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Photography for this article by: Surprise Photography
6 Stuff We Love
8 Q & A with
Lani Pincus
10 Birth STORY
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12 BabyMOON 17 MOMMY Dash
Jenn Sullivan, founder of Waddle n Swaddle dishes on how to plan and educate yourself on breastfeeding. Find out what she recommends on page 20, as well as her top picks for stylish nursing gear.
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18 NURSING Success
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20 MOMMY
Editors: Margaret Fistik Elora Stack Robin Stoutenburg Erin Wik Contributors: Jennifer Colucci, teacher and free-lance writer, The Mommy Dash Shoshanna Easling, Owner, Bulk Herb Store Clark, Dad, Birth Story Lauren, Mom, Nursery Nook Lani Pincus, CNM, Q & A Jenn Sullivan, Founder, Waddle n Swaddle Photographers: Coco b. Sweet Photography, Inc. Erin Frances Photography Surprise Photography Turnquist Photography
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22 Lactation
Consultant DIRECTORY
24 Nursery Nook
28 BUMP Style
30 Making Babies
R e c i pe: Belly Butter
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1. Healing Touch
Eden Salve, created by Shoshanna from the Bulk Herb Store, is perfect for healing cuts, burns, rashes, insect bites, and cracked or dry skin. It's organic and can be used as often as needed. www.bulkherbstore.com | $7.95
2. Go Anywhere Lounge
LulaBoo Baby lounge makes it easy for you to stay active with your new arrival. This 4-in-1 travel bed and lounge provides your baby with a safe place to sleep or play. It comes in a variety of stylish cotton fabrics, with a flexible foam interior and waterproof underpadding. When you are ready to go, it folds into a lightweight backpack. www.lulyboo.com | $49.99
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3. Sweet Treat
Sweat Dreamzzz A Pint of PJ's, by Baby Aspen, is a fun and unique gift. The retro ice cream-parlor pints come in chocolate brown, strawberry pink and lime green. Each set of PJ's comes with a matching nightcap, with sprinkles and a cherry to top it all off. Enjoy this pint of whimsy and wrap your little one in this sweet and dreamy set. Sweet Lullaby, 300 Franklin Ave, Wycoff, NJ 07481 | $26
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4. It's a Hoot
This infant two-piece Hoot Hoot top and footed pants by Kissy Kissy is made with lush pima cotton, long sleeves and elastic waistband. Your baby will be comfy and cute in this adorable owl pattern. Quackles, 44 Raymond Ave, Poughkeepsie, NY 12603 | $36
5. Stellar Style
The Stella Crib from Bellini Furniture is modern and classic, with the perfect transitional style. Its clean lines and heirloom quality makes it an instant classic. The crib comes in a variety of colors, from pale pink to deep blue to french gray, and more. If you like what you see, you can check out the entire Stella Collection. Bellini Baby & Teen Furniture, 495 Central Ave, Scarsdale, NY 10583
6. Free to Breathe
This smart, and a little unusual nasal aspirator was invented by doctors in Sweden. The Snotsucker by NoseFrida is 100% hygienic and non-invasive. Check out the what, how and why on fridababy.com New Baby New Paltz, 15 Plattekill Ave, New Paltz, NY 12561 | $15
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Q & A
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Your Questions Answered
This issue, we selected questions from our readers about their concerns from each trimester and got the answers from local leading medical professional Lani Pincus, CNM.
1st Trimester
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I heard that the baby's vital organs develop in the 1st trimester. Is it safe for me to do household cleaning?
LP: Fetal organ development does happen during the first twelve weeks of pregnancy. Household cleaning does not interfere with organ development in any way. However, fatigue and nausea which are both common during the first trimester may make completing household chores more difficult. In addition, one should consider the safety of the cleaning solutions being used with special consideration being paid to adequate ventilation.
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When does morning sickness usually begin?
LP: Nausea and vomiting in the first trimester of pregnancy is
a very common experience for many women. The frequency and severity of such symptoms vary from woman to woman with some women experiencing no symptoms at all and others requiring hospitalization for dehydration. “Morning� sickness is a misleading label for these symptoms as they can occur at any point throughout the day. Seven to eight weeks of gestation is a common time for the onset of nausea and vomiting during pregnancy. With the onset of the second trimester of pregnancy, such symptoms tend to resolve.
2nd Trimester
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I'm in my 2nd trimester. Is it safe to take a 12 hour flight to Europe?
LP: Air travel during a normal pregnancy is considered
safe in the second trimester. However, the hormones of pregnancy increase our risk for blood clots and prolonged immobility increases such risks. Therefore, I advise my patients to take a walk around the plane every 1-2 hours to keep the blood in their lower extremities moving. Be advised that most airlines require a letter of medical clearance for air travel.
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I'm anemic. What foods can I eat to make sure I'm providing myself and my baby with enough Iron?
LP: All prenatal vitamins contain some amount of iron.
Unfortunately, this may not be adequate for all pregnant women. There are many iron rich foods that one can eat. These include: red meat, egg yolks, dark leafy green vegetables (spinach), dried fruit (prunes, raisins), iron enriched cereals and grains, beans, lentils, chick peas, soybeans, liver and artichokes. It is important to note that vitamin C enhances the body’s absorption of iron.
3rd Trimester
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I'm in my 3rd trimester. Is it safe for me to exercise? If so, at what intensity?
