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On The Cover
Miss Black Alabama USA 2016 THANK YOUs
Thanks to my Mom, Robbie Wilkins, for being the Rock in my life. I wouldn't be the woman I am today if it wasn't for her love and support! Thanks to my sisters/brothers Jimmy Glass, Fredia Jackson, Tim Glass, LaWanda Wilkins, Sam Wilkin, and Jerlyn Wilkins for their many contributions throughout my life! Thanks to my makeup artist and hairstylist Breana Daniels and Stormi Steele for being awesome sponsors. Special thanks to my close friends Deborah Hill, Bethany Washington, Clarissa Kenty, Allison Sanders, Crystal Johnson, Catina Bett, and Brittany Owens for their encouragement and assistance during my reign. Thanks to my church family from St. Luke Christian Church in Huntsville, AL for their support and prayers. Thanks to my awesome hometown Aliceville, AL for their support! Thanks to everyone who have contributed and made my reign as Miss Black Alabama USA 2016 a phenomenal year.
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8| Wandering in Circles Are you complaining about your journey or enjoying the scenery? 9| Truth or Dare Are your real-life truths scarier than any dare? Find out how this woman overcame that. 14| Christmas Shoppin on a Budget Here are several ways to shop on a budget. 16| Cover Story CIU got a glimpse in the life of Miss Black Alabama USA 2016. 22| Father on a Mission A man willing to do what it takes to be a father to his children.
In Every Issue
*Vessel's Note *Prayer for Salvation *Couples In Christ *Coffee with Sister Doris *Bookworm *Words of the Lord *What You Know About
...The Rest 7| Seasons Some are definitely harder than others. 11| What Happens in the Night Saves God is with you iduring your storm 12| Reflections There's a time for everything. 12| Autumn What will your Autumn Bring? 21| Let It Be Purposful Let everything you do or experience have a purpose.
Note
As I’m sitting at my desk, at my full time job (one day this will be my full-time job) I get a call from an Alabama area code. It is a young lady with a beautiful southern accent. It was Miss Black Alabama USA 2016 and she was interested in being on the cover of CIU. I was definitely honored and excited! As I mentioned in the Summer Issue of CIU I felt discouraged about the magazine. I felt I was doing it for nothing- in that moment. But I know that this is all a part of God’s vision for my life. So be encouraged, no matter what you’re dealing with. For example the article on page 22 speaks of a father’s determination in being proactive in his children’s lives by all means. To God be the Glory! Mz. CIU
Give your life to Christ
Vessel’s If you have read past issues of this magazine or if this is your first time, I am glad to introduce, The Sinner’s Prayer. Romans 10:9-11 (NIV) 9 If you declare with your mouth, “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. 10 For it is with your heart that you believe and are justified, and it is with your mouth that you profess your faith and are saved. 11 As Scripture says, “Anyone who believes in him will never be put to shame.” To give your life to Christ, recite this aloud: Dear God, I come to you today as a sinner asking for forgivness. I believe in my heart and confess with my mouth that you are Lord. I believe that you died on the cross and rose on the third day with all power in your hand. And today I accept you as my Lord and Savior. In Jesus name, Amen!
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OWNER & EDITOR Darnica Gordon PUBLISHER Christ It Up Publishing
CHRIST IT UP WRITERS Kellie Hudson
Kellie Hudon is a wife, mother of 5, and the owner of Heavenly Bath & Body. Be sure to check out her article, on page 14.
Staci Bose
Staci Bose is the author of and an amzing mentor. Chek out her article on page 12.
Lauren Webb
Lauren Webb is new to the CIU team and has an amazing writing voice. Check out her article on page 8.
Abriana Mitchell
Abriana Mitchell is a teacher by day and CIU writer by night. Catch her article on page 11.
Tiffiany Huff
Tiffany Huff is also new to the CIU team, but is a vetern when it comes to this writing thing. Check out her article on page 9.
Kimberly Fairley
Kimberly Fairley is a Motivation Speaker and the Author of Perfectly Imperfect. Be sure to check for her article on page 7.
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Couples in Christ Meet Shyanne
and Quayshaun Durden
My name is Shyanne Durden and I am married to an amazing Man of God named Quayshaun. We met in High school, my 11th grade year and his 12th. We were in the same Health class. Well we lost contact my 12th grade year, but after I graduated in 2011 I was shopping in Gabriel Brothers and he was there working Customer Service. From that day we had become reacquainted. We hung out for a while than finally he decided to ask me to be his “Girlfriend”, of course I said yes! While we courted (dated) it wasn’t easy, being that we both were new in Christ and growing, we were tempted often but we never gave in as hard as it was. We
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experienced a lot, from temptation, to people trying to break us apart, to even our own flaws and selfishness trying to end what we had. We literally had to fight hard against everyday trials and tribulations. But we decided December 2nd 2014 that we wanted to stay together and continue to grow in Christ together as husband and wife. We were engaged after 3 years of courting. Finally October 31st 2015, we tied the knot and became ONE! Marriage isn’t easy it’s a lot of work but when you make the vow to love someone through everything you have to make sure that’s what you really want and will fight to do. We now have been married for almost a year this
October, and we now have a son named Amahli who is 2 months old. We are so grateful to God for ALL he has done in our lives together and separately. A marriage without God isn’t complete without Him being the center of your marriage and lives.
