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10 21 seasonal fun

14 Spectacular Staycations 20 Holiday Fun a Ride Away

Regift Without Regret

The do’s and don’ts of courteous regifting

Family Activities Calendar

Find something to do every day this month in Manhattan

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6 Editor’s Note 8 New Places, New Programs 10 Regift Without Regret 11 Backup Sitter Options 12 How to Be a Grinch 16 Teaching Beyond the Classroom 34 Sick Day Rx 36 Decoding Infant Reflexes 38 Don’t Let Go—Just Yet 40 Education Directory 42 Party Central 43 Professional Services, Open Houses 45 Advertisers’ Index 46 Trip of a Lifetime

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Happy Holidays!

o matter which holiday you celebrate this month, the end of the year is typically the time many families have travel plans—to visit family, escape the cold for a week, or even just a few days away to take advantage of kids’ time off from school. But if holiday travel isn’t on your calendar yet, we’ve got just the thing for you: six out-of-the-box staycation ideas in Manhattan, plus four can’t-miss seasonal holiday events across New York City (p. 14). Of course, there’s always the trusty calendar (p. 21), chock-full of ideas for every day of the month to keep your kids active, entertained, and having a blast for the rest of 2019! Speaking of holidays, have you ever been given a gift that, while thoughtful, wasn’t your style? Chances are you’ll get at least one more this year. Not to worry! It’s 100-percent acceptable to regift any presents you receive, says Lizzie Post, greatgreat-granddaughter of etiquette guru Emily Post. Just make sure you read Lizzie’s do’s and don’ts of regifting first (p. 10)! And while we’re thinking about gifts (and the season’s hottest toys your kids are begging for)…it might be time to purge the toy box and get rid of any toys your child has outgrown. Read expert organizers’ tips for decluttering your home on p. 18. This might not be the highlight of your holiday vacation, but it will benefit your family in the long run. Wishing you and yours a happy, healthy, and fruitful holiday season! Katelin Walling Editorial Director

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Regift Without Regret

s it rude to regift? Not at all, says Lizzie Post, great-great-granddaughter of the legendary etiquette guru Emily Post, author of numerous proper-behavior books, and co-host of the Awesome Etiquette podcast. Post says she prefers to be open and honest when she regifts. She once regifted a bracelet from an old boyfriend to her cousin on her 21st birthday. “I told her that I was given the bracelet by someone who really loved me and that I thought she would appreciate it, and she was thrilled,” Post says. “It became a piece that meant something to her and that I felt good about letting go of because I let her know the history.” But even if you want your gift’s origin to remain a secret, keeping useful items in circulation is not only good for the planet, but can make others happy. Here are Post’s do’s and don’ts for courteous regifting.

Use Original Packaging

The item shouldn’t look like it’s been open, tested, or used. If you’re not telling the recipient it’s a regifted item, then it really has to look brand-new. Reminder for gift bags: Remove the tag that’s inscribed to you.

Don’t Regift Personalized Items

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else, including a wedding date or inscription. Needless to say, this is not acceptable. Unless the new recipient has the exact same wedding date, keep the gift.

Let Time Pass Before Regifting

If you’re choosing to keep your regifting a secret, Post says you need to be 99-percent sure the person you’re giving it to and the person who gave it to you aren’t going to find out. Let some time lapse before immediately regifting the item—the amount of time, according to Post, is a personal decision and calls for good judgement.

Don’t Regift Unique or Handmade Items

If someone paints you a painting or gives you a particularly unique or memorable gift (such as an Octopus planter), there’s no way to regift these items within your family or circle of friends. Avoid hurt feelings and keep the gifts or regift to a friend or relative who will never cross paths with the original giver.

Be Thoughtful About Regifting

Only regift when you think the item will benefit the person receiving it. In other words, don’t thoughtlessly regift things simply to get rid of them or save money. If it’s not a good match, sell or donate the item, Post advises.

Jaimie Seaton has been a journalist for more than 20 years and is the former Thailand correspondent for Newsweek. Her work on divorce, parenting, dating, and a wide range of topics has been featured in The Washington Post, The Guardian, Glamour, and numerous other publications.

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hile employing a nanny can be a more flexible arrangement than other child care options, you’ll need a plan B. Nannies get sick, go on vacation, and have car, family, household emergencies like anyone else. Save yourself last-minute stress by thinking ahead. Here are smart back-up plans to consider.

Drop-In Centers

Some child care centers offer an occasional drop-in option for families whose kids don’t normally attend. Typically, no advance notice is required, but you have to be pre-registered. Check with some of your local child care centers to see which ones may offer this arrangement. Ask whether the fee is based on a membership, where you can drop in up to a certain number of times in a year, or if you only pay for the days you actually use the service.

Another Nanny

Do you have friends who employ a nanny for their children? If so, see if that nanny might be willing to watch your kids on the days yours is unavailable. Your nanny can then return the favor. Of course, you check with your nanny to make sure she’d be okay with this—and talk to your friend—before you’re in a jam.

Nanny Shares

Find out if you can join another family’s nanny share, a situation where two or more families share a nanny.

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They’re busy too, needless to say, and should not be taken for granted. But that said, if you have a close friend nearby who stays home with her kids, she’d probably be willing to help you out. Again, you’ll want to broach the subject well before your hour of need.

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If none of these options pan out, and the type of job you have allows for it, you could plan to work from home on those days when your nanny can’t make it. Discuss this with your boss before the time comes.

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Don’t put the ho-ho-hum in the holiday season! By Deborah Skolnik

rom taking the perfect family photo for your holiday cards to decorating your house so it’s picture-perfect and scurrying around finding the must-haves on your children’s gift wish lists, it’s easy to suck the joy right out of the holiday season. If, by some chance, you’d rather have a holiday season full of cheer where everyone is happy, we have recommendations for you! Here’s how to put the bah-humbug in the holidays—or not: 1. Insist on getting the perfect photo for your annual holiday card. Dress up everyone in their finest clothes and keep stagedirecting them (“a little to the left…a little to the right”) until their smiles are as frozen as a snowman’s. Instead: Go for a shot that’s casual or silly—it’s what life is really like with kids. 2. Knock yourself out trying to find this season’s hottest overpriced toy, even if your child didn’t ask for it. Instead: Have your child help you pick out a toy for Toys for Tots or another organization that brings joy to children in need. Show her that it’s what caring families do. 3. Write a glowing holiday letter to your family and friends, then spend the rest of the season wishing your life were half as awesome as you made it sound. Instead: Be honest about some of the struggles you’ve faced, like losing your battle with the scale or struggling to make your kids understand that “no means no.” People will appreciate your honesty.

4. Scurry around so much getting ready for the holidays that you spend less time with your kids than you want to. Instead: Slow down and enjoy the season together. Take an evening to drive around and admire the holiday lights or go iceskating one afternoon. 5. Decorate your home with lots of “don’t-touch” holiday objects, then get upset when your child breaks one (or worse, get scared when he ends up hurting himself). Instead: Learn how to keep your home festive but hazard free. 6. Drag your children to a nighttime holiday religious service, then feel embarrassed when they can’t keep it together. Instead: Look for a “family” service, where kids are welcome and a certain amount of squirminess is permitted. 7. Pressure your kids to give hugs and kisses to family friends and relatives they barely know. Instead: Remember that kids, like adults, have the right to decide whom they want to be cozy with. If your child doesn’t feel like it, ask him to give a simple wave or say a friendly hello. Really young kids may not even be able to manage that much, but it’s okay; the adults around them will almost certainly understand. 8. Go into debt making this “the best holiday ever.” Instead: Create a reasonable budget and stick to it. You’ll start the new year feeling refreshed—not impoverished.

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is the season to stay in town! That’s because New York City has some of the best staycation options—and we don’t mean a visit to the Met or a chilly walk through Central Park. In fact, once we started thinking outside the box, we discovered some extraordinary and innovative ways to spend your holiday.

in Hudson Yards, the Crowne Plaza HY36’s Hibernation Vacation Suite is stocked with cozy sleeping bags and plush throw blankets. Artificial candles, crackling fireplace sounds, and a mini chocolate fountain for deconstructed s’mores bring elements of camping into your room.

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Don’t just go to the theater. Book a night at the Row NYC hotel, just steps away from some of the biggest shows including The Lion King, which is just a block away. This year Row NYC is offering the Bloomingdale’s Shop & Stay package, which includes exclusive in-store savings, a branded duffle bag, and a $50 gift card to the store. For the perfect pre-theater or post-shopping treat, stop by City Kitchen, a food hall located right off Row NYC’s lobby, for snacks such as Dough’s famous doughnuts.

Glamp in the City

It may be too cold for camping, but several hotels are bringing the experience inside. The JW Marriott Essex House New York, just a stone’s throw from the Wollman Rink at Central Park, sets up custom camper tents in family-sized luxury suites. Further downtown

At the new Conrad New York Midtown, the first-ever FAO Schwarz Holiday Suite comes decorated with the iconic store’s favorites for the season—including a mini gourmet kitchen, ride-on train tracks, and DJ turntables. Suite guests also get a private shopping spree and tour of the store by an FAO Schwarz toy soldier.

A Flavor for All Taste Buds

During an invigorating walk across the Brooklyn Bridge, it helps to know a cozy food hall awaits on the other side. That place is Dumbo’s Time Out Market New York, which serves Juliana’s Pizza (without the wait), and the now-legendary blueberry pancakes courtesy of Clinton Street Baking Co., alongside views of the East River waterfront and lower Manhattan skyline. Before you eat, take a spin on nearby Jane’s Carousel—which is not just for kids.

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Spend an afternoon at Madame Tussauds New York, where you can snap Insta-worthy pics of your kids with their favorite celebrities, comic heroes, and more—including Taylor Swift and the Hulk.

Locals as Tourists

Just blocks away from the Rockefeller Center Christmas Tree, The Knickerbocker, aka The Knick, is a boutique hotel that feels like an oasis even though it’s in busy Times Square. Relax over a meal at Charlie Palmer at The Knick, which offers a kids’ menu that’s as varied as it is healthy. (Salmon and veggies on a kids’ menu? Now we’re talking.) Plus, it’s steps away from popular destinations, such as Madame Tussauds, National Geographic Encounter: Ocean Odyssey, and Ripley’s Believe It or Not! Don’t forget to ask about the hotel’s holiday partnership with Shoott—which is offering an hourlong professional photoshoot to commemorate your special staycation. It could yield the perfect picture for next year’s holiday card.

