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recipe
TRADITIONAL ROAST CHICKEN WITH MEDITERRANEAN ROAST VEGETABLES PREP: 20mins, COOK: 1 hour, 30mins, SERVES: 4-6 INGREDIENTS:
Mediterranean Roast Vegetables
6kg chicken 2 tablespoons of melted butter 2 cloves of garlic, peeled ½ bunch of thyme 1 lemon cut in half salt and pepper
1 red capsicum, seeded and cut into 4cm pieces 1 yellow capsicum, seeded and cut into 4cm pieces 2 red onions, peeled and each cut into 8 wedges 4 medium zucchini, trimmed and cut into 3cm rounds 1 medium sized eggplant, diced 1 tsp balsamic vinegar Salt and pepper
METHOD
TIPS
1. Rinse the chicken inside and out removing any excess fat and patting it dry with paper towel. Season the chicken inside with salt and pepper and then fill it with the thyme and the lemon halves.
• Bring your chicken out of the fridge 15 – 20 minutes before cooking so it comes to room temperature for even cooking. • Chicken, like other meat, is best left rested after cooking covered in foil for about 10 – 15 minutes before eating.
2. Place the chicken into a large baking tray and brush the outside of the chicken with melted butter and season with salt and pepper. Tuck the wing tips under the body of the chicken and roast the chicken for 50 minutes.
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LOW PRICE
3. Add in the vegetables and roast for a further 40 minutes turning them after 15 minutes. Remove the chicken and vegetables to a platter and cover the chicken with foil for about 15 minutes. Drizzle the balsamic vinegar onto the vegetables and slice the chicken onto a platter serving it alongside the vegetables.
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Kids Fashion 10 Rocking cute all over With the winter chill in the air, layer up babies in this season’s collection of rockstar cool fashion. 12 Whimsical Boho meets Rock n Roll With influences of beautiful 70’s California dreaming to rocking Stevie Nicks and a little princess cool, fashion for little girls just got a whole more stylish. 14 Just like the cool kids It’s a rocking swagger of style this season for active little boys
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MUM’S fashion 16 6 Wardrobe essentials you need for winter
FEATURE ARTICLE 20 SALLY’S WAY Sally Obermeder chats about beating cancer, thriving on green smoothies and being mum to three year old Annabelle.
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FUNNY MUMMY 26 Oddly Socked Ari contemplates one of the greatest mysteries of parenting: Just WHERE has that odd sock gone?
REAL LIFE
HOME & DECOR
28 Meet Mrs Australia Her Mrs Australia crowning made her the first person to take out the title while pregnant, a heavily pregnant 37 weeks to be exact.
34 Stylish winter babes Whether you want to create a Classic, Contemporary or Vintage nursery, here is a selection of ideas to welcome your winter baby home.
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36 BOYS WILL BE BOYS Parenting guru and mother to four boys, Maggie Dent, shares strategies for raising happy, secure and confident sons.
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DAD’S WORLD 40 Tooth be told Gary discovers that owning up to our ‘little white lies’ can be harder than pulling teeth when it comes to our children.
Internet picks 42 Our selection of websites offering great products for your family
PREGNANCY & BIRTH 44 My birth story New mum, Amy Baker, shares her birth story with Offspring.
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SPECIAL FEATURE 48 A maternal choice We look into options to consider when it comes to deciding on the right maternity care decision for you and your baby.
FOOD AND NUTRITION
TIPS & TRICKS 62 Clever parent tricks Our guide offers some suggestions to try to get your child to do these tasks with a smile!
EARLY CHILDHOOD 66 Kindness matters Researchers agree that a person’s ability to empathise is a powerful predictor of their future success..
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77 Winter Warmers Dietitian Kate Bullen dishes out some handy nutrition ideas that help boost immunity to help keep your family healthy in the colder months.
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SPECIAL FEATURE 68 School’s in Choosing a school for your child is a big decision – so how do you ensure you make the right choice for your child?
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like to read a new mum’s real life water
maternity care in this edition for
birth story in this edition (p. 44).
all the mums-to-be with a detailed article,
Research indicates that a child who
“A maternal choice” (pg 48), to help you
can empathise with others will be more
make the right birth decision for you and
likely to be successful in the future. Highly
your baby. Will you be going through the
regarded WA parenting support service,
private system or are you content to have
Ngala, provides us some great suggestions
options for you to consider for your
your child in a public hospital and save any
on how to help our children develop
child, ranging from public, independent,
out-of-pocket expenses? We even look at
empathy so they can thrive socially as
catholic, Steiner, Montessori and home
home birth options for those who have a
well as contribute to a better society
schooling in “School’s in” (p. 66).
low risk pregnancy and don’t want to be
(“Kindness matters”, p. 64).
tempted by pain-relief drugs. After having an epidural at 8cm dilated
One of our favourite regular
Our food and nutrition writer and dietitian, Kate Bullen, dishes up some
contributors, parenting guru, Maggie
lovely, nourishing, ‘winter warmers’ (p.
with my first child, along with the help
Dent, chats in this issue primarily about
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of forceps, stirrups and a relatively
raising happy, secure and confident sons
over the winter months.
drawn out labour, I can attest to the
(“Boys will be boys”, p. 36), reminding us
analgesic benefits of water in aiding
of the importance of developing resilience
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intervention, in which I experienced a very
ridicule or humiliate as it will only build
entertaining and important parenting
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ELISE PAPAMIHAIL FASHION & STYLE is Mummy to Chloé and Olivia and is a passionate stylist and fashion writer, embracing the latest trends without compromising on timeless style.
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Sally’s
Way
Ari Chavez chats with Sally Obermeder about beating cancer, thriving on green smoothies and most importantly to Sally, being mum to three year old Annabelle, amidst a high profile career.
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ally Obermeder knows her way around a curve ball or two. In
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October 2011, the bubbly author, a National Entertainment
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and Lifestyle Reporter for Today Tonight was on top of the world. Her career was thriving and she loved her work but, most
importantly, the then-37 year old was 41 weeks pregnant with a longed for baby, a successful IVF attempt after many years of trying to conceive naturally with her husband of a decade, Marcus. Preoccupied with the imminent birth of Annabelle, Sally paid little attending to the nagging pain in her breast, and a small amount of skin puckering, believing the changes in her body were pregnancy-related. After a routine check from her obstetrician, however, she was referred for urgent scans and a biopsy. The results were grim. Sally had a rare and aggressive form of Stage 3 breast cancer, and the medical advice was to start chemotherapy immediately. Sally needed to give birth as a priority, so she was induced while oncologists undertook further testing throughout her labour. Reeling from shock, Sally gave birth to Annabelle just one day after her cancer diagnosis. Ten days later, she started aggressive medical intervention. Ultimately, Sally’s treatment involved eight months of chemotherapy and a double mastectomy.
The chemo, she said publically, was like being “nuclear bombed”. Her nails fell off, her mouth and throat ulcerated, she lost her hair and eyebrows and the ache in her bones was so relentless she could not lie down. The double mastectomy triggered such feelings of grief and shame, she revealed at the time that she felt “unworthy of being in the world.” And all the while there was Annabelle, baby Annabelle, who needed feeding and changing and cuddling. Sally was too sick from her treatment to do it and, even if she could summon up the energy to kiss her baby, she was forbidden from doing so as the chemotherapy was too toxic for the newborn. It was a painful reality, another loss. “I can’t get up in the night to feed Annabelle or change her during the days of chemotherapy treatment,” the popular media personality told The Australian Women’s Weekly not long after Annabelle’s birth. “This is not how it’s supposed to be. She is supposed to know that I am there for her no matter what, not just when the cancer allows. And I hate the cancer for that. Because I feel like it has taken something precious from me and from my baby girl. “This is something I have wanted my whole life, and now that I have it, I feel like it’s completely compromised. I thought I would be in this baby-and-me bubble. It would just be us, and it would be so beautiful. But instead there’s me and the cancer in one bubble and me and Annabelle in the other bubble, and I just keep shuffling between the two.”
Reeling from shock, Sally gave birth to Annabelle just one day after her cancer diagnosis. Ten days later, she started aggressive medical intervention.
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Sally struggled on with her treatment, which at times was so debilitating it took all of her mental strength to continue with it. Courageously, she raised awareness of breast cancer by making public appearances and attending industry events, either with a wig or bald. Finally, twelve months later, Sally was given the all clear. She was completely cancer free. It had been a brutal battle, but Sally had won it and, determined to restore her chemo-ravaged body to health, she set about pursuing a healthier lifestyle. Key to this was her love of green smoothies, a healthy blend of vegetables, fruits and super foods, which have boosted her energy levels, and helped her lose 15 kilograms, weight she gained due to eating to help fight nausea and sickness caused by the chemotherapy. The smoothie ingredients, which can include any fruits or vegetables, are blended with water or nut milks or cow’s milk, ensuring all the fibre and nutrients are consumed. Such is her belief in the health benefits of green smoothies, Sally has written a book, with her sister, Maha Koraiem, Super Green Smoothies (Allen & Unwin, $19.99), which includes loads of recipes and tips for the smoothie lifestyle. “We have been drinking green smoothies for about a year and a half now, and we wanted to include our favourite recipes, the ones we absolutely love that we knew other people would love,” Sally explains, enthusiastically. “We really tried to think about what is it that’s important to us and to other people, and usually it’s weight loss, so we have a whole section on weight loss, we have a specific kids section because Mums want to know how to get veggies into their kids’ diets and we did a section for people who are just starting out and just want to settle in. We really worked the book to start simple and then get a little bit harder and add a few more ingredients. We wanted people to start to love smoothies and have it for your lifestyle like it is for us.
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Coming off the back of such aggressive medical
The thing that happens, and you notice it straight away, is that you want good food, you don’t want sugar and you don’t really want crap anymore. Then you start to get this buzz.
intervention, and as a busy working mum juggling numerous demands on her time, Sally was searching for something to boost and sustain her energy levels throughout the day. The rainbow plate of fruit ‘n’ veg that makes its way into her morning smoothie has proven to be the answer, and she does indeed radiate health. “My energy levels are incredible,” she says. “That’s the thing, suddenly you are not reliant on five coffees a day, and you’re not suddenly going, ‘when is it three o’clock so I can have a coffee? Oh my gosh, how can I prop myself up with sugar?’ The thing that happens, and
you notice it straight away, is that you want good food, you don’t want sugar and you don’t really want crap anymore. Then you start to get this buzz. “I think it’s because if you put it on a plate and look at how many vegetables you’re having, you wouldn’t have that much. You wouldn’t have two cups of spinach, a handful of broccoli, you’re not going to have kale as well, you’re not going to have quarter of an avocado or half an avocado, a banana, a lime, coconut so you are having all these vegetables, some fruit, some super foods. So you’re suddenly going, ‘Well, this is actually really good for you,’ and when would you do this? Probably not ever. Certainly not at the beginning of the day.” Sally is clear about the benefits of blending versus juicing, believing blending wins hands down in the health-boosting stakes. “You’re not juicing, it’s in a blender,” she explains, firmly. “You get all the fibre, you get the entire vegetable, you get all of it. That’s why it’s so good for your digestion. I think if you’re juicing, and there’s a lot of people who love juicing and swear by it, I think what happens is you don’t get the fibre, you don’t get the bulk, you are only extracting part of it. You’re not getting the whole vegetable. It’s just like eating it [fruit and vegetables] only you couldn’t eat this many!” Sally’s changed approach to diet, and her resulting good health, is only one of many changes being a cancer survivor has wrought. The eight months of gruelling chemotherapy, the double mastectomy, the hours lying on the tiles in the shower unable to move, the inability to kiss her longed-for baby have changed her irrevocably. Time is now a precious commodity, something she does not waste. “That whole experience of having cancer has completely changed my outlook on life - motherhood and everything else outside motherhood. I was grateful before, I have always been a grateful person, but I am far more grateful because I appreciate that it’s not a given that you’re just going to live until ninety,” she explains.
