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Reasons You Should Take Part in Your Family Finances
Ð Everyone is coded with their own personality strengths. Maybe you are cautious, thoughtful, empathetic, and adaptable. Perhaps your spouse thinks strategically, has the ability to focus on the future, long-term goals and the follow-up to see a plan through. Over the years you and your spouse have learned to work together. YouÕve raised children, completed DIY house-projects, faced tragedy and triumph. All of these were easier to handle because you each brought different strengths to the table. Your family finances are no different. Yes, we have to learn to communicate through the differences, but your natural strengths are an important contribution you can provide to the conversation. Even if you donÕt feel overly knowledgeable, your natural way of approaching a critical decision will help balance out your spouseÕs natural strengths.
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Ð Marriage is a choreographed dance of constant give and take, and many couples choose a Òdivide and conquerÓ approach. While that may mean one spouse is a specialist Ð it doesnÕt mean the other can totally neglect a responsibility. Just as you expect your husband to have a working knowledge of the washing machine, you should have a working knowledge of your family finances. Ð Now, more than ever, women are contributing to the familyÕs financial Òpie.Ó According to US Department of Labor, 58% of women work. We are strong, confident women at work, but all too often take the backseat and let our husbands control how our money is invested. Be proud and take ownership of what you are contributing financially. After all, you worked hard for that money Ð now itÕs time to make sure it works hard for you! Ð ItÕs true, women are statistically better investors than men. A research project by Terrance Odean and Brad Barber, from the University of California, Berkley showed that women outperform men annually by about 1 percentage point. A recent Merrill Lynch project asked the same question of men and women: ÒI know less than the average investor about financial markets and investing in general.Ó 55% of women strongly agreed with this statement, compared to 27% of men. Women are less confident, thus they trade much less frequently in their investment accounts. Not only does this save in trade fees, but it prevents the Òchasing returnÓ game that naturally competitive men often succumb to. Excessive trading can be counterproductive, results in emotion-driven decisions, and may cause higher taxes. Finally, you save more. Fidelity research found that women save 8.3% of their salary on average, while men only save 7.9% of theirs. Ð Ladies, the odds are stacked against us. With the divorce rate at 50%1 and the fact that we outlive our men by an average of five years , the vast majority of us at some point will assume sole-responsibility of the financial decisions. Now is the time to step out of your comfort zone, grow and learn at your own pace. Here are some basic questions you should know the answer to.
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Why shop consignment stores for back-to-school? There are many good reasons. Consignment stores carry gently-used children’s and teens’ clothing and other items such as toys, books, videos, and games. Kids grow fast, and top brand names are available for pennies on the dollar on consignment in all the hot brands and a large variety of styles. Consignment stores also have brand new items with tags still attached. Consignment is eco-friendly, too. Reusing clothing means fewer new items manufactured, which equals a smaller ecological footprint. Also, consignment shopping is fun: looking for bargains and keeping track of savings. Shops often offer everyday sales of 15%-50% off, with new items consigned daily. Generally, prices work out to be about 50%-70% off retail. stores can carry clothing and accessories 1. Look for the store’s weekly for Consignment infants to teens and young adults, often in all the top sale & discounted items brands, including Old Navy, Gap, Abercrombie, 2. Watch for big sale Aeropostale, P.S., Justice, UnderArmour, and Nike. 3. Ask if you don’t see what The stores also try to carry a large selection of khakis and you’re looking for polos for kids attending schools with dress codes. During back-to-school season, the stores carry a mix of about half spring/summer and half fall/winter, but many moms shop during summer for back-to-school. Consignment shops usually have a lot of items in a small amount of space and will have to put items where they will fit. That perfect sweater might be hiding somewhere in the store, and the owner will know just where to find it. If you consign with the shop, your sales can be applied toward an account at the store, so you might end up getting that back-to-school outfit for your own child for free. As the summer advances, more people will be looking for all seasons, but at the end of the day, they’re just looking for a bargain.
