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Volume 3 Number 21

January 28, 1994

Diocesan Administrator Calls Abortion 'Horrendous Holocaust' By CAROL

HAZARD

Associate Editor

CHARLOTTE

Msgr. John

J.

for the life

a special

Mass Offered

for an

End

main

the

new

year,

many

grandparents. The youngest among us is

Shawn Crosby from

9-year-old

deem it the better part of to ask who is the oldest.

Kernersville.

wisdom

not

I

Throughout the morning Marty Ambrose and his wife, Betty, distribute coffee and breakfast rolls. Ambrose is our bus captain, a member of St. Lawrence Knights of Columbus that sponsored our journey. He has already done an incredible amount of work putting the trip together. After

Ambrose

makes announcements regarding our

mistake."

People can stop the killing of unborn children but it will take sacrifice, said Msgr. McSweeney. "It must be done by you and me ... No matter what seven judges or a thousand say, God's voice can not be stifled. The voice of Jesus Christ on earth will not remain

said.

all

these killings never has

ticularly

makes an impression,

on newcomers.

"I'll

ment. Following the homily, Father Sheridan, pastor of

St.

Ed

Gabriel, an-

tims of abortion?"

nounced the winner of the

Msgr. McSweeney asked Catholics to mourn the more than 29 million babies who have been killed by the horror

Schools Respect Life Contest. Jessica Renaghan, a fifth grader at St. Ann Catholic School, was presented with a Bible and plaque for her poem, "A Right

last

21 years.

To

first

Catholic

Life."

a parishioner and faith formation teacher at St.

John Church in Waynesville. "This

place

is

awesome."

In his homily, Cardinal

James

Hickey archbishop of Washington, commends all those who have attended the ,

Mass

despite the severe weather.

He

expresses the Church's opposition to national health care reform that includes

enormous, stern and muscu-

past the bus

lute

Fields.

fitting subject for

ment agencies in Washington these last two days, and we find that to be the case

press forward on problems that contribute to abortion, such as poverty, illiteracy, lack of values and unemployment or underemploy-

use a teenage word," says Ann Simmons,

an image of justice and abso-

windows and piles in the Someone mentions that snow has closed many businesses and govern-

McSweeney. Moreover,

par-

lar Christ;

Near Richmond, Va., snow swirls

voice." Continue to be heard, said Msgr.

have to

ceiling, an

me play cards

Despite pro-abortion forces, legis"beginning to listen to our

lators are

.

inevitably

the rosary.

gion, the teens in front of

silent."

for

and listen to tapes on shared headphones. Barbara Freedman, an Asheville storyteller, leads us during the day in saying

ing, sleeping, discussing politics or reli-

said slaves

Life at the Basilica of the National Shrine

taxpayer-funded abortion. He encourages all those present to continue their opposition to abortion and any attacks on human life. As Cardinal Hickey speaks, I find myself looking again and again at the mosaic of Christ on the

timetable, people pass the hours read-

were the prop"We must make our leaders and government realize that they have made another terrible it

erty of land owners, he said.

portant perhaps than keeping abortion

"We have come to celebrate life and

of the Immaculate Conception is packed Thursday evening with worshippers who have come to march and pray The shrine

The Supreme Court erred 1 00 years ago when

challenges confront us, none more im-

mankind witnessed the horrendous holocaust of innocent victims that goes on right now this very hour. Who mourns these innocent vic-

we are a mixed bag this day, heavy both on teenagers and white-haired

McSweeney.

the legal fiction of a right

day more perish."

of abortion in the

our age

"They created

children have lost their lives and every

"With

Mass

"playing God," said Msgr.

Msgr. McSweeney was the principal celebrant and homilist at the diocesanwide Mass concelebrated by retired Bishop Michael J. Begley and 14 priests from the Diocese of Charlotte.

the history of

the nation's capital, the Vigil

justices

legalized abortion in 1973 were

to abortion. Since then, millions of God's

couple as one. (See the special marriage supplment following Page 6 of

on our arrival, taking our supper at a Hot Shoppe in a deserted shopping mall. Despite bitter cold and icy streets in

our battle for the unborn."

on the issue of

silent or inactive"

Walter and Lynn Kreiling light a unity candle, symbolically joining the

Thursday, Jan. 20, and 38 of us from the Diocese of Charlotte roll through the cold Carolina countryside on a bus bound for the Annual March For Life in Washington D.C. In terms of

in

abortion, the diocesan administrator said.

lina."

It is

God has given us and hopeful

The seven Supreme Court

who

Abortion shows complete disregard for human life, Msgr. McSweeney said. "The 20th Century will go down in history as the century of the Holocaust. Life is very cheap." Consider the lives lost during two world wars, the millions of Jews killed by Hitler, the ethnic cleansing occurring in Bosnia and the murders "here in Charlotte, North Caro-

By JEFF MINICK

succeed

Abortion Jan. 23 at St. Gabriel Church. "No one who calls himself or herself a follower of Jesus Christ can re-

McSweeney

38 From Diocese On Pilgrimage To Washington March For Life

to

to

out of health care reform," Msgr.

JOANN KEANE

We should leave here grateful

nable sin" and urged parishioners to be a voice for abortion's innocent victims

"As we enter

Photo by

the death of innocent victims of

abortion.

at

this issue.)

mourn

McSweeney called abortion "an abomi-

power. Christ's judgment seems a meditation on this

evening before the march. Msgr. John

SeeMarch, Page 7

special

J.

Mass

McSweeney, diocesan End Abortion.

to

administrator, chats withTheresa Nagel following the

Photo by

CAROL HA


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January 28, 199

Week

News Of

Catholic Education

By DR. MICHAEL SKUBE The 20th annual Catholic Schools

Week

The Good

Celebrating

In

will be celebrated across our

diocese and

Ca

nation

•In the past four years, 1,054 stu-

dents have been added to the enroll-

the

1994.

ment of those schools. Here

activi-

figures for the four school years: 1989-

5,

With

are the

ranging

90, 4,560; 1990-91, 4,818; 1991-92,

from com-

4,873; 1992-93,5,159; 1993-94,5,614.

munity

projects, as-

Enrollment increased by 455 students from last year. There are 4,739 elementary students and 875 high school stu-

semblies,

dents.

school

• The student bodies are made up of 2,759 boys and 2,855 girls. There are 4,682 Catholic students and 932

ties

v

ser-

e

c

i

Masses,

14

Catholic

el-

ementary and two high schools look forward to this week-long opportunity to celebrate the

good news of Catholic

The

from other faiths. • Teaching in our schools are 18 sisters, 2 priests, 50 lay men ands 316 lay

education. 14-color logo for the

week

women. • The three

largest schools in the

features multi-cultural images of adults

diocese are All Saints in Charlotte with

and children

644

in a circle, visually united

support for Catholic education.

in their

The design

is

featured on buttons, T-

shirts, sweatshirts, posters

and large

banners.

The 1994 theme; "Support CathoSchools Your Choice for Education," will be accentuated on the Wednesday of that week which is called "National Appreciation Day for Catholic Schools." Our schools have distributed thousands of multi-colored buttons and will be asking supporters to wear them on this special day. Catholic Schools Week celebrates education that prepares students for a Christian life, as well as the high standards of excellence and the quality of the education

lic

available to

all

students in our Catholic

elementary and secondary schools.

These academic standards are especially important in North Carolina where only 60 percent of the public school elementary students score

at

or

above grade level on standardized tests and 40 percent are below grade level. Our students score 97 percent at or above grade level with only 3percent below grade level. I would like to share with you a few

'974 1994

f

Diocese Of Charlotte • We have 16 schools: 14 elementary and two high schools

Jan. 30-Feb.

^o/i c schools VMe*

students, Charlotte Catholic

High

School with 589 and St. Gabriel in Charlotte with 490. The three smallest are Immaculata in Hendersonville with 200; Asheville Catholic with 222; and St. Michael in Gastonia with 237. • Members of the Diocesan Board of Education are Jill Sullivan, president; Bob Stauss, vice president; Linda Kennedy, secretary and teachers' representative; George Repass, principals'

representative; Father

Moral Conscience

Of Catholic School Education

Thomas Walsh,

pastor representative; Nanci Case; Kathleen Duquette; Pam Fulbright;

Keith Hiller; John Monahan; and Everett Walker. • Catholic Schools save the taxpayers $28,777,364 annually in local and state monies. The per pupil public school expenditure for 1992-93 was $5,126. This figure multiplied by the 5,614 students in our schools is a $28 million savings not counting the additional schools which would have to be built at taxpayers' expense. Come celebrate what Catholic schools contribute in the life of a child, parents, parishioners,

and the commu-

nity at large during Catholic Schools

Week,

Jan. 31 through Feb. 5.

Dr. Skube

facts about Catholic schools in the

is

Diocesan Superinten-

dent of Schools.

By MIKE STREICH I

woman who

seeking to indoctrinate, but rather, ec

Winston-Salem from a

It is the kind education pragmatists loathe yet admj

recently spoke to a

had moved

to

my

state. "I sent

regretting the decision.

Threatens WASHINGTON Supreme Court's

All

(CNS)

Rights Protests The

ruling that abortion

may be charged

tion

Network were sued by

Organization for

Women

on behalf of

with break-

abortion clinics for allegedly violating

ing anti-racketeering laws threatens any

laws meant to control organized crime. claimed the groups were involved in a nationwide conspiracy to drive abor-

protesters

human

rights protesters, said a spokes-

woman

for the U.S. Catholic bishops.

"As

a result of the

decision in

can

Supreme Court's

NOW vs. Scheidler, actions

now be

threatened against even

peaceful pro-life protesters

human

rights protesters

...

— or any

at great

ex-

pense to these groups, even if they are judged not guilty in the end," said Helen Alvare, director of planning and information for the Secretariat for Pro-Life Activities for the U.S. Catholic Confer-

tion clinic out of business for their

own

Also named in the suit were Randall Terry and his clinic blockade group, Operation Rescue. The ruling sends the case back to lower courts to determine whether the anti-racketeering laws actually were vio-

financial gain.

During that same week, while checking out at the grocery store, a graduate,

home

for Christmas break

groceries to help

him

the technical statutory point that

RICO

ruled unanimously Jan.

24 that economic motive

is

not required

Racketeer Influenced and Corrupt Organizations Act, known as

to apply the

RICO. The decision came in a case in which >seph Scheidler and his Pro-Life Ac-

ment," Alvare said in a statement. At a Chicago press conference,

vowed to fight on. "Maybe some of us have to be convicted of saving lives to wake America up." Scheidler

"It

shows we've been

effective," he

See Clinics, Page 3

it, parental support and communicati on a regular basis and the aim of n allowing any student to s!

pay for college,

me and rushed up extending

his hand. "I

had to write as

into the cracks of obsc

many as four papers a week

my

first semester," he proudly. "But I couldn't have done it if you hadn't forced us to write papers in American

in

said

education

some

This

is

not

elitist,

as

rity.

not edu-

is

Yet the overriding d

cation seeking to

ference between the CatI

indoctrinate but,

lie

rather,

with

education cona

supplemented by extra curricular experiences ranging from athletics to debate.

The common denominator remains, however, a commitment to fostering

invite the students to focus

minds. As a class,

their

Our Lord

to free us

from

distractions and, in the course of study-

Above

all

make

there

tal

alternati

to educate through a broad spectru including virtue and values, then Cat! is

lie

education must be judged on

is

Century. At that time, theology v considered the "queen of sciences" £ presented the most rigorous educatio track, eclipsing even law and medici

Today we call

Moral conscience backbone of Catholic educati

ational pleasure.

That's

concerns; morality in our interacis not education

all i

us better citizens.

tions with others. This

"ethics," that forgot

our criticisms of media and culture society rampant with notions of s:

the awareness of

morality in environmen-

it

social consciousness underlying

the

morality; morality in our responsibilities as citizens;

outweigh what the

options can offer. If the goal of "schoo

the university systems of the Thirtee:

When I begin each class I teach with

ing history, to

tion far

commu-

age.

and

of them personal in nature. 1 the reasons to applaud Catholic edu<

and a sense of morality

which invites students to take responsibility and to be "uncool" in the face of the consumerism and hedonism of our

invite

many

basis of successes since the inception

individual spiritual dedication,

we

t

Catholic school educatit

able yet realistic goals and challenges,

their hearts

found

example of our own liv There are many reasc given by parents to avc

science.'

of ideas" which encompasses remark-

I

is

the core challenge; present Jesus through

quick to point out. In our school, the practice of education

nity discipline,

school and the "priv

prep" school

critics are

prayer,

"The Supreme Court decided only

after school help to all students needii

and bagging

recognized

lated.

contains no economic motive require-

ence.

The court

NOW

and be more inter-disciplinary. Beyond ci ative methodologies, Catholic educ tion focuses on people. This involv

children are in Catholic grade schools.

focuses upon an academic "marketplace

the National

Our principal challenges the staff utilize different teaching styles

Her younger

History."

Says Racketeering Ruling

cation with conscience.

son to public school," she lamented, and was still

northern

Catholic secondary

USCC

Backbone

Is

why

teachers dedicate time

talent; that's

why

students

emerge

;

v

a challenge to excel. Mike Streich teaches history Bishop McGuinness High School

Winston-Salem.


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The Catholic News

January 28, 1994

,

Vocation Update

One Man's

Trip

A

To Priesthood:

Series of Spiritual Turning Points CAROL HAZARD

By

to evolve.

Oth-

by Mother Teresa and her work there. "Mother Teresa is God's answer," says Williams. "She is

are shaped

by a

a sign of

the world, reaffirmed

Associate Editor

Some ers, like

people seem Ray Williams,

series of life-changing events.

God

operating in the

still

world."

Williams, 35, is a seminarian for the Diocese of Charlotte at St. Mary Seminary in Baltimore. His journey to the priesthood has been peppered with spiri-

The chasm of Calcutta was a bridge to WilGod. liams, as a result

tual turning points.

The

p e

was

first jolt

the death of his

of his exr

i

e n c e

began "go right with God." He began to there,

from cancer. Williams was 13 at the time. "It was a shattering experience," he recalls. But it was also "a time father

to

for a religious look at life." His father

lead a

and his family were Episcopalian. His mother was a Southern Baptist, "the real devout kind." Then there was college. Williams graduated from Bob Jones University, a conservative Protestant school in Greenville, S.C. "People can't imagine

conscious and

Msgr. Arthur Duncan

disciplined

diocesan administrator, and Chuck Wittenbauer, parish council chairman,

religious

of the

coming out of Bob Jones and becoming

much

a Catholic,

less a priest,"

Williams majored English,

was

he says. and

in history

Who's Who

RAY WILLIAMS

more

life.

H

(1),

pastor of Holy Angels in Mt. Airy, Msgr. John

new Duncan Center

at

J.

McSweeney,

at the

dedication

Holy Angels.

e

was to witness God's grace again in suffering, this time with his mother. Williams returned home

990 to take care of his mother who suffered from leukemia. She died a year ago.

to Asheville in early

New

Parish Center Honoring

1

Pastor Dedicated At Mt. Airy and friends gathered on Sunday, Jan. 2 for the dedication of the Duncan Center at Holy Angels Church. The 5,200square-foot center was named in honor of Msgr. Arthur Duncan, pastor of Holy

eight religious education classrooms,

went to Nepal, a country in the Himalayas sandwiched between India and Tibet. He taught English in a high school and English literature in a university, and learned to speak

Williams came home after a stint in Vienna, Austria, working with Soviet Jews and Romanian and Bengalese refugees. He had been forced to leave Nepal during a 1989 revolution. Unable to get his visa renewed, he went to Vienna. While there, he found a mentor in an Anglican priest and began to consider becoming a priest for the Anglican

Angels.

fluent Nepalese.

Church.

chairman, welcomed guests and John

Eve Midnight Mass. Ground for the center was broken June 27, 1993. The center is located

listed in

for

college students for his activities and grades, graduated with honors and

was

active in an Episcopal group.

From

college, he

During

his eight years in Nepal, the

soul-searching Episcopalian met Jesuit priests

who

ignited a spark for Catholi-

cism.

It

earnestly faith.

"Everywhere

went there were

was then

that

nurse his mother.

began

He joined

to

It

he came home to was then that he

look

at the

Catholic

an inquiry class

at St.

Catholic churches," says Williams. "I

Eugene Church, Asheville, and was received into the Church in September

began

1990. His twin sister

to feel the

beautiful as

it

I

Anglican Church

is

— lacked

as

universal

Drawn to the Anglo-Catholic branch of the Anglican Church, he moved even closer to the Catholic Church. A near marriage in Asia to an English woman again led Williams to rethink his life. "Perhaps God is calling me to a life I don't understand," he appeal."

recalls thinking at the time.

A

visit to

Calcutta intensified his

Repulsed by Calcutta's devastating poverty, Williams became angry with God for allowing such misery. A friar informed him that God does not take credit for Calcutta. People do. "Calcutta

is

the result of sins of human-

of our refusal to go God's way,"Williams says. Calcutta became for Williams a powerful symbol of God's presence in ity,

thinking about

converting as well, although her jour-

ney has been separate from older sister

is

his.

at

it

again.

Father Jim Solari,

of

St.

Eugene

who was

at the time,

St.

Mary Seminary

last

parish council

Quinn, building committee chairman, made the presentation to Msgr. Duncan. The ceremony was performed by Msgr. John J. McSweeney, diocesan administer, who was assisted by Msgr.

Duncan.

The

which was designed by Dennis Altic, provides for a

center,

architect

Clinics (From Page

He started at

September.

said. "If

we

hadn't been effective

we

wouldn't have had this sledgehammer thrown at us, this draconian measure to

on the right course," says Williams. "I am very happy and excited about the priesthood. Seminary is rougher than I thought it would be. But even with that, I am more excited

Clark Forsythe, Scheidler's attorney from the pro-life law firm Americans United for Life, said he anticipated a "costly abuse of RICO in the courts throughout the country that will threaten all activists that oppose various busi-

"I definitely feel

about the priesthood than

I

fellowship hall that seats 250 people, kitchen facilities and a church office.

The center

will also be used for special

religious services.

It

accommodated 1 66

parishioners and friends at a Christmas

behind the church at the corner of North Main and Byerly streets. Among those attending were Mayor Emily Taylor, Commissioner John Browne, Dr: and Mrs. Wilfred Lyerly, Rev. Edward Scott, Jack George, Jimmy Poore and Tracy Harris representing the general contractor, John S. Clark Co.

2)

try to stop us."

start

instead of a pre-theologian.

Chuck Wittenbauer,

pastor

suggested

philosophy classes. That way if he decided to go to seminary he could go as a first year theologian

— Parishioners, clergy

His

Presbyterian.

Williams carried his attraction to the priesthood to the Catholic Church. After one year as a Catholic, he looked

Williams

spiritual guest.

is

MT. AIRY

was when

I

on the movement to fight abortion, but will not stop it, he said. A spokesman for another group that supported Scheidler said the news from the decision was what the court did not must still prove that decide. Scheidler and the other activists committed a crime, said Steven T. McFarland, director for the Center for Law and Religious Freedom of the Chris-

NOW

tian Legal Society.

The

nesses."

Forsythe said Americans United had already absorbed about $1 million in

expenses during the eight years the case has been working its way through the courts. Such expenses put "a big chill"

whether

court also declined to consider First

Amendment

"The Supreme Court's ruling on that issue could change the whole ballgame," McFarland said.

started."

Remember Give prayerful thought to considering a vocation

His Will In Yours.

"A valid Will stands as a continuing expression of our concern for loved ones, as well as an ongoing commit-

ment to the Church and the community in which we live'.' Msgr. John

J.

McSweeney

to the priesthood ou can express your commitment to your Church by making a bequest to the Diocese of Charlotte. Simply have the following statement included in your Will:

in the Diocese of Charlotte.

Father Frank O'Rourke, Vocation Director 1621 Dilworth Rd. East Charlotte, N.C. 28203 (704) 334-2283

Charlotte the

sum of $

the residue of my

and

Roman

Catholic Diocese of ( or percent of estate) for its religious, educational

"I leave to the

Contact

charitable works.

rights over-

rule the claim of RICO violations.

"

For more information on how to make a Will that works, contact Jim Kelley, Director of Development, Diocese of Charlotte, 1524 East Morehead St., Charlotte, NC 28207, (704) 331-1709 or 377-6871.


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Pro-Life Corner

"May A

:V

3

Christians be agents of good works and truth, the defenders of the rights of the human person, from the first

m<

instants of his existence."

Pope Paul VI

Editorial Catholic Schools

Week

The Respect Life Office

community awareness of and involvement

build

Diocese of Charlotte

(704) 331-1720

Week was established in 1974 to

Catholic schools

Catholic schools. In recent years,

campaign

rated into a year-round

in

Pope Says Work For

has been incorpo-

it

to

showcase the

Unity

Sign Of Hope

Is

quality education provided in the nation' s 8,500 Catholic

elementary and secondary schools. The week, co-sponsored by the National Catholic

Educatio Association and the United States Catholic Conference, also has served to underscore the importance of U.S. education in general. Says St. Joseph Sister Catherine McNamee, NCEA president, "We all are responsible for the future of this country. And that future will be determined by how well we educate our

VATICAN CITY

Speaking the Jan.

1

their part for that future.

Catholic school students consistently outscore their public school counterparts in national achievement

8-25

will

become

life," the pope said. Pope John Paul's Jan. 19 audience talk as well as addresses by other Vatican officials during the week

highlighted progress

greater academic achevement gains between the

the

see

fail to

why

of achievement,

this record

we

still

the administration's plan to provide

who wish to send their children to non-public schools does not allow them to choose Catholic schools.

public funds for parents

would not seem

It

make sense

to

option of choosing what

to eliminate the

arguably the nation's best

is

alternative to public school education.

