MFDA Bulletin - Spring 2023

SPRING 2023

Combatting Compassion Fatigue

6 ways to prioritize your mental health and bypass burnout

The Power

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Get to know

2023 MFDA Convention Keynote speaker

John O’Leary

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2023 MFDA Convention Preview

Minnesota Funeral Directors Association In This Issue

MFDA BOARD OF DIRECTORS

President Brian Dingmann Dingmann Funeral Care Burial & Cremation Services, Annandale, MN brian@dingmannfuneral.com

Treasurer Joe Mahn

Secretary Sara Thompson Patton-Schad Funeral & Cremation Services Sauk Centre, MN sthompson@pattonschad.com

Mahn Family Funeral and Cremation Services, Red Wing, MN jmahn62@hotmail.com

DISTRICT DIRECTORS

Tyler Hoff (District 1) Worlein Funeral Home Austin, MN tyler@worlein.com

Kevin Satre (District 2) Mankato Mortuary Mankato, MN kevin@mankatomortuary.com

Jeff Hartquist (District 3) Hartquist Funeral Home Luverne, MN hartquistluverne@gmail.com

Kyle TeBeest (District 4/5) Anderson-TeBeest Funeral Homes Montevideo, MN kyle@andersontebeest.com

Jordan McReavy-Seitz (District 6/7) Washburn-McReavy Funeral Homes Minnespolis, MN jordan@wmchapels.com

Open (District 8)

Jade Petznick (District 9) Larson Funeral Home Pelican Rapids, MN jade@larsonfuneralpelicanrapids.com

Allison Cease (District 10) Cease Funeral Home Bagley, MN ceaseallison@gmail.com

David Huso (District 11) Rowe Funeral Home Grand Rapids, MN husodavid@yahoo.com

PAST PRESIDENT REP

Dan Dahl

Dahl Funeral Home, East Grand Forks, MN dan.dahl@midconetwork.com

MFDA STAFF

Miki Tufto Executive Director 763-416-0124 (office) 651-235-3700 (cell) mtufto@mnfuneral.org

Amy Beckham Administrative amy@mnfuneral.org

Maria Olaez Accounting maria@mnfuneral.org

Kathy Sheridan Membership/Convention kathy@mnfuneral.org

Todd Pernsteiner MFDA Bulletin Design todd@pernsteiner.com

Upcoming Events

MFDA’s 132 nd Annual Convention May 2-4, 2023

DoubleTree Park Place Hotel, St. Louis Park Watch

Who We Are: Minnesota Funeral Director’s Association (MFDA) is the statewide resource dedicated to supporting our member’s growth professionally, ethically, and operationally.

Our Mission: Our mission is to enhance and support funeral service excellence through our programs, legislative representation and service to Minnesotans.

How We Accomplish This:

• Essential and enduring principles that guide our organization’s behaviors and actions

• Advancing the value of funeral service consistent with the changing needs of society

• Advocacy on behalf of consumers and members

• Visionary leadership trust and confidence in staff and volunteer leadership

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Past President Kelly J. Kelly Mahn Family Funeral and Cremation Services, Rochester, MN kjkell0803@yahoo.com MFDA Bulletin is published

• Promotion of integrity; honest and ethical behavior within the funeral industry

• Collaboration with others in the interest of consumers and members

• Recognize the importance of education as a vehicle to enhance both public service and public image

PRESIDENT’S MESSAGE

By Brian Dingmann, MFDA Board President

Answering the Call to Service

It’s amazing to look at the past and see how fast time passes us by. Convention is quickly approaching, and with convention, my year as President of the MFDA will come to a close.

MFDA convention is one of my favorite weeks of the year. Convention provides us with new knowledge about our profession, updates on what is happening in the industry, and networking opportunities. The greatest value that I see in convention, is the opportunity to decompress with the only group in Minnesota that understands the unique personal and professional challenges experienced

by a mortician. Convention allows us to see that we are not alone or on an island in our challenges. We are all in this together.

It was not long ago, a board member and friend, Jeff Hartquist, was recruiting me to join the MFDA board. He said that to those that much is give, much is expected in return, quoting from the Gospel of Luke. It forced me to look back at what I had been given in life; all the people that supported me, supported my family, and supported my profession. It was a call to serve our profession through MFDA.

I became involved in the MFDA board as a way to give back to a profession that I truly love. I did not expect to get more out of the experience than I can ever hope to give. Thank you for allowing me the opportunity to represent you as the President of the Minnesota Funeral Directors Association. I have enjoyed every step of the journey and am excited to welcome Joe Mahn as the next President of MFDA.

Brian Dingmann MFDA President 2022-2023

Updated Contact Information for Michael Sharkey

A reminder to please update your contact records for our MFDA General Counsel Michael D. Sharkey, ESQ. As you know Michael’s role is to serve as a resource to the association as well as our member funeral directors as a member benefit. Specifically, those firms who need mortuary law specific legal guidance, (often on short or even emergency notice) can spend up to 30 minutes getting answers they need. If a call will take more than 30 minutes of guidance, the member will be advised to retain Michael privately.

Please call 952-334-4460 to reach Michael with questions or to email documents sharkey@ mortuarylaw.com

This MFDA member benefit is important and made possible by your membership dues and the support of the MFDA Service Corporation.

Michael is an experienced attorney with a passion and enthusiasm for mortuary law. As a former funeral director he possesses a unique knowledge of the funeral business and the legal challenges funeral directors face. He represents and advises funeral homes, crematories,

and cemeteries on legal and business matters and in litigation. He also represents licensed professionals in administrative disciplinary hearings before the MDH Mortuary Science Section, FTC, and OSHA. Atty Sharkey also handles funeral home business transactions, including buy/sell agreements, ownership transfers, and employment issues. Before he became an attorney, he was a funeral director at both a small rural funeral home in northern Wisconsin and at a large multi-chapel and cemetery operation in MinneapolisSt. Paul.

EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR’S REPORT

By Miki Tufto, MFDA Executive Director

My Mission: Continue to Lift Up Funeral Service

Tuesday, December 20, 2022 will be a day I will never forget. It was the day the MFDA Board of Directors voted to appoint me as your MFDA executive director, and the day my family and I arrived in Nokomis, FL to set up in-home hospice care for my 64-yearold Aunt Barb.

To say this day was bittersweet is an understatement. My almost 20-year career with MFDA had been leading up to this leadership role, and I was ready and excited for the opportunity to serve our members and Minnesota funeral service. That phone call from our Board President Brian Dingmann was one of joy as I arrived at the Tampa International Airport. Upon arrival at my aunt’s house my jubilation about my new position quickly moved into anxiety, sadness, and determination to provide my aunt with her wishes to die at home.

This was not the first time I witnessed a loved one’s end-of-life through hospice care. I assisted in caring for my dad, aunt, grandpa, and grandma (my Aunt Barb’s siblings and parents) as they died from cancer 18+ years ago. My Aunt Barb and I have always been close, but those deaths brought us even closer. Friends on social media have no doubt seen my posts over the years of our visits to Sarasota and her visits to Minnesota in the “good weather months.”

After my Uncle Wally, the love of her life, died in 2012, we had discussions about her wishes that when it was time I would care for her through her end-of-life and handle all of her estate needs. When she was diagnosed almost a year ago with stage III pancreatic cancer, those discussions became real. She had a tremendous support system of friends in Florida after living there 30 years, so she wanted to stay there for treatment.

My family made trips frequently last year when medical needs were urgent. She was accepted in a clinical trial for treatment and everything was going better than expected, until it suddenly wasn’t. At that point the cancer was winning, and treatment was taxing, so she called me to let me know she was stopping treatment just a few weeks before Christmas.

The first two days of intake appointments with hospice were a blur; paperwork, health insurance, final wishes. It all felt unreal. The hospice social worker provided me with a four-page list of funeral homes in the Sarasota/Port Charlotte/Ft. Myers area. She then made little marks on the list of, “Funeral homes closer to Nokomis, and funeral homes who are low-cost cremation service providers.” That was interesting.

Keep in mind this is a few days before Christmas and what happens next will be no surprise to you in the funeral industry, but there was light staffing scheduled for their hospice team, so I saw very little staff until after the 1st of the year when schedules were back to normal.

At times I felt like I was drowning. When I realized hospice couldn’t provide the support, I called every home nursing service that had CNA’s for hire and not one out of a list of 15 had any staff available to help me bathe my aunt. I quickly realized it was up to me and my family to care for all of her needs to keep her comfortable and pain-free. If you’ve ever helped to care for someone with pancreatic cancer during their endof-life, it is a cruel and painful disease. Managing her nausea and pain included much trial and error with the help of hospice, but we eventually got her comfortable.

On December 26 my family changed their flights and stayed with me until Scott needed to get our sons back home to school later that week. I stayed alone with her for two days until my cousin arrived to help me. Barb died peacefully in the afternoon on January 5 in her home, just as she wanted.

Our Hospice Nurse Ann was a rockstar those last 5 days of Barb’s life. I think she knew I was left to tread water that week before when they were short staffed, so she spent a lot of time with us. After I found Barb no longer breathing in her hospital bed, I immediately called Nurse Ann. She greeted us with hugs, and asked for her clothes to go to the funeral home in (a MN Twins pullover, her favorite). She then cleaned and dressed Barb so we could see her one more time at peace. A gesture I will never forget. She then called the funeral home in Sarasota that I had previously selected. Two white sprinter vans with a nondescript logo on them arrived with two women to make her removal. They asked us to step outside as they moved her from her bed in her living room. I’m so thankful for them as they arrived quickly, were professional, and took Barb into their care with dignity.

My experience with the funeral director in Florida was not the same as it has been with my Minnesota experiences. When I arrived at the funeral home to make arrangements, we went through his checklist of questions, and eventually I revealed I had just become the MFDA executive director. He paused for quite a while and said, “So, did I pass the test?” in a jokingly way and we both laughed.

