How to fake self confidence by taking control of your BODY LANGUAGE IN
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Q. WHAT'S THE MOST ATTRACTIVE THING ABOUT A WOMAN? A. HER SELF CONFIDENCE. You're probably thinking: that's all very well, but if I don't have it; I don't have it. Well, what if I told you that you can literally 'fake' self confidence so that a) other people are drawn to you and enjoy being with you, b) your brain actually believes your fake self confidence until it starts to feel REAL, and c) you can feel more attractive. Feeling a lack of self confidence can be really debilitating. You feel that everyone can see right through you and literally hear your nerves jangling. You think that people will think you're a fraud, that they'll be judging you, and that they won't listen to what you have to say. WWW.COLOURMEKATE.COM.AU
TRUTH OR LIES Faking self confidence isn't as hard as it might sound. It simply comes down to understanding your body language. And you - a perfect human being - are an EXPERT in understanding body language. Haven't you ever noticed when someone might tell you something but you just can't believe what they're saying? It was probably because their body language wasn't congruent with what you were hearing. We subconsciously notice and interpret other people's body language to make sense of our world and of the people in it. We use it to determine whether someone can be trusted or whether they are to be approached with caution. WWW.COLOURMEKATE.COM.AU
FAKE IT 'TIL YOU MAKE IT! Controlling your body language could help you to attract more of who and what you want in your life.
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BUT WAIT! YOU'RE ALREADY AT AN ADVANTAGE The good news is, it seems that we women might be at a scientific advantage in understanding body language. In fact, according to www.scienceofpeople.com, studies have shown that women have 14 to 16 active brain areas while evaluating others, whereas men only have four to six active areas. Go us! So now you're aware that you have this valuable super-power, let's take a look at how you can simply adopt a few key body language signals that will physically communicate your inner self confidence!
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OK, READY? Here are the Three Easy Steps to Faking Self Confidence by Taking Control of your Body Language ... WWW.COLOURMEKATE.COM.AU
1. MIND YOUR HANDS
What you do with you hands can be a real give-away if you're feeling a little anxious. Confident people keep their hands very relaxed; either having them at rest or using them to gesticulate during conversation. People lacking in confidence tend to fiddle with jewellery (think Prince Charles and his cuff links), although for you it may be rings, bracelets or necklaces. Or you may find yourself pulling at loose threads in your clothing, or picking at your fingernails. Theses are all clear signs of discomfort and nervousness. So in addition to avoiding all of the above tell-tale signs of your low self confidence, try to keep your hands completely away from your face and neck. Apart from being very distracting for the person you're with, you will also appear as if you're trying to protect yourself. And finally, when shaking hands, regardless of how anxious you're feeling, make sure you give the other person a firm (not bone-crunching) shake - and smile. Do all this and you'll appear so much more confident than perhaps you feel. WWW.COLOURMEKATE.COM.AU
2. SLOW DOWN If you're trying to feel self confident, the last thing you want to appear is jittery and on edge! Slow everything right down. Make your movements deliberate and intentional. Walk more slowly and purposefully. Try to concentrate on your movements as being fluid and calm instead of jerky and nervous. Self confident people look relaxed and laid back. So try to emanate this by taking a few deep breaths into your stomach and physically lower your shoulders (doing this will tell your brain that there's nothing to fear). When talking to others, slow down the speed of your speech. This will give your mind more time to formulate what you want to say, and you're less likely to trip over your words. WWW.COLOURMEKATE.COM.AU
3. MIRRORING By mirroring somebody you're physically appearing to be a confident and active participant in the conversation, You'll look more animated, will appear more attractive, and will feel more socially competent. Mirroring is when we physically imitate the body language, speech nuances, or even the clothing choices of the person we're with. It's one of the most powerful ways to make a connection with somebody. The other person will subconsciously think: "Hey, there's something about her I like, she's familiar, she gets me." Mirroring can be done with the placement of hands, the angle at which you're sitting, the way in which you're holding your drink, crossing your legs, or the way that you dress. Word of warning though, keep it subtle! If the person you're mirroring feels they're being mimicked you may risk offending them. WWW.COLOURMEKATE.COM.AU
By being self aware and practicing these three tips you will be able to use the art of body language to help improve your relationships with the people who come into your life. The other HUGE benefit to practising these body language tips is that if you use them consistently, your brain will begin to actually believe your body and you'll genuinely start to feel self confident. Good luck and, as with anything, the more your practice these three easy steps to faking self confidence, the better and more natural it will feel for you.
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Personal Colour & Image Consultant
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