LP: Exercise is important to us all whether we are pregnant or not. I
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do not advise my patients to embark on a new, high impact exercise regime while pregnant, However, one can and should continue their regular exercise regime. Pregnant women should stay well hydrated and listen to their bodies. If something is causing discomfort, one should stop and rest. We also want patients to avoid having their heart rates go too high while pregnant. A good rule of thumb is if you can carry on a conversation while exercising then you are fine. If you are too out of breath to have a conversation while exercising, then your heart rate is too high and you need to slow down.
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I've been having contractions where my stomach gets rock hard. Are these Braxton Hicks, or should I call my doctor when this happens?
LP: During pregnancy, it is common for the uterus to
contract beginning at 6 weeks gestation. In the third trimester, contractions can become more frequent and occasionally more intense. Prior to 37 weeks gestation, I advise my patients to rest and drink lots of fluids if they experience 4 or more contractions in an hour. Patients are to call if the contractions persist as 4 or more in an hour after rest and hydration. After 37 weeks gestation, a woman is considered full-term and contractions regardless of timing or intensity are fine. I advise my patients to call if they are experiencing contractions every 5 minutes for 1-2 hours.
Labor & Delivery
Is there anything I can do prior to labor to avoid having an episiotomy?
LP: Episiotomy is a small incision made in the perineal region during birth to enlarge the vaginal opening. There are a variety of situations which require such intervention but episiotomies are no longer considered routine for all births. In fact, providers these days are taught techniques which help to avoid the need for episiotomy. Some providers suggest that patients practice perineal massage which is a technique to help prepare the perineal region for stretching during birth. There is controversy about whether or not this helps to decrease overall episiotomy rates.
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What is the average amount of time it takes to push the baby out?
LP: Up to two hours of pushing for a first baby is considered
normal. There are many factors which influence how long a woman will need to push. These include maternal effort, strength/ frequency of uterine contractions and position of the baby as it descends through the birth canal.
Lani Pincus, CNM, MS, NP
Lani is a certified nurse midwife and nurse practitioner OB/GYN, working in Brewster and Carmel with the Mid Hudson Medical Group. She recieved her Masters of Science from Columbia University, and was board certified by the American College of Nurse/ Midwives.
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regnancy is a very personal experience for everyone, including us dads. For our first child, we become sponges and need to know everything. Mounds of literature exists around pregnancy informing us on everything, from what to eat to what to wear. I know before every checkup, I was on the web extrapolating every last bit of information on the upcoming test or procedure. Things are much more technical these days. At times, I would imagine what life must have been like 5,000 years ago without the advantages of modern medicine. The one thing I could not find on the web, however, was how I would feel as my fiancée lay on the bed, in pain, and in labor. A small piece of me thought, “maybe after all of this, she won’t want another one.” I mean, who would want to subject themselves to this type of pain again? I know that while I certainly enjoy creating life, the birthing process is not necessarily something I have chalked up to wanting to experience again and again. Nine months later, and armed with my cyberspace residency, I was ready to put my newly minted “Cyber-MD” title to use.
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Danielle holding their new daughter, Avery.
Clark,
proud father and fiance.
The doctors prepped her for the process: administering the IV, starting the potassium (SP) drip, and getting her “wired,” so we could see all of her vitals from blood pressure to heart rate. They even strapped some equipment on her belly for the baby (see this Cyber-MD is paying off after all!) After, they asked her if she was interested in the epidural (numbing goodness from the waist down, as I like to call it!). At this time, I remember recalling a skit by Jeff Foxworthy on the “beauty” of birth—he runs through a short skit on how birth is beautiful and his punch line was “I’ll take the epidural from the waist up!” When she said, “no thanks,” to the epidural that was the beginning of my anxiety. I remember quoting to her from a couple websites (classes from my Cyber-MD curriculum) that talked about the epidural, and explained that the risks were minimal. I did my best to talk her into the experience without pain, but for my fiancée, the protection of the baby was most important. With prepping completed, it was go time! Well sort of… (Insert a bunch of boring down time here) I will spare you a
Hearing Avery cry for the first time. Mommy and daughter's first meeting.
My fiancée directed me to get the camera and capture the moment. I grabbed the camera and started snapping away, almost like it was the red carpet… and then I witnessed all the blood… I momentarily got light headed, but quickly pulled my act together, and focused on taking pictures. a few bad jokes—one being my fiancée actually getting the epidural. After lunch, numerous visits by doctors and nurses, and a quick fast forward, she was finally 10 centimeters dilated and ready to increase the population of the world by one. We opted out of la-mas classes (remember my cyber-MD, my residency was going fantastic), so learning the push process was a quick 30 second side note of “two breaths, push, push, push, and relax.” I remember the nurse saying “Clark you will get her left leg, I’ll get the right.” I’ve always been a bit of a jokester, but I knew if I witnessed anything “down south” I’d likely be the second (or third) patient in the room. The nurse handed me a little white package (smelling salts) and said if I got light headed just break it open. I never ended up needing the package (C’mon, after all, I’m a guy! I’m tough!)
After all is said and done, my experience was a great one. Healthy mother and baby were all I prayed for and I did not pass out! I did a wonderful job (the nurse tells me this) holding up my leg and being supportive, but I’d still like to hear the same story from my fiancée’s point of view, just to see how well I told it!
