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ther. love was us and we lived within its spirit. you would pull me close, so close that i could hear your heart beating and you would stroke my hair until i was asleep in your arms. nothing in the world stopped us from loving eachother. but one day my world of sunshine became my world of darkness. you left me to bleed. i am broken and i just want you to know that you were the biggest mistake of my life. in life you must learn from your mistakes; if you don’t, you become the mistake.

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Q.Whatagedidyoustartphotographyandwhatgotyouintoit? ' v eb e e nt a k i n gp h o t o si ns o mew a yo r a n o t h e r f o r q u i t eaf e wy e a r sn o w , b u t i t ' so n l y A.IguessI

b e e ni nt h ep a s t y e a r o r s ot h a t I ' v er e a l ys t a r t e dt ot a k ei t s e r i o u s l ya n dg o n ep l a c e sj u s t t ot a k e p h o t o s . I t r a v e l e dt oC a n a d al a s t y e a r a n dw a n t e dt od o c u me n t myt i mea w a y , s oI j o i n e dt h i ss i t e c a l e d' F l i c k r ' t os h a r emyp h o t o sw i t hmyf a mi l yb a c kh o me . Wh e nI w a so nt h e r eI s t u mb l e da c r o s s s o me t h i n gc a l e da' 3 6 5p r o j e c t ' w h e r et h ep h o t o g r a p h e r t a k e so n ep h o t oad a yf o r ay e a r a n ds oI d e c i d e do naw h i mt od ot h a t t o o . I f i n i s h e dt h ep r o j e c t i ne a r l yMa yt h i sy e a r a n di t w a sn i c et os e e h o wmu c hmyp h o t o g r a p h yh a dg r o w n .

Q.Howwouldyoudescribeyourstyleofphotography? I f i n di t r e a l y h a r dt op u t t h i n g si nb o x e s , I d o n t l i k et ob et o op r e d i c t a b l e . I t h i n kmy s t y l ei sp r o b a b l y A. ac o mb i n a t i o no f w h i ms i c a l , l a n d s c a p ea n dI d os o met y p o g r a p h y . N a t u r ef e a t u r e sh e a v i l y I l o v ef i n d i n g i n t e r e s t i n gl o c a t i o n sa n ds h o o t i n ga mo n g s t t h el a n d s c a p e . I w r i t eal o t t o o , a n dt r y t oc o mb i n et h ew o r d s w i t hmyi ma g e st oa d dt ot h ew h o l es t o r y .

Q.Ifyouhadthechancetophotographsomeonefamous,whowouldit b ea n dwh y ?

' v en e v e r r e a l yt h o u g h t a b o u t t h a t b e f o r e ! H h mmm. S o me o n ew h oI c a ne x p e r i A.Youknow,I

me n t w i t ha n dd os o me t h i n gd i f f e r e n t . P e r h a p sS u f j a nS t e v e n sb e c a u s eh eh a ss u c hau n i q u eq u a l i t y a b o u t h i ma n dI ' dl o v et oa d dh i mt ot h el a n d s c a p e . I ' da l s oe n j o yt h eo p p o r t u n i t yt os t a r ea t h i m t h o u g ht h el e n sf o r aw h i l e . H a h a h a; )

Q.Whatdoesphotographymeantoyou? Al o t ! I ' v ea l w a y sb e e nac r e a t i v es o u l , w h e t h e r i t smu s i c , d r a mao r w r i t i n ga n dI f e e l t h a t w i t hp h o A. t o g r a p h yy o uc a nc o mb i n ea l o f t h o s ee l e me n t s . T h e r ei sn o t mu c ht h a t b e a t st h ef e e l i n go f c a p t u r i n g s o me t h i n gr e a l ys p e c i a l amo me n t i nt i met h a t w i l n e v e r b ea g a i nb u t c a nl i v eo ni nap h o t o .

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h a v e n t p i c k e du pmyo l dp o i n t a n ds h o o t s i n c et h e n . I j u s t u s et h ek i t l e n sb u t h o p e f u l ys o o nI c a nu p g r a d et h a t t o o . T h e r e sn ol o o k i n gb a c k ! H a h a . I a l s oh a v eav i n t a g eo l y mp u so m1 0f i l mc a me r an a me d R o g e r w h i c hI f o u n di nat h r i f t s t o r ei nV a n c o u v e r , C a n a d a . H ei sr e a l y b e a u t i f u l a n dI l o v ee x p e r i me n t i n g w i t hf i l m.