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LEGISLATIVE UPDATE

By Joe Sellwood, Cook Strong Sellwood

MFDA Priority Bills Introduced

As of the printing of this Bulletin, all of MFDA’s priority bills have now been introduced (list below). MFDA will provide updates as available regarding movement with the bills. If necessary, MFDA will ask funeral directors to reach out to their legislators in the House and Senate who serve on the Health/Health & Human Services committees to voice support for the proposals. Please know that your lobbyists with Cook Strong Sellwood continue to work with legislators, MFDA’s Legislative Committee, and the Department of Health to develop and advocate for good mortuary science policy.

• Transfer Care Specialist –HF2509 (Huot) / SF2611 (Utke)

• Mort Sci Internships –HF1036 (Huot) / SF2610 (Utke)

• Mort Sci Reciprocal Licensure –HF1039 (Huot) / SF2612 (Utke)

• Cremation of body parts –HF2025 (Huot) / SF2587 (Wiklund)

In addition to the MFDA priority bills, MFDA is closely monitoring HF2669 (Huot) which permits final disposition by natural organic reduction. While the proposal does require licensure

by the Commissioner of Health for the natural organic reduction facility, it does not require a mortician’s license for the ownership and operation of the facility. HF2669 also allows the facility to employ unlicensed personnel. Also recently introduced, HF2605 (Huot) / SF2674 (Rarick) places a moratorium on green burials, and requires a report from the Commissioner of Health on the various impacts of green burials. Just two months into the 2023 legislative session, the DFL majorities in the House and Senate have passed multiple significant pieces of legislation:

• HF31 – Federal tax conformity

• HF1 – Protect Reproductive Options Act

• SF13 – Recognizing Juneteenth as a state holiday

• HF4 – Drivers Licenses (no proof of citizenship required)

• HF7 – 100% clean energy by 2040

• HF35 – Inflation included in the state budget forecast

• HF28 – Expansion of voting rights for felons

• HF37 – Prohibiting discrimination based on hair

Other bills moving through the legislature on their way to becoming law include requiring a new Earned Sick and Safe Time benefit for employees, a 24-week Paid Family Leave program funded by a new payroll tax, a bill providing free breakfast and lunch to all students (regardless of income), a ban on conversion therapy, a bill to make Minnesota a trans refuge, the legalization of recreational cannabis, the legalization of sports betting, and a capital investment bill to borrow $1.9 billion to invest in Minnesota’s infrastructure.

The legislature’s work will wrap up on May 22nd, but not before they pass the state budget for 2024 and 2025. With a $17.5 billion surplus (in addition to the state’s current $52 billion budget), there’s short-term fiscal flexibility as policymakers seek to fund new programs.

MFDA will keep members updated as we move through the 2023 legislative session.

EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR’S REPORT

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As personable as he was, it was not the same feeling of care, concern, and compassion as I’ve experienced back home. Maybe he was just having an off day, or perhaps I’m just a bit biased to the funeral directors I’ve worked with in the past.

I am so thankful to have had this experience caring for Barb. It has forever changed me. It opened my eyes to the importance of a muchneeded connection with hospice and funeral directors working together and not autonomously. The transition from end-of-life care through death care shouldn’t be separated, it should

flow together. I felt like I would be bothering the funeral director if I called him to start making plans during her time of imminent death, and I should’ve been guided through the support of our hospice social worker that making that phone call was ok to do. I believe MFDA can bridge that gap with hospice organizations, and I plan to have those discussions with MN Hospice and Palliative Care Network staff and board members in the future. Funeral service is so important. Social pressures are working to diminish funeral service and divide

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us. More than ever, I’m determined to work and serve on behalf of funeral service in this state. Funeral service shouldn’t be diminished in the eyes of the public, it should be lifted up, promoted, and valued. The challenges we face are well documented and we need to continue fighting. I am so incredibly honored to serve as your executive director.

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I want to say thank you to the MFDA executive committee, my co-workers, and industry friends for supporting me during my time caring for Barb. I am forever grateful for your kindness.

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• Access highly-qualified, professional candidates.

• Generate high return on recruitment advertisement spending.

• Easy-to-use job posting and resume search capabilities.

• Access to job board networks for broader job distribution to qualified candidates.

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• Applicant tracking and management capabilities.

• Internal messaging system automatically stores messages sent from the job seeker in the candidate’s file.

• User-friendly template system to resuse job postings, pre-screen filters and automatic letters and notifications.

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One The Power of

Expected to die. Now teaching others how to truly live.

Getting to know

John O’Leary, two-time #1 national bestselling author & 2023 MFDA Convention keynote speaker

In 1987, John O’Leary was a curious nine-year-old boy. Playing with fire and gasoline, John created a massive explosion in his home and was burned on 100% of his body. He was given less than a 1% chance to live. This epic story of survival (first showcased in 2008 with his parents’ acclaimed book Overwhelming Odds) has never felt more relevant than as we live through the COVID-19 pandemic together.

John inspires 50,000+ people at 100+ live and virtual events each year. He speaks to companies and organizations across industries, including: sales, healthcare, safety, marketing, finance, faith, education and insurance.

Consistently described as “the best speaker we’ve ever had,” John receives nearly 100% of his engagements from referrals. His schedule is a testament to the

In 1987, John O’Leary was a curious nine-year-old boy. Playing with fire and gasoline, John created a massive explosion in his home and was burned on 100% of his body. He was given less than a 1% chance to live.

power of his message; his emotional story-telling, unexpected humor and authenticity make each presentation unforgettable.

John’s genuine, collaborative approach to partnering allowed him to understand early that clients’ biggest pain point in the wake of the fallout from the pandemic is team “burnout.” To address this, John expanded his Live Inspired Coaching program to bring his keynote from inspirational to transformational. Early successes in the program have clients saying their

teams are more focused, collaborative and engaged than ever.

John is a two-time #1 National Bestselling author. His first book ON FIRE: The 7 Choices to Ignite a Radically Inspired Life has sold 250,000+ copies and been translated into 12 languages. IN AWE: Rediscover Your Childlike Wonder to Unleash Inspiration, Meaning and Joy published in May 2020 with many saying it is the message we all need right now.

John’s award-winning Live Inspired Podcast has more than 2.5 million downloads and enjoys world-class guests like Brené Brown, Mitch Albom and Shawn Achor.

John considers his greatest success to be his marriage to his wife Beth, their four children and his relationships with friends and family. Roaring, standing ovations. Stacks of heartfelt thank-you notes. One audience leading to the next. Every time.

Monday Motivations

Every Monday, O’Leary posts a Monday Motivation on his blog. Below is one that we found particularly important. See more at johnolearyinspires.com/ category/monday-motivation/ Being out of bed doesn’t mean you’re awake.

We spend a lot of our lives going through the motions. We want to live our best lives, but we’re so busy that we usually settle for good enough. We hope tomorrow will be different, but we aren’t clear how to live differently. We make excuses for ourselves. And it leaves us feeling unclear, unguided and unfulfilled.

And that was before the pandemic. Today, our challenges are more complex than ever before. Yet, it doesn’t have to feel that way.

Imagine waking up feeling alive, not just awake. Think about what you could accomplish if you stepped into each day feeling fully engaged and moved through life with joy, passion and inspiration. And picture the clarity of knowing your best days are yet to come.

“My company gets to hear from some of the country’s best speakers, and my friend John O’Leary is one of the best we’ve ever had. Don’t miss John’s message—he will change your life!”

- Dave Ramsey, New York Times bestselling author, nationally syndicated radio show host

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132 ND ANNUAL MFDA CONVENTION

MAY 2-4, 2023

DOUBLETREE BY HILTON - PARK PLACE ST. LOUIS PARK

2023 MFDA CONVENTION KEYNOTE SPEAKERS

Wednesday, May 3

JOHN O’LEARY “Embrace Your Thoughts, Elevate Your Life”

Sponsored by MFDA Convention Title Sponsor Funeral Directors Life and Keynote Co-Sponsor NFDA

We’re bringing John O’Leary to Minnesota after a phenomenal presentation to attendees at the 2022 NFDA Convention in Baltimore! His message is one that is so important for all funeral directors and industry partners to hear.

It’s harder than ever to be a funeral director today. You work longer hours, and the job is more demanding, which can lead to burn out and stress beyond imagination. Some days, it’s easy to feel like the cards are stacked against you, but you can be empowered by your circumstances and overcome them.

John O’Leary, speaker and author, knows a thing or two about overcoming unimaginable circumstances. As a child, John was burned on 100% of his body and was given a less than 1% chance to live. With those conditions, he could have given up, but he changed his way of thinking and focused on having a positive perspective.

In this 60 minute session, you will learn from John the power of shifting your mindset, clarifying the power of your thoughts, and determining the impact of your beliefs, words, actions, and results.

Thursday, May 4

LINCOLN PLAIN

“Embalming

of a Decomposition Case”

Closing Keynote Sponsored by The Dodge Company

This program covers helpful techniques to properly embalm and preserve tissue on a decomposition case with the end result of stabilizing the body for a viewing. It will cover procedures to treat skin slip and sunken eyes as well as a difficult mouth closure.

Lincoln Plain is a representative with The Dodge Company in Eastern North Dakota & Minnesota.

2023 MFDA ANNUAL CONVENTION

REGISTRATION

Please fill out the form below OR ONLINE at www.mnfuneral.org/event/convention2023

REGISTER EARLY AND RECEIVE A $25 DISCOUNT! Complete the registration form below and return it to MFDA postmarked on or before Friday, April 21, 2023 and save! Forms returned after April 21 should include the full registration fee.

Name (please print/type):

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Registration J Please select the appropriate registration fees below. Subtotals

❑ MFDA Member Funeral Director: $200 ($225 after April 21) $

❑ Guestk: $100 ($125 after April 21) Guest name for badge: $

❑ U of M Mortuary Science Student/Intern/2023 Graduate: Free ($30 after April 21) $

❑ Non-Member: $700 ($725 after April 21) $

❑ Past Presidents Breakfastv (for MFDA past presidents only): $25 $

❑ Wednesday Get Your Game On! Guestu: $50 Guest name for badge: $

Total Enclosed $

❑ MASTERCARD ❑ VISA ❑ AMEX ❑ Check (Payable to MFDA)

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❑ Check here if you require special assistance or have dietary requirements, and attach a statement of your needs.