At this point the room was fairly empty; just my fiancée, her mother, a nurse and I. In my most medical opinion, we were ready to go and in just a few minutes, Avery Taylor would enter the world with her first breath. My anxiety began to turn into excitement and I remember smiling at my fiancée and looking into her beautiful eyes. Seconds after, more nurses, more doctors, three or four carts of garbs, and equipment all come parading into the room (Whoa! Wait a second! They did not cover this during my residency… must have been included in month 10 of the program). All I remember thinking was, “what the (insert your choice of explicative here)!” I also think I may have said it out loud, because the nurse, who had my fiancée’s right leg, gave me a sneer, or maybe it was because I also dropped my leg (the only real responsibility I had during this whole process). Anyway, back to the action. Everyone starts dressing up in blue paper garments, from head to toe, and the doctor throws on a face shield (I did not know the process entailed projectile objects). The doc looked up and said “this will be over in a few minutes.” I remember at this point I turned my head towards the wall (again, seeing anything “down south” would have been very bad for me) and I told the nurse to give me the all clear once the bloody stuff was completed. A few moments later I heard a faint cry, then a really loud one. And then I heard a second cry (and I’m not ashamed to say that one was coming from me...I know, I’m a guy, but I’m not that tough..). And then I heard a laugh (that was my mother-in-law laughing at me crying).
So excited to take her home for the first time!
My new daughter’s first cries.
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abymoons are quickly becoming a pregnancy tradition and for good reason! What is a babymoon you might ask? Baby-moon, defined by MacMillan Dictionary is “a special holiday taken by parents-to-be before their first baby is born.” Derived from the word honeymoon, babymoons are essentially the same thing, but before baby instead of after the wedding. According to www.pregnancyandbaby.com, 41 percent of expectant parents report taking a pre-baby getaway to a destination, while 43 percent just look for some rest and relaxation before the baby arrives. Parents are definitely more educated than ever about what is to come once baby is born. The sheer amount of pregnancy books, magazines, and services for expectant parents is almost overwhelming and continues to grow constantly, and parents-to-be are gobbling them up. Parenthood is something to be
celebrated after all right? This knowledge inspires a deeper awareness in first time parents of the sacrifices one makes to become a parent and an appreciation for soaking up and enjoying all of the pre-baby time. There is a sense that time alone as a couple or as an individual should be cherished since it’ll be scarce once the little one arrives. The majority of babymooners tend to prefer relaxing locations that offer pregnancy related activities like prenatal yoga, massages and even birthing classes. Whether you’re touring a new city, lying by the pool or luxuriating at a spa, the chances are that your babymoon will be an experience to remember and an opportunity to take pause and celebrate the exciting new journey you’re about to begin. If you’re thinking about a babymoon, the first step is to ask yourself specifically why you’re taking one. Do you want to soak up every
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last solitary moment with your partner, do you want to be pampered with a massage and mani/pedi, or do you want to read a book on the beach and work on a sweet tan? Depending on your answer, you can decide what type of destination to travel to. It could be a hotel & spa, a beach resort or a pregnancy workshop. You’ll also need to decide when you’re going to go. Most expectant parents tend to go during the second trimester. This way, the icky, morning sickness and extreme exhaustion are most likely over, but the third trimester back pain, sleeplessness and other discomforts hasn’t begun yet. Just remember to check with your doctor since some restrictions may apply if you’re planning to fly to your destination after a certain point in the pregnancy. Also, depending on your situation, your doctor may want you to stay away from doing certain activities. Lastly, you will have to figure out what your
budget is and plan accordingly. If your budget is modest, you could always just do a day trip to your favorite place, indulge in some good food and take your mind off of every day stresses. You could also plan an overnight trip. If you have more flexibility, you could do a long weekend, a week or longer! Now is the time to do it! If you decide to plan a babymoon, wherever you go, be sure to sleep lots, indulge your tastebuds, and read a good book, because after baby’s arrival, these things will seem like major luxuries! Here are a few of our babymoon destination suggestions. Happy babymooning! Mirbeau Inn and Spa One wonderful babymoon destination is Mirbeau Inn and Spa in Skaneateles, NY. Designed to look and feel like an old world French country estate, the grounds are
impeccably manicured and the property is the ultimate in relaxation. Upon arrival, you are given robes and sandals to wear as you walk around the property, enjoying the spa or grabbing a bite to eat at the Aqua Terrace. They also have a fabulous dining room, which serves breakfast, lunch and dinner. The restaurant spotlights local, organic products and unique dishes sure to please your tastebuds. (Between $200-400/night) www.Mirbeau.com Rhythm Of The Sea B&B Cape May, NJ is one of my favorite destinations for any kind of vacation, but the Rhythm Of The Sea B&B on Beach Avenue would be perfect for a babymoon in particular. It’s in an amazing location, right across from the beach, and it’s very cozy. Featuring a fabulous, partially enclosed porch to sit on and sip your coffee in the morning, it’s the perfect place to relax with your partner and enjoy the beautiful
sunset over Cape May beach. The food is also incredible and you can’t beat the service. This B&B is all about making their guests feel comfortable and providing them with an enjoyable experience they’ll never forget. http://www.rhythmofthesea.com Le Petit Prince For the travel lover who doesn’t mind a bit of a journey, head to Le Petit Prince in Montreal for a one-of-a-kind B&B experience. Nestled in downtown Montreal on a quiet, secluded street, this B&B is tastefully decorated, and each room is equally cozy and charming. The Inn serves as a showcase for local artists as well, and many paintings and photographs hang on the walls around the building. Any artwork displayed may be purchased by guests. (About $200/night) www.montrealbandb.com - Erin Wik
Ingrid
We spent our babymoon in St. Lucia and stayed at a hotel nestled between the famous Piton Mountains. The weather was perfect and the view was incredible. We enjoyed every minute of it and can't wait to one day share the pictures with our son.
Melissa
We headed to Grand Cayman for one last vacation before our baby arrived. We splurged and booked a room at the Ritz Carlton. They then treated us to an upgrade to the penthouse suite. What an experience! We enjoyed a week snorkling at rum point and relaxing on the beach or poolside as well as many quiet and beautifully prepared meals. We went home feeling refreshed and ready to start our new life as parents.
