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COURAGEOUS KIDS How to raise children who stand up for what’s right.
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83RD Annual Orange Blossom Festival Parade and Rodeo Friday, February 28th & Saturday, February 29th & Sunday, March 1st FRIDAY, FEB. 28TH • 6-9PM 1:00pm Annual Golf Classic (Davie Golf and Country Club) 6:00pm Orange Blossom Kickoff Concert (Old Davie School) RemaDee (Classic Rock)
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The Love Factory! is inspired by Andy Warhol and his “Factory,” where he and
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his team of artists created colorful prints together. YAA based its concept for the event on that idea of making quick prints and custom artworks using stamps and printmaking techniques. The event, from 10am–6pm, also features Love Love Dance Party, where families can get ready to celebrate the holiday with music and movement. All ages are welcome in The Love Factory!, which is free with museum admission.
Valentines’ art stations throughout the museum. Visitors can also take a photo in front of the museum’s I LOVE YOU sculpture, post it on social media tagging @youngatartmuseum and present the post at the front desk to receive a $1 discount on admission. Young At Art Museum is at 751 SW 121 Ave., Davie. For more information, visit www.youngatartmuseum.org or call 954-424-0085.
DIGGING THE DINOSAURS You may feel the ground shake this month in downtown Fort Lauderdale. It won’t be an earthquake making that ripple in your coffee cup, though. It’ll be… gulp… dinosaurs! Life-size and lifelike, animatronic prehistoric creatures will be stomping around the Museum of Discovery and Science as part of its new traveling exhibit, “Expedition: Dinosaur!” Presented by Joe DiMaggio Children’s Hospital, the exhibit will run through May 25. Engaging and educational interactive experiences will complement the thrills of young museum-goers as they marvel at the realistic movements and sounds of a velociraptor, stegosaurus, triceratops and other mammoths of the Mesozoic Era. Dinosaur movement, digestion and evolution will be showcased, as will the life and methods of fossil hunters dating back to the 1800s. Interactive highlights include a dinosaur egg scanner, dinosaur dig, dino operation game, digital sandbox, paleontologist camp, interactive fossil viewing boxes, and an interactive robot that allows visitors to manipulate dinosaur eggs. “Fascination with prehistoric life never goes extinct,” said Joseph P. Cox, president and CEO of MODS. “‘Expedition: Dinosaur!’ provides the opportunity to explore and connect with these fossilized creatures from the past through today’s technology and modern STEM applications.” In conjunction with the exhibit, the museum will present monthly “Roar & Explore Weekends” that let visitors travel back in time with a MODS Dino Keeper on a 30-45-minute guided quest, assemble a dinosaur skeleton with augmented reality, make model fossils and attend a Scales & Slime reptile show. The weekends are 10am-5pm on Feb. 15-16, March 7-8, and April 25-26. The museum is at 401 SW Second St. For more information, please visit www.mods.org.
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A MUSIC FEST FOR THE FAMILY Music will literally be in the air at Plantation Heritage Park at the first-ever ParksFest Family Music Day on Feb. 9. A fun way to get kids into music or perhaps broaden their exposure to it, the multifaceted musical celebration’s main act is the 100-member Florida Youth Orchestra performing with special guest, Grammy-winning jazz flautist Nestor Torres. Opening acts will include bands from Broward County Public Schools that will introduce other musical styles: Cypress Bay High School Sound of Thunder Jazz Band, Plantation High School Marching Band, and South Plantation High School Drama/Thespian Club. And for those kids not content to just listen, the Florida Youth Orchestra Instrument Play Pen will let them discover the joy of making music by holding and playing with instruments, under the guidance of FYO musicians and staff. The event is about more than music, though. There will be sponsor booths, car displays, kids’ games and activities, Boys & Girls Club members, food trucks, beverages and displays from Broward County Public Schools Applied Learning. Guests are encouraged to bring lawn chairs and/or blankets for seating in the park’s open green space. Seating will not be provided. No outside food, beverages or coolers will be permitted, and pets are not allowed. There will be a limit of one backpack or purse per person. ParksFest Family Music Day is noon-5pm at the park at 1100 S. Fig Tree Lane, Plantation. Tickets are $10/13 and older; free/12 and under. Event capacity is limited, so advance tickets are encouraged and can be purchased at www.CaribTix.com/ParksFest.
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ere’s an unwelcome fact: Most kids will experience bullying at school, even if they’re not directly involved as a victim or perpetrator. Studies show that 70 percent of students witness bullying at school and 35 to 60 percent are directly involved. What’s less certain is how those kids will respond to injustice. Will they have the moral courage to stand up for themselves or others? Can they do the right thing without a trusted adult there to coach them? When kids see a bully in action, we hope they’ll do what 11-year-old Henry did. When Henry, then 8, saw a peer mocking a classmate with disabilities and excluding her from a playground game, he told the bully to stop, calling out the actions as unfair and unkind, says his mom, Libby. Today’s school playgrounds need more of this type of moral courage, says Michele Borba, author of End Peer Cruelty, Build Empathy: The Proven 6Rs of Bullying Prevention That Create Inclusive, Safe, and Caring Schools. “Today, research shows that peer cruelty is escalating, personal entitlement is going up, while empathy is going down,” she says. “It’s discouraging.”
At a time when most Americans feel the country’s values are declining — 77 percent agreed in a 2018 Gallup poll, the most negative rating since 2002 — how can we raise kids who show courage when it counts?
THE BUILDING BLOCKS OF MORAL COURAGE For many, it’s hard to talk about moral courage without picturing those who helped Jews during World War II. Their photos, letters and accounts of experiences create an unforgettable lesson in moral courage. “There’s a story of a local Holocaust survivor who says that every day, someone he didn’t know slipped him a sandwich,” says Ilana Cone Kennedy, a Holocaust center director. “We hope kids will come away with a sense that their voice matters, and that their actions make a difference.” Learning about racial bias and genocide is an important part of social justice education for students and teachers alike, research shows. Researcher Kristen Renwick Monroe, PhD, studies the traits of those who helped Jews escape during World War II. Author of The Heart of Altruism: Perceptions of a Common Humanity, Monroe interviewed WWII rescuers and found they had a different self-image than bystanders (those who saw Jews in danger but did nothing) or Nazi supporters. Compared to bystanders and Nazi supporters, Monroe found that rescuers had a more broadly defined sense of identity, viewing themselves as part of a common humanity, instead of as a member of an exclusive group. Rescuers also had stronger sense of agency, while bystanders tended to have a weak sense of personal control over their lives. In other words, rescuers acted because they believed their actions mattered. Empathy is another cornerstone of moral courage. “I am convinced that empathy is the core to goodness,” says Borba. The ability to identify with another’s perspective, built from babyhood on through one-on-one interactions, closely bonded relationships and even reading, is an essential trait of those who stand up for others. Teaching kids to identify and name their emotions can help build empathy and moral courage, too. “When you teach emotional identification, kids learn, ‘He looks sad, I’ll go be a helper,’” says Borba.