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Michelle Howell obtained a degree in agriculture from WKU, worked at Jackson’s Orchard for nine years, and had job experience helping tobacco farmers transition to fruit and vegetable production. You would think when she had children that she would feed them the healthiest food possible, wouldn’t you? However, that wasn’t necessarily the case. “I was overworked and overwhelmed and usually fed my family the most convenient, processed foods,” she confessed. It was when she experienced family health issues that she began to stop to think about the food she ate and how it was grown. “My husband Nathan and I made the commitment to become full-time farmers sustaining our family with fresh food,” Michelle said, and now they also provide a full Community Supported Agriculture diet program to help others make better nutritional choices. Michelle and Nathan have been able to create opportunities for beginning farmers, like Jordan and Jackson Rolett, in addition to offering their on-farm, certified kitchen to the new prepared food option “Farm Fresh but Already Fixed,” available at the Bowling Green Community Farmer’s Market, where the couple also sells their farm products commercially. It has become very important to Michelle that everyone in the community has access to fresh, healthy food. “Together with farmers from the Bowling Green CFM, community leaders, resource providers, and volunteers, I can go out into the community to survey citizens, learn about obstacles to buying fresh and locally grown food, and problem-solve for ways to make these items more accessible to the public,” she said. Michelle is especially proud of her partnerships with the Barren River District Health Department, the WKU Office of Sustainability, and HOTEL, INC, all of whom have worked diligently to ensure that more people have access to good food. She is thankful to spend her days on her 20-acre farm in Halfway, Kentucky, together with Nathan and their four children: Carter, Elizabeth, Lilah, and Adaline. “It’s hard work, but incredibly rewarding,” Michele said. In addition to farming full-time and homeschooling her four children, Michelle also writes, speaks, and collaborates across the state in order to create better opportunities for all Kentuckians.
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Don’t Rain on Her Parade Puddles of tears . . . .Puddles of laughter . . . . Puddles of questions . . . .Puddles of love . . . . We all splash in those puddles every day, writes Elizabeth Downing, in her new inspirational self-help book, Puddles of Perspective: A Family Girl’s View of Life,” a collection of essays she began writing for her 13-year-old daughter, Goodman, now a student at WKU. “I had a teenage daughter. I started writing them to her as advice,” says Elizabeth. “It kind of grew into family memories and things a lot of people can relate to with their own families.” The essays cover topics such as body image, family relationships, and the importance of trying to do something every day to help someone. Goodman is a fan of her mother’s book. “She loves it. She’s really proud of it,” Elizabeth said. “When I got the proof, I texted her a picture of the cover, and she texted back and said, ‘My mom is a rock star.’” Here are just a few of Elizabeth’s observations on the important women in her life: • In my mid-to-late twenties, I made a string of particularly bad decisions. My mom knew and stated the truth--it was up to me now to make the right decisions and find the path I was intended to walk. • My oldest sister has more patience than anyone I’ve ever met. I have watched her encourage and support her three children, and now her three grandchildren, at times when I would have quickly gone over the edge of sanity. • My other sister has the kindest heart I’ve ever known. Her family is not four individual people, but four people who still love doing things together, even though the children are adults.
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• My older brother’s wife is a portrait of flexibility in raising a family. She taught me that a mom makes the best of every situation for the good of her children, and that a bit of agility goes a long way toward creating a strong family unit. • My younger brother’s wife embodies a certain motherly strength for which I could only hope. In her mothering situation, she has developed a keen sense of when to push and when to pull back. • My child is like no other. I encourage her to play to her strengths and to reach her full potential. One of the greatest gifts we [my husband and I] can give her is personal responsibility for the choices she makes. She will ultimately find her own path. Elizabeth Downing is a Bowling Green native and a graduate of Bowling Green High School and Western Kentucky University. She resides in Bowling Green with her husband, Mark Johnson, and daughter. She is the executive director of Timesavers Concierge, Caregiving and Chauffeur, which is proud to provide the best caregivers in Southern Kentucky and strives to forge personal relationships with their clients, whether providing respite, senior care, or driving to the airport. To obtain your copy of Elizabeth’s book, email eliz260@aol.com or go to the Facebook page “Puddles of Perspective.” 12 • Flair • 2015 • July/August/September
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So life as you know it is about to change. The protection you have both resisted and enjoyed all your life is soon to be something you didn’t realize you would miss. Yes, you are going off to college. While it is an exciting time, with freedom comes responsibility. You are not only responsible for your success; your safety is in your hands now. Every campus is unique, but there are some common things that each college student will face, especially females. You will likely be sharing space with a roommate. He or she may or may not share your morals and schedule. This person is someone you will need to have trust in for several reasons. He or she will have access to your personal property as well as you.
