Independence is a Learned Skill

Developing emotional wellbeing

It is often said that independence is one of the greatest gifts we can give our children, and as both a parent and educator I’ve spent a lot of time reflecting on what that truly means. Independence can look different for each of us, and in a school setting it might take on new forms. Say goodbye at school like a boss parent!

Saying goodbye at school is usually a simple process for children, but we parents tend to complicate it and it can quickly become about the adult’s needs rather than the child’s. If drop-offs have become a pattern of tears and clinging, remind yourself of the bigger goal: helping your child grow into a well-rounded individual. Keep the goodbye quick and confident unpack their own school bag. With guidance and support, even young children can pack their own school bags. Help them by creating a timetable so they know what to pack.

- it may feel tough in the moment, but lingering only makes it harder. Start sleepovers early. Staying overnight with friends or family has many benefits. This can then graduate to a dinner with the same friends and a solo sleepover for your child. Grandparent sleepovers are also fantastic for building confidence. Allow independent problemsolving.

As a parent, you are your child’s coach and mentor. When they’re faced with a challenge, help them think through solutions and create a plan, role play what needs to be said or done and let them take ownership of the problem. Encourage them to pack and

These small steps will add up to big wins as you support your child in becoming more independent. The transition may be tough at first, but once you see them thriving, you’ll realise that independence truly is a gift that keeps on giving.

FFION ROBINSON Head of Churcher’s College Junior School & Nursery www.churcherscollege.com