Earthquake Relief

A story in this

issue gives

some

idea of the needs

from last week's California earthquake. The no doubt that the needs are great. Catholics across the country are being asked to help their distressed brothers and sisters in the stricken resulting

story leaves

area.

which contributions may be sent. We hope you will be generous and remember the assistance from elsewhere which people in the Carolinas received after Hurricane Hugo. story includes addresses to

is

made

in the

engaged

many

dialogues the

especially those with

in,

responsibility for the effect of television

Orthodox and with Lutherans. "Called to be One in Heart and Mind" was the theme for the 1994 week. The theme was proposed by an ecumenical group in Ireland and approved by the Vatican and the World Council of Churches. The pope said it was significant that the theme was proposed by Catholics and Protestants in Ireland because it emphasizes the fact that "the urgency of reconciliation and peace asserts itself with greater force in situations of tension and bloody confronta-

families,

tions."

Family: Guidelines for

That urgency, he said, is why he has asked Catholics throughout the world to fast Jan. 21 and pray Jan. 23 "for a just and lasting peace in the Balkans." Along with prayers, peace in the Balkans will require the international community "to have the courage to fully assume its obligation" to ensure respect for human rights, he said. "A universal conversion to peace is necessary," he said. "For this, we must fast and pray."

"May

the Lord, for

whom

nothing

is

impossible,

enlighten the minds of all with his spirit and lead to find the

The

end of the world.

at the

of Christ to be realized in daily

show

Considering

only

real

a solid and concrete vocation of the disciples

Catholic Church

graduates.

not a Utopian dream or an ideal that

is

In all subjects, Catholic high school students

10th and 12th grades than do public school students.

The Pope Speaks

Week of Prayer for Christian Unity, the

tests.

The graduation rate for Catholic school students is 95 percent compared to 66 percent for public school students. And 83 percent of those graduates will go on to college compared to 52 percent of public high school

weekly general audience during

at his

pope said unity "It is

There's no question that the Catholic schools are

POPE JOHN PAUL II

said.

children."

more than doing

Work toward Chrishope for a world torn by misunderstanding, conflict and war, Pope John Paul II (CNS)

tian unity is a sign of

ways of

them and

reconciliation, brotherhood

peace," he prayed.

Pope John Paul II said. "Forming children's viewing

mean simply

times

pope said Day.

"Parents

some-

message for World Communication

who make

regular, prolonged use of

baby

sitter

surrender

their role as the primary educators of their children,"

he

message released Jan. 24 at the Vatican. The theme of the May 15 observance is "Television and the said in the

To make

Good Viewing."

the positive potential of television a

reality requires the cooperation of parents, television

industry workers, public authorities and Church per-

who work with the media, the pope said. He encouraged parents to inform themselves about

sonnel

the content of programs in advance, to discuss programs and the moral values presented in them with their children and to regulate the amount of time

children spend in front of the

set.

While there are programs of value as entertainment, information or culture, he said, sometimes family life

TV

requires the

to

be off

called for not only

is

available

habits will

their

turning off the television set," the

television as a kind of electronic

screen

Pope Says Parents Responsible For Effect Of TV On Families VATICAN CITY (CNS) Parents bear the main

in his

on

is

when

The blank programming

limits.

the

unsuitable, but "because there are better

things to do, because consideration for other family

members

requires

it,

or because indiscriminate televi-

sion viewing can be harmful," he said.

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The Catholic News

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Who A

Catholic

who

Christ

is

a follower of Jesus

is

united in faith with the

The teachings of Jesus

down and

written

Christ were

formally authenti-

whole of Christian theology.

is

the

Let

me

explain.

cated by the earliest Church authorities,

There was a Catholic belief system

Peter and the Apostles. These beliefs

before the Bible was written, otherwise

St.

became

the doctrinal statements found

Apostles' Creed which dates back

in the

end of the

to the

first

century.

The Nicean Creed, which we recite every Sunday, was first promulgated in 325 A.D. It presented a more refined statement of Catholic beliefs. Theologi-

it

ment had to be approved by an early pope before they were canonized as the authentic texts of Scripture.

Jesus Christ gave His authority to the Apostles and their spiritual descen-

community

external structure.

have received authoritative

approval.

A

Catholic

is

one

who

accepts the

in Jerusalem.

Because a Catholic belongs

One Candle

never could have been written in the place. The texts of the new Testa-

consensus of beliefs taught by the great assembly of both the Eastern and the Western Churches standing in historical continuity with the formative Christian

that

liefs

merely be-

Light

first

popes and bishops of the world. Consequently, a Catholic believes not only in the mystical dimension of the Church, the Eucharist, the abiding Holy Spirit, the mysterious workings of grace, etc., but also in the need for an organizational structure. No organization can survive without some

cal doctrines, therefore, are

FATHER JOHN CATOIR

would not believe Nor would he or she

believe that Biblical Theology

Church.

A Catholic?

Is

ciple a true Catholic in reincarnation.

& Hi

dants, the

A

to this

part of the Eucharistic

which

is

Community,

really an international

Individualism has a very limited

nity.

place in Catholic thinking; private devottons that

selves to

we

commu-

feel

we

it

is

in

our

present our-

God as an individual. Because very much alone at times, a

Catholic sees the Church as a refuge of

God

specific tradition, he or she cannot ac-

privately, but also publicly, in

cept the teaching of other traditions

munion with

which are contrary or contradictory to Church teachings. For instance, on prin-

the idea that religion

others.

com-

A

Catholic resists

is

purely a matter

me and God." Every Catholic

A

salvation

come through

and the workings of the Holy Spirit. A Catholic turns to the Sacraments to be in touch with Jesus all through the pilgrimage to heaven.

a Child of

is

God, one

A

Catholic

looks to Jesus as the perfect model of a life

lived in the Spirit. In Jesus, Catho-

one with the saints in heaven, supreme hope is to join the saints one day and to be happy with God lics are

and

their

forever. (

Jesus Christ

Catholic

called to be another Christ.

sinners, a port in the storm of life.

A Catholic understands that life and

Catholic not only worships

"between

is

For a free copy of the Christopher

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The Danger Of Becoming Matter-Of-Fact Are we growing accustomed

to ac-

Our times

are

pounding

will not lose their distinctive

marks of

at

us and

conditioning us to expect a wide range

and stripped down abandoned automobiles.

We

of unacceptable occurrences. For ex-

expect to hear that millions of

ample, we'd probably be surprised if we didn't read that senseless drug-related

dollars that should

have been spent on

education, fighting

AIDS

somehow

homicides involving young people are

jobs has

increasing.

peared.

It is almost conceded that a new homicide record will be set every year in most large cities.

among high

We nonchalantly allow ourselves to

We

corporate businesses and the professions.

And

—

the darker recesses of our conscious-

beaming down

search of criminals on the run.

in

When we

ing

the

some of

list

these "expectations" into

ness.

Another way we cope

is

by becom-

ing matter-of-fact, just factoring every-

somehow

thing in

so that

it

doesn't

logian and anthropologist who witnessed

often this

the role a matter-of-fact mentality played

bility.

in creating

Nazi Germany and the Holo-

caust.

He called it the disease of our times, and described it as an "unwillingness to display emotions of any kind, indeed, even to harbor them. It is a cooling of the heart, an indifference to the people and

watch television, it is routine to see half a dozen people blown away or killed in other hideous ways. We expect it. We've also grown accustomed to seeing homeless people at a subway entrance or in front of a prominent building or in the makeshift "housing" they set up over steaming urban grates in

disturb us.

things of existence."

Becoming matter-of-fact is a common phenomenon spawned by modern

of-fact

cold weather.

was arrived

We presume also that urban ghettos

living,

which

is

no longer simple or But to become mat-

easily controllable.

ter-of-fact is to contract a debilitating

disease.

This observation is not my own, but at decades ago by Father

Romano

Guardini, a well-known theo-

Location Of Q. I have a strong devotion to the holy Eucharist, and I cannot understand why the tabernacle has been relegated to a side chapel in some of the new churches. This has been done even

some older churches. Can you

in

explain

why

this

should possibly be?

gest, of these is the

The introduction to the Roman Ritual

A.

admire your reverence for the

so

many

As

in

it

good

is

why something

is

things today, however,

to try to learn

happening before you reject it. Several major Catholic documents on the liturgy urge the reservation of the Blessed Sacrament in a chapel separate from the area where Mass is celebrated. The most available, if not the stron-

"It is

highly recommended,"

it

Worse, it fosters self-denial and dulls our cutting edge, the desire to change the world for the better. For that we'll

need vigor and energy, and the drive to a healthy family and

grow together as nation. What will

it

take for us to learn

homeless people should be well provided for? The prophets were often people who saw what we see, but didn't become matter-of-fact. Like us, they became to expect that

frustrated, but their frustration reflected

a burning desire to restore order.

And

them into action. Copyright Š 1 994 by Catholic News

that propelled

Service

FATHER JOHN DIETZEN

General Instruction

of the Roman Missal, found at the beginning of the Sacramentary the priest uses at Mass. The instruction encourages "the practice of eucharistic reservation in a chapel suited to the faithful's private adoration and prayer" (276).

for Holy Communion and Worship of the Eucharist Outside of Mass repeats this theme.

I

There are times when being matteris a blessing which keeps us from taking things too seriously and losing our sense of humor. To be blase or laissez faire, however, is a problem. Bad news will not be stemmed, violence decreased nor will we get a hold on life if we are absorbed by a matter-of-fact approach to life. Too

numbs our sense of responsi-

The Tabernacle

(Ohio)

eucharistic presence of our Lord.

Side

expect to read about scandals officials in government,

weapon. find helicopters roaring overhead at

Human

mysteriously disap-

goes on the list of these unbelievable facts of life. Perhaps we attempt to maintain balance by shift-

And we're not surprised anymore to

The

or providing

be scanned by metal detectors and to be searched for hidden weapons before boarding an aircraft. It is taken for granted that someone might be carrying a

night, their spotlights

FATHER EUGENE HEMRICK

neglect: scattered broken glass, debris

cepting the unacceptable?

Question Box

says,

"that the place (for reservation) be suit-

able also for private adoration and prayer so that the faithful may readily and

continue to honor the Lord, present in the sacrament, through personal worship. 'This will be achieved more easily fruitfully

body of where other activities during the day might be distract-

decrees on worship of the Eucharist,

ing (9).

for private devotion, but apart

if the

chapel

is

separate from the

the church," especially

repeats the admonition that eucharistic

reservation should be a place of honor

instruction Eucharisticum

from the main body of the church. (No. 53)

Mysterium, one of the Church's chief

See Question, Page 12

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atholic

News

& Herald

January 28, 1994

People

In

The News New

America Needs Religious

run by the Jesuits in the Washington

international headquarters in

Revival, Writer Says

suburb of Rockville. But every night, he's in movie theaters nationwide as the

ven, Special Olympics founder Eunice

heroine's brother in the Oliver Stone

volunteers

MIAMI (CNS)

"This country

needs a religious revival. Maybe Catholics should help start it," Catholic editor and writer Margaret O'Brien Steinfels told a gathering of 250 Catholic campus ministers in Miami. "We are in a moral mess," she said in a keynote address at the Jan. 5-9 Eastern Conference of the Catholic

"Heaven and Earth."

film

had never

acted before, even in school plays, but

I

is

Commonweal,

to the Special

1987 of

port, La., died in his sleep Jan.

New Named

Bishops' Associate Evangelization Director

(CNS)

lization for the

He was

Bishop Graves was

ConThe priest, to

Cardinal Calls Family Key To Reducing Teen Violence

PHILADELPHIA (CNS)

Olympics World

dinal

for the 1995 Special

Games The

days teaching math

at

for mentally retarded athletes.

July 1-9

games

will be the largest world in 1995 and will draw 6,500 athletes from over 120 countries to New Haven. An estimated 500,000 spectators also are expected. At a Jan. 5 news conference at the Knights' athletic event in the

Georgetown

Prep, a Catholic all-boys high school

On

'Careless

Employment Opportunities Part-time Youth Minister: Queen of the Apostles

is

seeking a person to

to is

win the

(CNS)

The

Policy Committee has criticized "the

made

against

in relation to

the indigenous rebellion in the southern state of Chiapas. Bishop Daniel P. Reilly of Norwich, Conn., said the "deplor-

able" accusations had been especially

directed against Bishop

The

Samuel Ruiz

Garcia of San Cristobal de Las Casas, the diocese in which the rebellion took

battle against teen vio-

to "strengthen the family," Car-

Anthony

Chiapas Rebellion

WASHINGTON

great need to protect

Special Olympics Gets $1 Million Gift From Knights Of Columbus

Conn. (CNS)

Accusations'

nonbelievers from religious coercion.

way

his

was

day, there

lence

same

Condemns

U.S. Bishop

the reli-

that in the early patriot's

with Bishop Sam G. Jacobs of Alexandria presiding.

million and pledged 6,000 volunteers

places at the

King Live"

on Cable News Network.

Mexican church leaders

Francis Xavier Cathedral in Alexan-

The Knights of Columbus has given $1

time, for the time being. Dang, 34, spends

A City Under Fire," carried on

a recent broadcast of "Larry

careless accusations"

in 1973. A funeral Mass was celebrated Jan. 20 at

zation director since 1989.

Dang can be many

Gore praised

America:

Gore noted

appointment to the

NEW HAVEN,

— Vinh

priest made the comments as a member of a panel addressing "Crime in

due to the nation's history of freedom of worship and its variety of faiths, Vice President Al Gore said in a speech marking National Religious Freedom Day. Speaking at the Virginia state

Virginia favorite son Thomas Jefferson,

1

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they are determined to overcome them.

head of the U.S. bishops' International

He was

dria,

Catholic School Teacher Lands Role In 'Heaven And Earth'

The

is

973 in New York. He had been the Texas bishops' evangelia Paulist priest in

Ameri-

aged speaking frankly about beliefs based on faith. Quoting at length from

St.

Committee on Evangelization. His task is to implement the bishops' 1 992 pastoral plan for evangelization. Father Nieli, 47, was ordained

lessness and violence. But, he added,

assailed religious bigotry and encour-

health.

ill

until his

Louisiana see

the U.S. bishops'

— The

from 1969

for the bishop

post Jan. 7,

great importance of religion to

capitol Jan. 14,

residents

auxiliary bishop of Little Rock, Ark.,

ference of Catholic Bishops.

member

On Public Life RICHMOND, Va. (CNS)

cans

The enemies

of Anacostia face, he explained, are high unemployment, racism, home-

also

to

for evangelization for the National

serves as the full-time staff

nation's capital.

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1982 due

Texas Catholic Confer-

new

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Paulist

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started in his

14 in

Orleans, where he was visiting

friends.

Father Bruce Nieli, director of evangeence, has been

Olympics.

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magazine.

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Dang told the Catholic Standard, news-

is

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Gore Fncourages Religious

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MARRIAGE

AND WEDDINGS RELATIONSHIPS IN THE NINETIES Photo by Joann Keane

Amber and David O'Connell, cutting of their

Key to By

A

CAROL HAZARD

St.

Associate Editor wedding is a day. A marriage

a lifetime. The phrase is used on a bro:hure for Engaged Encounter, a s

veekend sponsored by the Catho-

Church for engaged couples. That says a lot for the Church's oncern and care for strong, healthy jnarriages," says Trinitarian Siser Miriam Fiduccia, Family Life oordinator for the Diocese of Charic

ptte.

With

all

jeed to be

Church

is

ong-term

the arrangements that

made for the big day, more concerned with prospects,

commitment

lifelong

namely

to

is

Patrick Cathedral. "Rather, it's afford couples time to prepare

for spending their life together."

Father O'Rourke says his job as a priest is not to determine if couples should get married. "My job is hopefully to invite them to look at their relationship in light of the Church's teachings."

The bond

of marriage should reflect Christ, he says. What's more, a priest's role is "to help couples reflect on their relationship, recognize each other's strengths and weaknesses and see

the

for themselves if they are ready to

the

make

a

ouple's ability to communicate and

nderstand each other. That's why most parishes reuire six months notice for couples onsidering marriage. "The purpose for the six months ;n't to make people punch a time lock," says Father Frank )'Rourke, coordinating priest for tngaged Encounter and rector of

deep lifelong commitment," says Father O'Rourke. Typically, couples meet with a

their priest three to six times.

They

Pre-Marital Inventory take a (PMI), a questionnaire to help them discern thoughts and feelings about issues such as children, money, sexuality and spirituality. They're given information about Natural Family Planning, a natural method of planning or preventing pregnancies. And they're encouraged to attend Engaged Encounter. Engaged Encounter offers a program free from every day pressures and hassles. Not

in a

time-honored tradtion, share the

wedding cake.

honest,

open communication

group or team building experiit is meant to help the couple focus on each other and explore the depth of their relationship. "The weekend introduces subjects that some couples have never thought about before or, if they have thought about the topic, then the couple can look at it more deeply," says Sister Miriam. The Diocese of Charlotte offers 13 Engaged Encounter weekends a

ence,

a year, all at the Catholic Confer-

ence Center in Hickory. More than half of the 35 couples that attend each weekend are interfaith couples. "The weekends book up six weeks in advance," says Jane Anklin, who takes the reservations.

on such topics as forgiveness, communication and openness. Couples then

discuss

the

topics

among

themselves.

The Stanpslis attended Engaged Encounter a week before they were married 1 1 years ago. They learned how to talk honestly and intensively about their lives together. "The main thing is communication," says Stanpsli. "We hear about it from everyone, including Oprah.

You have

mouth and

tell

to

open your

people what's on

your mind."

send

Stanpsli says she also learned put her husband first. "Your spouse is more important than your children. If you keep that on solid

couples to the Oratory in Rock Hill." Sinead Stanpsli says she and

ground, the rest will fall into place." Inactive Catholics at the time

her husband, Jeff, would either be divorced or in serious trouble if they were not involved in Engaged Encounter. The Kannapolis couple is one of several that gives talks

they were married, the Stanpslis

"Sometimes

during

the

we

have

to

weekends about the

nature and evolution of their mar-

to

See

communication

key to commitment Page 8 is

riage.

"This isn't a how-to' course," says Stanpsli, three children, ages 8, months. Presentations

kind of a

mother of 4 and 11 are

made

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38, 1994

Special Supplement to The Catholic

News

&

Marriage and "Weddings:

Herald

Relationships

in

the Nineties

Maintaining dialogue

Family journalizing can help keep communications open By Mary Carty and Mark Lombard

News

Catholic

Service

Marriage is one of life's major milestones. A great deal of energy and time goes into planning

wedding, to make that wedding day perfect. And a traditional yet, little

before the wedding, there is discussion on how two people

will face the

changes

history,

and keeping a family jour-

reviewed periodically soon after it happens and in years to come. A family journal can be a tool for keeping communications open and recording and dynamic

they will experience and that

they will grow into one family.

wedding

The

day carries changes, with spouses having to share responsibilities and negotiate issues such as meals, schedules, social

lives,

problems in relationships is poor communication or lack of communication.

meet. If you don't schedule a spe-

also can be a con-

cific

down," applied to newlyweds, may be an oxymoron since there are a great number of potentially unsettling life changes that accompany getting married. Most aspects of newly married partweeks or the rings have

ners' lives are in flux for

even months after been exchanged. When children

relationship, the changes occur again. into

Marriage and family life is constantly changing, with many wonderful, beautiful, joyous moments, mundane day-to-day occurrences and difficult and painful trials that challenge. One way to keep track of information that needs to be shared is for a couple to keep a family journal. This is not a new idea. Past generations have cataloged the major events in their family's journey marriages, births, deaths and reception of the sacraments in the family Bible. Recording this information has proven to be a valuable source of a family's history. Each family creates its own

— —

recording

life,

reference

crete

fi-

nances, chores, cultural traditions, and entertainment choices. In fact, the term "settling

enter

one's

marriage and one's family. It

one's

One of the major

time, the process of

together and journalizing

back seat

may

take

Establish a regular process when the family meets, and follow it each time the family gathers to work on the journal. This may mean that one person is chosen to lead the meeting and another is chosen to keep a written record in the journal of what is discussed. You may want to discuss major and minor events worth celebrating, small and large challenges faced since the last meeting or to be faced in the near future, projects or activities that will involve the entire family. In fact, family members can choose to discuss whatever they see as important to be

information

Keeping

this information in a cenplace and referring to it fre-

quently can prevent minor conflicts and serve as a reminder of: • Dates of birthdays and anniversaries of extended family

members. • Work schedules. • Important phone numbers. •

Social events.

Chores and household

Listen

said.

is

carefully to other family

ones are saying is the mark of a healthy marriage and healthy family life. Eliminate all other

to other activities.

pectations and pointing to goals to be realized. A journal can also be helpful for

what

your spouse and members. The willingness to listen and to understand what other loved •

coming

a

important

tant as

Set a regular day and time to

point defining ex-

which is too cumbersome to remember, yet too important to lose. tral

raised.

a family history.

Here are some other tips: • Set a regular frequency for times in which the family works on the journal together. With busy schedules, a weekly or biweekly look at where the family has gone and where it is headed is a good beginning.

changes that have occurred in

Remember, the process of^ family members or spouses coming together to share their hopes, dreams, trials and challenges and letting each other know there isi someone that cares is as impor-

those pages with what will be-

come

many

how

fill

nal creates a written history to be

distractions,

like the television,

and give those present your full and undivided attention. Allow the conversation to be free, not dominated by any one person.