Sweet Indulgence

There’s a new shake in town this holiday season, and you can find it at Black Tap 35th, the restaurant’s new flagship location in Herald Square. The Holiday Shake (available Dec. 1-31) is a cheesecake-flavored milkshake with a vanilla-frosted rim and white, gold, and silver sprinkles. As if that weren’t decadent enough—it’s topped with a slice of white-chocolate, macadamia-nut cheesecake, whipped cream, and a cherry. The kids will go bananas watching this and other shakes come to life at the Black Tap’s CrazyShake Bar.

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Lambeth Hochwald is a New York City-based journalist covering trends, relationships, and life in New York City.

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After you stop by Brookfield Place in the Financial District, head up to One World Observatory for a spectacular view of Manhattan (and some Instaworthy photo ops with your family).

TRADITIONAL TREATS IN NYC You won’t feel like a tourist with seasonal activities at these New York City destinations. Shopping, and Santa, and Skating, Oh My! Brookfield Place is Financial District’s must-see shopping center, located across from One World Trade. It hosts a Santa meet-up, ice-skating on The Rink, and Light Up Luminaries, a spectacular light installation. While you’re in the neighborhood, head up to One World Observatory for an unbelievable view of Manhattan. Marvel at Mini and Vintage Trains At the New York Botanical Garden, the Holiday Train Show features miniature model trains that zip through more than 175 mini landmarks, including the Brooklyn Bridge and the Statue of Liberty. Or head to Brooklyn’s Transit Museum and take a Holiday Nostalgia Ride on a vintage 1930s train car (on select Sundays this season.) Be Wowed by Lights For the first time since 2007, the Bronx Zoo is bringing back its dazzling light display as part of its Bronx Zoo Holiday Lights celebration. The event features custom Asian lanterns, animated light shows as well as ice-carving demos, train rides, and holiday-themed music performances. Support Local Artists Shop for gifts and crafts by local artists at one of the many holiday markets that pop up around town—including in Union Square and Columbus Circle. In Midtown, the Bank of America Winter Village at Bryant Park, now in its 18th year, features the only free-admission skating rink in New York City, as well as more than 170 holiday kiosks curated by Urbanspace. And don’t miss the Holiday Handmade Cavalcade at Brooklyn Historical Society (Dec. 7-8) and the Holiday Market in Astoria (Dec. 1, 8, and 15). BigAppleParent 15

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By having your whole family sort through their belongings and deciding what to get rid of, you all are making room for new clothes, books, toys, and more— and giving new life to your old items.

Declutter Your Home

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Simple strategies that will make a big difference By Madeleine Burry

iles of papers, overstuffed closets, and toys scattered everywhere. Does this sound familiar? Clutter can seem like an unavoidable, but essentially harmless, way of life, particularly for families in tight quarters. But chaos and disorganization can have a negative impact, both physically and mentally. “As the clutter piles up, so do the feelings of anxiety,” says Elsa Elbert, professional organizer and owner of the Los Angeles-based personal organizing company Composed Living. And that’s true for kids, as well as moms and dads. “When kids are surrounded by clutter or too many things, they can have difficulty choosing what to play with and this can impact their attention span and ability to concentrate,” says Jane Stoller, professional organizer and author of Decluttering for Dummies. The reasons to declutter are clear, Stoller adds: an increase in productivity, happiness, and free time to spend with loved ones. And the actual process doesn’t have to be daunting if you do it right.

Get the Family Involved

Before you dive into a declutter project, keep in mind it will be less successful as a solo mission. “It is very important that everyone in the house is aware and on board with your decluttering mission,” Stoller advises. Start by having a conversation with your significant other. “Go through why decluttering will help the household and your relationship,” Stoller says. These benefits may include more time to spend together or less early-morning stress about locating the kids’ sports equipment before the school bus arrives. And get your kids involved, too. “Ask your children to go through 18

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their rooms and make two piles—the things they love, and the things they don’t love so much,” Elbert suggests. This will help them feel empowered, and far more willing to be part of the process. Another trick: Let kids know their toys will be donated to others—and by sorting through them, they’re clearing space for new toys. You can also gamify decluttering to encourage participation, Stoller says. Try setting the timer for 30 minutes, she suggests. If your kids declutter 20 items and put them into their boxes in 30 minutes, they get a small reward.

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Even after you’ve sorted the mail and thrown out stained clothes, more mail will enter your home, and you’ll drip more coffee on your jeans. Decluttering is not a one-and-done project. “It should be an automatic part of your daily routines and lifestyle,” Stoller says. Her advice? Before you purchase an item or allow it into your space, question if it will provide value. If it won’t, don’t allow it inside your door. Avoid impulse purchases; a list or clearly defined purpose when you head into a store can help. Marty Basher, home organization expert for Modular Closets, suggests making decluttering a routine. “Schedule a time each week, or even each day, to tidy up and get things in their place,” he says. That way, you won’t get overwhelmed by the volume of items in your home. If you find yourself avoiding the task, just remember, decluttering benefits you—and your family—in important ways. As Elbert says, “Decluttering, in combination with creating easy-to-maintain systems, is a great way to turn your home into the sanctuary you and your family deserve.”

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TIPS FOR DECLUTTERING SUCCESS Giving your whole house an overhaul in one day can be overwhelming, so start with these tips to get in the groove. Start small. If you are overwhelmed by the entire house, tackle one space at a time, suggests Jane Stoller, professional organizer and author of Decluttering for Dummies. For example, attack the kitchen junk drawer or an unruly closet. Alternatively, choose one category— papers, sweaters, or that Tupperware collection. Use a timer. “Set a timer for 15 minutes and see how much you can accomplish,” says Marty Basher, home organization expert for Modular Closets, who finds that 15 minutes is the perfect amount of time to bring order to a bathroom cabinet or a heaping pile of mail. Elsa Elbert, professional organizer and owner of Composed Living, says other easy-to-tackle spots are sock drawers and kids’ dressers, along with shelves of expired food in the pantry. Start with non-sentimental items. Going through the kids’ artwork or baby clothes can be hard because of all the emotions attached, so begin your decluttering with items that aren’t laden with sentiment, Basher says. Choose a donation spot. “Every time you find anything you don’t love or no longer use, immediately place it in the donation station,” Elbert says. Put an appointment on your calendar to drop things off monthly (or less frequently, depending on how much it piles up), Basher suggests. “If you want to make a little extra money, sell your items on eBay or your local Facebook marketplace,” he suggests. Go room by room. Divvying up the task makes it far more manageable. Once you’ve selected a room, be prepared to go through and categorize items into piles for toss, donate/sell, and keep, Basher says. Make sure to put an organizational system in place so closets and tables don’t revert to their pre-decluttering look. “The key is to make sure everything has a place or a ‘home,’” he adds. Cut down on keepsakes. Consider having a curated—not comprehensive—collection of your little ones’ arts-and-crafts projects. “For your own personal memorabilia and those of your kids, sort through your keepsakes and think hard about their importance,” Basher says. “Only keep items that you feel will be important to look back at years from now, or ones to share with your kids.”

Saturday, December 14 at 11AM TheaterWorksUSA’s production of Peter Pan is based on John Caird and Trevor Nunn’s 1982 adaptation, which was originally developed for London’s Royal Shakespeare Company. This enchanting production celebrates childhood and captures the magic of the imagination. Ages 3+ TICKETS $30 ENJOY $14 TICKETS AS A 10CLUB MEMBER. 199 Chambers St. (BMCC campus), New York, NY 10007 Tickets and Membership: Call (212) 220 - 1460 order online: www.TribecaPAC.org

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Every room in the 100-year-old mansion at Old Westbury Gardens will be decked out in holiday décor.

Santa is at Hicks Nurseries for visits with families every day through Christmas.

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Hicks Nurseries Around the holidays, Hicks Nurseries is far more than a home and garden store. In addition to getting all of your holiday decoration shopping done, you can enjoy the animated children’s Christmas story Cookies for Santa, a visit with Santa, drop your letter in the North Pole mailbox, or stop by the café for a cup of hot chocolate. Visit It: 100 Jericho Turnpike, Westbury; hicksnurseries.com; 516-334-0066

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Listed on the National Register of Historic Places, Old Westbury Gardens is home to a 100-year-old mansion, furnished with beautiful English antiques. On select dates from Dec. 1-22, every room in the mansion will be decked out in magnificent holiday decor for Christmas at Westbury House, featuring Christmas trees, cookies, cider, and even a visit from Santa. Visit It: 71 Old Westbury Road, Old Westbury; oldwestburygardens.org; 516-333-0048

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Santa will dive into the aquarium’s 110,000-gallon Ocean Beyond the Sound exhibit, which is home to 8- and 9-foot sharks.

The Whaling Museum and Education Center of Cold Spring Harbor is hosting a variety of holiday events this season, including a holiday craft extravaganza.

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The Whaling Museum and Education Center of Cold Spring Harbor

Get up close and personal with all of your favorite sea critters, such as harbor seals, sea turtles, crabs, and lobsters. On select days throughout December, watch Santa take a dive in the shark tank and snap a picture when he swims up to the glass. Other fun wintry features include a menorah lighting ceremony, Flurry Zone! An Indoor Snow Experience, which sets off a “snowfall” every hour on the hour, and screenings of The Polar Express. Visit It: 10 North Water St., Norwalk, CT; 203-852-0700; maritimeaquarium.org 20

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This unique museum offers a plethora of information and activities about whaling, once one of Long Island’s most important industries. Throughout the holiday season, stop by for a variety of activities, such as a sea glass ornament workshop or a menorah workshop, where you can learn all about whale oil lamps and create a Whale Menorah to light up your home. Visit It: 301 Main St., Cold Spring Harbor, Suffolk County; 631-367-3418; cshwhalingmuseum.org

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Our calendar is full of great ideas. First, here are the 9 events we consider can’t-miss—the ones we’re taking our own kids to. Consider it your cheat sheet to the best of what’s great this month! Tree Lighting And Sing-Along FREE

Family Days: Hanukkah Family Day

WHEN: Thursday, Dec. 5, 6pm WHERE: Bank of America Winter Village at Bryant Park, between W. 40th and 42nd Streets, Fifth and Sixth Avenues, Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Bryant Park’s annual tree lighting features Christmas sing-alongs, performances by world-class skaters, fireworks, Santa, and more! WHY WE LOVE IT: Following the ceremony, all visitors are welcome to skate to live music on the city’s only free admission ice skating rink. WANT TO GO? 212-768-4242. wintervillage.org.