WHAT ABOUT MY KID? It seems clear that when it comes to moral courage, parents or caregivers can’t simply count on chance. “Parents who raise good kids don’t do so by accident,” says Borba. “You have to be intentional about it.” But since moral courage often means doing the right thing when parents and teachers aren’t around, how can we know if kids are getting it right? Sometimes, kids share their experience of standing up for a peer or for themselves on the playground. But moral courage also shows up in smaller, less obvious ways. Look for things like honestly and personal responsibility, and encourage growth in those areas, says Richard Peterson, a childcare administrator. Watch kids as they play and interact with classmates, says Peterson. Are they easily influenced by others, or do they stand up to peer pressure? When children report wrongdoing (their own or that of others), take responsibility for their own actions, and show honesty, they’re displaying moral courage, he says. Other examples are doing homework or chores without being reminded or turning in something you found that doesn’t belong to you, he notes. “Even the simplest action, like picking up trash instead of stepping over it or leaving it for someone else to deal with, shows moral courage.” continued on page 18
BOOKS THAT BUILD MORAL COURAGE FOR READERS OF ALL AGES • What Happens Next by Susan Hughes (Owlkids) • Henry the Boy by Molly Felder (Penny Candy Books) • Something Happened in Our Town: A Child’s Story About Racial Injustice by Marianne Celano, PhD, Marietta Collins, PhD, and Ann Hazzard, PhD (Magination Press) • The Proudest Blue: A Story of Hijab and Family by Ibtihaj Muhammad (Hachette Book Group) • Luca’s Bridge/El Puente de Luca by Mariana llanos (Penny Candy Books) • Martin & Anne, the Kindred Spirits of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. and Anne Frank by Nancy Churnin (Creston Books) • The Brave Cyclist: The True Story of a Holocaust Hero by Amalia Hoffman (Capstone Editions) • Brave by Stacy McAnulty (Running Press Kids) • Emmanuel’s Dream: The True Story of Emmanuel Ofosu Yeboah by Laurie Ann Thompson (Schwartz & Wade/Random House) • I Walk With Vanessa: A Story About a Simple Act of Kindness by Kerascoët (Schwartz & Wade) FOR TWEENS TO YOUNG ADULT READERS • Wonder by R.J. Palacio (Knopf Books for Young Readers) • Diary of a 5th Grade Outlaw by Gina Loveless (Andrews McMeel Publishing) • Take the Mic: Fictional Stories of Everyday Resistance edited by Bethany Morrow (Arthur A. Levine Books) • We Are Lost and Found by Helene Dunbar (Sourcebooks Fire)
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If your child falls a little short on these measures of morality, or if you’d simply like to encourage moral growth, there’s good news. New research shows that the traits we associate with moral courage — like empathy, self-control, and honesty — get stronger with practice and effort. In Mindset: The New Psychology of Success, psychologist Carol S. Dweck, PhD, wrote about her decades of research on intelligence and effort. Her now-famous research found that children with a growth mindset — or the understanding that intelligence could be developed through effort — were more successful than those who believed that intelligence was fixed. These days, she’s applying this concept to the development of moral traits like self-control. In one of her recent studies, Dweck found that preschoolers can learn to resist temptation and delay gratification after listening to a story about it. If, as Dweck’s research shows, good character can be taught, then anti-bullying education programs in schools can help guide growth. But it’s important that anti-bullying education doesn’t focus too narrowly on the role of the bully — a role few kids identify with. Teaching kids about character means helping them understand all the ways people can contribute to or resist injustice, says Kennedy. “There are different roles we all can play — perpetrator, bystander, up-stander — and people can move from one category to the next,” she says. “It’s important to know which role you’re in for each situation, and what you might be able to do differently.” Many effective anti-bulling programs have a strong peer advocacy element — in other words, they teach kids to stand up for other kids — because this approach is proven to work. Research shows that when other kids intervene, most bullying stops within 10 seconds. Like any strategy, though, peer advocacy only works when kids have the skills and knowledge they need. Eight-year-old Henry’s courage added fuel to the school’s ongoing dialogue around bullying, inclusion and playground behavior. His class started a sportsmanship club; another third-grade classroom adopted an inclusive “You can’t say you can’t play” guideline for recess and after-school games. When it comes to homegrown goodness, talking with your child about your values, and modeling those values yourself, is hard to beat. “Today’s kids are really facing an uphill challenge in relationship engagement,” says Henry’s mom, Libby. “We talk a lot at home about our responsibility to try and make the world a better place. I’m very proud of the person Henry is and continues to become.”
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was pregnant with our first child when my husband and I attended a friend’s 40th birthday party. Over thumping music and a Shirley Temple for me, we wished the guest of honor a happy birthday. “How does 40 feel?” my husband asked. “It’s good, but I’m tired,” said the friend, the father of two young kids. “I don’t remember the last time I slept through the night.” Our friend turned his gaze to his wife. Beaming in her direction, he told us how excited he was to spend the night at the swanky hotel down the street that night. “So fun!” I exclaimed. “The kids are with their grandparents overnight?” Our friend and his wife laughed, shaking their heads. “No,” she explained. “I’m staying with the kids so my husband can have the entire night to himself and wake up whenever he wants, in silence, totally alone.” “Too bad you couldn’t find a sitter so you could stay at the hotel together,” I replied. “No, this is actually the perfect birthday treat,” our friend insisted. I sipped my Shirley Temple and tried to make my face look as if I understood. Six years, two kids of my own, and countless sleepless nights later, I understand. As I’ve come to learn, taking time for yourself once you become a parent is not a luxury — but a necessity. Though it seems counter-intuitive, one of the best things you can do for your marriage is to step away from it, regularly and intentionally.
