Virginity And Hymen by Adetoyi Kolawole

Virginity And Hymen

Virginity is defined as having sex for the first time. Many cultures view it as a sign of self-worth. Virginity And Hymen

Virginity has been primarily used to signify purity, morality, and virtue but your worth is inherent regardless of how much sex you have,

There’s no one definition for virginity. For some, being a virgin means you haven’t had any kind of penetrative sex, whether vagina, anal or oral sex.

The definition of virginity is complicated, and it’s really up to you to decide what you believe. Some people don’t even care what “virginity” means or think it matters.

Stressing about whether you’re a virgin is way less important than how you feel about your sexual experiences. Ask yourself: are you happy with the sexual experiences you’ve had or decided not to have?

The average age when people have sex for the first time is 18. Sometimes it may seem like everybody at your school is doin’ it, but that’s usually not true. Only about half of high school students have ever had vaginal sex. And most teens who have had sex don’t do it very often.

Choosing to have sex for the first time is a big decision that’s very personal. People think about lots of different things: religious, spiritual, and moral beliefs; family and personal values; desire; love; and/or relationships. Whatever your reason is, it’s important to wait until you’re sure you’re ready to have sex.

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Lots of teens who’ve had sex say they wish they had waited. If you’ve already started having sex and want to stop, that’s totally okay — just because you’ve had sex before doesn’t mean you have to do it again. People can be abstinent (not have sex) at any time, for any reason. And some people choose to never have sex — that’s totally okay, too.

Try not to worry too much about what other people do. When you lose your virginity isn’t as big a deal as making sure you and your partner are ready for sex. If you have sex just to fit in, it probably won’t be a very good experience. It’s better to wait to have sex until you feel totally ready — and are prepared for some of the possible consequences of sex (like pregnancy or STDs). Virginity And Hymen

Everyone’s “first time” is different. But one of the most important parts of being prepared for sex is making sure you use birth control and condoms to help prevent pregnancy and STDs.

Hymen

Your hymen is a small, thin piece of tissue at the opening of your vagina. It’s formed by fragments of tissue left over from fetal development. The size, shape, and thickness of your hymen are unique to you and can change over time. When you’re born, your hymen is usually a ring-shaped piece of tissue that surrounds your vaginal opening. Other times it covers just the bottom of the opening of your vagina. In rare cases, the hymen covers your entire vaginal opening and causes issues with menstruation.

The hymen has a reputation for being an indicator of sexual activity — like a hard, seal-like covering that blocks your vagina — but it usually has no connection to whether a woman (or person assigned female at birth) has had sex. In reality, it’s soft and elastic and doesn’t necessarily block your vaginal opening. It can break from everyday activities, inserting a tampon or having sex.

Your hymen doesn’t serve a purpose in your body or reproductive system. Unlike other organs or tissues with a clear job, no one knows for sure what the hymen does. Some think it might have something to do with keeping bacteria or foreign objects out of your vagina.

Some people know when their hymen breaks, while others don’t. Like other tissues in your body, your hymen is flexible and can stretch. It doesn’t usually tear the first time it’s pressed on. Rather, it breaks as a result of being worn down. It’s not an instant pain you’d feel if you tore a muscle or broke a bone.

Some people experience pain or light bleeding when their hymen breaks, but most will feel nothing. Since it’s a flexible piece of tissue, it stretches and tears over time from day-to-day activities or from using tampons. If you bleed when your hymen breaks, many believe it’s their period or spotting, hymen can’t grow back after it breaks. It’s a tissue membrane formed during development, and it can’t regrow in adults.

Note:- Having a hymen and being a virgin is not the same thing.

Your hymen is the same color as the skin around your vagina (flesh-colored). It can form a crescent moon beneath your vaginal opening or surround your vaginal opening. It doesn’t cover the vaginal opening entirely because that would prevent menstruation blood from leaving your body. In infants, the hymen will be more noticeable since it hasn’t had time to wear down.

If your hymen is broken it may look like a small piece of tissue that’s been pushed off to the side. A torn hymen is tough to see, and you can’t feel it with your finger. In some cases, it blends back into the vaginal opening.

Your hymen doesn’t necessarily break the first time you have sexual intercourse. Your hymen can break before you have sex from everyday activities like exercise or inserting a tampon. It’s also possible that it does break the first time you have sex. If this happens you may see blood and feel a little pain.

It gets a lot of attention for being an indicator of sexual activity, but that isn’t entirely accurate. Everyone’s hymen is different. Some people experience bleeding and pain, while others don’t.

Facts About Virginity 1. Intact Hymen is not an indicator of virginity. Some people have a hymen, some don’t. Some hymen change after sex, and some don’t.

2. Virginity is a social concept, there are no physical indicators of virginity.

3. Virginity doesn’t define anyone’s character or worth

4. Bleeding is not necessary when you have sex for the first time

5. There’s no such thing as losing your virginity. When you engage in sexual activities for the first time, term it your first Sexual Experience or call it a Sexual Debut.

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Facts About Virginity And Hymen 1. Virginity Tests are not real

Your hymen doesn’t disappear after your first Sexual intercourse or experience, a part of it stays in your body forever. There’s really no connection between losing one’s virginity and bleeding.

2. The hymen doesn’t cover the vagina

The hymen is a small piece of skin found at the opening of the vagina. It partially covers the opening and hence menstrual blood can pass through the vagina before having penetrative sex for the first time.

3. Not everyone has a hymen

Some women are born with very small hymen or with no hymen at all. This is perfectly healthy and does not mean they are missing anything, or need medical attention

4. Visiting a gynecologist doesn’t affect your virginity

Using tampons or visiting a gynecologist for a regular exam won’t affect your virginity. Speculum movement is wrongly considered to be the equivalent of sexual penetration.

5. The hymen stretches or tear

When you have penetrative sex for the first time, nothing disappears. The hymen may simply stretch or tear. Some parts of it always remain. Virginity And Hymen

NOTE:-

– instead of asking, Who did you give your virginity to?/ Who took it?, Ask this politely….. Who did you share your first Sexual Experience with?

– Instead of asking How Old were you when you lost your virginity?… Ask this, How Old were you when you felt empowered to start having sex?

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