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 15, 12-4pm WHERE: The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Dance to the pop-rock tunes of ShirLaLa, sketch Hanukkah lamps from around the globe, watch a unique Hanukkah story come to life through a drawing performance, and collaborate on a giant work of art. WHY WE LOVE IT: Families can engage in a Jewish Museum tradition and build a sculptural Hanukkah lamp with funky found objects. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($18; free for children younger than 19). 212-423-3200. thejewishmuseum.org.

Broadway Under the Stars FREE

‘Peter & the Wolf’ with Isaac Mizrahi

WHEN: Through Dec. 9, Mondays, 5pm WHERE: The Shops At Columbus Circle, 10 Columbus Circle, Upper West Side AGES: 5 and older WHAT: Enjoy live performances featuring the most popular shows on Broadway every Monday night. WHY WE LOVE IT: Featured shows include Rock of Ages, Dear Evan Hansen, Frozen, The Illusionist, Mean Girls, Phantom of the Opera, and Wicked! WANT TO GO? FREE. 212-823-6300. theshopsatcolumbuscircle.com.

Glow-in-the-Dark Chanukah Dinner

WHEN: Friday, Dec. 13, 6pm WHERE: 92nd Street Y, 1395 Lexington Ave., Upper East Side AGES: All WHAT: Gather round for blessings, dancing, glow-in-the-dark games and activities, wine (for the grown-ups), and a delicious catered meal by Chef Russ Moss. All food is kosher and nut/sesame free! WHY WE LOVE IT: It promises to be an extravaganza of music, glow sticks, latkes, and light! WANT TO GO? $36 and up. 212-415-5500. 92y.org. 22

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WHEN: Dec. 7-15, see website for showtimes WHERE: The Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum, 1071 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Isaac Mizrahi narrates and directs Sergei Prokofiev’s charming children’s classic. WHY WE LOVE IT: The costumes are by Mizrahi himself and the show is just 30 minutes, perfect for little ones! WANT TO GO? $45. 646-765-4773. guggenheim.org.

Santa’s Corner FREE

WHEN: Dec. 14-22, daily, 1-3pm WHERE: Bank of America Winter Village at Bryant Park, between W. 40th and 42nd Streets, Fifth and Sixth Avenues, Midtown

AGES: All WHAT: The week-long winter wonderland features a photo op, holiday crafts, and the chance to whisper your wish list in Santa’s ear! WHY WE LOVE IT: Families can enjoy free photos, caroling, and holiday crafts. WANT TO GO? 212-768-4242. wintervillage.org.

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My First ‘Nutcracker’

WHEN: Through Dec. 23, Saturdays-Sundays, 11am and 2pm WHERE: Theatre Row, 410 W. 42nd St., Midtown AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Travel with Clara and the Prince to a magical kingdom filled with delicious treats, dancing flowers, and a pesky mouse king. WHY WE LOVE IT: Children as young as three can enjoy this 50min production. WANT TO GO? $32.25. 212-239-6200. nycchildrenstheater.org.

Christmas Spectacular Starring the Radio City Rockettes

WHEN: Through Jan. 5, see website for showtimes WHERE: Radio City Music Hall, 1260 Sixth Ave., Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Experience Radio City Music Hall as it transforms into an immersive winter wonderland. WHY WE LOVE IT: Introduce your child to the magical, high-kick dancing of the Rockettes! WANT TO GO? $25 and up. 212-465-6000. radiocity.com.

Big Apple Circus

WHEN: Through Feb. 2, see website for showtimes WHERE: Lincoln Center, 10 Lincoln Center Plaza, Upper West Side AGES: All WHAT: Catch the 42nd season of this world-renowned circus, celebrating the heartbeat, everyday delights, and spirit of New York City with astounding talent from around the world, led by Brooklyn-born singer and Ringmaster Storm Marrero. WHY WE LOVE IT: All your classic circus delights in a climatecontrolled Big Top tent with tiered seating, perfect for families with young children. WANT TO GO? $35 and up; free for children younger than 3 (on lap). 212-721-6500. bigapplecircus.com.

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WHEN: Through Dec. 14, Saturdays, 10am-12pm WHERE: Brookfield Place, 230 Vesey St., Financial District AGES: All WHAT: Magicians, musicians, storytellers, and more in Hudson Eats! WANT TO GO? 212-978-1673. brookfieldplaceny.com.

CMA Art-Making Booth at Union Square Holiday Market FREE

WHEN: Through Dec. 24: Monday-Friday, 3-6pm; Saturdays, 10am6pm; Sundays, 11am-6pm WHERE: Union Square Holiday Market, Union Square AGES: All WHAT: Join CMA in Union Square for free art-making workshops. WANT TO GO? 212-274-0986. cmany.org.

‘Show Globes’–A Broadway Show-Themed Holiday Snow Globe Display FREE

WHEN: Through Dec. 26, see website for times WHERE: Broadway Plaza between 44th and 45th Streets, Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Times Square’s first snow globe display will boast four large snow globes modeled after Dear Evan Hansen, The Lion King, Wicked and more. WANT TO GO? 212-452-5234. tsq.org.

PaleyLand FREE

WHEN: Dec. 7-Jan. 5, Wednesdays-Sundays, 12-6pm WHERE: The Paley Center for Media, 25 W. 52nd St., New York AGES: All WHAT: Enjoy a candy cane forest, holiday video games and VR, crafts, and more! ›› WANT TO GO? 212-621-6697. paleycenter.org. Saving money on

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WHEN: Through Dec. 3, see website for times WHERE: The Shops and Restaurants at Hudson Yards, Hudson Yards AGES: All WHAT: The area’s leading florists will collaborate with world-class brands Cityguideny.com coupons and and use inspirationhas from New York City to create more than 12 unique, fresh floralfor fashion displays. attractions, discounts NYC sightseeing WANT TO GO? 212-801-1109. restaurants, stores and more. hudsonyardsnewyork.com.

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THE GREAT OUTDOORS Discovery Walk for Families: The Ramble

SMARTY PANTS

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 7, 11am-12:30pm WHERE: Belvedere Castle, Mid-Central Park at 79th Street, Upper East Side AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Explore how this carefully planned woodland provides habitat for a variety of wildlife. WANT TO GO? 646-799-4833. centralparknyc.org.

‘Rosie Revere Engineer’ Storytime

Discovery Walk for Families: The North Woods FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 7, 10:30-11:45am WHERE: The Skyscraper Museum, 39 Battery Place, Downtown Manhattan AGES: 2-5 WHAT: Young learners will be inspired by a reading of Andrea Beaty’s illustrated book. After the story, the young engineers will use different materials to design and construct their very own innovative skyscraper. RSVP required. WANT TO GO? $5 per child. 212-945-6324. skyscraper.org.

Morgan Explorers

WHEN: Dec. 8, 1:30-3pm WHERE: The Morgan Library & Museum, 225 Madison Ave., Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Engage in art activities, handle touch objects, and get your questions answered by a Morgan educator. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($22 adults; $14 senior; $13 students; free for children younger than 13. 212-685-0008. themorgan.org.

Lenfest Kids: H2O

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 21, 11am-12:30pm WHERE: Charles A. Dana Discovery Center, 110th Street between Lenox and Fifth Avenues, Upper West Side AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Learn about the design of this serene landscape and how the plants and trees contribute to the health of an urban woodland community. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 347-443-0656. centralparknyc.org.

Archaeology Mondays

WHEN: Monday Dec. 23, 3-5pm WHERE: The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Unique in New York City, this archaeological dig highlights replicas from ancient to modern times in a hands-on experience. Collect stamps in a special passport each visit and receive a gift after your third dig adventure! WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($18; free for children younger than 19). 212-423-3200. thejewishmuseum.org.

WHEN: Through Dec. 14, all showings at 11am and 3pm, see website for dates WHERE: Lenfest Center for the Arts, 615 W. 129th St., Morningside Heights AGES: 5-17 WHAT: Explore the world’s oceans through a diverse range of films spanning live-action and animation, classics, and recent hits. WANT TO GO? $7 in advance; $9 at the door. 212-853-1618. lenfest.arts.columbia.edu.

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Discovery Walk for Families: Turtle Pond

WHEN: Through Dec. 15, second Sunday of each month, 12-3pm WHERE: The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Discover a passion for ancient artifacts in the museum’s simulated archaeological dig. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($18 adults; free for children and teens). 212-423-3200. thejewishmuseum.org.

Vacation Week: Luminous Painted Scenes

WHEN: Dec. 22-30, daily, 1-4pm (no session 12/28) WHERE: The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Paint your own luminous scene on canvas board inspired by works of art and in celebration of the glowing light of the Hanukkah holiday. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($18; free for children younger than 19). 212-423-3200. thejewishmuseum.org. 24

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WHEN: Through Dec. 28, Dec. 1 and Dec. 28, 11am-12:30pm WHERE: Charles A. Dana Discovery Center, 110th Street between Lenox and Fifth Avenues, Upper West Side AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Learn more about how the area has changed over time, the plants and animals that live there today, and how the Conservancy cares for this complex ecosystem. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 347-443-0656. centralparknyc.org. WHEN: Through Dec. 29, Dec. 15, Dec. 27, Dec. 29, 11am12:30pm WHERE: Belvedere Castle, Mid-Central Park at 79th Street, Upper East Side AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Learn why turtles love basking in the sun on flat logs or rocks, which makes the base of Vista Rock the perfect spot for their sunbathing activities. Registration required. WANT TO GO? 646-799-4833. centralparknyc.org.

Junior Keepers

WHEN: Through Jan. 12, Dec. 15 and Jan. 12, 9-10:30am WHERE: Central Park Zoo, E. 64th St., Upper East Side AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Each session focuses on a different animal and includes creating some early morning enrichment. WANT TO GO? $60. centralparkzoo.com.

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MUSICIANS Music from the Sole

WHEN: Dec. 7-8, 11am & 2pm WHERE: Clark Studio Theater, 165 W. 65th St., 7th Floor, Upper West Side AGES: 3-12 WHAT: These special holiday performances focus on the theme of togetherness and the joy that comes from sharing music and dance with the ones you love. WANT TO GO? $25; $18 members. 212-875-5375. lincolncenter.org.

WeBop Family Jazz Party

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 14, 11am, 1pm, and 3pm WHERE: Jazz at Lincoln Center, 10 Columbus Circle, Upper West Side AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Families will sing and swing into the season with this fun and interactive show. WANT TO GO? $25 (non-walking babies do not need a ticket). 212721-6500. jazz.org.