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Our kids absorb an incredible amount of our time and energy. Ironically, this is exactly why parents need to take time for themselves. Therapist Alex Hedger encourages parents to take breaks from the demands of both their children and their partner, in order to “prevent cracks appearing in either partner’s well-being — or the relationship.” Tiya Cunningham-Sumter, a certified life and relationship coach, describes those potential cracks as “regret and resentment toward your partner… You’ll find yourself giving your partner the angry side-eye and it’s all because you didn’t make time for you.”
While experts agree that downtime is crucial for both parents, therapist David Ezell argues it’s particularly important for women. He describes a client who mistakenly believes she should never be apart from her kids, a mindset that tends to be unique to mothers. “Not only is it horrible for the children — they need to learn mom can leave and come back — but it’s also likely to turn this highly educated, accomplished woman’s brain into mush. Children are wonderful but we all need a break from being asked why the sky is blue (for the 400th time).”
You’re still fascinating
Before you were someone’s mom, dad, husband, wife or partner, you were just you. Peel off all the labels and you’re still there, even if you’re buried under laundry and birthday party invitations. And you still matter. Vikki Ziegler, the author and divorce attorney best known for her starring role in Bravo TV’s Untying the Knot, calls prioritizing your own interests a chance to “nourish your soul.” Dating coach Corrine Dobbas calls it a time to “rejuvenate and foster [your] sense of self.” Whatever you call it, it is vital to stay in touch with what makes you uniquely you — the person your partner fell in love with in the first place. Hedger uses the analogy of a sports team to illustrate the importance of each half of a couple bringing their best self to the relationship. Just as a team functions optimally when each player brings his unique strengths to the game, “having time apart allows you to be true to yourself in a way that allows you to uniquely contribute when being part of the Relationship Team.” Dobbas agrees. Only when you stay in touch with yourself, she says, “can [you] show up in the relationship more present, confident and less stressed.” Not only do you bring greater energy to the relationship when you’ve had time to recharge, you also become a more interesting person to your partner. Marriage counselor and author Patricia Bubash says when each partner carves out time for their own interests, not only does it give them something to talk about, it also gives partners a chance to see each other “as interesting individuals, not just a wife [or] husband.”
The heart grows fonder
Whether you take an hour for a kickboxing class, an evening with friends, or a weekend to go on a yoga retreat, taking time apart gives you and your partner a chance to miss one another. Amy Bailey, a mom of three who has been married 16 years, says that while date nights are key, so is time apart. “There’s nothing that makes me miss home and my husband like not having him around,” she says. “And we take that time to send each other texts we wouldn’t want our kids to read, and by the time we see each other again — well… we’re ready to see each other again.” While it’s not always possible to get away for long stretches of time, Jenni Skyler, a certified sex therapist, encourages couples to be creative with the limited time they have. She says it is especially important for new moms to have what she calls “restorative, regenerative time” in order to show up to the relationship sexually. “For a lot of women, the ability to be aroused comes from having space for arousal to emerge,” she says, adding that because most women can’t just switch from “mom” to “lover” in the blink of an eye, having time alone is essential, even if it’s just 20 minutes to soak in the tub. Cunningham-Sumter says that even carving out a few minutes for chores like folding laundry or doing dishes by yourself “can be your time to turn on your music and just be with yourself.” While any time away from your partner can be helpful, research suggests time spent in solitude may be especially valuable, promoting relaxation and reduce stress. My husband gives me time to work out because he knows the more I exercise, the more pleasant I am to be around. Though he doesn’t necessarily care to hear about the way my leggings chafed or how my GPS lost its signal during my run, he does care that I’m still the athlete I was when we met. And I rarely deny his occasional request to take himself and his fantasy novel out for a beer and a burger. He always returns in a better mood than when he left. Because sometimes time alone is exactly what we need to come together.
Bump & To help moms & dads navigate the journey of pregnancy and parenthood, here is a sampling of some of our favorite resources in and around Broward County. Maternity Hospitals Broward Health Coral Springs
3000 Coral Hills Dr., Coral Springs Childbirth Concierge 954-344-BABY (2229) www.browardhealth.org/maternityplace The Maternity Place at Broward Health Coral Springs provides top-notch care while keeping families’ privacy and comfort in mind. Special programs and services include 24-hour onsite neonatologist, all private postpartum rooms, water birth, family-centered Couplet Care, childbirth classes, prenatal yoga and siblings class. The Level II Neonatal Unit is staffed on a 24-hour basis with a highly skilled medical team to care for any baby needing special attention.
Broward Health Medical Center 1600 S. Andrews Ave., Fort Lauderdale 954-355-4400 www.browardhealth.org/maternityplace The Maternity Place at Broward Health Medical Center provides exceptional maternity care in routine and high-risk pregnancies. In-house specialists include anesthesiologist, neonatologist, obstetrician and certified nurse midwife around-the-clock. The 24-hour, state-designated Level III Neonatal Unit is able to support the tiniest and most fragile of babies. Birthing classes and parent support groups are available.
Holy Cross Hospital 4725 N. Federal Highway, Fort Lauderdale 954-771-8000 www.holy-cross.com A Baby-Friendly Designated birth facility, Holy Cross Hospital maternity services include welcoming birthing suites, a private post-partum unit, NICU Level II, childbirth education, infant safety and CPR, lactation education and support.
Memorial Hospital Miramar 1901 SW 172 Ave., Miramar 954-538-5180 www.memorialmiramar.com Professionals at Memorial Hospital Miramar help you through every stage of your childbirth journey — coaching and providing you with the knowledge and support to achieve a safe and treasured experience. The hospital features a NICU Level II, 18 LDR suites and family-centered care. Sign up for baby care, breastfeeding classes, infant massage, Lamaze, sibling classes, Hypno-birthing and more.
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Plantation General Hospital
703 N. Flamingo Rd., Pembroke Pines 954-844-7110 www.memorialwest.com The nursing staff consistently ranks high with parents for compassion and professionalism at Memorial Hospital West’s Family Birthplace. The hospital has 12 LDR suites, 26 postpartum rooms and Birthplace amenities include fully private rooms and bathrooms. A level II NICU is equipped with the latest high-tech equipment and a highly trained staff. Childbirth and breastfeeding classes offered in both English and Spanish. Additional workshops for siblings, grandparents, car seat safety, baby care, infant safety, and CPR. A registered nurse is available for questions from all discharged patients.