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“Sometimes, when you’re younger, you’re just in a bubble where you assume your life will play out in a certain way, and when something shocking like that happens and then you come so close to dying, you really realise, ‘oh, actually this is not a given anymore and every day I am on this planet is actually a gift’. You choose how you want to spend it and who you want to spend it with. You really re-evaluate that. You think, what is it that is important to me, what is it that I want to do with my time because time is not infinite…You really value your time and it becomes so precious because you realise there is not endless amounts of it.” One of Sally’s key priorities is to spend as much time as possible with her beloved daughter, Annabelle. Sally, a naturally warm and engaging woman, literally lights up when talking about her daughter. “She is hilarious and amazing, like they all are, and it’s such a fun age…she’s three and a half now. It’s a really fun time, we do Adventure Wednesdays and “Most mums I know, working mums
I think it [motherhood] has made me a lot more present because you just have to be. They are so interesting, they demand so much of your time, you don’t drift off I find, you are really in the moment.”
and non-working mums, it’s them that that falls on, the planning and organisation and orchestration of the family - who is going where, and when and at what time, and the flow on effect of everything - and that is exhausting when you are a mum. It is. My girlfriends and I call it pinging because your brain is always pinging with everything you have to do. “Sometimes I juggle it so well, and I’m
we wander around and we create our own
like, ‘I’m such a rock star!’ and then the next
adventures, and we talk and talk and it’s
week I am in tears every day thinking, ‘Oh
just beautiful,” she says, proudly. “I think it [motherhood] has made me a lot more present because you just have to be. They are so interesting, they demand so much of your time, you don’t drift off I find, you are really in the moment.
weeks it goes to plan and some weeks it just doesn’t, and that’s the nature of life. It takes a long time to accept it. “I had a real turning point late last year when I decided that I’m
If you are playing with them or you are in the park or you’re running
going to stop trying to have a set routine that I create on January the
around, that’s just what you’re doing and it’s good because it keeps
1st that carries me through the whole year because I have finally
you focused.”
accepted after ten years that the nature of my job is that it is a job with
Despite her obvious pleasure in family life, Sally is not immune
no routine, so I have gone, ‘Okay, I am going to stop trying to force it
from the common complaint that mothers typically carry the
into a box and make it fit and then getting pissed off when it doesn’t
thought load of the family, the mental lists of commitments, meals,
fit. I am just going to look at this week on its own and next week on
groceries, bills, laundry and housework, and the mental exhaustion
its own…and just keep it a little bit fluid’. Some weeks that means I
this can bring.
work all day Saturday, some weeks that means I work five nights after
“It’s hard being a mum, it just is hard. There are so many demands on you. Sometimes I’ll say to [husband] Marcus, ‘I’m so jealous
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my God, this is a disaster!’. I think I have learnt to accept that some
Annabelle has gone to bed…I just fit it in as best I can for that week.” The mind-boggling demands of juggling her high profile
because you’re so helpful with everything but ultimately you’re not
media career, her online store and authoring her books, have not
the general manager of the house or whatever’. If I say, ‘Hey Babe,
distracted Sally from what requires her full and considered attention
tomorrow can you get the groceries’ then yes, he will do it, but guess
– Annabelle. When she is with her daughter, all the other demands
what? There’s a step before that, and that is he didn’t have to think of
on her time are put to one side and she focuses on the task at hand,
anything that led up to that moment.
mothering her child.
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am afraid that I have plummeted to a new low in the sock side of things. Last week, during a frantic pre-school-run search for matching socks for my son, I simply raised my hands to
the sulky heavens and gave up. I pulled two wildly mis-matching socks from a random pile of laundry – one sock may have actually been mine – and decided they would do. Too bad if one sock was enormous and green and the other was a purple baby sock. TOO
Ari contemplates one of the greatest mysteries of parenting: Just WHERE has that odd sock gone?
JOLLY WELL BAD! The child was hurricane-ing through the house, as usual. Spreading God-knows-what all over his clean uniform, as usual. Deciding to build a sand-pit inside, a new and exciting development that sent me into a silent, screaming frenzy. And we were late. Again. I had already had one stern warning from the teacher about skulking into the classroom right on the bell, trying to hide behind my son so as to avoid a talking to. We need to be on time, and do our reading, and play a calm game of blocks, or whatever, before the bell is rung and the children are ordered to mat time, she informed me ever-so-gently. Flurrying in, at the very last minute, attempting to disguise myself as my child’s backpack, does not
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help to maintain calm-in-an-enormous-class-of-slightly-feralchildren, was what she possibly meant. Ahem. Well. Fair enough, then. You had me at feral children. Of course mad pressure at my end trying to get the child fed, showered and presentable, and out the door in time. Okay, forget presentable. Fed, showered and out the door is a big enough goal. And this is how I ended up wrestling a purple baby sock onto one of my child’s feet and a green tent of a thing onto the other. “They look fabulous!” I babbled. “So creative and individual.
It’s a pity we are going to a bog standard public school, with rather a firm uniform policy, not a Montessori or a Steiner, but never mind.
It’s a pity we are going to a bog standard public school, with rather a firm uniform policy, not a Montessori or a Steiner, but never mind. Creative is good. Think Different, and all of that. ” My kid didn’t care two hoots about his socks of course, other than that the baby sock probably felt a bit tight. But I did. It bothered me. I had gone to great lengths to have a never-ending supply of matching socks on tap for school mornings. I had literally bought about 1000 pairs of socks, all exactly the same, in an effort to thwart the odd-sock-bonanza that has dogged me my entire life. Where those 1000 socks are, I honestly could not tell you. Some have been eaten by the washing machine, obviously, but I don’t think even our voraciously hungry washing machine can eat 1000 socks in the space of a few months. It remains a mystery to me. And my son remains odd-socked. But - importantly - we get to school on time. And no one has said anything about his creatively-clothed feet. Yet.
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Meet Mrs
Australia by Claire Armstrong
Behind the crown of Mrs Australia International 2015, PIPER O’NEILL is juggling two small children and declares she is like any other working mum trying to have the best of both worlds.
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aughing off her first attempts at offering her young son rice cereal and contemplating a Wiggles themed birthday for her soon-to-be two year old daughter, Piper O’Neill appears to be a regular mum, except
she is also in the throes of preparing to compete for the coveted crown of Mrs International. She manages to find time for a quick chat on the same day as her international pageant admission deadline, yet she describes her appearance without makeup, shower-wet hair swept into a bun and comfortable house clothes, and concedes her pageant life is just a chance to dress up for a little while. “This pageant is really refreshing for me because it’s open to all married women from all backgrounds, shapes and sizes. Most of the contestants are mums too, so there isn’t the pressure to look and have the bodies we once did,” she candidly explains. The pageant is also not based on looks, instead 50 per cent relies on one’s contribution to family, charity and community work, as well as the contestants’ level of health and fitness and does not have a swimwear section, a change from the Miss pageants she was involved with in her younger years. Piper will travel to Jacksonville, Florida in July to compete against finalists from more than 60 countries for the Mrs International title, after being crowned Mrs Australia International late last year. Her Mrs Australia crowning made her the first person to take out the title while pregnant, a heavily pregnant 37 weeks to be exact.
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The striking American-born beauty speaks with an air of refreshing confidence about the upcoming international competition and hopes to be the first Mrs Australia to snatch up the global title. “I am proud of everything I have achieved over the last few months and know I will do my very best. Hopefully I can bring home another crown,” her vibrant words of self confidence are almost tangible. Yet the brunette beauty is plagued by one uncertainty about the pageant, and it is not her evening gown or her platform, instead Piper says a final decision, if she should take her young family on the long haul flight so they can be beside her in support or leave her kids with family in Sydney, continues to allude her. “We are toying with the idea of having my mum fly out from Oregon to help us on the flight to Florida or organise for the kids to stay here with one of my husband’s nine siblings or his parents. It is a hard decision to make. I don’t want to leave my kids behind
leading a double life trying to separate the two in order to fully
but there is a lot to take into consideration. I will have to keep
focus on the task at hand, sometimes easier said than done.
thinking on that front and see how things pan out,” she says. A big part of the pageant and Piper’s life is charity work. Her
“Like most mums the majority of my time is dedicated to taking care of my children, doing household chores and cooking
platform charity is one she has been a volunteer with for over six
meals. I am a very hands-on mum and love teaching my children
years, the Look Good Feel Better community program dedicated
as much as I can. We do lots of activities together, read books,
to teaching cancer patients how to manage
draw pictures, dance to the Wiggles ....over and
the appearance related side effects caused
over again.... and go on walks. I think the key
by cancer treatments through makeup, skin care, wigs and head coverings. The workshops are held in over 180 hospitals across Australia and in 26 countries. To date over 115,000 people have attended a Look Good Feel Better workshop in Australia. “Charity work has been a passion of
Her Mrs Australia crowning made her the first person to take out the title while pregnant, a heavily pregnant 37 weeks to be exact.
mine since the age of nine. Some years ago
to being productive is to take advantage of the time in between these normal daily activities,” she muses. “I’m a huge fan of writing lists to help me organise and prioritise and decide what needs to be done urgently and what things can wait. I also take advantage of my children’s sleep times and try to get as many email, phone calls
while working as a makeup artist and beauty therapist I came
and blogging done during this time so I can dedicate my time
across Look Good Feel Better and I thought volunteering would
to my children when they are awake and often do my work-out
be a great way for me to use my skills to help people in need,”
sessions during nap times or at night after they go to sleep when
Piper explains.
my husband Jordan is home. We also have a babysitter that comes
“I lost my grandfather to pancreatic cancer when I was 14, so I can appreciate the affect the program has on the patients who attend. From the moment they walk into the room they know
in so that I can attend events, castings or whatever it may be, but I try never to be gone too long. “As any new mum will tell you, it’s really hard to find the time
instantly they are not alone. Each session gives patients the
to work out when you’re taking care of babies but I’m slowly
opportunity to arm themselves with the tools to look their disease
building up my fitness again. Sometimes my exercise is as simple
in the face with confidence and leave empowered.”
as a walk to the park. I just do what I can.”
She juggles the demands of her charity work and pageant
And when it all becomes too much, she says she is not afraid to
preparations alongside caring for her children like most mums
switch her phone to ‘do not disturb’ or leave it in another room to
with a job outside of the home, likening herself to someone
avoid the temptation to waste time scrolling through the pages of
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social media during her precious down time. But she admits she
“I have to admit I was a little shocked
is only human and sometimes she does find breakfast smeared
when I walked out of the hospital still
down her back when she has already entered a public appearance.
looking six months pregnant!” she mocks.
While her life and looks make her seem the complete picture
“But when I was pregnant with my son
of unattainable perfection with her dazzling spirited eyes,
Taylor, I went in with brighter eyes and
chiselled cheek bones and an inviting smile, Piper has battled
knew what to expect from my body in
her own feelings of imperfection and insecurities about her
order to create a life. And getting my body
body, particularly losing control of its changes during and after
back after my second pregnancy was easier because I wasn’t so
pregnancy.
stressed about it and
“My body just embraced pregnancy,” she quips with a warm infectious laugh. “I’ve been a model most of my life so not being in control of my body was really hard. My belly was growing and it felt like I was gaining five kilos just by looking at a piece of lettuce. I would look at other models or my two sisterin-laws who were pregnant at the same time
I believe that if we love our bodies our children will love theirs ensuring that they grow up having positive self-esteem and positive self-worth.
changed.” Piper says the best advice she can offer a woman who is struggling to accept her body is to look in the mirror and make
and see their perfect little basketball bumps
a conscious decision to no longer be told by
and their ability to still run and work out and
society what is or is not beautiful but be the
I would think ‘how are you doing that?’ “It took me some time to finally accept my body during my
best version of yourself. One of her goals as Mrs Australia is to reach out to other
pregnancy with Elsie and afterwards looking at myself in the
mothers encouraging them to develop positive feelings toward
mirror, with a fuller figure, was really difficult.”
their own bodies in order to be role models for their children.