Let it Glow! Family Chanukah Concert

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 15, 10:30am WHERE: 92nd Street Y, 1395 Lexington Ave., Upper East Side AGES: All

WHAT: Sing and dance, then shmooze, hit up the donut bar, check out fun mitzvah projects, and keep the good times rolling at a lively afterparty. WANT TO GO? $25 and up. 212-415-5500. 92y.org.

Shalom Sing-A-Long

WHEN: Through Dec. 23, Mondays, 10:15-11am WHERE: Congregation Or Zarua, 127 E. 82nd St., Upper East Side AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Start your little one’s day with song, dance, stories, bubbles, puppets, instruments, and more! Caregivers join in learning simple Hebrew, Jewish values, and favorite tunes. WANT TO GO? $16-20. 212-452-2310 x15. orzarua.org.

‘Angelina Ballerina The Musical’

WHEN: Through Dec. 28, see website for showtimes WHERE: SoHo Playhouse, 15 Vandam St., Soho AGES: All WHAT: Angelina and her friends will perform all types of dance, including hip-hop, modern dance, the Irish jig, and of course, ballet! WANT TO GO? $25 and up. 212-691-1555. sohoplayhouse.com. ››

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WHERE: Galli Theater, 74 Warren St., Tribeca AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Can clever Gretel trick the witch and get herself and Hansel safely back home? WANT TO GO? $20 adults; $15 children. 212-731-0668. gallitheaternyc.com.

MCD’s ‘Nutcracker!’

WHEN: Dec. 6-8, Dec. 6, 7pm; Dec. 7, 2pm and 7pm; Dec. 8, 1pm WHERE: The Riverside Theatre, 91 Claremont Ave., Upper West Side AGES: 5 and older WHAT: Clara goes on a wonderful adventure with her Nutcracker in this family-friendly version. WANT TO GO? $20-25. 212-870-6784. trtnyc.org.

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SHOW TIME! MUMMENSCHANZ in RE:PLAY

WHEN: Through Dec. 1, Fridays, Saturdays, and Sundays; see website for times WHERE: New Victory Theater, 209 W. 42nd St., Midtown AGES: 5 and older WHAT: Inspiring audiences across five continents over four decades with three stints on Broadway, the “Musicians of Silence” will surprise you with each artful scene. WANT TO GO? $17 and up. 646-223-3010. newvictory.org.

Bring Ya Mamma Stand up Comedy Show

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 1, 2pm WHERE: Village Lantern Comedy Club, 167 Bleecker St., East Village AGES: All WHAT: Material is G to PG rated with a new lineup of comics each month! WANT TO GO? $0 - 10 tickets, plus 2 item minimum for anyone older than 2. 718-986-9871. paulbennettcomedy.eventbrite.com.

‘PETER PANtomime: Hooked!’

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 1, 2pm and 5pm WHERE: Kaye Playhouse at Hunter College, E. 68th Street between Park & Lexington Avenues, Upper East Side AGES: 9 and older WHAT: The show embraces the tradition of pantomime, inviting audiences to clap for the sweet but sassy Tinkerbell, hiss at the sly Captain Hook, and cheer for the playful, mischievous Peter Pan. WANT TO GO? $45. 212-772-4448. shufflesnyc.com.

Paige Hernandez: ‘Havana Hop’ FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 7, 11am WHERE: David Rubenstein Atrium, Broadway between 62nd & 63rd Street, Upper West Side AGES: 3-5 WHAT: The audience is invited to dance along at this dynamic participation play. WANT TO GO? 212-875-5375. lincolncenter.org.

Le Carrousel Magique FREE

WHEN: Through Dec. 8, Sundays, 2-3pm WHERE: Le Carrousel, Bryant Park, 40th Street between Fifth and Sixth Avenues, Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Voila! The world’s best magicians perform tricks for kids of all ages. WANT TO GO? 212-768-4242. bryantpark.org.

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WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 14, 12pm WHERE: The Flea Theater, 20 Thomas St., Tribeca AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Stories by children from NYC and beyond will be brought to life and staged by the Story Pirates professional improvisational and comedic actors replete with music, costumes, and sets. WANT TO GO? $37. 212-226-0051. storypirates.com.

Falu’s ‘Bazaar’

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 14, 11am WHERE: Symphony Space, 2537 Broadway at 95th Street, Upper West Side AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Falu’s show celebrates the instruments, languages, sights, and humanity of our diverse world with songs about animals, counting, spices, South Asian cooking, and the wide diversity of cultures. WANT TO GO? $14-17. 212-864-5400. symphonyspace.org.

‘Peter Pan’

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 14, 11am WHERE: BMCC Tribeca Performing Arts Center, 199 Chambers St., Tribeca AGES: 3-12 WHAT: In the spirit of the original tale, this production tells the story through the eyes of six children living in Edwardian England. WANT TO GO? $30. 212-220-1460. tribecapac.org.

Charles Dickens’ ‘A Christmas Carol’: A Play with Music

WHEN: Dec. 12-14, daily, 8pm WHERE: Morris-Jumel Mansion, 65 Jumel Terrace, Harlem AGES: All WHAT: Good for the whole family, this performance combines Dickens’ brilliant original text with both traditional and unexpected Christmas music. WANT TO GO? $25 and up. 212-923-8008. morrisjumel.org.

‘The Dangerous Christmas of Red Riding Hood’

WHEN: Through Dec. 15, see website for days and times WHERE: TADA! Youth Theater, 15 W. 28th St., Chelsea AGES: 5 and older WHAT: A hilarious take on the Red Riding Hood tale as told from the wolf ’s point of view. WANT TO GO? $30 adults; $15 children. 212-252-1619. tadatheater.com.

Kids ‘N Comedy

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 15, 12:30pm WHERE: Gotham Comedy Club, 208 W. 28th St., Chelsea AGES: 9 and older WHAT: See the funniest young comedians in New York, and even get the chance to tell a joke yourself, live on stage. WANT TO GO? $15 cover + 1 item minimum per person. 212-367-9000. gothamcomedyclub.com.

Nutcracker Winter Suite

WHEN: Dec. 20-21, Friday, 5pm; Sunday, 3pm WHERE: Symphony Space, 2537 Broadway, Upper West Side AGES: All WHAT: This one-hour version of the beloved Tchaikovsky ballet is all dance! WANT TO GO? $40; $20 for children and seniors. 212-864-5400. vkdcny.org.

Paul Winter’s 40th Annual Winter Solstice Celebration

WHEN: Dec. 19-21, Thursday and Friday, 7:30pm; Saturday, 2pm and 7:30pm WHERE: Cathedral of St. John the Divine, 1047 Amsterdam Ave., Morningside Heights AGES: 5 and older WHAT: A dazzling extravaganza of music, dance, and spectacle within the awesome space and acoustics of the world’s largest cathedral. WANT TO GO? $38 and up (student tickets $20 with code STU19– evening performances only). 866-811-4111. solsticeconcert.com.

Suzi Shelton’s Winter Solstice Concert

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 21, 11am WHERE: Symphony Space, 2537 Broadway at 95th Street, Morningside Heights AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Suzi and her NYC-based band will perform kid-favorite tunes and songs that celebrate the winter season. WANT TO GO? $14-17. 212-864-5400. symphonyspace.org.

‘Seven in One Blow, or the Brave Little Kid’

WHEN: Dec. 6-22, Fridays, 7pm; Saturdays and Sundays, 3pm; Dec. 19, 7pm WHERE: Axis Theatre, 1 Sheridan Square, Greenwich Village AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Adapted from the classic fairy tale by The Brothers Grimm, this interactive play tells the story of a child who kills seven flies with a single swat. WANT TO GO? $20; $10 students and seniors; $5 children. 212-3523101. axiscompany.org.

‘A Golem from Buenos Aires’

WHEN: Dec. 9-22, Saturday-Sunday, 11am and 1pm WHERE: 14th Street Y, 344 E. 14th St., East Village AGES: 3-12 WHAT: A multidisciplinary play inspired by the Jewish legend of the Golem of Prague. WANT TO GO? $22. 212-780-0800. 14streety.org.

Family Concert: Nefesh Mountain

WHEN: Wednesday, Dec. 25, 2-3pm WHERE: The Jewish Museum, 1109 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 5-8 WHAT: Dance to a vibrant blend of Bluegrass, Celtic, and Appalachian tunes with a Jewish soul. WANT TO GO? $18; free for children younger than 19. 212-423-3200. thejewishmuseum.org.

Pianist Katya Grineva Celebrates Holidays at Carnegie (Free for Kids)

WHEN: Friday, Dec. 27, 8pm WHERE: Carnegie Hall, 57th Street/7th Avenue, Upper West Side AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Acclaimed Russian pianist Katya Grineva returns to Carnegie Hall for her highly anticipated annual holiday concert for one night only. WANT TO GO? $45; free for kids. 212-247-7800. carnegiehall.org.

‘Pinkalicious The Musical’

WHEN: Through Dec. 28, select Saturdays, 11am WHERE: St. Luke’s Theatre, 308 W. 46th St., Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Based on the best-selling children’s book WANT TO GO? $49.50. 212-239-6200. telecharge.com.

Galli’s: ‘The Snow Queen’

WHEN: Dec. 14-29, Saturdays-Sundays, 2pm WHERE: Galli Theater, 74 Warren St., Tribeca AGES: 3-12 WHAT: A story of enduring friendship and the journey of a young girl who travels through many lands to rescue her friend. WANT TO GO? $20 adults; $15 children. 212-731-0668. gallitheaternyc.com.

The Story of the Nutcracker

WHEN: Dec. 28-29, Saturday and Sunday, 10:30am-12pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd St., Upper West Side AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: Listen to the timeless story of Clara and her nutcracker, then join a ballet dance party to Tchaikovsky’s music. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($15; free for children younger than 1). 212-721-1223. cmom.org.

Cirque Mechanics’ ‘42FT’

WHEN: Dec. 6-Jan. 5, see website for showtimes WHERE: New Victory Theater, 209 W. 42nd St., Midtown AGES: 5 and older WHAT: With a brilliant blur of sequined stilts, feathered frocks, and flashing circus stripes, the endlessly inventive Cirque Mechanics upends expectations in a dizzying, dazzling array of acts. WANT TO GO? $22 and up. 646-223-3010. newvictory.org.

Trolls The Experience

WHEN: Through Jan. 5, see website for schedule WHERE: Trolls The Experience Pop-Up, 218 W. 57th St., Midtown AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Families can get a Trolls-inspired makeover, visit visually stunning and social media-shareable areas, sing and dance at the 3D dance party with Poppy and her Trolls pals, have a special character meet-and-greet, and create a keepsake scrapbook of their time together. WANT TO GO? $19. 703-448-4058. trollstheexperience.com.