401 NW 42 Ave., Plantation 954-587-5010 www.plantationgeneral.com 9 LDR suites, 6 high-risk pregnancy rooms, private postpartum suites, advanced level III NICU, lactation services; childbirth, breastfeeding and CPR education classes, tours, Consult-A-Nurse and follow-up support.
Memorial Regional Hospital 3501 Johnson St., Hollywood 954-265-4484 www.memorialregional.com The Perry Family Birthplace at Memorial Regional strives to provide mom with well-deserved privacy and optimal rest with spacious suites furnished with a sleeper sofa, dinette and additional television for family and visitors. High-risk obstetrical care is offered through the Maternal Fetal Medicine Program. The Wasie Neonatal Intensive Care Unit (NICU) at Joe DiMaggio Children’s Hospital is a level II and level III NICU with 24-hour coverage by neonatology. Special emphasis on preparation and support for parents, with classes in infant safety & CPR, baby care, breastfeeding, boot camp for new dads, and more.
Northwest Medical Center 2801 N. State Road 7, Margate 954-974-0400 www.northwestmed.com Northwest offers state-of-the-art maternity care and the only level III NICU in northern Broward County. The nursery includes an advanced security system. Classes are offered in baby care, childbirth education, breastfeeding, and more.
West Boca Medical Center 21644 State Road 7, Boca Raton 561-488-8000 www.westbocamedctr.com West Boca Medical Center, a recipient of the Healthgrades Labor and Delivery Excellence Award five years in a row, is a five-star labor and delivery unit featuring a team of highly-trained obstetrics-gynecologists, maternal-fetal medicine specialists, nurses and nurse practitioners, lactation counselors, social workers and more. West Boca Medical Center has an on-site Level III NICU and the hospital offers lactation consult and support and a maternity education series taught by nurses, and postpartum support.
Adoption Resources A Child is Waiting
www.davethomasfoundation.org This free resource takes you through the typical steps to adopt, from thinking about which type of adoption is right for you to celebrating adoption day.
Childnet www.childnet.us 954-414-6000
Florida Department of Children and Families www.myflfamilies.com 954-375-6092
Florida’s Adoption Information Center www.adoptflorida.com 800-96-ADOPT
Forever Family www.foreverfamily.org 1-888-365-FAMILY
Jewish Adoptions and Foster Care Options www.jafco.org 954-749-7230
Birthing Centers A Birth Center
3001 W. Hallandale Beach Blvd., Hallandale Beach 954-456-4682 www.abirthcenter.com Alternative maternity care for women who are anticipating a normal, low-risk birth. The team approach includes the client as an equal team member. Every effort is made to create the loving, intimate feeling of an at-home birth, while maintaining safety. Routine gynecological care also available.
Amazing Births & Beyond 17184 W. Dixie Highway, North Miami Beach 954-610-9754 www.amazingbirthsandbeyond.com Expecting moms can learn the techniques of HypnoBirthing, a method that teaches relaxed, natural childbirth education enhanced by self-hypnosis, through a series of classes at several locations. Additional services include doulas, chiropractic care, yoga, massage therapy and more.
Hollywood Birth Center 2316 Hollywood Blvd., Hollywood 954-925-4499 www.hollywoodbirthcenter.com A home-like maternity care unit designed to help families, including siblings, become involved in the events of pregnancy and childbirth in a safe personalized setting. Natural childbirth with the support you need.
Breastfeeding Most hospitals offer breastfeeding classes, lactation specialists and support groups. In addition, check out these resources.
Breastfeeding Helpline 1-800-994-9662 www.womenshealth.gov National helpline offers support from trained breastfeeding counselors in both English and Spanish.
Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies Coalition of Broward County 954-765-0550 www.hmhbbroward.org/our-programs This community organization is working to improve access to prenatal care, education, advocacy and public awareness for all families in Broward County.
La Leche League www.llli.org Mother-to-mother support, encouragement, information, and education.
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After Hours Pediatric Urgent Care www.afterhourspediatrics.com • 5067 N. Dixie Highway, Oakland Park, 954-267-1621 • 6250 Lantana Rd., Lake Worth, 561-963-4874
Baptist Health Medical Plazas and Urgent Care www.baptisthealthbroward.com • 6264 W. Sample Rd., Coral Springs, 954-837-1010 • 5673 Coral Ridge Dr., Coral Springs, 954-837-1480 • 3313 W. Hillsboro Blvd., Deerfield Beach, 954-949-2100 • 4741 S. University Dr., Davie, 954-837-1050 • 15885 Pines Blvd., Pembroke Pines, 954-837-1300 • 1642 Town Center Circle, Weston, 954-837-1150 • 12472 W. Sunrise Blvd., Sunrise, 954-837-1240
Drowning is the leading cause of unintentional death for children under 5 in Broward County.
Broward Health Coral Springs 3000 Coral Hills Dr., Coral Springs 954-344-3000 www.browardhealth.org
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Joe DiMaggio Children’s Hospital 1005 Joe DiMaggio Dr., Hollywood 954-265-5324 www.jdch.com
Memorial Hospital Miramar 1901 SW 172 Ave., Miramar 954-538-5000 www.memorialmiramar.com
Nicklaus Children’s Hospital Miramar Outpatient Center 12246 Miramar Parkway, Miramar 954-442-0809 www.nicklauschildrens.org
Northwest Medical Center
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2801 N. State Road 7, Margate 954-974-0400 www.northwestmed.com
Pediatric Associates www.pediatricassociates.com Multiple locations throughout Broward County.
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Crisis Assistance 211 First Call for Help
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dial 2-1-1- or 954-537-0211 www.211-broward.org By simply dialing 211, residents can access Broward County’s nationally accredited comprehensive helpline for information and referrals to all kinds of support, health and human services. Free, confidential, and available for assistance 24 hours.
Women in Distress 954-761-1133 www.womenindistress.org Provides victims of domestic violence with crisis intervention, advocacy, support and shelter.