SEASONS By: Author Kimberly Fairley
Sometimes I wonder if there are seasons that are really harder I could go on, but let me drive home my point. No matter what than others. You know some like summer better than winter. happens in this life we need to realize a few things: Some like the snow better for some odd reason..... 1. God has already won. It is finished. No matter one’s presence, is one season really harder than 2. Being of the faith DOES NOT allow us to be exempt from one for us as humans? tests and trials. Now let’s step into the spiritual realm of this question. Are 3. Tests and trials are a good thing. there seasons that are harder than others for us.......? Well absolutely. Over the past few years, I have had seasons were life was a breeze. All was well. Then I’ve had seasons where my house was broken into, I lost who I thought was the love of Tests and trials are good?!? Say what?!? my life, CYF was knocking at my door, nearly lost my job, and many other hurdles I had to overcome. YES AND SORRY IM NOT SORRY, but it’s the simple truth. How else will we grow if there are tools to squeeze the impurities Recently I have listened to many stories of men and women of out of us? How else will we look more like Christ? God who had been very faithful and consistent with what can be presumed the “smaller” trials. God was able, He got them Bottom line is that when things are going well we all love it, through it, and they lived to tell the story, but some of these but we hate the process. We hate trails and my brothers and same men and women of the faith are falling off very hard. sisters I am here to encourage us to rejoice in trials. GOD HAS ALREADY ONE. That is a guarantee and you can take that to We’ve seen it from different “big” or more well-known the bank. people in the gospel world. People who have cheated, turned to homosexuality, and turned to any other thing, but God So the next time you face a season of trials or tests please himself. seek to change from a world view to a God view. Personally it’s heart breaking to see. Now one thing I don’t want you to hear is that I’m a spectator with an easy breezy life as I’m skipping through the tulips. Not at all. Recently I have allowed myself to walk into situations that for a long time weren’t even close to a hardship or struggle for me. Simply put, some seasons or times in or lives are just better than others, but let me ask you this: What do you consider to be better?
HUSH UP. Don’t complain.
Is a season better when things are going well versus a season of trial? Let me try to encourage a change in your mindset:
2. What are you doing?
“Count it all joy, my brothers, when you meet trials of various kinds, for you know that the testing of your faith produces steadfastness. And let steadfastness have its full effect, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.”
PRAY. PRAY. PRAY.
“Strengthening the souls of the disciples, encouraging them to continue in the faith, and saying that through many tribulations we must enter the kingdom of God.”
FALL ON YOUR FACE. Ask God:
1. What are you saying?
OH WHAT NEEDLESS PAIN WE BEAR WHEN WE DON’T GO TO GOD IN PRAYER.
“Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer.” “Who shall separate us from the love of Christ? Shall tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger, or sword?”
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ndering a W
c r i les W C n I back to the hotel. Understandably, Mike felt that the trip from their hotel to the tour stop should have been a straight line. Instead, it was like the trip a fly takes from one landing to another in circles. When God is revealing bits and pieces of your purpose through the seasons of your life, remember it might feel like
By: Lauren Webb
you are like you are wandering in circles. The promise you can hold onto is that God won’t waste any of your experiences
Mike and Dana are newlyweds on their first trip together to
Romans 8:28. And even if some of your “circles” seem
Canada. Dana was looking forward to this trip, it exhilarated
unrelated to God’s calling, He is still in control and will perfect
her to hop on a plan, travel to a city she hadn’t seen before
that which concerns you Psalm 138:8.
and wander around with an agenda to explore.
If you are questioning your purpose the story of Joseph is a
Mike, on the other hand, was a planner. He needed to know
great study. Joseph experienced firsthand what it felt like to
why they were going, how to get there and what to do once
wander in circles. Yet he wandered wonderfully. In Genesis,
they arrived. One evening, when they were supposed to
God showed Him through dreams that his brothers would
attend a group tour, Mike was naturally in charge of getting
bow down and worship Him Gen. 37:5-6. It wasn’t until many
them to the tour bus stop to be picked up, so he had a map.
years later after being sold into slavery by his brothers, serving
Only something went wrong.
Potiphar for 10 years, being thrown into prison for two years (after Potiphar’s wife accused Him of trying to rape her) and
They got lost and for over 45 minutes they wandered the
becoming the Prime Minister of Egypt that Joseph’s brothers
streets of Canada without a clue where they were headed.
finally did do just as his dreams revealed. Scripture reveals
Sure, Dana wanted to see the city from the bus tour with the
that God had His hand on Joseph all along. Joseph went
other travelers, but after a while she thought, “That’s OK, if we through over a decade of wandering until he actually reached can’t, we can sight see on our own maybe stop for food and visit a museum.”
his purpose. Remember that fulfilling your purpose is a journey it’s a
Mike, on the other hand, was infuriated. He kicked a
process which includes movement and postponements. But
telephone post in the middle of the sidewalk several times
God is always in control and is completely able to get you
while trying to get directions from a man taking a cigarette
where we need to go to complete in you what He started Phil.
break. They eventually found a rest stop and what seemed to
1:6.
be an approaching tour bus and were able to hop on and get
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Truth or
DARE By: Tiffany T. Huff I can remember being at sleepovers, or “house parties” as a young girl and before the night ended someone would inevitably suggest we play “Truth or Dare?”
want to hear what I had to say. I spoke up about what mattered to me, I spoke up about how I wanted and deserved to be treated, and I spoke up for others I believed in as well. I dared myself to do things that made me happy. I gave myself permission to say no to doing things and going places that no longer served my truth, no longer fed my spirit. In the process, I realized that often saying no is saying yes to my truth.
I dared myself to help others. Taking a moment to offer a word of encouragement, offering a prayer to someone who Truth or Dare was not my favorite game. The truth is, that it needed it but didn’t know how to ask, being the one person was more of a dare to share my truth than it was to kiss a boy, in the string of comments on Facebook to speak life over or prank call somebody, two of the most prevalent dares I can situations. remember receiving. Once I realized that I didn’t have to choose truth or dare, my Now, I can sit back and laugh at the thought of being afraid thoughts started to change and then slowly my life started to call someone up and ask “Is your refrigerator running?” to change. I began to dare to see the truth of Romans 12:2. I while everyone else held pillows over their faces to mask their dared not conform to the world, I dared to renew my mind. laughter. You see, living in purpose is about truth AND dare. Living The reality though, was that for me, telling the truth was a in purpose is about daring to be truthful, daring to wake up dare. Being asked a question and having to reveal that I had everyday and live your truth, on purpose. It is about daring never done some of the things that everyone else had, or yourself to face your fears knowing that standing on your faith wanted to do, made me uncomfortable. Sharing my deep, will give your truth the foundation necessary to look your dark secrets - or lack thereof was more frightening than any fears in the eyes as you pass them by. dare I had been faced with at any party or sleepover. Truth and dare has changed my life. And the daring didn’t end with the sleepovers and parties as a teenager. As I moved into young adulthood, I continued to struggle with the self imposed dare of living my truth. Depending on the time of the day, I could take on several pieces of the entire persona of Tiffany, depending on who I was sharing that piece of me with at the moment. The dare to share the truth of who I was, proved to be the most daunting, and I was never up for the challenge. I shied away from it constantly. Like the friends I stayed up late with at those parties in my earlier years, I suffocated my truth with pillows of insecurity and shame. Until I realized, that if I didn’t begin to live and share my truth I would ultimately suffocate myself. So I started to dare myself. I dared myself to speak up, when I thought nobody would
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WHAT HAPPENS IN THE NIGHT SAVES By: Abriana Leeper-Mitchell Matthew 14: 24-25, HCSB: “But the boat was already over a mile from land, battered by the waves, because the wind was against them. Around three in the morning, he came toward them, walking on the sea”. Above is a portion of scripture from one of my favorite and most self-reflecting scriptures in the whole Bible, the story of Peter walking on water. I wanted to study this scripture more deeply than before. In so doing, I have noticed a few things about Christ’s nature before, during and after the storm (this one and our storms as well) that I seek to share with you here. My question came from taking a closer look at the scripture above, and asking God: why did you go out onto the sea-during the storm?