‘The Wizard of Oz’: A Jazz Musical for All Ages

WHEN: Through Jan. 11, dates vary, 3pm WHERE: Harlem Rep/Tato Laviera Theatre, 240 E. 123rd St., Harlem AGES: All WHAT: With its timeless score, this show is a magical experience. WANT TO GO? $10 general admission; $20 premium seating. 212-8684444. wizardofozjazzmusical.com.

‘Yeti, Set, Snow!’

WHEN: Through Feb. 23, see website for days and times WHERE: Swedish Cottage Marionette Theatre, 79th Street and West Drive, Central Park, Upper East Side AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Perfect for families with young children, this winter adventure kicks off the holiday season with puppetry and music. WANT TO GO? $12; $8 for children younger than 12. 212-639-1697. cityparksfoundation.org.

Tales from the Shed

WHEN: Through May 9, see website for days and times WHERE: Founders’ Hall The Wetherby-Pembridge School, 7 E. 96th St., Upper East Side AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Vibrant, interactive theatre shows in which the children take the lead. WANT TO GO? $15 per person. 646-569-5742. chickenshed.org. ›› BigAppleParent 27

Season of Lights: A Winter Workshop

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 14, 10am-12pm WHERE: Cathedral of Saint John the Divine, 1047 Amsterdam Ave., Upper West Side AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Activities include rolling beeswax candles, cutting Chinese and Taiwanese paper lanterns, and sculpting clay candelabras inspired by Hindu floating lamps, Jewish menorahs, and Kwanzaa kinaras. WANT TO GO? $10. 212-316-7530. stjohndivine.org.

Winter Wonderland Lantern

HOLIDAY FUN

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 14, 10:30-11:45am WHERE: The Skyscraper Museum, 39 Battery Place, New York AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Build a magical winter wonderland lantern featuring skyscrapers from around the world. RSVP required. WANT TO GO? $5 per child. 212-945-6324. skyscraper.org.

‘Messiah’…Refreshed!

Family Day: Gingerbread Architecture

World Vision’s Give-Back Gift Shop FREE

Holiday Gift Sewing Workshop

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 1, 2pm WHERE: Stern Auditorium/Perelman Stage, Carnegie Hall, 881 7th Ave. at 57th St., New York AGES: All WHAT: The ninth annual presentation of Handel’s Messiah, the Goossens/ Beecham 1959 re-orchestration for full symphony orchestra. Entertainment includes a massed holiday ringing concert for English Handbells WANT TO GO? $20 and up. 212-707-8566. carnegiehall.org. WHEN: Dec. 2-3, daily, 11am-8:30pm WHERE: Bryant Park, between W. 40th and 42nd Streets and Fifth and Sixth Avenues, Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Snap a selfie with an alpaca, goat, sheep, and other cute farm animals at this interactive pop-up. WANT TO GO? 855-984-4387. worldvision.org.

Love and Unity Christmas Family Brunch

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 7, 11am-5pm WHERE: Private Event Space, 265 W. 37th St., Midtown AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Enjoy an event for the whole family at a venue which is gloriously dressed for the Christmas season. Expect family-friendly good vibes, hearty meals, Christmas carols, and a great setting. WANT TO GO? $40. 646-323-6180. soulnightevents.com.

Nordic Christmas Children’s Workshop

WHEN: Dec. 14-15, Saturday and Sunday, 11am-1pm and 2-4pm WHERE: Center for Architecture, 536 LaGuardia Place, Greenwich Village AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Help Gingerbread City cross the pond! The Center for Architecture and London’s Museum of Architecture invite families to participate in a gingerbread skyline workshop. WANT TO GO? $50 per gingerbread building kit. 212-358-6133. centerforarchitecture.org. WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 15, 1:30-3:30pm WHERE: The Fashion Class, 21 W. 39th St., 4th Floor, Midtown AGES: 6-15 WHAT: Make handmade holiday gifts this year for friends and family. Choose from a pillow, a zippered pouch, or two scrunchies. Registration required. WANT TO GO? $50. 646-239-6663. midtown.thefashionclass.com.

Holiday House NY

WHEN: Through Dec. 15: Daily, 11am–5pm; Thursdays, 11am-8pm; Closed Mondays WHERE: Holiday House, 125 E. 65th St., Upper East Side AGES: All WHAT: The showhouse, which raises money for the Breast Cancer Research Foundation, will feature rooms by New York’s emerging designers. WANT TO GO? $40; $25 students. 917-843-3544. holidayhousenyc.com.

A City Singing at Christmas FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 7, 2-3:30pm WHERE: Scandinavia House, 58 Park Ave., Murray Hill AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Experience how Scandinavians prepare for Christmas in this special craft day, which teaches how to make traditional holiday items such as woven hearts and yarn tomtar. WANT TO GO? $15. 212-779-3587. scandinaviahouse.org.

WHEN: Thursday, Dec. 19, 7pm WHERE: St. Patrick’s Cathedral, Fifth Avenue between 50th and 51st Streets, Midtown AGES: All WHAT: YPC joins the Orpheus Club Men’s Chorus, the St. Patrick’s Cathedral Choir, the Cathedral organs, and the New York Symphonic Brass in this inspiring evening of traditional and contemporary carols and hymns. WANT TO GO? 212-753-2261. saintpatrickscathedral.org.

Holiday Candlelight Tours

Grand Victorian Christmas

WHEN: Dec. 6-7, Friday and Saturday, 6:15pm and 7:30pm WHERE: Mount Vernon Hotel Museum & Garden, 421 E. 61st St., Upper East Side AGES: 5-12, adult WHAT: Tour the 1799 building by the warm glow of candlelight, hear about 19th-century festivities, and enjoy traditional confections, and holiday caroling by an acapella group. WANT TO GO? $20 adults, $10 members, $5 children younger than 12. 212-838-6878. mvhm.org. 28

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WHEN: Friday, Dec. 20, 8pm WHERE: Mount Vernon Hotel Museum and Garden, 421 E. 61st St., Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Immerse yourself in a traditional Victorian holiday celebration, including a fully decorated ballroom, music and caroling, Christmas treats, and photos with a vintage Santa. WANT TO GO? $25 and up. 212-838-6878. mvhm.org.

Workshop di Natale (Christmas)

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 21, 3:30-5pm WHERE: Collina Italiana, 1556 Third Ave., Suite 603, Upper East Side AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Arts and crafts, music, songs, and so much fun all in Italian! Kids will enjoy Italian Christmas traditions. WANT TO GO? $40. 212-427-7770. collinaitaliana.com.

Holiday Card Making Mommy & Me Workshop

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 21, 11am-1pm WHERE: The Fashion Class, 21 W. 39th St., 4th Floor, New York AGES: 5 and older WHAT: Create hand lettered holiday cards and learn a new skill together. WANT TO GO? $45 per person. 646-239-6663. midtown.thefashionclass.com.

Brooklyn Irish Dance Company presents ‘A Celtic Christmas Story’

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 22, 3pm WHERE: Ailey Citigroup Theater, 405 W. 55th St., New York AGES: All WHAT: A holiday-themed, theatrical performance that combines dancers, musicians, and singers with storytelling and eye-catching choreography. WANT TO GO? Price varies by tier. 929-430-5807. brooklynirishdancecompany.org.

Breakfast With Santa

WHEN: Through Dec. 22, Saturday-Sunday, 9:30am WHERE: Broadway Comedy Club, 318 W. 53rd St., Midtown AGES: All WHAT: An interactive musical comedy show, continental breakfast, and pictures with Santa. WANT TO GO? $25-35. 212-568-6560. improv4kids.com.

Santaland

WHEN: Through Dec. 24, daily, hours vary between 7am-9pm WHERE: Macy’s Herald Square, 151 W. 34th St., Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Head to a Macy’s Santaland near you to meet and snap a photo with St. Nick! WANT TO GO? Free admission (keepsake photos available for purchase). 212-695-4400. macys.com.

Grand Central Terminal Holiday Fair FREE

WHEN: Through Dec. 24: Mondays-Fridays, 10am-8pm; Saturdays, 10am-7pm; Sundays, 11am-6pm (Closed Christmas Eve) WHERE: Grand Central Terminal Vanderbilt Hall, 89 E. 42nd St., Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Explore one of the most beautiful architectural settings in the world featuring 40 talented artisans. WANT TO GO? 212-340-2583. grandcentralterminal.com.

Kwanzaa Family Celebration

WHEN: Thursday, Dec. 26, 11am-2pm WHERE: Museum of the City of New York, 1220 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Celebrate Kwanzaa and learn about the history of this African-American holiday. Make your own Mkeak (mat) and Kinara (candle holder). WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($20 adults; free for anyone younger than 20). 212-534-1672. mcny.org.

Hanukkah Family Celebration

WHEN: Friday, Dec. 27, 11am-2pm WHERE: Museum of the City of New York, 1220 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Learn about the traditions of Hanukkah as you make stained glass menorahs, enjoy traditional treats, and play dreidel with your friends. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($20 adults; free for anyone younger than 20). 212-534-1672. mcny.org.

The CMOM Christmas Tree

WHEN: Dec. 1-27, daily, 10am-5pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd St., Upper West Side AGES: All WHAT: Design ornaments inspired by the art in the exhibit, Art, Artists & You, for the annual CMOM Christmas Tree. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($15; free for children younger than 1). 212-721-1223. cmom.org.

Kwanzaa Festival

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 28, 12-5pm WHERE: The American Museum of Natural History, 200 Central Park W., Upper West Side AGES: All WHAT: A celebration of African-American heritage that is rooted in seven principles which promote unity, culture, and community development. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($22 adults; $13 children ages 2-12). 212-769-5100. amnh.org.

Dreidel Design and Spin-Off

WHEN: Dec. 28-29, Saturday and Sunday, 1-3pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd St., Upper West Side AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Design a dreidel and learn the history of one of the world’s oldest games. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($15; free for children younger than 1). 212-721-1223. cmom.org.

New Year’s Eve Ball Drop & Dance Party

WHEN: Tuesday, Dec. 31, 12pm, 2pm and 4pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd St., Upper West Side AGES: All WHAT: A countdown party to the New Year! WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($15; free for children younger than 1). 212-721-1223. cmom.org.

Origami Holiday Tree

WHEN: Through Jan. 12, daily, 10am-5:45pm WHERE: American Museum of Natural History, Central Park West at 79th Street, Upper West Side AGES: All WHAT: The delightfully decorated Origami Holiday Tree and two merrily lit 19-foot Holiday Barosaurs WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($23; $13 children ages 2-12; free for children younger than 2). 212-769-5100. amnh.org.