Beth
I was 6 months along and my husband was scheduled to have surgery which would put him out of commission for a month or more. We NEEDED to go on a vacation before the birth! We chose a weekend in Mystic, CT: it's close, affordable and we both love ships and sailing. We booked a hotel in a nearby town through Priceline and visited the Seaport. We hadn't been there since we were both kids, and we had a blast! Our daughter is almost a year old now, and we've taken trips since she was born but we aren't able to get away alone yet. I would highly recommend taking advantage of the opportunity to spend some fun time alone together before baby arrives.
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Montreal Our Editor’s most recent trip to old Montreal uncovered this wonderful urban gem that we believe is perfect for any history and art lover’s babymoon. LHotel, once a bank, now houses one of the largest private Contemporary and Pop art collections in North America. The hotel is renovated with high ceilings, luxurious bathrooms and furnishings, great windows for taking in the sights and fine dining. When you are ready to leave the hotel, the historic architecture, culture and art awaits you.
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Mirbeau Inn Perfect for a romantic getaway, a babymoon, or a weekend trip with friends, Mirbeau Inn & Spa blends gracious hospitality, award winning dining and an incredible spa into the ideal vacation experience. Located in New York’s Finger Lakes Wine Country, Mirbeau makes you feel like you’re basking in the beauty of the French Countryside. It features old world French Country architecture and Monet inspired gardens. Mirbeau truly is the perfect location for a cozy getaway to be remembered.
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Cape May You will be drawn to the Rhythm of the Sea…mesmerized by the tranquility. Architecturally inspiring and in keeping with the Arts and Crafts Movement aesthetic, owners Robyn and Wolfgang Wendt have decorated their Swiss Chalet-style Inn with Stickley Furniture and mission accessories. The simplicity of the spacious interior is refreshing and therefore relaxing. Rhythm of the Sea B&B offers the perfect blend of convenience, comfort and romance surrounded by the sparkling waters and white sand beaches of the Mid Atlantic and the historic Victorian Village of Cape May, New Jersey. You are invited to come and savor sumptuous breakfasts, peaceful privacy and ‘gemuetlichkeit’ (a sense of belonging, cheerfulness. The absence of anything hectic and the spending of quality time in a place with the one you love). Robyn and Wolfgang look forward to greeting you soon!
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Jennifer Colucci is a mom, teacher and free-lance writer. She lives in Dutchess County, New York, with her very patient husband, and their VERY energetic children, Bella and Luca. Follow Jen’s blogs and mom musings on Facebook (The Mommy Dash), Twitter (@MommyDashing) and at www.TheMommyDash.com.
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heart summer. Fireworks, days at the beach, ice cold margaritas…well, two out of the three, for me this summer. Being six months pregnant with baby number three, the only frozen deliciousness I will be indulging in this summer is a blueberry smoothie, or maybe a virgin strawberry daquiri, if I decide to get really wild. Drink menus aside, another huge part of summer in our family, is vacation. Since before we were married, my husband and I have always enjoyed getting away- whether it was a weekend trip to Boston, a couple days of camping in the Adirondacks, or a cruise to the Bahamas- whenever we could swing it, we would pack up and head out of town. One of our last solo trips before becoming parents was to Las Vegas. Who goes to Vegas, aka Sin City, when four months pregnant, you may ask?!? We had booked the trip months before, and THEN found out we had hit the baby jackpot, and were very happily expecting. We had a great time on our accidental Babymoon, but I’m pretty sure we could’ve qualified for a senior citizen discount since our biggest excitement was staying up til 10 pm (maybe…) playing the slot machines, and scoring some great dinner deals with the early bird specials. Since that trip out West, our family has grown, and now my belly is growing (and growing!!), getting ready to welcome another little clown into our three ring circus. There are definite differences between ‘babymooning’ and vacationing while pregnant with your third baby, with two kiddos in tow. Some good, some challenging, but all worth it in the end. Difference #1- If I could use any word to describe the past six months, I would choose TIRED. Every expectant mama is tired, but
when you are pregnant with your first little one, you have the major advantage of taking a nap. Ooooh naps…how I miss thee! We just got back from an amazing week in Ocean City, New Jersey, and although we had a terrific time, the only one who actually wanted to nap was ME, and we all know how that story ends…with a hot, cranky mama, lugging around 20 extra pounds of belly weight, and two crabby, overtired kiddies who end up passing out on the couch, on the floor, or at the dinner table. I can very vaguely recall laying on a lounge chair, poolside at our hotel, seven years ago, in Vegas…warm sun on my face, nothing standing between me and a nice, long afternoon siesta. I can even remember being away when my daughter was almost two years old, and I was pregnant with my son, and being able to sneak in a few minutes of rest while she took her afternoon nap. Ahhh, memories… Well, the bright side is, this is all great training for the excessive lack of sleep that is in my immediate future once this baby makes its entrance! Difference #2- When heading out on a Babymoon, the biggest dilemma you may have while packing is how many bathing suits you will need, or which book you want to bring to read on the beach. Once you are traveling with kiddos, it’s a whole new ball game. Packing is a two-day venture, which requires flowcharts, Excel spreadsheets, and many, many loads of laundry. Packing your clothes? Piece of cake (mmmmm…did somebody say cake?) But packing your clothes, your kids’ clothes (which I always pack WAAAAY too much of), shoes, toiletries for the whole family, enough sunscreen and bug spray to last even the Duggar’s for a month, snacks, juice boxes, coloring books, crayons, portable DVD players,
