DEVELOPING INDEPENDENCE
Independence is a Learned Skill Developing emotional wellbeing It is often said that independence is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children, and as both a parent and educator I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on what that truly means. Independence can look different for each of us, and in a school setting it might take on new forms.
- it may feel tough in the moment, but lingering only makes it harder. Start sleepovers early.
Staying overnight with friends or family has many benefits. This can then graduate to a dinner with the same friends and Say goodbye at school like a a solo sleepover for your child. boss parent! Grandparent sleepovers are also Saying goodbye at school is usually fantastic for building confidence. a simple process for children, but Allow independent problemwe parents tend to complicate it solving. and it can quickly become about As a parent, you are your child’s the adult’s needs rather than the coach and mentor. When they’re child’s. If drop-offs have become faced with a challenge, help them a pattern of tears and clinging, think through solutions and create remind yourself of the bigger a plan, role play what needs to goal: helping your child grow into be said or done and let them take a well-rounded individual. Keep ownership of the problem. the goodbye quick and confident Encourage them to pack and
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unpack their own school bag.
With guidance and support, even young children can pack their own school bags. Help them by creating a timetable so they know what to pack. These small steps will add up to big wins as you support your child in becoming more independent. The transition may be tough at first, but once you see them thriving, you’ll realise that independence truly is a gift that keeps on giving. FFION ROBINSON Head of Churcher’s College Junior School & Nursery www.churcherscollege.com
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