Shay Levister

From Heart Broken to Love Doctor

By Tobbylola Oniga

Are you constantly experiencing relationship issues? Do you feel like you’re wasting your time on pointless dates? Meet Shay Levister, aka as “Shay Your Love Diva.” Levister is well-known for her role on TV One’s Fatal Attraction as the guest relationship expert and also as a public speaker with a successful coaching practice that helps singles all over the world. After attending 100 dates in 3 months, Levister has uncovered the secrets of dating. With her experience and certification as a master Neuro-Linguistic Programmer and Rapid Transformational Therapy practitioner, she is determined to help one million singles attract love!

Bronze Magazine: Tell us a little bit about yourself. Shay Levister: I have been living in Atlanta, Georgia for almost 20 years now. I come from a West Indian background and I was always taught that whatever I do, be the best that I could. Love is a strong passion of mine because of the environment I grew up in. I’ve witnessed dysfunctional relationships around me; I witnessed my father abuse my mother on a regular basis, sometimes even spanking her with a belt. It was a pattern that was in my family - her mother was abused, her great grandmother was abused. I knew that I had to break the pattern in order to give my kids a chance not to go through that.

Bronze Magazine: After having a traumatic experience, you discuss having a conversation with God regarding the purpose of life is to love. Prior to this conversation, talk to us about your stance on love. Shay Levister: I always felt as if love was waiting for me. I knew my soul-mate existed, I knew it was real, and I knew no matter what happened or how many times I got my heart broken I would eventually find it. However, this near-death experience is what motivated me to teach others and give to others. Before, it was just about me finding love and maybe teaching my daughters and as a hobby do my YouTube videos and give advice. To be able to inspire people on a large scale, and teach them how to find and attract a loving relationship. That was all inspired after the near-death experience. That’s when I was inspired to help one million women attract love because there are so many people that have never experienced a healthy love relationship. In my definition, if it’s not healthy, it’s not love. There’s so many women who haven’t experienced it so they’re missing out. They haven’t experienced life at all because they haven’t experienced love. So that just became my mission.

Bronze Magazine: How did becoming a master linguistic programmer and rapid transformational practitioner help you better understand love language? Shay Levister: I was able to go to the root cause of why people do what they do when it comes to love dating and relationships. Why do certain women sabotage themselves over and over again with the same guy with a different face? Or why do some people always seem to be able to have a happy relationship? Being able to get certified as a linguistic programmer as well as being certified in my craft as a relationship coach helped me to refine my techniques so that I could help people on a subconscious level.

Bronze Magazine: You have gone on 100 dates in three months to discover the hidden secrets of dating. How was this experience? What are some of the top hidden secrets in dating? Shay Levister: When I went on the 100 dates, I started noticing a pattern with certain things I said or did that would turn a guy on or off. I also started to notice patterns in the guys who were serious about the relationship and we’re good guys, versus the guys who just wanted to play around or were just interested in a physical relationship. That empowered me to unlock the secret, the secret road .. the yellow brick road to love so that I could replicate it. What it did also was help me refine my technique down to a science so that I was able to capture the heart of any man that I chose within thirty days. I would literally do videos and time stamp them from day one, using the techniques I discovered from the 100 dates experience in order to capture his heart. Then, I took the information I learned and created a program to help other women have strength when they dated so that they can date in a lane where there was no competition, and date at a level of confidence that allowed them to be who they were. Everyone they met wasn’t going to be “the one” and that’s perfectly okay, but at least show up 100% who you would need to be in order to attract the right one.

Bronze Magazine: How was your experience with TV One’s Fatal Attraction? Shay Levister: I love it! It’s so intriguing because before I would do an episode I would have to read the files of the couple, read the crime report, discover what brought this couple together and uncover what it was that brought down this relationship. I think what I enjoyed was the mysteries where we didn’t know who did it. There was one where a husband was shot at the door, and it looked like the bullets were thrown outside the door and the wife was in the bed with her daughters. I’ll never forget that because it’s almost like you were rooting for the bad guy - like it wasn’t her because he was a cheater, he was always cheating on her. It was either a crime of passion where she was just sick and tired of it. She heard him on the phone talking to his mistress. She snapped and killed him and went back to sleep, and she really didn’t remember because she was very convincing. Or one of the other women killed him or their husbands did it because several of the husbands threatened him as well. So you really do not know. At first, the wife was convicted, then she got off! It was kind of like you were happy she got off. I really enjoyed doing those episodes.

