yummy! Comments Heather said: Yummy‐‐‐I can't wait to try these, too! We love your pumpkin cookies! Heather
4/14/2008 6:39:00 PM
Mommy mistakes I have a confession to make- I blew it today as a mother… and it was ugly. I am not proud. I think it was the blue toothpaste running down the bathroom cabinet that finally did me in. No, maybe it was the dirty socks stuffed under the mattress in the boys room… or perhaps it was the spoiled lunch box smell coming from the back seat of my car. No, I take that back- it was definitely the booger someone wiped on the wall next to the toilet. Maybe it was a combination of it all, but I lost it. Veins sticking out, bad mommy look on my face, raised voice- ugly. And I wish I could say I realized it right away, but I didn’t. It took the 4 big kids leaving for school and the 3 little kids with their eyes glued to Little Einsteins that I finally had the time to take a deep breath and calm myself down. Then I had to get right with God. “When you realize your guilt… you shall confess the sin that you have committed. Leviticus 5:5 All too soon, these seven kids will be gone, and along with them- the blue toothpaste, dirty socks, lunchboxes and heck, even the booger. All too soon, the days will pass away- and my life will end. When I look back will I treasure the memories or will I be faced with the reality that I let the little things, the things that really don’t matter steal life from me? Each day we live is a gift from God- each moment precious. I’m still not convinced that whoever invented the blue toothpaste was the most brilliant person around- but I know my kids are. Who else could take a dab of toothpaste, mix it with water, regurgitate it and make it cover an entire bathroom sink? Clever. Very clever. “Teach us to count our days that we may gain a wise heart. “Psalm 90:12 Lord, help me to see each day, each moment, as a gift from you. Help me to be an example to my children of your love. Help me to forgive, to teach, to be thankful in every moment I am given with them. Recharge my strength when I feel weak, renew my spirit when I am overwhelmed. Fill me with your holy spirit so that I may respond to others with a kind work, a gentle touch and a sincere smile. Lord, let them see you through me. Comments Noah Bear said: That post made me laugh because I have SO been there. Every day ‐ no every minute ‐ it seems. :‐) Thanks for putting it into perspective for me. Each day IS a gift. Leslie
The Engelhardt 4 said: Amen to this. Thank you so much for putting into words what I have been feeling lately. My scary mommy voice comes out more when I am exhausted, which I still am...can't seem to get the rest I need. You are an inspiration as a mother, and I thank you for letting me part of your life. Blessings.
Sara said: oh, we are soooo there with you...reminds us we are not perfect, right? I know there are plenty of times when I wouldn't get nominated "mom of the year", but you have to look at the big picture and how much you give to your children and how much you really love them! Sometimes in those ugly moments, it is a look back on what is really important AND a wake up call to others for a helping hand!
kim p said: AMEN! THIS IS MY PRAYER TOO!! I laugh with you, because I know the feeling all too well! Thankfully God keeps giving me perspective‐adjustments and I continue to pray for HIS strength to think the truth and then to act on the truth. What invaluable lessons God wants to teach us as mothers! : )
brandyleewindham08 said: Amy, we it comes down to it..(We ALL have these days: Most of the time I don't realize I am Talking in the supersonic high scary mommy voice until My kids are in bed looking so sweet & I have been in bed for awhile, then I have to ask Him for forgivness and ask Him to help me have more compassion for kids with selective hearing. You are normal and we all love you.
