WE LCO ME TO MIDDLEHOOD BY JUDI KETTELER
A Big World After All VISITING NEW YORK CITY TO BREAK OUT OF OUR PANDEMIC FAMILIARITY, WITH MIXED RESULTS.
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WHEN AIRLINES CANCELED FLIGHTS IN MARCH 2020, I WAS TEMPORARILY RELIEVED TO get a break from traveling for my work. But I was sad to miss journalism events, and especially disappointed because I’d been planning on taking my then-9-year-old daughter to Boston for one of them. After all, I had taken our son, now 13, with me to fun locations like Venice Beach while reporting on a story. It was supposed to be her turn. “I’ll make it up to you,” I told her. “But we won’t go to Boston,” she pouted. I searched for consolation, reaching for a destination that was even higher on her list. (Sorry, Boston, I think you’re great.) “How about if we go to New York City instead?” Her eyes danced. “When? Soon!?” “No, not soon.” What I wanted to say was, “I can’t imagine we’ll ever leave town again.” Every morning that spring, I read about what New York City was going through. The ter3 6 C I N C I N N AT I M A G A Z I N E . C O M M AY 2 0 2 2
ror. The stories of people losing parents and spouses. The nurses and doctors who had to watch patients die. I’d visited New York City about 20 times over the last 25 years, and I tried to imagine the familiar places. The people. The closed-in feeling. Living here in suburban Cincinnati, we had the luxury of backyards and uncrowded streets. We bubbled up and stayed put, as the fortunate were able to do. And when we did start going places in 2021—like the beaches of Lake Michigan, a half-day’s drive away—they felt like places cut from the same cloth as here, just with more water. Our life was a gray circle of sameness. There is, of course, huge privilege in sameness. I already worked from home as a writer. My husband was a stay-at-home dad. We were set up for this. So we weathered it. FOR TWO YEARS, MY DAUGHTER KEPT asking me when we were going to New York City. For the longest time, my answer was, “As soon as vaccinations are approved for your age group.” After she was vaccinated, it became, “As soon as this Omicron surge passes.” And then one Thursday a few months ago, she said, “I know we’re never going to New York.” “We will go! I just don’t want to plan and then have to cancel.” I heard the absurdity tumbling from my mouth. Living in fear of cancellation was not the example I wanted to set for my kids. So the minute she got on the school bus, I started searching flights to New York City for Presidents Day weekend. She had days off from school. I still had travel credits from 2020. It was the perfect match. Her squeal when I told her that afternoon was the stuff that parents live for. We immediately started making a list of mustsees. Museums would not be on the list, she informed me. Shopping would be. I was 11 once, so I understood. I also knew there were more ways to experience a place than paying an endless series of admission fees. While her goal was to find the perfect jeans and the trendiest sweatshirt, my goal was for her to have new and different experiences. In her mind, we were going to a giant outdoor mall, just with tall buildings. In my mind, we were going to experience the city’s texture and have big adventures. But almost as soon as we got there—and certainly after the long taxi ride from the ILLUSTR ATIO N BY D O L A SU N