through a storm similar to this one many times, so why was this storm so frightening for them? It could not have been any different than the many before. But this one was different, wasn’t it? They get different as life goes on don’t they? They are similar in many ways but not all. These storms in life increase in pain, emotion, depth and energy. Why were they afraid? Had they not navigated through a storm before now? Why were they so afraid, then? This I can’t seem to figure out. The only human answer I can come up with is this storm was different, and no, they have NEVER been through anything like this. This storm was ordained by Christ and ONLY WON with Him. WOW.
It seems so obvious doesn’t it? No, not to me hahaha. He created a conflict, allowed one to happen rather, which caused the disciples to be unable to apply any prior sailing knowledge and be victorious on their own. I, too, am in this situation as we speak. I will NOT get through without Christ. I KNOW for a fact He has placed me in the heat of this storm, and I am knee deep in the height of it, right now. One could argue we’re pros, as Christians, with storms, and therefore have the tools and previous knowledge to apply here. Maybe someone around us as well has been in this situation and can help us…but we would continue to lose, as we have been doing, because this storm is rare in its conception and will not be defeated with our carnal weak weaponry. The part that gives me comfort, and I pray you as well, is the moment God chooses to leave His prayer shore and join the men on the water…RIGHT IN THE HEAT OF THE STORM. Jesus! Oh my Lord. This is a place to shout if you are one who often does. Catch it real quick because it’s about to whiz right on by you. At its worst, scariest, darkest and EVEN dangerous point we can KNOW This applies so perfectly to Christian life–my life at the that Christ joins us right on the waters! He’s out here in this moment really. I like to think that I can handle it all, especially darkness with me--with YOU! My vulnerability and exposure the conflicts I recognize because I have been through not only open me up to being thrown around like one of my something similar to them before. These men were used to children’s toys in the bathtub; it also exposes and prepares me the water. The conflicts that met them there, the issues, losses to receive Christ who has refused to let me be out here alone. and victories. They never really needed too much help before, THANK YOU JESUS! this was all a part of their every day. The same goes for me. However, He’s already prayed us into and through the storm But there’s something very important to note here– do NOT (see Matthew 14: 22-23, where Jesus seems to--if I may infer miss it: He joins us during the storm, to be in it WITH US, not my own opinion here--send them into the storm He knew was to tell it to cease immediately. He did not set out for the boat, coming, and then pray for them alone on the shore). Meaning, calming the storm as He went, or shutting it all down before He’s equipped and prepared us because….drum roll….I leaving the shore. He is joining us, in the storm, as it is. Its do NEED HIM. Even in these habitual conflicts I feel I can worst. We call on God when we feel our most overwhelmed, handle and navigate my way through, because I have already and ready to lay down and allow the waves to take us out. navigated these ugly waters, forgotten that Jesus bestowed We want God to take it ALL away right away. To be that all grace enough to get me through, only to return to the same powerful miracle casting God who can make all our problems storm He just saved me from. In the same manner, these men disappear in a blinking moment. I know. I pray the same prayer lived on the seas, fished through the same storms like they did when I just cannot take anything anymore. Before me and before Jesus changed their lives. They may have even been hubbers separated in April of this year (our 3rd go ’round), I’m sure you’re wondering why I chose this to dive deeper into. I mean, I am actually asking myself the same question as I type this out (this stuck out to me a few weeks ago…?). But here’s what I’ve noticed in this scripture: the disciples were placed in a moment of vulnerability. Whether the boat is a mile away from the shore, or three or four, this fisherman’s vessel is out at sea, no Jesus in sight; and the storm has begun to churn them waters, the rain, and the boat together as if it were creating a stew. Weather like this, especially on the mighty and often dangerous waters can be very unpredictable. Hence my hesitation to be on a cruise, I fear the vulnerability of it all. But we seem to forget...we have Jesus. His disciples do not know this, at the time, but He’s watching them. I will go as far as to infer that without a doubt He knew WAY BEFORE the day even began that they would get caught up in a storm, and right at this time it would become its most intense and uncontrollable.
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Au¡tumn By: Life Coach Lytia I will truly miss the hot days accompanied by the sound of
of football season. October is known for some bonfires
grass being freshly cut but, I am so glad Autumn is here! You can tell by the crisp winds hitting your face, the falling leaves,
and the month for carving a pumpkin. November which tends to be one of my favorite months is the time for
and the change in the night air. The long awaited season for sweaters and soup is finally upon us! I look forward to the fall
all to tell what they are thankful for and prepare for the Christmas season.
as so many of us like to call it, because it is the time when we begin new journeys. For many it is the start of a new school year. Others look at the fall as the way to prepare their home for the change in weather and savory meals that will fill the crockpots. Webster’s dictionary defines autumn as a period of maturity or incipient decline. This causes me to think about the placement of the fall season. It happens later in the year to allow for reflection before the New Year is upon us. We spend the fall months putting away our summer wardrobe, putting on our favorite coat, drinking our favorite warm drink. Each month has something different to offer. September is known for Labor Day and the beginning
Reflections
Use this time as a time of reflection as the leaves change colors. Be inspired to change your current situations, ideas and way of thinking. Allow yourself to mature and embrace new possibilities. Finally, be thankful for a chance to relax and regroup as you away the preparing to come to an end. What will your AUTUMN bring?