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Infertility Resolve
www.resolve.org A national nonprofit support group to assist couples dealing with infertility issues.
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Medical Insurance Florida KidCare
888-540-5437 www.floridakidcare.org Free or low-cost health insurance for children, sponsored by the state of Florida.
Moms’ Groups
South Florida Mothers of Multiples (formerly Coral Springs Mothers of Multiples) www.csmoms.org Provides understanding, guidance, and education to moms raising multiple birth children.
MOMS Clubs www.momsclub.org Connect with other moms in your neighborhood for social gatherings, playdates and more. Chapters exist in many communities, or get support to start your own club.
Mothers of Preschoolers www.mops.org Meet other like-minded moms through this international support network of Christian women with preschool children. Groups meet regularly at churches in Fort Lauderdale, Miramar, Coral Springs, Pompano Beach, Boca Raton, and other communities. Check their website for locations.
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Supermoms of Broward www.supermomsofbroward.com Local group of members who chat online and gather in real life, either via planned playdates, parties or other events.
Parent Workshops Infant Massage
Teaches expectant parents simple hands-on techniques to quickly calm their baby’s cries. Memorial Regional Hospital, 954-265-4484, www.memorialregional.com; and Memorial Miramar, 954-538-5180, www.memorialmiramar.com
Boot Camp for New Dads A unique father-to-father workshop in which a veteran dad shows new fathers the ropes on how to care for their babies. Memorial Regional Hospital, 3501 Johnson St., Hollywood, 954-265-4484
Baby Care Learn about caring for a newborn, how babies look and act, and when to call the pediatrician. Includes hands-on practice bathing, dressing and diapering a baby. Offered at Memorial Regional Hospital, 954-265-4484, www.memorialregional.com; Memorial Hospital West, 954-844-7110, www.memorialwest.com; and Memorial Hospital Miramar, 954-538-5180, www.memorialmiramar.com
Postpartum Depression MOMS (Mothers Overcoming Maternal Stress)
954-765-0550 www.hmhbbroward.org Program of the Healthy Mothers, Healthy Babies Coalition provides counseling and services to women suffering from maternal depression through group classes and in-home visits, both pre- and post-natal. Counselors available 24/7.
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Postpartum Support International 800-944-4773 www.postpartum.net Postpartum Support Online www.ppdsupportpage.com
Special Needs Child Find 754-321-7200 www.browardschools.com Child Find is a public program that works to ensure that all children who need special education and related services receive a free appropriate education. Serves as entry point for services from birth to age 5.
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Health Care Clinics of Nova Southeastern University 3301 College Ave., Fort Lauderdale 954-262-4100 www.nova.edu/healthcare NSU offers a range of clinic operations with services ranging from medical care, psychological services, speech and communications therapy, hearing and balance center, and more.
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Nicklaus Children’s Hospital Dan Marino Outpatient Center 2900 S. Commerce Parkway, Weston 954-385-6200 www.nicklauschildrens.org Not-for-profit center offers comprehensive evaluation and treatment of children with special needs.
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Unicorn Children’s Foundation Clinics Nova Southeastern University 7600 SW 36th St., Davie, 954-262-CARE www.nova.edu/unicornclinics Expert clinicians provide comprehensive spectrum of services including development assessment, diagnostics, autism education, assistance with feeding disorders and parent training to deal with challenging behaviors.
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Support for Parents Children’s Services Council 954-377-1000 www.cscbroward.org Agency created by voters to provide leadership, coordination and funding for children’s services. See website for list of funded programs.
Family Central 1415 W. Cypress Creek Rd., Fort Lauderdale 954-720-1000 www.familycentral.org Not-for-profit agency offers childcare assistance, counseling, education, family therapy and more.
Healthy Mothers/Healthy Babies Coalition 954-765-0550 www.hmhbbroward.org Community organization aimed at reducing infant mortality through education on maternal health, father involvement, safe sleeping environments and breastfeeding. HMHB is dedicated to providing resources and education to pregnant women, new parents and families.
The Parenting Place NSU’s Mailman Segal Center for Human Development, 7600 SW 36 St., Davie 954-262-7127 www.nova.edu/humandevelopment The Parenting Place offers many support groups and classes for infants, toddlers, preschoolers and parents. Expectant families can prepare for their new addition, and new moms and dads can discover the wonders of their amazing newborn. The Parenting Place also offers support with sleepless nights, fussy babies, and willful toddlers. One-on-one parent coaching available.
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High on technology WHY TODAY'S TEENS ARE ADDICTED TO THEIR PHONES BY SANDI SCHWARTZ
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lthough we are currently hearing a great deal about the opioid crisis in America, teen drug use is actually declining overall. A new study called Monitoring the Future by the National Institute on Drug Abuse indicates that teens are using fewer illicit drugs (other than marijuana) than they have in the past 40 years. This annual government-funded report measures drug use by teenagers in eighth, 10th and 12th grades. Specifically, the survey found that use of cigarettes and alcohol continued to show significant declines, reaching their lowest levels in the history of the study. Illicit drug use, such as cocaine, ecstasy, steroids and amphetamines, are all down. Use of marijuana has declined over the past decade for eighth- and 10th-graders even though it is more socially accepted. Although heroin use has become an epidemic among adults in some communities, it has fallen among highschoolers over the past decade. These findings are consistent with other studies that show steady declines over the past decade in drug use by teenagers. This surprising news has some scientists wondering what is causing this trend. One possible reason is that teens are replacing their need for drugs with technology, specifically their smartphones.