4/16/2008 12:44:00 PM
My Rant I’m pretty sure I am going to get blasted from this post… and I want you to know I fully expect it. Bring it on. Let's talk- it's the first step to change. There is something that has been bothering me and I have to get it out... Some days I am embarrassed to be an American. I know, it’s nothing like the song goes... I’m embarrassed. Let me explain. I was watching TV the other day (right there a LUXURY in most countries) and this McDonalds commercial came on. I don’t know if you have seen it… but it’s the one where the mother is watching her approximately 4 year old son share his toys with his little brother and basically just share his life, his stuff with him. The commercial goes on to say “this is one thing you will not have to share” and the mother takes the son on a mommy date to McDonalds to get his own happy meal while the little brother stays behind with his dad. Now I want you to know I am not against some one on one time with your child- what I am against is that the commercial brainwashes us into feeling sorry for the child, who God forbid, has to ‘share’ with his little brother. I see this a lot in real life as well. I cannot tell you how many times I have heard people say “Wow, your kids must be so nice to ‘let you’ adopt- my kids would hate that- having to share with someone else”. BINGO. First of all, ‘let you’? In my house- Todd and I are the parents- period. We make the decisions. Of course we prayed about adopting again as a family. Of course we had long talks, answered questions and concerns. Of course we took each and every child into consideration. But we had the ultimate decision. As adults, as parents, that is VITAL. All too often I see families today being run by the children. Second, what is wrong with your child learning to give- to give up- to share? That is where my embarrassment comes in. As a country I feel like we
think we DESERVE more than we really do. We deserve so much that we are not even willing to wait for it. You know, we just pull out Mr. Visa and go get what we deserve- right then, right there. We work hard you know. We deserve the best. We deserve a break today. (Sorry McDonalds, I know you are getting picked on). But seriously, the media plays into this more than I think we even realize. I want my children to work hard, but I also want them to learn to wait- to learn to go without if necessary and to learn to appreciate what they have worked for. I want my children to learn to live with less so that others can simply live. I want them to share- to see their siblings as a gift- not look at them with hatred because they had to let them touch one of their toys or take up a minute of their time. We might not feel rich some days - but we ARE. We can jump in our car (not walk for 20 miles on a dirt road) and drive to a SUPER Walmart or a SUPER Target and get exactly what our little hearts desire to eat right then and there. We can burn our dinner and throw it out if we feel like it- where as in other parts of the world every single little crumb is the difference between life and death. Yet- we act as if we deserve more - deserve better. We are big complainers. Big time. We complain about just about everything and everyone we can. They bug us, they get in our way, they waste our time. As adoptive families we act as if it’s our ‘right’ and we deserve better service. We complain about our agency, the government. We DEMAND better service. Because after all, we wrote our check you know- we should get what we deserve. We forget we are not talking about ‘buying a new car’. We are talking about a life- a gift from God- that no we do not deserve just because we wrote the check and turned in our homestudy. We don’t deserve anything. We are blessed-because of someone else’s misfortune, to adopt a child. What we are doing IS a good thing (at least on our end) but that birth mother is hurting, that agency is working with little staff, and even less money, and the child has no voice, no choice in the matter. I have now done a domestic adoption and 2 international adoptions- let me tell youthere are mistakes made from all sides. It all goes slower than we want- or believe that we deserve. We make mistakes, agencies make mistakes, governments make mistakes. Period. But the child is the blessing- and God lets that happen-we never once deserved it. We are no better than the child that God gave us- they owe us nothing. There is nothing that I did to deserve to parent my children. Any of them. Ever. I have seen with my own eyes the look of despair, the loss of hope in children and parents in Guatemala. I have seen their living conditions- no running water, dirt floors, tin roofs and yet they still praise God for that. How can we feel ok after knowing that and yet still complain about our less than perfect service? My prayer for us as Americans is to stop brainwashing our kids into thinking they deserve the world- and to stop thinking it ourselves. To teach our children to share, to teach them compassion, to teach them to look outside their own needs and to really see how blessed they are. Tell them that name brand clothing does not make them any better than anyone else… help them to not judge a person by the color of their skin or the car they drive. Pull them from out behind the TV, the Xbox and even the computer and teach them to really live life. Learn to say the word “No”. Quit blaming their teachers when they misbehave in class. Show them how to find real happiness, a purpose, meaning to life. Spend time with them, explain to them to be aware of falling into the ‘all about me’ trap. Better yet- be a living example. It’s got to start with us- we have to teach them the truth. Let them be the kind of American’s one day that we really can be proud of, because this generation is blowing it. Now everyone put your right hand on your heart and repeat after me… I pledge allegiance to the flag… Comments kim p said: This has been on my heart too lately. Our culture has such a hold on us in so many ways that we don't even realize! I have a passion to raise my children with a different perspective. My motto is "Life is not about serving ourselves. It's about serving God by serving others." We want them to know what sacrafice is all about, but I don't
want them to become bitter either. I just want to give them a bigger picture of the world‐‐to see it more from God's perspective. Part of me wants to escape the influence of our culture, but since God hasn't called us to overseas missions yet : ), I'd like some more ideas on how to help them avoid being caught in the trap that our culture sets. I know I need to really keep praying for them, because it's a work God needs to do in each of their hearts. It has been all God's work in me and continues to be, as He pulls my heart away from this world toward Him. Thank you for the godly influence you are having on others through your blog. My heart is with you!
A. Gillispie said: Beautifully said and, I believe, God‐breathed. Amy, I know your blog is private. Can I repost this onto my blog? I really feel like a LOT of people need to read this! Anita agillispie@cox.net
Noah Bear said: Two thumbs up. Waaaay up! I totally agree and we are really, truly trying to turn around and change the green‐eyed monsters that we've created. I'm ready to sell everything and live in a travel trailer in the woods and just let the kids enjoy all of God's creations ‐ and that does not include plastic toys. (And I'm not kidding Amy. We're seriously talking about it!!!) I know your blog has gone private, but I'd love to post your message on my blog if you'll let me. (They won't have access to your blog) Preach on! :‐) Leslie
amy jordan said: I just ranted about this same thing the other day. I couldn't agree more.