By: Author Staci Bose
As we enter into this season that we call Fall, let’s take the time to reflect on the past 8 months. What were some things that you thought you would accomplish? Did you accomplish them? If not, why not? Was it timing? Was it procrastination? Was it a lack of faith? What holds you back from accomplishing the goals that you have for yourself? The Bible says in Ecclesiastes 3:1-7 To everything there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted; A time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; A time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance;
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Each month has something special to offer and each should cause you to reflect. Maybe you are looking forward to the holiday season and a way to prepare for the year ahead. Whatever you reason for loving autumn allow it to bring life to the seeds planted throughout the year.
A time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing; A time to get, and a time to lose; a time to keep, and a time to cast away; A time to rend, and a time to sew; a time to keep silence, and a time to speak; What does this season hold for you? And will you trust God enough to walk in your season? My prayer is that we all reach the heights that God has for us, that our fear and doubt is eliminated, and that we walk triumphantly in each and every Season of our lives.
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Christmas Shopping on a budget 101
By: Kellie Hudson
Okay Moms and Dads! Christmas is right around the corner and I’m going to give you all some tips for shopping on the budget. Me, myself have 5 kids ranging from a Baby to a teenager every year i try to get the most out of my budget and here’s some tips I have for you:
COUPONS!
LAYAWAY!!
Coupons are a great way to save money. A good way to get coupons is to sign up for stores email clubs and VIP programs such as justice, foot locker and etc. Most online site have these type of programs. Foot locker has a great one. You sign up for their VIP program and get free shipping plus $10 off your order! Great for those moms with teenagers and husbands who are asking for the latest Jordan’s and LeBron’s this Christmas.
Who doesn’t love lay-a-way?? You get to load up your cart and make payments on your order for about 12 weeks then you get your stuff once you make your last payment. This is a great way for those to shop who don’t have much of a Christmas budget. It gives you a way to pay here and there without having to take a big one time chunk out of your pay checks or is your husband asking for a new TV or teenager asking for new beats or an iPad? This is also a great way to pay on those big Christmas purchases! Stores such as Walmart, Kmart and Toys R Us have layaway beginning in September!
END OF SEASON CLEARANCES! This one is probably one of my favorites. At the end of the summer season and Christmas season target has a big clearance aisle in the toy department. 30% TO 70% off! I got a $100 Lego set for $30 at the beginning of August to put away for Christmas for my son who LOVES Legos. This is a good way to stock up on toys for Christmas and save a ton of money. I also noticed that a lot of the baby stuff like blankets and cute headbands and such go on clearance around that time also. Great ideas for any babies in your life.
LOOK FOR FREE DEALS!
5 BELOW!
CHRISMAS CLUB!
A great way to save money is to look for buy this get that deals! For example Lids will have buy two hats get one free deals, Pandora (this one is for your read husbands!) Will have buy $100 worth of Pandora charms and get the bracelet free, bath and body works will usually have buy so many bath and body products get 3 free! Free makes everyone happy! Esp. Around the holiday when you’re spending so much money.
This is one i always forget about how great it is until i go in This there. Esp. For tweens and teenagers! Also great for stocking one stuffers for everyone in your family. They have lots of tweeny right room decor, phone case, headphones and speakers for all under 5 dollars! Can’t beat that right?! This would also be a great place for a last minute Christmas gift or secret Santa gift. REWARDS CASH! This one is also a great one That stores such as Kohl’s, Old Navy and Children’s place offer. You buy from them and they give you usually a $10 certificate on every $25-$50 you spend. This is a great way to shop plus earn more money to add to your Christmas budget.
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here’s is a great way to save money with your bank or credit union. Put $25 or more dollars away a month and by Christmas you’ll have some money for Christmas and plus your usually not allowed to touch this money until October or November so you won’t be tempted to take money out of this account for other things. BLACK FRIDAY!!
Christmas is meant to be about Jesus don’t stress yourself out trying to. Put the best of the best under the tree. Don’t go broke for the rest of the year trying to make your tree look like a toy store. If you can afford it go for it. If you can’t don’t. Make shopping fun and remember when your kids are 30 they aren’t going to remember what was under the tree but more of how special the memories you made for them were. Enjoy your holiday and remember the main reason we celebrate is for the birth of our savoir.
Now I’m not a big black Friday shopper because my husband works night and usually by the time he gets home most of the I hope you all have a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! really good deals are gone but my sister and mom are! They get up at about 2am and head out for a day full of shopping and I’m not going to lie they get some great stuff for great prices! If you never tried it. Try it this year it may just be worth it. BUY USED VIDEO GAMES AND SYSTEMS! I’m not a big fan of used stuff but in this case I make an expectation because truly my son never notices the difference between the two and a used game cost a lot less than a brand new game. You can get used games at game stop. Plus sign up for their rewards card programs! You can get free stuff and coupons! Great for the gamer on your Christmas list this year. SAVE, SAVE, SAVE! J ust like the Christmas club you can save money yourself. Put a couple days away every pay check or take some of that income tax money and put it an away for Christmas. Every little bit helps. BABY PRESENTS TIP! Are you having a baby or have a young baby around Christmas time ask for diapers, clothes and gift card for baby from family members if asked. You and your spouse can buy toys and all that good stuff for under the tree. Help yourself and let family and friends get somethings baby truly needs for the rest of the year. Baby will never know. START EARLY! My husband thinks I’m crazy because I always start picking up things as I seen them for Christmas. My saying always goes “it’s never too early to start shopping for Christmas”. But we are always ready for Christmas when to come around. I hate to stress during the holidays. This is one way to keep me from stressing and keeping the season centered around Jesus Your daughter told you she want that new super hero Barbie doll and you see it at target in august, if you have the money pick it up. It will give you a head start plus you won’t be fighting for it in December. DON'T BE HARD ON YOURSELF!