Piper continued to struggle to accept her post-baby body, never
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my expectations had
“We need to stop comparing ourselves to others and start
envisaging how long it would take for her body to lose the baby
loving the body we are in,” she says with conviction. “After having
weight.
two children my body shape changed and I now have more natural
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curves. I have developed a new love and respect for my body.
My body just embraced pregnancy. I’ve been a model most of my life so not being in control of my body was really hard.
I look at my body as a vessel that carried life into this world and I am proud of what it has achieved. “Yes I have imperfections that I, and probably only I, can see but having children has made me realise just how valuable
my time is. I’m not going to waste my time trying to look like I haven’t had children when I have. As long as I take care of my body, eat well and exercise I am happy with how it looks. I believe that if we love our bodies our children will love theirs ensuring that they grow up having positive self-esteem and positive self-worth. “We need to shift our thinking and realise that we’re all beautiful just the way we are, in our own unique way.” She enjoys a quick recant of her birth stories experiencing pre-eclampsia and a decelerating fetal heart beat during Elsie’s delivery with talk about the need for a caesarean section, followed by a posterior but speedy delivery with Taylor who was eager to enter the world.
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“I would love to have a third baby and we have even spoken about having a fourth. But after having two so close together and not really loving being pregnant, we will never say never, but we might have to wait and see.” After Mrs International, Piper will still need to fulfil her duties as Mrs Australia until her reign is complete early next year but another project is already in the works as filming wraps up on the first episode of her television series. The Feel-Good Show, with Piper firmly at the wheel wearing the hats of writer, producer, director and presenter, aims to shine a light on different charities, first up is Look Good Feel Better. “It would be a life-long dream to see it all come together.” And with a daughter who is already showing the makings of following in her mum’s footsteps, with little Elsie starting to go along to shoots and castings and
I look at my body as a vessel that carried life into this world and I am proud of what it has achieved
already appearing in the classic soap opera Home and Away as baby Harley, it doesn’t seem like life in the O’Neill house will slow down any time soon. “I have always been someone who loves being busy. I wouldn’t have it any other way.”
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Boys will be boys BY CHRIS PRITCHARD
Parenting guru and mother to four boys, Maggie Dent, shares strategies for raising happy, secure and confident sons.
B
oys and girls aren’t the same, as parents with kids of both sexes are often quick to point out. Raising sons is a whole different ball game to raising
daughters. It certainly isn’t a one-size-fits-all situation. But understanding this reality - and following specific guidelines - turns potential parenting nightmares into
course, holding down a succession of jobs (among these were a
experiences of boundless joy.
position in the radio industry and work in a hospice).
“People who aren’t parents may claim dismissively that it’s
Soon one-to-one counselling was hungrily gobbling up more
so much easier bringing up girls - but boys are well worth any
and more of her time - to the point where she was forced to
extra effort,” insists one of Australia’s top parenting experts,
restrict individual counselling.
bestselling author Maggie Dent, who shares her valuable insights with Offspring readers.
Group counselling seemed a sensible alternative. Seminars, talks and books followed. “Fortunately, I realised quite early on
Mother of four grown-up sons - “two roosters and two lambs” who “have flown the coop to run their own lives”, she’s the author of seven books on parenting which many a frustrated Mum and
that I had an aptitude for counselling and should focus on it,” she recalls. Success and a high profile followed. Dent’s reputation as one
Dad keep handy. The latest is 9 Things: A Back-to-Basics Guide To
of Australia’s most respected parenting authorities grew - and
Calm, Commonsense, Connected Parenting - Birth to 8 (published in
it’s a pedestal from which she hasn’t been toppled.
2014 by Pennington Publications, RRP $29.95).
“One of the issues that intrigued me was why kids nowadays
An in-demand speaker at conferences and seminars, her DVDs are immensely popular too. Some of her easy-to-follow advice also appears on her website, maggiedent.com Originally from Western Australia, Dent now lives on the New South Wales’ south coast but frequently commutes to the west. A former high school teacher, she quit and completed a post-graduate counselling 36
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seemed less resilient than they once were,”
One of the issues that intrigued me was why kids nowadays seemed less resilient than they once were.
she reveals. “I grappled with this problem to find ways for Mums and Dads to become better parents, raising children who’d negotiate the world with apparent ease.” While lack of resilience is a weakness endured by kids of both sexes, Dent finds it’s considerably more common in boys. “In dealing with kids, I’ve discovered that www.offspringmagazine.com.au
In dealing with kids, I’ve discovered that too many are hyperactive. But when they’re calm and less angry they’re happier and funnier.
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SECRETS OF BEING A FANTASTIC MUM
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TOUCH as much as possible. Make him feel safe. Hug him. When he’s small, cuddle him on your lap. Playfully tousle his hair.
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LIGHTEN UP. Laugh with him when he’s amused. And don’t forget - young boys (whether toddlers or 10 year-olds) love food. Be ready with a healthful snack because a hungry boy is an angry boy.
DON’T BE OVER-SENSITIVE. He may be busy and not hear you. Boys don’t relate to many things at once. He may tune you out. It’s not a snub. SHUT UP! Mums have a tendency to nag. Don’t go on, seemingly forever. Make it a rule to use fewer than 10 words when you’re being critical. UPSKILL NON-VERBAL SIGNS. Boys are receptive to these - smiles, thumbs-up signs that kind of communication.
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SECRETS OF BEING A FANTASTIC DAD
Remind your son he’s part of a team (boys adore this concept) - and his family is the team. Honour his physicality. Give Mum her “me time” and take him to throw or kick a ball. Join him for a run or take him to the beach. Don’t be the “bad cop”. Don’t fade into the background except when you’re the disapproving parent - so that seems to your son that nothing he does will ever impress his Dad. Accept that all boys are sometimes naughty. Kneel down next to him - two mates chatting to ensure it doesn’t happen again or agreeing on how to correct it. But no shaming!
Accept that little boys aren’t good at remembering. A jocular and smiling reminder about his school lunch box is better than an angrily yelled “You always forget your lunch box!” Source: Maggie Dent
Alluding to common criticisms of small boys being prematurely “sexualised” and older boys being routinely “desensitised”, Dent sighs. “Yes,” she agrees, “the Internet doesn’t do boys any favours. too many are hyperactive. But when they’re calm and less angry they’re happier and funnier. “There’s a crisis, particularly with boys, in the Western world. Many boys don’t make good transitions from Years 3 to 5. Later, bright boys fail at university. There’s domestic violence - and violence on the streets involving young men.” Alluding to common criticisms of small boys being prematurely “sexualised” and older boys being routinely “desensitised”, Dent sighs. “Yes,” she agrees, “the Internet doesn’t do boys any favours.” But, she continues, “boys get angry when they fail and decide there’s no way they can win. It’s best for parents to tackle this when their sons are still very young. “Boys often don’t excel at verbal expression and are unable to express their emotions - so they lash out. Perhaps they punch their best mates. “It’s a parental task to turn this around. “But you don’t do this by shaming a boy. Never humiliate him by saying ‘Toughen up!’, ‘Be a man!’, ‘Don’t cry!’ You’ll only breed resentment.” What’s more, Dent advises, Mums shouldn’t drone on and on with long-winded explanations about why this or that should or shouldn’t be done. “Your son will have stopped listening long before you finish.” Remember, she recommends, “women want to say but boys want to do.” So, Dent advises, it’s better to ask yourself: “Can I see the world through the eyes of a boy?” Parents who really get to know their kids can manage this. Overall, the aim should be to raise calm and contented kids - who’ll become successful adults because they enjoy achieving and know how to reach their goals.
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Tooth be told Gary discovers that owning up to our ‘little white lies’ can be harder than pulling teeth when it comes to our children.
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he Omnipotent One woke with a jolt in the middle of the night. “The tooth fairy!” she said. “I forgot to be the Tooth Fairy!” I was used to her waking me occasionally
game would be up for real. But were we, her parents, ready for the game to be up; to spoil something that has given her so much joy? She’d developed such
during the night, but it was usually because I’d forgotten to take
absolute love for the Tooth Fairy over the past couple of years.
the rubbish bins out the night before (I’ve still got the bin night of
And if the Tooth Fairy goes, what does that mean for poor old
three houses ago stuck in my head). As I rolled over to go back to
Santa and the Easter Bunny? Well, they’re put on the “we used to
sleep, it struck me that there were similarities between pretending
be friends” list too.
to be the Tooth Fairy and taking the rubbish out. Both were a necessary household chore that had dire consequences if missed.
But for me, the process of keeping these guys in the family has been somewhat challenging. And that’s because when it comes
This latest lost tooth bore extra significance. Rumours were
down to it, I’m lying to my children, which as a naturally honest
apparently swirling around the school playground that the Tooth
person is hard for me. Or perhaps it’s not so much I’m an honest
Fairy wasn’t real; suspicion was rife that she was a concoction of
person as much as I’m a bad liar. Or perhaps it’s not so much I’m a
parents. For Ella, the legend of the Tooth Fairy was hanging on by
bad liar, as much as I’m a really bad liar.
the thread of a root of an upper incisor. If she didn’t get a visit, the
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to guess when they’re bluffing, often a barely
being out-psyched by a seven year old?
discernible movement such as a slight ear
Eventually, I managed to mumble out
scratch or nostril pick, or a faster blink
an answer in the affirmative, and she
than normal. My tell is more
skipped away happily. I breathed a sigh of
like a six-part mini-series;
relief but was sweating as though I’d gone all-
usually involving a significant
in on a pair of twos.
increase in pulse rate
The thing is, we continue to play the game – and
combined with shortness of breath
not tell the truth to our daughter – because even
and a mixture of other very visible
though Ella clearly suspects something, we know she doesn’t want to disbelieve. We know it gives
“For Ella, the legend of the Tooth Fairy was hanging on by the thread of a root of an upper incisor.”
her comfort and joy to believe in the Tooth Fairy, and as a seven-year-old, it helps her maintain a connection to an early childhood that is quickly giving way to more serious girl-stuff like fashion, pop-stars and sleepovers. In a world where kids grow up so fast, perhaps we should be helping them hang on to the
physical signs that make it perfectly clear that something’s up.
things they find magical for as long as possible.
Soon after the near miss, when Ella straight out asked me if the
Eventually the weight of evidence will be indisputable
tooth fairy was real, I panicked. It felt like when The Omnipotent
– unlike the question about the outfit, which is never in dispute – and
One asks me if she looks fat in her outfit. My mind was blank but
the secret will be out. Ella will then know the truth and probably take
had a hundred different questions running through it at the same
great delight in knowing she has one over her little brother.
time. Did she know already and is testing me? Is this the moment that I give the game away? Could she handle the truth? Am I really
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I
am writing to share our wonderful
husband. I had been having a number of
news that baby Ferguson Eric Baker
contractions which caused me to get out of
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He is an absolute joy and we are just so in
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with long breaths and
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cannot stop just looking at him in utter
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Having a baby? Before you start shortlisting names or preparing the nursery it is important to work out where you are going to bring your bundle of joy into the world. We look into options to consider when it comes to choosing on the right maternity care decision for you and your baby. By Brooke Evans-Butler
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A maternal hen I walked into my GP’s office (positive pregnancy test in-hand) the first questions I was asked were regarding my choice of maternity care. ‘Congratulations! So, do you have health insurance?
choice
Do you have a preference of obstetrician and hospital?’ I must admit, my head was spinning…I had found out I was going to be a parent an hour prior, and was already being asked about how and where I wanted to have my baby. However, it is a big decision – and is ideally something that you should research even before you get pregnant. But what is the right decision for you? We look into the options – whether you are considering public or private care or a home birth.