Q.Haveanytipsforpeoplewhowanttogetintophotography? G of o r i t ! Wh e ny o u ' r es t a r t i n go f f t h e r ei sn on e e df o r e x p e n s i v ee q u i p me n t g e t y o u r s e l f ap o i n t A. a n ds h o o t a n dj u s t s t a r t s h o o t i n g . E x p e r i me n t ! T r yd i f f e r e n t l o c a t i o n s . T a k ep h o t o so f t h i n g sy o ua r ei n t e r e s t e di n , d o n t w o r r ya b o u t i mp r e s s i n ga n y o n ee l s e . Mo d e l sa r eo f t e nh a r dt of i n d , s ot a k es e l f p o r t r a i t s a n dl e a r na b o u t a n g l e sa n dl i g h t i n g . I t h i n ky o ul e a r ns omu c hf r o mj u s t g e t t i n go u t t h e r ea n dd o i n g . Y o u h a v en o t h i n gt ol o s e !

Q.Whoinspiresyou? yi n s p i r e db ys oma n yo f t h ew o n d e r f u l p e o p l eo nF l i c k r ! A A.Ohwow,wheretostart?Iamhonestl

s ma l s e l e c t i o nw o u l di n c l u d e : R o s aJ o y , L e x i Mi r e , K a r r a hK o b u s , L a u r aL e a l A p a r i c i oa n dA l e x S t o d d a r d . N a t u r ei n s p i r e smes omu c ha n da l s ov a r i o u sa r t i s t s , mu s i c i a n sa n dmyf r i e n d s .

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I need to know what it feels like to live. I won't survive. We won't survive. I will live a life that's true, painful and just as beautiful as a morning sun, or a new moon. Running in open fields, feeling the grass below my feet as if I were not touching the ground, as if I was running so fast to start flying, spreading my wings and crying out to the world that I am free. Free from the judgements , free from the hypocrisy free from all and nothing. Just living a life that's worth living, the way it was meant to be from the very start.And when my wings will tire out, and I'll fall to the ground, I'll start running again faster than before. Running into the unknown, playing with fire without getting burned, blowing out the sun only to fly up into the sky to light it again. Swimming the whole ocean with the weight that drags me down. Being buried alive by the troubles made of sand, shaking off the dust and taking a step up. Keep stepping up. Once I've seen it all, iâ&#x20AC;&#x2122;ll run back the way I came from, flying up again. Only to explore everything a second time with the eyes of a child. That same child that allowed me to live the life I wanted, the life I had always dreamed of living. From heaven things are different, I bet you they wish they were here, just to take my example and set their wings to fly. Always aim for the sky.

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Q.Youhavesomuchtalent!Whatagedidyoustartphotographing?

Hmm what agedi dIst ar t phot ogr aphy?I t ’ shar dt odr awal i ne.Myf i r st di gi t al camer at hat IhadwaswhenI was14It hi nk .Backt hanIshot al ot ofphot osbut Ihadnocl uehowacamer ar eal l ywor k ed.Formybi r t hday t hi syeari nFebr uar yIgot aCanon500dandIt hi nkt hat ’ st hepoi nt wher eIst ar t edt ounder st andt hepr ocessof phot ogr aphy.

Q.Whatinspiredyoutotakephotos?

Someyear sIst ar t edt ot ak epi ct ur est oget herwi t hmybest f r i endasamodel andIt hi nki t washerwhoi nspi r ed me.Herf acei sj ust souni queandbeaut i f ul ;af aceyouj ust gav et ophot ogr aph!Theni n2010Iwent t oBr az i l f or ayear .I t wasj ust suchamar v el l oust i mesoIdi dn' t want t omi ssasecondofi t andIdi dn' t .Ist i l l hav eal l t he phot osher ewhor emi ndmeoft hebeaut i f ul peopl eImet ont heot hersi deoft hewor l d.

Q.Doyouprefershootinginnaturallightingorwithstudiolighting?

Ihav eact ual l ynev ershot i nast udi osoIcan' t j udgei fnat ur al orst udi ol i ght i sbet t erorwhi choneIpr ef er .But ev ent houghIt hi nkIl i k enat ur al l i ght best ,i t ’ sj ust sounpr edi ct abl e.I t canbeyourl ov erandenemyat t hesame t i me.

What ' syourper spect i v eonphot ogr aphy? Q.

Ihav enev erbeenagoodwr i t er ;Iam act ual l ypr et t ybadi nf i ndi ngt her i ght wor ds,but wi t hmyphot osIdo,at l east f orme.Ik nowt hat soundspr et t ycl i chébut i t ’ smywayofex pr essi ngt hi ngs.

Q.Whoinspiresyou?

Ev er yoneandnobody…t hat ’ sahar dquest i on.Ther ear eal ot ofgr eat t al ent edar t i st sonFl i ck rwhor eal l yar ea hugei nspi r at i onf ormebut Idof i ndal ot ofi deasf r om songsIhear ,t henat ur ear oundmeandl i ght .Most ofmy i deasj ust popi nt omyheadonabor i ngSundayaf t er noon.

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Got anyt i psf orpeopl ewant i ngt oget i nt ophot ogr aphy? Q.

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