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Miss Black Alabama USA 2016 "Thank You for Not Choosing Me!" Interviewed By: Darnica Gordon A lot of Black little girls dream of being a princess or participating in beauty pageants but not many of us get to actually experience that. I had the honor of chatting with Miss Black Alabama USA about her childhood, college, and of course, being crowned Miss Black Alabama USA 2016. But there is so much more in between. Talking with LaQuitta “Shai” Wilkins reminded me that God is always there for us, no matter the situation. Shai, as she likes to be called, is a very well rounded woman. She is a Nurse, played college ball, AND she is Miss Black Alabama USA 2016. Even with all of those amazing things trials and adversity still finds a way into our lives. Though things seem uncertain at times, one thing remains, one thing is constant, and that is God! Christ It Up: You have a lot going on. First let’s talk about you getting involved with Miss Black Alabama USA 2016? LaQuitta Wilkins: It started when I was in college. I was in nursing school and when I didn't get accepted into the school internship program I got a job that summer as a Nurse’s Assistant just to better my resume so I could get a nursing job after college. One of my patients brought it up. I was in Tennessee at the time, this was around 2010, and my patient was friends with Miss Black Tennessee. She said I should give it a try because I looked like a model, but I had so much going on with basketball and nursing school I didn't think it was a good time. Then I became a traveling nurse and got a job in Houston, which I ended up not liking and eventually transferred to DC. I went through a bad breakup, I wasn't as confident as I am now, and even with the encouragement of my coworkers I just didn't think it was a good time. It wasn't until a year later that I contacted the director of Miss Black Alabama USA. So the following year, though it wasn't a public pageant, I still had to do my talent, photos, and interviews. It's pretty intense. But I made it out of 22 people.
Move”, campaign. She brings awareness to the kids about the importance of eating healthier and I thought that was a bright idea. That's how I came up with the coloring book. I was thinking of a way to get the kids attention and I was like, 'Hey coloring! I know plenty of kids who like to color." I also wanted a catchy title and Color Me Healthy and Active was it! CIU: So with all that you have going on, traveling, giving your time, how do you stay grounded? LW: My family! I have a great, great support system. I pray often. When I'm very stressed I call my mom, my sister, and I have three best friends, Breona Battle, Doreisa Long, and Howard Crawford, who will pray with me and remind me of how God will work in my situations. I don't think that I could have went through, or been blessed with, all of the things that I have without God or my support system.
" I am trying to teach the girls to love themselves and not get into bad relationships."
CIU: With all that you encounter, share one of your most humbling experiences.
LW: I'm going to have to say nursing because you're dealing with patients. I remember this one time I was having a really, CIU: That is awesome! So you also have a coloring book out. really bad day and one of my patients’ mother was there with How did that come about? her daughter and she was explaining how her daughter's condition started out of nowhere. And she went on to explain LW: The coloring book. I really didn't expect it to be as big as how people say things like, ‘This is the worst. My life is over. it is. It was something that I wanted to use to promote my This is the worst day ever”, but her daughter's condition platform called “Heart of the Matter”, which brings awareness allowed many things to be put in perspective for her. She was to heart disease. Both my father and grandmother passed able to cherish a lot of things that she originally would’t have. away and heart disease was one of the complications. Also I think my job make me a humble person because growing Michelle Obama has been an inspiration with her, “Let's up without a father and having relationship problems, I go to
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work and see kids that are sick and their parents are going through so much and here I am stressing over something little when it could be worse. I believe working as a nurse and working in the ICU really made me put a lot of things into perspective and really cherish my moments of my life more. CIU: Are you currently in a relationship?
the things our ancestors had to go through. So meeting him was phenomenal! I also got to meet Fantasia and she’s a very humble person; that was another great moment. CIU: You had mentioned to me that there was a time during the the beginning of your Travel Nurse career that you had endured a difficult breakup. Can you share with us what happened and how God showed himself to you?
LW: No, I was in a relationship but I kind of broke it off back in April. LW: Well, it was with a guy that I was on and off with and the woman that he married is the woman he cheated on me with. CIU: Has running for Miss Black Alabama or having the title And this is something I’ve struggled with my whole life; not affected your relationship in any way? being the chosen one. Because my dad ended up not choosing me but chose his other kids, and in relationships they would LW: Yes, but not in a negative way. What really helped me always chose the other girl. So I just thought I wasn’t good to love myself more and not settle in a relationship, wass enough for him and blamed myself for why it didn’t work. going around talking to the Youth and helping to build their I would call Breona and Doreisa late at night just crying on confidence. If I am trying to teach the girls to love themselves the phone and begging God, ‘How can you get me passed and not get into bad relationships. I have to live that way this?’ I didn’t know what to do and one of them just told me too and set a great example for them. So with going around that I needed to just keep praying about it and get off social doing appearances and speeches I knew I needed to make media. See, (chuckles) a lot of females, when we go through better relationship decisions and not a breakup, we still stalk their social media be in a relationship just to be in one. and that’s one of the things I had to stop That I really need to be happy and have doing. But my relationship with Christ grew someone who will help me grow. so much because I knew he was the only one listening to me late at night when I was CIU: You are now preparing to run for crying on my face and didn’t know who Miss Black USA (go girl!), how does to turn to. Having a relationship with God this differ from running for Miss Black helped me to love myself more since that Alabama USA? was somethin I was struggling with and just because a guy didn’t chose me didn’t mean LW: I competed for Miss Black USA two that I wasn’t good enough. weeks ago (per time of the interview) and the difference is you are competing against the best of the CIU: God is so awesome! So, as we bring this to a close is there best and you have to come with it. During the entire pageant anything else you would like to add? they are all looking at you and judging you from the time you arrive. This was my first national pageant and I had to really LW: My mom, Robbie Wilkins, and my sister, Fredia Jackson, prepare for it and know what I was getting myself into to raised me to be the woman I am today and I owe them a have a good outcome. You are also around the founder of the lot. During my reign I was also in grad school so they were organization, who I truly love. She gave me the, Ambassador always there picking up the pieces and making sure I got to Award, which is the best of the best. Ms. Karen Arrington and the places I needed to be and that I was still focused on the I have a really good relationship. In this competetion you have bigger picture. I wouldn’t have been able to do what I’ve done to give it your all because you are going against the Queens without them. They instilled values in me that helped me to with different characteristics, physical traits, and personalities. respect myself with integrity and morals. I also wanted to touch on people never giving up on their CIU: Having this title, who are some people you’ve had the dreams. Even if it’s taking you longer to get there. Never honor of meeting? compare yourself to others. That was something that I also did in the past and being hard on myself because I wasn’t at the LW: John Lewis! I was in the front line of the reenactment place I needed to be at. And I had to stop doing that in order of the Selma march and got to meet him and it was thee to better myself. best moment of my life! He said hello, gave me a hug! It is a great moment that I can pass onto my children. I can tell CIU: I thank you so much for your time and for sharing with them that I was walking with a man who was great friends us! with Martin Luther King Jr. And I have the picture to prove it. I want them to know the importance of their history and LW: Thank you!