HERE ARE A FEW TIPS TO HELP KEEP YOU SAFER • Don’t let a beautiful campus lull you into a false sense of security. • Team up with fellow students to explore your campus and make note of areas that would be unsafe, especially at night. • Many campuses have access to security officers who will escort you to locations at night. • Always keep campus emergency numbers with you and also in your dorm room for easy access in an emergency. • Never post your plans online or on your door. • Make sure that someone in your family has a copy of your schedule and notify someone if you are going to be moving around campus. It is also important to follow-up with a phone call when you are back safely. • Be very careful in laundry facilities. • Libraries are usually large facilities with multiple levels as well as many hidden areas with few people around.
SMART Partying & Dating With college life comes many opportunities to party and date. How you approach it can lead to fun or a life changing experience. • Talk with others about what they have heard about the group having the party. • Casually ask if any other women you know have been on a date or to a party with a guy who has asked you out. Use your listening and intuition when they respond. You can tell if something happened that caused them to be uncomfortable. • Never attend a party alone. Go with someone you trust. • Alcohol and drugs have resulted in many horrific experiences for young women. Date rape is real. It can be the result of having too much to drink or someone slipping Rohypnol (date rape drug) into your drink. Understand your body’s metabolism and how alcohol affects you. Generally speaking, you will lose 20% of your situation control with the first drink. Usually, you lose as much as 60% control with the second drink. All of this is assuming that you have maintained full control of your drink at all times. Drugs can only lead to injury or death……period.
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DIARY OF AN UNSTABLE MOTHER... An Account of Sending My Kindergartener & 1st Grader Off toTheir 1st Day of School
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5:00am Make coffee. Contemplate Baileys or not. Nah. Better not. YET. 6:00 Homemade muffins ... To put something on my stomach in case I DO decide to go the Baileys route. 7:30 Look up home school curriculum.... 7:31 Decide that me doing home school is a terrible idea. Terrible. 7:35 Commemorative first day of school picture. (Aka: most recent picture of kids to give police in case they are abducted at school today.) 7:40 Headed to school. I can’t breathe. 7:45 Raise my arms above my head and say my name to make sure I’m not having stroke. I’m good. 7:55 Judge all parents just dropping their kids off and not walking them in. They for sure don’t even love their kids. 8:00 We’re here. Kids are excited. I’m itching with hives and dizzy and might throw up. 8:10 Johnjohn and Annabelle walk to their class. Trying my hardest not to rock back and forth and scream their names (AAAADRIAAAAN i.e. Rocky.) 9:30 Crying at grocery store. Not sure if it’s the first day of school doing it or if I just hate grocery shopping that much. 9:45 Think about getting life size tattoo of kids on my back. Scratch that idea. 10:00 Check news to make sure there are no local school shooting, fires, abductions or gang riots .… or sink hole collapses …or localized rapture. 11:00 Should I do another background check on all the staff and teachers again in case it has changed since last night? 11:30 Blare Mariah Carey’s “Can’t Live if Living is Without You” and hit repeat. It’s REEEEALLY helping things. Noon Look for that one Valium I had left over from that surgery 10 years ago. 12:15 Maybe I’ll go to the humane society and adopt 20 cats! 12:45 Google parental/child codependency. Sounds oddly familiar. 1:00 Check the news again. 1:15 Drive past school ... Just to be close to them. 1:30 Decide to wear black throughout the month of August in honor of my lost time with my schnookie pies. 1:45 Apply for every open position at the kids’ school. 2:00 Question my mental stability when attempting to pick up and hug on random child in TJ Maxx to fill my child void. 2:15 See if the kid’s walkie talkies work that I hid in their backpacks to whisper sweet nothings to them throughout the day. 2:30 Going to sit in pick up line 3:00 I see my kids. “BABIES! MAMA’S HERE!. Everything is going to be just fine” .... I decide not to yell that. Can’t get to them yet. Heart racing. Dear heavens I hope they remember me. 3:15 Sweet baby Jesus. They’re in my arms again ... but I just realized we have to do this all over again tomorrow. Crap. As parents we strive daily to nurture independence and self confidence within our children, only to swiftly discover the bitter sweet victory of knowing we’ve succeeded. Here’s to all the parents embarking on your next journey in parenthood, big or small. May the tears (theirs and yours) be few and your days be blessed. Disclosure: No children, animals, strangers or public buildings were harmed during the account of this day.