• Review the material in the journal. Begin your meeting by reading out loud what was written in the last journal entry and

offer reflections about

where the

family has come in that period. You most likely will find that far

from living routine,

static

lives,

experiencing constant changes, constant growth. Celebrate each other, your gifts, a your accomplishments, your love.

the family

is

re-

sponsibilities.

payment schedules. Medical and dental appointments and information. • Holiday and vacation plans. One of the major problems in •

Bill

relationships

is

poor communica-

of communication. Deciding what priorities and details are important and recording them can prove to strengthen a relationship and begin to build a strong marriage as short-term and long-term issues are discussed. Journalizing requires little beyond blank pages in a journal or in tion

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The beginning of marriage is <m excellent time to start one of the most popular and rewarding the development of a of hobbies

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The

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of scanning microfilm, interviewing relatives, writing letters, vislibraries, government offices and even cemeteries, and organizing tons of information. According to Kermit Pike, director of the Western Reserve Historical Society Library in Cleveand, genealogy had a negative annotation. "It was a bad word a kind of hauvinism, filial pietism and was een as an attempt to identify iting

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your having a reception a banquet facility, do not leave it If

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This will give you less control of what variety and how fresh the flowers will be. There is often a substantial service fee or

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that thy partner's trust

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Have your cake and enjoy

it,

too!

By Catholic News Service The tradition of wedding

service their receptions.

ers to

cakes dates back thousands of years as a symbol of fertility and

Don't wait too long to order your cake. Three to six months

abundance.

before the date is good time to consider, though some bakers who are most in demand will be booked up to a year in advance. If you know the baker you would like to

Today, the bride and groom feed each other pieces of wedding cake as a sign of shared

The Roman

life.

tradition of a thin,

made of

dry loaf of cake,

salt,

which was bro-

flour and water,

ken on the bride's head, has evolved to the present-day "groom's cake," which

is

cut into

pieces and placed in small boxes

keepsake for guests. Yet, the crumbly, dry cakes of the past have given way to as a

lush,

moist, flavorful, beautifully

designed cakes of the present symbolize the joyousness and celebratory nature of the wedding feast. Taking this time-honored ritual seriously and taking the that serve to

time to carefully select the right cake for this most significant occasion will pay off in the cake being the tribute to your tastes,

your marriage and your guests that

it

ought to be.

Oftentimes, the cake is given little attention, with so many

groom are considering. But remember, other details the bride and

ihe cake will be the last item at the meal, the item that will be

most photographed, and therefore will color your

the

memory

memory and

of your guests about

the entire feast.

There are some things to keep mind to help you put the frosting on your wedding celebration. Check with the banquet facility you have chosen about whether it allows outside caterin

work

with,

is

it

better to

date well in advance and

book the work out

you get closer. By locking in a date, you might also be able to lock in a price that may the details as

save you money. Choose a baker who has a reputation for using the finest ingredients, for reliability,

for creativity

and for working well with customers. Ask friends and family members whom they have used, especially those whose weddings you have attended and particularly enjoyed the cake. If you are using a bridal consultant, obtain a

list

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of

culinary artists.

With some leads in hand, set up interviews in which you can review the baker's portfolio, discuss flavors and try as many as possible. Attend the meetings pre-

pared

hide a dry cake.

an estimated guest scheme for the wedding, if you've chosen one; a description of what you like in cakes and do not like, with photos from magazines if you have them; and ideas of how the cake can be perwith:

sonalized to truly make it a statement of your own special occasion. From these interviews, you'll

need

to

choose one baker

that

A

cake that has a smooth, and not one that is gritty, greasy nor too sweet. Remember, cake design and number •

of slices needed are directly related. •

A

A

of your desires and can work within

tion

important dessert you'll ever have.

Whoever

you

choose,

are inviting,

not being too large or too small.

you

execute the most

cake that will serve the

number of guests you

size to

to

Desautels

cake that will be the right fit

proportionally in recep-

room and

fit with the other elements you are choosing for the

wedding.

you

and to save the anniversary tier, if you choose to have one. • A quote that includes all elements, such as delivery, the cake top and accompanying decorations.

icing

tasty

think has the creativity, best sense

your budget

S.

at

should do your best to insure in advance that the baker provides: • A cake that is moist and flavorful and doesn't use a filling to

count; a color

photo by Marlene

weddings are a time-honored tradition. Tom Scano, owner of Scano's Bakery in Worcester, Mass., puts the finishing touches on the finale of a wedding reception.

Cakes

A

way

to transport the

cake

Assurances that the cake

be set up at the appropriate time. If your cake budget is tight, you may want to consider a smaller "display" cake for the bride, groom and wedding party and a larger sheet cake for the guests. But, you should consider scrimping on items like elaborate centerpieces or table wine before cutting back on elements of a delicious conclusion to your celebration. will

Fourteen blenders and a dozen toasters?

Bridal registry helps guests choose the perfect gift By

Catholic

News

Service

Among some

All wedding guests hope that their present to the bride and

ing about your engagement, shower

practical to the exotic.

and wedding

of the categories you might want to

groom

Give yourself enough time. See what is available from a variety of stores, peruse magazines, talk with family and friends and

be received with the excitement and joy of the perfect will

gift.

The

bridal

registry

allows

those attending the wedding to choose from list of specific "perfect gifts" at an area store or a group of stores that the couple has selected. For the bride and groom, registering gift choices requires care-

planning and attention. Gifts chosen through bridal registries can help you and your spouse establish the kind of household in which you would like to begin ful

your new relationship together. But there is more to remember about bridal registries than visiting your favorite store.

Among

other tips to

remember

Register early. While this

doesn't have to be done as soon

you're engaged, the sooner you register the sooner your prospective guests can begin thinkas

discuss possible choices at length with your betrothed. The bridal'

domain of the bride-to-be and her mother. This is changing, as husbands-tobe are taking a more active role in sharing the responsibilities of the registry used to be the

household. • Consider registering in more than one store. One store may not be accessible to all your guests and it is possible that one store may not carry everything you would like to include. Remember, though, not to register for the

different stores. this

is

same

gifts in

The exception

dinnerware, glassware,

ware and other items

are: •

gifts.

that

you

to

flat-

will

want duplicated. Don't limit yourself to china, crystal and silverware. There is a wide assortment of gifts that you and your spouse can use from the

consider are: formal dinnerware; casual dinnerware; flatware (both sterling and stainless); fine crystal; casual glassware; kitchenware; cutlery; serving accessories; decorative accessories, such as lamps, clocks, bowls and vases; linens for the bedroom, kitchen, dining room and bathroom; home electronics; home and personal care, such as a vacuum cleaner and a grill; home furnishings; sporting equipment and recreational goods; music; luggage and other travel accessories;

and stationery. •

Be aware

of the quality of the

is

also useful to indicate colors or

styles

you are planning

room

in

for each order to facilitate the shopping of the guest who chooses to purchase an item not included on the list. • Get copies of each registry list you have established. This will help you keep track of gifts for thank-you notes and be a way to check on discrepancies with

the store's copy of the registry list. •

Check

riodically.

may

also have received

you are selecting. But remember, the registry lists are to be your

tries

• Be specific on registry forms insure that gift buyers are as clear as to your wants as you are. List colors, styles, brands, patterns and quantities you are seeking. It

to

pe-

items to add after you have en-

the items

choices, not the store's.

lists

think of other

You some of

tered your initial selections.

you are selecting. Many stores have registry staff trained to coordinate your lifestyle with the gifts gifts

the registry

You may

from other stores

at

an

engagement party or shower. •

Don't announce what regisyou have chosen in your

wedding invitation. Some stores may provide you with registry cards to give to guests. These are best placed in

shower

invitations.

Encourage family members and friends to get the word out about registries you are using.


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AMERICANS MOVING AWAY FROM MARRIAGE

couple can prevent conflicts over money By Susan Matthews News Service While marriage represents

Relationships

Catholic

wrapped up in money and what use money for," she said.

a

couple's investment in each other,

money

serves as one of the pri-

mary obstacles stability

in

Why many

we

is

Third, the couple should put

happiness and

to

the relationship.

money

money, time and/or

their

where

the root of so

their faith

talent

ask

"I often

is.

couples in light of their

own

Chris-

conflicts in marriage?

tian

commitment what they put

we

tend to marry

into

their

different past

that

"Frequently,

people

who have

experiences," said a marriage therapist from St. Katharine of Siena Parish in Wayne, Pa. "You'll have one who comes from a spendthrift family and financial

Joanne

another

McGuigan,

who comes

budgets that reflects

commitment, such as charitable donations," Ms. McGuigan said. "Younger people have a limited amount of money they really can't afford to donate a

lot,

so

and energy." Fourth, the engaged couple should work together to create a financial plan. Dealing with the issues of saving, spending, budgeting and planning for the fu-

out of an ex-

ture

"Really talk your priorities out

ner doesn't believe in the same kind of gift giving or their partner is saying, 'Hey, we need to put something into saving.'" What steps can be taken to counteract these built-in problems before the wedding day? First, the therapist recommends "get rid of all your debt before entering marriage." While many couples think they can handle each other's past debt, tension results when they come to realize how much of their cur-

and recognize there will be things you don't agree on," Ms. McGuigan advised.

Knowing

that

conflict

Among

riage are:

•Insurance for health, ability,

and

life,

dis-

16%

spending priorities. •Taxability and the

filing

of

taxes.

•Housing. •Investments.

of clothes or a car, for instance,

means

to

come

are

lot

available.

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Patricia

Catholic

News

Zapor Service

They're too old for a youth group or a Newman Center, too young for a golden age club, not ready for pre-marriage classes, and have no children to draw them into the

church for religious edu-

cation.

Being single in the Catholic Church often seems a sure-fire way of remaining anonymous. About 18 percent of American Catholic adults are single. Susan Muto, in her book "Celebrating the Single Life," noted that single

Catholics feel alienated, misunderstood, forgotten or treated as a

problem by the church. Their conMs. Muto, in-

cerns, according to

clude:

— talents

Believing that their gifts, and ministerial potentials

are not sufficiently appreciated.

Probably only about 5 percent of parishes and dioceses make a serious effort at ministering to young adults, whether single or married, said Mike Mottola, past president of the National Catholic Young Adult Ministry Association and administrator of St. Monica's Parish in Santa Monica, Calif. While young adult ministry was growing strong early in the 1980s, budget cuts by the end of the decade had reduced the number of staff positions. Catholics between the ages of 1 8 and 35 or 40 were left on their own again.

A

1981

Feeling that parishes offer no assistance in helping them understand their lives, particularly in relation to accountability, sexuality and social concerns. Seeing little support for Catholic singles interested in something other than "pious dat-

planning guide for single young adult ministry, published by the U.S. Catholic Conference Education Department, noted the changing cultural climate in which more of the population is remaining single longer, never marrying or staying single after

ing services."

divorce.

Sensing that some churchgoers "harbor the unconscious as-

sumption that single men women are uncommitted, sponsible, lost and bored."

and irre-

"The majority of single young adults are not active

members of

local faith communities," the guide said.

often

And

while single young adults church teachings,

reject

"there

is

an emerging spiritual

lessness in the single

rest-

young adult

population, indicating that many are searching for a deeper level of meaning with the Lord and with

one another,"

it

said.

While in practice many single young adults feel their church expects them to fend for themselves, dioceses try in different ways to meet their needs. In Washington, D.C., for example, the Office of Young Adult Ministry organizes archdiocesewide events a few times a year. Combining liturgy with social and educational activities, the conferences are intended to pull together single people from dozens of parishes, a broad range of ages and widely varied backgrounds. But between events, the hundreds of people who attend the conferences fend for themselves at parishes that may have only a few other singles, said the Washington

Archdiocese director Adult Ministry. Sister Marilyn

of

Young

notice of their needs.

The Washington

area has sevself-sustaining young adult groups with no single church as

eral

It also has a few individual churches which have developed vibrant groups for singles with social, spiritual and service

their base.

activities

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these are retreat centers or cam-

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and spiritual activi-

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Families Focus Of Liturgical Celebration Weekend Masses

— Feb. To

csnxini

12 and 13

are set aside for celebrating family.

coincide with the International Year of the Family,

embody fami-

parishes across the diocese are invited to lies

and family

life in liturgical

celebrations.

In a letter to pastors, Msgr. John

J.

McSweeney,

dioc-

esan administrator, asked for the accentuation of family renewal. "This is the Sunday before Lent, a time of personal and

communal renewal, and

on the need

for family renewal this Lent," said

I

ask for emphasis

Msgr.

McSweeney.

CAMPAIGN

"The issue of family renewal needs to be preached from our pulpits, addressed in our schools, and discussed by all our parish groups, committees, and commissions," said Msgr. McSweeney. Prompted by the diocesan task force ,

March

reens from the Basilica of St. Lawrence, Asheville, participate in the National

MINICK

Photo by JEFF

Washington.

_ife in

for

for Children and Families, efforts to

highlight family issue has gained strength in promoting awareness.

"Families are in great need of renewal," said Trinitarian Sister Miriam We ask everyone to look at themselves, no matter what form of family they are; traditional families, grandparents, single

Fiduccia, director of Family Life.

and even singles with no children are all part of family at some level, renewal and enrichment is possible, said Sister Miriam. "Children and families are at the heart of parish life, and nothing unites our parents,

Vlarch (From Page

1)

After the Mass, some from the Char-

ing reverberates at times like the start-

diocese return to their hotel while

ing line at a stock car race. The constant movement of gatherers interrupts sleep.

otte

ithers

remain

irayer.

at the

Shrine for a night of

Several of us drift around the

ipper shrine,

watching an interview with

•WTN's Father Groeschal, 1

i

trying to

bsorb the works of art surrounding us. n a side chapel dedicated to

If Siluva,

I

listen to

Our Lady

an Irish priest

trading teenagers in the rosary.

The

nscription over the chapel' s altar reads:

Mary: Console The Children Of A Land Sprinkled With Blood And Tears." ligain I am reminded of why we are here )

lis

evening.

Following a National Rosary for .ife, we descend into the shrine's basetent, the crypt. Here hundreds of profe marchers camp out for this night of igil prayer. Some are sprawled in sleep n the floor and in the side chapels. A jw gather around a man playing a guiir. Others are drinking coffee and eatlg sandwiches which the basilica staff rovided free of charge. The seminarins who will conduct the holy hours trough the night in the crypt church egin arriving. In a side

room

off the

rypt church, a priest hears confessions ntil

after 3 a.m.

Our group beds down in the chapel Our Lady of Lourdes. Several of us now from previous experience not to

f

xpect

much

But prayer rather than a good night' is the point of this vigil. Like

cafeteria, visit the shrine's gift shop,

a

and pack our bags for the march. First, however, we attend Mass offered by Bishop Lynch, retired bishop of the Raleigh Diocese, and Father Joseph Waters of the Charlotte Diocese In his homily, Bishop Lynch tells us that just as prayer and spiritual resistance led

moderate forces in the pro-life movement. "There must be no more incremental approaches in this movement. We are going to unify to fight abortion as murder, as evil."

while with a friend,

I

hall; I talk

pray again;

I

find

a dark place beside a bank of vigil candles, spread

my coat, and try to sleep;

awake to pray. "We're on a pilgrimage," my friend Helen Gordon tells me, summing up the I

experience for so

many

of us.

"A

pil-

grimage of prayer." This night can be a time of great peace, a time even of happiness. But always in the night sadness comes. It comes because we remember why we are sleeping in the basement of a church in Washington, D.C. We wonder aloud how it is that a nation can encourage the killing of its unborn while at the same time express grave concern over the welfare of its children. We ponder the fact that we are waging war now in America, an unproclaimed civil war in which one side wishes to protect life while another side desires, for reasons that range

from ignorance

to the fash-

ionably philosophical, to take I

find myself asking:

n air mattress

that

oor,

spond

rypt's halls accentuate noise; the snor-

from prayer

cup of coffee'in the crypt

sleep this night. Although

might soften up a marble the wonderful acoustics of the

rise

I

when

can to

in this

my

Am

How

war?

life.

doing

I

will

I

all

re-

grandchildren someday

they ask

me what

I

and families," said Msgr.

to children

to drink a

pray for a time in the crypt church, following the chants and the I

commitment

even greater unity among pro-lifers next

I

plainsong.

its

Daybreak on Friday brings a certain urgency. We await turns to wash at bathroom sinks, eat breakfast in the

sleep

others,

Church more than McSweeney.

to the

downfall of communism

1989,

in

so would the cause of the abortionists

year. In a ringing voice, she criticizes

President Clinton for his attacks on

Finally the

march begins.

We don't

have the look of radicals. You could go to any large mall at noon on any given Saturday and come up with a similar looking crowd. We pass one small group

Pope John Paul

of counter-protesters; otherwise the cold

has already assured us of a pro-life victory, adding that it is only a "ques-

weather keeps the streets free of any one except marchers. We pass the Library of Congress, the National Gallery, various

fail.

He reminds

us that

II

tion of timing of

sooner or

whether

it

would be move-

later." It is the pro-life

ment, Bishop Lynch says, that can make a difference in regard to the timing.

Following Mass, the bus delivers us to the Ellipse

where the march

begin. Here at noon,

will

we hear snatches of

speeches by Nellie Gray, a founder of

Congressman Bob Dornan; Randall Terry; Cardinals O'Connor and Daly; and many political

the pro-life march;

and religious leaders. All about us signs bobble in the air: "Pro- woman Pro-Life," "Life: The First Liberty," "A Person's A Person No Matter How Small," "God

Weeps At The Nelllie

did?

Slaughter."

Gray says she hopes

to see

government buildings and swing past the line of policemen guarding the Supreme Court. Here the march breaks up.

By the time our bus leaves RFK Stadium, people are sleeping. The 11hour bus trip back to Asheville is long and tiring to the weary group. Yet all around me many on the bus have begun planning next year's trip. We debate whether we should add an extra day to the trip and discuss how we might join other marchers in saying the rosary outside the White House. Unspoken by all is the prayer that somehow, by some miracle, there won't be a need for such a trip next year. Jeff Minick is a parishioner at John Church, Waynesville

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Vayan Y Hagan Discipulos Por LUIS A. Recientemente presentado por para estudiar

la

el

LECAROS asisti

a un taller

Diocesis de Charlotte

documento "Vayan y

Hagan Discipulos" Plan y para

la

Estrategia

Evangelizacion Catolica en los

Estados Unidos. Participaron aproximadamente unas cien personas que representaban a diferentes parroquias de varias ciudades y estados. El taller fue presentado por los Padres de San Pablo, Frank DeSiano y Kenneth Boyack, quienes han estado intimamente envueltos en la composition de dicho documento y viajaron de Washington, DC a Charlotte para compartir con nosotros su conocimiento y experiencia sobre el tema de la evangelizacion. "Vayan y Hagan Discipulos" es un plan desarrollado y puesto en march a por la Conferencia Nacional de Obispos Catolicos. El origen inmediato de este plan se encuentra en la famosa exhortation apostolica de Pablo VI "Evangelii Nuntiandi" acerca de la

Evangelizacion del Mundo Contemporaneo. En nuestra diocesis el Padre Edward Vilkauskas, CSSp., director de la oficina de Evangalizacion,

ha trabajado intensamente para nimarnos a difundir la Buena Nueva que trajo Jesus al mundo y fue tambien el Padre Ed quien organizo el taller con la ayuda de voluntarios. El proceso de implementation del plan tomara varios anos, quiza decadas, lo importante es que ya esta en practica y se espera que tenga gran influencia en la manera como actuan y son vistos los catolicos de este pais.

Luis Lecaros, natural de Peru,

al

terminar

escuela secundaria vino a estudiar

la

ingenien en

UNCC

y despues trabajo

muchos anos en Duke Power. Con su esposa Nelda y sus hijos Alex y Liliana tienen su hogar en Charlotte. El Cursillo de Cristiandad que Luis hizo en 1978 dejo un

gran impacto en su vida y ahora sigue activo

Nifios y familias de la

comunidad de San Jose en Asheboro durante

la

celebration de

Eucaristfa.

Paz

Y Justicia

Ayude a los trabajadores migrantes. Llame al numero gratis de Coca-Cola ho mismo: (800) 538-2653/(800) 888-6488 y dfgales que usted apoya a la Union di Campesinos y le exhorta a Coca-Cola que mantenga los beneficios de los trabajadores Puede tambien escribir a Roberto Goizueta, Coca-Cola Co., P.O. Drawer 1734 1

en la

el

Movimiento. Actualmente estudia en

Escuela de Ministerios.

esencia es la proclamation de la salvacion en Jesucristo y la respuesta de una persona en la fe, ambas siendo obra del Espfritu de Dios". El plan tiene tres metas dirigidas a todos los catolicos: Primera Meta "Crear en todos los catolicos tal entusiasmo por su fe que viviendo su fe en Jesus, la compartan libremente con

otros".

Segunda Meta

GA 30301. Coca-Cola, el producto de bebidas mas grande del mundo, esta en el proceso d quitarle a centenares de familias migrantes sus beneficios medicos y de pension sueldos y condiciones de trabajo decentes. Estos trabajadores pueden resultar e manos de contratistas sin escrupulos. Para mas information, pongase en contacto con la Union de Campesinos a: P.C Box 62, Klenee, California 93531 o telefono (805) 822-5571. Esta informacion fue recibida de la oficina Pastoral Hispana de la Diocesis c Palm Beach, cuya directora es la Hna, Regina Tutzo, RMI. Atlanta,

"Invitar a todas

personas en los Estados Unidos, sea cual fuere su condition social o cultural, las

mensaje de salvacion en Jesucristo, a fin de que se unan a nosotros en la plenitud de la fe catolica." Tercera Meta. "Formentar los valores del Evangelio en nuestra soci€dad, promoviendo la dignidad de la persona humana, la importancia de la familia y el bien comun de nuestra sociedad, para que nuestra nation continue siendo transformada por el poder salvifico de a escuchar el

Jesucristo"

Escuela De Ministerios "De la buena intention a la preparation" nos pide nuestro Plan Pastoral Nacioi y para esto estamos ofreciendo esta escuela de formacion de "servidores", hispano que se comprometan a participar en un programa de formacion teologica y paston para poder servir mejor a nuestra comunidad.