Anonymous said: I can't agree more. Dan & I were just talking about this very thing the other night. Doesn't anyone ever "save up" for anything? Does everything go on a charge card and magically get paid later? Adults are teaching children that it's not "their fault" when they do something wrong. Kids are learning that someone did them wrong, so it's okay to do it to someone else. Oh, I could go on and on. I don't know which is worse, the kids or the parents that are teaching this behavior. Oh wait, I think I just answered that. :) Ellen
Angel said: ;0) Love ya girl. You got it going on. Angel
Angel said: ;0) Love ya girl. You got it going on. Angel
The Engelhardt 4 said: Yep, you hit the nail on the head. Good job!!
brandyleewindham08 said: Haaaaaaaaallelujah!
Heather said: You go girl! I TOTALLY agree with ALL that you have to say! Heather
Our Real Life said: AMEN SISTER! No blasting here.
4/17/2008 10:24:00 AM
You are... "In this world you are an orphan—eagerly anticipating your adoption as God’s child. In this world you are a widow—longing for reunion with your Bridegroom. In this world you are a stranger—a pilgrim waiting to become a citizen of heaven. And in this world, God has called you to care for the orphan, the stranger, and the widow." ~Tom Davis, Fields of the Fatherless
4/20/2008 9:00:00 PM
Fun in the Sun!
This was Kaden's first time (with us atleast) swimming. He LOVED the water and loved playing with his big brother Kallan and big sisters Aleigha and Mya!
Comments Anonymous said: these are just precious! Thanks for sharing! BonkLand (from Barnabettes) www.morebonkiesplease.blogspot.com
4/20/2008 9:07:00 PM
Sore Back I woke up this morning with a sore back. Trying to figure out why, I stretched and tried to turn to the right. No such luck. So next I tried to turn to the left, no luck their either. I have no idea what is going on...
Must be the lump in my mattress Comments brandyleewindham08 said: This is all to familar... makes my stomach hurt when I try to stretch... the sacrifices mommy make! :)lol
4/20/2008 9:12:00 PM
Free Rides
One of the best things about being in a big family is that someone can usually come up with something to do on a boring day. Anyone up for a 'sleigh' ride? Comments Angel said: That looks fun! :0) Angel
Doreen said: there is so much fun and love in your house!!!!and with that comes all the big smiles!!!:o)doreen
Sara said: I have done this with the kids since they were little, so I chuckled to see your kids doing it to. I love seeing your kids smiling faces ‐ just enjoying the simple things in life:)
The Engelhardt 4 said: That looks much more comfy than our sleigh rides here....here we are unimaginative with them and just get in the 'sleigh' instead of making it comfy...Looks like fun!!
Michelle Riggs said: I LOVED the pictures. Kaden has changed so much in the last few weeks. He looks very happy.
4/22/2008 11:27:00 AM
Bonding
One of the things written in Kadens file that had me worried was they had mentioned there being a concern about him being able to bond. We would, after all, be his 4th placement in his 16 months of life and the more moves the child has made the more the experts tend to worry about the child’s ability to bond. I honestly do not think we have a problem at all, as a matter of fact, Kaden has initiated skin on skin contact already and that is such a good sign. At first it seemed sort of funny to us, he loves to rub our arm and his favorite thing yet (especially when he is tired) is to lay his face on my tummy. But what I really wish is that I could just push a magic button and make Kaden know, without a doubt, that we are his forever family- that he has nothing to fear, that we are not going anywhere- EVER. But there is not magic formula (or button) and it takes time sometimes plenty of it. Furthermore, bonding is not a one way road and it cannot be forced. Bonding, or the sense of belonging together, is vital for any child- but especially an adopted child. It takes work and absolute commitment. Bonding creates within the child a sense of confidence and a positive attitude that I believe is the most important thing of a child’s life. Touch is absolutely essential for bonding. Yet many parents don’t know how to initiate touch and feel awkward about it. Healthy touch with good boundaries is the best way to communicate to your child, especially if your child is too young to speak or spoke a different language. The beautiful thing about touch is that it is universal- it transcends language. I remember being at the orphanage in Guatemala and every child CRAVED being touched and held. Here are a few things that we have done with our adopted children- that most experts recommend to help enhance and secure bonding with your adopted child: 1. Brushing Hair-This can be a great and easy way to spend time with a child. It also involves a touch and nurturing. 2. Schedule/Routine-Routine is so important for an adopted child to help them feel they have a little bit of control in their world that has been turned upside down. Also, it helps the child to know what to expect next and gives them security in their future. 3. Lotioning-Applying lotion to a child's hands and feet can also be part of a bedtime routine. Children of color will benefit from having lotion applied to their legs, arms, face, and back. 5. Reading a Story 6. Clapping Games and Rhymes- Remember the games played out on the playground? 7. Mirror Images- I did this with Mya and Aleigha as well. We would stand in front of the mirror and I would point to Mya and say “Mya” and then to me “Mommy” over and over again. Kaden has already started pointing to himself and then to me when we stand in front of the mirror together.