"But my relationship with Christ grew so much because I knew he was the only one listening to me late at night"
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Father on a
MISSION It was June 11th 2012, a sweet little boy was born named Malachi Kenneth. Little did I know, this baby boy was about to change my life forever.
My name is Douglas Sevier and I am 30 years old and became a father at the age of 26 years old. I am now a father of 2 amazing kids Malachi Kenneth (4years old) and Anneliesa Jonelle (21 months). We have been through some tough times but some amazing times also, at the age of 16months I was separated from my son Malachi because his mom and I separated from each other! It was a very difficult time for me I went through a very depressive state. I became very dependent on alcohol and other things and fell away from God! Only those closest to me knew what was going on and what I was going through. Fast forward to early 2014, my son’s mom and I started reconciling, but were both still far from where we needed to be with God. A couple months later she tells me she is pregnant! In December 2014 we are blessed with our baby girl Anneliesa Jonelle...but we are still not together. We finally came to an agreement after a year of hardly seeing my kids I would see them every weekend! So as a single father what are some of the things I struggle and deal with?? Honestly the biggest thing I struggle with is having another man raising my kids! No one knows that feeling you truly have to trust that God is taking care of them because you have no idea how he is “disciplining or treating” them! My son is old enough to tell me what goes on, but he is only 4, we all know kids that age do tell stories at times! God is our protector though and we must trust Him to keep our children when they are not in our care! As a single parent man or woman it is imperative to trust God to keep our children safe! Another thing I struggle with is making sure I’m spending as much time with my kids as I can! I work a full time job with unpredictable hours btw 10 and 14hrs a day! My free day is Sunday and I do my best to make the most of it, but sometimes I feel like I’m failing! Even though my babies hug on me and love on me all the time, in the heart is where I struggle! I do take days off to spend extra time and do special things with them, but is it enough? Sometimes you have to do everything you can for
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your kids and trust they will understand why you are doing what you’re doing! As a man you have so much responsibility and especially when everyone has an opinion about your life and choices! This is where you have to be confident in yourself and your choices and know that you are doing what’s best for your babies! We as men have so much pressure on us to meet certain standards, but the odds are stacked against us! It’s time for us (MEN) to stop looking at the odds and start looking to God for guidance and approval for what we are doing in our own lives and our children’s lives. People might not always agree with what you do, but as long as you have God’s approval it doesn’t matter what they say!! It’s not easy being a single father or co parent, I fight daily to keep my head up! Their mom and I are cordial with each other but trust me when I say it is hard to stay positive when there is nothing but negative being breathed in your direction! Focus on God and your kids and the rest will fall in place!! Single men single fathers keep your head up and stay focused on the ultimate goal seeing your kids succeed God bless and peace be with you!! -As Told By Doug Sevier
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What You Know About....
Dr. Shanna Carter Mother, Author, Woman of God
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Christ It UP: How old were you when you were swept off your English class (which I still have), about future goals. I stated feet by Jesus? that I wanted two law firms, no children (didn’t want to be bothered with them at all), and make a lot of money. I wanted Shanna Carter: I was 24 years old when Jesus chose me and I to be an attorney to make a lot of money so that I could live let ME began to die. a glamorous life and it be all about me. So many people had made my life miserable so this was my way to pay them CIU: Tell us a little bit about that experience and why you back. Well God had other plans. Life happened and I had made that decision. to go through many trials, tribulations and storms. I had to experience many jobs (working with children) and be placed SC: Oh My God, I remember it like it was yesterday. I wasn’t a in positions that I first thought were horrible. It wasn’t until I kid that grew up in church so I didn’t have much knowledge of became a Habitat for Humanity homeowner that the passion Christ or church, except attending programS and musicals that to be an attorney resurfaced. You see, the sponsors for my my grandmother organized. I had experienced a lot in my life house were the Jacksonville Bar Association, Pacjic and Pacjic with the most recent, at that time, being my ex-husband was Law Firm, and the very school I attended, Florida Coastal totally removed from my life the month before. For a month, School of Law. Then I changed jobs and began working for I watched my mother become so excited about ministry like State of Florida Children Legal Services. It was there that never before so I had to find out what was so exciting because my immediate Supervisor supported my dream to go to law my life was in shambles and I had no clue of who I was. There school and he pushed me as much as he could. I no longer had to be another way. Who really was this God that my wanted to go to law school or be an attorney just to make a lot mother was so joyful about? I wanted to feel something of money. I now wanted to save the lives of young people. I besides pain. I wanted to have something to talk about wanted to be a voice for even my own child (Yes, I had one). besides the issues that clouded my life. I was tired of wearing Our children in the foster care and juvenile system are not my many masks that made up the Shanna that people thought always treated right. Many of them leave bad situations to did not have a problem in the world. I was tired of being the end up in even worst situations once they are in the State Shanna that could adapt to every situation with a feeling of system. Our future generation, and their success, became my numbness and lack of identity. motivation for law school. I had been searching for 24 years to find who I really was, what I really liked and who truly loved me. I kept running into dead endS but I knew there had to be a better WAY. It was April 20, 2003, Easter Sunday, that I found Him choosing me. I remember sitting in the back of the church, crying excessively while barely being able to control myself. As the Pastor asked for those that wanted to give their life to Christ to come forward, I sat with my mind tossed back and forth. My hand started to go up and it was like my mind was taking all the strength in me to keep my hand down even though my spirit knew it was what I needed. The next moment I remember is my hand going up forcefully. A few moments were blank but the next thing I knew, I was stand in the front of the church with my face in my hands, crying and saying thank you. So, you see I did not choose this path. My flesh was still trying to keep me bond. However, I do believe in the prayers of the righteous. There were people from my childhood still praying for me. There were people that crossed my path on various occasions that were praying for me. God chose me first and as He changed, molded and clean me up, I begin to choose Him daily. CIU: On your website, it states that you have a Doctor of Law or Jurisprudence degree, what made you study law? SC: The first time I wanted to be an attorney was during my 2nd grade year of elementary school. I revisited the career choice throughout the years and it was 12th grade that I really knew I wanted to be an attorney but for all the wrong reasons. I remember writing a paper in my 12th grade
