==== ==== For more relationship advice check out: www.trafficclash.com/f/394 ==== ==== Your Moving On The Break Up Is Over Sometimes moving on (break up, loss or other major change) is difficult. Its rarely easy unless youre so glad to get out of a situation that you cant wait to make changes and move on. A break up disrupts your whole life. Everything you do and see seems to remind you of your ex. If you had many mutual friends, even going out to keep from going stir crazy can be difficult. One of the biggest hurdles you have to face when youre ready to move on is your family and friends. If your ex was popular with your family, youre going to get tired of questions about the situation. You must explain to them that youre moving on, break up is over, and that you dont appreciate constantly being reminded of your ex and the past relationship. Sometimes this is difficult for family to deal with. They want to keep bringing up the person in the hopes that youll get back together. You can just explain, Moving on, break up is over, thats that. Eventually theyll come around because theyre your family and they love you. Its probably going to be harder to deal with when it comes to your friends. If you didnt have many mutual friends, then it should be less of a problem. But if the two of you often hung out with the same group of people, then you going alone to be with those friends is going to seem strange to everyone for a while. And then theres the problem of your ex wanting to hang out with the friends, too. You might even run into each other as you each attempt to hang out with your mutual friends. This doesnt mean that its necessary when youre moving on break up with your friends. Its just simply going to be more difficult to maintain some of those friendships once the relationship is over. As difficult as it seems, when you say, Moving on, break up is history, you may have to give up some of those friendships. You and your ex may each have to keep in touch with only certain friends in your group of mutual friends. Just try to maintain good contact and relationships with those youre closest to and allow your ex to do the same with the others. While this can be painful, its probably easiest on everyone because they dont have to choose which of you to be loyal to and which to avoid. Sometimes the moving on break up period is just too difficult when youre surrounded by mutual friends and so many places to go together. If possible, go on a vacation to get away from the same scenery and people. Take a vacation with a friend who isnt involved in the situation; maybe a friend of yours who wasnt friends with your ex. This can help you get some perspective. Once youve declared, moving on; break up over then if you can take some time away it can help you a great deal. ==== ====
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