Marital Advice from a Veteran Bride: Married 35 Years and Still Madly in Love

By Staci Dunn, The Cake Lady Custom Cakes

Take your vows seriously.

Don’t expect Hollywood’s version of romance — it doesn’t exist!

When angry or disappointed in your partner, try to remember how you felt about each other on your wedding day.

Wake up and say “Good morning, darling, I hope you have a wonderful day” and mean it.

Go to bed at night and say “Good night, darling, I hope you have pleasant dreams” and mean it.

The honeymoon doesn’t ever have to be over, if you know what I mean!! Pray for one another, pray together and pray out loud!

Don’t go to bed angry. If you fight before bed, let it go.

Watch what you say, you can’t take words back. Keep a sense of humor!!

Don’t try to change your spouse. Change yourself.

It’s not a competition. You are a team.

Don’t wake up angry.

Don’t call each other all day long, you’ll have nothing left to talk about.

Find common ground. You know where it is!

Learn each other’s “love language.” There’s a great book about it. (The 5 Love Languages Gary Chapman), and speak it fluently.

Share all duties and responsibilities — there are no more separate, specific duties for one and the other unless you both agree on them.

Don’t ask family or friends for marital advice — it only makes things worse.

Don’t assume.

Trust!

If you don’t like your spouse’s family or friends, still try to respect them and their relationship.

Dance in the kitchen.

Play in the rain!

Cook together, it’s a great time to talk. Avoid doing stressful errands together.Most of all accept the bad with the good, the hard with the easy, the strong with the weak, and the complicated with the simple, because true love conquers all.

Photo courtesy of Apollo Fields