CIU: Let's talk about your books. You released two in September, "Transparent Mask" and "A Mother's Cry", how did they come about? SC: Both of these books come from life experiences. God gave me “Transparent Mask” about 8 years ago. I kept trying to finish the book but I never could. Every chapter was placed in my spirit at that time. I kept looking at the title of the chapters and really did not feel I had anything to write about in the last 4. I would complete a little at a time over the last 2-3 years. It was not until earlier this year that God told me why I could not finish the book when He gave it to me. He was really showing me where my life would end. Yes, I had not experienced the best chapters of the book which are the ending. He was giving me hope through this book. He was giving me a tangible view of the direction my life would go if I just stayed faithful and surrendered to Him. I am excited about that fact that the last few chapters I wrote about now, while I was spiritually and naturally experiencing Victory. “A Mother’s Cry” is an interactive workbook for those parents that are doing all that they can to be a God-fearing, Godserving, walking in obedience, supportive parent and it just seems like your child will not conform to the things of God. Sometimes we can blame ourselves, sometimes we want to throw in the towel, and sometimes many parents completely wash their hands of their child. I experienced more than one can imagine with my daughter. Some things were because of the training she got from my ex-husband when he lived with us. All of those issues with her magnified once he left. Many times we think it’s just a mental thing. Much of it is a spiritual
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Coffee with Sister Doris
Dear Sister Doris,
I am really depressed. I am a 14 year old girl and my whole life people have told me how ugly and dark I am, but they have always told me that I have a nice body. So I understand that all I had to offer is my body. I wear leggings and low cut shirts so that boys will look at me. Even grown men stare at me. So now all I wear is tight clothes. I really want someone to love me, but I don’t think it is possible to love an ugly person. So I let boys feel on me and talk nasty to me because it does feel good to get attention, but also it does feel very good physically. But then I feel ashamed when they come around and then don’t treat me like a girlfriend. Pretty girls have boyfriends. I don’t. I only get a boyfriend if no other girl wants to date them. So now here I am, I had sex with a boy who was rejected by some pretty girl. I think I am pregnant. No, I don’t think it. I am pregnant. I am so ashamed. I want to get an abortion but my parents won’t let me. I don’t even know what my question is to you. I just really wanted to say to someone what I feel. My parents are not giving me a hard time, but I don’t feel comfortable talking to them because I can see the disappointment every time we talk. They look so sad. I just want to run away, but where would I go. If people that know that I am fun and nice don’t want me, who would? I am ugly, dark, pregnant, and with no boyfriend. Yeah we broke up because we aren’t having sex anymore. I heard a girl at school say I was an ugly whore. But I know a lot of really pretty girls that got pregnant and had abortions. I feel like once again the pretty girls have a better life than me. Signed, Ugly me
Hello there beautiful, I am so glad that you stopped by for coffee this morning. I do not give young ladies under 18 years of age coffee. So here, sweetheart, have a glass of water with freshly sliced cucumbers.
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First, I want to read this scripture to you. …if my people who are called by my name humble themselves, and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then I will hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land. 1 Chronicles 7:14 God can heal your land. Meaning He can heal everything that is wrong in your life, but we need to make Jesus Lord of our life. The Bible says, if you confess with your mouth that Jesus is Lord and believe in your heart that God raised him from the dead, you will be saved. Romans 10:9 ESV Do you believe that? Great! Let’s confess that together. Jesus, I believe that you died on the cross for my sins and I believe that God raised you from the dead. I ask you to be Lord of my life. Come into my heart. Forgive me of my sins. Amen.
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Now let’s talk about your beauty. You are beautiful. You were purposely made by God with this face.
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People point out the differences in everyone and say that people are too tall or too short, too dark or too light, too fat or too skinny. But you are the color of skin that God gave you. God decided that you would be this beautiful shade of skin. God decided that you would have this texture of hair. The Creator of the Earth decided your nose width and the thickness of your lips. You are beautiful. What I will say is that you need to make sure that what God gave you is in tip top condition. Lotion your skin, take bathes daily, use deodorant, drink lots of water, moisturize your hair, brush your teeth, and keep your lips moisturized. If you have acne, get a good acne face wash. God made flowers beautiful too, but if we don’t water them they will dry out and not look as God intended. Sweetie, as long as you are doing those things your natural beauty will shine through. Have confidence in yourself. Think about what God thinks of you! Psalms 139 13-16 ESV For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made. Wonderful are your works; my soul knows it very well. My frame was not hidden from you, when I was being made in secret, intricately woven in the depths of the earth. Your eyes saw my unformed substance; in your book were written, every one of them, the days that were formed for me, when as yet there was none of them.
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I want to make sure that you understand that abortion is sin. It is murder. There is no other way of explaining it. Sometimes it appears that an abortion is the best way out, but you cannot fix sin by sinning. Proverbs 16:25 There is a path before each person that seems right, but it ends in death. When a baby is in the womb, he or she is alive. They are growing and can feel. Can you look at your child and say, “I wish that I would have laid on a table and let those doctors kill you?” No, you don’t feel that way. What you feel is angry with yourself that you had sex as a teenager and got pregnant. The father is no longer with you so you are embarrassed and ashamed. Anger turned inward is depression. So when you say that you are depressed, I hear “I am angry with myself” So forgive yourself for having this baby so that you can be an awesome mother without regret. It happened and it is over. What you can do is be the best mom to your child. The father may come back around or he may disappear completely, but you can be a great mom. Please do not envy sin. The Bible says in Proverbs 14:30 … envy makes (your) bones rot. Envy is truly a disease.
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I really want you to focus on God’s love for you. I want you to sit and think about how God cares for you. You do not have to worry. The Bible says in Isaiah 41:10 ESV Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
When you are down, cry out to God and ask for help. You are a Christian young lady. You don’t have to sit in depression. God can deliver you. The Bible says in Psalm 34:17-18 ESV When the righteous cry for help, the Lord hears and delivers them out of all their troubles. The Lord is near to the brokenhearted and saves the crushed in spirit. You have to remember that our thoughts are not like God’s. In order to understand God, you will have to read your Bible and pray daily. The Bible says in Proverbs 3:5-6 ESV Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
I hope that our chat helped.