J Registration includes daily admission to Convention program sessions/CEUs, all Exhibit Hall functions, all meals and Wednesday evening’s event. Non-Minnesota Funeral Directors who are members of their state Funeral Director Association (ND, SD, WI, and IA) can register as an MFDA Member Funeral Director.

k A guest is a non-funeral director who is a guest of a licensed funeral director. This also includes unlicensed funeral home staff. Out of respect for our exhibitors, non-exhibiting suppliers or allied members are not allowed to register or attend the Convention. v Past Presidents Breakfast is for MFDA past presidents only.

u Wednesday Get Your Game On! Guest Ticket will only be allowed to attend the Get Your Game On! event. A name badge will be provided at MFDA’s registration desk - please pick up your name badge by 5:00 p.m. on Wednesday. You may purchase a Wednesday Event Guest ticket for more than one person.

We’re proud to offer Minnesota CEUs in all categories required by the State of Minnesota.

SEND COMPLETED FORM:

By Fax (with credit card information) to: 763-335-9844

By Mail (with payment) to: Minnesota Funeral Directors Association 7046 E. Fish Lake Rd Maple Grove, MN 55311

Certified Crematory Operator Program Training

NFDA’s Certified Crematory Operator Program Training will be held at Convention this year on Tuesday, May 2. Register at www.nfda.org.

THANK YOU FOR YOUR SUPPORT OF MFDA AND OUR 132 ND ANNUAL CONVENTION AND EXPO!

SCHEDULE-AT-A-GLANCE

Tuesday, May 2

7:30 – 8 a.m. NFDA CCO/CCSP Registration / Continental Breakfast

Separate registration required through NFDA to attend www.nfda.org

8:00 a.m. – 4:30 p.m. NFDA Certified Crematory Operator Training

10:00 a.m. – 3:00 p.m.

12:00 – 12:30 p.m.

3:00 – 5:00 p.m.

3:30 – 4:30 p.m.

MFDA Board Meeting

NFDA CCO/CCSP Training Lunch

Conference Registration Open

OSHA Training (1 CEU)

4:30 – 6:00 p.m. Welcome Reception

Wednesday, May 3

7:00 a.m. – 3:30 p.m.

Conference Registration Open

7:30 – 9:00 a.m. .......................................... Attendee Continental Breakfast

8:00 – 9:00 a.m.

8:00 – 9:00 a.m.

9:15 – 10:15 a.m.

10:30 – 11:20 a.m.

11:30 a.m. – 1:00 p.m.

1:00 – 2:50 p.m.

3:00 – 5:30 p.m.

OSHA Training (1 CEU)

Past Presidents Breakfast

Keynote Speaker: John O’Leary (1 Professional Practices CEU)

Breakout Sessions

(See Convention Sessions for CEUs)

Lunch/Business Meeting/ Of ficer Installation/50 Year License Awards

Breakout Sessions

(See Convention Sessions for CEUs)

Exhibit Hall w/Cash Bar & Bingo (1 General CEU – must complete entire Bright Idea Bingo card by visiting exhibitors and submit to registration desk for credit)

7:00 – 10:00 p.m.

Get Your Game On! Event (Open to attendees, exhibitors, and paid guests)

Thursday, May 4

8:30 a.m. – 3 p.m.

Conference Registration Open

8:30 – 10:30 a.m. Exhibit Hall w/Continental Breakfast & Bingo (1 General CEU – must complete entire Bright Idea Bingo card by visiting exhibitors and submit to registration desk for credit)

10:30 – 11:20 a.m.

11:30 a.m. – 12:30 p.m.

12:30 – 2:20 p.m.

THANK YOU SPONSORS!

(as of March 16, 2023)

Convention Title Sponsor & Keynote John O’Leary

Opening Keynote Speaker Co-Sponsor

Wednesday and Thursday Lunch Sponsor

SERVICE CORP

Wednesday Get Your Game On! Sponsors

Keynote Speaker Lincoln Plain Sponsor

Breakout Sessions

(See Convention Sessions for CEUs)

Lunch/Service of Remembrance

Breakout Sessions

(See Convention Sessions for CEUs)

2:30 – 3:20 p.m. Closing Keynote Speaker: Lincoln Plain (1 B ody Prep CEU)

3:30 p.m. – 4:30 p.m.

OSHA Training (1 CEU)

Wednesday Exhibit Hall Appetizer Sponsor Kelco Supply Co

Wednesday Exhibit Hall Drink Ticket Sponsor

Foundation Partners Group

Lanyard Sponsor

Federated Insurance

Service of Remembrance Sponsors

Brighter Days Family Grief Center

LifeSource -Organ, Eye, and Tissue Donation

Thursday Afternoon Beverage Break Sponsor

ELCO Mutual Life & Annuity

Bright Idea Bingo Grand Prize

Passare

Photo Booth Sponsor

United Heritage Life Insurance Company

EXHIBIT HALL HOURS

Wednesday, May 3

3:00 – 5:30 p.m. | Exhibit Hall Open

Appetizers sponsored by Kelco Supply Co

Drink tickets sponsored by Foundation Partners Group

Thursday, May 4

8:30 – 10:30 a.m. | Exhibit Hall Open

Breakfast served in the exhibit hall

10:15 a.m.

$500 Bright Idea Bingo

Grand Prize awarded (must be present to win)

Sponsored by Passare

CONVENTION SESSIONS

Tuesday, May 2

8:00 a.m. - 4:00 p.m.

NFDA Cremation Certification Training Program

Requires separate registration through NFDA

3:30 p.m. - 4:30 p.m.

OSHA Training

Mark Arnold, OSHA Trainer

1 Body Prep or Regulations & Ethics

CEU/OSHA CEU

4:30 - 6:00 p.m.

Convention Welcome Reception

Join us to kick off Convention in the hotel lounge. Cash bar. Meet up with friends and head out to enjoy the West End restaurants!

BRIGHT IDEA BINGO

Play Bright Idea Bingo during exhibit hall hours by engaging with exhibitors to learn more about their companies and then ask for their secret words to make a traditional Bingo on your card. Turn in your card to pick up another one and complete another Bingo!

Want to get 1 General FD CEU?

Complete the entire Bingo sheet by visiting all the exhibitors on your page and turn it in to get your 1 CEU (On both Wednesday and Thursday).

All cards will be entered into drawings for prizes! Completed cards must be turned into the registration desk by 10:00 a.m. on Thursday, May 4 to be entered for the Grand Prize drawing at 10:15 a.m.

Grand Prize Sponsored by Passare

Wednesday, May 3 7:00 – 10:00 p.m.

Punch Bowl Social

Sponsored by

Wednesday, May 3

8:00 - 9:00 a.m.

OSHA Training

Mark Arnold, OSHA Trainer

1 Body Prep or Regulations & Ethics

CEU/OSHA CEU

9:15am-10:15am

Opening Keynote: Embrace Your Thoughts, Elevate Your Life

John O’Leary

1 Professional Practices CEU

Sponsored by Convention Title

Sponsors Funeral Directors Life and Keynote Co-Sponsor NFDA

Join us at Punch Bowl Social in St. Louis Park (just a 5 minute walk from the DoubleTree) for game night fun! All convention registrants (attendees and exhibitor staff) can attend this optional but fun reception by wearing their name badge to the event. Join us for networking, free appetizers, drink tickets, and a cash bar.

10:30am-11:20am

Mortuary Science: Breaking down the Do’s and Don’ts on Inspections and Investigations

Robert Dehler, Erika Fulgern, Marguerite Slonine, & Carlena

Weiland, MDH Mortuary Science

Section

1 Regulations & Ethics CEU

The Minnesota Department of Health, Health Regulation Division, Mortuary Science Evaluation team demystifies the top 3 common violations cited during inspections, complaints from consumers, and tips to stay in compliance.

CONVENTION SESSIONS

10:30 - 11:20 a.m. Cosmetics on a Decomposition Case

Lincoln Plain, The Dodge Company

1 Body Prep CEU

This program will cover techniques to cauterize and bleach dark bruising and torn skin along with rehydrating dehydrated tissue, using Inr Seel putty to fix problem areas, waxing tips and apply cosmetics for a final viewing.

11:30 a.m. - 1:00 p.m.

Lunch / Business Meeting / Officer Installation / 50 Year License Awards

Sponsored by MFDA Service Corp

1:00 - 2:50 p.m.

The New Funeral Consumer: A 10-Year

Case Study Comparison

Todd Carlson, Funeral Directors Life

2 Professional Practices CEUs

This two-hour session will reveal case study findings based on an overview to investigate the perceptions and attitudes toward the funeral profession from today’s funeral consumers so that funeral professionals can be better prepared to interact with their changing preferences. We will reveal five key findings based on an overview look into the perceptions and attitudes toward the funeral profession for seven different types of funeral consumer segments so that funeral professionals can be better prepared to interact with changing preferences of today’s consumers.

Business and Funeral Service Ethics: The Good, the Bad, and the Ugly

Michael Sharkey, Esq., Elliott Law Offices and MFDA General Counsel

2 Regulations & Ethics CEUs

This two-hour presentation will be taught by Socratic Method in which the audience attendees drive the conversation, discussion, and debate with me serving as a facilitator. Michael will present a framework and basis for both general business ethics and use the NFDA’s model Ethics Code to set up a manner by which we can discuss the subject matter. He will present various funeral service ethical fact patterns - every one of which comes from his personal experience and practice as a mortuary law attorney - for discussion. The goal is to have a truly interactive back and forth not just with Michael as the presenter but among the participants, which he will help to drive and facilitate. This ethics program has been very well received at state conventions and is unique in the fact that the presenter does less speaking than the collective participants themselves.