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A recent article in The New York Times explored the connection between the rise in technology use with the decline in drug use. The pattern is quite clear, and it has many experts anxious to explore this hypothesis in more depth. How Technology Is Like A Drug. Kids today are spending an exorbitant amount of time using electronics. A 2015 survey published by Common Sense Media found that American teenagers ages 13 to 18 averaged six and a half hours of screen time per day on social media and other activities like video games. In addition, a 2015 report from the Pew Research Center found that 24 percent of teenagers ages 13 to 17 reported being online “almost constantly,” and that 73 percent had a smartphone or access to one. What keeps them wanting to come back for more? So much of the interaction with technology can provide a dopamine high for our kids. Dopamine is a neurotransmitter that gets released in our brain when we experience something positive. It essentially serves as a reward system. In the same way that drug users experience a dopamine high, experts are now finding that aspects of technology can also provide that same type of physical and psychological reaction. Due to the way smartphones stimulate our brains, we’re all
“carrying around a portable dopamine pump,” said David Greenfield, assistant clinical professor of psychiatry and founder of the Center for Internet and Technology Addiction. Every time we post, share, like, comment or send an invitation online, we are creating an expectation to get a response from others, according to the Times article. When someone responds, we feel a sense of belonging and get a rush of happiness and excitement. Delaney Ruston, a physician who produced Screenagers, a documentary that explores the relationship between technology and childhood development, points to many studies that review MRI scans of the brains of kids who play 20 hours or more of video games per week. When the scans are compared to people who are addicted to drugs or alcohol, their brains look quite similar. This rush is something that our kids notice and end up craving. It is also so much easier to get these positive feelings online instead of having to interact in person, such as asking someone out on a date or giving a friend a compliment — that takes courage and work. So, technology makes it so easy for our kids to get one dopamine high after another. Drug Addiction vs. Technology Addiction. In the article, Eric Elliott described his concerns about teens’ increased focus on technology. As a father and school psychologist for almost 20 years, he is more concerned about technology than drug use. While his daughter will pass on smoking marijuana, she will take her phone to bed with her. He has seen a decrease in drug and alcohol use among the students he counsels.
The students are more likely to have a challenge with being addicted to video games than drugs, which is a very different trend from when he began his career. There is no doubt that technology addiction is a real concern. A 2012 survey of 3,461 North American girls ages 8 to 12 found that high levels of media use (e.g., talking on the phone, communicating online, watching videos, and listening to music) were related to negative social wellbeing, while face-to-face communication was associated with positive social and emotional outcomes. Many researchers have also found that narcissism is on the rise, while empathy is on the decline. They point to social media as a reason for that trend. And with any addiction, experts agree that the result can involve such negative consequences as depression, anxiety, poor academic performance, and damage to relationships. So, how common is technology addiction? According to Common Sense Media, clinically it is actually quite rare. It may seem like your son or daughter is addicted to their phone and other gadgets, but odds are it is simply normal teenager behavior. Teens check their devices often and feel pressure to respond quickly to messages. Plus, their friends tend to take priority over everything else going on in their lives — something that has been going on for generations. On the other hand, drugs kill. I would choose the tech addiction any day over the alternative.
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What Parents Can Do Besides cutting back on screen time, we can help shift our children’s attention to more positive ways to get a dopamine boost. All of these activities have been proven to make us happier and stimulate the production of dopamine and other feel-good chemicals in our brain. • SPORTS AND EXERCISE: Encourage your child to participate in sports, go on family bike rides or runs, or take them with you to the gym. • VOLUNTEER WORK: Our brain chemistry changes when we do something kind for another person. Get involved in community service projects as a family, or simply help a friend or neighbor in need. • AFFECTION: Research indicates the many positive effects of something as simple as a hug. Bringing more affection into your family’s day can help. • FOCUS ON A PASSION: Expose your children to inspiring hands-on activities like art, music, dance, writing, science and nature. When our children either discover something incredible that gives them a sense of awe or they create something from nothing, they get a happiness boost. • PLAY BOARD GAMES: If your kids are getting a boost of dopamine from their video games, set aside a tech break to play some “old-fashioned” board games. • LAUGHTER: One of the best ways to distract your kids from their gadgets is to get them giggling. There are many creative ways to bring comedy and humor into your home, from joke books to silly games to family contests and talent shows. Have fun with it!
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MUSEUMS & EXHIBITS Story Time Hour
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 1
Children ages 8 and under can build literacy skills and engage in art activities in a story hour celebrating Black History Month. Free. Noon-1pm, THE FRANK, 601 City Center Way, 954-392-9420 www.thefrankgallery.org
Artfull Saturday
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 8
Experience art together as you make your own African-American Painting in this monthly family workshop. $5/person. 3pm, CORAL SPRINGS MUSEUM OF ART, 2855 Coral Springs Dr., Coral Springs, 954-340-5000 www.coralspringsmuseum.org
YAA Love Factory SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 8
Explore how famous artists have created art to share their love with the world, then make your own keepsakes to take home. Included with admission of $12/Broward resident. 10am-6pm, YOUNG AT ART MUSEUM, 751 SW 121 Ave., Davie, 954-424-0085 www.youngatartmuseum.org
Monster Jam
IT’S SHOWTIME! The Diary of Anne Frank
Beauty and the Beast
The Olney Theatre Center’s National Players touring production presents the story of 13-year-old Anne Frank who goes into hiding from the Nazis. $45-$49. 8pm, AVENTURA ARTS & CULTURAL CENTER, 3385 NE 188 St., Aventura, www.aventuracenter.org
The classic love story about a bookish princess and beastly prince is told through a musical adaption. Showtimes vary. LAUDERHILL PERFORMING ARTS CENTER, 3800 NW 11 Place, Lauderhill, www.lpacfl.com
THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 6
Blippi Live!