Public or private? Dr Gary Swift, Vice President of National Association of Specialist Obstetricians and Gynaecologists (NASOG), says all who are involved in the area of pregnancy and childbirth strive for optimal care and outcomes – however the public and private models are inherently different.
Private care If you choose private care, you can choose an obstetrician to care for you throughout your pregnancy and for the birth of your child. Dr Swift says private care is based on a one-to-one relationship between the woman and her Specialist for antenatal care, detection of problems and ultimately safe and timely delivery. “Personal wishes and concerns are easily addressed when the same clinician is involved at each step,” he says. “This relationship is important equally for the most straightforward and complex of pregnancies. Issues of primary elective Caesarean Section if desired tend to be more easily accommodated in the private sector.” 48
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Choosing an obstetrician
An advantage of choosing private cover is that you can
An advantage of having
usually have a private room (having a bathroom to yourself
private care is you can
after birth is always an added
choose the obstetrician
bonus!) and many private
who will be caring for you
hospitals allow your partner
throughout your pregnancy.
stay with you. The rooms
“The choice of obstetrician
(and meals) are usually of a
will be an individual
higher quality than at a public
one and is often based
hospital (some rooms are like
on several factors – GP recommendations, advice
lovely hotel rooms) as a general rule and allow new mothers longer stays after birth than public
of friends and family and in modern times internet based research
hospitals, while some have arrangements with 5 Star hotels for
probably figure prominently,” Dr Swift says. “Women who have undergone IVF or other assisted
part of the post-partum stay. There are often some out-of-pocket costs associated with
reproductive options may stay with the same doctor if it is an
private care, so find out your chosen obstetrician’s fee schedule
option and many will see the same specialist for gynaecological
and check with your health cover provider exactly what is covered
issues prior to pregnancy and will have already established
so you can be prepared.
rapport. For some, the gender of the specialist will be important for personal, religious or cultural reasons. Ultimately it will be a personal choice and for a successful professional relationship,
Note:
Most private health providers will have a waiting period for obstetrics (pregnancy) of around 12 months, so you will need to have this option on your health insurance policy before becoming pregnant if you want private care. (Check with your health insurance provider about their waiting periods.)
issues of personality, trust, experience and professionalism will be foremost. “Some hospitals in capital cities will have a list of accredited specialists so that if the choice of hospital is important they will have to choose one from the list and some may not be available if they have reached capacity and closed their books. Women in Australia can be confident that specialists who hold the FRANZCOG qualification are suitably trained and credentialed to
Mother-of-three Monique Wilson chose private care for all three of her children and says she would highly recommend this
provide the highest quality specialist services. “The prices charged may vary but will generally reflect the
care option. “I chose to have my baby in a private hospital because
level of experience and training and the costs of running a private
I had Cover and liked the idea of having the same obstetrician
practice in a particular area.”
through my pregnancy and picking one that I felt comfortable with,” she says. “I ended up having my first child six weeks premmie and it was at my ob’s appointment that the obstetrician picked up an irregular heartbeat. The bill for his stay in hospital was $15,000 and we didn’t pay a cent. I also enjoyed having my own room and we were given a choice from a buffet for all meals. I
Note:
It is important to remember that obstetricians are human too (they take holidays and can get sick) so it is not guaranteed that your chosen obstetrician will be present at your baby’s birth.
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PRIVATE CARE PROS
• • •
You have one-on-one care of you r chosen obstetrician Many private hospitals offer private rooms so your partner can stay overnight with you Generally, private hospitals allow new mothers to stay longer after the birth of thei r baby for recovery.
PRIVATE CARE CONS
•
Having a baby at a private hospital is more expensive than in a public hospital (check with your health fund about what you are covered for).
primarily care for low risk women for normal birthing and junior doctors attend for suturing of tears or episiotomies. Trainee specialists provide the majority of services under the supervision of qualified specialists. “Short stays are the norm with home visit services often covering breast feeding issues as lactation may not have been established before early discharge. “Primary elective (maternal request) Caesarean Sections are not usually available in the public system.
Public care “Public hospitals fundamentally have to deliver the best service possible to a larger population within the government prescribed budget,” says Dr Swift. “Hence, antenatal care is delivered in a
“There is no cost for Public
Private Obstetricians must have visiting rights at the hospital where you choose to deliver your baby.
Hospital Services for Australian Medicare Card holders so this will be the only affordable option for many, especially those who don’t have private health insurance.” Jodi O’Callaghan decided on a birthing centre
clinic format in which a different
(through a public hospital) for the birth of her
attendant is seen on each occasion,
daughter. “After falling pregnant I looked into my
and who might have varying levels of qualification from intern to
options for birthing and decided I wanted to be in control of my
specialist. Specialists tend to see the more complex and high risk
birth, with as little intervention as possible,” she says. “I also did
cases. Long waits are not uncommon in these clinics.
a hypnobirthing course to help me overcome any fear of birth and
“Labour and delivery management will depend on level of risk and complexity with staff allocated accordingly. Midwives
to empower me to bring my daughter into the world with the help of my husband and a midwife.
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PUBLIC CARE CONS • • • •
and often will see You do not get a choice of carer cy and birth nan many staff throughout your preg Often have shared rooms Partner cannot stay overnight her and baby Short hospital stays for the new mot after birth.
PUBLIC CARE PROS
have your baby There is usually no cost when you through the public system pregnancies may have • Mothers-to-be with low risk ciated birthing the option of giving birth at asso ital centres, adjoined to the hosp lower intervention rates • Public hospitals usually have (such as caesareans etc).
•
birth centre for no more than three hours and then spent one “When you go through a Birth Centre you are encouraged to
hour in surgery, under which I found to be excellent care. I was
labour at home as much as possible and attempt a drug free labour
then transferred to a private room in the maternity ward where I
if the birth progresses as it should be. That coupled with my
spent five nights being supported by midwives to get the hang of
hypnobirthing techniques to draw on meant that by the time I got
breastfeed and get to know my baby. I had not requested a private
to the birth centre I was 8cm dilated. Two and a half hours later
room, so it was a lovely surprise.
my daughter Stella was born! “I had some tearing and needed surgery, but I had achieved my birth plan goal of being drug free for the birth. I was in the
“I received excellent care from the public system and was not out of pocket for any expenses. If I have another baby, I would not hesitate to go through the public system again.”
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Choosing a hospital
Obstretrician
When choosing a hospital, there are various things to consider
including:
Private Obstetricians must have visiting rights at the hospital where you choose to deliver your baby. So if you have a preference of obstetrician, this will limit the hospital you can choose from because
Location
you will have to have your baby at the hospital where the obstetrician
The location of your hospital is an important factor (remember you will be going to various appointments including your obstetrician appointments and antenatal classes), and of course, no one wants a long drive when they are in labour. Some women
practises.
Rooms Many private hospitals will have the option of your partner staying with you overnight in a private room, but it is best to check
will choose a hospital close to their workplace (or close
the possibility of this with your hospital if this is
to available babysitters for older children). If you are going through the public system, you
important to you. Usually you will share a room
usually cannot choose which hospital you
in a public hospital, although some public hospitals will also offer private rooms, but
would like to go to, because, due to high demand, some hospitals will only be able to accept mothers-to-be who live locally.
Facilities Is labouring in a big bath or birthing pool part of your birth plan? If you have any specific requirements or wishes, check with the hospital regarding
Most midwives recommend a woman book into a hospital prior to the birth, so if in the event the woman needs to be transferred to hospital during the labour, the hospital already has the mother-to-be’s details on-hand.
their facilities so you make the right choice.
if they do, this is usually dependant on availability.
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Home birth Some women choose to give birth at home with the support of a midwife – and Cherie Nixon, coordinator of Homebirth Australia, says being in the comfort of your own home with a good support team can create a calming birth experience. She says being in familiar surroundings can be good pain relief in itself – and at home women can also use a birth pool, TENS machine, massage and natural therapies like aromatherapy. Cherie says choosing a home birth offers great one-on-one care – offering support throughout your pregnancy, labour and birth, as well as postnatal care, with some visits until the baby is six weeks old. “You have your own midwife caring for you throughout your pregnancy – your midwife knows your past and your medical history. They come to your house for appointments, which is great if you have other children, and it is a good relationship
Most midwives recommend a woman book into a hospital prior to the birth, so if in the event the woman needs to be transferred to hospital during the labour, the hospital already has the mother-to-be’s details onhand.
to the Homebirth Australia website, www. homebirthaustralia.org and find a midwife using their ‘search for a midwife’ search option. Cherie says most midwives recommend a woman book into a hospital prior to the birth, so if in the event the woman needs to be transferred to hospital during the labour, the hospital already has the mother-to-be’s details on-hand. It should be noted that
offering one-on-one care,” she says. Cherie says that word-of-
a midwife cannot administer an epidural or perform a caesarean
mouth is the best way to find a midwife – however, you can go
section, so if the mother wants pain relief or if complications arise,
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they will have to be admitted to hospital and their midwife can go to
HOME BIRTH PROS
hospital with them as a
•
support person. Dr Swift says NASOG does not support home birth. “The intrinsic
• •
of your own You are able to stay in the comfort home throughout You are under the care of a midwife birth and your pregnancy at your birth. You get to choose who is present
nature of childbirth
HOME BIRTH CONS
is that although it is a
•
wonderful event for most, it is intrinsically dangerous, and
•
unpredictably so, in
relief (such Aside from natural measures, pain decide you if e labl as an epidural) is not avai you want it have If there is an emergency you will ital to be transferred to a hosp
some women,” he says. “Low risk can become high risk with minimal notice. There are so many potential
in hospitals, but we at least have the opportunity and potential
problems which can occur and lead to the loss of the mother of
to rescue adverse events and monitor babies to prevent hypoxic
baby or both which cannot be reliably predicted or catered for
injuries.
in the out-of-hospital environment. It is possible to understand
occur that the maternal and neonatal mortality is more than 10
and familiar however the potential for tragedy in NASOG’s view
times higher than it is in hospital births. Ultimately it comes down
supersedes this. Every child has the right to a safe birth and every
to compromising the birth environment for safety for the mother
mother the right to survive labour and delivery. As clinicians we
and child.”
have the responsibility to provide this. “We know that despite our best efforts adverse outcome occurs
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“We know from data in countries where out-of-hospital births
the desire of women to birth in an environment which is secure
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As a nurse, Jackie says choosing a homebirth was an easy decision. “I guess this has come from my experiences
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professionally and my
every part of it, you have
knowledge through
invited people into your
my profession of all
home to help you have
the benefits that come
your baby, as opposed to
with a homebirth,” she
hospital where midwives
says. “It was really very
are assigned to you,
important to me to have
people wander in and
a drug free birth, not
out of the birthing rooms
because I wanted to be
and it can become a bit
perceived as a superhero
of a circus at times, this
or anything other than a
I knew wouldn’t work
woman having a baby, but because of the benefits that a drug free natural birth brings. There are less bonding and breast feeding issues with mums who have fully connected with their bodies and babies throughout labour. The best place to have a drug free birth is at home, as there are no temptations to be had. The gas isn’t in the corner as a constant reminder of what you could have, the doctors
for me, I knew I needed
At home it is your environment, you are in control of every part of it, you have invited people into your home to help you have your baby, as opposed to hospital where midwives are assigned to you
privacy, quiet and control. And then finally because my partner felt like he could be a bigger part of the experience at home rather than hospital, especially afterwards, he wasn’t going to be rushed out the door if it wasn’t visiting hours, he can help care for our new baby in the comfort of our own home and bond with our baby 24/7 like me. “I personally don’t have anything to
and midwives are not in your face saying
compare to as this was my first baby but
things like “well the anaesthetist is here now
my homebirth water birth was the best
so if you think you might want an epidural later you best have one
experience of my life. I was never once scared, I never considered
now so he doesn’t have to come back!”
transfer to hospital and I never thought I couldn’t do it.”