3:00 - 5:30 p.m.

Exhibit Hall Open with appetizers sponsored by Kelco Supply Co, drink tickets sponsored by Foundation Partners Group, and cash bar

1 General CEU

(Must complete entire Bright Idea Bingo card and submit to registration desk to receive CEU for Wednesday by 5:30 p.m.)

7:00 - 10:00 p.m.

Get Your Game On! Social Event

Punch Bowl Social in West End Entertainment area

Open to attendees, exhibitors, and paid guests

Sponsored by Wieser Vault and MAS Communications

Thursday, May 4

8:30am-10:30am

Exhibit Hall Open with Breakfast

1 General CEU

(Must complete entire Bright Idea Bingo card and submit to registration desk to receive CEU for Thursday by 10:00am. Grand prize drawing at 10:15am)

10:30am-11:20am

Moving from Surviving to Thriving

Corey Martin, MD, Innovations in Resilience and Bounce Travels

1 Professional Practices CEU

Burnout is epidemic in many professions and funeral directors are no exception. Dr. Martin talks about how common burnout is and its connection to stress. Our mindset and how we approach situations have significant implications for our health, happiness, and customer satisfaction. He shares simple, efficient techniques to combat and prevent burnout and improve our relationships with our loved ones, colleagues, customers, and their families.

Proceeding Post ProcurementCaring for Donors

Kelley Romanowski, CFSP, CTBS and Melinda Van Waus, CFSP, CTBS, LifeSource - Organ, Eye, and Tissue Donation

1 Body Prep CEU

This session will focus on restorative techniques post tissue recovery and will include practical and inventive ideas on the care of a tissue donor as well as essential supplies for the funeral home. You will learn the importance of reconstructing a donor as it pertains to a viewing. The goal of this session is to address some concerns of the funeral service practitioners and ways to collaborate to improve relations through education, training, and support.

11:30am-12:30pm

Lunch / Service of Remembrance

Sponsored by MFDA Service Corp

Please join us as we honor the funeral industry professionals who have died since last year’s Convention.

12:30 - 1:20 p.m.

A Lasting Legacy

Federated Insurance Representative

1 General CEU

Providing Exceptional and Authentic Care Beyond the Touchpoint

Carolyn Kinzel, MSHS, Brighter Days Family Grief Center

1 Professional Practices CEU

As a community of care providers surrounding grieving families, it is not about a singular experience. Most families have many touchpoints throughout their journey, from the moment they learn of a loved one’s death or diagnosis to well after their loved one has died. Doctors, nurses, hospice care, paramedics, social workers, grief counselors, faith providers, funeral care professionals and so many more. How do we come together as a community of professionals to ensure that every family has the support and resources they deserve? How do we truly make an impact for every person/family we work with? And how do we ensure that we, as care providers, are paying attention to our own emotional capacity so we can be present for the people who need us?

This presentation will have two components:

1) Supporting the families: how do you support a grieving family/ individual once the funeral is over

CONVENTION SESSIONS

to ensure they feel supported well beyond YOUR touchpoint. How are you/your organization showing them that they matter no matter what your role is?

2) Supporting the death care worker: how do you care for yourself so you can be the best you can be for the families who need you? If you are burning out or losing your compassion, it is time to turn inward and give yourself the same care you give to others.

1:30 - 2:20 p.m.

Update on the State of Minnesota Mortuary Law

Michael Sharkey, Esq., Elliott Law Offices and MFDA General Counsel

1 Regulations & Ethics CEU

Attorney and funeral director Michael D. Sharkey is General Counsel to the MFDA. His presentation will discuss the most current legal issues facing Minnesota funeral directors, best practices that your funeral firm can put into place to avoid litigation or adverse regulatory encounters, ideas about 149A and how it can be improved.

Clergy Panel: 10 Truths About Funeral Ministry...Right Now

Rev Heidi Heimgartner and Rev Christopher Miller, Evangelical Lutheran Church in America

1 Professional Practices CEU

Funeral directors aren’t the only folks who have been to hundreds of funerals! Clergy also spend a lot of time ministering with those experiencing loss. We all sense that traditions are changing…briskly. The time is now to consider and find inspiration in what is (not what used to be).

The first half of our 50-minute presentation will share “truths… right now.” Topics include: bridging the communication gap between church and funeral home, scheduling and building usage; clergy/director teamwork to serve individuals who are preplanning; insight into how worship leaders ensure all grievers are supported; and most urgent: a word of grace for the spiritual health of funeral professionals themselves.

Each truth will be presented in a tag-team style, based on case study, data/demographic/church trend reports; sharing personal theology and goals around funeral ministry; honest assessment of what presenters see “on the ground” that’s working well, and….affirming the complexity funeral directors navigate each day.

The second 25 minutes will be spent interacting. With director-focused questions posed in the second half, we plan to “flip the classroom” and allow for group discovery. The goal in part 2 is building mutual understanding across professions. Learning together, we can make that drive to the cemetery less awkward!

2:30 - 3:20 p.m.

Closing Keynote: Embalming of a Decomposition Case

Lincoln Plain, The Dodge Company

1 Body Prep CEU

Sponsored by The Dodge Company

3:30 - 4:30 p.m.

OSHA Training

Mark Arnold, OSHA Trainer

1 Body Prep or Regulations & Ethics

CEU/OSHA CEU

132 ND ANNUAL MFDA CONVENTION

MAY 2-4, 2023

DOUBLETREE BY HILTON - PARK PLACE, ST. LOUIS PARK

HOTEL RESERVATIONS

Room rates are $149 per night plus 10.525% tax.

DoubleTree by Hilton Minneapolis - Park Place

1500 Park Place Boulevard, St. Louis Park, MN 55416

Make room reservations at www.mnfuneral.org/hotel

O r call 800-245-9190 and ask for the Minnesota Funeral Directors Association group rate of $149 plus 10.525% tax.

DoubleTree Hotel offers:

• Complimentary high-speed Wi-Fi

• Complimentary self-parking

• ATM, Executive Lounge and 24-hour Business Center

• 24-hour Fitness by Precor ®, Indoor saline pool and hot tub

• Dover Restaurant and Bar

• Made Market located in the Lobby (beverages, snacks and sandwiches)

ROOM BLOCK DEADLINE: April 10, 2023 @ 5:00 p.m.

THE SHOPS AT WEST END

The Shops at West End shopping area is one block from the DoubleTree by Hilton Minneapolis - Park Place hotel. The West End offers unique dining concepts, a Cub Foods grocery store, shopping, and entertainment. Learn more at www.theshopsatwestend.com.

SAVE TIME! REGISTER ONLINE: https://www.mnfuneral.org/event/convention2023

NFDA CREMATION CERTIFICATION PROGRAM TRAINING

THE RECOGNIZED CERTIFICATION STANDARD FOR FUNERAL SERVICE PROFESSIONALS

Tuesday, May 2 | 8 a.m.-4 p.m. |

DOUBLETREE, ST. LOUIS PARK

Separate registration required through NFDA at www.nfda.org

Cremation litigation is on the rise. Protect your firm through cremation due diligence practices and provide your families with the best cremation service possible. This program offers a musthave certification for everyone offering cremation to the families they serve. Whether you currently own or operate a crematory, are thinking of opening one, or want to evaluate a third-party crematory, this training is necessary for your success.

The recognized certification standard for funeral service professionals, NFDA’s Cremation Certification Program covers best practices for safe, proper, and ethical crematory operations, excellence in service to cremation families, and much more.

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Attendees may choose the designation they will earn upon successful completion of the program:

• CCSP - Certified Cremation Services Provider: For funeral directors and staff that offer cremation services through the use of a third-party crematory

• CCO - Certified Crematory Operator: For crematory owners and/or operators

Cremation Certification seminars are approved for up to 7 CE hours for in-person and virtual courses and up to 6 hours for online courses by APFSP and most state licensing boards.

HR Topic: Employment Probationary Periods

Question:

We would like to establish a 90-day “probationary period” for our new hires. Is there anything we should be aware of?

Answer:

Employers generally have discretion to manage employee performance as they see fit, including by establishing a probationary period at the beginning of employment. That said, one of the biggest potential pitfalls with establishing a probationary period for a particular length of time is that an employer may unwittingly create an employment contract.

Unless an employer wants to create an employment contract for the time period stated in its probationary period policy (or otherwise guarantee employment after that period ends), the employer should carefully ensure that any such probationary period of employment (and any period thereafter) remains “at will” at all times. In other words, an employer should clarify that either the employer or employee can terminate employment both during and after the stated probationary period at any time, for any lawful reason, and with or without notice. Otherwise, an employee may argue that he or she is guaranteed employment for the probationary period (or after that period concludes) and may file a breach of contract action if the

employer terminates employment during either period.

As a best practice, employers should clearly advise employees that they are expected to meet performance expectations at all times during their employment and not just during the probationary period. An employer can certainly endeavor to more closely monitor and train employees during their initial months on the job to ensure that they are a good match and are able to meet the employer’s expectations. However, if employment is “at will” at all times, then the employer’s ability to end employment is not different or greater during an initial probationary period. An employer should not give its employees the impression that the employer’s expectations differ based on tenure.

Ultimately, employers should emphasize that employment is not

As a best practice, employers should clearly advise employees that they are expected to meet performance expectations at all times during their employment and not just during the probationary period.

guaranteed in any situation and that they will not tolerate unsatisfactory conduct or performance after the probationary period concludes. If an employer wishes to establish a probationary period, we recommend the employer consult legal counsel for guidance in drafting a policy to ensure the employer retains maximum flexibility and does not unintentionally create an employment contract.

Combatting Compassion Fatigue

6 ways to prioritize your mental health and bypass burnout

By Megan Gosch

Those in the funeral service profession need no reminders; they know it first-hand. This work comes with an emotional toll.