Holiday Express: All Aboard to Richard Scarry’s Busytown

WHEN: Through Feb. 23, see website for schedule of events WHERE: New York Historical Society, 170 Central Park W., Upper West Side AGES: All WHAT: The installation showcases artwork and graphics of Scarry’s characters (like Huckle Cat and Lowly Worm!). WANT TO GO? $22; $6 children ages 5-13; free for children younger than 5. 212-873-3400. nyhistory.org.

Holiday Shops at Bank of America Winter Village at Bryant Park FREE

WHEN: Through March 1, Monday-Friday, 11am-8pm; Saturday-Sunday, 10am-8pm WHERE: Bank of America Winter Village at Bryant Park, between W. 40th and 42nd streets, Fifth and Sixth Avenues, Midtown AGES: All WHAT: Peruse food and artisanal boutiques offering delicious eats and exquisite gifts at this European-inspired open-air market. WANT TO GO? 212-768-4242. wintervillage.org. ››

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Inclusive Sundays for Children with a Physical Disability

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 1, 12:30-2:30pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of the Arts, 103 Charlton St., Soho AGES: 9-17 WHAT: Students are given the space to be independent from their parents, and activities are adapted to accommodate the specific abilities of each child. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($13; free for children younger than 1). 212-274-0986. cmany.org.

MOVERS & SHAKERS Winter Wonderland Family Disco!

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 15, 1-5pm WHERE: The Venue, 2284 Adam Clayton Powell Jr. Blvd., Harlem AGES: 9 months-7 WHAT: Kids Dance Revolution is a themed discotheque-styled experience tailored for the enjoyment of the entire family. Kids and their families will bond over generational sounds and throwback dance steps. WANT TO GO? $12; $40 for family of 4. 201-565-2564. kidsdancerevolution.com.

Drop-in Afternoon Open Play

WHEN: Through Dec. 18, Mondays and Wednesdays, 3:30-5:30pm WHERE: JCC Harlem, 318 W. 118th St., Harlem AGES: 3-5 WHAT: Drop in for creative play, books, bubbles, and socializing with other neighborhood youngsters. WANT TO GO? $10 per child; $5 per sibling each session. 212-865-1215. jccmanhattan.org.

Train Operators Workshop

WHEN: Through Dec. 29, Saturdays-Sundays, 11:30am and 3:30pm WHERE: New York Transit Museum, 99 Schermerhorn St., Brooklyn Heights AGES: 10 and older WHAT: Take control of a NYC subway car and operate it over virtual miles of track, using some incredibly realistic software. WANT TO GO? $10 adults; $5 children. 718-694-1600. nytransitmuseum.org.

New York City Ballet Access Workshop for Children with Physical Disabilities

WHEN: Dec. 21-Jan. 25, 12/21, 11am-12pm; 1/25, 10-11am WHERE: Samuel B & David Rose Building, 7th Floor, 165 W. 65th Street between Broadway and Amsterdam, Upper West Side AGES: 5-12 WHAT: An exploration of the music, movement, and themes of some of NYCB’s most treasured repertory. WANT TO GO? 212-870-5636. nycballet.com.

Planet Play

WHEN: Through April 24, select Saturdays, 9:30am WHERE: The Wetherby-Pembridge School, 7 E. 96th St., Upper East Side AGES: Newborn to 3 WHAT: These 45-minute sessions encourage young children to explore the world around them through songs, music, and movement in a wonderful sensory experience. WANT TO GO? $15 per person. 646-569-5742. chickenshed.org. 30

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Stripes stART for Children with an Autism Spectrum Disorder WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 7, 9:30-10:45am WHERE: Children’s Museum of the Arts, 103 Charlton St., Soho AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: This class encourages children to explore different art mediums through sensory experiences, music, and movement activities. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($13; free for children younger than 1). 212-274-0986. cmany.org.

Creative Play

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 8, 1pm WHERE: Japan Society, 333 E. 47th St., Midtown AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Explore Japanese culture and customs with a master storyteller and artist in interactive classes with seasonal themes. WANT TO GO? $12; free for children younger than 3. 212-832-1155. japansociety.org.

Magic Marshmallowy Sculptures

WHEN: Dec. 7-8, Saturday and Sunday, 1:30-2:30pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd St., Upper West Side AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: Create a gigantic marshmallow sculpture using only packing peanuts! WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($15; free for children younger than 1). 212-721-1223. cmom.org.

Winter Beach Party

WHEN: Friday, Dec. 13, 12-5pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of the Arts, 103 Charlton St., Soho AGES: 5-12 WHAT: Using clay, create a beach landscape complete with oceans, beach towels, and umbrellas. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($13). 212-274-0986. cmany.org.

Con Edison Family Day: Paper Ornaments & Pomanders FREE

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 14, 12-3pm WHERE: Morris-Jumel Mansion, 65 Jumel Terrace, Harlem AGES: All WHAT: December’s ConEd Family Day will have two holiday activities with extended hours, and will occur during the Victorian Holiday Party. WANT TO GO? 212-923-8008. morrisjumel.org.

Stripes Media Lab for Children with an Autism Spectrum Disorder

WHEN: Saturday, Dec. 14, 9:30-10:45am WHERE: Children’s Museum of the Arts, 103 Charlton St., Soho AGES: 9-17 WHAT: This free monthly class uses art and technology to build peer-topeer relationships and digital storytelling skills. Registration required.

WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($13; free for children younger than 1). 212-274-0986. cmany.org.

Origami Folding Fun Sessions

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 15, 10:30am-12pm WHERE: The American Museum of Natural History, 200 Central Park W., Upper West Side AGES: 5 and older WHAT: Families can explore the magic of origami together. WANT TO GO? $35. 212-769-5100. amnh.org.

3D Gingerbread House Installation

WHEN: Dec. 14-15, Saturday and Sunday, 1-3pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd St., Upper West Side AGES: All WHAT: Contribute to an evolving 3D gingerbread house installation WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($15; free for children younger than 1). 212-721-1223. cmom.org.

Deck the Halls: Snow Globe Making

WHEN: Tuesday, Dec. 24, 11am-2pm WHERE: Museum of the City of New York, 1220 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 5-12 WHAT: A snnow globe workshop, cookie decorating, and Christmas songs. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($20 adults; free for anyone younger than 20). 212-534-1672. mcny.org.

Let it Snow! Let it Snow! Let it Snow!

WHEN: Dec. 23-27, Monday, Tuesday, Thursday, and Friday, 1:30-2:30pm WHERE: Children’s Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd St., Upper West Side AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: Explore the fun of snow that never melts! WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($15; free for children younger than 1). 212-721-1223. cmom.org.

Saturday Sketching

WHEN: Through Dec. 28, Saturdays, 10am-4pm WHERE: Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum, 1071 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: All WHAT: Explore of architectural shapes and spaces using art materials WANT TO GO? $15; $10 students and seniors; free for children younger than 12. 212-423-3500. guggenheim.org.

ONCE UPON A TIME Storytelling: Balloons Over Broadway

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 1, 10:30am WHERE: Children’s Museum of Manhattan, 212 W. 83rd St., Upper West Side AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: The story of the puppeteer who invented the “upside-down puppets” helium balloons that became the trademark of the Thanksgiving Day parade. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($15; free for children younger than 1). 212-721-1223. cmom.org.

Le Carrousel StoryTime FREE

WHEN: Sunday, Dec. 1, 2-3pm WHERE: Le Carrousel at Bryant Park, Bryant Park, 40th St. between Fifth and Sixth Avenues, Midtown AGES: 3-8 WHAT: Cali Co Cat and her pals get you jumpin’ with fun, games, and stories WANT TO GO? 212-768-4242. bryantpark.org.

Petits Potes

WHEN: Through Dec. 12, Thursdays, 10:30-11:15am WHERE: French Institute: Alliance Française, 22 E. 60th St., Upper East Side AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: Toddlers enjoy a story hour time with songs and games. WANT TO GO? $5. fiaf.org.

Gateway Storytime in the Discovery Room FREE

WHEN: Through Dec. 20, Fridays, 10:10am and 11am WHERE: The American Museum of Natural History, 200 Central Park W., Upper West Side AGES: Newborn to 5 WHAT: Learn about a topic in natural science or culture. WANT TO GO? 212-769-5100. amnh.org.

Toddler Storytime in Nolen Library FREE

WHEN: Through Dec. 24, Monday-Friday, 10:30-11am WHERE: Metropolitan Museum of Art, 1000 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: Newborn to 2 WHAT: Look, listen, sing, and have fun with picture books. WANT TO GO? 212-535-7710. metmuseum.org.

Open Studio

WHEN: Through Dec. 29, Saturday-Sunday, 10:30am-3pm WHERE: Whitney Museum of American Art , 99 Gansevoort St., Chelsea AGES: All WHAT: Make your own art inspired by works on view. WANT TO GO? $25; $18 seniors/students; free for children younger than 18. 212-570-7713. whitney.org.

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Open Studio for Families

WHEN: Through Dec. 29, Sundays, 1-4pm WHERE: Solomon R. Guggenheim Museum, 1071 Fifth Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 3 and older WHAT: Enjoy a drop-in studio art-making program. WANT TO GO? $15; $10 students and seniors; free for children younger than 12. 212-423-3500. guggenheim.org.

Sundays: Studio Art Sessions

WHEN: Through Dec. 29, Sundays, 1-4pm WHERE: The Jewish Museum, 1109 5th Ave., Upper East Side AGES: 3-12 WHAT: Paint, sculpt, or craft a work of art inspired by exhibitions on view. WANT TO GO? Free with museum admission ($18 adults; free for children and teens). 212-423-3200. thejewishmuseum.org.

will take children ages 3-8 on a marvelous flight of imagination— laughing, dancing and singing along!

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How to choose and sign up for a health insurance plan if your company doesn’t offer one By Emma Steven

f you don’t receive health insurance from an employer, getting covered can be a daunting process, especially with dependents. Many people consult a broker or an agent, but before making any choices, it’s important to do your homework. To help you sort out the complex options, we spoke to health care experts about how best to choose a plan.

Know Your Timing

The most important thing to remember when it comes to buying health insurance is there is a limited period of time each year— open enrollment season—when you are able to enroll in a new plan (or make a change, such as being added to a spouse’s plan). One of the most common mistakes people make is they miss this window, says Lisa Zamosky, spokesperson for private online health insurance exchange eHealth and author of Healthcare, Insurance, and You: The Savvy Consumer’s Guide. “The window has shortened in the last two years. It’s now just a month and a half,” she says. In our area, open enrollment runs through Dec. 15, 2019, with coverage beginning Jan. 1, 2020. Open enrollment periods for employer plans vary. Remember: It’s impossible to enroll at any other time, unless you have what qualifies as special enrollment—a change of circumstances, such as losing your job, getting married, or having a baby. New York is one of the only states in the U.S. that considers pregnancy a special enrollment event.