“Also at home it is your environment, you are in control of
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All the actual birthing experiences were all pretty much the same, I never saw a difference in care at that stage. I preferred private to public after birth though. In the private hospitals there was more ‘luxury’ (bigger rooms, bigger beds, carpeted floors, a small fridge and my own tea making facility). like the idea of healing and having boobs out and having to try and be quiet for others if I was sharing a room. So I paid for private health cover long before I started having children.” Angela’s first child Aiden, was born via caesarean section at a private hospital. For her second child, Charlotte, she changed doctors (at another private hospital) so she could try for a VBAC. With her third, Elizabeth, she was living rurally and chose to give birth at the local public hospital. For her fourth baby, Bryce, Angela chose to go back to the private hospital where Charlotte was born, so she could be closer to her family. “All the actual birthing experiences were all pretty much the same,” she says. “I never saw a difference in care at that stage. I preferred private to public after birth though. In the private hospitals there was more ‘luxury’ (bigger rooms, bigger beds, carpeted floors, a small fridge and my own tea making facility).
The power of choice No matter what care option you choose for you and your baby
felt a bit lost and forgotten at the public. At the allocated rest hours the nurses would sit and chat at the nurses’ station, which
it is important that you are happy and comfortable, so if you
wouldn’t allow me to sleep. I left the public after a day and a half
are not happy with your experience you can change hospitals,
because I felt I would get better care at home with cups of teas
obstetricians or switch between private and public care for
from my husband but stayed all my allowed days in the private
subsequent pregnancies.
hospitals. As the birthing experience was no different I would
You might choose to switch between private and public for subsequent pregnancies if: Your health insurance waiting period is over (you might want to go for private care if the reason you chose public care for a previous pregnancy was because of the waiting period). If you had a caesarean for your first baby and want to try for a
advise women to only go private if the after care is important to them. The nursing and medical staff do their best no matter what hospital so that to me isn’t a consideration.”
Your support person The person you choose to be your support partner during the
vaginal birth after caesarean (a VBAC). Not all obstetricians will
birth is also an important part of your maternity care choice. Your
recommend trying for a VBAC, and may recommend you go to a
options include:
public hospital or to try another obstetrician. Mother-of-four Angela Davies has experienced private and
Partner or family member/friend
public care – choosing a private hospital for her children Aiden (6),
Many women will choose to have their partner as their
Charlotte (4) and Bryce (10 months), and a public hospital for her
birth support person. However, if you do not have a partner, if
daughter, Elizabeth (2).
for any reason your partner cannot be there (because of work
“The main reason for my original feeling about wanting to go
commitments, travel, illness etc) or if you and your partner feel
private was seeing my sisters have their children,” Angela says.
like you would be better supported with someone else present,
“My oldest sister went public for her second child because they
you can choose to have someone else at the birth. A mother, sister
couldn’t afford the health insurance and I remember her saying
or close friend are great options – if you think they are someone
she found sharing a room was not pleasant. While she always
who will be a calming influence and supportive of you. Sometimes
went to the feeding room to feed to keep the noise down for her
a woman may want more than one support person (for example
roommate, her roommate wouldn’t and her baby cried a lot.
her partner and her mother), so check with your hospital about
“So my impression of birthing was that it was amazing and if
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Being able to make my own tea at any time was important. I also
how many support people are able to accompany you (often if you
you wanted you could pay for things that would make it easier to
are having a caesarean only one support person will be able to
transition in to motherhood such as a private room. I also didn’t
accompany you into theatre).
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Midwifery student This involves midwifery students attending some antenatal appointments with you, being present at your baby’s birth and seeing you in the days/weeks after the birth. For the midwifery student, attending appointments and the birth offers invaluable experience and, for the mother-to-be, offers another support. You can enquire about having a midwifery student join you for your pregnancy and birth experience, by contacting the School of Nursing and Midwifery at local Universities. If you decide you do not want a student to be present at the birth after all, you can opt out of the program at any time.
Doula A doula (or birth attendant) is a non-medical person offering support to parents throughout pregnancy and birth. A doula does not give medical advice or perform any medical procedures, but can assist a labouring woman and her partner with non-medical ways to calm and comfort, such as massage and breathing. To find a doula or for more information, go to the Australian Doula College website, www.australiandoulacollege.com.au
Having a baby in Sydney?
of a private room following the birth of their baby. All private rooms also have en suites. The hospital also features six birthing suites and a special care nursery.
There are many private and public options to choose from – here are some to consider:
North Shore Private Hospital – North Shore Private features seven modern birthing suites and has a special care nursery. The hospital offers all of their maternity patients the guarantee of a private room. They also have a ‘Helping
Sydney Adventist Hospital – The maternity unit and aims
Hands Mother and Baby Support’ service, where mothers can
to offer a home-like atmosphere for new mothers. The new
make an appointment with a mothercraft nurser or lactation
maternity unit features 56 private rooms with en suites and day beds for partners and nine birthing rooms (two birthing
consultant for advice for babies up to 12 months in age. Royal Hospital for Women – Each year, this hospital which
rooms feature birthing pools for water births).You can take a
is rich in history, as the first women’s hospital in NSW since
virtual tour of the impressive new maternity ward by going to
1820, welcomes more than 4,200 babies. The hospital offers a
the website: www.sah.org.au/new-maternity-unit
range of choices for your pregnancy care and is an accredited
Royal Prince Alfred Hospital, Camperdown –Royal Prince Alfred Hospital is a public hospital, offering a birth
‘baby friendly hospital’, which supports new mothers to breastfeed.
centre for low to medium risk women to give birth in a home-
Mater Hospital – ’This private hospital guarantees private
like environment. It is recommended if you want to give birth
rooms for its new mothers and welcomes over 2500 babies
at the birth centre that you book in as early as possible to
every year. The unit has undergone a refurbishment and the
avoid disappointment..
delivery suites offer ensuites with a spa bath for during labour
Westmead Private Hospital (West Sydney) – Westmead Private Hospital offers all of maternity patients the guarantee
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Maternity Care Norwest Maternity offers a excellent, professional obstetric and midwifery care to mothers and babies.
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orwest Private Hospital Maternity welcomes over 2000 babies into the world each year. “Our excellent standard of care ensures that the birth of your child is a personal
and happy experience.” said Deborah Fogarty, General Manager, Norwest Private Hospital. “Norwest Private Maternity is staffed by highly experienced Midwives and Mothercraft Nurses, working alongside a team of to progress in the Birth Suite from anywhere and at anytime, providing added reassurance for the mother and unborn child”, said Ann Perrone, Obstetrics Nurse Unit Manager. “Also, the Well Baby Nursery is staffed 24 hours a day by experienced Midwives, Lactation Consultants and Mothercraft Nurses to manage feeding and baby care situations. A Level 2 Special Care Nursery is available for babies that need a little extra support after birth.” At Norwest, a range of six week evening and Saturday
Obstetricians and Paediatricians, who are all committed to providing mother and baby with individualised care and family involvement.” Located in a separate wing of the hospital, Norwest Maternity provides a secure environment
Each Birth Suite is equipped with the Guardian Monitoring SystemTM, a state-of-the-art monitoring system that records and displays all events during childbirth.
prenatal classes are offered. These classes cover labour and birth preparation as well as preparing for the early parenting period. Other classes offered include an Expectant Dad’s Class for first time Dads, a refresher class for second time parents and postnatal education classes.
for both new mothers and newborns. It offers a sophisticated and relaxed atmosphere within a hospital environment, giving the added reassurance of immediate onsite medical support and 24 hour access to operating theatres. A comprehensive range of facilities and services is offered to expectant parents. All rooms are superbly appointed with ensuite facilities, flat screen digital TVs, Wi-Fi, telephones, personal safes and a small refrigerator. Every room enjoys large panoramic windows which provide an abundance of natural light. Double beds and folding beds are available so partners staying overnight can be accommodated. There are seven spacious and modern Birth Suites with large ensuites that include a bath for extra comfort during labour. Each Birth Suite is equipped with the Guardian Monitoring System TM, a state-of-the-art monitoring system that records and displays all events during childbirth. “Your Obstetrician will have access 58
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Located in leafy Wahroonga, Sydney Adventist Hospital (fondly known as the San) has been delivering babies since 1903.
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Specialised care for new mums With proper support and treatment, most women will recover fully from the symptoms of perinatal depression.
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new family, a new birth is a time when for many there is excitement and happiness and confidence but for some this time of new family brings up concerns about
abilities to cope and depression. St John of God Healthcare - Burwood Hospital is a leader
in providing highly specialised perinatal care to both mothers and babies (up to the age of 12 months) delivered in a holistic manner by a multidisciplinary team including Perinatal Health expert Professor Marie-Paule Austin. This is the only private unit in NSW offering admission for the mother with postnatal depression and babies. The unit incorporates a number of therapeutic models to facilitate the recovery of mothers with a perinatal mental health
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The group therapy program draws from a range of therapeutic approaches.
disorder or illness, while facilitating the development of the
Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) is a useful framework
relationship between the infant and their primary caregiver.
for challenging negative thinking and reducing anxiety. It can be
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used to address the unrealistic expectations mothers often have of themselves and can be used to develop self- esteem. The mother and baby unit actively encourages partner involvement and supports new parents to learn skills to care for their baby.
How are St John of God services different? Their philosophy is to provide holistic care and their focus is on early intervention. Their professional team consists of perinatal specialists including psychiatrists, paediatricians, psychologists, mental health and mothercraft nurses and parent-infant therapists. They provide assistance through both inpatient and outpatient programs.
Perinatal Depression & Anxiety are treatable With proper support and treatment, most women will
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By Brooke Evans-Butler
You know all the times your child does not want to do something they should…brushing their teeth, having a bath, taking their medicine or going to bed – these battles happen daily in many households, and they are not fun for the child or the parent. Our clever parent tricks guide offers some suggestions to try to get your child to do these tasks with a smile!
Clever parent
tricks
Taking medicine For liquid medicine,
even notice.
pour medicine onto a spoon and sprinkle with edible glitter. If medicine has an unpleasant
medicine to a child, aim
taste, ask your pharmacist if the medicine
for the cheek – it doesn’t go straight to their
can be mixed with juice or another drink so
taste buds and is more difficult to spit out.
your child cannot taste it.
Blowing a quick puff of air onto your child’s
If you are giving medicine to a baby, try pouring the medicine in an upturned
face will also encourage them to swallow. A drop of food colouring can make the
bottle teat, and let the baby suck it. A baby
medicine look appealing, and is fun to
who will not take medicine from a syringe
give the child the choice of colour. Look
might be more likely to take it out of
for natural food colouring, available from
something familiar like a bottle teat.
selected health food shops. Queen Fine
Choice is important for kids. ‘Do you want the medicine in a cup or on a spoon?’ Present medicine in a fun way. Put their
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If you are using a syringe to give
Foods also has some natural colour choices in its range, which can be purchased from selected supermarkets.
medicine in a play set tea cup, along with a
Make a game of drinking it…get your
special treat or piece of fruit. Then it is just
child to pretend to be a dog or a cat and lick
part of a little picnic that they might not
the medicine out of a bowl.
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MAKE BORING TASKS FUN! Simply making a game of a task or singing a silly song can be a positive way to get your child to join in. LISTEN TO YOUR CHILD. They might be uncooperative because they want to do a task their own way (or might want to try doing something for themselves that you usually do for them). A simple change to a routine task might be all it takes to get them to do the job with a smile. MOST PARENTS USE BRIBERY occasionally – so if you have tried all of your parent tricks, there is always the promise of a sticker, special game or extra bedtime story to convince your child to brush their teeth or get dressed on time.