Fecha: sabado 5 de febrero y domingo 6, de 9 a.m. a 5 p.m. Lugar: Centro Catolico Hispano, Independence Blvd. y The Plaza, Charlotte

Tema:

al

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Para cada una de estas metas se

mencionan objetivos y para cada objetivo

Rogelio Zelada, profesor del SEPI (Instituto Pastoral del Sureste), vino de Miami en el mes de noviembre a la Escuela de Ministerios para ense+arnos sobre la Biblia y su uso pastoral. Los asistentes disfrutaron y apreciaron el

caudal de conocimientos que Rogelio

compartio con nosotros. La proxima sesion de la Escuela sera el primer fin de semana de febrero.

La primera parte del documento nos da la vision de la evangelizacion catolica: "Lo decimos nosotros los obispos:Dios ha tocado nuestras vidas en Jesus, nos ha dotado con su Espiritu, dado salvacion y esperanza e invitado a ser testigos de su amor" ... Podemos recordar que el llevar la Buena Nueva de Jesus a cada situacion humana

evangelizar significa

y la busqueda de la conversion de los individuos y la sociedad por medio del

poder divino del Evangelio mismo. Su

compromiso y uso de

mu

se sugieren varias estrategias posibles.

Cristo llama al

Las

habilidades de mujeres y hombres laicos,

profesionalmente por medio de charh

quienes llevan los valores del evangelio

y de trabajo en grupos pequehos, en lc cuales tuve la oportunidad de ver com el Espiritu Santo actiia en comunidad disfrute conociendo a muchas persom de otras parroquias, por lo que me sient afortunado de haber participado com

metas presentan una vision integral del proceso y no pueden separarse, sino que deben desarrollarse simultaneamente. El plan en si es un plan de action, pero deja amplio campo para implementarlo de acuerdo a cada tres

situacion.

La primera meta

un llamado a la santidad, el cual es dado a todo catolico a traves del bautismo, pues este consagra a cada uno de nosotros a Dios y al servicio del Reino.La segunda meta significa no solo que invitemos a muchas personas, sino tambien que un verdadero espiritu de acogida este presente en es

a sus hogares, centros de trabajo, areas

de recreo, en fin, dentro de todos los aspectos de la vida. Esta meta requiere de una estrategia para reenforzar nuestro compromiso diario con aquellos que se encuentran en necesidad.

Este taller fue presentado

representante hispano.

To Our Friends Luis Lecaros attended the workshop on Evangelization that took place i November and shares with us what he learned about the NCCE

Charlotte in

document "Go and Make Disciples". Peace and

Justice issue:

Coca-Cola could

we want to show ou John Murphy also celebrate:

nuestros hogares catolicos y en todas nuestras parroquias, hospitales, colegios,

deprive migrant families of medical and other benefits so

centros de servicios comunitarios. Esta meta posee implicaciones ecumenicas. La tercera meta significa dar apoyo a aquellos elementos culturales que reflejan los valores catolicos en nuestra tierra y desafiar a aquello que los rechazan. La transformation de nuestra sociedad en

Mass in Spanish at 1 2 noon on Sundays at Our Lady of the Highways, Thomasville Lay Ministry Training in Spanish: Feb. 5-6.

oficinas

y

support to the Farmers' Union. Correction: Father

Correction En el horario de las Misas en espanol publicado el

17 de diciembre, quedo omitid por error la Misa semanal que celebra el Padre John Murphy, OSFS, en Our Lad; of the Highways, Thomasville, los domingos a las 12 mediodfa.


The Catholic News

January 28, 1994

Vietnamese Pastoral Council (from right

)

Long Nguyen,

Cecilia Tong;

officials at the

Vinh Tran, head of

annual Christmas party

Than Nguyen,

advisor;

a local

in

&

Charlotte Dec. 22

member; Handmaids group; Tinh Nguyen, advisor. associate

Sister

Sharing SISTER CECILIA iA group of

St.

TONG

Matthew parishioners and Vietnamese Apostolate helpers prepare 45

iChristmas baskets to be delivered to the

new Vietnamese

refugee families in Charlotte.

Vietnamese Catholic

|The baskets were contributed by the parish and the Vietnamese Apostolate.

Ministry

By SISTER CECILIA

TONG

"Thank you for being a real Santa Claus to us!" was the answer from a young girl that I have met. This young girl has just arrived from the refugee camp. She has not seen so much food or so many beautiful, wrapped gifts before. It was overwhelming for her. One could see the delight and the amazement dancing

in her eyes.

Opening her

j

Father

Tan Le with Hang Nguyen, and Tran

Youth" Dec. 24

at the

at the

Christmas party for 50 "Eucharistic

Vietnamese Ministry Center.

"Vietnamese Community News The Vietnamese New Year celebra-

In Brief

and celebration for

all

Vietnamese

in

ion for the Triad area will be at Christ

Charlotte and vicinity will take place on

;he

King Church in High Point on Feb. from 3 p.m. to 7 p.m. Father Tan Le will celebrate the liturgy. Refreshments

Feb. 5 at Eastway Junior High School

5

from morning to night. For information please call Son Leon at (704) 536-4804. Organized by Vietnamese Association with the combined effort of other groups.

will follow.

The New Year' s Eve celebration for he Vietnamese Catholic Community in Charlotte

be

will

at the

Vietnamese

Ministry Center at 10 p.m. on Feb. 9.

will

have

another celebration with liturgy, food

and music

at

of $100 (the equivalent of a million piastres in Vietnamese money)," she ning to

Church

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Liturgy

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Saturday, Feb. 12 at

St.

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will lead the all-day presentation for

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Cost is $15. To register, call the Office of Worship, (704) 334-1805. liturgy.

Is.

9 p.m. Soft drinks, beer and wine will be provided. Bring favorite hors d'oeuvre. optional. Make checks payable to St. Gabriel's HSA and mail to 3028 Providence Rd., Charlotte, NC 2821 1 Tickets can also be purchased at

Costumes are

.

more information, call Mary Beth Conrad at (704) 364-9085. the door. For

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St.

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Children's

and provides a safe environment to cross sectarian lines. For more information, call (910) 288-9645 or (910) 282-0543.

Day

A

Charismatic

of Renewal, "Fanning the Flame,"

Thomas Aquinas Church, 1400 Suther Rd., on Saturday, Feb. 19 from 10 a.m. -3 p.m. Speakers are Hugo and Bobbie May. Music and worship will be provided by Deloris Stevebsib abd Hugo May. The suggested donation is $ 1 0 at the door. Bring a bag lunch. For more information, call Bobbie May at (704) 327-8692. will be at St.

x

Mother/Daughter

WINSTON-SALEM — A Mother/

Daugher Program

for girls ages 10-13

HAMLET

ning.

The focus

Registration

is

required by Feb. 2.

Contact your parish Director of Faith Formation for a registration form or call

Highway

St.

James Church,

74, will have

its

annual

pit-

cooked pork and chicken barbecue the church on Friday, Feb. 4 from a.m.-7 p.m. Cost

$5 a

is

1

plate. Eat in or

carry out. For delivery of 10 or plates, call (910)

at

more

582-0207 on Feb. 4

after 8:30 a.m.

Mardi Gras

CHARLOTTE

Gabriel's Mardi Gras Dance and Silent Auction is Saturday, Feb. 12 from 7 p.m.- 11 p.m. Gabriel

in the St.

St.

Community

Center.

$12.50 per person and includes four hours of dancing to a variety of music. The silent auction is from 7 p.m.-

Cost

is

of Alcoholic

Anonymous is Feb.

2.

The program

addresses issues of change, loss and grief,

communication, children,

stress,

is

"God's Spirit Lives in Dreams." For information, write to the Jesuit

House of Prayer, P.O. Box Springs,

NC

28743 or

7,

Hot

call (704)

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&

Remarried

— The

monthly meeting for the Separated, Divorced & Remarried Catholic Group is Friday, Feb. 4 from 7 p.m. -8:30 p.m. at the University Catholic Center, 1331

The director is Msg! Michael The suggested donation is $75 For information and registration call the center at (704) 926-3833: .

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W.

The guest speaker is Trinitarian Sister Miriam Fiduccia, FamFriendly Ave.

ily

Life coordinator.

Meetings are each Wednesday through March 16 from 7 p.m. -8:30 p.m. at Mercy Hospital, 2001 Vail Ave.

Weekend

Cost for the seven- week program is $ 1 0, which includes a copy of Heartmates: A Sunnval Guide for the Cardiac Spouse, Caring Hearts is open to anyone in the Charlotte/Mecklenburg community. To register, call Mercy Sister Therese Galligan at (704) 379-5000, weekdays

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Retreats

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The suggested donation

is

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Feb. 25-27; "Dreams: Songs of the

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for St. Margaret's

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The Catholic News

January 28, 1994

&

He:

World and National Briefs lawmakers who passed

killed

in the

rilla

Chicago Archdiocese Lost

tion of the death penalty in the United

$4.5 Million In Fiscal 1993

Archdiocese of Chicago had a net loss of $4.5 million for the fiscal year ending June 30, 1993. While the loss is 25

and racially discriminatory. The founder of Catholics Against Capital Punishment supported Amnesty's proposal. Frank McNierney said such a commission fits

percent less than the $6 million loss

in with the goals

recorded in fiscal 1992, it could have been much worse had there not been a $3 million sale of property, according to John Benware, archdiocesan director of financial services. "The problem is solv-

trying to get priests and bishops to talk

in force. A three-judge panel of the U.S. Third Circuit Court of Appeals reversed a district court Jan. 14 and within three weeks will order the trial judge to lift his

about the death penalty.

injunction which has blocked imple-

Supreme Court Asked To

mentation of the law. The appeals panel said there could be no further challenges

States

RIVER FOREST, 111. (CNS)— The

we

able, but

Benware

1 1

preme Court

when

New

River Forest.

in

Church Leaders Call For Fair Employment, More Jobs For Ulster in

Life Begins

is

being asked to rule on

begins in a case in which a Jersey man argues that he had an life

the United States called jointly for inter-

national investment, job creation and

employment programs in Britain's troubled Irish province. The interdefair

to the

law

until

it

Croatia

(CNS)

ing of Catholics,

warned

Croatian President Franjo Tudjman dur-

said.

The bishops outlined

their

Catholic Church teaches that

the president and representatives of the

ures in Belfast, Northern Ireland, and

at conception.

The church statement on em-

press conference Jan. 14. leaders said in a joint

ian violence in the province.

is

launched an appeal for victims of the civil war in the African country. The appeal has the backing of other English churches and the two Christian aid and development agencies, including the Catholic Fund for Overseas Development, the British bishops' aid agency. Archbishop Carey told reporters that the

United States a "gross human rights abuse" that has been relegated to political jargon,

initiative, called,

Amnesty

racism and

ginning with a statewide conference in February.

As

part of their three-year

"Becoming a People of Action: Undoing the Sin of Racism,"

the use of the death penalty in the

the bishops plan to issue a statement

International has asked Presi-

dent Clinton to name a commission to study capital punishment. In Jan. 13 press conferences held simultaneously

make

on

resource materials

available for parishes by 1995.

The

ef-

being coordinated by the Catholic Conference of Illinois and the offices of peace and justice in the Chicago Archfort is

Washington and London, Amnesty

International released copies of a letter

diocese.

to Clinton outlining concerns about capi-

Law To Take Effect PHILADELPHIA (CNS) Many

punishment in the United States. The

Abortion

human rights organization said applica-

—TELEPHONE

rounds in our towns

ern

REFINISHING

ily.

to

open

Mexican government to was being used suppress the uprising. Signed by the trafficking

Committee" of the Zapatista National Liberation Army, the letter was dated Jan. 13 from somewhere "in the mountains of southeast Mexico." It was delivered along with other rebel communiques Jan. 17 to three Mexican national daily newspapers. In Washington, Rep.

Robert G. Torricelli, D-N.J., chairman of the House Subcommittee on Western

Hemisphere

its

cial

Affairs, has called for spe-

hearings as to whether U.S. aid

destined for Mexico' s anti-narcotics war

hom-

was being used against

rights office, Tutela Legal, Father

the Zapatista

rebels.

Delgado said clandestine groups had

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letter

claiming that U.S.

"Clandestine Indigenous Revolutionary

Citing data from the Church's hu-

man

written an

aid given to the

combat drug

San

made

Mexico have

to President Clinton

week," said

Father Jesus Delgado during the

Clinton, florth Carolina

Robert and Georgia Lewis,

Ann's Parishioners

still

last

representative to the

To Suppress Mexican Uprising MEXICO CITY (CNS) The guerrillas who launched a rebellion in south-

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manufacturer offine church furniture

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Salvador's cathedral said death squads,

KIVETT'S INC.

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Jan. 19 ap-

Vatican will be Samuel Hadas, a foreign ministry official and former ambassa-

war is not of a religious nature. "I met Muslims who feel themselves victims of the war as much as Christians," he said. "Muslims and Christians insist on their readiness to live together with one another and their neighbors, as they have done for years."

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a

bishop George Carey of Canterbury has

homilist at the Jan.

The

pointment came less than three weeks after the Holy See and Israel signed a "fundamental agreement" on principles of church-state relations and promised to exchange representatives. Israel has

Sudan, Anglican Arch-

Salvador Homilist Blames Killings On Death Squads

PEWS

AVONDALE PHARMACY

recent visit to

— Pope

1990, to be his special representative to

Catholic bishops of Illinois are launching a major anti-racism campaign be-

(CNS)

the apostolic delegate in Jerusalem since

par-

Launches Appeal For Sudan LONDON (CNS) Following

Amnesty International Asks For Commission On Death Penalty WASHINGTON (CNS) Calling

St.

VATICAN CITY

John Paul II has appointed Archbishop Andrea Cordero Lanza de Montezemolo,

ticipating in the peace talks.

Bishops Launch Anti-Racism Effort CHICAGO (CNS) In an unprecedented effort to combat racism, the

a

Name

Diplomatic Envoys

the Israeli government.

Illinois

could help reduce long-running sectar-

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Tudjman

four Bosnian dioceses.

Vatican, Israel

Anglican Archbishop

press conference that greater prosperity

tal

by public funds. The court's decision also accepted the principle that public aid can be provided to private schools for maintenance improvements.

court.

ployment and investment released at the

in

construction costs that can be covered

among

Catholic, Anglican and Protestant fig-

in a transatlantic electronic

court action Jan. 13 placed a 10 percent cap on the portion of repair or

com-

ing a Jan. 12 meeting in Zagreb

Washington

schools, most of which are Catholic.

The

areas outside Croatian control, they

lic

gians and scientists for centuries; the

begins

for safety-related repairs to private

plans leave too many traditionally Catho-

when

life

bishops of Bosnia-Herzegovina. The

nominational appeal linked prominent

But the question has never been defined clearly by the U.S. high

all

tutional court has overruled a controver-

the Catholic

plaints in a written statement given to

begins has occupied theolo-

"They

French Court OKs Limited Public Funds For Private School Repairs PARIS (CNS) France's consti-

Inter-

Mother Teresa intends to join 150 individuals and organizations in asking the court to take the case. The question of life

girl.

section of a new law allowing local governments to provide unlimited funds

Bosnia-Herzegovina into three ethnic ministates could facilitate ethnic cleans-

In a Jan. 18 press confer-

former guer-

sial

abortion and protect the unborn child's life.

a

well as three others,

have the mark of the death squads.... God should want this sorrowful news to disappear," he said.

Bishops Warn Peace Proposals Make 'Cleansing' Of Catholics Easier

ZAGREB,

Ruben Vanegas,

official, as

including a 13-year-old

has taken effect.

national peace proposals to divide

ence preceding the filing of the appeal, Patrick J. Mullaney, attorney for Alexander V. Loce of New Jersey, said

(CNS) LeadNorthern Ireland and

it are no longer Pennsylvania Legislature, but provisions of the Pennsylvania Abortion Control Act of 1989 may finally be put

obligation to try to stop his fiancee's

right to

WASHINGTON churchmen

ing

of his organization

WASHINGTON (CNS) — The Su-

told Chicago's priests'

council meeting Jan.

On When

Rule

can't continue to sustain

our ministries if the people don't get more involved and take more ownership,"

arbitrary, unfair

is

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enjoy

1994 has begun,

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we can

the

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your

newal that comes at this beginning of |

new Many

year.

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life.

You may want some

feeling of re-

each

(CNS)

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to receive

president of the National Conference of

specific items, while others

would get amount or percentage of your estate. Only you can make these decisions based on your desires and the

Catholic Bishops Jan. 19 expressed the

a dollar

U.S. bishops' support for victims of the

needs of each

heir.

Catholics across the country to respond

victims.

by revealing the

"Having experienced a major earthquake here in 1 989, the Catholic faithful are very much aware of the emotions, the immediate needs and the long-term

of people reaching out

rebuilding requirements associated with

consider a bequest to your parish, a

ish long-put-

favorite Catholic organization or the

of

off tasks or

diocese after your family has been

"wonderful

accomplish

provided for. A charitable bequest speaks volumes about your commitment to your faith. It is an act of stewardship which allows you to extend your Christian values beyond your earthly life and it acts as an inspiration

At

new goals as we start another phase in our lives. Because of the "new beginning" symbolized by a new year, this can be a good time to make or review your

Many

people automatically do a

review each year. They make sure an excellent investment in sound estate planning will

their affairs are in order

and peace of mind. If 1994 inspires you

this point,

you may want

to

to others. 4.

Who

can help you put your

plans in action? Finally, in order for

your planning to result in the distributions you intend, it' s important to have

to long-range

the best possible professional advice.

planning, here's a quick outline ex-

Your attorney will draft your will and make suggestions for the best ways to

you prepare your will. By completing it before you meet with your attorney, you will have your ideas recorded in logical order, which can save time and expense. 1. Who is important to you? First, remember those who depend on you for financial support, perhaps your perts suggest to help

spouse, children, parents, siblings, grandchildren or others. Then

remem-

ber friends, non-dependent relatives, associates and anyone else you'd like

your plans. Record each person's name, age and relationship to

to include in

you. 2.

What do you own?

this list

Include in

everything of value.

What you

own is what makes up your estate: your house(s), automobile(s), cash, savings

accounts, securities, real estate, life insurance, retirement plan assets and any other property of value. List the present value, what it cost, and any income it provides. List any mortgages or other debts as well. 3. How do you want to distribute your property? Now you are ready to jot down your ideas for distributing

Question (From

Page

guish clearly the two manifestations of this

presence of our Lord

and prayer

for

rist

our liturgy

communal worship

Communion

In the

focus

own

a major disaster," said Bishop DuMaine.

pain,"

Archbishop William H. Keeler of Balti-

more

Cardinal Bernard F.

said in a statement, released in

Law of Boston

also authorized a special collection for

Washington.

quake victims on the weekend of Jan. 22-23 or Jan. 29-30 in parishes throughout the Boston Archdiocese. The Society of St. Vincent de Paul, a Catholic lay organization devoted to serving the poor, was asking for donations from its 60,000 members to sup-

He said the nation also was touched by the courage and strength of the people of Los Angeles, and he noted a spiritual message could be found in the tragedy, which killed at least 55 people, injured more than 5,000, and caused an estimated $30 billion in damages. "At a time when the earth itself does not provide a firm foundation for our lives, we are reminded that we need to

port the earthquake relief efforts. In a letter to his fellow bishops Jan. 19, Cardinal

Roger M. Mahony of Los

turn to

estate.

The U.S. bishops were encouraging "continued generosity on the part of our people, which

to deal with not only the physical

you have questions about ways include charitable bequest in your If

to

plans, call

me at the number below. I'll

be pleased to help. If planning your will is a task you have been putting off, make time in 1994 to "put your house in order." Knowing you have taken care of this responsibility as a steward of your worldly possessions adds to peace of mind and enjoyment of living. For more information and a free copy of the booklet How to Make a Will That Works, please call me at the Diocesan Development Office, (704) 331-1709 or 377-6871, or write to

1524 East Morehead St., Charlotte, 28207. We'll be pleased to provide more information at no obliga-

NC

tion.

Jim Kelley is director of development for the diocese of Charlotte.

same address.) Copyright © 1 994 by Catholic News

God to find the

secure underpin-

nings of our hopes," Archbishop Keeler said.

is

being channeled

through Catholic Charities USA," he said, adding that the needs of quake victims should be "brought to people's attention through parishes wherever possible."

Catholic Charities

based

in the

rishioners."

Another need, the cardinal said, was

USA — which is

for "crisis intervention specialists to

Washington suburb of Al-

thousands of people deal with of their families and their lives." He said he hoped that "dioceses nearer to California could spare one or two professionals for a couple of assist the

exandria, Va., and represents the Catholic

community

disaster

in times of

this total disruption

domestic

— has issued an appeal

locally

and nationally for donations. Contributions can be sent to: Catholic Charities USA, California Earthquake Disaster, 13331 Pennsylvania Ave., Hagerstown, 21742. The donations will then be sent on to the Los Angeles

weeks." In terms of material goods, Cardinal Mahony said new blankets and sleeping bags were especially needed, but that food items would best be obtained

MD

archdiocesan Catholic Charities office.

locally".

Cardinal Mahony saidfinancial as-

Bishop Thomas V. Daily of Brooklyn, N.Y., asked the pastors of his diocese to take up a special collection during Masses Jan. 22-23. "As Christians and as fellow Americans we wish to respond by offering those afflicted our prayers and assistance so that they may begin to rebuild their lives," he wrote in his letter to clergy.

dam-

age caused by the earthquake, but also as they attempt to cope with the fears, fright and uncertainty of so many pa-

sistance should be sent to Earthquake

Disaster Relief Fund, Archdiocese of Los Angeles, c/o Bishop Stephen E.