FEBRUARY 20-MARCH 8
Monster Jam
SATURDAY-SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 22-23
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 8
Sing and dance along as the lovable character Blippi is brought to the theater stage in this interactive show geared toward children ages 2-7. 2pm, BROWARD CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS, 201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale, 954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org
Mutts Gone Nuts
Monster truck mayhem includes breathtaking stunts and the awesome power of the world’s most popular Monster Jam trucks. Tickets start at $15. Saturday 7pm, Sunday 3pm. MARLINS PARK, 501 Marlins Way, Miami, www.monsterjam.com
Africa Umoja: Spirit of Togetherness FEBRUARY 25-MARCH 8
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 15
Canines and comedy collide as amazing fourlegged performers unleash boundless talent. $35. 1pm & 3:30pm, AVENTURA ARTS & CULTURAL CENTER, 3385 NE 188 St., Aventura, www.aventuracenter.org
Unir
A two-hour explosion of song and dance celebrating South Africa. $50-$100. Showtimes vary. MIRAMAR CULTURAL CENTER, 2400 Civic Center Place, www.miramarculturalcenter.org
Miami City Ballet: Program Three
Ladybug Release
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 15
Stop by the zoo and watch as thousands of ladybugs are released. Activities include a ladybug costume contest at noon. 9am-2pm, PALM BEACH ZOO, 1301 Summit Blvd., West Palm Beach, 561-547-9453 www.palmbeachzoo.org
S.T.E.A.M. Rockets
FRIDAY-SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 28-29
Design your own rocket using markers, crayons and straws and then launch them using your breath. Friday 10am-5pm, Saturday 10am-2pm, YOUNG AT ART MUSEUM, 751 SW 121 Ave., Davie, 954-424-0085 www.youngatartmuseum.org
Night at the Museum FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 28
Families can enjoy extended hours of museum exploration, shows, entertainment, exhibits and more, the last Friday of every month. February’s theme is Pow! Kablam! Smash! $14.95/adult, $10.95/child.6-9pm, SOUTH FLORIDA SCIENCE CENTER, 4801 Dreher Trail North, West Palm Beach, 561-832-1988 www.sfsciencecenter.org
Expedition: Dinosaur! THROUGH MAY 25
The Miami Dolphins Cheerleaders showcase their dance talents with a high-energy, family-friendly performance. $35-$85. 7:30pm, BROWARD
Talented dancers from Miami City Ballet present a trio of ballets: Firebird, Nine Sinatra Songs, and Rodeo: Four Dance Episodes. $30-$110. Saturday 7:30pm, Sunday 2pm, BROWARD
Take a trip back to a time when dinosaurs roamed the land through interactive experiences such as a digital sandbox, paleontologist camp and an interactive robot, set amongst life-sized animatronic dinosaurs.
CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS,
CENTER FOR THE PERFORMING ARTS,
MUSEUM OF DISCOVERY AND SCIENCE,
201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale, 954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org
201 SW Fifth Ave., Fort Lauderdale, 954-462-0222 www.browardcenter.org
401 SW Second St., Fort Lauderdale, 954-467-6637 www.mods.org
SATURDAY-SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 29-MARCH 1
THURSDAY, FEBRUARY 20
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FAIRS, FESTIVALS & SPECIAL EVENTS Seminole Tribal Fair & PowWow FRIDAY-SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 7-9
A weekend-long celebration of Native American arts and culture with dances, music, alligator shows and more. SEMINOLE HARD ROCK HOTEL & CASINO, One Seminole Way, Hollywood, www.semtribefairandpowwow.com
Florida Renaissance Festival WEEKENDS, FEBRUARY 8-MARCH 22
Travel back in time in this village filled with sword fighters, minstrels, magicians, mud-beggars and more. $27.50/adult, $11.50/child. 10am until sunset, QUIET WATERS PARK, 401 S. Powerline Rd., Deerfield Beach, www.ren-fest.com
ParksFest Family Music Day SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 9
Introduce your children to the art of music through live musical performances by the Florida Youth Orchestra, Nestor Torres, Broward County Public School students and more. $10/person, free/12 and under. Noon-5pm, PLANTATION HERITAGE PARK, 1100 S. Fig Tree Lane, Plantation, www.browardparksfoundation.org
Plant-Based Festival SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 9
More than 60 vendors will showcase the latest plant-based food and drink during this festival that features presentations, music, contests for kids and
more. The first 500 attendees receive stainless-steel reusable straws. Free. 11:30am-4pm, GULFSTREAM PARK VILLAGE, 901 S. Federal Hwy., Hallandale Beach, 954-454-7000 www.gulfstreampark.com
a street festival and parade spotlighting the community’s traditions. Free. 9am-7pm, ALONG SISTRUNK BOULEVARD, from NW Ninth to NW 12th avenues, Fort Lauderdale, 754-779-4376 www.sistrunkfestival.org
Deerfield Beach Pioneer Days
Polynesian Cultural Festival
FRIDAY-SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 14-16
A city celebration featuring arts, crafts, live entertainment and a fireworks display on Saturday night. Free. Friday, 5-10pm; Saturday 10am-10pm; Sunday 10am-6pm. MAIN BEACH PARKING LOT, SE Second Street and S. Ocean Way, Deerfield Beach, 954-480-4429 www.deerfield-beach.com
SATURDAY-SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 22-23
A celebration of island culture with an authentic Polynesian show, island music, hula dancers, ukulele exhibition, arts and crafts, food, a kids’ corner and more. $10/adult, free/children under 12. Noon-7pm, JACO PASTORIUS PARK, 4000 N. Dixie Hwy., Oakland Park, 954-938-9010 www.polynesiancultureassociation.com
International Festival SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 22
Orange Blossom Festival, Parade & Rodeo
Experience food, crafts and entertainment from around the world during this annual event. All ages. 1-3pm, WEST REGIONAL LIBRARY, 8601 W. Broward Blvd., Plantation, 954-765-1585
SATURDAY-SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 29-MARCH 1
Celebrate Davie’s agricultural roots with a parade, old-fashioned fun and professional rodeo. DAVIE TOWN HALL, 6591 Orange Dr., and Davie Arena at Bergeron Rodeo Grounds, 4271 Davie Rd., Davie, www.davie-fl.gov or www.davieprorodeo.com
One Tamarac
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 22
Bring the family for food, fun, cultural exhibits, live performances and a nighttime fireworks display. 4-8pm, TAMARAC SPORTS COMPLEX, 9901 NW 77 St., Tamarac, www.tamarac.org
Butterfly Festival
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 29
Festival features children’s rides, games, entertainment, business expo, a fireworks display and more. Free. 1-8:30pm, SABAL PINES PARK, 5005 NW 39 Ave., Coconut Creek, www.coconutcreek.net
Sistrunk Festival
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 22
Celebrate Broward’s rich cultural heritage with
COMMUNITY ACTIVITIES Woofstock
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 1
A special day for dogs and dog lovers featuring entertainment, demonstrations, vendors, rescue groups and more. Free. 10am-2pm, SAWGRASS SANCTUARY PARK,
237 N. New River Circle, Sunrise, www.sunrisefl.gov
Puppet Show
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 1
Have some old-fashioned fun with the little ones watching a fun-filled puppet show. 3-4pm, WESTON COMMUNITY CENTER, 20200 Saddle Club Rd., Weston, 954-389-4321 www.westonfl.org
Family Science
MONDAY, FEBRUARY 3
Participate as a family in projects, experiments and games related to science. $25/resident, $30/non-resident. 5:30-6:30pm, COCONUT CREEK COMMUNITY CENTER, 1100 Lyons Rd.,
Coconut Creek, www.coconutcreek.net
Tunes ‘N Trucks FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 7
Grab dinner from the food trucks, then kick back on your blankets or lawn chairs to enjoy this monthly concert series. Food trucks begin serving at 6pm, music starts at 7pm.