“In our position, taking care of the families and helping them navigate one of the hardest, most important moments in their life is what it’s all about — it’s our why — but it’s hard not to carry that with you and see it impact your own mental health,” says says Mark Arnold, funeral director at David Lee Funeral Home in Wayzata.

“To give so much of yourself and focus your work on caring for the collective through their grief is an invaluable service, but without balance it comes at a price,” says Minnesota-based holistic psychologist Dr. Rachel Allyn. “Rest and self-care aren’t wants, they’re essentials to avoid burnout and best help those you’ve set out to serve.”

In this high-stress role centered on caring for others, it can be difficult to prioritize self care, but professionals like Allison Cease, funeral director at Cease Family Funeral Home in Bagley, Minn. find it’s not just the key to their own well-being, it’s a critical tool to provide for families when they need it most.

“When you’re running on empty, the families you’re trying to help can sense that and you end up doing them a disservice,” she says. “It’s just like with an airplane oxygen mask; you’ve got to take care of yourself before you can begin to help those you care about most.”

Here, fellow funeral directors and mental health professionals share their tips for coping with stress and managing mental health to prioritize personal well-being and keep burnout at bay.

Tips to Cope on the Spot

With plenty of tight deadlines, tasks to juggle and emotional decisions to be made, stress can set in quick. When all you’ve got is a minute or two, there’s still time to restore calm and reset.

Lean on Your Team

“No matter the business, balance takes a village,” says Allyn, who advises directors to fight the urge to take on every task themselves.

“Sometimes we can get caught up in thinking we’re the only ones who can get the job done, especially when the task at hand is particularly sensitive. Delegating even a step or two and saying the occasional ‘no’ can go a long way in setting boundaries that can help protect your mental health.”

Give Your Needs a Voice

Cease, Arnold and Allyn all stress the importance of advocating for your needs as they arise.

“If you find yourself becoming overwhelmed or feel your heartbeat pick up and you need a minute to step away, don’t hesitate to speak up or give your team a signal,” says Allyn. “We all need time to breathe and decompress during the day, and clear intentional communication is key.”

When Arnold needs a moment to regroup, he gives his colleagues a heads-up, then heads to an empty office or quiet room to think of peaceful scenes and focus on his breathing.

The same goes for Cease, whose team has been intentional about checking in on each other’s needs, especially in the wake of the pandemic. “COVID pushed us all to take stock, step back and say ‘Hey, can you take the reins? I need a minute to go collect myself or drive around the block,” she says.

“Families need a cool, level-headed confidant when they come in and we realized being honest when we need to take a beat is one of the best ways we can be ready to do that.”

Tap Your Senses

When a few deep breaths won’t do the trick, Allyn recommends a simple five-step process to help reorient your frame of mind.

1. Focus on the ground beneath your feet. Feeling your feet flat on the ground can help ground you and bring your attention back to your surroundings.

2. Name colors you spot in your surroundings. “Our stressed out minds tend to be time-traveling minds focused on the past or future,” says Allyn. Naming what you see in front of you can bring you back to the here and now.

3. Pinpoint your center. Bringing your hands to your center or focusing on belly breaths can help regulate the nervous system and create new focus.

4. Allow for auditory or physical release. If you can find an appropriate place to make noise or move, trigger a release with a few deep sighs, shake out your hands or roll back your shoulders. “Stress can get stuck in our nervous systems and these noises and movements help unlock that.”

5. Carry your own personal go-to with you. “For some, a particular essential oil provides relief while for others, rubbing a coin or playing a particular song brings them calm,” says Allyn. No matter the method, if it brings you peace it can calm your nervous and sensory systems to bring you back to neutral.

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“Families need a cool, level-headed confidant when they come in and we realized being honest when we need to take a beat is one of the best ways we can be ready to do that.”

— Allison Cease

Long-term Self-Care Strategies

Allyn notes that while techniques to compartmentalize or disconnect can bring peace in the moment, they’re ultimately short-term solutions.

“On-the-spot stress relief is a great way to cope in the moment, but if you don’t process and release through more routine, healthy outlets, that stress can bottle up and boil over into misdirected behaviors down the road,” she says.

Investing time and energy into longterm healthy habits outside of work is just as important as your day-to-day coping skills.

Get Moving

“Research tells us that trauma gets stuck in the body, and we need a physical release to be able to fully process and discharge that stress and grief,” says Allyn.

From moving meditations like yoga or Qigong to biking, running or swimming, Allyn notes consistent time spent connecting with your body can release emotional blocks impacting the brain, gut and nervous system.

Arnold finds biking and long walks to be a salve, while Cease has taken up gardening and running half marathons as mental, emotional and physical outlets.

“I used to hate solo sports and activities, but when it came to running it was exactly the release I was looking for. It’s an outlet that demands I do nothing but focus and stay present with my body and thoughts. It’s extremely therapeutic,” she says.

Invest in Your Outlets

For some, investing in self-care can feel indulgent or even unnecessary.

“Especially working in the Midwest, I see a lot of clients who culturally were expected to keep their heads down and soldier on,” says Allyn. “Spending

on self-care may seem lavish or lazy or extravagant, but if investing in your outlet can benefit your body, your mental health, and your performance in the workplace, that’s a clear return.”

The COVID-19 pandemic helped both Arnold and Cease invest in the activities that bring them peace of mind. As an avid cyclist, Arnold invested in a Peloton stationary bike, while Cease sprang for a fold-up treadmill.

“At a time when everyone was pushed to their mental and emotional limits, to be able to channel all of that stress and frustration and anxiety into pedaling, no matter the weather or time of year, that was the game-changer that got me through and is still a help today,” says Arnold.

Don’t Be Afraid to Ask for Help

While it’s natural to confide in a close friend, family member or partner when you need your own shoulder to lean on, establishing additional avenues for support can help set healthy boundaries and keep from overwhelming your closest relationships.

“It’s important to find community you can turn to when you need to talk through what you’re experiencing,” says Allyn. “A therapist or mental health professional can certainly fill that role, but talking with peers or joining an industry association or support group where other members have had similar experiences can help build connection while you process.”

With the start of the pandemic, Cease took stock and brought a new focus to her work with a previous therapist.

“We have no problem advising families who have lost a loved one that it’s OK to ask for help, but we don’t always do the same for ourselves,” says Cease. “It was a moment to realize we’re up against a lot and need to take our mental health seriously. We can’t be afraid to ask for help.”

“At a time when everyone was pushed to their mental and emotional limits, to be able to channel all of that stress and frustration and anxiety into pedaling … that was the game-changer that got me through.” — Mark Arnold

Allison Cease is a fourth-generation funeral director at Cease Family Funeral Home. She earned her degree in Mortuary Science from the University of Minnesota in 2013 and is honored to serve the Bemidji and Bagley communities. Outside of her work, Allison loves spending time outdoors and pursuing her interests in music, art and theater. She lives near Pinewood with her husband and beloved dogs and cat.

Mark Arnold is a Minnesota licensed funeral director at David Lee Funeral Home in Wayzata and graduate of the University of Minnesota Mortuary Science Program with over 25 years of industry experience. Mark also holds a Minnesota insurance license and certification as a Preplanning Consultant to assist families in need of information and education on planning/funding funerals before a death occurs. Outside of work, Mark enjoys cycling, fitness, golfing, paddle boarding, playing guitar, cooking, and dabbling with landscape photography.

Rachel Allyn, Ph.D. is a licensed holistic psychologist with over 20 years of experience specializing in mind-body medicine and relationships. She helps individuals and couples cope with their mood, life transitions, and all types of relationship challenges. As a certified yoga teacher, she also incorporates the body into her sessions at times and leads therapeutic mind-body workshops and retreats. www.drrachelallyn.com

BOOK REVIEW

By Terri Schlichenmeyer The Bookworm Sez, LLC

“Yours Truly: An Obituary Writer’s Guide to Telling Your Story”

by James R. Hagerty

Dear Loved Ones...

That’s a good start to a long story, isn’t it? Those three words leave a lot of space for family tales and sharing the awkward, funny, happy, horrible things that you remember. But though there’s room for questions, answers, and emotions, you write Dear Loved Ones... and you’re stalled. So now what? In “Yours

Truly” by James R. Hagerty, it’s time to pick up a pen.

What will people say about you when you’re gone?

If you’re rich, famous, powerful, or important, you probably don’t need to worry. Someone like Hagerty, who creates obituaries for a living, will do a quick internet search and write a few glowing words about you. But if you’re like most folks, one of your grieving relatives will dash off an obit that –well, let’s face it, it’ll be boring. You can do something about that now, though. You can write your own story. An obituary, Hagerty says, can be short or long. You don’t have to follow

a template or formula, you can use humor in it, and you can write it now.

To begin, ask yourself three questions: What have you been trying to accomplish with your life? Why? And how did that work for you?

If you’re not used to doing so, Hagerty says to set a small amount of time aside for writing, maybe 15 minutes a day. Keep a notebook handy for things that pop into your head quick, and jot them down. If writing seems like a burden, record your words digitally but don’t try to do it all at once, or you’ll burn out and miss some recollections.

Include your date of birth, siblings names, what your parents did for livings, your early hobbies, how you met your spouse, military service, things you hated to do, and all the stories you loved to tell throughout your life. Give details but don’t boast. Ask the deep questions. And finally, be brave and include embarrassments. Says Hagerty, “admit that things didn’t always go as you had planned.”

Chances are that most people will pick up “Yours Truly” as a sort of primer on leaving a life’s legacy to children and grandchildren, which good. That’s how this book is meant. But while you’re learning how to preserve your stories and write your own obituary, author James R. Hagerty gives you something else to do, too: he’ll entertain you with dozens and dozens of obits from (above) average people.

Don’t be surprised, in fact, if you somehow forget about penning your story while you’re reading about the lives of everyday people like you. Those folks lived their best lives unremarkably, and though their tales aren’t earth-shattering, they come in waves of irresistibility. Hagerty hints that the everyman tales are here to serve as examples, and you should take them as such.

