Vessel’s Note Hello Fam, hope your enjoying Christ It Up as much as I am. This issue is mainly about marriage, being married or on your way. Different aspects of a marriage and points on what should be done in the marriage or what you should be doing to prepare for you future husband or wife. christitup@cleat.net or www.wix.com/mzgordon/ciu Darnica Gordon Glory be to God!
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Delivered Leria Felix
Crying to myself, about my carelessness, about my selfishness, about my helplessness. Depending on myself, to save me from my mess, to relieve my own stress, to have me suffer less. Standing by myself, trembling about to fall, stretching high and still not tall, moving fast going nowhere at all. Holding up myself, no supporting structures, did not know my scriptures, breaking all his fixtures. Staying with myself, loneliness exceed, cannot meet my need, cannot feed my greed. Dying by myself, no one to show they love me, no one to care and hug me, no one to try and ground me. Desolation, devastation, domination, until deliverance. He saved me from me.
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**Special shout out to the ladies of Lighthouse Cathedral. I love yall ď Š
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vs. Godly VIEWS ON MARRIAGE I remember back on December 24, 2008 my long time…boyfriend Donnie Gordon asked me to marry him! I was so excited. Though we had already discussed getting married and started making plans that was when he officially proposed to me. I had just rededicated my life back to Christ in July of that same year. I was working in a call center at that time and a lot of people that I associated with were not men and women of God. I got a lot of flak for being engaged. People wanted to know why I was getting married. I would hear things like, “Oh you won’t see me getting married; guys aren’t worth anything”. I was actually happy I didn’t feel that way. I had a new found love in God and in my future husband. My family was excited for me but I still heard negative things from them as well. I think me being so happy turned some of them off. They would tell me things like, “It aint always gon be like this. Everything’s not gon always be peachy keen.” Which I understood, but what I didn’t understand was why they couldn’t be happy for me in that moment? Then there was my Christian family, boy were they excited for us! Their excitement matched mine. They weren’t only excited for us but for what God was doing. The single ladies would say they couldn’t wait to get married. Everyone was inquisitive about the process and just there for me. I think there is such a negative cloud over marriage that people rather not deal with
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it or dream about it. I know relationships can be painful but don’t let that determine you spending the rest of your life with the love of your life. Live and learn from your experiences and make wise decisions. If you know better you will do better! (I got that from Devi Titus) I was with my mom one day and she was listening to a singer named Trey Songs and he was talking about some woman and her lipstick??? But it got me to thinking would this be okay for a Gospel artist who’s married? Would it be okay because he wasn’t promoting fornication? But then I realized it’s not “cool” to be married in the world. You have to try to be with as many people as possible before you decide to settle down. When I use to watch videos on GMC rappers and singers who were married were always flashing their wedding bands and I thought that was so awesome! My son Donnell talks about his life a lot. A “life” in our terms is wife but when he first said that it made me smile because wives are their husbands’ life. He’s always telling me how he’s going to treat her, but often asks questions saying, “How will I know it’s her?”. I thank God that he thinks that way at 6 years old. I pray that he continues that thinking and doesn’t let anyone persuade him otherwise. I encourage him to be an awesome man of God and a wonderful husband. I can’t wait to meet my daughter- in- law.
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Are YOU Prepared? (For marriage)
This question is like asking someone are they prepared for their baby to be born. You may have the nursery set up and have clothes and pampers, etc. But no one is prepared for the sleepless days and nights, sickness, colic, trouble with formula, breastfeeding (for us ladies), pamper blow outs, etc. But we love this baby and are overjoyed by their presence. Getting married is kind of like that. Even though you may have been in a relationship with a person for years it doesn’t prepare you for marriage. You know this person well but may be surprised by things they do once yall move in together. Being engaged, preparing for your wedding, and getting married is similar to finding out your pregnant and telling everyone, planning the shower, then having the baby. Those are all exciting moments.
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Then there’s the honeymoon. That’s like your stay at the hospital. You got people there helping you. You can sleep when (if you’re not breastfeeding), and people bring food to you when you want. But once you go home from the hospital that’s when the real fun begins. Same with when you come back from the honeymoon. You have to join your lives together. Fit everyone’s things in one house. Join finances; see who’s going to keep track of the money and who will pay the bills. It’s important that God is at the center of your relationship. If you are focused on pleasing God it will come naturally to please your family. And a wife can feel secure in her husband knowing that he is constantly conversing with God. A husband can feel secure that when things get rough his wife is in that prayer closet. Marriage is a very wonderful thing and can be a lot of work. That was the most said line when I was in the process of getting married. “A marriage will work if you work it”. The enemy is going to be at you because of course he doesn’t want your marriage to work. He doesn’t want 2 godly people together raising godly children!