SUNRISE CIVIC CENTER, 10610 W.
music under the stars. 7:30-9:30pm,
Oakland Park Blvd., Sunrise, 954-747-4600 www.sunrisefl.gov
MICKEL PARK CONCERT PAVILION,
First Friday Jams FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 7
Music students are invited to bring their instruments and join the pros of the Gold Coast Jazz Society for an old-fashioned jam session. Free to participants and spectators. 7:30-9:30pm. ARTSERVE, 1350 E. Sunrise Blvd., Fort Lauderdale, 954-524-0805 www.goldcoastjazz.org
Positively Africa
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 8
Sing and dance along with Positively Africa, an African fusion band that shares songs, dances and stories from the Luo and Zigua tribes of Africa. All ages. 4-5pm, NSU ALVIN SHERMAN LIBRARY, 3100 Ray Ferrero, Jr. Blvd., Davie, 954-262-4600
321 Dance
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 15
Individuals of all ages with Down Syndrome are invited to move and groove at a fun-filled dance party. $5/donation. 3-6pm, CAFÉ IGUANA, 8358 Pines Blvd., Pembroke Pines, www.321dancefl.com
LIVE @ Mickel
FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 21
Bring lawn chairs or a blanket to kick back with an evening of live
2675 NW Seventh Ave., Wilton Manors, www.wiltonmanors.com
Family Hayride and Campfire
FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 21
Enjoy a hayride around the park, and a marshmallow roast around a campfire to make s’mores. Advance tickets required. $3.50/person. 6:30-9pm, EASTERLIN PARK, 1000 NW 38 St., Oakland Park, 954-357-5190 www.broward.org/parks
Camping in the Park FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 21
Kids can learn how to pitch a tent, listen to camp stories and participate in a scavenger hunt during this camping-themed event. All supplies included. Ages 5-12, with an adult. $10/resident, $15/non-resident. 6:30-8pm, WINDMILL PARK, 700 Lyons Rd., Coconut Creek, 954-545-6670 www.coconutcreek.net
Moonlight Movie in the Park
SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 22
Tour de Broward SUNDAY, FEBRUARY 23
A day full of fun including a family walk, run, bike rally and children’s play area to raise money for Joe DiMaggio Children’s Hospital. Registration fees vary depending on event and date of registration. MIRAMAR REGIONAL PARK,
16801 Miramar Parkway, Miramar, www.tourdebroward.com
Storywalk in the Pines SATURDAY, FEBRUARY 29
Explore the outdoors while enjoying a self-guided literacy journey of games, arts and crafts and activities. The first 200 families receive a free book.10am-noon, CHARLES F. DODGE CITY CENTER PLAZA,
601 City Center Way, Pembroke Pines, www.thefrankgallery.org
WANT MORE FUN? For additional local events, check our online calendar at www.browardfamilylife.com
Watch a screening of Spider-Man Far From Home, under the stars. Free. 7:30pm, WESTON REGIONAL PARK, 20200 Saddle Club Rd., Weston, 954-389-4321 www.westonfl.org
Every effort has been made to provide accurate information. Changes and cancellations do occur. Please double check the details before setting out on your adventure.
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Birth Day Gift IT COMES WITH A SURPRISE… AND ENDS WITH A SMILE BY KARA MARTINEZ BACHMAN
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can’t believe that almost two decades have passed since my water broke. It was my first child. I’d had no idea what to expect. It happened at around 5 a.m. My husband and I were living in a small rural town, where the only hospital was a little old country-style facility that didn’t have a labor and delivery ward to speak of. I’d made the decision to deliver at a bigger hospital 40 minutes away. As it is with most first-time expectant moms, I’d imagined the “big day” as a smooth, ideal affair. It didn’t turn out that way. Making the drive with my “water” already broken was the first thing that panned out differently from the idyllic fantasy. It was all so hectic. It was happening a week early! The labor pains were coming hard and heavy, undulating waves of contractions that already seemed a little too painful so early in the process. Since I had never given birth, I didn’t yet have the hindsight to know what I now know as a mother of two: It was all normal. It is normal that giving birth is no walk in the park. There was no need to panic. Before heading out, we stopped at a gas station to fill up the tank and let my husband get a cup of coffee. I was worried about the stop. And he seemed to be… lollygagging! I nagged at him. Heck, I yelled at him. Time was being wasted! What if I delivered in a car, the way it sometimes happens to fictional moms on TV? “We’re having a baby! We’re having a baby!” I later learned he’d told the long-time gas station attendant, with whom he’d often chatted when getting gas. She peered out the window and smiled, waving at me with excitement while I sat worried and anxious in the car, my baby boy gone completely still. For the attendant, it seemed a big deal. A new life coming into the world is always a big deal, and people love somehow being a part of it, even if just waving it on through a window with the exuberant hope that new life can inspire. The labor was fairly long; my son was born at 7:43 that evening. That’s a lot of contractions. A lot of waiting. A lot of annoyance. A lot of worry. A lot of pain. It was also all completely worth it. I say that to myself again and again throughout the years. I said it as my son first rode a bicycle, and when he learned
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to play guitar, so I could enjoy his music. I especially said it last year, when he graduated from high school. There were other issues with the birth. A failed epidural. A touch of jaundice in the baby. No pregnancy is without issues. All sorts of problems will crop up, bursting the bubble of what you imagine parenting to be. My son is in college now and these problems still crop up. They always will. Parenting is forever. A fun note about that momentous birth day is that about a decade later, my son and his father returned to that tiny town where we’d lived when my son was born. They went into the gas station, and the very same attendant was still working there. She didn’t recognize them after so many years, but he reminded her that she’d been a memorable part of that special day, and she suddenly remembered. She smiled big. That’s what the hope and promise of a baby’s birth always brings: big smiles, even many years later. Kara Martinez Bachman is an author, journalist and editor of magazines, newspapers and books. Among her favorite writing topics is… any guesses?… her two children.
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