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Brushing teeth Buy a fun toothbrush – the choices are amazing! As well as the standard character and electric toothbrushes, there are now toothbrushes that light up, play music and toothbrushes that your child can personalise with stickers. Toddlers love to imitate – so brush your teeth at the same time and lead by example. You could even let your child have a go at brushing your teeth – then you can brush theirs when it is your ‘turn’. If you are trying to clean a baby’s new teeth, it might be easier to wipe over their teeth with a soft damp cloth. Check with your dentist or child health nurse about what age they recommend a toothbrush be introduced. Sing a song when you brush your teeth. Trying to sing when you have a toothbrush in your mouth will sound very silly, so your children will want to join in! Some children are captivated by any ‘gross’ stories. Telling a four year old that his teeth look yellow and green or that his toothbrush is a crocodile that will eat the dirt and make his teeth white again might actually make him want to brush his teeth. It is fun to ‘beat the clock’. Set a kitchen timer and tell your child to brush their teeth until the timer runs out. Afterwards, do something fun, like read an extra story or play a quiet game before bed.
There is an app for everything! Try the Macleans Nurdle Time app. This free app has a fun song and a timer to try to encourage your child to brush their teeth properly. When your child brushes teeth for the full two minutes, they get stars that can be used to buy accessories, such as clothes, hats, sunglasses and shoes to dress up their Nurdle. https://itunes.apple. com/au/app/nurdle-time/ id513309691?mt=8&ls=1
If your child is old enough to brush their own teeth, but you do not think they are brushing efficiently, ask your dentist or pharmacist about plaque disclosing tablets. These chewable tablets stain plaque or poorly cleaned teeth, so your child can see where they need to brush more thoroughly. It is a bit of fun seeing the colour on the teeth but it is also a useful tooth brushing aid.
Bathing / showering Let your children make art in the bath. You can make your own bath crayons by mixing some grated soap with food colouring. Put the solution in ice cube trays and freeze until set. Make a solution of water and food colouring
Have a bath or shower with your child. Let your child do something silly – why not let them wear their
and freeze colourful star shaped ice cubes. At
swimming goggles in
bath time, put some of these star ice cubes in the
the bath?
bath – they give a wonderful explosion of colour that the kids will love. Spray shaving cream onto the bath or the
Don’t underestimate the power of toys. You don’t have to spend a
shower screen and let the kids make shaving
fortune on bath toys either. In
cream pictures. You could even mix some food
fact, children will probably get a
colouring in the shaving cream. The mess will be
lot of fun out of making their own
contained in the bath/shower and the kids will
bath toys. Get them to use empty plastic
get clean at the same time.
drink bottles and containers…they could
Again, choice is desirable to children. ‘Would you like a bath or a shower?’
make boats and then get into the bath to test them out…will they sink or will they float?
Children love doing what their parents do!
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Going to bed These ‘going to bed’ tricks are not for every day. They are options for those days when the usual routine is not working (most likely if the child if excited about something or has had a very busy day). If getting to sleep regularly is a problem, ask your GP or child health nurse for professional advice.
Pretend you are going to bed at the same time as your child. That way, the child will not think they are going to ‘miss out’ on anything. Appeal for help from a toddler who has a favourite doll (or younger sibling). Explain to your child that their doll or sibling is very tired and needs to go sleep but does not want to because they want to do what the big kids are doing. Then ask for their help. ‘Can you please help me get Dolly (or sibling) to sleep by pretending you are going to sleep? She will go to sleep if she thinks you are going to sleep too’. Hopefully, as the child ‘pretends’ to go to sleep (tell them they have to keep their eyes closed) they will fall asleep. Your child might be too young to count imaginary sheep, so they might be more willing to try to count something they can actually see. Try sticking glow in the dark stars on your child’s bedroom ceiling, or better yet, purchase a star projector. They will not only provide a gentle and reassuring glow, but there will be too many stars for your child to count, so will hopefully make your child sleepy enough to fall asleep. Role play. ‘Dolly is very tired and needs to go to sleep. Put her to bed, tuck her in and kiss her tonight. Now it is your turn.’ Occasionally, do something special to make going to bed fun. For an older child, why not set up a tent (you could make one out of a sheet) in your child’s room and let them sleep in their sleeping bag?
Getting dressed Get your child to dress up their favourite toy or doll. ‘You put shoes on Dolly…now Mummy will put shoes on you.’ Put on some fun music and make it a game. Your child has to be dressed before the music stops.
If your child hates getting dressed and games and tricks are not working, take some time to listen to your child (or watch their body language if you have a young child who is not talking yet). If they are scratching or fidgeting with their clothes, do some investigating, as there might be a reason why they don’t like getting dressed. Is the tag at the back of their skirt scratching them? Do they not like the feel of an itchy material, or is a piece of clothing too tight? The getting dressed battle might be as easy to solve as simply avoiding certain materials or cutting the tags of t-shirts. 64
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Distraction is a great tool. Try getting them dressed (or change a nappy) when they are watching television, doing a puzzle or playing a game. Let your child choose what they want to wear. Unless they are going to school or an important event, does it matter if they go to the shops wearing their Spiderman costume or ballerina tutu? Yes, they might choose to wear jeans under a pink dress, with a bright green hat and gum boots, but as long as they are wearing clean, seasonal-appropriate clothes, it will be one step closer to avoiding the daily ‘getting dressed’ battle. Make your own take on a ‘Twister’ game. Make your own ‘spinner’ on a piece of card. Cut out pictures of a t-shirt, pants/skirt and shoes. Let your child spin the spinner…when it lands on a piece of clothing, the child has to put the piece of clothing on. Yes, it could be very mixed up…they might end up putting on their shoes before their pants (so you will have to help them after the game to dress in the correct order). This is not a trick to try on a day that you have to be dressed and out of the house quickly – it is about making getting dressed fun, so they will be more willing to get dressed without fuss another day. Have you ever had an early morning appointment and been tempted just to take the kids in their pyjamas to avoid the time and arguments of getting dressed? Occasionally, you might want to try getting them dressed before they go to bed on the night before you are going to have an early start. As long as they are freshly bathed and clean before bed, skip the pyjamas and dress them in comfortable clothes that they can wear the next morning (tracksuit pants/leggings and t-shirts are ideal). Then, all you have to worry about in the morning is ensuring they have a clean nappy/underwear and putting on their shoes. www.offspringmagazine.com.au
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EARLY CHILDHOOD
By Kate Field, Ngala Education Facilitator and Wendy Muller, Ngala Practice Consultant
Researchers agree that a person’s ability to empathise is a powerful predictor of their future success. The good news is empathy can be taught. Why teach empathy?
WHAT IS EMPATHY?
Sally and Ryan, aged three, are eating ice-creams, when Sally drops her cone and begins to cry. Upon witnessing her upset, Ryan shouts “Mummy, come!” suggesting he’s empathising with Sally. Empathy is the ability to imagine how someone else is feeling in a situation and respond with care.
Children and empathy
Research shows that empathy plays
Most children are born with the ability
a key part in the future happiness and
to empathise. However, like physical skills,
wellbeing of any person, including their
empathy will come more readily to some
ability to:
than others. Fortunately, practice makes
•
better!
Have satisfying personal relationships.
• •
Showing good empathy to another
Demonstrate ethical behaviour –
involves the mastery of smaller skills
knowing the correct way to behave.
that require a certain level of brain
Have professional success.
development.
When we can “read” a person’s feelings we can meet their needs. We can comfort
We know that: •
a friend, respond to a partner’s upset or
cannot yet distinguish themselves as
anticipate our colleague’s stress level as a looming deadline approaches. Teaching
separate from another. •
One to two year olds start to have the
empathy to children may prevent bullying
ability to see they are separate from
and family violence later in life. Empathy
others, yet cannot usually appreciate
is a crucial ingredient in maintaining a
that others feel differently from
harmonious society, where people care
themselves.
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e present and available. B Empathy requires attention so turn off electronic devices when with your children. emonstrate empathy for other D people and animals, including those outside your own ‘world’. egularly practice self-care and R reflection – be sure to look after yourself properly, to ensure you can be your most empathic self. Seek help if you are having difficulty empathising with your child. For more information on children’s development, please go to www.ngala.com.au and book yourself and your partner into a free Understanding and Guiding Children’s Behaviour Workshop.
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that others feel differently from themselves and may even start to take
•
Make caring for others a priority
Caring for others is the foundation of empathy.
action – eg. offering a toy to an upset
Send a clear message that caring for others is important, not just for personal
adult.
happiness or getting good ‘results’.
Whilst four to six year olds are
Help your older child learn to put their concerns for others above their own needs
developing their skills to empathise,
at times, whether that is behaving in a positive way when they don’t feel like it or
this will remain challenging for them
helping out at home.
during times of high emotion. Remember, empathy is a complex skill that many adults cannot yet master so we need to lower our expectations of children’s abilities.
Teaching empathy Much like swimming coaches, we coach the skills of empathy by empathising with your child and modelling empathy for others. Children learn empathy from watching
Provide opportunities for children to practice empathy Regularly practicing empathy will develop your child’s ability to appreciate the
perspectives of others. Comment on the action when your child or someone else demonstrates empathy in daily life: eg “That was kind when you gave your brother his blanky.”
Help children recognise and manage feelings
Sometimes it can seem that your child doesn’t have the ability to empathise, when
in fact the empathy is being ‘blocked’ by an overwhelming feeling. Talk to your child about different feelings, and name the feelings, from a very young age. eg. “The pig looks frustrated because he can’t get the food.”
us and from experiencing our own
With your older child, model and practice a method that may help them contain
empathy for them.
feelings that are overwhelming them such as encouraging them to
A powerful means of learning empathy
1) Stop what they are doing.
is for our children to watch us demonstrate
2) Take a deep breath – in through nose, out through mouth.
empathy for others. What we say and do in
3) Count to five.
everyday life become powerful examples of how to treat others.
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EDUCATION
School’s in By Brooke Evans-Butler
Choosing a school for your child is a big decision – so how do you ensure you make the right choice for your child?
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ll parents want the same thing from their child’s school – for their child to be happy, learn and
thrive in a supportive environment. There are many wonderful government schools in WA but there are many other options available, from schools providing a religious-based education, to schools that
WHY I CHOSE A PUBLIC SCHOOL FOR MY CHILD
have a teaching philosophy that differs from the mainstream.
increased autonomy to make decisions
Do your research and talk to the
at a local level. Like government schools,
schools and other parents to help make
independent public schools do not charge
your decision – and remember that you
tuition fees to parents or have selective
know your child best and what will be the
enrolment processes.
best decision for your child and family.
A Department of Education
We take a look at the range of schooling
spokesperson says the Australian
options available for your consideration.
Government believes students should
GOVERNMENT/PUBLIC According to ABS Schools Australia, as of 2013 there were 2164 government
have access to high quality education with access to the best teachers and an up-todate and relevant curriculum. “Under the students-first approach,
schools (both primary and secondary) in
the Australian Government will work with
New South Wales.
the states and territories, teachers and
If you want to enrol your child into a
parents to focus on four key areas: teacher
local government school, you should note
quality, school autonomy, parental
that each school has an ‘enrolment zone’,
engagement and a strong curriculum,”
so you will have to check which school
they say.
zone your address falls into. However,
For Mel Hearse, the choice to send her boys Max (9) and Sam (7) to her local government school was an easy one because she says they live in a great school district. “We plan to send them onto the high school as well as we are lucky enough to be in the school district for a high school with a lot of quality programs that many kids apply for out of district, so there was no need to get them into a feeder private school in primary school,” she says. “If we weren’t living here and guaranteed a spot at the high school, I would have explored more private schools but as we do, it was unnecessary.”