You should also take them to a comfortable chair, along with a pen and paper or a recording device. Read “Yours Truly” for yourself. Do it for the ones you love dearly.

James R.

Looking to Reach Funeral Home Decision-Makers? Advertise in Bulletin!

The new MFDA Bulletin magazine mails to all member funeral homes in Minnesota. The highly-targeted publication gets you in front of existing and potential buyers!

Up next: Summer 2023

Ad Reservations & Artwork Due: May 12, 2023

Mails to Members: June 2023

Want to learn more?

Summer issue editorial topics*: Product Innovation; Up-and-Coming Students; Laughter through Challenges

Scan the QR code or visit www.bit.ly/Bulletin2023 to view the advertising media kit, or contact Kathy Sheridan at 763-416-0124 or kathy@mnfuneral.org

Hagerty

Photo by: Lorraine Li-Hagerty

MORTUARY SCIENCE UPDATE

Greetings from Mortuary Science!

As I write these lines we are on Spring Break and about to set our clocks ahead one hour in anticipation of daylight savings time. And although the snow is coming down, spring is nearing and graduation will be here before we know it. Moving forward, I am grateful for the opportunity to share with you the following news updates and information about our program.

Admissions Cycle: We continue to review admissions applications to our program on a rolling basis, and several students have confirmed their attendance for fall semester matriculation. This past January we welcomed 12 new students to the program, bringing our total enrollment to 80 students. We expect over 30 new students to enroll in our program this year.

Recruiting Activities: Last month I was able to participate in a high school recruiting event in southwestern Minnesota. It was great to meet with several prospective

By Michael LuBrant Program Director

students as they work to discern a career path. We continue to be present at career fairs held both on campus and also at local and regional colleges and universities.

Crookston Partnership: We are finalizing our partnership agreement with our Crookston campus (UMC), for the goal of formalizing our “2 + 2” articulation agreement. We are working collaboratively across campuses to provide students with the opportunity to complete their first two years of college through UMC, completely online if they so desire. Here on the

Worthington High School Career Exploration Event

Twin Cities campus, work continues to build a pathway that will allow students to complete our entire program online, in collaboration with UMC and funeral home partners.

Recruiting Our Next Generation of Funeral Service Professionals:

Funeral directors play a key role in recruiting the next generation of funeral service professionals. As I read admissions essays, our applicants frequently discuss how a positive interaction with a funeral director encouraged them to consider mortuary science as a career path. As one applicant recently remarked: “My passion for the profession started my sophomore year of high school when I took a tour of our local funeral home. I had never thought about

mortuary science as an option for my future career until this tour. What stuck with me most from this experience is when the owner of the funeral home talked about the impact you can make on families’ lives while they are undergoing such a difficult time…”

As I have discussed in the past, the most common questions I receive when participating in career exploration events are not those related to monetary compensation, but are instead “What is a funeral?” and “What is mortuary science?” This is why it’s so important to the future of funeral service that we proactively seek out, encourage, and mentor the next generation of funeral service professionals.

With this information in mind, what opportunities exist within your

community to get to know high school students and discuss with them our profession? One thought is to reach out to the guidance counselors in your community and extend an invitation for their students to tour your funeral home. (We find that tours and presentations also take part in health science-related classes, so get to know the folks teaching these courses, as well.) We would be honored to provide you with program brochures and recruiting materials for your tour events – just reach out to us at mortsci@umn.edu and we will be happy to send you promotional materials.

Looking to May:

We look forward to seeing you at the upcoming MFDA Annual Convention, which will be here in just a short couple of months. In the meantime, I welcome any questions, ideas, or feedback about our work in mortuary science that you would like to discuss with me. I can be reached at mpl@ umn.edu.

With all best wishes as we transition to spring and warmer weather!

Best,

Michael LuBrant

Is 2023 Your 50th Year as a Licensed Funeral Director?

We are in search of all Minnesota funeral directors who have been licensed for 50 years in 2023 to honor at our annual convention on Wednesday, May 3 during our luncheon. If this is you, please email Miki Tufto at mtufto@mnfuneral.org with your name and mailing address to receive your invitation.

Funeral Directors Life Now Offering Wolfelt Experience™ Training Nationwide

Funeral Directors Life (FDL), in partnership with Dr. Alan Wolfelt, has offered the successful Virtual Wolfelt Experience™ Training to funeral professionals for years. This training, which has been called “lifechanging,” “career-changing,” and “transformational” by participants, was previously offered only to clients. Now, Funeral Directors Life is proud to announce that registration is open to funeral professionals nationwide.

“We are excited to expand this program to all funeral professionals,” said Kris Seale, President and CEO of Funeral Directors Life. “For several years, we have worked closely with Dr. Wolfelt to promote the value of a healing and meaningful funeral through the Wolfelt Experience training workshops, CE programs, and an educational consumer website, Funeralbasics.org. Our training workshops were previously exclusively for our customers, but now any funeral professional will be able to register for a workshop and receive this valuable training.”

Dr. Alan Wolfelt, renowned author, grief educator, and founder of the Center for Loss and Life Transition, has dedicated his life to coaching

funeral professionals, social workers, and medical practitioners on how to help families grieve in a healthy way and move from painful internal grief to healthy outward expressions of mourning.

“I have known and respected Kris Seale, the CEO of Funeral Directors Life, for many years, and I found FDL to be a great organization,” said Wolfelt. “The company possesses wonderful core values, ethics, and a similar passion for the importance of funerals. I’ve been very involved with the implementation of the program at FDL, and I’ve been pleased with the progress that has been made. I’m so pleased that FDL will have a large role in the future of ‘The Wolfelt Experience.’ I will continue in my role of mentor and consultant to the FDL staff, which is charged with getting the training out to funeral homes nationwide. I’ll be there to support their amazing efforts to provide this critical education to as many funeral service professionals as possible.”

“We are honored that Dr. Alan Wolfelt is entrusting us with taking his message to the entire profession,” added Seale. “We hope to continue to break new ground in educating families

about the value of a healing and meaningful funeral service through this newly expanded program.”

To learn more about the Virtual Wolfelt Experience workshops, email the Director of Funeral Service Education, DJ Jons, at dj.jons@ funeraldirectorslife.com or go to www.funeraldirectorslife.com/virtualwolfelt-experience/

About Dr. Alan Wolfelt

Alan D. Wolfelt, Ph.D. is an internationally noted author, educator, and grief expert. He serves as the Director of the Center for Loss and Life Transition in Fort Collins, Colorado. Perhaps best known for his model of “companioning” versus treating the bereaved, Alan is committed to helping people mourn well so they can live well and love well. For more information on the center or the writings of Dr. Wolfelt, visit his website at www.centerforloss.com.

Dr. Alan Wolfelt has dedicated his life to coaching funeral professionals, social workers, and medical practitioners on how to help families grieve in a healthy way and move from painful internal grief to healthy outward expressions of mourning.

Over 75,000 Lives Enhanced in 2022!

The year 2022 resulted in 178 organ donors, 819 tissue donors, and 411 eye donors in Minnesota. As a result, over 75,000 lives have been enhanced or saved through those gifts of donation. Yes you read that number correctly, over 75,000 lives! Bone can be transplanted in over 100 forms from how it is recovered, which benefits thousands of recipients based on the size of the graft needed. With your partnership, the families who were served by your firm received expert care while you supported their decisions. We are truly grateful for you and acknowledge the challenges that donation can add to the care you provide to decedents. This past year, Melinda and I had opportunities to connect with many of you through calls, emails, and in person at district meetings and conventions. We always welcome your constructive feedback

and want to advocate for you as you care for families.

We are excited to share that we will be presenting in a breakout session at the 2023 MFDA Convention. We will be discussing techniques for reconstruction post embalming. This will be similar to the education session we presented at the 2022 NFDA International Convention and Expo. This presentation will contain new information for practitioners and will discuss a variety of techniques. If you are unable to attend the convention, we have refreshed our CEU program and offer 3 different courses for our funeral service colleagues. These at gratis courses can be found on our website: https://www.life-source.org/ partners/funeral-directors/ and can be accessed by sending us your interest in the choice of course.

In addition, we are working on new resources for our funeral service partners, and we would be interested in hearing from you. What resources would be of benefit to you? Hearing this from you is important for us and how we can support you as you care for families. One such resource is already in production from conversations our team members have had with funeral directors. A comprehensive informational brochure is in the final stages of development, especially to those who may not work with our organization often. We hope to have this resource available to our partners very soon.

With gratitude for all you do to care for families, and the communities you serve,

Kelley Romanowski, CFSP, CTBS Partner Support Liaison

KRomanowski@life-source.org

612.322.4303

BRAVE Act Benefit Increases went into Effect January 2023

Last year, the BRAVE Act, which helps assure equitable funeral and burial benefits for veterans, was signed into law as part of The Johnny Isakson and David P. Roe, M.D. Veterans Health Care and Benefits Improvement Act of 2020. In the months since, the VA has been developing policies for implementing various aspects of the law.

On February 8, the House Committee on Veterans’ Affairs, Subcommittee on Disability Assistance and Memorial Affairs held a virtual hearing titled Honoring our Promise: Reviewing the Effectiveness of Services for Survivors and Dependents.

During the hearing, Cheryl Rawls, executive director, Office of Outreach, Transition, and

Economic Development Service, Veterans Benefits Administration, U.S. Department of Veterans Affairs, was asked by Rep. Mariannette Miller-Meeks (R-IA) when the VA last increased the burial allowance for a non-service-connected death.

Rawls responded that because of the BRAVE Act, the VA was set to raise January 5, 2023, from $300 to $831.

Marlene

Mary

Satre,

mother of MFDA

Member

Board

Kevin Satre

mother-in-law of Minnesota Funeral

and

Director

Gayla

Satre, age 89, of Winthrop died Saturday, December 17, 2022 at Pathstone Living in Mankato.