1531 West 9th St., Los Angeles, 90015. Material assistance should be sent through: James Stratton, Catho-

Blaire,

CA

Charities,

lic

The money collected

Angeles,

CA

1400 West 9th

St.,

Los

90015.

Service

at

to the sick

and

first

of these, the focus

is

the

of sacrifice. In the second, the is

to help others despite their

the reservation of the Eucha-

dying, and for private prayer.

altar

spirit

the celebration of the

life,

Eucharist in our

Mass and

in

devastation, but

accomplish your wishes. Other financial advisors may also be needed, depending on the complexity of your

5)

all this is to distin-

its

Angeles said many had "asked what our greatest needs are at this moment, and how they can help." As his first priority, he listed "continuous prayers for our priests, religious and ministry personnel as they attempt

should be sent to Father Dietzen at the

The purpose of

sent to Catholic Charities.

Los Angeles earthquake and urged

solve to fin-

of us will re-

was

Bishop R. Pierre DuMaine of San Jose, Calif., also asked pastors in his diocese to take up a special collection during the Jan. 22-23 Masses for quake

with material assistance and prayers. The Jan. 17 earthquake "touched everyone in this land" not only by scenes

will.

For

California Earthquake Victims

By JIM KELLEY

Now

Way

Under

Relief Efforts

The Right Direction For Healthcare.

the tabernacle.

Having them separate and honoring that distinction in our prayer and worship is not only proper. It helps keep focus on what we are doing in whatever eucharistic activity occupies us at the

Your child might be sick with the

flu or

one of your employees may need to have a work-related physical

exam. Whatever your healthcare needs,

time.

choosing the physi-

Obviously, churches which attempt to follow Catholic guidelines in this matter are not "relegating" the eucharistic presence anywhere. They are attempt-

cians and staff at

ristic life in the

manner they deserve.

(A free brochure answering questions Catholics ask about receiving the

is

holy Eucharist is available by sending a

CMA,

Dr. Baratta

and Receptionist, Lisa Cajuste

a step in the right direction.

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certified in family practice, Dr. Pat Baratta

the newest

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routine and pre-employment physicals and examinations,

treatment of

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February

4,

1994

feoi

The CRISM Treasurehouse

One By

CAROL HAZARD

"They are an extremely varied group, particularly here in the South

Associate Editor

Imagine living through the horse and buggy era, the Great Depression,

all

over

Bach estimates

Vatican

spanning the century. "They are a great source of strength for the Church," Bach says. "They are the backbone of the Church by their adherence and contributions to the Church and their constancy and consistency in living out their faith." The Catholic News & Herald shares the stories of two of these remarkable people. One lives her faith by giving the simple gift of

II.

change for three generations, says

Suzanne Bach, coordinator

for Catho-

Retirees Invited to Special Minis-

CRISM is supported by the DSA.

i

time.

r

there are at least

10,000 older adults in the diocese, a treasure house of talents and stories

tries.

where people have come from the country."

World War II, man on the moon. And These folks people 65 and older have had enough

lic

The Other Talent

Retiree Gives Time;

The other —

ented craftsman

a

tal-

— contrib-

1

Rie Vaessen gives of her time to build the Kingdom.

the "bell girl of the

Franz Grimminger The day before Grimminger left for

is

who

parish," a person

is

a

A

neighbor chop

parishioner at

St.

Pius

all

the Catholic Churches

in the

Greensboro

area.

Plank by plank, pane by pane, stone by stone, Franz Grimminger, 81,

Grimminger prayed Mother

homeland, he helped a

visit to his

Two healed.

days

later,

Grimminger

The 12-by-12

cated three years ago.

He visited a German doctor who knew nothing about treating poison

ity

grow

in

in hei

honor.

and swollen.

oak, since the plant did not

He prom

would build a chapel

down a tree. The next Germany, he broke out with a poison oak infection. His eyes were red day, in

to the Blessec

for her intercession.

ised her he

called upon for everything.

X, she shares her talent as a caretaker with people at

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111

time and talent not for their glory but for the Kingdom of God.

74,

i

by the sweat of his brow. Maria "Rie" Vaessen, utes

;

is

M*

his eyes

wen

built a cedar

framed chapel on the grounds of th< Catholic Conference Center in Hickory foot chapel

was dedi

"The chapel has added to the seren and holiness of the Catholic Confer ence Center," says CCC director Guj

Germany. Fearing he would lose his eyesight,

See

CRISM, Page

1C

crafted a tiny chapel dedi-

cated to the Blessed Mother on the grounds of the Catholic Conference Center. With loving care, he added a water wheel and walkway across a stream in front of the

A

Matter Of JOANN KEANE

By

Blessed Mother at St. Joseph Church in Newton. He also built the chapel within St. Joseph Church.

at the

Catholic ConferenceCenter. Photo by CAROL HAZARD

CAROL HAZARD

Holy Family Church

Associate Editor

well.

in

troller

Diocese of Charlotte answers that

pledges are followed over the course

good stew-

son and staff track parish targets, and provide a weekly report on individual

call as

ards of the gifts; the

by the

in trust

monies given of Western

Clemmons

as

Area Catholic Schools. the

"He lets kids know exactly where Church stands. But instead of telling them to live it, he invites them to live

trust

it."

mindful of its role as steward, as caretaker, of the monies entrusted to

"Now

he said. pray it.

Don't play

it."

Matt Van Hoose put the sheet music aside and offered the notes up to God. "It was a powerful experience for me," It

recalls Matt.

was

also the start of a popular

youth Mass, which and older adults, at

Church

now draws St.

families

Paul the Apostle

Greensboro. "Chris brought a liveliness to the music," says Mary Jayne Dawson, youth director at St. Paul the Apostle. "He has a very friendly disposition that makes everyone feel at ease. He talks the kids' language and offers a sense of celebration in the music." Lynch brought about a new energy and vibrancy to youth music groups at St. Michael Church in Gastonia and in

"Music

is

a vehicle for inner feel-

ings that can't be reached," says Lynch, 27. "It's an abstract connection to the

soul."

Lynch and

his

five-member band

play what he calls "contemporary Catholic liturgical

twist

is

music with a

twist."

w

The

the influence of blues, jazz, rock

and African music. From blues legend B.B. King,

e e k

cam

paign, as

pledge sent,

and

tions are

manager

good,"

10-

the

$1.8 million translates into income

tries.

saxophone. "That's

s

contribu-

spring youth conference at Camp Thunderbird in Clover, S.C. The youth ministry program of the Faith Formation Office is funded by the DSA. "Chris has a way of bringing music to the kids with a popular beat and tempo but with an uncompromising message," says Tom Calabro, director of Faith Formation for Mecklenburg

on the

n u e

during

The appeal goal of

at stake.

for operating budgets for

turgical tune

t i

Literally thousands of individual

needs are

Moreover, he performs with his

li-

A flurry of activity con-

cards are

band, Pipe Dream, at the diocesan

struggled with a

parish status.

into appropriate ministries.

teenager

a

of the campaign. Additionally, John-

faithful

Chris Lynch listened respectfully as

Under the watchful eye of Comp Theo Johnson, payments and

responsibility. The

North Carolina. With sound financial and fiscal management procedures in place, the people of God in the Diocese of Charlotte can rest assured that each donation is revered and channeled

Musician Brings Vibrancy Energy To Youth Masses By

business office.

peccable financial

for a life-size statue of the

Vaessen and Grimminger contribute

dollars calls for im-

A Diocesan Support Appeal goal

What' s more, he built a stone wall and alcove

Franz Grimminger near the waterwheel and chapel he built

of $1.8 million

with Diocesan Support Appeal kickoff weekend February 5-6 as 35,000 pledge cards are sent to Catholic house holds. The mailing originates in the

Associate Editor

chapel.

Money

30 minis-

received

DSA

by

funding is the lifeblood, and the people of the diocese are life Bill

sustaining donors.

Through conservative governance, ministry funding runs smoothly. "Not only are

we

safe-

guarding assets, but maintaining procedures to insure funds are used appropriately," said Bill

lotte.

Weldon,

fiscal

for the Diocese of Char-

"We

have a very significant

placed with us." "The diocese has always been

Weldon

the

diocese

T

h

payment process continues until year end, and parish rebates are issued in January Parishes receive 100 percent of

funds over and above the

all

DSA parish

"The rebates for 1993 were very good," said Johnson. "Seventy seven percent of parishes and missions went over goal." Through the annual DSA and gengoal.

erosity of individuals in the diocese,

DSA-supported ministries provide

Weldon. "This responsibility increases as we grow in numbers. We must constantly look at accountability issues. As good stewards, we continue to assess systems and inter-

His work. "Many ministries depend almost entirely on the DSA, such as the Hispanic and Vietnamese ministries," said Johnson. Other ministries,

nal controls."

like Catholic Social Services, receive

us," said

At the hub of the well-oiled machine

is

the business office; the heart

of DSA activities.

The pace quickens

for business office staffers beginning

faith-inspired services that continue

a major portion of their operating budgets through the support appeal. "This is the way we are church; taking care of those in need," said Johnson.

!

See Musician, Page 10

1


February

1994

4,

The Catholic News &

CSS Handles Adoptions By JOANN

KEANE

she" couldn't

Ann

and wanted a

Bill

knew

selves, rather than being influenced

give another

by family members or us as an

elderly father, Kelly

Associate Editor

houseful of chil-

dren. They thought the birth of their daughter,

was the first of more to come. That dream was sidetracked when emergency surSara,

child the life

it

deserved.

Without skipping a beat, the couple called Catholic Social Ser-

assurance, that as a preg-

vices to begin the adoption process.

nant

CSS

not be abandoned. A couple of agencies simply hung up on her. Then she

supported by the Diocesan

And

Kelly.

CSS

non-judgmental arms. Kelly's unorthodox re-

getting here."

quests

she

became pregnant. Living

on food stamps, a little child support and some financial aid from her

CSS. "You don't

called

have to be alone in this," were the first words Kelly heard from CSS. True to its mission, greeted Kelly with

CSS

A

workers often assume the and friend to those seeking to place a child for adop-

Catholic

Forest Uni-

The

Catholic

Campus

Love

— —

pledges during this time

woman

period.

was involved

in

for the Blessed

The kickoff

Mother

is this

newspaper issue and a video that will be shown in all parishes and missions the

Ministry.

weekend of

Feb. 5-6. Parishioners

inspires an 8 1 -year-old man involved

will receive a letter next

in Catholic Retirees Invited to

week from Msgr. John J. McSweeney, dioc-

cial Ministries

(CRISM)

Spe-

to build a

chapel and beautify grounds

at the

Catholic Conference Center in Hickory. The serene setting draws people of all ages for prayer and reflection.

These and other

stories

about

them

to

our most important role is counseling," says Barbara Grisinger, CSS social worker. "We encourage feel

make

People are asked to contribute out of their need to give, not the Church's

ing for their support.

Money

above the goal

collected is

returned

fall

the

short,

comes from

money

the offertory.

"The people of the diocese have a record of great generosity," says Kelley.

30 ministries supported by the DSA while others are involved in a handful.

continue to be generous with their sup-

however, are impacted by the DSA. The theme, "Where Your Treasure There Also Is Your Heart," is scrip-

All,

Is;

are asking regular contributors to

port and,

pledge.

if

We

possible, to increase their are asking those

gratitude to

God for their many bless-

ings," says Kelley.

Contact:

Father Frank O'Rourke, Vocation Director 1621 Dilworth Rd. East Charlotte, N.C. 28203 (704) 334-2283

DSA

pro-

people to give of their treasure."

The

DSA

raises

money

"not for

ministries for the people in the diocese," says Kelley.

His Will In Yours.

creases each year. To me, that says people are responding to our efforts to bring about true Christian stew-

ardship."

This year's

DSA

the residue of my

is

particularly

See Open, Page 16

"A valid Will stands as a continuing expression of our concern for loved ones, as well as an ongoing commit-

ment to the Church and the community in which we live!' Msgr. John

J.

McSweeney

Roman

Catholic Diocese of percent of ( or estate) for its religious, educational

sum of $

and charitable works.

pro-

Msgr. McSweeney. "No gift is too small and no gift is too large. The number of people who make a stewardship commitment in-

ou can express your commitment to your Church by making a bequest to the Diocese of Charlotte. Simply have the following statement included in your Will: "/ leave to the

DSA

tributions," says

never pledged to consider contributing

Charlotte the

"The

people to give of their treasure." "We are grateful for all the con-

to the priesthood

in the Diocese of Charlotte.

"The

vides an important opportunity for

who have

Remember Give prayerful thought to considering a vocation

.

vides an important opportunity for

to the parish. If parishes

"We

work of the Church. "As people become increasingly aware of stewardship as a way of life, they respond generously by giving their time, talent and treasure in to this important

page 15) based on weekly collec-

Some parishes use as many as 26 of the

Adoptions, Page 16

the diocese, but for life-changing

tions.

hhh

CSS

need to receive. Every parish and mission contributes by meeting a goal (see

well as spiritual support.

wBK^^^^m

in the

says.

behind him with our financial as

See

Your Treasure

whole theme of Development Office related to stewardship," says Jim Kelley, director of the Development Office, which conducts the^ppeal. "The concept of stewardship is giving from the heart," Kelley

"The DSA can be a true sign of support to the bishop when he begins his ministry here. It will show we are

ing one of Kelly's requests, CSS arranged for Laura and Andy to be part of the birth process. When the

the best decision them-

tural. "It ties into the

esan administrator, ask-

the life-changing ministries sup-

ported by the Diocesan Support

"We

what we are doing

from Feb. 6 April 10 will raise $1,806,000, up 3 percent from last year, to fund 30 diocesan ministries. Parishioners will be asked to make their This year's appeal

cope, the young

friend

The

Herald.

through

sought the advice of a friend who invited her to church.

in this issue of

News &

student from China finds peace of mind in a Catholic Church. Barely able to

had

tion.

Heart, Share

Appeal appear

versity

the process.

social

Associate Editor

Wake

nursery for an adopted baby. Photo by

role of mother, therapist,

CAROL HAZARD

depressed

crib in CSS JOANN KEANE

Caseworker Barbara Grisinger readies

may have surprised

CSS, but did not impede

Open Your By

CSS's philosophy centers around the best decision for the birth mother and the child. Adoptive families, too, receive counseling services. "That helped us a lot," says Ann. Ann and Bill were assisted with issues concerning their decision to adopt. Would they be open to a baby from a drug-using birth mother? Were they open to meeting the birth mother? "The adoption decision is up to the couple, and CSS helped us uncover our comfort level," says Ann. "As a mother, I empathize with what the birth mother went through. It takes great strength and courage to place a baby for adoption," says Ann. Kelly gave birth to a baby girl. Adoptive parents, Laura and Andy, were present for the delivery. HonorGrisinger.

woman, she would

through adoption. Both come from God; adoption is just another way of

when

help with other counseling," says

she wanted

Support Appeal. Sara was only two years old. Ten months later, Sara had a baby brother; a beautiful dark eyed biracial bundle of joy. "The thought of adoption was so easy for us," says Ann. (Pseudonyms are used to protect their identity.) "There's no difference in having a child naturally or

Kelly had a couple-of kids in tow

CSS applies no pressure. If a woman changes her mind on placing her baby, that's okay too. "We can

of Ann's ovaries.

is

agency."

She decided to place her baby for adoption. But Kelly headstrong and determined wanted to have some say in the placement of her newborn. She called several private adoption agencies and laid out her stipulations. "I wanted a choice in the child's future," recalls

gery resulted in the removal of both

With Loving Care

"

For more information on how to make a Will that works, contact Jim Kelley, Director of Development, Diocese of Charlotte, 1524 East Morehead St., Charlotte, NC 28207, (704) 331-1709 or 377-6871.


News

olic

& Herald

February 4, 1994

Pro-Life Corner

#

Jft I

if,;

In Stuart, Fla., one man will serve eight months in jail for butchering a kitten and another man will serve eight months for brutally beating a kitten. In the United States,

born

it is

perfectly legal to brutally kill a pre-

child.

(Reading:

"Men Get Jail Time For

Kitten Abuse," Wash-

ington Times, 12/19/93, P. A2)

Editorial

The Respect

Diocese of Charlotte

Life Office

(704) 331-1720

Giving From The Heart This issue of The Catholic

News & Herald

kicks

Pope: Family

off the annual Diocesan Support Appeal which runs

from Feb. 6 through April

Scattered throughout the

0.

1

paper are stories about many of the 30 diocesan ministries which receive the bulk of their financing from the

Ground For Love

Training

WASHINGTON (CNS) — The family is the train-

,tr,

POPE JOHN PAUL II

ing ground where people learn to love and care for

DSA. The annual fund campaign has

a goal this year of

$1.8 million, up 3 percent from the 1993 goal.

1995 DSA was more than $1.9

The

most successful in history, raising was 1 1 1 percent of the DSA goal of $1.75 million. We hope this year's drive will at least match that result or even surpass it. As you read the stories in this issue, you'll find that the life-changing ministries impact on your lives and those of others in your parish more than you perhaps imagined. Some parishes are affected by as many as 26 of the 30 DSA-funded ministries. This year' s DSA theme "Where Your Treasure Is; There Also Is Your Heart" is tied to the whole theme of stewardship, a concept which has been accepted by many of thee people of the diocese. Jim Kelley, director of the Office of Development, says the whole concept of stewardship is "giving from the the

million. That total

heart."

The diocese

growing rapidly with a present

is

others,

Pope John Paul

II

said in his

who

are suffering.

"The family is the first and foremost place in which we come to appreciate and live" values of love, sharing and respect for others, he said. The 1 300-word papal message, sent out last fall to bishops' conferences around the world, recently was released in the United States by the National Confer,

ence of Catholic Bishops. Lent begins Feb. 16 this year for Latin-rite Catholics and other Western Christians. It begins Feb. 14 for Eastern-rite Catholics, who celebrate Easter at the same time but start Great Lent two days earlier, on Monday. For Orthodox Christians,

March 14 this year. pope wrote, "we learn atten-

"In the family," the tiveness, openness

common

is

and respect for

also an invitation to a sharing

ter

and

and fasting in order to grow in characovercoming the desire to pos-

self- discipline,

sess everything for oneself alone.

family stays with us throughout

He urged

trivial things.

much. But there are many who can afford to be generous. We hope they will are not financialy able to give

be.

During the coming week, you'll be receiving a from Msgr. John J. McSweeney asking for your support. It will contain a pledge card and we urge you letter

to give prayerful consideration to

much

as

What we learn in the

He

people to "be especially attentive to the

capped. Children of broken families are often led "to roam

seek refuge in drugs, alcohol abuse or

violence," he said.

"Faced with these grave problems, which have reached global proportions, we may not keep silent or The Cathouc

ews & Herald

[cpa)

us abstain from our often

immod-

neighbor what he desperately needs," he said. "The fasting of the rich must become the feast of the poor."

Pope Says Laity Called To Be Prophets Of Faith, Hope

VATICAN CITY (CNS) — Lay people are called

to be prophets of faith

and hope to a world searching for

happiness, Pope John Paul

II

said

Sharing in the prophetic mission of Christ as theyi carry out their daily tasks in the world, the lay faithful

show others that Christian hope is not a denial of temporal reality or earthly existence, the pope said at his Jan.

26 general audience.

By

being prophets of hope, lay people show "anopenness to the transcendence of eternal life, which alone gives earthly existence its true value," he said.

With the help of the Holy Spirit, the prophetic role is aimed at "making the Gospel of Christ shine in the secular world, in the various fields where

do nothing, because they are destroying the family.... Christians and all people of good will have the duty to help families in difficulty," he said. He urged people to link acts of penance with acts of charity.

obligations," the

fulfill their

earthly

pope said

Lay Catholics

ll

often can be

priests or religious in

more

showing others

effective than

that "there is

no

opposition between following Christ and fulfilling the

must in their 'secular' condition, and, even more, that fidelity to the Gospel works toward the benefit and improvement of earthly institutions and structures," he said. As lay Christians work in the world, the pope said, they must show the power of the Gospel "through their tasks that laity

lives of continuous conversion, their faith in Christ in

every circumstance, their struggles against evil and their patient endurance of trials in union with the crucified Savior." i

February 4, 1994

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responsible for the increase in trash

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the laity carry out their lives and

problems such widespread poverty of families around the world, lack of decent housing, unemployment, single-parent households, increased divorce and separation, abortion, exploitation of young children and indifference toward the aged and handicited

in the streets, to

let

of lay people

life."

sufferings and poverty of families."

making a pledge of

you can.

which helps

discover the immense joy which comes from the communion of goods." "From childhood," he added, "everyone is called

the 32,000 households in the diocese

We realize that there are those in the diocese who

Life in

we

to give,

meet the

would more than Most of us spend more than that on

others....

us to rise above our selfishness. In learning to share and

to mortification

goal.

"This Lent,

who use a different method to calculate when Easter is

46-county area. With that growth comes increased need and demand for the services of the diocesan ministries. That takes money. The number of people who contribute to the DSA is growing annually. Last year more than 48 percent of the households in the diocese made pledges to the campaign. We hope that figure will surpass 50 percent

A pledge of less than $2 a week from every one of

The Pope Speaks

The pope urged Christians to use Lent as a time of conversion to a "life of charity and of solidarity, in all its many forms" with all people, but especially those

observed, Great Lent begins

this year.

1994 message for

Lent.