For more information on Government
even with these school zones in place you
schooling in NSW go to www.dec.nsw.
do still have some choice when it comes to
gov.au/about-us/news-at-det/news/
choosing your child’s school. If you wish
back-to-school-support
particular education philosophy,” he says. These include:
to enrol your child in a government school that is outside of your local government school zone or district (for example, you might wish to enrol your child in a school
director of the Association of
to your workplace) you can apply – but a
Independent Schools of NSW, says
place is not guaranteed.
independent schools are a diverse group
Schools affiliated with a range of Christian denominations such as
Dr Geoff Newcombe, executive
that is close to a grandparent’s house or
Anglican, Lutheran, Presbyterian schools •
Non-denominational Christian schools
of schools serving a range of different
•
Islamic schools
considering government schooling there
communities. “Many independent
•
Jewish schools
are also independent public schools,
schools provide a religious or values
•
Montessori schools
which are government schools that have
based education while others promote a
•
Rudolf Steiner schools
In addition to your options if you are
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Schools that specialise in meeting the needs of students with disabilities. Geoff says as of 2013 there were 468
independent schools in NSW, enrolling 185,000 students. “More than half of all NSW
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independent schools have fewer than 200 students and 68 per cent are located in lower socio-economic communities, demonstrating that the growth in independent schooling has considerably increased the availability of choice for families while changing the profile of the sector,” he says. Geoff says parents often choose an
“Many independent schools also provide a very wide range of subject choices or extra-curricular activities, such
independent school because the school’s
as music, drama and sports programs,”
ethos and values reflect those held in the
he says. “Another significant attraction
home. “This may relate to the religious
of independent schools is that many are
faith or other cultural factors that are
combined K to 12 schools –allowing a
important to the family. For students, a
student to start and finish their entire
significant element of an independent
schooling in the same school.”
school education is the focus on pastoral
For information on independent
care provided by many schools, which
schools, go to the Association of
helps to develop a very strong sense of
Independent Schools of NSW,
community and inclusion for students and
www.aisnsw.edu.au
their families.”
Karen Morton chose a small private Christian school for her girls Laura (8) and Emily (6). “Although we do not practise religion at home, we do believe in Christian values and are happy for our children to learn about God. We love the close ‘family’ atmosphere that our school has, and the smaller class sizes mean more individual attention for students. While we understand that there are always going to be some bad influences wherever they go, we think that in a Christian school they are far more likely to learn in a gentle and positive environment.”
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CATHOLIC According to
20 percent of students in Australia attend a Catholic school – with just over
Ross, Catholic
747,000 students at 1711 Catholic schools
schools focus on the
across Australia in 2013.
development of the
Ross Fox, executive director of the
20 percent of students in Australia attend a Catholic school…there are 161 Catholic schools in WA, with almost 70,000 students.
whole child. “They
National Catholic Education Commission,
are more than just
says Catholic schools are very inclusive.
test results,” he says. “Catholic schools
“In recent years the fastest growing
strive to meet the unique needs of every
student groups in Catholic education have
individual student.” “Catholic schools are animated by
been indigenous students and students with special needs,” he says. If you want to enrol in a Catholic
the mission and tradition of the Catholic Church stretching over more than 2000
school, you must contact the individual
years,” Ross adds. “In their work they
school to put in an application. Submitting
exhibit a deep commitment to Christian
an application does not guarantee you
values, the example of Jesus Christ and his
placement, and you will usually be asked
teachings. This means Catholic schools,
to attend an interview. You do not have to
among other things, often display a deep
be Catholic to attend a Catholic school,
commitment to social justice and prioritise
but enrolment priority is usually given
the needs of their local community.” For more details about Catholic
to Catholic students. However, Catholic schools are very inclusive, so ask your local
schooling visit www.ncec.catholic.edu.
school about their enrolment procedures.
au
WHY I CHOSE A CATHOLIC SCHOOL FOR MY CHILD Aimee Waller says she will be sending her two year old son, Riley, to a local Catholic school. “We are Catholic and I like the community spirit of a Catholic school,” she says. “I am a Catholic school teacher as well so that helped make the decision.”
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K-6 co-educational, multi-faith school 6 Wyatt Avenue, Belrose, NSW 2085 Telephone: 9451 8395 www.johncolet.nsw.edu.au
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STEINER Tracey Puckeridge, CEO Steiner Education Australia, says every school has to meet the same curriculum requirements – the difference with Steiner schools is the way they teach. In the early childhood sector, experience is based on play in a Steiner school. The children do not use computers or iPads, but learn through imitation. All toys are made from natural materials and the space is set up like a home environment. “The curriculum is based on the developmental needs of the children in each year to engage the child at each stage of their development,” Tracey says.
The children do not use computers or iPads, but learn through imitation. All toys are made from natural materials and the space is set up like a home environment.
“A unique feature of Steiner education is that children will have the same teacher throughout their primary years,” Tracey says. “This creates the opportunity for strong relationships between teacher, student and the student’s family. One of the highest indications for excellent learning outcomes involves positive student/teacher relationships.”
In NSW a child must start school no later than the beginning of the year they turn 6. Non-compulsary options are available for younger children, but check with your chosen school for their enrolment requirements. When you put in your application to a school, you may need the following: • Your child’s birth certificate • Proof of address • Court orders (if applicable) • Immunisation records If your child has any medical conditions, allergies or special requirements it is important to tell the school. NOTE: If you want to enrol your child into a private school, call the school for their enrolment requirements. Also ask how far in advance you will need to submit your child’s enrolment application – some parents will put their child’s name down at prestigious or in-demand schools when their child is a newborn!
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WHY I CHOSE A STEINER SCHOOL FOR MY CHILD Karen Lacey spent a lot of time researching different styles of teaching and decided on a Steiner school for her daughter Chimaera (5) for a number of reasons. For starters, the sense of community was something Karen wanted for her children. “We don’t have a very large extended family and after moving we lost regular contact with most of our friends. The Steiner school lifestyle seemed (and has so far proven to be) almost like joining a family. It’s a holistic approach that is not just about learning, but a way of life in which cooperation and contribution is promoted and relied upon, freely given and never demanded. I wanted my daughter to grow up feeling like she is part of something bigger than just herself and her immediate family because I believe that tie, which exists for everyone but seems so rarely felt, is crucial to positive mental health and wellbeing.” Karen says this is particularly important to her because Chimaera is on the Autism spectrum. In addition, because Chimaera is ‘face blind’, Karen felt that having a class teacher that stays with the child throughout their schooling instead of changing every year was a great advantage.
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WHY I CHOSE A MONTESSORI SCHOOL FOR MY CHILD Eva Schmalkuche was a Montessori student herself, so with fond memories of her time there, it was a simple decision to send her son Jaxon (5) to a Montessori school. “I like that the class sizes are much smaller with a mix of ages, so the older students help the younger students,” she says. “Their philosophy is attractive because it allows the child to choose what they want to do, and they learn things other than the curriculum including sharing, socialising with older students and responsibility.” “There is a lot of misperception surrounding Montessori – but it’s a fantastic grounding,” Eva says. “Parents considering Montessori should not fear something that is not mainstream – the Montessori community is open for discussion and is very welcoming.”
Allowing children to work to their own capabilities adds to their concentration and self-esteem, and encourages them to think creatively and independently. environment, and allowing children to
MONTESSORI
work to their own capabilities adds to
The Montessori philosophy is different
their concentration and self-esteem, and
to ‘mainstream’ education, with an
encourages them to think creatively and
emphasis on independence, by providing
independently. “Montessori has been
an environment of activities for children to
around for over 100 years and it is proven
use at their own pace.
to help the whole child in a holistic way,”
Christine Harrison, president Montessori Australia Foundation, says
she says. She recommends parents go to a
Montessori thinks about the whole child.
Montessori school to see for themselves
“Our view of education is as an aid to
the philosophy in action and to see
life – to help them grow from childhood to
how Montessori can benefit their
maturity. Each child is individual… and we
child. Christine also says there are also
encourage each child to follow their own
Montessori long day care centres with
path of learning.”
programs for babies and toddlers, which
Children are in classes of ‘multi-age’
may appeal to parents of younger children
groups. For example, children aged three
who want to get a taste for the Montessori
to six years will be in the same class.
philosophy.
Christine says children work to their ability with sets of materials in a prepared
For more information visit www.montessori.org.au
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There are so many school options, so ensure you do your
EDUCATION
Making a decision research and ask lots of questions to make the best decision for your child. SOME THINGS TO CONSIDER INCLUDE: •
Location. As in real estate, location is very important when choosing a school. If the best school choice for your child is the government school across the road from your house, then that will be very convenient! If your preferred school is further afield, you will need to take into consideration travel time and
Finding out more information
public transport (if required).
A great way to find out about a school is to go see it in
•
The school’s uniform requirements.
•
If your child has a special interest, such as music, sport or
the flesh. ‘Open days’, conducted by some schools, offer an opportunity to view its resources and meet staff. If you can, talk to parents of students already attending the
languages. Ask the school what programs they offer. •
The school’s policies on homework and bullying.
•
The cost. The expense of uniforms, fees or additional costs
school that you are considering. Of course, not everyone is going
can vary greatly between schools so it is best to find out these
to have the same opinion of a school, but speaking to a few
details when enquiring about enrolment to ensure they fit
parents is a good way to get a feel of the school culture.
within your budget.
Go to the MySchool website, www.myschool.edu.au This website enables you to search profiles of schools, as well as statistical information and resources and performance indicators.
HOME SCHOOLING Parents are the first educators of their
family and friends who may question a
children – so why not consider home
parent’s ability on being able to educate
schooling and extend this important role to
their child.”
their everyday schooling? Stuart Chapman, director of
However, he says the advantages are many. Although some people worry
Homeschool WA, says parents choose
about the opportunity for home schooled
home schooling for a number of reasons
children to socialise with other children,
including:
Stuart says home schooled children learn
•
Bullying.
better social skills because they interact
•
Not being happy with the academic
with children and adults of different ages
progress of their child at school.
instead of only their same-age peers in the
•
Concerns about behaviour.
school yard. There are also advantages
•
Concerns with the culture of the
to the child’s education, including the
school.
opportunity for increased parent/child
Deciding to home school their
interaction and ensuring your child gets
child with a learning difficulty.
lots of one-on-one attention. “A parent is
•
Stuart says there is a lot of support
a highly motivated educator,” he says. “A
available for parents wanting to take the
teacher is a paid employee who will never
plunge, however, they need to consider the
make the sacrifices a parent will. Parents
time they can commit. “Home education
will always make the extra effort.”
involves a huge commitment on (the
For more information about
parent’s) behalf. In some cases they will
Home Schooling in NSW you should
need to drop, reduce or reschedule work
contact the Board of Studies NSW
commitments, and they need to come to
www.boardofstudies.nsw.edu.au/
grips with some negative attitudes from
home-schooling
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WHY I CHOSE HOME SCHOOLING FOR MY CHILD Nancy Van Ross decided to home school daughter Mackenzie (8) when Mackenzie developed Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD). She now also home schools her son, Pheonix (6). “Initially the adjusting period was quite intense as I had a young baby who wasn’t keen on sleeping at the time, however after a couple of months things really started to fall into place,” she says. “Our family loves the flexibility of home schooling and how it caters for each child individually. If parents are considering taking the plunge my only advice is to let your children be your guide, work at their pace and with their interests. We love the home schooling lifestyle and are thrilled we took the plunge.”