8. Paint Finger and Toe Nails 9. Play Hand (or feet) games -like thumb wrestling, rock, paper, scissors, or this little piggy. 10. Sing Songs-especially ones that involve touching- we do Chris cross apple sauce and itsy bitsy spider 11.Play Where is Mommy? Playing a variety of peek-a-boo and hide and seek games is fun and focuses the child’s attention on his mommy. During the games I frequently say, “Where is Mommy?” or “Look at Mommy,” reinforcing who Mommy is. This is also helpful outside of game time when I need Kaden to look at me. As you become more comfortable with your child and your new routine becomes more predictable, both you and your child will likely feel more confident with each other and one day you will wake up and there will no longer be a need for that magic button- true love took over. Comments Michelle Riggs said: That is great advice, Amy. Thanks for sharing it. I can't believe how quickly Kaden is bonding. God is so good.
Anonymous said: Thanks for sharing this! It's going in my attachment file! BonkLand
Noah Bear said: Awww, I'm so excited about Kaden's bonding. He is so adorable, Amy. We can't wait to see him again. And, although it wasn't funny at the time, probably the best bonding experience Nandi and I had was when she got that horrible lice infestation. Seriously! There was no better way to bond than having to spend three solid weeks with her in my lap while I combed through her hair looking for nits. lol. Hey, if you think it'll help with Kaden, I'd be happy to send some your way. lol. :‐) P.S. Love all the pictures. You've got a gorgeous family! Leslie :‐)
4/25/2008 1:10:00 PM
HIV- tell two The following was copied from a blog of one of the most amazing adoptive mommies I have ever 'met'. She is the mother of 11 children- 2 of whom are HIV+. She is a true inspiration. As I read over her blog post it made my heart ache for all of the people who face the stigma of being HIV+. I believe in this day and age it is time for people to wake up and take the time to educate themselves on the truth about HIV. Although I am not the one carrying HIV- I carry the burden of it- as a choice. For me it comes down to one question and
one question only- how would Jesus respond to HIV? HIV/AIDS is the worst plague ever to hit the earth. People are hurting- and the answer lies in providing information that will replace fear with knowledge. When people become educated about the disease and its transmission, they can then reach out in compassion without thinking they are risking theirs or their familiesâ&#x20AC;&#x2122; lives. Those of us that know Jesus Christ know that we have the responsiblity to educate ourselves and to reach out in love. This love speaks of a God who can dispel the stigma, fears and superstitions that so many cultures hold concerning HIV/AIDS. Please read the blog post below and please, please- tell two. Tell them the truth- educate yourself- make a stand for those who are hurting. This is once again your chance to make a difference- will you do it? Tell two Today I have heard from several different parents of HIV+ children who are facing negative reactions to their adoptions based on the stigma and ignorance surrounding HIV. It is extremely frustrating to me that in 2008 there is still so much unfounded fear caused by a lack of education, that results in nasty, ugly and mean treatment of people who are HIV+ and their families. The reason people in the U.S. are not educated about HIV is that most people don't care, because most people in this country are not affected by it. People still see it as the problem of homosexuals, drug users and people in Africa. The reality is, HIV/AIDS is everyone's problem. It is a devastating problem in Africa and many countries, but there are many, many Americans living with this disease as well. In fact, new cases of HIV in the U.S. are now being seen in the largest numbers in heterosexual women. HIV/AIDS is a HUMAN problem. Living with this nasty disease is hard enough, but compounding that with the misguided fear and judgment of society is beyond tragic, and as the mom of two HIV+ children, it is sad and frustrating. So, if you are one of the many who check in to this blog every day, I am asking you to do me a favor. I want you to tell at least two people about HIV. Spread the word that... - HIV can NOT be spread through causal/household contact. HIV is not spread through hugging, kissing, shaking hands, sharing toys, sneezing, coughing, sharing food, sharing drinks, bathing, swimming or any other causal way. It has been proven that HIV and AIDS can only be spread through sexual contact, birth, breastfeeding and blood to blood contact (such as sharing needles). - HIV is now considered a chronic but manageable disease. With treatment, people who are HIV+ can live indefinitely without developing AIDS and can live long and full lives. - People who are HIV+ deserve to be treated with love, respect, support and acceptance as all people do. If anyone wants more info on transmission, there is great info on the Center for Disease Control website at http://www.cdc.gov/hiv/resources/factsheets/transmission.htm Help me spread the truth about HIV, and take a tiny stab at the stigma against HIV. Tell your friend when you talk on the phone. Tell your spouse. Tell your parents. Post it on your blog and ask other people to tell their readers. Ask them to pass it on as well. I would love to see this spread beyond the adoption blogs. Even if you have no real interest in HIV/AIDS, even if you are not involved in adoption, even if you don't think you know anyone who is HIV+... education and knowledge are always a good thing. It is so easy to say to someone, "hey, guess what I learned today?" and it is even easier to put it on a blog or in an email. Do it for me. Do it for the other adoptive families and the HIV+ orphans that are waiting for homes. Do it for Belane and Solomon. Do it for all of the other people on this planet living with HIV. If everyone that reads this blog tells at least two people, that is a whole bunch of people we can reach and a little bit of difference we can make.