sunhats, boogie boards, fishing poles, beach chairs, beach buggies, swimmies, umbrellas, buckets, bicycles, scooters, helmets, shovels, favorite stuffed animals (“Mama, NO, not THAT pink sparkly unicorn- my other favorite pink sparkly unicorn!!”) pillows, blankets- Oh, the list goes on and on and on…and trying to organize it, pack it, squeeze it into the car, UNpack it when you get there, REpack it at the end of vacation, and then UNPACK it all again back at home is a job that will exhaust any mom, especially when you are doing all of it with a bowling ball strapped to your midsection. I’m pretty sure the Olympic committee should award me a gold medal, or at least a silver for my efforts. Difference #3- Wining and Dining (well, sparkling cider maybe?) is a major part of a Babymoon. Quiet, candlelit dinners on the beach, holding hands and basking in the excitement of your impending new arrival…it’s all so romantic and relaxing. Now, fast forward seven years…dinnertime on vacation involves less ‘wining’ and more ‘WHINING’. The only meals we ate on the beach were peanut butter and jelly sandwiches…which, by the way, gave new meaning to the word SANDwiches…yum. Going out to a restaurant with my crew could either be a fabulous dining experience, or we may be asked to leave due to excessive noise. I lug in a bag of tricks- crayons, coloring books, iPad- to keep my littles entertained, which thankfully usually works. Being pregnant, mealtime is sacred. I deeply value those extra calories I get to consume, without guilt. But usually, if I’m with my kids, my main goal is to ‘dine and dash’- order, eat, and get the heck out of there before all H-E-double hockey sticks breaks loose. Lesson learned here? Bring Tums, because chances are, inhaling your food on the go, will lead to some not-so-pleasant heartburn and indigestion a few hours down the road. OH, the joys of motherhood! My final words of wisdom on vacationing with your little monkeys, while pregnant, is to choose your location wisely (no camping for this mama this summer!!), be confident in your expanding body (totally rock that bikini and give your baby belly some sun), and use your kiddos to help you out- carrying the beach bag, packing their own snacks, slathering sunscreen all over your tummy- whatever helps to make your load a little lighter, and your vacation a whole lot smoother. Although life may seem hectic, loud and crazy- especially when you are feeling very hot and very large, try to pause and take a mental snapshot (or 534 digital photos like I did) of your precious time together, before your family (and the noise level!) grows once again. XOXO
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Nursing Success Jenn Sullivan is founder of Waddle n Swaddle, a mama and baby essentials boutique and wellness center with locations in Poughkeepsie and Rhinebeck. Jenn became a certified lactation counselor in 2007 when she opened the Poughkeepsie location. The stores focus on natural parenting and eco-friendly items from pregnancy and breastfeeding through 3 years. Prenatal, postnatal and family classes such as childbirth education, breastfeeding essentials and pumping, prenatal yoga, CPR, art for young children and much more are taught by certified instructors. Free support groups for pregnancy, breastfeeding and allergies are offered weekly. Private appointments for services such as massage, acupuncture, chiropractic, lactation and birth consulting are offered at the Poughkeepsie location. Baby gift registries are available as well. Photography for this article by: Surprise Photography
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any expectant parents find preparing for baby’s registry and nursery easier than preparing for breastfeeding and birth. Breastfeeding should be natural and intuitive, but what happens once baby is born is often the opposite. A family planning on the mother nursing the baby has a much higher success rate when they plan and educate themselves. Weeding through good and bad information about breastfeeding can often feel very frustrating and overwhelming. Many old wives’ tales and inaccurate anecdotes fill the internet and pregnancy boards. Most expectant moms can list 5 friends that unsuccessfully attempted breastfeeding but often only 1 or 2 that have. The tips below are meant to be a guide for expectant parents to set a path for a higher success rate.
Prenatal Breastfeeding Classes A good breastfeeding class will provide a strong foundation for a nursing mom. The fundamentals of latch, understanding feeding cues, how to know your baby is getting enough and working with your pediatrician should all be covered. Incorrect latch accounts for the vast majority of breastfeeding issues, including low milk supply, sore and cracked nipples, shooting pain in the breast, low weight gain, overactive letdown and long, frequent nursing sessions. Many times a new mom “suffers” through the pain of nursing for the sake of the breastfeeding relationship. But what she doesn’t understand is that pain indicates there is a latching problem that will ultimately
compromise her milk supply and weight gain for her baby. A class will help parents see red flags before they become big issues so they can reach out for help.
Choosing a Pediatrician Expectant parents can interview the pediatricians they are looking at prior to committing to them for their new baby. Important questions for parents who plan on breastfeeding should include: what are your views on breastfeeding; what percentage of your patients are breastfed; what are your recommendations for a baby with jaundice; what circumstances do your recommend supplementation with formula; if a breastfed baby is having trouble gaining weight, what would your suggestions be; at what age do you think a baby should be weaned from the breast; at what age do you recommend a baby starts solid foods. Answers to these questions would alert parents to a pediatrician that may not have a lot of experience with breastfeeding moms, or has a low success rate in the practice. The pediatrician’s support and knowledge of breastfeeding (or lack of) has a tremendous impact on the success of the nursing relationship.