Catholic population of more than 90,000 people in the

as

Is

Last year, the appeals to clean up programminj

went

to the heads of the four

CBS, Fox and NBC. This

major networks, ABC,

year, Morality in

Media

is

targeting the nation's three biggest television advertis-

Procter & Gamble, Slim-Fast Foods and WarnerLambert Company. All three are among the sponsors of some of the more objectionable shows on television. ers:

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6


The Catholic News

ebruary 4, 1994

Lent Once again, we are quickly aproaching Lent, the period before the reat feast of Easter. To be worthy of Resurrection

Ihrist's

we need

to pre-

are ourselves spiritually. Fasting

is

an

which helps us to hieve self-conquest and self-possesion. Jesus urged us to pray and fast in rder to control the unruly desires which scetical practice

iterfere

with our life of charity Fasting self, in order to .

way of saying no to

a

i

God.

ive ourselves entirely to

The idea of curbing our bodily based on le longing to bring our appetites under ontrol. The will has custody over all ur passions and appetites. Either we ontrol them or they control us. This

ravings for food and drink

is

says yes or no. This doesn't

ill

we

lat

unish

mean

despise the body and seek to rather

it,

means only

it

that

we

own

sonal disintegration.

The holy by the Holy

desire to fast

who

Spirit

strength and courage to

gives us the

overcome our

demons. The Spirit enables us to love God, putting Him first in all things. Fasting also helps us to do penance It is away of countering human weakness by showing one's in-

for our sins.

tention to love God wholeheartedly.

a

It is

way of saying that we value the gift of

God's love above

all things.

Fasting brings discomfort, but a self-chosen discomfort.

is is

We inflict the

discomfort upon ourselves in order to

demonstrate to

God

our desire to love

our will to His, we offer Him supreme dominion over our intellect and will. We hope to please God and at the same

it

becomes unbridled

If one' s craving for

not controlled one

food or alcohol

perfectly. In trying to unite

time reassure ourselves that

Dr. Shuping,

In fasting

for your

My

husband recently completed alcoholism recovery program. I lought our problems would be over nee he stopped drinking and we were ble to get back on our feet financially, but some days are just as bad s ever minus the drinking. In fact, i e was often nicer to me and the kids hen he was drinking. Am I crazy? ti

eader

we are seri-

suffering, uniting with Him on the Cross.

did,

As you think about fasting this Lent, remember to do it because you love

person.

God, not merely because

it

A

just as valid

penitential sacrifice

even

if it isn't difficult.

is

is difficult.

To sacrifice is to

give up a legitimate good. Whether it difficult or not,

This Lent, try to fice as a sign

Then your

pleases the Lord.

it still

make some

sacri-

of your love and gratitude.

fasting will be a beautiful

prayer which goes beyond words. will put into

You

deeds what you proclaim

we participate

in Christ's

lips, and as you turn away from self-centeredness the way Jesus

Life

you

become

will

This year,

let

a

more loving

your Lenten

fast

be

done quietly and joyfully, and let it be motivated by your knowledge of God's love.

is

with your

ous about holiness.

becomes a glutton

Facing 'ear

One Candle

Light

prompted

Regaining control is a liberating our appetites are not conolled, they run wild. If one's sexuality

ist.

.

is

Him more

not controlled

FATHER JOHN CATOIR

slaves

desire, they live in

bondage. Addiction is essentially a disease of the will. Fasting helps us to remain free of any form of bondage leading to per-

to their

ant to stay in control.

;tivity. If

he-

Coming Soon

Is

become

or an alcoholic. Addicts

&

For a free copy of

(

News Note, And Health,

the Christopher

Happiness send a stamped, self-addressed envelope to The Christophers, 12 East 48th Street, New York, NY 10017) Father John Catoir is director of The Christophers. "Spirituality,

"

Without Alcohol MARTHA W. SHUPING, MD

husband to develop some basic

survival skills that he needs in order to

face

life

without alcohol. After

will hopefully

want

that,

he

to get into a "Stage

Two" recovery to deal with some of the deeper issues I mentioned above, so he can learn to be happy and sober at the

same

Crosswinds

time.

You and suffering that

the whole family are also from the effects of alcoholism

have taken

their toll

over the years:

anger, resentment, loss of identity and

q ear Reader,

without alcohol

fe

is

only half the

Underneath all the years of drinkg are layers of spiritual and emotional 'oblems low self-esteem, shame id issues related to intimacy and conol, to name just a few. For the first time your husband's life he's facing these ijngs without the comforting, concealig cloud of alcohol. It's frightening! ittle.

ii

a

i

si

3

It

You can help yourself and your family by getting into treatment with a family therapist experienced in alcoholism or finding a good Al-Anon group, or both. As you begin to resolve some of your issues, you are bound to self-esteem.

may come as a shock to learn that

It

may take the first year of recovery

el

responsibility

deal with their emotional pain.

caused

'

to

Therapy or Al-Anon will help you keep your focus off your spouse,

One look illustrates

Many

still

waged

Do

ever reflect on the good and bad

>ssibilities

ask this because I believe that to spond to the best of our ability to Pope I

hn Paul IT s call for a new evangeliza)n, we need to begin to think in new iays.

New forms of power

— new forms

communication offer a challenge those concerned about evangelizat>n. It is

the challenge first to enter into

world of new "powers" and learn as uch as we can about it. Second, it is the is

allenge of discovering unicate with the ,"

to influence

consider )od.

all

how

to

com-

new "powers

them and

invite

their options for

the problems.

one who has It

will take

effort for

Shuping, 1400 Millgate Drive, Suite B, Winston-Salem, NC 27103.

FATHER EUGENE HEMRICK

is

altogether

how-

new ways.

The Human Side

These not only destroy human we have seen in the case of

but as

communism

new power?

of this

life,

to the therapy

the

your family to become healthy, but anything really worthwhile

some

War

onry.

go is

believe that a successful

and chemical tools, lasers, nuclear weap-

ation instantaneously available.

all

misuse of power the urgency of all this.

>w makes enormous amounts of infor)u

:

is

the alcoholic

at the

revolution depends on war. War, ever,

attend meetings or

always takes time, effort and love. "Recovery" means "getting back what you lost" and it will be worth it! Dr. Shuping is contract staff with Catholic Social Services and also has a private practice as a psychiatrist in Winston-Salem. Questions for this column may be sent to: Dr. Martha W.

The New Worlds Of Power

is aided with the new power of computers, propaganda, psychological

highways are creating, you

Often, spouses feel resentful that

when

a less tense,

low, for example, that electronic mail

ectronic

his

continued recovery.

the emotional energy to help the kids

orld

ents like the glut of information that

own

they should have to put in the effort to

do you

about what is happening in the around you? If you keep up on current develop-

husband assume responsibility for

more loving parent to your children and you 11 begin to have

become

Entering m How much

whom you can't change. Focus your energy on yourself for now. Let your

that

them doing

they destroy cultures. Again, the increased number of innocent deaths resulting from abortions, genocide and euthanasia reflect another

Our greatest deterrent to the misuse

new worlds of power that are emerging.

of power is to develop our moral charac-

Perhaps some simply would say that life

we become able and willing to enter the new worlds of power and look

misuse of power. They represent the self-proclaimed power to do with life as

ter so that

is

one pleases.

them

To respond to the challenge of the new evangelization, a new type of moral

The Waco holocaust and Jonesville were among 1,000 examples of power gone wrong in the area of mind control and the manipulation of groups of people. And in the world of advertising, new ways to manipulate the psyche

One terrible lesson of the world wars came from learning how easy it is to become morally weakened. In the face of tyrannical power consciences went silent, and people looked in other directions, allowing horrendous atrocities to be committed. Today it is easy to crawl into one's own little world and turn away from the

always are sought, utilizing power to generate artificial needs through a barrage of images.

straight in the eye.

getting too complicated.

character is needed. In addition to know-

ing Scripture and the teachings of our faith,

we need

to enter the

power which have

resulted

worlds of

from com-

puters, psychology, biological engineer-

ing and electronics.

We such

as:

must

raise ultimate questions

Where are these so-called good See Human, Page 6


olic

News

&

Herald

February

4,

1994 :

Deadline For CHD Local Fund Grant Applications Feb. 24

Feb. 24

is this

Is

winter's deadline for

securing small local grant applications for

Campaign

(CHD)

for

in the diocese to

fund local organiza-

tions

Human Development

Those interested

in applying for a

small local share of the funding should

funding.

The Campaign for Human Development is the domestic anti-poverty, social justice program of the U.S. bish-

contact Scott Spivak, Local Director,

mission is to address the root causes of poverty in America through promotion and support of community-controlled, self-help organizations and through transforma-

CHD, 1524

tive education.

Callahan, Charlotte; Mary Herr, Whittier; Father George Kloster,

ops. Established in 1970,

By means

its

of an annual collection

taken up in Catholic parishes throughout the country,

CHD

funds economic

and community development projects in

every part of the nation. Three fourths of the Charlotte dioc-

esan collection taken in

try.

is

CHD headquarters in Washing-

sent to ton,

November

D.C. for programs across the counOne fourth of the collection remains

Campaign for Human Development, by calling (704)

lotte,

NC

331-1714 or by writing East Morehead

St.,

to

Char-

28207.

Review of local requests will be made by the Diocesan CHD Committee. Committee members are Steve

Gastonia; Tom Taaffe, Hayesville; Allean Conner, Charlotte; Daughters of Charity Sister Anne Joseph Edelen, Greensboro; Bridgett Johnson, Greensboro; Father Jim Solari, Winston-Salem; Kay Wiener, Hickory; and Bill

CHD awarded

$ 1 1 ,500 in local grants to projects in the

46-county area.

Notebook If

(From Page 4)

you do want

to take part in the

protest, here are the names

Edwin

and addresses: Artz, Chairman, Procter

Gamble, One Procter

& & Gamble Plaza,

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Cincinnati,

4, a resident

and Bob Arterberry

of Holy Angels in Belmont receives a helping hand from of Belmont Council

fashioned conversation with

members

of your family. The results might surprise you.

admit that, having grown up in the days before TV, it's easier for me an my wife to give up the tube for a day. We both spend much of our spare time reading, anyway. By the way, if you just can't do without television, rent a movie for your VCR or try watching the Weather Channel if you have cable. At this time of year, the forecasts might not be too I'll

Don Haller (r)

1076 of the Knights of Columbus while F. J, Singleton (1), director of the Holy Angels Foundation, looks on. The Foundation received a $1,575 donation from funds which the council raised during last year's Operation Lamb Jr.

1

Tootsie Roll Drive.

Photo by

Sister Cecifia rector of the

GEORGE BURAZER

Human (From Page 5)

Honored

Handmaids

Murdock, Asheville. In 1993, the diocesan

Emily,

Sister Cecilia Tong, diVietnamese Apostolate for

new powers

leading us?

Do

they havej

moral value? How can we counter the] misuse of power? How do we make ourl

was named a "Keeper of the

the Diocese of Charlotte,

Martin Luther King, Jr. Dream" by the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Community Relations Committee. She was recognized at the committee's holiday reception Jan. 17. Clara Williams, chairperson of the observance, said it is a way for the

faith

more understandable so

influence these Ironic as

it

that

it

carl

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The Catholic News

ebruary 4, 1994

ampus Ministry wakens Spirit KEANE

By JOANN

ask, "Can you?"

Associate Editor

WINSTON-SALEM fang

felt

— Xiao

Pin

when she said

workload. Graduate school was takits toll, and the second year gradu-

ing

from

Sunday service with

know why 'yes,'

I

asked, but

something unusual

surprise.

While many individuals turn

immediately to Christ in time of crisis, the concept was foreign to Xiao Pin. She was raised under communist Chinese rule, and the Chinese govern-

para-

felt

to

happened. I felt a light come into my mind," said Xiao Pin. "Everything became perfectly clear. That moment gave me hope, I felt hope." The revelation took Xiao Pin by

a grueling school

China

"I don't

»

helpless under the weight of

ate student

go

I

lyzed.

was scared," said Xiao Pin (proDunced Showl Peen). "I tried to keep lyself on the right track, but anxiety I

ment discourages Christian belief. Educated through college in China, Xiao Pin grew to accept the party line. Exposure to Christianity was non-existent,

broke own completely. I could not concenate in class, couldn't do my homeid frustration built up. Finally, I

Forest niversity's counseling service to no /ail. She tried a psychiatrist, but found d relief. A physical check up gave her

and her impressions of the Christian world were tainted. "I had always believed in myself. I thought as long as I worked hard enough, everything would be OK," said Xiao

clean bill of health.

Pin. "I did not believe in a savior."

ork."

Xiao Pin

tried

Wake

casual conversation with her

On a crisp autumn morning in 1 992, Xiao Pin attended her first Christian worship service, and a fire was ignited. "I'm sure to other people it was a regular Sunday service, but it was different to me," said Xiao Pin. In his homily, Franciscan Father Kurt Kreml, Wake Forest Catholic campus minister,

roommate redirected a desper-

talked about vulnerability as a blessing,

She thought of quitting school, as le

stared into a pit of despair. Yet, she

new inside she should be able to handle le stress and challenge of a difficult jurse load. She felt an aching empti;ss in her life, and wasn't sure how to •lieve the pain.

A

atholic

"We

had never talked x>ut her faith, her beliefs." But this /ening was different, and a short exlange on Catholicism led Xiao Pin to

:e

Xiao

Pin.

and

how

opens the heart to God. His words bore straight to the soul it

See Campus, Page

Ministry Fills Student Faith By JOANN

Needs

KEANE

Associate Editor journey at Wake Forest University serves as living testament that the prongs of Campus Ministry are reaching out in salvation to the un-churched.

Xiao Pin Wang's

faith

"We welcome

the doubters, questioners, searchers,"

said Franciscan Father Kurt Kreml,

Wake Forest. And yes,

campus minister

at

even cradle Catholics are welcomed

with open arms.

On Salem

the

campus of Wake Forest University founded by the Baptists

— 745

in

Winston-

of the 5,661

students are identified as Catholic. Catholics are the largest

denomination on campus. Since 1988, Father Kreml has filled the role of full-time campus minister. to the campus ministry setting and the opportunity to work with

He was drawn 1

the students.

Aided by

assistant

campus

minister,

Shawn Adams, Father Kreml

gives a faith presence and response to the students. "Young people are very open to a meaningful message about faith. They respond with a sense of real

Who Benefits When You Open Your Heart And Share Your Treasure?

dedication."

"Most young people are searching for real meaning and insight to important Having a faith community on campus allows young people to live out the gospel in their daily lives. "They see it lived out in the spirit of the community," he said. In addition to weekly Sunday Mass, Wake Forest's Campus Ministry works throughout the week to meet student needs. issues of life," said Father Kreml.

Some of those who are helped include: 7,000 Social Service clients 1,200 senior adults through

Franciscan Father Kurt Kreml, campus minister; Wake Forest University student Xiao Pin Wang, and Campus Minister Shawn Adams gather on campus. Wake Forest photo

CRISM

A student council — similar to a parish council — plans various activities

5,600 students

Catholic Schools

in

1,400 teenagers through

and coordinates service projects. "We have a strong leadership training component," said Father Kreml. "The experience has served a number of our students after graduation, when they remain active in the faith." Many seek involvement in new parishes

Youth Ministry

44 deacons through Permanent Diaconate

following graduation. "Opportunities on college campuses greatly benefit the church of the

15,000 students in

CCD

future," said Father

Faith Formation classes

6,300 college students through

Campus Mininstry

6,000 parishioners through Multi-Cultural Ministries

900 young adults (ages 18-35) through Young Adult Ministry

Kreml.

THE OR^OKY

Our

Father/Son Program Sunday, Feb. o

Secret Garden

March 11 to 5 p.m. Saturday March 12

8 p.m. Friday,

for boys

Ms. Sally Haddix

and

Rev. Mark Larson Father Conrad Hoover, of personal exploration and simple

artistic

expression using the 1991

roadway musical, The Secret Garden (from the classic novel by Frances Hodgson umett). We will dialogue with the unfolding dramaas the story and its characters relate our personal stories. Participants will have the opporunity to respond to three central ovements in the story through journal writing, discussion, music and visual arts. Pre-register

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"It is a training

young people feel a part of the church rather than alienation, resulting in the bridge from adolescent questioning and reacting to mature Catholic faith. "Without that, many Catholic young people drift away from the faith. We find having Church on campus helps to prevent that from happening." Students who are hungry and searching for adult faith will likely find that in the student faith community," said Father Kreml. Across the 46-county Diocese of Charlotte, DSA-sponsored Campus Ministry is present on 30 college campuses.

by February 25

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atholic

f

News

& Herald

February

Where Your Treasure

Is,

There Also

DSA-Supported St.

Michael Church,

1%

Is Yt

Ministrie

The Diocesan Support Appeal helps spread the funding 30 ministries. The ministries bring

4,

vitality to

light

of Christ

I

parishes and missior

throughout the Diocese of Charlotte. They serve people of all ages, races an backgrounds as one family in Christ.

Gastonia

time,

Each parish community is a treasure house of God. By sharing the talent and treasure, parishes contribute to the strength of the Chun

Evangelization team reviews parish plans for reaching inactive Catholics and the unchurched, front

row

Jack Weisenhom,oneof 1

1

row

(1-r)

are

Jim Kennedy, Notre Dame Sister Carol Symons and Lee MacMillan. Chip Wilson, Richard Labrecque and Rita Labrecque. ^

ba

men studying for the Permanent Diaconate,

proclaims the Word. There are 44 permanent deacons

in the diocese.

Third grade teacher Mercy Sister Margaret Mary Wharton reads a story to St. Michael Catholic

School students Brian Pinto, Kathryn Mullen, Matthew Haskins and Daysha Johnson.

mm

In

are Pat O'Neill,

JOANN KI

CRISM members

Peggy and Walter Duffy

at

a "Pillars" seniors' club social.


'ebruary 4,

1

994

(Heart

The Catholic News

1

;

H

The 1994 Diocesan Support Appeal

rich Parish is

&

Communities

a whole.

Two

parishes and some of their DSA-supported ministries are Mnighlighted on these pages. They serve as examples of the ways people in all

wishes

jastonia

Barnabas Church,

St.

large and small benefit from the DSA. St. Michael Church in and St. Barnabas Church in Arden are vibrant faith communities

Arden

de even stronger by various DSA-supported ministries.

CAROL HAZARD Eucharistic minister Dorothy

Lay ministers

Schmid gives communion

are central to the vitality of parish

to Cathie Stout.

life.

The photos on

this page depict some of the DSA-supported Barnabas Church. The ministries are (clockwise): Faith Formation Lay Ministry Engaged Encounter Youth Ministry Office of Worship

ministries at St. • • • •

Rita Pisano directs combined youth and adult choir. She hones her skills

by attending

liturgical

workshops sponsored by the Office of Worship.

CAROL HAZARD CAROL HAZARD Tie St.

Barnabas Youth Group

nnual fundraisers.

sells

baked goods

at

one of several

Father John Schneider counsels couples on the sacrament of marriage.

From

left to right

are Peter Krzywicki

and Martina Rhoads, Michelle Henderson and John Kobar, and Jane and Pat Croskey. All the couples participated in

Engaged Encounter.


/iic

&

News

Herald

February

CRISM Treasurehouse (From Page

"We

Piche.

2)

who see and who

the chapel off in the distance

go there for private reflection." Grimminger still travels to the CCC every week to beautify the setting. He built a waterwheel for a stream that runs in front of the chapel

and a reflection

made of stones. "Franz is an inspiration to all the staff with his hard work and continuing support of the center," says Piche.

pool

More

palachian State University.

their anxieties," says Vaessen.

get lots of guests

Grimminger was

recently,

The more Vaessen

Called the Blues Brothers, the

more

to

be done, and not enough people to do it," she says. "If someone wants to get involved, come with me and look for

duo drove a 1 975 Navy blue Cadillac packed to the fins with an amp, guitar and bass. They were part of the Bethany music group, and played for the "Youth Vibrant

yourself."

Mass"

gives, the

she feels inadequate. "There

is

so

much

Every Sunday and again on Monday, Vaessen volunteers at Cone Hospital. She coordinates family visitations

At

least

one day a week, she

Again he

built in her honor.

homes

Finding stones in the woods, he hauled each piece to St. Joseph Church, where he built a stone wall with an alcove for a life-sized statue of the Blessed Mother. The wall was dedi-

visits.

His 54-year-old daughter, who has is on oxygen but she has hung onto life three months longer than expected. lung problems,

"We

believe the Holy Mother has

had a helping hand in the fact that she is still alive," says Grimminger. Grimminger donated all labor and materials for both projects. His wife, Maria, decorated the chapel.

The Grimmingers came

to the

United States in 1955 and he worked for General Motors in Detroit. They have two sons in addition to their daughter. They retired to Sherrills Ford in 1981 and moved to Charlotte recently to be near their daughter.

Rie Vaessen

An up on

80-year-old

life after

given

her husband died. She

spent her days in bed in a nursing home.

After discovering the

woman still loved

the Church, Vaessen arranged for a

home Mass and

woman's

invited the

family.

"She came completely Vaessen.

"It

all

alive,

and

the prayers," recalls

was such a good

feeling."

to help

be with people," Vaessen being goes out to others. That's just my way." Every day Sundays included Vaessen donates her time and compas-

"My whole

—

—

sion in various ministries.

The

shut-ins.

Sometimes she

just takes a

book and reads to them. She is credited with keeping a lady out of the hospital for 10 years by one "If

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A retired nurse, she has three grown time.

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was

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At Belmont Abbey Colhe would cut classes to go the Abbey Church to converse with God. While at college, he attended a charismatic renewal retreat and again experienced a conversion. "I met the reality of Jesus. I felt an overwhelming peace that said 'Come follow me " Chris offers and be not afraid.'" Unlike his brother, Christ's love Lynch says he with an never felt called to intensity like school.

lege,

Musician Brings Vibrancy, Energy To Youth Masses (From Page 2) Lynch learned about soul music.

From rock 'n roller Eddie Van Halen, he picked up on energy levels.

the Holy Spirit at Pentecost.

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and

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Spirit,

will use the

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do.