Comments brandyleewindham08 said: I just told about 50 people... I love you Amy, God sent you to be apart of my life....
4/27/2008 4:06:00 PM
Pictures I twisted my kids arms today and talked them into letting me take a couple of pictures of all of them together. No easy task getting all seven of them to smile at the same time! Aren't they cute though??
Comments Angel said: Great pictures Amy!!! Love em. Angel
Doreen said: Kaden looks SO VERY HAPPY with his new borthers and sisters!!!Very precious pictures Amy!! doreen
Whitney said: So precious! What gifts from the Lord!
kim p said: What a beautiful family, Amy! And what makes you all even more beautiful is your love and passion for the Lord!
Heather said: I LOVE it!!! You did a great job of getting them ALL to look at the camera and smile together! Beautiful family! Heather
Michelle Riggs said: Yeah more pictures. I loved them! Sami is still asking to meet her friend. :‐)
ellen said: Cute doesn't even discribe them! They are a loving family :) Ellen
DebbieT said: Those are GREAT pictures, Amy! I just love the first one of them all holding hands down that awesome road ‐ I just love that! You're a talented photographer!! Hugs, DebbieT
Live to love and laugh said: What a gorgeous and happy looking family. God has blessed you so much.
Sara said: Such a beautiful family!!
brandyleewindham08 said: What a beautiful set of kids.... You & Todd are so blessed...
brandyleewindham08 said: What a beautiful set of kids.... You & Todd are so blessed...
Jenny said: AWWWWWW!!!! They're beautiful!!!!! Amazing task!!!!
4/29/2008 9:36:00 PM
Horchata
On of Mya's favorite memories from being at Eagles Nest orphange in Guatemala is drinking warm rice milk. She actually used to pout and play sick (I witnessed her do it!) and then one of the mama's would come running and feel her forehead and then she'd tell them her tummy hurt so they would bring her some warm rice milk. Now I have no idea exactly how they made it there but we did find Horchata milk mix at our local Walmart. On the package it says to make it cold but Mya loves it warmed up. It has a cinnamon taste to it and she LOVES it. Anyway- if you have never had it you should try some- it's actually pretty good! Not good enough to fake a tummy ache or anything... but still not bad. Comments Doreen said: I always have Horchata in the house. i mix teya's cereal with it sometimes. you can buy it cold in the dairy dept of some stores and some hispanic stores have it in the dairy dept with many flavors. I love drinking it! very cute Mya!
Jenny said: Mya Papaya...Could you be any cuter? But I think I'm afraid to drink anything call Horchata!!! Hugs! jenny
5/1/2008 1:57:00 PM
What to do with today "What I do today is important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it." I was just thinking that I probably needed to blog something today or you would all think I fell off the face of the earth. But the truth is- I really had nothing to profound to say. Hee/Hee My mind has pretty much been useless this past week- basically used up on the trivial things throughout the day like 'what to make for dinner that will actually feed 9 people', and 'who has a soccer game tonight and which field'? It's been nonstop running and
in between I'm just trying to be the best mom and wife that I can be. So when I came across this quote today I had to ask myself- "what am I really doing today that is important- important enough that I am wasting an entire day on it"- and then I knew. I knew it was ok to just be a mom. It was better than ok actually. It's ok to do 4 loads of laundry in one day because it means my family has clean clothes and therefore respect of themselves. It's ok to plan good, healthy meals for those I love and care about so that we are taking care of the one body we get in this life. It's a good thing to take my kids to soccer and to cheer them on- for they know they are loved- even if they loose the game. So yes, today I am ok with using up a day of my life just 'being a mom'. It feels good- boring blog and all. :0) Comments amy jordan said: Nothing about you is boring, Amy! I enjoy your blogs and read every single one of them. By the way, I have friends heading to Guatemala for a mission trip!
Michelle Riggs said: What a privilege that you are able to serve God in such a beautiful way. I can't imagine a more wonderful calling. You are a great mother.
The Engelhardt 4 said: Perfect.
5/4/2008 9:34:00 PM
Weekends with seven Often I am asked how we do it with seven kids... Honestly, I don't even know how to answer that. We just do life. This weekend though I thought I'd just show you. It's definately busy- but always lots of fun!