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Happy, mindful and motivated children at John Colet
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K-6 co-educational, multi-faith school 6 Wyatt Avenue, Belrose, NSW 2085 Telephone: 9451 8395 www.johncolet.nsw.edu.au
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ohn Colet School is an independent, multi-faith, coeducational infants and primary school with intake years from K – 6. As well as the NSW curriculum, the school also teaches Mindfulness, Shakespeare, Philosophy, Sanskrit, Latin and modern languages, choral singing, interschool sports, debating and drama. Hot, freshly-prepared vegetarian lunches are provided daily in their dining hall. Students can choose from many clubs and activities. The effectiveness of John Colet School’s teaching program can be seen in happy, motivated children who are enthusiastic about learning. The school’s extended curriculum stretches all students and provides a rounded education. Ethical, spiritual and character development is central to the school’s values. John Colet School is consistently placed among the top ranking primary schools in Australia.
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rinity Grammar School understands the importance of making a good beginning and providing the foundation steps in a comprehensive all round education. Trinity is committed to knowing and caring for every boy and giving them the best possible start to their school life. Parents are offered a choice of two campuses — the Preparatory School at Strathfield (Pre-K-6) and the Junior School at Summer Hill (K-6). The boys’ needs at either location are met by a differentiated, inquiry based curriculum, delivered by motivated, creative and caring classroom teachers using exceptional facilities and resources. Pre-Kindergarten offered only at Strathfield is the launching pad from which your son’s exciting journey in education begins. Bridging the gap between childcare and formal education, it provides a critical foundational year, preparing boys for their first formal year of School – Kindergarten. At the core of Trinity’s curriculum is the International Baccalaureate Primary Years Programme (PYP) which guides boys to become independent inquiry learners. The PYP, for students from Pre-Kindergarten to Year 6, focuses on the development of the whole child, in the classroom and also in the world outside. It offers a framework that meets the academic, social, physical, emotional and cultural needs of each child. It gives your son ownership of his learning to develop his research and critical thinking skills. These primary years at Trinity will guide your son to grow in mind, body and spirit, in an environment where he is at the centre of his learning experiences. For more information visit www.trinity.nsw.edu.au
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The (Primary Years Programme) framework meets the academic, social, physical, emotional and cultural needs of each child. It gives your son ownership of his learning to develop his research and criticial thinking skills.
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oseville College Junior School teachers, Mrs Henrietta Miller and Mrs Abi Woldhuis, presented at the prestigious International Baccalaureate (IB) Asia Pacific Conference in Macau, featuring keynote speaker and former Australian Prime Minister, Ms Julia Gillard. Roseville College showcased the practical applications of its Primary Years Program (PYP), which focuses on learning outcomes for girls that include international awareness and global citizenship, as well as how Roseville College inspires students to put their learning into practice with a practical “call to action”.
International mindedness helps students understand and appreciate cultures, and also teaches them how to handle themselves in a global digital world (called ‘global citizenship skills’) and be charitable towards others.
TIPS FOR SCHOOL READINESS 1. Social and Emotional Model how to make new friends, share and care for others, explaining to your child how and why you do what you do; these skills can be explicitly taught. 2. Independence and Personal Responsibility Dedicate time to helping your child learn ageappropriate personal hygiene, manners and how to look after their own (and others’) property; and learn strategies to manage separation anxiety.
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3. Academic, Curiosity and Concept Development Research fun, easy ways to nurture your child’s curiosity, and look for activities that can be played “in the everyday”; ie. while travelling, cooking/making things, or finding/ counting items at home or the shops. 4.
Physical Allow your child to attempt (safe) challenges to realise their physical abilities and limitations. Practise both fine motor skills (ie. using pencils, scissors or various fasteners like zippers; even eating from a lunchbox), and gross motor skills (ie. safely crossing a road, climbing, balancing, running, jumping, swimming and general water survival). A school within the Anglican Schools Corporation
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FOOD & NUTRITION
Winter Warmers Dietitian Kate Bullen dishes out some handy nutrition ideas that help boost immunity to help keep your family healthy in the colder months.
A
s the weather cools down and the days are shorter, it is a great time to stay indoors,
Rainbow colour food
watch a movie, build a fort out of couch
• Red - Tomatoes, red capsicum, red grapes
cushions and pop on the Ugg boots. Research shows that we are 80 per cent more likely to get
• Orange - Pumpkin, carrots, oranges, mangoes, sweet potato
a cold in winter. While it might be cold outside, winter doesn’t have to be the unhealthiest season. Before you go into hibernation, there are a number
• Yellow - Corn, pineapple, lemons
of things you can do to keep your family fit and healthy over the winter months.
1
All the colours of the rainbow
Including as many fruits and vegetables of all
• Green - Avocado, green apple, peas, broccoli, spinach, kiwifruit • Blue, indigo & violet - Blueberries, prunes, eggplant
different colours will give your body a great mix of many nutrients – especially antioxidants. Talking to your children and asking them which fruits and vegetables are colours of the rainbow is a great conversation starter. For example, red fruits and vegetables contain lycopene; purple and blue fruits and vegetables contain anthocyanin. Don’t be put off by the unusual names of these antioxidants. All the different antioxidants have unique benefits such as protecting the cells in our body from damage and helping us to stay well. www.offspringmagazine.com.au
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2
Vitamin D
What is vitamin D and why is it linked to winter? Vitamin D is formed in our skin when it is exposed to UV light from sunlight. Vitamin D is also contained in some foods, but the main source for most people is sunlight. There has been a great deal of research into vitamin D and the impact it has on our immunity. Australia is generally a Sunsmart country which means we try and
WINTER CHICKEN SOUP Ingredients: l
2 T olive oil
½ brown onion, finely chopped l 4 carrots, peeled and sliced thinly
l
l
3 celery stalks, sliced thinly
l
¼ cup fresh parsley, chopped
l
2 bay leaves
l
½ cup rice
l
1 whole bbq chicken, shredded and
1L chicken stock (plus some extra stock skin discarded l Pepper to taste cubes if you want to boost the flavour)
l
may need about two to three
celery Method: 1. Heat olive oil in large saucepan. Add onion, carrots and and leaves bay parsley, stock, Add 2. ). and sauté until softened (1-2 minutes rice, Add 3. simmer on low heat for 30-60 minutes – the longer the better. minutes). chicken and pepper and allow rice to cook through (around 15-20
hours of sunlight to the face,
4. Serve up and enjoy!
protect ourselves as much as possible from the sun to prevent skin cancer. In winter in the southern parts of Australia, the Cancer Council advises that people
arms and hands, spread over a week to maintain adequate vitamin D exposure. In northern Australia, where UV radiation is more intense, this is not necessary. What this means is if you live in southern Australia, from May to August when the UV index is likely to be below three, you may not need any sun protection. Vitamin D research tells us that l
Lack of vitamin D can cause
bones to become thin and brittle and has been linked to delayed development in children. l
Vitamin D deficiency can
affect our immunity.
3
Zinc
Zinc Content of Food
Zinc is needed by our body to make white blood cells which help to fight infections and viruses. While vitamin C is often the go to when
Food
Zinc content (mg)
Vegetables and Fruit
Very little zinc content in Vegetables and Fruit
someone is unwell, you might be better off looking at your zinc intake. Adults need 8 to 14mg of zinc every day, and good sources Zinc Requirements
200ml reduced fat milk 50g cheddar cheese 100ml coconut milk
Age
Recommended Dietary Intake
MEAT AND ALTERNATIVES
in such a wide variety
1-3 yrs.
3mg/day
of foods, it is quite
4-8 yrs.
4mg/day
100g beef stir fry 30g mixed nuts 10g sesame seeds 50g lentils/legumes, dried
9-13 yrs.
6mg/day
GRAIN PRODUCTS
to the tables to give some
14-18 yrs.
7-13mg/day
examples of zinc content
Adults
8-14mg/day
of zinc include beef, lamb, egg yolk, legumes, fish, chicken, mushrooms and some nuts. Since zinc is found
easy to get your daily requirement. Please refer
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7.2 1.5 0.5 2
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Soups
As soon as the temperature starts to drop, I make soups. They are easy, nutritious, freeze well and can be a meal in themselves. In winter they are great to warm us up and my children love pureed soups as an entrée to their dinner. Soups are also great for using up leftover vegetables at the end of the week. As an added bonus, soups are a great way to add extra vegetables to our meals. Our family favourite is pumpkin soup, but I will try and add in a pea and ham soup, a Moroccan lentil soup or a slow cooked chicken and vegetable soup as something different. Homemade is always going to be the best option, but there are some great packaged alternatives also available at the supermarket. Check the nutrition panel to compare soups.
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Hot chocolate
To end this on a high note I couldn’t go past research that shows that cocoa and cacao contain powerful antioxidants that could improve our immunity. I think
“I couldn’t go past research tha t shows that cocoa and cacao contain powerful antioxid ants that could improve our immunity.”
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Sen sational
Sing a p o re BY COLLEEN WILLIS
Far from a boring, predictable place to visit, Singapore is now a very appealing travel destination for Australian families.
M
any years ago I did a
• Adventure Cove Waterpark
• Dolphin Island
stopover in Singapore
• S.E.A. Aquarium
• Universal Studios
en-route to Europe. I
• Underwater World
• Singapore Cable Car
found it be ‘nice’, but, to be honest a bit dull. So when my husband suggested a family holiday to Singapore, I wasn’t overly enthused. When the time came to go, it was
For more information visit www.sentosa.com.sg
Singapore Zoo
This is a great zoo to visit. You can stroll around at your leisure
with some trepidation that I boarded our flight;
or hop on and off the trams.
however, I am happy to say it was completely
• Jungle Breakfast with the Wildlife • Animal Shows
WORTH IT. I can honestly say that it was one of the best family holidays we’ve ever had!
• Follow the ‘Feeding Trails’
• Animal Rides
• Rainforest Kidzworld (bring your bathers!) • The Night Safari (one of the most popular tourist
Highlights include • English is widely spoken • Clean and safe • Good, cheap public transport • Good shopping • Not much time difference
Top Tip When planning your holiday, don’t book a rt. transfer from the airpo sly lou icu rid These are overpriced and taxis are cheap and readily available.
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Sentosa Island
Where do I start?? This place just teems with fun and adventure. We did a ‘Swim with the Dolphins’ package and it was truly magical.
activities in Singapore) For more information visit www.zoo.com.sg
Explore the neighbourhoods Did someone say shopping? • Chinatown • Little India (not that great for prams but good for cheap shoes!) For more information visit www.chinatown.sg | www.littleindia.com.sg
TRAVEL
Handy Hint
Singapore doesn’t fo llow the same school timet able as us. If you can avoid their school holidays it can sometimes be cheape r and less crowded.
Singapore Flyer A wonderful way to view the city. • Towers 165 metres above the city • Open day and night
• Offers 360 degree unobstructed views For more information visit www.singaporeflyer.com
Clarke Quay
This spot has a great vibe to it. It’s a terrific
Gardens by the Bay
These are massive gardens spanning over 100 hectares. Some of the gardens are free and some you pay to visit. There is something for everyone here. • Cloud Forest (amazing) • OCBC Skyway
Top Tip
place to have dinner and relax.
If you want to oney, save some m hing go for somet r he slightly furt out.
• Stroll along the waterfront • Restaurants • Catch a boat tour along the river • Great cocktails! • Watch and play in the fountain
that shoots out water from the ground.
For more information visit www.clarkequay.com.sq
• Children’s Garden (Bring your bathers!) • Supertree Grove For more information visit www.gardensbythebay.com.sg
Famous Hotels
Great spots to enjoy at Singapore Sling at • The Raffles Hotel
• Marina Bay Sands
For more information visit www.raffles.com/Singapore www.marinabaysands.com
Where to stay There are several places that spring to mind, from bustling Orchard Rd to Clarke Quay and Sentosa. • Shangri-La’s Rasa Sentosa Resort (higher end hotel) • Novotel Clarke Quay (good mid-range hotel) • York Hotel Orchard Rd (good mid-range hotel)
Getting there Direct flights take just over 8.5 hours and there are several to choose from. For more information visit www.singaporeair.com www.qantas.com.au | www.flyscoot.com
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