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I

which

is

taking care of

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Lynch

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He

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is

to

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of mind."

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Chris

as a vehicle to get

pace.

PRE-REGLSTRATION ENCOURAGED Saturday 9:30

in

to volunteer her

traces his faith journey

was a very profound experience. I felt empowered with the Holy Spirit

"You allow

Originally from the Netherlands, Vaessen came to the United States with her husband in 1954. She's been in Greensboro ever since.

Serving the Carolinas

Monday - Friday 9:30

Lynch

to his confirmation at age 12. "It

but

During Christmas, she delivers groceries to the needy and holiday gifts to the home bound and hospitalized. She was part of the task force and a member of the board of directors for the

first

Eucharistic minister to the sick in Greensboro, she takes communion to

astic."

the church choir.

When

get into dancing and singing and

"The kids love him," says Tom Czarnomski, Youth Council coordinator and regional youth minister for the Greensboro area. "He's very upbeat, positive and enthusi-

become independent of

Moreover, she's a Friend of Dolan Manor, helping the elderly make new lives in an apartment residence. She was a board member for St. Pius X Housing Inc., which governs Dolan Manor. She's a faithful volunteer at St. Pius X parish office, and a member of

"Oh

"I love to

all

is

rejoicing."

also

public welfare assistance.

heater fixed.

simple

She

volunteers with Project Independence to help families

college, she

says.

who need emergency

people

housing, clothing or food.

children.

was as cold as it could be," says Vaessen. She immediately arranged to have the

is."

Edmisten, 17, of Boone. "I've seen him touch a lot of kids. He brings out happiness in everyone, and we

sweat

and a blanket. "The house

it

She's an intermediary for Greensboro Urban Ministries, asking agencies

One cold day, Vaessen visited a man who had had a stroke and suffered from cancer. He was bundled up in a suit

like

"Jesus

alive; that's what I get out of Chris' music," says Theresa

dedication."

participated in

it

making home

in addition to

socials for the

woman had

ing

visits

parishioners in nursing and retirement

December on the Feast of Immaculate Conception.

an intensity like the Holy Spirit at Pentecost," says Father Lynch, who plays bass guitar in the band. "He has a natural desire to share Christ, not by Bible thumping, but by tell-

tients in surgery.

daughter. Again he prayed to Mary.

at the cathedral.

"Chris offers Christ's love with

with patients in the psychiatric unit. On Thursdays, she assists families of pa-

distraught over the failing health of his

cated in

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The Catholic News

Campus Ministry Awakens Spirit (From Page of

Xiao

7)

recognition of her

own vulnerability.

"I

was vulnerable and afraid of life," she said. "That Sunday Mass was hope, peace and joy." Thus began her Chris-

By JOANN

tian life.

KEANE

"Here

an example of God's

is

Shawn Adams,

A Way

ize the importance of every donation.

gift

Msgr. John

Catholic

campus ministry assistant at Wake For"Her insights and reflections are so clear and beautiful," said Adams. "She

diocesan administrator spoke

est.

brings an incredible clarity of faith." Christ as her savior, she finds the experience difficult to relate to her parents in

Support Appeal:

"They want everything that makes me happy," said Xiao Pin. "But no one in the family has been Christian

year's annual appeal

jefore."

your treasure

ing?

many ministries, opening eyes As people, we realize the need to

people who

don't

necessary to reassess actual ser-

see

how

munity, local and global.

China.

Her only

brother, residing in

New

Jersey, struggles with her decision.

My

change has had some impact on lim. We were so close and my testament has been so strong it's been

— —

him to accept my Christianity. He loves me and wants peace of mind,"

hard for

Xiao Pin. Like millions of Chinese who feel the same way, Christianity is a strange concept for him, said Xiao said

Pin.

As

expected,

some confusion and

doubt followed Xiao Pin' s faith conversion. Joining a Campus Ministry bible study group helped ease her into her

newfound Christian role. Through the weekly Catholic campus faith development program, she absorbs the Gospel. "Christianity

is

so rich," she said.

"It

many layers, yet it's so simple." Adams likens Xiao Pin's conver-

has so

Q.

What does the theme of this

to us, as

we are called to

We realize that sharing of one's treasure

not voluntary,

it

a

posture of commitment.

siasm. "It is the seed of faith planted by God. "She didn't go looking for this faith; her background didn't encourage that. It's the perfect example of God making us thirst for Him," said Adams. "My new faith totally changed my attitude about life," said Xiao Pin. "I never really understood the meaning of salvation. Now I have a better understanding of salvation, grace and mercy. Sometimes I still wonder, 'how come I deserve this?'" said Xiao Pin.

to Christ

centered around my needs; that' s not the case anymore. I'm glad He's with me.

This

is

salvation,

and I'm so grateful."

part of the local church; the Diocese of

Charlotte.

istry is available for

I

tool,

an expression

DSA is

every parish. All

the diocese,

throughout

who

readily

respond to parish needs.

To

actually

vidual has to do

is

look

around their parish. Children receiving

first

sacra-

ments are taught through faith formation; a

DSA-

sponsored ministry. Retirees are finding great camaraderie through CRISM

DSA

ted to us.

in

It is

an important concept growth as Catho-

lics.

by the office of Hispanic/Migrant Evangelization. Been to a wedding recently? Pre-Cana takes place through Engaged Encounter. is

list

of services

endless.

is

The

the Diocese of Charlotte's re-

sponse to people of North Carolina.

God

in

funding through

does giving to the with the concept of stewardship? A. Stewardship is a way of life, a way of thanking God for all His blessings by returning a portion of the time, talent and treasure allotfit

Ministries). Hispanics and migrants take

The

of these

ministries

How

Q.

DSA

for our spiritual

Western

too small.

see the

we encourage

agencies,

(Catholics Retirees Invited to Special great solace in the ministry provided

too large, no

tant part in the budgets

view the

DSA in action, all an indi-

DSA

ministries.

funding plays an impor-

Meeting the needs of an everchanging population is one of the great challenges for the Diocese and DSA. Serving the people of God in the Diocese of Charlotte remains our ultimate goal.

response to people of God

this

ferent ministries, regard-

We have professional

DSA-supported

to seek additional

staff available

i

for

While

grants and outside sources.

size.

mH

services provided to dif-

the Diocese of Charlotte's

mhrhh

meet specific community needs. The DSA provides a bare-bones budget staffing and facilities

parishes have access to

of parish or mission

DSA?

gift is

is

Every DS A-supported min-

the diocese.

Again, as good stewards, I bemost families can and do work hard to insure the needs of others are taken care of without shortchanging their basic living needs. Many families budget their charitable contributions together with their living expenses, and the diocese is grateful for each and every gift. In gift is

Each parish

of our Catholicism, not independent of

their local parish, other charities

God's eyes, no

faced with realignment of services to

We must first realize that we are all

their basic living needs, support

lieve

McSweeney

J.

their local parish?

Carolina."

Q. Is it possible for the average family to be able to take care of

also give to the

Msgr. John

them and

North

has been given to us.

and

population

m Western

and His church

leads us to share what

and reallocate funds. And as shifts, so do particular needs. We could find ourselves

vices,

DSA is serving the

less

"The

is

is

to

those

^^^^^^ ^^^^^^ ^^^^^^ ^^^^^^

share proportionately what He has given.

Our own commitment

No longer is life

you say

is, there also is your heart" mean in relation to the DSA? A. Using symbolic language, this year's theme encapsulates our whole ministry of meeting the spiritual needs of our faith community in Western North Carolina. The Diocesan Support Appeal funds the services that sustain life and minister to those in need. At the same time, it reminds us of our responsibility to be good stewards. In that respect, it fulfills the theology of stewardship; being good caretakers and sharing what God has given

sion of spirit to that of childlike enthu-

"Life has new meaning.

Q.

What do

"Where

cese

Yes and no. One goal that will remain constant is our need to continue the Diocesan Support Appeal. As Catholics, we have a broad responsibility to our community of the faithful, to meet those needs through DSA-supported ministries. As our Catholic population increases, so does our responsibility to respond. Population increase and increased needs go hand in hand. At the same time, it could become

needs of our com-

&

News Herald about this year's Diocesan lic

Although Xiao Pin accepted Jesus

Catholic

provides an opportunity to

support our church, and the greater

The Catho-

with

to the significance of their work.

highlight

McSweeney,

J.

growth of Catholics in our dio(177% in 20 years and 26% in just the past three years), do you see the goals of the DSA chang-

DSA

The

Associate Editor

of faith," said

He

Of Life, A Way Of Thanking God,' Says Msgr. John J. McSweeney

Her Epiphany began with

Pin.

Stewardship

&

In a spiritual

and temporal

sense, adopting stewardship as a

way of

life changes people's lives. Giving of our time, talent and treasure involves a change of attitude about giving. It's important to think in terms of giving in gratitude to God, of considering how blessed we are, and using our gifts and talents for the good of others That s what the DSA is all about. '

.

Q. In

as an educational

light of the

tremendous

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4,

1994

QmunidmÂŁJnsj> ana/ Abre Tu Corazon, Comparte Tu Tesoro Por

CAROL HAZARD Editora Asociada

Una joven

deprimida, natural de

los fieles

han respondido con gran

universidad de

generosidad. "Lo que pedimos es que

Forest, encontro la paz que

continuen contribuyendo generosamenta

necesitaba en la Iglesia Catolica. Apenas

y que aumenten un poco mas, si es posible. A los que nunca han participado los invitamos a unirse a esta obra importante de le Iglesia".

China, estudiante en

Wake

la

podia superar su malestar, cuando busco ayuda de una amiga y esta la invito a

iglesia.

ir

a su

La amiga

participaba en el ministerio catolico universitario.

El

amor a

la

Virgen

Maria animo a una anciana de 8 1 anos de edad a tomar parte en los Catolicos Retirados Invitados por los Ministerios Especiales

(CRISM)

a

fabricar una capilla y a preparar jardines

Centro Catolico de Conferencias en Hickory, este ambiente sereno atrae a personas de todas las edades a darse a la oracion y a reflexion. En esta edicion especial de hoy en agradables en

el

News &

nuestro periodico The Catholic

Herald, aparecen estas historias y otras mas acerca de los ministerios que afectan

debido al apoyo que brinda el llamado anual a colaborar con los ministerios diocesanos, conocido con el nombre de Diocesan Support Appeal (DSA). Este ano se pide la cantidad de $1,806,000, o sea un 3 por ciento mas que el ano pasado, desde el 6 de febrero hasta el 10 de abril, para mantener 30 ministerios diocesanos. Se exhorta a las vidas,

todos los fieles en las parroquias a contribuir durante este tiempo.

Esta edicion especial y un video, que se mostrara en las parroquias el fin de semana del 5 y 6 de febrero, inaugurarBn la peticion. Los fieles recibirBn tambien una carta del administrador de la diocesis, Msgr. John J. McSweeney, pidiendo su contribution.

Todas

las parroquias se benefician

de los servicios ofrecidos por los 30 ministerios que sostiene el DSA, algunas reciben hasta 26 de estos y otras menos. Sin embargo, a todas les toca de alguna manera. El tema "Donde EstB Tu Tesoro; Alii Tambien Esta tu Corazon" es bfblico. Dice Jim Kelley, director de la oficina diocesana que dirige esta peticion anual, que todo el trabajo se relaciona con la corresponsabilidad de como ser un guardian cristiano. "El concepto la de corresponsabilidad es dar de corazon"

"Personas

conscientes

corresponsabilidad

de

como modo de

la

vida

van respondiendo mas generosamente dando de su tiempo, talentos y tesoro en agradecimiento a Dios por sus muchas bendiciones" dice Kelley. "El DSA provee una magmfica oportunidad a las personas para dar de su tesoro". El DSA obtiene dinero "no para la diocesis, sino para los ministerios que asisten a la gente en la diocesis" segun Kelley. "Mientras mBs crecemos, tenemos mBs necesidades". "Estamos muy agradecidos a los que contribuyen" dice Msgr. McSweeney. "Ningun donativo es

demasiado pequeno ni demasiado grande". El numero de personas que hacen un compromiso de corresponsabilidad aumenta cada ano.

Para mi, esto significa que

la

gente esta

respondiendo a nuestros esfuerzos de lograr la verdadera corresponsabilidad de guardianes cristianos". Este ano el DSA es muy importante, puesto que tendremos un nuevo obispo para dirigir la diocesis, dice Msgr. McSweeney. "El DSA sera una muestra verdadera de apoyo al obispo que comienza su ministerio aquf. Le mostrarB que estamos dandole apoyo financiero lo mismo que apoyo moral y espiritual".

Colaborar anualmente con los ministerios diocesanos (Diocesan Sup-

Appeal) es "absolutamente McSweeney. "Es un signo de unidad. Ninguna parroquia es independiente. Somos una Iglesia port

esencial" segun Msgr. .

le

pide que

de recibir. A cada parroquia y mision se le asigna una meta (ver la pagina 1 5) basada en sus entradas de las colectas semanales. El dinero que consigan superior a la meta vuelve a la parroquia, pero si no llega a la meta, enconces deben darlo de Iglesia

sus propias colectas.

Segun

el

senor Kelley, hasta ahora

lo

mismo que con

otras

menos

apremiantes, pero reales".

Por una parte, CSS provee de cosas bBsicas como alimientos, ropa y hospedaje. Por otra, ayuda a fomentar el sentido de comunidad, a crecer, a enriquecerse y a compartir. Existen ministerios para esto, como el de la Vida Familiar, el de los Ancianos, Separados

y Divorciados y otros mas.

Algunos ministerios se llevan a cabo por medio de voluntaries, pero los servicios de corisejerfa requieren personal profesional a tiempo medio o completo. "En estos tiempos de dificultad economica, muchos servicios de consejeria gratuitos no pueden sostenerse mas" dice la directora. "Por eso CSS tiene mas clientes, lo cual supone mas ayuda del DSA".

la Iglesia.

"Los Servicios Sociales Catolicos (CSS) afectan cada fase de la vida de

sido un exito.

El ministerio con las familias ha

La Hermana Miriam

de

muchas personas" dice la directora de CSS, Elizabeth Thurbee. Esta agencia

Fiduccia,

tiene oficinas en Charlotte para los

y ahora coordina el ministerio familiar en toda la diocesis. Este enfasis coincide con el apoyo que ha dado el Papa Juan Pablo II al Ano Internacional de la

Salem.

gente se

CSS

las

Trinitarias,

anteriormente coordino en tres vicariatos

Familia.

"Mi position

es representar a la

Hermana Miriam. "Cuando la gente me ve en las parroquias o trabajando con grupos de apoyo o comisiones de Vida Familiar, ven a la Iglesia" dice la

ofrece toda clase de servicios

para ayudar a mujeres embarazadas, a infantes, a novios y matrimonios, a divorciados y a viudos y viudas. "Podemos atender a estas personas cuidadosamente en sus momentos mas criticos, que requieren atencion especial" dice la seÂąora Thurbee.

"Ayudamos

a las familias con necesidades urgentes

nuevo centro "Sagrado Corazon".

DSA

de Carolina del Norte.

y contribuciones federales y del estado.

vicariatos de Albemarle, Charlotte

su

Ministerio Hispano de Evangelizacion de los migrantes en las zonas del norte

Consideren los Servicios Sociales mas de 7,000 personas al ano. Este ministerio recibe la tercera parte de sus fondos del DSA. Lo demas lo cubren con donativos, pagos

dar y no de la necesidad que tiene la

la

al

Catolicos, que sirven a

universal".

contribuya de su propia necesidad de

A

contribuye

Esta agencia tiene el compromiso de atender a las necesidades de las comunidades parroquiales, dice la senora Thurbee. Buscando cuales son las necesidades, CSS empezo el otono pasado un programa para que los ancianos pudieran sentirse mas unidos a

y Gastonia; en Asheville para los vicariatos de Asheville, y Smoke Mountain; y en Winston-Salem para los vicariatos de Greensboro y Winston-

dice Kelley.

La comunidad hispana de Dobson inauguro

Iglesia

que se preocupa y cuida a

trajo a la diocesis un programa llamado Retrouvaille, el cual refuerza a las parejas cuyo matrimonio encuentra

dificultades.

La iglesia de San Pablo Apostol en Greensboro se benefica con 15 ministerios sostenidos por el

"Podemos ofrecer

Familia,

a las personas

que se han separado o divorciado, asf como a los padres cuyos hijos han muerto. El ano pasado la

Hermana

DSA.

que no

Clemmons.

Susan Brady, directora regional de Formacion de Fe, ha enriquecido a los fieles de Holy Family con sus elocuentes conferencias sobre la Sagrada Escritura. Gracias al DSA el Centro de Comunicaciones ha proveido de entrenamiento y materiales para clases de cultura sobre los medios de

comunicacion.

Marcy comunidad ha alimentado

El resultado ha sido, segun

Boyer, que

Hermana ayuda

servicios

podrfamos mantener solos" dice el Padre Jim O'Neill, OSFS. Esta parroquia joven San Pablo Apostol, tambien sirve a 500 ninos en un programa de Formacion de Fe costeado por el DSA. Ademas, esta comunidad parroquial de 1 ,200 familias participa en el Ministerio Universitario, ya que queda cerca de cuatro centros de education universitaria. "Nuestra gente ha respondido muy generosamente al DSA" dice el Padre O'Neill. San Pablo Apostol paso los h'mites de su meta en 1993, $60,548 el ano pasado y los $957 extra se dieron a una obra de caridad local. Marcy Boyer de la iglesia de Holy Family en Clemmons, dice que su parroquia depende del DSA para sufragar los gastos de su oficina de Formacion de Fe. "Estoy muy contenta que de esta oficina hemos podido comenzar con el Ministerio de Paz y Justicia". Marcy Boyer es la coordinadora de Formacion de Fe en esta parroquia de la Sagrada

los

fieles".

Esta

Miriam

su

fe.

la

"Nos hemos enriquecido con

recursos, personas y materiales que de otra manera no hubieramos tenido".


— February

4,

1994

Why

The Catholic News

Commitment To Stewardship

Parishioners Talk About Their By TOM and ANNETTE DEVOE Our Lady of the Annunciation Church, Albemarle

tive

Our family moved from our

na-

Ohio

our

to Charlotte in 1975. In

make

efforts to

home

a

for our-

selves in our

new

we

location,

quickly became involved in the Catholic

commuAnn in

nity of St.

and

Charlotte

community of the Diocese of Charlotte. Since our move to Montgomery County and Our Lady of the Annunciation parish in Albemarle, we have remained involved in the church. At one time, we served as foster later in the Catholic

parents to

newborn babies

in the care

of Catholic Social Services. served,

first

We ob-

hand, the loving care that

the staff there gave to birth families, foster families

and adoptive families,

which we be-

in

came involved was Faith Formation. The needs of the parishes in their efforts to provide religious education to children, adolescents,

and adults

People give to charitable causes for We give to the Diocesan Support Appeal to

to experience the dedication of that staff in its work to assist the

each and every parish

it is

many reasons.

been able

in the

Holy

the

Hill

combined with the other contriit becomes significant, and

butions,

does great good. Many things can be accomplished at the diocesan

promote the work of

diocese.

O'CONNER

Andrew Church, Mars

St.

Spirit.

level that are not possible at the

Through our giving,

parish level.

we have been part of Diocese, we have been

we are playing a part in making many

others,

served by seven pastors in two parishes.

We have been led by two bishops and a

people's lives better. strongly be-

diocesan administrator.

lieve in the Biblical

In the

1

8 years

the Charlotte

obvious to us from our experience that we, as much as our bishop, our pastor, and the other lay members of any parish, are the Church of Charlotte for as long as we are here.

As

we have

about stewardship. We have tried to give of our time, talent and treasure. Our parish community cannot by itself provide the many services its

much

tells us, "Give to and God will give to you. Indeed, you will receive a full measure, a generous helping, poured into your hands-all that you can hold. The measure you use for others is the one that God will use for you." (Luke 6:38)

concept of tithing and giving our time and talent as well. We have received

many blessings from God and when we share those blessings there in

part of that Church,

learned

The Gospel

We

It is

our

is

Whether or not we receive maimportant to us. Our greatest joy comes in assisting, in

a great joy

lives.

terially is not

the years, we have heard and many stories about how people we don't know have benefited from agencies sponsored by the DSA. We know our gift may not be the largest, but when

Over

read

our small way, the promotion of Jesus and His message of love and

DSA

peace. Giving to the

way

our

is

of sharing in that mission.

people need. Our diocesan community can help the people of our parish and the people of all of its parishes

as well as the infants.

Another area

By PAT and LOUISE

are the concern of the Diocesan Office of Faith Formation. Again, we have

efforts of

Herald

DSA

Give To The

I

&

if the

diocese

has the means with which to do

our responsibility to build the

It is

1994 DSA Agency Phone Numbers

it.

Social Service Ministries

Kingdom of God where we are. In that light, we cannot not give to the Dioc-

CRISM

704-331-1720

Family Life Ministry

704-331-1720

esan Support Appeal.

Social Service Administration

704-331-1720

Disaster Relief

Natural Family Planning Parish Outreach

Persons With Disabilities

By JUDITH BATES

Prison Ministry

Holy Angels Church, Mt. Airy

Respect Life Stepping Stones

came

North Carolina as a lay missionary with the Mission Helpers of the Sacred Heart in 1961. What an eye-opener to a I first

A little later on in life

to

I

was married

and we were trying to adopt a child. It was then that I had my first contact with a diocesan-supported agency, Catholic

Social Services. This time,

need.

Due

I

was

to circumstances that

we

in

Widowed, Separated, Divorced Social Services/ Asheville Office

704-255-0146

Social Services/Charlotte Office

704-343-9954

Social Services/Winston

Salem Office

910-727-0705

had

Educational Ministries

young

nothing to do with CSS,

Campus

Northeast!

adopt a child. However, I was impressed by how caring and committed

Catholic Schools Office

704-331- 1718

these people were.

