It’s never too early to plan ahead

BY JEN CAMPISI

So, you’ve had the talk...

You’re picking out and designing diamond settings and already practicing writing your new last name. He’s picked up on all the hints and knows your size. Even if he hasn’t gotten down on one knee yet, it’s never too early to start preparing.

If the pandemic taught us anything, it’s how to adapt in unprecedented situations. The coronavirus has uprooted the normal wedding timeline for many soon-to-be brides, after 2020 weddings were postponed and pushed into 2021, and so on. Many 2023 brides are still adapting to the wedding shift from the past two years, whether that means rearranging their guest lists, or adjusting their budgets.

Some wedding photographers are already booking into 2025, which means that if you’re looking to have a wedding sooner rather than later, it’s best to book as much as you can in advance. This goes for all of your vendors, from caterers to DJs. Maybe there’s a venue you’ve seen in pictures, or somewhere you’ve been to as a guest— the sooner you reach out, the better your chances will be.

First things first, you’ve got to know what you want. You’ve probably already begun imagining what your dream wedding will look like, and there’s a good chance you can make those visions become a reality. But, you have to start now. Even if you feel like you have forever until the big day, time flies when you’re wedding planning.

Here are things you can work on even well before he pops the question:

Use social media to your advantage

Follow some local videographers or photographers to get a sense of their style, and make a list of potential vendors. Instagram can be an invaluable resource in the wedding planning process. By following hashtags and topics, you can find creative ideas and new trends to add to your special day.

Talk do’s and don’ts

You and your partner are not going to agree on everything, but it’s good to test the waters by discussing how you each envision your wedding.

Set a date

It doesn’t have to be set in stone, but talk to your fiancé about what time of year you’d like to get married. “In-season” (summer) weddings are often more expensive, as are Saturday evening dates. Think of your ideal time of year, which will help you brainstorm a color scheme to match. Search venues and reach out to them to check availability

Are you seeking a classy and elegant white-glove mansion wedding, or an informal reception barefoot on sprawling grass under the stars? The sooner you know, the sooner you can begin the process, and the less stress you’ll feel over time.

Begin online window shopping

Get ahead of the game by browsing online for wedding gowns. Know the difference between dress styles (A-line, trumpet, mermaid, ball gown, etc.), fabric materials (tulle, mesh, satin, chiffon, etc.) and what suits you best. While you won’t know for sure until you try dresses on in person, it’s good to have an idea of your preferences ahead of time. Take note of some of your favorite designers and styles, and keep those in mind when you go to make your appointments.

Create a spreadsheet

Spreadsheets will keep you sane, especially if you’re wedding planning on your own. Compiling guest lists and addresses, party playlists, budgets, shot lists, and links to necessary websites can be very over- whelming, but not with a neatly designed spreadsheet. Use different sheets and colors to keep yourself organized. Using a function like Google Sheets can allow for effortless sharing between you and your fiancé, bridal party, and family members to stay in the loop.

Curate a potential budget

It’s between you and your partner to discuss what matters most, who matters most, and what’s worth splurging on. Keep your budget in mind when you begin to search for vendors, and use your spreadsheet to stay on track.

Stand your ground

Once you’re engaged, you’re going to find that a lot of people offer unwanted opinions on how you should proceed. You know what’s best for you. Don’t feel like you have to follow the standards set by family, friends, or what you’ve seen online. Do not be afraid to break tradition, and don’t change your vision on the opinions of guests. Take risks, be bold, be YOU. This is your day to cherish. Make sure that above all else, you and your fiancé are happy!

Remember what it’s all about

It’s very easy to get caught up in the little things, the details, and the perception of it all. It will often get tiring. Some days, it may even feel like you’re planning a picture-perfect performance rather than a commitment of love. But this is your reminder to set aside time to focus on what really matters. Take breaks, talk things over, and trust the process.