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Just to add to this here is a “note” from my beautiful Sister in Christ Staci Bose author of “My Journey into Egypt.”
No Settling by Staci Bose
Just a little advice to my single, female friends. Don't be in such a rush to get married that you settle for the first guy that comes your way. Don't look for a man that fits your physical taste, only. Do you have spiritual and emotional standards for the husband that you want? What kind of family does he come from? What are his values? What are his views on raising children? What are his views on his wife working? Does he pray to the same Jesus (not God because a lot of people claim God) that you do? These are the questions that should be asked BEFORE you get serious with a guy. Remember, you cannot change a person. So don't settle and think, "Oh, I'll change him". Cause you won't. Have a great day everyone!
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Words of the Lord NLT 1 Corinthians 7:32-35 I want you to be free from the concerns of this life. An unmarried man can spend his time doing the Lord’s work and thinking how to please Him. But a married man has to think about his earthly responsibilities and how to please his wife. His interests are divided. In the same way, a woman who is no longer married or has never been married can be devoted to the Lord and holy in body and in spirit. But a married woman has to think about her earthly responsibilities and how to please her husband.
When I found this scripture I was already married. I read it and it made so much sense. Trying to balance everything is tough. Well, to me at least. I have to be a woman of God, mother, wife, nurse, referee, chef, chauffer, teacher, etc. It’s challenging to balance everything and make sure everything is getting adequate attention. Sometimes I think it would be nice to be able to give God my undivided attention at any giving moment. Then there are my kids! I love my kids. There are crazy and it’s their matches I’m refereeing and it’s them that I’m chauffeuring around, but I’ve come to love being a mother so much. So much that I decided to have another baby…a year ago. The thing is it’s hard to manage all these things equally. I know I sometimes feel neglected by my husband because he’s always on the move. If anybody has this mastered please give me a call!!! Thank you
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Bookworm When I first start reading this book I was full of skepticism. How Jesus came every night and took this woman to Hell, just so she could spread this to the world. I mean it was a good way to sell a book. But then I realized that Jesus has the power and authority to do this if he pleases. So once that was established I was terrified! I know for sure I don’t want to go to Hell.
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Now this book on the other hand gives me hope. Knowing that I can spend eternity in Heaven with my Godly Father is amazing to me. The way Heaven is depicted in the book is awesome. I fantasize about going there. Very good read.
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Coffee with Sister Doris Sister Doris, I am a Christian young woman and I go to a very small church with no air conditioning or fans. One Sunday, I went to church wearing a halter-top dress. One of the mothers in the church said that it was inappropriate to come into the House of God wearing a halter-top. She asked me to cover up in a Holy Ghost nap cloth. You know the ones they use on people that are slain in the spirit, but that made me hotter. After church, she told me that I shouldn’t wear my strapless or tank top dresses either. I am thinking about staying home until the fall. She wasn’t rude or anything. I just don’t see why I can’t dress a little sexy for church. Signed, Hot in Church
Dear Hot in Church, Normally I would put on a pot of coffee for us, but for you I think we need iced tea. It sounds like you are hot in church and not because of the temperature. (wink, wink). We are supposed to go to church to fellowship, learn, be refueled, worship God, pray, and be sexy runway models. Wait! Sexy runway models? NO! We should look nice and neat, but never to the point where that is our main concern. If a woman comes to church in a sexy outfit, people are no longer focused on the service. They are now focused on the woman. 1 Timothy 2:9 NLT -And I want women to be modest in their appearance. Modesty doesn’t start and stop at church. As Christian women, we must be modest everywhere we go. Modest doesn’t mean that you have no sense of fashion. You can be modest and attractive. Take this time to plan a shopping trip with some of your Christian friends. They may need help with creative ideas as well. You also mentioned not going to church until the fall. Where will you get your refill? When God gives a word for your church, how will you hear it? You will be at home spiritually dying because you refuse to be a little warm at your church for 2 hours. Are you really serious? CIU
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Missing church should not be an option for you. The body of Christ needs to come together regularly to fellowship and you are part of the body. However, when you come, make sure you aren't the part of the body that is uncovered. Amen? Amen! I am glad that the church mother came to you in love and I hope that our talk helped.
Until next time, Sister Doris will be praying for you.
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