Bronze Magazine: Some people experience love and it doesn’t work out the way they expected it to so they give up. What do you tell your clients who don’t believe finding true love is possible? Shay Levister: It’s literally impossible not to be able to find love once you inevitably start to align with what you want to attract. If you are able to develop the mindset... and how do you do that? You remove the barrier, you remove the pain, you remove the false belief systems that are blocking you from receiving a healthy love experience and you do that on a subconscious level. Then once you’re able to become the person under all that fear, all the hurt, and hesitation towards love based on past experience, and then learn how to manifest love; then it’s possible. Once you get the keys on dating and how to get a healthy relationship, it’s impossible not to be able to attract love. A lot of people think that you have to look a certain way in order to attract a certain relationship. But the most important aspect in my research of interviewing thousands of men, women, and couples and asking men what do they find attractive, and looks wasn’t even in the top three. A lot of times it was a woman’s “it factor,” her smile, it was her personality. There’s always someone who will find your type attractive. If you radiate that confidence, then men are going to find you attractive. And not just one man, many.

Bronze Magazine: What one person might think is love someone else might disagree. Do you think love has a clear cut definition? Shay Levister: I think love has a clear cut vibration. I think love has a clear cut way of enhancing you to be your very best and higher self. If it doesn’t do that, if it doesn’t uplift you, if it doesn’t fulfill you, if it doesn’t energize you, then it’s not love.

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Bronze Magazine: You talk about making yourself so desirable that you can’t help but get multiple options when it comes to love. However, sometimes you can have all these favorable traits and love still might not work out for you. How would you help someone in this situation? Shay Levister: A lot of women who are in the trenches and who are down and out about dating, and want to give up on love are constantly being ghosted or mistreated. Then here comes the so-called experts who tell them what they should do, but they don’t tell them how to do it. They can’t relate to where they are. But I can, because I’ve been there. I have experienced the abusive relationship. I’ve been there as far as having the past that set me up to attract the abusive relationship. I felt the crave and the hunger to be loved and be in a healthy relationship. I figured out the pathway to the love experience that I want. So, __

Bronze Magazine: You stated, “When you can train your subconscious mind to do better is when you do better.“ However, how does one train their mind to do better when they don’t know better? Shay Levister: According to the neurolinguistics programming technique, I was able to create a program called positive mind meditation. Creating meditation that goes to the level of unhooking the beliefs and the blocks that are keeping people from experiencing the love that they really want. It’s kind of like if you have a dirty pool, how do you get a clean pool? Well, first you have to empty out all the dirty water or you fill the pool with so much clean water that all the dirty water runs out. It’s kind of like that with the positive mind meditation system that I created,where you’re filling your mind with so much positive affirmation on a subconscious level that your mind starts to develop a new belief system that leads to new behaviors. A new way of viewing relationships and attracting healthy relationships.

Bronze Magazine: Talk to us about your book, “The Single D.I.V.A’s Guide to the Science of Attracting Love.” Why should single people read your book instead of the other dating books out there? Shay Levister: I put a lot in the book! I put private details about me, I put my experience about dating a married man, and being in an abusive relationship. But I think one of the things that came out that I wasn’t expecting was sexual abuse because you have so many women that are filling that womb that was created from childhood or some point in their life where they were sexually violated. They’re filling it up with a relationship, or sexual connections without really healing the womb. So when I was writing the book I was faced with the challenge of, do I tell my story? Do I discuss that? It was almost like the book was calling for that to be inside. I think that’s what a lot of women were able to connect with when they were able to read that on the pages. Being given permission to identify the pain and release it was so empowering to so many women including myself. That’s a point when I think the book went beyond myself.

Bronze Magazine: This year you can look forward to Shay’s new app called Couples Love currently available on Android and coming soon to iPhone. This app will push out affirmations about having a healthy relationship. She also has classes coming called Manifest Love Inner Circle, where she coaches women towards a healthy relationship in a group setting along with a live seminar in May 16, 2020.

“Having the past that I had just set me up to be qualified to not just tell people the what but also the how-to.”