Evangelization Ministry

704-289- 2773

Faith Formation Office

704-331- 1714

person coming from the There seemed to be no end to the work involved in meeting the many needs of the people in the rural area in which we worked. We helped the nuns teach, visit the sick, work in prisons, and wherever else we were needed. It was one of my first introductions to a world and to people who were less fortunate than I.

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see the tremendous needs of

I

people and

how

these needs.

I

have been the recipient of

this response.

More importantly, I give to the DSA, to my church and to other charities, because of my own personal need I

"count

my

life.

God has been very good to me.

my

dantly,

DSA

I

is

704-664- 3992

Ministry

Justice

and Peace Ministry

704-331- 1714

Young

704-331- 1723

Adult Ministry

704-331- 1723

Youth Ministry

Lay Ministry

704-334 1805

Office of Worship

704-437- 3108

blessings" at this point in

Having been blessed so abunfeel that

Multicultural Ministries African American Ministry

910-697-2400

Hispanic/Migrant Evangelization

704-335-1281

Hispanic/Migrant Outreach Asheville

704-255-0146

Winston-Salem

910-727-0705

704-333-5029

Vietnamese Ministry

my contribution to the

one way

I

can help to bless

Special Ministries

CMrdon. florth Carotina

others.

REFINISH1NG Comejoinusas we attempt to simplify our lives and serve GOD in the manner of St. Francis of Assisi.

MAXMILIAN KOLBE FRATERNITY SECULAR FRANCISCAN ORDER invites

of the

ST.

to

an

INQUIRY SESSION,

2 p.m. Feb. 13

you

at St.

John Neumann Church, 845 1 Idlewild Road, Charlotte

704-331- 1714

Religious Education Ministry

the diocese responds to

TELEPHONEN.C.

by profession and the

needs of the elderly are of great concern to me. Agencies supported by the Diocesan Support Appeal, such as CRISM, are also concerned with helping the aging in our diocese.

to share.

KIVETT'S INC.

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The Catholic News

& Herald

February

Arden Knights Win

will host a Valentine party

International Recognition

Feb 12

Knights of Columbus ARDEN Council #8923 is a winner of the Father McGivney and Founder's Awards for the 1992-93 fraternal year. The Father McGivney Award, named for the founder of the international organization, is given in recognition of outstanding membership recruitment and retention efforts. The Founder's Award is presented for excellence in promotion of the

dish to share. For directions call (910)

Saturday,

672-1552 or (910) 288-5487.

Lenten Meditations

MOORESVILLE —The sufferings of Christ will be remembered through prayer, dialogue and meditation at St.

organization's fraternal insurance pro-.

gram.

permitting.

the

Headquarters in New Haven, Conn. An engraved plaque was presented by Michael Case, district deputy, on Jan.

Confirmation Candidates Introduced.

6:30 p.m. Bring a friend and a

at

Therese Church each Friday evening beginning Feb. 18 at 7:30 p.m. The last session will be on Good Friday, April 1 at 3 p.m. outside the church, weather

The announcement was made by Knights of Columbus International

Various parish groups will present

week on

creative meditations each

Christ's Passion. All are invited.

Secular Franciscan Inquiry Sessions

CHARLOTTE

11.

The

St.

varsity volleyball team,

Maximilian Kolbe Fraternity of the Secular Franciscan Order will host three inquiry sessions at St. John Neumann Church, 845 1 Idlewild Rd. The sessions will be from 2 p.m.-3:30 p.m. on the

Player of the Year in County by The Charlotte Observer for

following Sundays: Feb. 13, March 13 and April 10. People who would like to

Pat Fox, Trish Kerley and Angela Smith.

know more about

Feb.

CCHS

Athletes

Honored

CHARLOTTE Hamilton, a senior

on

hitter

Wendy the CCHS

was named Mecklenburg

the 1993 volleyball season.

Wendy was

4, 1994

Secular Franciscans

membership

also named first-team All-Mecklenburg.

or are interested in

Senior volleyball players Katie Arroyo

For more information, call (704) 542-6794 or (704) 362-2705.

are in-

At Holy Trinity Mission, Taylorsville, sponsors introduced confirmation candidates to the faith community. Candidates are (front, 1-r) Jocelyn Dessert, Jennie Troxclair, Dannielle Pennell,

Bobby McAlpin, Winter Walthrop, Samantha Matheson and

Betrice Smith,

Spnsors are (rear, 1-r) Monique Sacs, Gen Watts, Melissa Loudermelk, Anthony Loudermelk

5.

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Amazing Grays

CHARLOTTE

The monthly

meeting of Amazing Grays, the Patrick's seniors club,

is at St.

St.

Patrick's

Cathedral on Feb. 10 at 11 a.m. Brigid O' Conner, director of Shepherd's Censpeak. Bring a brown bag lunch. Beverages and dessert will be available. Next month's meeting will be on March 10 and will include lunch at the Mint Museum and a tour of "Classical Taste in America." ter, will

Celebration '94

GREENSBORO

St.

Pius

X

is

vited.

Coping With Grief

CHARLOTTE

— Catholic Social

beginning a coping group for widows and widowers with new grief or unresolved grief. The first informational meeting is Sunday, Feb. 27 at the CathoServices

is

Center, 1524 East Morehead St., from 2:30 p.m. -4 p.m. To participate, call Suzanne Bach at (704) 377-6871, ext. 314, or come. lic

Heart For The Harvest

GREENSBORO Church

will host three

St.

Pius

X

The Depot on Feb. 19 from 6:30 p.m.

midnight. There will be a buffet dinner,

dancing and fellowship for all adult member. Tickets are $5 and available after all Masses.

1 1

:30 a.m. For information call Terri

or Phil at (704) 888-6050.

relational evangelization beginning Sun-

CHARLOTTE —

St. Ann Church 2nd Annual Sweetheart Dance in the Parish Activity Center on Saturday, Feb. 12 from 7 p.m. -midnight. The Women's and Men's Clubs will host a catered dinner followed by music by The Belvederes. Tickets are

will host

House Of Prayer Retreats

HOT SPRINGS —The Jesuit House sponsoring three weekend retreats in February.

1

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Saturday

BELMONT — First

votions at Belmont

Saturday De-

Abbey

is

Saturday,

is

Oratorian Father Conrad Hoover

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Pastoral Response To weekend of Feb. 11-13. A "Twelve Step Weekend" for members

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The Catholic News

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Diocesan Support Appeal Parish Targets ll&l 1UIIC

Hal lillv

t

Our Lady of the Assumption Church, Coal* S24 551 22

Our

aHv of f^onNolation

I

("'hurch

Goal* 22 VJ Villi S10 105 vviaa

Eugene Church,

St.

o

Goal: $45,502.82

CIJoan of Arc Church,

Greensboro Vicariate

St.

Asheville

Christ the King Church,

M /,i£y.zz

High Point

Ann Church

final*

$52

Immaculate Conception Church, Canton Goal: $1,436.42

Gastonia

cm ici ?3U,lM.»z

f** «joal:

Lroai: St

Saint Michael Church,

Immaculate Heart of Mary Church, Hayesville Goal: $6,673.82

Goal: $5,770.82

^r»5 (\2

John Church,

Tryon

Holy Infant Church,

Our Lady of Guadalupe Church, Cherokee

Goal: $10,285.82

Reidsville

Goal: $1,436.42

bt.

ol. vJaUllci v_uuiL.il,

Goal- SI 76 076 62

Goal: $5,951.42 Jude Church,

St.

StL. JInhn l^CLlillilllll f^hiirch V 1 14 1 J Willi Npiimann -

1

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Our Lady of Immaculate Heart of Mary Church, High Point

Sapphire Valley

Goal* S61 576 22

the Mountains Church, Highlands i .... i Goal: $6,132.02 .

Goal: $39,543.02 oi.

lukc

i^nurcn,

Basilica of St. Lawrence,

Prince of Peace Church,

Mint

Asheville

Uur Lady

Goal* $20 199 42

iroai: ?Z1,S44. zz

Greensboro

lVlllll Hill 1.1111

of urace Church,

Robbinsville

Goal: $533.42

Goal: $63,743.42 St K/fatthpu/ Phnrph iVla LL11C Jl. V- 11 Ul k. 1

St.

Goal- $78 733 22

Swannanoa

Our Lady of

ijoai: 5y,vz4.oz

Thomasville fi--!. oc con Uoal: S3,3yu.zz

W

St

1

Margaret Mary Church,

Patrick Cathedral

final- $.51 282 (\1 UDdl. ^31,Z o.>U^

Boone Church of

St.

St

A14

Goal: $533.42

Thomas Aouinas Church

V1I1L.CI1L

UC idUi

Our Lady of

St.

Asheboro

ooai: 5/,ujs.uz

Goal: S13,717.2z St.

!TnUntU 1, ...... 1 blizabeth Church,

C*

V ICctl

Idle

O*

TT1

St.

T

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Boone

Eden

Goal: $19,857.62

Goal: $6,854.42

Americas Church,

the

Sparta

Greensboro

Goal: $3,242.42

Goal: $15,523.22

Frances of

Rome

Church,

St.

St.

Church, Albemarle

St.

ooai: 5i/,i4o.oZ

Jefferson

Greensboro

Lioal: !>J,z4Z.4z

vjoal; S64,sz7.0z

Francis of Assisi Church,

$t.

S acrf^rl nCdll T-Tf»iirt OaLlCU

John Baptist de

Paul the Apostle Church,

la Salle

Church,

St.

Goal: $7,396.22

Winston-Salem Vicariate Good Shepherd Church,

Pius Tenth Church,

Greensboro

King

Lioai: ?o,o/o.oZ

lioal: >4o,S/J.Uz

Lroai: sj,4Zj,uz

f^ri 1 irr* Vi V_TlUILil,

St.

Goal* S37 917 62

Spruce Pine 5>j,dUj.oz

1

Goal: S3,Uol.8z rii,'

Holy Cross Church, Uur Lady Marion

blkin

Goal: 5>3,z4z.4z

lamp? fhnrfh V^I1U1*_11,

ot the Angels Church,

Goal: S3,784.22

Holy Family Church,

Coal* S27 K04 02

(jastonia Vicariate

James Church, ndmici St.

Kings Mountain

Goal: $37,737.02

/"i AIT Goal: CCA $50,017.82 1 .

Our Lady

Goal: $3,061.82 St. 1

Holy

O

.

Spirit

ii

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Church,

Charles Borromeo Church,

Morganton

ol Fatima Church, Winston-Salem Goal: ^20,582.02

,

tiiiT*r ti ,

Kannapolis Cnal* A87

Denver

Goal: $12,633.62

Our Lady of Mercy Church

Goal: $10,827.62 "J?

St.

T

ltd! IdlC

Immaculate Conception Church,

Henderson ville f nal* C7H ft/I4 41 IjOal. i> /U,U04.4Z

Brevard fnal. (S> vjoai. CIO >zu, HfL{\ /ou.oZ

Lenoir

Forest City

Goal: $8,660.42

St.

Queen of

the Apostles Church,

Goal: $12,633.62 St. St.

St.

Helen Church,

Spencer Mountain

Goal: $4,326.02

Barnabas Church,

Arden Goal: $27,984.62

St. Francis of Assisi Church, Mocksville Goal: $4,867.82

Therese Church,

Mooresville vrOal. 9Z3,ol/.'tZ

St.

Smoky Mountain Mary Church,

Moor cnurcn,

Goal: $20,038.22

Goal: $2,334.08

St.

Heneaict tne

Winston-Salem /~i AIT Goal: C?H $7,037.02 .. I

Statesville

St.

the Apostle Church,

Philip the Apostle Church,

Goal: $9,563.42

Burnsville

Goal: $1,978.22

1 .

Newton

C 1 ft CHH Goal: Sl",o77.02

Dorothy Church,

the Rosary Church,

Lexington .... CA HaA A*> Goal: $9,744.02

Joseph Church,

f 1 .... 1 .

St.

Winston-Salem Goal: $35,391.22

Our Lady of

Goal: $6,673.82

Lincolnton

Sacred Heart Church,

Francis of Assist Church,

Immaculate Conception Church,

Belmont S^f-r^H H^Qrt f^hiirvli .JdLlCU ncdi I I^IIUICU,

St.

Clemmons

Aloysius Church,

Hickory

TT

Andrew Mars Hill

St.

Christ the King Church,

vrOai. ?0,0/.3,oZ

St.

Kernersville

Goal: $28,707.02

V_UUCU1 U

Tr\c*»r\h f~

Holy Angels Church, Mt. Airy A'' .... . C/: OC/l 47 LiOai: SO,o34.4Z

Taylorsville

Stephen Church,

St.

Goal- $896 62

Hickory Vicariate Holy Trinity Church,

f^hnrrh 1r-Tpart 1C 1 L V^l 1U1 Ivllf

^rt/aHp^h^~l^^

*7-

XT'

Lucien Church,

(jroal:

Vt

William Church,

Murphy

North Wilkesboro

Sali<;hiirv Juiiouui y

St Ol.

St.

or Louraes v_nurcn,

Goal- Si 6 065 02

SarrpH JU^l l/U

Mary Church, Sylva Goal: $7,757.42

Mary Church,

the Annunciation

UC

Margaret Church,

11 Maggie U Valley

X J

St.

Goal: Sz,7UU.oz

1V1UI1I

i_

Goal: $8,118.62

St.

uur Lday

/~-\ 1

Joseph of the Hills Church,

Biscoe

Our Lady of

St. Joseph Church, Bryson City Goal: $2,881.22

Joseph Church,

Linville

at.

rYlUclllrtl Ic

vroai: ?y,3o3.'iz

v-llUILIl,

601 02

Goal-

.,1.1'

;

Goal: $10,827.62

Bernadette Church,

St.

Francis of Assisi Church,

I

Franklin

St. John Church, Waynesville

Benedict Church,

vjicensDoro

f»2

Goal- $43 335 62

Ol.

St.

St.

Goal: $12,814.22

Vicariate

the Epiphany,

Peter Church,

final-

Highways Church,

the

Vicariate

Holy Redeemer Church,

Shelby

Andrews

Goal: $9,744.02

Goal: $1,978.22

Leo Church,

Winston-Salem Goal: $66,996.22

DSA TARGET:

$1,806,000


uholic

News

&

Open Your (From Page

Herald

February

Heart, Share Treasure

3)

The Diocesan Support Appeal

important, since a new bishop will be named to head the diocese, says Msgr. McSweeney. "The DSA can be a true sign of support to the bishop when he begins his ministry here. It will show that we are behind him with our financial as well as

moral and

representative of the Church," says Sister

Miriam. "When people see

me in

the parish setting or working with a

Commis-

support group or Family Life sion, they see the

Church

concerned and cares."

is

Sister

spiritual sup-

Miriam

port."

DSA is

The

No

...

helps

"absolutely essential,"

McSweeney

Msgr. unity

Ways To

parish

says. "It

people

a sign of

independent.

is

when we

that time of year

is

rated

are asking

who and

people to support the various ministries

divorced

of the Church in western North Caro-

and parents

lina."

whose children have

Consider Catholic Social Services,

Give

a call to give financial support to 30

agencies and ministries.

Most people contribute by making a pledge, payable over five months. But there are other ways to give, such as donating stocks or bonds, says Jim Kelley, director of development. Kelley encourages people to consider supporting the DSA not only in the present but also in the future through such means as wills and trusts. "Bequests may be made several ways. First to the DSA alone. Second, DSA agency such as Catholic Social Services. Third to a program within a DSA agency, such as Adoption Services which is part of CSS," says Kelley.

to a

now and to give later. " For more information

"This allows people to give

sepa-

are

It is

is

on

wills

and

trusts, call

Jim Kelley

at

(704) 331-1709 or 377-6871.

CSS Handles Adoptions (From Page

With Love

3)

which alone serves 7,000 or more people a year. CSS, the largest recipient of

died. Last

she

the baby, she said, "No, give her to her

DSA funding, gets a third of its operat-

That,

brought Retrouvaille

mother." The newborn was placed in Laura's arms. Andy cut the umbilical

adoptive family.

to the dio-

cord.

is

from

fees, donations, federal

state grants

"CSS

Jim Kelley

DSA. The remain-

ing funds from the

der

year,

and

and contributions.

cese. Retrouvaille

offers services that touch

people in every phase of their lives," says CSS director Elizabeth Thurbee. The agency has offices in Charlotte,

is

program

a

that

help couples strengthen troubled marriages.

nurse asked Kelly

if

she Wanted to hold

tion.

O'Neill.

you've gone through so

have ended through death or divorce. "Because of the way we have focused these services, we can pay very

dren

close attention to specific needs," says

Campus

Thurbee. "Within the family services

near four colleges.

offers wide-ranging diocesan

we

St.

Paul the Apostle has 500 chil-

in its

DSA-funded

tion program.

family parish

Faith

Forma-

What's more, the 1,200is involved in Catholic

Ministry, since

it

is

located

Andy

childbirth for the first time,

In any given month,

wait for

fell

Everyone thought he was overwhelmed by the experience. In actuality, he was overcome with emo-

Kelly

told Kelly, "I can't believe

left

much

for us."

the hospital, returning to

her two children. Laura and the hospital with their

new

Andy

CSS

is

great,

daughter.

About one third of all prospective from birth mothers result in adop-

calls

tion. "If

we

place 25, there have been

needs as well as others whose needs may not be acute but just as real." On one level, CSS provides for basics such as food, clothing and shel-

generously to the DSA," says Father

Grisinger, a reversal of the birth mother'

year," says Grisinger.

exceeded its 1993 DSA goal of $60,548 last year by $957, and gave the extra money to a

decision is less likely once the baby goes

message very

local charity.

Generally, CSS does not notify an adoptive family that a baby is en route

ter.

On

another,

it

offers resources for

enrichment, support and/or a sense of

CRISM

Marcy Boyer of Holy Family

offer counseling to people regardless of

Church, Clemmons, says her parish relys on support from the DSA-funded Office of Faith Formation. "I am especially pleased that we have been able to start a Peace and Justice Ministry (the

their ability to pay.

ministry

community. Family the

Life,

and

Widowed, Separated and Divorced

ministries fall in this category.

Because of the DSA,

The agency

is

CSS is able to

commited to meeting

the needs of the parish communities,

needs,

On the lookout for new CSS began a program this past

fall to

help the

says Thurbee.

frail

elderly feel con-

nected to the church. Trinitarian Sister

Miriam Fiduccia,

former parish outreach coordinator in three vicariates, has become the Family Life coordinator for the diocese.

The

broader focus coincides with Pope John Paul II's endorsement of 1994 as the International "I

see

Year of the Family.

my

role as a connector

is

part of the Office of Faith

Formation)." Boyer coordinator

at

is

Faith Formation

happens more often

1994

-

with during the

We

make one

clear, she says.

"We're

not just an adoption agency. If you feel this decision isn't for you, we can help

in

1995

we work

with other counseling."

DSA

Budget

Services Ministries

CRISM

$

Family Life Ministry Social

24,590 14,550

Services Administration

Holy Family.

Susan Brady, a regional Faith Formation director and dynamic speaker, has enlightened Holy Family parishioners about Scripture. The DSA-funded Media Center has provided training and material for classes on media literacy. The bottom line, says Boyer, is an enriched faith community. "We have been enriched by resources, people and materials that otherwise would not have been available to us."

75 or so cases

the hospital," says Grisinger.

Social

124,550

Disaster Relief

Natural Family Planning

Parish Outreach

Persons With Disabilities Prison Ministry

s

Respect Life Stepping Stones

Widowed, Separated, Divorced Social Services/Asheville Office Social Services/Charlotte Social

Office

Services/Winston Salem Office

90,680

171,068

118,652

and Educational Ministries

Campus Ministry Catholic Schools

203,469 Office

184,792

Evangelization Ministry

28,746

Faith Formation Office

333,825

Justice

and Peace Ministry

Religious Education Ministry

Young Adult

Catholic Social Services

MultiCultural Ministries

30%

15%

Ministry

Youth Ministry Lay Ministry Office of

33,631

Worship

4,550

Multicultural Ministries African American Ministry

Campaign Expenses

Hispanic/Migrant Evangelization

16,004

142,273

Hispanic/Migrant Outreach

54,645

Vietnamese Ministry

47,484

Special Ministries Diocesan Pastoral Council

Media Center

Ministries

4404

2,800

112,830

Permanent Diaconate

Education

15,815

Special Ministries

DSA Campaign

TOTAL

Expenses 1994-1995

81,046

GOAL

that

every baby," she says.

Normally, newborns leave the hospital for 30 days in CSS or foster care. In North Carolina, a birth mother has 30 days to change her mind. According to

to foster care. "It

news

no child goes unadopted, says "We are always able to place

"Our people have responded very O'Neill. St. Paul the Apostle

5 to 30 familes

Grisinger.

left

help people with acute

agencies,

1

to call with the

an infant is on the way. CSS places about 25 infants annually, so adoptive families expect a wait of two to three years for a healthy, white baby. Quicker placement goes to families able to accept babies with special needs, or biracial and minority infants. While the need for familes to accept special babies

into a chair.

He

days before placement takes place.

CSS social workers say, lessens the anxiety for an already apprehensive

gave Kelly peace of mind that she'd done the right thing. "There was a glow in the room," says Kelly. Witnessing

women, newborns, engaged and married couples to people whose marriages

CSS

ministries from help for pregnant

until

Having Laura and Andy present

St. Paul the Apostle Church in Greensboro benefits from 15 DSAfunded ministries. "We can offer ministries we would not be able to fund on our own," says Oblate Father Jim

Asheville and Winston-Salem.

1994

4,

$1,806,000


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