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AS K ALMA Nobody’s perfect

BY ALMA GILL

My husband cannot let things go – he holds grudges for way longer than the offense is worth. He brings up things that happened months/years ago to remind me of what he says are my faults.

It’s not just me; he gives his sister grief for dropping him when he was one and she was three.

Aside from pointing out that he’s being ridiculous when he gets going on some part of his personality, and he ain’t gonna change.

Nobody’s perfect, and if he’s been doing this with his family, it’s really just a continuation of who he truly is.

Your question should be: How do I live with it? Well, remind yourself of when it didn’t bother you so much early in the relationship. Funny how things switch after many years of marriage.

You heard him during the courtship and thought it wasn’t so bad. You married him anyway, thinking, “Aww, I can handle it.” It wasn’t cute then, and it’s not cute now.

Alma Gill’s newsroom experience spans over 25 years, including various roles at USA Today, Newsday and the Washington Post. Email questions to: alwaysaskalma@ yahoo.com. Follow her on Facebook at “Ask Alma” and twitter @almaaskalma. old grudge, do you have any suggestions on how I can make him stop?

Name withheld Dear Nameless One, News flash: You can’t change another person’s personality. Your husband didn’t start this yesterday. He was doing it before you married him.

You heard him during the courtship and thought it wasn’t so bad. You married him anyway, thinking, “Aww, I can handle it.” It wasn’t cute then, and it’s not cute now.

So, follow through on the decision you made when you said your vows (for better or worse) and live with it. It’s a What wuz cute is about to get on your last nerve. All of you long time married folks know what I’m talking about. LOL.

Anyway, back to my suggestion: When he gets going, leave him in his space. Meditate on things about him that make you happy. I’m sure he has many other qualities that you admire.

That’s why he’s your husband. I can understand if this isn’t the answer you were looking for, but it will keep you guys united as one for many years to come. Your or my answer can’t change your husband.

That Sweetie is an act only he can control.

Alma

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Former Jehovah’s Witnesses speak out about sexual abuse they endured during their time with the organization in Oxygen’s investigative special…The Witnesses. I spoke with investigative journalist Trey Bundy who has been working for years to empower the public to protect children within the insular institution, reporting the stories of survivors of sexual abuse. The Jehovah’s Witnesses religion has long relied on its own governing body to set the course by which its followers live their lives. By examining the organization’s policies and practices, the special explores whether those procedures operate to conceal the identities of potential child predators.

Through shocking exclusive interviews and firsthand accounts, the special follows Trey’s journey as he inches closer to unveiling dark secrets behind the institution. Former Witnesses Debbie McDaniel, Deloris Lyles, Sarah Brooks and Chessa Manion share deeply-emotional stories depicting a broken system that has failed to protect some members of the organization. Their testimonies, along with the work of attorney Irwin Zalkin, who provides legal services to victims of abuse, provide a detailed look at the flawed inner-workings of the organization’s guiding practices. “The Witnesses” highlights their search for justice, along with the growing number of former members who are speaking out to change the institution. Trey Bundy is an investigative reporter with The Center for Investigative Reporting (CIR).—Text provided by Trey Bundy’s publicists in conjunction with the Valder Beebe Show

VBS: As I speak with you on this FM platform that reaches across the nation, you have fascinating information about your special on Oxygen network about The Witness. Would you share with my audience what we will be viewing? TB: I started reporting on the Jehovah Witness child sexual abuse in 2015. What the viewers will see and hear is; what is a matter of policy by the organization, the policy of protecting child abusers. VBS: Over the years there have been many who were a part of the Jehovah Witness religion, who have shared in public that they believe that the Jehovah Witness organization is a cult. Stories and reports of unusual things going on with those inside the religion. Now with the Oxygen special we will hear that that is sexual abuse of minors and cover ups of these crimes? TB: Sure there has always been sexual abuse. I don’t count myself as somebody who necessarily looks at this religion as a cult. I don’t have any problem with the religion at all in terms of their belief system. The issue that we take and the reason we are reporting on this is because there are demonstrable policies in the organization going back decades that child abuse is to be kept confidential. We’ve seen proof of this in civil lawsuits and internal documents of the religion. As long as there are protected predators there are news stories…….

Trey Bundy’s full interview……. YouTube.com/valderbeebeshow

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Just in time for Valentine’s Day weekend, here comes the smart romantic movie, The Photograph. I call it smart because of the positive depictions of African American life and the characters in it. The main characters are Mae, played by Issa Rae, and Michael, portrayed by Lakeith Stanfield. She is a curator at the Queens Museum and he is a writer for a magazine called The Republic.

The movie runs with two parallel storylines. The current story with the professional couple going through the ups and downs of a new relationship and the background story of Mae’s mother, who passed away without ever informing her daughter that she was sick. She was a photographer and a single mother with serious issues involving men and relationships. The two stories are woven together to make a very entertaining movie about a mother and daughter’s relationship and how the past has an impact on our current day life.

The chemistry between Rae and Stanfield is sizzling. They heat up the big screen with an obvious love for each other, however, neither of them has the courage to go all the way in on a committed relationship. Mae fears that she is just like her mother, a

free spirit who cannot commit to an exclusive relationship and Michael is a “player” who jumps from relationship to relationship.

Director Stella Meghie, who also wrote the script, does a masterful job with the talented ensemble. She gets much of the credit for making such a smart film. The rest of the cast is strong. Chante Adams as Mae’s mother gives an Oscar-caliber performance and Lil Rel Howery, as Michael’s best friend, gives the film a real comedic edge.

I liked how Director Stella Meghie took the high road in her portrayal of the African American cast. This is truly a black love story but it can be enjoyed by all.

The movie is rated PG-13 for some very sexual scenes (but there is no nudity) and it has a run time of 1 hour and 46 minutes. On my “Hollywood Popcorn Scale” The Photograph rates a JUMBO.

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