FEMALE SEXUALITY
Rewiring our body to pleasure Kalindi Jordan
I am the creator and facilitator of sensuality courses and sexual healing processes for women and couples. I also teach teenagers emotional intelligence around sexual intimacy. I have been in the world of complementary health since 1993 when, at age 17, I trained in anatomy, physiology and massage. Now, at 41, I have had 24 years of exploring the world of touch, with the last 7 years being more focused around sexuality and communication. It gives me great joy to see the transformation that is possible. I have found that when a woman feels safe to express her sexual appetite, free from pain and discomfort, and she is met in relationship in a satisfying way, this massively increases her enjoyment and quality of life, her ability to mother and her creative energy.
As a creator and facilitator of sensuality courses, the
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It seems surprising in our seemingly liberated age that many people’s sexual experience is one of disconnection and dissatisfaction, and that this is not something more often brought to the attention of mainstream media. I have learned from many women that deep down their hearts are aching, for they long to know themselves and be totally met by another. Some part of them yearns to explore their deepest sensual and sexual nature, for they often feel unfulfilled, unappreciated and that they have not experienced their true glory as women. And so their bodies have tightened, closed up, inhibiting their pleasure and restricting their orgasms. Their heart may have closed too, causing sadness, loneliness, isolation, physical and emotional pain and perhaps in many cases even dis-ease in the body. It is my belief that sexual confidence and joyful expression has a healing effect on many areas of our life. On the other hand suppression, restriction and shame of these natural process can lead to disharmony in our lives.
people’s sexual life convinces her that many feel disconnected and unsatisfied. She proposes that sexual confidence and joyful expression have a healing effect on many areas of life: on the other hand that suppression, restriction and shame of these natural process can lead to disharmony. The article considers the longterm influence of early sexual experiences, how we might re-educate ourselves effectively, and briefly explores how arousal differs between men and women.
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Ann (not real name) came to see me because she could not fully relax while making love and consequently could not experience orgasm with her partner. As she shared her life journey it came to light that she had also been suffering from anxiety on a regular basis, mostly in the mornings, for the last four years. We had a journey of three sessions where we explored the psychological, emotional and physical aspects of her sexual experiences. I also gave her processes to explore on a daily basis between sessions. And as Ann started to see improvements so she was motivated to persist with her daily practice. Soon I received a very excited text: ‘I had my first orgasm with my partner!’ Three months later when Ann came for a follow-up session, she looked and felt like such a different woman. While she was talking about her new business idea, I asked ‘how about your anxiety?’ She had to stop and think and I remember her laughing and saying that she hadn't felt anxious since working with her intimacy and sexual experience and that she had forgotten all about it!
So I want to consider in this article how early sexual experiences can send ripples throughout our lives; and if that's had a negative impact, ask how we might re-educate ourselves and addressed this effectively. I will also
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Volume 14 Issue 2 Summer 2017