Decide What You Need

Some folks may qualify for Medicaid and/or Child Health Insurance Protection—visit health.ny.gov for more information. Most people, however, will have to choose a plan depending on their individual medical needs. This can get confusing. “One of the most common mistakes people make is focusing exclusively on the monthly premium,” Zamosky says. “That’s really important. It’s got to fit into your budget. But it’s also really important to understand how the things that you need are covered.” For example, consider how often you go to the doctor, your medications, and what you seek in preventative care. Brittney Castro, Certified Financial Planner and expert at Investopedia.com has this advice: “Anytime you shop for insurance…start with looking at the policy offer (what is it covering?) and the benefits you want,” she says. “Start there and see what the cost comes out to be, then compare it against your budget and see if that’s realistic. Then you can start to eliminate certain bits of the coverage to get that premium down to a level that you feel you could afford.”

Types of Plans

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Spouse Plans If you are married, check if your spouse’s employer offers coverage as part of his or her benefits package. You can be added to the plan during the open enrollment period or under special enrollment. If you aren’t married, many employers also offer domestic partner benefits to their employees. This can be tricky: Domestic partner benefits are not tax-free like the premiums paid for a spouse; on the other hand, employers may help cover the cost of these premiums. Before you go this route, Zamosky recommends checking the numbers. “More often than not, it’s a better and more cost-effective choice. But there are certainly scenarios where that may not be the case,” she says. “It costs you nothing to go online and take a look at the plans.” If adding everyone to one policy is too expensive, you can search for a new family plan on the Affordable Care Act marketplace, or private exchanges such as eHealth. You may qualify for financial help. Unfortunately, due to a rule colloquially called the “Family Glitch,” even if you qualify for subsidies based on your family income, the system may still count you as having access to an affordable plan because the calculation is based on the individual premium, not the family premium. This means you might not always be eligible for assistance, even if adding your whole family to the plan is unaffordable. COBRA If you recently quit or lost your job, you can keep your old insurance for a limited period thanks to the Consolidated Omnibus Reconciliation Act, COBRA for short. This federal law allows you to continue paying for your old plan. The catch? You now have to pick up the entire cost, so it is often very expensive. Plus, you only have 60 days to sign up after your job coverage ends, so you need to move quickly. You can also use COBRA to get coverage if you get a divorce, your insured spouse dies, or you become too old to be on your parents’ plan. The maximum amount of time you can get coverage this way is 18 months, and you can opt out at any time. Exchange Plans Another option is buying a plan on an exchange and, thanks to the ACA, every state now has an insurance marketplace (ours is nystateofhealth.ny.gov), where you can compare plans and choose the best one for you. Each is guaranteed to comply with the ACA’s rules, such as covering pre-existing conditions and preventative care, and no cap on annual benefits. There are also many subsidies you can apply for. You can buy a plan from the marketplace online, on the phone, via a paper form, through a private exchange, or direct from a broker or agent. Again, you can only do this during open enrollment or special enrollment.

What many people don’t realize is the state marketplace doesn’t include all ACA-compliant plans offered by insurers. “If you don’t qualify for subsidies, it’s a good idea to have a look at something like eHealth or speak to a broker, because there may be a plan that isn’t on the state marketplace that could be good for you,” Zamosky says. Small Business Owners One exception to the open enrollment period rule is available to small business owners. If you run a small business with two or more full-time employees, you can buy something called small business plan insurance. These are ACA-compliant and often work out to be very good value, Zamosky says. If you don’t have your own business, there are many business associations that offer health insurance plans. For example, if you are one of the 57 million freelance workers in the United States, you can buy a plan through the Freelancer Union (freelancersunion.org). There are 450,000 members nationwide, and it’s free to join. Association plans like this can only be joined during open enrollment or special enrollment. High-Deductible Health Plans With HDHPs, you pay a lower monthly premium because your deductible is high. They are often offered by employers alongside a Health Savings Account they contribute to, but HDHPs can be bought individually. Before deciding on one of these plans, it’s very important to figure out if it makes sense based on your specific medical needs. According to Zamosky, there are two types of people who this plan suits: those who rarely visit the doctor and so save money with the low premium, and those who anticipate high costs (such as people planning surgery in the next year) who benefit from the cap on the out-of-pocket expenses. Whatever path you choose, don’t opt out. No insurance means you won’t be able to take care of your health with regular checkups and preventative care. You won’t be prepared in the case of an accident if you need medical attention or hospitalization. Medical bills can quickly add up if you don’t have insurance, and are a leading cause of bankruptcy, according to a recent study by the American Public Health Association. “I would never recommend that as a financial planner—or as just a citizen,” Castro says.

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While your kid may be fighting through the sniffles, you’ve got to field calls from work, arrange child care for tomorrow (just in case), and keep your feverish little monster entertained. It won’t necessarily be fun, but it can be easier. By Katelin Walling

he alarm clock rings for school, and your child complains of not feeling well. While fluids and rest are the best treatments when your child is sick, according to Tanya Altmann, M.D., FAAP, pediatrician, mother of two, and American Academy of Pediatrics spokesperson, you’ve got some immediate decisions to make. Here’s your prescription for sick days, including when your child should stay home and finding last-minute child care to keep this sick day from turning into a Ferris Bueller’s Day Off-like escapade (hey, it’s okay to keep the kid entertained, but let’s skip the parades).

Going to School vs. Staying Home Nearly 22 million school days are lost each year due to colds, and approximately 38 million school days are lost each year due to the flu, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. If your child is starting to feel ill but you don’t want her to contribute too many of her own sick days to those millions of missed school days, you can still send her to school if she has a runny nose, is sneezing, or has a slight cough, says 34

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Sandhya Katz, M.D., board-certified in pediatric and pediatric emergency medicine. “But send them with instructions of: Always cover your mouth when you cough or sneeze and always dispose of used tissues. And send them with a hand sanitizer to keep in their bag so they can constantly clean their hands.” Dr. Katz says you should absolutely not send your child to school when he is feverish, is vomiting more than two times a day, has discharge coming from his eyes, is having trouble breathing, or has a whooping-kind of cough or persistent abdominal pain. If your child is unable to perform daily tasks or be in class for 6-8 hours, Dr. Katz adds, that is also a reason why your child should stay home. When your child has not had a fever for more than 24 hours, is not vomiting, and can sit through a full day of school, she is in the clear to head back to class.

Find last-minute child care. “There are times when you choose to take a somewhat ill child to school because it will seriously inconvenience you.

Other times you don’t want to keep your child home because something special will be missed—a school trip, or a crucial test,” says Susan Bartell, Psy.D., a Port Washington-based child, teen, and parenting psychologist. “We all do it, but let’s face it, it’s not right. If you’re sick you should be home recuperating.” But keeping your child home may not be a cutand-dry situation, especially if both you and your spouse work. Here, a few suggestions for last-minute child care: • Set up an agreement with your partner: If you and your spouse have the flexibility of taking a sick day at work when your child’s sick, take turns on who will stay home each day so one of you isn’t taking all the time off, or consider each working a half-day so neither of you misses a full day of work. • Ask your employer if you have a work-from-home option: Some businesses will allow employees to telecommute for a day or two, which makes it easier for you to care for your child. Just make sure your child understands that you still need to work and can’t give him one-on-one attention all day. • Keep a list of caregivers that may be available at the lastminute: If you have family close by, check with them to see if they’d be willing to care for your child when she has to stay home sick. Another option is asking a friend who works from home to work from your home while keeping an eye on your child. • Call the local hospital: Your neighborhood hospital or pediatrician may offer day care for sick children, or they may know of a sick child drop-in center nearby. (Do this research ahead of time so you’re not scrambling day of.) • Browse online sitter services: Sites such as SitterCity.com, UrbanSitter.com, and Care.com allow you to search for sitters that are available last-minute to care for your child. Full disclosure: Tell the sitter before booking that your child is sick.

Keep the rest of your family healthy. Once school begins, colds spread like wildfire. And if you’re not careful, that school-borne illness your child has can easily spread to the rest of the family. “About 65 percent of all colds are caught in the home,” says Philip Tierno, Ph.D., director of clinical microbiology and immunology at New York University Langone Medical Center. So how do you keep the rest of the family healthy? Dr. Tierno suggests you wash your hands regularly and thoroughly (Dr. Altmann suggests teaching your kids to sing “Happy Birthday” or “Row, Row, Row Your Boat” twice while washing hands for proper cleaning); teach your children the proper etiquette for coughing and sneezing—use a tissue or the crux of your arm—and model these actions to your children; sanitize surfaces in the home—doorknobs, dining surfaces, remote controls, telephones; and practice good food hygiene by sanitizing countertops and cooking surfaces regularly, always use a clean cutting board, and avoid mixing uncooked plantand animal-based foods. It’s also important to discourage kids from touching their eyes, nose, and mouth with unwashed hands and tell them to avoid close contact (such as kissing, hugging, and sharing cups or eating utensils) with people who are sick.

KEEP THE BOREDOM AT BAY Our top 10 mellow activities to keep sick kids entertained without wearing them out. Make a fort in your child’s bedroom or the living room where he can nap. Have various story times throughout the day if your child is young. Alternatively, if your child is older, give her some pleasure reading books (not school books). Mix up some Jell-O—the perfect snack for sore throats!—in creative shapes, either with fun-shaped silicone baking molds or ice cube trays, or use a good ol’ cookie cutter. Change location. Being confined to the same spot all day will make anyone restless, so switch between the bedroom and living room. This writer’s favorite place when home sick? Mom and Dad’s bed, which was big enough to snuggle with Fido. Cook up a big pot of chicken noodle soup, which delivers protein, carbohydrates, some vitamins, and other helpful nutrients in an easily digested form. A study at Mount Sinai Medical Center found that hot chicken soup, either the smell or the taste, “appears to possess an additional substance for increasing the flow of nasal mucus,” which helps remove germs from your system and gets you on the way to recovery, according to Sue Castle, in her book Mother Knows Best? The Truth About Mom’s Well-Meaning (But Not Always Accurate) Advice. Dust off that stack of coloring and activity books or print free ones at home (check out crayola.com for seemingly endless options). Legos…need we say more? A little screen time never hurt—cue up movies on Netflix, the Disney Channel, or Nickelodeon. Dawdle in a long, warm bath, especially if your kids love playing in the tub but never get enough time for it before bed. Play a board or card game of bygone days—crazy eights, cribbage (bonus: math skills practice), or Sorry, anyone?