Funeral service were held Wednesday, December 21, 2022 at Northview–North Mankato Mortuary, 2060 Commerce Drive in North Mankato. Visitation was held one hour before the service on Wednesday. Burial will be at the Winthrop Cemetery. Memorials preferred to an organization of the donor’s choice.

Marlene was born November 14, 1933, in New Ulm, Minnesota to William and Hannah (Foster) Ibberson. She graduated from Sleepy Eye High School in 1952 and from Gustavus Adolphus College in elementary education in 1956. She was united in marriage to Robert W. Satre on August 4, 1957, in Sleepy Eye. They moved to Winthrop, started their lives and raised their family. Marlene taught elementary education for Winthrop and later GFW in Gibbon before retirement.

After her retirement, she enjoyed golfing, helping with her grandchildren, and loved attending their activities. Later in life, she enjoyed traveling with family and friends, especially to Mexico and Arizona. As her health began to deteriorate, she moved to Mankato to be closer to family.

Marlene was a member of First Lutheran Church in Winthrop, where she sang in the choir, taught Sunday school, and was active in church circle. She was a former Cub Scout Den Mother and a member of the Winthrop American Legion Auxiliary since 1963. Marlene enjoyed the small-town life of Winthrop and all it had to offer.

Marlene is survived by two children, Kevin (Gayla) Satre of Mankato; Jill (Tony) Michel of Waconia; five grandchildren, Matt, Nick and Jack Michel, Jayne and Abby Satre; sister, Maurine Johnson of Mankato, and nieces, nephews and their families.

She was preceded in death by her parents; husband, Robert in 2000; infant son, Kirk; two brothers, William Jr. and Robert Ibberson; in-laws, Walter Johnson, Colleen Ibberson, Bertie Lou Ibberson, Harris and June Satre, Bud and Lorraine Satre, and Dennis Satre.

Gregg Stanton Bright, longtime salesman for Dodge Co, age 73, of Henderson, Nevada, passed away peacefully at his home surrounded by family on December 20, 2022.

Survived by Loving Wife, Gail McKinney; Children, Conny Eisen (Thomas Droll), Ben Bright (Katie), Nate Bright (Kate), Robin Neely (Justin) and Bobby Armin (wife Jackie, daughter, Mia) who he considered as one of his own children; Grandchildren, Brianna Droll (Danny Niles), Amanda Shepherd (Chris), Aniya Armour, TJ “Spanky” Droll, Lacey, Mya, and Abbey Bright, Augi and Dahlia Bright; Greatgrandchildren, Aurora Shepherd, Haeden Droll, Kynadee Bishop, Blair and Colton Niles; In-laws: Louise Taylor and Janet Rehfus; Grade school friend, David Chism and many others too numerous to mention; along with his Canine companions, Sophie and Pippi and former spouses, Denice Allen and Veldora Barringer

Preceded by Parents, Kenneth and Bethel; Grandson, Zachary Bright (Aug. 9, 2020); Siblings, Kraig M. Bright and Brent L. Bright; previous pets, Baxter and Skippy.

Funeral service was held Monday, January 9, 2023 at Evans-Nordby Funeral Home in Brooklyn Center. Visitation was held on Sunday, January 8, 2023 2-7pm and onehour prior to the service on Monday. Memorials may be directed to Hearts of Hope (aka: Children’s Grief Connection) 320 Front St., St. Peter, MN 56082. Arrangements by Ziemer-Moeglein-Shatava Funeral Home in Gilbert, MN 218-741-6448.

MFDA Past President James H. Bradshaw, father of Minnesota Funeral Director Jason Bradshaw, age 78, of Stillwater. Founder and Chairman of Bradshaw Funeral and Cremation Services, passed away peacefully on December 21, 2022, after courageously contending a Lewy body dementia and Parkinson’s diagnosis for several years. Preceded in death by parents, Harold and Violet; siblings, Ronald ‘Ronnie’, Gretchen Swenson, and Glennys Ekman; granddaughter, Estelle. He will be sadly missed by his wife of 50 years, Jayne; children, Rebecca Bond, Troy (Pam), Jason (Brea), and Justin (Elizabeth); grandchildren, Adam (Katie), Tyler (Graciela), Axel, Remy Bond, Porter, Olivia

Bond, Damian Bond, Anika, Ford, Marta, Piper, and Arlo; three great-grandchildren and many beloved family and friends. Jim cherished his children and grandchildren, and never forgot to invite them each year to the church Lutefisk dinner.

Jim graduated from the University of Minnesota with a degree in Mortuary Science in 1964 and founded Bradshaw Funeral and Cremation Services in 1972. Jim’s kind, calming, and caring presence comforted many over his 50 years of funeral service in the Twin Cities. Jim was also an innovator and pioneer within the funeral industry, both nationally and internationally. He was curious and believed everyone had a story which led to his motto: celebrate life, make a difference, and leave a legacy! In addition to funeral service, Jim was committed in his service to others, the community, and tirelessly dedicated himself to being a force for good in countless ways. He served in the following organizations: F. R. Bigelow Foundation, board member and treasurer; Gillette Children’s Specialty Hospital, board member; Gillette Children’s Foundation, Chairman of the Board; Indianhead Council, BSA, Chairman of the Board; Lakeview Hospital, board member; Lakeview Foundation, Chairman of the Board; Minnesota Funeral Directors Association, President; North End Community Foundation, Chairman of the Board; Northern Star Council of Boy Scouts, board member; Rotary International, Past District Governor; Regions Foundation, board member; St. Croix Valley Community Foundation, Charter Director; St. Paul Chamber of Commerce, board member; St Paul Council of Churches, board member; St Paul Riverfront Corporation, Chairman of the Board; St. Paul Winter Carnival, Titan XIII; Vision Foundation for the Minnesota Medical Foundation, Chairman of the Board. Jim strived to leave his “campsite” better than he found it in each organization. Service was held Friday, December 30, 2022 at TRINITY LUTHERAN CHURCH, Stillwater. Visitation was held Thursday, December 29 at BRADSHAW CELEBRATION OF LIFE CENTER, Stillwater. Visitation was also two hours prior to the service at the church. Interment Fairview Cemetery. Memorials preferred to the Regions Hospital Foundation Memory Research Fund or any of the foundations and organizations listed above for which Jim was dedicated. A special thank you to the kind and caring staff and caregivers at Prelude Homes in Woodbury and St. Croix Hospice. www.bradshawfuneral.com/

Barbara Jeanne Schmidt, aunt of MFDA Executive Director Miki

Tufto, 64, died January 5, 2023, peacefully at home after a nine-month battle with pancreatic cancer. She was born March 19, 1958, in Minneapolis, Minnesota to the late Raymond and Jeanne (Angus) Schmidt.

Barb graduated in 1976 from Southwest High School in Minneapolis. After graduation she worked for Tennant Company from 1976-1992. She was married to Eugene Kottke in 1982 and gained three stepchildren. After her divorce in 1991, she moved from Minnesota to Sarasota, Florida in 1992 with Wally Adkins. She worked for Serenoa Golf Club in Sarasota from 1992-2003, then worked for 20 years at the Venetian Golf and River Club in Nokomis. She was a natural at hospitality and loved serving club members as well as time with her coworkers. Barb loved being with her family in Minnesota and would take trips to visit during the summer and fall, while her Minnesota family would visit her in Florida during the winter. She was a big Minnesota Twins fan and enjoyed going to games both preseason in Fort Myers and at Target Field in Minneapolis. Barb had an eye for photography, capturing sunrises on her morning beach walks and at work each morning.

Left to cherish her memory are her stepson Kevin Kottke and his wife Lynn; brother Greg Schmidt; nieces and nephews Miki Tufto and her husband Scott; Christina Jorgenson and her husband Pat; and Laurie Kushnir and her husband Keith; great nieces and nephews Regan DeMarchi and her husband Adam, Will and Ben Tufto; Amaya, Ava, and Jayce Jorgenson; and Amy and Ben Kushnir; and many other very special family members and friends.

In addition to her parents, she was predeceased by her brother Bill; sister Linda; her former husband Eugene; and her longtime companion Wally.

Celebration of Life services for Barb will be held at 1:00-3:00pm on Sunday, April 2 at Venetian Golf & River Club in Nokomis, FL, and 10:30am-1:00pm on Saturday, May 13 at Brookview Golf Course in Golden Valley, MN.

Thank you to her Venetian family who cared for her after her diagnosis so she could stay in her home. Thank you to the staff at Tidewell Hospice for their care and guidance during her last days.

Memorial contributions may be made in Barb’s honor to Healing Hearts Connection at www.healingheartsconnection.com. Memories and condolences may be left for the family online at www.MFHcares.com.

Dolores DuBore, mother of Minnesota Funeral Director Michael DuBore, 84, of Warren, MN, passed away on Friday afternoon, January 6, 2023 after a brief illness at North Star Manor in Warren with her husband by her side.

Dolores Marie Holden was born in Roseau, MN, the daughter of Joseph and Aurise (Ayotte) Holden. She spent her early years in Piney, Manitoba, Canada before moving with her family to Winnipeg, Manitoba, Canada where she graduated from high school. Dolores attended and graduated from St. Boniface School of Nursing and became a Registered Nurse. On August 31, 1963, she was united in marriage to Charles DuBore in Winnipeg. They made their home in Warren where she worked at Warren Community Hospital for many years. She was member of Sts. Peter & Paul Catholic Church and Women’s Club. Dolores was also active with Meals on Wheels, Relay for Life and Women’s Golf League.

Dolores enjoyed traveling abroad and throughout Canada with family and friends. She was especially proud of her Canadian heritage and loved to go visit her sisters and their families in Winnipeg. The Canadian Broadcast Network (CBC) was frequently on the DuBore television. Dolores enjoyed a good meal followed by lively conversation and a glass of wine. She treasured the friendships she made with the people that she worked with at the Warren Hospital. Dolores loved spending time with her grandchildren and attending their sporting events and school activities. Many great memories were made at Lake of the Woods with family and friends.