Product Selection Certain products are essential for a nursing mom, and others are luxury items that make nursing a more pleasant experience. One of the most important is properly fitting nursing bras and tanks. Clog ducts and mastitis both can result from low quality and incorrectly fitting bras and tanks. A certified bra fitter should
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measure and help chose the bras and tanks based on stage of pregnancy or postpartum. Not all nursing bras are meant to be worn in pregnancy but many are and will accomodate breast and rib changes. Another item is a good quality nipple cream. Many moms use lanolinbased creams which only provide a barrier and do not promote healing. The creams should be organic and the ingredients should be safe for a baby. A mom returning to work should have a high quality double electric breastpump. The Affordable Care Act requires that all health insurance companies provide a free breastpump. Many brands are not adequate; my top four list is Ameda, Hygeia, Medela and Avent. Other items that nursing moms love are: nursing tops and dresses, baby carriers to nurse on the go, nursing covers, hands-free pump bra, reusable breast pads and nursing necklaces.
Support Groups One of the most important things a new nursing mom can do for herself is to find support groups. Whether they are online in forums, on Facebook, or in person; support groups can help a struggling nursing mom through many different hurdles. La Leche League has chapters that meet monthly throughout the Hudson Valley, most hospitals have weekly breastfeeding support groups run by a Lactation Consultant, and at Waddle n Swaddle we have two per week. Meeting other like-minded moms and feeling the camaraderie of other nursing moms can help a new mom transition from the unknown to a confident breastfeeder.
Jenn's Waddle n Swaddle breastfeeding support group takes turns talking about each moms individual progress, concerns and triumphs.
Nursing in Bamboobies Bamboo Washable Nursing Pads $31 This four pack of nursing pads (three for day time, one overnight) is a best-seller. Moms love the silky softness of the bamboo against their skin and the eco-friendly option of a reusable item that is made in the USA. The heart shape prevents the bulkiness through a shirt that happen with many reusable pads.
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Earth Mama Angel Baby Nipple Butter $15 The best salve on the market for sore and cracked nipples. This made in the USA, organic and zero toxin butter promotes healing and calms down inflammation.
Bamboobies Soothing Therapy Pillows $26 Glamourmom Nursing Tank $49 Our best-selling tank is a favorite item to be packed in the hospital bag. Learning to nurse a newborn can be awkward so new moms love the privacy a tank provides as well as the postpartum belly coverage.
The pillows have so many uses our moms didn’t know which was their favorite, the top reasons were: cooled for engorgement, warmed for clogged ducts and warmed before pumping at work. No matter what, these pillows have many uses and are a nursing essential.
Glamourmom Full Bust Nursing Tank $59 Our best-selling tank has a full coverage option that comes in four sizes covering cups 32D - 48I and has a hook and eye to customize the band. This comfortable, moderate support tank is for moms who “can’t ever find a tank that fits”.
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Mommy Talk
From left to right: Amelia B. and her son Landon, age 2 and a 1/2 years; Nicole M. and her twin sons Dylan and Alex, age 12 months; Karen C. and her son Benjamin, age 6 months; Meghan P. and her daughter Keira, age 16 months and 3 weeks. Photography for this article by : Surprise Photography
Since it's National Breastfeeding Month, we sat down with four local moms who are successfully breastfeeding, to find out about their experiences, what surprised them and how they are sticking with it and helping other moms to do the same.
Why did you decide to breastfeed? Nicole: There wasn’t any other option, I don’t believe in formula. Human milk was the only option, that’s why it’s called human milk. Amelia: Along the same lines. It was just what I was meant to do. There was no other option. We produce breast milk, so I thought, this is what I’m going to feed him. Karen: It was the same thing for me. I was breastfed, my husband was breastfed, my mom was breastfed. It was just kind of the thing to do. My sisters breastfed their children, so you know it's just kind of what it is. Meghan: I wanted to give her the best start at life that I could.
What were some challenges you faced and how did you overcome them? N: With all 3 of my children, they were tongue and lip tied. With my daughter we had a very painful latch, and she kind of destroyed my anatomy there for awhile. With my sons, one had a very strong latch, and one had a weak latch, so we had those issues. I had clogs in my right breast that I had to deal with, and then we had food intolerances in these guys, so I had to completely change my diet in order for them to keep breastfeeding.
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A: And here she is, still kicking [Amelia, giving a verbal pat on the back to Nicole for her perserverance.] We had a shallow latch. It was very painful. He also had a dairy intolerance, so I had to change my diet to work that out. K: Benjamin was tongue and lip tied, also dairy intolerant. It took a while to get the latch correct, so that was it. M: We had a lot of challenges early on with low production. She had low weight gain in the beginning, so there was a lot of pressure that I gave into. Then with Jen’s [from Waddle n Swaddle in Poughkeepsie, NY] help and coming to the group, I worked my way off of it [formula].
M: I am also a single mother, so that was challenging. I live here [Poughkeepsie] and I was working in the city, so I was gone for 14 hours, 5 days a week. I pumped, but it wasn’t enough. I actually started her on food a little bit earlier than recommended. She got a little bit of both, which I accepted, but it wasn’t what I wanted at all. I would pump 6 times a day and I would get an ounce and a half to 2 ounces.
What surprised you most about breastfeeding? N: The pain. The engorgement pain, and then sometimes the nipple pain, and then sometimes the clogged up pain, and just the constant awareness of your boobs at all times. A: It was the learning curve. Even though it was so natural, and something we were meant to do, it was still something both momma and baby had to learn to do. They had to figure it out together, and they had to connect, but once you’ve got it that was it. K: How not easy it is! It was definitely a challenge. N: It's not a bad thing, it just wasn’t easy. The first weeks are about learning, and getting used to it, and now it's ‘have boobs will travel.' You don’t have to do anything. You just bring your body.
