CL Parent Workshop - Bullying: Recognizing the Signs

We are all either bullies, bullied, or bystanders. â&#x20AC;&#x201C; Dr. Richard Gross, American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychology

Bullying: Recognizing the Signs

Parent Packet

Bullying occurs when… “a person of lesser power or strength is exposed, repeatedly and over time, to negative actions on the part of one or more other persons of greater power or strength. Negative action is when a person intentionally inflicts injury or discomfort upon another person, through physical contact, through words or in other ways…bullying can be both overt and covert.” – Dan Olweus, Ph.D.

Cyber-bullying is bullying that occurs through email, instant messaging, chat room exchanges, website posts, or digital messages or images.

Relational Bullying is “the use of social networks, either in the ‘real world’ or online, to be hurtful to someone by spreading gossip, encouraging exclusion, and using other covert forms of personal attack.”

Characteristics of Perpetrators and Targets of Bullying Place a check in the appropriate column or in-between columns if you believe the characteristic is representative of both the perpetrator and the target of bullying. Characteristic May carry a weapon Displays little emotion Is quick to blame others Has a small or no network of friends Is chosen last by peers for games, etc. Is quick tempered

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Has trouble following rules Is clumsy Is often sick Is arrogant Appears to have low self-esteem Teases other kids May lack humor Is often anxious Appears to lack compassion or empathy

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Perpetrator Target

Perpetrators Need Bystanders! Definition of collusion: A spoken or unspoken agreement between two or more parties for the purpose of committing a fraudulent, illegal, deceitful, or aggressive act.

Teaching Our Kids… – I will treat others with empathy. – I will include kids who may be left out. – I will not be a follower, supporter, or onlooker. – I will immediately tell an adult when I witness bullying.

How will you deal with the 4 Ts? Teasing: ��

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5 Level Empathy Scale Directions: Read the description for each empathy level (Level 1 showing the least empathy and Level 5 showing the most empathy). Together with your partner, decide on a parent response to the statement made by James that would reflect each level of empathy. Write your responses in the space provided. James: Robert is always tripping me when I walk by him. I’ve never done anything to him. Level 1 – response does not attend to the person or detracts from what was said Parent Response: ��

Level 4 – response attends to the person and expresses a level of emotion that is deeper than what was said

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Level 2 – response attends to the person, but lessens the noticeable emotion from what was said Parent Response: ��

Level 5 – response attends to the person and adds significantly to the emotions and meaning of what was said

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Level 3 – response attends to the person and mimics the emotion and meaning of what was said

]Adapted fron Carkhuff’s Empathetic Understanding Scale (1967)

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Want more information? The following website provides a wealth of information for parents: http://www.kidpower.org

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Empathy means you… – Step into another person’s shoes

– Let go of your personal opinions

– Understand the other person’s situation, as if it is happening to you Empathy does not necessarily mean that you agree with the other person.

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