You are Not Your Past

If making peace with the past was easy, we’d all have vibrant health and loving and nurturing relationships. But letting go can be difficult, even though the pain and tumult of prior experiences is no longer in our best interests.

But attaching to the past deprives you of your true potential Staying stuck gives your power away to those people and events that harmed you and allows them to define you. Your past, in essence, becomes your identity, and it’s awfully hard to let go of your identity. Who are you if you’re not your perceived identity???

It’s time to make peace with the past so that you can move forward in your life. It’s time to let go of that which no longer serves you and make space for that which does.

The following are some of the ways that have helped me and my clients make peace with the past

Feel Your Feelings

Making peace with the past has nothing to do with sweeping your memories and feelings under the carpet Quite the opposite actually Making peace means embracing the past fully and revisiting those old wounds and traumas

Grieving our trauma and hurt is necessary to move on from it We must treat ourselves gently as we face the pain and fear we experienced in our past Feel your anger and sadness, let the tears flow Trapped emotions are deadly Feeling your feelings allows them to become unstuck and that negative energy can flow right out of you

I encourage you to find time during your week to spend alone Sit in a quiet space and just be present Don’t force yourself to remember or feel things They are right there ready to come out Your job is to simply commit to making the time and space for healing Show up and be brave, and the emotions will eventually flow

You may want to have a journal handy so you can write down any thoughts or revelations you have during this experience