Posing for pictures for our crazy mom who always has her camera!
Sweet Kallan
Making our own night at the movies on our living room floor
Kallan building his fire in the pit
Me
Addisyn mowing our yard
My honey
Kaden eating the chocolate out of his S'more
Addisyn posing for a picture
Aleigha playing in her playhouse in the backyard
Our dog Makela
Mya hanging out at the fire pit
Aleigha at our small town festival
Todd working in the garden (Yeah- something is actually growing in there!)
Mya, Aleigha and Addisyn taking a break
Mya and Keegan sitting on the new picnic table Keegan made me at school for Mother's Day (I love it!)
Kaden enjoying his popcycle
Kallan exploring on our land
Kaden's sticky mess
More fun at the fire pit! (Sure beats cooking inside!)
Aleigha enjoying her S'more
Travis and his girlfriend Cayley at the festival
Mya sliding at the festival
Addie, Kaden and Mya having fun
Aleigha and Mya going for a ride at the festival
Mya eating ice cream
Kaden, Mya and Aleigha in the sand box (they will play in there for hours!)
Kaden being a ham as always
4 hams
sister secrets
Comments Angel said: Your 7 are wonderful. Hugs, Angel
The Engelhardt 4 said: Those are great pictures. I have never thought about doing a weekend picture albulm....good idea.
Sara said: fun pictures!
Noah Bear said: I LOVE those pictures, Amy! My gosh, I just saw your kids a month ago... how come they've grown so fast?? Must be all those smores. lol. I think we'll have to come over and join you sometime. :‐) P.S. LOVE the pics of Kaden! Leslie
5/5/2008 3:22:00 PM
SINGING IN THE RAIN! I've always loved the rain... loved sleeping in the rain and loved hearing the sound of the rain on the roof. But my kids- they have a whole different idea of loving the rain...
I think maybe they've got the right idea- naps are over rated anyway if you ask me! ;0)
And the Lord shall guide thee continually, and satisfy they soul in drought, and make fat thy bones: and though shall be like a watered garden, and like a spring of water, who's waters fail not. Isaiah 58:11
5/6/2008 9:09:00 AM
Red Letters Campaign This morning my alarm went off at 6:00 am as always on a school day. More rain was still coming down outside, a soft patter on the windows. I crept through the house finding my way into each child where I would softly kiss them on their warn cheek and gently nudge them out of their beds to start the day. I wondered to myself what God had planned for their lives today… for their futures… They quickly showered, got dressed and came into the breakfast table and sat down for a quick bite before heading off to school… heading off to make the most of today. And then I wondered, what about all of the children in the world who are waking up on this same day… only they do not have a mother to softly kiss their cheek because last week they lost her to AIDS. And what about the little ones who do not have a home, let alone a table to sit down at… and never a bite to eat? What about them? Yet I scurry through my day, making my way down my ‘list of things to do’ --will I still remember of them? Will I make those children a priority in my life or will I fill my day with the business of PTA, soccer practice, and more grocery shopping? My amazing friend Angel decided that would not sit right in her life anymore. She and a group of life long friends decided to add those children to the TOP of their ‘to do’ list. They decided to "BE THE CHANGE they wished to see in this world." (Gandhi) Check it out for yourself- http://thevoiceofadventure.blogspot.com/ www.redletterscampaign.com/ and Angel- I AM SO PROUD OF YOU MY FRIEND. YOU BLESS ME, you make me want to be MORE, you make me want to be different. You make me want to be the change too. Thank you.
5/8/2008 9:33:00 AM
Our calling Our background and our circumstances may have influenced who we are... but we are responsible for who we become.