What Advice would you have for new/expectant moms? A: Don’t give up! Lactation consultants are your best friend. Educate yourself. N: We don’t have that community that we used to have. In the olden days moms and grandmas were there to help you learn how to breastfeed, and now we don’t have that today. Now we have other breastfeeding moms and breastfeeding stores like this one [Waddle n Swaddle] and that is the only way to keep it going. M: My mom didn’t breastfeed, so I couldn’t learn from her. I had to learn from someone else. A: People think it's supposed to come so natural, that they don’t need to educate themselves, and I think taking Jen's class, I knew that it could be a struggle, I knew ahead of time and it helped me prepare for those moments. Education is a big piece. – Elora Stack
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Lactation Consultant Directory We have compiled Westchester and Hudson Valley, NY's leading lactation consultants into one directory, making it easier for you to find one in your community.
Birth Roots Doula Service
Bon Secours Hospital: Mary Wehr
Phone: 845-656-7539
160 E Main St. Port Jervis, NY 12771
Email: birthrootsdoula@gmail.com Website: www.birthrootsdoula.com
Breastfeeding Arts Lactation Consultants & IBCLC Care
Phone: 845-858-Â7175 Website: http://bschs.bonsecours.com/
Breastfeeding Solutions
Phone: 845-323-8977
68 Edgars Lane Hastings-on-Hudson, NY 10706
Email: breastfeedingarts@gmail.com
Phone: 914-478-7046
Website: http://www.breastfeedingarts.com/
Website: www.breastfeedingsolutions.org
Center for Breast Feeding Support at Vassar Brothers Medical Center
Donna Bruschi, IBCLC
45 Reade Place Poughkeepsie, NY 12601 Phone: 845-483-6178 Website: http://www.health-quest.org/body_ vb.cfm?id=438
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15 Plattekill Ave New Paltz, NY 12561 Phone: 845-255-0624 Fax: 845-255-0730 Website: http://www.newbabynewpaltz.com/
Family Care Doulas: Jennifer Levinson, PCD(DONA), CLC Phone: 914-393-5936 Email: jennifer@familycaredoulas.com Website: www.familycaredoulas.com
Hudson Valley Breastfeeding LLC: Julie Bouchet-Horwitz FNP-BC, IBCLC Phone: 914-231-5065 Fax: 914-407-1718 Email: jbouchet@optonline.net Website: http://www.hudsonvalleybreastfeeding.com/
Jenn Sullivan, CLC
Kingston Hospital: Mary Ann Zimmerman
32 Raymond Avenue Poughkeepsie, NY 12603
396 Broadway Kingston, NY 12401
Phone: 845-473-5952
Phone: 845-331-3131 ext. 2349
Email: jenn@waddlenswaddle.com
Website: http://www.hahv.org/broadway-campus/
Website: waddlenswaddle.com
Orange Regional Medical Center, Horton Campus :Regina Camillieri Phone: 845-342-7271 Website: http://www.ormc.org/
Pauline Nardella, RN, MPA, IBCLC, CCE Phone: 845-323-1830 Email: Info@BirthingWisdom.com Website: www.BirthingWisdom.com
Stephanie Hinkaty, CLC
St. Luke’s C ornwall: Debbie Cardish
Phone: 917-209-1573
19 Laurel Avenue Cornwall, NY 12518
Email: rivertownmamas@gmail.com Website: http://www.rivertownmamas.com/
70 Dubois Street Newburgh, NY 12550 Phone: 845-568-2425 Website: http://www.stlukescornwallhospital.org/
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Nesting
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auren & Terence were convinced they were having a bouncing baby boy…until their gender reveal party
Lauren, from Wyckoff, NJ with baby Isabella.
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“When I found out we were having a girl, I was overjoyed! The second I cut into our cake and saw that pink sliver, I was ecstatic!” says Lauren, mother to Isabella, 3 months. Lauren and her husband Terence had been convinced for months that they were expecting a boy. However, they still opted to have a gender reveal party where their baker informed them of their impending little princess. “At that moment my life changed. I was so excited and began planning the nursery right away," says Lauren. While planning Isabella’s nursery, Lauren’s goal was to create a “soft, comforting space using the color pink, but not bubble gum pink,” says Lauren. She wanted to create a warm, inviting room where her little girl could play and grow. There is no doubt that the nursery is stylish and comfortable, from the large, plush, pink glider to her white rosette pattern rug. Her shabby chic décor is present throughout the room as well, notably in the gorgeous patterned
crib bedding from Sweet Lullaby Boutique in Wyckoff, NJ. Each item in Isabella’s room holds a special place in the hearts of her parents. One heartfelt item that sits on top of Isabella’s bookshelf is Lauren’s first pair of shoes, which her mother preserved when she was an infant. Another is the picturesque toy rocker in the corner. “I wanted to incorporate something from my childhood to pass down to Isabella,” says Lauren. That isn’t the only thing passed down to Isabella, as her middle name, Kathleen, is in honor of her grandmother. “Right after we were married we decided if we ever had a girl her name would be Isabella,” says Lauren. “But we also loved Terence’s mother’s name and wanted to honor her memory through our daughter.” In accordance with their soft, alluring décor, the focal point of Isabella’s room is her beautiful, white chandelier and her white iron crib lined with bows and
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Photography for this article by: Erin Frances Photography
Photography for this article by: Erin Frances Photography
Isabella's crib and regal chandelier from Sweet Lullaby, are the focal point of this princess room.
pink and grey bedding. Lauren and Terence purchased their crib, table lamp, and glider at Sweet Lullaby, while their chandelier and changing table were from Pottery Barn Kids. Both stores “offered beautiful hand crafted items that contributed to the timeless look we were trying to achieve,” say Lauren. Isabella’s nursery is a warm, inviting space, where each piece was chosen with love and care. One particular piece that sums
Photography credit: Traci Meyer Photography
up her room is shown through the tiny hand painted wooden block on her bookshelf, which says, “ I love you to the moon and back.” “My parents still say it to this day, and I will forever say it to my children. We are so lucky to have Isabella in our lives. She is truly a joy and our greatest blessing,” says Lauren. Robin Stoutenburg
Lauren and Isabella spend many moments in this glider from Sweet Lullaby, snuggling and sharing very special mommy and daughter time.