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The Palmar Grasp reflex, which happens when you stroke your infant’s palm, is practice for mastering voluntary grasping.

Decoding Infant Reffllflexes ›› Here’s the breakdown on baby’s baffling—but totally normal—built-in behaviors

lmost everything about a newborn is overwhelming. On littleto-no sleep, you’re expected to assemble gear that requires an engineering degree. You can’t go out without carrying what feels like the entire contents of your home. Then you start to notice your baby is doing these...weird things. And your new-parent panic kicks in: What. Is. Happening!? No need to worry. Those fascinating, quirky little behaviors are natural, and actually serve a purpose.

What are reflexes?

Reflexes are involuntary, spontaneous movements that are part of normal infant development. Adults have them too; the “knee-jerk” reaction to a tap of your doctor’s hammer is probably the most familiar. Infant developmental reflexes are also known as primitive reflexes, and they arise from the brain stem and spinal cord. “They are generally believed to exist because they have offered a survival benefit to human infants from an evolutionary perspective,” says Lauren Levine, M.D., assistant professor of Pediatrics at Columbia University Medical Center in Manhattan. Primitive newborn reflexes will generally fade away between 1 and 6 months of age. “If you think that your infant’s reflexes persist past this age, you should let your pediatrician know,” Dr. Levine says. “But I tell parents not to stress about newborn reflexes. A good pediatrician will be assessing them at each well-baby visit without you even realizing it!” 36

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By Christina Vercelletto

The Rooting Reflex

What: When either side of a baby’s mouth is touched, he’ll turn his head in that direction, open his mouth, and root around. Why: This helps a baby find the nipple and be able to feed. “You can imagine how an infant without these primitive reflexes might not have survived after birth thousands of years ago,” Dr. Levine notes. In the first month of your baby’s life, when she’s learning how to eat and you’re learning how to feed her, you can leverage this reflex. “Stroking the baby’s face at the corner of the mouth can help encourage the baby to latch on or take the nipple in the mouth,” says Victoria Riese, M.D., of Flatiron Pediatrics in Manhattan. “Just be aware that a baby will root any time the cheek or corner of the mouth is stroked, so don’t mistake the reflex for a sign of hunger, especially if the baby has just eaten.”

The Sucking Reflex

What: When the roof of a baby’s mouth is touched, she immediately starts sucking. (Newborns also have a strong urge to put their fists in their mouths and suck on their own fingers.) Why: Newborns’ neurological systems are immature in the first six months of life. “There needs to be a fail-safe method for the baby to get nourishment without any purposeful behavior, and then growth and development can follow,” Dr. Riese says. (This particular reflex isn’t completely cemented in utero until about 36 weeks, which is

why preemies often have a compromised ability to feed.) Sucking in general is soothing to babies, a secondary function of this reflex that probably developed to motivate babies to suck to get milk. “When a baby is fussy, putting a clean finger or pacifier in her mouth is extremely soothing and will help calm her very easily, especially if she has recently eaten and is not hungry,” Dr. Riese says. “This is one of the most useful methods to calm babies.”

The Moro (aka Startle) Reflex

What: In reaction to a sound or nearby sudden movement, a newborn throws back his head, extends his arms and legs out, then pulls his legs and arms back in. He might cry as well. Some babies even display this reflex in response to their own cry. “They are often the reason babies wake themselves up from sleep,” Dr. Levine says. “This is why swaddling infants helps them to sleep better. Their arms are tucked in and can’t flail about.” Why: “The reflex movement adjusts the baby’s posture to keep him or her balanced. Once a baby develops more voluntary control over movements, these automatic responses fade away,” says Devorah Segal, M.D., Ph.D., pediatric neurologist at New York-Presbyterian Komansky Children’s Hospital and Weill Cornell Medicine in Manhattan. And a good sense of balance is quite useful for a new human to have. For one thing, it can make it easier to grab onto your mother if she should start to lose her grip on you.

The Tonic Neck (aka the Fencing Position) Reflex

What: When your baby is lying down, and his head is turned to one side, the arm on that same side extends out, while the other arm bends at his elbow, like a fencer would stand. Why: Much like the Moro reflex, Dr. Segal explains, this one likely originated as an automatic protective response to help maintain balance. After six months or so, “more purposeful balancing motions replace it,” she says.

The Palmar Grasp (aka Grip) Reflex

What: Stroking your baby’s palm spurs her to close her fingers in a grasp. (A similar lesser-known reflex in the feet and toes usually lasts until babies are about 9 months old.) Why: It’s practice, essentially, for being able to master voluntary grasping, which will happen in a few months. Some experts call it a vestigial reflex, meaning its evolutionary purpose is no longer useful. It is thought to have originated as a way for babies to hang onto their mothers’ fur when humans were hairier. That alleviated the need for a mother to hold onto her baby while trying to, say, run from a predator.

The Stepping Reflex

What: Despite not being able to support his own weight, your baby moves his legs as though walking, even dancing, when you’re holding him upright with his feet touching a solid surface. Why: This reflex is pretty much what it looks like: preparation and training for the all-important ability of humans to walk upright. “The best thing for parents to do when it comes to their infant’s primitive reflexes is to know what they are,” Dr. Levine notes. “That way, they’re not alarmed when they see them, and they’re able to tell the pediatrician if any of them are asymmetrical.” For example, your baby only grasps with her right hand and not the left, or, when startled, flails her left arm but not her right. “Such asymmetries could indicate a nerve or musculoskeletal injury from the birth process and need further evaluation,” Dr. Levine says. But remember, the reflexes themselves are not harmful to your baby in any way. Dr. Segal agrees: “There is nothing parents need to do to ‘train’ their baby out of a reflex. They will go away on their own over time.”

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Your teens still need some guidance when it comes to healthy habits, such as eating a balanced meal, so try cooking together once or twice a week and enjoying a meal as a family.

Don’t Let Go—Just Yet

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Even though your teen is gaining more independence, you still need to do these four things. By Laura D’Angelo

“ ’m not a little kid anymore!” Those six heart-wrenching words are often what adolescents tell their parents, who may still view their teens as the babies they once were. It can be hard to let go, whether you are handing over the car keys, packing your “child” up for college, or accepting that your 13-year-old wants to start wearing makeup to school. No parent is fully prepared to come to terms with their teenager outgrowing certain childhood habits. However, society sometimes misconstrues what the actual meaning of adolescence is: an extension of childhood. Even though your teenager is beginning to gain independence, that doesn’t mean he is going to become a full-fledged, independent adult overnight. Here are four ways your teen still needs you, according to experts in adolescent psychology.

Set Rules and Boundaries

You’ve likely set guidelines throughout your teen’s life, relating to your family values and morals—and those of society and culture at large. But internalizing and acting according to those rules is a lot for her to take on by herself right now, according to Erin Jant, Ph.D., developmental psychology professor at 38

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Binghamton University. “They’ve had all these routines and rules throughout their life, but they might still need reminders on some things,” Dr. Jant says. This is especially true when it comes to the pressure your teen may feel from her peers or what she sees on social media, according to Alyson Cohen, LCSW, who works with adolescents and young adults at her private practice in midtown Manhattan. Your teen doesn’t need to be micromanaged in every aspect of her life, but gentle reminders here and there—especially when it comes to what’s okay to share and how to act on social media—will go a long way to ensuring your teen stays safe online, Cohen points out.

Remind About Dietary and Hygiene Habits

While your teenager may not need to rely on you entirely for meals and reminders about cleanliness anymore, it’s possible he still might need some help adjusting to becoming independently accountable for the many responsibilities that come with growing up. Check in on your teenager to make sure he’s practicing healthy food habits to balance the junk food he eats when you’re not

NORY STEM around. In many situations she deals with, Cohen finds it helpful when parents are involved in preparing their teenager’s food. Try cooking together once or twice a week, or give him more freedom to choose and prepare a meal for the family. When it comes to hygiene, it’s especially important to help young teens along with some gentle reminders—after all, needing deodorant and getting acne is new for them. Cohen suggests asking questions like: “Are you brushing and flossing your teeth at night?”; “Are you actually using body wash and shampoo when you take a shower?”; “When was the last time your sheets were changed?”; and “Are you making sure your favorite jeans are getting washed?” The important thing is not to come down on him for doing something wrong, but rather to reinforce his positive behaviors and habits through encouragement.

Allow for Natural Consequences

One of the most influential factors in whether a teenager becomes a self-reliant, confident adult is whether she has been allowed to face (and learn from) the consequences of her actions, Dr. Jant stresses. If you fix every single issue for him, he won’t ever get the sense of autonomy he needs to thrive in the real world. After all, if you keep bringing your teen her lunch at school because she always forgets to pack it, will she ever learn to remember? “[It’s important] that their parents are giving them rules, sending them off, and hoping that they’re learning from their own failures, while always providing support when necessary,” Dr. Jant says. “Natural consequences are very useful and impactful for teens especially.” So, consider letting your teens experience safe and natural consequences. For example, instead of emailing her English teacher asking if she can do extra credit to boost her grade, let her take the lower grade. It’s the only way she’ll realize writing her essays on the bus the morning they are due isn’t a great idea.

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Even if your teenager tells you he can’t stand your smothering hugs, appropriate physical affection from a parent or guardian is something he’ll never outgrow, Cohen says. “There has been so much research in the last 25 years that there is no amount of love that you can give your child that’s too much,” Cohen says. “And when I say love, I don’t mean being overbearing, in their face trying to do everything for them, but [saying], ‘I love you. I care so much about you. I’m so happy you’re in my life.’” It is especially important to remember your teenager has not outgrown physical affection, according to Dr. Jant. Why? “The risk for depression in adolescence jumps up exponentially compared to middle childhood,” she says. So, it’s crucial that parents pay attention to behavior shifts in their children, and not take on a permissive parenting style just because they want to be liked, Dr. Jant says. “There are so many parents who feel that tension…so then they pull back. They just allow [their teen] to do whatever, and then that can lead to negative consequences for that child.” Even though it can be difficult, it’s important to remember to remain calm when your teenager is acting up or shutting you out. Even if she’s behaving like she wants nothing to do with you, what she really needs more than ever is your love, support, and affection. Laura D’Angelo, a former NYMetroParents editorial intern, is a junior at Binghamton University.

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