For you were once darkness, but now you are light in the Lord. Ephesians 5:8 Sometimes I just sit and watch my kids and I wonder what the future holds for them… and I wonder about what ‘could have been’. Of course I do not have the answers to any of those thoughts- but I do know one thing- God has a plan for their lives- and their background and circumstances will never prevent them from living the life God called them to be- if they don’t let it. As a matter of fact- I believe God will use everything you are and everything that has ever happened to you- and I have come to realize that often our earlier experiences (especially the ones that involve ‘pain’) are often the key to being able to fulfill God’s calling. So the question for many of us is often this “How do I know if what I am doing is God’s calling?” And a good question it is. I believe that God has a general call for all people- that call is to Salvation. God calls all people to Himself. Then once you are a Christian I believe God calls us to be a witness for Him. Then beyond that, some people are called by God into a particular service. Remember though, serving means serving others- not ourselves. God reaches through one-or a few-to touch many. Often individuals are called by seeing a need and responding to it. The need becomes the call. So if what you are doing is mainly going to be ‘for your own benefit’ and not for others then it may not be a ‘God calling’. To me, following God’s calling for my life means turning my back on anything else that previously held me in it’s grip. Sometimes those things that had a hold on me were even ‘good’ things. But since God knows we all have the same 24 hours in a day it’s important that we spend our time on HIS calling- not OUR desires, our interests or our own self- will. Whatever it takes- you have to abandon yourself to Christ. I used to think I was doing that… filling my day with good things (or so I thought). I wasn’t doing anything bad after all- I was just living my life… for ME. There are also other ways to ensure it is God’s calling-those ways include the Word of God, through the opening and closing of doors (our circumstances), the inner voice of God, our particular gifts and talents, and through the wisdom of other Christians. But I think the ultimate confirmation is when there is great joy in carrying out the call. That does not necessarily mean there will be great success- but there will be great, great joy and a feeling like you are exactly where you belong-even in suffering. But I think we have to be very careful in how we view suffering. I do not think that in order to please God we have to be stressed out, overworked, miserable and feel tortured. I do not believe it is God’s desire for us to be unhappy. For me, while there have been times where I have been skeptical- or even afraid- there was still a great desire to do God’s work. When I watch my kids- that is
exactly what I hope for them (and for you) to feel one day. A great desire to serve the King of Kings- and to never feel more alive through doing it.
5/8/2008 10:46:00 AM
Happy Mother's Day My greatest joys in life is BEING a mother. One of my greatest blessings in life is HAVING my mother. (I love you mom!) Happy Mother’s day to all of you mothers out there… and for all of you hoping to one day become one. For those of you who have lost your mother, I am praying for you- and I know your mom's would be proud of who you have become. May God bless each and every one of you- always.
This is for the mothers who have sat up all night with sick toddlers in their arms, wiping up barf laced with Oscar Mayer wieners and cherry Kool-Aid saying, "It's okay honey, Mommy's here. "Who have sat in rocking chairs for hours on end soothing crying babies who can't be comforted.This is for all the mothers who show up at work with spit-up in their hair and milk stains on their blouses and diapers in their purse. For all the mothers who run carpools and make cookies and sew Halloween costumes, and all the mothers who DON'T. This is for the mothers who gave birth to babies they'll never see. And the mothers who took those babies and gave them homes.
This is for the mothers whose priceless art collections are hanging on their refrigerator doors. And for all the mothers who froze their buns on metal bleachers at football or soccer games instead of watching from the warmth of their cars. Ad that when their kids asked, "Did you see me, Mom?" they could say, "Of course, I wouldn't have missed it for the world," and mean it. This is for all the mothers who yell at their kids in the grocery store and swat them in despair when they stomp their feet and scream for ice cream before dinner. And for all the mothers who count to ten instead, but realize how child abuse happens. This is for all the mothers who sat down with their children and explained all about making babies. And for all the (grand)mothers who wanted to, but just couldn't find the words. This is for all the mothers who go hungry, so their children can eat. For all the mothers who read "Goodnight, Moon" twice a night for a year. And then read it again, "Just one more time." This is for all the mothers who taught their children to tie their shoelaces before they started school. And for all the mothers who opted for Velcro instead. This is for all the mothers who teach their sons to cook and their daughters to sink a jump shot. This is for every mother whose head turns automatically when a little voice calls "Mom?" in a crowd, even though they know their own offspring are at home -- or even away at college -- or have their own families.This is for all the mothers who sent their kids to school with stomach aches, assuring them they'd be just FINE once they got there, only to get calls from the school nurse an hour later asking them to please pick them up. Right away. This is for mothers whose children have gone astray, who can't find the words to reach them. For all the mothers who bite their lips until they bleed when their 14 year olds dye their hair green. For all the mothers of the victims of recent school shootings, and the mothers of those who did the shooting. For the mothers of the survivors, and the mothers who sat in front of their TVs in horror, hugging their child who just came home from school, safely. This is for all the mothers who taught their children to be peaceful, and now pray they come home safely from a war. What makes a good mother anyway?Is it patience? Compassion? Broad hips? The ability to nurse a baby, cook dinner, and sew a button on a shirt, all at the same time?Or is it in her heart? Is it the ache she feels when she watches her son or daughter disappear down the street, walking to school alone for the very first time? The jolt that takes her from sleep to dread, from bed to crib at 2 A.M. to put her hand on the back of a sleeping baby? The panic, years later, that comes again at 2 A.M. when she just wants to hear their key in the door and know they are safe again in her home?Or the need to flee from wherever she is and hug her child when she hears news of a fire, a car accident, a child dying? The emotions of motherhood are universal and so our thoughts are for young mothers stumbling through diaper changes and sleep deprivation...
And for mature mothers learning to let go.