Until next time, Sister Doris will be praying for you.
Have a question for Sister Doris? Send it to: christitup@yahoo.com. We would love to hear from you!
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Book Worm Best Friends Forever By Kimberla Lawson Roby
Just when you think your world is turned upside down, you hear the story of someone else’s and it is much worse. That happened to me except I was reading this book. When life gets a little too stressful for me I pick up a good book and get lost in the pages. And that’s exactly what this book allowed me to do. This story is about a woman named Cecilia who is faced with a life changing issue and all she wants is the support of her husband, but her husband is disconnected. As she goes through different changes in the book her friend Lauren is there every step of the way. Whether it’s prayer, companionship, or helping financially. It’s a blessing to have friends that love you unconditionally too. Be sure to grab this book and a hot cup of coffee or tea. You are in for a ride!
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Words of the Lord
Let It Be Purposeful By: Darnica Gordon
James 1:2-5 Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. 5 If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. Have you ever seen that post on social media that says, “You think God’s not there? The teacher is always quiet during a test.”? I have, plenty of times, and I would always feel excited knowing that God would always be there no matter what. And then life smacked me dead in the face. Before I knew it my life was falling apart around me. My husband lost several family members very close together, he also lost his job (which was a wrongful termination that we fought and lost). I was working two part-time jobs which did not compare to my husband’s income at all. He was the breadwinner. At first it was okay, we had a little money saved and my income
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was keeping us afloat. And then it was gone. My husband was suffering from heart palpitations, an injured back, and mini seizures which left him unable to work. I felt like I was in the twilight zone. I was so overwhelmed and felt so out of control. It was constantly one thing after another. I couldn’t take it!
for other utilities trying to catch up on that one, so that me and my family (I am a mother of 3 children) wouldn’t be evicted. I was losing my mind. I had to pause. “God, where are you”?
Immediately, that social media post Now this has been going on since about flooded my head. The teacher is always June of 2015. I am still dealing with trials. quiet during a test. As I was studying the It seems that one trial cruises right into Word I came across James 1:2-5 and it just blessed my soul. I will consider it joy another one like waves riding in. I’m when I face trials, for I know that it will currently facing serious marital issues make me a mature and complete being. as well as financial issues. My landlord had threatened to evict us because I was Though I am still facing trials (it rains on behind on a $1000.00 water bill that was the just as well as the unjust) I trust in God’s plan for me wholeheartedly. If you due to a running toilet that they would not repair. I’ve received shut off notices are going through rough times meditate
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thing. But I couldn’t give up on my child either because she was also fighting a battle in the spirit due to her being very anointed and the enemy knows the power that lies within her.
and having complete joy even when showing love to your child comes with making decisions that they may not like. Even making decisions that hurt you to make but will save your child.
CIU: I love the idea that, “A Mother’s Cry: How to STAND when the enemy tries to steal your child", is interactive. How did you come up with that concept?
CIU: Amen! How can our readers retrieve a copy of your books?
SC: “Transparent Mask: Finding the GOD in me while trying to find ME", will be SC: I talk to many parents available the 3rd week of that feel like they are not this October. Readers and good parents, some feel like potential readers can visit/ there is no hope for their subscribe to my website children, and some are on www.purposemotivatedlife. the verge of giving up on com and all information for life. I remember having one book sales and book signings parent read a testimony I will be available there. shared on Facebook and later “A Mother’s Cry” will be she inboxed me to say thank available for purchase midyou because for so long she November. You will be able thought she was a bad parent to get more information from and wanted to kill herself. my website as well. Readers These are the situations some can also like my Facebook parents are facing and just page or send me a friend reading a book does not get request to get updates. to the core. There are six steps I give along with my CIU: How can they check for own testimony. I wanted you on social media? parents to really think about their own situations and SC: I can be found on almost find solutions. By having an all social media sites. interactive workbook, they are encouraged to write *Facebook: Shanna Monique down the answers because Carter, Purpose Motivated if life continues to happen, Life with Shanna Carter, & the enemy will try to revisit Krumpin 4 Success, Inc. what we have “conquered”. This is a tool that they can *Twitter: @Shanna continuously revisit at those CarterPML moments. We can stand: Standing means more than *Periscope: Shanna Carter_ just being present. It’s about PML still believing that God has the final say. It’s about still *LinkedIn: Shanna Carter believing that your child is destined for greatness. It’s *Instagram: Shanna Carter about forgiving yourself and not living in condemnation. It’s about not being ashamed to say that you do not have it all together. It’s about living
I begged God daily to just end it all. End the pain, the crying, everything right now. What then would that do for me? For my marriage? How would God’s promises come to pass if we did not learn anything, did not have to work our faith? How does this demonstrate how great God is if He just takes all the pain away and brings out the sunshine? How does it strengthen my family for the future, and for what He is calling us to be and do? It doesn’t work that way. This all tells me that God is coming to help me fight and win (whatever that win looks like in the end), not to handle it all for me. He is the perfect parent. I was victorious the minute He sent me onto those waters ahead of Him, I was victorious while He watched me on the water while the storm began to rip through my life with large crashing and resounding waves. I am victorious with Christ as He now joins me in the heart of what definitely feels like the most painful
storm to date. Without Him I will fall overboard (oh my gosh). Without Him, I will not have the courage to go through the storm, all the way through, and work my faith until the end. Without Him I will never see myself get stronger and become the woman God and my family need me to be. Without Him, I will never get to truly see who He really is. Without Him there is no winning, there is no reconciliation, there is no revealing of how great He is. There is no testimony. I pray this encourages you as it is doing for me, even as I finish typing these last few words. God is in the storm, and not in a churchy (it is now a word thank you) cliché way either. He is walking on the same waters you are getting whiplash on. He is coming to help, and already sent help! He’s right here with me, and I now know more so than before that I WILL BE victorious. I will reach the next shore line, and this storm will not go on for eternity.
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on this scripture and watch God blow your mind. This journey will be purposeful. That I may be able to inspire someone going through this exact thing. May I stand firm and let them know God has it covered.
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