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Lauren's first baby shoes, preserved by her mom, now sit on baby Isabella's book shelf. Decorating your baby's nursery with personal touches from your childhood is a great idea, and is something that they will treasure as they grow older.
This changing table from Pottery Barn is both classic and functional. Lauren added some frilly, shabby chic touches with the woven baskets with pink trim skirts, that serve as diaper holders. Photography for this article by: Erin Frances Photography
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Here is a fun way to mark how many weeks old your little one is.
This adorable toy rocker is a playful and whimsical addition to her nursery. Not to mention it was hand-picked by Lauren, who loves monkeys.
Isabella and Mom, Lauren, enjoy quality time on the glider, reading.
This handpainted wooden block is very close to Lauren's heart. Her parents always say this to her, and now Isabella will always have this as a reminder of her parents love .
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Bump Style What's your favorite thing about being pregnant? What's your favorite thing about being pregnant?
Feeling baby Wyatt move.
-Sue Davis
Feeling the baby's kicks, getting rounder, and bigger boobs ď Š - Jennifer C.
What's your favorite thing about being pregnant? Ultrasounds and feeling the baby kick. -Reena D.
What is your #1 pregnancy craving?
What is your #1
Blueberries and Friendly's "Watermelon Roll." - Kimberly S.
pregnancy craving?
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Watermelon! -Theresa N.
Bump Style
What is your #1 pregnancy craving? Vanilla soft serve in a cone. -Reyhana S. What is your #1 pregnancy craving? Milkshakes.
-Ashley D.
What's your least favorite thing about being pregnant? Insomnia! There aren't many comfortable sleeping positions left. -Nikki C.
What is your #1 pregnancy craving? Marinated Artichoke Hearts ď Š -Melissa L.
What's your favorite thing about being pregnant? Feeling the joy and love from people whom I do and do not know. People are so caring and kind to a pregnant woman. It is very comforting and nice. -April S.
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Pregnancy skin can get itchy. Here are a few things you should know: itchy skin is a sign of toxins as well as stretch marks trying to get you. You need to eat good oils – avocados, fish, and raw nuts. Take your omega fish oil. Stay hydrated by drinking 8 glasses of water a day. Keep your skin moisturized with quality oils. Here is a great recipe for preventing stretch marks.
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got my inspiration for the Making Babies series from the pregnancy and birth of my first child. I loved every stage of my pregnancy and birth! I enjoyed learning and researching when I had morning sickness and when I got indigestion. Every time I was faced with another bridge, I would research, study, learn, apply, and rise to new heights of excitement. I knew everything I did, and did not do, would make a difference with me and my growing baby. It is not always easy finding good food to eat, knowing what exercises to do, and asking the right questions to the right people, but I researched it step by step and enjoyed a healthy pregnancy and birth. “
-Shoshanna Easling
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The Making Babies Book & DVD Series is a fresh, organic look at the simplistic beauty of pregnancy and birth. From delectable recipes, superb remedies, must-have tips, birthing exercises, and resources, to relaxing techniques, this is a fun, energetic video and book series. Follow Shoshanna Easling through her pregnancy and the birth of her daughter Penelope Jane Easling. Find the Making Babies Series and the herbs mentioned in this recipe at BulkHerbStore.com. Bulk Herb Store gives you the quality of life, and the joy of living well. Not only do we provide superior herbs at great prices, we also want to show you what they are good for and how to use them. Call us at 877-278-4257 or go to BulkHerbStore.com for our FREE research aid, how-to videos, herbal remedies, recipes and more!
Belly Butter Baby Your Belly With Your Belly Butter. Prep: 5 min. Cook: 72 hours. Yield: about 6 cups
Belly Butter Ingredients 2 1/2 cups Horsetail/Shavegrass, cut (find at BulkHerbStore.com) 3 1/2 cups oil of choice (Coconut is my favorite.) 11/2 cup Beeswax (find at BulkHerbStore.com) 1 1/2 to 2 1/2 cups aloe vera juice 2 T. vitamin E oil
Directions
1. Fill a quart-size glass canning jar ¹⁄3 full with herbs. Add coconut oil or olive oil. Make sure you leave at least one inch between mixture and top of jar. Screw lid on tightly and place jar in a Crock-Pot with a small towel underneath to keep the jar from breaking. Fill the Crock-Pot with water up to level of tincture in jar, but not over lid. Turn Crock Pot on lowest setting, and leave it on for 3 days. Add more water to Crock-Pot as necessary. 2. After about 72 hours, remove from heat and let cool. Strain the oil through a cheesecloth into a glass container, squeezing the herbs to release the finished oil. Throw the used herbs away. Pour oil in a sauce pan and heat on low. Add beeswax. Stir until wax is melted. Pour mixture into a glass cake pan to cool, making it a salve. 3. In a blender add your salve and the rest of the ingredients. Blend and stir until white and creamy. You can blend in ½ cup water if you want a lighter cream. Pour into a clean glass jar with lid; date and label. Keep in the cabinet out of heat and light. Will keep through pregnancy.
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