For working mothers and stay-at-home mothers. Single mothers and married mothers. Mothers with money, mothers without. This is for you all. For all of us... Hang in there. In the end we can only do the best we can. Tell them every day that we love them. And pray and never stop being a mother... Author unknown Comments Anonymous said: Your Dad and I sure produced 4 wonderful Moms too. Love you all and all the wonderful grandkids you have given us to love. Mom
5/10/2008 7:04:00 PM
PROM!!! Tonight was prom night at our High School. The first prom Travis has ever gone to and the first prom for us to experience as parents. (I'll tell you that it's a lot more fun being the kid going then the parent at home worrying!) Travis and his girlfriend Cayley looked so adorable and bless their hearts- they put up with me armed with CAMERA! We had our own little photo session here at home (hey with the cost of prom now-a-days we can atleast forgo the pictures at the prom and do our own!) Praying for a safe, fun night for all!
Comments Noah Bear said: They are so cute!!! I love those pictures. Are you making copies for Cayley's mom? I love the design on the bottom of her dress. We're cleaning our garage out today and I found my old prom pictures. Let's just say that I cringed at the site of my dress and my 10 inch high hair. Today's fashions are sooooo much cuter!! Hope they had a good time! Leslie
Angel said: OH MY WORD!!! How cute are they???? ADORABLE! You did a great job with the photos. Angel
DebbieT said: Hi Amy, Travis is so handsome and his girl is cute too! It was nice of them to appease you and allow the photo shoot ‐ your pics turned out great! I hope they had a wonderful time and got home safely. :) DebbieT
Jenny said: Oh my gosh....you both are adorable!!!!! I love the one where Cayley's hiding behind him! So cute!!!!
Anonymous said: Wow how cute are they? Trav looks like a young Elvis Presley (except better) and Cayley is darling. Wish I could have seen them in person though. Mom
Live to love and laugh said: Girl I feel your pain. Travis is so handsome and his date is beautiful. I sure hope they had a good time. It isn't as much fun being the parent as you sit home and worry about your child making it home safely though.
5/10/2008 7:23:00 PM
Kaden's room
We finally finished Kaden's room- it's so cute and so blue and brown. I love it. Now, if only we could get the child to sleep in it! Comments Noah Bear said: Cute, Cute, Cute! Love it. Will you come over and do Nandini's room? And Eli and Noah's. And our's. Hey, just come over with a bucket of paint and I'll put ya to work. :‐) It looks really good!
Leslie
Angel said: AWWWW SOOOO CUTE! I love it. Angel
DebbieT said: I love Kaden's room, Amy. You did a GREAT job!
amy jordan said: Is Kaden still screaming at night? How is it that you manage to look so beautiful on so little sleep?
Live to love and laugh said: What a cute room. It will get better. Last month we finally managed to get our two to sleep in their cute little rooms all night. Hang on. This too shall pass.
5/10/2008 7:26:00 PM
Surgery sorrows Last Thursday Todd had surgery on his knee. While reffing he tore up his knee and it required surgery. Poor guy... but notice he is still hard at work on the couch while recovering! That's my guy- always working hard for his family. Love you honey- get better quick! (Love that farmers tan by the way!)
Comments Noah Bear said: Hope he feels better soon. And, yeah, Todd is a true Texan now. Nothing screams, "Texan!" like a good 'ol farmer's tan. :‐) Leslie
Lisa Heller said: Glad to see Todd is still a Leo fan! I really enjoy your blog, Amy! Kaden is adorable:)
Angel said: Poor guy. Get better soon! Angel
DebbieT said: I hope Todd's knee feels better soon!
5/12/2008 1:03:00 PM
The joys of Mother's Day I hope you all had a great Mother's Day yesterday. My kids went all out and we had so much fun. First we went to church together- and we had Kaden dedicated. He was so adorable in his little plaid shorts and he was very proud of his new baby blue bible. In the afternoon we planted flowers together and the kids helped me stain the picnic table Keegan made for me at school. For dinner-we had a very special treat. The kids planned a 'date' for Todd and I. They set up the table (aka coffee table) made up a menu we could choose from and made our dinner reservations for two. Kallan was our waiter and Addisyn and Keegan were the chefs. It was so much fun and such a treat to be waited on (as we watched the
season finale of Survivor). Thank you my amazing kids for treating me to a special Mother's Day treat. Being your mother is the greatest thing that has ever happened to me. I love you all!
I Comments Michelle Riggs said: Your kids are the sweetest. I can't believe how grown up they are. You have a wonderful family.
The Engelhardt 4 said: Love the tip jar. That is priceless. Happy Mother's Day to you as well!
Jenny said: Hey Block Kids! Can you come stay with me for a while??? I also want to know why the tip jar is empty!!!!! HA! Love you all! Titi
Live to love and laugh said: What fantastic children. Nothing is as precious to a mother's heart as a child's love.
5/12/2008 2:15:00 PM