Left to mourn her passing are her husband, Chuck; children, Monique Collette of Eau Claire, WI, Michael (Betty) DuBore of Warren, MN and Patrick (Jenn) DuBore of Shakopee, MN; grandchildren, Jocelyne Collette, Mollie Collette, Madeleine DuBore, Cameron DuBore, Carter DuBore, Sydney DuBore and Max DuBore; sisters, Joanne Brock and Rita-Mae (Gene) Race and several nieces and nephews.

She was preceded in death by her parents, Joe and Aurise; brother-in-law, Donald Brock and nephew, Christopher Brock.

MASS OF CHRISTIAN BURIAL was held Wednesday, January 11, 2023 at Sts. Peter & Paul Catholic Church in Warren, MN. VISITATION was held one hour before services at the church. INTERMENT: Greenwood Cemetery, Warren, MN.

MEMORIALS PREFERRED TO: North Valley Health Center or North Star Manor.

Arlis “Arly” Sharkey, father of MFDA General Counsel Michael Sharkey, was born May 27, 1936 to Arthur and Ida (nee Swille) Sharkey at the family farmhouse in rural Wilson, MI. He was the youngest of six- the trailer child- and the apple of his mother Ida’s eye. He grew up without benefit of running water and he could recall when the farm first got electricity. He did his chores on the farm with an eye to sneak away to go trap and play in the woods and creek bottoms like any good Yooper boy of his vintage.

Arlis joined the Air Force and served from 1956 to 1960 as a radar tech. Most of his time was spent in Alaska, a place he once said that he never fully returned from. He was there when Alaska became a state and recalled it was one helluva party. Arlis worked in the Artic Circle on the DEW Line and in the Alaskan wilderness on aircraft navigational beacons. He parlayed his radar tech skills into an electronics degree from DePaul and started in the television repair business just as TVs were becoming common. He used to boast that he installed more than half the TV antennas in central and northern Marinette County. He ran Sharkey’s TV in Crivitz at a time long before the big box stores ever existed, selling and servicing TVs and appliances.

Arlis raced snowmobiles on the pro/am circuit and the handsome bachelor was once tasked with driving Miss Wisconsin 1968 around the track at the USSA National Championship Race in Weyauwega, WI. His love of snowmobiling never abated, and he spent more than 25 years as a DNR Snowmobile Safety Instructor. He delighted in introducing kids to safe and responsible snowmobiling.

On some fateful day in 1970 the seemingly confirmed 33 year old bachelor bought a young gal a drink while at a supper club in Crivitz. That gal was Kate Karn. They would become an inseparable couple, marrying on June 19, 1971. From that union would come his two sons- Michael and Scott. Two summers ago Arlis and Kate- with friends and family in attendance- renewed their vows and celebrated their 50th Anniversary.

Arlis built a little greenhouse in the mid 1970s for fun. After having his friends and neighbors all request that he get their tomatoes and other plants started for them in the cold Wisconsin springtime, he understood that he could make a business out of growing. Over the years he expanded his greenhouse operations. Arlis took great pride in his plants and anyone who ever went in the back greenhouses would see the little plant tags lined up like disciplined soldiers in rank and file. Both his sons inherited his green thumb. The

greenhouse business that he started those many years ago is now in the capable hands of Scott and Amy Sharkey.

Arlis continued to care deeply for the greenhouses. When he was in better health he would visit the greenhouses several times a day during growing season. Arlis, as do all the Sharkeys, loved the rich smell of good moist soil and the hopeful positivity of seeing little seedlings stretch out to the sunlight. He would sometimes sit in a chair and watch customers delight in shopping for flowers and veggies, taking pride in what he had started so long ago. In later years, when he was not able to visit the greenhouses, he would request a daily report on the growing season and progress.

Arlis believed that he could fix any type of equipment and that a roll of duct tape and a vise-grips were the two greatest tools ever invented. His “fixer” skills would sometimes lead to absurdly comical results (ask Kate about her broken garden hoe). There was nothing more frightening than being asked to hold the flashlight for him. Both his sons still have scars from their failures to “hold the damn light right!”

Second only to holding the flashlight was the fear of being asked to go fetch a particular tool (other than duct tape or vise-grips) as it would inevitably not be the right one. “No! Not that one! Don’t you know[1]the other one- the one with the thingy on it!” he was heard to say many times. Kate, Michael, and Scott all got their steps in when helping him fix something.

In later years, Arlis would add super glue to his list of indispensable tools. Kate learned to disappear whenever she saw him with a tube of super glue as the results were inevitably ridiculous.

He was truly a hard worker – no one could ever accuse Arlis of being lazy. His work ethic and drive were, for him, an expression of love and commitment to his family’s wellbeing. Even within the last few months he could be found wrenching on a tractor, hammering on a wall, or putting duct tape or super glue on something.

Arlis served on the Village of Crivitz Board and later as Municipal Judge in Crivitz. As judge, he would sometimes perform marriages and found humor in arriving at a wedding on his motorcycle.

He was a man of faith and a dedicated Roman Catholic. He was possessed of a strong moral conviction and principles, though not without nuance and a live and let live tolerance for others.

After retiring from the greenhouse business Arlis’ desire to grow things and continue to be productive was channeled into starting an orchard. Along with Kate he started Sharkey’s Orchard in 2004 just north of Crivitz. He found great happiness in working

out in the orchard tending his apple trees. His ability to consume apple sauce was legendary, as was his ability to accidentally back over something with his beloved John Deere.

Arlis lived a rich and full life. He was a dedicated husband, a loving father (except when you were holding the flashlight wrong), and a friend to many. On Jan. 26, 2023 he passed away in the company of his family, and in doing so he taught us both how to live and how to die. We should all be so lucky.

He is survived by his wife of more than 51 years, Kate Sharkey, his son Michael, his son Scott (Amy), his grandchildren Samantha and Alex (who were the light of his life in his later years), and nieces and nephews. With his passing the world is a little duller and less humorous. While his death leaves a void in the hearts of his family and friends, the joy he brought us will never be forgotten.

Visitation was held at St. Mary’s Catholic Church in Crivitz on Friday, Feb. Visitation was held on Saturday, Feb. 4 with a Mass of Christian Burial at 11am. Burial will be in St. Mary’s Catholic Church Cemetery in Crivitz following Mass with full military honors accorded by the Crivitz American Legion Post #413.

Roubal Funeral Home of Wausaukee is handling the arrangements. Goodnight, sweet prince. You were truly loved.

Hugo Strike, Jr. “Buck”, father of Minnesota Funeral Director Brian Strike, age 81, of Isanti died at home February 4, 2023 after a 14 month battle with Acute Myeloid Leukemia.

Hugo “Buck” was born June 11, 1941 to Hugo and Eva Strike, in the hired hands house, on the Nye family farm (now Nye Nature Center), in Henderson, MN. The family moved back to Isanti, where he was raised, and he attended schools in Isanti & Cambridge, graduating from Cambridge High School in 1959. That fall, Hugo attended the University of Minnesota Mortuary Science program, and graduated from there in 1962. He then served his apprenticeship at the Albin Chapel in Minneapolis, and worked there for 3 years.

In August of 1962, he married his high school sweetheart, Elaine Anderson, at the First Baptist Church in Cambridge. After living in Minneapolis for those 3 years, Hugo and Elaine moved back to their home town of Isanti in 1965, and built the building which housed the Strike Funeral Chapel, Elaine’s

Flowers & Gifts and their personal living home. They were blessed with two children, Lori & Brian. Brian joined the family business and in 1994 they opened another location in Cambridge.

Hugo & Elaine were very active at Elim Baptist Church (now New Hope Community Church) where Hugo served as a deacon, treasurer, on a building committee, and where together they were youth sponsors, often having 50+ kids in their home on Wednesday evenings, plus several boundary waters youth canoe trips and more. A strong Christian faith was very much a part of their lives, and they continued worshiping at New Hope Community Church. Hugo was also active in the community, serving as a charter member of the Isanti Lions club, involved in the Isanti Commercial Club, served on the Isanti City Council and as Mayor when the city water system was installed, and he also served as Secretary/Treasurer of Isanti Community Services senior housing.

Hugo & Elaine enjoyed camping & canoeing, and vacations from Alaska to Mexico & the Caribbean, and a bit of Europe, especially enjoying the natural beauty of God’s world. Bicycling was a big part of Hugo’s life, riding about 30 miles in the morning before breakfast, as time would allow, and took several bike trips with Jim Klobuchar, Cycle Oregon and in Minnesota & North Dakota. Growing up with sporty Studebakers his parents had, he hoped that if he would ever have a classic car, it would be a Studebaker. On his 80th birthday, that dream came true, and he purchased a 1963 Studebaker Avanti. In November of 2021, after actively working that day, Hugo was diagnosed with AML (Acute Myeloid Leukemia).

He was preceded in death by his grandparents, Walter and Olga Strike, Axel and Signe Pearson, parents, Hugo Sr. and Eva Strike and several aunts and uncles. He is survived by his wife of 61 years, Elaine; brother, Harlow (Cecelia) Strike; daughter, Lori (Randy) Eggiman; son, Brian (DeAnn) Strike, 8 grandchildren; Erica (Jamie) Hardwick, Brett (Aleah) Eggiman, Aaron (Aubrey) Eggiman, Evan Eggiman, Brian Strike, Jr., Madelyn Strike, Lexi Glomski and Max Glomski; 6 great-grandchildren; Autumn Lippert, Cole, Jamie and Branch Hardwick, Maren Eggiman and Elsie Eggiman; nieces, nephews and many other relatives and friends.

Funeral service was held February 10 at New Hope Community Church in Isanti. Visitation was held February 9 at Strike Life Tributes in Isanti and one hour prior to the service at the church on Friday. If you desire, memorials suggested to New Hope Community Church or the Leukemia Lymphoma Society. Online condolences can be made at StrikeLifeTributes.com.

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