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Mark Whitley is a woodworking artist who captures the energy and movement of a living tree. He transforms rough timber into silky smooth furniture with a perfect balance of symmetry and design that will last for generations. This talented artist grew up in Hydro, Kentucky, a tiny community on the Warren County-Barren County line. After graduating from Warren East High School, Mark packed a bag and went to Southern California to attend Chapman University, where he received a Bachelor of Arts degree in Peace Studies in 1998. His original plan of becoming a college professor didn’t seem right, so he headed back to Kentucky to find another path. In 2000, Mark opened a small woodworking shop in the back of his dad’s hardware store in Smith’s Grove. Woodworking was a natural for Mark, who grew up watching (and occasionally helping) his dad who, for a while, was a cabinetmaker. By 2003, Mark had settled into his new path of furniture making. He secured a loan, bought nine acres, and started building his A-Frame home with a woodworking shop in the walkout lower level. That same year, Mark discovered a book, The Impractical Cabinet-Maker, by James Krenov. Mark remembers, “It was an event that would forever change the way I approached work and the way I perceived furniture design and building.”
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By Mary A. Barnes Recently, I experienced a flashback. Couple that with a newspaper article I had just read about a young girl committing suicide because of school bullying, and I guess you could say that my mind was ripe for the memories of this experience. I was 12 years old and in the eighth grade. The inner-city school that I attended was in a rough, impoverished part of Nashville. Even in the 1960’s, many of the children were from broken homes with little parental supervision. I had begun to run with a rowdy, vandalizing, shoplifting group of girls. Finally, my upbringing kicked in, and I chose to stay at home and away from these girls. Some of them said I was just chicken, afraid of getting caught. Whatever the motivation, it is a decision that I have always been glad that I made. Believe me, though, they did not make it easy for me. Maybe they felt rejected by me. I know they perceived that I thought I had become better than they were. Fortunately, there were two other girls who had always been kind to everyone and were accepted by all. They befriended and encouraged me to make new friends. On New Year’s Eve, a Friday night, I found myself at the lowest point in my young life. The prospect of returning to school after the holiday seemed too much. I couldn’t stop crying or see any reason to keep living in that emotional pit. Loud music blocked my parents from hearing my outburst, and, as the hour got later, curling up on the floor on the far side of my bed gave me privacy. As a last resort, this heartbroken little girl began to pour out her hurt and fears in prayer. I have no idea how long I knelt
beside my bed, but I do know that I came through on the other side, the side that wanted to live, that believed the future could be better. Don’t laugh; just remember how significant the dreams of an adolescent can be; one of my resolutions for the new year was to stop eating lunch and save my money hoping that by the time I graduated from school I would have enough to travel to England, where most of the popular music originated in that decade. On Saturday, I phoned Sandy, the girl from my school. I asked her to meet me the next day at the side entrance to the church so that I would not have to enter alone. Just this willing step from her made so much difference. Sandy’s small action helped me take a huge step. Did the bullies go away? No, but they were less important for a while. By the end of the school year, I had saved $60.00, though going to London was losing its appeal. Through the years, I’ve moved away and lost touch with my childhood schoolmates, but I’ve often remembered them. Now, I also think about this generation of young people who are living in the moment when embarrassing things are electronically and immediately being shared with their peers. Too, I hope that we adults will find ways to curtail these unacceptable uses of electronic devices. Mary Ann Barnes resides with her husband Eugene in Smiths Grove, Kentucky.
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